Courtney I love your channel and I know you're just trying to run a business and make $$$, but recommending drugs as a solution for ED is just really bad. How about stop watching porn, which is the major cause of ED in Men, and also clean up your diet and blood pressure which is the other cause. Now the drug companies win and that actual cause of ED never gets resolved :(
@@CamJMitchell that might be the case for some (most even) but every man is different. For some it can be psychological. And no amount of therapy or exercise helps. All Courtney has done is highlight the product is available. It’s down the individual to follow through on purchase or not surely?
playing games 2:00 negative/victim mindset 2:50 words/actions do not match 3:44 its complicated from the start 5:13 extreme insecurity and jealousy 6:13 treat others poorly 7:52 entitled behaviour/ princess mentality 8:25 no drive, passion, or goals 9:31
Every relationship I’ve had has been full of red flags. I’m only just now taking accountability for my decisions to ignore these red flags, consistently. Being single gives me the space to explore that.
Good for you for realizing that. What you allow is what will continue 🚩 being single is a great time to really reflect on past relationships / why they didn’t work out and what you want in the future. Wishing you the very best!
The 5th one is so true. I dated a girl who was really insecure. She was insecure about the female friends I had even though even though it was platonic. She was insecure about the way she looked. It starts off small, but it becomes a bigger problem later on.
I had one of these before: - Tons of broken relationships, particularly with males (exes, and others) - They're all villains, who betrayed her, manipulated her, etc. - When you ask for more details, the narrative doesn't seem to hold up--mostly sounds like she had a disagreement/difference of opinion with the person - "But you're different, you're not like that at all!" Just run. On the first conflict, it will implode and she will trash you to everyone, and it will be messy and embarrassing.
I like that you didn't waste our time giving us good info. Also big congratulations on the sponsorship Courtney! 😄🙌🏽💖 I think a red flag is anything or any person that makes you anxious, unsafe, or like you can't be yourself or vulnerable around them. I definitely can't stand the negative mindset and someone who leaves me hanging in a conversation. So guys definitely don't be afraid to walk away and stand up for yourself when something isn't right. A woman will respect you more for that. Have a lovely weekend Courtney
Good stuff - GEORGIO! Lol And speaking of good stuff, Great tips - by Courtney! “Playing games”… if you feel someone is not taking things seriously with you, that’s a good sign that you should move on! This is why you got to have standards, expectations, and boundaries - basically, things you’ll tolerate from a woman, and things, you’ll not! Until you figure that out, this is always going to happen! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
@@carlosverde-datingtips7001 haha right! I appreciate you taking time to share your thoughts and tips. Having a blueprint with boundaries in place definitely helps protect a man 😊✌🏽
I had a girlfriend who used to constantly check my phone, asked me not to talk to my sisters, constantly criticize me, didn’t respect my time and used to manipulate me with physical stuff. I dumped her in less than a month.,Guys listen to Courtney, run for the hills if even one of these red flags is there. Such women will suck the life outta ya.
Right now during this modern life of dating, it's really hard to meet a girl who doesn't have all these red flags.. Even a minimum of 1-2 reg flags maybe an exception, but it doesn't change the fact the modern dating right now is a NIGHTMARE!
Great tips - Courtney! That’s a good one - “playing games” - if you feel someone is not taking things seriously with you, that’s a good sign that you should move on! This is why you got to have standards, expectations, and boundaries - basically, things you’ll tolerate from a woman, and things, you’ll not! Until you figure that out, this is always going to happen! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
#3 Just happened to me. On Tuesday I asked if a girl over a phone call if she wanted to meet up on for a third date, and she said “ I will let you know tomorrow”. It’s Friday, and I still haven’t heard back from her. To me, this shows she doesn’t respect my time enough to let me know, which ultimately means she’s not very interested in me anymore.
@@chriswhynder8311 It was only two dates. They went well, had sex on both of them. She’s going though a lot and I didn’t really see anything very successful happening in the long term anyway.
So from Courtney’s point of view, don’t hang around people who have insecurities/no values, who are rude, the prince/princess mentality of being put on a pedestal, and don’t focus on what’s on the outside, but focus on the inside of getting to know someone? Yes, ma’am. I’ve got it. Thanks, Ms. Courtney.
Excellent presentation, your statement “the person in your life should bring peace, not chaos” is so good. Guys will put up with a lot of stupid stuff because they want affection. Big mistake
I am so happy that i found your channel. I havent seen anybody like you speaking about these things in such a genuiene way and with the goal of really helping us guys in mind. Thank you Courtney.
I'm a victim of my ex gf who has a victim mindset . She also did something that I told her not to do it . She's also have that "princess mentality" , she's immature even she's 8 years older than me . It's so foolish to think why did I loved that girl before ? 🤦🏼
No sir. Emotions are tricky. Controlling our emotions and understanding them makes us men. You have the chance to become better and better will find you, now that you're single
I love the advice you give. It’s so genuine and you cut straight through the BS and you discuss why X,Y, and Z is bad and what not. I can say with confidence that you have helped me in my relationship. The big sister I never met, thank you.
Oh my as I think back of all my past ladies, I see so clearly what you say Ms. Courtney about all these red flags, at the time I knew & felt it in my heart that there is something not quite right & after all the experiences and drama and with everything you have explained here I see so clearly now & the last two ladies I started to see more clearly the red flags and I did run and now with this , I will definitely be on guard from now on.... Thank you Ms. Courtney... Great job as always!!! ✌
Usually, when I find myself asking "What do you bring to the table?" that's because I've made an attempt to connect, and absolutely nothing connects. I understand that it can be a very provocative thing to say, but if you have made absolutely zero chances to connect, and if you think she doesn't want anything in life, then of course that's an issue. But when her total attitude is "everything acts on me", then I see that as a red flag and steer clear of that kind of person.
