You are amazing! Don't forget the bike Jenny gave you! She wants you to ride it and relieve some stress! I know it's hard..stress relief is a MUST! LOVE YOU SO MUCH! ❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉
Kyle you could never fail your family even if you tried to! You are fantastic. Jen couldn't wish for a better hubby and the kids couldn't wish for a better dad. You are the glue that holds your beautiful family together, even when you're not at home. It must be so hard for you being away from them after all that time but please know that you are doing it to support the family that you love so very much, and who love you so very much. You couldn't have done any more than you have done and continue to do. You guys are an inspiration to all of us 💙
I do not wish to upset you But unfortunately your wonderful wife at stage 4, at best 5 yrs At worst 1yr You have become successful youtubers so it's a no brained what you need to do
My best friend from when I was in kindergarten, was diagnosed with stage 4b breast cancer. She had RADICAL surgery. Was going through the mother of all divorced at the time, so had to HIDE her cancer from her soon to be ex, and therefore everyone, for fear he'd use it to fight for custody. That was 20 years ago and she too is going strong. Her oncologist says "cancer is now a chronic disease.". It's something you can live with and adapt to. Sending all my prayers
Kyle , your doing an INCREDIBLE job . I’ve been on both ends of caregiver and the patient and what I can say as a caregiver is please take care of you too. Many times as caregivers we overlook our own needs and put ourselves on the back burner and end up getting exhausted, not only physically, but mentally too. So please take care of yourself 😊
Hi Kyle, I am a breast cancer survivor myself. I had 2 forms (one aggressive and the other not) at stage 2B. I was pretty much alone for the most part all through my battle without an amazing hubby there to help me. I believe you and Jenny will be fine. Keep your faith in the Lord! I cried to Him everyday during and after my battle. He pulled me through it all. God bless you.
Kyle, I am Proud you got to go back to Work! Hopefully that will help Some! Kyle, never feel that you let your Wife or Children Down, Because you are the Best Husband & Father anyone could Possibly be! Youare an Amazing Human Being!! Sending Love ❤️❤️💕 &🙏🙏🙏
I think of you guys every day. When I feel myself getting crabby, I think of you two and how real and gracious and loving you are. You inspire me to do better and try harder.
Kyle you are one in a million. I’m so sorry you are struggling and feeling like you’re failing them. You are not. You need help too in all of this and thank you for giving us this perspective from the caregiver’s view. You’re such a good man, husband and father. I’m glad that you have this outlet to let your feelings out with us, just like Jenny does. You two are shining examples of grace under pressure, family positivity, and how to ask for help. We love you both so much and thank you for giving us the privilege of commenting back. It helps us too. Yes, each week will get better. You’ve got this. Praying 🙏🏻 ❤for you and your beautiful family.
Bless your heart Kyle. You are a truly amazing husband and father. I'm sending you and your beautiful family so much love and healing prayers always ❤️ xxx 🙏🙏
Kyle, you restore my faith in humankind after watching this. Your love for Jenny and the kids and your uncomplaining willingness to be an amazing caregiver warms my heart.
Hello Kyle, i went through this as my wife went through chemo and as she declined. She found herself able to do less and less but i had exhausted my Family Medical Leave time and PTO. I can tell you that i had to reach out to friends. What we did was develop a schedule where we had people take shifts, for instance, Paula stayed Monday, Julie stayed Tuesday, etc., so that no one got burnt out, plus my wife got to spend time with her friends and vice versa. We also had some people split days. So each month, i had a schedule and luckily i had enough people that were willing and able to take a shift. That is the only way we made it and i was able to work knowing that she had company and was taken care of. Just my 2 cents.....it was so hard to leave her and i relate and feel for you. Love you guys!
Hi Kyle. You and your kids are going to be okay. Your sparkly angel is watching over you guys. The way you and Jenny approached this with grace and honesty will help in the long run. Keeping your family in my prayers daily.
Kyle you were an excellent care giver to your family. Don’t ever doubt yourself. I was amazed at the strength God gave you to do all you did. You were over the top. It’s going to be hard to slow down because then all the memories start flooding. I am amazed in all that you did without losing it. Jenny’s sister and father were amazing as well. Its now time to take a little time for youself to breath because without realizing it your still in a care taker position your job and your kids. If you don’t slow down eventually you will crack. I am praying for you and your family. Don’t feel bad to ask for help until you can get through this. I know if you were our neighbors we would reach out to help with the kids, meals, whatever we could do for you. don’t feel bad if someone offers. It’s hard to let go of something you’ve been used to doing.
I totally agree with you that at the end of the day, there is no time left to spend with your family. But it is great to finally have you back at work and helping your students like me. -Mark Salas
Hi Kyle. I’m so glad that your first week back at work was a success. I’m sorry that you’re experiencing concerns and anxiety over pulling back from your full-time caregiver role. It actually makes me think of separation anxiety that parents and children get when their kids first go to school. It does take time to adjust to that. The main thing I think is encouraging Jenny to stop being stubborn about reaching out for help whether that’s calling on a family member, explaining to the kids while she needs to take a break, taking her pain medication when she needs it, etc. This is a really important adjustment process for her too and I’m sure you’re both going to sail through it brilliantly. You’re always in my prayers and thoughts. 💜💜💜
You are the world's greatest care-giver, husband and father. God bless you., Kyle. adore u your sweet wife and children and wish you ALL good things. Be well beautiful Jen,
Hi, Kyle. I don’t have any words of wisdom to offer, but I just have to tell you that you are an AMAZING husband and dad. I know that you belong to a club that nobody wants to be in, but watching you and Jenny going through this journey has reminded me of what’s important in life. I pray for all of you every night. ❤️❤️💙💖
Hi Kyle so nice I see you getting back to normal things you a great dad and Jenny was a wonderful mom to your kids I miss seeing her just be strong in the time of your weakness we feel for you and the kids🙏for you and the kids ❤
Hi Kyle, I worked over 30 years as a nurse's aide and was also caregiver for both my parents. I worked night shift (11-7) and then cared for them until 5 pm when my sister relieved me. I then went home to sleep a few hours and back to work that night. It was difficult to say the least and my husband was so loving, helpful and understanding for those few years. Both parents have earned their angel wings and I am no longer able to work because I am now caregiver for that loving husband who has dementia. No, it's not cancer but it is still a horrible, debilitating disease. I'm glad you are reaching out for help, advice and support because I didn't do that and in time the stress and emotions caught up with me. If I can give you any advice it would be to be sure to take some time to take care of yourself. Do things you love that don't involve caregiving even if it's for short period. You need to rest and recharge to be the best husband , dad and caregiver that you want to be. Those short periods will also help Jenny gain more confidence in her abilities to take care of what she is able to. Your family, students and in fact this world is lucky to have a compassionate man not afraid to ask for help and express his feelings. My thoughts and prayers will remain flowing in the direction of your home.
