Hai madam..I respect your interview...but please try not to say like.ningalkku kuttikal illa....change it to ningallku kuttikal ayitilla (here there is a high possibility).....some sentence may hurt others unknowingly....it's my personal opinion ...I hope madam can understand this the way I tried to explain....iam regular viewer of your interviews..we are being inspired by some of them..Wishing you all the success..thank you reading my msg
Dhanya Varma, Good work വിധുപ്രതാപിനെ പോലെ അനുഗൃഹീത ഗായകൻ്റെ പാട്ടിൻ്റെ അഭാവം നിരാശയുണ്ടാക്കി. മലയാള സിനിമാ സംഗീതരംഗം വിധുവിൻ്റെ പ്രതിഭയെ വേണ്ടവിധം പ്രയോജനപ്പെടുത്തിയിട്ടില്ല. എം.ടിയെ അടുത്തിടെ കൊച്ചിയിൽ ആദരിച്ച ചടങ്ങിൽ മലയാളത്തിലെ classic ഗാനങ്ങൾ എത്ര മാത്രം കയ്യടക്കത്തോടെയാണ് അവതരിപ്പിച്ചത്.
People who love kids and then have kids the experience is heaven. For others who have kids it’s hell for both but even brutal for kids. If you don’t or can’t have kids it’s not the end of the world.
I disagree with the point that for people who love kids having kids is a heavenly experience. Not necessarily. There are many people who feel completely tired, compromise their dreams abd future and find it a very difficult experience (it may not reduce their love for the child, that is different altogether). Similarly people who didnt opt for a child but still having children might not always feel horrible too. It is better to stay away from such clieched perceptions.
@@niyathikrishna2651 yes taking care of the little ones is not easy especially if you don’t have help and support especially from your spouse. If you live outside in many countries you are on your own with your job and house, work along with the little ones need. But this does not make it any less of a wonderful experience atleast for me and many others.
@@Apple_Pen_Pineapple_Penath arinjitt ipo nammalkonum velye use illalo.. Ee curiosity kond anu palarum ithepole choikunathum ivark ath budimut avarind enn parayunathum😅
@@Oreo_158 അറിഞ്ഞിട്ട് കാര്യമൊന്നുമില്ല എങ്കിലും ഇത്ര സക്സസ് ഉള്ള അവർ ഇത് വേണ്ട വെക്കുമ്പോൾ എന്താണ് പ്രോബ്ലം ബയോളജിക്കൽ ആണോ എന്ന് പറയാൻ ഒരു പ്രതിബദ്ധതയുണ്ട് അല്ലെങ്കിലും ഇത് ഒരു ഇന്റർവ്യൂ അല്ലേ അല്ലെങ്കിൽ പിന്നെ ഇന്റർവ്യൂ പാടില്ല 🙂
Such a beautiful interview! Thanks to Vidhu sir and Deepthi madam for addressing this matter. This is a pain that my husband and I have been going through for the past 8 years. My career successes are considered void as I don't have a kid. Will share this beautiful interview.
They have conveyed that taking care of parents is not a kid's "responsibility", which is something we need to normalise. It is something an adult child can do out of love and not obligation. As adults, it is the parent's responsibility to make sure they have a plan for their future and not expect the child to plan his future according to the parent's dreams. Let our kids have their autonomy. This is something I follow as a parent for my kid.
കുട്ടികൾ ആയോ ? വേണോ എന്നതൊക്കെ ഒരു irrelavant ആയ കാര്യമാണ്. ഇനിയുള്ള ജനറേഷൻ എങ്കിലും ഈ ചോദ്യങ്ങളൊക്കെ ഒഴിവാക്കേണ്ടതാണ്. ഈ ഒരു വിഷയം ഒരിക്കലും ആരോടും ചോദിക്കാതെ ഇരിക്കാനുള്ള പക്വതയാണ് ഇനി വേണ്ടത്. ഒരു കുട്ടിക്ക് വേണ്ടി ആഗ്രഹിച്ചിട്ടും കിട്ടാതിരുന്ന ഞാൻ കടന്നു പോയ അവസ്ഥ പറഞ്ഞറിയിക്കാനാവില്ല . ഇതിൻ്റെ പ്രഷർ, വർക്ക് പ്രഷർ.... ഇതിൽ നിന്നും ഞാനും എന്റെ ഹസ്ബൻ്റും ഇടയ്ക്ക് ഒരു ട്രിപ്പ് പോയാൽ.. അവർ ആഘോഷിച്ചു നടക്കുവാണ് , അവർക്ക് കുട്ടികൾ ബാധ്യതയാണ് എന്നും അതിൽ കൂടുതലും ഫേസ് ചെയ്യേണ്ടതായി വന്നിട്ടുണ്ട്. Still ഞങ്ങൾ ആരെയും ആ സമയത്ത് ബോധിപ്പിക്കാൻ പോയില്ല. So ഇങ്ങനെ ഒരു കാര്യം ചോദിക്കേണ്ട ആവശ്യം പോലുമില്ല. And നിങ്ങളുടെ സമാധാനിപ്പിക്കൽ ഈ ഒരു Situation ൽ ഉള്ളവർക്ക് ആവശ്യവുമില്ല.. Thank you Vidhu & Deepthi for this wonderful talk❤
ഇപ്പോഴത്തെ കുട്ടികൾ ഒന്നും കല്യാണം കഴിഞ്ഞതാണോ എന്ന് പോലും ആരോടും ചോദിക്കാറില്ല.. കുറച്ചു പ്രായം കൂടിയവർ ആണ് ഇങ്ങനെ ഉള്ള ചോദ്യങ്ങൾ ചോദിക്കുന്നത്.. ഒരു പക്ഷെ അങ്ങനെ ചോദിക്കുന്നത് തെറ്റാണ് എന്ന് അറിയില്ലായിരിക്കും അവർക്ക്.. ഇപ്പോഴത്തെ ജനറേഷന് എന്തൊക്കെ ചോദിക്കാൻ പാടില്ല എന്നൊക്കെ നല്ലത് പോലെ അറിയാം
In some societies, asking personal questions about spouse, family, kids, or job for that matter, is considered rude. Hope Malayali society soon grows up to that standard of emotional maturity...
