Gender Identity and Religion
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Okay, so I'm a devout Christian.
I think what this customer did was TOTALLY uncalled for. I'm so sorry these are the kinds of people represent us. And I'm sorry you went through that class--you're a human, of course you deserve equal rights!
Sharing the love of the god we believe in is our mission--not shoving it down their throat, or trying to "fix" them--especially to LGBT folk. But for goodness sake we're not called to go around trying to convert strangers and tell them how to act--that's not our place AT ALL.
I resent the people in my community who form relationships solely to convert people. This comment will probably get a lot of hate--I get that. But I'm just so sorry that these kinds of people are the ones representing Christians. This isn't who we are.
Stef I hope you know you have lots of love, support, and no judgement from a Christian subscriber. Keep being you!
LJ G ♥️♥️♥️well said♥️♥️♥️
It's not hate that you're going to get, at least not from Christian's anyway!! I am also a Christian!! That said how do you know what the lady even said to her/him?? If you are a Christian then you should've known that we are called b GOD to tell people the gospel!! To plant the seeds the Holy Spirit Will do the rest! To try and save people from going to HELL!! We are NOT trying to CONVERT people to Christian's!! It has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with RELIGION, GET IT!!
If someone was walking into a burning building would you not try and stop them??? Well t is exactly what Stef is basically doing!! All that said.. maybe that last did go about it the wrong way, I DON'T KNOW AND NEITHER DO YOU, because you weren't there!! So stop apologizing for Christian's when you should be sticking up for them!!! THAT is why I DO NOT believe you are A REAL CHRISTIAN!! You only SAY you are when it is convenient for you to do so! Like around your OTHER so called Christian friends!!! I think you get it, now go rethink your christianity before you lose it altogether!!!
**GOD BLESS YOU!!!**
It's crazy that people could be so rude and invasive. I am a Christian, and I think there's a time and place to talk about it when a person is open to it. But the way she came at you it was like she automatically assumed you were some lost soul purely based on the way you look. That's disgusting. I LOVE that you said people shouldn't push atheism too. I've been bullied the same way by atheists before. People need to live and let live. I think you're such a freakin' awesome person. :)
I agree completely! I'm Christian too and thinks it's completely off putting when people start preaching at others just because they don't agree with their lifestyle. I love his videos too!
Totally agree!
I agree with you, to an extent. As Christians, we are to live for Christ and have Him live through us. Yes, not all people want to talk religion or tell testimonials, but by living a joyful life knowing that Jesus is our savior helps emanate that from us. People see that we are different and I believe THAT is missional on its own.
+Roshelle Ciprian
I completely agree...I'm Christian as well and I would never shove my beliefs down someone else's throat.
It is pretty much my biggest fear to misgender someone or use the wrong pronouns! However I never know how to ask someone what pronoun they prefer because i'm scared people will take offense to just asking that question. In your experience whats the most polite way to ask?
Tbh make sure you ask them one on one, never in a group of people. Just politely ask 'do you have any correct/preferred gender pronouns you'd like me to use?'
Mo Mo O'Brien That's your biggest fear? Seriously?
well I mean spiders and slender man are up there too, but hurting someones feelings is THE WORST FEELING IN THE WORLD
Yeah, if you don't know someones gender always use they/them or their name. But if you do know what pronouns they want used using they/them 24/7 is misgendering (not a lot of people know that so I thought I'd put that out there)
Mo Mo O'Brien My biggest fear is to ask a heterosexist about what pronoun to use and they will break my legs ... -.-
I was born into a family that followed a religion where one of the major requirements was literally trying to convert as many people as possible whenever the opportunity presents itself. Combined with their rule about actively shunning anyone who disagrees with their beliefs (even if they're family members), I started seeing just how wrong it all was only a few years ago, not because someone told me that it was, but because I realized just how much it infringed on other peoples' lives. I have seen families torn apart and lives left in ruins as a result of that setup, and I can tell you from personal experience that trying to force any system of beliefs on anyone never results in anything good.
+CoriSparks If I may ask, did you up in the Amish community? Or FLDS? Scientology, maybe? Sorry, just curious. I'm a student of research, and religion has been a big topic of interest for me. There are certain qualities I find amazing about certain Christian sects, but I could not live in a community wherein shunning was practiced. I'm sorry you've had to see this happen around you. I hope you have been more fortunate in your familial relationships.
Kayra Jordyn
Actually it was Jehovah's Witnesses. They're pretty much exactly like the LDS except they don't use any apocryphal texts and don't even let you celebrate holidays, get involved in politics and (sort of) don't let you go to college.
I was born into a community of jehovah's witnesses as well, and it definately did more damage to me and my sister(especially since neither of us are straight)than the good it promised. My mother was even violent and would take her anger out on us while my dad was at work, when we didn't fit into her idea of perfect. And then she as well as the rest put themselves on a pedestal for being so "kind" when they don't associate with people outside of their religion outside of minimal human contact. Anyway I'll stop rambling, just wanted to say it's nice to see someone who understands.
Tabitha Sdunek
Ah, sorry... I just assumed with all the similarities that they'd do that... I guess that makes them better than the JWs... o.O
+CoriSparks that actually sounds closer to how I was raised in an organization called Opus Dei. I've recently come to the shocking realization that it's a cult within Roman Catholicism (despite many years being convinced that it wasn't). They try to convert everyone to Catholicism and make Catholics into members. While they don't openly shun people who disagree with their beliefs, since all the members but the priests hold everyday jobs, we were taught to look down on them and treat them with an almost, I don't know, fake niceness? I don't know how to describe it. And believe me, we were taught to be prejudiced against anyone that wasn't an Opus Dei member. So that's almost everyone.
Hell, the worst part is that: Even if you aren't a member (on any level), if you were raised in that society and almost your whole family is a part of it, there is still close to no escape. Especially since they have a base in every metropolitan area of the US (that i know of so far).
by the way im a muslim and i believe any human is allowed to be who they need to be to keep themselves happy! so you do you and be happy !!!
I think you are the first person I've seen in any youtube comment to declare that they are muslim. Seeing this made my day. Not to be weird about it haha! It's just that stereotypes really piss me off especially ones about gender identity, sexual orientation, and religion. Lately it's been really bothering me that people these days are making Muslims out to be enemies-- that they're unaccepting and hateful. Which is absolutely ridiculous! As if you can say anything negative about anyone based on their religion. Besides, it's the people who SAY those things who are hateful and unaccepting. They are blind.
What if a masochist became a serial killer? Would you still allow them to do whatever they want to be happy? :/
Luna dont be stupid and besides the point. And Kristen,im glad it made your day. And yes, not all people that call themselves muslims are actually muslims! Some people are a sorry excuse for there misinterpretation of our religion and should go study some more before they comment on what our religion teaches. Aaaah i could go on for hours but all ill say it Salam alykum (peace be upon you) and have a lovely day!!
Janine Faul My comment has nothing to do with Islamic religion.
Both your eyebrows and your argument is on point.
