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"Maa baap bhagwaan ka roop hote hain" is the stupidest thing taught to Indian kids. Instead they should be taught that parents are humans too, they too make mistakes and learn as they grow as humans and parents.🙏
The root is attachment, dear. The whole of life is about learning to let go, believe me. If we don't do it voluntarily, it will be done involuntarily. Biggest issue is 'what will people say?'. Once that is given up, things fall into place.
@@prabhavenkatesh7931things are changing slowly... Our generation is already changing and don't think much for this 'log kya kahenge '. Dhire dhire or change hoga ..
@@siddhantsingh7606 Agree with your comment Our generation also has many flaws but they don't look for it they just see flaws of parents and other people Our generation just blame others am frustrated by woke generation
When I was in class 8, a boy asked his father, "Papa aap duniya k sabse ameer aadmi kyun nahi ho?" His father got angry and told this to the school teacher. The boy was beaten by the teacher and the teacher scolded and shamed him. But I wholeheartedly supported him because the boy asked the right question. The boy was always questions by his father that, "Why didn't you top the class?" Now, many will understand the boy's perception in replying back. The boy is a super successful individual now. Not sure how many understood him them but I am sure all are very interested in taking the credit behind his success now.
I am a father of a son. If my son ask this question i will be happy because my son becomes a explorer and wants to understand the life and money. I will explain him everything why I failed to be a rich and why should not make mistakes like me.
90s kids were the last generation to be fooled. Children born after 2010 are so intelligent, they can't be fooled after a certain limit, that too till the child is five years old.
Those parents who feel their children are not good enough, just visit any school for special children or a paediatric cancer ward; you will thank God for having an ‘average’ , healthy child… ( I don’t mean to hurt parents of special children or children with health issues 🙏)
My entire childhood , I was constantly compared to other kids. Although i had many talents and was very creative, i lived thinking i was a failure. Parents and teachers all managed to crush my self esteem.
My father was IITian and none of us could make it to. He failed to understand the competion that has increased 1000 folds at our generation and the environment in which we were raised. True he struggled more as child financially than us and he gave us better finance than what he received but the constants comparision that we faced from himself as we were compared with him day in day out which made our self confidence go down. Glad that one fine day he convinced himself that we simply lack in talent like him and things eased out but that was bit late and our majority of youth time went in believe we are not as good as him.
He is a narcissist. Stay away from him and save your energy.. Not a single IITian has ever scored a Nobel prize in science.. With all that competition India still has to import weapons, because we lack talent.. Mugging up theories and applying them are different things..Your dad is not more talented than you, You have different priorities.
@@Tree.3 Abhe theka liya h kya unki gareebi dur karna ka theka liya h kya humne wo nhi padhe unki galti isme hum kya kare mat Karo bacche paida baache to koi expectations nhi rakhte to tum kon hote ho rakhne wale saale madarchod
Generally, children don't compare their parents with other parents but unfortunately, most parents do compare their children with other children. Parents intention is to motivate their children but method is wrong. Comparison damages self esteem.
That's primarily because of bloodline. It's the same in Asia. In many western countries people go for kids when they can afford them. Plus they set them free at a young age to do what they want. Parents take care of themselves and their finance. There are pros and cons in this and many women become single moms quite early. It's bad but I'm just saying. In India kids are meant to be caretakers of their parents. That's the mentality. They are return on investments. Both have their own problems, kids in the west get in to bad habits and relationships early and don't value marriages. In Asia children are kinda forced to take care of their parents which also causes depression in some children and financial burden on them. It affects certain people because they feel guilty if They don't take care of them or society looks down at them or there are problems with spouses due to taking care of old parents.
@@afdcg Can't say much about bloodline because I feel that these are cultural issues and many of our habits are learned behaviours but I agree with you. You mentioned some really important points. Thankyou ! There are pros and cons in every culture but we can learn good things from other cultures as well and get rid of what is damaging for us.
I am happy that as a mother I am different from my mother who was very strict and it affected me badly. By being different from my mother has helped my 3 kids to be good in studies and other extracurricular activities. Depressingly, I was actually copying my mom though I knew that it was wrong but then when I learnt from the Bible that the kids that u have is not your own but God's and they have to be brought up in love and happiness I started to change my attitude as a mother. I understood that my kids have been put into the world by God for a purpose and I should not hinder it by hurting and shaming them and comparing them with other creations of God as all of them are on earth to fulfill their God given destiny and all r unique and different so no comparisons should be ever done. I as a mother just encourage and give kids good values. I stopped telling them to study but I make sure that they get help in a particular subject whenever needed through mainly personal tuition for a short period of time. I also prepare good and wholesome food for them because good food makes them happy.
Mera toh ulta ho gaya. Both mom & dad were very intelligent and toppers. Got the creme jobs of their generation and become directors of their respective companies. I am so average 😅 what to do? They never put too much pressure on me though. I never got any good college. But I worked hard later and now have a good job. Parents were always very supportive, even say if I am not happy in job, I can leave it as they have enough money for me. But of course I don't want that but it's good to have that financial comfort. Feel very blessed to have them 😊
Exactly. My father everytime says that how difficult situation was at their time and all. But they don't understand that today's situations and challenges of today's generation are way more difficult .
@@valentinavijay6086: educated and successful parents is both a blessing as well as burden. Parents want child to go beyond them both materialistically as well as academically. That is big problem now a days.
