A mature adult can hold two feelings for a person at the same time. They can feel anger for the actions of a person while also feeling compassion for the humanity of that person. If you can’t value the humanity of even the worst person on earth (and he’s not that), then you might not be able to understand the value of the justice system. There’s a reason the scales of justice are held by a blindfolded lady. It ensures that all humans are afforded equal protection by the law, to be treated with dignity, respect, and fairness - no matter what they have done, and no matter who they are.
@@davidswanson5669 I'm concerned over his attorney crying for the victims. That could actually get him a new trial. These people need to be professional and not muddy the waters like this.
I feel so, so bad for that young man. What a terrible situation to be in, having to flee for your life and leave your sister behind, because there was nothing you could have done. Man.
That did me in for sure, that line. I can't imagine the pain and when I try to think about it I cry for hours. I wish I could send them love in a box. God bless these people.
When you lose a spouse, you’re a widow. When you lose your parents, your an orphan. When you lose a child, you’re nothing because there is no word to describe the loss of a child. It is such an unnatural event that there are no words to describe this tragedy.
You know you messed up when your own lawyer starts crying during the victim impact statement. My heart goes out to all of the victims and their families. May this disgraceful excuse of a human get what it deserves.
I hope the guy gets life in prison and they mix him with the regular population. He’s dressed up like some creepy uncle and he’s gonna get his ass kicked regularity.
If you actually think that this guy just went and started shooting at a school you are Beyond asleep and have been for over 50 years it's our government programming Young guys so they can ultimately take away guns pay attention
It’s because this woman isn’t “just a lawyer.” She’s a compassionate human being who most likely has children of her own. I can only surmise that this case has been and always will be the most difficult on every different level in her career.
@@vickieclark5931 she shouldn't be a lawyer if she can't control her feelings. especially when she is not on the prosecution. I would of sacked her right there.
@@matt-tasticaus9565 they do this as a formality to set precedent for future clients in case someone is falsely accused of a crime. This is because in America you are innocent until proven guilty. No matter how heinous the crime. But also, I hope the kid spends the rest of his life in prison and gets raped a lot and then dies a long slow death.
It is a privilege to hear a man talk so wonderfully about his daughter. His words of love brought me to tears. I can only hope that his family can take comfort in the time that they did share with their child.
I'm not even a father (yet) and he made me feel like one. It was BRAVE/STRONG when he still keep driving the car with his now son and wife that wanted to turn around and just go home, his mind was telling him don't let that POS kid win or over power a broken family. " Don't let him win." To this father and other victims stay strong it feels like this WORLD is falling apart but don't give up. When you give up trust me it's hard to get back on that path again.
Honestly this is probably the most profound statement I’ve ever heard in my life. When he started talking about his sons thoughts and how their relationship is irreparably damaged, seldom words have been more moving to me personally. This is a broken man who is still stronger than probably anyone I know. God bless him.
I remember watching “the ripples of Columbine” where family and friends and teachers spoke about how it impacted them years later. It’s truly ripples in the community, grief and pain going through every layer. I don’t think anybody can understand their pain unless one has been through it themselves. Truly heartbreaking.
The way the brother loved his sister to the point to not forgive his father for this, they were such a loving family I feel so bad that they have to go through this
Have you watched the victim impact statement from Alaina Petty's mom and sister? I think that was the one that hit me the hardest so far. That got me sobbing 😭 Absolutely heartbreaking 💔
It’s sickening how Nick just sits there with no emotion while everyone else is crying. This just goes to show how unsympathetic and a sick person he is. Prayers to the all the victims and families impacted.
@@smstorm9659 You’re right, but a human being should have at least some remorse after doing something like that and clearly this sick mf doesn’t care at all about what he did.
He's obviously wired differently...probably no empathy. Maybe society should have screened him earlier... sometimes genetics creates the monster. You can't blame a great white for killing a seal...and a rare few humans are like this. Scary... definitely.
He already knows and deals with his choices. A smart demon controls his emotions in public to not appear weak while being obviously powerless. We all should realize this dude is never going to see freedom again, if he finds comfort in this reality that’s when the death penalty should come into play.
I was a criminal defense attorney for 25 years. I cried once during sentencing when the family of a deceased child spoke. It was awful. I tried to be strong but I couldn't.
@@wills4185 That is not necessarily the case in most situations for men. Remaining calm and not displaying grief in the face of tragedy shows a great amount of strength which is often needed more for those around you rather than you. As a clinical psychologist, don't get caught up too much into "showing your emotions is a sign of great strength" especially for men because you'd be wrong.
@@MarkelBeverley I think it’s a sign of intelligence to cry when necessary and allow logic as well. I’ve read that greater intelligence is linked to high empathy in the evolution of the recent brain
This guy, Fred Guttenberg deserves so much respect. Even though his family sometimes get upset by his decisions, it's all to take care of them. He is being the Father and making those tough calls, like going on that road trip even when the others wanted to go home. He is the man they need. I wish he wasn't so apologetic because he has nothing to apologise for. He is a great guy. His daughter would be proud for sure.