Thank you for being you. My child is gender non-conforming at five years old and he's been like this since he could start forming words. It's a struggle to get family to understand why I am letting him be himself but I think they are slowly coming around. Luckily, we have found so many supportive people, including his school which gives me a lot of hope for the future. He loves to watch your videos with me and immediately comes over to sit on my lap when he hears your voice. :)
This is actually so sweet and means a lot to me!
Stefan Sanjati
Thank you so much! I told him and his face lit up like a Christmas tree. :D
I completely agree with you! I'm a religious person but I LOVE diversity, I love that there are many other religions in this world and so many different people with so many different opinions! There is always something new to discover! :) And as you say, just don't push your beliefs on other people, that's not okay!
exactly!
If you were a devoted religious person, you would not said this. All the worldly religions are agree in this issue and have a clear and strict rule about it.
I just came here from your 4month estrogen update and wow!! There is such a huge difference! I'm so happy for you!
when you brought up the "Christians going to Africa and converting" conversation. You are so right in so many ways on that one because in the early 1900's they did that to many of my Navajo (Diné) people. They stripped away our language and culture. I am so happy I found your channel because you are so many and you help me be more open minded!
*funny
+Cassie Morris christianity has a long history of destroying the cultures of others.
+Cassie Morris It is IMPOSSIBLE to force someone into believing Christianity. If someone is converted, it is because they felt inspired to do so. Nobody can make someone believe in a religion. Do really think African people are stupid and can't discern their faith for themselves? Everyone and anyone is called to Christianity despite race, gender, culture, sexuality or standing in life. It is not a "western" religion. It is universal. It began with a Jewish baby in a little manger in Bethlehem and has spread to every continent on the earth. Open your mind and your heart.
Just found your channel, you rock!!! I sub lol
Love how your also accepting of other people's beliefs too and it also doesn't change who you are :D
OMG!! SO COOL!
I sub!! YAY! You rock!!
+Joeyblondewolf2 OMG! I watch your videos!!!!!
joeyblondewolf2 I'm subscribed to you! and I think you rock! :)
that last line was great! "DESTROY THE GENDER BINARY"! lol love it. :)
I have a family member who is transgender, and I sent her your youtube channel. I think you are a sweet and beautiful person inside and out! Continue to be yourself!
you are an amazing human
Thank you.
I am so so so proud of stef. I just scrolled through her channel bc ive been around here for about a year maybe more but i just came back to this and just seeing how much shes grown and how comfortable she is with herself now makes me so happy. She has come so far.
Stef, just wanted to say I just found your channel a few days ago and I've been watching your videos and I love them! You're very inspiring and a GREAT role model for embracing who you are. I'm also a makeup artist so I love your beauty videos and will continue watching! Thanks for being awesome!
About 48% of the LGBT community in the United States identify as Christian. Unfortunately the ignorant masses will never understand what it means to be a gay/trans Christian. There are a lot of loving, understand straight Christians out there who will only show you love and kindness. Sadly there are also plenty who will tell you that you're a mistake. All you can do is genuinely pity them and if you believe, pray for them. 💜 Love your channel. 💜
+Juliet L. I think you should do what you feel is right in your heart sweety,religion can be harsh sometimes but the truth is no one is perfect,keep that in mind,my humble opinion.
+Juliet L. yes anyone and everyone is allowed to follow and love Jesus, the only thing you must do is believe that he died for you. but I will warn you, once you decide to follow him fully he will change your heart, I used to be a very lustful person(which is a sin) even while I was with my boyfriend who I believe one day will be my husband, but because I followed him and pray and built a relationship with him he made it easier to let go of that sin and now I only have eyes for my boyfriend because I know God has blessed me with him
+summerlynn lewis thank you for your comment
+Eliz Partn yea that's so true God and Jesus can change you and make you want to change into a better person it's so inspiring
Telling someone they're invalid is actually against Christianity, but it is a sin you know. on that note though, sins are just what Christians themselves try to avoid, and the bible says to invite people with love, not hate. so the christian who discriminate do not understand ):
I love how religious people treat every place they go to like church. (As a christian) I feel taking others feelings into consideration is more important than your confusion on people who aren't exactly like you in looks, gender (or lack of) and beliefs. I love your videos and I love you! :)
Love you too!
Many times I've caught myself smiling while listening to you talk... Just love your whole being and attitude about life and respect for others. If only half the people treated each other like that, earth would be a safer, and nicer place. Your mission of educating people on transgender is being achieve beyond your intention. I think it's educating everyone that comes across the channel to be more accepting, respectful and embracing of everyone's individuality and life choices. Just be and let be.
I've only watched 2 of your videos so far and I'm so glad I found you on UA-cam. You're amazing!
Religion should be one's own personal business. It has no place out in society or in politics. Period.
would you ever consider putting a video together that is a compilation your transition over the last two or three years were you show like 30 second Snippets of some of your more acute or severe growth as an individual maturity as an individual? I think would be really cool! Love your stuff
hi! i had a question, and i really hope this doesnt come across as offensive, but you mentioned how you identify as male and therefore use male pronouns. in a situation when i see someone who might be male but dresses feminine/wears makeup/etc, how do i know which pronoun to use? :( i understand some might prefer female and some male, and i dont want to use the wrong one until i know what that person prefers but it seems ridiculous to be like "hi do i call you he or she?" when i first meet them! hope you get what i mean hahaha and i just randomly found your channel a few minutes ago, love you already :)
When you don't know what pronouns people use and it's not a safe place to ask "What pronouns do you prefer?", it's usually best to avoid any gender specific words for them. For example, instead of saying he/him or she/her, say they/them. Hopefully that's helpful.~
Fatima Shirazi If you dont know them, ask their name! normally if you know their name, its either a girl name, or a boy name. Unless if they have a unisex name! Try that out, and also, like Stefan said, use they/them!
Leyla May thats a good suggestion!! thank you :)
You can always ask someone which pronouns they prefer.
Stefan Sanjati if im not sure i usually just say "dear" ... is that shitty of me or am i on safe grounds? :/
I honestly never questioned.. whether you were a girl or guy. I honestly am watching your videos because you are human. O.o idk. I just don't care.
XD Hope you don't take that badly.
Hannah High love this
Hannah High You are an amazing human being. :)
Hannah High oh, aren't you the greatest person ever?! you must look in the mirror and think "I'm quite satisfied with myself"
I just saw these! Thank you Paisley and Kimberley Myree! And just so you know Ana Puscau, I am EXTREMELY happy in my own skin.
Hannah High same here. i just go "oo pretty" and listen to them. XD
I understand that this is a serious video and I love that you talk so honestly and open about important things like this and I LOVE your point of view ... BUT I am already pissing my pants because of laughter at minute 1.13 because of the looks you´re giving the camera. You are hilarious but bringing your point across so well. I wish nothing but good for you in life. :-)
Omg i love you openness and the way you handle situations! It is so hard to come across someone is isn't trying to please someone or impress anyone. I think you are so unique and open and i love it!
