My first birth, i was on all fours. Pushed my daughter out in 9 minutes 💖💖 the doctor tried to get me to lay down, my husband told him i wanted to give birth on all fours. YOU HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO LAY WHATEVER WAY YOU WANT, DO NOT FORGET THAT MOMS. Also don’t lay on your back the whole time in labor. It makes the baby’s heart rate drop
I cussed out a nurse who tried to force me to lay down . I squatted over the bed and pushed my son out. The doctor laughed as he walked in the room to find I had already gave birth ,and only needed help with the umbilical cord 😂🤣
I had my daughter last week after watching this video & I just wanna say THANK YOU. I gave birth on all 4s without epidural & didn’t need any stitches! Definitely was better & much easier to push in this position vs laying on your back!
Omg! Thats amazing congratulations is this ur first baby?? I rly want to do Natural without epidural in a semi sitting or all four position did the hospital allow u? Was this best choice?? 🥰🥹 so nervous!!! Im due first week october
@@sharibarnett5472 when they say labor is so unpredictable its so true i had a plan but sadly couldn’t do natural water broke and i didn’t dilate fast enough to avoid infection so they had to start me on pitocin still didnt dilate with pitocing so they had me try an epidural or i wouldve gotten a c section so i didnt want a c section so i agreed to epidural and within an 1 1/2 i dilated to a 10 from a 7 pushed for 15 mins on my back ! Healthy babygirl arrived perfectly!
I get SO frustrated when hospitals refuse to allow free movement simply for convenience’ sake. I am convinced that women being forced to lie on their backs during labor lead to so many unnecessary interventions that in turn cause many unwanted side effects. I had a natural home birth, and the two times I needed to lie on my back through a contraction (for fetal monitoring) was THE WORST torture of my life. If I’d been in a hospital being made to do my whole labor on my back, I would have been begging for an epidural or something to stop the absolutely horrific pain of being on my back. As it was, labor was hard, long, and painful, but I got through it, thanks to The Lord, my birth team, a birth pool, and the ability to change positions as often as I needed/wanted to! ☺️ So grateful for all the great info on this channel, I have recommended it to so many others who want to birth naturally at home or in the hospital! ♥️
Please pray for my birth to go well! I am about to give birth for the first time in India in about seven weeks and am nervous about their hospital expectations.
I agree. My doctor told me they prefer the back. Clearly cause it’s easy for them. I still have not gotten a real answer to my question if the will let me push however I want to. So frustrating.
As a guy who is not able to do any "classes" during the Covid pandemic, I must sincerely thank you for all of your videos. You offer so much great content and have really helped me and my wife to feel far more confident regarding our coming baby. Due in just over a week! Thanks again!
Reading the comments and I’m shocked that some of those doctors refused to let these mamas give birth on their backs, I believe giving birth on your back is only beneficial for the doctor but doctors are there to accommodate the moms. Definitely won’t be giving birth on my back and any doctor that refuses to let me do so will kindly be replaced.
Hi Bridget, could you make a video with a few tips on how to advocate for yourself in changing positions, etc? especially when the medical staff is being kinda pushy or guilt-tripping you into doing one thing or another. I'm far from even wanting to be a mom lol but I came across this video and the whole time I kept thinking, just based on my previous experiences with medical staff on completely different scenarios: I can't imagine nurses and doctors being on board with you wanting to change their plans. In my own experience, healthcare staff can be a bit harsh and relentless with what they think is right for you. I want to clarify that I am absolutely grateful for the work of doctors and nurses, but some times the line of who makes the calls becomes blurry, and I can totally see that happening in a situation like giving birth.
I also think this idea for a video would be so GREAT and encouraging. I have had two hospital births and felt discouraged due to my lack of being able to voice my preferences and advocating for myself. Whenever I wanted to do something differently than what the staff thought was convenient, I was questioned and felt like I was constantly having to defend myself…something really hard to do when you are trying to birth a baby naturally. I would LOVE a video on this topic.
midwives and labor & delivery nurses are usually very aware of all these positions etc and much more likely to allow and even encourage you to change and use more effective positions (especially if there is a birthing centre at hospital). of course it will depend on the hospital and the individual staff. I recommend Nurse Zabe on youtube - she is a labor and delivery nurse in US and has some really great content
If you're going with either an OB or Midwife, set an appointment for consultation once you find out your pregnant. Discuss with them all options about giving birth, positions, unmedicated and medicated interventions, etc. . Shop around before you settle on the person who will deliver your baby. Don't settle. Make sure to call hospital to find out what they allow or don't allow during labor and delivery. . Don't settle for any hospital. Your health is a priority, the needs of your baby and body are important. Don't allow any medical professional to threat or bully you into any position. . Make sure to have one family member present during the entire process to advocate for you. Don't go in alone.
I voiced myself to my OB that in the birthing phase of labor I’d like to birth in the position I desire such as squatting, or standing...whatever works because laying reclined is not optimal and I’d like to work with gravity. She was extremely supportive and on board with what I wish to do and wants to honor and respect my desires. I’m excited for my birthing experience as I’m 39 weeks and 3 days so it’s coming soon. ☺️🙏
I can't even lay on my back at 22 weeks, there is no way I'm going to be able to lay on my back full term. I have had a bit of anxiety about delivery because I don't want to lay on my back. I've been there for my best friend's deliveries and she's always had an epidural and pushed on her back. It's the opposite of what I want to do! Side lying looks amazing.
I will be making my care providers watch this in the future! So helpful. I did not have an epidural during my first labor and was forced on my back during pushing. My body knew it was wrong. I kept telling my providers I needed to be upright and on hands and knees. That was when I felt the natural urge to push. On my back that urge disappeared and I felt this insane pain. I'm not exaggerating when I say my OB yelled at me: "This is how we do it. You either get on your back or I'm leaving." I wish first time moms were aware of how coercive and emotionally abusive providers can become in this final stage. I was told I could give birth in whatever position I wanted by my doulas but when it came time my provider literally yelled at me and would not help if I did not do it how he wanted. I was not prepared for that.
@@ene7939 where I live (Alberta, Canada) you can give birth in hospital with a midwife instead of an OB. Being able to choose the best birthing position for me was a factor in deciding on a midwife over an OB. The OB I saw told me I could labour in whatever position I want but they prefer you to push on your back so they have better access.
