I feel the same and never heard anyone say it this straightforward. I’m literally just unhappy and don’t know why. I’ve stopped trying to figure it out. I just live lol
If you’re not happy with yourself and are jealous of others, it’s hard to be a good friend and be genuinely happy for others bc you’re always competing and measuring. At least you’re honest. Sometimes the rat race and being stuck in a certain bubble can make us feel miserable. What is the point if you’re not happy or content? We only live once. Love and caring for others is one antidote. Finding self-love and acceptance is so important as well. How we were raised and how we were loved affects us as adults too. There’s also still time to continue soul searching and exploring what matters and what brings us joy and peace. For some it’s religion or spirituality. Wishing you happiness and fulfillment.
I love watching your shorts because sometimes you give such good advice or thought process to situations that it hits me like a ton of bricks but in a really good way.
The thing with jealousy is that it means to a certain extent you’re always looking outwards. There’ll always be someone doing bigger and better than you, think it’s best to focus on yourself.
I relate to you. God is the only thing that’s ever made me feel any satisfaction. He truly saved me and at the time I was an atheist. I’ve never been to church and will never go but I will always love Jesus. I share with you because you have the same look in your eyes that I did when I was younger. Either way, I hope you find contentment and joy in life, whatever that looks like for you.
This spoke to me. Would love it if you could do a full length video expanding on this topic, your thoughts on being forever dissatisfied and happiness feeling out of reach. I’ve tried relaxing through hobbies, travel, learning about different topics… but maybe I haven’t really explored connecting with people?…. I have felt elated when reaching a goalpost but it’s only for that moment. So is reaching for success supposed to be my pathway for happiness? What may be a common denominator between us is I come from a first gen immigrant family but the success drivers were self imposed. I identify with being a dissatisfied individual and content&satisfied people mystify me. But I’m not 100% sold on following the people I envy…. First I don’t know if I deeply envy anybody. Is that my problem? Maybe I need more sources of inspiration… just thinking out loud :)
I used to be this way as well. Never contented with my successes except for a minute, and being jealous when someone achieved similar things because it meant I probably didn't work hard enough and needed to set the goal post again so I could excel. What I found out just this year is that the key to joy has to be something more external than successes, friendships or even relationships. It cannot be something we participated in creating and honing. As human beings, we suffer from a severe lack of discontent after a while, and there’s always ways we can convince ourselves doing better at one thing will make us happier. It's important to find eternal happiness we literally can't control. I found mine in Jesus, and my life changed forever.
Oh hunny, you need to look inward and figure out why you're not able to feel joy or even satisfaction it seems. Keep reaching high though! You're setting and achieving goals for yourself, so you're clearly doing something right! I hope you find happiness, friend 💜
I had to happen to me. I quit school. I was still looking for what makes me happy. So far, what I've found out is that happiness should be the experience. Not the goal.
I used to be this way, and actually almost proud of how unhappy I was because I thought that meant I was working hard. And maybe, just maybe then someone will validate me by saying that I did a good job and I’m so smart, or talented, or whatever it is I was so badly wanting to hear. It’s healthy to set goals for yourself but if you’re constantly chasing external sources of happiness, you will never be happy. Like you said, it is so easy to get stuck in the mindset of “once x happens, I’ll finally be happy.” But all too often x happens and we find that we have new reasons to be unhappy all over again. Life is too short to live in a constant state of dissatisfaction. Accept that you are worthy of happiness because you are you, not because of what you’ve achieved and only then will you be at peace.
I think is the most real advice I’ve ever gotten, like every single teacher is like ‘do what makes you happy, or what you like- but also what you’re good at!’ And by no means am I tooting my own horn but I’ve always done well academically- I’ve never gotten below an A in secondary. There’s parts of every subject I like and parts I don’t like that I feel have equal if not separate incomparable weights on my shoulders. I feel okay with what I’ve chosen but I feel like I could have done something different and gotten off better.