So good to hear from you! Honestly what you described reminds me so much of what it feels like to be a working mom-always pulled in two different directions, two different worlds. It sounds like you are doing all the right things by reaching out to your therapist and expressing gratitude for your family. The only thing I can think of to add is to continue to have pride and care in yourself (because youre doing great and need to take care of yohrself in order to be there for others) and to possibly reach out to the parent of your former student who offered help. I'm sure she meant it wholeheartedly and it could be a connection for your wife - or just a relief of some tasks like grocery shopping or meal planning. Good luck in week 2, you got this!
Seeing a counselor is lifesaving. Don't miss your appointments, they give uou the strength to cope and carry on. You've done an amazing job so far, but life must go on. Blessings to you and Jenny and the the kiddos ❤
Hi Kyle! You are an amazing husband and father. I was caregiver to my beloved Dad (my sister and I did it together). He was so ill, he had a terrible primary brain tumor. He was 79. I had to return to work after a 6 week leave of absence. It felt great to be back at work, but Dad was so ill and needed two caregivers. So I had to take early retirement. We had barely any help caring for my Dad. It is so important to ask for help. Prayers in Jesus’s Name that all goes well for you, Jenny, and those adorable children. Sending all my love and hugs! God bless you all 🤗❤️🙏🏻
Dear Kyle, you are such a huge blessing to Jenny and your kids. You are strong and able. You have provided for them. You are the best husband and daddy. I pray God continues to bless you as you return to work with less anxiety and worry. Lean on God and He will carry you through.
Wow , your love and care for your family is amazing. My prayers are with you. I am taking care of my husband that had esophagus cancer had surgery to take the tumor out no cancer any where else but boy being care giver is a hard journey . He is doing immunotherapy for a precaution measure. I don’t think I would of had the strength if I had littles to take care of too. You and Jenny are doing an amazing job.
Praying for you and your family Kyle. Your guilt is normal but is hard to feel. Jenny is beautiful and such a fighter. I’m impressed with your love for Jenny and how you do your best to keep her spirits up as she fights this terrible cancer. Thank you for sharing your side of this journey y’all are on. 😊🙏💗
In Va when someone is disabled, they will actually pay a family member to step up and be a care giver. If there is anyone inur family that doesn’t work and would like to help out.. that’s an option. I wish I lived next door as I work from home and could help out tremendously.. my heart goes out To you, Kevin, you are an amazing father and an amazing husband. I just watched a video of a lady that was terminally ill with cancer and she was diagnosed a year before she passed that she was terminal and within months of that he decided he didn’t wanna be in a relationship with her anymore, which was so Bad. How could a man be by woman so long and when she’s in her last months of life, he makes her move. She had to move in with her daughter six months before her passing. You are amazing kudos to you and what you’re doing for your family you are a manly man and I can see why Jenny loves you so much. Thank you for all you do for her stop❤
I’ve been following y’all’s story but today my heart is with you Kyle and those precious children. God bless you also for going thru the hardest of times. You are an Angel the way you loved sweet Jenny. An Angel on earth. God bless you and the family ❤
Oh Kyle, you are in No way a failure or abandoning her. She knows that you are there on every level, and she knows you have to go back to work for the finances. You are a wonderful husband, Dad, provider. Bless you, hugs, and prayers for some inner peace.
Well done on your honesty and putting it out there on how you have felt this week returning to work and grieving your care giver role. Keep using your channel and reaching, you are an amazing husband and Dad ❤
Hi Kyle I think of you and your beautiful children every day. Kyle you could not of done anymore for your family you did everything and more .you are one in a million.I could see how much love you had for each other beautiful memories . Your children will always be there for you as you will be for them. Jenny will be there saying come on Kyle you got this. Kyle you will have good days and bad days.remember we’re all here for you aswell. It was lovely to hear from you. Take care god bless . From England .🏴
Glad you dare back to work may each day become less sressful give you strength to face each day and to navigate this new chapter you are an amazing father may the Lord meet every need you and the children have ❤
I am watching this after seeing all of the recent videos. Please keep posting and seeking support!! So many have grown to love your family!! We are following your journey and so appreciate that you guys are sharing your hearts with us!! Please don't carry any guilt!! You're an awesome caregiver!! You will need your work family also!! When you go through the worst that life dishes out, you rely on others!! And God provides the support!! Just thinking back to when my baby daughter was in the NICU for the the first 5 1/2 months of her life. She never came home. She was too sick and eventually her little heart gave out. I felt like a horrible wife and friend but my focus was her. I did get a lot of support from family, friends, and hospital staff. Kyle, you are not abandoning your family!! You're taking care of them!! I came out of my situation with insight and strength to help others. I think of my precious Hannah as a positive thing that has helped me grow so much!! Guilt of course, but I celebrate her everyday!!
It's not the amount of time spend with your family it's what you do with the time you have together. You guys are making wonderful memories. I'm praying that this treatment works and the cancer goes away.
Just a few words to tell you that you are doing an amazing job Kyle. You are so dedicated to everything you do and give 100% but, like you said, time is key. Take some pressure off yourself and it will all fit into place. You will both have a new normal. Nothing ever stays the same. Circumstances change and when they do, you change. You adapt… the circle keeps turning. You are an absolute inspirational little family. Keep on keeping on. Oh… and I also have to say that you are the absolute role model for your kids. All my love and prayers to you all ❤❤
I totally get those feeling of abandoning your family as carer. I've been there. You have to look it at this way. You are taking time out for yourself. You will figure out a new routine that feels right for you and the entire family. It is carers guilt and you have nothing to feel guilty about. Self-care is not selfish. . You have to stop being so hard on yourself. You are doing an awesome job looking after everyone. Hang in there. Things will get better.