Prior girlfriend of mine was a total Disney princess, super lazy. I want to say we had great chemistry but with how little she did for me, or even for herself, I felt used. The day I decided to break it off with her after I had returned from a solo trip to the UK with a bunch of gifts for her, maybe $200 worth, nothing crazy but trinkets add up. So I give her the gift, she then tosses the, on her couch and managed a "thank you". I then realized that was the first thank you she ever gave me despite all the times I'd take her out and such. She then wanted to "get even with me" by ordering take out Chinese for us. No joke. I replied with a "No, I've been eating out for a month, let's just make something here". She also never cooked, not even for herself. She replied with a "You don't do something for someone to get something in return". No joke, like she rehearsed it. That experience screwed with my head so bad, I was wondering for a while if I was the a--hole, still do sometimes.
you werent lol. If a woman truly loves you, she's very grateful and acts like it, trust me. A lot of dudes have never been with a girl who's head over heels for them, there's a huge difference in behavior
I was talking to this girl for a really long time and I thought we really had chemistry but her words and actions did not match. She kept saying she wanted to hang out with me but never would. I held on to the idea of a relationship happening sometime down the road, because I was convinced it was because of fear of abandonment that she didn't hang out with me (she suffers from borderline personality disorder) and she told me she was scared to progress the relationship. So I kept asking, and she kept saying she wanted to, but again her words didn't match her actions. Then she ghosted me so I sent her a message saying I wish she could've told me that she lost interest or smthn instead of ghosting me. She apologized for the way she treated me, and when I asked her if she ever liked me, she said she did at the start, but slowly began to lose interest because "she's not the type of person to make plans". Anyway now I'm starting to think that she never liked me at all and just craved the attention and validation. It's been nearly two months since we "broke up" and I still can't get over it. I'm stuck in this mental loop where I tell myself that she was genuine and that it was her mental problems and fear of abandonment that stopped her from progressing the relationship, but then I go the opposite way and think she was just using me the whole time and never cared. Thanks to whoever read this rant, I've learned "words don't match their actions" the hard way
All of these are true. One thing needs to be mentioned is if all of these apply to you, it could lead to domestic violence. I ignored all of these ten years ago and it happened to me. Stand your ground and stick to your standards. I let go once and I paid for it. It's been peaceful for me ever since.
100% on the hobby issue. There is absolutely no reason a person should bury themselves in hobbies if it is just for appearances. You should enjoy a hobby, not do it because someone else said you should be involved in it. Also, too many hobbies will leave you with no time for anyone else.
She’s nice, pretty, builds me up, laughs at everything I say, touches me all the time, makes eye contact. It’s January and she talked about dressing up for Halloween together in October in college and she even drew a little bear holding a heart with a question mark….but I have to text first to start a conversation so I don’t know what to do😕
“A red carpet is unrolled at my feet leading directly to my desired destination but I don’t know how I should walk on it” is basically what I read here
If its a one sided effort always.. She isn't into you man..She just wants to access your resources, like hang out to pubs, restaurants, trips and expect you to pay for everything..She's using u in the name of friendship.
I liked this girl once, and it went really bad. I definitely ignored the red flags, and this video helped me see just how many. She used me to move out of her grandparents, and get close to our boss. We never dated, but she strung me a long like it was a possibility. She turned out to be a sociopath. She did the hot/cold thing, she was aloof, but flirty with me when she was drunk. We lived together for 9 months, and during that time I got a bad concussion. She started gaslighting me, like talking smack about me loud enough for me to hear, then denying it and audibly laughing when I walked away. I got her to admit that she was messing with my head for fun, and that she was bored with it, and now I was just annoying, and that I should kill myself because no one would want a piece of garbage like me. I got saved, and God helped me move past a lot of it, but even though I want to get married someday, Im still a bit messed up and dont know how to handle relationships. :/ dont fall for it like i did.
When I was ready to have a family and children (education, financial, etc) my purpose was to find a wife to start my family. So I met women that knew that was what I was looking for in a woman. So what they brought to the table for me was she would be the heart of the family. So did she have those qualities.
Great advice throughout the video Courtney! I recently experienced your third example of which their actions don't match their words. I was trying to set a date with a girl whom I had been talking/hanging out with for about 3 months up to that point, and she enthusiastically said she'll for sure let me know. A week goes by and I get a gray arrow from her on Snapchat, along with a blocked number. Good times I tell ya.
Classic case of a girl who is Emotional Unstable! These types my friend you have to literally avoid like the plague. But also in doing so ask yourself where am I meeting these girls
One piece of advice I'd like to give out to guys out there. If you're planning to ask a girl out and she doesn't seem all that interested when you just say "Hi, how's it going?" just have an abundance mindset and be like, 'Forget it, whatever.' Don't try to make a conversation with someone who doesn't appear to be all that interested in you. Don't waste your time. That time could be spent talking to another girl who DOES have a higher level of interest in you OR it could be spent on you trying to improve yourself. DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME WITH SOMEONE WHO ISN'T INTERESTED IN YOU!!!
This comment also implies that there is possibly another girl that is interested in you... why do you think guys go for girls that seem to not be interested? Because most guys don't have even one girl that is into them...
@@ImBrockatron it’s better to save time and more importantly money than try to get a girl who isn’t already into you to like you. Yes this means it may be a long time before you go on a date but as a man, you should be focusing on improving yourself in the meantime so you are ready for that day.
This is true, but there is a grey zone when she shows interest but not as much as you. I'm talking to a woman, she is 49, no kids, unmarried (red flag?). I'm 52, widow. We have many things in common. We talked on-line about 2 weeks, every day. We started making plans to travel together (before we meet face to face). On our first date I made the move and kissed her, She accepted but then started being unconfortable and the things got a little weird. In our conversation later she said that we should take it slow and let the things happens naturally. Then I got confused, we are not kids anymore.. Her interest level is not as big as before the dating, Now I started the conversation about 60% of the time. Sometimes I think she is playing games, sometimes not. Is this a red flag? I'm not used to dating afer my wife died and now I'm frusrated cause it seems her interest level diminished. Maybe I could give one more try..
