This is one of the reasons why the road to success is very lonely. The minute I raised my standards, people started leaving. I don't miss them. My circle has always been small because my friends are real, true, and authentic, just like I am. I love you, Ed. I consider you my friend even though we haven't met 😊
I believe I’m a year older than you, but while listening to this, I just started calling you Papa Mylett. My das passed away about 10 years ago…I’ve been listening to you for about 5 or 6 years now. You have and continue to be a positive and influential impact on my life. So grateful for you.
As always Ed great insight! I have lived my life with the root of this idea, people always get away with what people let them get away with! Thank you Ed, great discussion!
I put up with things early in my marriage , a lot of leaving to my mothers in past , it took these measures to get where I am to 15 years … I have to ask myself am I non confrontational? My husband likes to push boundaries , he lives for the reaction , where I am calm . I’m not his first marriage , he’s not mine , we brought in baggage . I was alone with a child for 14 years after first marriage . I had a boyfriend before don’t get me wrong but he strung me along and used our sons as friends to keep me around . Shame on me ! It all comes to boundaries and standards ! What we expect from ourselves we should expect from others . I like what you said Ed observe like a silent movie ! Watch what they do . Thank you I needed to hear this !
One thing I would say in addition to this is I have seen loving someone unconditionally even when they deserve for you to leave them, can do miraculous things in a marriage. There are some relationships wit the exiting but the power of unconditional love can do wonders as long as the boundaries aren’t too severe to endure
I thought that difficult people had been hurt in the past and so I tried to have compassion, I also thought there is the devine in everybody and that maybe in another lifetime it was the other way round so I need to stay in love. in some cases that helped but in other cases it didn't and I thought I need to love them even more. now I think I am worthy to protect myself... so that I can stay happy and healthy.. thank you so much, Ed! it really shows how much you care for people. your videos are special! Merry Christmas 💖💫 All the best, Isabella
Wow what beautiful profound words…… 👏👏👏👏👏👏 I really do feel this is all that I needed today. I can trust myself first and do my best - and I won’t beg and ask for others to come to my level. ❤ From now on I will be with people that share my same values!!!!!!!!
The most powerful way is by writing, through my years of addiction and being a not so great human/husband my wife and I would write notes to each other because I didn’t understand how to communicate with words and Ed it makes such a difference. Even to this day if there is something I’m uneasy talking about (maybe once every 18 months if that) I will still write about it and she does the same. I think husbands and wives can learn so much through writing to each other. I speak with men today that are lost in addiction and I share that with all of the married guys, start writing to each other. Thank you for sharing.
This hit the nail on the head sooo many times! So true! We are letting people treat us like crap! -and who’s pointing 10 fingers Back at themselves? - I’m guilty. I’m better than that.
You can only change the person in the mirror… and what we give audience to. Some folks - the bigger the audience reaction, the bigger the show, so I get to make fresh choices about what shows I take in, I’m willing to sit for and which ones I simply take my leave of the room from.
Saw you at LifeSurge on Saturday. Your message was profound. I lost my dad when I was 5, and have recently come home to my Heavenly Father in the last 4 years. The journey has led me here, and this is the first piece of your (recent) content that called to me. I give glory to God for getting me here, and look forward to the blessings coming. Ready to do some hard work and make some fantastic changes where necessary. Thank you for your story about your father. I didn’t know about you until Saturday and look forward to growing in the Lord, and learning from you along the way 🙏🙌🫶
On the issue of teasing people: we must never think we're entitled to making anyone the butt of our jokes, then gaslight them for not liking it by calling them 'sensitive' or 'quick to take offense'. If we're believers, we know that God never makes anyone the butt of jokes. God only speaks things that breathe life into creation: life and death are in the power of the tongue and we reap rewards for that life or death. We are created in God's image to be image-bearers, and He calls us to speak words that uplift others, words that are gracious: Colossians 4:6 Let your words ALWAYS be with grace, seasoned with salt, so that you will know how you should answer each person. There is no exception as to WHEN, WHERE or WITH WHOM our words must be gracious, because God is our main audience and judge and we don't own anyone or anything. I believe making even yourself or anyone else the butt of jokes is not uplifting. We can make healthy jokes that uplift others and that are a blessing. God only ever speaks words that bring life. May we only be entitled to our obedience to God.
Oh my gosh! Ed, I swear I was thinking this week " boy, wouldn't it be great to just have Ed give me some advice right now.."...And, I promise you, this completely speaks to my soul right now. Thanks. Merry Christmas.