God bless you, Jenny, and your sweet children. You’ve been placed on a journey that most would find unbearable. But, you and Jenny are moving forward with such grace and hope. You are truly such an amazing example of what love is.
You‘re an amazing open and honest guy. Your words just blew me away, wow. I understand your struggle, I‘m a caregiver as well. I think you’re doing a wonderful job, you have a therapist, so you’re also taking care of yourself! That’s so important. I honestly believe that you’re going to be fine!
Hi Kyle, don't worry about going back to work, Jenny is doing well and you couldn't have done better as you did so far 🤗🍀best wishes for you and your family 🙏🍀
You are an amazing husband, father and all around human being! I admire you so much, always so supportive of Jenny and the kids. Praying for all of you!🛐⚓💜⚓🛐
I was a care taker for both my mom and dad. Afterwards there were things I really felt so guilty of a few things I could have done over. For example my mom said she would like to have liver and onions and it was a little late, not so late that I could do it and I still think about that and that happened 2013. I didn’t have anybody that helped and I wished my 2 brothers and a sister would have helped me. I stayed at my dads for almost 3 years and I got so little help from my siblings that I was both mentally and physically exhausted. I kept that against them for a while. I was the only one married, I had a husband at home by himself and I felt like my family let me down. They were selfish and just stayed in their comfortable life and home. I know I’m complaining but i would do it all over again. I’m so happy that you had and still do. Especially having children. You inspire me Kyle and you are amazing ❤❤
I believe Jenny will discover she can still do some of the normal mom things that will build her confidence. As a caregiver for my daughter with cancer I realized I was being too overprotective. When I backed off she regained some important confidence needed for her to get healthier.
So great to have an empty nester who knows and appreciates you so much. Don’t be shy. Please reach out as you need to. They earnestly want to help. 🩷☝️💙. God bless you !
Kyle , I am with you. I have been there. My husband was diagnosed with glioblastoma (worst form of brain cancer), young age. You have it correct, by asking for help and taking it when offered. I made the mistake of thinking I could do it all, two teens, graduate school and managing my husbands extensive care at home. I pray for you all every night and am very positive for her. ❤. You are also doing school again and bringing more balance to all the family and Jenny will gain confidence which will help bring some of her former life to her😊. Hard at first but we all love and know your family has got this and we have you🎉. Much love, Jo
You are doing an awesome job! I understand - my daughter is a breast cancer survivor . It really takes a “family” to be caregivers. I realized that when people offer to help , let them because they will receive a blessing in doing it . God uses His people to help others . I have been keeping up with sweet Jenny since last year and can relate to so much. You all are in my prayers. Stay positive and remember you have an “army of support “behind you. Sending love and blessing from southwest Georgia ❤️
You are an amazing Husband and Father. You have been such a good caregiver. I know you feel bad leaving to go back to work but you were lucky to be home as long as you were and to be such a big help. You are such a loving family. I hope things continue to improve for Jenny.
I have learned in the past 3 years of CV that we can truly live on less. How we make things so important and at the same time, we don't recognize that time is passing us by. I am considered middle aged now but in looking back how differently I would have done everything.
Kyle, you,Jenny, and your children are in my prayers.I’ve been through the cancer journey with my siblings.It’s a lot, but you are a shining example of how to make it work.Thanks for sharing your journey.You inspire me to be a better person.🙏
Yes you’re so right Kyle. You can’t be all things to all people. Eventually you will have to ask for help or take a step back to do other things you need to do (whether you like it or not). When I was caring for my husband full time it felt in a way as though I was undoing what had happened to him and when I had him go into care so I could manage everything else I felt like I was abandoning him. I had to “leave” him to cope with all the emotions of it all on his own. The trouble is I can’t fix it and him having to face it in his own, in his own style is an inevitability. All that scrambling I did to avoid that just made me sicker myself (I have been both cared for and carer). You know what you have to do Kyle. It’s horrible and you’ll never fully get over it, but some days will be better than others and you will always have the love and support of your family and community and us here to vent to anytime. Big love and respect Kyle. Hang in there man 🥹
I think you and your family are wonderful. Jenny was so caring even when she was struggling ñear the end you are an amazing husband and father ill keep praying for you all including jenny who I believe will now be an angel helping other cross over she indeed was special Kyle you are amazing god bless you Ellis and winnie❤😢❤❤
Oh Kyle, you are doing a great job, don’t be so hard on yourself. Being a caregiver is a very hard job. You can only do so much. Your kids are adorable and they will adjust to changes that have to be made. I saw Jenny’s video today and she looks fabulous! Take one step at a time, take a big breath and keep swimming. You got this!
On hard days please remember you have a beautiful home with 2 healthy children. You have a steady income and lots of family and friends that love you. You also have a beautiful wife that does have some challenges in her life right now, BUT each day will get easier and when you guys are 60 years old you will look back at this and realize how strong you guys were and that you both are doing well and happy. Take it one day at a time and baby steps will see you through. Life is a journey and some journeys are harder than others. You guys will overcome this and all will be great again. Hold the faith. Hugs from Canada xoxo
You are an amazing person Kyle. Don't think for a minute that you have done anything wrong. It's hard to go through something like that. My sister had Hodkins Lymphoma and she had radiation but it was very difficult going through that. She's been in remission for 13 years so there is hope. You are doing a wonderful job as a father and husband, stay positive you've got this!
I was a caregiver for my husband..I know that mixed feeling because I had to eventually go back to work. Tommy was only 56 when he had his stroke. My eldest daughter and her husband moved in for eight months and then, as he gradually got sicker he had to move to a healthcare facility, and I was so grateful that it was a good one and I could see him on the way to work and on the way home from work, and weekends, but I still had so much guilt. He passed away in 2014 as I look back I was so grateful that I could be there for him. Even when I went back to work, I was there for him, I have no regrets regarding my caring for him. You don’t always have to physically be there for somebody but emotionally you can be, your doing great. Have a blessed day.
Your chat today opened my eyes allowing me to understand this dark feeling I've been living with since the loss of my precious husband to cancer. I never felt I was his caregiver but more like I was his love giver. I wouldn't and didn't want to leave his side throughout our long journey. When you talked about going back to work and feeling like you abandoned Jenny, the children and your home, I realized that although I didn't have work to return to I had worse. My husband passed much sooner and unexpectedly and in one moment I was of no use to my love or anyone. It's ten years and I still don't know that I'm of any use. I pray for you and Jenny and your precious kiddos and hope that a well deserved miracle will come your way. We never gave up. Blessings from London, Ontario.