The red flag about words and actions resonates so much because if you get in the habit of lying to yourself on the small habits, trying to grow is 10x harder. Nonetheless it’s never too late to change for the better but keep in mind that it will be tough but so well worth it
Beautiful, thank you. I mean the content :). So much reflection on past red flags while watching. Some I caught early which saved me, some I missed and got hurt later. Thanks.
I like Courtney cause she is straight forward and really is trying to help us guys be a better man. I appreciate you Courtney and I hope im lucky enough to find a woman like you.
4:22 i had that before, where i asked a girl out and she keeps ignoring the question. or says something but never acts upon it. I started to feel catfished. Since most of time, she never posts on her social media, whenever she does post always of her best friend. I just leave her be kindest way possible. we are not going anywhere if actions doesn't speak louder than words. then maybe i would act further on it
Thank you Courtney I didn't see it before you're right about the entitled/priincess behaviour. I was blind sided by my love and attraction for the person and didn't see the entitlement that they said they "deserved." I don't place all blame on her though, because I did lack vulnerability and opening up to her, and maybe it was a way of her telling me I needed to be more open about my love for her.
10 things to quit for all Strong Men: 1. Caring about what others think 2. Not believing in yourself 3. Not experimenting different ideas / solutions for problems (life&business) 4. Not prioritizing your health 5. Wasting your precious time 6. Wanting something (instead write a plan and work towards it) 7. Chasing meaningless relationships 8. Wasting or draining your energy from beating your meat 🥩 9. Wasting time by scrolling social media 10. Nailbiting/nailpicking habit for good (if you do it - consider stopping it as it makes you mentally weak + affects your confidence and all other areas of your life!) Take it easy and I hope you found one thing helpful in this list..............
This is super helpful. I think the amount of exposure I’ve had a lot of this is why I generally have a negative view of girls. At least I’m aware of this lol.
my ex had most of these but the biggest was that she was always negative. She got her dream job, but she still was unhappy about it, and she blamed all others for why the job is bad, and it affected me also. And she also critiqued me all the time of what I said or did not say or what I did or not. Pretty much all the flags mentioned here were present in the relationship but I did not just want to see them and even blamed myself of not being good enough
There was one of the red flags I "put the blinders on", married them, and wished I had heard this. The chaos is a BIG red flag. Never being wrong is a HUGE red flag. Insecurity becomes hate/yelling. A little is healthy, that I can agree with. I'll be weary forever though...
I find too many red flags with the women that are available. It's so frustrating, I can attract women, but all the ones I found in all the years on the dating market were not attractive (feminine, smart, kind etc). No idea what is left to do. I can't see how it should be possible to find a partner. Completely disillusioned.
Hey Courtney hope you're having a good day!! Quick question how long were you and Teddy going out/dating before you were officially in a relationship? I've gotten back into the scene and dont know what's either too fast or too slow so far I'm going on 3/4 weeks with this girl and have a 3rd date planned for this weekend. Thank you so much and have a fantastic day!!
We dated for probably 3 months or so before it was “official” ☺️ but we weren’t seeing anyone else after our first date lol just feel it out, it’s different for everyone!
@@CourtneyRyan okay sounds good! Thank you!! Atleast from my understanding we're not seeing anyone else (I know I'm not) and everything is going really smoothly and its honestly really easy to be with the girl. It blew my mind because I was so accustomed to unhealthy relationships and I can safely say never again will I ever put myself or stay in an unhealthy situation/relationship. Thanks for your videos!
@@Wevaah Do not think too much. Whatever feels good to you, do it. Trust your feelings! It does not matter when you are "officially" a couple. Your feelings both of you have are much more important. Greetings from Germany, have a good one!
Glad to find a dating advice channel with a woman’s perspective, there’s WAY too many scumbags throwing out schemes and sexist dogma on impressionable young men. Wishing your channel lots of success 👍
If you don’t meet her criteria for a high value man, then you’ll always have to deal with her playing games, deceiving you, or using you as an emotional punching bag. The only way to avoid this is to be her best option. If you’re not, good luck picking up the pieces of your heart. 👍
One red flag is her screaming at someone else on the phone for no reason when she thinks you're not beside them with the phone on speaker... getting mad after I'm doing the thing she said to do and then gets mad I'm doing it... and compulsive lying. Thats one non physical thing that is a huge turn off and deal breaker for me.
Keep the reinforcement going mate, keep drumming it into our heads, lots of people are screwed up with all the conflicting social media stuff out there.
The whole what do you bring to the table question is how I have ran off a few women who tried to come between me and my wife over the years. I literally ask them why should I leave my wife for you and I will be telling my wife about this conversation so enjoy dealing with her. Needless to say I am still happily married for 25 yrs now.
Dear Courtney Ryan.... I typically leave long and weird comments.... I will be short this time teaching myself how to write comments on your channel.... I thoroughly enjoy all of the comments you make!... Two Big Thumbs-Up!.... the end.... Always in Good Taste.... CHEERS!.... Courtney is so cool!
I've always been single in my life. Yes most of it because of being rejected. But when I look back I'm glad, because those crushes were not the right for me. They had issues. however other times is because I'm afraid that I might end up with someone toxic. Just curious how long would it take to spot these issues?
The question "what do you bring to the table" is not a question any normal man asks a woman. You are correct in that if you actually don't see what she brings to the table, you shouldn't be dating her in the first place. The only time a man ever actually asks this question, is when the woman has revealed herself to be very spoiled, entitled, and demanding, and is essentially an aggressive question to put her in her place. If i ever ask a woman this question, i have already decided to quit dating her.
Courtney, what are your definitions of "bringing something to the table" I can think of the financial aspect as well as responsibility, like house chores. Is there something else?
red flags to never ignore 1. games 2. victim mindset 3. words don't match acts 4. complicated from start 5. excessive insecuirty and jealousy ( may lead to narcicism) 6. treats others bad 7. entitled 8. no drive & goals
I would add low sex drive to the list. Not necessarily the most important element in a relationship but sure to become a major irritant if you have substantially different drives. Even one partner having an average drive and the other one below average will cause friction eventually. It rarely gets better fellas so be aware that whatever you settle for in the beginning of the relationship is probably the best it's ever going to be.
