Me first boyfriend used to cheat on me like it was his J.O.B Every time I turned around he was cheating on me, girls were telling me he was cheating and I was physically catching him in the act. I never considered it to be “abuse” but it definitely was.
@@TheReelLifeOfStacey True, that's why it felt shocking for me when she said it bc both abuse and cheating are very horrible things to go through, but society never put cheating in the same category as abuse. That's why the trauma afterwards is so bad!
Also what about that love isn't supposed to hurt. Why go back after the first hit or maybe when he punched you in the car, that should have been your final decision dealing with him. That guy was so damaged, and dangerous. Thank God that you survived and lived to tell your story.
My Ex hit me ONE TIME. He choked me, wouldn’t let me leave the house, and slapped me a couple of times. That’s all it took. 🚮🚮🚮 NEVER AGAIN. It’s been two years and he is still begging to get back together. He keeps saying it was only once, he would never do it again, etc. I don’t care! I don’t play that!! PERIODT! No matter how good the relationship was I have daughters! I have to lead by example!!
Natasha Parker everyone is different and everyone’s breaking point is different. It took a lot for me to bounce but I did and I’m better. Good thing u were stronger then me to leave the first time
Thee_CandaceRose That doesn’t make me any stronger my girl. That is my story this is yours! Thank you for sharing and I’m glad you eventually got out of that. Some women never walk away. ❤️
My first abusive relationship i was 16 and he was 26, my first real relationship really. 3 yrs too long but I left. Learned my lesson. A year ago a new bf tried to hit me, all it took was once and I left. I'm 27 now and he still messages me trying to reconnect. I just ignore him.
@@GrandLineCharlie ran away from home, mom was on drugs. Looooong story. But it's a lot better now. My mom's clean. I'm in a healthy relationship and a year ago I sang at my mom and dads wedding. They finally tied the knot after it all. Our family has been through a lot but we made it out pretty ok in the end I think
Lost my twin to the hands of her husband at 22yrs young changed my life .. Ive been lost since we're now 40.. I miss her so much we was 18 minutes apart. Can't explain my pain💔
This story was hard to watch and hear. God spared u for a reason, live ur life to the fullest. As a man, believe me, no man who really cares about u will wanna cause u any type of hurt, mental or physical. You are a beautiful young lady, please know your worth...
My purpose of creating this storytime was to share my experience and to hopefully save someone’s life to give them the courage to leave a similar situation. Do you know how hard it was for me to get on here to share this? And to get negative comments goes to show how insensitive some people are. But what’s worse is tht a lot of the negative comments are from WOMEN! Some of y’all was throwing low key shade. I didn’t make this video to get judged and it doesn’t matter how many times I went back just know I left and I didn’t go back!! She if I sense shade or a insensitive rude comment you will IMMEDIATELY get blocked! I could careless about losing followers. This is my story my life and my channel! If you dnt have anything nice to say keep it to yourself and move around!!
Your hearts in the right place sis. Its very hard for women to leave alot alot of deal breakers in relationships. Almost as if the guy has to keep keep keep doin the bad shit, A build up of fucked up things then we jus wait till all an everything has been drained from us to leave. Sis we need stories like this. So thanku for sharing yours. Sistahs be out here thinkin they the only ones, jus wastin they life on a young guy. When there is a way healthier life to be lived, out here, whether its on your own or with another beautiful soul. Im proud you had gotten strpng enough to leave sis, an i pray for your safety your heart an development...❤
Amen... I appreciate hearing your story its definitely eye opening and motivating... dealing with a situation similar and fear of it getting to this point is my worse nightmare on top of that we have kids together... I commend you and keep prayers up for woman dealing with this or similar situations.... Stay strong ladies and follow your first mind and listen to that little voice because it most likely Our heavenly father trying to guide and protect us...
Some people have nothing better to do than judge other people, like their ish don't stink. Candace, I am also a domestic violence survivor. I know that it took a lot of courage to share your story and I'm glad you did. I hope that you've had a chance to read some of the other comments from women who are also survivors and are posting supportive comments to you and other women on this thread. You started a discussion and gave people a chance to vent and get advice. Posting your story on youtube for the world to see shows how strong you are. I'm really thankful that you made it through that situation, sis. ❤❤❤
I’m proud of you girl. My ex boyfriend actually broke my leg and literally continue to beat me while I laid on the floor. So I understand completely. Us women have to stop going after these want to be bad boy thugs. And as a culture we have to stop glorifying this particular image!
+Jonteya Watson omg tht is so crazy!!!! Broke your leg tho? Ugh my heart goes out to you! I’m glad you overcome the situation and moved on! Tht bad boy crap is so lame now
Because a lot of them have such deep issues themselves. (No justification for their actions whatsoever!) I was in a similar situation for almost 9 years. It wasn’t nearly as bad (physically speaking), but very toxic. However, after a certain point, I had to look myself in the mirror and ask why was I putting up with it. We have to find ourselves as women and then learn our worth.
Tribe of Judah love these words so encouraging. I’m glad you was able to see your worth in the end. We as women really don’t need any mans validation. We just need to live our best lives that’s it.✌🏽
Keep the Insensitive comments to yourselves. Unless you've been through a domestic violence relationship/situationship you couldn't possibly understand! Girl I commend you for your strength to leave and your will to keep living your life. ❤❤
I can’t stand when people say I would have done this or said that when they have never been through anything like this... You don’t know HOW you would respond during a situation
@@safaribooker That's not insensitive for her to say that. How many times does it take to get physically abused before you have to wake up. This woman is one of the lucky ones that lived to tell her story, also this is a social media site, so not everyone is gonna share others opinions.
I’m scared to even be with another man because I don’t have a strong male protector around. I only have sisters. Men can see when you don’t have strong male figures in your life. Mothers and fathers please hold your sons accountable! Don’t uphold them in disrespectful behavior, bullying, cheating and not having household chores. Some of these women are raising their son as monsters!
People do not understand ... Getting use to someone & going back JUST BECAUSE YOU WERE "COMFORTABLE" , is so real . Knowing good and damn well you needed better , deserved better , and could have received better ... But almost being afraid of what better may be . Smh . God bless , sis ! Glad you are here to tell your story , many don't get that opportunity ! Fr . Sn : you are so pretty ! ❤️ .
Mirr Baby yes girl I was so afraid to be alone and I was getting numb to the bs! Thank you for being open minded to receive what I was saying and understanding. And your very pretty as well 😉🥰
I had a cousin who was in an abusive relationship and it resulted in him losing his life. I am in tears and so happy to see people who are *alive* and *strong* enough to share their stories. I am so so so proud of you for making it through this situation.
Sometimes when people thumbs down a video like this one per say...its becuse its not exactly a happy story but something that saddens the heart so it can get a thumbs down bcuz some expressing that they dont like wat happened to her..a form of dissatisfaction. Ive thumb down videos b4 for that reason. Ive seen videos of men abusing their wives and l never "thumbs up" it. Doesn't make sense...Get wat l mean?
+ZuriMoon TV are your serious?! Girl do whatever you have to do to keep yourself safe. Move away or change your daily routine keep yourself protected and do not ignore those dreams
Watch out for those "quiet" ones! They are the most dangerous...the anti-social, sociopaths! Glad you're alive and well to tell your story. It's a shame that we women are literally facing life or death just for selecting the wrong guy to date!! Damn shame! #BeBlessed
This indeed the one who are antisocial to themselves. They slowly pull you away from loved ones make you feel they all you have etc and then they do you like whatever.
