#JustSaySomething
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- Опубліковано 7 вер 2024
- Lottie Tomlinson - social media influencer and Sue Ryder supporter - opens about her experience of grief after the deaths of her mum and sister.
She says: "I think one of the hardest parts for me is people not bringing it up. That's even harder, because you've lost that person and they're kind of fading away because people are not talking about them".
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Lottie is so fricking strong. So is Louis, Phoebe, Daisy, Doris, Ernest, Mark and Dan. They deserve the world, and they deserve happiness ❤😭
They really do😭❤️
They are SO strong ♥️😭
Btw, you forgot Dan, he really must've been broken when she died😓
@@millievaz6353 oh yeah, haha. Dan is also so strong
mxltx.fxndxm who is Dan?
@@catay5833 Doris and Ernest dad, Jay's last husband
the Tomlinson family is the strongest family ever, they always try to help others even when they're hurting. I'm sure that Fizzy and Jay are so so proud of you all ❤️
The Deakins too
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the tomlinson family is so strong bless them❤️
Deakin too
I'm so incredibly proud of the woman she's become. you have to be so brave to turn something that is so painful into something that can lead you to be stronger and understand that better times will come and that you deserve all of them. she's one of the most brave and strong people I've ever known 🖤
To everyone who sees this, remember it when you have to comfort someone who's grieving, I lost a lifelong friend six months ago, what Lottie says really is true, people not bringing up the person feels worst bc you need to talk about them and feel that they're not fading away. Lottie, thank you for speaking about your experience, love you, Louis and your family 💖 you all are the strongest
Thank you for sharing your story and for encouraging other people to #JustSaySomething 💙
Thanks for saying that. my grandma and grandpa died 2 years ago I miss them so much and my great aunt died in November 2018 my uncle died in December 2017
She is such an amazing and strong person, the way she looks after her younger siblings and also trying to just live her life at the same time, amazing. I think about them so often, special moments and holidays and stuff, I can't imagine their pain. They deserve the absolute world and I wish I could give it to them. Lots of love to lottie and her entire family as well xx
Oh my, i cryed with Lottie 😭 - she's so strong, and is so brave of her to saying all this things.
The tomlinson's are the strongest in SM they are exposed 24/7 and still try to be a good influence ro their followers. Life is hard and they get to learn it fast. We have your back Louis Lottie Daisy and Phoebe, just remember to keep the family bond as tight as possible. Is the only important after the storm
this really hits home for me, when i was young i lost my brother. its been about 9 years, we hardly ever speak of him that makes me sad. i hate bring him up because it always make my family emotional and they dont like talking about it. i couldnt agree more with how she said it feels like they are fading away but also i dont think its healthy to hold in all those emotions. like her i have always painted a smile on my face even though i was so unhappy. my heart goes out to her and her family, as well as anyone who may be grieving.
I feel so proud of lottie. She’s so brave to talk about her grief. Everyone is. But I mean losing both a parent and a sister must me so hard and painful to go through. I feel for her and I wish her the absolute best life. She deserves the best. xx
lottie and her family have to be the strongest people in the world
so proud of her ❤️ the tomlinson family is so strong
Everyone is different. Lottie needs to talk about it. Louis didn’t want it to be gossip. U just have to make the grieving person feel comfortable how they are.
there is a difference between talking about it with your other loved ones and friends and getting asked about it as gossip for interviews, Louis didn't want that
You are so brave Lottie, and it's so so inspiring to see what a long way you've come. You have an insane amount of strength and i cant stress how proud i am of you. Your mum and fiz are so proud. You're doing so well, and I'm sure you hear that enough. Never forget, you have to allow yourself to feel what you're feeling, always. So much love 🖤
People who are grieving are the strongest people out terrr❤️
They’re honestly the strongest family ever. They’re so blessed to be so close to each other.❤️
Such a strong young lady, not just for losing a parent at a young age and for it to be so public, but to find the courage to be vulnerable enough to talk about it and educate others on the topic.
The Tomlinson family is literally the strongest family I've ever seen...they r so Caring, loving and so strong...stay strong Lottie!! Also louis , daisy and Phoebe !!