Middle class parents who secured government jobs or decent jobs 40-45 years back and they supported their parents feel how much they achieved but they forget there was very less competition then and luck was the big factor because of that they achieved They don't want to give piece of their net assets stating I didn't get from my parents, actually I supported them financially. Because of this mentality, their families will be locked in same class or will go down. They should understand that their time was different and today is different.
Sir when u speak I feel as though u r speaking my mind! I never ever forced my son to participate in the rat race! What is wrong in being a mediocre person? I just don't understand. I always say we cannot manufacture intelligence by sending the children to the best coaching centres. Intelligence is god's gift. 🙏🙏
I agree but still they dont need to be mediocre. We can simply grow, nurture and flourish whatever naturally arises in them. Anything can be turned into a business venture. Also as a milennial I sometimes wish my parents had instilled in me a love for money making. Our relationship with money should be fun, enjoyable and exciting, not guilt and fear ridden.
In my childhood also, I was weak in Maths but putting my efforts in the drawing class and was loving it. My parents abruptly discontinued my drawing classes so that I could give more attention to Maths to become class topper, this stupid decision couldn't help me reach anywhere in life. Even I was not feel lived by my parents because of my academic performance
@@UrCheckMate At one point I agree but when things didn't work they didn't even try to restart my drawing. Maths didn't make my career and made me reach no where
Absolutely! I do believe and tell my kids that they are the best extension of us! Do feel blessed to nurture and bring up young minds who can create magic! They are intact the better version of us! Kids watching this don’t get upset with your parents rather strive and keep your ground. Be polite, humble but create your own life with out trying to convince them. Do your own work as much as you can, be independent and love life.
In Indian society, parents treat their children as like lifetime guardian (even after their marriage). And thus interfere in matters better to be left alone.
Agree with your topics. This will definitely change people's living in India. Parents want their children to achieve what they want to be . Let's hope the new generations will live their dream without any guilt and the interference of their parents' choices regarding their career paths.
Well said , never compare your children to others or be prepared one day they will compare you to someone . They are your outcome and will be reflection of your thoughts, standard of living , treatment towards your own grandparents . Be supportive , motivating and never compare , insult them in front of relatives, friends or degrade them because of their physical appearance , performance, job etc.. 😃❤️😊👍
I think this is mostly an Indian and Asian mentality. It's too much pressure on the kids. They really miss out on childhood because too much emphasis on academic excellence. I hope all parents listen to your message and understand .
very well said. Bull's Eye. I changed 4 cities and 2 states till I reached 25 as father was working with a Bank and struggled a lot from Gujarati to English medium, but now at 35 i am All set and can stay anywhere in India.
Very good advice for parents j. Kaash yeh gyan hume bhi mila hota. Compare karne ki galti to humne bhi ki. But by God's grace ,our children are the best of us. Please make a video ke married bachhon ki life me hume kahan kahan interfere nahi karna chahiye. Jaise mai unki heath ke liye worried rehti hu and inko eating habits ya work health balance ke liye kehti hu. Kya vo bhi kehna chahiye ya nahi. Because i want to bhi a best mother and mother in law,but not at cost of their health or family life
Thank God, I never did it to my kid even though my parents did a little bit of this to me… My kid is a happy successful young adult in my eyes and I will never ever compare her to anyone! My baby is most precious and that’s it!
This Indian mentality is creating major issue not only within India but all over with Indian origin parents. Thank you sir for speaking it out loud the truth that needs lot of introspection.
I have always been of the same views about parenting but generally indian parents do not understand, they think they r the owners of their kids. They r totally unaware of their rights and responsibilities towards their kids lives. I want to contribute in this field, but dont know where to start. I would be grateful if u guide me. Thanku Sir.
Expectations expectation are the golden rule in indian society. Making the children feel guilty to have their way is the worst gift they can transfer to their children.let the young couple live their lives and learn from their mistakes. From Sydney Australia.
I think each and every Parent should surely watch this... Pls fwd as much you can... as this matter is too far spread in families Its true... My mom compares me and my bro alwYs with all my cousins... Also from childhood my brother is compared to all my cousin brothers and due to this my brother self pities himself ... that he has not good enough and due to this has got chronic disease and not doing well financially too...its affected him too deeply... before when it hurt him he spoke but later gave up...
Yes, we identify and we appreciate for your work mindset and mentality of Indian parents should change, should change the attitude,,, change according to time please 👍🙏
Mere papa peechle 15 saal se doctors ke chakkar laga rahe har mahine medicines kha rahe par doctor ko yehi 😅ni pata ki unhone bimari kya hai me daily exercise karta hu diet follow karta hu unko bhi yehi kehta hu par unhone Aaj din Tak meri baat nahi maani aur doctor unhe 15 saal se bawloof bana Raha hai phir bhi inhe us par vishwas hai I think logo ko bacchhe paida karne se pehle yeh sochna chahiye ki woh is laayak hai bhi ya nahi aajkal bacchhe parents se jyada mature hai hamaare parents Jaan bhujkar hame dushro se compare karte hai lekin hamne Aaj din Tak parents ko compare nahi Kara
Pls make a video on parents emotionally torturing their children who are living abroad and suffering them with guilt of ignoring their parents and enjoying abroad. We called them here abroad and they stayed for a year but constantly harassed both of us and fought with me all the time which disturbed us to the core . Also, what can kids do to make the relationship better
I never force on my kids. .. I totally agree parents have this small mentality. .even my mom use to do hits us shame us ...but no I has parent...I have given my kids freedom of life and made their principals strong ...and no chui mui bache I have made them...I totally agree with you. Parents underestimate kids...in this kids loss their confidence .and they fail ....inspite of being intelligent...kya Kar sakte aise surrounding Mila unko ..lakh koshish Kar loo they fell themselves as a losser.