Everyone I meet is either playing games or not matching their words with actions. I haven’t gotten past the talking phase. I can read people pretty easy, it’s kinda embarrassing for this world how many times a girl has told me yeah we can hang out but then blocks me after I was nothing but respectful and calm. I’ve had a girl block and unblock over and over and I just decided to cut that off, it was messing with my heart too much. There’s gotta be at least 1 in the 7 BILLION people on this earth that’s genuine and single.
It's crazy anymore and I thank God I'm married. She just described 99% of girls under 25 😆 The few she didn't are already with someone. Long story but I'm almost 42 and my wife will be 28 next month. I was married before but lost her to a pos drunk driver who's cop husband swept her drunk driving under the rug until she killed someone. Anyway I met my current wife about a year after my wife passed away. But I kept it friendly for the longest time. I assumed she was doing the same and there's no way she was actually interested in me. I mean I was a good bit older and a single father and didn't want any drama. Plus she's easily a 10 and while I'm no stranger to punching a class or so higher,she's in a different league. But one day she finally asked why I always shut her down and I told her I didn't have time for games etc. I still kept things friendly at first. But we enjoyed being together and one thing led to another. We've been together almost 8 years married for a little over 5 years now. But the first 6 months or so was more or less just friends and now we have a beautiful daughter together along with our son(my previous marriage). There's exceptions out there but everyone I know usually finds them when they're not looking and just enjoying their lives.
@@WeaponX7. were 13.5 years different,so not quite 20 and the difference in age is exactly why I kept my distance. I also realize that some people have kids younger but not in middle school. I also always said I'd never date anyone more than 10 years younger and honestly tried sticking to it. But the more we just tried being friends and hang out the closer we got. Oddly enough most of our friends that are still married are right around a 8 to 11 year difference in age too. So while a little more than most we're not the only ones. Only one of her friends married someone around their age and they're already divorced and I only know one person close to me that is still married and it's a friend's younger sister that hooked up with a friend of ours and he's almost 7 years older. They weren't exactly upfront about things either.
I usually being hyper rational to the point people called me nihilistic, but I fell for a girl that is full of all these red flags, even though I know far too well that love is just some chemical reaction based on hormones, and I don’t really like anything her(or rather she has anything that is logically lovable), but I don’t know why I still can’t help fell in love with her, what the hell is wrong with me?
Maybe you realised that people are not perfect..there is a fine line between a red flag and just a bad habit, if she is love bombing you have to be careful and move strategically,pick apart everything word that she says to you and find out whether its genuine or not..but even then its complicated.
@@programmingpersistence5716 yeah just got evidence shes not genuine, even to the point of evil, my feelings are actually understandable, its basically childhood trauma by the mistreatment of the guardian that raised you, you see its all about seeking relatable toxic relationship you once had as the sense of familiarity, its about self worthiness, people mistreated at younth likely seek that toxic relationship because the feeling of self unworthiness
It's official: That background song is DEFINITELY your "theme song"!😄😄 I don't think I can hear that song and not think of Courtney and her channel 😁😄👍
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@David Bancroft Jesus Christ
@David Bancroft That's why the Romans killed him. He was just too alpha hard
does "going no contact" part of playing games as a red flag????
Courtney I love your channel and I know you're just trying to run a business and make $$$, but recommending drugs as a solution for ED is just really bad. How about stop watching porn, which is the major cause of ED in Men, and also clean up your diet and blood pressure which is the other cause. Now the drug companies win and that actual cause of ED never gets resolved :(
@@CamJMitchell that might be the case for some (most even) but every man is different. For some it can be psychological. And no amount of therapy or exercise helps. All Courtney has done is highlight the product is available. It’s down the individual to follow through on purchase or not surely?
playing games 2:00
negative/victim mindset 2:50
words/actions do not match 3:44
its complicated from the start 5:13
extreme insecurity and jealousy 6:13
treat others poorly 7:52
entitled behaviour/ princess mentality 8:25
no drive, passion, or goals 9:31
thx
Thanks!
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important to know that 'from the start' can be up to or even over 2 years into a committed relationship
Every relationship I’ve had has been full of red flags. I’m only just now taking accountability for my decisions to ignore these red flags, consistently. Being single gives me the space to explore that.
Good for you for realizing that. What you allow is what will continue 🚩 being single is a great time to really reflect on past relationships / why they didn’t work out and what you want in the future. Wishing you the very best!
@@sbloc2 I wish I could take your advice and just become gay, but it doesn’t work that way unfortunately 🤷🏽 thank you either way.
Sorry, bro id image that would come with the dj territory.
@@sbloc2 I have no idea what you’re referring to. I never even used the word ‘date.’ Have a great weekend!
@@YouilAushana the red flags? There’s probably something to that 🤷🏽
The 5th one is so true. I dated a girl who was really insecure. She was insecure about the female friends I had even though even though it was platonic. She was insecure about the way she looked. It starts off small, but it becomes a bigger problem later on.
I had one of these before:
- Tons of broken relationships, particularly with males (exes, and others)
- They're all villains, who betrayed her, manipulated her, etc.
- When you ask for more details, the narrative doesn't seem to hold up--mostly sounds like she had a disagreement/difference of opinion with the person
- "But you're different, you're not like that at all!"
Just run. On the first conflict, it will implode and she will trash you to everyone, and it will be messy and embarrassing.
I like that you didn't waste our time giving us good info. Also big congratulations on the sponsorship Courtney! 😄🙌🏽💖 I think a red flag is anything or any person that makes you anxious, unsafe, or like you can't be yourself or vulnerable around them. I definitely can't stand the negative mindset and someone who leaves me hanging in a conversation. So guys definitely don't be afraid to walk away and stand up for yourself when something isn't right. A woman will respect you more for that. Have a lovely weekend Courtney
Thank you Georgio! Great comment as always. Have a wonderful weekend! ❤️
@@CourtneyRyan Have you heard about Andrew Tate
Good stuff - GEORGIO! Lol
And speaking of good stuff, Great tips - by Courtney!
