Is no one going to mention how the mom of the one girl was talking to the camera about how difficult it was to raise her child,and she asks the mom twice "Are you crying?"
That little girl Jodi saying "I didn't do anything wrong" broke my heart. Did she hear her mom say she considered killing her? Kids shouldn't be on the defense by default just for existing
the parents give up every aspect of their life for an autistic child that can barely function past a toddler level and that will continue to be overwhelming them until they die. Honestly I would consider killing myself too
“The other moms were looking and wondering why this 8 year old girl was throwing a fit because she didn’t want to get on the swing...” No, they were probably looking at you wondering why you were repeatedly forcing a kid with autism who obviously got sensory overload on swings onto a swing.
yea. who the fuck forces their kid to get on a swing period, whether they're autistic or not? is the swing somehow essential to life? I will never understand these people.
I'm a 21 year old autistic woman. I have never been able to ride roller coasters because the motion and sound is overwhelming and makes me want to vomit. If my mother physically forced me to go on a roller coaster, you can bet your ass I would be screaming and throwing myself on the floor to get away (fortunately, she understands and anytime my family went to amusement parks her and I gorged on funnel cake while my siblings enjoyed the rides). These mothers are horrible; I can't imagine the avoidable pain they put their children through
It's like, you wouldn't force a neurotypical kid to get on a swing. Why would you force an autistic kid? What's the benefit of going on a swing? I'm not seeing one.
@@MetroStation64 not to mention that one parent who confessed to wanting to commit A MURDER-SUICIDE!!!! AND ONLY DIDNT BECAUSE SHE HAD ANOTHER CHILD!!! LIKE WHAT THE FUCK
That's the biggest problem with this organization. They indulge the parents, and let them make it all about them. I remember reading about a mom who did the same thing with her daughter who had anxiety disorder, and she narrated how her mom loved being "that brave woman with the mentally ill daughter". These moms are the same.
*TOOOO TTRRRUUEEEE* these people are forcing there children into uncomfortable and mentally draining situations and wondering why there child is acting out!
@@cinnamonbeanbaby444 it wasn’t. People here are projecting and hanging up on the moms in the video for being human and vulnerable. Apparently the moms are supposed to be happy they have a kid with autism.
@@BimBop83it's not difficult to be happy when you actually make an effort to accommodate the child's needs. it will improve behavior and strengthen love connection.
@@BimBop83 they don't have to be happy to have a kid with autism. What they _do_ have to do, as a major part of the role of parenthood, is respect and look after the child adequately. You don't have to be happy to have a child with autism to at least not slag them off while they're literally right on their lap and can hear every word, or spend more time with the non-retarded one. I'm autistic, and I know I caused my parents lots of stress when I couldn't cope with loud noises and melted down, but never did my parents ever show me anything but love and a duty of care.
The moms : *constantly touching and forcing their autistic kids to do things they don't want to* Kids : *cries* The moms : anyway, my life is so hard...
@@lewisgamer637 and? Which is why you have to teach them!!!!!! They’ll stay in a diaper if u don’t teach them, they’ll go without communication if you keep doing for them, they’ll keep having you wash them from child up until adulthood. If you’ll allow anyone including disabled people with limitations because they don’t want to try is all your fault so when it’s time for them to be on an airplane, then you and probably someone else will be annoyed because that parent didn’t make an attempt.
i don't have autism, but every time one of the parents try to make their child look at them, or move their hands away from what they were doing, trying to break their concentration- it seems like that'd be stressful for the child. and it also seemed like this video was placing the issue on the child: the child can't do this, the child is like that. these people are going into debt because their country won't take care of them.
It is very stressful for the child. There was one scene where the child made a distressed noise and tried to pull away when the "therapist" stopped his hands when he was stimming, and there's a reason for that. This is how autistic people regulate their sensory input. The therapist was literally taking away that child's coping mechanism. Then they all expect the child to be okay with it?? It makes no sense at all.
I have mild autism and you are spot on. It’s very stressful to be cajoled or forced into engaging with people. If I don’t want to look at people then don’t tell me I need to look at people! I don’t! I don’t need to be forced onto a swing, to look at someone, touch someone etc....all these things can be highly stressful if pushed into. It has to come from within the individual.
I have contemplated suicide because of what people told me autism was but they didn't know that I was autistic. My teachers don't know either and how much stress they're putting on me and how much I don't want thereto be a tomorrow. If I could change myself I would make myself normal, and while autism is supposed to be treated as a normal thing there are so many people out there doing the opposite
Good thing AS donates more than 10% towards autistic people and their families instead of investing it in fundraising and six figure salaries. Oh wait...
Rohan Zener What I may or may not believe spiritually is irrelevant. The fact that the term "autism" has been misused does not remove the fact that there are actual people who have the disorder. As for it's "crime syndicate," if you're referring to Autism Speaks, that's not a representative of anyone with Autism. Furthermore, I never stated that you're evil. I objected to your insinuation that you're more upright and noble because you deny the existence of something despite evidence. I'd say the same if you denied that something like racism didn't exist. As for a retort to your God comment, do you also deny the existence of the holocaust?
You also seem to be under the impression that autism makes one ineligible for work. If you want to claim there's more evidence against the existence of autism, then you'll have to show it. You'll have to find something that'll convince me, despite my personal experience with the disorder, that autism doesn't exist. As entitled as you are to have an opinion, I will not consider your opinion as valid evidence, especially when weighed against the fact that I have been living with autism for my entire life.
Care to share a source? Because that is not listed as a symptom of autism by anything I've been able to find, not to mention the grammar. If "bullied by others by enlarge" is a symptom, then sure, what you're thinking of can't exist, because to bully someone "by enlarge," you'd have to be bullying them by making them bigger.
I am autistic. It broke my heart when the little girl said, “I wish I had a sister without autism.” If my sisters said that, my feelings would be hurt. My sisters love me and accept me for who I am and they would never say anything like this. 💔
My son is Autistic and he has Down Syndrome. He has his meltdown times but nothing like these. These poor kids were provoked. Any child, or person really, with Autism is going to react at being taken out of their comfort zone. A camera shoved in their face is enough to set anyone off. I used to have to take a blanket with me to the store and tent my son in the cart with goldfish so he wouldn’t just fall apart at the crowds. But I have done it without the “help” of some place like AS. And I will continue to love my son till my end. Will he ever get married? I don’t know. Will he ever be able to move out? Probably not. But he’s my child and I love him.
The fact that your son has different needs and experiences is indicative of nothing. Every case is different, and there absolutely are some kids that have extreme and frequent meltdowns. It’s honestly rather off putting to hear you try to “compete” as to how disabled your kid is.
@@BimBop83 I totally agree….a lot people are placing their personal experiences and acting as if that’s the only way it should be. I’ve seen kids have worse meltdowns and with no apparent triggers. People are blaming the parents, but they do not understand that there are different levels of autism.
I hate the line about “my son will never get married”. Just because his brain fires differently doesn’t mean he won’t find love. And he still might not get married, but what if the other son never gets married, what’s your excuse then, huh? The neurotypical didn’t get married, so why is it just a problem that the Autistic didn’t?
Why would she push her child on a swing set if SHE DIDNT LIKE IT? And get UPSET when her child CRIES? Does she not want to let go of the idea of a "perfect child" so much that she will literally upset her own child to live out a fantasy of motherhood. Please, parents, parents to be, please don't expect your child to be perfect. They could be autistic, gay, disabled, trans, or just not "what you want" in a child, you can't control who they are, don't have children if you will hate them the second after a diagnosis. these children deserve better than parents who want them literally dead.
+creepycupnoodle I'm probably one of the highest functioning people among everyone under the spectrum in my school, and yet my mom ignores a lot of my triggers because she wants to act like they don't exist--and she's the one who got me evaluated three times before they made a diagnosis!
+Zoe Kirk I'm sorry you're in that situation it really sucks to be ignored by that, esp by parents. It seems all too common too :( (not to downplay your feelings of corse)
+creepycupnoodle To clarify, I never mean that being autistic, gay, disabled, or transgender is something bad, I mean that many children are rejected by their own parents for being one or more of these things, forced to hide it and try to be "normal" , so their parents get their "perfect, normal" child (even though there is no child will reach all of their parents expectations), even though their child is amazing just as they are already. Its sickening. I'm sorry I didn't make it clear the first time. (Im probably not very clear now anyway)
“You have no idea how hard it is for us autism moms 🥺” IMAGINE HOW HARD IT IS FOR THE KID?! They say “I didn’t sign up for this” but YOU chose to have kids (usually that’s the case), YOU wanted to take on the child.
@@katenix8384 Tf is wrong with you. An autistic child doesn’t have a disease, it’s genetic. If you think any other think about autism, you can read a little piece of a simple book about neuropsychology if you want.
@@snuuy7015 count yourself among the fortunate minority. You obviously are very light on the spectrum in regards to the severity of your autism. Most people with it can’t function normally.
90% of the kids in this are just straight vibing. Like they’re minding their own business just enjoying life. The other 10% of times they’re having meltdown MOST LIKELY CAUSED BY THEIR PARENTS!! Like, wtaf!?
What's so disturbing about that infamous "murder/suicide" line is how calm and *rehearsed* it sounds. I have a lot of experience with rage and frustration and anxiety, and would not judge someone I overheard saying that kind of thing while they were very emotional. But for them to say it in such a controlled, contemplative way? And for a professional organization to CHOOSE to include that in a video about Autism? Sick on SO many levels. It's not so much what you say, but the context in which you say it, that shows your true colors.
They showed this in my elementary school and it honestly made me feel so worthless. Like im a burden on my family even when I know that they care about me and love me and "they can't go out for a bagel" because they love me. These commercials make people with autism seem like they're just the most worthless people in the world.
I didn't watch documentaries like this, but we had stuff from Autism Speaks played in school around third grade. I didn't see anything wrong with them back then. I just thought to myself "I guess I'm an alien compared to everyone else and that I'm lower than everyone else." I'm over that mindset today, but it shows how damaging these messages can be.
I feel so bad for the kid whose mom was going to kill her. Clearly, she isn't seen as a child but as nothing but a burden, as are all these kids. I also feel bad for her non-austistic daughter - not only is she going to be spoonfed her mother's bullshit, but her mother is clearly going to try and live her life vicariously through hers.
"her mother is clearly going to try and live her life vicariously through hers." As the son of a mother like this, it's hell. They project all of their insecurities onto you, while blaming you for the current state of their life.
@@samisbiggaytm8763 it fucking broke my heart when that little girl said she wish she didn’t have an autistic sibling. Prejudice and bigotry are learned at a young age.
A good parent doesn't want to "cure" their child. A good parent wants to cure society. Kids are never the problem, and many of them find that in adult life they don't WANT a "cure". Besides, Autism Speaks is delusional if it truly thinks it can find a treatment or therapy to fix basic Deoxyribonucleic Acid imbued in these children at birth. Such thinking hardens back to a time where people thought electoshock therapy could ever be effective.
Edge McAwesome I don't support electroshock therapy and you are already saying autism is genetic no I s not genetic it's behavioral it's a checklist diagnosis it's voted into existence by the pharmaceutical industry it's the DSM 5 backed up by no science and why do we want to be proud of our weaknesses and disabilities sir?
Seeing Clearly Media I love how you went from "They're looking for a cure" to "It's a behavioral issue not genetics" despite the fact that A: You cannot 'cure' a behavioral issue. You can treat it. But you can't cure it. And B: Behavioral issues ARE on set by genetics. Take for example; depression. It can be treated, but not cured, and only some people suffer from it, or have the capacity to suffer from it. You'd honestly have a better case if you claimed Autism WAS a disorder (which it is), as there's more research going into 'curing' them than otherwise. Furthermore... why should I be proud of my 'weaknesses' and 'disabilities?' Albert Einstein, Lewis Carol, Amadeus Mozart, Picasso, Isaac Newton, all of them were autistic. I could name more but you could just google it anyway. Don't try to tell me that Autistic people need a cure, or that they're a puzzle to be solved, or a problem to be fixed, when the greatest minds of humanity were almost all among its numbers.
Yes, all parents have to deal with their life revolving around a kid. Having a child with severe autism may have some differences, but certainly not enough.
@Sherbet Tea Not sure that's true. Some people - not just kids, people - can cope with things in a different manner. I have a friend who hates bright yellow, like McDonald's sign yellow, but if you met her and came across that colour, you probably wouldn't even notice unless she told you. I feel that the labels that come with autism that explain where someone is on the spectrum is more within their reactions than their inner thoughts. It depends on how well they can function in a world that is not tailored for them, and their ability to communicate, both with and without therapy.
@Sherbet Tea Not exactly. It's how each person reacts to an equivalent of what distresses them. They are distressed to the same degree, but some can just walk away, while others panic completely. The spectrum directs how violent their reaction could be.
My husband is on the autism spectrum. He is a wonderful, sweet, intelligent man who just doesn't understand nonverbal cues and can become overstimulated from time to time. And I would never think less of him for it; on the contrary, he's been through so much and is a survivor. I'm proud of my husband's successes because I know how hard he works, how hard he tries to push forward and I'm there for him when he needs my love and support to boost him. And he's given me his undying love in return. So, lady at 10:58? Your son WILL find someone who loves him for who he really is, and accept his flaws, quirks and special needs... even if YOU can't. ANYONE can find love; you just have to be open to it.
I’m glad you’re not like them. They are cruel and stupid, I just hope you raise your daughter to know that this organization doesn’t define her, and who she is on the inside does.
I read that the parents were supposedly instructed to stop all therapies before filming, to make sure that their children were behaving "autistic enough" to shoe how "terrible" their lives were. I myself am on the spectrum, and I have to say: I've read about this particular video, and what I read sounded reprehensible. *Seeing* the video brings a whole new level of "reprehensible" to the table... 6:17 Note that she says that with the said child *in the room* with her...moreover, the line sounds *completely* rehearsed. How many times did the filmmakers have her repeat that line until it no longer sounded repulsive.
@@TheRojo387 Awful. There was a girl diagnosed with Aspergers (a form of autism), who was in a movie called 'Dustbin Baby", playing a girl called Poppy who spent every minute on screen obsessed with hair. She was a perfectly competent child actress, but at a younger age, she might have been far less so. Maybe some of these kids were acting out more than they would irl.
I am also on the spectrum, and I’m annoyed by this. I may or may not be, as I was hard to diagnose, but even if I’m not this is amazingly terrible. You could cure cancer with the amount of effort you can do to make a video like this.
Well, you need/needed parents to take care of you once, right? Nobody is born with the ability to walk, talk or pay taxes. How would you like it if your parents admitted they wanted to murder you right in front of your eyes and only didn't do it because of your sister? What would your reaction be if the world celebrated them for being SO BRAVE for not doing so and taking care of you instead of calling CPS? Would you feel safe? What if you got the information that an average of over hundred people like you are killed by their parents every year, and that's just those that are now known about and being recorded, would you still have the same trust in yours, especially if you may have gotten into some arguments with one of them? Would you feel confident to speak up again? What would you do if the largest charity devoted to "helping" you spend only 4% of their budget on doing so, using most for advertising of for nebulous and rarely actually helpful research? What if the people claiming to help you wanted you dead? What if they ignored any attempts of you to communicate that wasn't exactly in the way that they wanted you to? And this isn't just limited to nonverbal communication, this goes all the way to not listening to children and people that can and do talk. What if your own parents were a legitimate threat to your life, wellbeing, potential education and future and were congratulated for it? autisticadvocacy.org/2019/02/2019-day-of-mourning-vigil-sites/ ballastexistenz.wordpress.com/2006/05/16/exactly-who-is-unresponsive-here/
@@ferminromerodetorres Thank you for listening and I'm sorry that you and your mom were put in that position and that she didn't have the sense and/or strength to realize that some things are better left unsaid as they can cause a lot of harm. The problem I have is less that the difficulties that can come with having to take care of "low functioning"*, for lack of a better word, people are mentioned and more that the perspective of such parents is often all that's talked about in the media and is often used to drown out the voices of actual autistic people and that along with other misinformation that comes from only listening to often misinformed "experts" is very often a large part in what drives these people to commit or consider these crimes. Think about it, they are being told, by society, day in and day out that autism is always tragic, that it'll break their marriage, rob them of their joy and their child of his/her future. They are presented with a demonized extreme case study and a lot of misinformation (see how the parents treat their kids, ignoring their body language and even words and manipulating their bodies as if they weren't even human) that often leads to these issues. Basically, they are presented with a nightmare and then pushed into it, now, what happens if you expect a nightmare, if you give up on your kids and follow misinformation? If you are told, over and over and over again that you should be mourning and miserable for the rest of your life? Generally speaking, you'll very often end up with a miserable life. Because the kids pick up on your mood, because you're mistreating them in an effort to help, because you give up on your own life and thus lose all sight outside of what you think your kid is like. That's partly why they are talking like that "Autism mom" is often the only identity they have and they'll cling to it like a lifeboat, even when they are hurting their kids, because clinging to that and posting and whining about their kids gives them validation and connection they have removed from their lifes otherwise, not unlike some modern mothers that overshare their kid's lifes because they have nothing left BUT the kids. I'd say the whole situation is part of a cultural and psychological nightmare for both sides and videos like that are harming both sides, even though the moms often don't want to see it because that identity is all they have left and questioning that narrative in any way is basically questioning their only place of security. *Not necessarily just based on being able to talk or act allistic. A kid that can talk but still requires a lot of assistance, that may forget to communicate with their parents and so on can also be hard.