बिल्कुल सही बात सर। सभी बच्चों में अलग अलग प्रतिभा होती है, उसे निखारे माता पिता। सभी पढ़ाई में अच्छे हो जरूरी नहीं और पढ़ाई में अच्छे हैं इसका मतलब अच्छी जॉब मिलेगी ही इसकी भी गारंटी नहीं है। ज्यादातर केस में होशियार बच्चे डिप्रेशन में दिखते हैं जबकि औसत छात्र अपनी जिंदगी खुशी से जी रहे होते हैं। इसलिए मां बाप बच्चे को अच्छी परवरिश जरूर दें लेकिन उनके भाग्य विधाता बनने की बेवकूफी ना करें।
If only you would've created such videos some 5-6 yrs back, life would've been very much comfortable. I personally lost many opportunities, suffered from severe mental health issues, burnout, etc. only to realise that was all unnecessary. Great channel Amit sir, I think I could've been a better person if only this channel was created 10-12 yrs back.
2022 - Total Seats in IIT + NIT = 39000 ( 16K in IIT and 23k in NIT) 2022 - Total Candidate appear in JEE Mains less than 11Lacs Selection probability in IIT in 2022 - 1.5% Selection Probability in IIT and NIT in 2022 - 3.5% ------------------------------------------------------------------------- 1992/93 - Total seats in 5 IIT was approx. 2100. 1992/93 - Total no. of students appeared - approx. 150K. Selection Probability - 1.4% I dont remember the NO. of students appeared for NIT as it was REC at that time and the entrances was conducted regionally. For example, Kurukshetra used to conduct the exam and domicile reservations was applied. Usually if you get around 900 rank, in Kurukshetra then you are sure to get admission in some REC. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------- You have to get your data right. The competition will generally be similar. Increase in population is compensated by increase in the seats in similar proportions. While I understand your point about not pressuring children and forcing them to pursue your own aspirations, I find it difficult to agree with the notion that the level of competition today has increased to an extreme extent compared to 30 years ago(our time)
Dear Suresh G One should also look at the the level of questions that are being asked in today's time..while I do understand that the information available today is much more when compared to 90's era but there is a limit as to what a mind can comprehend in the teenage..the level and quality of questions just keeps on increasing yoy. please take this into consideration as well
@@shivammaheshwari3934 I acknowledge your perspective, but the context of the discussion slightly differs. My intention is simply to urge parents to be cautious and avoid delving into unfounded arguments regarding genes/chromosomes. My main point is to counter the claim that competition in the past was insignificant compared to the present. In my understanding, it is the responsibility of parents to recognize their child's interests and passions and motivate them to strive for success in those areas. However, if the child happens to face failure, it is important to accept it and encourage the exploration of their next interest. The essence of my argument is encapsulated in the last para.
People should openly talk abt bad parenting..... more online content should b created.....talking abt abusive parents....is still a taboo..in our country....... Parents here are supposed to be God like in a child's life......but d truth is they r humanbeings with flaws..... nd they can b abusive too..... Some good laws r needed.....
With god grace Sir i am blessed to understand ur guidance. People are taking otherwise maximum time for their children and grandparent are mostly involved if they are living jointly or interfering. Wounderful information in every reels.
Parenting is the most important job. If you don't have the basic intelligence to raise a kid, you don't have to bring a kid to this world. Amitji, you are brave. I hope more and more people will listen to you. For me, your videos about parenting reinforce my philosophy of parenting. Parents should not be the cause of stress to their kids but most often they are a significant source of stress.
.👍 You r right sir .The problem is that because of this unknown Future prospects , the parents have to earn money by hook or crook even corruption . They have to bear the child's responsibility even after the child is good student leave alone ok . Then children get no jobs inspite of qualifications spending such a lot on them . The educational system needs Revamping, skills oriented so children get opportunity in society, those with greater aptitude should be going for higher studies, MBBS , Engineering , with job availability. It's high time the Government took responsibility of the youth , send them for training in Army etc from school itself . If Government does not take responsibility along with parents equally then our society will collapse or crash . Who would they lead a bunch of frustrated citizens that have lost all hope inspite of its capacities . That would be a SHAME. The sooner the blue print of society is laid down the Better for India and its Citizens. ❤.🙏🇮🇳. Jai Hind
Sir aap parenting pe aur clarity giving videos bnaye please.. Bhut pressure rhta h aaj kal ke working parents me.. jinke in laws se bhi koi support nhi milta
Yes parents need to understand that their children’s performance depends on the genetic makeup of the child which is derived from the parents, they should just give them best of the opportunity as per their interests and see what they can achieve. Nice video 👍
6:40👍🏻Jab Parents Ye Samajh Jaye To Sab Sahi Hain Unke Satisfaction Ke Liye! Par Kavi-Kavi Ulta V Nikal Jata Hain Even Nowadays Most Of The Cases Childrens Are Effected By "Society's Bad Influences"... We Can't Literally Blame On A Sobar-Wise- Intelligent & & Real Educated (NOT JUDGES BY THEIR ACADEMIC DEGREES / SUCCESS IN LIFE TO EARN MATERIALISTIC THINGS IN LYF) Parents/People Who Knows Literally What's Called Success In Real Life Which's Matter The Most Or NOT To Faking/Bragging Abt Their Children's Successful Life..