“He”. Lol My aunt also had a bad experience with a male OB. That was in the 80s. I can’t believe they are still receiving the same insensitivity training these days
There is no way that they came up with the back birthing position by accident. It seems like something they deliberately created as a system of control.
It came about while male doctors experimented on enslaved women, they had them on their backs without anesthesia. Look up plantation medicine. When male doctors started taking over positions midwives used to hold, they kept the laying on the back position because it's easiest for the doctor to see and control that way.
Your videos have helped me tremendously. I gave birth to my first baby last Saturday. Water broke 3 weeks early and labor had not started, so I had to be induced. From using the breathing techniques to preparing to open up my pelvis a couple weeks in advance, I was able to push my baby out in 40 minutes. The pain was not as bad as I was in my zone determined to get him out. These videos are amazing thank you so much!
With my son I tried different positions, moving around, going in the water.. my body refused. I gave birth lying on my side and never knew it was a good position! Took 4h30 from start to finish for a 10 pounds baby with a head in the 99th percentile! About to give birth now for the third time ❤️
No shame in learning about this, many people will need to know this info at some point whether you're the birthing mom or her spouse, sister, birth helper, being prepared makes it so much easier
@@TheyCallMeChazzy I’m just seeing this you may of already had your baby so I might be kinda late lol, but it went very well for me! I only tore in one place very minimally, and I healed up so so quick.
Then why do doctors impose women to lay on their backs during delivery? Is it that they are not aware of the pelvic mechanism or what? It's a great punishment. Thank you for this video. I'm not gonna be forced to do that.
I did a lot of laboring on all 4s but ended up giving birth side lying with support from my midwife. I never thought I would deliver that way but it felt right in the moment
Can you make a video of the different positions that partners can help release oxytocin and how they can help through labor? For example swaying with your partner during contractions or them providing counter pressure
After three attempts to birth the way my body needed to in the hospital and having the hospital not allow it, I went to home birth. My midwife was fantastic!! She allowed me to labor and deliver while standing. I had four easy quick labors at home.
It is well known that laying on your back (or in the missionary position) is one of the hardest and most painful ways for a woman to push a baby out. So, why do so many hospitals even use this position anymore? 80 to 85% of the hospital birth videos on UA-cam have the woman on her back pushing. There are so many proven and better positions that can easily be used during delivery.
I’m due in 5 days and I’m so glad your videos exist! Hate that women are so often restricted to our backs. (Also when your head and the cabinets line up just right it looks like little bear ears 😆)
I have a 2.5 year old, 18month old and am due baby number 3 anyday now. With my last two, there was no way you was getting me on my back. I delivered on all fours. Had bruised knees for weeks after ( had 20+hours labours). But had lovely midwifes who let me do what i needed to do. They didnt even tell me when to push. Just old my hubby "she knows what shes doing, her body will tell her".
This was the biggest disappointment during my birth experience - I wanted to give birth in the tub, but they kept telling me to lay back even though I wanted to squat. And then because it wasn't working they forced me onto the bed even though I wanted to stand at the edge and let gravity do its thing. So I gave birth lying on my back with my knees up holding my breath. I'm thankful for an easy labor, but I hated the delivery part because I was in so much pain that I couldn't think straight enough to advocate for myself. Couldn't have my doula because of covid. Ended up with a 1st degree tear and am scared that I'll be forced to do something I don't want to again if I have another baby.
I don't know where you're from, but I live in South America and was also so dissapointed by this... When I hadn't got the epidural yet, my body was telling me so bad to sit down, move, but the nurses kept telling me to stay on my back. At one point I even asked a nurse "how come I can't be in the position I want, if I'm the one who's giving birth???", and he simply replied "I'm sorry, you can't". I was so vulnerable and tired that I didn't do anything about it. But whenever I remember it, I get so frustrated and sad. The birth went well, but the worst part was when my son came out of me, and they literally put him on my chest and then took him away for about 2 hours without giving me any explanation. We're both fine now (he's 9 months), but those missing hours with him will always ache.
Educate yourself about how labor & delivery is with the dr/midwife you see. I delivered with a midwife in a hospital and I was able to advocate for the birth I wanted.
@@Ididntwantayoutubehandl I also delivered with a midwife in a hospital. I had zero choice in where I delivered because of where I lived and who took our insurance (believe me, I tried to seek alternatives). Even with all of the research and preparation, I just happened to arrive at the hospital when a less-than-understanding midwife was on her shift. Sometimes you don't have a choice. But next time around we'll be living in a place with options, so fingers crossed that I can find a team that I wholeheartedly trust.
I'm 38 weeks 1 day and because of your videos, I'm excited and looking forward to labor! This is my first baby and I was nervous that my body wouldn't know what to do in its own, but already I'm 3 centimeters dilated and 80% effaced! I believe a lot of that has to do with the tips and tricks I've learned from you. Thank you! God is answering prayers!
Thanks so much for your video, Bridget. I'm an American living in the UK, and have given birth to my two sons here (now pregnant with my third child). While the NHS certainly has its problems, I LOVE the midwife culture here, and the focus on mother-baby well-being and natural processes. It's made me very curious about how maternity care in the US became so 'medicalized', and so dismissive of more body/nature oriented ways of thinking. I'm sure it's an interesting story! Thanks again for the video--I wanted to hear about different positions to try in the birthing pool for #3!
I wanted to turn around & get on my knees when I was in labor with my first child & I kept asking if I could but the nurses kept saying no. I was so uncomfortable.
What positions do you recommend for those who have previously had a third or fourth degree tear? I gave birth to my son on my back against my wishes and I think that significantly contributed to my tear, so now being pregnant with my second, I'm trying to figure out how to avoid that situation and avoid tearing, without birthing on my back. Any suggestions would be most appreciated.
Hey Lauren! I am a pelvic health physiotherapist working with moms - I would recommend for sure doing the perineal stretch a few weeks prior to your due date to make sure the scar tissue is nice and flexible. Here is a video to help you: ua-cam.com/video/1YVqMIa_73Y/v-deo.html You will also want to use breathing out technique while pushing (as opposed to blocking the breath) to have a more progressive stretch on the pelvic floor. I review breathing techniques on this video: ua-cam.com/video/sIBnLrTt7y8/v-deo.html Also I don't know what the context of your tear was, but for women who had a fast "explosive" birth leading to tearing, I recommend low gravity position to push (such as on the side) so you can better control your pushing speed and slow things down a little bit. Anyway - hope this helps!!! Good luck 💜
@@BeyondBirthingPelvicFloorPT thanks for the video of perineal massage. So you're saying laying on my side is better for delivery rather than on all fours?