Yeah*! Just today at my work I had a lady, in her 60's, tell me she was "amazed your able to run around out there, that once you leave work I'm suprised they dont arrest you!" And I was like,'what mama?' And she pointed to my hands which currently have an adorable manicure with rainbows and unicorns, like, each nail is a little different but same, and she then said "those nails ard outta control! I'm suprised they alow you to be like that" at first I thought it was a jokembc almost Everyone I spkke to had commented in a positive way, and she specifically said outside the office, so she didnt mean dresscode,, but Then, the third time she's stated this weirdass comment I realized, oh, its the rainbows, she thinks its gay pride. I then responded with,"well *name*, thankfully in THIS country we still have rights and the right to express ourselves", she shook her head and said, 'no, we dont' and walked away. I was very upset, first, because an ignorant person got offended by unicorns and rainbows , two, because its SUPER SCARY that people really think cops and authority have that much controll (they're tryin but not there yet), and also thirdly it pissed me off how judgmental she was once she thought I was gay. I'm not, but even if I were, after all the times I've helped her, all of a sudden Now, she couldn't even be bothered bc she thought I was into chicks. I work at a large Cardiologists office in Indiana, outside Chicago so there's a lot of drama going on in our state, more than normal, but still. Very scary the ignorance level todsy
cassandra sotos Man, people are so unnecessarily rude and judgemental these days.... I'm finding it harder and harder to deal with people every day!
cassandra sotos wtf? Like, just reading that comment confused me. Like, it's weird that she even somehow made that connection. Anyways, how can someone be so close minded to even think that people should be arrested for their sexuality. That's terrible.
Yes, terrible and terribly SCARY!!!
cassandra sotos Wow, you need a change in profession.
Some old people don't like to see the change that is coming with newer generations. People should really say their opinion without being rude.
Though I somewhat agree with her "no we don't" comment. 😂
You are such an amazing and insightful individual ❤️ by far one of my favorite UA-camrs.
Aw thanks, I really appreciate that
"I identify as a boy and use male pronouns". Haha. Hindsight is interesting. You go girl!
I'm sure I'm older than you but you help me grow up. That bit about loving to do something by yourself and not needing others to do it with you just made me think about a lot of things going on in my life. I'm glad I found you Stef.
I recently stumbled upon your videos. I think you are a great representative of what this world needs right now. I think you're absolutely gorgeous (eyes, make up, etc!), and your view on what people need to achieve in the current generation is on point. Be exactly who you want to be and don't undermine anyone who has a different view point. Be respectful of anyone no matter what. There's no reason to even mention color, religion, gender, etc. Just respect everyone.
Thank you for being a face of equality! I hope to see many more of your videos and hope you make a stand (maybe more publicly) for equality for everyone!
oh geez, i feel you there
it's so freakin fuckin annoying when someone comes at me for any reasons with their religion pre made sentences like i need to find the light or something...
i'm like "yeah yeah whatever, i'm good with me doing me, i don't believe in this, so back off"
and they keep doing it !!!! "i feel sorry for your soul"
and it never stops.
there is 2 options with religious people ! option one, that person believes and accepts you don't believe. option 2, that person believes and HAS to push it all the time towards people who aren't believers like it will make any difference.
you can't force anyone to do anything specially making them believe or making them stop believing.
and there's that annoying things about being gay and being lost like "god will heal you" ... i mean. HEAL really ? do they think being gay is being SICK then ? and like, i don't believe in god, so i need to be healed too ? XD that's just so so rude ...
and like those are the same person saying "god loves everyone" but then, you are not "fully" loved because you're not in their fuckin standard of what a human should be like or act like.
bullshits.
anyone can just be who they are, that's the point here, if there's a god, then he doesn't care about how you were born or your gender or non gender or sexual orientation or skin color or anything.
yeaaah i'm quite passionate about this XD
Personally, 99% of the time, i will say "he" even if that perso has make up and long hair. You were born as a man, until you describe yourself as a transgender, then i suppose he/she can work. and the next step would be someone who fills like a different gender inside their own body (a woman with a man body), like gigi gorgeous. to me, she's a woman, period.
Anyway ... i agree with you 100%
Sakuems OMIGOD Sakuems I found you here! xD I never expected you to watch drag queens c;
Sakuems I usually just stare them in the eyes saying "I don't have a soul" with my deepest voice. Keeps most of them of.
I CANT BELIEVE HOW FAR SHE HAS GONE IN 1 YEAR!!!! OMFG
Look now
It's so great looking back on this and seeing how Stef has come into herself. Not just transition wise, she just seems more happy and comfortable.
omg I love you your videos give me so much confidence!
I really hate it too when people tell me what do do (which are most likely strangers) and now you just made me realise why they are doing this ilysm
"its just my BELIEFS that you shouldn't get married or have basic human rights" someone needs a slap in the face
I completely agree! We live in what is considered the "bible Belt" of America and it is a rough place to live if you aren't a "good-ole-boy-southern-Baptist" ....especially if you are gay/trans. My oldest child is transgendered and we are in the early stages of learning how to deal with it all. I made a video about it right after Caitlyn Jenner came out because my Facebook exploded with some of the most hateful comments I have ever seen and they were coming from the ones who claim to be the best Christians. We had not told anyone that we were dealing with the trans thing at all so my video was a shock to some family members and one even came to our house (she had not been in over 10 years) to tell me that I was wrong for doing the video and I should have kept it a secret to protect my child. What? I did it the way that I did because we didn't want to have to sit everyone down one by one and explain the same thing over and over. We also didn't want to have to hide it any longer so in my opinion it was easiest and smartest to just get it over with in one single video. She told me that I shouldn't give up on God because if we prayed about it enough he would "fix" my child. I argued with her and she just kept saying I wasn't trusting God and I wasn't praying about it "right".........anyway, her husband had passed away and so I was able to use that to help her understand that things don't always get fixed. I asked her if she wanted him to die?...did he want to die?...did she pray about it?....did he pray about it?...did their church pray about it? Even with all that praying he still died, did he not? I think it helped a little for her to see it applied to a situation that she could completely identify with. I told her that we aren't praying about it because our child doesn't need fixing, or saving, or any other word one might choose to use. Our child is not broken....and the sooner people can stop trying to make everyone follow a set of rules they (Christians) have chosen to live by themselves, the better off our society will be. I'm still trying to figure out why Christians are so opposed to the legalization of gay marriage. If they don't believe in it...don't marry someone of the same gender......period. It's not that hard to understand and it honestly shouldn't even be an issue.
It's a couple years later as I'm responding, but I hope that your child is happy and doing well. 💜
Honestly, I think about every Christian dropping by my house tells me how much Jesus loves me. I sometimes feel like Christians are constantly judging me despite how nice they talk which is weird because I'm been a Christian since age 3, but maybe it's just me.
+WebVMan You know,we're all humans,we all make mistakes,I judge too,like a lot.and i feel bad for it,oh sometimes you're just thinking too much,cause I feel like everyone is staring at that pimple on my face when they're talking to me,well they're not.
+WebVMan There are some Christians that don't follow the way of the Bible
+WebVMan I used to be Christian for like 20+ years, so I get it. The same feeling came over me...like they were all judging me, just because of who knows what?!! But anyway, that sort of was one thing that pushed me to atheism and away from religion....hope all goes well for you!
What were you before 3?