It is a sad reality that the parents of 70s or 80s didny have parents that were supporting in any manner and also now the children also would say that their parents are just earning machines to satisfy their needs. Accha hota that the generation didn't give birth to any children to have this useless and hapless situation in their life. So best is to never have any children itself. Apne life apne marzi jeena hai
Sir hum apko sunate hai, Gyan lete rahte hain, isliye guru ji se galti nahi honi chahiye to bata raha hun. Aaj dusari video mein ye wala muhavara aapne bola hai "belly in the fire" flow mein aisa hua hai. Please dhyan rakhe. Great content and good learning as usual.
Teaching you can take :- 1.Don't compare your child with other as well as with siblings so that a unique entity of him/her self. 2.Parents have to own the situation. 3.Planning of parents w.r.t. child but their expression should be there. 4.Accesibility sabhi ko hai. 5.Try to avoid pressure as much as possible. Aap apne product se dissatisfied honge kya 😂
I don’t pressurise my kid but my parents who is suppose to be Grandparents to my kid always keep comparing my kid to others kids as they did the same with me as well when I was small & it’s absolutely annoying coz it demotivates you... All I believe is “ Everyone is Unique in the own way & Everyones timings is different, they shine when it’s their time “ ... Most of the people who invented Great things were either school or collage drop outs... SO it’s nothing to do with studies or Marks
Sooo true...nowadays this word our kid is set sounds like a joke... because it's v difficult for kids to get absolutely set in this competitive uncertain times👍
It is wrong to put all the blame on the parents. In the present circumstances, the child trusts his friends and Google more. They do not even have time for their parents and relatives. , , A child sends a message to his friend that ---" Yaar.."yesterday the internet was not working, so I was sitting with my parents".... "यार, बहुत अच्छे लोग हैं वो....!!
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Sir you absolutely nailed it. As a lifeskills trainer I can completely agree with you. I only pray ur message spreads to more people
Kya admi ko 40 me pheli shadi karni chaiye, kya yeh theek hoga, log mazak to nahi udayenge ab kyun kari bolke, plz is topic per video banao,
पति पत्नी प्राइवेट लाइफ जितने अच्छी होगी उनकी सोशल लाइफ भी अच्छी होगी।😌
Sir,aap numerology me sare no ko achhe se explain kiye nehi.jaise no 1,5,6,9. Plz sir,km se km no 6 pe alg video kijiye
सही बात कही सर जी आपने
"Maa baap bhagwaan ka roop hote hain" is the stupidest thing taught to Indian kids. Instead they should be taught that parents are humans too, they too make mistakes and learn as they grow as humans and parents.🙏
@@sureshpeshawaria347 don't trash the entire race just because you've medicre parents.
@@rao433 ya some people have some sense in india some elite people have good sense its just that majority are like you and your mediocre parents
That is said in a completely different context...that they protect us just as God protects us...if people misunderstand the saying..it is up to them.
Unhi logo ney Mera bachpan kharab ker Diya
I agree, parents are no god they're too living their life for the first time!
EGO is the problem in Indian parents…..it will take generations to change their mentality. Thanks for a eye opener video🙏
The root is attachment, dear. The whole of life is about learning to let go, believe me. If we don't do it voluntarily, it will be done involuntarily. Biggest issue is 'what will people say?'. Once that is given up, things fall into place.
@@prabhavenkatesh7931things are changing slowly... Our generation is already changing and don't think much for this 'log kya kahenge '. Dhire dhire or change hoga ..
@@utopiancity8138your comment justify your username. Ours is the most attention seeker and validation thirsty generation.
@@siddhantsingh7606
Agree with your comment
Our generation also has many flaws but they don't look for it they just see flaws of parents and other people
Our generation just blame others
am frustrated by woke generation
True
When I was in class 8, a boy asked his father, "Papa aap duniya k sabse ameer aadmi kyun nahi ho?" His father got angry and told this to the school teacher. The boy was beaten by the teacher and the teacher scolded and shamed him. But I wholeheartedly supported him because the boy asked the right question. The boy was always questions by his father that, "Why didn't you top the class?" Now, many will understand the boy's perception in replying back. The boy is a super successful individual now. Not sure how many understood him them but I am sure all are very interested in taking the credit behind his success now.
I am a father of a son. If my son ask this question i will be happy because my son becomes a explorer and wants to understand the life and money. I will explain him everything why I failed to be a rich and why should not make mistakes like me.
@@infopedia7942very good sir❤❤❤
What year was that?
Children can't question parents
90s kids were the last generation to be fooled. Children born after 2010 are so intelligent, they can't be fooled after a certain limit, that too till the child is five years old.
Middle class parents have egos taller than Everest...
Very true!
V true
💯👍
Truee that
Completely agree
Those parents who feel their children are not good enough, just visit any school for special children or a paediatric cancer ward; you will thank God for having an ‘average’ , healthy child… ( I don’t mean to hurt parents of special children or children with health issues 🙏)
💯 percent true
Very true
Mere parents ne to mera ilaaj hi nhi karwaya
@@anujdimple kya huaa tha sir/mam aapka
Respect for you mam multiple folds
My entire childhood , I was constantly compared to other kids. Although i had many talents and was very creative, i lived thinking i was a failure. Parents and teachers all managed to crush my self esteem.
