My brother and I were walking around 11:30 pm in Ocean City, MD a few years ago. We encountered 3 different guys that just gave off a real bad vibe from the beginning. One guy asked in passing 'How are you guys doing tonight? you good? good" and kept walking. A few seconds later I just knew something was wrong and everything went silent. I pulled my Ka-Bar while turning around; two of the guys were running full speed the opposite direction while the other was about 6 ft. behind me and running at us fast. When he saw me get eyes on him and the blade came out, he looked shocked and bolted the opposite way. He was undoubtedly trying the "knock out game" with us. He almost lost more than he was expecting but thank God it didn't go further. Perfect example of the "warm smile, cold heart" approach.
Prime example of awareness, BEAUTIFUL, 20/20 can be criticized and will be, but you also got the best possible result, nobody got hurt when violence was seemingly inevitable. Also a good blade choice, quite the deterrent.
@@nesra8786 from the teachings of Marc MacYoung, I would say my encounter would be classified as a "normal interview" during our "warm smile, cold heart" encounter but their overall demeanor just screamed "threat" as we crossed paths. They were walking past us like others would be in a beach town at that time of night, but I'm not sure if it was a "status seeking showman" angle at play but the fact the one guy tried to come at us from behind, alone, while his friends ran away gives me more suspicion of the SSS angle. Either way, I'm just happy my radar went off and no one was seriously injured/killed as a result as Mr. Ka-Bar stuck by my side. Now I know I would really have to elaborate my reaction after the fact to the law but that was up to the attacker and his intentions.
Thanks Tim! I experienced something similiar a couple of years ago. I am from Sweden and i was about to buy two Icecream cones to me and my friend at a late open outdoors kind of grill and icecream place. I ordered and paid with my card then a man on my right side asks me ”Whats the time?” I answered him and took notice that he didn’t care about my answer. I sense another guy on my left and looks down and i see his hand right upon my wallet. Maybe right maybe wrong but i cant stand thieves and i didnt have to guess what was happening since i had proof. These guys was Romaninan/Bulgarien and hang around this square a lot during evening/night. So i scream and curse at the Guy to my right in a “Russian”manner , then i grab and throw/swings him into the guy to the left. He takes of and i follow! He tries to jump over a fence down to a park. I get a grip of him and deliver three punches hanging on to the fence. He takes off and I decided to let him go. Of course this could have ended really bad for me or him, one of my punches could have caused him to fall on his neck/they could have been armed etc.. The guys in the grill (who i think is from Syria ) saluted me for it, and gave us two new icecones. I guess pickpocketers are bad for buisness and not many people engage physically when these kind of things happens..
Your analogy with the hypnotist "rapid induction" technique is very good , it induces a temporary freeze state ( a blended sympathetic/dorsal vagal . Sympathetic keeps the muscles rigid as the dorsal vagal imobilizes) at that moment the hypnotist gives the suggestions that due to the conscious filter being down the subject complies. A criminal uses the exact same technique , he/she does not know how it works but knows it works. A couple of important training points , obedience is only one step away from submission, if your self protection training involves obeying commands and bowing to instructors and higher ranks you are subconsciously conditioning to "submit " , that will play out against you when faced with a criminal assailant. Sargent Rory Miller is very correct when he says : the students biggest threat is the instructors ego. Back to the hypnotist , when doing stage shows the hypnotist selects the subjects using some of the same criteria as criminals choose victims , they both look for compliance.
Great discription. I dont have much experience fighting. But ive learned with age that tbe first interaction is critical. The first second of the interaction. The first instant of the first second. Weather it somebody who wants to rob you on the street, or a coworker trying to step on you. If you catch them early, they usually dont even try.
Marc MacYoung's 'Safety Doesn't Have To Be Scary' is fantastic on this area. Very comprehensive coverage on spotting all the trouble signs so you either stay well away from trouble or if it comes up to you you do fail the interview and don't get attacked. Some coverage in 'What You Don't Know Can Kill You' as well. Rory Miller touches on it in 'Scaling Force'. Geoff Thompson gave pretty decent coverage of it in 'Dead or Alive'. Of the three, Marc MacYoung's coverage in 'Safety Doesn't Have To Be Scary' is the most comprehensive and best for keeping you from getting hypervigilant or paranoid. You don't need to be in 'Code Yellow or above' all the time.
