As a single woman, I found this really encouraging. I appreciate how he shows through Scripture that marriage is a good thing and something to be rightly desired. It can be a struggle balancing the desire for marriage with the reality that God has chosen not to fulfil this desire just yet. I am grateful for how he puts to words the real struggles and also blessings that come with being single. In listening to this, I am reminded of my hope in Christ and the goodness and love of a faithful Father who does all things well. I am encouraged to continue to seek to serve the Lord with all that He has given me and where He has placed me. Great listen.
I can only speak from my experience, but I’ve been a believer for 8 years, and what I’ve heard repeatedly from Christian women is the whole “there’s no good men out there!” claim, meanwhile they turn them all down because they don’t meet their expectations/standards. Social media has ruined us and it seems women would rather stay single than settle in the slightest.
@@TheLadyOfTheNorth and men could say that they don’t have the emotional reserve to marry because of the fact that 70% of divorces are initiated by women. I’ve seen Christian women reject good men over and over, and then go date a worldly scumbag instead.
@@TheLadyOfTheNorthtrust the Lord in all things and let him guide you, pray for your husband, and know that a man of God is always the better choice. A few quick thoughts i think would be helpful here, sister
@@TheLadyOfTheNorth I could say something similar from men’s perspective: roughly 70% of divorces are initiated by women, and 70% of domestic violence is also committed by women. I would say based on those two stats that men are the ones taking the even bigger risk in marriage.
Pray for the singles nowadays. Especially as men we feel the economic depression. The inadequacy is a real feeling. Because the reality is today many women make more money and are more educated than men of similar age. I wish I had enough income to save and give more generously this isn’t the case.
Most churches dont include singles in prayer from the pulpit in provisional prayer, or sermon examples....sadly, this guy is making an assumption that all single people have time that is their own... what about single with children (no acknowledgement of this).. im totally heartbroken about my church constantly talking about marriage... with no real advice, encouragement, and lots or assumptions about singles... no real pratical advice or hope for singles in this sermon and most churches in general... and singleness is suffering how insulting! A singles spouse is christ.... to grow old with no spouse is a dreadfully painful experience... a lonely death lurks in the mind of every single person over 40? I feel unworthy bc the church values marriage over singleness.. im not too ugly and i disagree with the above theology. Many who have Christ as their spouse die with the Holy spirit in great peace.. im extremely disappointed in this theology m6 church recommended...
I had more "education" and made more money than my husband. But once I was pregnant with our first child I stayed home, the Lord provided him with a better job before baby was born, and he has been our sole provider ever since! Pregnant with #7. God is good.
My question is how do preachers unpack Godly marriage with marriage under the state? I ask because it is very rare for churches to marry Christians without a marriage license.
Many churches look down on me because I am single. I have been passed up for leadership positions time after time not only because I am single but, because I am single and quite happy. I have a great life and get to do what I want and when I want ( praise God). But, married Christians look down on you. Church opportunities are quite limited. I serve at 3-4 churches in childrens and youth ministry because I have the time, the desire to serve but, could do much more if churches would only let me. As Christians, we are called to use our gifts to glorify God. at times, it seems my hands are tied because I am single . I realize I cannot be a Deacon due to Scripture and am fine with that but, there are tons of other opportunites to serve that I am turned down on year after year including this year.
In Africa I've observed, the society still holds high views of marriage in the church... Marriage is also a social status. A pastor once told me that I have a reproach as a woman if I am not married.... I've always wanted to get married since my early 20s, but ended up resenting the idea that I'll only be valuable and respectable in the church if my identity is tied to a husband. It's a social stereotype that has crept into the church. I desire to get married, but I do not marriage and fertility to be the proof of my worthy. There's a lot of education needed to our generation on marriage, and I appreciate the video. ☺️
'lonely death ( being singe)?! nuts! we all die and my faith and confidence is in Jesus Christ not some woman or friend. get real. woman, most women die later than men so, most women die alone. I got cancer a few years back, almost died, was really bad. While going through treatments, I would repeteadly tell drs/nurses that I was not afraid to die. If it happens today or 50 years from now, I have trust in our Lord= that is all that matters
the comments here are of more interest than the lecture he gave. i'm married, and happily. can't say it's always or ever been easy, though i love my husband deeply & consciously work on being what God says i should as a wife. the benefits are numerous but life is challenging no matter what state you're in. i know married people & single, both have their challenges. humans are not "angels" as he said his wife is. we're difficult and short sighted. i hurt for married and singles, life is often very tough. I told my single son, in his 40s, pray about it, he said he's not in any great hurry to change his life. I don't know...not an easy subject with easy answers for sure.