Having a my first child after 7 years, have gone through lot of painful incidents from the very near and dear ones. Of course life is different after having kids, but when I think now, the times when we didn’t have them were equally beautiful & precious! We had other activities to do and never once felt sad or empty.
Thank you for asking that question about the kids... And thank you vidhu chettan and deepti checi for answering it very genuinely. After a long years i felt so happy and relieved, bcz for the past 6 years i hv been questioned and adviced at the same time. This made me restrained to attend any family functions or even go to my hometown. Let the normalcy of respecting the boundaries come in act very soon 😊 thank you again Dhanya madam. Loads of ❤
ഇത് ഒരു വല്ലാത്ത ശല്യം ആണ്. കഴിഞ്ഞ ദിവസം വീട്ടിൽ വാട്ടർ പ്യൂരിഫൈർ ന്റെ marketing വന്ന ചേട്ടൻ എന്നോട് ചേട്ടൻ: എന്താ ജോലി ഞാൻ: ഐ ടി ചേട്ടൻ: കല്യാണം? ഞാൻ: കഴിഞ്ഞു ചേട്ടൻ: husband ? ഞാൻ: വന്നില്ല ചേട്ടൻ: കുട്ടികൾ? ഞാൻ: ഇല്ല ചേട്ടൻ: അപ്പൊ കല്യാണം കഴിഞ്ഞിട്ട് അധികം ആയില്ലാരിക്കും അല്ലെ ? ഞാൻ: കല്യാണം ഒക്കെ കഴിഞ്ഞിട്ട് അഞ്ചാറു കൊല്ലം ആയി ചേട്ടാ.. പക്ഷെ ഞങൾ കുട്ടിക്ക് ഒന്നും ഇതുവരെ നോക്കീട്ടില്ല .. ചേട്ടൻ: ഓഹ് ⁉️😵 ( confused ) ( അയാളെ ജീവിത്തിൽ ഇതിനു മുന്നേ ഒരു വട്ടം പോലും ഞാൻ കണ്ടിട്ടില്ല)
Marketing ന്ന് വന്ന ആൾ ആ പണി ചെയ്തിട്ട് പോകണം... ഈ ചോദ്യങ്ങൾക്കൊന്നും ഉത്തരം കൊടുക്കേണ്ട ആവശ്യമേയില്ല... അയാളെന്താ census എടുക്കാൻ വന്നതാണോ എന്ന് ചോദിക്കണമായിരുന്നു....
കുട്ടികൾ ഇല്ലാത്തതുമാത്രമല്ല ഒരു കുട്ടി മാത്രം ഉള്ളതും വലിയ പ്രശ്നമാണ്. ഒന്നേ ഉള്ളോ.... അടുത്തത് വേണ്ടേ....... ഒന്നിനൊന്ന് തുണ....... കൂട്ട് വേണം ..... ഓഒന്നല്ലേ ഒള്ളു...... ഇങ്ങനെ പോണു ഉപദേശം .... വിമർശനം😢
This was a topic that needed to be discussed as to how people go through so much anguish.. from the society...and this was asked with their consent beforehand...the answer is what one must pay attention to...the questions are asked for addressing that subject and the answers my friend
ഇവർ പറഞ്ഞ പോലെ എന്തിനു മറ്റുള്ളവർക്ക് മക്കൾ ഇല്ലേ ഉണ്ടോ എന്നു ബാക്കി ഉള്ളവർ അന്വേഷിക്കുന്നത്. അവർക്ക് മക്കളെ ഇഷ്ടം ഉണ്ടെങ്കി ഉണ്ടാക്കിയ മതി. അവർക്ക് വേണ്ടെങ്കി നമുക്ക് എന്താ നാട്ടുകാർ വിഷമിക്കണ്ട ആവശ്യം ഇല്ല. അവര് ഒറ്റക്ക് വയസാവുമ്പോ അവർക്കു ജീവിക്കാൻ ഉള്ളത് ഇപ്പോഴേ അവർ ഉണ്ടാക്കി വെക്കുന്നുണ്ട്. മക്കളെ ഉണ്ടാക്കി കൊടുക്കാൻ വിഷമിക്കുന്നവർ mind your own business and സ്വന്തം വീട്ടിൽ നഴ്സറി ഉണ്ടാക്കൂ please 🙏🏻🫤
Wow.. what a beautiful talk … I’m commenting a UA-cam channel for first time…. Regarding kids it’s so relevant … so called mallu people have this fake concerns on other people’s life😌so so relevant talk from different perspective.