Aww no sis. Don't say that. My fiance is quiet and antisocial and its only because he just doesn't like people and feel they're not on the level he's on... But he's secure, its a lot of insecure egomaniacs and they come quiet and loud;
+layo YES! I battled with it so bad! I knew it was wrong to get hit and I knew I had to leave but a part of me was getting use to him being in my life it’s crazy how people can pass judgment when they have no idea what I was thinking or feeling. Codependency was so deep rooted I saw past the abuse
I’m watching this and I’m in tears.. i been trough something similar and no one believes me because he acts like a sweet guy when we was around people, I’m in trauma till this day , it was more than abuse it was mentally, he used to put me down always telling me how ugly and skinny I’m he really damages me as a person.. I’m so mad at myself for not listening to my friends and family and letting him treat me like that.. Now he has another girlfriend and a couple months ago he called my phone and texted me some stuff i talk about it with his girl and he basically said I’m a liar and I want him back and other things.. why people are so mean? Why he destroyed my life?😭 now I know it’s was a lesson, i well never NEVER let another man to do me like that again! I love myself and I know god was saved me from this person.. I’m so grateful that nothing happened to me and today I’m focused on myself!
My ex came to my bestfriends house and started to fight me because I told him I wanted my house key back due to his cheating, so I whipped out my switch blade and he ran up to get done up...he didn't die but he learned an extremely valuable lesson and hopefully he'll think twice before he tries that with the next. Ladies don't wear no ass whoppin's, there's nothing wrong with defending yourself.
The crazy thing is I was that girl that couldn't understand why a girl would ever stay in a relationship with someone who put his hands on her and I'd judge judge JUDGE!! Then I met my abuser and fell in love. Still married to this day but trying to leave him permanently. It is the hardest thing I've ever been through and I've been through a lot!! Reminds me of that verse "For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you" it's so true!! So ya'll watch yourself and stop judging because the same thing can happen to you.
Forget that... damn.. this dude could’ve killed you and for what? Because he was mad that you wanted to live your life. No way. Glad you are ok. Wish he would’ve went to jail
+Ashley Zwierzynski yes girl!! Thank you! I wish he went to jail for what he did to me. He’s in jail and been in there for some time for a unrelated crime
I too was shot by an ex back in September 2018 I was shot in the back I was hit 2x I tell you this guy harassed me for 6 month I put a vpo on this guy and it only seemed to fuel his harassment he put my tires on flat broke my window on my truck broke my patio door out I was harassed on so many levels I called the police over and over and never seemed to get any help and the night before he called and said he was going to kill me and less than 24hrs he showed up at my house and shot at me thru my patio door I am so grateful to God that He spared my life and I know that He did so for a purpose and I'm still searching for that purpose I now am still waiting on him to be sentenced but my life has changed and very hard for me to trust again I truly believe that I now have to help others to stop allowing yourself to just settle and to wait on God to send that one thank you for sharing Thank God you to are still alive .
@@TheeCandaceRose Yeah he's ancient history and got his karma. Best believe your ex will surely get his sooner or later unless it hasn't happened yet. #IVeryMuchAppreciateYourResponse
Ironic, I almost died in the tub too. It makes me think they REALLY had ever intention on killing us, since they drug us 2 the tub. Wdy think? My nose was broken in that fukn tub. So sad.
I married into that ... but I learned real fast you can’t trust abusers ...I haven’t been with him in 40 years and to this day I would never be alone with him ...I believe he still and just wants to kill mev
you're so strong & brave to be able to tell your story not just online, but to sit in front of a camera and tell it. i'm glad you're out of the situation ❤️
Omggg I got shot in my right knee too a few months ago. Scariest thing ever, I got kidnapped after they shot my car up and I crashed 🤦🏾♀️ that God we survived
Wow blessings and praises to the most high. So happy you made it out. I was in a abusive relationship for 8 and 1/2 years and I give praises to the most high I survive. I currently have a restraining order in place the dreams have slowed down. I still jump when people surprise me. I jump when I walk to my car because I think I see him. I’m always looking in my rear view mirror thinking he’s following me. It’s hard but it’s getting much better for me. Thank you for your story. Blessings to you my sister
I’m 29 years old now and I was in a domestic violence relationship in my teens. I’ve never been to therapy for this situation and I’ve always ignored this part of my past. But there are certain situations that happens which triggers me and I believe I have PTSD. My ex used to cheat on me constantly, he chocked me, caused bruises on my body from abusing me physically, and he verbally abused me. He would accuse me of cheating after checking my private area and attack me, and I never cheated on him. After these attacks I would have anxiety attacks. He went to jail but he would write my letters and have his Mom call me. When he got out he would stalk me, bribe me, and he constantly called everyday. I will never forget when he told me “if I can’t have you, no one can” but God saw different for me and he eventually left me alone. Thanks for sharing!
Everytime she said she went back I was like 🤦♀️ Girl why!! I'm so sorry this happened to you Love 😔 No woman Should EVER be Punched in her face by a Man Period. I just wish you would've been left his ass but hey at least you're still here ❤
@@NairobianMuse SAme.. My ex ( from high school to 19) tried that slapping shit and chipped a tooth... I waited until he went to sleep and stabbed him. He didn't try that nomore after that incident... Another ex cheated and I set him on fire... he only had 2nd degree burns... His ass still wanted to make the marriage work after that.
I appreciate your vulnerability. I am in the same situation, minus the PHYSICAL abuse. I know its hard. It an emotion that know one will understand until they've experienced it themselves. It changes you a bit. Sometimes for the worse, sometimes for the better. You are beautiful! I Pray for peace in your life.
Shades of Sky you shouldn’t have to go through any abuse at all! Physically, emotionally or mentally!!! Your so pretty! You deserve to be treated correctly💕
Watchin this video just made me realize how confused females can be but don call your self stupid life it’s all about experience hopefully you learn from it I wish yu the best gorgeous
I can definitely relate to this story. I was in a DV relationship thru out high school. He would always cry and do everything to get me back. He fought me so much I had a miscarriage my 11th grade year. I went from a size 7 to a 0 within those 4 and a half years. He was in the midst of going to jail and that was my opportunity to be done. I thank god he got out of my life and I didn’t have ties with him. He was very negative and evil and a manipulator and a drunk smh. I’m glad your here to tell your story and you learned how a man should treat you. You’re very 💪🏽
When she telling part where he enters her car and starts hitting her, it reminds me of the story that this girl did the same thing, allowed her boyfriend or her ex into the car so they could talk but instead he pulls out the gun out and killed her. But I'm so grateful you didn't die of the hands of your abuser
Girl you are a survivor!! The Lord gave you karma against your ex when he went to jail. I have been in a similar situation with verbal & emotional abuse, calling me ugly, fat, cheating, & set ups with ex boyfriends too. We are healed & covered under Christ. God Bless You.