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My father was IITian and none of us could make it to. He failed to understand the competion that has increased 1000 folds at our generation and the environment in which we were raised. True he struggled more as child financially than us and he gave us better finance than what he received but the constants comparision that we faced from himself as we were compared with him day in day out which made our self confidence go down. Glad that one fine day he convinced himself that we simply lack in talent like him and things eased out but that was bit late and our majority of youth time went in believe we are not as good as him.
He is a narcissist. Stay away from him and save your energy.. Not a single IITian has ever scored a Nobel prize in science.. With all that competition India still has to import weapons, because we lack talent.. Mugging up theories and applying them are different things..Your dad is not more talented than you, You have different priorities.
That’s a waste.. your father sounds to be a stupid man actually. Job of father is different than what he did
Absolutely correct. Competition is 1000 times.
I care not to stress out my kids to achieve excellence... Let them enjoy their time and gather best childhood memories
जितने भी बच्चे upsc टॉपर बने है एक बात गारंटी है उनके मा बाप काफी अच्छे सोच के रहे होंगे। भले हि गरीब हो लेकिन दिमाग़ से अमीर रहे होंगे। 😇
@@Tree.3 they have faith in their child.
@@Tree.3 Abhe theka liya h kya unki gareebi dur karna ka theka liya h kya humne wo nhi padhe unki galti isme hum kya kare mat Karo bacche paida baache to koi expectations nhi rakhte to tum kon hote ho rakhne wale saale madarchod
Generally, children don't compare their parents with other parents but unfortunately, most parents do compare their children with other children. Parents intention is to motivate their children but method is wrong. Comparison damages self esteem.
That's primarily because of bloodline. It's the same in Asia.
In many western countries people go for kids when they can afford them.
Plus they set them free at a young age to do what they want. Parents take care of themselves and their finance.
There are pros and cons in this and many women become single moms quite early. It's bad but I'm just saying.
In India kids are meant to be caretakers of their parents. That's the mentality. They are return on investments.
Both have their own problems, kids in the west get in to bad habits and relationships early and don't value marriages.
In Asia children are kinda forced to take care of their parents which also causes depression in some children and financial burden on them. It affects certain people because they feel guilty if They don't take care of them or society looks down at them or there are problems with spouses due to taking care of old parents.
@@afdcg Can't say much about bloodline because I feel that these are cultural issues and many of our habits are learned behaviours but I agree with you. You mentioned some really important points. Thankyou !
There are pros and cons in every culture but we can learn good things from other cultures as well and get rid of what is damaging for us.
I am happy that as a mother I am different from my mother who was very strict and it affected me badly. By being different from my mother has helped my 3 kids to be good in studies and other extracurricular activities.
Depressingly, I was actually copying my mom though I knew that it was wrong but then when I learnt from the Bible that the kids that u have is not your own but God's and they have to be brought up in love and happiness I started to change my attitude as a mother. I understood that my kids have been put into the world by God for a purpose and I should not hinder it by hurting and shaming them and comparing them with other creations of God as all of them are on earth to fulfill their God given destiny and all r unique and different so no comparisons should be ever done. I as a mother just encourage and give kids good values. I stopped telling them to study but I make sure that they get help in a particular subject whenever needed through mainly personal tuition for a short period of time. I also prepare good and wholesome food for them because good food makes them happy.
All glory and praises to Jesus Christ
Mera toh ulta ho gaya. Both mom & dad were very intelligent and toppers. Got the creme jobs of their generation and become directors of their respective companies. I am so average 😅 what to do? They never put too much pressure on me though. I never got any good college. But I worked hard later and now have a good job. Parents were always very supportive, even say if I am not happy in job, I can leave it as they have enough money for me. But of course I don't want that but it's good to have that financial comfort. Feel very blessed to have them 😊
Exactly. My father everytime says that how difficult situation was at their time and all. But they don't understand that today's situations and challenges of today's generation are way more difficult .
What are the difficulties of todays generation?
Now you are comparing, every generation has its own challenges, so don't compare
@@valentinavijay6086: educated and successful parents is both a blessing as well as burden. Parents want child to go beyond them both materialistically as well as academically. That is big problem now a days.
Namaskar Mr Sangwan🙏
This advice was needed urgently! Thank you India's number one clarity giver. You deserve 11/10 for this video!!
Middle class parents who secured government jobs or decent jobs 40-45 years back and they supported their parents feel how much they achieved but they forget there was very less competition then and luck was the big factor because of that they achieved
They don't want to give piece of their net assets stating I didn't get from my parents, actually I supported them financially.
Because of this mentality, their families will be locked in same class or will go down. They should understand that their time was different and today is different.
Disrespect by a child once tolerated,it becomes habit.
The narcissist parents feel that upbringing of child is the most difficult job.
Sir when u speak I feel as though u r speaking my mind! I never ever forced my son to participate in the rat race! What is wrong in being a mediocre person? I just don't understand. I always say we cannot manufacture intelligence by sending the children to the best coaching centres. Intelligence is god's gift. 🙏🙏
I agree but still they dont need to be mediocre. We can simply grow, nurture and flourish whatever naturally arises in them. Anything can be turned into a business venture. Also as a milennial I sometimes wish my parents had instilled in me a love for money making. Our relationship with money should be fun, enjoyable and exciting, not guilt and fear ridden.