What do you do when your OB won’t allow you to deliver in a different position then your back? I’m 36 weeks. I’ve asked multiple times, have been preparing for different positions, and I’m very discouraged.
Hi Bridget! I am a future mom currently in 34 weeks. My baby girl has the umbilical cord around her neck and I am literally freaking out here, especially when she has hiccups thinking that she might be lacking oxygen. My OB told me to consider a C section but I do not want that, though I will do whatever it takes to have her healthy. At ultrasound they didn't find any threats but I am still very concerned. Please help me with some information!!! Thank you!
I got 7 weeks left being pregnant , the reason why I chose to Work with the midwives at my local hospital was because of different positions , I want to rely on gravity
What’s crazy is laboring in the hospital with my first before they even admitted me, they kept trying to get me to lay on my back. I just wanted to be in my hands and knees.
39 weeks here and I'm binging your videos! My 1st labor and delivery was uncomplicated but, I labored and delivered on my back. I didn't think anything of it at the time, though I thought I simply couldn't go on because the pain was so unbearable. I actually asked for an epidural but never got one because the anesthesiologist kept getting pulled into emergency c-sections. Anyway, I'm wondering now if i would have been able to cope better in a different position or not. Pushing on my back felt great for what it's worth. 3 "breaths" and the baby was out. But the contractions of labor were absolute hell. This time I'll try a few positions to see what works!!
"Women know how to innately give birth"... the same way people innately know how to squat and climb and jump. The problem is our modern lifestyles have made many modern people who don't practice these things have lost all this knowledge and are starting from zero
If you had a severe tear with baby #1 and you are recommending not to use these 3 positions, what position would you recommend? I would love to avoid tearing again and would love any recommendations.
Due in 2 weeks. My OB says she's fine with me trying different labor positions but when it comes to my actual delivery she wants me on my back or reclining. :( I hope she lets me do the side lying for that part because back lying is already uncomfortable for me at this phase.
Just remember it’s all about consent you can’t be forced to do anything you don’t want to do, including laying on your back your birth experience is about not just bringing your baby into the world but you and your own well being, good luck! 😊
@@belleobrien7971 not in Romania 🙈 I’m terrified of giving birth in the hospital. You can’t do what you want even if you feel that’s ok for you. Because you’re not the expert 🤪
I’m 37+5 weeks now and I watched your all videos this is my second pregnancy . My first birth was with epidural and My labour was 22 hours mostly laying on my back. This time I really want to try these positions 🤲 I hope everything will be fine for me and all pregnancy women😘
dear Bridget i tried so hard for natural birth and believed everything you said but ended up with C-section , i feel bad for me and my son that i couldn't make it , C-section is not a good thing i know
I hope you can find healing. I also was hoping for natural birth but had a 3 day labor to 9 cm but ended with c section after 6 hours of pushing and not having any more energy and no way to emotionally cope with the pain. I still struggle with the feeling of inadequacy as a woman and regret of how things played out. What has happened has happened, you are no less of a woman or mom because of how your birth played out. Hope you and baby are well.
A c-section is a good thing if it provided a safe outcome for you and your baby! As moms it’s so difficult not to feel guilty even over things we can’t control. Hoping you and baby are doing well!
Ok u said that if youve had a tear before u shouldnt do those positions. What if its ur first time giving birth, will any of the 3 positions u mentioned increase the chances of tearing? I wanna do the one that lowers my chances the most.
I’m pregnant with my fourth child, had all three without pain relief and plan to with this one as well. I always laid on my back and I want to try a different position this time around. With my third my midwife said I could give birth how ever comfortable but I was so scared baby would fall on the floor.
Great video! I was in all of these positions to get my water to break and birth baby. First vaginal birth only pushed for two hours thanks to my doula. After not much progress in squatting upright over the back of the bed then squatting using squat bar on the edge of bed she suggesting side laying. Was a pain moving positions because I was so tired but it worked. Two more pushes and baby was out with no tears. Highly recommend having a doula!
Your videos are SO helpful! I can't thank you enough for all of these educational videos. It makes such a difference to have this wealth of info from a professional available for free.
I pushed out my first in a modified all fours position on the hospital bed: the head of the bed was raised and I faced it and leaned against it, and the bottom most part of the bed was out of the way so that my OB could still have pretty good access. It worked well for me, and I hope to try it again (or one of your 3!) for my upcoming delivery 👍🏻
Your videos are so helpful! I love watching them to help me prepare to become a mama for the first time in a few weeks! (Been watching since before pregnancy lol!)
With both my births I tried avoiding laboring on my back then I would get tired and ended up laboring on my back 😔 i am currently 23 weeks pregnant and I’m really hoping this time is different
I wad basically squatting with a birth ball until it was time to push i was uncomfortable a bit but then just felt relaxed to be laying down i think i wanted to shift to my side a couple times but it was a reasonable easy birth alhamdulillah. I think bevause my baby then wad a bit under and now i am gonna find out if they'll do the side position. I had such a long nice labour 2 and half days so blessed with the breathing techniques you showed.
What if that position is sitting up? my labors have never progressed me past a 6 dilation. Should I actively think of labor as an exercise in moving as much as possible, in order to activate baby's head?
I'm 37 weeks pregnant and can't stop watching your videos! You are informative and empowering - such a gift to expecting moms and dads! Question: I downloaded your birthing affirmations. Do you have any music playlists for labor/delivery?
So grateful for my doula with my first baby. She helped me get off my back and into the squat position using a squat bar in a hospital setting. That is the position that I birthed my baby in and I caught him myself.
I had absolutely no idea about different kinds of positions and what happens when you tell them you want to push in your own position. I'm 39 weeks, glad I came across your video
Me either until my 3rd was coming so fast It was too late for the epi. I felt NO contractions in the squatting position. Only the pressure of the baby was coming down and my body was pushing without any effort from myself
I had a 3rd degree tear with my first baby, I'm due anytime with my second...what position is best for me to try? I wasn't sure what you meant at the end. Thank you!
I just went straight to lying on my side on the bed. I was labouring in the shower on all fours. I had a moment where my contractions stopped before I had the urge to push and I asked to go to the bed so I could nap 😂😂. Labour and delivery was total of 3 hours and 41 minutes. I pushed for about 5 minutes tops.