ne2 new yes it’s always a similar situation but different people! I’m so happy u got out of you situation. We are definitely survivors. Some aren’t blessed to make it out alive
I struggled with abuse during my pregnancy, he cracked open my forehead, busted my mouth open, choked me, attempted to hurt my unborn and I'm so happy to say me and my baby survived and got away. It's never our fault ladies. It becomes your fault when you continue to allow this behavior to yourself. God bless this girl I'm so happy she survived and things didn't go the other way. God bless stand tall with your chest up and head high 🙏🏽💙
Thank you for telling your story. I appreciate you and your honesty. It’s hard to leave someone you love. I was in a five-year relationship with my first love. In the last two years it started to get abusive and he refused to let me go. Finally he did. & six years later I still have nightmares about Me going back to him. Which will never happen!!! How happy you made it! We made it!!!! Whatever doesn’t kill you makes you stronger 💯
+LaNae Star your so welcome! I just wanted to share my story in hopes to touch women’s heart to give them courage to leave. And omg tht is crazy! It’s crazy how your ex switched up the last 2 years. Tht is ridiculous. I agree WE made it and it made us stronger then ever 💕💕
There is no need for you to feel like you being extra it’s your story you were shot there is nothing extra about that god bless you Thankyou for sharing your story ❤️ you could help someone else by simply sharing your story
Ur story wasn't DARK, it's a story that needs to be shared for others who r dealing with the same issues. You are in fact helping others see the LIGHT!!! IM GLAD YOU FOUND THE STRENGTH TO TALK ABOUT IT & I AM SURE IT HELPED YOU IN THE END TO GET THIS OFF YOUR CHEST!!! CONGRATS ON CONTINUING LIFE BECAUSE YOU DESERVE HAPPINESS & PEACE. -MIKA
ModelesqueMika XXX Thank You So much! This topic was on my mind so heavy before I put out this video. I had no idea who I was goin to help but I knew I had to get this out there. Me goin back to my abuser is a very common thing. I just wanted to be real raw and transparent. Thank you for being so open minded to understand my story 🥰🥰
Kudos for telling your story, fam. You have tremendous courage, I am super proud of you. I never knew this! I am so thankful that you came through. Continued blessings, babe.
I just left a abusive relationship Saturday to be exact I wish I would have left sooner but now I feel like I have nobody because he was my only friend
First of all I’m so glad u left. It doesn’t matter when u left all tht matters is tht you got out. Tht person was NOT your friend especially if he put his hands on you. You will be fine and find true friends hell im your new friend
@Cinnamoney, you have God and ladies who understand your journey. The fact that you left is the start of your journey. Don’t go back and hold on to your worth. Look in the mirror and realize that you deserve more. Be patient and wait on God.
I am so happy that you were able to get out of this terrible situation, You are a very strong woman and honestly my inspiration, God definitely wrapped his arms around you and made sure you made it out alive, God bless you and I hope life only gets better for you
Glad you overcome your pain. But just some thought to the many of ladies out their, give some of these nice and respectable dudes a chance for once. They may change your life into a world of happiness. 🙏
You are absolutely beautiful!! Thank you for having the courage to share your story, i’m so grateful you are alive and out of that situation now. I know your story will help so many. Sending you love and blessings!
Listen to your gut! Women intuition please listen to it ASAP... Once he screams, down talks, cheats, slaps, kicks, any physical abuse WALK AWAY SIS....bye my rule I lived by after hearing my females in my family talk and experience it. I vowid never put up with it. Saved me a life of trauma. Bye walking away from two ex. Found out later they beat the holy crap out of their women. If I wouldn't took notice , it would of been me instead. Beg you ladies or men walk away from your significant other if their abusive first action walk away keep it pushing, easy as that f what anyone thinks or says it's your life.
I accidentally deleted your comment but thank you so much. It’s crazy because my gut always told me not to be around him EVER! My spirit always felt uneasy but I was so young I didn’t know the power of energy, so I kept putting my feelings to the back burner. So they both beat their girls after you left them? You were tolerating the bs and they knew they couldn’t get tht off on you so they took tht aggressive behavior out on the next one. I admire how strong you are
Never been in an abusive relationship, but I’m glad you were brave enough to speak your story 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾thank God you got out when you did!! Like you said if you’ve never been in a situation like this don’t judge or talk about what you would’ve done, just listen to her story and take in the many points she’s sharing. Blessings to you young lady!🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️❤️
No woman can change a man . Idky women think they can. Just don’t even try . You’re worth more than that , you deserve better than that. This was so sad to watch . I’ve watched my mother go through this with her boyfriends, and I honestly wish I could’ve done something , but could I’ve done as a kid. No one deserves to go through that . RED FLAGS should be enough to walk away , not waiting around to see if things get worse. I just could never see myself doing anything like that , putting my hands on anyone , let alone a woman . You guys gotta be safe . Glad you’re okay .
Glad that God saved YOU, someone was praying for you. Also, I think God got a plan for you in this world. I almost lost my life 2 years ago. My ex husband attacked me with a hammer, he hit me in the head, received 15 staples. Since then, I have learned the Bible because it's my Manuel in this world. I have realized there's a lot of spirits that's coexist with humans in this world. It seemed like that was a demonic spirit that was using your ex boyfriend to try to take you out. Get to know your BIBLE, read the scriptures that is how you will get your power over any demonic spirits. Hosea 4:6, get knowledge and keep knowledge. God didn't give us the spirit of FEAR, it only come from the DEVIL. Talk to GOD, quote bible scriptures to fight back. You are not dealing with flesh and blood, Ephesian 6:12. God bless and stay bless
+Martha George this is very powerful!! I’m goin to read these scriptures for sure! I’m so sorry you went through what you went through as well and I’m glad god used u as a vessel. 🙌🏾
I'm so happy you're still here to tell your story. I been there and our biggest mistake is letting the first one go. Then next thing you know, hes going upside your head whenever he feels like it. Most of the time its him that fucked up,but you take the beating. You feel so small and they have you believing the bullshit they feed you. Nobody else will want you, you ugly,compare you to other females. They just totally destroy the self esteem and respect that you have for yourself. You baby girl, tell your story cuz you never know who might need to hear it right then. God bless you baby girl
Wow, I know idk you personally but I just want to say I am so so so proud of you for working through that! And you not crying shows how much you have healed from the situation, you’re a strong women! And also can we get an update on you and Calvin ? He’s like your knight and shining armor like a cute telenovela
Thank you for sharing this matter of your heart. You never “get over” trauma. I got stabbed before, but not due to DV. I was abused by my daughter’s father, but I too broke & ended things when he kicked my door in, jumped on me, blacked my eyes, chipped a tooth, & beat me TF up. When our mental health ain’t on point, nothing else is. 💪🏾🧠❣️
My ex husband locked me in the house 6 months after having our twins and beat me for 2 hrs straight. Sis I hope that you have gotten therapy and know that this in NO WAY affects your worth as a human being. YOU ALONE ARE ENOUGH!! My ex husband used to beat me for him getting caught cheating on me as well.
Thanks for sharing your story. I was married and with him for 17+ years. Throughout that time, I was belittled, punched, slapped, beat with paddles, hit in the head with a paddle that broke and had a gash as a result, chocked, threaten to kill me, spit on, kicked, etc...... Till this very day, it has affected who I am as a woman. So glad you made it out, although you had to go through so much to get out. Take care.💜🌸
I was in a abusive relationship for 5 years it was the hardest situation to get out of. Its easy for someone to say get out but when you fear for your life it’s a different story. Every time I thought I had a chance my fear of him kicked in and I stayed. I never went back and fourth in the relationship because believe me if I had the courage to leave at least one time I would of never looked back not with all the beatings and black eyes or waking up with a gun in my mouth for no reason. I’m so happy that god was looking over you and nothing happened to you on that night. Unfortunately many women don’t make it out alive.. I’m glad you shared your story to give women awareness and if or when they see the first signs like the verbal abuse to stay away because trust me it only gets worse and the first time you forgive and stay your giving them that power. Also I want to say and shout out the good men we have to realize that not all men hit and mistreat their women it took me time but I found someone that respects me and truly loves me.. shout out to those men.
ladies if a man hit you, that is one time too many!! just leave him, no matter how much he apologizes, sends you flowers, cries, etc... women keep going back, why? those men are psychopaths, narcissist. So not worth it!! even the verbal abusers, they talk to you crazy, disrespect you leave them. because when they start with the verbal it moves to the physical. Stop trying to "save" these sick men, stop, the drama and co-dependent. just leave!! I was with a narcacisst and he was an alcoholic went to counseling l. learned my lesson.