“Playing games”… if you feel someone is not taking things seriously with you, that’s a good sign that you should move on!
This is why you got to have standards, expectations, and boundaries - basically, things you’ll tolerate from a woman, and things, you’ll not!
Until you figure that out, this is always going to happen!
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
-Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
@@carlosverde-datingtips7001 haha right! I appreciate you taking time to share your thoughts and tips. Having a blueprint with boundaries in place definitely helps protect a man 😊✌🏽
@@GEORGIOARCADE No problem - bro! I appreciate you.
I had a girlfriend who used to constantly check my phone, asked me not to talk to my sisters, constantly criticize me, didn’t respect my time and used to manipulate me with physical stuff. I dumped her in less than a month.,Guys listen to Courtney, run for the hills if even one of these red flags is there. Such women will suck the life outta ya.
Right now during this modern life of dating, it's really hard to meet a girl who doesn't have all these red flags.. Even a minimum of 1-2 reg flags maybe an exception, but it doesn't change the fact the modern dating right now is a NIGHTMARE!
A man with integrity is put his values his needs his happiness above everything. A man with INTEGRITY does not chase pleasure he chases his dreams
She’s basically saying to avoid modern feminist. Thanks Courtney!
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Ladies>lacking self-respect and accountability
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Great tips - Courtney! That’s a good one - “playing games” - if you feel someone is not taking things seriously with you, that’s a good sign that you should move on!
This is why you got to have standards, expectations, and boundaries - basically, things you’ll tolerate from a woman, and things, you’ll not!
Until you figure that out, this is always going to happen!
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
-Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
#3 Just happened to me. On Tuesday I asked if a girl over a phone call if she wanted to meet up on for a third date, and she said “ I will let you know tomorrow”. It’s Friday, and I still haven’t heard back from her. To me, this shows she doesn’t respect my time enough to let me know, which ultimately means she’s not very interested in me anymore.
how did the 3 dates go? kinda strange she would keep going out then play games
@@chriswhynder8311 It was only two dates. They went well, had sex on both of them. She’s going though a lot and I didn’t really see anything very successful happening in the long term anyway.
So from Courtney’s point of view, don’t hang around people who have insecurities/no values, who are rude, the prince/princess mentality of being put on a pedestal, and don’t focus on what’s on the outside, but focus on the inside of getting to know someone? Yes, ma’am. I’ve got it. Thanks, Ms. Courtney.
Unfortunately, she's describing 80% of the population
Excellent presentation, your statement “the person in your life should bring peace, not chaos” is so good. Guys will put up with a lot of stupid stuff because they want affection. Big mistake
I am so happy that i found your channel. I havent seen anybody like you speaking about these things in such a genuiene way and with the goal of really helping us guys in mind. Thank you Courtney.
I'm a victim of my ex gf who has a victim mindset . She also did something that I told her not to do it . She's also have that "princess mentality" , she's immature even she's 8 years older than me . It's so foolish to think why did I loved that girl before ? 🤦🏼
No sir. Emotions are tricky. Controlling our emotions and understanding them makes us men. You have the chance to become better and better will find you, now that you're single
Yes, agreed. No one would ask what the other brings to the table given that they're in a fulfilling, harmonious relationship to start with.
I love the advice you give. It’s so genuine and you cut straight through the BS and you discuss why X,Y, and Z is bad and what not. I can say with confidence that you have helped me in my relationship. The big sister I never met, thank you.
This made me smile, thank you George. So glad you’re here ☺️
Oh my as I think back of all my past ladies, I see so clearly what you say Ms. Courtney about all these red flags, at the time I knew & felt it in my heart that there is something not quite right & after all the experiences and drama and with everything you have explained here I see so clearly now & the last two ladies I started to see more clearly the red flags and I did run and now with this , I will definitely be on guard from now on.... Thank you
Ms. Courtney... Great job as always!!! ✌
Usually, when I find myself asking "What do you bring to the table?" that's because I've made an attempt to connect, and absolutely nothing connects. I understand that it can be a very provocative thing to say, but if you have made absolutely zero chances to connect, and if you think she doesn't want anything in life, then of course that's an issue. But when her total attitude is "everything acts on me", then I see that as a red flag and steer clear of that kind of person.
Prior girlfriend of mine was a total Disney princess, super lazy. I want to say we had great chemistry but with how little she did for me, or even for herself, I felt used. The day I decided to break it off with her after I had returned from a solo trip to the UK with a bunch of gifts for her, maybe $200 worth, nothing crazy but trinkets add up. So I give her the gift, she then tosses the, on her couch and managed a "thank you". I then realized that was the first thank you she ever gave me despite all the times I'd take her out and such. She then wanted to "get even with me" by ordering take out Chinese for us. No joke. I replied with a "No, I've been eating out for a month, let's just make something here". She also never cooked, not even for herself. She replied with a "You don't do something for someone to get something in return". No joke, like she rehearsed it. That experience screwed with my head so bad, I was wondering for a while if I was the a--hole, still do sometimes.
you werent lol. If a woman truly loves you, she's very grateful and acts like it, trust me. A lot of dudes have never been with a girl who's head over heels for them, there's a huge difference in behavior
I was talking to this girl for a really long time and I thought we really had chemistry but her words and actions did not match. She kept saying she wanted to hang out with me but never would. I held on to the idea of a relationship happening sometime down the road, because I was convinced it was because of fear of abandonment that she didn't hang out with me (she suffers from borderline personality disorder) and she told me she was scared to progress the relationship. So I kept asking, and she kept saying she wanted to, but again her words didn't match her actions. Then she ghosted me so I sent her a message saying I wish she could've told me that she lost interest or smthn instead of ghosting me. She apologized for the way she treated me, and when I asked her if she ever liked me, she said she did at the start, but slowly began to lose interest because "she's not the type of person to make plans". Anyway now I'm starting to think that she never liked me at all and just craved the attention and validation. It's been nearly two months since we "broke up" and I still can't get over it. I'm stuck in this mental loop where I tell myself that she was genuine and that it was her mental problems and fear of abandonment that stopped her from progressing the relationship, but then I go the opposite way and think she was just using me the whole time and never cared. Thanks to whoever read this rant, I've learned "words don't match their actions" the hard way
All of these are true. One thing needs to be mentioned is if all of these apply to you, it could lead to domestic violence. I ignored all of these ten years ago and it happened to me. Stand your ground and stick to your standards. I let go once and I paid for it. It's been peaceful for me ever since.