Ugh this is so relatable... I'm always reminding myself that it's so pointless to be "rushing" around life. Like even just driving, I don't need to be loosing my mind trying to get places as fast as possible. Moving the goalposts and constantly looking for new things to rush towards... ugh your videos are so relatable and really make me feel less alone. Thanks ❤
I actually really relate to this. I’ve suffered depression so things I used to enjoy I don’t anymore. And I always obsess over how can I find joy in my life. And I try to pursue the jealousies! You always share such insightful shorts/perspectives I don’t see often. Thank you! ❤❤❤❤
It's not often that I can relate to a YT video but this one really hit home. I had a similar conversation with my boyfriend a few days ago about how I feel like happiness doesn’t feel attainable anymore. I don't feel depressed but I also don't feel satisfied in life. It's like I get short and quick bursts of "happiness" but they aren't long lasting. To me there's always something more, something greater, something better, which is why I can never be content. It's always, "on to the next one" for me with everything. It's a very uncomfortable existence but it's the only one I've ever known. I'm trying to find a therapist to change it, though, because I know this is no way to live. Wish me luck! Also, best of luck to everyone dealing with similar issues! ❤
i appreciate how real this is, and i think there’s some sense in trying to vie for what you think is best in life. With that said you should def take some time to just do something that you find fun for the sake of doing. Just like to take a day off sometimes. With that said having goals and competition can be a useful way to go far in life and to accomplish much, so it’s not toxic or anything I would just be inclined to remind anyone reading this that taking a day off is prob a healthy thing to do from time to timw
this is so relatable as a senior in high school. my first goal was to win a regional award for college applications. then it moved to me trying to win states, trying to win internationals, and watching other people win internationals. i wasn't satisfied in the end, even though i exceeded my goal. i think i need to re-evaluate myself and my priorities in life.
Honestly, super good advice! I only really found your channel recently (because I'm interested in going to law school soon, lol) but I appreciate the very realistic takes on stuff like this! Even though I don't think I'm the "eternally dissatisfied" type, I do find myself moving the goalposts pretty often! Hopefully through some introspection I can realize why I feel dissatisfied at times and what steps I can take to change that. I'm hoping you can keep chasing that jealousy though and find yourself much happier than you started! :)
I think maybe you’re like me. The journey is the adventure. We like to challenge ourselves and keep trying new things. Maybe you’re not “happy” but to keep striving for more and doing what you want is much more satisfying then attempting to be happy staying stagnant. I get very anxious and disappointed in myself if I am not constantly learning/trying/doing different things
I told my best therapist that I really struggle with even understanding what happiness feels like when I'm so used to feeling numb, like I'm not allowed to be happy so I don't know how to recognize those moments anymore or worse, I recognize there is a moment happening that I theoretically *should* feel great happiness for and I just...don't. She told me this: Our whole personality doesn't have to be happiness and perky attitude. Happiness is like the lights on a christmas tree, the lights are nice to look at and they're very pretty like precious moments, but when you look closer you see that there is also the chord, the electricity running through them and it's only a part of the whole christmas tree. If you can use grounding in the moments you identify as something you want to find joy in, it might help to focus on the moment instead of trying to find happiness in every part of your life and personality, which can feel overwhelming and ultimately be unproductive. This is not exact but its what I remember.
This makes sense. I do find myself jealous towards some people because in my mind, i can do better than they can. The other part of this is pursuing something of interest. Something that engages me to continue to come back. Once you"re there and working and being successful, thats when the Jealousy manifests. It starts to grow because there are colleagues that are better or have higher positions and i dont know if thats healthy or not, but its a drive to be at a fullfilled potential. Am I happy? 😅 sometimes...
very interesting perspective! I am also dissatisfied often, for the same goal post moving behavior. Weirdly though, I'm almost never jealous of other people. What's been more effective for me is practicing gratitude and recognizing when I'm being hyper critical (the thief of contentment) ❤️
Kind of an unhealthy mindset. I know advice from strangers on the internet is kind of lame, but you may consider therapy. There is joy in life, and you can find it with practice. ❤
Could you elaborate on the last part of what you said? How does looking at people you are jealous of tell you all you need to know? I really resonated with the first part of what you said: “People tell you to do what makes you happy, but what if nothing does” but I don’t understand how you came to your conclusion. Regardless, thanks for posting this, it is nice to know other people also feel this way
This is really sad. The problem is you are looking for happiness and fulfillment in external circumstances and objects. You will not find it there. You won't find it anywhere. What you should seek is inner peace. I'd suggest reading the Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle.
This is a very honest answer that a lot of us feel in this industry and are too scared to admit! Speaking of answers- I just sent you a question in your AskCece forum! Hope to hear more answers from you! :)
The pursuit of solely material/social ends inevitably leads to dissatisfaction, because all material/social things are impermanent. Only God is forever and He showers happiness, fulfillment, and spiritual joy on people who seek Him.