Old age homes have been given such a bad name due to all the movies that depict kids as monsters who don’t take care of their parents but in reality for older people who need constant assisted care there should be good assisted living centers similar to apartments that have gymnastics and clubhouses .
Interesting video! 😊 Why is it that when asked about having kids earlier in a married life , that's considered intrusive, however, when asked why venturing into different fields in a music career was not done early enough, that is not considered intrusive? Where do we draw this line about being intrusive?
Career is different from one's personal life....He is already in the limelight..is a good singer...hit maker...He's having a place in the music industry and he's is entertaining the public...his audience, his fans..So asking about or concerned about more musical achievements is in no way something to hurt. But talking about spouse, kids, family etc is something "personal". It is something that a person tries to keep as his/her own and not a public thing. That makes it intrusive. Hope you got the difference 😊
This intrusive word is at times confusing and what i feel intrusive may not be for you... So in my opinion , it should mutually agreeable discussions as far as interviews are concerned where the other person is OK to respond ( speak) about that.
Debatable.. Conditions vechitano God koode indavunne..?? I think God is someone/ something which treats everyone and everything equal under all circumstances ( irrespective of space and time)
@@hira-pt6fvI feel like there are many people around us who still dont understand the inappropriateness of asking such questions about kids.For them may be hearing such conversation can be an eyeopener atleast for some.And for Deepthi and Vidhu they got an opportunity to openly communicate to audience that they dont expect such questions from anyone and their personal life is none of others business which they may not be able to communicate with people directly
Even our generation people also ask this kind of intrusive question. Right now I am focusing on my career I can't afford to have a child now.My husband is financially in a good position but I am not. If we are having a kid and want to give it a good life we should be financially, mentally and socially in a stable position to do so. Not just physical health matters at this point of time
I came to listen to your thug, I don’t care if you have children or not. I’m writing the comment Because I want you to know that, there are people like me
I think we are not thought about the personal boundaries. Some others get pleasure when get into other personal life. If someone has a child before marriage and if not having children after marriage is a problem for the society. We are a childfree couple and that’s our choice. Those who ask us about it only one word answer from us ‘ that’s our choice’. Hope the words from celebrities create awareness 😊. Enjoy your life vidhu and deepthi.
Honest and genuine conversation with no jaada 👌👌As they mentioned there could be many reasons for people to not have kids and the society must respect their sentiments.Well said 👏👏I feel being mother is the greatest gift in my life but we cannot expect everyone to have the same feelings and situations so I agree 👍
Being childfree is ones own choice...and it's high time we should normalise it...I don't get it why people find it really difficult to digest the fact that's it's a personal choice😊 .
ഉള്ള കാര്യം പറയാമല്ലോ. വെല്യ ഇഷ്ടാരുന്ന് ഇങ്ങടെ ഇൻ്റർവ്യൂ ഒക്കെ. പക്ഷേ ആളുകളുടെ ജീവിതത്തിൽ കേറി കുത്തി തിരുപ്പ് ചോദ്യം ചോദിക്കുന്നത് നിർത്തണം. ഹാപ്പിനെസ്സ് പ്രോജക്ട് ഒക്കെ എന്ത് നല്ലതാരുന്ന്!
Mam, Why don't you try to bring siblings like 2 brothers and sisters or brother and sister or 2 good friends, not Just couples but they too have their own stories to share 😊
Ennod chodikkarund 2damathu kochu nokunnilae ennu. But it's our decision njangalku oral mathi. We are not financially settled.enik job aayittilla. Only my husband is going for a job. So njangalde mon ippo njangalkku nannayi nokkan pattunnund. Better education kodukkan pattunnund. 2nd oru child vannal nammal struggle cheiyyendi verum.that's why we both take this decision
Hello Dhanya, it is really an appreciative approach from your end to interact to the other person in a sensitive manner but at the same time, if they are ready, you let them speak about it bcoz then only the stigma in the society will change and the couple without children(like me😊) will also get legitimation👍.
I think you yourself have to avoid this question of "how to deal with the societal pressure to have kids" It starts with you also Dhanya. Please dont frame your question in a polished way and indirectly aim at the same thing that others do. If you wanted to normalise having kids or not you wouldn't have raised this question afterall😅
The questions are asked for addressing that subject and that was a risk I was willing to take This was asked after seeking their prior approval and they wanted to discuss this subject as well.Sp pls pay attention to the answers as the questions are merely tools to lead to the answers..again never asked why..I asked how they deal with this..and they gave a beautiful answers to this with total approval..that's what we need to focus on..❤️❤️
The questions are asked for addressing a subject and it was asked after their seeking their approval for the same. They wanted to discuss this issue as well. So pls pay attention to the answers because that's what the questions are for
Every time someone talks about being child free, or how parenthood is just not suitable for them, another irritating comment which can be seen is 'ninte appanum anmayum ingne chinthichirunel innu Ithu parayan née undakumarunno?' which is extremely absurd and illogical. The straight answer is No, undakumayrunnilla. But since I'm here now, and I'm at the physical and mental capability to make independent decisions, yes I am free to choose and free to opine. It is so irritating and annoying, yet the person /people commenting think they're shooting out a non argumentative reasoning by asking such a question.