I am so glad I found this video long before the due date of my third baby! I’ve only had one labour because my second pregnancy ended in miscarriage. However for my first labour I ended up in a reclined sitting position which resulted in an episiotomy due to the panic of my baby’s heart slowing down dramatically. I will never go in that position again! For this second labour I plan on going on hands and knees!
I was on my back for my last two births. But it was what I preferred/ felt more comfortable. I thought I was going to choose being all fours, but if I was in any position except my back the contractions and vaginal pain/pressure would get too intense making it hard to breathe through. Maybe because I have big babies? I'm almost 35 weeks with my third now and this time around I can visualize being on all four more and I have been using that position to relax in
I learned this on my own with my 3rd baby, he was coming so fast It was too late for the epi. I felt NO contractions in the squatting position. Only the pressure of the baby coming down and my body was pushing without any effort from myself. 1.5 hours of active labor and 10 min of... Barely pushing.
So satisfying to know that we are doing such a natural and great job of giving birth.... your videos are a therapy actually 🥰 give relief from birth anxiety. 🥰
Yes absolutely! I was lucky enough to have great nurses who advocated for me when the doctor wanted me to get on my back and I refused. I was already on my hands and knees and it felt right, I only pushed for 20 minutes, and this is my first baby. So glad I didn’t let the doctor talk me into getting on my back.
yes! But Drs can be very pushy and insensitive about what they think is best. whatever, even if a doctor DEMANDED mama birthed in the american TV position what's Dr gonna do if she refuses, forbid the labor? Lol... We're here to push out a kid, not make friends with quacks
Weirdly enough, with my home birth, despite my back labor, laying on my back was MOST comfortable. Maybe I should say least painful lol I tried hands and knees and noped right out of that position, it was excruciating.
My first birth about 2 years ago now, I had a 3rd degree tear, and I'm getting close to having baby #2 and considering these alternative positions instead of being on my back. You mentioned that these positions might not be best for me now since I've had a 3rd degree tear in the past. What do you recommend now since I've had that history?
how do we approach this with our care providers? here anything you say that's contrary to regular practice is seen as offensive, as you questioning them and their competence etc.
You mention not to do these positions if you’ve had a 3rd degree year. Were you referring to only #3 (upright) or all of these position? I had a tear with my first and pregnant again, due in 7 weeks. Ideally I’d like to do side lying or on all 4s.
My labia ripped into pieces and tore chunks off with my first birth. I was forced to lay on my back. At the end you say to avoid these fr risk of re tearing? Which position is best then?
You said these aren’t good positions for a mama who has had a 3rd degree tear in a previous birth. What are good pushing options for mamas who have torn in the past that aren’t on the back?
So i had my third baby naturally in Japan, and i remember when i was crowning and asked so many time to leave the laying down position because it was so unconfortable and they would not let me move... i asked so many times.. i told them i felt better on the side or wanted to turn but they would not let me because of protocol's ! Now i'm going to have another baby in a week and that is what i remember the most.. and i really hope they would let me do what i want to do in the end
Wow so inconsiderate. On the side they can pretty much see and control everything just as well, why would that be rejected. Unbelievable that they make it more difficult for moms to go through this process
Thank you so much for all your amazing videos! I have issues with my sacrum causing me serious back pain and unfortunately have not been able to find help yet. Now that I have this basic knowledge I feel motivated to learn more and be as prepared as possible for giving birth in June!
My first birth, i was on all fours. Pushed my daughter out in 9 minutes 💖💖 the doctor tried to get me to lay down, my husband told him i wanted to give birth on all fours. YOU HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO LAY WHATEVER WAY YOU WANT, DO NOT FORGET THAT MOMS. Also don’t lay on your back the whole time in labor. It makes the baby’s heart rate drop
I cussed out a nurse who tried to force me to lay down . I squatted over the bed and pushed my son out. The doctor laughed as he walked in the room to find I had already gave birth ,and only needed help with the umbilical cord 😂🤣
Hell yeah👏 honestly it is always up to the mother and screw anyone who tries to go against that!
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He laughed because he’s like, “damn, I’m bout to get paid for doing nothing” 😂
Good for you! For not letting them push you around!
I had my daughter last week after watching this video & I just wanna say THANK YOU. I gave birth on all 4s without epidural & didn’t need any stitches! Definitely was better & much easier to push in this position vs laying on your back!
Omg! Thats amazing congratulations is this ur first baby?? I rly want to do Natural without epidural in a semi sitting or all four position did the hospital allow u? Was this best choice?? 🥰🥹 so nervous!!! Im due first week october
Thats amazing!!
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@@samt1019 Hi, how was it? Did you give birth natural or with epidural? Did you lie on your back?
@@sharibarnett5472 when they say labor is so unpredictable its so true i had a plan but sadly couldn’t do natural water broke and i didn’t dilate fast enough to avoid infection so they had to start me on pitocin still didnt dilate with pitocing so they had me try an epidural or i wouldve gotten a c section so i didnt want a c section so i agreed to epidural and within an 1 1/2 i dilated to a 10 from a 7 pushed for 15 mins on my back ! Healthy babygirl arrived perfectly!
I get SO frustrated when hospitals refuse to allow free movement simply for convenience’ sake. I am convinced that women being forced to lie on their backs during labor lead to so many unnecessary interventions that in turn cause many unwanted side effects. I had a natural home birth, and the two times I needed to lie on my back through a contraction (for fetal monitoring) was THE WORST torture of my life. If I’d been in a hospital being made to do my whole labor on my back, I would have been begging for an epidural or something to stop the absolutely horrific pain of being on my back. As it was, labor was hard, long, and painful, but I got through it, thanks to The Lord, my birth team, a birth pool, and the ability to change positions as often as I needed/wanted to! ☺️ So grateful for all the great info on this channel, I have recommended it to so many others who want to birth naturally at home or in the hospital! ♥️
Absolutely agree!
Please pray for my birth to go well! I am about to give birth for the first time in India in about seven weeks and am nervous about their hospital expectations.
It did, yes. It’s fighting the body’s anatomy.
I made sure to go to a hospital that let me have free movement. I had to insist that they not hook me up to the monitor, but it went well after that
I agree. My doctor told me they prefer the back. Clearly cause it’s easy for them. I still have not gotten a real answer to my question if the will let me push however I want to. So frustrating.