WE WILL SUPPORT YOU NO MATTER WHAT!!❤️❤️❤️
Erm Ernest and Doris as well
you haven't seen many families then ig, there's so many worse cases than this
I love her,and the rest of the beautiful family
With in 3 year I lost dad and my grandparents it will always hurt but I want to make them proud Lottie thank for ur courage
I am so incredibly proud of this woman. she is looking after her younger siblings, she helped Louis through all this time, she has a job to be done and she needs to protect herself. she did all these things and she's still going strong. I love her from the bottom of my heart and she deserves nothing but absolute peace and happiness. bless this sweet creature xx
this shit makes me so upset, i cant imagine how she and the twins feel.
We are so proud of you Lottie and I hope you know that whatever happens, we're always here to support you ❤
the strength and courage of the Tomlinson family has been my inspiration. I lost my father (he was murdered in front of me when I was 18) at the same time that they lost their mother, and it was with Just Hold on that I was able to find the strength to continue, to fight for me and my brothers . Their strength and struggle make me believe in myself, that I find strength. I see Louis and Lottie and think "they are doing it, I can get over it too".
this is inspiring for me
Sending so many blessings and love to you xx You're a strong one ❤️
You can do it like them....sending all my tight hugs..
The Tomlinsons are the strongest people in the world and I'm so proud of every single one of them I love them with my whole heart 🥺🥰❤
Lottie is so strong. I can tell she has built a lot of resilience. Louis has too, you can tell he has been looking at the glass as half full and being optimistic. But most importantly, they all have grown so much inside and outside! I know it was a really hard situation and I feel so bad for all of them, Louis, Lottie, Daisy, Phoebe, Doris, and Earnest. I feel so incredibly empathetic because I have lost my close aunt when I was only 8. Losing your mom and close sister seems so unbearable but I’m so glad they are pushing through each day, while thinking of the glass half full. I am so proud of them. They mean so much to me and I look up to them for spreading positivity as much as they can to surpass the pain. It’s incredible. They are so humbled ❤️❤️ they truly deserve the world. I know I’ve delt with a lot over the last few years.. I have grown strong as well, I try to keep pushing each day but like Lottie said, you will have good and bad days but it’s okay to not be okay sometimes because it’s life. Life is going to throw obstacles at you and you have a choice to either run into the obstacle and fall flat in your face or to overcome and surpass them. It’s challenging but you just need to keep looking forward but also look at the good times and remembrance of the loved ones because they are a big part of you. ❤️
I can relate so much to this. I lost my mom 2016 when I was 21 and I just couldnt understand how the world could go on as if nothing had happened when I had just lost the person who meant the most to me. The pain comes in waves, at first you're drowning in sadness but then you learn to live with it. The waves still keeps coming but not as often.
lottie, louis, phoebe, daisy, doris and ernie aswell as the rest of the family is so strong 🥺 i’ve never lost anyone in my family and i can’t even imagine the pain of losing your mum then your sister only 2 years later. i pray for the whole family to find peace and that nothing else bad happens. rest in peace johannah and felicite 💘
So wise for someone so young, sad that wisdom like that comes from great loss. And she is right, people stop talking about the people that have died. Like they never existed. It makes things so much worse for the ones grieving. I have lost both my parents and both my best friends. Not feeling I am able to talk about them made my grief so much worse. Much love and light to the Tomlinson family ❤
The Tomlinson family is so strong, stay safe Tomlinson fam. and God bless, WE LOVE YOU❤️
She is soo strong. All of them are. Louis, Phobe, Daisy, Dorris, Ernest, all of them. I can't help but cry. I could never imagine how hard it must have been 🤧
I’ve lost my dad a year and a half ago and it’s still hurts me because he was everything to me and I’m only 20, for me it’s sad that everyone is just not talking about him , it feel like he’s never existed and I also got the anxiety and panic attacks but I learn how to control it, Lottie is really strong and her family too
When her sister died I shocked and felt like there was no word to describe my grief.Cause Felicite was just 18 and It shouldn't be like that.I visited her profile and tried to estimate her families feelings.Then I realized that Lottie was went on her life like it never happend.I was angry until this video.I now can understand her grief and what all they went through.Cause first of all thats their life and If I feel bad then they must feel much more than my feelings.They just tried to feel good and went on.I am so sorry for this Lottie.I feel so bad for your mom and sister and also your siblings.Cause you're adults but they are too little.I wish you had more time as a big family with mom.I hope you will meet again.You know what I mean.Take care urself.
I hope what I say wouldn't hurt you cause I know I was wrong about my thought.I am so so so sorry.