Id like to tell everyone who is so anxious to be married that patience and trust in the Lord is of course more than worth it. God has a perfect man or woman out there for you. They will be your puzzle piece and it will further confirm Gods greatness. They will be so perfect for you they could only be created by Someone Who knows you better than you know yourself. He has knitted your wife or husbands soul of the same material. He created us to be man and woman together so trust that He will put us together.
Seems to make the opposite mistake of Catholic priests by taking OT priority in thinking that the objective is actually marriage with children rather than Christ first. Defines celibacy as though it is completely unrelated to singleness in 1 Cor 7; Matt 19, and although admitting what the passage says, reverts back to Gen as anchor instead of NT examples of Jesus and the apostles with Great Commission as priority in life over even marriage. Admitted that there is much more that a single person can do for Christ, but acted as though its purpose was to support married people with their extra time and money as though married people were making the greater sacrifice.
Its a question of finding one compatible Im still single at 78 in a way im glad i didnt marry earlier as i Wasnt suited for it liking my Freedom i kept myself away from relationships can be lonely but cant have it both ways!
about41 min into preacher says- "To grow old alone is a dreadfully painful experience". I say NONSENSE Being/staying single and not having kids is plain wonderful! Am in my 60s and have remained single and the Lord has given me a wonderful life! Better than I deserve. I get to do what I want, when I want, zero stress, plenty of time to serve the Lord, teach Scripture, etc. Travel most anywhere when I want. he is nuts saying what is says, esp around 41 mins. I really mean that. Now, when younger, 20s, 30s sure, I was insecure with myself and felt bad if I did not have a date, etc. But, once a man gains assets, builds confidence in himself, it is waaaaaay better, happier to stay single. I started feeling better about being single by my mid 30s. Now, totally happy staying single. If you want to see misery, etc then don't look at older single people, look at divorced men, look at mixed families, look at women with 2-3-4 marriages or more, kids with different fathers, etc. it is a real mess out there guys- stay single and stay happy. If anyone has questions on staying single/happy, am happy to answer. get answers from people who are single. blessings
He is not "nuts" for saying that, and what he says is not "nonsense." I'm glad you're satisfied with your life, but you come across as insensitive and a bit arrogant. We're all made differently, and his experience is valid.
There are plenty of very wise reasons to stay single. Paul quotes in Corinthinians it is better to stay single and marriage is trouble. Then, the feminist movement for the last 60-70 years has destroyed marriage and the traditional family. Women file for divorce 70% or more of the time. It is not possible to make them happy. Advice to single people ( esp young men/boys) - Spend some time talking to older men who have gone through divorce ( not myself). Many men commit suicide over broken relationships/divorce. It is much harder on men than women. Many women already have another guy aligned up prior to splitting up, they just move from one man ( and his assets ) to the next. The Bible says that women were made for man. Not man made for woman but, don't tell any woman that as they do not see it that way. Scripture tells us- woman was made from man to be a helper. How many women today, including 'Christian' woman really believe that? almost none. Men- it is not wise to marry today. I hate to say that but, look at the facts in the world we live in today. Blessings feel happy to comment and discuss if you care to. I am not anti family, in fact I am very much pro family. If you are married, stay married. But, if you are considering marrying- really, really pray and think about all the pros and cons. Sadly, it is not a good deal for men in these days
Let me ask the Biblical scholors here ( including those who kow more tha me). When God said i Genesis- "It is not good for man to be alone" I ask- How many people were on the Earth at that time? As I interpret Scripture- Adam was the only human on Earth at that time- IE He was alone. Now, think of context- How many people are on Earth today? I do not know but, do not it is a lot thus, no one is 'alone' on Earth. "Alone" and being single in todays world is certainly not the same thing. I am happily single and also enjoy interaction with people almost daily but, I would never want to be the sole person on Earth. context. So, as I interpret, the verse 'it is not good for man to be alone' should be interpreted literally. So, if you feel I am wrong, please explain Scripturally
In 1 Corinthians 7:8-9, Paul says it is better for the unmarried and widows not to marry: I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I. But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.Nov 10, 2019
Women standards are waaaaayyy too high nowadays, start serving in your church and look at the guys serving, especially if he’s holding the door, most men are serving with their actions and not just the pastors on stage!!!