Kyle, you are an amazing father, husband, and your amazing. Your doing a fantastic job 👍 your a wonderful man who deserves the very best life has to offer. My continued prayers 🙏❤️ for YOU and your family.
Kyle, you are an amazing husband, Dad and caregiver! Glad you are able to get back to teaching again. Your co-workers who have supported you are angels! God bless you and Jenny🙏❤️
It's beautiful that your fellow educaters donated their vacation days. I have a feeling that you are a valued member of your school. Please take care of yourself too. 💙💙💙
Kyle I am so glad u went back to work. Sometimes people can do more than they think they can. My husband and I were both diagnosed with cancer at the same time (in our 60’s) and also I was full time caregiver for my 90 year old mom. Chemo/ radiation/surgery definitely takes it’s toll on you but eventually everything becomes the “new normal “ and Jenny hopefully will see she is stronger than what she thinks she is. It’s good to try to get back to a normal routine for everyone. You do so so much but sometimes u have realize that cancer or any illness is sometimes harder on the caregiver than the patient. Even my doctors told me that. Keep up the great work. So happy for u.
Be proud that you have accomplished so much. I was a care giver for many years now I need help in my life. Thank God he has made a way for me. You and Jenny are so courageous in this fight, and the great care you give your children. Love your family.
You have no need to feel guilty! Little steps Kyle, major adjustments! You are absolutely right take the help, they are glad to be there and feel like they are part of the process! Take care!😊🇨🇦
I love your family so much. Thank you for your vulnerability and sharing your true thoughts and feelings. I don’t have any helpful advice, but just wanted to tell you that you’re doing an exceptional job. You’re one of a kind and the best example of a man and husband that I’ve seen. Your beautiful family is as lucky to have you, as you are to have them. ❤
Hi Kyle and family. So glad you made this channel as well. I am going through breast cancer treatments myself and I know my husband often feels as you have described. We already watch your wife's channel (she is so amazing and so brave!!) so I'm trying to get him to watch yours as well. Wishing you and your family Godspeed in recovery.
Kyle, thank you for sharing your ❤ about how this is for you as a caregiver. I am grateful that you are getting support from your therapist and others in your life. What I am learning from you and Jenny is how important it is to be vulnerable and open to receiving help from others. I am also an educator. I know that being a teacher is also emotionally and physically draining. Be sure to take support from your colleagues when needed as well. I know they will be there for you. Hugs to you, Jenny and your children.
Kyle, I adore the love that you have for your family and the love that you have for your students and co-workers. In my humble opinion, you are still being a caregiver, just in a slightly different role. A family needs income. And when not making that income you are back in your previous caregiver role. What more could you ask of yourself. In essence, you are still the 24-7 caregiver. And in an emergency, should one arise, you’ll be right by Jenny’s side. Have faith in yourself as you are a great caregiver, husband, father and teacher.
Kyle, being a caregiver is one of the hardest jobs one can do. You are doing a great job. Try not to be hard on yourself. Every one of us caregivers go through the same feeling. It is exhausting. Continued prayers for your family.
aww Kyle you could never fail your family, you are the Best husband and father I've ever seen. please don't be so hard on yourself I can't even imagine how hard it is but you are an absolute God sent Angel for your family. please don't forget to take care of yourself Praying for you guys always Love you guys❤
Kyle you are such a good man….you are helping Jenny while you are away…you are helping her regain her independence….yes she needs help sometimes when she’s not feeling good but you guys have a great support team…. It takes a village to raise kids these days!! Also by going back to work you are helping financially to.. I’m sure it was hard but you are not abandoning your family you’re helping them grow…. Love ❤️ to all….🤗❤️👍🙏🙏
You're doing the best you can under difficult circumstances. That's all anyone can do. You're a great dad and husband. Try to be gentle with yourself and remember Jenny has support from her family. Sending hugs to you and your family. 💗
You are amazing! Don't forget the bike Jenny gave you! She wants you to ride it and relieve some stress! I know it's hard..stress relief is a MUST! LOVE YOU SO MUCH! ❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉
Kyle you could never fail your family even if you tried to! You are fantastic. Jen couldn't wish for a better hubby and the kids couldn't wish for a better dad. You are the glue that holds your beautiful family together, even when you're not at home. It must be so hard for you being away from them after all that time but please know that you are doing it to support the family that you love so very much, and who love you so very much. You couldn't have done any more than you have done and continue to do. You guys are an inspiration to all of us 💙
Yas sister! Preach! What she said 😀👍😘
I totally agree. Kyle is an amazing man. You have done everything you can for your family. May God bless you always.
I do not wish to upset you
But unfortunately your wonderful wife at stage 4, at best 5 yrs
At worst 1yr
You have become successful youtubers so it's a no brained what you need to do
@@dairinnally5912wow🤦♀️ You could have said how great of a husband and father he is and wish them the best.
@@dairinnally5912?????He is an amazing person that loves his family and misses his wonderful wife! Much love from around this wonderful earth!❤❤
My best friend from when I was in kindergarten, was diagnosed with stage 4b breast cancer. She had RADICAL surgery. Was going through the mother of all divorced at the time, so had to HIDE her cancer from her soon to be ex, and therefore everyone, for fear he'd use it to fight for custody. That was 20 years ago and she too is going strong. Her oncologist says "cancer is now a chronic disease.". It's something you can live with and adapt to.
Sending all my prayers
Kyle , your doing an INCREDIBLE job .
I’ve been on both ends of caregiver and the patient and what I can say as a caregiver is please take care of you too.
Many times as caregivers we overlook our own needs and put ourselves on the back burner and end up getting exhausted, not only physically, but mentally too.
So please take care of yourself 😊
I'm so happy you exist. 🍏
Thank you 😊
Kyle you were an angel with Jenny and I know she is so proud of all you are doing with the kids!
Hi Kyle, I am a breast cancer survivor myself. I had 2 forms (one aggressive and the other not) at stage 2B. I was pretty much alone for the most part all through my battle without an amazing hubby there to help me.