This crushed me. His son is mad because his dad told him to run. I hope at some point he realizes that’s because he wanted his son to live. Beyond the pain, you know this man has two conflicting emotions. One, heartbreak from the child he lost. Two, thankfulness for having his son live. I hope at some point they can both see, understand, and heal their relationship. 💔
Hopefully one day he understands that he’s not bulletproof. He sounds regretful because, like all forms of grief, it’s called the “what if” phase. The biggest issue with the phase is, you start assuming things that don’t make sense actually could’ve happened. For example, he imagines he could’ve charged in there and tackled the shooter, saving the day. He doesn’t consider that he killed most of his victims within the first minute, or that running along a hallway isn’t exactly quiet; even though he was 100% unable to save his sister, he’s mad that he didn’t try. This is the nature of humanity; we are stupid. He will one day comprehend that he was just angry at the chance of not dying, and by fleeing a lost cause he actually saved his parents the incomprehensible grief they would have felt by losing BOTH of their children that day, let alone if the father had told him to go back in. It’s cruel & selfish for him to pin the blame on the father, but not unreasonable. And he’s not a cruel and selfish person for doing so. Like I said, humans make strange decisions, let alone grieving children. It sounds like he needs a therapist (obviously) that can challenge his perspective. When we are emotional or mentally ill, dumb things make sense. Called cognitive distortions.
I hope Jesse realizes he couldn’t have saved her. He did what she would’ve wanted. I hope he can forgive his father and understand he told him what was best for survival. She is living through you still!
@@BobbyAce he wanted to go back inside the building, his dad told him over the phone not to go back inside, and go to safety instead. I heavily doubt the son could have done anything to prevent his sisters killing, if anything he'd have been shot too
What a punk Nicholas Cruz is. Yeah, he's sorry but only because he's on his way to the penitentiary or the execution chamber. What a tragic sociatel joke this kid is!
I cried so hard during his speech. As a mom to now 5 adult kids, I remembered all the mornings that we were running late or had bad mornings ( none of us but 1 were ever morning people). How many mornings did I not say I love you and said hurrry up you are going to be late? This is a reminder to all to hug your kids daily and to always tell them you love them. Prayers to all these families
No matter how many times, how often you tell a person how much you love them, it never seems like enough once they’re gone. I hold all those who are affected by this act and acts like this in my heart and mind. Grief shows up in many ways and none of them are easy. I hope your love for each other preservers. 💕
This one of the most powerful statements I have ever heard. This man is incredibly strong, I cried while watching. I hope that his family finds peace and every family that lost a love one as well
I really don’t see what is powerful about this. His daughter died and he explained how his family feels. Like who the hell cares? People die all the time. It literally means nothing…
The way he said “we lost our baby girl *at her school*” hit hard, he sounded shocked and angry which I am too. School is supposed to be a safe place, the last place you’d expect your child to be in danger at. Rest in peace Jaime, she truly seemed wonderful❤️
His son is struggling with survivor guilt. I hope he's in therapy. It's common to feel like you don't deserve to live or wish it was you when a loved one is murdered and you survive. It's common to be angry too and lash out. That young man is going to have a rough road until he realizes that he deserves to live and her murder was not his fault. Nick Cruz is the only one to blame here. And he gets to sit there all smug while other people suffer. It's incredibly horrid. I understand why the family members are enraged.
@Just Be of course it can happen in the case of a murder. Anytime one lives while another (who could have easily been the survivor) dies, there is potential for survivors guilt. This is borne out by thousands upon thousands who have experienced such. You have no basis to make your thoughtless claim.
To the father in this vid. If you ever see this, just know that what you said when your kids were leaving to school does and did not portray who you are to.your kids. If you loved them truly, they know this. No matter what. It's what we do, not what we say.
@@sagatuppercut2960 yes but my point is he was sad that the last thing he said to his kids were hurry up and get to school. Meaning he wishes he said something different like " I love you. See you later".
With death comes guilt, anger, confusion etc. survivors guilt makes you think you could’ve and or should’ve done more to save the person you lost or you ruminate of all the different variables that could’ve saved them. It’s totally irrational but grief doesn’t have steps to get through, it’s different for everyone. I know personally as I lost my best friend and many more and there’s no way I can even compare the grief you must feel when you lose a child. This speech is such raw emotion and I think that’s what everyone sees and relates to. My heart goes out to them
This man is so strong! I met him at the airport and he was amazed I had recognized him. I asked him for a hug and I told him how strong he is and a hero to his daughter. Jesse was with him, I gave him a hug too. I told them to stay strong. Sending all the best to those parents. We are all Parkland Strong! 💪🏼
Bless you. His speech is heartbreaking. You are an Angel for being so kind and letting them know people care. They needed your kindness , love and support especially when so very unexpected.
