I know this video is 9 years old and I'm a little late to the party but, God what a powerful message. I'm am currently 4 months sober after a 4.5 year relapse/ bender that literally almost took me out. Everything she said said in this video resonates with me on some level. Thank you for making this content and know that, even 9 years later, the message is still reaching people.
thank you for sharing this. i'm 31 and been struggling with alcohol for almost 20 years...and i just got out of rehab and into an outpatient program. it takes a lot of strength to come out of the shadows. everyone sees this "perfect" person with no idea what is going on behind that same shadow.
I can feel u have been struggling with the same hope u r doing good . I know we might not be as strong as others but somewhere we still are fighters who fight every single day with loneliness depression, sadness of losing someone or even being broken by a person who we loved
This is a great talk because she doesn’t focus long on her story, but on the core of the issue and offers truthful suggestion of where to focus on what a path toward recovery would require. I’ve watched dozens and dozens of tedtalks on this subject (and depression), and this is very direct and intelligently expressed.
Life Changing. Culture shock. I am a recovering addict. The words are profound. Speaks to me in ways I can understand. Can't quit listening and tuning in
Finding the positive aspects within our own addictive behaviors might sound like "glorifying drug use" to some. Yet Jo Harvey's perspective on separation of guilt and shame allows us to go to that retrospective place, acknowledge our guilt and process for growth.
My 1st day of not drinking. I'm eating and seeing the light clearer. Been praying for this & Glory be to Jesus these addictions have been lifted. My health will get better cause know who is our maker more & more & Believe in Jesus. Please pray for me? Thanks
Yes!!! One of the best talks of addiction..I'm sitting here listening to this to help with my addiction. I don't feel the need to be specific as to what it is because it is still an addiction.
Jo Harvey rocks! First and foremost she is talking to youngsters. Who talks to youngsters anymore? Only the tough ones do. Stories are an important part of our lives. From the time we wake up till we go to bed, we are telling stories to ourselves, and to others. Here, she tells how we can make our stories more effective.......
You’ve got this. Make a plan and develop some coping mechanisms the best you can. We’ll all be ok if we can fight the good fight using strategy instead of blind willpower.
my favorite part was the analogy of sin is missing the mark, I love how she used aweakness learned from self awareness, to one of strength...overall a intelligent, strong from her weaknesses,and ?beautiful with a touch of modesty that i didn't think still existed. ..thank you for sharing :)
as someone who doesn’t drink, this helped me understand more about the experience and how to help my friend recover. i have mental disorders and addictive tendencies, and hopefully that experience can help with empathizing more. i will try to learn more, and i wish all of you struggling with addiction or loved ones suffering from addiction the best, and that you’re successful in your journey
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@@realfitnesssafari3123 actually i got admitted recently due to colon infection and just out from hospital. Lost 4kg. I decided to stay healthy after these.
Wow she nailed it. I use to cure my grief in a bottle of wine. After losing all my close family members in 5 years I was scared to heal the pain because I knew that ripping the band aids off would hurt more then accepting the pain of my grief.
That is a huge loss. Sometimes it an avoidance and sometimes we need a better support system around us and different tools before we dive in. Wishing you lots of love and grace on your healing journey
You're just Amazing in" Human's compréhension" ! Comes from France 🙏, I honestly, I Hope that you understand what I Said ! Thanks you for doing the GREAT GOOD JOB 👍🏾
Merely stopping drinking is NOT sobriety. It's living life on the narrowest of balance beams...always teetering on the edge of the precipice, where the slightest nudge will have us falling into relapse. A program...any good program...that allows us to put the fear, anger, guilt, shame, embarrassment, resentments, self-recrimination to rest is what pulls people further away from that edge. Forgiving [themselves] but not forgetting who and what they were in their addiction, esp late stage addiction, is the way off that narrow balance beam. Those SINS Ms. Harvey-Weatherford talks about...and our feelings of guilt and shame about them can often drive us quickly back into active addiction BECAUSE we can't standing feeling that way...but active addiction is us cowering under the blanket of self-delusion and worse...often leads to more events spurring even more accumulated guilt and shame. Developing a way to properly look at these events and put them in their proper place: The beginning of our story...the start of journey of personal change
choice theory.. I took similar classes and twelve step as well. And choice theory for me helped alot. Stopping the use is one thing, but if you never correct or look at why it started then the consequences of the use become just another reason to use. It's sad but very true.