We love you so much Lottie ❤️ you’re the strongest
She's such a sweetheart💙
Can't put it in words how proud I am! ❤️She, Louis and the rest of the Tomlinson's are so so strong! 😔❤️
This family deserves the world. Jay raised not only beautiful but also strong , brave and kind children. Wish them all the happiness and peace in the world because that’s what they bring so many people and they definitely deserve to get that themselves too.
I lost my Opa January 10th, 2018. His death destroyed me, I honestly didn't think I was going to survive through that. I felt like I was drowning and no one around me saw how bad it was. I'd see something or think of something small that was even slightly related to him and I'd lose it. I started drinking more, when I wasn't hiding out alone in my home I was out drinking. I got a tattoo for him in July of that year. When I got that, I felt a huge weight being lifted off him. I still cry now, I still have bad days, and January is still a horrible month for me. I don't miss him less, but it's easier to breathe now. As someone who grew up watching Lottie and her family grow up from my screen, supporting her family (and the other families of one direction), it broke me seeing the pain in Lottie and her siblings' eyes. And what Lottie said is true for me as well. When someone you love dies, all you want is to still be able to talk about that person. You want to be reminded of who they were as a person, the great memories you have. That's all I wanted to hear about my Opa. I will never stop talking about him, because the day I stop talking about him is the day I start forgetting our memories, or the way he smiled or laughed. I would give anything so that no one else had to experience this kind of pain.
the entire tomlinson family is so fucking strong. i love them so much. i’m so proud of them.
The Tomlinsons Are the most bravest and strongest family out there. The things they experienced with their mum and sister just a few months after their mum is just heartbreaking. I bet it's still hard for them cause i still feel the grief of my late grandpa, but i can tell they are better and stronger now as a family 💔💔💔💔💔
I am crying fuck this is so hard to watch Lottie is really strong for wanting to participate and help others and her words are really wise and thoughtful
My little girl I'm so proud of you
You so strong person
Lottie can be so proud of herself. I lost my dad last year and I always look up to her and admire how she can have an amazing career and care for her siblings at the same time. She is so strong and I only wish her the best 💕
My heart is really hurting for them. I can't imagine what they're all going through. They are all so young and dealing with this is not easy. They are so strong.
I lost my love one almost 2 years ago and I’m still in love with him. Most of my friends just don’t understand...what makes me sadder is that they keep asking me to “move on” by falling in love with somebody else... it’s easier said than done... I suppose they just don’t understand me. The other day one of my bestie addressed my bf as my “previous bf” and I cried so hard about it, I guess I just hate to admit that those memories are getting further and further away from me... and I hate that people don’t talk about him intentionally because i feel like everything about him is kinda fading away, though it isn’t, in my heart. So if one of your friend is going through the process now, talk about the one they lost, because believe me, it’ll only remind us of those beautiful memories and talking about them makes us feel happy and loved.
I lost my father 9 years ago and my sister (who shared the bday with me (we‘re not twins) 10 years ago... so I totally understand how she (and her family) feels and after all those years it’s still heartbreaking to think about them. but to everyone who lost someone they love, talk about it. really talk about it. don‘t pretend everything is okay and then cry when you‘re alone. even when it hurts to think about it, it’ll only get worse if you don’t do anything about it and it ends with depression (not in any case but in most of them)
but if you share your feelings with someone you‘ll feel better and you‘ll find out that you‘re not alone.
sorry for all the mistakes, english‘s not my first language.
Lottie is so incredibly brave and strong and so is the entire Tomlinson family. The fact that she was so open about losing Jay and Fizzy is so inspiring. I love you Lottie so much and you’re so amazing❤️🕊
This family have my respect as always. I love them a lot. they're so strong all the time about these tragedies. stay strong, my loves. you are incredibly wonderful. you always have each other. Fizzy and Jay are in a beautiful place in peace and so so proud of you all. ❤️
She's so strong💔😭
gosh i’m so proud of lottie, so brave to be so candid and vulnerable on camera for everyone to see. thank you for this, it will help so many people 🖤
This family has been through so much.. The fact that they lost their mother is horrible enough, but loosing their sister just shortly after too.. My heart is breaking for them.
she is so strong.
seeing her being able to talk about this and wanting to help people even in her own grief is so inspiring, she is such a genuinely good person
I am so proud of her
This is incredible. I lost my dad when I was in third grade in 2010, and still have not gotton over it. Losing a parent, let alone a sister, is unimaginably difficult. Stay strong, it will get easier. all the love xx
Lottie and Louis are both so strong! We have so much proud of them for holding the things and make sure that everything is good with his siblings. Its a thing for admire and for applaud. I hope to have this strength one day.