Rest In Peace Jaimie. This statement broke my heart. Especially Jesse wanting to protect his sister so badly. He’s an amazing young man already. I wish nothing but peace and love to this family
@@2TONKA the person I was replying to deleted their comment and I can’t Remeber exactly what they said but it was along the lines of calling me lazy or something
I never really have anything against lawyers. It’s a rotten job defending someone you know is guilty, but it’s their constitutional right and SOMEONE has to do it. Unless the person is a down and out scoundrel, I’m usually pretty ambivalent toward defense lawyers. But every now and again, I’m really reminded that they are still human. Thank you ma’am.
That’s what people don’t understand. The US justice system is based on the idea of innocence until due process proves guilt (or demonstrates guilt for lesser offenses). Every American has this Constitutional right. When you choose to enter the Bar, you choose the value and ideal of Justice and support of our Constitution. You might have an absolute monster of a person to defend, but you defend that monster’s rights. You’re not defending the monster’s beliefs, thoughts, or actions; you’re upholding your social charge to uphold and defend the Constitutional rights of an American citizen. No matter how heinous the beliefs, thoughts, and/or actions were. I’m an RN; I care for people who’ve done antisocial things, people who’ve harmed others, and even people who’ve attacked me directly. When you’re fulfilling a role in society requiring a charge from society and public oversight via a licence to practice, you give up several rights yourself. We don’t get to put people in harm’s way (legally or medically) simply because we don’t like what they’ve done or who they are.
@@merkinidgit Exactly. Just because they’re defending the person doesn’t mean they necessarily agree or condone with whatever they did. They’re fulfilling a business deal and upholding the constitution. My brother in law is a family lawyer and he’s had to take some truly reprehensible cases, but he does it because it’s his job and he has to.
If everyone turned down the defense position, who would uphold their constitutional right to an attorney? Like I said, SOMEONE has to do it, and money is money.
@Gnarly Uncle Sounds like something you should talk to a therapist about. Other people hoping for someone to get the help they need shouldn't draw a reaction like this. You don't need to live with pain like this. You need to talk it out with a professional.
@Gnarly Uncle Sorry but I hate when people say what you just said. Not everyone can be a therapist or psychiatrist. Sometimes it's just better to wish someone well than to project your own diagnosis of what's wrong with them and what they need.
Just his son? I think he could use some help too. I'm sensing a lot of anger issues from the father. His last words to his daughter weren't, "I love you. Have a good time at school." They were, "You're gonna be late!! Get out of the car NOW!"
Strange.....I wonder how many people prayed that Nik Cruz got the help HE needed before the tragedy occurred? How many of those school employees that saw him bullied when he was there prayed he got help? This WAS preventable. That's the TRULY sad thing!
How old they were is the age they stopped getting older and were taken from us. Never again to be held, heard or seen again by us. I relate completely.
@@alissagonzales735 Sad but everyone will face death someday and no one knows exactly when or how they could die. Suicidal people want to choose how they die but most change their minds as they're dying once it's irreversible and too late
Breaks my heart as a father listening to this. Could never imagine losing a child or how I would ever go on living day to day. Stronger man than I could ever hope to be. So sorry for your loss
Well you are lucky not to have to be as strong as he is, and I obviously hope you’ll never have to be that strong and that your kids live amazing lives.
Nobody knows their strength to handle something such as this until faced with it. In this case, noone should ever have to. Be sure to always be prepared. I carry almost everywhere I go in case I need to defend not only my life, but others around me. They are a little heavy for children but an armor plate backpack could make the difference between life and death
He wrote his statement with such eloquence. Bravo. He really nailed down his complex ideas and conveyed them to us. I am appreciating his writing skill because he captivated me and brought me into his experience. So much respect and heartbreak for him and his wife, and of course, their son. I could feel their son's agony through his father's words. It's beautiful to see a father deliver such an intense statement for his loved ones with a steady voice because of it's importance. I wish all these victims get to rest after this, and I hope that rest is restorative in some way.