In my childhood also, I was weak in Maths but putting my efforts in the drawing class and was loving it. My parents abruptly discontinued my drawing classes so that I could give more attention to Maths to become class topper, this stupid decision couldn't help me reach anywhere in life. Even I was not feel lived by my parents because of my academic performance
Being a parent, it was a good decision. To make a career in drawing is 100 times harder than math
@@UrCheckMate At one point I agree but when things didn't work they didn't even try to restart my drawing. Maths didn't make my career and made me reach no where
@@San_home-chef you have masters or PhD in maths?
I used to read novels, dance, sing and perform, but academic pressure grew and so did my parent's expectations. I was too stupid as well.
@@anonymousbee Are you cultivating any of your hobbies at present
Practical knowledge is imparted. Comparison is the theif of happiness of anyone. Parents make life hell by comparing children.
Absolutely! I do believe and tell my kids that they are the best extension of us! Do feel blessed to nurture and bring up young minds who can create magic! They are intact the better version of us! Kids watching this don’t get upset with your parents rather strive and keep your ground. Be polite, humble but create your own life with out trying to convince them. Do your own work as much as you can, be independent and love life.
In Indian society, parents treat their children as like lifetime guardian (even after their marriage). And thus interfere in matters better to be left alone.
Agree with your topics. This will definitely change people's living in India. Parents want their children to achieve what they want to be . Let's hope the new generations will live their dream without any guilt and the interference of their parents' choices regarding their career paths.
Well said , never compare your children to others or be prepared one day they will compare you to someone . They are your outcome and will be reflection of your thoughts, standard of living , treatment towards your own grandparents . Be supportive , motivating and never compare , insult them in front of relatives, friends or degrade them because of their physical appearance , performance, job etc.. 😃❤️😊👍
Comparison is Indian culture including looks, skin tone, job, caste😂 nobody escape from this mentality in indian society.
Apko sunke sukoon milta hai.
One of the pandava saw that a Cow was licking his calf so much so that the calf started bleeding and still Cow was licking........ Parents of Kaliyuga
4:41 Guruji IITian bhi hain 🙏❤
I think this is mostly an Indian and Asian mentality. It's too much pressure on the kids. They really miss out on childhood because too much emphasis on academic excellence. I hope all parents listen to your message and understand .
very well said. Bull's Eye. I changed 4 cities and 2 states till I reached 25 as father was working with a Bank and struggled a lot from Gujarati to English medium, but now at 35 i am All set and can stay anywhere in India.
sahi content hai sir ...important hai aisa koi nahi batata
What a video sir.we all must control our words while talking to children especially during results season.salute you sir.
Very good advice for parents j. Kaash yeh gyan hume bhi mila hota. Compare karne ki galti to humne bhi ki. But by God's grace ,our children are the best of us. Please make a video ke married bachhon ki life me hume kahan kahan interfere nahi karna chahiye. Jaise mai unki heath ke liye worried rehti hu and inko eating habits ya work health balance ke liye kehti hu. Kya vo bhi kehna chahiye ya nahi. Because i want to bhi a best mother and mother in law,but not at cost of their health or family life
Sir
I am also from Haryana. Watching your videos from the last few days. Point to point explanation of real life topics. Keep it up!
Thank God, I never did it to my kid even though my parents did a little bit of this to me… My kid is a happy successful young adult in my eyes and I will never ever compare her to anyone! My baby is most precious and that’s it!
Mujhe aapka content bahot achha laga. Is topic pe charcha honi chahiye.
Absolutely awesome video, harsh reality of current time
This Indian mentality is creating major issue not only within India but all over with Indian origin parents. Thank you sir for speaking it out loud the truth that needs lot of introspection.
I have always been of the same views about parenting but generally indian parents do not understand, they think they r the owners of their kids. They r totally unaware of their rights and responsibilities towards their kids lives. I want to contribute in this field, but dont know where to start. I would be grateful if u guide me. Thanku Sir.
7:10
Then the narcissist of the parents come out
i.e when u point out someones mistake, he becomes angry, violent, abusive etc
Expectations expectation are the golden rule in indian society. Making the children feel guilty to have their way is the worst gift they can transfer to their children.let the young couple live their lives and learn from their mistakes. From Sydney Australia.
Well said Sir! Totally agree with what you have spoken.
I think each and every Parent should surely watch this...
Pls fwd as much you can... as this matter is too far spread in families
Its true... My mom compares me and my bro alwYs with all my cousins...
Also from childhood my brother is compared to all my cousin brothers and due to this my brother self pities himself ... that he has not good enough and due to this has got chronic disease and not doing well financially too...its affected him too deeply... before when it hurt him he spoke but later gave up...
In all contexts,
Comparison is the thief of joy
Thank you so much for sharing this! I really needed this! My mother has been making me feel guilty and suicidal for years now!
Same here
Thank you sir for sharing this I am expecting father in 1-2 weeks I will definitely follow this this ❤
Yes, we identify and we appreciate for your work mindset and mentality of Indian parents should change, should change the attitude,,, change according to time please 👍🙏
Tau G is real Indian TOP G
hahahahhaha
What color is your BAIL-GAADI?
@@rahulsingh-ui9tl too good 😂
Ek no. Sir..
Fauji sahab from rohtak
Very true sir. This is really accurate.