I believe you and Jenny will be fine. Keep your faith in the Lord! I cried to Him everyday during and after my battle. He pulled me through it all. God bless you.
I am happy you got through your cancer fight. I too am a survivor❤
Me too I did it a lone my partner left when I found out my cancer came back ….. It’s so hard but your not a lone ❤❤
@@clairebeever3038so sorry that your partner abandoned you in your time of need.
Our choice in life partners is sooo very important!
She had lung cancer
Kyle, I am Proud you got to go back to Work! Hopefully that will help Some! Kyle, never feel that you let your Wife or Children Down,
Because you are the Best Husband & Father anyone could Possibly be! Youare an Amazing Human Being!!
Sending Love ❤️❤️💕 &🙏🙏🙏
I think of you guys every day. When I feel myself getting crabby, I think of you two and how real and gracious and loving you are. You inspire me to do better and try harder.
Kyle you are one in a million. I’m so sorry you are struggling and feeling like you’re failing them. You are not. You need help too in all of this and thank you for giving us this perspective from the caregiver’s view. You’re such a good man, husband and father. I’m glad that you have this outlet to let your feelings out with us, just like Jenny does. You two are shining examples of grace under pressure, family positivity, and how to ask for help. We love you both so much and thank you for giving us the privilege of commenting back. It helps us too. Yes, each week will get better. You’ve got this. Praying 🙏🏻 ❤for you and your beautiful family.
It's the hardest thing to ask for help, it really is. To show vulnerability. Not easy😔
Yes everyone that knows you two will be glad to help ya please ask for help.
Bless you . I wish there were more people like you in the world. If there were, the world would be a nicer place . ❤❤❤❤
Aww thank you so much
My pleasure ❤. Each heart represents your families love for each other .
Bless your heart Kyle. You are a truly amazing husband and father. I'm sending you and your beautiful family so much love and healing prayers always ❤️ xxx 🙏🙏
Kyle, you restore my faith in humankind after watching this. Your love for Jenny and the kids and your uncomplaining willingness to be an amazing caregiver warms my heart.
Hello Kyle, i went through this as my wife went through chemo and as she declined. She found herself able to do less and less but i had exhausted my Family Medical Leave time and PTO. I can tell you that i had to reach out to friends. What we did was develop a schedule where we had people take shifts, for instance, Paula stayed Monday, Julie stayed Tuesday, etc., so that no one got burnt out, plus my wife got to spend time with her friends and vice versa. We also had some people split days. So each month, i had a schedule and luckily i had enough people that were willing and able to take a shift. That is the only way we made it and i was able to work knowing that she had company and was taken care of. Just my 2 cents.....it was so hard to leave her and i relate and feel for you. Love you guys!
Kyle you have been the most attentive caregiver I have ever seen. You couldn't have done a better job.
Hi Kyle. You and your kids are going to be okay. Your sparkly angel is watching over you guys. The way you and Jenny approached this with grace and honesty will help in the long run. Keeping your family in my prayers daily.
Kyle you were an excellent care giver to your family. Don’t ever doubt yourself. I was amazed at the strength God gave you to do all you did. You were over the top. It’s going to be hard to slow down because then all the memories start flooding. I am amazed in all that you did without losing it. Jenny’s sister and father were amazing as well. Its now time to take a little time for youself to breath because without realizing it your still in a care taker position your job and your kids. If you don’t slow down eventually you will crack. I am praying for you and your family. Don’t feel bad to ask for help until you can get through this. I know if you were our neighbors we would reach out to help with the kids, meals, whatever we could do for you. don’t feel bad if someone offers. It’s hard to let go of something you’ve been used to doing.
I can’t imagine the mixed feelings you have about going back to work. Be as kind to yourself as you are to your beautiful family! ❤
Kyle you are only human DONT stress yourself out
I totally agree with you that at the end of the day, there is no time left to spend with your family. But it is great to finally have you back at work and helping your students like me.
-Mark Salas
Awesome to hear from a student.
You are needed in both ,school n home and making an impact in peoples lives,
Take care of yourself too.
You are an amazing husband, father and friend to Jenny and children. Prayers for strength and peace...you are doing great!!!
Hi Kyle. I’m so glad that your first week back at work was a success. I’m sorry that you’re experiencing concerns and anxiety over pulling back from your full-time caregiver role. It actually makes me think of separation anxiety that parents and children get when their kids first go to school. It does take time to adjust to that. The main thing I think is encouraging Jenny to stop being stubborn about reaching out for help whether that’s calling on a family member, explaining to the kids while she needs to take a break, taking her pain medication when she needs it, etc. This is a really important adjustment process for her too and I’m sure you’re both going to sail through it brilliantly. You’re always in my prayers and thoughts. 💜💜💜
You willget there, you and Jenny are legends Continued Prayers❤❤
Kyle you are a great dad to your kids and was a wonderful buddy 😊
You are the world's greatest care-giver, husband and father. God bless you., Kyle. adore u
your sweet wife and children and wish you ALL good things. Be well beautiful Jen,
Hi, Kyle. I don’t have any words of wisdom to offer, but I just have to tell you that you are an AMAZING husband and dad. I know that you belong to a club that nobody wants to be in, but watching you and Jenny going through this journey has reminded me of what’s important in life. I pray for all of you every night. ❤️❤️💙💖
Becky those are wise words to say. Heartfelt Heart-sent , words spoken from the heart are wisdom n knowledge. ❤
Hi Kyle so nice I see you getting back to normal things you a great dad and Jenny was a wonderful mom to your kids I miss seeing her just be strong in the time of your weakness we feel for you and the kids🙏for you and the kids ❤
Hi Kyle, I worked over 30 years as a nurse's aide and was also caregiver for both my parents. I worked night shift (11-7) and then cared for them until 5 pm when my sister relieved me. I then went home to sleep a few hours and back to work that night. It was difficult to say the least and my husband was so loving, helpful and understanding for those few years. Both parents have earned their angel wings and I am no longer able to work because I am now caregiver for that loving husband who has dementia. No, it's not cancer but it is still a horrible, debilitating disease. I'm glad you are reaching out for help, advice and support because I didn't do that and in time the stress and emotions caught up with me. If I can give you any advice it would be to be sure to take some time to take care of yourself. Do things you love that don't involve caregiving even if it's for short period. You need to rest and recharge to be the best husband , dad and caregiver that you want to be. Those short periods will also help Jenny gain more confidence in her abilities to take care of what she is able to. Your family, students and in fact this world is lucky to have a compassionate man not afraid to ask for help and express his feelings. My thoughts and prayers will remain flowing in the direction of your home.
