Thanks for sharing our stories sounds kind of similar! I which I seen this video while I was going through it. But this video gives me so much more comfort and clarity
I’m solo poly and have been for many years. I think that as long as you’re not super into one of your partners (I mean that you have really strong feelings and you want to be with that person all the time), solo poly works. Because if/when I do feel this way with someone, I find that i will want to see/talk to my other partners much less, to the point of ignoring them or just not having the energy or time or desire to be with them. I also want the person I’m into to be that way with me and I find that that’s not a fair thing to ask, though I am hoping for that. I also think it’s ok to fluctuate between solo poly and monogamy (or any other style) if one wants. And I have. But i always fall back into solo poly. Right now i have 4 boyfriends. I don’t live with them. Some are long distance. They all know about each other.
Do you think it's possible to have non-hierarchical poly while still keeping a committed nesting partner who you share recourses with (money, pets, kids, etc)?
Yeah good question. I also wonder this, because I want to have kids one day but I don’t know how I feel about at traditional monogamous relationship. I’ve been in open relationships. I dated someone and we weren’t not exclusive and he was seeing another girl. We all hung out and were friends. It ended with that girl. But it showed me what was possible. Ultimately you don’t know what’s possible until you try. Experimentation is the best test but also the most time intensive one
One thing i find off-putting about poly content is that it mostly seems to be people who identify as poly endlessly rationalizing and arguing for their choices. Why? Just fucking do it, do your life. Do it however you want. Who cares? Why is there a perceived need to explain it to the general public on UA-cam? This genre of content largely feels like people feel the need to justify their choices. Why? Things don't have to be noble, or logical, more "work", or anything else for you to be valid in choosing them. Choose your own adventure and just do it. 🤷♂️
Hello.🙂 I am in the Poly into solo poly stage. I am also learning I may have aspects of relationship anarchy as a solo polyamorous person because I won't do cohabitation. How was your journey or rather is your journey now navigating as a solo polyamorous person? From fellow polyamorous folks as well as relationship anarchist folk are you received well when you explain that you are solo polyamorous? Have your current relationship folks been supportive and understanding of your style of polyamory?🙂
Thanks for sharing our stories sounds kind of similar! I which I seen this video while I was going through it. But this video gives me so much more comfort and clarity
I’m solo poly and have been for many years. I think that as long as you’re not super into one of your partners (I mean that you have really strong feelings and you want to be with that person all the time), solo poly works. Because if/when I do feel this way with someone, I find that i will want to see/talk to my other partners much less, to the point of ignoring them or just not having the energy or time or desire to be with them. I also want the person I’m into to be that way with me and I find that that’s not a fair thing to ask, though I am hoping for that. I also think it’s ok to fluctuate between solo poly and monogamy (or any other style) if one wants. And I have. But i always fall back into solo poly. Right now i have 4 boyfriends. I don’t live with them. Some are long distance. They all know about each other.
Such amazing content!!! Keep it coming! ❣
Thank you so much!
Do you think it's possible to have non-hierarchical poly while still keeping a committed nesting partner who you share recourses with (money, pets, kids, etc)?
This is such an important question.
Yeah good question. I also wonder this, because I want to have kids one day but I don’t know how I feel about at traditional monogamous relationship. I’ve been in open relationships. I dated someone and we weren’t not exclusive and he was seeing another girl. We all hung out and were friends. It ended with that girl. But it showed me what was possible. Ultimately you don’t know what’s possible until you try. Experimentation is the best test but also the most time intensive one
One thing i find off-putting about poly content is that it mostly seems to be people who identify as poly endlessly rationalizing and arguing for their choices. Why? Just fucking do it, do your life. Do it however you want. Who cares?
Why is there a perceived need to explain it to the general public on UA-cam? This genre of content largely feels like people feel the need to justify their choices. Why? Things don't have to be noble, or logical, more "work", or anything else for you to be valid in choosing them. Choose your own adventure and just do it. 🤷♂️
Hello.🙂 I am in the Poly into solo poly stage. I am also learning I may have aspects of relationship anarchy as a solo polyamorous person because I won't do cohabitation. How was your journey or rather is your journey now navigating as a solo polyamorous person? From fellow polyamorous folks as well as relationship anarchist folk are you received well when you explain that you are solo polyamorous? Have your current relationship folks been supportive and understanding of your style of polyamory?🙂
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