@@bigfun7372 you are so right, as an English 🏴 Farther to an American 🇺🇸 Farther , my heart ❤️ goes out to you and I don’t have words to describe how I feel listening too your words , I used too think we had lost everything due too an unfortunate incident in our life , I now know this not to be true , may your family heal in time , I cannot comprehend your loss , God bless you Sir 🙏
I lost my daughter to SIDS when she was 100 days old, she was the happiness and Joy of our home; bringing back the happiness I had lost since the recent unexpected death of my mother at the young age of 63 from an unexpected massive heart attack and 2 months later loosing my father from a broken heart 💔, my life changed forever, anxious depressed and sadden at every moment of the day. Loosing a Child is so hurtful it’s almost inconceivable, at the Funeral home one person handled her body from beginning to end, as we walked in all employees and head director stated that they haven’t been back their during the process and wouldn’t, that the couldn’t handle it. During the viewing I held my wife’s hand tight as we went to view her body for the first time; My wife as laying first eyes on her in her small casket with her teddy bear in which she was hugging, fainted, and couldn’t be awakened paramedics was called, and she was admitted for stress and mourning. A year later the Lord Blessed us with another baby girl. The Lord Works; we are a lot happier now and days, and I Love and spoil my kids with Grace Thankfulness. Sir and Madam Lawyer I feel your Heart’s.
@@WZ-tp3jm I lost my 11 month old daughter to "breathing complications." I cant imagine losing a daughter that's been here even longer. I'm not big on religion, but I'm praying for them.
@Joe Ski No doubt, she knew and he knows she did and what you said can sound reasonable...to us, BUT...the mere fact that her father knows "I love you" is not the last thing he told her...is what will always haunt him. This is why we ALWAYS NEED to make sure that we take the extra second or two to utter these words, no matter how much of a hurry we are in...never allow our pride to prevent us from saying "I love you" in the event that we might be mad or upset with a loved one BECAUSE...you just NEVER know if that will be your last opportunity.
I hope the son forgives his father for telling him to run and save his own life. 💔 Don’t paint the picture of your father being responsible for the reason you couldn’t save your sister. It pains him to hear that. It is not him you need to be angry at. If not now, hopefully one day, maybe he will realize this and their relationship mends and is a happier one. This father is truly so strong in trying to keep his family together after the losing a loved one.
If anything he probably saved his son’s life, an unarmed person vs someone with a gun will not end well 99% of the time, he could have lost both his kids that day.
There was one father today who said his son wouldn’t forgive him for telling him to run away during the shooting. The son wanted to go save his sister. The son said he wished he could have taken his sister’s place. That absolutely crushed me. These families are going through unspeakable pain as a result of this tragedy. Words cannot adequately describe what they must be feeling. (I just realized it’s the father in this video. This is so bad. I can’t.)
In time I'm sure his son will see where his father was coming from. He didn't want him shot: telling him to run rather than go look for his sister wasn't to mean the father chose one child over another.
This is legitly the first time I’ve cried hearing a victim impact statement. I’m not sure if it has anything to do with me losing my parents at a young age but just picturing “what if” , “what could have been”, when the dad said that, i felt it in my soul
@Sup bro You wouldn't get it Bro go back to Seth Meyer's Night show channel. You will fit right in. One day you will grow up and understand. Good luck.
I lost my older brother, and I cried uncontrollably while listening to this father. It brings back so many of the emotions I’ve felt over the years as I try to heal, but more importantly as I’ve watched my parents worlds be completely shattered. My heart goes out to all of the families. This father put together words that I don’t know I could have formed only 4 years after our tragedy. Time will help build up scar tissue for them, but it never goes away.
I’m so sorry to hear that I lost my mom a year and a half ago from cancer not violence but I can totally relate dealing with any loss is so hard especially when it’s someone you are close with as I’m sure you were with your sister. I pray you find ☮️ ❤️😊
My wife passed away at 24 years old, and since last year when she left this Earth, I haven't felt happy a single day. She was also murdered, and someone else stole my happiness. I'm so sorry to this family, and I just hope there's something better after all this... it's hard to have faith, but Jesus i hope there's something better.
So sorry to hear that Lucas. I cant give advice as i have never been in this situation but she will want you to live your life to the fullest. Do things and go places she wanted to go, she will be with you. Stay strong 👊🏻
I hope his son can forgive him and they become a close family again. They won’t be the same without Jaime but I think she wouldn’t want her family torn apart like this. I pray for all the families healing. My heart is with them. No family deserves this kind of pain.
"I think she wouldn’t want her family torn apart like this" exactly. I hope the son can let go of his anger and guilt, the father doesn't deserve this.
Anyone who has lost a sibling in a sudden way when you're young will know that your parents will forever end every conversation with you with "I love you" because they don't ever want to have to think again that their last words to you were something else. It's always bittersweet because it reminds you of your loss, but you're glad that you can still hear it.
I don't understand this last word thing. Like do you think she was thinking about the last words that were said to here? She was probably terrified and only thinking about survival. Is this last word thing more for the parents themselves because they feel bad when they think about it?
@@bakirev It’s not about guilt or selfishness, it’s about grief. A true expression of love brings joy and connection to life, and he’s making the point that that joyful connection to his daughter has been brutally and senselessly destroyed, forever. Do you feel emotions bro?