Great video! I'm happy you survived and able to tell you story. I hate domestic violence. And the things you experienced was trauma but you pushed through with resilience. Thank your for sharing your story! Don't feel ashamed because you're helping others as well. You have a new subscriber! And keep up the great work!
+GiftedSince92 GiftedSince92 thank you so much ☺️ seeing some of these insensitive comments I felt regret for makin this video and it started to take me back to tht negative space.
Sadie Enlow thank you so much! I was so shocked I didn’t cry. One of my subscribers said I didn’t cry because I’ve healed from the situation. Nicely put
Im watching this randomly and when you said Kent State....my mouth dropped even more thats where I graduated too. This story is so wild. Im so glad that you shared this ans that you're ok
You are so dope for this video! I can tell you went back and forth about telling your story bc of what people may think is your reason or motive. ... But know this, God put you thru that, made sure you survived, and wrote your story leading up to that point, and what happened after purposely so you could be relatable for other young woman out here that think the exact way most young woman think. When your young you look at older people and the things they try to warn you about "as not knowing what they are talking about" but when you see someone on your level, that thinks how you do, talks like you, likes what you like, around your age ....it makes a much BIGGER impact. You are more important than you know.... GOD CHOSE YOU!!!
So sorry this happened to you thank god you are alive🙌🏾🙌🏾 I was in a abusive marriage years ago and had to get out I am a survivor also 💜💜 god bless you!😊
Sharnetta Mcdade Thank God you got out of your situation as well I cnt imagine being married to a abuser. Girl some of these insensitive comments on here is disgusting I just had to start blocking folks.
Girl .. hearing your story really gave me chills because our stories are so similar... I was shot at 16 years old by my boyfriend . Shot in the right leg .. called my mom while I was WALKING to the hospital ! And he followed me the entire way there and he acted as if he didn’t do it and went on Facebook saying he’s gonna find out who did it to me .. whole time it was him!! I’m 24 now and he still looks for me ..... ladies ... walk away as soon as you can!
I am so glad that you are sharing your story as there are many that will need to hear it. Wishing you strength, healing and every blessing for the future.
"Someone cheating on you is also a form of abuse " the most wisest words ever
Beautiful Ty yes this is very true!!
Amen, including physical abuse
Me first boyfriend used to cheat on me like it was his J.O.B
Every time I turned around he was cheating on me, girls were telling me he was cheating and I was physically catching him in the act. I never considered it to be “abuse” but it definitely was.
@@TheReelLifeOfStacey
True, that's why it felt shocking for me when she said it bc both abuse and cheating are very horrible things to go through, but society never put cheating in the same category as abuse. That's why the trauma afterwards is so bad!
Also what about that love isn't supposed to hurt. Why go back after the first hit or maybe when he punched you in the car, that should have been your final decision dealing with him. That guy was so damaged, and dangerous. Thank God that you survived and lived to tell your story.
My Ex hit me ONE TIME. He choked me, wouldn’t let me leave the house, and slapped me a couple of times. That’s all it took. 🚮🚮🚮 NEVER AGAIN. It’s been two years and he is still begging to get back together. He keeps saying it was only once, he would never do it again, etc. I don’t care! I don’t play that!! PERIODT! No matter how good the relationship was I have daughters! I have to lead by example!!
Natasha Parker everyone is different and everyone’s breaking point is different. It took a lot for me to bounce but I did and I’m better. Good thing u were stronger then me to leave the first time
Thee_CandaceRose That doesn’t make me any stronger my girl. That is my story this is yours! Thank you for sharing and I’m glad you eventually got out of that. Some women never walk away. ❤️
My first abusive relationship i was 16 and he was 26, my first real relationship really. 3 yrs too long but I left. Learned my lesson. A year ago a new bf tried to hit me, all it took was once and I left. I'm 27 now and he still messages me trying to reconnect. I just ignore him.
jane deaux how did you end up with a 26 year old man at 16?
@@GrandLineCharlie ran away from home, mom was on drugs. Looooong story. But it's a lot better now. My mom's clean. I'm in a healthy relationship and a year ago I sang at my mom and dads wedding. They finally tied the knot after it all. Our family has been through a lot but we made it out pretty ok in the end I think
Lost my twin to the hands of her husband at 22yrs young changed my life .. Ive been lost since we're now 40.. I miss her so much we was 18 minutes apart. Can't explain my pain💔
God Bless
Lazette King so sorry for ur loss no matter how long, pain is pain an a loss due to DV is such deep pain🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Dang Lazette. Really sorry to hear that.
Much love, Queen🤗❤️
I’m so sorry you had to go through that :(
Lazette King 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Women’s intuition. Listen to it.
Black Sorceress every human got intuition
Amen ♥️
If they do it once they will do it again
This story was hard to watch and hear. God spared u for a reason, live ur life to the fullest. As a man, believe me, no man who really cares about u will wanna cause u any type of hurt, mental or physical. You are a beautiful young lady, please know your worth...
Bornin July yes I agree and tht was a huge lesson learned. I’m in the healthiest happiest relationship now
My purpose of creating this storytime was to share my experience and to hopefully save someone’s life to give them the courage to leave a similar situation. Do you know how hard it was for me to get on here to share this? And to get negative comments goes to show how insensitive some people are. But what’s worse is tht a lot of the negative comments are from WOMEN! Some of y’all was throwing low key shade. I didn’t make this video to get judged and it doesn’t matter how many times I went back just know I left and I didn’t go back!! She if I sense shade or a insensitive rude comment you will IMMEDIATELY get blocked! I could careless about losing followers. This is my story my life and my channel! If you dnt have anything nice to say keep it to yourself and move around!!
Your hearts in the right place sis. Its very hard for women to leave alot alot of deal breakers in relationships. Almost as if the guy has to keep keep keep doin the bad shit, A build up of fucked up things then we jus wait till all an everything has been drained from us to leave. Sis we need stories like this. So thanku for sharing yours. Sistahs be out here thinkin they the only ones, jus wastin they life on a young guy. When there is a way healthier life to be lived, out here, whether its on your own or with another beautiful soul. Im proud you had gotten strpng enough to leave sis, an i pray for your safety your heart an development...❤
leah omg thank you so much ☺️
Thank you for having the courage to share!
Amen... I appreciate hearing your story its definitely eye opening and motivating... dealing with a situation similar and fear of it getting to this point is my worse nightmare on top of that we have kids together... I commend you and keep prayers up for woman dealing with this or similar situations.... Stay strong ladies and follow your first mind and listen to that little voice because it most likely Our heavenly father trying to guide and protect us...
Some people have nothing better to do than judge other people, like their ish don't stink. Candace, I am also a domestic violence survivor. I know that it took a lot of courage to share your story and I'm glad you did. I hope that you've had a chance to read some of the other comments from women who are also survivors and are posting supportive comments to you and other women on this thread. You started a discussion and gave people a chance to vent and get advice. Posting your story on youtube for the world to see shows how strong you are. I'm really thankful that you made it through that situation, sis. ❤❤❤
We all need a friend or brother like Calvin 💙
Jenn Lo yes I agree I love him to death
Jenn Lo Right!! Wish I had someone like that! A guy friend who genuinely cares about you
Thee_CandaceRose Calvin was great! But how did he find out your abuser was the one who shot you? If you don’t mind me asking
@Q Lock move
I’m proud of you girl. My ex boyfriend actually broke my leg and literally continue to beat me while I laid on the floor. So I understand completely. Us women have to stop going after these want to be bad boy thugs. And as a culture we have to stop glorifying this particular image!