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Hai madam..I respect your interview...but please try not to say like.ningalkku kuttikal illa....change it to ningallku kuttikal ayitilla (here there is a high possibility).....some sentence may hurt others unknowingly....it's my personal opinion ...I hope madam can understand this the way I tried to explain....iam regular viewer of your interviews..we are being inspired by some of them..Wishing you all the success..thank you reading my msg
Waiting for Rimitomy,no one can replace this soul.please interview her
Yeaah🥰
very bold talk.. need of the hour... childlessness can be a conscious decision.. ( especially for the ones who have consciousness)
Thanks. Do share and support
very true 👍🏽
Yes💯
Rimitomye interview cheyyymo mam,plssss
Dhanya Varma,
Good work
വിധുപ്രതാപിനെ പോലെ അനുഗൃഹീത ഗായകൻ്റെ പാട്ടിൻ്റെ അഭാവം നിരാശയുണ്ടാക്കി. മലയാള സിനിമാ സംഗീതരംഗം വിധുവിൻ്റെ പ്രതിഭയെ വേണ്ടവിധം പ്രയോജനപ്പെടുത്തിയിട്ടില്ല. എം.ടിയെ അടുത്തിടെ കൊച്ചിയിൽ ആദരിച്ച ചടങ്ങിൽ മലയാളത്തിലെ classic ഗാനങ്ങൾ എത്ര മാത്രം കയ്യടക്കത്തോടെയാണ് അവതരിപ്പിച്ചത്.
People who love kids and then have kids the experience is heaven. For others who have kids it’s hell for both but even brutal for kids. If you don’t or can’t have kids it’s not the end of the world.
I disagree with the point that for people who love kids having kids is a heavenly experience. Not necessarily. There are many people who feel completely tired, compromise their dreams abd future and find it a very difficult experience (it may not reduce their love for the child, that is different altogether). Similarly people who didnt opt for a child but still having children might not always feel horrible too. It is better to stay away from such clieched perceptions.
@@niyathikrishna2651 yes taking care of the little ones is not easy especially if you don’t have help and support especially from your spouse. If you live outside in many countries you are on your own with your job and house, work along with the little ones need. But this does not make it any less of a wonderful experience atleast for me and many others.
Y they don't have kids
@@Apple_Pen_Pineapple_Penath arinjitt ipo nammalkonum velye use illalo.. Ee curiosity kond anu palarum ithepole choikunathum ivark ath budimut avarind enn parayunathum😅
@@Oreo_158 അറിഞ്ഞിട്ട് കാര്യമൊന്നുമില്ല എങ്കിലും ഇത്ര സക്സസ് ഉള്ള അവർ ഇത് വേണ്ട വെക്കുമ്പോൾ എന്താണ് പ്രോബ്ലം ബയോളജിക്കൽ ആണോ എന്ന് പറയാൻ ഒരു പ്രതിബദ്ധതയുണ്ട് അല്ലെങ്കിലും ഇത് ഒരു ഇന്റർവ്യൂ അല്ലേ അല്ലെങ്കിൽ പിന്നെ ഇന്റർവ്യൂ പാടില്ല 🙂
Such a beautiful interview! Thanks to Vidhu sir and Deepthi madam for addressing this matter. This is a pain that my husband and I have been going through for the past 8 years. My career successes are considered void as I don't have a kid.
Will share this beautiful interview.
So true.... Everyone becomes expert advisor on this issue... High time to give couples their privacy....
They have conveyed that taking care of parents is not a kid's "responsibility", which is something we need to normalise. It is something an adult child can do out of love and not obligation. As adults, it is the parent's responsibility to make sure they have a plan for their future and not expect the child to plan his future according to the parent's dreams. Let our kids have their autonomy. This is something I follow as a parent for my kid.
കുട്ടികൾ ആയോ ? വേണോ എന്നതൊക്കെ ഒരു irrelavant ആയ കാര്യമാണ്. ഇനിയുള്ള ജനറേഷൻ എങ്കിലും ഈ ചോദ്യങ്ങളൊക്കെ ഒഴിവാക്കേണ്ടതാണ്. ഈ ഒരു വിഷയം ഒരിക്കലും ആരോടും ചോദിക്കാതെ ഇരിക്കാനുള്ള പക്വതയാണ് ഇനി വേണ്ടത്.
ഒരു കുട്ടിക്ക് വേണ്ടി ആഗ്രഹിച്ചിട്ടും കിട്ടാതിരുന്ന ഞാൻ കടന്നു പോയ അവസ്ഥ പറഞ്ഞറിയിക്കാനാവില്ല . ഇതിൻ്റെ പ്രഷർ, വർക്ക് പ്രഷർ.... ഇതിൽ നിന്നും ഞാനും എന്റെ ഹസ്ബൻ്റും ഇടയ്ക്ക് ഒരു ട്രിപ്പ് പോയാൽ.. അവർ ആഘോഷിച്ചു നടക്കുവാണ് , അവർക്ക് കുട്ടികൾ ബാധ്യതയാണ് എന്നും അതിൽ കൂടുതലും ഫേസ് ചെയ്യേണ്ടതായി വന്നിട്ടുണ്ട്. Still ഞങ്ങൾ ആരെയും ആ സമയത്ത് ബോധിപ്പിക്കാൻ പോയില്ല.