12:32 Did she really have the audacity just tell her daughter to say “I love you Mommy” and never actually tell her daughter she loves her? That’s appalling, but sadly not surprising for someone who openly considered DRIVING HER DAUGHTER OFF A CLIFF.
Tbh I feel like she staged a lot of this like if not the driving off the cliff part then I feel like she encouraged her other daughter to say "I wish my sister wasnt autistic"
if a neuroatypical child started crying when they were on a swing you would take them off it.... surely it would be same with any child. if not, then you're just a bad parent.
And the mom literally even said "people why why shes crying because she doesn't want to get on the swing" so she fucking KNOWS that she doesn't want to be on the swing
Your child puts up with your loudness, grabbiness, staring, distaste and uncompassion every day, too. every consider that? Might not melt down if you accommodated their needs. You might as well insist your diabetic child eat birthday cake and ice cream like everyone else. Oh, poor "diabetic mom" has to make different food, wah. CAN'T YOU SEE??
You have no idea what these families go though. I have three disabled children and I still wouldn’t assume their lives are like mine; every experience is different.
I noticed that EVERY mother was putting their hands all over their autistic child ALL the time. Forcing them to do things, forcing them to stop doing things. I can tell you that any tactile-defensive child is probably going to scream, cry, or melt down when anyone does that. And then they wonder why the child is getting upset. Jfc
@@Carterborchers So that makes it okay for a mother to get on camera and say, "Omg, I couldn't stand THOSE kinds of schools, so I thought I might kill myself and my daughter"?
@@Carterborchers No matter how severely disabled my child was, I would NEVER contemplate killing them. EVER. If she was having a mental health crisis, she should have gone to a hospital and had it dealt with there, not taken it out on her child. It's repulsive and horrifying, and, yes, I will judge a parent who only stops killing their child because they have another child.
The amount of grief I feel for the young girl Jody in this video is immeasurable. She has to sit there, listening to her mother talk about how she wanted to kill her. She comes over and sits in her mom's lap saying "what are you doing" at 6:00 in a very depressed tone. She is obviously aware of how her mom feels towards her. This is something no child should ever have to feel and I hope Jody is doing better today.
@@booksquid856 It takes honesty and courage to confess a serious crime you've comitted, but that doesn't make it any better now, does it? Same with this.
She didn't choose this, she expected a normal child which wasn't wrong of her. She was forced into this. I'm sure if she knew her kid would have asd she would've aborted like parents of down syndrome kids
Money... Sorry, no one was answering the actual question at hand, his name is Bob Wright and he's the reason why this got into the Sundance Film Festival. Maybe not him directly but he's at the head oh, and he also thinks that there's no conclusive evidence about vaccines either way. Seems to be far more damaging for the autism cause than anything he could have ever tried to do to help. Pretty sad when your own organization has to put out press releases nay saying what you said on national TV. It's like breast cancer awareness, the money goes towards things like this not actually research in any notable way.
Non-verbal doesn't mean non-living. That little girl was RIGHT THERE when her mother was talking about committing a murder-suicide, IN FRONT OF CAMERAS. What kind of things does that woman say behind closed doors? Somebody needs to get both of her daughters out of that toxic environment before it's too late. Even if she 'didn't mean it' she still said it, and that can have all kinds of negative effects on her daughter. Furthermore, if your child doesn't want to go on a swing, DON'T MAKE THEM GO ON A SWING! You wouldn't make your non-autistic (or neurotypical, as they're sometimes called) swing if she didn't want to, so why would you make your autistic child? You're complaining about her behaviour embarrassing you, when she's being distressed by YOUR behaviour. People have a good reason to stare and wonder what you're doing to the poor girl. Honestly, that poor little girl needs help.
That child was also talking, and trying very hard to communicate with her mother. That much was incredibly obvious. I bet she understood, at least to some degree, what her mother was saying. I can't believe that mother said that and not only was that supposedly an acceptable reaction, but an organization that supposedly advocates for autistic people found that OKAY to put in a commercial. That child was so happy when she was left alone, or left to do what she wanted. Why couldn't her mother just accept her child's interests and help her be happy? They really don't think autistics are human, do they?
I'm an ABA therapist. There are certain social skills that are very important and extremely functional for autistic children to learn. You cant just let them do whatever they want and be in their own world, they wont learn that way and will have a less quality of life. Obviously you cannot completely change who they are and we have to accept many aspects and even appreciate them for their unique mind but is also good for them to learn how to function in society so that they can be independent and have a good quality of life. Most of them know they are different and go through depression, they want connection and in order to do that they have to do things that make them uncomfortable.
@@frostedsilver That's what I'd like to know. How much do kids like her understand, but just have trouble communicating it? That little girl could be haunted for all her life and no one would even realize it because they won't get speech therapy and search for the "cure" that will never exist. It's like that water cure in the nineteenth century where the women with hysteria are driven to true insanity by nothing but bedrest.
mmk5385 don’t say that. I see nothing wrong with them being in their own little world. Autism speaks has more than enough money and resources to get society to understand autistic people so that way they can be in their “own little world” without fear of being persecuted. We didn’t ask to be born. All we want is to live a happy life
1:01 Mother says "He doesn't speak much at all!" to which her son attempts to reply. Just because he doesn't speak your language doesn't mean he can't communicate.
I wish the "positive thinkers" in the video could learn to have real faith in their kids. Children, autistic or not, pick up the signals of shame and resentment from parents. That child was probably invalidated for his entire childhood. Validation is so important.
Yup, sometimes my brain works in dutch although I can't speak or understand dutch. Non speaking doesn't mean non thinking and not everyone thinks in words or phrases. Some people think more abstract and especially for some autistic people, it's hard for us to put our thoughts into words and often when we do, it feels insufficient. At least for me
Autism Speaks isn't about the Autistic person's well being. It's for the parents comfortability. Ultimately counterproductive approach for everyone except the people making bank off the families.
@@SincerelyScarlettX And that is the shittiest part. 1.) They convence people autism is a horrific tragity. This makes it so that way parents freak out upon a diagnosis. 2.) Autism speaks swoops in during this self create vulnerable state and promises to "fix" the kid. 3.) They give shitty advice that all but guarantees the kids won't have a future while giving the parents a handjob. This is where they profit. 4.) When the kids eventually grows up to become a non-functional member of society, Autism Speaks uses them as a reinforcement for 1. Almost all kids on the spectrum can become functional members of society, they just need the right specific type of help. But what autism speaks is doing is harming these childrens chance to grow up as a self sufficient human, and profiting off that. And with their monopoly they hold, they are quite literally the voice of autism. But if life has taught me anything, it's that lying is more profitable than the truth. I was non verbal till I was seven. Thank god my mom was not fooled by this company, otherwise I would not be talking to you today. And even if the person does escape the cycle, they are still socially fucked as Autism Speaks reinforces the notion in people's minds that we are all deep down inside not human and thus we shouldn't be treated as such. If I could snap my fingers and destroy a company, it would be this one. It has made my life hell from diagnosis to today.
@@Plantrum My dear, no parent ever dreamed of their upcoming baby to be autistic or have any form of neuro developmental disability. Of course its a natural human reaction for parents and their family members to feel great sense of grief and sadness if a family member diagnosed with autism, its easy to judge them, but dont..
Parents: Force their kid to do things they don't want to, trash talk them in front of their faces, make no effort to communicate effectively Also parents: mY LiFe Is sO hArD
This is crazy....I live in an almost total world of Autism and I would NEVER change it. Both my husband and my son are Autistic and I am proud of them! If anyone is against them, then I will welcome tearing them from us!! They came first and no matter what happens, they are the most important in my world!! They are PERFECT!! These ppl are NOT parents, they are fools.
Sandy Jones i love this comment because it shows how much bs is in putted into this video. how the kids "can't" get a girlfriend or get married when ur clearly proud and happy of your husband and your son and ur family life, good on you! the fact the parents on this video even say that the kids "have no future" resembles ur statement, they're fools.
how can you call autism a brand. I thought when you said that you were referring to AutismSpeaks, but you're clearly from the other side of the influence and knowledge of autism. It's a developmental disorder and saying people who believe in it are imbeciles is an ironic and ignorant thing to say. It needs more recognition of how much an impact it has, and that recognition is not just pushed just for bloody profit, it's pushed for awareness so people can be enlightened on it. This video and AutismSpeaks is undoubtedly promoting autism in all the wrong areas, and are one of a few companies that are trying to gain profit off the disorder for no real benefit. But saying the whole of autism is a brand you're kidding right?
AutismSpeaks makes it sound like its a label on these kids. That they're gonna suffer and a cure is required to save these kids. Autism isn't a label, it just means that you're different. Yes, it sticks on you for life, but it's up to you whether you'll let it rule your life or whether you'll use that as an advantage.
Both my husband and I are autistic and wanting to be just the crazy, funny, and normal couple down the street with two beautiful children and a dog. Both of us work and I am so happy I found my husband. Because my husband finally broke a cycle my family has. The cycle of abuse and drug abuse. If that can not be seen as a blessing I do not know what could.
"I wish i had a sister without autism" i'm 100% sure that the camera people told her to say that, also these are all KIDS, i know alot of autistic people and most autistic people are fine when they are adults and go on to live a perfectly normal life and yes autisic people DO get married and have girlfriends and do normal human things like everyone else.
I have slightly more sever autism and you're right, while I understand what a relationship entails I know that I can not handle being in one and I get too overwhelmed by the noise in most places so I have only found one job that I can do (or a collection of related jobs rather) without overworking my brain and going into shut down mode and that is only because the place that I can do that job at calms me. But I do know several people on the spectrum who don't function as well as I do in other ways but can hold a "regular" adult job and even function alright in a relationship. So I guess it really depends on what parts of our lives it effects.
+Speed Knots Those folks are also intellectually impaired, which is separate from autism. The terms "Asperger's," "HFA," and "severe autism" were created due to this misunderstanding. Hans Asperger himself called the boys he studied "autistic." I am very much autistic, yet have very high IQ and therefore don't repeat phases like "achoo, bless you" and laugh at myself.
***** Did you fully read my comment? I was responding that being autistic plus having intellectual disability is not "severe autism." It is being autistic PLUS having intellectual disability. And "severe autism"/ "autism at its worst" implies that autism is inherently negative. It isn't. It's hard to be autistic by and large because NTs are NOT autistic - because they have relative severe deficits in perceptual capacity and have blocked sensory receptors.
I'm not "being defensive." I am just right, and you are just not able to think outside of the boundaries of your current belief and process all that I am saying...which means you are most likely NT. There is no point in repeating myself or elaborating because you will just continue to not process and repeat yourself.
+Speed Knots I explained, and you read it as "being defensive," instead of explaining. Hence my last comment. Shall we keep going in circles? No thanks. No point.
True I also have autism and for anyone who doesn't know what propaganda is its basically where someone is trying to get you on one side or the other basically with misleading and false information.
Autism everyday: me and my 3yo having dance stim parties to our favorite songs. He's just started to talk, but we still could communicate before then. It's called empathy and learning to communicate in their way as well.
This is awful! I'm an Autistic person and few things make me more angry than parents complaining about how hard life is for them because of their Autistic children. Newsflash parents: it's not all about you. Your kids need you to be there for them. And your children aren't burdens.
LUCKY for you that this is not your day-to-day experience - please try to be more understanding that not everybody is the same, these parents were asked to describe some of the difficulties they encounter with their daily lives and they very bravely did just that - we should not judge their experiences. I think the comments here are horrifying....elisha
Elisha Iggulden That is exactly my point...THIS VIDEO is not everyone's Day-to-Day experience, and by Autism Speaks continuing to always show the worst case scenario and to ignore autistic adults in their day to day plans for the organization they drive families and individuals living with autism away from them in droves. I am in NO way judging this family, I am judging Autism Speaks for their continuing disrespect.
@@emmarose4234 Based on a lot of the comments here, a sizable proportion of parents consider murdering their child. It shows that having kids isn't something that everyone needs to do. The neurotypical "life script" puts a lot of children into harm's way.
they’re literally just saying “oh my child doesn’t like that i’m touching him/talking to him/etc... guess i’ll keep doing it even though they’re screaming and crying for me to stop” and “i’m abusing my kid because he can’t do the things i want him to do”
I couldn't even finish this. The mother saying at 6:17 so calmly that she was contemplating killing herself and her child - and that she only wasn't doing it because she had a second , "normal" child to take care of - made me so disgusted, horrified and physically nauseous that I had to stop. How can these people even consider themselves to be helping prevent autism stigma?
Late to the game, but that's the entire point: they don't WANT to end the stigma. They want to end AUTISM. BIG difference. And in order to end autism, they have to CREATE the stigma for it in the first place. I'm not saying that Autism Speaks is entirely to blame for ALL the stigma in the past, but they sure as hell have NO desire to stop it and want to keep it active so they can make more money off of their fear tactics and false sympathy.
Even though Alison did say in a blog that she did not contemplate killing her daughter and all she said was that she would rather kill her than put her in a bad school. She still said it in front of her daughter which is unacceptable no matter how you put you words.
It's not normal to decide you'd rather have a dead child than a child that has to go to a bad school. At all. I'd rather my kid be entirely uneducated than be dead.
I wonder if the Authorities have seen this or if someone who either does or doesn't know her and these children whether it be personally or professionally reported her to the Authorities? If I knew who she was and she lived near me and she would say that in front of me, BELIEVE ME I would be the the first one to report her the the Police and C.P.S.. This is beyond toxic behaviour and she's a Garden Variety Narcissist and she favors her normal child over the autistic one and puts the autistic child as the scapegoat ( blames her for everything that goes wrong in the family instead of taking accountability for their own actions) these children should be in foster care until they can find suitable parents or parent figures who are fully trained and educated in autism and C.P.T.S D. and to properly raise the with pure, genuine unconditional love without the favoritism, hate and the bullshit.
This thing starts off meh, not really good or bad, but after the 5 minute mark it descends into hell. Women saying they contemplated a murder suicide with their child, making their children say they wish their siblings didn't have autism (I have no doubt that they were forced to say this) and people saying that they "lost" their child and their other children want to "fix them" and that the rate of divorce after having an autistic child is 80%. all of that is absolutely despicable. Autism Speaks is a terrible organization and people are too scared to go against it because of people questioning their political correctness and going against a worldwide charity. But, Autism Speaks doesn't care about kids for ASD. They don't have anyone on their team with ASD. They're treating it like its a disease, or an std or something. Autism speaks should not exist, and better organizations need to be made. It sucks how they treat Autistic children as nothing but a burden, and they need to get "prescriptions" and such. No. (P.S., Autism Speaks once took down and/or sued a 14 year old autistic girls blog.)