+Jonteya Watson omg tht is so crazy!!!! Broke your leg tho? Ugh my heart goes out to you! I’m glad you overcome the situation and moved on! Tht bad boy crap is so lame now
Uhhh domestic violence is not synonymous with bad boys or thugs. It's has no specific demographic. Let's stop the mis information.
thearough I mean to have a point
Scarry. I think I would of wet myself if someone broke my leg and still kept beating me
Absolutely
Omgggg! You are so strong! Why can’t men just leave you alone when they know they can’t love you the right way?
KpTheG EXACTLY! It’s like why do any woman harm if u dnt want to treat us right? Doing us more damage then good
Because a lot of them have such deep issues themselves. (No justification for their actions whatsoever!) I was in a similar situation for almost 9 years. It wasn’t nearly as bad (physically speaking), but very toxic. However, after a certain point, I had to look myself in the mirror and ask why was I putting up with it. We have to find ourselves as women and then learn our worth.
Tribe of Judah love these words so encouraging.
I’m glad you was able to see your worth in the end.
We as women really don’t need any mans validation.
We just need to live our best lives that’s it.✌🏽
Anna- Rose exactly! 🙏🏾 thank you!
Tribe of Judah yes he grew up in a house hold where his father did this to his mother
You didn't cry because you're healed internally💫🖤💫
Moana Get*Live YAAAAS I LOVE THT!! Never looked at it like tht 💜💜✨✨✨
... wow ... this is such a beautiful thing to say ! really makes you think . ❤️ .
Just because a person dosent cry dosent mean they healed. Some ppl are just very numb but very damaged
Thank you for sharing your story
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GOD IS REAL, AND REALLY GOOD TO US!
Shanelle Davis yes he is!!
ALL THE TIME ♥️♥️♥️♥️
AMEN !!!
Keep the Insensitive comments to yourselves. Unless you've been through a domestic violence relationship/situationship you couldn't possibly understand! Girl I commend you for your strength to leave and your will to keep living your life. ❤❤
Shay W. Thank you so much 🤗🤗
Shay W. Facts
I can’t stand when people say I would have done this or said that when they have never been through anything like this... You don’t know HOW you would respond during a situation
Myesha Smith please get off this woman comments w your insensitivity.
@@safaribooker That's not insensitive for her to say that. How many times does it take to get physically abused before you have to wake up. This woman is one of the lucky ones that lived to tell her story, also
this is a social media site, so not everyone is gonna share others opinions.
I’m scared to even be with another man because I don’t have a strong male protector around. I only have sisters. Men can see when you don’t have strong male figures in your life. Mothers and fathers please hold your sons accountable! Don’t uphold them in disrespectful behavior, bullying, cheating and not having household chores. Some of these women are raising their son as monsters!
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So true..my guy friends told me this..always let a man know that you got a few dudes that can crack heads if he get out of pocket..
I totally believe this!
Yes
I get what your saying 110% but what does household chores have to do with anything?
People do not understand ... Getting use to someone & going back JUST BECAUSE YOU WERE "COMFORTABLE" , is so real . Knowing good and damn well you needed better , deserved better , and could have received better ... But almost being afraid of what better may be . Smh . God bless , sis ! Glad you are here to tell your story , many don't get that opportunity ! Fr .
Sn : you are so pretty ! ❤️ .
Mirr Baby yes girl I was so afraid to be alone and I was getting numb to the bs! Thank you for being open minded to receive what I was saying and understanding.
And your very pretty as well 😉🥰
Thee_CandaceRose No problem , love ! & . thank you . ❤️❤️ .
Mirr Baby yeah as women we get complacent very easily!! It our nature
Modest One . definitely ! it's so debilitating at times ! smh .
Love this 💕
I had a cousin who was in an abusive relationship and it resulted in him losing his life. I am in tears and so happy to see people who are *alive* and *strong* enough to share their stories. I am so so so proud of you for making it through this situation.
Kanoasha Jackson thank you ❤️ it’s a really long story
His girlfriend killed her?
The 55 ppl that disliked this video must be friends of David. Big ups to Calvin he sound like a great friend.
+queeie718 😂 right!! Yes Calvin is very special to me
Sometimes when people thumbs down a video like this one per say...its becuse its not exactly a happy story but something that saddens the heart so it can get a thumbs down bcuz some expressing that they dont like wat happened to her..a form of dissatisfaction. Ive thumb down videos b4 for that reason. Ive seen videos of men abusing their wives and l never "thumbs up" it. Doesn't make sense...Get wat l mean?
I just left my abusive boyfriend and I keep having dreams of him trying 2 kill me.
+ZuriMoon TV are your serious?! Girl do whatever you have to do to keep yourself safe. Move away or change your daily routine keep yourself protected and do not ignore those dreams
I used to have panic attacks. It gets easier with time.
Wow. Good for you for finding the strength to walk away. Praying for you🙏🏾
thats because he has traumatised you mentally.. .girrrrlll runnnnnn
🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 May God keep you covered ❤
Watch out for those "quiet" ones! They are the most dangerous...the anti-social, sociopaths! Glad you're alive and well to tell your story. It's a shame that we women are literally facing life or death just for selecting the wrong guy to date!! Damn shame! #BeBlessed
+LiberatedOne7777 nicely put 😉🤗😉🤗
This indeed the one who are antisocial to themselves. They slowly pull you away from loved ones make you feel they all you have etc and then they do you like whatever.
Idk that's hard to debate because i knew guys who were socialites that were very abusive.
This a lie I’ve met quiet nice guys and loud abusers, you just have to watch out for red flags from the beginning when u see it RUN
Aww no sis. Don't say that. My fiance is quiet and antisocial and its only because he just doesn't like people and feel they're not on the level he's on... But he's secure, its a lot of insecure egomaniacs and they come quiet and loud;
That’s what abusers do ....it’s control and if they can’t have you no one can
He sounds like a narcissist and you were struggling with codependency that’s why you kept going back to him.
+layo YES! I battled with it so bad! I knew it was wrong to get hit and I knew I had to leave but a part of me was getting use to him being in my life it’s crazy how people can pass judgment when they have no idea what I was thinking or feeling. Codependency was so deep rooted I saw past the abuse
layo exactly....I said the same thing.
Story of my life 🙄 this is me and my bd
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It's crazy that this pops up because I just attended my cousins funeral & she got shot by her "boyfriend." 😭 I wish people would just speak up!
Praying 🙏🏾 for you and your family as you all mourn the loss of your love one. How are you doing?
Gabriella Starchild i'm okay! Things are better.
Kaee Green my condolences to you and the family
Kaee Green I’m sorry for your and your families loss.
Jesus
I’m watching this and I’m in tears.. i been trough something similar and no one believes me because he acts like a sweet guy when we was around people, I’m in trauma till this day , it was more than abuse it was mentally, he used to put me down always telling me how ugly and skinny I’m he really damages me as a person.. I’m so mad at myself for not listening to my friends and family and letting him treat me like that.. Now he has another girlfriend and a couple months ago he called my phone and texted me some stuff i talk about it with his girl and he basically said I’m a liar and I want him back and other things.. why people are so mean? Why he destroyed my life?😭 now I know it’s was a lesson, i well never NEVER let another man to do me like that again! I love myself and I know god was saved me from this person.. I’m so grateful that nothing happened to me and today I’m focused on myself!
All the signs were there. Its important to listen to what the universe is trying to tell you
lelemarie 612 yes it really is
Red flags are there for a reason.
Universe is God speaking. Either we or someone else will have a dream about the danger. Ppl be thinking it deja va but it actually be God warning us.
You are blessed. Don’t ignore red flags and when a person show you who they are.
My ex came to my bestfriends house and started to fight me because I told him I wanted my house key back due to his cheating, so I whipped out my switch blade and he ran up to get done up...he didn't die but he learned an extremely valuable lesson and hopefully he'll think twice before he tries that with the next. Ladies don't wear no ass whoppin's, there's nothing wrong with defending yourself.