Agreed. Aa can work for SOME. BUT all it's doing is using a therapy approach of uncovering the underlying issues of using, drinking by using 13 steps & a "sponsor", random stranger off street. I prefer to utilize my Med insurance to do deep rooted personal work like that vs relying on a stranger. Warning to addicts looking to AA/NA for help; I tried it 10 years, I'm only mid 20's- took it very seriously & was abandoned by the "sponsor", the one who is supposed to facilitate the treatment ("steps"). So be careful on where you go for help!
@@shininghawkstar5057 as it says in the big book, sponsors have clay feet...they are human, they struggle and relapse..this is why the reliance is on a high power rather than a sponsor..a sponsor is just a person who guides us and is a link between us and our higher power
As for me, I went into a cardiac arrest 11 for minutes, and coma for ten days because of drug use. But thank God for his mercy. Drugs have played the key role in community violence and bringing ruin into people's lives. I sure wish I could tell my story
I agree with everything except the addiction gene. Science does not support that addiction is either genetic or a disease. But the message is refreshing. " Don't ask why the addiction, ask why the pain." ~Dr. Gabor Mate
Disagree, if alcohol gives your brain a huge and 'unusual' dopamine rush and obliterates your prefrontal cortex (logic center, stop signal) too quickly, that is just how your brain biology responds to alcohol. You are more likely to become addicted by just trying to drink normal like your friends do. Every brain is 100% unique in this regard, thus the wide spectrum of AUD sufferers. IMO, much addiction is biology/DNA related and many addiction neuroscientists agree. Gabor over dramatizes Trauma IMO. Trauma and mini-traumas obviously play a part in many people but today, IMO, alcohol is so overused, addiction can happen to the healthiest of people. Alcohol slowly inflames and eventually destroys (diseases) the liver, the brain, the nervous system, the gut ... the entire body.
Attending meetings and engaging in activities to support my recovery from addiction has been essential for me; I've been clean for 2.5 years now. But along the way, I've lost my connection with God. In the early stages of my recovery, I placed my complete trust in a higher power, believing in its guiding force. However, that faith has dwindled, leaving me feeling adrift and struggling to navigate life's challenges. One of the foundational steps in the recovery process emphasizes the importance of acknowledging a power greater than ourselves, one that can restore our sense of clarity and well-being. Another step encourages us to surrender our will and lives to the care of this higher power, as we understand it. I crave this reconnection with God, but I'm uncertain how to reignite it. How can I restore this vital aspect of my journey toward healing and stability?"
Ive been an addict for most of my life. Ive done rehab, detox , years of sobriety but ive relapsed eventually. Spoken to several psychologists , still am. But now im nearly 50 , i feel as powerless as I've ever been. Im so fvcked 😢
That is very powerful and beautiful. Challenging though, part of the premise being facing 'the most difficult'...that may be way too much for most I would imagine. Well done for your courageous journey, however, and very sensitive and deep analyses of addiction and societies attitudes towards it. .
You could tell you are going to jimm. I never did drugs, watch this just to live this exciting live you have throgugh you. I am stuck in bad with the painful depression.
Remember, too, that not all compulsions and addictions have negative consequences. One question : What does 'addictive gene' mean ? She summed it up nicely....it's all about how you dress up the truth
My question for anyone that might know is, if your brain pleasure brain centers are screaming for satisfaction and you don’t turn to an addictive behavior what do you turn to. I have heard that connections with other people are important, but how does an addict make those connections. And how deep do those connections have to be?
I am trying to recover myself I have been drinking since past 11 years and all these times I drank not because that I was happy or sad I just drank that’s called pure addiction I have found my reason now why not to drink, it’s the happiness which we find when we drink that makes us to drink again finding the real happiness will solve the problem
Recovering alcoholic iife was awful but the effects yes we call that benders in uk its an addiction we carry every day were not bad just to find the hppy you again x
I know this video is 9 years old and I'm a little late to the party but, God what a powerful message. I'm am currently 4 months sober after a 4.5 year relapse/ bender that literally almost took me out. Everything she said said in this video resonates with me on some level. Thank you for making this content and know that, even 9 years later, the message is still reaching people.