So ഇങ്ങനെ ഒരു കാര്യം ചോദിക്കേണ്ട ആവശ്യം പോലുമില്ല. And നിങ്ങളുടെ സമാധാനിപ്പിക്കൽ ഈ ഒരു Situation ൽ ഉള്ളവർക്ക് ആവശ്യവുമില്ല.. Thank you Vidhu & Deepthi for this wonderful talk❤
Correct✅
ഇപ്പോഴത്തെ കുട്ടികൾ ഒന്നും കല്യാണം കഴിഞ്ഞതാണോ എന്ന് പോലും ആരോടും ചോദിക്കാറില്ല.. കുറച്ചു പ്രായം കൂടിയവർ ആണ് ഇങ്ങനെ ഉള്ള ചോദ്യങ്ങൾ ചോദിക്കുന്നത്.. ഒരു പക്ഷെ അങ്ങനെ ചോദിക്കുന്നത് തെറ്റാണ് എന്ന് അറിയില്ലായിരിക്കും അവർക്ക്.. ഇപ്പോഴത്തെ ജനറേഷന് എന്തൊക്കെ ചോദിക്കാൻ പാടില്ല എന്നൊക്കെ നല്ലത് പോലെ അറിയാം
Yadarthathil thangalude bloodline nilathirthaan, allekil vayasu kalath nokunathinu, athum allekil mathaparamaaya viswasangal okke reason aaki kuttikale undakunnavar aan swarthatha ullavar.
True... Didn't expect this kind of questions from Dhanya.
@@rajimanikkuttan5802E generationilum ingane chodikkunna friends und, especially if they have kids.
In some societies, asking personal questions about spouse, family, kids, or job for that matter, is considered rude. Hope Malayali society soon grows up to that standard of emotional maturity...
Having a my first child after 7 years, have gone through lot of painful incidents from the very near and dear ones. Of course life is different after having kids, but when I think now, the times when we didn’t have them were equally beautiful & precious! We had other activities to do and never once felt sad or empty.
Thank you for asking that question about the kids... And thank you vidhu chettan and deepti checi for answering it very genuinely. After a long years i felt so happy and relieved, bcz for the past 6 years i hv been questioned and adviced at the same time. This made me restrained to attend any family functions or even go to my hometown. Let the normalcy of respecting the boundaries come in act very soon 😊 thank you again Dhanya madam. Loads of ❤
ഇത് ഒരു വല്ലാത്ത ശല്യം ആണ്. കഴിഞ്ഞ ദിവസം വീട്ടിൽ വാട്ടർ പ്യൂരിഫൈർ ന്റെ marketing വന്ന ചേട്ടൻ എന്നോട്
ചേട്ടൻ: എന്താ ജോലി
ഞാൻ: ഐ ടി
ചേട്ടൻ: കല്യാണം?
ഞാൻ: കഴിഞ്ഞു
ചേട്ടൻ: husband ?
ഞാൻ: വന്നില്ല
ചേട്ടൻ: കുട്ടികൾ?
ഞാൻ: ഇല്ല
ചേട്ടൻ: അപ്പൊ കല്യാണം കഴിഞ്ഞിട്ട് അധികം ആയില്ലാരിക്കും അല്ലെ ?
ഞാൻ: കല്യാണം ഒക്കെ കഴിഞ്ഞിട്ട് അഞ്ചാറു കൊല്ലം ആയി ചേട്ടാ.. പക്ഷെ ഞങൾ കുട്ടിക്ക് ഒന്നും ഇതുവരെ നോക്കീട്ടില്ല ..
ചേട്ടൻ: ഓഹ് ⁉️😵 ( confused )
( അയാളെ ജീവിത്തിൽ ഇതിനു മുന്നേ ഒരു വട്ടം പോലും ഞാൻ കണ്ടിട്ടില്ല)
😂😂
Marketing ന്ന് വന്ന ആൾ ആ പണി ചെയ്തിട്ട് പോകണം... ഈ ചോദ്യങ്ങൾക്കൊന്നും ഉത്തരം കൊടുക്കേണ്ട ആവശ്യമേയില്ല...
അയാളെന്താ census എടുക്കാൻ വന്നതാണോ എന്ന് ചോദിക്കണമായിരുന്നു....
paavapettavan valla snuggyum vilkam vannath ayrkm.. 😁
Dhanya also asked about “ kuttikal”..