The crazy thing is I was that girl that couldn't understand why a girl would ever stay in a relationship with someone who put his hands on her and I'd judge judge JUDGE!! Then I met my abuser and fell in love. Still married to this day but trying to leave him permanently. It is the hardest thing I've ever been through and I've been through a lot!! Reminds me of that verse "For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you" it's so true!! So ya'll watch yourself and stop judging because the same thing can happen to you.
God bless you 🙏🏽
@@JayShara ❤️
I hope you’ve found your way out.
Forget that... damn.. this dude could’ve killed you and for what? Because he was mad that you wanted to live your life. No way. Glad you are ok. Wish he would’ve went to jail
+Ashley Zwierzynski yes girl!! Thank you! I wish he went to jail for what he did to me. He’s in jail and been in there for some time for a unrelated crime
Thee_CandaceRose Lets hope he rots! You deserve better! You are here for a reason 💕
I too was shot by an ex back in September 2018 I was shot in the back I was hit 2x I tell you this guy harassed me for 6 month I put a vpo on this guy and it only seemed to fuel his harassment he put my tires on flat broke my window on my truck broke my patio door out I was harassed on so many levels I called the police over and over and never seemed to get any help and the night before he called and said he was going to kill me and less than 24hrs he showed up at my house and shot at me thru my patio door I am so grateful to God that He spared my life and I know that He did so for a purpose and I'm still searching for that purpose I now am still waiting on him to be sentenced but my life has changed and very hard for me to trust again I truly believe that I now have to help others to stop allowing yourself to just settle and to wait on God to send that one thank you for sharing Thank God you to are still alive .
I was almost killed by my ex too by him strangling me in the tub. Smfh Never again. 🤦🏾♀️
+XxCuban GoddessxX omg I’m so sorry!
@@TheeCandaceRose Yeah he's ancient history and got his karma. Best believe your ex will surely get his sooner or later unless it hasn't happened yet. #IVeryMuchAppreciateYourResponse
Ironic, I almost died in the tub too. It makes me think they REALLY had ever intention on killing us, since they drug us 2 the tub. Wdy think? My nose was broken in that fukn tub. So sad.
@@laurenm9563 Yeah I believe ya
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Omg calling your name from bushes is so scary
It seem like he wanted to kill her. Thank God she didn’t go to those bushes
I married into that ... but I learned real fast you can’t trust abusers ...I haven’t been with him in 40 years and to this day I would never be alone with him ...I believe he still and just wants to kill mev
therealsongstress I feel the same. If I would’ve stayed it would’ve ended very bad
you're so strong & brave to be able to tell your story not just online, but to sit in front of a camera and tell it. i'm glad you're out of the situation ❤️
Kristin Johnson thank you so much boo I struggled at first
Thank you for sharing your story............
Omggg I got shot in my right knee too a few months ago. Scariest thing ever, I got kidnapped after they shot my car up and I crashed 🤦🏾♀️ that God we survived
+Braidsby Abby omg What?! How the heck did you get away?!
My boyfriend came. I was able to call him in the process and he heard everything that was going on
WTH where do you live they just shot. Your car up for nothing sheesh
Wow glad you're okay life is precious
Are you still with Calvin or in touch with him? He was a great friend to you. You’re so blessed to be here, God is good!
Wow blessings and praises to the most high. So happy you made it out. I was in a abusive relationship for 8 and 1/2 years and I give praises to the most high I survive. I currently have a restraining order in place the dreams have slowed down. I still jump when people surprise me. I jump when I walk to my car because I think I see him. I’m always looking in my rear view mirror thinking he’s following me. It’s hard but it’s getting much better for me. Thank you for your story. Blessings to you my sister
I lost someone very special in my life 19 years ago; because of a “Dave”.
You don't look like what you've been through! ❤️
+Joycelyn Moore Thts so funny because I hear tht all the time. When I tell people my story they jaws hit the floor like WHAAAAAA?! 😧
I’m 29 years old now and I was in a domestic violence relationship in my teens. I’ve never been to therapy for this situation and I’ve always ignored this part of my past. But there are certain situations that happens which triggers me and I believe I have PTSD. My ex used to cheat on me constantly, he chocked me, caused bruises on my body from abusing me physically, and he verbally abused me. He would accuse me of cheating after checking my private area and attack me, and I never cheated on him. After these attacks I would have anxiety attacks.
He went to jail but he would write my letters and have his Mom call me. When he got out he would stalk me, bribe me, and he constantly called everyday. I will never forget when he told me “if I can’t have you, no one can” but God saw different for me and he eventually left me alone.
Thanks for sharing!
He would be his own reason for going to jail.
Everytime she said she went back I was like 🤦♀️ Girl why!! I'm so sorry this happened to you Love 😔 No woman Should EVER be Punched in her face by a Man Period. I just wish you would've been left his ass but hey at least you're still here ❤
Am saying😫.I left my ex because he was yelling at me.I could not imagine what I’d do if he had touched me
@@NairobianMuse SAme.. My ex ( from high school to 19) tried that slapping shit and chipped a tooth... I waited until he went to sleep and stabbed him. He didn't try that nomore after that incident... Another ex cheated and I set him on fire... he only had 2nd degree burns... His ass still wanted to make the marriage work after that.
Liyah Badd I kept rolling my eyes up in my head EVERY-TIME she said she went back!!!! Like what in the entire world. Thank God he brought her through.
I know I was so triggered and almost clicked off 🤦🏾♀️ My mom kept going back and to this day I can’t don’t understand why.
Girl every time you said you went back I was so mad.
+En Casa Con Brittany don’t be mad sis I’m not with tht lame anymore... I learned my lesson after 25455 times I went back lol
Thee_CandaceRose I’m so glad you learned and survived cuz he’s too much.
I appreciate your vulnerability. I am in the same situation, minus the PHYSICAL abuse. I know its hard. It an emotion that know one will understand until they've experienced it themselves. It changes you a bit. Sometimes for the worse, sometimes for the better. You are beautiful! I Pray for peace in your life.
Shades of Sky you shouldn’t have to go through any abuse at all! Physically, emotionally or mentally!!! Your so pretty! You deserve to be treated correctly💕
Call your local domestic violence shelter and see if they can get you or get u counseling.
Now don’t ever trust him again stay away from him
Say that again..."They don't change." Thank you for sharing your story, people need to hear this, not just women but men too.
This is so sad... If you went up to those bushes you probably would’ve been killed :(
+Emily M I agree
When your apartment get broken into it’s always the person helping you look for the person that did it... Happy you’re ok!!!!♥️
+Vanilla Pudding yes!! Tht is so twisted
Watchin this video just made me realize how confused females can be but don call your self stupid life it’s all about experience hopefully you learn from it I wish yu the best gorgeous
Toni Vlogs thank you so much 🤗🤗🤗
Toni Vlogs
I would say it’s more insecurity however the two go together to be honest.
I’m not even halfway through, but I’m sorry that happened to you. I applaud you for getting out of the situation
I can definitely relate to this story. I was in a DV relationship thru out high school. He would always cry and do everything to get me back. He fought me so much I had a miscarriage my 11th grade year. I went from a size 7 to a 0 within those 4 and a half years. He was in the midst of going to jail and that was my opportunity to be done. I thank god he got out of my life and I didn’t have ties with him. He was very negative and evil and a manipulator and a drunk smh. I’m glad your here to tell your story and you learned how a man should treat you. You’re very 💪🏽
Ms. Faith Thomas omg wow tht is terrible! And at such a young age! I’m so glad u found the strength to leave!