That’s so sad. Sometimes watching you makes me think I’m falling behind but I’m content knowing I have been able to find true happiness and value in my life. Hope the same for you! ❤
I think the trick is to somehow figure out how to be satisfied, and at peace spiritually. Like find your purpose for the spiritual realm, and then the physical and the mental realm, you can move the goal posts 🤷♀️ And so you feel some sort of Satisfaction, but also strive for more.
I needed to hear this today. For the last few years I was transitioning from being a paralegal to becoming an English teacher. Now that I finally have my first full time teaching job I’m in crisis because, while I love my students, the work life balance on the job is awful and making me incredibly unhappy. Maybe keeping my dissatisfied nature in mind (I had quit another field before legal too) will help me be realistic as my career continues
I chose a job I’m good at, and I get some satisfaction and happiness from working it, but mostly I think it’s better to work to live, not live to work. As long as your work is tolerable, I don’t think it necessarily needs to make you happy or give you fulfillment. It should be a means to find those things in other pursuits.
Even w the little fluffy ear balls and eye tapes, youre still gorgeous 😊 im thinking of going to law school. I like writing, and researching and arguing my point lol maybe sth like corporate, admin or healthcare law. Im never sure of what i wanna do and usually just jump 🦘 from one idea to another 😅 i just found yiur videos and theyre pretty relatable :)
Jealousy can sometimes just be envy. A lifestyle change usually does not fix unhappiness. That unhappiness follows you. Joy comes from a higher power -- I find that in Jesus 🙌🏻
Something that people say and I hate is "focus on what you are good at and do that." But what if I'm good at everything because I put all my effort into the things I'm asked to do?
I’m insanely jealous of people with good loving confident charismatic husbands that are good fathers and also children. I’m insanely jealous of people who have beautiful families and children
I’m coming back around CeCe to simply offer the light the comes from Jesus Christ. I was once like you, extremely driven toward my goals and a jack of many trades with an emphasis on mastery of them ALL. The truth is though when I put my faith in God, who is much greater than I am, there entered a real and honest clarity about all I was seeking. You said something in an older short regarding death being the only non-negotiable in this life, and to that I’d like to add, where you end up after your departure from this very short and fickle life is entirely in your hands based on what you choose to believe. There is a God. He does seek you. He is a GOOD Father. The way this world is, is a product of human imperfection and its gross affinity between self preservation and capitulation to weariness. There is a way out of the rut and it is JESUS.
This is not something to be normalised… to my eyes this is an eternal dissatisfaction that you have. Pursuing after wealth, ambitions, and desires all lead to nothing but a ‘good’ yet empty life. As a Christian young lady I’m learning to find satisfaction in the little common things of life because that is what gives me a happy and satisfied heart. Life is all about enjoying the portion God has given you. So let’s not normalise and claim a dissatisfied heart because life is not meant to be that( Don’t come for me this is just my opinion).
This sounds crazy but I understand the logic because I heard this argument before. You are never jealous of what you don’t want. If you hate Brussel sprouts and you’re on a diet, you won’t crave that. If you see someone in shape eating a burger you’d probably want that. What your jealous of highlights what you actually want. This is actually factual.
but are you chasing those jealousies because you know for sure you want them or are you chasing them because you know you’re supposed to? are you trying to be the person you WANT to be or are you trying to be the person you think you SHOULD be?
I don’t know who you are, your short just popped up. You need to be grateful otherwise all will be taken away from you. And you’d look back and wish you did
or go to therapy to break down why you feel the need to evaluate your happiness based on goals and how to rewrite that narrative. sorry, not trying to be snarky. i’m just obsessed with getting people into therapy
lol my life is basically art at the moment. it's just very easy for me to turn any hobby, even art, into a neverending series of goals. but i'm working on it!
It’s because you CANT fulfill your need for joy from the world. You can have temporary happiness but you will ALWAYS be looking for the next “high”. Consistent joy, peace, and satisfaction are only provided through Christ God. The sooner I accepted that, the sooner I was able to get off the emotional roller coaster.
@@CeceXie I’m sorry actually I’m grown I don’t know why I commented this clearly what you said is interesting or I wouldn’t have felt the need to respond I wish you the best lol
Complain complain complain. Like imagine living in a world where you're about to get drafted, no access to medicine, but no. Let's post videos complaining
“I am by nature a very dissatisfied individual”
Are you…me?