4:42 Side lying. 5:30 All fours. 6:35 Upright.
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As a guy who is not able to do any "classes" during the Covid pandemic, I must sincerely thank you for all of your videos. You offer so much great content and have really helped me and my wife to feel far more confident regarding our coming baby. Due in just over a week! Thanks again!
how did it go? :O i hope it went smoothly!
Reading the comments and I’m shocked that some of those doctors refused to let these mamas give birth on their backs, I believe giving birth on your back is only beneficial for the doctor but doctors are there to accommodate the moms. Definitely won’t be giving birth on my back and any doctor that refuses to let me do so will kindly be replaced.
Hi Bridget, could you make a video with a few tips on how to advocate for yourself in changing positions, etc? especially when the medical staff is being kinda pushy or guilt-tripping you into doing one thing or another. I'm far from even wanting to be a mom lol but I came across this video and the whole time I kept thinking, just based on my previous experiences with medical staff on completely different scenarios: I can't imagine nurses and doctors being on board with you wanting to change their plans. In my own experience, healthcare staff can be a bit harsh and relentless with what they think is right for you. I want to clarify that I am absolutely grateful for the work of doctors and nurses, but some times the line of who makes the calls becomes blurry, and I can totally see that happening in a situation like giving birth.
I also think this idea for a video would be so GREAT and encouraging. I have had two hospital births and felt discouraged due to my lack of being able to voice my preferences and advocating for myself. Whenever I wanted to do something differently than what the staff thought was convenient, I was questioned and felt like I was constantly having to defend myself…something really hard to do when you are trying to birth a baby naturally. I would LOVE a video on this topic.
midwives and labor & delivery nurses are usually very aware of all these positions etc and much more likely to allow and even encourage you to change and use more effective positions (especially if there is a birthing centre at hospital). of course it will depend on the hospital and the individual staff. I recommend Nurse Zabe on youtube - she is a labor and delivery nurse in US and has some really great content
If you're going with either an OB or Midwife, set an appointment for consultation once you find out your pregnant.
Discuss with them all options about giving birth, positions, unmedicated and medicated interventions, etc.
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Shop around before you settle on the person who will deliver your baby. Don't settle. Make sure to call hospital to find out what they allow or don't allow during labor and delivery.
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Don't settle for any hospital. Your health is a priority, the needs of your baby and body are important. Don't allow any medical professional to threat or bully you into any position.
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Make sure to have one family member present during the entire process to advocate for you. Don't go in alone.
Don’t let them push you around !!! You are the boss!!!
I voiced myself to my OB that in the birthing phase of labor I’d like to birth in the position I desire such as squatting, or standing...whatever works because laying reclined is not optimal and I’d like to work with gravity. She was extremely supportive and on board with what I wish to do and wants to honor and respect my desires. I’m excited for my birthing experience as I’m 39 weeks and 3 days so it’s coming soon. ☺️🙏
Same here! Im placing a major importance on freedom of movement! Im currently 33+4
How did it go? Were you still able to birth in squatting position? I’m 38w3days
How do you birth while squatting
I can't even lay on my back at 22 weeks, there is no way I'm going to be able to lay on my back full term. I have had a bit of anxiety about delivery because I don't want to lay on my back. I've been there for my best friend's deliveries and she's always had an epidural and pushed on her back. It's the opposite of what I want to do! Side lying looks amazing.
How did it go? I hope you were able to give birth in a natural birthing position.
I will be making my care providers watch this in the future! So helpful. I did not have an epidural during my first labor and was forced on my back during pushing. My body knew it was wrong. I kept telling my providers I needed to be upright and on hands and knees. That was when I felt the natural urge to push. On my back that urge disappeared and I felt this insane pain. I'm not exaggerating when I say my OB yelled at me: "This is how we do it. You either get on your back or I'm leaving." I wish first time moms were aware of how coercive and emotionally abusive providers can become in this final stage. I was told I could give birth in whatever position I wanted by my doulas but when it came time my provider literally yelled at me and would not help if I did not do it how he wanted. I was not prepared for that.
How do you avoid that ? It feels like you either give birth at home or you have to submit to these doctors
@@ene7939 where I live (Alberta, Canada) you can give birth in hospital with a midwife instead of an OB. Being able to choose the best birthing position for me was a factor in deciding on a midwife over an OB. The OB I saw told me I could labour in whatever position I want but they prefer you to push on your back so they have better access.
@@ene7939 Midwife always, and tell them your plan before you even go into labor
Definitely use a midwife! This is why I don’t use OBs.
“He”. Lol My aunt also had a bad experience with a male OB. That was in the 80s. I can’t believe they are still receiving the same insensitivity training these days
There is no way that they came up with the back birthing position by accident. It seems like something they deliberately created as a system of control.
It came about while male doctors experimented on enslaved women, they had them on their backs without anesthesia. Look up plantation medicine. When male doctors started taking over positions midwives used to hold, they kept the laying on the back position because it's easiest for the doctor to see and control that way.
Your videos have helped me tremendously. I gave birth to my first baby last Saturday. Water broke 3 weeks early and labor had not started, so I had to be induced. From using the breathing techniques to preparing to open up my pelvis a couple weeks in advance, I was able to push my baby out in 40 minutes. The pain was not as bad as I was in my zone determined to get him out. These videos are amazing thank you so much!
Congrats!!!
With my son I tried different positions, moving around, going in the water.. my body refused. I gave birth lying on my side and never knew it was a good position! Took 4h30 from start to finish for a 10 pounds baby with a head in the 99th percentile! About to give birth now for the third time ❤️
Lol I'm not even pregnant and I'm watching this 😂
Hahahah same....
lol me too 😭
No shame in learning about this, many people will need to know this info at some point whether you're the birthing mom or her spouse, sister, birth helper, being prepared makes it so much easier
I love when she starts the video with “Hey mama”
I delivered my baby girl (first child) on my hands and knees with a peanut ball in front of me. On 1/27/21 ❤️🙌🏻☺️
How was that for you? I’m 38 weeks and I definitely what to try different positions
@@TheyCallMeChazzy i hope all goes well!
@@TheyCallMeChazzy I’m just seeing this you may of already had your baby so I might be kinda late lol, but it went very well for me! I only tore in one place very minimally, and I healed up so so quick.
@Keanna Leclair Aquarius baby♒
Happy belated birthday to your baby!