So good to hear from you! Honestly what you described reminds me so much of what it feels like to be a working mom-always pulled in two different directions, two different worlds. It sounds like you are doing all the right things by reaching out to your therapist and expressing gratitude for your family. The only thing I can think of to add is to continue to have pride and care in yourself (because youre doing great and need to take care of yohrself in order to be there for others) and to possibly reach out to the parent of your former student who offered help. I'm sure she meant it wholeheartedly and it could be a connection for your wife - or just a relief of some tasks like grocery shopping or meal planning.
Good luck in week 2, you got this!
Seeing a counselor is lifesaving. Don't miss your appointments, they give uou the strength to cope and carry on. You've done an amazing job so far, but life must go on. Blessings to you and Jenny and the the kiddos ❤
I have been a caregiver for over 30 years. Loved it. I’m retired now. But I can relate to all of what you are going thru.
Hi Kyle! You are an amazing husband and father. I was caregiver to my beloved Dad (my sister and I did it together). He was so ill, he had a terrible primary brain tumor. He was 79. I had to return to work after a 6 week leave of absence. It felt great to be back at work, but Dad was so ill and needed two caregivers. So I had to take early retirement. We had barely any help caring for my Dad. It is so important to ask for help.
Prayers in Jesus’s Name that all goes well for you, Jenny, and those adorable children. Sending all my love and hugs! God bless you all 🤗❤️🙏🏻
You are Amazing. Prayers for you and kids.
Dear Kyle, you are such a huge blessing to Jenny and your kids. You are strong and able. You have provided for them. You are the best husband and daddy. I pray God continues to bless you as you return to work with less anxiety and worry. Lean on God and He will carry you through.
Hi Kyle I a. Cancer survivor alright Kyle prayers for your family.😇🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏😇
You are an Amazing husband, dad and caregiver! No one realizes how difficult it is to take care of a sick loved one and you do a stellar job.
Wow , your love and care for your family is amazing. My prayers are with you.
I am taking care of my husband that had esophagus cancer had surgery to take the tumor out no cancer any where else but boy being care giver is a hard journey . He is doing immunotherapy for a precaution measure. I don’t think I would of had the strength if I had littles to take care of too. You and Jenny are doing an amazing job.
Praying for you and your family Kyle. Your guilt is normal but is hard to feel. Jenny is beautiful and such a fighter. I’m impressed with your love for Jenny and how you do your best to keep her spirits up as she fights this terrible cancer. Thank you for sharing your side of this journey y’all are on. 😊🙏💗
You are an amazing husband, father and more. Jenny be so happy and proud. ❤
In Va when someone is disabled, they will actually pay a family member to step up and be a care giver. If there is anyone inur family that doesn’t work and would like to help out.. that’s an option. I wish I lived next door as I work from home and could help out tremendously.. my heart goes out
To you, Kevin, you are an amazing father and an amazing husband. I just watched a video of a lady that was terminally ill with cancer and she was diagnosed a year before she passed that she was terminal and within months of that he decided he didn’t wanna be in a relationship with her anymore, which was so Bad. How could a man be by woman so long and when she’s in her last months of life, he makes her move. She had to move in with her daughter six months before her passing. You are amazing kudos to you and what you’re doing for your family you are a manly man and I can see why Jenny loves you so much. Thank you for all you do for her stop❤
I’m always praising Jenny & forget to tell you what an amazing Dad, husband & caregiver you are. ❤
I’ve been following y’all’s story but today my heart is with you Kyle and those precious children. God bless you also for going thru the hardest of times. You are an Angel the way you loved sweet Jenny. An Angel on earth. God bless you and the family ❤
Thanks for the update Kyle. Big week for you all. Sending love as always. ❤
You are an incredible husband! You and Jenny are so blessed to have each other. Continuing to pray for your family🙏❤️
It is so nice to see such an open, honest and loving man share his feelings. I’m married to the opposite and I can get my feelings hurt from it.
Oh Kyle, you are in No way a failure or abandoning her. She knows that you are there on every level, and she knows you have to go back to work for the finances. You are a wonderful husband, Dad, provider. Bless you, hugs, and prayers for some inner peace.
Well done on your honesty and putting it out there on how you have felt this week returning to work and grieving your care giver role. Keep using your channel and reaching, you are an amazing husband and Dad ❤
Hi Kyle I think of you and your beautiful children every day. Kyle you could not of done anymore for your family you did everything and more .you are one in a million.I could see how much love you had for each other beautiful memories . Your children will always be there for you as you will be for them. Jenny will be there saying come on Kyle you got this. Kyle you will have good days and bad days.remember we’re all here for you aswell. It was lovely to hear from you. Take care god bless . From England .🏴
Kyle it is good for you to go back to work in your actual situation to keep your mind busy you are an awesome Dad I am sure Jenny is proud of you
Kyle you're so good with the kids God will help you through this jenny was a wonderful woman she will be missed so much ❤️ 💛
You are doing an amazing job. As a caretaker to my youngest son who is disabled and running my own business - the balancing act is a real struggle
It really is
Glad you dare back to work may each day become less sressful give you strength to face each day and to navigate this new chapter you are an amazing father may the Lord meet every need you and the children have ❤
I am watching this after seeing all of the recent videos. Please keep posting and seeking support!! So many have grown to love your family!! We are following your journey and so appreciate that you guys are sharing your hearts with us!! Please don't carry any guilt!! You're an awesome caregiver!! You will need your work family also!! When you go through the worst that life dishes out, you rely on others!! And God provides the support!! Just thinking back to when my baby daughter was in the NICU for the the first 5 1/2 months of her life. She never came home. She was too sick and eventually her little heart gave out. I felt like a horrible wife and friend but my focus was her. I did get a lot of support from family, friends, and hospital staff. Kyle, you are not abandoning your family!! You're taking care of them!! I came out of my situation with insight and strength to help others. I think of my precious Hannah as a positive thing that has helped me grow so much!! Guilt of course, but I celebrate her everyday!!
Your family and your work are so lucky to have you... You compassionate and kind...