Nothing wrong.. Wisdom is eternal, so why apologize?
Never late always on time.
@claudiayohanna2797 always in God's time I suppose. I heard the message when I needed to hear it.
thank you for sharing this. i'm 31 and been struggling with alcohol for almost 20 years...and i just got out of rehab and into an outpatient program. it takes a lot of strength to come out of the shadows. everyone sees this "perfect" person with no idea what is going on behind that same shadow.
I hear you. Addiction is not the problem addiction is the result of something that is to painful to deal with anymore
I hope you are doing well❤️
I hope you are doing well.
I can feel u have been struggling with the same hope u r doing good . I know we might not be as strong as others but somewhere we still are fighters who fight every single day with loneliness depression, sadness of losing someone or even being broken by a person who we loved
I'm
This spoke to me more than anything I've ever heard on addiction in all my 56 years. Wonderful talk!
This is a great talk because she doesn’t focus long on her story, but on the core of the issue and offers truthful suggestion of where to focus on what a path toward recovery would require. I’ve watched dozens and dozens of tedtalks on this subject (and depression), and this is very direct and intelligently expressed.
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Life Changing. Culture shock. I am a recovering addict. The words are profound. Speaks to me in ways I can understand. Can't quit listening and tuning in
This girl didn’t stutter not once! She’s a great speaker.
She was telling my story in a different way I love her ideas and how I can work her program in my life thank you❤
Pethaps the best TED talk and message ever.
Finding the positive aspects within our own addictive behaviors might sound like "glorifying drug use" to some. Yet Jo Harvey's perspective on separation of guilt and shame allows us to go to that retrospective place, acknowledge our guilt and process for growth.
Very true. Well expressed with great wisdom and candid spirit.
I love her talk. I think she is really being vulnerable, yet strong and trying to help people who have a serious problem and want help.
My 1st day of not drinking. I'm eating and seeing the light clearer. Been praying for this & Glory be to Jesus these addictions have been lifted. My health will get better cause know who is our maker more & more & Believe in Jesus. Please pray for me? Thanks
if you dont mind me asking, are you still sober?
Sent a prayer out there for you! I pray your journey has continued in a positive and prosperous way
This make me feel so seen and understood…
Thank you. This is what not only myself - but many people need to hear. This is knowledge.
I'm so glad it resonated
A real and important message about why some win on the way out, and some do not. A vital perspective on treatment as well!
Yes!!! One of the best talks of addiction..I'm sitting here listening to this to help with my addiction.
I don't feel the need to be specific as to what it is because it is still an addiction.
best of luck to you in your struggles hope you are doing okay
Jo Harvey rocks! First and foremost she is talking to youngsters. Who talks to youngsters anymore? Only the tough ones do. Stories are an important part of our lives. From the time we wake up till we go to bed, we are telling stories to ourselves, and to others. Here, she tells how we can make our stories more effective.......
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She is a beautiful and honest woman in recovery. God Bless you for playing it forward. Namaste
I’m struggling with addiction and this helped me look at myself differently! Thanks
You’ve got this. Make a plan and develop some coping mechanisms the best you can. We’ll all be ok if we can fight the good fight using strategy instead of blind willpower.
my favorite part was the analogy of sin is missing the mark, I love how she used aweakness learned from self awareness, to one of strength...overall a intelligent, strong from her weaknesses,and ?beautiful with a touch of modesty that i didn't think still existed. ..thank you for sharing :)
She's great. And it's so interesting that the more we understand human psychology, the more it echoes ancient spiritual teachings
Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability!!! Favorite part:. It's not the event but the way you feel it and tell it!!! Great strategies!!!!
Yay! Finally a comprehensive approach to facing addiction that is sensible. Go, Jo!!
This is a unique talk about dealing with addiction we need more people like this hottie
as someone who doesn’t drink, this helped me understand more about the experience and how to help my friend recover. i have mental disorders and addictive tendencies, and hopefully that experience can help with empathizing more. i will try to learn more, and i wish all of you struggling with addiction or loved ones suffering from addiction the best, and that you’re successful in your journey
Thank you for taking the time to understand
Great message and love how she explains recovery and addiction
Jo Harvey , if you are reading this . Thank you
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Hello how are you doing?