टीम वाला concept अच्छा है
Mere papa peechle 15 saal se doctors ke chakkar laga rahe har mahine medicines kha rahe par doctor ko yehi 😅ni pata ki unhone bimari kya hai me daily exercise karta hu diet follow karta hu unko bhi yehi kehta hu par unhone Aaj din Tak meri baat nahi maani aur doctor unhe 15 saal se bawloof bana Raha hai phir bhi inhe us par vishwas hai I think logo ko bacchhe paida karne se pehle yeh sochna chahiye ki woh is laayak hai bhi ya nahi aajkal bacchhe parents se jyada mature hai hamaare parents Jaan bhujkar hame dushro se compare karte hai lekin hamne Aaj din Tak parents ko compare nahi Kara
Awesome sir maza aagay bohot bada solution bata diya aapne ki hum team hai❤
every parents mean good and want their kids to be super successful… today’s competition scares parents more than their kids. 😢
Bahot sahi baat kahi... Ek dum teekhi lekin ekdum sach.. Respect sir
Very well explained sir
Now I can understand my daughter more
Thanks sir
Pls make a video on parents emotionally torturing their children who are living abroad and suffering them with guilt of ignoring their parents and enjoying abroad. We called them here abroad and they stayed for a year but constantly harassed both of us and fought with me all the time which disturbed us to the core . Also, what can kids do to make the relationship better
Thank you sir for the valuable advice. It is really very useful.
I have not watched the video but from the title I can say you have selected great video for now.
U should listen u can learn something 😀
I never force on my kids. .. I totally agree parents have this small mentality. .even my mom use to do hits us shame us ...but no I has parent...I have given my kids freedom of life and made their principals strong ...and no chui mui bache I have made them...I totally agree with you. Parents underestimate kids...in this kids loss their confidence .and they fail ....inspite of being intelligent...kya Kar sakte aise surrounding Mila unko ..lakh koshish Kar loo they fell themselves as a losser.
Kids must be mentally tough. This fluidity is here to stay. Ab kuch set nahi hone wala, sab kuch karna padega acha bhi bura bhi.
Great content. Could relate to it. Liked your Team concept. God bless you
Irodov ki book bhaisaab status symbol ban chuka tha
sahi kaha
you are so practical
बिल्कुल सही बात सर। सभी बच्चों में अलग अलग प्रतिभा होती है, उसे निखारे माता पिता। सभी पढ़ाई में अच्छे हो जरूरी नहीं और पढ़ाई में अच्छे हैं इसका मतलब अच्छी जॉब मिलेगी ही इसकी भी गारंटी नहीं है। ज्यादातर केस में होशियार बच्चे डिप्रेशन में दिखते हैं जबकि औसत छात्र अपनी जिंदगी खुशी से जी रहे होते हैं। इसलिए मां बाप बच्चे को अच्छी परवरिश जरूर दें लेकिन उनके भाग्य विधाता बनने की बेवकूफी ना करें।
If only you would've created such videos some 5-6 yrs back, life would've been very much comfortable. I personally lost many opportunities, suffered from severe mental health issues, burnout, etc. only to realise that was all unnecessary. Great channel Amit sir, I think I could've been a better person if only this channel was created 10-12 yrs back.
Sir aap ki thinking top level hai
2022 - Total Seats in IIT + NIT = 39000 ( 16K in IIT and 23k in NIT)
2022 - Total Candidate appear in JEE Mains less than 11Lacs
Selection probability in IIT in 2022 - 1.5%
Selection Probability in IIT and NIT in 2022 - 3.5%
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1992/93 - Total seats in 5 IIT was approx. 2100.
1992/93 - Total no. of students appeared - approx. 150K.
Selection Probability - 1.4%
I dont remember the NO. of students appeared for NIT as it was REC at that time and the entrances was conducted regionally. For example, Kurukshetra used to conduct the exam and domicile reservations was applied. Usually if you get around 900 rank, in Kurukshetra then you are sure to get admission in some REC.
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You have to get your data right. The competition will generally be similar. Increase in population is compensated by increase in the seats in similar proportions.
While I understand your point about not pressuring children and forcing them to pursue your own aspirations, I find it difficult to agree with the notion that the level of competition today has increased to an extreme extent compared to 30 years ago(our time)
Dear Suresh G
One should also look at the the level of questions that are being asked in today's time..while I do understand that the information available today is much more when compared to 90's era but there is a limit as to what a mind can comprehend in the teenage..the level and quality of questions just keeps on increasing yoy. please take this into consideration as well
@@shivammaheshwari3934 I acknowledge your perspective, but the context of the discussion slightly differs. My intention is simply to urge parents to be cautious and avoid delving into unfounded arguments regarding genes/chromosomes. My main point is to counter the claim that competition in the past was insignificant compared to the present. In my understanding, it is the responsibility of parents to recognize their child's interests and passions and motivate them to strive for success in those areas. However, if the child happens to face failure, it is important to accept it and encourage the exploration of their next interest. The essence of my argument is encapsulated in the last para.
People should openly talk abt bad parenting..... more online content should b created.....talking abt abusive parents....is still a taboo..in our country....... Parents here are supposed to be God like in a child's life......but d truth is they r humanbeings with flaws..... nd they can b abusive too..... Some good laws r needed.....
With god grace Sir i am blessed to understand ur guidance.
People are taking otherwise maximum time for their children and grandparent are mostly involved if they are living jointly or interfering.