A guy in Manchester was always fighting in pubs. His ‘handshake trick’ was (win, lose or draw) after the fight apologise, offer his hand, grab their tricep during the handshake, pull them in and sink his teeth into their face. In his mind a good face bite meant he always ‘won’ in the end.
I saw this type of behavior more often than anything when I was in prison. Guys would act like your buddy just to take advantage of you or even to get you out numbered in your cell or In a place where they knew help couldn’t see you.
Yeah Be aware as soon as someone is trying to get into your personal space We grew up in the rough parts of the south of Johannesberg in South Africa There were plenty of ploys they tried to get close to you and try to get you to drop your guard Would move into your right hand side so as to prevent your retaliation with their left hand side of the body but their right hand is clear for a strike And a beer glass or bottle in the righthand was almost always a sure sign of a set up And they would always try and get their left hand up high to grab you so you cannot get your right hand clear and up So it goes like this Guy walks upto you where you talking or at the bar Says howzit man You turn to speak and he puts his left hand on your right forearm or shoulder Moves into position to talk Fastens his hand on your fore arm and strikes Or over your right hand on the shoulder and traps your right hand between his body and yours but under his left hand and strikes Both times he is off to your right and has got advantage of a full power swivel at the hips to drive fist/beer bootle/glass ito your face and your left hand is a metre away off to the side Its a move that almost always ends up with you on the floor with a broken face.... Trick? Guard your space
There is a tactic too break an unwanted handshake, assuming shaking with right hands, put your left forearm up against the a'hole's right forearm and push hard while spinning to your right. Maybe someone out there is familiar with this and can describe it better than I just did, but it can put someone off their feet! This will be trying to bend his arm the way it don't go . . .
Yup, good ole UA-cam! As for the in depth info touching down on different types of scenarios used such as asking you the time, would love to hear more. I'm from Vermont and stuff such as this never really took place here. But I will say this, body language has been my go to in shutting down bad situations with excellent success thus far. One key is silence freaks people out. Never mind the tough talk because that's a sign of BS in an attackers eyes.
I'm always interested in hearing more about what to do to de escalate and act before you end up in an asocial violent situation. Escape and defence techniques before I need to punch someone's throat.
Thank you! Very interesting topic and excellent discussion. Not sure if you did a video on the topic of eye contact. I grew up in Brooklyn and as a kid in most situations making direct eye contact when riding the train or walking down the street past a group of individuals would 90% of the time lead into a confrontation. When teaching, what do you recommend as far as eye contact. I understand that keeping your head up and a confident walk is key. What is the best way to look confident while avoiding direct eye contact.
I was raised to avoid direct eye contact unless it is to ' Fuck or Fight '. A glance eye contact and broadview allows you to observe without staring. It is an art that takes practice. You want to be able to see enough for situational awareness without engaging.
Many ill intended will point out who is less street smart. We must learn to be observant... By ethics one is to slow down one's enthusiasm thus you'll see your own demeanor easier plus you'll have more space to be observant and not be distracted by your own enthusiasm of engaging people socially & preditors HATE observant people(one must strategically doubt) while the correct people will be comfortable with you.
Thank you soooo much for this info I had never thought of this stuff and just had my daughter watch this video this was awesome lifesaving advice THANK YOU TIM. May God Bless you.
Amazing how the government took the Aussie's guns before the mass immy grayshun, pan demmik and the rise of crime. Only twenty years ago you could leave your bag and jacket in a pub in Perth and it would be perfectly safe.
I see no reason to be shaking hands with strangers, especially when you don't know where their hands have been... like covering a covid cough or sneeze. Stay rude, and healthy!
The pandemic has created a whole new world, with a new set of social rules. I don't even want to share air with strangers, let alone touch their hands. Someone starts encroaching upon my personal space, out comes my OC spray.