I think this is true for some women, but most of the girls I know (and I know a ton) would gladly date the solid guys serving at church, but the guys ignore them 😂
poor preaching on being single. this guy does not know reality. it is better to stay single and if you do not believe me, read your Bible in Corinthians- "it is better to stay single" has confidence in yourself= trust in The Lord! amen so, so many miserable divorced men out there. beware men
Can have a family now without a spouse. Lots of alternatives in the world. Maybe singles should start looking at alternatives whether it be adopting, surrogates, sperm banks etc.
You just don't seem to understand the deep wounds in the children born through those methods. Check out Katy Faust. She has done her homework for you..
As a single woman, I found this really encouraging. I appreciate how he shows through Scripture that marriage is a good thing and something to be rightly desired. It can be a struggle balancing the desire for marriage with the reality that God has chosen not to fulfil this desire just yet. I am grateful for how he puts to words the real struggles and also blessings that come with being single. In listening to this, I am reminded of my hope in Christ and the goodness and love of a faithful Father who does all things well. I am encouraged to continue to seek to serve the Lord with all that He has given me and where He has placed me. Great listen.
I don’t wish unwanted singleness on anyone. I’ve grown old with no spouse and no children and for me it’s been a heavy burden.
I can only speak from my experience, but I’ve been a believer for 8 years, and what I’ve heard repeatedly from Christian women is the whole “there’s no good men out there!” claim, meanwhile they turn them all down because they don’t meet their expectations/standards. Social media has ruined us and it seems women would rather stay single than settle in the slightest.
Women always say there are "No Good men." Yet women stay pregnant 🤔.... make that make sense?
Work on yourself and pursue holiness. If marriage happens it happens. Always be her first choice.
@@TheLadyOfTheNorth and men could say that they don’t have the emotional reserve to marry because of the fact that 70% of divorces are initiated by women. I’ve seen Christian women reject good men over and over, and then go date a worldly scumbag instead.
@@TheLadyOfTheNorthtrust the Lord in all things and let him guide you, pray for your husband, and know that a man of God is always the better choice. A few quick thoughts i think would be helpful here, sister
@@TheLadyOfTheNorth I could say something similar from men’s perspective: roughly 70% of divorces are initiated by women, and 70% of domestic violence is also committed by women. I would say based on those two stats that men are the ones taking the even bigger risk in marriage.
Pray for the singles nowadays. Especially as men we feel the economic depression. The inadequacy is a real feeling. Because the reality is today many women make more money and are more educated than men of similar age. I wish I had enough income to save and give more generously this isn’t the case.
Most churches dont include singles in prayer from the pulpit in provisional prayer, or sermon examples....sadly, this guy is making an assumption that all single people have time that is their own... what about single with children (no acknowledgement of this).. im totally heartbroken about my church constantly talking about marriage... with no real advice, encouragement, and lots or assumptions about singles... no real pratical advice or hope for singles in this sermon and most churches in general... and singleness is suffering how insulting! A singles spouse is christ.... to grow old with no spouse is a dreadfully painful experience... a lonely death lurks in the mind of every single person over 40? I feel unworthy bc the church values marriage over singleness.. im not too ugly and i disagree with the above theology. Many who have Christ as their spouse die with the Holy spirit in great peace.. im extremely disappointed in this theology m6 church recommended...
