AUTISM AND OVERSTIMULATION |Purple Ella
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- Autism and overstimulation. What overstimulation feels like to an autistic person and what you can do to avoid and manage it. More below.
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Hi I'm Purple Ella and my family is an autism family with three out of five of us on the autistic spectrum. So life can be a challenge but also a lot of fun.
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I am a line cook and get overstimulated at work all the time because of the rush, heat, loud noises, and shouting drunk people. I have to find another job that doesn't lead to so many meltdowns 😭
One thing that came to mind, is that every time i retreat to be on my own it would be a lot easier and feel better if I do it soon enough so that I don't have to do it for such a long time, and to always make sure I have something to look forward to .
I needed to see this so badly, as a mother and someone who suspects I might have autism. I feel like a terrible mom when I get irritated easy from too much noise/talking/questions etc..
Thats why i question if i really should get kids and pets and a husband when im older.. i dont want to hurt their feelings or ears… ouch
Seems like that could be a female trait as a puzzling number of women come forward saying they get irritated from noise easily. I'm almost certain just a small fraction would actually have autism but then it's quite possible for them to be on the spectrum maybe more women are born on the lower spectrum then people realise. Tho I suspect their levels of hormones and emotions to be causing temporary effects of "autism", I'll have to look into that and possibly even write a medical paper about it, I'm quite interested in this.
My mother also had the same but I wrote it off due to her, let's say, lower then average intelligence.
I have autism. But it's hard to describe it
Fizzy is such a good description of that feeling of everything bubbling up! I hadn't thought about the element of overstimulation and autism. Thanks for linking up with Your UA-cam.
I recognized this in myself very early in life tough I didn't realize what was causing it. It's the main reason I chose not to have children.
I thought I was just an introvert but I think I'm actually autistic.
I'm loving working from home during COVID. I dread having to return to the office.
I like alone time because if I don't get enough of it I'm exhausted, irritated, and unhappy.
If you wish to slow down the checkout person a little, ask them an interesting question about themselves - most people like to talk about themselves. Even simple scanning of items slows down when someone is multi-tasking by answering the question. Alternatively pass through the self-service checkouts. You can then proceed at your own pace. At the NEC, there are a multitude of ladies toilets, which I find handy for a break. I would also suggest buying a heart rate monitor and checking it every half hour. The chances are that your heart will rise, if you are beginning to feel stressed and when you do take a timeout, a decrease in heart rate to your baseline for at least one minute will let you know whether your method is succeeding.
I was like you and a mom for over 27 years, then when my youngest left the house, and i started tp wake up and see what was really going on in my life, i also had to cut most of the people off in my life, especially friends, I could finally see their intentions and they were only using me. Then I got introduced to mindfulness and slowly and slowly started to realize what my path was, what is good for me and what is not, what effects me . I'm mentally healthier, but I still struggle with, when I'm around people even my kids anyone I get distracted no matter how hard I work on this. It's still a problem. But so much more if the people are putting off negative energy, I do block negative thoughts and replace with positive, this helps the most . I finally found you after a year of trying to find someone else who is like me. Because I like you can talk alot, but it's unnecessary. Talk that does run people away. Thanks for the videos.
I have never been diagnosed I just recently even considered Autism. I fir criteria and am alot like you. I think your true self may be an introvert and the oversimplification is keeping you away from your true self. I love people always had alot of friends but it's exhausting trying to keep up. I love alone time. For first time in 40 years.
This is so interesting - and such great descriptions of how overstimulation can actually make you feel. Thank you for sharing. I didn't realise I wasn't subbed to you but have now rectified that! x
Thank you, and always good to have a new subscriber :-)
When meditating (mindfulness) I always notice my muscles being very tense as well. I try to do it every day, but I find it hard to find a time in my day to do it. I think after comming home from my internship is probably the best time right now.
Yesterday a big breakdown due to my paper.
When life gives you a break. Rest in music. A feeling your heart and soul will thank you for every time
Supermarket shopping: AAAAAAAHHHHHHH!
Me too
Yes. Depending on how much you have bought too.
I appreciated your description of the supermarket checkout. One of the most stressful parts of my day, trying to throw all the groceries back into the cart and pay and take the change (and usually keeping an eye on my 4-year-old, too).