Thank you so much for this, I really needed this today. When you are an empathetic person it can be so hard to do this because you end up feeling guilty, but no one wins. You have to learn to be ok with someone else being unhappy with you because you have called them up on something... Easier said than done, but after watching this I feel a little less guilty ❤
And thank you for using your STRENGTH and your pain to HONOR and love those of us who are searching! God bless you ! strength and honor to you, my friend !
It starts with you. People reflect back to you to the degree you love and respect yourself. If you do and they aren’t showing up aligned to you I believe it’s God’s way of saying someone more aligned is out there. I do believe anyone has the power to change but you have to ask yourself what is your accountability in the situation (ie you need to work on your self respect, etc) and if you are then also is this relationship worth holding on to when there are 8 billion+ other people to connect with in this world? Inner conversations with yourself will determine where you are at with YOU and you can decide who gets to stay or leave your life.💫 If you’re reading this I pray you receive the highest form of love. You deserve and are worthy of the best.🙏🏻♥️
Great video, Ed! And I really appreciate the point about writing things down. Never really considered that. Also I like the Land Rover commercial lol. Probably the first car related sponsorship, I’ve seen on any of the UA-cam channels I watch ha ha
I’m so glad I came across this!!! You have a serious fan over here in Qatar 🇶🇦. I just shared this with friends. This message was everything and such a great reminder!
Thank you Ed. The timing is wow. I have a husband who doesn't get it when I want to be treated with kindness and a simple...once in a while...how was your day? It's always about him.
Unfortunately there are times when you have to be around someone who does not respect you no matter how bold you have been. For example people you work with and family get togethers.
Hopefully, you get to read my comment. What you say I agree with. I have experienced ignoring and hate as I have gotten to Process Engineer without a degree and I have my workouts on UA-cam as well. I experienced a situation where I realized I was not going too allow someone to treat me like that and you have to cut them out.
My weekness has been confrontation, I dont like it as I dont know how to handle it. I treat ohter like I like to be treated myself and most people dont even get it. Thus, I just turn my back and I am gone. Mind you, that still does not solve the problem.
The majority of society, men and women are living in an unconscious state due to technology, instant gratification, high levels of stress etc… So your kindness, to someone living in this primal unconscious state, reads to them more like character weakness. Although it’s not true, society has programmed people to being in a fighter state of mind to get their needs met. And so your kindness may remind them of the personal freedom that they feel they may lack.. or they treat you badly in order to get you to fit in with their programming. When you set brick walls for the right people, you’re no longer allowing them to feed off of you.
How about your adult children who treat you like you don’t exist or you don’t matter? Even if you’ve been there for them as a friend or anything else they have ever with needed support. Sad commentary on them.
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This is one of the reasons why the road to success is very lonely. The minute I raised my standards, people started leaving. I don't miss them. My circle has always been small because my friends are real, true, and authentic, just like I am. I love you, Ed. I consider you my friend even though we haven't met 😊
Leave if they don't respect your boundaries, reciprocate, nor show up for you they way you show up for them.
I believe I’m a year older than you, but while listening to this, I just started calling you Papa Mylett. My das passed away about 10 years ago…I’ve been listening to you for about 5 or 6 years now. You have and continue to be a positive and influential impact on my life. So grateful for you.
As always Ed great insight! I have lived my life with the root of this idea, people always get away with what people let them get away with! Thank you Ed, great discussion!
Sometimes when a person has been emotionally abused, they are more sensitive to jokes and ribbing as that is an actual emotional abuse tactic.
I put up with things early in my marriage , a lot of leaving to my mothers in past , it took these measures to get where I am to 15 years … I have to ask myself am I non confrontational? My husband likes to push boundaries , he lives for the reaction , where I am calm . I’m not his first marriage , he’s not mine , we brought in baggage . I was alone with a child for 14 years after first marriage . I had a boyfriend before don’t get me wrong but he strung me along and used our sons as friends to keep me around . Shame on me ! It all comes to boundaries and standards ! What we expect from ourselves we should expect from others . I like what you said Ed observe like a silent movie ! Watch what they do . Thank you I needed to hear this !
One thing I would say in addition to this is I have seen loving someone unconditionally even when they deserve for you to leave them, can do miraculous things in a marriage. There are some relationships wit the exiting but the power of unconditional love can do wonders as long as the boundaries aren’t too severe to endure
This was such a powerful message. There was a time in my life when I struggled with tolerating really terrible treatment from people.