കുട്ടികൾ ഇല്ലാത്തതുമാത്രമല്ല ഒരു കുട്ടി മാത്രം ഉള്ളതും വലിയ പ്രശ്നമാണ്. ഒന്നേ ഉള്ളോ.... അടുത്തത് വേണ്ടേ....... ഒന്നിനൊന്ന് തുണ....... കൂട്ട് വേണം ..... ഓഒന്നല്ലേ ഒള്ളു...... ഇങ്ങനെ പോണു ഉപദേശം .... വിമർശനം😢
Thyr
Yes
Realy😢
Randayalum choikkum moonnamathe vendenn
Sathyam
Dhanya chechi, chechide Watch enikku vallathe ishtapettu, Really loved the color & design❤😊
Not expected such a so personal question about having children from Dhanya 😊
This was a topic that needed to be discussed as to how people go through so much anguish.. from the society...and this was asked with their consent beforehand...the answer is what one must pay attention to...the questions are asked for addressing that subject and the answers my friend
Your not asked questions are still much greater than asked ones for me my friend ❤
ഇവർ പറഞ്ഞ പോലെ എന്തിനു മറ്റുള്ളവർക്ക് മക്കൾ ഇല്ലേ ഉണ്ടോ എന്നു ബാക്കി ഉള്ളവർ അന്വേഷിക്കുന്നത്. അവർക്ക് മക്കളെ ഇഷ്ടം ഉണ്ടെങ്കി ഉണ്ടാക്കിയ മതി. അവർക്ക് വേണ്ടെങ്കി നമുക്ക് എന്താ നാട്ടുകാർ വിഷമിക്കണ്ട ആവശ്യം ഇല്ല. അവര് ഒറ്റക്ക് വയസാവുമ്പോ അവർക്കു ജീവിക്കാൻ ഉള്ളത് ഇപ്പോഴേ അവർ ഉണ്ടാക്കി വെക്കുന്നുണ്ട്. മക്കളെ ഉണ്ടാക്കി കൊടുക്കാൻ വിഷമിക്കുന്നവർ mind your own business and സ്വന്തം വീട്ടിൽ നഴ്സറി ഉണ്ടാക്കൂ please 🙏🏻🫤
i think audio is little low . please take care of it and the intro has high volume. tried with two different headphones.
Will look into it
Yes i experience the same..
Same issue
Same issue
We want rimitomy❤❤❤❤
I would like to see benyamin , kr meera and rekha menon in this show. It would be really interesting to see rekha menon n dhanya varma together 😍
Wow.. what a beautiful talk … I’m commenting a UA-cam channel for first time…. Regarding kids it’s so relevant … so called mallu people have this fake concerns on other people’s life😌so so relevant talk from different perspective.
Yes retirement homes are gaining popularity and it makes a lot of sense.
Old age homes have been given such a bad name due to all the movies that depict kids as monsters who don’t take care of their parents but in reality for older people who need constant assisted care there should be good assisted living centers similar to apartments that have gymnastics and clubhouses .
Yes
True...
Ur vedioes r awesome......👏👏👏
Waiting for Rimitomy next😊
Dhanyecheee... What a nice interview 🥰🫂
Lovely 😍😍
Rimi tomiye viliku.kurach chirikelum cheyyalo
വിധുപ്രതാപ് മുടി മുറിച്ചാൽ കൂടുതൽ സുന്ദരനാകും❤
Avilla
Aavum
Kuttikalude karyam paranjath pole thanneyaanu kalyanam veno vende ennullathum,,,, naattukaar kooduthal mattullavarude karyathil thala idaathirunnaal thanne mattullavarkk samdhaanamaanu
Kalayanam kazhinju evar onnum kaanila. 😅
Cute cuple❤❤
Ente mrgr kazhinjittu 3 yrs ayi 1yrs kuttikal ipol venda yenn ayirunu.. Pne kuttivenamenn thonni apol husbandnte ammaku accident ayi ath apol njan annu ammaye full nokkiyatha.. Athukazhinju amma ok ayi.. Pne kutti nokkamenn karuthiyapol ariyunnu ente ammaku breast cancer annu yenn anganne 1 yr ammayude treatment ayi.. Njan annu hsptl kondupogunathoke ammaye.. Ente hus malapurathum njan tvm ayirunu.. Ente ammayude ee situation arinjittum chilaru vannu chodhikum enodu visesham ayile ithuvare yenn, aaraka kuzhapam yennoke sathyam paranjal avare kollanulla deshiyam varum apol enik. Ente family full thakkatnirikumpol annu avarude chodhiyam. Kettan thonnum enik kuttiundayittuvenam avarku valarthan yenn.. Vivaramillathakorenam und ee nadil.. Athava kutti undayillankilum njanum ente husbandum happy annu.. Evaru paranjathupolle mattullavark nammalekal kooduthal vishamam
I truly agree with them ❤️
Please bring samyukta and Biju menon
Beautiful, Brilliant ideal couples.👌👌
Nxt RIMI CHECHI NE VILIKKUUUU❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Super vidhu and deepti
Waiting for rimy😊
നാം ഒന്ന് നമ്മക്ക് എന്തിനു💪
സത്യമാണ് ❤
Hi, waiting for Indrans , indrajith
Very 👍
Interesting video! 😊 Why is it that when asked about having kids earlier in a married life , that's considered intrusive, however, when asked why venturing into different fields in a music career was not done early enough, that is not considered intrusive? Where do we draw this line about being intrusive?
Career is different from one's personal life....He is already in the limelight..is a good singer...hit maker...He's having a place in the music industry and he's is entertaining the public...his audience, his fans..So asking about or concerned about more musical achievements is in no way something to hurt.