Then why do doctors impose women to lay on their backs during delivery? Is it that they are not aware of the pelvic mechanism or what? It's a great punishment. Thank you for this video. I'm not gonna be forced to do that.
So helpful!! Aiming for a low/no intervention birth here in the next 7 weeks!
I’m due at the same time as you ❤️
Same here ❤️ hope all goes well ladies
Yay March babies!!! We’re due the 24th!!! Best wishes to you both 💖💖
I’m due March 23rd!!! We got this!! 🤍
I just did it last night! You can do this! I pushed upright leaning over the back of the hospital bed
I did a lot of laboring on all 4s but ended up giving birth side lying with support from my midwife. I never thought I would deliver that way but it felt right in the moment
Can you make a video of the different positions that partners can help release oxytocin and how they can help through labor? For example swaying with your partner during contractions or them providing counter pressure
You make the clearest, no-nonsense videos ever. Thank you so much for all that insight!
After three attempts to birth the way my body needed to in the hospital and having the hospital not allow it, I went to home birth. My midwife was fantastic!! She allowed me to labor and deliver while standing. I had four easy quick labors at home.
It is well known that laying on your back (or in the missionary position) is one of the hardest and most painful ways for a woman to push a baby out. So, why do so many hospitals even use this position anymore? 80 to 85% of the hospital birth videos on UA-cam have the woman on her back pushing. There are so many proven and better positions that can easily be used during delivery.
Convenience and because most mothers are on drugs (epidural fentanyl)
I’m due in 5 days and I’m so glad your videos exist! Hate that women are so often restricted to our backs. (Also when your head and the cabinets line up just right it looks like little bear ears 😆)
Hope it's going well!! Lol on the little bear! 🐻
I have a 2.5 year old, 18month old and am due baby number 3 anyday now. With my last two, there was no way you was getting me on my back. I delivered on all fours. Had bruised knees for weeks after ( had 20+hours labours). But had lovely midwifes who let me do what i needed to do. They didnt even tell me when to push. Just old my hubby "she knows what shes doing, her body will tell her".
This was the biggest disappointment during my birth experience - I wanted to give birth in the tub, but they kept telling me to lay back even though I wanted to squat. And then because it wasn't working they forced me onto the bed even though I wanted to stand at the edge and let gravity do its thing. So I gave birth lying on my back with my knees up holding my breath. I'm thankful for an easy labor, but I hated the delivery part because I was in so much pain that I couldn't think straight enough to advocate for myself. Couldn't have my doula because of covid. Ended up with a 1st degree tear and am scared that I'll be forced to do something I don't want to again if I have another baby.
This is exactly why I'm having a home birth.. I hated how pushy the medical staff was
I don't know where you're from, but I live in South America and was also so dissapointed by this...
When I hadn't got the epidural yet, my body was telling me so bad to sit down, move, but the nurses kept telling me to stay on my back. At one point I even asked a nurse "how come I can't be in the position I want, if I'm the one who's giving birth???", and he simply replied "I'm sorry, you can't". I was so vulnerable and tired that I didn't do anything about it. But whenever I remember it, I get so frustrated and sad.
The birth went well, but the worst part was when my son came out of me, and they literally put him on my chest and then took him away for about 2 hours without giving me any explanation. We're both fine now (he's 9 months), but those missing hours with him will always ache.
Educate yourself about how labor & delivery is with the dr/midwife you see. I delivered with a midwife in a hospital and I was able to advocate for the birth I wanted.
@@MarieWR I'm so sorry you didn't get to have that time with your baby ❤
@@Ididntwantayoutubehandl I also delivered with a midwife in a hospital. I had zero choice in where I delivered because of where I lived and who took our insurance (believe me, I tried to seek alternatives). Even with all of the research and preparation, I just happened to arrive at the hospital when a less-than-understanding midwife was on her shift. Sometimes you don't have a choice. But next time around we'll be living in a place with options, so fingers crossed that I can find a team that I wholeheartedly trust.
I'm 38 weeks 1 day and because of your videos, I'm excited and looking forward to labor! This is my first baby and I was nervous that my body wouldn't know what to do in its own, but already I'm 3 centimeters dilated and 80% effaced! I believe a lot of that has to do with the tips and tricks I've learned from you. Thank you! God is answering prayers!
What things specifically have you been doing if you dont mind me asking, 32 weeks currently, :)
When did u loose your mucus plug🤨
Ahhh!! Congrats
Thanks so much for your video, Bridget. I'm an American living in the UK, and have given birth to my two sons here (now pregnant with my third child). While the NHS certainly has its problems, I LOVE the midwife culture here, and the focus on mother-baby well-being and natural processes. It's made me very curious about how maternity care in the US became so 'medicalized', and so dismissive of more body/nature oriented ways of thinking. I'm sure it's an interesting story! Thanks again for the video--I wanted to hear about different positions to try in the birthing pool for #3!
I wanted to turn around & get on my knees when I was in labor with my first child & I kept asking if I could but the nurses kept saying no. I was so uncomfortable.
What positions do you recommend for those who have previously had a third or fourth degree tear? I gave birth to my son on my back against my wishes and I think that significantly contributed to my tear, so now being pregnant with my second, I'm trying to figure out how to avoid that situation and avoid tearing, without birthing on my back. Any suggestions would be most appreciated.
Hey Lauren! I am a pelvic health physiotherapist working with moms - I would recommend for sure doing the perineal stretch a few weeks prior to your due date to make sure the scar tissue is nice and flexible. Here is a video to help you: ua-cam.com/video/1YVqMIa_73Y/v-deo.html You will also want to use breathing out technique while pushing (as opposed to blocking the breath) to have a more progressive stretch on the pelvic floor. I review breathing techniques on this video: ua-cam.com/video/sIBnLrTt7y8/v-deo.html Also I don't know what the context of your tear was, but for women who had a fast "explosive" birth leading to tearing, I recommend low gravity position to push (such as on the side) so you can better control your pushing speed and slow things down a little bit. Anyway - hope this helps!!! Good luck 💜
@@BeyondBirthingPelvicFloorPT thanks for the video of perineal massage. So you're saying laying on my side is better for delivery rather than on all fours?
@@truthandbeautyco I think both positions would be good choices, all fours is also considered low gravity ❤️
What do you do when your OB won’t allow you to deliver in a different position then your back? I’m 36 weeks. I’ve asked multiple times, have been preparing for different positions, and I’m very discouraged.