@@In_Gun_We_Trust yeah, no-harm-meaning homeless guys will wanna shake your hand after you give them a dollar, I just ask if they washed their hands after the last time they pissed . . .
Thank you. Gavin de Becker wrote,in his book "Gift of fear" , about charm and niceness as a very danger and effective tool in predator's hands. Regards from Poland.
"Situational awareness is key" ptsd: "had this down from the beginning right amygdala?..... RIGHT AMYGDALA???" Amygdala: ".... yes..s..s...sir" "crying"
My brother and I were walking around 11:30 pm in Ocean City, MD a few years ago. We encountered 3 different guys that just gave off a real bad vibe from the beginning. One guy asked in passing 'How are you guys doing tonight? you good? good" and kept walking. A few seconds later I just knew something was wrong and everything went silent. I pulled my Ka-Bar while turning around; two of the guys were running full speed the opposite direction while the other was about 6 ft. behind me and running at us fast. When he saw me get eyes on him and the blade came out, he looked shocked and bolted the opposite way. He was undoubtedly trying the "knock out game" with us. He almost lost more than he was expecting but thank God it didn't go further.
Perfect example of the "warm smile, cold heart" approach.
Prime example of awareness, BEAUTIFUL, 20/20 can be criticized and will be, but you also got the best possible result, nobody got hurt when violence was seemingly inevitable. Also a good blade choice, quite the deterrent.
@@nesra8786 from the teachings of Marc MacYoung, I would say my encounter would be classified as a "normal interview" during our "warm smile, cold heart" encounter but their overall demeanor just screamed "threat" as we crossed paths. They were walking past us like others would be in a beach town at that time of night, but I'm not sure if it was a "status seeking showman" angle at play but the fact the one guy tried to come at us from behind, alone, while his friends ran away gives me more suspicion of the SSS angle. Either way, I'm just happy my radar went off and no one was seriously injured/killed as a result as Mr. Ka-Bar stuck by my side. Now I know I would really have to elaborate my reaction after the fact to the law but that was up to the attacker and his intentions.
Don’t be out at 11:30p. Situational awareness
Thanks Tim!
I experienced something similiar a couple of years ago.
I am from Sweden and i was about to buy two Icecream cones to me and my friend at a late open outdoors kind of grill and icecream place.
I ordered and paid with my card then a man on my right side asks me ”Whats the time?”
I answered him and took notice that he didn’t care about my answer.
I sense another guy on my left and looks down and i see his hand right upon my wallet.
Maybe right maybe wrong but i cant stand thieves and i didnt have to guess what was happening since i had proof. These guys was Romaninan/Bulgarien and hang around this square a lot during evening/night.
So i scream and curse at the Guy to my right in a “Russian”manner , then i grab and throw/swings him into the guy to the left. He takes of and i follow!
He tries to jump over a fence down to a park. I get a grip of him and deliver three punches hanging on to the fence.
He takes off and I decided to let him go. Of course this could have ended really bad for me or him, one of my punches could have caused him to fall on his neck/they could have been armed etc.. The guys in the grill (who i think is from Syria ) saluted me for it, and gave us two new icecones. I guess pickpocketers are bad for buisness and not many people engage physically when these kind of things happens..
Your analogy with the hypnotist "rapid induction" technique is very good , it induces a temporary freeze state ( a blended sympathetic/dorsal vagal . Sympathetic keeps the muscles rigid as the dorsal vagal imobilizes) at that moment the hypnotist gives the suggestions that due to the conscious filter being down the subject complies.
A criminal uses the exact same technique , he/she does not know how it works but knows it works.
A couple of important training points , obedience is only one step away from submission,
if your self protection training involves obeying commands and bowing to instructors and higher ranks you are subconsciously conditioning to "submit " , that will play out against you
when faced with a criminal assailant.
Sargent Rory Miller is very correct when he says : the students biggest threat is the instructors ego.
Back to the hypnotist , when doing stage shows the hypnotist selects the subjects using some of the same criteria as criminals choose victims , they both look for compliance.