And me lol
I'm glad we're all on the same page 😂
Wow! I think I found my people!
“It’s not the pursuit of happiness but the happiness of the pursuit.”
perpetual dissatisfaction is not solved externally
They say jealousy is misguided inspiration so you’re right in using that as a way to evaluate what it is you want in your life
Love how real this is!
thanks! just something i've been thinking about a lot
So real! ❤
I feel the same and never heard anyone say it this straightforward. I’m literally just unhappy and don’t know why. I’ve stopped trying to figure it out. I just live lol
If you’re not happy with yourself and are jealous of others, it’s hard to be a good friend and be genuinely happy for others bc you’re always competing and measuring. At least you’re honest.
Sometimes the rat race and being stuck in a certain bubble can make us feel miserable. What is the point if you’re not happy or content? We only live once. Love and caring for others is one antidote. Finding self-love and acceptance is so important as well. How we were raised and how we were loved affects us as adults too.
There’s also still time to continue soul searching and exploring what matters and what brings us joy and peace. For some it’s religion or spirituality. Wishing you happiness and fulfillment.
This! Being grateful about life is so important. Exhausting to be unhappy every single day
I love watching your shorts because sometimes you give such good advice or thought process to situations that it hits me like a ton of bricks but in a really good way.
Yes!!!!
The thing with jealousy is that it means to a certain extent you’re always looking outwards. There’ll always be someone doing bigger and better than you, think it’s best to focus on yourself.
I relate to you. God is the only thing that’s ever made me feel any satisfaction. He truly saved me and at the time I was an atheist. I’ve never been to church and will never go but I will always love Jesus. I share with you because you have the same look in your eyes that I did when I was younger. Either way, I hope you find contentment and joy in life, whatever that looks like for you.
"driven by jealousy" would be a good premise for a villain in a screenplay
This spoke to me. Would love it if you could do a full length video expanding on this topic, your thoughts on being forever dissatisfied and happiness feeling out of reach. I’ve tried relaxing through hobbies, travel, learning about different topics… but maybe I haven’t really explored connecting with people?…. I have felt elated when reaching a goalpost but it’s only for that moment. So is reaching for success supposed to be my pathway for happiness? What may be a common denominator between us is I come from a first gen immigrant family but the success drivers were self imposed. I identify with being a dissatisfied individual and content&satisfied people mystify me. But I’m not 100% sold on following the people I envy…. First I don’t know if I deeply envy anybody. Is that my problem? Maybe I need more sources of inspiration… just thinking out loud :)
idk if i'll do a full video but i wrote about it more on substack! cecexie.substack.com/p/how-do-you-measure-happiness-if-youre
I used to be this way as well. Never contented with my successes except for a minute, and being jealous when someone achieved similar things because it meant I probably didn't work hard enough and needed to set the goal post again so I could excel.
What I found out just this year is that the key to joy has to be something more external than successes, friendships or even relationships. It cannot be something we participated in creating and honing. As human beings, we suffer from a severe lack of discontent after a while, and there’s always ways we can convince ourselves doing better at one thing will make us happier. It's important to find eternal happiness we literally can't control. I found mine in Jesus, and my life changed forever.
Oh hunny, you need to look inward and figure out why you're not able to feel joy or even satisfaction it seems.
Keep reaching high though! You're setting and achieving goals for yourself, so you're clearly doing something right!
I hope you find happiness, friend 💜
thank you! it's a work-in-progress but i am trying every day
Same
Honestly thank you. I feel validated in my unhappiness and in my jealousy.
I had to happen to me. I quit school. I was still looking for what makes me happy. So far, what I've found out is that happiness should be the experience.
Not the goal.
I used to be this way, and actually almost proud of how unhappy I was because I thought that meant I was working hard. And maybe, just maybe then someone will validate me by saying that I did a good job and I’m so smart, or talented, or whatever it is I was so badly wanting to hear. It’s healthy to set goals for yourself but if you’re constantly chasing external sources of happiness, you will never be happy. Like you said, it is so easy to get stuck in the mindset of “once x happens, I’ll finally be happy.” But all too often x happens and we find that we have new reasons to be unhappy all over again. Life is too short to live in a constant state of dissatisfaction. Accept that you are worthy of happiness because you are you, not because of what you’ve achieved and only then will you be at peace.