High school? Where were your parents? Just curious.. you were tooo young
Queen Marie i dnt have a father or father figure. my mom was around but I kept everything from her. I hid the abuse for a long time.
Are you still with Calvin though? He a real one 👏
When she telling part where he enters her car and starts hitting her, it reminds me of the story that this girl did the same thing, allowed her boyfriend or her ex into the car so they could talk but instead he pulls out the gun out and killed her. But I'm so grateful you didn't die of the hands of your abuser
She look like Asian doll
Beauts Baby you think so?!
Beauts Baby Yess ! i see it !
I see Eva Marcell
TyasiaMinaj aww man tht is one hell of a compliment 😍
@@TheeCandaceRose your more beautiful though and your welcome 💜
Girl you are a survivor!! The Lord gave you karma against your ex when he went to jail. I have been in a similar situation with verbal & emotional abuse, calling me ugly, fat, cheating, & set ups with ex boyfriends too. We are healed & covered under Christ. God Bless You.
ne2 new yes it’s always a similar situation but different people! I’m so happy u got out of you situation. We are definitely survivors. Some aren’t blessed to make it out alive
I struggled with abuse during my pregnancy, he cracked open my forehead, busted my mouth open, choked me, attempted to hurt my unborn and I'm so happy to say me and my baby survived and got away. It's never our fault ladies. It becomes your fault when you continue to allow this behavior to yourself. God bless this girl I'm so happy she survived and things didn't go the other way. God bless stand tall with your chest up and head high 🙏🏽💙
Thank you for telling your story. I appreciate you and your honesty. It’s hard to leave someone you love. I was in a five-year relationship with my first love. In the last two years it started to get abusive and he refused to let me go. Finally he did. & six years later I still have nightmares about Me going back to him. Which will never happen!!! How happy you made it! We made it!!!! Whatever doesn’t kill you makes you stronger 💯
+LaNae Star your so welcome! I just wanted to share my story in hopes to touch women’s heart to give them courage to leave. And omg tht is crazy! It’s crazy how your ex switched up the last 2 years. Tht is ridiculous. I agree WE made it and it made us stronger then ever 💕💕
Thee_CandaceRose yes as soon as I wanted to leave him/ trying to break away. That’s when it started. Thank you again for Sharing your story!!!
Thank you JESUS for saving u,you could have loss your life.
Nene McGinnis thank you 😊
Wait girl. When it happened you didn’t think it was him?? Shit that’s a lot of manipulation right there
Brieanne Stanton nope I had no idea it was him. He played the roll as if it was news to him
It was him that’s so messed up.
All it take just one time for me but I'm so glad YOU came to your senses.
+Gloria Henderson 👏🏽
There is no need for you to feel like you being extra it’s your story you were shot there is nothing extra about that god bless you Thankyou for sharing your story ❤️ you could help someone else by simply sharing your story
Laura J aww thank you I appreciate your positive words
Thee_CandaceRose & I live in Dayton !
Ur story wasn't DARK, it's a story that needs to be shared for others who r dealing with the same issues. You are in fact helping others see the LIGHT!!! IM GLAD YOU FOUND THE STRENGTH TO TALK ABOUT IT & I AM SURE IT HELPED YOU IN THE END TO GET THIS OFF YOUR CHEST!!! CONGRATS ON CONTINUING LIFE BECAUSE YOU DESERVE HAPPINESS & PEACE.
-MIKA
ModelesqueMika XXX Thank You So much! This topic was on my mind so heavy before I put out this video. I had no idea who I was goin to help but I knew I had to get this out there. Me goin back to my abuser is a very common thing. I just wanted to be real raw and transparent. Thank you for being so open minded to understand my story 🥰🥰
Kudos for telling your story, fam. You have tremendous courage, I am super proud of you. I never knew this! I am so thankful that you came through. Continued blessings, babe.
I just left a abusive relationship Saturday to be exact I wish I would have left sooner but now I feel like I have nobody because he was my only friend
First of all I’m so glad u left. It doesn’t matter when u left all tht matters is tht you got out. Tht person was NOT your friend especially if he put his hands on you. You will be fine and find true friends hell im your new friend
You have friends that you do not know. Friends praying for you and your safety.
Talk to The Most High sis. No one or nothing better!! 💙💙🙏🏽🙏🏽
@Cinnamoney, you have God and ladies who understand your journey. The fact that you left is the start of your journey. Don’t go back and hold on to your worth. Look in the mirror and realize that you deserve more. Be patient and wait on God.
I'm so glad you found the peace to be able to share this. You are strong and inspiring to many.
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I am so happy that you were able to get out of this terrible situation, You are a very strong woman and honestly my inspiration, God definitely wrapped his arms around you and made sure you made it out alive, God bless you and I hope life only gets better for you
Glad you overcome your pain. But just some thought to the many of ladies out their, give some of these nice and respectable dudes a chance for once. They may change your life into a world of happiness. 🙏
Mr Ball’s thank you! Yes tht is the disadvantage of being young and naive you choose the wrong guys. I’m older and wiser now
You are absolutely beautiful!! Thank you for having the courage to share your story, i’m so grateful you are alive and out of that situation now. I know your story will help so many. Sending you love and blessings!
+Aquarian Empress Tarot thank you so much ☺️
So glad youre doing much better, there is so much power in just walking away from a toxic situation the first time!! Thanks for sharing❤️
The ones that didn’t like this video, you absolutely need help! You have no heart and no compassion. You’re sick
The Black History I agree
Listen to your gut! Women intuition please listen to it ASAP... Once he screams, down talks, cheats, slaps, kicks, any physical abuse WALK AWAY SIS....bye my rule I lived by after hearing my females in my family talk and experience it. I vowid never put up with it. Saved me a life of trauma. Bye walking away from two ex. Found out later they beat the holy crap out of their women. If I wouldn't took notice , it would of been me instead. Beg you ladies or men walk away from your significant other if their abusive first action walk away keep it pushing, easy as that f what anyone thinks or says it's your life.
I accidentally deleted your comment but thank you so much. It’s crazy because my gut always told me not to be around him EVER! My spirit always felt uneasy but I was so young I didn’t know the power of energy, so I kept putting my feelings to the back burner. So they both beat their girls after you left them? You were tolerating the bs and they knew they couldn’t get tht off on you so they took tht aggressive behavior out on the next one. I admire how strong you are
Never been in an abusive relationship, but I’m glad you were brave enough to speak your story 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾thank God you got out when you did!! Like you said if you’ve never been in a situation like this don’t judge or talk about what you would’ve done, just listen to her story and take in the many points she’s sharing. Blessings to you young lady!🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️❤️
Girrrrl this sounded like an episode of that show Fatal Attraction...WOW...glad you're ok...stay prayed up 🙏🙏🙏
Adrianne Johnson yes!! All because I wanted to move on!
@@TheeCandaceRose Yes, that's crazy, like you're supposed to just stay and allow him to do any and everything to u. People are so wild smfh
No woman can change a man . Idky women think they can. Just don’t even try . You’re worth more than that , you deserve better than that. This was so sad to watch . I’ve watched my mother go through this with her boyfriends, and I honestly wish I could’ve done something , but could I’ve done as a kid. No one deserves to go through that . RED FLAGS should be enough to walk away , not waiting around to see if things get worse. I just could never see myself doing anything like that , putting my hands on anyone , let alone a woman . You guys gotta be safe . Glad you’re okay .