Great discription.
I dont have much experience fighting. But ive learned with age that tbe first interaction is critical. The first second of the interaction. The first instant of the first second.
Weather it somebody who wants to rob you on the street, or a coworker trying to step on you. If you catch them early, they usually dont even try.
@@ronfox5519 Agreed , you only have one chance of making a first impression regardless of the situation.
Marc MacYoung's 'Safety Doesn't Have To Be Scary' is fantastic on this area. Very comprehensive coverage on spotting all the trouble signs so you either stay well away from trouble or if it comes up to you you do fail the interview and don't get attacked. Some coverage in 'What You Don't Know Can Kill You' as well.
Rory Miller touches on it in 'Scaling Force'.
Geoff Thompson gave pretty decent coverage of it in 'Dead or Alive'.
Of the three, Marc MacYoung's coverage in 'Safety Doesn't Have To Be Scary' is the most comprehensive and best for keeping you from getting hypervigilant or paranoid. You don't need to be in 'Code Yellow or above' all the time.
Life-saving advice. You are a master of every aspect of self-defence. Thank you from all of us.
Pandemic silver lining: Not letting strangers get within six feet without setting off alarms.
Yeah, man... what used to be considered rude is now perfectly acceptable social distancing behavior. Gotta love it.
Pepper spray is a social pest repellant, for when social distancing fails.
Tim is God sent. Thank you, good american.
agreed
A guy in Manchester was always fighting in pubs. His ‘handshake trick’ was (win, lose or draw) after the fight apologise, offer his hand, grab their tricep during the handshake, pull them in and sink his teeth into their face.
In his mind a good face bite meant he always ‘won’ in the end.
Yikes :/
Hannibal Lecter much? 😨
I know we are supposed to be civil. But hell, my bros and I would bust his teeth out. There you go 'Skarky', try biting people now !
@@redstone1999 Skarky? Good to hear you have backup from animals brother.
@@Philo68 Ha Ha. I meant to say 'Sharky'. I'll blame it on the beers. :D
I saw this type of behavior more often than anything when I was in prison. Guys would act like your buddy just to take advantage of you or even to get you out numbered in your cell or In a place where they knew help couldn’t see you.
Yeah
Be aware as soon as someone is trying to get into your personal space
We grew up in the rough parts of the south of Johannesberg in South Africa
There were plenty of ploys they tried to get close to you and try to get you to drop your guard
Would move into your right hand side so as to prevent your retaliation with their left hand side of the body but their right hand is clear for a strike
And a beer glass or bottle in the righthand was almost always a sure sign of a set up
And they would always try and get their left hand up high to grab you so you cannot get your right hand clear and up
So it goes like this
Guy walks upto you where you talking or at the bar
Says howzit man
You turn to speak and he puts his left hand on your right forearm or shoulder
Moves into position to talk
Fastens his hand on your fore arm and strikes
Or over your right hand on the shoulder and traps your right hand between his body and yours but under his left hand and strikes
Both times he is off to your right and has got advantage of a full power swivel at the hips to drive fist/beer bootle/glass ito your face and your left hand is a metre away off to the side
Its a move that almost always ends up with you on the floor with a broken face....
Trick?
Guard your space
Some of this is just street smarts! You're right! These have been around for years but it's always good to be reminded!Thanks for the video!
Deception and distraction are ways to start a fight by surprise. So you have to be aware of it.
There is a tactic too break an unwanted handshake, assuming shaking with right hands, put your left forearm up against the a'hole's right forearm and push hard while spinning to your right. Maybe someone out there is familiar with this and can describe it better than I just did, but it can put someone off their feet! This will be trying to bend his arm the way it don't go . . .
Spot on..... Let your guard down and get exposed.... Beware... Tim, Good Stuff .!..
Yup, good ole UA-cam! As for the in depth info touching down on different types of scenarios used such as asking you the time, would love to hear more. I'm from Vermont and stuff such as this never really took place here.
But I will say this, body language has been my go to in shutting down bad situations with excellent success thus far. One key is silence freaks people out. Never mind the tough talk because that's a sign of BS in an attackers eyes.