+ReMnant _ Have you heard of ASAN? Autistic Self Advocacy Network, run by autistic people, for autistic people. 'Not about us, without us!' They are an organization dedicated to bettering the lives of autistic people, the literal opposite of Autism Speaks, since Autism Speaks uses only 4% of funds to help families and 40% for research to eliminate autism. There are other good organizations too I just forgot what they are ;-;
as an autistic person, i think the beginning was pretty bad too 😓 first thing they show onscreen is a mother forcibly pulling on her child who is in distress- as well as filming the kid during it. i know i hate to be touched (let alone roughly pulled around) during sensory overload, and that i would hate even more to be filmed/exploited during a mental breakdown :( imagine that happening to a child
Now, now, let’s remember, just because someone’s allistic doesn’t always mean they are neurotypical. They can still be neurodivergent, just not autistic, that’s all. So, let’s call this *Neurotypical and Allistic Life Goals (TM)* or just *Neurotypical Life Goals (TM).*
The most inspirational part of this video was Jodie's little sister talking to her and asking her questions. Then she ruined it by saying "I wish I had a sister without autism." But I can let that pass because she's only little.
That garbage mother probably manipulated the kid into saying that. That's why these parents don't deserve to be parents. They're just going to pass there scumbag traits onto their children and they're going to end up just like them l when they're older.
@@baffledbrandon3132 Okay, but my point is, she probably doesn't actually mean that. Also, apparently Jodie's capabilities are far beyond what this video was allowed to show. Luckily, Autism Speaks has become more willing to let autism actually speak since this video.
She was probably constantly around people saying that autism was a bad thing, and being a little kid she took what the adults around her said at face value and decided that she didn’t want her sister to have this “bad” thing that was autism.
No, we don't think you're abusing your child because he's screaming. We think you're abusing your child because you're bemoaning how they aren't perfect, forcing them to do meaningless tasks for you, and saying you've thought about killing them. You know, because you're abusing your child.
This video is terrible, it breaks my heart that any parent would talk about this stuff in front of their children and let people see their children having a meltdown. Their children do understand what is happening even if they don't see it, they need their parents to love and accept them because the world won't. Acceptance has to start with the parent or they will always, always feel like an outsider everywhere. Like they do not belong in this world and the worse they feel, the worse the melt downs will get and they will never be able to have a happy life if that is the attitude of their parents. change has to start with the parent, a cure doesn't make a difference if we don't learn it in childhood once we're adults the world has given up on us the social part of our brains hasn't developed the way an NT's has and the real cure is not some medication or therapy while some of those might help the real cure is to promote acceptance and make it real because with all I studied people and body language and facial expressions I never got to practice it because by the time i figured it out the world didn't have time for me and I didn't realize how much I didn't know until I went to collage and got this amazing class of people who listened and didn't judge me but calmly told me what I had done wrong and continued to be my friend instead of storming away angry and never explaining what I could have changed. There was only so much my mom could do for me but she never talked like that in front of me and she never let me give up on myself because she believed in me and she got me through until I found others who would help me and even though I have to remind myself every step of the way and it's exhausting I don't get ridiculed because I make people uncomfortable and I have so many more people now that I can be comfortable and just be me around and I wouldn't be here if it weren't for my mom. So I don't know how any parent can talk to a camera like that especially with their child sitting there. I think if I was one of those children I would have lost hope a long time ago.
"she didn't want to be on the swing" you said it yourself, maybE you shouldn't be forcing her on the swing. "I contemplated driving over the Washington Bridge, and that would be preferable to--" um. why the fuck hasn't your child been taken away from you? why haven't you put her up for adoption then? I hate all of these parents. And pills, _why give your children pills for autism_? Autism is autism. The lack of understanding how to react "normally" in social situations. That's it. And there's a whole spectrum. Ugh.
@@Droooooo0 That's what Mrs Pen marks said when she tried to kill her daughter by making her take an overdose. Okay, it wasn't a true story, but she did it because her eight-year-old had already killed three people. It's in a movie and a book. The little girl survives the overdose, but the movie had her getting struck by lightning at the end.
This is quite offensive. This is why ableism exists in the autism community . As long as a child has the proper help and early intervention, they have higher chance of making it out here . Being born with autism doesn't mean being fcked for life ! Discipline is necessary but abuse should never tolerable. Some of us are late bloomers. Just because some don't move in the same pace as everyone else doesn't mean they are automatically worthless . This misinformation can drive a lot of individuals on the spectrum upset. I know I am. Hopefully I can make an autism blog soon. There are autistic individuals who graduated high school, went to college, financed independently , worked and owned businesses. So don't let the doom and gloom images on the media fool you !
"As long as a child has the proper help and early intervention, they have higher chance of making it out here." Considering the abusive "therapies" out there that are badly researched , the stupid parents and such I'm pretty fucking glad that only now someone really raised suspicion about me potentially/probably being on the spectrum. At least now I don't have depression PTSD/C-PTSD, debilitating anxiety, extremely shitty self worth and trained obedience on top of it all.
The Autistic community is one of the most discriminated against communities out there (look no further than this organization some how being the leader in Autism charity). We are so discriminated against not even the Democrats will support us, that's how bad it is.
@@AdamSmith-gs2dv this is so true.. And what's even sadder is that it's not talked about or recognized like blm. Unlike race, religion, or gender, autism spectrum is not a legally protected status!
@@abbeycoleman5559what if 'disabled' people are perfect while everyone else is imperfect, but disabled people are considered imperfect because there are more 'normal' people than us?
I’m a mother of autistic twins. They are now 21. I looked at this video and was horrified at her mention of driving off the GW bridge and the parts where she said the only reason she didn’t was because she had a neurotypical child. That neurotypical child wished for a non-autistic sibling. Sometimes parents with special needs children get on the pity-pot, and their children react to their disdain. I love my children and taught them to love themselves. I didn’t hand them over to therapist who tried to make their childhood hell. I remember stopping early intervention because they were talking above my sons head and doing ABA training to new workers while avoiding him as a human being. I enjoyed my children, didn’t get offended if they were criticized, as a matter of fact I taught them by example how to stick up for themselves. I looked for new and creative ways for my children to express themselves. I’m not saying it wasn’t hard at times, all children can be hard at times. I’m glad and proud for who they are, I think if you are that unhappy with having an autistic child, in all probability you would not be happy having children period. I figured it out, it was challenging but they were happy self accepting-kids.
I have a friend who is autistic and he’s a genius at math and in grad school. He just got kittens and named them after famous mathematicians. Yes, it might be hard for the parents, but why don’t we talk about the kids that lead great, successful lives or how much those kids matter? Why is the only thing that matters the struggles?
@@booksquid856 And not every autistic is a non-verbal, low IQ mentally disabled person. There should be more attention to the majority of us instead of the 2 opposite extremes.
As someone with Asperger's I feel offended by the way these parents seem to be implying their children are burdens. I wasn't diagnosed until later in my childhood around 10, even then I still went to Mainstream School, with hindsight I have to wonder how different my life would have been if I had been with other children with autism. But despite the hardships of high school I've made good friends and had rewarding experiences in charity work. My anxieties and need for routine do limit my everyday activities more often than not, it just means I'll work that much harder to look after my home and my animals. Equating being a parent to 'having a hangover' is just cruel. Ladies? If you don't want a hangover then don't drink, okay? They deserve help, I agree with that much. My mother had to fight to get what I was entitled to in regards to school for example, no one wanted to help me. I just don't think this charity is going about this the right way :p
Have you not read the studies that show sleep deprivation has the same effect on mood and cognitive ability as being drunk? Sleep problems are one of the most common and severe symptoms for those being labeled autistic. Nice if you didn't have that problem. But get off your high horse and stop judging this as fake. These parents are exhausted beyond your wildest dreams.
Well... this has offended me. I have autism and this video just makes us all look like awful, uncontrollable, selfish people. These 'parents' are bloody terrible. I didn't get diagnosed with autism until I was 11, before then my parents were told they weren't bringing me up right, I was just a little slow to develop and that I was just a misbehaved child and they had to look after me without any kind of help. My parents didn't have the luxury to understand what was wrong with me, why I was crying all the time, having fits, why I was still wearing diapers at the age of 6+, why I acted a certain way etc and not once did I hear of them complaining or saying how much of a handful I was, they just got on with it like any good parents would. And why are they acting like their child has no future, no hope? I've just finished a level 2 course in college and will be going into a level 3 course after the summer holidays... My behaviour and my ability to cope has has improved dramatically over the years, how can they say their child has no hope? Take them kids away from them and give them to parents who have to ability to properly look after a child.
As it was said in documentary, divorce rate after autism diagnosis increases up to 80%. Would you consider that those mom are simply exhausted both physically and mentally? Without proper support system, lack of schools, programs, and even different spectrum of autism sometimes "THERE IS NO hope. Let me ask you, did your parents raised you by themselves or you had encountered numerous -logists at school to help with your improvement. I do not see bad parents here.
@@lubystkaolamonola529 so wanting to kill your child and only not doing so because one is “normal” is good parenting? They all fail to actually understand their kids I’m sorry you don’t understand autistic people and only know about us from viewing Autism Speaks videos and stories like Chris Chan’s.
As someone else on the spectrum, I can tell you I passed my English GCSEs (UK) in high school. I'm a very talented writer. People are even impressed by what i write
For the reason why it seems that they have "no hope" is obviously a lack of resources, but that doesn't mean they can be crappy for their excuses. It's sad that they can only focus on the bad side and not on the other side. These parents are clearly not educated, or they are wrongly educated that hurts not only themselves but also surrounding areas such as their friends, children, colleagues, etc. We need to stop the nonsense from Autism Speaks because of how much cruelty they are shoving us BS yet not letting us to speak. It's like if it only speaks from parents and not with individuals with autism. For this reason, I wear red on the day for Autism to oppose their message and let neurodivergent people speak.
Fun fact: if you force a non-autistic child to do a puzzle they don't want to do, or force them on a swing, or do literally any of all the grabbing that happens to kids in this video.... THEY WILL ALSO CRY
I agree. I mean if you're grabbing a neurotypical/allistic child, people will call you out for assault und assume that you're a pedophile. But wtf is it allowed to do the SAME thing with autistic children without being called out for the same thing? Why??
The lady who talked about putting the little girl in the car and driving off a bridge is teaching both of her children a very destructive lesson. Ableism.
This isn't all autism is. I read somewhere that these families were told to ensure their houses were messy and that they were asked to change their schedules to ensure the kid would have meltdowns for this video. They don't show any of positivity. These parents look like they've had death sentences. They are all blaming their child for their divorces and financial problems. These people don't deserve their children. They spend all this time complaining about their child and basically casting them as a burden, but they never said anything positive about their children. It's like they don't love them.
Shannon King To me what's horrible about autism speaks is not that they want to see the end of autism but rather that they want to microchip autistic people against there will (for there safety) they say that's like forced medication that's not good .
"i didnt chose to do this" excuse me but when you get pregnant you sign up for any and everything if you just expect a "pefect child" you dont deserve a kid
Seeing Clearly Media dude im a hardcore christian and i can tell uou this video is NOT what God wants, im nkt gonna argue with some stranger on the internet because wow i actually have something better to do, go educate yourself instead of believing everything media and fox news tells uou
Okay seriously I’m seeing all these joking comments on this video and that is good too lighten the mood of course but this was probably one of the most difficult videos I’ve ever sat through especially when Allison Singer admitting thinking about driving herself and her child off a bridge I legitimately almost cried
Neurotypicals Speak About Dealing with Autistic Kids, While Autism Is Silenced. I bet they edited out anything positive they might have said about autism. And 6:11 - what the hell? I'm autistic (well, high-functioning Asperger's, I realise I have it very easy compared to some...) and Autism Speaks certainly doesn't speak for me. Luckily I live in the UK where people have pretty much never heard of it AFAIK.
One of the most infuriating things about this video is that when they're talking about schools, or people judging their kids, or having to spend tons of money on therapy or special food, they are so, SO close to understanding that the actual problem is that the system completely fails autistic people, and anyone else who doesnt exactly conform to society's idea of normalcy. But then they completely miss the point and blame the child instead
I have autism, but I received a late diagnosis due to my son having autism. It breaks my heart watching this, I am so sad that my mom is like these moms, when I got married she got so relieved that she finally didn't have to deal with me anymore. I can't stop crying, its a blessing that my son is autistic, I understand him in his worst and best moments, he gives me the strength to be here, I may cry everyday due to how overwhelm I feel, every single day, still, I couldn't be happier with him, I just want him to be happy even in his saddest moments, I want him to know he has parents that love him just as he is.
Aspie, musician, artist, graphic designer, computer engineer with interests in Astronomy, Physics, History, Medicine. But I've also been very introverted, was never any trouble for my parents or teachers, just a quiet and hard working student in school who received many awards. While I do and did have meltdowns and shutdowns, they never included kicking and screaming--my stim is only a bouncing leg. My parents, grandparents out of the goodness of their hearts always supported my interests without question. I've known many other people all over the spectrum similar to myself. I should probably say that I wasn't diagnosed until recently at 27, but I myself knew I was different as of at least 5-6. I was held as an example for my younger siblings. I know that I'm not the only one who is on the spectrum that shares many of these aspects. I'm Autistic and proud, and my entire family are proud as well. Autism Speaks does not speak for me or others like me...they're poison, and it's just appalling.
I have Asperger syndrome, and at a young age I taught myself how to both read and draw. I'm a high-functioning artistic mind, and my parents didn't go broke raising me. It also didn't completely change or distort their lives, as these mothers claimed their kids did. Was there ever anyone like me mentioned in this video? Not even once. Because I don't ask for a pity party, yet this video is exactly that. -_-
Bro I had the same story I have a mild autism and I started reading and writing even drawing when I was 6 at this age I'm a great reader and writer with a big skill of art and my parents never gave up on me thanks
I have autism. My parents had no friends that knowingly had a child with autism. Many of them did not have children at all. Some of them did have children, and one family was from my kindergarten - I was friends with their oldest child who is a true-to-life genius. The only friend they have that has a child with autism was a friend of a friend, and their daughter was diagnosed when she was in her twenties, and only with a number of other things.
These mothers need to be supportive of what their kids can do, instead of focusing on what their kids can't. A much better video would feature people with autism expressing what autism is like for them everyday, not NTs making all of these complaints. I'm sick and tired of negative stereotypes. Let's be positive for once!
Her Daughter is autistic, is in the same room, and can hear her say "She would have gone over a bridge with her if it were not for her other normal child 6:30" Sic,. Stop thinking children with autism can not understand you!.
I love how they're like "he won't do the puzzle unless he's in the mood", "she doesn't want to go on the swing" as if they're actual problems?? STOP FORCING YOUR KIDS TO DO SHIT THEY DON'T WANNA DO JUST TO PLEASE YOU! Literally nowhere in this clip were the kids accommodated or allowed to be themselves, and you wonder why they're having meltdowns??
You have to understand that the parents do these types of things to help their kid's mind develop. To help them grow and be self reliant. Again, bashing parents of a mentally impaired child isn't helpful. Being a parent of a severe autistic child isn't easy. Most folks don't give credit to the parents for doing their best. It's like saying, "don't teach your child to read because he doesn't want to" "Don't teach your child to put on his shoes or get dressed if he doesn't want to" I have an autistic child, with mild autism, he has meltdowns, tantrums, yells, spits, needs prompting, etc. and thanks to me repeatedly teaching him to read, even if "He didn't feel like reading" he learned to read at the age of 4.
@symmetricalorigami6728 First of all, autism is not a mental impairment. Secondly, there's no such thing as "mild" or "severe" autism, the spectrum isn't linear. And lastly, get over yourself.