I think is the most real advice I’ve ever gotten, like every single teacher is like ‘do what makes you happy, or what you like- but also what you’re good at!’ And by no means am I tooting my own horn but I’ve always done well academically- I’ve never gotten below an A in secondary. There’s parts of every subject I like and parts I don’t like that I feel have equal if not separate incomparable weights on my shoulders. I feel okay with what I’ve chosen but I feel like I could have done something different and gotten off better.
Ugh this is so relatable... I'm always reminding myself that it's so pointless to be "rushing" around life. Like even just driving, I don't need to be loosing my mind trying to get places as fast as possible. Moving the goalposts and constantly looking for new things to rush towards... ugh your videos are so relatable and really make me feel less alone. Thanks ❤
I actually really relate to this. I’ve suffered depression so things I used to enjoy I don’t anymore. And I always obsess over how can I find joy in my life. And I try to pursue the jealousies! You always share such insightful shorts/perspectives I don’t see often. Thank you! ❤❤❤❤
It's not often that I can relate to a YT video but this one really hit home. I had a similar conversation with my boyfriend a few days ago about how I feel like happiness doesn’t feel attainable anymore. I don't feel depressed but I also don't feel satisfied in life. It's like I get short and quick bursts of "happiness" but they aren't long lasting. To me there's always something more, something greater, something better, which is why I can never be content. It's always, "on to the next one" for me with everything. It's a very uncomfortable existence but it's the only one I've ever known. I'm trying to find a therapist to change it, though, because I know this is no way to live. Wish me luck! Also, best of luck to everyone dealing with similar issues! ❤
i appreciate how real this is, and i think there’s some sense in trying to vie for what you think is best in life. With that said you should def take some time to just do something that you find fun for the sake of doing. Just like to take a day off sometimes. With that said having goals and competition can be a useful way to go far in life and to accomplish much, so it’s not toxic or anything I would just be inclined to remind anyone reading this that taking a day off is prob a healthy thing to do from time to timw
this is so relatable as a senior in high school. my first goal was to win a regional award for college applications. then it moved to me trying to win states, trying to win internationals, and watching other people win internationals. i wasn't satisfied in the end, even though i exceeded my goal. i think i need to re-evaluate myself and my priorities in life.
As a counter you can also do what gets you what you want.
You had me till the jealousy, cause i dont get jealous/ambitious either, I just hardly care 😃
Honestly, super good advice! I only really found your channel recently (because I'm interested in going to law school soon, lol) but I appreciate the very realistic takes on stuff like this! Even though I don't think I'm the "eternally dissatisfied" type, I do find myself moving the goalposts pretty often! Hopefully through some introspection I can realize why I feel dissatisfied at times and what steps I can take to change that. I'm hoping you can keep chasing that jealousy though and find yourself much happier than you started! :)
i love this so much omg
I think maybe you’re like me. The journey is the adventure. We like to challenge ourselves and keep trying new things. Maybe you’re not “happy” but to keep striving for more and doing what you want is much more satisfying then attempting to be happy staying stagnant. I get very anxious and disappointed in myself if I am not constantly learning/trying/doing different things
I told my best therapist that I really struggle with even understanding what happiness feels like when I'm so used to feeling numb, like I'm not allowed to be happy so I don't know how to recognize those moments anymore or worse, I recognize there is a moment happening that I theoretically *should* feel great happiness for and I just...don't. She told me this:
Our whole personality doesn't have to be happiness and perky attitude. Happiness is like the lights on a christmas tree, the lights are nice to look at and they're very pretty like precious moments, but when you look closer you see that there is also the chord, the electricity running through them and it's only a part of the whole christmas tree. If you can use grounding in the moments you identify as something you want to find joy in, it might help to focus on the moment instead of trying to find happiness in every part of your life and personality, which can feel overwhelming and ultimately be unproductive.