I thought that difficult people had been hurt in the past and so I tried to have compassion, I also thought there is the devine in everybody and that maybe in another lifetime it was the other way round so I need to stay in love. in some cases that helped but in other cases it didn't and I thought I need to love them even more. now I think I am worthy to protect myself... so that I can stay happy and healthy.. thank you so much, Ed! it really shows how much you care for people. your videos are special!
Merry Christmas 💖💫
All the best, Isabella
Teach people how to treat you by setting healthy and strong boundaries 💪🏿 🎉❤thanks Ed
“When there is no offense intended, don’t take any” ❤🎉
Wow what beautiful profound words……
👏👏👏👏👏👏
I really do feel this is all that I needed today.
I can trust myself first and do my best - and I won’t beg and ask for others to come to my level. ❤
From now on I will be with people that share my same values!!!!!!!!
The most powerful way is by writing, through my years of addiction and being a not so great human/husband my wife and I would write notes to each other because I didn’t understand how to communicate with words and Ed it makes such a difference. Even to this day if there is something I’m uneasy talking about (maybe once every 18 months if that) I will still write about it and she does the same. I think husbands and wives can learn so much through writing to each other. I speak with men today that are lost in addiction and I share that with all of the married guys, start writing to each other. Thank you for sharing.
This was a wonderful reminder: you can’t change people, but you can change people/ wow!!
This hit the nail on the head sooo many times! So true! We are letting people treat us like crap! -and who’s pointing 10 fingers Back at themselves? - I’m guilty. I’m better than that.
You can only change the person in the mirror… and what we give audience to. Some folks - the bigger the audience reaction, the bigger the show, so I get to make fresh choices about what shows I take in, I’m willing to sit for and which ones I simply take my leave of the room from.
HOLY MOLY THIS IS THE RIGHT VIDEO AT THE RIGHT TIME
Thank you Ed. Spot on with this discussion!!!
Saw you at LifeSurge on Saturday. Your message was profound. I lost my dad when I was 5, and have recently come home to my Heavenly Father in the last 4 years. The journey has led me here, and this is the first piece of your (recent) content that called to me. I give glory to God for getting me here, and look forward to the blessings coming. Ready to do some hard work and make some fantastic changes where necessary. Thank you for your story about your father. I didn’t know about you until Saturday and look forward to growing in the Lord, and learning from you along the way 🙏🙌🫶
On the issue of teasing people: we must never think we're entitled to making anyone the butt of our jokes, then gaslight them for not liking it by calling them 'sensitive' or 'quick to take offense'. If we're believers, we know that God never makes anyone the butt of jokes. God only speaks things that breathe life into creation: life and death are in the power of the tongue and we reap rewards for that life or death. We are created in God's image to be image-bearers, and He calls us to speak words that uplift others, words that are gracious:
Colossians 4:6
Let your words ALWAYS be with grace, seasoned with salt, so that you will know how you should answer each person.
There is no exception as to WHEN, WHERE or WITH WHOM our words must be gracious, because God is our main audience and judge and we don't own anyone or anything.
I believe making even yourself or anyone else the butt of jokes is not uplifting. We can make healthy jokes that uplift others and that are a blessing. God only ever speaks words that bring life.
May we only be entitled to our obedience to God.
Thank you for this topic 😭😭🤍
Be blessed!
Oh my gosh! Ed, I swear I was thinking this week " boy, wouldn't it be great to just have Ed give me some advice right now.."...And, I promise you, this completely speaks to my soul right now.
Thanks. Merry Christmas.
Thank you for this video. I am no longer going to tolerate the behaviour of a neighbour who constantly refuses to accept my requests.
Thank you so much for this, I really needed this today. When you are an empathetic person it can be so hard to do this because you end up feeling guilty, but no one wins. You have to learn to be ok with someone else being unhappy with you because you have called them up on something... Easier said than done, but after watching this I feel a little less guilty ❤
And thank you for using your STRENGTH and your pain to HONOR and love those of us who are searching!
God bless you !
strength and honor to you, my friend !
Saw this video & honestly didn't really want to watch it. I did & it's absolutely GOLDEN! GREAT STUFF!
God is my therapist and protector.
This is soooo timely , thanks Ed.
If someone treats u less than u deserve it s for sure your fault because you didn’t set boundaries in the beginning
Thanks Ed 😊
I've needed this my entire life. Thank you for all that you do! Max out !