@@SandySass Actually, Autism IS classified as a disability. It is an impairment that affects both neurological and mental development in daily life. It is under the ADA. In the U.S., Autism even qualifies for social security disability income. Any child or adult who isn't capable by his/her own means to perform normal daily tasks on his/her own due to low neurological development is considered mentally disabled.(by normal, I mean by self care, being able to self express , self dressing, self feeding, self bathing, not being constantly prompted, being able to identify simple tasks to get around, driving, reading, writing, being aware of danger (ex: not running into traffic) not needing to be monitored) Second, there is levels of severity in the autism Spectrum. It is not labels, it is a MEDICAL FACT. Children with autism are evaluated by a pediatric psychiatrist, the psychiatrist determines how severe the child's condition is by asking the parent's questions about the child's capabilities and limitations. All this is done to help the child to have a better quality of life in adulthood. Some autistic children do fine while others with higher severity need professional help for the rest of their lives. It's truly unfair how you don't accept reality, you choose to disbelief that children with autism are all the same and they're not. Some are more severe than others. And you bashing on the parents who are trying to help their child is truly ignorant. I'm currently teaching my autistic 7 year old multiplication tables "even if he doesn't want to" and thanks to consistency, he has learned a lot. He may not able to self express or have a normal conversation, but every day consistency is helping him a lot. Therapists, psychiatrists all encourage constant consistency for their mental development.
@@XavierP333here are a number of ways to teach skills without resorting to force, it can be a simple as finding what your child actually likes and going from there. To provide a legitimate, though different perspective; i am autistic. I always liked reading early grade cartoon books like diary of a wimpy kid, even as far as 6th grade. When everyone actually tried to get me to read beyond that, I hated reading. It felt useless when my mom always took me to a library to spend my summer reading books when all the dialogue I'd ever want would be in video games I'd be playing instead. It felt like the choice to read what I wanted wasn't in my hands anymore, and it turned me off from books. How have my unusual ways of reading affected my skill? I was consistently many grades ahead of a normal reading level, even with my apparently poor eyesight. I also recently scraped by an English college course which was consistently stressful (mainly because I never had a real English class) but barely manageable once I put the pieces together. I won't pretend to know everything about parenting, especially to a parent, and learning to do things you don't always want to do is a necessary thing to teach, even if it's not easy. What I'm trying to say here is that children will learn in ways you won't always expect, especially autistic people. And imo, finding that unique flow of learning and guiding them through it is more beneficial than simply going through a checklist of life lessons. And also, in the context of the comment, it's a bloody swing. If they wanted to bond with their kid there's a million different ways that don't involve uncomfortable levels of force.
Ok look I'm only halfway through the video, but I want to say, I am autistic myself, and so are my 3 brothers and my father, but we never had it difficult at home, even though we got the first diagnosis around 2-3 years ago. The reason these kids are suffering, having meltdowns etc. is because they don't feel safe at home. They need so much attention because you keep giving it. I and my older brother needed very much attention when we were little, until my mom said it wasn't normal behavior, and then we just stopped. So slowly change the routines and tell them when you change something and why. Also some advice for the parents: let them do what they want to. If they run away, they are most likely scared and feel not safe at home. If they don't want to do or wear something, then don't force them to unless it is really necessary. Let them brush their teeth with a regular toothbrush and let them do it themselves. If they don't want to wear jeans and only sweatpants (like my brother)? let them. LISTEN TO THEM to make everyone's life easier.
Did this woman just say she would have fucking murdered her child as an alternative to living with her? Holy shit. she needs to be put the fuck in jail, why is this acceptable? she needs to be separated from that child immediately, this child deserves so much better than a mother than would sooner kill her than take care of her any longer. she deserves someone who actually loves her.
tami molar i'm autistic. i'm 18. i don't have to have "walked in her shoes." don't fucking tell me that what she said is excusable by any means. don't you ever try to excuse this kind of behavior. autistic children and people deserve to be treated with respect like everyone else.
I cannot imagine what it must feel like as one of these children to later stumble across this video and watch your own parents complain about you as a child. None of these parents should have had children if they weren't prepared for the struggles that came with it. I have never hated anything more than this organization.
Not only that but the children are aware of what's happening now as in a cut part the mum in green says her daughter doesn't love and then her daughter comes and hugs here saying she does only for the mum to shoo her away
Seeing Clearly Media oh lordie I no I can't I'm gonna need to quote a muppet "it's amazing you are 100% wrong I mean nothing you've said has been right." No better education understanding and treatment for those with this condition is what makes me hopeful
Seeing Clearly Media I don't think you know what the autism spectrum is I don't think you know what it's like to be in it so you thereby have no horse in this race please do not respond because I will not goodnight
A ceiling fan The cure to a disorder is order so yes there is a cure for autism and in that case it would be putting your mind in order like if you get too shy for doing normal things train yourself not to do that anymore.
0:131:131:315:2910:2611:21 Whats up with their obsession of stopping the children from stimming? As long as they are not harming themselves or others there is nothing wrong with stimming. They may feel overwhelmed and stimming helps them self regulate, and these parents dont let them stim...
someone please tell me I didn’t just hear this woman say she was gonna kill herself and her daughter with autism but didn’t because she had another child who didn’t have autism? I’m not a parent but I know for a fact that no matter what issues my kid has I will love them unconditionally. this woman is a monster
A ceiling fan Autism is bad behavior and areas of weaknesses or skills that are not learned and developed and or mentally retarded that all needs a cure autism can also be disorganized thinking which is a disorder and that needs a cure all mental illness needs a cure.
Of course, I understand, but cancer is something that can actually kill. When did autistic people ever show that it was actually ruining their life, and using other people's impatience and ignorance isn't an excuse.
A ceiling fan It ruined my life. Autism kills if not directly indirectly there have been autistics who cross the street like wild animals without looking or put there feet in the edge of an escalator and get there foot cut off. They get into trouble because they are mentally ill.
1:23 does the parent not realize that electronic toothbrushes are sensory hell??? at least be educated before you do things to your kid that could harm them but wouldn't harm you
yeah why an electric tooth brush specifically??? even as a teen turning on one of those things feels like youre holding a rapidly vibrating cat. it doesnt affect me much but to a small child holy shit of course it would do that
the fact that your child is autistic does not mean they cannot hear you, the way the mother of the little girl literally said IN FRONT OF HER CHILD that because of her daughter's disability she almost committed suicide and killed her daughter at the same time is disgusting, but worst of all is that she said she didn't do it because she has a neurotypical child, absolutely disgusting, this poor little girl needs a better parent.
Friendly reminder to all parents that if you choose to have a biological child, you CONSENT to the possibility that your child might be different, might have different beliefs, development, even sexuality when they get older. It is still your responsibility to love and care for the child you brought into this world, even if they are not "normal".
I am a mother of a 3 year old autistic little girl who is currently mostly non-verbal. I also have a younger child who appears to be developing typically. While I worry about the future of my precious daughter all the time and constantly try to find ways to help her, I certainly would never compare her to her typically developing sibling and moan about losing the 'babyhood' of her brother because of her autism (!) like one of the mothers in this video does. To hear the mother of that beautiful autistic little girl say that she contemplated killing herself and her daughter and it was only the fact that she had another, non-autistic child that stopped her from doing it made me feel absolutely sick, especially as she says it right in front of that precious child, who I am certain, understands everything her mother is saying. I know that my 3 year old understand most of what I say because I can see it, even if she doesn't respond to my requests. I don't assume that because she can't talk, she won't know what I'm saying and even if I ever, EVER felt the way this woman did, I would NEVER say it in front of my precious little girl. This girl comes up to her mum and apppears to ask 'what are you doing, mum?" (beautiful communication, btw) with a distressed look on her face and her mum completely ignores her and goes on to say those horrible things with that poor little girl right behind her. What the hell is wrong with people! To me, that's abusive and cruel behaviour on her part! And then she cuddles the younger sister lovingly and says nothing when the child says that she wished she had a sister without autism! It is YOUR JOB as a mother to teach your other, non-disabled child to accept, respect and love her autistic sibling especially as she is clearly old enough to be taught that! Who else is going to do it if you don't?! Well, I wish I could give that autistic little girl a cuddle and tell her how beautiful, smart and special she is.
The murder suicide thing and cure speech(I see this weekly) didn't hit me nearly as hard as that did. Why are teaching your daughter that's something she should say
If I were in that situation where I had to worry about a call from the school, stating that one of my future children had been acting violently, I would want to know more facts, before deciding what should happen next. There could have been some bullying going on, or someone might have done something to make that girl do that.
@@crazygalemt whenever someone tries to pull the “autism means stupid” card, I just tell them the father of modern computing, Alan Turing, was a (probably) autistic gay man
@@tirakindler1 are you just gonna copy paste that to every comment you see? you do realize it is a spectrum and not every case will be as severe as the one you are familiar with, right?
Is no one going to mention how the mom of the one girl was talking to the camera about how difficult it was to raise her child,and she asks the mom twice "Are you crying?"
FREE JODEY!
Her daughter cared. Her mother acted like her daughter wasn't there.
I think it shows who really has the empathy in that relationship.
That part hurt so so much
@@emmarose4234 Jodey is actually living a good life now: and her mom has actually apologized, Her mom is now the co-founder of science foundation.
@@harleyspizzeria5063 Source? I wanna really know for sure this kid ended up ok and the mother is trying to make up for this.
That little girl Jodi saying "I didn't do anything wrong" broke my heart. Did she hear her mom say she considered killing her? Kids shouldn't be on the defense by default just for existing
Can you please timestamp that part?
@@jononpaper 6:01
@@veggie_kller6964 thanks
That's awful
the parents give up every aspect of their life for an autistic child that can barely function past a toddler level and that will continue to be overwhelming them until they die. Honestly I would consider killing myself too
“The other moms were looking and wondering why this 8 year old girl was throwing a fit because she didn’t want to get on the swing...” No, they were probably looking at you wondering why you were repeatedly forcing a kid with autism who obviously got sensory overload on swings onto a swing.
yea. who the fuck forces their kid to get on a swing period, whether they're autistic or not? is the swing somehow essential to life? I will never understand these people.
I'm a 21 year old autistic woman. I have never been able to ride roller coasters because the motion and sound is overwhelming and makes me want to vomit. If my mother physically forced me to go on a roller coaster, you can bet your ass I would be screaming and throwing myself on the floor to get away (fortunately, she understands and anytime my family went to amusement parks her and I gorged on funnel cake while my siblings enjoyed the rides). These mothers are horrible; I can't imagine the avoidable pain they put their children through
@@peridaniel8265 my mom used to force me up to dinner not caring how I would cry.
It's like, you wouldn't force a neurotypical kid to get on a swing. Why would you force an autistic kid? What's the benefit of going on a swing? I'm not seeing one.
Preach🙌
"All the pain he's in"
As an autistic person, it's not painful (unless it's being misunderstood!)
He's just stimming. Leave him the hell alone.
Exactly
It's been 11 years. I hope the kids featured are doing OK.
It isn't painful, however it makes life awkward in later formative years in social situations
@@Dogwolf12 literally hope he's doing good
@@jetstream454 If you're a highly functioning autist, it ain't that bad in most social settings.
I'm so glad the majority of the comments are about what utter trash this shit it.
I do have autism but i sometimes had mood swings easily (sometimes)
But why the fuq would they’re parents raise they’re child like they’re normal people THOSE CHILDREN HAD GOD DAMN F(CENSORED)ING SPECIAL NEEDS
@@MetroStation64 not to mention that one parent who confessed to wanting to commit A MURDER-SUICIDE!!!! AND ONLY DIDNT BECAUSE SHE HAD ANOTHER CHILD!!! LIKE WHAT THE FUCK
Never have I experienced such pure disgust. As an autistic woman, I can't fathom growing up in such an overwhelmingly toxic environment.
Who can fucking blame her? @@Moetron_V2
*puts my child into physical distress against their will* it's exhausting for me 😢
That's the biggest problem with this organization. They indulge the parents, and let them make it all about them. I remember reading about a mom who did the same thing with her daughter who had anxiety disorder, and she narrated how her mom loved being "that brave woman with the mentally ill daughter". These moms are the same.
Honestly
*TOOOO TTRRRUUEEEE*
these people are forcing there children into uncomfortable and mentally draining situations and wondering why there child is acting out!
IM DEAD
I'm allistic and if I had to live with these people (the parents) I'd be screaming, and/or running into on coming traffic too.
Omg that one mom blatantly showing favouritism to her neurotypical child my heart broke
It is truly barbaric.
Wait when was that?
@@cinnamonbeanbaby444 it wasn’t. People here are projecting and hanging up on the moms in the video for being human and vulnerable. Apparently the moms are supposed to be happy they have a kid with autism.
@@BimBop83it's not difficult to be happy when you actually make an effort to accommodate the child's needs. it will improve behavior and strengthen love connection.
@@BimBop83 they don't have to be happy to have a kid with autism. What they _do_ have to do, as a major part of the role of parenthood, is respect and look after the child adequately. You don't have to be happy to have a child with autism to at least not slag them off while they're literally right on their lap and can hear every word, or spend more time with the non-retarded one.
I'm autistic, and I know I caused my parents lots of stress when I couldn't cope with loud noises and melted down, but never did my parents ever show me anything but love and a duty of care.
The moms : *constantly touching and forcing their autistic kids to do things they don't want to*
Kids : *cries*
The moms : anyway, my life is so hard...
THIS omg so true
IK i don’t think u could expect a nt kid to be ok with this either it’s common sense
I’m sorry but if we don’t they’ll just be in the same spot choosing to not do any forms of activities
@@jadeaaron137 they will do their own fucking thing. just like any NT child.
@@lewisgamer637 and? Which is why you have to teach them!!!!!! They’ll stay in a diaper if u don’t teach them, they’ll go without communication if you keep doing for them, they’ll keep having you wash them from child up until adulthood. If you’ll allow anyone including disabled people with limitations because they don’t want to try is all your fault so when it’s time for them to be on an airplane, then you and probably someone else will be annoyed because that parent didn’t make an attempt.
i don't have autism, but every time one of the parents try to make their child look at them, or move their hands away from what they were doing, trying to break their concentration- it seems like that'd be stressful for the child. and it also seemed like this video was placing the issue on the child: the child can't do this, the child is like that. these people are going into debt because their country won't take care of them.
It is very stressful for the child. There was one scene where the child made a distressed noise and tried to pull away when the "therapist" stopped his hands when he was stimming, and there's a reason for that. This is how autistic people regulate their sensory input. The therapist was literally taking away that child's coping mechanism. Then they all expect the child to be okay with it?? It makes no sense at all.
I have mild autism and you are spot on. It’s very stressful to be cajoled or forced into engaging with people. If I don’t want to look at people then don’t tell me I need to look at people! I don’t! I don’t need to be forced onto a swing, to look at someone, touch someone etc....all these things can be highly stressful if pushed into. It has to come from within the individual.
I have contemplated suicide because of what people told me autism was but they didn't know that I was autistic. My teachers don't know either and how much stress they're putting on me and how much I don't want thereto be a tomorrow. If I could change myself I would make myself normal, and while autism is supposed to be treated as a normal thing there are so many people out there doing the opposite
Good thing AS donates more than 10% towards autistic people and their families instead of investing it in fundraising and six figure salaries.
Oh wait...
You're right. It's extremely traumatizing. We have an over 90% PTSD rate.
I can't finish this. It's nothing more than a relentless assault on people with autism.
An "upright, noble" person doesn't deny the existance of something that clearly exists.
Rohan Zener What I may or may not believe spiritually is irrelevant. The fact that the term "autism" has been misused does not remove the fact that there are actual people who have the disorder. As for it's "crime syndicate," if you're referring to Autism Speaks, that's not a representative of anyone with Autism. Furthermore, I never stated that you're evil. I objected to your insinuation that you're more upright and noble because you deny the existence of something despite evidence. I'd say the same if you denied that something like racism didn't exist. As for a retort to your God comment, do you also deny the existence of the holocaust?