I'm so happy she has sponsors!!! One of the first times I've ever been happy for sponsored segment.
100% on the hobby issue. There is absolutely no reason a person should bury themselves in hobbies if it is just for appearances. You should enjoy a hobby, not do it because someone else said you should be involved in it. Also, too many hobbies will leave you with no time for anyone else.
Congratulations on the engagement, Courtney! Thank you again for the great video!
She’s nice, pretty, builds me up, laughs at everything I say, touches me all the time, makes eye contact. It’s January and she talked about dressing up for Halloween together in October in college and she even drew a little bear holding a heart with a question mark….but I have to text first to start a conversation so I don’t know what to do😕
“A red carpet is unrolled at my feet leading directly to my desired destination but I don’t know how I should walk on it” is basically what I read here
Don't overthink it. Just text her.
@@urineformation she probably doesn't want to appear clingy and is working on herself so I also wouldn't worry about it
If its a one sided effort always.. She isn't into you man..She just wants to access your resources, like hang out to pubs, restaurants, trips and expect you to pay for everything..She's using u in the name of friendship.
Does she atleast bother to wish you Good morning without u wishing her first?? Check that first
These are spot on and excellent advice points. Keep the content coming. Thanks Courtney!
Love seeing your channel grow. Keep it up!
I appreciate your hardworking courtney! You make a difference!
ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS, this is so important.
Bro!! That Roman transition was butter!! Well done, Court! **Chefs Kiss**
Thank you! 😂🥰
I liked this girl once, and it went really bad. I definitely ignored the red flags, and this video helped me see just how many. She used me to move out of her grandparents, and get close to our boss. We never dated, but she strung me a long like it was a possibility. She turned out to be a sociopath. She did the hot/cold thing, she was aloof, but flirty with me when she was drunk. We lived together for 9 months, and during that time I got a bad concussion. She started gaslighting me, like talking smack about me loud enough for me to hear, then denying it and audibly laughing when I walked away. I got her to admit that she was messing with my head for fun, and that she was bored with it, and now I was just annoying, and that I should kill myself because no one would want a piece of garbage like me. I got saved, and God helped me move past a lot of it, but even though I want to get married someday, Im still a bit messed up and dont know how to handle relationships. :/ dont fall for it like i did.
When I was ready to have a family and children (education, financial, etc) my purpose was to find a wife to start my family. So I met women that knew that was what I was looking for in a woman. So what they brought to the table for me was she would be the heart of the family. So did she have those qualities.
Your videos have helped me a lot lately. Thanks so much!
Great advice throughout the video Courtney! I recently experienced your third example of which their actions don't match their words. I was trying to set a date with a girl whom I had been talking/hanging out with for about 3 months up to that point, and she enthusiastically said she'll for sure let me know. A week goes by and I get a gray arrow from her on Snapchat, along with a blocked number.
Good times I tell ya.
Classic case of a girl who is Emotional Unstable! These types my friend you have to literally avoid like the plague. But also in doing so ask yourself where am I meeting these girls
One piece of advice I'd like to give out to guys out there. If you're planning to ask a girl out and she doesn't seem all that interested when you just say "Hi, how's it going?" just have an abundance mindset and be like, 'Forget it, whatever.' Don't try to make a conversation with someone who doesn't appear to be all that interested in you. Don't waste your time. That time could be spent talking to another girl who DOES have a higher level of interest in you OR it could be spent on you trying to improve yourself. DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME WITH SOMEONE WHO ISN'T INTERESTED IN YOU!!!
This comment also implies that there is possibly another girl that is interested in you... why do you think guys go for girls that seem to not be interested? Because most guys don't have even one girl that is into them...
@@ImBrockatron That is unfortunately true a lot of times. But it's better to be alone than be with someone who doesn't want you.
@@ImBrockatron it’s better to save time and more importantly money than try to get a girl who isn’t already into you to like you. Yes this means it may be a long time before you go on a date but as a man, you should be focusing on improving yourself in the meantime so you are ready for that day.
That’s true, I think it’s crucial to develop the skill of knowing when someone doesn’t really f*** with you and when to just walk away and save face
This is true, but there is a grey zone when she shows interest but not as much as you. I'm talking to a woman, she is 49, no kids, unmarried (red flag?). I'm 52, widow. We have many things in common. We talked on-line about 2 weeks, every day. We started making plans to travel together (before we meet face to face). On our first date I made the move and kissed her, She accepted but then started being unconfortable and the things got a little weird. In our conversation later she said that we should take it slow and let the things happens naturally. Then I got confused, we are not kids anymore.. Her interest level is not as big as before the dating, Now I started the conversation about 60% of the time. Sometimes I think she is playing games, sometimes not. Is this a red flag? I'm not used to dating afer my wife died and now I'm frusrated cause it seems her interest level diminished. Maybe I could give one more try..
I think that content like this builds resilience
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The red flag about words and actions resonates so much because if you get in the habit of lying to yourself on the small habits, trying to grow is 10x harder. Nonetheless it’s never too late to change for the better but keep in mind that it will be tough but so well worth it
Beautiful, thank you. I mean the content :). So much reflection on past red flags while watching. Some I caught early which saved me, some I missed and got hurt later. Thanks.