I had more "education" and made more money than my husband. But once I was pregnant with our first child I stayed home, the Lord provided him with a better job before baby was born, and he has been our sole provider ever since! Pregnant with #7. God is good.
My question is how do preachers unpack Godly marriage with marriage under the state? I ask because it is very rare for churches to marry Christians without a marriage license.
Very balance and a complete biblical summary of the topic skillfully delivered!
Many churches look down on me because I am single. I have been passed up for leadership positions time after time not only because I am single but, because I am single and quite happy. I have a great life and get to do what I want and when I want ( praise God). But, married Christians look down on you. Church opportunities are quite limited. I serve at 3-4 churches in childrens and youth ministry because I have the time, the desire to serve but, could do much more if churches would only let me. As Christians, we are called to use our gifts to glorify God. at times, it seems my hands are tied because I am single . I realize I cannot be a Deacon due to Scripture and am fine with that but, there are tons of other opportunites to serve that I am turned down on year after year including this year.
Why can't you not be a deacon--b/c you are not married?
Very encouraging.
Please pray for us families trying to raise children in this world. 🙏
Excellent
In Africa I've observed, the society still holds high views of marriage in the church... Marriage is also a social status. A pastor once told me that I have a reproach as a woman if I am not married.... I've always wanted to get married since my early 20s, but ended up resenting the idea that I'll only be valuable and respectable in the church if my identity is tied to a husband. It's a social stereotype that has crept into the church. I desire to get married, but I do not marriage and fertility to be the proof of my worthy.
There's a lot of education needed to our generation on marriage, and I appreciate the video. ☺️
Gender roles are changing too and too many men have not gotten with time.
'lonely death ( being singe)?! nuts! we all die and my faith and confidence is in Jesus Christ not some woman or friend. get real. woman, most women die later than men so, most women die alone. I got cancer a few years back, almost died, was really bad. While going through treatments, I would repeteadly tell drs/nurses that I was not afraid to die. If it happens today or 50 years from now, I have trust in our Lord= that is all that matters
the comments here are of more interest than the lecture he gave. i'm married, and happily. can't say it's always or ever been easy, though i love my husband deeply & consciously work on being what God says i should as a wife. the benefits are numerous but life is challenging no matter what state you're in. i know married people & single, both have their challenges. humans are not "angels" as he said his wife is. we're difficult and short sighted. i hurt for married and singles, life is often very tough. I told my single son, in his 40s, pray about it, he said he's not in any great hurry to change his life. I don't know...not an easy subject with easy answers for sure.
Is your son content having been celibate all his life?
Killer ending!
Id like to tell everyone who is so anxious to be married that patience and trust in the Lord is of course more than worth it. God has a perfect man or woman out there for you. They will be your puzzle piece and it will further confirm Gods greatness. They will be so perfect for you they could only be created by Someone Who knows you better than you know yourself. He has knitted your wife or husbands soul of the same material. He created us to be man and woman together so trust that He will put us together.
After waiting into old age for a spouse you really can’t think this way anymore.
Seems to make the opposite mistake of Catholic priests by taking OT priority in thinking that the objective is actually marriage with children rather than Christ first. Defines celibacy as though it is completely unrelated to singleness in 1 Cor 7; Matt 19, and although admitting what the passage says, reverts back to Gen as anchor instead of NT examples of Jesus and the apostles with Great Commission as priority in life over even marriage. Admitted that there is much more that a single person can do for Christ, but acted as though its purpose was to support married people with their extra time and money as though married people were making the greater sacrifice.