You also seem to be under the impression that autism makes one ineligible for work. If you want to claim there's more evidence against the existence of autism, then you'll have to show it. You'll have to find something that'll convince me, despite my personal experience with the disorder, that autism doesn't exist. As entitled as you are to have an opinion, I will not consider your opinion as valid evidence, especially when weighed against the fact that I have been living with autism for my entire life.
Care to share a source? Because that is not listed as a symptom of autism by anything I've been able to find, not to mention the grammar. If "bullied by others by enlarge" is a symptom, then sure, what you're thinking of can't exist, because to bully someone "by enlarge," you'd have to be bullying them by making them bigger.
That's "By and large," Rohan. And again, not a symptom, either way.
I am autistic. It broke my heart when the little girl said, “I wish I had a sister without autism.” If my sisters said that, my feelings would be hurt. My sisters love me and accept me for who I am and they would never say anything like this. 💔
So true ❤️❤️😢😢
So does my sister I'm autistic and we have a great relationship
Yeah, and it’s even worse because it’s not the kid’s fault, she’s been taught that
Same. And my sister knows I'm autistic and also accepts me the way I am.
It cripples me to think of stuff like that. Do my siblings hate me because of a thing out of my control? Do they wish I was replaced? It kills me D:
My son is Autistic and he has Down Syndrome. He has his meltdown times but nothing like these. These poor kids were provoked. Any child, or person really, with Autism is going to react at being taken out of their comfort zone. A camera shoved in their face is enough to set anyone off. I used to have to take a blanket with me to the store and tent my son in the cart with goldfish so he wouldn’t just fall apart at the crowds. But I have done it without the “help” of some place like AS. And I will continue to love my son till my end. Will he ever get married? I don’t know. Will he ever be able to move out? Probably not. But he’s my child and I love him.
Thanks! Finally, an abled parent who gets it!
The fact that your son has different needs and experiences is indicative of nothing. Every case is different, and there absolutely are some kids that have extreme and frequent meltdowns. It’s honestly rather off putting to hear you try to “compete” as to how disabled your kid is.
@@BimBop83 I totally agree….a lot people are placing their personal experiences and acting as if that’s the only way it should be. I’ve seen kids have worse meltdowns and with no apparent triggers. People are blaming the parents, but they do not understand that there are different levels of autism.
I hate the line about “my son will never get married”. Just because his brain fires differently doesn’t mean he won’t find love. And he still might not get married, but what if the other son never gets married, what’s your excuse then, huh? The neurotypical didn’t get married, so why is it just a problem that the Autistic didn’t?
Why would she push her child on a swing set if SHE DIDNT LIKE IT? And get UPSET when her child CRIES? Does she not want to let go of the idea of a "perfect child" so much that she will literally upset her own child to live out a fantasy of motherhood. Please, parents, parents to be, please don't expect your child to be perfect. They could be autistic, gay, disabled, trans, or just not "what you want" in a child, you can't control who they are, don't have children if you will hate them the second after a diagnosis. these children deserve better than parents who want them literally dead.
+creepycupnoodle I'm probably one of the highest functioning people among everyone under the spectrum in my school, and yet my mom ignores a lot of my triggers because she wants to act like they don't exist--and she's the one who got me evaluated three times before they made a diagnosis!
+Zoe Kirk I'm sorry you're in that situation it really sucks to be ignored by that, esp by parents. It seems all too common too :( (not to downplay your feelings of corse)
+creepycupnoodle To clarify, I never mean that being autistic, gay, disabled, or transgender is something bad, I mean that many children are rejected by their own parents for being one or more of these things, forced to hide it and try to be "normal" , so their parents get their "perfect, normal" child (even though there is no child will reach all of their parents expectations), even though their child is amazing just as they are already. Its sickening. I'm sorry I didn't make it clear the first time. (Im probably not very clear now anyway)
I agree your kids don’t deserve the trauma of there parents dreams
I don't think you can judge the parents here without experiencing it
“You have no idea how hard it is for us autism moms 🥺” IMAGINE HOW HARD IT IS FOR THE KID?! They say “I didn’t sign up for this” but YOU chose to have kids (usually that’s the case), YOU wanted to take on the child.
The one that chose the least was the child themselves after all
Yes they wanted a normal healthy child. No one ever wishes for a sick and disturbed child.
@@katenix8384 being autistic doesn’t make you sick and disturbed. I have autism and I live a completely normal life
@@katenix8384 Tf is wrong with you. An autistic child doesn’t have a disease, it’s genetic. If you think any other think about autism, you can read a little piece of a simple book about neuropsychology if you want.
@@snuuy7015 count yourself among the fortunate minority. You obviously are very light on the spectrum in regards to the severity of your autism. Most people with it can’t function normally.
90% of the kids in this are just straight vibing. Like they’re minding their own business just enjoying life. The other 10% of times they’re having meltdown MOST LIKELY CAUSED BY THEIR PARENTS!! Like, wtaf!?
dude seriously 2:50 the mom is all crying about her sons future and there’s all this dramatic editing on him while he’s just chillin out
@@openchested ikr he’s just swaying round acting like a normal child and this woman be like “*oh his future so ruined!!!, what a terrible thing!!*”
Bro I have autisim and I may have episodes like that, but hell no. Charicterizing like that is basically saying the flu is the black plague.
I love the look he gives his mom. Like, “are you serious?”
@@religiousindustrialaliens “ooooohhh noooeeees so much futureee ruuuiiined”
“dino go brrrr”
What's so disturbing about that infamous "murder/suicide" line is how calm and *rehearsed* it sounds. I have a lot of experience with rage and frustration and anxiety, and would not judge someone I overheard saying that kind of thing while they were very emotional. But for them to say it in such a controlled, contemplative way? And for a professional organization to CHOOSE to include that in a video about Autism? Sick on SO many levels. It's not so much what you say, but the context in which you say it, that shows your true colors.
downward spiral Proof?
No she did not. She actually spoke out against the video and organization, apologized to her daughter, and became a better person.
That was someone different
LBCGriffin source please? Not trying to be rude.
@@LBCGriffin oh *please* give proof I need it please please please please
"Who will take care of him when i'm gone?" Hopefully someone better
You can pretty much replace "better" with "else."
I agree.
Or perhaps the child himself?
@@TheRojo387 yeah let's leave a 2 year old alone in the house for the rest of their life what'll go wrong?
@@fareedal-rashid2627 That's a strawman.
They showed this in my elementary school and it honestly made me feel so worthless. Like im a burden on my family even when I know that they care about me and love me and "they can't go out for a bagel" because they love me. These commercials make people with autism seem like they're just the most worthless people in the world.
Da Guppz, you had to WATCH this when you were in ELEMENTARY SCHOOL? 😢
What kind of School would show this shit in it?
@@justanotherrandomgamer1380 Obviously a school in NK
I didn't watch documentaries like this, but we had stuff from Autism Speaks played in school around third grade. I didn't see anything wrong with them back then. I just thought to myself "I guess I'm an alien compared to everyone else and that I'm lower than everyone else." I'm over that mindset today, but it shows how damaging these messages can be.
@@fareedal-rashid2627 What’s NK?
I feel so bad for the kid whose mom was going to kill her. Clearly, she isn't seen as a child but as nothing but a burden, as are all these kids. I also feel bad for her non-austistic daughter - not only is she going to be spoonfed her mother's bullshit, but her mother is clearly going to try and live her life vicariously through hers.
"her mother is clearly going to try and live her life vicariously through hers." As the son of a mother like this, it's hell. They project all of their insecurities onto you, while blaming you for the current state of their life.
Plus, she basically says, "I only didn't kill my child and myself because I have a 'normal' kid."
@@samisbiggaytm8763 it fucking broke my heart when that little girl said she wish she didn’t have an autistic sibling. Prejudice and bigotry are learned at a young age.
@@mattstiefel4806 “we drained all our savings to help our son” while showing a clip of her son at ABA therapy
Right? Like how the hell was this okay to film and say in public?
Not once in this video did I here a parent say 'I love you' to their child
Lissieloveslife72 This is the I love you they want there child to be cured.
A good parent doesn't want to "cure" their child. A good parent wants to cure society. Kids are never the problem, and many of them find that in adult life they don't WANT a "cure". Besides, Autism Speaks is delusional if it truly thinks it can find a treatment or therapy to fix basic Deoxyribonucleic Acid imbued in these children at birth. Such thinking hardens back to a time where people thought electoshock therapy could ever be effective.
Edge McAwesome I don't support electroshock therapy and you are already saying autism is genetic no I s not genetic it's behavioral it's a checklist diagnosis it's voted into existence by the pharmaceutical industry it's the DSM 5 backed up by no science and why do we want to be proud of our weaknesses and disabilities sir?
Seeing Clearly Media I love how you went from "They're looking for a cure" to "It's a behavioral issue not genetics" despite the fact that
A: You cannot 'cure' a behavioral issue. You can treat it. But you can't cure it.
And B: Behavioral issues ARE on set by genetics. Take for example; depression. It can be treated, but not cured, and only some people suffer from it, or have the capacity to suffer from it.
You'd honestly have a better case if you claimed Autism WAS a disorder (which it is), as there's more research going into 'curing' them than otherwise.
Furthermore... why should I be proud of my 'weaknesses' and 'disabilities?'
Albert Einstein, Lewis Carol, Amadeus Mozart, Picasso, Isaac Newton, all of them were autistic. I could name more but you could just google it anyway.
Don't try to tell me that Autistic people need a cure, or that they're a puzzle to be solved, or a problem to be fixed, when the greatest minds of humanity were almost all among its numbers.
Seeing Clearly Media and then there was silence
BTW THIS IS WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU HAVE KIDS. YOUR LIFE BECOMES REVOLVED AROUND THEIRS. IT'S CALLED BEING A PARENT
"i wanted to drive her off the George Washington Bridge" is NOT their kids' world.
Yes it isn't being the parent of an autistic child. It's just being a parent.
Yes, all parents have to deal with their life revolving around a kid. Having a child with severe autism may have some differences, but certainly not enough.
@Sherbet Tea Not sure that's true. Some people - not just kids, people - can cope with things in a different manner. I have a friend who hates bright yellow, like McDonald's sign yellow, but if you met her and came across that colour, you probably wouldn't even notice unless she told you. I feel that the labels that come with autism that explain where someone is on the spectrum is more within their reactions than their inner thoughts. It depends on how well they can function in a world that is not tailored for them, and their ability to communicate, both with and without therapy.
@Sherbet Tea Not exactly. It's how each person reacts to an equivalent of what distresses them. They are distressed to the same degree, but some can just walk away, while others panic completely. The spectrum directs how violent their reaction could be.
My husband is on the autism spectrum. He is a wonderful, sweet, intelligent man who just doesn't understand nonverbal cues and can become overstimulated from time to time. And I would never think less of him for it; on the contrary, he's been through so much and is a survivor. I'm proud of my husband's successes because I know how hard he works, how hard he tries to push forward and I'm there for him when he needs my love and support to boost him. And he's given me his undying love in return.
So, lady at 10:58? Your son WILL find someone who loves him for who he really is, and accept his flaws, quirks and special needs... even if YOU can't. ANYONE can find love; you just have to be open to it.
So why don’t autistic women get husbands like this? Lol do you know what even happens to us?
Not one mention of loving the child. Not. One. My daughter has autism, but... I am NOT one of these mothers!!
Good, the mothers in the videos are dumb, who told them that children with disabilities are burdens? Did the mother’s parents tell them?
@@meworld3319 no, Autism Speaks told them that
I’m glad that your daughter has a parent like you. I hope everything is going well for you ❤️
I’m glad you’re not like them. They are cruel and stupid, I just hope you raise your daughter to know that this organization doesn’t define her, and who she is on the inside does.
I read that the parents were supposedly instructed to stop all therapies before filming, to make sure that their children were behaving "autistic enough" to shoe how "terrible" their lives were.
I myself am on the spectrum, and I have to say: I've read about this particular video, and what I read sounded reprehensible. *Seeing* the video brings a whole new level of "reprehensible" to the table...
6:17 Note that she says that with the said child *in the room* with her...moreover, the line sounds *completely* rehearsed. How many times did the filmmakers have her repeat that line until it no longer sounded repulsive.
Where did you read that article about the video being staged.
Or perhaps these were NORMAL children gone on to become child stars, or perhaps indeed autistic children, used as SLAVE actors.
@@TheRojo387 Awful. There was a girl diagnosed with Aspergers (a form of autism), who was in a movie called 'Dustbin Baby", playing a girl called Poppy who spent every minute on screen obsessed with hair. She was a perfectly competent child actress, but at a younger age, she might have been far less so. Maybe some of these kids were acting out more than they would irl.
I am also on the spectrum, and I’m annoyed by this. I may or may not be, as I was hard to diagnose, but even if I’m not this is amazingly terrible. You could cure cancer with the amount of effort you can do to make a video like this.
@@DankMemerMusic Read my previous comment.
Not even once in this video does it seem like they care about the autistic children; just the parents...
That is because they don't. Their actions speak about their stance on autism much louder and clearer than their words do.
Well, you need/needed parents to take care of you once, right? Nobody is born with the ability to walk, talk or pay taxes.
How would you like it if your parents admitted they wanted to murder you right in front of your eyes and only didn't do it because of your sister?
What would your reaction be if the world celebrated them for being SO BRAVE for not doing so and taking care of you instead of calling CPS? Would you feel safe?
What if you got the information that an average of over hundred people like you are killed by their parents every year, and that's just those that are now known about and being recorded, would you still have the same trust in yours, especially if you may have gotten into some arguments with one of them? Would you feel confident to speak up again?
What would you do if the largest charity devoted to "helping" you spend only 4% of their budget on doing so, using most for advertising of for nebulous and rarely actually helpful research? What if the people claiming to help you wanted you dead?
What if they ignored any attempts of you to communicate that wasn't exactly in the way that they wanted you to? And this isn't just limited to nonverbal communication, this goes all the way to not listening to children and people that can and do talk.
What if your own parents were a legitimate threat to your life, wellbeing, potential education and future and were congratulated for it?
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@@ferminromerodetorres Thank you for listening and I'm sorry that you and your mom were put in that position and that she didn't have the sense and/or strength to realize that some things are better left unsaid as they can cause a lot of harm.
The problem I have is less that the difficulties that can come with having to take care of "low functioning"*, for lack of a better word, people are mentioned and more that the perspective of such parents is often all that's talked about in the media and is often used to drown out the voices of actual autistic people and that along with other misinformation that comes from only listening to often misinformed "experts" is very often a large part in what drives these people to commit or consider these crimes.
Think about it, they are being told, by society, day in and day out that autism is always tragic, that it'll break their marriage, rob them of their joy and their child of his/her future. They are presented with a demonized extreme case study and a lot of misinformation (see how the parents treat their kids, ignoring their body language and even words and manipulating their bodies as if they weren't even human) that often leads to these issues.
Basically, they are presented with a nightmare and then pushed into it, now, what happens if you expect a nightmare, if you give up on your kids and follow misinformation? If you are told, over and over and over again that you should be mourning and miserable for the rest of your life?
Generally speaking, you'll very often end up with a miserable life.
Because the kids pick up on your mood, because you're mistreating them in an effort to help, because you give up on your own life and thus lose all sight outside of what you think your kid is like. That's partly why they are talking like that "Autism mom" is often the only identity they have and they'll cling to it like a lifeboat, even when they are hurting their kids, because clinging to that and posting and whining about their kids gives them validation and connection they have removed from their lifes otherwise, not unlike some modern mothers that overshare their kid's lifes because they have nothing left BUT the kids.
I'd say the whole situation is part of a cultural and psychological nightmare for both sides and videos like that are harming both sides, even though the moms often don't want to see it because that identity is all they have left and questioning that narrative in any way is basically questioning their only place of security.
*Not necessarily just based on being able to talk or act allistic. A kid that can talk but still requires a lot of assistance, that may forget to communicate with their parents and so on can also be hard.
+Pega Doodle Maybe it's because the children are a family burden.