+wierdgamerTV this is nothing against you at all but I think you might just be misinformed
It's funny to look back to old videos when I first met you.. Or well, I say "met"! You've come so far but I love you then and now. Your views and advice and integrity have never changed and its lovely to look back and see how Estrogen and transitioning have helped your character to grow Stef. It was great at this time, but you're just fucking radiant now. All of the amazing points of your character a year ago have simply blossomed and I'm just so proud to see it
Alright, I loved the video and it's topic. But can we just take a second to appreciate the fleek af eyebrows we got to witness again here? My brows can never be tamed. These are a work of art.
I can't handle religion
+Talya Hope same
The saddest thing is that Im pretty sure I used to be that girl 😭😭 I don't think I ever told a random stranger something like that, but god do I feel bad for the stuff I used to say to people. I apologize profusely (even though it wasn't me) and I promise I'm better now.
You have to be the most conscientious, mature, grounded and kind person I have ever heard. You intelligence and acceptance and fair view of the world is awesome! I am addicted to your videos! Keep them coming :D
You are an inspiration. I grew up being bullied for being fat in middle school and high school and what the bullies didn't know was the reason why I was fat. I was doing trial and error with anti-psychotics and anti-depressants. Their side effects either made me very hungry all the time, or just added weight regardless how little I ate. It also made me less active. I was also bullied for being schizophrenic. I had constant delusions and hallucinations that were hard to ignore in hopes to keep the bullies at bay. I am so lucky that my family has been by my side since they realized just what was going on with me and how badly the bullying affected me. I became suicidal at age 10 and it lasted until I got the right medication finally and then met my husband. For a short while I was working on a blog and my own youtube channel to share with everyone what it is like being schizophrenic, truly. That schizophrenics can be coherent and intelligent. People never believed me when I told them that I am schizophrenic because of how well I can speak and write. They had no idea how badly they hurt me, which only added to the mental pain. Even teachers were mean and they didn't care that I was being bullied. Anyway, I went on a little rant there. But my point is, I would love to be as inspirational as you when I finally start my youtube videos again. I can't hold down a job without freaking out, being that I am always hallucinating, and my husband is on VA disability. So, when we have saved enough money for a decent camera, I plan on doing videos about the truth of schizophrenia and what it actually does to a person's life and their family's lives. And how you can still be happy regardless of all the horrible thoughts and visions that are never ending.
The last part omg lol
*Destroy the gender binary*
YusSUH another term for binary is "2-bit" which in historical slang means "excessively simple." A great coincidence and analogy for understanding and dealing with people who are trapped in them.
Cuz I tell ya, as all kinds of different social binaries go the humans are way too addicted to them.
I have been binge watching like all your videos
Same same same
Addictive!!! ; )
do no harm but take no shit
my new motto - thank you!
Hey Stef, I found your video really enlightening and interesting. I myself am a Christian, and I used to be that sort of person that went out "door to door" so to speak, handing out gospel tracts and telling people in a very over-zealous way, of the love God has for them. my spirit and feelings on the matter have not changed, but my ways of sharing His love with others have. I realized a while back that people don't usually take that, "catch em off guard" tactic very seriously, let alone actually take it to heart. but anyways, my point in this comment is just to share with you what my mindset was at the time, so next time when this happens to you, which it inevitably will, you can look at that person's heart and intentions a bit differently. I went door to door, gospel tracts in hand, not to condemn others, or insult them...quite the opposite. I cared deeply for them, and feared their going to hell. It was my genuine concern that compelled me to hand them that tract or speak of God's love for them on a street corner, not hatred. I know it probably didn't come off that way, but that was my intent. I now do things much differently, because my walk with God has developed and changed greatly. I now show God's love mostly by loving and accepting others just as they are. that doesn't mean I agree with everything they say, do or believe, but it means I'm not there to change them. I'm there to love them. anyways, I just wanted to show you a little peak into the outlook of a good bit of the people that share their faith in such a direct manner. it's not that they hate you, they're either afraid for your soul, so overjoyed by their relationship with God that they can't help but share it with you, or both. and don't get me wrong, there are people who are hateful and judgemental and do that out of cruelty, I'm sure. but not all people who share their faith are like that.
much love, Gem
random youtubing led me to your page and I was watching some of your videos, and I just wanted to say, you made a really good point at around 4 minutes in. You said it really fast...so I actually paused it to let it sink in and went back and rewound. Deep! Paraphrasing, but you were saying people who feel the need to tell others how to live their lives, are people who are following what other people have told them too (maybe against what they want)...because if someone has found and does what makes them happy, they wouldn't feel the need to put down or tell others what to do. And you said it was that 100%...and damn that is a good point!! I hadn't thought of that before. But it is a reallllly good point. Wise. Kudos. I need to mull it over more. I like to think I'm all wise and crap but that was a new way of phrasing it that hadn't struck me before. I was thinking of things in my own life, and, it rings true just with there are some things that I like/enjoy that I'm sure others look down on. So when others do things that are weird or odd, even if I don't get it for myself, I'm like whatever, do it, and am very glad to see someone openly embracing it. I had a convo with someone about it once, she was one that fell in the category of bashes others probably because she restricts herself...and she pinpointed one person for doing something immature/weird and wondering why we all (friends/coworkers) tolerate it. And I'm like yeah but, I wouldn't want people judging ME for xyz, so frankly I'm glad to see her being so open about it and not caring what others think. So that's just a good example of that dichotomy you meant. And for the record, I was raised religious, and still am to an extent (def spiritual) and I don't give a flip what people do as long as it's not harming others. (Definitely don't care what they do gender-wise, whatever makes someone happy).
I'm a Christian and I don't push my religion on people and I'm friends with athist and gays and I'm a kind of person whow says that you be you cuz I'm unique and your unique so don't push your bilives on me and I will not push mine on you .
I'm the same and what's pisses me off the most are people who say I'm not a real Christian because I have gay friends and suport them and I'm generally pro LGBTQ but and they hate on me for it sayin that Jesus hates me... First of all how do you know what J thinks, second off all didn't his major live statement Was to love and respect everybody despite their live choises, gender or religion. I feel like most of the Christian preach about a Jesus but don't follow his basic teachings.
Elise Scotten Do you also not eat shrimp or work on Sunday or wear two different fabrics of clothes.-real question just seeing what u think
Dude, why do you care what other people think?? You're a freaking Elven Goddess!!😍
Jesus and God [both are the same] do not want humans to judge one another. That is their job, not ours. The Pope should not be judging people, yet he is. Jesus is a man, the Son of God, he is not a 'religion. It's just fine if you don't believe, after what she did [and all the other shitty people that judged you] it's no wonder you were instantly mad! I also think it's o.k. if I choose to believe in Jesus, which I do. We were told by Jesus to Love our Fellow humans, care for the hungry, sick and homeless. That's it!!! We are not to judge. This lady missed a huge opportunity to just give you all the kindness she could muster. We are all here together on this little blue Planet to care for one another. Stay strong, Stef!!!!! You are an inspiration to me as well as many others. Sincerely, a Christian Lady that makes lots of mistakes and I'm not as attractive as you are.