Its a question of finding one compatible
Im still single at 78 in a way im glad i didnt marry earlier as i
Wasnt suited for it liking my
Freedom i kept myself away from relationships can be lonely but cant have it both ways!
about41 min into preacher says- "To grow old alone is a dreadfully painful experience". I say NONSENSE Being/staying single and not having kids is plain wonderful! Am in my 60s and have remained single and the Lord has given me a wonderful life! Better than I deserve. I get to do what I want, when I want, zero stress, plenty of time to serve the Lord, teach Scripture, etc. Travel most anywhere when I want. he is nuts saying what is says, esp around 41 mins. I really mean that. Now, when younger, 20s, 30s sure, I was insecure with myself and felt bad if I did not have a date, etc. But, once a man gains assets, builds confidence in himself, it is waaaaaay better, happier to stay single. I started feeling better about being single by my mid 30s. Now, totally happy staying single. If you want to see misery, etc then don't look at older single people, look at divorced men, look at mixed families, look at women with 2-3-4 marriages or more, kids with different fathers, etc. it is a real mess out there guys- stay single and stay happy. If anyone has questions on staying single/happy, am happy to answer. get answers from people who are single. blessings
How many times did you use the word I in this statement. God doesn’t call us to an easy life.
Not everyone feels the way you do.
@@chastaelaine76 she said she was using her time to serve, teach the word.. married folks say we often instead of I...
He is not "nuts" for saying that, and what he says is not "nonsense." I'm glad you're satisfied with your life, but you come across as insensitive and a bit arrogant. We're all made differently, and his experience is valid.
Love the purple hair!! 😍
Would love to meet someone and get married but my height starts with a 5'...
There are plenty of very wise reasons to stay single. Paul quotes in Corinthinians it is better to stay single and marriage is trouble. Then, the feminist movement for the last 60-70 years has destroyed marriage and the traditional family. Women file for divorce 70% or more of the time. It is not possible to make them happy. Advice to single people ( esp young men/boys) - Spend some time talking to older men who have gone through divorce ( not myself). Many men commit suicide over broken relationships/divorce. It is much harder on men than women. Many women already have another guy aligned up prior to splitting up, they just move from one man ( and his assets ) to the next. The Bible says that women were made for man. Not man made for woman but, don't tell any woman that as they do not see it that way. Scripture tells us- woman was made from man to be a helper. How many women today, including 'Christian' woman really believe that? almost none. Men- it is not wise to marry today. I hate to say that but, look at the facts in the world we live in today. Blessings feel happy to comment and discuss if you care to. I am not anti family, in fact I am very much pro family. If you are married, stay married. But, if you are considering marrying- really, really pray and think about all the pros and cons. Sadly, it is not a good deal for men in these days
Let me ask the Biblical scholors here ( including those who kow more tha me). When God said i Genesis- "It is not good for man to be alone" I ask- How many people were on the Earth at that time? As I interpret Scripture- Adam was the only human on Earth at that time- IE He was alone. Now, think of context- How many people are on Earth today? I do not know but, do not it is a lot thus, no one is 'alone' on Earth. "Alone" and being single in todays world is certainly not the same thing. I am happily single and also enjoy interaction with people almost daily but, I would never want to be the sole person on Earth. context. So, as I interpret, the verse 'it is not good for man to be alone' should be interpreted literally. So, if you feel I am wrong, please explain Scripturally
In 1 Corinthians 7:8-9, Paul says it is better for the unmarried and widows not to marry: I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I. But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.Nov 10, 2019
Women standards are waaaaayyy too high nowadays, start serving in your church and look at the guys serving, especially if he’s holding the door, most men are serving with their actions and not just the pastors on stage!!!
I don't think my standards are high..I just expect a godly Christian man to not be a drinker and weed smoker and not expect sex when dating. 😅
I think this is true for some women, but most of the girls I know (and I know a ton) would gladly date the solid guys serving at church, but the guys ignore them 😂
Well said
poor preaching on being single. this guy does not know reality. it is better to stay single and if you do not believe me, read your Bible in Corinthians- "it is better to stay single" has confidence in yourself= trust in The Lord! amen
so, so many miserable divorced men out there. beware men
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Edifying.
Can have a family now without a spouse. Lots of alternatives in the world. Maybe singles should start looking at alternatives whether it be adopting, surrogates, sperm banks etc.
Not for a Christian. there are reasons to follow His ways..Are you blind to what those things have done to our society?
You just don't seem to understand the deep wounds in the children born through those methods. Check out Katy Faust. She has done her homework for you..