Thanks for this video. I'm trying to figure out how to manage this, too. I am an introvert, but I live in 62qm with other people and there is no such thing as enough alone time.
Sometimes overstimulation is enjoyable for me, don't get me wrong it's quite often like how you describe, but sometimes if I'm on a walk and vibing to good music I want to run or dance down the street like a mad woman
When I was young and in the youth group at church I would leave the big group after a while for some alone time, usually at the piano singing. Often some others would come and start having fun with the drums. For me it felt like a violation. It literaly ment I had nowhere to recuperate and I would end up going home feeling like a failure bc I couldn't cope. I wish I had known then what I know now. Today I understand why. So little adjustment would have made things so different. Knowledge is key to include as many as possible in our common lifespace.
I'm glad I found this video. I was diagnosed with ASD pre lockdown and have struggled with the diagnosis somewhat as on occasion I can have excellent communication skills but at other times struggle greatly. I don't feel I *appear* as what in my head an autistic person *appears* we and as a result I have felt reticent to disclose to others, in case they don't believe me. It doesn't help that I don't fully understand what "ASD" actually means. Listening to you, I see that you are an excellent communicator, somewhat similar to how I feel I am and that makes me feel less as a fraud.
thankyou. love the tennis and checkout analogy. i find i can handle the "balls" in a professional context but not a domestic one. we met briefly on friday at autism show - we interupted you at the Limpsfield grange stand to say goodbye to sarah wild. it was a big day for my daughter!
Hi, I remember meeting you and your lovely children, thanks for being so kind about my video.
I am wondering about whether we can automate some social skills, the filtering, the mental coordination. I liked your metaphors of packing bags in checkouts, and the tennis balls! I managed three years PT on checkouts, used to come off and sob from sheer exhaustion: don't know how I managed.
I don't know how to manage the balance. The best I can do at the moment is respect my rhythms. When I feel energy for socialising and organising, I do it. And when I need to rest and do very little, I do that. It's hard to do that when there are things that need to be done. But I'm trying!
Thank you. I'm currently learning how to live with autism. Your video really helped me. Thank you.
This is so helpful! I am just like this!! Currently I have friends coming to visit for a night with 5 kids and I was getting overwhelmed with all of the logistics! I am going to simplify and lower the stress that was building. With your videos I am starting to recognize that when I wake up early with my mind racing …trying to figure out all the details that I am in too deep and I need to pull way back. Thank you Ella. ❤❤❤
If anything in this world makes me stressed and frustrated and overwhelmed and rushed it’s grocery/food shopping. I know exactly what you mean and it’s why I hate shopping at Aldi. Then you’re trying to put your change or card away and they’ve started serving for the next person so now all my stuff is mixed with someone else’s stuff.
Everyone has there own preferred approaches to coping, in my journey into mindfulness, I found zen! That really helped me out, in seeing the world more clearly. But that’s my solution, Others have found different approaches. Now I always have an “escape route” planned out in my head if any issue occur, plus I have found using a singing meditation bowl sounds super calming and grounds me again. Mindfulness I have noticed is becoming increasingly popular in an increasingly overstimulating world.
Still haven't figured out the balance. But useful tip for echoy places like NEC is earplugs. They will dampen the noise so you do not get fizzy as quickly.
I just want to say. After watching these videos, and realizing we're not the only ones going through this. And also realizing. Autism is nothing more than being unique and full of miracles. There is nothing wrong with any of our children. Just some things to pay more attention to. Thank you all so much. We look forward to this journey with you all. Kids truly are the most amazing feeling life has to offer. Good luck my friends. Your all stars just like your kids are. Have a wonderful day. And remember. When life gives you a break. Rest in music. A feeling your heart and soul will thank you for every time
Sometimes even music I like overstimulates me.
@@Catlily5 it can be an overwhelming feeling of wow at times that's for sure.
I think I have a meltdown every time I leave my house and honestly its always just been social anxiety to me. I wish anyone would actually take me seriously when I tell them what im learning and relating with every single thing you say in this video
I explain and express myself in a very similar way to yourself. Metaphors, bright visuals, parallels. Relatable.
hey! i love your content so much! i hope im phrasing this so that i don't seem rude but it might be helpful for me and for other people with auditory processing issues to include captions under the CC in the video
Hi, thank you for that feedback. I'm not sure how to do this?