It's not the amount of time spend with your family it's what you do with the time you have together. You guys are making wonderful memories. I'm praying that this treatment works and the cancer goes away.
Kyle you are such a great care giver, & a great husband & father, you are all in my prayers
Your doing an Amazing job Kyle .
Just a few words to tell you that you are doing an amazing job Kyle. You are so dedicated to everything you do and give 100% but, like you said, time is key. Take some pressure off yourself and it will all fit into place. You will both have a new normal. Nothing ever stays the same. Circumstances change and when they do, you change. You adapt… the circle keeps turning. You are an absolute inspirational little family. Keep on keeping on. Oh… and I also have to say that you are the absolute role model for your kids. All my love and prayers to you all ❤❤
I totally get those feeling of abandoning your family as carer. I've been there. You have to look it at this way. You are taking time out for yourself. You will figure out a new routine that feels right for you and the entire family. It is carers guilt and you have nothing to feel guilty about. Self-care is not selfish. . You have to stop being so hard on yourself. You are doing an awesome job looking after everyone. Hang in there. Things will get better.
God bless you, Jenny, and your sweet children. You’ve been placed on a journey that most would find unbearable. But, you and Jenny are moving forward with such grace and hope. You are truly such an amazing example of what love is.
You‘re an amazing open and honest guy. Your words just blew me away, wow. I understand your struggle, I‘m a caregiver as well. I think you’re doing a wonderful job, you have a therapist, so you’re also taking care of yourself! That’s so important. I honestly believe that you’re going to be fine!
Hi Kyle, don't worry about going back to work, Jenny is doing well and you couldn't have done better as you did so far 🤗🍀best wishes for you and your family 🙏🍀
You are an amazing husband, father and all around human being! I admire you so much, always so supportive of Jenny and the kids. Praying for all of you!🛐⚓💜⚓🛐
Kyle, you, Jenny and your family are in my thoughts and prayers 🙏🙏🙏🙏
I was a care taker for both my mom and dad. Afterwards there were things I really felt so guilty of a few things I could have done over. For example my mom said she would like to have liver and onions and it was a little late, not so late that I could do it and I still think about that and that happened 2013. I didn’t have anybody that helped and I wished my 2 brothers and a sister would have helped me. I stayed at my dads for almost 3 years and I got so little help from my siblings that I was both mentally and physically exhausted. I kept that against them for a while. I was the only one married, I had a husband at home by himself and I felt like my family let me down. They were selfish and just stayed in their comfortable life and home. I know I’m complaining but i would do it all over again. I’m so happy that you had and still do. Especially having children. You inspire me Kyle and you are amazing ❤❤
I believe Jenny will discover she can still do some of the normal mom things that will build her confidence. As a caregiver for my daughter with cancer I realized I was being too overprotective. When I backed off she regained some important confidence needed for her to get healthier.
So great to have an empty nester who knows and appreciates you so much. Don’t be shy. Please reach out as you need to. They earnestly want to help. 🩷☝️💙. God bless you !
Kyle , I am with you. I have been there. My husband was diagnosed with glioblastoma (worst form of brain cancer), young age. You have it correct, by asking for help and taking it when offered. I made the mistake of thinking I could do it all, two teens, graduate school and managing my husbands extensive care at home. I pray for you all every night and am very positive for her. ❤. You are also doing school again and bringing more balance to all the family and Jenny will gain confidence which will help bring some of her former life to her😊. Hard at first but we all love and know your family has got this and we have you🎉. Much love, Jo
Thanks for being raw and emotional, we need more of this honesty and open-ness from males, so we can make it normal
You are doing an awesome job! I understand - my daughter is a breast cancer survivor . It really takes a “family” to be caregivers. I realized that when people offer to help , let them because they will receive a blessing in doing it . God uses His people to help others . I have been keeping up with sweet Jenny since last year and can relate to so much. You all are in my prayers. Stay positive and remember you have an “army of support “behind you. Sending love and blessing from southwest Georgia ❤️
Way to go, Kyle! You are a great person. 😊
You are an amazing Husband and Father. You have been such a good caregiver. I know you feel bad leaving to go back to work but you were lucky to be home as long as you were and to be such a big help. You are such a loving family. I hope things continue to improve for Jenny.
I have learned in the past 3 years of CV that we can truly live on less. How we make things so important and at the same time, we don't recognize that time is passing us by. I am considered middle aged now but in looking back how differently I would have done everything.
Kyle, you,Jenny, and your children are in my prayers.I’ve been through the cancer journey with my siblings.It’s a lot, but you are a shining example of how to make it work.Thanks for sharing your journey.You inspire me to be a better person.🙏
Yes you’re so right Kyle. You can’t be all things to all people. Eventually you will have to ask for help or take a step back to do other things you need to do (whether you like it or not). When I was caring for my husband full time it felt in a way as though I was undoing what had happened to him and when I had him go into care so I could manage everything else I felt like I was abandoning him. I had to “leave” him to cope with all the emotions of it all on his own. The trouble is I can’t fix it and him having to face it in his own, in his own style is an inevitability. All that scrambling I did to avoid that just made me sicker myself (I have been both cared for and carer). You know what you have to do Kyle. It’s horrible and you’ll never fully get over it, but some days will be better than others and you will always have the love and support of your family and community and us here to vent to anytime. Big love and respect Kyle. Hang in there man 🥹
Thank you so much for your kindness
@@kyleapple9702 oh Kyle it’s my pleasure. I wish there was more I could do. I feel your pain. I really do.
You are an amazing man and caregiver! I adore you , Jenny and your gorgeous children! God bless you all!
I think you and your family are wonderful. Jenny was so caring even when she was struggling ñear the end you are an amazing husband and father ill keep praying for you all including jenny who I believe will now be an angel helping other cross over she indeed was special Kyle you are amazing god bless you Ellis and winnie❤😢❤❤
Oh Kyle, you are doing a great job, don’t be so hard on yourself. Being a caregiver is a very hard job. You can only do so much. Your kids are adorable and they will adjust to changes that have to be made. I saw Jenny’s video today and she looks fabulous! Take one step at a time, take a big breath and keep swimming. You got this!