@@channelmar15 yikes
12:32 Did she really have the audacity just tell her daughter to say “I love you Mommy” and never actually tell her daughter she loves her? That’s appalling, but sadly not surprising for someone who openly considered DRIVING HER DAUGHTER OFF A CLIFF.
I literally got a pop up warning writing this comment lmao
Tbh I feel like she staged a lot of this like if not the driving off the cliff part then I feel like she encouraged her other daughter to say "I wish my sister wasnt autistic"
@@SageStrawberryclassic UA-cam, going after the wrong people
Also Joddy seems like sure a sweet and adorable girl. She was so kind to her mother and showed so much empathy when she thought she was upset.
If your child is screaming and crying while on the swings maybe they don't want to be on a fucking swing! Its probably a sensory overload for her!
YES
if a neuroatypical child started crying when they were on a swing you would take them off it.... surely it would be same with any child. if not, then you're just a bad parent.
And the mom literally even said "people why why shes crying because she doesn't want to get on the swing" so she fucking KNOWS that she doesn't want to be on the swing
OMGGG, RIGHT!? NO ONE WOULD HAVE GUESSED THE CHILD DOESNT WANNA BE ON THE SWING, THAT “MOTHER” IS SOOOOO SMART 😱😱😱🤯🤯🤯🤯
@@beesokay I showed this to my mum: she thought it was extremely awful
Your child puts up with your loudness, grabbiness, staring, distaste and uncompassion every day, too. every consider that? Might not melt down if you accommodated their needs. You might as well insist your diabetic child eat birthday cake and ice cream like everyone else. Oh, poor "diabetic mom" has to make different food, wah. CAN'T YOU SEE??
You have no idea what these families go though. I have three disabled children and I still wouldn’t assume their lives are like mine; every experience is different.
I noticed that EVERY mother was putting their hands all over their autistic child ALL the time. Forcing them to do things, forcing them to stop doing things. I can tell you that any tactile-defensive child is probably going to scream, cry, or melt down when anyone does that. And then they wonder why the child is getting upset. Jfc
@@Carterborchers So that makes it okay for a mother to get on camera and say, "Omg, I couldn't stand THOSE kinds of schools, so I thought I might kill myself and my daughter"?
frostedsilver No where did I say that. It’s very easy to judge a situation you have absolutely no experience with.
@@Carterborchers No matter how severely disabled my child was, I would NEVER contemplate killing them. EVER. If she was having a mental health crisis, she should have gone to a hospital and had it dealt with there, not taken it out on her child. It's repulsive and horrifying, and, yes, I will judge a parent who only stops killing their child because they have another child.
The amount of grief I feel for the young girl Jody in this video is immeasurable. She has to sit there, listening to her mother talk about how she wanted to kill her. She comes over and sits in her mom's lap saying "what are you doing" at 6:00 in a very depressed tone. She is obviously aware of how her mom feels towards her. This is something no child should ever have to feel and I hope Jody is doing better today.
Um...you really don't understand. It takes honesty and courage to admit this.
@@booksquid856 No it doesn't. People like you and that mother are the ultimate cowards.
@@booksquid856 yeah no. If you want to kill your kid along with yourself, you need to get checked out. She isn't a hero.
@@booksquid856 do explain bc that woman is crazy
@@booksquid856 It takes honesty and courage to confess a serious crime you've comitted, but that doesn't make it any better now, does it? Same with this.
1:45 “I didn’t choose to do this” YES YOU DID. YOU ARE MEANT TO LOVE YOUR CHILD UNCONDITIONALLY
Exactly...they had unprotected sex to conceive a child. This is 100% on them and not the child. They are acting like martyrs and it's so irksome.
Srsly
She didn't choose this, she expected a normal child which wasn't wrong of her. She was forced into this. I'm sure if she knew her kid would have asd she would've aborted like parents of down syndrome kids
There's a limit to the unconditional aspect. And that limit usually occurs with severe asd or intellectual disability
BTW how was this accepted into a film festival?
TheJewelOfJool Or how did it not alarm the audience.
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Money...
Sorry, no one was answering the actual question at hand, his name is Bob Wright and he's the reason why this got into the Sundance Film Festival. Maybe not him directly but he's at the head oh, and he also thinks that there's no conclusive evidence about vaccines either way. Seems to be far more damaging for the autism cause than anything he could have ever tried to do to help. Pretty sad when your own organization has to put out press releases nay saying what you said on national TV. It's like breast cancer awareness, the money goes towards things like this not actually research in any notable way.
I-It was WHAT!?
A film festival accepted this?
Non-verbal doesn't mean non-living. That little girl was RIGHT THERE when her mother was talking about committing a murder-suicide, IN FRONT OF CAMERAS. What kind of things does that woman say behind closed doors? Somebody needs to get both of her daughters out of that toxic environment before it's too late. Even if she 'didn't mean it' she still said it, and that can have all kinds of negative effects on her daughter.
Furthermore, if your child doesn't want to go on a swing, DON'T MAKE THEM GO ON A SWING! You wouldn't make your non-autistic (or neurotypical, as they're sometimes called) swing if she didn't want to, so why would you make your autistic child? You're complaining about her behaviour embarrassing you, when she's being distressed by YOUR behaviour. People have a good reason to stare and wonder what you're doing to the poor girl.
Honestly, that poor little girl needs help.
Harriet Carpenter And take them in the car if a sidewalk is a challenge.
That child was also talking, and trying very hard to communicate with her mother. That much was incredibly obvious. I bet she understood, at least to some degree, what her mother was saying.
I can't believe that mother said that and not only was that supposedly an acceptable reaction, but an organization that supposedly advocates for autistic people found that OKAY to put in a commercial.
That child was so happy when she was left alone, or left to do what she wanted. Why couldn't her mother just accept her child's interests and help her be happy?
They really don't think autistics are human, do they?
I'm an ABA therapist. There are certain social skills that are very important and extremely functional for autistic children to learn. You cant just let them do whatever they want and be in their own world, they wont learn that way and will have a less quality of life. Obviously you cannot completely change who they are and we have to accept many aspects and even appreciate them for their unique mind but is also good for them to learn how to function in society so that they can be independent and have a good quality of life. Most of them know they are different and go through depression, they want connection and in order to do that they have to do things that make them uncomfortable.
@@frostedsilver That's what I'd like to know. How much do kids like her understand, but just have trouble communicating it? That little girl could be haunted for all her life and no one would even realize it because they won't get speech therapy and search for the "cure" that will never exist. It's like that water cure in the nineteenth century where the women with hysteria are driven to true insanity by nothing but bedrest.
mmk5385 don’t say that. I see nothing wrong with them being in their own little world. Autism speaks has more than enough money and resources to get society to understand autistic people so that way they can be in their “own little world” without fear of being persecuted. We didn’t ask to be born. All we want is to live a happy life
These parents don't deserve to have these wonderful children
yeah
1:01 Mother says "He doesn't speak much at all!" to which her son attempts to reply. Just because he doesn't speak your language doesn't mean he can't communicate.
I wish the "positive thinkers" in the video could learn to have real faith in their kids. Children, autistic or not, pick up the signals of shame and resentment from parents. That child was probably invalidated for his entire childhood. Validation is so important.
Yup, sometimes my brain works in dutch although I can't speak or understand dutch. Non speaking doesn't mean non thinking and not everyone thinks in words or phrases. Some people think more abstract and especially for some autistic people, it's hard for us to put our thoughts into words and often when we do, it feels insufficient. At least for me
This has to be the worst thing i've ever seen in my life.
Happy😁 to know this kids weren't electric shocked by Austisem Speaks.......
Hahahaaha... same.. 😀
It's not the only horrifying piece of propaganda that A$ made... ua-cam.com/video/9UgLnWJFGHQ/v-deo.html
I love how many times they say "I" instead of "my child." ME ME ME ME ME!
@Peter A. We mean the parents
@Peter A. no we are not like that
Autism Speaks isn't about the Autistic person's well being. It's for the parents comfortability. Ultimately counterproductive approach for everyone except the people making bank off the families.
@@SincerelyScarlettX And that is the shittiest part.
1.) They convence people autism is a horrific tragity. This makes it so that way parents freak out upon a diagnosis.
2.) Autism speaks swoops in during this self create vulnerable state and promises to "fix" the kid.
3.) They give shitty advice that all but guarantees the kids won't have a future while giving the parents a handjob. This is where they profit.
4.) When the kids eventually grows up to become a non-functional member of society, Autism Speaks uses them as a reinforcement for 1.
Almost all kids on the spectrum can become functional members of society, they just need the right specific type of help. But what autism speaks is doing is harming these childrens chance to grow up as a self sufficient human, and profiting off that. And with their monopoly they hold, they are quite literally the voice of autism. But if life has taught me anything, it's that lying is more profitable than the truth.
I was non verbal till I was seven. Thank god my mom was not fooled by this company, otherwise I would not be talking to you today. And even if the person does escape the cycle, they are still socially fucked as Autism Speaks reinforces the notion in people's minds that we are all deep down inside not human and thus we shouldn't be treated as such.
If I could snap my fingers and destroy a company, it would be this one. It has made my life hell from diagnosis to today.
@@Plantrum My dear, no parent ever dreamed of their upcoming baby to be autistic or have any form of neuro developmental disability. Of course its a natural human reaction for parents and their family members to feel great sense of grief and sadness if a family member diagnosed with autism, its easy to judge them, but dont..
Parents: Force their kid to do things they don't want to, trash talk them in front of their faces, make no effort to communicate effectively
Also parents: mY LiFe Is sO hArD
That woman couldn't eat a bagel!!11! So sad😢😢!11!1!1
“Look at all the pain he’s in” He’s just stimming leave him alone 😾
This is crazy....I live in an almost total world of Autism and I would NEVER change it. Both my husband and my son are Autistic and I am proud of them! If anyone is against them, then I will welcome tearing them from us!! They came first and no matter what happens, they are the most important in my world!! They are PERFECT!! These ppl are NOT parents, they are fools.
Sandy Jones i love this comment because it shows how much bs is in putted into this video. how the kids "can't" get a girlfriend or get married when ur clearly proud and happy of your husband and your son and ur family life, good on you! the fact the parents on this video even say that the kids "have no future" resembles ur statement, they're fools.
how can you call autism a brand. I thought when you said that you were referring to AutismSpeaks, but you're clearly from the other side of the influence and knowledge of autism. It's a developmental disorder and saying people who believe in it are imbeciles is an ironic and ignorant thing to say. It needs more recognition of how much an impact it has, and that recognition is not just pushed just for bloody profit, it's pushed for awareness so people can be enlightened on it. This video and AutismSpeaks is undoubtedly promoting autism in all the wrong areas, and are one of a few companies that are trying to gain profit off the disorder for no real benefit. But saying the whole of autism is a brand you're kidding right?
AutismSpeaks makes it sound like its a label on these kids. That they're gonna suffer and a cure is required to save these kids. Autism isn't a label, it just means that you're different. Yes, it sticks on you for life, but it's up to you whether you'll let it rule your life or whether you'll use that as an advantage.
Both my husband and I are autistic and wanting to be just the crazy, funny, and normal couple down the street with two beautiful children and a dog. Both of us work and I am so happy I found my husband. Because my husband finally broke a cycle my family has. The cycle of abuse and drug abuse. If that can not be seen as a blessing I do not know what could.
"I wish i had a sister without autism" i'm 100% sure that the camera people told her to say that, also these are all KIDS, i know alot of autistic people and most autistic people are fine when they are adults and go on to live a perfectly normal life and yes autisic people DO get married and have girlfriends and do normal human things like everyone else.
I have slightly more sever autism and you're right, while I understand what a relationship entails I know that I can not handle being in one and I get too overwhelmed by the noise in most places so I have only found one job that I can do (or a collection of related jobs rather) without overworking my brain and going into shut down mode and that is only because the place that I can do that job at calms me. But I do know several people on the spectrum who don't function as well as I do in other ways but can hold a "regular" adult job and even function alright in a relationship. So I guess it really depends on what parts of our lives it effects.
+Speed Knots Those folks are also intellectually impaired, which is separate from autism. The terms "Asperger's," "HFA," and "severe autism" were created due to this misunderstanding. Hans Asperger himself called the boys he studied "autistic." I am very much autistic, yet have very high IQ and therefore don't repeat phases like "achoo, bless you" and laugh at myself.
***** Did you fully read my comment? I was responding that being autistic plus having intellectual disability is not "severe autism." It is being autistic PLUS having intellectual disability. And "severe autism"/ "autism at its worst" implies that autism is inherently negative. It isn't. It's hard to be autistic by and large because NTs are NOT autistic - because they have relative severe deficits in perceptual capacity and have blocked sensory receptors.
I'm not "being defensive." I am just right, and you are just not able to think outside of the boundaries of your current belief and process all that I am saying...which means you are most likely NT.
There is no point in repeating myself or elaborating because you will just continue to not process and repeat yourself.
+Speed Knots I explained, and you read it as "being defensive," instead of explaining. Hence my last comment. Shall we keep going in circles? No thanks. No point.
As someone with autism myself this is NOT how living with autism is
This is propaganda
Exactly
Yes exactly it's neurotypical made autism propaganda.
This is Nazi
That's ALL Autism Speaks is
Just bad propaganda
True I also have autism and for anyone who doesn't know what propaganda is its basically where someone is trying to get you on one side or the other basically with misleading and false information.
Autism everyday: me and my 3yo having dance stim parties to our favorite songs. He's just started to talk, but we still could communicate before then. It's called empathy and learning to communicate in their way as well.
massive w for your 3 year old
amazing parent
This is awful! I'm an Autistic person and few things make me more angry than parents complaining about how hard life is for them because of their Autistic children. Newsflash parents: it's not all about you. Your kids need you to be there for them. And your children aren't burdens.
Preach it!
I agree! These vidoes are awful!!
When someone is about to have a child, they need to be prepared for anything. Otherwise, they shouldn't even think about having kids.
Well said.
Periodt👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
This video is why parents are turning away from Autism Speaks. This is not my day to day reality with Autism.
LUCKY for you that this is not your day-to-day experience - please try to be more understanding that not everybody is the same, these parents were asked to describe some of the difficulties they encounter with their daily lives and they very bravely did just that - we should not judge their experiences. I think the comments here are horrifying....elisha
Elisha Iggulden That is exactly my point...THIS VIDEO is not everyone's Day-to-Day experience, and by Autism Speaks continuing to always show the worst case scenario and to ignore autistic adults in their day to day plans for the organization they drive families and individuals living with autism away from them in droves. I am in NO way judging this family, I am judging Autism Speaks for their continuing disrespect.
Elisha Iggulden Please tell me you're trolling, just fucking do it.
Elisha Iggulden, so we shouldn’t judge that Alison Tepper Singer said she wanted to KILL HER DAUGHTER?
@@emmarose4234 Based on a lot of the comments here, a sizable proportion of parents consider murdering their child. It shows that having kids isn't something that everyone needs to do. The neurotypical "life script" puts a lot of children into harm's way.
they’re literally just saying
“oh my child doesn’t like that i’m touching him/talking to him/etc... guess i’ll keep doing it even though they’re screaming and crying for me to stop”
and
“i’m abusing my kid because he can’t do the things i want him to do”
I couldn't even finish this. The mother saying at 6:17 so calmly that she was contemplating killing herself and her child - and that she only wasn't doing it because she had a second , "normal" child to take care of - made me so disgusted, horrified and physically nauseous that I had to stop. How can these people even consider themselves to be helping prevent autism stigma?
Late to the game, but that's the entire point: they don't WANT to end the stigma. They want to end AUTISM. BIG difference.
And in order to end autism, they have to CREATE the stigma for it in the first place. I'm not saying that Autism Speaks is entirely to blame for ALL the stigma in the past, but they sure as hell have NO desire to stop it and want to keep it active so they can make more money off of their fear tactics and false sympathy.
Even though Alison did say in a blog that she did not contemplate killing her daughter and all she said was that she would rather kill her than put her in a bad school. She still said it in front of her daughter which is unacceptable no matter how you put you words.