@@PurpleElla I think UA-cam has feature if one taps on your video or clicks there is options for "CC" users the enable closed captioning. I only use it when I don't have earphones outside. Inside I listen, your are a great speaker. Thank you Purple Ella!😀
Yes me too! My nerves twitch in my eye brows,eye lids,lips,and I'm talking a lot,talking to much about every thought that comes to my mind,I'm still learning how to calm myself,and my Family is learning how to help also,we are trying to help eachother with a lot right now,as long as I have you Purple Ella to help me I'm just fine,I will be fine,thank you.
People in my life or used to be in my life didn’t know what was happening to me I felt like I was overstimulated by feeling everything going on around me and many personal life experiences come toward me, nobody knew I was having a meltdown frequently and like being busy with many jobs responsibilities and volunteering duties had a massive crush, get hurt due to rejection, going to language school, dealing with a being in a first relationship, breakup, new changes, didn't know what was happening, it makes me feel overstimulated by everything in life, it makes me feel like I was having a meltdown get to the point it cause me to behave in a way to accidentally hurt people without knowing it.
This is all me 100 percent!
Im also very challenged by too much noises and other stimulation’s. I have to get out of the situation. You’re not alone in market situations. I try to cope with that quick persons at the counter.
I like people, too, but I had to reduce contact, because it’s overstimulating. I stay only stay together with friends for two to maximal three hours. It’s easier to just watch tv together or listen to an audiobook, so I don’t have to talk too much.Im more alone now. So I’m not in a tennis firefighter machine anymore.
I have M.E. too, and recognise a lot of these feelings, but put them down to an energy (including people) imbalance. It's really make me think, to be honest!
I am unable to cope with go to supermarkets any more due to the artificial lights, noise, and crowds. I am unable to go in shopping centres for the same reason.
I keep sunglasses on and music in my ears. 😎
The supermarket thing is awful. Queues waiting whilst trying to get shopping into bags.
I don't have the balance with being around social situations and wanting to be alone I'm still finding the right balance, it is tricky
To be around people while not being overstimulated: Find people who you can hang out with while doing your own activity. So my boyfriend will watch TV with headphones on while I read a book for example.
Thank you for sharing.
I feel it bubble up too! I'm glad it not just me
Thank you
I've had a sensory overload before in a indoor water park , from too much noise, I knew I was going to have one as the noise levels went alot louder then the actual noise levels. Then when I went to get changed I just cried,
lol yes, I always feel rushed to load my groceries into my cart
I do much better with avoiding overstimulation than I used to. I remember one of the worst overstimulation I had was when I went to Dave and busters (it’s like an adult chuckie cheese). I tried to hold back the “overstimulation” as much as I could by going to the bathroom to take a break which resulted in me crying a ton, then I calmed down and tried to return but I found myself not being able to talk until the person that came with me there realized I wasn’t ok and asked if I wanted to leave and the moment we got out of there I cried for pretty much the rest of the night lol it turned into a major panic attack.
Thank you so much for these. My overstimulation equivalent = "dipped in honey & rolled in ants"
I shop at night I like to be in the night so it doesn't overwhelm me
Me too loud is bad!
1:00 oh thats what i feel when i just feel a little angry? stressed? overstimulated yes lets go with that the problem is its not enough for me to get mad at or scream at so it just sits there fizzling and THAT makes me so… frustrated because i cant let it go
I feel this after coming off of afivan for anxiety. Can anxiety make one feel this? I don’t have autism
Yes it can,Absolutely
I end up putting it in the trolley and then have to pack it outside the shops away from the people and noises
Very good video!
How do I make friends as an autistic person?
I met my friend also with autism, online on a friend "dating" site. Goodluck it's so hard.
Wow, I don't believe it! Your analogy of the tennis ball machine is almost exactly like the one I use, only more detailed. I constantly describe the feeling that I've got all these balls firing out at me left right and center, and while technically I have the means to fend of each one of them (Ie. a bat in my hand) they inevitably come to outnumber me. They were my words, before watching your vid!!
Well, it's great to know others out there experience these things, and articulate them in a similar manner. It definitely takes the edge off the loneliness, if nothing else.
interesting username
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