My father was in a nearly fatal car accident, it was pure luck he pulled through. In the time after I've had explosive arguments with him, mundane reminders about groceries and typical 20s tantrums. I never end our conversations without an "I love you." I don't care if I just got through screaming my lungs out or asking him to pick up cheese. @@bakirev it's not about wanting to be the last thing running through their mind or wanting them to be thinking about you. It's about not loosing the chance to express love. Once that person is gone you can never tell them you love them again. It's about realising you might not have as long as you thought and using your time to connect rather than push away. (edit: typos)
I almost lost my dad at 16 He had a cardiac arrest and thank God they were able to revive him and he is now 71 and living life. But my last words to him that day would of been f you And its deff changed our relationship We always say I love you once a twice a phone call Every interaction we have we make sure we say I love you
@@arturd1595 The affects of grief aren’t always logical to those who aren’t grieving, or to those who grieve in a different way. They’ve gone through the most horrific tragedy, the least you could do is be kind.
@@LucyLucy- well, ok, kind - but with being JUST kind you are not likely to get to the bottom of the problem at hand, are u? Now, do u want to really help ppl, or offer "thoughts and prayers" (That is "being kind"?). Having said that, I do hope that boy will soon grow out of his anger with his own dad, who is the most sensible man under the sun.
@@arturd1595 Oh please. The internet is full of know-it-all ppl like you who have zero knowledge on most topics they're presented with, in this case grief (inc a young person who's brain hasn't even fully developed yet).. Instead it's just their own ignorant ideas of how people should behave. I'm sure his father would rather you respect his family than call his son 'shitty' tbh. It's highly likely they are in counseling.. Do they need to justify themselves and their next steps to satisfy you? Personally I think you need to either go away, or keep opinions like that to yourself, it's very disrespectful and makes you look like an idiot.
The amount of compartmentalization that Mr. Guttenberg is doing here is astounding. He is clearly hurting, but also understands the importance of getting the truth out there. I hope that when he eventually breaks down, he's surrounded by people who care about him and understand how difficult this has been.
@@shloopy5 people like him believes others only feel sorry when you see them record themselves crying tears and breaking down , but soon as they do that they say it’s fake cause Anybody that’s crying for real wouldnt be filming themselves.
@@JoJo-wj8ls You're exactly right, that's why people struggle to get help with depression. Not sure why we as a society put so much shame on attention seeking but I wish people would stop associating attention seeking with something bad when it's really about the context. Positive attention can be healing and empowering, it's no wonder some people walk around feeling so insecure and anxious.
This father is inspirational, I could not imagine holding myself together and eloquently giving a statement like this. And holding his family together at the same time. I hope all the victims, families , and friends are able to find peace.
I pray everyday for these families! It truly was heartbreaking not just with the loos of these kids but knowing a child like Cruz can be so cold and empty.. His parents really messed this kid up..
Victim impact statements should be banned from courtrooms. They serve no purpose other than to whip up emotions in an attempt to influence the judge/jury into giving a harsher sentence.
@@squatch545 I think it is a good thing! Lives shattered! Some people end their lives after witnessing something like this. Relatives and friends ending their lives after something like this...! I've seen it all. This is right! Period!
@@squatch545 I don't understand what the issue is. It is not mandatory you write an impact statement. This is a right that anyone has but not one yall have to participate in. Some people choose not to participate. There are several reasons why Victim Impact Statements are beneficial in the long run. The judge gets to hear your side of the story. This is usually the first time this occurs. Throughout the criminal justice process, the focus is on the offender. Hearing from those that are affected by the crime puts a face with an often forgotten victim. You have a chance to tell the judge how you want sentencing to occur. More often than not, cases conclude by a plea offer. Many times the prosecutor and defense have agreed to a recommended amount of time. The judge is not bound by that agreement. You can make a difference in the amount of time an offender receives by speaking up. This is true in cases that go to trial as well. You have the opportunity to address the court, and the offender by way of the court, about how the crime has affected you. Many find this helpful in the journey of victimization. Letting those know how they harmed you can be beneficial for emotional well-being. The impact statement becomes part of the offender’s permanent file. It is a reminder of the harm they caused you. So honestly, I don't see why this is something you believe should be ruled out or not factored in.
@@lllg30 Because the courtroom is a place where facts about the case are discussed and cross examined. How upset the victim is should be irrelevant. The courtroom isn't the place for wailing and gnashing of teeth, it's a place to try the case. Any victim impact statement should be directed at the criminal in a separate private meeting.
Immediately while hearing this father's words, I called out to my children & told them that I love them. I feel selfish for that in a way after hearing his story. However, this man has touched my heart & my mind just now. I'm thankful for him sharing his story & I pray for his family. Nobody should ever feel this pain or go through that.
His lawyer crying shows the defense team aren’t monsters defending a monster. They are humans forced to do a really hard job and his actions have caused them pain as well.