Agree
It's not normal to decide you'd rather have a dead child than a child that has to go to a bad school. At all. I'd rather my kid be entirely uneducated than be dead.
it's like saying you "killed them in order to protect them" like WTF
I wonder if the Authorities have seen this or if someone who either does or doesn't know her and these children whether it be personally or professionally reported her to the Authorities?
If I knew who she was and she lived near me and she would say that in front of me, BELIEVE ME I would be the the first one to report her the the Police and C.P.S.. This is beyond toxic behaviour and she's a Garden Variety Narcissist and she favors her normal child over the autistic one and puts the autistic child as the scapegoat ( blames her for everything that goes wrong in the family instead of taking accountability for their own actions) these children should be in foster care until they can find suitable parents or parent figures who are fully trained and educated in autism and C.P.T.S D. and to properly raise the with pure, genuine unconditional love without the favoritism, hate and the bullshit.
Allison? Where is this blog
This thing starts off meh, not really good or bad, but after the 5 minute mark it descends into hell. Women saying they contemplated a murder suicide with their child, making their children say they wish their siblings didn't have autism (I have no doubt that they were forced to say this) and people saying that they "lost" their child and their other children want to "fix them" and that the rate of divorce after having an autistic child is 80%. all of that is absolutely despicable. Autism Speaks is a terrible organization and people are too scared to go against it because of people questioning their political correctness and going against a worldwide charity. But, Autism Speaks doesn't care about kids for ASD. They don't have anyone on their team with ASD. They're treating it like its a disease, or an std or something.
Autism speaks should not exist, and better organizations need to be made. It sucks how they treat Autistic children as nothing but a burden, and they need to get "prescriptions" and such. No. (P.S., Autism Speaks once took down and/or sued a 14 year old autistic girls blog.)
+ReMnant _ Have you heard of ASAN? Autistic Self Advocacy Network, run by autistic people, for autistic people. 'Not about us, without us!'
They are an organization dedicated to bettering the lives of autistic people, the literal opposite of Autism Speaks, since Autism Speaks uses only 4% of funds to help families and 40% for research to eliminate autism.
There are other good organizations too I just forgot what they are ;-;
as an autistic person, i think the beginning was pretty bad too 😓 first thing they show onscreen is a mother forcibly pulling on her child who is in distress- as well as filming the kid during it.
i know i hate to be touched (let alone roughly pulled around) during sensory overload, and that i would hate even more to be filmed/exploited during a mental breakdown :( imagine that happening to a child
“I was drafted, I have an autistic child”
“I really had to give up my entire life as I knew it”
That, is what happens when you have kids.
If you think that raising a neurotypical kid is anywhere near as difficult as raising one with special needs, you’re delusional.
"I didn't choose to do this," you actually did, when you decided to have a child
"We can't throw this generation of kids away." Is it just me or could that be hate speech?
Fucking should be. Absolutely despicable.
Yeah that would be lmao (sorry for replying to a 7 year old comment)
My kid screams when I abuse him…he doesn't live up to my Allistic Life Goals™…lord help him…
ayakucho haha perfect
I'm autistic and what does it for me is the little trademark next to Allistic Life Goals.
Now, now, let’s remember, just because someone’s allistic doesn’t always mean they are neurotypical. They can still be neurodivergent, just not autistic, that’s all. So, let’s call this *Neurotypical and Allistic Life Goals (TM)* or just *Neurotypical Life Goals (TM).*
@@miss-astronomikal-mcmxcvii i made that comment 4 years ago
LMAOO THE "tm"
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The most inspirational part of this video was Jodie's little sister talking to her and asking her questions. Then she ruined it by saying "I wish I had a sister without autism." But I can let that pass because she's only little.
That garbage mother probably manipulated the kid into saying that. That's why these parents don't deserve to be parents. They're just going to pass there scumbag traits onto their children and they're going to end up just like them l when they're older.
I can't, because she was probably coached to say that.
@@baffledbrandon3132 Okay, but my point is, she probably doesn't actually mean that. Also, apparently Jodie's capabilities are far beyond what this video was allowed to show. Luckily, Autism Speaks has become more willing to let autism actually speak since this video.
Yeah that kids suck a a hole
She was probably constantly around people saying that autism was a bad thing, and being a little kid she took what the adults around her said at face value and decided that she didn’t want her sister to have this “bad” thing that was autism.
No, we don't think you're abusing your child because he's screaming. We think you're abusing your child because you're bemoaning how they aren't perfect, forcing them to do meaningless tasks for you, and saying you've thought about killing them. You know, because you're abusing your child.
This video is terrible, it breaks my heart that any parent would talk about this stuff in front of their children and let people see their children having a meltdown. Their children do understand what is happening even if they don't see it, they need their parents to love and accept them because the world won't. Acceptance has to start with the parent or they will always, always feel like an outsider everywhere. Like they do not belong in this world and the worse they feel, the worse the melt downs will get and they will never be able to have a happy life if that is the attitude of their parents. change has to start with the parent, a cure doesn't make a difference if we don't learn it in childhood once we're adults the world has given up on us the social part of our brains hasn't developed the way an NT's has and the real cure is not some medication or therapy while some of those might help the real cure is to promote acceptance and make it real because with all I studied people and body language and facial expressions I never got to practice it because by the time i figured it out the world didn't have time for me and I didn't realize how much I didn't know until I went to collage and got this amazing class of people who listened and didn't judge me but calmly told me what I had done wrong and continued to be my friend instead of storming away angry and never explaining what I could have changed. There was only so much my mom could do for me but she never talked like that in front of me and she never let me give up on myself because she believed in me and she got me through until I found others who would help me and even though I have to remind myself every step of the way and it's exhausting I don't get ridiculed because I make people uncomfortable and I have so many more people now that I can be comfortable and just be me around and I wouldn't be here if it weren't for my mom. So I don't know how any parent can talk to a camera like that especially with their child sitting there. I think if I was one of those children I would have lost hope a long time ago.
Yeah, ableist propoganda at its finest.
"she didn't want to be on the swing"
you said it yourself, maybE you shouldn't be forcing her on the swing.
"I contemplated driving over the Washington Bridge, and that would be preferable to--"
um. why the fuck hasn't your child been taken away from you? why haven't you put her up for adoption then?
I hate all of these parents. And pills, _why give your children pills for autism_?
Autism is autism. The lack of understanding how to react "normally" in social situations. That's it. And there's a whole spectrum. Ugh.
The pills were just vitamins and supplements.
@@Droooooo0 That's what Mrs Pen marks said when she tried to kill her daughter by making her take an overdose. Okay, it wasn't a true story, but she did it because her eight-year-old had already killed three people. It's in a movie and a book. The little girl survives the overdose, but the movie had her getting struck by lightning at the end.
@@strawberrysoulforever8336 I have no idea what you're talking about
@@Droooooo0 Book and movie "The Bad Seed". Look it up. It's about an eight-year-old murderer. At the time, it was very daring.
@@strawberrysoulforever8336 what does that have to do with anything
I'm autistic and one day I will be a better mother than anyone in this video
4:36 If the kid doesn't like the swings, maybe.. don't make her do it instead of complaining about her crying on the swing?
This is quite offensive. This is why ableism exists in the autism community . As long as a child has the proper help and early intervention, they have higher chance of making it out here . Being born with autism doesn't mean being fcked for life !
Discipline is necessary but abuse should never tolerable. Some of us are late bloomers. Just because some don't move in the same pace as everyone else doesn't mean they are automatically worthless .
This misinformation can drive a lot of individuals on the spectrum upset. I know I am. Hopefully I can make an autism blog soon.
There are autistic individuals who graduated high school, went to college, financed independently , worked and owned businesses. So don't let the doom and gloom images on the media fool you !
Well I just need to be the new voice in the autistic community and put new views on the table .
"As long as a child has the proper help and early intervention, they have higher chance of making it out here."
Considering the abusive "therapies" out there that are badly researched , the stupid parents and such I'm pretty fucking glad that only now someone really raised suspicion about me potentially/probably being on the spectrum. At least now I don't have depression PTSD/C-PTSD, debilitating anxiety, extremely shitty self worth and trained obedience on top of it all.
The Autistic community is one of the most discriminated against communities out there (look no further than this organization some how being the leader in Autism charity). We are so discriminated against not even the Democrats will support us, that's how bad it is.
@@AdamSmith-gs2dv this is so true.. And what's even sadder is that it's not talked about or recognized like blm. Unlike race, religion, or gender, autism spectrum is not a legally protected status!
@@AdamSmith-gs2dv The autistic community is about as discriminated against as the transgender community.
all i see is parents not being able to accept that theyre children are not perfect.
Disabled and neurodiverse kids ARE perfect though FYI.
@@abbeycoleman5559what if 'disabled' people are perfect while everyone else is imperfect, but disabled people are considered imperfect because there are more 'normal' people than us?
@@abbeycoleman5559 That's not the way to look at it either. Nobody's perfect and everyone has imperfections.
They are not “not perfect” they’re different. Please accept this
@@peridaniel8265 yes
I’m a mother of autistic twins. They are now 21. I looked at this video and was horrified at her mention of driving off the GW bridge and the parts where she said the only reason she didn’t was because she had a neurotypical child. That neurotypical child wished for a non-autistic sibling. Sometimes parents with special needs children get on the pity-pot, and their children react to their disdain. I love my children and taught them to love themselves. I didn’t hand them over to therapist who tried to make their childhood hell. I remember stopping early intervention because they were talking above my sons head and doing ABA training to new workers while avoiding him as a human being. I enjoyed my children, didn’t get offended if they were criticized, as a matter of fact I taught them by example how to stick up for themselves. I looked for new and creative ways for my children to express themselves. I’m not saying it wasn’t hard at times, all children can be hard at times. I’m glad and proud for who they are, I think if you are that unhappy with having an autistic child, in all probability you would not be happy having children period. I figured it out, it was challenging but they were happy self accepting-kids.
I have a friend who is autistic and he’s a genius at math and in grad school. He just got kittens and named them after famous mathematicians.
Yes, it might be hard for the parents, but why don’t we talk about the kids that lead great, successful lives or how much those kids matter? Why is the only thing that matters the struggles?
Off topic but having cats named after mathematicians shown so cute : D
Because not every child (if any) is Sheldon. We do need to hear about those struggling with the most severe symptoms.
@@booksquid856 And not every autistic is a non-verbal, low IQ mentally disabled person. There should be more attention to the majority of us instead of the 2 opposite extremes.
As someone with Asperger's I feel offended by the way these parents seem to be implying their children are burdens. I wasn't diagnosed until later in my childhood around 10, even then I still went to Mainstream School, with hindsight I have to wonder how different my life would have been if I had been with other children with autism. But despite the hardships of high school I've made good friends and had rewarding experiences in charity work. My anxieties and need for routine do limit my everyday activities more often than not, it just means I'll work that much harder to look after my home and my animals.
Equating being a parent to 'having a hangover' is just cruel. Ladies? If you don't want a hangover then don't drink, okay? They deserve help, I agree with that much. My mother had to fight to get what I was entitled to in regards to school for example, no one wanted to help me. I just don't think this charity is going about this the right way :p
Asperger’s doesn’t exist you guys are just autistics who are on the part of the spectrum where they aren’t affected as much by it
“charity”
@@TheAutisticFrog why yes, there are charities for autism, thanks for pointing that out 😏😏😏
@@LadyLeomon yes, but this aint one of em
Have you not read the studies that show sleep deprivation has the same effect on mood and cognitive ability as being drunk? Sleep problems are one of the most common and severe symptoms for those being labeled autistic. Nice if you didn't have that problem. But get off your high horse and stop judging this as fake. These parents are exhausted beyond your wildest dreams.
Well... this has offended me. I have autism and this video just makes us all look like awful, uncontrollable, selfish people.
These 'parents' are bloody terrible. I didn't get diagnosed with autism until I was 11, before then my parents were told they weren't bringing me up right, I was just a little slow to develop and that I was just a misbehaved child and they had to look after me without any kind of help. My parents didn't have the luxury to understand what was wrong with me, why I was crying all the time, having fits, why I was still wearing diapers at the age of 6+, why I acted a certain way etc and not once did I hear of them complaining or saying how much of a handful I was, they just got on with it like any good parents would.
And why are they acting like their child has no future, no hope? I've just finished a level 2 course in college and will be going into a level 3 course after the summer holidays... My behaviour and my ability to cope has has improved dramatically over the years, how can they say their child has no hope?
Take them kids away from them and give them to parents who have to ability to properly look after a child.
As it was said in documentary, divorce rate after autism diagnosis increases up to 80%. Would you consider that those mom are simply exhausted both physically and mentally? Without proper support system, lack of schools, programs, and even different spectrum of autism sometimes "THERE IS NO hope. Let me ask you, did your parents raised you by themselves or you had encountered numerous -logists at school to help with your improvement. I do not see bad parents here.
@@lubystkaolamonola529 so wanting to kill your child and only not doing so because one is “normal” is good parenting?
They all fail to actually understand their kids
I’m sorry you don’t understand autistic people and only know about us from viewing Autism Speaks videos and stories like Chris Chan’s.
As someone else on the spectrum, I can tell you I passed my English GCSEs (UK) in high school. I'm a very talented writer. People are even impressed by what i write
For the reason why it seems that they have "no hope" is obviously a lack of resources, but that doesn't mean they can be crappy for their excuses. It's sad that they can only focus on the bad side and not on the other side. These parents are clearly not educated, or they are wrongly educated that hurts not only themselves but also surrounding areas such as their friends, children, colleagues, etc. We need to stop the nonsense from Autism Speaks because of how much cruelty they are shoving us BS yet not letting us to speak. It's like if it only speaks from parents and not with individuals with autism. For this reason, I wear red on the day for Autism to oppose their message and let neurodivergent people speak.
Fun fact: if you force a non-autistic child to do a puzzle they don't want to do, or force them on a swing, or do literally any of all the grabbing that happens to kids in this video.... THEY WILL ALSO CRY
I agree. I mean if you're grabbing a neurotypical/allistic child, people will call you out for assault und assume that you're a pedophile. But wtf is it allowed to do the SAME thing with autistic children without being called out for the same thing? Why??
The lady who talked about putting the little girl in the car and driving off a bridge is teaching both of her children a very destructive lesson. Ableism.
This isn't all autism is. I read somewhere that these families were told to ensure their houses were messy and that they were asked to change their schedules to ensure the kid would have meltdowns for this video. They don't show any of positivity. These parents look like they've had death sentences. They are all blaming their child for their divorces and financial problems. These people don't deserve their children. They spend all this time complaining about their child and basically casting them as a burden, but they never said anything positive about their children. It's like they don't love them.
Apparently now your a conspiracy theorist.
i read it somewhere i can't remember where but autism speaks is a horrible organisation so this wouldn't shock me
Shannon King To me what's horrible about autism speaks is not that they want to see the end of autism but rather that they want to microchip autistic people against there will (for there safety) they say that's like forced medication that's not good .
+Seeing Clearly Media
Coming from the guy who thinks Autism was a genetically engineered weapon by the devil or some shit
Kay Peep. You are a meme.
"i didnt chose to do this" excuse me but when you get pregnant you sign up for any and everything if you just expect a "pefect child" you dont deserve a kid
Seeing Clearly Media for the love of God shut up and do your research, shop whining and actually help the world, everyone's unique idc what you think
Seeing Clearly Media dude im a hardcore christian and i can tell uou this video is NOT what God wants, im nkt gonna argue with some stranger on the internet because wow i actually have something better to do, go educate yourself instead of believing everything media and fox news tells uou
Oh my god that blonde lady in the green shirt... The cold way she awkwardly hugged her daughter at the end... Gut wrenching
Fr, she defo doesnt care about her child
Okay seriously I’m seeing all these joking comments on this video and that is good too lighten the mood of course but this was probably one of the most difficult videos I’ve ever sat through especially when Allison Singer admitting thinking about driving herself and her child off a bridge I legitimately almost cried
I did cry and had to turn it off.