Thanks, this was very clear. My ex is great achieving the red flags, over the 4 years. Keep up the great work Courtney! 🏁
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I like Courtney cause she is straight forward and really is trying to help us guys be a better man. I appreciate you Courtney and I hope im lucky enough to find a woman like you.
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words and actions not matching UP is the ONE! MAJOR RED FLAG!! WALK AWAY FROM THAT BIH AND NEVER TALK TO HER AGAIN!! Great Video CR:)
Thanks for making this video. I appreciate your words.
4:22 i had that before, where i asked a girl out and she keeps ignoring the question. or says something but never acts upon it. I started to feel catfished. Since most of time, she never posts on her social media, whenever she does post always of her best friend. I just leave her be kindest way possible. we are not going anywhere if actions doesn't speak louder than words. then maybe i would act further on it
Thank you Courtney I didn't see it before you're right about the entitled/priincess behaviour. I was blind sided by my love and attraction for the person and didn't see the entitlement that they said they "deserved." I don't place all blame on her though, because I did lack vulnerability and opening up to her, and maybe it was a way of her telling me I needed to be more open about my love for her.
Very good video and very helpful Courtney Ryan thanks so much for always the good advice really appreciate it
Great Bullet Points .... I have seen these "red flags" in my decades of dating. Stay Gold!!
10 things to quit for all Strong Men:
1. Caring about what others think
2. Not believing in yourself
3. Not experimenting different ideas / solutions for problems (life&business)
4. Not prioritizing your health
5. Wasting your precious time
6. Wanting something (instead write a plan and work towards it)
7. Chasing meaningless relationships
8. Wasting or draining your energy from beating your meat 🥩
9. Wasting time by scrolling social media
10. Nailbiting/nailpicking habit for good (if you do it - consider stopping it as it makes you mentally weak + affects your confidence and all other areas of your life!)
Take it easy and I hope you found one thing helpful in this list..............
you post this everywhere lol. agree though. not caring what others think is a superpower.
Agree except #8. Masturbation is scientifically demonstrably good for health, but it should not involve porn.
check out john doyle's video 'how pRonography is destroying you and our country'
This is super helpful. I think the amount of exposure I’ve had a lot of this is why I generally have a negative view of girls. At least I’m aware of this lol.
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🥰❤️ thank you Joseph
Rhetorical questions are a great way to sniff out an individual's integrity. They are also a fun way to compliment people.
Happy Friday Courtney and good reminders on red flags 😊
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my ex had most of these but the biggest was that she was always negative. She got her dream job, but she still was unhappy about it, and she blamed all others for why the job is bad, and it affected me also. And she also critiqued me all the time of what I said or did not say or what I did or not.
Pretty much all the flags mentioned here were present in the relationship but I did not just want to see them and even blamed myself of not being good enough
Great points as always. Love the insight
Great post!! Thank you.
Damn I'm 19 and this woman is giving me valid Infos for finding red flags in girls, I love her videos u are doing a great job Courtney keep going :))
There was one of the red flags I "put the blinders on", married them, and wished I had heard this. The chaos is a BIG red flag. Never being wrong is a HUGE red flag. Insecurity becomes hate/yelling. A little is healthy, that I can agree with. I'll be weary forever though...
Classy Caring Courtney looking out out for us!
I find too many red flags with the women that are available. It's so frustrating, I can attract women, but all the ones I found in all the years on the dating market were not attractive (feminine, smart, kind etc). No idea what is left to do. I can't see how it should be possible to find a partner. Completely disillusioned.
Hey Courtney hope you're having a good day!! Quick question how long were you and Teddy going out/dating before you were officially in a relationship? I've gotten back into the scene and dont know what's either too fast or too slow so far I'm going on 3/4 weeks with this girl and have a 3rd date planned for this weekend. Thank you so much and have a fantastic day!!
We dated for probably 3 months or so before it was “official” ☺️ but we weren’t seeing anyone else after our first date lol just feel it out, it’s different for everyone!
@@CourtneyRyan okay sounds good! Thank you!! Atleast from my understanding we're not seeing anyone else (I know I'm not) and everything is going really smoothly and its honestly really easy to be with the girl. It blew my mind because I was so accustomed to unhealthy relationships and I can safely say never again will I ever put myself or stay in an unhealthy situation/relationship. Thanks for your videos!
@@Wevaah Do not think too much. Whatever feels good to you, do it. Trust your feelings! It does not matter when you are "officially" a couple. Your feelings both of you have are much more important. Greetings from Germany, have a good one!
Glad to find a dating advice channel with a woman’s perspective, there’s WAY too many scumbags throwing out schemes and sexist dogma on impressionable young men. Wishing your channel lots of success 👍
You’re so sweet, thank you! ❤️
Saturday night 29 January 2022. Thanks for what you do, Courtney. Take care and all the best.
If you don’t meet her criteria for a high value man, then you’ll always have to deal with her playing games, deceiving you, or using you as an emotional punching bag.
The only way to avoid this is to be her best option. If you’re not, good luck picking up the pieces of your heart. 👍
thanks dear Courtney it is very useful
One red flag is her screaming at someone else on the phone for no reason when she thinks you're not beside them with the phone on speaker... getting mad after I'm doing the thing she said to do and then gets mad I'm doing it... and compulsive lying. Thats one non physical thing that is a huge turn off and deal breaker for me.
Keep the reinforcement going mate, keep drumming it into our heads, lots of people are screwed up with all the conflicting social media stuff out there.
Scrolling through my notifications on UA-cam I saw something funny: i got two ❤ before YT notified me of your upload 😂🙃
The whole what do you bring to the table question is how I have ran off a few women who tried to come between me and my wife over the years. I literally ask them why should I leave my wife for you and I will be telling my wife about this conversation so enjoy dealing with her. Needless to say I am still happily married for 25 yrs now.
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I've always been single in my life. Yes most of it because of being rejected. But when I look back I'm glad, because those crushes were not the right for me. They had issues. however other times is because I'm afraid that I might end up with someone toxic. Just curious how long would it take to spot these issues?