this family is full of kindness and strength. what beautiful values your mother left you there is no doubt.
nothing but love and respect to lottie for doing this. losing a loved one is hard enough but to have lost 2 within 3 years? i can’t imagine what the tomlinson/deakins went through at that time. im so so proud of all of them with how they’ve composed themselves. fizz and jay would be so incredibly proud of all of them. they were two incredible individuals and they should be celebrated. sending my love to them and anyone else struggling at the minute. 💗🥺
They have suffered alot, loosing their mum and then Fizzy wow and Lottie telling her experience in dealing with grief is must been hard for her. But they are so strong and having each other for support they will get through this strong! ❤
she is so brave ❤️❤️❤️🥺
this family continues to show me what perseverance and strength looks like when it comes to grief and how they handle difficult situations, it’s really incredible when it comes to how they wants to influence their audience positively. a lot of people, myself being one of them, know about lottie through louis, and she’s obviously always been very supportive of her brother, but also a good influence on his fans. this genuinely breaks my heart, but also mends it at the same time. all my love and support goes to lottie, the tomlinson family, and anyone else who is grieving or suffering from anything at this time. you’re never alone, talk more about it, i promise people will listen. xx
I don’t even have words to describe this video , it’s emotional and it shows how strong and beautiful lottie is.. even when that makes her feel upset she still did this video and talked about it to help other people , I love her so much
There whole family deserve the world 🥺
The first 8 seconds hit so hard. When you’re blessed with a strong parent like that and they pass away you literally feel broken. Lottie you are so strong. ❤️ All the Tomlinson’s are.
I lost my dad and then brother in span of only three weeks when I was 18. Loosing one important person is hard enough but losing two, especially in such short period of time, is almost impossible to handle. It was undoubtedly the worst period of my life...for me personally the worst thing after losing them was the pity from people. There is a difference between pity and sympathy, showing your sympathy and support is fine and welcomed but having pityful looks thrown your way all the damn time, people looking at you like at the poorest thing in the world, that was personally bothering me a lot. You are trying to go on with your life as best as you can, actually being with my friends or going to school, just focusing on everyday life was ultimately what helped me because it was taking my mind off the depressing thoughts, so seeing people whispering and looking at me with pity or even directly talking to you like 'omg you poor thing, that is such terrible thing' ect. actually usually made it worse. So my advice for people who don't know how to deal with someone who is grieving is - be supportive and sympathetic but try to help them move on and focus on nice thoughts and experiences instead of pitying them...obviously this is different for everyone but this is what I'd love back then. It's been almost 9 years and I still miss them, that will never go away, but I am fine now, trying to live my best life, so if you are going through a tough time, just know that it's not going to last forever....Cheers to Lottie, Louis and their whole family for being so strong and helpful with speaking up and writing songs about this topic, that takes lots of courage, lots of love xx
I lost my dad to suicide in 2018 and it is one of the hardest most painful things to lose a parent. Lottie is so strong and so is Louis, Phoebe, Daisy, Ernest and Doris. I can’t imagine the pain they’re going through but at least they have each other to get through it
She’s so brave and her mama and fizz would be so so proud of her
Lottie we are so fucking proud of you. Staying strong for yourself and your family. We are always here for you in love and support. You're strong
their entire family is so strong.
Stay strong dotty Ur fricking amazing and I love uuuuuu xx ♥️♥️♥️
Their family is so strong! I’m in tears just from that short video. I’m so proud Lottie is doing something like this. Sending all my love to them
the pain in her voice, she’s so unbelievably brave for doing this 💖
she and her family are so strong... i’m proud of them all
proud is an understatement
My queen :( she's so strong, she is a role model, she need to know that it's okay not to be strong at every moment. Wish life gives her the best, because that's what she deserves
She’s a sweet sweet girl with a great family and support system, thank god. I hate how good people always suffer. I wish you all the best, Lottie 💖
It’s must have been hard to put this out there speaking of her grief both for her mother and sister and them being so young when they died and she herself being so young too when she lost them. I am sure she is helping others by speaking out of grieving and bringing awareness to something that should be more spoken about. Her mom would be very proud of her. She’s a strong and courageous young women.