This is great! She is an awesome speaker and really got out a good message
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I just started to stop drinking. Hope i can do it. Motivation talk is very important to listen at the moment
Hey, how did it go
@@realfitnesssafari3123 actually i got admitted recently due to colon infection and just out from hospital. Lost 4kg. I decided to stay healthy after these.
This woman speaks the same language as me. Shes spot on with what she says in my opinion. Thanks for sharing. X
Thank you for sharing my story !
Wow she nailed it. I use to cure my grief in a bottle of wine. After losing all my close family members in 5 years I was scared to heal the pain because I knew that ripping the band aids off would hurt more then accepting the pain of my grief.
That is a huge loss. Sometimes it an avoidance and sometimes we need a better support system around us and different tools before we dive in. Wishing you lots of love and grace on your healing journey
Really clear point of view, I've learned a lot. Thanks! P/D: I'm addicted to the way her voice ends the sentences
Wow, is crazy how much I needed this. Thank you so much for posting it
This is inspiring in the extreme. So succinct and yet so full of knowledge. Amazing
You're just Amazing in" Human's compréhension" ! Comes from France 🙏, I honestly, I Hope that you understand what I Said ! Thanks you for doing the GREAT GOOD JOB 👍🏾
Love hearing the real thing!!!
Great talk. Apparently she has thrown herself into fitness and self care. Good for her!
This is an appropriate time to draw your hat. A perfectly delivered speech, which is also perfectly thought out on a logical and emotional level.
I believe that we are our actions and behaviors.
very well said. I say it too, Look for beauty in the most difficult of situations.
This was so brief and so powerful to me.
Brilliant way to word the truth
One of the best approaches I've seen so far.
Great presentation and impactful message.
Perspectives! Tysomuch for sharing. ❤
Wonderful talk, thank you! Was shared as part of our curriculum in social work!
Great message about addiction!
+Hayley Davis Yeah. We are all addicted to something blah blah blah
This needs alot more views
She made valid points.
Wow, what a stunning lady and a good speaker.
That was beyond perfect. Thank you.
Beautifully said
Really beautifully put. This is so helpful
I love this.
Great talk its all about perspective!
I've been vulnerable and I'm a recovering addict. Booze was my drug of choice.
Harv Potts stay strong, you can beat it
Yes, exactly and thank you for this.
Great presentation my Jo Harvey1
Thank you for this great video!
Incredibly thought-provoking; akin to a book that provokes thought at every turn. "Your Body Your Temple" by Various Authors
Merely stopping drinking is NOT sobriety. It's living life on the narrowest of balance beams...always teetering on the edge of the precipice, where the slightest nudge will have us falling into relapse. A program...any good program...that allows us to put the fear, anger, guilt, shame, embarrassment, resentments, self-recrimination to rest is what pulls people further away from that edge. Forgiving [themselves] but not forgetting who and what they were in their addiction, esp late stage addiction, is the way off that narrow balance beam. Those SINS Ms. Harvey-Weatherford talks about...and our feelings of guilt and shame about them can often drive us quickly back into active addiction BECAUSE we can't standing feeling that way...but active addiction is us cowering under the blanket of self-delusion and worse...often leads to more events spurring even more accumulated guilt and shame. Developing a way to properly look at these events and put them in their proper place: The beginning of our story...the start of journey of personal change
choice theory.. I took similar classes and twelve step as well. And choice theory for me helped alot. Stopping the use is one thing, but if you never correct or look at why it started then the consequences of the use become just another reason to use. It's sad but very true.
Agreed. Aa can work for SOME. BUT all it's doing is using a therapy approach of uncovering the underlying issues of using, drinking by using 13 steps & a "sponsor", random stranger off street. I prefer to utilize my Med insurance to do deep rooted personal work like that vs relying on a stranger. Warning to addicts looking to AA/NA for help; I tried it 10 years, I'm only mid 20's- took it very seriously & was abandoned by the "sponsor", the one who is supposed to facilitate the treatment ("steps"). So be careful on where you go for help!
@@shininghawkstar5057 as it says in the big book, sponsors have clay feet...they are human, they struggle and relapse..this is why the reliance is on a high power rather than a sponsor..a sponsor is just a person who guides us and is a link between us and our higher power
The need to correct or look at why it started I order to end it is an excuse to continue if you don’t correct or find out why it started.