+Ellen Jefferies This "me an Jesus" thing doesn't work. Jesus clearly established a holy and apostolic Church for a reason. There's genius in Catholicism the way it works. Consider this: We all need guides sometimes, because we humans are terrific at deceiving ourselves. When you make your own personal "religion", you personalize it for yourself picking and choosing what you like and dislike, and while you think you're making it better suited to yourself for your own good, what you really start doing is creating God in your own image. That's dangerous territory. We are made in God's image only, not our own. God knows what's best for us, Jesus is God, so if Jesus decides that what we need is a Church that through it's work will guide people to him, why is that an issue? The Holy Spirit(aka God- because both are the same) works through the Church, and guides it's people. That's not to say that people who are part of God's Church are 100% perfect, because they are human beings and obviously make mistakes. However, God works through the Church and the Church bring people closer to him, and most perfectly through the Sacraments. The Catholic Church does more charity work than any organisation on earth, and has been this way throughout history. Needless to say, the Church is there specifically to guide people to God, but also to build the kingdom of God by carrying out Christ's work on earth. I don't know if you or anyone will ever read this, but I hope you learned something.
+Ellen Jefferies Jesus is the son of God so they are not the same.
+NotMykl Jesus is one part of the Holy Trinity which consists of three persons 1. God the Father 2. God the Son 3. God the Holy Spirit. Each separate person is God but they only make up one God(not three) and they are not always equal to each other. Jesus is God but God is not Jesus. The Holy Spirit is God But God is not the Holy Spirit. It's a very complicated concept to grasp partly because it makes no mathematical sense. St. Patrick explained it by using a clover as an example. A clover has three distinct separate leaves but together they make up one clover. How do we know there is such thing as the Holy Trinity? It's not a rational truth- it is a revealed truth. In short, you can rationalize that there is or is not a God if you were trapped alone on an island but you cannot rationalize that there are three persons in God. This truth has to be revealed to you from an outside source. Again-it's complicated Loads of hundreds of year old philosophy and theology. but I hope I did an ok job explaining!
TL:DR Still not the same. Jesus is not God. Two separate, made up, invisible things to help people get through the night.
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Seeing the progress you have made over the past year and a half is amazing! It's seems that you just carry around a lot less stress than you used to. I'm really glad that things are going better for you now :)
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People who share to you about their religion are just spreading the happiness and the good news they found, like you said "A lot of people thrive with their religion", so they are just spreading the happiness for other people don't take it the wrong way like "why must people tell you about their religion? if that makes them happy, then they're happy. not everyone is gonna be happy the way they feel happy". People are just trying to help other people, if you don't want to accept that. then that's okay. You don't have to be rude because they're only sharing the happiness.
I know I have terrible english as it is not my mother language but just try to get my point.
Sharing happiness through religion is different than trying to push your religion on somebody else. There's a difference between sharing what you believe in your religion to inform, and trying to make somebody follow what your religion says. What that lady did was aggressively and condescendingly say that Stef needs to follow Jesus.
Some people think that u can be cured with some treatment and religion, but why do they think that still from a book that was written like 3500 years ago?
and yes I sorta did quote Macklemore.
SPOT ON! You are incredible!! Thank you for the good laugh today. Keep up the amazingness you are putting out there. It's so refreshing to discover "awake" people!
I loved the way you explained this. Also there's a couple trolls hanging around that no one has even bothered responding to and it's giving me life.
I absolutely love you ~ you're one of the most beautiful beings I've ever seen
I'm christian,I fully support the LGBT community.I have friends that have no religion and I try and spread the gospel to them :D.I don't think i'm forcing anyone,I was only a christian like a few years ago.I used to feel those people are a bit pushy but they'r just,really,really passionate about God :) hahaha
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+KpopManiac4Life It IS pushy to 'spread the gospel' to your friends who don't have a religion. Their beliefs or lack there of is none of your business. If they want to know something about your religion they may ask you about it but otherwise lay off the prophetizing, it only pisses people off.
+NotMykl i think you can share info about your religion with your friend as you can share your music taste. Your just showing them what you like, not forcing them to do so or like it.
"spreading the gospel" is really inconsiderate and quite annoying to the people who have no religion or are agnostic or atheist. please stop.
Just to clarify, Christianity is not about you. It's not about being happy with just yourself. The main teachings are to love OTHERS and praise the Lord, it's not about the self. Christians believe that there is one way to eternal life and happiness, as well as living your life a certain way may make you miserable. That woman (most likely) only said that to you because she loves you and would rather risk making the situation awkward than saying nothing. At least what she's supposed to do. Don't think she's "forcing" anything on you, she just cares about you. That is part of her faith and Christians should never remain silent according to their faith. There will never be peace if you expect us to say nothing, because that goes directly against our faith. Also, just because there are other faiths does not mean they're all correct. You have to study them on a very deep philosophical level and you see then that there is one true faith. Good day :)
Ahhhh, finally someone said it lol
+Sia Lee Unfortunately, what you're saying is that it's ok to force religion down people's throats when they aren't interested. I don't care what Christians believe, they shouldn't violate other people's space or thoughts with their religion. Don't you think everyone is already fully aware of Christianity? It's not like you need to tell us, WE ALREADY KNOW, so thanks anyway. There are so many other ways to help people without being heavy-handed with religious intolerance. Go feed some homeless people, or be a Big Sister to a kid in need. DON'T tell random people that Jesus is their salvation, most especially for the reason this video was created. Just don't. You're only doing it for yourself in the end, so you can say "Well Jesus, I TRIED." No you didn't. You damn well didn't try and HE will know it. Figure it out, because it's people who do this kind of garbage that are driving others AWAY from Christianity.
Cherry Noire Actually, I'd hardly call letting someone kniw your side of things "forcing" something down her throat. If you think Christians shouldn't evangelize and try to spread the word, you believe there should be restrictions on the practice of our religion. All we're doing is talking to people, we're not forcing anyone to do anything. And those who are are not practicing the religion they think they are, those people are hypocrites and aren't true Christians. Honestly I could say the same thing about gay people. I could say they're "violating" my space by holding hands or kissing in public. I could say they're shoving their beliefs down my throat by doing that. You see how that works? You're basically saying that Christians can be Christian UNLESS they're doing something that makes you uncomfortable, then it's not ok. If you want restriction on the practice of religions, you can move to the Middle East. But here in America we actually do have the right to evangelize and try to get people to come to church. And no I don't think that you're fully aware of what Christianity stands for and what Christians are trying to do when they say Jesus is your savior. You may think you do but if you studied the religion you may vome to find there are so many things you had no clue about. Also, donating time and money to help people in need is a very common Christian practice, we do both. What is more important to us though is at least letting you know that you can be saved, rather than being damned. As well as being happy, because when you follow the Lord you come to find your life is infinitely better, and we want that for everyone.
This demonstrates how much you actually don't know about our religion, if we know that someone is doing something that will send them to hell, and we don't say anything, then the blood is on our hands. It is actually a requirement to try and save people, and no it's not because we don't want to feel guilty or we want to get into heaven, or we want God to be happy with us. It's because we love everyone and we will not settle for less thanat least trying to see everyone happy. If we do evangelize for selfish reasons, rest assured we will not only live our lives internally unhappy, but we will also be damned.