This is not exact but its what I remember.
love the latte glass you using 👌
maybe it's not dissatisfaction or unhappiness, but you're just continuing to seek new challenges
This makes sense. I do find myself jealous towards some people because in my mind, i can do better than they can. The other part of this is pursuing something of interest. Something that engages me to continue to come back. Once you"re there and working and being successful, thats when the Jealousy manifests. It starts to grow because there are colleagues that are better or have higher positions and i dont know if thats healthy or not, but its a drive to be at a fullfilled potential. Am I happy? 😅 sometimes...
so true and sadly funny at the same time
very interesting perspective! I am also dissatisfied often, for the same goal post moving behavior. Weirdly though, I'm almost never jealous of other people. What's been more effective for me is practicing gratitude and recognizing when I'm being hyper critical (the thief of contentment) ❤️
Kind of an unhealthy mindset. I know advice from strangers on the internet is kind of lame, but you may consider therapy. There is joy in life, and you can find it with practice. ❤
i have! this is part of that journey
Could you elaborate on the last part of what you said? How does looking at people you are jealous of tell you all you need to know? I really resonated with the first part of what you said: “People tell you to do what makes you happy, but what if nothing does” but I don’t understand how you came to your conclusion. Regardless, thanks for posting this, it is nice to know other people also feel this way
i expound on it a lot more here: cecexie.substack.com/p/how-do-you-measure-happiness-if-youre
This is really sad. The problem is you are looking for happiness and fulfillment in external circumstances and objects. You will not find it there. You won't find it anywhere. What you should seek is inner peace. I'd suggest reading the Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle.
This is a very honest answer that a lot of us feel in this industry and are too scared to admit! Speaking of answers- I just sent you a question in your AskCece forum! Hope to hear more answers from you! :)
I recommend reading the book “What my bones know” it does a great job of explaining the struggles of constantly moving goal posts.
The pursuit of solely material/social ends inevitably leads to dissatisfaction, because all material/social things are impermanent. Only God is forever and He showers happiness, fulfillment, and spiritual joy on people who seek Him.
That’s so sad. Sometimes watching you makes me think I’m falling behind but I’m content knowing I have been able to find true happiness and value in my life. Hope the same for you! ❤
I think the trick is to somehow figure out how to be satisfied, and at peace spiritually. Like find your purpose for the spiritual realm, and then the physical and the mental realm, you can move the goal posts 🤷♀️
And so you feel some sort of Satisfaction, but also strive for more.
I needed to hear this today. For the last few years I was transitioning from being a paralegal to becoming an English teacher. Now that I finally have my first full time teaching job I’m in crisis because, while I love my students, the work life balance on the job is awful and making me incredibly unhappy. Maybe keeping my dissatisfied nature in mind (I had quit another field before legal too) will help me be realistic as my career continues
ngl the work life balance in teaching is just genuinely awful
that coffee didn't need more water hahah
i like cutting it so that i can drink another glass later!
@@CeceXieI believe this may factor into you being a generally dissatisfied individual 🤣. Strong coffee keeps me sane
I chose a job I’m good at, and I get some satisfaction and happiness from working it, but mostly I think it’s better to work to live, not live to work. As long as your work is tolerable, I don’t think it necessarily needs to make you happy or give you fulfillment. It should be a means to find those things in other pursuits.
Who needs happiness when you have drive❤
I needed to hear this so bad
you’re my favorite content creator
Even w the little fluffy ear balls and eye tapes, youre still gorgeous 😊 im thinking of going to law school. I like writing, and researching and arguing my point lol maybe sth like corporate, admin or healthcare law. Im never sure of what i wanna do and usually just jump 🦘 from one idea to another 😅 i just found yiur videos and theyre pretty relatable :)
Therapy can also help!
Why does this make so much sense 😂
Jealousy can sometimes just be envy. A lifestyle change usually does not fix unhappiness. That unhappiness follows you. Joy comes from a higher power -- I find that in Jesus 🙌🏻
Something that people say and I hate is "focus on what you are good at and do that." But what if I'm good at everything because I put all my effort into the things I'm asked to do?
I love you!
I’m insanely jealous of people with good loving confident charismatic husbands that are good fathers and also children. I’m insanely jealous of people who have beautiful families and children
Same!
God has brought me so much joy & given my life purpose :’) Call upon the name of Jesus & He will transform your life. God bless. 🤍🤍
Yasss nuthing makes me happy
Good advice! 👌
This is genius
I’m coming back around CeCe to simply offer the light the comes from Jesus Christ. I was once like you, extremely driven toward my goals and a jack of many trades with an emphasis on mastery of them ALL. The truth is though when I put my faith in God, who is much greater than I am, there entered a real and honest clarity about all I was seeking. You said something in an older short regarding death being the only non-negotiable in this life, and to that I’d like to add, where you end up after your departure from this very short and fickle life is entirely in your hands based on what you choose to believe. There is a God. He does seek you. He is a GOOD Father. The way this world is, is a product of human imperfection and its gross affinity between self preservation and capitulation to weariness. There is a way out of the rut and it is JESUS.