Great channel. Thanks Tim.
I'm always interested in hearing more about what to do to de escalate and act before you end up in an asocial violent situation. Escape and defence techniques before I need to punch someone's throat.
Thank you for the ideas. Much appreciated!
Best content, Tim.
I’d like to see entire drills predicated on false social cues.
Looking forward to more.
Looking forward to hearing more about this topic
you are absolutely right.thanks for sharing your wisdom God Bless 🙂
Great story tim you always find other ways to make us be aware
Thank you! Very interesting topic and excellent discussion. Not sure if you did a video on the topic of eye contact. I grew up in Brooklyn and as a kid in most situations making direct eye contact when riding the train or walking down the street past a group of individuals would 90% of the time lead into a confrontation. When teaching, what do you recommend as far as eye contact. I understand that keeping your head up and a confident walk is key. What is the best way to look confident while avoiding direct eye contact.
I was raised to avoid direct eye contact unless it is to ' Fuck or Fight '. A glance eye contact and broadview allows you to observe without staring. It is an art that takes practice. You want to be able to see enough for situational awareness without engaging.
Thanks
Right over the target again! If you inguage a stranger, be prepared to strike...
Many ill intended will point out who is less street smart. We must learn to be observant...
By ethics one is to slow down one's enthusiasm thus you'll see your own demeanor easier plus you'll have more space to be observant and not be distracted by your own enthusiasm of engaging people socially & preditors HATE observant people(one must strategically doubt) while the correct people will be comfortable with you.
Thank you soooo much for this info I had never thought of this stuff and just had my daughter watch this video this was awesome lifesaving advice THANK YOU TIM. May God Bless you.
Glad it was helpful!
Tim , please help w/ sound I really value your info thank you .
This could be very useful. Here in Australia the predator problem is escalating. The predators are called police.
Amazing how the government took the Aussie's guns before the mass immy grayshun, pan demmik and the rise of crime. Only twenty years ago you could leave your bag and jacket in a pub in Perth and it would be perfectly safe.
I see no reason to be shaking hands with strangers, especially when you don't know where their hands have been... like covering a covid cough or sneeze. Stay rude, and healthy!
The pandemic has created a whole new world, with a new set of social rules. I don't even want to share air with strangers, let alone touch their hands. Someone starts encroaching upon my personal space, out comes my OC spray.
Right. Pepper spray is pest repellant.
@@In_Gun_We_Trust yeah, no-harm-meaning homeless guys will wanna shake your hand after you give them a dollar, I just ask if they washed their hands after the last time they pissed . . .
In NYC its the time or hey can i get a light or a ciggarette
I am a hunter not a fighter and a lot of fighters don't get the difference. Good luck folk.
It's wise to be both😉
Tft....it works
"The bigger the smile, the bigger the treachery." - East African proverb
Could you do a video on how to use body language to deter an attack?
Footwear, type of pants. Too tight? Non stretch? Double knot sneakers. Tennis shoes.
San Diego County here.
Thank you. Gavin de Becker wrote,in his book "Gift of fear" , about charm and niceness as a very danger and effective tool in predator's hands. Regards from Poland.
avoid hand shake?? what is good defense for pulling in for handshake??
you know, you might respond with a "fist bump", especially common in the covid era
"Situational awareness is key" ptsd: "had this down from the beginning right amygdala?..... RIGHT AMYGDALA???" Amygdala: ".... yes..s..s...sir" "crying"
Trust your gut!
Evening
Im always getting attacked...im about 5 '5 120...its always big guys that fuck with mw
Distraction -> Ambush
Either you're the victim
Or you're the predator
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Gut feeling is right
🤔💯👌👊👍
Do a show on the startle response and how to us it ..
Watch my interview with @tonyblauer he covers that in a great way.
The Gift of Fear
That Seattle kid's body language was awful with the forward leaning head.
That guy was in a car accident a week earlier, and was wearing a neck brace. That's why his head looked like that.
Just like politicians bad guys atacking
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