You are forcing someone to listen if they are an employee of a shop, and they can't tell you to STOP IT, for fear of losing their jobs. When was the last time a gay person came in to your place of business and talked to you about their point of view? Not ever. Think about what you say before you say it. You see how that works? There was context here. And if you can't stand the sight of two consenting adults holding hands, you've got bigger problems than I could ever deal with. I don't mind if Christians wear crosses or talk about their Sunday at church, but when they try to change someone else's very core of who they are, I have a problem with that. No one invited you to do that to them. And by the way, I was a Christian most of my life. I know plenty about it, Bible study was one of my favorite things when I was younger. Never assume anything like that about anyone, you don't know. You don't need to preach at people. We've already heard it, we KNOW your message loud and clear, it's everywhere, we can't escape it.
Cherry Noire Ok I see. So you believe that our right to practice our religion should be removed? You believe our freedom of speech should be restrained?
Being gay is not the same as being Christian. One is a choice of faith, the other is a personal issue that doesn't even require the involvement of anyone else (a thing you probably strongly belive).
I don't remember having to be asked to speak.
I assumed nothing about you, I inferred because you clearly do not understand that in order to believe that we should not and do not have the right to simply speak about our religion, you believe we have no right to practice our religion, and that is oppression. Its seems also that you don't understand that a Christian cannot be a Christian if they remain silent. I used it as an example, however I don't believe that gay and trans people are forcing and belief or way of life on me, and though I don't agree with them, I wouldn't complain if they were trying to get me to agree with them. They have that right. I hear it and see it everyday and everywhere. Everyone is talking about gay and trans rights, I personally know 5 trans people and am close friends with bi and gay people. Every single person I talk to believes that my beliefs are evil, because I don't think being gay or trans is ok. One of my friends constantly talks about gay rights, others even make fun of Christianity. That's also happening all over the place. Don't you think if anything THESE are the beliefs being shoved down people's throats? At least you get a break from Christianity, I see things about gay and trans absolutely everywhere, and I am a demon for having my own opinion.
But I still don't say anything, I am content in my beliefs and if someone is trying to change that I will listen and consider what they have to say, and if I disagree, I disagree. Because they aren't "forcing" me to do or believe anything. Rather than complaining that Christians have a right to speak and freely practice their religion, maybe try just politely saying you disagree?
Apparently it's not enough for you to agree to disagree, you have to take it a step further and say we are evil for speaking to you about something you don't like.
I absolutely love how you ended the video, I laughed so hard I cried and I approve so much.
Also I was raised in a religion that's known for pushing our beliefs on others at any opportunity possible, so I get both sides of your story so well. I think you handled it very maturely and even though I'm not religious anymore I do believe people should be allowed to believe whatever they like and live they're life accordingly as long as they don't force they're beliefs on others (that includes hurting others or persecuting them in the name of their religion).
i dont know you, and i dont know your age, but i want to tell you that im proud of you. i walk around this world and have dealt with similar situations and i have dealt with different people yada yada, but i have never in my life heard someone speak of their thoughts as maturely as you just did... im in awe. i want to thank you. ive been put down and made, even if it was myself doing it to myself subconsciously, to feel as though im below them. im not, i have a mind and a voice and i wont stand for anyone being that way. also with the forcing of other values on other people... ive had that done too. it might sound weird but i feel comfort in that im not the only one whos had that done to them. im sure others have but ive never heard them say anything amd ive also never heard anyone handle it woth such grace. its comforting and inspiring. thank you for that. i dod want you to do something for me if you would. i want you to continue to shine, and know that others have gone through similar situations. youre not alone, and it will always get better. just shine :)
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I know I said this many times but she's so funny and she has a awesome attitude
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+Twlight Princess yeah he is great right?
yea I really like her too, and I love her eyes 😱 sooo beautiful
You're a very mature and admirable person! And you look gorgeous!
Oh my God I have been having a horrific episode in my life and this totally helped me smile. I am laughing so hard you are a genius with humor, art, and overcoming challenges
I just wanted to stop by and say that your topics and the things you talk about, your situation, your beliefs and your thoughts are really interesting to listen to. Keep doing you.
You're the nicest angry person. :)
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is it rude to ask what pronouns to use? (this is a sincere question, not meant to sound passive aggressive). I'm transgender and I personally like getting asked my pronouns just because I am dysphoric a lot and it's like YES I CONFUSED THEM, I KIND OF LOOK LIKE A BOYYYY!!! If someone politely says "Hi, I don't want to use the wrong pronouns. May I ask what they are?" is that okay? is it just the way it's said or is it the entire question that bothers you?
+Dylan Coffey-Moore i'm not transgender but i think i wouldn't mind if someone sincerely asked if i was a transgender and and if so what pronoun he/she should use :). today there are lots of men who use make up and dress girly and are heterosexual men. also there are gays and lesbians and transgenders and asexuals ans androgynous people etc etc and it's all so confusing and i don't want to hurt anyone :(
Yeah XD I'm an asexual transguy that likes makeup so I get asked a lot. I don't mind it as long as it's not like "what are you" or "what is it"
I get it :). yeah, those questions are just rude and I'm sure people who ask those know it themselves -.-
+Dylan Coffey-Moore ya and i wouldn't mind if someone asked me politely but if someone asked if i was a boy or a girl that would be a awkward situation to be put in or if you ask kind of rudely and yes i am a transwomen my self
I just stumbled on your video and I hit subscribe faster than I ever have before! You're awesome and so genuine. Keep on being you 💕💕
I just discovered your videos the other day and I've been binge watching them ever since, first of all i think you are a gorgeous human being inside and out- you are so real and i cannot express how much I appreciate the things you say just about people being who they are and "live and let live" kind of things. I wish i was half as talented as you on makeup (thanks to you im trying more) but i really just think youre an incredible person and i cant wait to watch more videos!
I'm genderfluid, asexual and kinda gay. And Christian. That's the way God made me. Show a little compassion, guys.
+Scarlett Gould God made you that way,yes,preach it! xD
Nice! I'm nonbianary, mostly asexual, and panromantic. Damn right we were made this way!
Gotta say I don't push atheism but I definitely don't say mhm mhm it's more like "oh yea prove it then. K thanks"
Idk why but I love your username
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+PeachyFiend but wait, you realize you can't prove that God doesn't exist, right?
L Sherlock but wait, you realize you cant prove i dont have a magical flying unicorn named vanessa who sings and has a british accent.
yea no. i think i have clarified why that is a fallacy.
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I'm a born again Christian, have been for 34 years. Every Christian I have ever heard talk has the most judgmental condenming ways because, they believe God made people's flesh bodies and He didnt. Ur parents human flesh and DNA did, God only made Adam, Eve and Jesus' flesh bodies and God told both Adam and Eve, "u" go out and multiply, "u" make the flesh bodies, "I'll" knit the person as a spirit (that is perfect and blemish free) in the mothers womb". Because most Christians do "not" understanding this, it's very difficult to say to any person, "God created Adam and Eve, they sinned, that seperated them (and all of us) from God, so in order for all of us to be reconnected to God, God had to send his Son Jesus Christ to die for everybody's sins, then God rose Jesus from the dead so everybody can receive him as their personal Lord and Savior of anything and everything that goes on in ones life. And receiving Jesus is done by saying to Him, "Jesus come into my heart, forgive all my sins, I accept u now as my Lord and Savior and fill me with ur Holy Spirit". And that's all u do. At that point, ur good to go, because u feel and know u r connected back to God, and ur personal relationship with God and Jesus is private, it's ur business People r who they r, they do what they do in their lives. The thing God asks from all of us, is to not leave Jesus out of it.