This is not something to be normalised… to my eyes this is an eternal dissatisfaction that you have. Pursuing after wealth, ambitions, and desires all lead to nothing but a ‘good’ yet empty life. As a Christian young lady I’m learning to find satisfaction in the little common things of life because that is what gives me a happy and satisfied heart. Life is all about enjoying the portion God has given you. So let’s not normalise and claim a dissatisfied heart because life is not meant to be that( Don’t come for me this is just my opinion).
You should read the book "the gap and the gain"
But also, only Jesus Christ can truly satisfy you
Me too
This sounds crazy but I understand the logic because I heard this argument before. You are never jealous of what you don’t want. If you hate Brussel sprouts and you’re on a diet, you won’t crave that. If you see someone in shape eating a burger you’d probably want that. What your jealous of highlights what you actually want. This is actually factual.
but are you chasing those jealousies because you know for sure you want them or are you chasing them because you know you’re supposed to? are you trying to be the person you WANT to be or are you trying to be the person you think you SHOULD be?
I would be unhappy if I stuck my fingers that far into my cup to drop the ice and then diluted my coffee with water
True joy and purpose comes from Jesus!!🤍
This was my mindset before I had a baby. Do you ever want to start a family?
one day! but i don't want to rely on external things (especially a child!!) to change my life perspectives so gotta work through this myself first
@@CeceXie💯makes you wonder how many people have children because it’s what they should do by social norms rather than what they actually want
This is good
You are missing the point- making goals and reaching goals. Is the happy parts!!❤
Everything about this video is very, very, very American.
Omg I'm schooled 🧎♀️
I’m painfully jealous of people who just don’t work and travel bc they have rich parents lmao
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I don’t know who you are, your short just popped up. You need to be grateful otherwise all will be taken away from you. And you’d look back and wish you did
Jesus will give you all the joy you could ever imagine
I’m curious…did she just water down her coffee?
This is real of you but, damn, is it sad that you live like this.
You’d stress your partner out.
that's not a healthy relationship, then? my partner and i both have mental health issues and support each other in them
or go to therapy to break down why you feel the need to evaluate your happiness based on goals and how to rewrite that narrative. sorry, not trying to be snarky. i’m just obsessed with getting people into therapy
i am in therapy
Why do you think jealousy is what's supposed to give you insight onto what happiness is?
Wait, I need more..
here you go: cecexie.substack.com/p/how-do-you-measure-happiness-if-youre
hope you enjoy!
@@CeceXie omg thank you
you should probably try and find something that makes you happy in life….
lol my life is basically art at the moment. it's just very easy for me to turn any hobby, even art, into a neverending series of goals. but i'm working on it!
Her partner and her explore new places a lot, maybe that’s something!
It’s because you CANT fulfill your need for joy from the world. You can have temporary happiness but you will ALWAYS be looking for the next “high”. Consistent joy, peace, and satisfaction are only provided through Christ God.
The sooner I accepted that, the sooner I was able to get off the emotional roller coaster.
I think u should see a therapist lol
i have and am doing several workbooks in different modalities atm!
Jesus loves you❤
Ooff.
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Jesus will make everyone whole
I was like this till I found Jesus
I cannot imagine enjoying reading something by a writer who was solely motivated by jealousy and spite girly pop this is not the career for you
i never said that! you don't have to read my work but please actually comprehend what i'm saying before you make such assumptions
@@CeceXie I’m sorry actually I’m grown I don’t know why I commented this clearly what you said is interesting or I wouldn’t have felt the need to respond I wish you the best lol
The reason you can't find any joy in your life is because you are not being fulfilled by a constant. Life is ever changing but God isn't.
You need a therapist! This can be fixed lol
Complain complain complain. Like imagine living in a world where you're about to get drafted, no access to medicine, but no. Let's post videos complaining
this is genuinely the worst advice i've ever heard in my life 😂
Sounds like you need a good man to tell you that "you matter". Or a UA-cam audience
You should try cognitive behavioral therapy
Wtf
Maybe it's because your parents did the same to you