Thank you for sharing your story
As for me, I went into a cardiac arrest 11 for minutes, and coma for ten days because of drug use. But thank God for his mercy. Drugs have played the key role in community violence and bringing ruin into people's lives. I sure wish I could tell my story
Very brave woman
5:58, 6:42 so much facts in one video 💯
Guilt vs shame
Wow soo very well said 100 % FACTS THANK YOU 🙏🏼 ALL....
Thankyou xx
Love-N-Light Blessed Be
I agree with everything except the addiction gene. Science does not support that addiction is either genetic or a disease. But the message is refreshing. " Don't ask why the addiction, ask why the pain." ~Dr. Gabor Mate
Disagree, if alcohol gives your brain a huge and 'unusual' dopamine rush and obliterates your prefrontal cortex (logic center, stop signal) too quickly, that is just how your brain biology responds to alcohol. You are more likely to become addicted by just trying to drink normal like your friends do. Every brain is 100% unique in this regard, thus the wide spectrum of AUD sufferers. IMO, much addiction is biology/DNA related and many addiction neuroscientists agree. Gabor over dramatizes Trauma IMO. Trauma and mini-traumas obviously play a part in many people but today, IMO, alcohol is so overused, addiction can happen to the healthiest of people. Alcohol slowly inflames and eventually destroys (diseases) the liver, the brain, the nervous system, the gut ... the entire body.
Hello how are you doing?
fantastic!
Excellent. Thank you.
Attending meetings and engaging in activities to support my recovery from addiction has been essential for me; I've been clean for 2.5 years now. But along the way, I've lost my connection with God. In the early stages of my recovery, I placed my complete trust in a higher power, believing in its guiding force. However, that faith has dwindled, leaving me feeling adrift and struggling to navigate life's challenges.
One of the foundational steps in the recovery process emphasizes the importance of acknowledging a power greater than ourselves, one that can restore our sense of clarity and well-being. Another step encourages us to surrender our will and lives to the care of this higher power, as we understand it.
I crave this reconnection with God, but I'm uncertain how to reignite it. How can I restore this vital aspect of my journey toward healing and stability?"
Great opening comments
Excellent talk
Wow she was amazing
4:52 exactly right 💯
This is inspiring!
Ive been an addict for most of my life. Ive done rehab, detox , years of sobriety but ive relapsed eventually. Spoken to several psychologists , still am. But now im nearly 50 , i feel as powerless as I've ever been. Im so fvcked 😢
Keep surrendering to God
wow.....resonates with me....thank you.....
i believe you are a product of your own environment but then i agree that you can take yourself away from a bad environment you can still suffer
That is very powerful and beautiful. Challenging though, part of the premise being facing 'the most difficult'...that may be way too much for most I would imagine. Well done for your courageous journey, however, and very sensitive and deep analyses of addiction and societies attitudes towards it. .
Inspiring.
This was amazing!
She said it so well wauw 🙏🏻💜
what an amazing and intellectual woman. so beautiful
Wow this woman... Thank You
Wow thank you 💚
You could tell you are going to jimm. I never did drugs, watch this just to live this exciting live you have throgugh you. I am stuck in bad with the painful depression.
splendid delivery and content
help me mum. that was great
Remember, too, that not all compulsions and addictions have negative consequences.
One question : What does 'addictive gene' mean ?
She summed it up nicely....it's all about how you dress up the truth
My question for anyone that might know is, if your brain pleasure brain centers are screaming for satisfaction and you don’t turn to an addictive behavior what do you turn to. I have heard that connections with other people are important, but how does an addict make those connections. And how deep do those connections have to be?
Simple. Stop your brain from screaming at you. Problem solved.
Powerful!!!!!!
I am trying to recover myself I have been drinking since past 11 years and all these times I drank not because that I was happy or sad I just drank that’s called pure addiction I have found my reason now why not to drink, it’s the happiness which we find when we drink that makes us to drink again finding the real happiness will solve the problem
That was veery nice and what I needed to hear.
So how do you re-write that story, so that you become the hero in it? Any suggestions?
As an alcoholic in recovery, this is excellent
Recovering alcoholic iife was awful but the effects yes we call that benders in uk its an addiction we carry every day were not bad just to find the hppy you again x
really good talk!