On hard days please remember you have a beautiful home with 2 healthy children. You have a steady income and lots of family and friends that love you. You also have a beautiful wife that does have some challenges in her life right now, BUT each day will get easier and when you guys are 60 years old you will look back at this and realize how strong you guys were and that you both are doing well and happy. Take it one day at a time and baby steps will see you through. Life is a journey and some journeys are harder than others. You guys will overcome this and all will be great again. Hold the faith. Hugs from Canada xoxo
Your a wonderful man and a great father your gonna do fine
You are an amazing person Kyle. Don't think for a minute that you have done anything wrong. It's hard to go through something like that. My sister had Hodkins Lymphoma and she had radiation but it was very difficult going through that. She's been in remission for 13 years so there is hope. You are doing a wonderful job as a father and husband, stay positive you've got this!
I was a caregiver for my husband..I know that mixed feeling because I had to eventually go back to work. Tommy was only 56 when he had his stroke. My eldest daughter and her husband moved in for eight months and then, as he gradually got sicker he had to move to a healthcare facility, and I was so grateful that it was a good one and I could see him on the way to work and on the way home from work, and weekends, but I still had so much guilt. He passed away in 2014 as I look back I was so grateful that I could be there for him. Even when I went back to work, I was there for him, I have no regrets regarding my caring for him. You don’t always have to physically be there for somebody but emotionally you can be, your doing great. Have a blessed day.
Your chat today opened my eyes allowing me to understand this dark feeling I've been living with since the loss of my precious husband to cancer. I never felt I was his caregiver but more like I was his love giver. I wouldn't and didn't want to leave his side throughout our long journey. When you talked about going back to work and feeling like you abandoned Jenny, the children and your home, I realized that although I didn't have work to return to I had worse. My husband passed much sooner and unexpectedly and in one moment I was of no use to my love or anyone. It's ten years and I still don't know that I'm of any use. I pray for you and Jenny and your precious kiddos and hope that a well deserved miracle will come your way. We never gave up. Blessings from London, Ontario.
Kyle, you are an amazing father, husband, and your amazing. Your doing a fantastic job 👍 your a wonderful man who deserves the very best life has to offer. My continued prayers 🙏❤️ for YOU and your family.
Kyle, you are an amazing husband, Dad and caregiver! Glad you are able to get back to teaching again. Your co-workers who have supported you are angels! God bless you and Jenny🙏❤️
It's beautiful that your fellow educaters donated their vacation days. I have a feeling that you are a valued member of your school. Please take care of yourself too. 💙💙💙
I’m grateful you have help. Definitely use it. People want to help. You are a terrific husband and dad. You are doing great.
Kyle I am so glad u went back to work. Sometimes people can do more than they think they can. My husband and I were both diagnosed with cancer at the same time (in our 60’s) and also I was full time caregiver for my 90 year old mom. Chemo/ radiation/surgery definitely takes it’s toll on you but eventually everything becomes the “new normal “ and Jenny hopefully will see she is stronger than what she thinks she is. It’s good to try to get back to a normal routine for everyone. You do so so much but sometimes u have realize that cancer or any illness is sometimes harder on the caregiver than the patient. Even my doctors told me that. Keep up the great work. So happy for u.
Be proud that you have accomplished so much. I was a care giver for many years now I need help in my life. Thank God he has made a way for me. You and Jenny are so courageous in this fight, and the great care you give your children. Love your family.
God bless you you’re wife and babies I pray every day for you guys I lost my kids dad last month with cancer it was horrible I love you guys
You, young man, are without a doubt AMAZING! I know your Mom must be so very proud of you. Job well done!
You are an amazing dad and husband!
Hang in there Kyle! Prayers and healing thoughts being sent to you and Jenny
You have no need to feel guilty! Little steps Kyle, major adjustments! You are absolutely right take the help, they are glad to be there and feel like they are part of the process! Take care!😊🇨🇦
I love your family so much. Thank you for your vulnerability and sharing your true thoughts and feelings. I don’t have any helpful advice, but just wanted to tell you that you’re doing an exceptional job. You’re one of a kind and the best example of a man and husband that I’ve seen. Your beautiful family is as lucky to have you, as you are to have them. ❤
Hi Kyle and family. So glad you made this channel as well. I am going through breast cancer treatments myself and I know my husband often feels as you have described. We already watch your wife's channel (she is so amazing and so brave!!) so I'm trying to get him to watch yours as well. Wishing you and your family Godspeed in recovery.
Kyle, thank you for sharing your ❤ about how this is for you as a caregiver. I am grateful that you are getting support from your therapist and others in your life. What I am learning from you and Jenny is how important it is to be vulnerable and open to receiving help from others. I am also an educator. I know that being a teacher is also emotionally and physically draining. Be sure to take support from your colleagues when needed as well. I know they will be there for you. Hugs to you, Jenny and your children.
Kyle, I adore the love that you have for your family and the love that you have for your students and co-workers. In my humble opinion, you are still being a caregiver, just in a slightly different role. A family needs income. And when not making that income you are back in your previous caregiver role. What more could you ask of yourself. In essence, you are still the 24-7 caregiver. And in an emergency, should one arise, you’ll be right by Jenny’s side. Have faith in yourself as you are a great caregiver, husband, father and teacher.
It's like that song reach out and touch somebody's hand make this world a better place if you can♥️♥️
Kyle, being a caregiver is one of the hardest jobs one can do. You are doing a great job. Try not to be hard on yourself. Every one of us caregivers go through the same feeling. It is exhausting. Continued prayers for your family.
aww Kyle you could never fail your family, you are the Best husband and father I've ever seen. please don't be so hard on yourself I can't even imagine how hard it is but you are an absolute God sent Angel for your family. please don't forget to take care of yourself Praying for you guys always Love you guys❤
Kyle you are such a good man….you are helping Jenny while you are away…you are helping her regain her independence….yes she needs help sometimes when she’s not feeling good but you guys have a great support team…. It takes a village to raise kids these days!!
Also by going back to work you are helping financially to.. I’m sure it was hard but you are not abandoning your family you’re helping them grow…. Love ❤️ to all….🤗❤️👍🙏🙏
Thank you for being a wonderful husband and father 💗
You got this! It is good to share all of your feelings…it will help all of you!
You're doing the best you can under difficult circumstances. That's all anyone can do. You're a great dad and husband. Try to be gentle with yourself and remember Jenny has support from her family. Sending hugs to you and your family. 💗