THE STRONGEST FAMILY !!!...AND LOTTIE YOU ARE SUCH AN INSPIRATION.💯I ADMIRE AND I LOOK UP TO YOU A LOT BECAUSE IN SUCH A YOUNG AGE YOU HAVE ACHIEVED SO MANY THINGS BY YOURSELF AND I COULDN'T IMAGINE THE LOSS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY HAD AND HOW STRONG YOU ARE AND I COULDN'T BE MORE PROUDER .❤️ WE LOVE YOU❤️
You're such a strong woman Lots, Jay and Fizzy are proud of you, so so proud❤️✨
I really appreciate this. I know how it feels like to lose someone you love and I think she's just so brave doing this and showing her feelings to the whole world. Proud! ❤️
The Tomlinson family is so strong and brave
So proud of the Tomlinsons. Such brave and strong lot they are. Sending all my love and thoughts to them x
I'm so proud of her 💙💙
God Bless this family
😭😭✨👼Lottie and his family are very strong
Lottie is such an incredibly strong woman. ❤️
The Tomlinson family is the sweetest. I love them so much Jay and Fizz are obviously proud of how strong and inspirational they are.
Talking about this is such a brave thing, I'm so proud of you lottie and love you ❤️🌸
The whole Family is so strong 💪♥️.... I'm so proud of her. And how strong she is so speak about it.
bless this sweet family the tommos are so strong
My dad died a year ago and I still don’t know how to cope or how to handle it exactly, sometimes I forget and sometimes I find stuff that trigger me and I cry. Rest In Peace papi ♥️
Dios nooo, princesita preciosa, ella y todos sus hermanos deben estar sufriendo mucho por sus familiares perdidos, independientemente del tiempo esas cosas nunca terminan de sanar completamente. Tremendas ganas de abrazarla y hacerle nanai.
So much love ❤
Bless her, she’s so strong. Keep going Lottie, you’re doing a great job sweetheart. X
So brave to share her testimony ❤ so proud of her and her family, they're so strong ❤
God bless her and her family, she’s a real hero ❤️
I'm crying at this, I love this family so much. All of you, you're so strong. Angels ❤️❤️
when Lotts spoke about always talking about the person you've lost so you don't ever lose that memory and it being important really resonated with me. I lost my dad at a very young age and my mum knew how important it was to remind us of him because my brother and I were, not only were confused as to where he went, but we were also upset he was gone, but in a way speaking about him always meant he wasn't far. My mum made sure every night up until we were young adults that we all said together goodnight to our dad, like he had never left and put kisses to the sky. I never thought much of it back than but now at 17 years old I'm so grateful my mum had made the decision to do all these little things to keep him around and she never ever didn't speak about my dad, she made it known that eventhough she went into knew relationships that these people were adding to a family that had a member that was very much a part of all 3 of our stories. Mum's relationships never seemed uncomfortable when we'd talk about my dad and I'm glad people kept an open mind instead of harbouring some sort of unreasonable jealousy to the first man my mum ever loved. We still bake cakes on my dads birthday, chocolate cake and we always, without a doubt burn them but it's the thought that counts. I always hear so much about how amazing my dad was and I get told how much my brother and I look like him and it warms my heart. Sometimes of course I'm upset that I've never had the chance to experience a father and daughter bond that I knew we would of had but in a way it's not like I grew up without him, he was always there, in my thoughts, in my decisions and in my memories just not there physically as a being. My friend lost her father at 10/11 and she was his only child, I know she felt so alone. I'm glad we found eachother because from that point she had never had someone to speak to about her experience and we became really close because we had something so tragically rare in common. Her mother never ever spoke about her fathers death to her, she pretended basically that he never existed at all and threw herself into another marraige and that caused so many mental health issues in my friend and I'm truly sorry that she suffered like that. The importance of talking about and remembering a loved one in so important, making sure their memory doesn't fade can be everything you've ever needed especially when it's a young kid because they may not grieve until years later as I did, at 6 years old I began to realise that my father was actually gone but it wasn't cognitent, my body was just telling me it was time as I told my mum I felt sad for no reason and it wasn't depression and was infact grief. I send so much love to Lottie, Louis and her whole family. Their mother was a gem and Sophie was an angel, they are so incredibly strong. xxx
This is absolutely heartbreaking 💔 I can't even imagine their pain.
Her and all her siblings are so strong and beautiful. Keep going Lots, things will get better! ❤️❤️❤️