But talking about spouse, kids, family etc is something "personal". It is something that a person tries to keep as his/her own and not a public thing. That makes it intrusive.
Hope you got the difference 😊
That makes sense!❤ People can question our professional life and that's something that affects not just them, but also people around them I guess 😊
This intrusive word is at times confusing and what i feel intrusive may not be for you... So in my opinion , it should mutually agreeable discussions as far as interviews are concerned where the other person is OK to respond ( speak) about that.
Good answer from Vidhu
Nice conversation. Liked it
Dhanya, will you be able to bring Sreekanthan Nair sir to this show?
Having kid it’s god’s bless… if not it’s the presence of GOD through out ur lifetime ❤❤❤❤
Debatable.. Conditions vechitano God koode indavunne..?? I think God is someone/ something which treats everyone and everything equal under all circumstances ( irrespective of space and time)
It’s one of the many blessings God showers. ❤
നല്ല ഇന്റർവ്യു ആയിരുന്നു 🥰🥰🤗
Dr. V. George Mathew sir nde koode oru interview ചെയ്യാമോ (para psychologist )
Please bring rimy tomy😃
Can you bring rimitomy?
Rimi tomy interview pls
This question about kids should be banned . Atleast our generation millennials should put an end to this .
Exactly...
Dhanya Varma & Rajaneesh ask guest about these types of questions with a sentimental approach😅
@@hira-pt6fvabsolutely true! The click bite 😅
@@hira-pt6fvI feel like there are many people around us who still dont understand the inappropriateness of asking such questions about kids.For them may be hearing such conversation can be an eyeopener atleast for some.And for Deepthi and Vidhu they got an opportunity to openly communicate to audience that they dont expect such questions from anyone and their personal life is none of others business which they may not be able to communicate with people directly
Even our generation people also ask this kind of intrusive question. Right now I am focusing on my career I can't afford to have a child now.My husband is financially in a good position but I am not. If we are having a kid and want to give it a good life we should be financially, mentally and socially in a stable position to do so. Not just physical health matters at this point of time
Do you have kids is an acceptable question? Why don't you have kids is unacceptable
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Please bring mamta mohandas
At least Dhanya could have avoided the question about children.
Love ur videos ❤
And I’m first ❤
Do share and thank you :)
Mg Sreekumar..chithra...vithu prathap no child
I came to listen to your thug, I don’t care if you have children or not. I’m writing the comment
Because I want you to know that, there are people like me
Very beautiful interview
Kuttikal illenu parayumbol "sorry' parayunna arum undu.... Ethil enthinanu sorry 😢...
അതെന്നെ 😅
Nammalod avar angane chodichath nammale hurt cheythenkil athinaanu sorry..@@Ajmmasjjklbvvdsmkj
Can you bring Kani Kusruthi on your interview ?
after seeing your announcemnt about your interview with her ! So haappy 😭👍
I think we are not thought about the personal boundaries. Some others get pleasure when get into other personal life. If someone has a child before marriage and if not having children after marriage is a problem for the society. We are a childfree couple and that’s our choice. Those who ask us about it only one word answer from us ‘ that’s our choice’. Hope the words from celebrities create awareness 😊. Enjoy your life vidhu and deepthi.
Hii mam, 22:47 shesham edit cheyth kalanjappol oru flow loss aayi😢athinde balance full ulla video indo?
@iamdanyavarma
Honest and genuine conversation with no jaada 👌👌As they mentioned there could be many reasons for people to not have kids and the society must respect their sentiments.Well said 👏👏I feel being mother is the greatest gift in my life but we cannot expect everyone to have the same feelings and situations so I agree 👍
Being childfree is ones own choice...and it's high time we should normalise it...I don't get it why people find it really difficult to digest the fact that's it's a personal choice😊
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Exactly. I always wondered why people can’t normalize it!
Please interview Rajashree Warrier… She has substance to offer.. I beseech… Dhanya Please
I like Dhanya’s channel, but I always wonder why everyone look so dull on screen. Got to do something with the lighting or makeup 🤔
ആദ്യം ഈ ക്വസ്റ്റ്യൻ ഒഴിവാക്കേണ്ടത് അവതാരിക ആയിരുന്നു
True
Exactly
Please bring rimu waiting for next part🤍🤍
Yeah pls write in to her..would love to have her
Ningalodulla sneham kondum chodikam kuttikalde karyam.. Ningale kuttikalayi kanan ulla agraham kondanu peoples anganeyoke chodikkane.. Never mind.. Ningal njangade family pole alle..
Viduchettanu paniyano..
2 perem njangalk orupad ishttatto❤
15 kollam kazhinjum ee chodyam chodikkan thonnunnath sneham kond aanenkil chodikkathirikkuka ennathanu manyatha...
Sneham undel chodhikaathirikuka...May be avar vendaanu vachadhanel their decision aanu adhil thala idadhirikuka....alla inipo aavathadhanel avar kadannpokunna mentally down aavunna situation laayrkum...oro monthum expect chyth kittadhirikumbo ulla traumayilum oro aalkum utharam kodukande nu orth sangadapett irikkunavaraykum....let them decide...atre ulluuu
🙄avarde kuttykale kandal santhosham kitto ? Athinano ingane chodhikkunne🤦🏻♀️.. pls ee thoughts aanu marendath. Ningal chodhikkumbo avarkk kuttykal undaavathadhanenkil they will feel it. Avarkk vendaanjittanenkil ningal aagrahikkunathil ndh meaning aan ullath ?!!!