@@Va.2Az They were assigned as public defenders. If they refused, they can be fined and/or have their licenses taken away. You have to have a legitimate reason to refuse, and not just because you hate your client.
Listening to him and hearing his pain through words has me in tears. I don’t know how I could get through a trial like this without wanting to scream at this kid. Sitting across the room from his daughter’s murderer- what a brave father and mother. I hope his son is getting counseling for survivor guilt and allows himself to reconnect with his parents the way it was before this tragedy. ❤️
I would, without questioning, jump over that table and do as much damage as possible to that monster without caring about being charged with assault if I was a father in his situation. There is absolutely NO WAY I could look at him and be able to restrain myself..
This man described the pain so eloquently. Especially beginning at about minute 7, I felt like he was speaking for me. Losing a child is like nothing else.
@@celinereyes1185 If I was in my 20's , I would feel the same way. They world is going through many scary changes. There's no rush to make your mind up. My Momma had me when she was 37. She wasn't expecting to get pregnant. ( lol) You have plenty of time. Find a career you will be happy in. I wish you the best.
To this most wonderful man, husband, father. Your words today were like a pebble of love thrown into a pond - the ripples will never end. You have changed lives with your impassioned plea to us to tell our loved ones we love them. Your daughter is proud and knows she is loved. 🙏
My guess would be that that is because he is clinically insane, so the justice system, his parents, bullies, etc. failed, and it made him snap. This is not to say that this excuses the atrocities he committed or that he doesn’t deserve to spend the rest of his life in prison, but it is simply explaining it.
To hear him say he never got to say i love you that day because he was rushing them out because he had plans for his wife really got to me. Its hard enough to lose a child, but to lose a child without letting them know how much you love them and giving them a big hug and a kiss is something you could never forgive yourself for. My thoughts and prayers are with those families who lost loved ones. God bless.
The last words my late son and I said tho each other were "I love you". I'm so fortunate for that and am so grateful. I send these families so much love.
@@christinehunter8122 im happy you where able to let each other know that you both loved each other, but im also saddened to hear of your late sons death. Im so sorry for your loss 🙏
I seriously can't even! This father's statement broke my heart 😭😭😭. The defense lawyer is a human being just like me and showed great empathy. The defendant showed no remorse of any kind.
My son died in May 2018, he was 23. Although his death was tragic, he was not murdered like Jamie. I understand how these patents feel. It is something you don’t get over and it changes you forever. So many should have beens. 😢
When you have to defend what is indefensible... This lawyer is obviously compassionate but her role in this situation is very difficult and is necessary in this society. I whish these parents all the strength in the world.
How is her role necessary lol? Just give him the death sentence. Funny how someone can murder as many people as they want, but then surrender to police and be given a trial. Absolutely insane. Anything less than death is an embarrassment.
@@JohnDoe-dq3hi that's actually what should happen but that won't happen because he won't be placed in to general population he will be protected. Movies aren't real.
I don’t really have words. Saying “I feel bad” for this man is just such an understatement. I couldn’t imagine having to give testimony, or look the person in the face who did it.
My brother was brutally murdered at a young age years ago. The pain, the memories never go away, you just find a way to deal with it each day. Your family is changed forever . My heart is with the families. The selfish act of these murders changed and destroyed so many families.
This man really helped gauge the amount of devastation school shooters inflict upon family members. It’s hard to understand or get perspective of the amount of tragedy that could be cause by one event. She was only one of the 17 fatal victims
I sat here crying as I listened to this father read his statement. There is no pain greater than losing a child. I know because I lost one, not by murder but by suicide in 2007 at the age of 23. No matter the way you lose them, the pain is a pain beyond explanation, and it is a forever pain. Those families who lost there children will all live lives that will never be the same. I was sickened yesterday as I watched the videos Cruz made before he set out to kill those children. He planned it and in the last video, he laughed smugly and said everyone will now know who he is. Well we know. The horrendous act he committed had a domino effect. Children died and families are left grieving with their lives changed forever. They will never be the same. I remember someone saying to me after my son's death that at least I had my daughter left. I couldn't believe that was said to me. You can't replace a dead child. I feel so bad for this couples son because he will always carry this with him and I hope one day he can accept the fact that it wasn't his fault. And as a parent who has lost a child, you will always ask yourself the question this father asks. What if! May God bless the survivors of terrible tragedy!
Hey Yvonne, don't burden yourself thinking you were not there for your son. You were always there and he is not gone, his memories and his spirit is always with you. I cannot imagine the pain that you are going through but it was not in your control. I am attached to my mother the most. I have had suicidal thoughts and I couldn't do it because I know my mother would not be able to bear it. Suicide is not when a person doesn't want to live but it is to get rid of the pain. I am lonely because I am gay (now in usa for studies) and I cannot get married. I am from India, they would want me to marry a girl, I cannot destroy a girl's life for their happiness. I am sensitive from childhood and sometimes it is unbearable but I won't do it. But, if he wanted to leave because it was too much for him, you shouldn't blame yourself. It's the mind, It won't stop and continuous state of being depressed and just breathing and feeling like doing nothing, do you think that is the best life. The situations may have changed but please never burden yourself. He would never want his mother to feel guilty, he is always there for you. He would rather thank you for all what you did for him. God bless you and sorry for your loss. May you have the strength to bear this loss.