I would rather watch the twilight movies than watch this.
Then do eeeeet
At least the Twilight films are FICTIONAL.
Yeah, as terrible as they are, at least they're not bigoted.
Yeah I put the volume off and only came for the comments.
Luckily most of the comments have restored my faith a little bit
Neurotypicals Speak About Dealing with Autistic Kids, While Autism Is Silenced. I bet they edited out anything positive they might have said about autism. And 6:11 - what the hell?
I'm autistic (well, high-functioning Asperger's, I realise I have it very easy compared to some...) and Autism Speaks certainly doesn't speak for me. Luckily I live in the UK where people have pretty much never heard of it AFAIK.
In the UK, we have the National Autistic Society, which is good. Thank god Autism Speaks do not exist here.
One of the most infuriating things about this video is that when they're talking about schools, or people judging their kids, or having to spend tons of money on therapy or special food, they are so, SO close to understanding that the actual problem is that the system completely fails autistic people, and anyone else who doesnt exactly conform to society's idea of normalcy. But then they completely miss the point and blame the child instead
I have autism, but I received a late diagnosis due to my son having autism. It breaks my heart watching this, I am so sad that my mom is like these moms, when I got married she got so relieved that she finally didn't have to deal with me anymore. I can't stop crying, its a blessing that my son is autistic, I understand him in his worst and best moments, he gives me the strength to be here, I may cry everyday due to how overwhelm I feel, every single day, still, I couldn't be happier with him, I just want him to be happy even in his saddest moments, I want him to know he has parents that love him just as he is.
Aspie, musician, artist, graphic designer, computer engineer with interests in Astronomy, Physics, History, Medicine. But I've also been very introverted, was never any trouble for my parents or teachers, just a quiet and hard working student in school who received many awards. While I do and did have meltdowns and shutdowns, they never included kicking and screaming--my stim is only a bouncing leg. My parents, grandparents out of the goodness of their hearts always supported my interests without question. I've known many other people all over the spectrum similar to myself. I should probably say that I wasn't diagnosed until recently at 27, but I myself knew I was different as of at least 5-6.
I was held as an example for my younger siblings. I know that I'm not the only one who is on the spectrum that shares many of these aspects. I'm Autistic and proud, and my entire family are proud as well. Autism Speaks does not speak for me or others like me...they're poison, and it's just appalling.
I have Asperger syndrome, and at a young age I taught myself how to both read and draw. I'm a high-functioning artistic mind, and my parents didn't go broke raising me. It also didn't completely change or distort their lives, as these mothers claimed their kids did. Was there ever anyone like me mentioned in this video? Not even once. Because I don't ask for a pity party, yet this video is exactly that. -_-
Couldn't agree with you more. Seriously, why are we allowing these fucktards to speak for us? It's ridiculous, really.
This is exploration
This video only shows the bad side of autism and autistic children who are clearly severe.
Bro I had the same story
I have a mild autism and I started reading and writing even drawing when I was 6 at this age I'm a great reader and writer with a big skill of art and my parents never gave up on me thanks
Geniuses are too intelligent to be understood by the neurotypical society.
Is no one going to talk about the younger sister saying "i wish my sister didn't have autism"??? That's worrying!
It shouldn't worry you. No one wants to be disabled. BUT also, since she/he is, they should be proud to have them, PERIOD.
She was probably told to say it
I have autism. My parents had no friends that knowingly had a child with autism. Many of them did not have children at all. Some of them did have children, and one family was from my kindergarten - I was friends with their oldest child who is a true-to-life genius. The only friend they have that has a child with autism was a friend of a friend, and their daughter was diagnosed when she was in her twenties, and only with a number of other things.
These mothers need to be supportive of what their kids can do, instead of focusing on what their kids can't.
A much better video would feature people with autism expressing what autism is like for them everyday, not NTs making all of these complaints.
I'm sick and tired of negative stereotypes. Let's be positive for once!
Hey hey hey, you saw them smile in the last scene right? You know when they smiled? when they did something they liked and weren't forced to do.
Her Daughter is autistic, is in the same room, and can hear her say "She would have gone over a bridge with her if it were not for her other normal child 6:30" Sic,. Stop thinking children with autism can not understand you!.
I love how they're like "he won't do the puzzle unless he's in the mood", "she doesn't want to go on the swing" as if they're actual problems?? STOP FORCING YOUR KIDS TO DO SHIT THEY DON'T WANNA DO JUST TO PLEASE YOU! Literally nowhere in this clip were the kids accommodated or allowed to be themselves, and you wonder why they're having meltdowns??
You have to understand that the parents do these types of things to help their kid's mind develop. To help them grow and be self reliant.
Again, bashing parents of a mentally impaired child isn't helpful.
Being a parent of a severe autistic child isn't easy. Most folks don't give credit to the parents for doing their best.
It's like saying, "don't teach your child to read because he doesn't want to"
"Don't teach your child to put on his shoes or get dressed if he doesn't want to"
I have an autistic child, with mild autism, he has meltdowns, tantrums, yells, spits, needs prompting, etc.
and thanks to me repeatedly teaching him to read, even if
"He didn't feel like reading" he learned to read at the age of 4.
@symmetricalorigami6728 First of all, autism is not a mental impairment. Secondly, there's no such thing as "mild" or "severe" autism, the spectrum isn't linear. And lastly, get over yourself.
@@SandySass
Actually, Autism IS classified as a disability.
It is an impairment that affects both neurological and mental development in daily life.
It is under the ADA. In the U.S., Autism even qualifies for social security disability income.
Any child or adult who isn't capable by his/her own means to perform normal daily tasks on his/her own due to low neurological development is considered mentally disabled.(by normal, I mean by self care, being able to self express , self dressing, self feeding, self bathing, not being constantly prompted, being able to identify simple tasks to get around, driving, reading, writing, being aware of danger
(ex: not running into traffic) not needing to be monitored)
Second, there is levels of severity in the autism Spectrum. It is not labels, it is a MEDICAL FACT. Children with autism are evaluated by a pediatric psychiatrist, the psychiatrist determines how severe the child's condition is by asking the parent's questions about the child's capabilities and limitations.
All this is done to help the child to have a better quality of life in adulthood.
Some autistic children do fine while others with higher severity need professional help for the rest of their lives.
It's truly unfair how you don't accept reality, you choose to disbelief that children with autism are all the same and they're not.
Some are more severe than others.
And you bashing on the parents who are trying to help their child is truly ignorant.
I'm currently teaching my autistic 7 year old multiplication tables
"even if he doesn't want to" and thanks to consistency, he has learned a lot.
He may not able to self express or have a normal conversation, but every day consistency is helping him a lot.
Therapists, psychiatrists all encourage constant consistency for their mental development.
@@XavierP333here are a number of ways to teach skills without resorting to force, it can be a simple as finding what your child actually likes and going from there.
To provide a legitimate, though different perspective; i am autistic. I always liked reading early grade cartoon books like diary of a wimpy kid, even as far as 6th grade. When everyone actually tried to get me to read beyond that, I hated reading. It felt useless when my mom always took me to a library to spend my summer reading books when all the dialogue I'd ever want would be in video games I'd be playing instead. It felt like the choice to read what I wanted wasn't in my hands anymore, and it turned me off from books.
How have my unusual ways of reading affected my skill? I was consistently many grades ahead of a normal reading level, even with my apparently poor eyesight. I also recently scraped by an English college course which was consistently stressful (mainly because I never had a real English class) but barely manageable once I put the pieces together.
I won't pretend to know everything about parenting, especially to a parent, and learning to do things you don't always want to do is a necessary thing to teach, even if it's not easy. What I'm trying to say here is that children will learn in ways you won't always expect, especially autistic people. And imo, finding that unique flow of learning and guiding them through it is more beneficial than simply going through a checklist of life lessons.
And also, in the context of the comment, it's a bloody swing. If they wanted to bond with their kid there's a million different ways that don't involve uncomfortable levels of force.
my mum taught me that autism isn’t an excuse for not trying (I was diagnosed at 4, and I’ll graduate high school next year)
Ok look I'm only halfway through the video, but I want to say, I am autistic myself, and so are my 3 brothers and my father, but we never had it difficult at home, even though we got the first diagnosis around 2-3 years ago. The reason these kids are suffering, having meltdowns etc. is because they don't feel safe at home. They need so much attention because you keep giving it. I and my older brother needed very much attention when we were little, until my mom said it wasn't normal behavior, and then we just stopped. So slowly change the routines and tell them when you change something and why. Also some advice for the parents: let them do what they want to. If they run away, they are most likely scared and feel not safe at home. If they don't want to do or wear something, then don't force them to unless it is really necessary. Let them brush their teeth with a regular toothbrush and let them do it themselves. If they don't want to wear jeans and only sweatpants (like my brother)? let them. LISTEN TO THEM to make everyone's life easier.
Reading this makes me grieve the family I could've had. I'm glad there are decent people/parents in the world.
Did this woman just say she would have fucking murdered her child as an alternative to living with her? Holy shit. she needs to be put the fuck in jail, why is this acceptable? she needs to be separated from that child immediately, this child deserves so much better than a mother than would sooner kill her than take care of her any longer. she deserves someone who actually loves her.
+Olivia Beth . Have you walked in her shoes? I don't think she would literally do it.
+tami molar shut the fuck up
Wow lady.
tami molar i'm autistic. i'm 18. i don't have to have "walked in her shoes." don't fucking tell me that what she said is excusable by any means. don't you ever try to excuse this kind of behavior. autistic children and people deserve to be treated with respect like everyone else.
I wasn't trying to upset you, if I seemed insensitive, I apologize. I have a son on the spectrum. We all need to listen to each other more I guess.
I cannot imagine what it must feel like as one of these children to later stumble across this video and watch your own parents complain about you as a child. None of these parents should have had children if they weren't prepared for the struggles that came with it. I have never hated anything more than this organization.
Not only that but the children are aware of what's happening now as in a cut part the mum in green says her daughter doesn't love and then her daughter comes and hugs here saying she does only for the mum to shoo her away
Looking for the mother who contemplated murder-suicide? She starts talking about it here 6:00
This video hurt my brain.
- Someone with Autism.
slightly old comment
'This video hurt.'
- Everyone
And my heart too
My my its been some time since I've felt this insulted
Seeing Clearly Media oh lordie I no I can't I'm gonna need to quote a muppet "it's amazing you are 100% wrong I mean nothing you've said has been right." No better education understanding and treatment for those with this condition is what makes me hopeful
NWCountryGirl17 Why treatment when you can have a cure it's like why rent a house when you can just buy it.
Seeing Clearly Media I don't think you know what the autism spectrum is I don't think you know what it's like to be in it so you thereby have no horse in this race please do not respond because I will not goodnight
Seeing Clearly Media
*inhale*
Bro. Things only have 'cures' if they're diseases. And Autism isn't a disease. It's a disorder.
A ceiling fan The cure to a disorder is order so yes there is a cure for autism and in that case it would be putting your mind in order like if you get too shy for doing normal things train yourself not to do that anymore.
0:13 1:13 1:31 5:29 10:26 11:21
Whats up with their obsession of stopping the children from stimming? As long as they are not harming themselves or others there is nothing wrong with stimming. They may feel overwhelmed and stimming helps them self regulate, and these parents dont let them stim...
They’re probably embarrassed by it.
someone please tell me I didn’t just hear this woman say she was gonna kill herself and her daughter with autism but didn’t because she had another child who didn’t have autism? I’m not a parent but I know for a fact that no matter what issues my kid has I will love them unconditionally. this woman is a monster
so that's what they fucking think of us
woowoo678 You can't embrace cancer.
Yes, but unlike autism, cancer is an actual disease
A ceiling fan Autism is bad behavior and areas of weaknesses or skills that are not learned and developed and or mentally retarded that all needs a cure autism can also be disorganized thinking which is a disorder and that needs a cure all mental illness needs a cure.
Of course, I understand, but cancer is something that can actually kill. When did autistic people ever show that it was actually ruining their life, and using other people's impatience and ignorance isn't an excuse.
A ceiling fan It ruined my life. Autism kills if not directly indirectly there have been autistics who cross the street like wild animals without looking or put there feet in the edge of an escalator and get there foot cut off. They get into trouble because they are mentally ill.
As an #actuallyautistc my heart breaks for the children of these vindictive harpies.
1:23 does the parent not realize that electronic toothbrushes are sensory hell??? at least be educated before you do things to your kid that could harm them but wouldn't harm you
Yeah I can deffo see that. Literally could be like bristly static.
yeah why an electric tooth brush specifically??? even as a teen turning on one of those things feels like youre holding a rapidly vibrating cat. it doesnt affect me much but to a small child holy shit of course it would do that
Yeah the sound isn't that much different from orthodontist equipment
horror movie aah scene
the fact that your child is autistic does not mean they cannot hear you, the way the mother of the little girl literally said IN FRONT OF HER CHILD that because of her daughter's disability she almost committed suicide and killed her daughter at the same time is disgusting, but worst of all is that she said she didn't do it because she has a neurotypical child, absolutely disgusting, this poor little girl needs a better parent.
Friendly reminder to all parents that if you choose to have a biological child, you CONSENT to the possibility that your child might be different, might have different beliefs, development, even sexuality when they get older. It is still your responsibility to love and care for the child you brought into this world, even if they are not "normal".
I am a mother of a 3 year old autistic little girl who is currently mostly non-verbal. I also have a younger child who appears to be developing typically. While I worry about the future of my precious daughter all the time and constantly try to find ways to help her, I certainly would never compare her to her typically developing sibling and moan about losing the 'babyhood' of her brother because of her autism (!) like one of the mothers in this video does. To hear the mother of that beautiful autistic little girl say that she contemplated killing herself and her daughter and it was only the fact that she had another, non-autistic child that stopped her from doing it made me feel absolutely sick, especially as she says it right in front of that precious child, who I am certain, understands everything her mother is saying. I know that my 3 year old understand most of what I say because I can see it, even if she doesn't respond to my requests. I don't assume that because she can't talk, she won't know what I'm saying and even if I ever, EVER felt the way this woman did, I would NEVER say it in front of my precious little girl. This girl comes up to her mum and apppears to ask 'what are you doing, mum?" (beautiful communication, btw) with a distressed look on her face and her mum completely ignores her and goes on to say those horrible things with that poor little girl right behind her. What the hell is wrong with people! To me, that's abusive and cruel behaviour on her part! And then she cuddles the younger sister lovingly and says nothing when the child says that she wished she had a sister without autism! It is YOUR JOB as a mother to teach your other, non-disabled child to accept, respect and love her autistic sibling especially as she is clearly old enough to be taught that! Who else is going to do it if you don't?! Well, I wish I could give that autistic little girl a cuddle and tell her how beautiful, smart and special she is.
This is the creepiest video i've seen in a long time, the fact it comes from an organization supposedly supporting autism is terrifying.
7:16 is probably the most heartbreaking and hurtful thing I have ever heard.
The murder suicide thing and cure speech(I see this weekly) didn't hit me nearly as hard as that did. Why are teaching your daughter that's something she should say
@@sensoryzoo8293 it's fucked up that's what it is.
She probably said that because she wants a sister who talks to her and plays with her and loves her and shows that love
If I were in that situation where I had to worry about a call from the school, stating that one of my future children had been acting violently, I would want to know more facts, before deciding what should happen next. There could have been some bullying going on, or someone might have done something to make that girl do that.
why do they talk about autism like its a punishment
honestly I have no idea because people with autism made breakthroughs in helping in science and learning about the human mind
@@crazygalemt whenever someone tries to pull the “autism means stupid” card, I just tell them the father of modern computing, Alan Turing, was a (probably) autistic gay man
@@tirakindler1 are you just gonna copy paste that to every comment you see? you do realize it is a spectrum and not every case will be as severe as the one you are familiar with, right?
@@CGFillertext Bill Gates is actually rumoured to be autistic, so take that as you will.
IT IS IM SUICIDAL BC OF THAT DISEASE