Wounderful information in every reels.
Sir we need more people like you
Great video...and the Ramesh uncle video is awesome.
Outliers ..good analytics sir ji🎉
Parenting is the most important job. If you don't have the basic intelligence to raise a kid, you don't have to bring a kid to this world. Amitji, you are brave. I hope more and more people will listen to you. For me, your videos about parenting reinforce my philosophy of parenting. Parents should not be the cause of stress to their kids but most often they are a significant source of stress.
If i wanted something and parents did not agree, i made their life a living hell until they agreed. You have to fight for your freedom and joy.
Well said Sirji. 🙏
To uncle ...fr middle class walo k bachchon k.liye kya h is pe bhi ek vdo bna do
Guruji sooo apt 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
This is serious legit content you can’t find anywhere!
I hope this changes India as a whole…
.👍 You r right sir .The problem is that because of this unknown Future prospects , the parents have to earn money by hook or crook even corruption . They have to bear the child's responsibility even after the child is good student leave alone ok . Then children get no jobs inspite of qualifications spending such a lot on them . The educational system needs Revamping, skills oriented so children get opportunity in society, those with greater aptitude should be going for higher studies, MBBS , Engineering , with job availability. It's high time the Government took responsibility of the youth , send them for training in Army etc from school itself . If Government does not take responsibility along with parents equally then our society will collapse or crash . Who would they lead a bunch of frustrated citizens that have lost all hope inspite of its capacities . That would be a SHAME. The sooner the blue print of society is laid down the Better for India and its Citizens. ❤.🙏🇮🇳. Jai Hind
Mere jeevan mein agar bachpan ko yaad kiya jaye toh agar zaher ke nahi toh kadwe paani ke ghoont zaroor yaad aate hain 😮
Same here😢😢😢😢
I don't want to remember my childhood..
Aap ke messages mujhe bahut ache lagte hai akele has lete hu i am 57 yrs. Old thank you sir
Nice thanku god bles u
rightly said. specially the mother always wants to have control over the life of dauther in law and son
Sir aap parenting pe aur clarity giving videos bnaye please..
Bhut pressure rhta h aaj kal ke working parents me.. jinke in laws se bhi koi support nhi milta
Yes parents need to understand that their children’s performance depends on the genetic makeup of the child which is derived from the parents, they should just give them best of the opportunity as per their interests and see what they can achieve. Nice video 👍
seriously mind blown ho gya guruji.
6:40👍🏻Jab Parents Ye Samajh Jaye To Sab Sahi Hain Unke Satisfaction Ke Liye!
Par Kavi-Kavi Ulta V Nikal Jata Hain Even Nowadays Most Of The Cases Childrens Are Effected By "Society's Bad Influences"... We Can't Literally Blame On A Sobar-Wise- Intelligent & & Real Educated (NOT JUDGES BY THEIR ACADEMIC DEGREES / SUCCESS IN LIFE TO EARN MATERIALISTIC THINGS IN LYF) Parents/People Who Knows Literally What's Called Success In Real Life Which's Matter The Most Or NOT To Faking/Bragging Abt Their Children's Successful Life..
This should be broadcasted on all channels
It is a sad reality that the parents of 70s or 80s didny have parents that were supporting in any manner and also now the children also would say that their parents are just earning machines to satisfy their needs. Accha hota that the generation didn't give birth to any children to have this useless and hapless situation in their life. So best is to never have any children itself. Apne life apne marzi jeena hai
Sir hum apko sunate hai, Gyan lete rahte hain, isliye guru ji se galti nahi honi chahiye to bata raha hun. Aaj dusari video mein ye wala muhavara aapne bola hai "belly in the fire" flow mein aisa hua hai. Please dhyan rakhe. Great content and good learning as usual.
Teaching you can take :-
1.Don't compare your child with other as well as with siblings so that a unique entity of him/her self.
2.Parents have to own the situation.
3.Planning of parents w.r.t. child but their expression should be there.
4.Accesibility sabhi ko hai.
5.Try to avoid pressure as much as possible.
Aap apne product se dissatisfied honge kya 😂
My parents are both 60% happiness..40% sorrow and drama
Sir can you launch a career guidance course, in your app, for people who are in early 20s i.e. starting there career.
सही बात कही सर जी आपने
I don’t pressurise my kid but my parents who is suppose to be Grandparents to my kid always keep comparing my kid to others kids as they did the same with me as well when I was small & it’s absolutely annoying coz it demotivates you... All I believe is “ Everyone is Unique in the own way & Everyones timings is different, they shine when it’s their time “ ... Most of the people who invented Great things were either school or collage drop outs... SO it’s nothing to do with studies or Marks
Fantastic ❤no words
Sooo true...nowadays this word our kid is set sounds like a joke... because it's v difficult for kids to get absolutely set in this competitive uncertain times👍
Sir g, its fire in the belly.
It is wrong to put all the blame on the parents.
In the present circumstances, the child trusts his friends and Google more.
They do not even have time for their parents and relatives.
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A child sends a message to his friend that ---" Yaar.."yesterday the internet was not working, so I was sitting with my parents"....
"यार, बहुत अच्छे लोग हैं वो....!!
Haan kuch kuch bacche hote hai par sabh bacche aise nhi hote hai...
💯 percent true 👍 may children have same opinion about me 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
when the children grow up, Patents expect that it is time for payback and ŕepayment of Karz. Kya karen ?