One can’t watch this without crying. God bless this family. What a terrible and senseless tragedy. This man is so brave to speak up. His message was moving and I pray that less and less parents have to be in similar situations . So heart breaking
Yes, I cannot even fathom what it was like for her to have to sit there crying for the victims, beside the monster who was responsible for such a horrific act, while also having it be your job to fight for and protect him and his rights. Thank goodness he decided to plead guilty, so his public defenders didn’t have to full on defend him and his actions at a regular full trial. Even still, I can’t imagine the difficulty and anguish involved in representing someone like him and having to devote so much of your own time preparing his case, memorizing all of the horrific details of his crimes, having to work and speak with him on a regular basis (let alone sit beside him while actively crying over what he did, knowing he is likely finding her show of emotion as weakness and getting off on the impact of his crime and how much power he feels), and then to be the one tasked with protecting his rights and trying to prevent the death penalty even though she likely feels he deserves it. I do not envy her or any of his lawyers. So heartbreaking to watch her cry with him right next to her, though the most heartbreaking thing is that father’s testimony. God bless them all.
@@justthatgirl-ct4jo can you explain how it's possible to get a mistrial at a sentencing phase based on this attorney's conduct? A mistrial happens during the trial for verdict. He's plead guilty and has skipped the trial phase on that. The jury is now hearing evidence to determine HOW he should be punished (death, life in prison with/without possibility of parole, or institutionalized if defense puts evidence of dimished capacity). Do you mean he can appeal the type of penalty imposed by the jury?
Loss changes your spirit. I hope everyone that is experiencing a loss can keep positive and stay strong. I struggle daily after losing my mother, but the fact I know there are others out there feeling the same way keeps me going. You never know what someone may be going through so stay kind even if you’re hurting ✌🏼
could have said it better! I'm sorry for your loss I too lost my mother from cancer it's hard losing someone we love coping is something that takes a lot of strength to do each day
Sorry for your loss, but one can look at it that way, that is life, everyone will eventually lose someone at some point in life. Most people out live their parents, so most people will eventually be in the same situation as you have been.
It's so true. Thank you for this. I lost my grandmother on Saturday and trying to figure out what's going on. My spirit has changed a bit. These poor families.
I am a male single parent and listening to the parents testify had me in tears. And I know that a murderer has to have representation, but I couldn't do it. The evil in this world is totally out of control
I feel awful about the loss of your Daughter.🥺 This level of pain, no one should ever have to experience. My Deepest Condolences to you and all the Families of the other Victims.
The part of the story about the brother/son hit me so hard. I am so so sorry for every family's loss! This monster deserves to NEVER see the light of day AGAIN!!
He needs to be 6 feet under !!! Eliminate these monsters for good . Don't just lock them up and let them live there life in prison. Also the officers in prison shouldn't have to deal with people like this . Anyone who has never worked in a prison think you just lock these people up and that's it.. execute him and set a example for the others
Being a father of four daughters I can’t even believe to imagine the pain and suffering that you go through dad don’t beat yourself up that day was already written and there wasn’t nothing that you could’ve done save the memories that you did have your daughter always be watching down looking after you and her brother and her mother I pray for you and your family God bless
Him rushing her was SWEET because he had to get ready for the DAY, THEIR DAY...It was a SILLY Dad/Daughter MOMENT...That's how comfortable they were with each other...Please understand Do Not feel guilty for being Alive.
I’m from Ireland and I’ve kept up with this trial. This story sends chills down my spine . I just can’t wrap my head around how such could happen. This should never have to be anyones reality . I pray that the families of the lost souls find peace and strength . May all the innocent souls rest in peace ❤
And here I sit as an American, becoming confused when discussions of these shootings happen because I can't keep them all straight. We have some sort of mass shooting everyday in this country.
I cried like a baby listening to the dad reading his statement am parent I cannot imagine the pain in his heart! When Sending our kids to school “ I love you” isn’t the first word that we say to our kids because we just want them to be on time and move on our day. You are a great dad!
As a mother of a “high schooler”, this absolutely terrifies me for my child, and I pray that these families will find peace one day. This sickens me. What a nightmare!