+Andrea O Please seek help.
+Catarina May OOOOH NO. I dont need to seek any help. NONE WHATSOEVER. I know that I know what I'm talking about. Any other God like the one I'm sure u THINK is the presence in YOUR life is from Satan. His job is to make u feel that until u receive Jesus. THEN AND ONLY THEN will u know u were deceived and involved with a false God. That's just the way it is. A good confirmation for u would be for u to click on to cbn.com and see the people who have died and gone to hell (and some went to heaven) and God brought them back so they can tell people like u about it. There is no other way to the REAL God except thru receiving Jesus. And I know hearing this convicts ur heart or is causing ur body to tremble. Any peace u feel in ur life is peace from ur own self and a false God. U wont experience real peace from the real God until u r connected to Him thru Jesus. I'M SORRY IT JUST ISNT ANY OTHER WAY. The only way u will know that is when u find out where u end up for eternity.
Andrea O I thought CBN was one of those clickbait news outlets, much like fox news?
+Catarina May No, u r talking about CBS.
+Andrea O I was raised Christian and it never felt right. I never felt like it was real and I was extremely unhappy. I understand that you have your religion and that you are happy with it but that doesn't mean you have to tell someone that the things they believe are wrong. Yes I understand that it was wrong for Catarina to tell you that and this message is for her too but you could've been the better person and been polite. And telling someone that their beliefs are wrong is very rude. I realize that in some religions you try to "save" people but you don't have to tell them that they are wrong for what they believe, you could say something like "Jesus can save you" and then let the person be. Please just respect people that have other beliefs, even if you don't believe it. Have a good day.
new sub!!! lol you are so fun to watch and charismatic. And it's encouraging to see ppl embracing who they are and standing by it, as a teen it's hard but I'll get through it!
You're such a great person, I love how you cope with things and you personality is so effervescent! Your makeup = perfection, and your videos are just so uplifting. Love you! (ps, Love your eyes)
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I love you and I love your philosophies, but I just have one thing about this video...
It seems very contradictory to me. You say you're fine and you're chill and everything, but if that were true, then why did you get so worked up when she asked you? Not even when she brought religion into it, you got worked up when she asked what gender you were. If you were truly comfortable with it, wouldn't you just answer honestly? I don't think it's so rude to ask what gender someone is, especially if they're as comfortable with the subject as you are.
And obviously this is subjective and it may be that I just don't understand how you feel, but it just seems to me that saying things like "I'm comfortable with my gender" but then following it up with "I'd only be okay if you asked my gender in a hospital" seems to conflict with eachother. I guess it was just the situation in which she asked you? TBH I had the same question when I first saw your videos, but I wasn't trying to offend you- I just innocently was curious if you were male or female or if you would prefer something else.
I suppose I just can't understand how asking your gender is offensive if you know what you identify as and are comfortable with that fact. Or maybe you're not comfortable with it and I just can't read that?
I don't know. I'm sorry if I got anyone reading this worked up, this is just honestly how I feel about that part of the video! Really, I love this channel and everything and I agree with how he feels about religion and gender and all that, I just can't understand why he would only be okay if someone asked him is gender in a hospital. I know personally, as someone born female who identifies as female, I wouldn't be bothered if someone asked my gender. I might think they're stupid for not being able to tell, but I wouldn't personally be offended. Especially if it was a stranger who just paused to ask in a store as we passed. I don't know, I guess I can't understand it.
I totally agree? These days it's just difficult to tell coz so many people are transitioning and are are so many different stages of the process, so
sometimes when people ask they just wanna know what the person prefers to be identified as at the time, now the very same people asking the world to be open minded are closed minded when it comes to people like this girl and have no patience with them, this could have been someone from some little town with no exposure to any transgender person.....I completely agree that this video is very contradictory, if you want people to be open minded with your lifestyle then you need to be even more open minded to theirs as well
I just keep on looking to your eyes... They're so beautiful ❤️❤️❤️
I appreciate a lot of what you said in this video. I am Christian and very religious but often times people view me as a stereotypical "christian" or "religious" person who is awkward and seeks every opportunity to force his or her religion on others. I really appreciate how you compared forcing religion onto others to forcing neglect of religion onto others as being the same and I totally agree.
I personally do not try to convert others to my religion. I try to keep my religion within my circle or friends and family who share my beliefs and occasionally to those who are open-minded. I'm just sharing my experiences because I like being an open person. I never suggested that you believe what I believe, I'm just letting you know what I'm into and what kind of person I am. You can't be my friend without knowing all of me, you know.
All in all, I just wanted to express my frustration with others and also my gratitude for you to have addressed this so openly and honestly in your video.
Thanks, love you videos. :)
The last part of the video was funny when you talked like "Him" from powerpuff girls... Also please keep wearing the eyeliner like that. It makes your eyes stand out and i absolutely love your eyes.
i love this video! your a wise wise person!!!
Why would you be so upset about the Christian women? She cares about you and truly wants you to be happy? Hell is a real place and she does not want you go to there.
why do you think he's going to "hell"?
+Charlotte Paris yeah,im a christian.I don't think he's wrong for being the way he is :).My friend is gay and meh idc he's one of the nicest person ive ever met
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I believe that god made you this way. I truly believe this. My uncle was gay, and I believe that god made him that way. I loved him very much, he was the awesomest man I have ever known, short of my dad. So to the this lady who is bothering you at work, she needs to stop.
Lora Knutson
Indeed. The Lord works in mysterious ways, and sometimes it is difficult for people to understand that all people and creatures are His work, and deserve the same love and respect as we ourselves would want to receive.
+Lora Knutson People have the ability to believe many things, that does not make them true.
+Very Fast Picket I think you are bit confused here. 'It is difficult for people to understand that all people and creatures are His work.' Difficult for people to understand? No. They do not share the same perceptions of the world as you, you seem to think that everyone else is wrong but you are a special snowflake. A lot of people throughout history have thought the same, and there has been nothing as responsible for harm to others and killing of innocent people.