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The question "what do you bring to the table" is not a question any normal man asks a woman. You are correct in that if you actually don't see what she brings to the table, you shouldn't be dating her in the first place. The only time a man ever actually asks this question, is when the woman has revealed herself to be very spoiled, entitled, and demanding, and is essentially an aggressive question to put her in her place. If i ever ask a woman this question, i have already decided to quit dating her.
Words and actions dont match.
Thats a huge one and was VERY obvious in my last relationship
Hi Courtney, I was wondering if you had any cologne recommendations? I'm in the market for something new.
She did a video on that I think about 2 months ago so I would just go into the search bar and type in her name and cologne
@@LatimusChadimus no idea she had a channel for that too. Thanks!
Yes, check out my fragrance channel! So many great recommendations over there 🥰
@@brandonpeterson2952 any time!
@@CourtneyRyan I'm going to go check it out right now. Love your channel, keep up the great work!
Yup. I wish I would have listened to you.
Courtney, what are your definitions of "bringing something to the table"
I can think of the financial aspect as well as responsibility, like house chores.
Is there something else?
red flags to never ignore
1. games
2. victim mindset
3. words don't match acts
4. complicated from start
5. excessive insecuirty and jealousy ( may lead to narcicism)
6. treats others bad
7. entitled
8. no drive & goals
I would add low sex drive to the list. Not necessarily the most important element in a relationship but sure to become a major irritant if you have substantially different drives. Even one partner having an average drive and the other one below average will cause friction eventually.
It rarely gets better fellas so be aware that whatever you settle for in the beginning of the relationship is probably the best it's ever going to be.
Everyone I meet is either playing games or not matching their words with actions. I haven’t gotten past the talking phase. I can read people pretty easy, it’s kinda embarrassing for this world how many times a girl has told me yeah we can hang out but then blocks me after I was nothing but respectful and calm. I’ve had a girl block and unblock over and over and I just decided to cut that off, it was messing with my heart too much. There’s gotta be at least 1 in the 7 BILLION people on this earth that’s genuine and single.
It's crazy anymore and I thank God I'm married. She just described 99% of girls under 25 😆 The few she didn't are already with someone. Long story but I'm almost 42 and my wife will be 28 next month. I was married before but lost her to a pos drunk driver who's cop husband swept her drunk driving under the rug until she killed someone. Anyway I met my current wife about a year after my wife passed away. But I kept it friendly for the longest time. I assumed she was doing the same and there's no way she was actually interested in me. I mean I was a good bit older and a single father and didn't want any drama. Plus she's easily a 10 and while I'm no stranger to punching a class or so higher,she's in a different league. But one day she finally asked why I always shut her down and I told her I didn't have time for games etc. I still kept things friendly at first. But we enjoyed being together and one thing led to another. We've been together almost 8 years married for a little over 5 years now. But the first 6 months or so was more or less just friends and now we have a beautiful daughter together along with our son(my previous marriage). There's exceptions out there but everyone I know usually finds them when they're not looking and just enjoying their lives.
@@southjerseysound7340 aight, you realize that your current wife could be your daughter. You’re at a 20 year difference.
@@southjerseysound7340 y’all met when she was 20 and you were 36. This doesn’t sound good to me at all. I’d never date a 36 year old woman.
@@WeaponX7. were 13.5 years different,so not quite 20 and the difference in age is exactly why I kept my distance. I also realize that some people have kids younger but not in middle school. I also always said I'd never date anyone more than 10 years younger and honestly tried sticking to it. But the more we just tried being friends and hang out the closer we got. Oddly enough most of our friends that are still married are right around a 8 to 11 year difference in age too. So while a little more than most we're not the only ones. Only one of her friends married someone around their age and they're already divorced and I only know one person close to me that is still married and it's a friend's younger sister that hooked up with a friend of ours and he's almost 7 years older. They weren't exactly upfront about things either.
@@southjerseysound7340 so you’re sayin my first gf could be mid 30s? Nah I’m sorry, 5 years older maximum. I’m 20, I can’t even imagine that.
I usually being hyper rational to the point people called me nihilistic, but I fell for a girl that is full of all these red flags, even though I know far too well that love is just some chemical reaction based on hormones, and I don’t really like anything her(or rather she has anything that is logically lovable), but I don’t know why I still can’t help fell in love with her, what the hell is wrong with me?
Maybe you realised that people are not perfect..there is a fine line between a red flag and just a bad habit, if she is love bombing you have to be careful and move strategically,pick apart everything word that she says to you and find out whether its genuine or not..but even then its complicated.
@@programmingpersistence5716 yeah just got evidence shes not genuine, even to the point of evil, my feelings are actually understandable, its basically childhood trauma by the mistreatment of the guardian that raised you, you see its all about seeking relatable toxic relationship you once had as the sense of familiarity, its about self worthiness, people mistreated at younth likely seek that toxic relationship because the feeling of self unworthiness
@@zero5496 yeah you might be right, that sense of unworthiness and people pleasing can also be a reason why you kept her around
Courtney, you're one in a million.
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Some of these red flags came up in my last relationship. I ignored them to my detriment
She’s explaining word for word the girl I just started dating 😂
Courtney's go-to scare line: run for the hills :)
Thank you girlfriend!
This video really helped me thank you
Courtney definitely need more women in the world like you
Your videos r helpful, thanks
Courtney dear..your late by 30 yrs ur advice for me..full marks for you.
Nice work
It's official: That background song is DEFINITELY your "theme song"!😄😄 I don't think I can hear that song and not think of Courtney and her channel 😁😄👍
I might have to try the sponsor Courtney endorses is like I have a powerful engine but now I'm adding a supercharger so now its too powerful and sometimes painful so maybe just half pill next time.
Excellent video Sister
Thank you will!
Did someone get engaged???
Honestly people just don’t show any actions period.. it’s hard to find a real actual stable relationship.