Hi Bridget! I am a future mom currently in 34 weeks. My baby girl has the umbilical cord around her neck and I am literally freaking out here, especially when she has hiccups thinking that she might be lacking oxygen. My OB told me to consider a C section but I do not want that, though I will do whatever it takes to have her healthy. At ultrasound they didn't find any threats but I am still very concerned. Please help me with some information!!! Thank you!
How did it go?
I had a big tear, 8 stitches, so all of these positions aren't recommended to me? I am traumatized with my first childbirth
Thanks so much for this info! So is there a position you do recommend for mamas who had a previous 3rd or 4th degree tear?
In one of her other videos she recommends giving birth on all 4s if you've previously torn
I got 7 weeks left being pregnant , the reason why I chose to
Work with the midwives at my local hospital was because of different positions , I want to rely on gravity
I’m due in 4 days. So excited. Binging on your videos to retain information for this natural birth
How was your birth?😭❤️
What’s crazy is laboring in the hospital with my first before they even admitted me, they kept trying to get me to lay on my back. I just wanted to be in my hands and knees.
39 weeks here and I'm binging your videos! My 1st labor and delivery was uncomplicated but, I labored and delivered on my back. I didn't think anything of it at the time, though I thought I simply couldn't go on because the pain was so unbearable. I actually asked for an epidural but never got one because the anesthesiologist kept getting pulled into emergency c-sections. Anyway, I'm wondering now if i would have been able to cope better in a different position or not. Pushing on my back felt great for what it's worth. 3 "breaths" and the baby was out. But the contractions of labor were absolute hell. This time I'll try a few positions to see what works!!
Could you share your second experience ? Did you try new positions?
"Women know how to innately give birth"... the same way people innately know how to squat and climb and jump. The problem is our modern lifestyles have made many modern people who don't practice these things have lost all this knowledge and are starting from zero
If you had a severe tear with baby #1 and you are recommending not to use these 3 positions, what position would you recommend? I would love to avoid tearing again and would love any recommendations.
I've given birth on my back, squatting with a birth stool, standing with support, and lying on my side. My back was by far the worst of all my births.
Learning with my daughter as she is getting ready to have her baby…. Oh I wish we had these videos 25 years ago!
Due in 2 weeks. My OB says she's fine with me trying different labor positions but when it comes to my actual delivery she wants me on my back or reclining. :( I hope she lets me do the side lying for that part because back lying is already uncomfortable for me at this phase.
Just remember it’s all about consent you can’t be forced to do anything you don’t want to do, including laying on your back your birth experience is about not just bringing your baby into the world but you and your own well being, good luck! 😊
@@belleobrien7971 not in Romania 🙈 I’m terrified of giving birth in the hospital. You can’t do what you want even if you feel that’s ok for you. Because you’re not the expert 🤪
I was told the same thing in the U.S. that i could labor in any position but when it’s time to push the baby out I need to lay on my back.
I’m 37+5 weeks now and I watched your all videos this is my second pregnancy . My first birth was with epidural and My labour was 22 hours mostly laying on my back. This time I really want to try these positions 🤲 I hope everything will be fine for me and all pregnancy women😘
Right , I don’t think it would even feel comfortable pushing out a turd laying down 🤣🤣
dear Bridget i tried so hard for natural birth and believed everything you said but ended up with C-section , i feel bad for me and my son that i couldn't make it , C-section is not a good thing i know
I hope you can find healing. I also was hoping for natural birth but had a 3 day labor to 9 cm but ended with c section after 6 hours of pushing and not having any more energy and no way to emotionally cope with the pain. I still struggle with the feeling of inadequacy as a woman and regret of how things played out.
What has happened has happened, you are no less of a woman or mom because of how your birth played out. Hope you and baby are well.
@@Xanxer thankyou 🙂
A c-section is a good thing if it provided a safe outcome for you and your baby! As moms it’s so difficult not to feel guilty even over things we can’t control. Hoping you and baby are doing well!
You're a strong mama for bringing your baby here safe! No matter HOW u did it! Good job mama!!
@@SaraSilva-bz5nw yeah i tried my best, thankyou
All these birthing positions are probably used for conceiving too 😂
Lol full circle 😅
Ok u said that if youve had a tear before u shouldnt do those positions. What if its ur first time giving birth, will any of the 3 positions u mentioned increase the chances of tearing? I wanna do the one that lowers my chances the most.
I’m pregnant with my fourth child, had all three without pain relief and plan to with this one as well. I always laid on my back and I want to try a different position this time around. With my third my midwife said I could give birth how ever comfortable but I was so scared baby would fall on the floor.
Great video! I was in all of these positions to get my water to break and birth baby. First vaginal birth only pushed for two hours thanks to my doula. After not much progress in squatting upright over the back of the bed then squatting using squat bar on the edge of bed she suggesting side laying. Was a pain moving positions because I was so tired but it worked. Two more pushes and baby was out with no tears. Highly recommend having a doula!
I was trying to squat and push him out but the nurses kept trying to put me on my back. I knew I wasn't crazy. He ripped me wide open.
I've learned nurses are very pushy you just have to be stren and confident
Your videos are SO helpful! I can't thank you enough for all of these educational videos. It makes such a difference to have this wealth of info from a professional available for free.
I pushed out my first in a modified all fours position on the hospital bed: the head of the bed was raised and I faced it and leaned against it, and the bottom most part of the bed was out of the way so that my OB could still have pretty good access. It worked well for me, and I hope to try it again (or one of your 3!) for my upcoming delivery 👍🏻
Your videos are so helpful! I love watching them to help me prepare to become a mama for the first time in a few weeks! (Been watching since before pregnancy lol!)
I gave birth to my second in what they called the throne position. It was what I kinda asked for was to sit up. It felt very natural.
With both my births I tried avoiding laboring on my back then I would get tired and ended up laboring on my back 😔 i am currently 23 weeks pregnant and I’m really hoping this time is different
I love the way you explain things!❤️
I wad basically squatting with a birth ball until it was time to push i was uncomfortable a bit but then just felt relaxed to be laying down i think i wanted to shift to my side a couple times but it was a reasonable easy birth alhamdulillah. I think bevause my baby then wad a bit under and now i am gonna find out if they'll do the side position. I had such a long nice labour 2 and half days so blessed with the breathing techniques you showed.