Glad that God saved YOU, someone was praying for you. Also, I think God got a plan for you in this world. I almost lost my life 2 years ago. My ex husband attacked me with a hammer, he hit me in the head, received 15 staples. Since then, I have learned the Bible because it's my Manuel in this world. I have realized there's a lot of spirits that's coexist with humans in this world. It seemed like that was a demonic spirit that was using your ex boyfriend to try to take you out. Get to know your BIBLE, read the scriptures that is how you will get your power over any demonic spirits. Hosea 4:6, get knowledge and keep knowledge. God didn't give us the spirit of FEAR, it only come from the DEVIL. Talk to GOD, quote bible scriptures to fight back. You are not dealing with flesh and blood, Ephesian 6:12. God bless and stay bless
+Martha George this is very powerful!! I’m goin to read these scriptures for sure! I’m so sorry you went through what you went through as well and I’m glad god used u as a vessel. 🙌🏾
Definitely agree. He was after this girl.
AMEN 😍🙏🏾
AMEN ❤️🙏🏾
I'm so happy you're still here to tell your story. I been there and our biggest mistake is letting the first one go. Then next thing you know, hes going upside your head whenever he feels like it. Most of the time its him that fucked up,but you take the beating. You feel so small and they have you believing the bullshit they feed you. Nobody else will want you, you ugly,compare you to other females. They just totally destroy the self esteem and respect that you have for yourself. You baby girl, tell your story cuz you never know who might need to hear it right then. God bless you baby girl
My heart goes out for you praying for God to give you the desires of you heart and more you didn't deserve that ...
im so sorry you went through this girl, you’re so pretty and didn’t deserve any of that. some men are really sick in the head and its so fucked up
Wow, I know idk you personally but I just want to say I am so so so proud of you for working through that! And you not crying shows how much you have healed from the situation, you’re a strong women! And also can we get an update on you and Calvin ? He’s like your knight and shining armor like a cute telenovela
Thank you for sharing this matter of your heart. You never “get over” trauma. I got stabbed before, but not due to DV. I was abused by my daughter’s father, but I too broke & ended things when he kicked my door in, jumped on me, blacked my eyes, chipped a tooth, & beat me TF up. When our mental health ain’t on point, nothing else is. 💪🏾🧠❣️
My ex husband locked me in the house 6 months after having our twins and beat me for 2 hrs straight.
Sis I hope that you have gotten therapy and know that this in NO WAY affects your worth as a human being. YOU ALONE ARE ENOUGH!!
My ex husband used to beat me for him getting caught cheating on me as well.
wow sis i pray that you've recovered... thats just too much
@@gracemat9474 I have and Thank You for your concern 💜
Thanks for sharing your story. I was married and with him for 17+ years. Throughout that time, I was belittled, punched, slapped, beat with paddles, hit in the head with a paddle that broke and had a gash as a result, chocked, threaten to kill me, spit on, kicked, etc...... Till this very day, it has affected who I am as a woman. So glad you made it out, although you had to go through so much to get out. Take care.💜🌸
I appreciate you having to courage and strength to share ‼️
This was tough to listen to....especially being a survivor myself. So beautiful and im so sorry to hear you experienced all of these things.
H8. To be nosey but are you and Calvin still together?
Love your story. I’m a domestic survivor as well.24years ago I was shot by a boyfriend/baby father.
I was in a abusive relationship for 5 years it was the hardest situation to get out of. Its easy for someone to say get out but when you fear for your life it’s a different story. Every time I thought I had a chance my fear of him kicked in and I stayed. I never went back and fourth in the relationship because believe me if I had the courage to leave at least one time I would of never looked back not with all the beatings and black eyes or waking up with a gun in my mouth for no reason. I’m so happy that god was looking over you and nothing happened to you on that night. Unfortunately many women don’t make it out alive.. I’m glad you shared your story to give women awareness and if or when they see the first signs like the verbal abuse to stay away because trust me it only gets worse and the first time you forgive and stay your giving them that power. Also I want to say and shout out the good men we have to realize that not all men hit and mistreat their women it took me time but I found someone that respects me and truly loves me.. shout out to those men.
+Marya Caraballo you are so right! I’m so sorry u went through tht for so long! And I’m so happy you made out alive and found someone who loves you.
Thee_CandaceRose Thank you I’m glad we both did ❤️
Someone needed to hear this story, dnt second guess your testimony.
ladies if a man hit you, that is one time too many!! just leave him, no matter how much he apologizes, sends you flowers, cries, etc...
women keep going back, why? those men are psychopaths, narcissist. So not worth it!!
even the verbal abusers, they talk to you crazy, disrespect you leave them. because when they start with the verbal it moves to the physical. Stop trying to "save" these sick men, stop, the drama and co-dependent. just leave!!
I was with a narcacisst and he was an alcoholic went to counseling l. learned my lesson.
It’s a blessing that god healed you and you is ok
+iamjustnayyy thank you 🥰
Great video! I'm happy you survived and able to tell you story. I hate domestic violence. And the things you experienced was trauma but you pushed through with resilience. Thank your for sharing your story! Don't feel ashamed because you're helping others as well. You have a new subscriber! And keep up the great work!
+GiftedSince92 GiftedSince92 thank you so much ☺️ seeing some of these insensitive comments I felt regret for makin this video and it started to take me back to tht negative space.
Your welcome beautiful!
This broke me your so pretty you was brave to tell this widd out a tear falling I'm glad your doing better again luv stay strong 💙 .
Sadie Enlow thank you so much! I was so shocked I didn’t cry. One of my subscribers said I didn’t cry because I’ve healed from the situation. Nicely put
@@TheeCandaceRose anytime luv keep doing your thing !
i’m so happy you’re still here. my mom was abused too. thank god she’s still here. yall are so strong 🙏🏻🙏🏻
I’m so grateful you are well. Blessings to you ❤️
+Chanchanmamie Ooo thank you so much gorgeous 🥰🥰
so glad you made it out sis! and I'm glad you're healing from it physically and mentally !
Im watching this randomly and when you said Kent State....my mouth dropped even more thats where I graduated too. This story is so wild. Im so glad that you shared this ans that you're ok
You are so dope for this video! I can tell you went back and forth about telling your story bc of what people may think is your reason or motive. ... But know this, God put you thru that, made sure you survived, and wrote your story leading up to that point, and what happened after purposely so you could be relatable for other young woman out here that think the exact way most young woman think. When your young you look at older people and the things they try to warn you about "as not knowing what they are talking about" but when you see someone on your level, that thinks how you do, talks like you, likes what you like, around your age ....it makes a much BIGGER impact. You are more important than you know.... GOD CHOSE YOU!!!
Hello sis I'm new to your channel , and I'm so proud of you I see nothing but strength in u ,u are so blessed
Tarra Daniels thank you I appreciate your kind words
Thank you for being strong & telling us your story. people don't know how tough it is to leave when you're in an abusive relationship.
+kay j thank you for your positive feedback!!! Your right people have no clue unless they experience it themselves
So sorry this happened to you thank god you are alive🙌🏾🙌🏾 I was in a abusive marriage years ago and had to get out I am a survivor also 💜💜 god bless you!😊
Sharnetta Mcdade Thank God you got out of your situation as well I cnt imagine being married to a abuser. Girl some of these insensitive comments on here is disgusting I just had to start blocking folks.
Girl .. hearing your story really gave me chills because our stories are so similar... I was shot at 16 years old by my boyfriend . Shot in the right leg .. called my mom while I was WALKING to the hospital ! And he followed me the entire way there and he acted as if he didn’t do it and went on Facebook saying he’s gonna find out who did it to me .. whole time it was him!! I’m 24 now and he still looks for me ..... ladies ... walk away as soon as you can!
Great storytime. I'm here in Columbus too. Keep telling your story someone needs to here it!
Ohio PN thank you babe
I am so glad that you are sharing your story as there are many that will need to hear it. Wishing you strength, healing and every blessing for the future.