Merry Christmas Mr. Mylett, blessings and happiness to you and your family. You help people and are very deserving of your success.
I appreciate this conversation thankyou! ED!
Sometimes people won't listen to your requests, so you have to give them your absence. Protect your ⚡️#Basic2Badass #KuntKoalition #RiseAndGrind 💪🧠🙌
Yes ..and manifest them treating you better by cultivating self love😊 if it aint shifting,you leave.period
It starts with you. People reflect back to you to the degree you love and respect yourself. If you do and they aren’t showing up aligned to you I believe it’s God’s way of saying someone more aligned is out there. I do believe anyone has the power to change but you have to ask yourself what is your accountability in the situation (ie you need to work on your self respect, etc) and if you are then also is this relationship worth holding on to when there are 8 billion+ other people to connect with in this world?
Inner conversations with yourself will determine where you are at with YOU and you can decide who gets to stay or leave your life.💫
If you’re reading this I pray you receive the highest form of love. You deserve and are worthy of the best.🙏🏻♥️
Great video, Ed! And I really appreciate the point about writing things down. Never really considered that. Also I like the Land Rover commercial lol. Probably the first car related sponsorship, I’ve seen on any of the UA-cam channels I watch ha ha
Very powerful message we all need ❤
🙏💪👏 Great Thursday Morning & “ED” You Have Earned My Respect & DESERVE MY FULL ATTENTION & Amen 👏🙏🏁
I’m so glad I came across this!!! You have a serious fan over here in Qatar 🇶🇦. I just shared this with friends. This message was everything and such a great reminder!
I really appreciate this video, Ed. You're a great friend!
Really need this today ❤
Just on time message indeed...❤🎉
Thank you Ed. The timing is wow. I have a husband who doesn't get it when I want to be treated with kindness and a simple...once in a while...how was your day? It's always about him.
Thank you for not teasing me anymore, I appreciate you Ed.
Love and respect all, but trust is to be earned! Thanks for all you do and its free!!! 😊so order the books people😮 they are worth it!!
Thank you, Ed! You’re for real!
This hits home for me xx thanks Ed for sharing and reminding me of my worth ❤
Speaking from experience, you need to be aware that some people may take your written word and twist it to use against you.
Yes, thank you for this topic
Love this!
Thanks Ed...
This is the result of excessive kindness.
Thanks, Ed. Based on my experience, I'd finish your last sentence with three words.....
"or, move on".
Unfortunately there are times when you have to be around someone who does not respect you no matter how bold you have been. For example people you work with and family get togethers.
True, some do it for superiority. Sad
Hopefully, you get to read my comment. What you say I agree with. I have experienced ignoring and hate as I have gotten to Process Engineer without a degree and I have my workouts on UA-cam as well. I experienced a situation where I realized I was not going too allow someone to treat me like that and you have to cut them out.
Confrontation has been my weakness : (
Thank you
I been saying for years the best lesson I learned from aa is I train people how to treat me
Great Ed!
You are correct.
Awesome
You teach people how to treat you.
My weekness has been confrontation, I dont like it as I dont know how to handle it.
I treat ohter like I like to be treated myself and most people dont even get it.
Thus, I just turn my back and I am gone. Mind you, that still does not solve the problem.
The majority of society, men and women are living in an unconscious state due to technology, instant gratification, high levels of stress etc… So your kindness, to someone living in this primal unconscious state, reads to them more like character weakness. Although it’s not true, society has programmed people to being in a fighter state of mind to get their needs met. And so your kindness may remind them of the personal freedom that they feel they may lack.. or they treat you badly in order to get you to fit in with their programming. When you set brick walls for the right people, you’re no longer allowing them to feed off of you.
Hi Ed from Pakistan
Hey Ed,
A lot of things that you are saying in this they are bothering me and I need to take action.
🙏🏼
💪🏽❤️
How about your adult children who treat you like you don’t exist or you don’t matter? Even if you’ve been there for them as a friend or anything else they have ever with needed support. Sad commentary on them.
Get them quietly out of your life. Silence.
I don't feel safe at all. Talking crap about me all the time. I would not let him treat my children that way.
You're my guardian angel, Ed. You changed me when I found you in 2022. Thank you
Love you so much. Have a blessed, full, and amazing day , please. 🤍🤍🤍
Life is all about perspective and Ed thank you for your Motivation!!! Blessings ua-cam.com/users/shortspSPPuE1VELE
It’s my parents! 🫣
I wish I had a friend as wise as you in my life. 🥲🫶🫶