A few months ago, I actually had to take a loooong break from facebook because a young family member on my husband's side posted something very ignorant and a lot of their relatives were liking her post. I just got so mad and realized that all the negativity and ignorance on facebook was making me very stressed and anxious for the world, so I left a very long and angry comment about how ignorant she was, and then logged out and didn't log back in until a couple weeks ago. And then I proceeded to delete that entire line of family from my friend list. :) I can't even imagine what it would be like having that ignorance targeted at me first-hand. I salute you for staying calm! :)
I'm a new subscriber. I love how your personality sparkles as vibrantly as your appearance does. I love your aversion to bias because I am also passionate about and greatly value being unbiased. I agree with you that every person should be treated with equal rights, respect and decency. I'm wondering, if no one should try to change the way you see things, isn't telling them that doing so is wrong basically trying to change how they see things? I mean, a lot of people misinterpret the Bible as saying it's our responsibility to share what it says to people who look like they don't follow it. It doesn't say that, but they believe it does and they are actually acting out of love by sharing (I don't mean condemning or being pushy by not backing off when it's clear a person isn't receptive). I mean, if they share once, then respectfully say (what I perceive as) my part is done, it isn't my place to be forceful, then back the ef off, I don't think they've done anything wrong morally because it was genuinely motivated by care. It's what they were taught is the way to express their care for humanity. If you tell them it isn't, is that telling them what not to believe? You believe you're enlightening them the same way they believe they're enlightening you. I'm so happy to hear you could contain your reaction, that was amazing. I'm serious. I do get what you're saying. I wholly understand being misunderstood. I know that since you could do that, you can also consider that it's not always out of selfishness that people bring their beliefs up. I'm truly thinking this could help you in your continual interactions with strangers. You have every right to take reasonable yet effective steps to get them out of your face if respectfully declining to agree with them doesn't do it. I think the respectful ones deserve as much respect as you, though, and not to be condemned for being mistaken about you being mistaken. I mean, treat them with the same care with which you'd wish to be treated as someone who is seen as mistaken. If they think you're mistaken and you don't, that's one thing. If you think they're mistaken and they don't, that's the same thing. You getting upset at their (perceived) mistake is the same thing as them getting upset at your (perceived) mistake. Who really is or isn't mistaken isn't the real issue, it's how each approaches trying to correct the other that is. All that matters is, do we respectfully back off when we recognize non-receptiveness? What is our motive in offering correction? In reality, the only time we should share our understanding is when we think it has a good chance of helping. If we can see that the motive is to help (even if they don't word it perfectly), and they're respectful instead of harassing, shouldn't we just say no harm no foul and be respectful in return?
First I want to say I love your eyes....just beautiful! Second, as a Christian, it is our responsibility to share the gospel of Jesus with others. As a sinner myself I have hope in eternal life in Heaven after I die because I have accepted that Jesus died on the cross for my sins because He loves me (and the rest of the human population as well)! Of course just because I have Jesus as my Lord doesn't give me a free pass to just live as I please....my life must be pleasing to Him and give Him glory. Either way I will be judged someday for everything I do or don't do with the knowledge I have. Jesus said to love your neighbor as yourself. God does not make mistakes! However this world is a fallen world and bad things happen, and evil does exist. My point is I may not agree with, or approve of, the life choices of the LGBT community....I am still obligated to show them love and treat them with respect since they too are created in the image of God. Anyone who claims to be a Christian and does not have this love and compassion in their heart will be given an eye opener when Christ returns to collect those who are His. True Christianity is not so much about religion as it is about a relationship with Christ! They will be known by their actions and how they treat other people!!!
Andrea Kaye Nowak yeah, but if you try to convert people, it pushes them away...
I know from personal experience, people who tried to convert me pushed me further and further until I didn't even believe in a god anymore...
i personally dislike the whole 'male' and 'female' gender thing, i believe gender is a spectrum. My fiancé for example is 'male' but has a lot of 'female' traits.
I love your videos. You have a a lot to say and it's enlightening too. Plus, your eye color is sickening!! Loves it!!
The thing is, part of being Christian is to share the gospel. It's not about trying to fix you or anything it's just it's literally part of what we do. You like to educate people about makeup and your gender identity because that's what matters to you. This is what really matters to us and she wasn't being bossy or trying to shame you. She didn't mean any harm and she wouldn't want you to be angry about that (hence why she was so calm). As for Africa, they are actually the nation where Christianity is strongest and the people are so passionate about that. Contrary to popular rumour, God never says gays are going to hell or any of that nonsense. That is literally never ever in the Bible anywhere. Idk what you believe but you are loved. As a Christian I know that God loves you and I'm not trying to shame you or "fix" you. I think you're lovely and you seem really nice. That girl was just chatting about sown thing she feels passionate about. Okay bye have a good day/night
I love you
@annarchy , saying to someone they need a saviour doesn't sound like trying to explain what matters to her, it does sound that She conciders there is need of correction. Which to me is frightening :(
I can't stop watching your videos. You're so funny and when you tell stories you explain them so well!
I'm an exchange student recently and I'm originally come from a really unreligious family but now I'm living in the bible belt which was a hudge transition and choc. Eventhrough I'm not homosexual (at least I think so) I respect homosexual people and know a lot of really nice guys and I hate when people say that gey men or women are any different than heterosexuals. I just felled like I have to tell you that I think it is awesome what your doing and I love your channel. I also saw your videos of your transformation(is that right?) so it's very interesting for me to see your "old" videos ... I think you have an increadible personality and you are beautiful (I love your hair!) I'm really sorry for my messed up writing and I hope that you stay this wonderful happy and funny person you are! PS I'm agreeing with you that religion should be something personal and that christians shouldn't try to "invade" other cultures to make them like western culture because these people are not like we are they are independent and they lived like this for hundrets of years and they are probably very happy how things are. I'm personally beliving in god but how I already said I wasn't raised like this and I would never try to confince anybody to join christianity. I don't think that people who don't believe in Jesus are bad people I mean I can't poof that god exists so why should I be mad at anybody who doesn't believe it? But this was not why I originally started writing so just know that I think your incredible and keep on doing what ever it is you enjoy!
you're awesome! goodness, I feel like, if my highschool friends (the ultimate Christians(most of which don't even acknowledge my existence because I moved...)) knew I even watched your videos or LOVED your videos, they'd judge me in an instant. you are a true inspiration!! and you truly nailed on the head everything I believe about the controversy :) keep doing what you do Stef :))))
This is my second time watching this. I watched it when u first posted it and again just now. I've been following u for awhile. That being said , ur absolutely correct. I am a Christian . I'm not one who goes and tells ppl what they are doing are wrong. I have a sort of open Christianity view on things. My best friend is gay, and I curse like a sailor. I'm actually trying to stop that part though ... Anyway , religion is difficult. My husband is African and we as Western Christian's ( I know ur Canadian ) assume so much about third world countries. Our religions clash like crazy but some how we make is work . We have almost come to a point at the beginning of our marriage where we were going to divorce because of it. U can not push ur ideals and beliefs onto other ppl, even loved ones. Anyway, I know this is long but wanted to write it . Btw u have grown so much over the years . It blows my mind! Love u girl! ( Those of u who don't know she is now identifying as a trans woman)
You’ve come such a long way from this video. I don’t even know you but I’m so proud of you.
Thank you!! This video perfectly captures why we need to let everyone do their own thing, and be kind to one another. I think the only permissible question would be how you made your hair that colour - it's BEAUTIFUL!!!
i just found this channel and have already watched a few of your videos. You seem like an amazing person and I totally agree with you on all the points you mentioned. I am very happy there are awesome people like you out there that speak about topics like this, because it's necessary and I wish there were more people like you. Keep up the amazing videos, they're so so interesting and lovely to watch. love from germany x
I love this, you killed me with that last bit! XD I'm so glad I found your channel!