റിമി യെ കൊണ്ട് വരണം
Deepthi vidhu ....❤❤❤❤
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please bring pisharody
👍
Mallu people educating kids to see their marriage and kid's only.
ഉള്ള കാര്യം പറയാമല്ലോ. വെല്യ ഇഷ്ടാരുന്ന് ഇങ്ങടെ ഇൻ്റർവ്യൂ ഒക്കെ. പക്ഷേ ആളുകളുടെ ജീവിതത്തിൽ കേറി കുത്തി തിരുപ്പ് ചോദ്യം ചോദിക്കുന്നത് നിർത്തണം.
ഹാപ്പിനെസ്സ് പ്രോജക്ട് ഒക്കെ എന്ത് നല്ലതാരുന്ന്!
Oru kutti mathram ullvarkum ith thanne avastha
Mam, Why don't you try to bring siblings like 2 brothers and sisters or brother and sister or 2 good friends, not Just couples but they too have their own stories to share 😊
Sure great suggestion
@@iamwithdhanyavarmaAhaana Krishna and Diya Krishna
Praveen Pranav
Dhyan n vineeth
Njan innu ente friendinodu paranjathe ullu makkalu valarnnu avarude merrage kayinjittu venam enikku old age homeil poyi adichu polikkan
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any issues in audio ?? less sound
Ennod chodikkarund 2damathu kochu nokunnilae ennu. But it's our decision njangalku oral mathi. We are not financially settled.enik job aayittilla. Only my husband is going for a job. So njangalde mon ippo njangalkku nannayi nokkan pattunnund. Better education kodukkan pattunnund. 2nd oru child vannal nammal struggle cheiyyendi verum.that's why we both take this decision
True, quality matters over quantity
Hello Dhanya, it is really an appreciative approach from your end to interact to the other person in a sensitive manner but at the same time, if they are ready, you let them speak about it bcoz then only the stigma in the society will change and the couple without children(like me😊) will also get legitimation👍.
Thanks so much...
Yes
Ente molodu polum njan chothikkarilla. It's their wish
Enikkum kuttikal illa..kuttikal aayille ennu chodikkunnathil thettilla..but pinneed ulla questions aanu irritate cheyyippikkunnath
Raising a child is selfless service its not about independence. It’s about ur effort to bring up a beautiful individual ina secured home a
Madam please bring Rimi chechiiii❤️
Hlo Dhanya ma'am. How i will contact you for a interview?
Maam paranja kuttikalude karyam absolutely correct anu maam oru delivery kazhinju nivarum munne next next 😂😂but i feel irritation
Yeah I understand
Ivide Randumakkalaayi enikku....ini aduthathu eppoya chothikkunnavara veettukaarum nattukarum😢😢....vallathoru manushyan maraanu.....ente ponno maduthu enikku....ivattakalodakke marupadi koduthu...ippo njaan thanne ente lifel dissection eduthu...avarkku venakil avaru prasavikkande😂.........iniyum marupadikoduthillankil....njaan school thurakkendivarum😂.....padachone😅
I think you yourself have to avoid this question of "how to deal with the societal pressure to have kids"
It starts with you also Dhanya.
Please dont frame your question in a polished way and indirectly aim at the same thing that others do. If you wanted to normalise having kids or not you wouldn't have raised this question afterall😅
The questions are asked for addressing that subject and that was a risk I was willing to take This was asked after seeking their prior approval and they wanted to discuss this subject as well.Sp pls pay attention to the answers as the questions are merely tools to lead to the answers..again never asked why..I asked how they deal with this..and they gave a beautiful answers to this with total approval..that's what we need to focus on..❤️❤️
Dhanya,Indirectly doing the same thing others do in a polished way.
You shouldn’t have asked about them not having kids. Be sensitive towards other human beings. What you think is normal may not be normal to others
The questions are asked for addressing a subject and it was asked after their seeking their approval for the same. They wanted to discuss this issue as well. So pls pay attention to the answers because that's what the questions are for
Rimi
Eniyum ulla thalamurayil kuttigal arkkum ventta ennane parayunnathe allay ningal
Every time someone talks about being child free, or how parenthood is just not suitable for them, another irritating comment which can be seen is 'ninte appanum anmayum ingne chinthichirunel innu Ithu parayan née undakumarunno?' which is extremely absurd and illogical. The straight answer is No, undakumayrunnilla. But since I'm here now, and I'm at the physical and mental capability to make independent decisions, yes I am free to choose and free to opine. It is so irritating and annoying, yet the person /people commenting think they're shooting out a non argumentative reasoning by asking such a question.
Adipoli 👏👏👏
Thanks. Do share
Kids nte question chodikandayirunnu.. 😢
At least, kuttikalude chodyam ningalkeenkilum ozhivaakkamayirunnu
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Kuttikalde karyam ozhivakamayirunnu