The squat was definitely most helpful to me. Thank you!
Ill be entering my 39th week from day after, what should I do for natural labour , as I m not getting any symptoms yet till now
She has videos talking about inducing labor naturally.
Same with me.... I am worried
What if that position is sitting up? my labors have never progressed me past a 6 dilation. Should I actively think of labor as an exercise in moving as much as possible, in order to activate baby's head?
I'm 37 weeks pregnant and can't stop watching your videos! You are informative and empowering - such a gift to expecting moms and dads! Question: I downloaded your birthing affirmations. Do you have any music playlists for labor/delivery?
So grateful for my doula with my first baby. She helped me get off my back and into the squat position using a squat bar in a hospital setting. That is the position that I birthed my baby in and I caught him myself.
Can people give birth standing up
In labor as we speak lol
Why the heck do people even still give birth lying down
I had absolutely no idea about different kinds of positions and what happens when you tell them you want to push in your own position. I'm 39 weeks, glad I came across your video
Me either until my 3rd was coming so fast It was too late for the epi. I felt NO contractions in the squatting position. Only the pressure of the baby was coming down and my body was pushing without any effort from myself
Do you think doing the 'upright' position in water birth scenario can reduce tearing?
I’m not pregnant nor do I plan to be pregnant any time soon but just want to be prepared when the time comes 😂
Same lol 😂 always thought that it was counterproductive to lay down while giving birth
Squatting is more likely to cause tearing and i already suffer from fissures so there should be a warning for this position
Thanks for the video! Due with baby number 3 tomorrow and have been binge watching these vids every evening 😁
I had a 3rd degree tear with my first baby, I'm due anytime with my second...what position is best for me to try? I wasn't sure what you meant at the end. Thank you!
Me too, I'd really like to know what our options could be😢
So with previous 3rd or 4th degree tears, what's the recommended birthing position?
Gravity!
Can i lunge ? Would that work? I feel like that would be most comfortable for me
My position is hands & knees 😊
I just went straight to lying on my side on the bed. I was labouring in the shower on all fours. I had a moment where my contractions stopped before I had the urge to push and I asked to go to the bed so I could nap 😂😂. Labour and delivery was total of 3 hours and 41 minutes. I pushed for about 5 minutes tops.
What to do suggest for post natal tummy band or bind?
This is extremely helpful
I am so glad I found this video long before the due date of my third baby! I’ve only had one labour because my second pregnancy ended in miscarriage. However for my first labour I ended up in a reclined sitting position which resulted in an episiotomy due to the panic of my baby’s heart slowing down dramatically. I will never go in that position again! For this second labour I plan on going on hands and knees!
What would be your top position for reducing tearing risk?
The position a mother naturally assumes
Thank you for your informative and very comprehensive videos ❤️
I was on my back for my last two births. But it was what I preferred/ felt more comfortable. I thought I was going to choose being all fours, but if I was in any position except my back the contractions and vaginal pain/pressure would get too intense making it hard to breathe through. Maybe because I have big babies?
I'm almost 35 weeks with my third now and this time around I can visualize being on all four more and I have been using that position to relax in
I learned this on my own with my 3rd baby, he was coming so fast It was too late for the epi. I felt NO contractions in the squatting position. Only the pressure of the baby coming down and my body was pushing without any effort from myself. 1.5 hours of active labor and 10 min of... Barely pushing.
36 weeks and 3 days, I’m already 2 cms and 75% could be any day at this point.
best of luck!
So satisfying to know that we are doing such a natural and great job of giving birth.... your videos are a therapy actually 🥰 give relief from birth anxiety. 🥰
1st baby, i was made to lie down..and o the tear.
Trying to click the link for the guided affirmations and it's taking me to a 404 page....
Do we have the right to tell doctors/nurses what position we want?
Yes absolutely! I was lucky enough to have great nurses who advocated for me when the doctor wanted me to get on my back and I refused. I was already on my hands and knees and it felt right, I only pushed for 20 minutes, and this is my first baby. So glad I didn’t let the doctor talk me into getting on my back.
yes! But Drs can be very pushy and insensitive about what they think is best. whatever, even if a doctor DEMANDED mama birthed in the american TV position what's Dr gonna do if she refuses, forbid the labor? Lol... We're here to push out a kid, not make friends with quacks
Of course you do! You have the right to your body. The doctor works for you! Not the other way around!
Such helpful advice!!! Thank You
AS a doula, thank you for more information.
Weirdly enough, with my home birth, despite my back labor, laying on my back was MOST comfortable. Maybe I should say least painful lol I tried hands and knees and noped right out of that position, it was excruciating.
My first birth about 2 years ago now, I had a 3rd degree tear, and I'm getting close to having baby #2 and considering these alternative positions instead of being on my back. You mentioned that these positions might not be best for me now since I've had a 3rd degree tear in the past. What do you recommend now since I've had that history?
I laboured upright until i had to push, then i was on my.knees. i had a terrible back pain in supine position. Our bodies naturally know.
how do we approach this with our care providers? here anything you say that's contrary to regular practice is seen as offensive, as you questioning them and their competence etc.
You mention not to do these positions if you’ve had a 3rd degree year. Were you referring to only #3 (upright) or all of these position? I had a tear with my first and pregnant again, due in 7 weeks. Ideally I’d like to do side lying or on all 4s.
My labia ripped into pieces and tore chunks off with my first birth. I was forced to lay on my back. At the end you say to avoid these fr risk of re tearing? Which position is best then?
You said these aren’t good positions for a mama who has had a 3rd degree tear in a previous birth. What are good pushing options for mamas who have torn in the past that aren’t on the back?
So i had my third baby naturally in Japan, and i remember when i was crowning and asked so many time to leave the laying down position because it was so unconfortable and they would not let me move... i asked so many times.. i told them i felt better on the side or wanted to turn but they would not let me because of protocol's ! Now i'm going to have another baby in a week and that is what i remember the most.. and i really hope they would let me do what i want to do in the end
Did it go better this time?
Wow so inconsiderate. On the side they can pretty much see and control everything just as well, why would that be rejected. Unbelievable that they make it more difficult for moms to go through this process
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Thank you so much for all your amazing videos! I have issues with my sacrum causing me serious back pain and unfortunately have not been able to find help yet. Now that I have this basic knowledge I feel motivated to learn more and be as prepared as possible for giving birth in June!