@@yodaddy2619 I don't think you should let the fear prevent you from taking steps in life, it's these type of people (cruz) affecting everyone even more by putting the fear in peoples minds. Noone wants to be a victim, but even with the possibility I think you should just continue life and do what you're gonna do. It's not worth it living in complete fear
It's heartbreaking. I'm so glad my son is 18 now and wont be killed by being in highschool. Or middle school or elementary school!!! The USA is totally out of control. The likelihood of your child being killed in school is REAL!!!!!! This country uses guns and NRA to fund politicians! It's deplorable.
When the lawyer hired by a killer cries during testimony of victim’s parents, explains how incredibly horrible this tragedy is. 😭Respect and love and prayers to all who survive such trauma.
I don't think she was "hired" by Cruz. She is a public defender, meaning she was assigned to the case by the state. It's my understanding that she tried to remove herself but the judge wouldn't allow it. It is a part of our justice system that everybody, no matter how bad the crime they committed, has a right to an attorney even if the state has to assign one.
@@bradcofobut just like a jury member, I would have to wonder if her beliefs would demonstrate bias therefore she would be more unlikely to fairly defend her client, and a jury member would be dismissed for prior belief in regards to the death penalty. I would also believe the same for a judge that has a prior bias as well. What he did was absolutely one of the worst things someone could do and he shows absolutely no remorse. I also should mention that the massive amount of evidence they’re having to sift through has got to be disturbing, and somewhat like the Josh Duggar case, things like this can give the not only the lawyers ptsd, but also members of the jury and the judge. There’s no way to unsee the gruesome injuries and pictures of murdered kids. If the person defending him tried to bail, it could show bias and could possibly be grounds for mistrial.
Jamie knew exactly how much you loved her. Your love for her will always be known. I'm so sorry your son feels guilty. It's not anyone's fault but the person who pulled the trigger.
Jesussss. His explanation of living in imagination. All of those “what ifs” killed me. The way he still has his dad speech all planned out for when she got her first bf. The way he can’t stop being a father to two kids. All of those things he said felt like they broke me, and to think that he has to live with all those raw feelings. This man is a great father and he should never doubt that. His daughter has a life, and death filled with love from her family. Those left living feel the loss, but I hope they know that because of them, she truly won in life.
I somehow managed to get through the whole trial without tears running down my face until seeing this brave father speak about his daughter's life this way. The endless thought of a person you could once hold and speak to just gone like that. NEVER leave your loved ones without telling them you love them. EVEN if you are in disagreement. You truly don't know when it will be the last time.
If you believe in the afterlife though, those that died will know they are and were loved And they wouldn't want those left behind feeling guilt over anything much least that.
I'm not a parent so I physically can't comprehend their pain but this hits so hard... nobody should have to go through this. I hope these parents find some sort of comfort at some point ❤️❤️
I don’t see how anyone listening to this WOULDN’T cry! How could you not!? I’m bawling like a baby over here. I don’t see how all the other attorneys in there aren’t crying. I understand they have become desensitized to some extent.. but these are human beings at the end of the day who are parents themselves or have someone they love. Imagine you being in their shoes and your last words to your child wasn’t “I love you” and you never got another chance to say that ever again. 😭
These are some of the most heartbreaking things I’ve ever listened to. Makes me sick in my heart. I’m so sorry for what you’re going through. I hope your son is getting the help he needs.
Heart wrenching victim impact statement. I cannot even imagine this father's & family's pain & I don't know how he made it through reading this planned statement without breaking down & sobbing. Huge props for this brave dad & prayers for him & his broken family who must deal with this unimaginable loss every single day for the rest of their lives. I pray they find a way to move forward, together & stronger...
As a mom sitting next to my daughter she’s only 5 but this statement touched my heart. Reminded me how grateful I am for these moments because the evil in this world can take any of us away in a split second of a selfish decision. Praying for all these families 🙏🏽
This father breaks my heart into pieces. I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss. My God what has happened to our country? To this world?! It's not right.
My heart hurts so much at this father's words. I understand deeply those "what ifs." and the sense of regret for the absence of that final "I love you and I'm so proud of you. And I'm sorry I sometimes caused you pain or disappointment or shame throughout the course of your life." If I could only say those words now, in person, to my beautiful son. I grieve for these children, their families, the wider community and for myself, my own broken family and the sudden loss of my gorgeous son. 💕
Fred impact statement regarding the loss of his daughter was so powerful defense counsel was crying. My daughter was a Senior in HS when this tragedy happened. I can not imagine the daily pain every day he must endure as a result of this senseless act. This American nightmare has to stop.
Loves never dies. That father will never stop loving his two children. My heart goes out to all the families for the pain and loss Nikolas Cruz has caused. What he did was indefensible, however even he deserves a defence. He chose to hate and cause immeasurable suffering. I only hope that in time the victims find some peace and hold onto the good memories because, “those we love never truly leave us”.
I scrolled down and the first thing I saw was another video titled "Nicholas Cruz confesses his love to someone before mass shooting", then I scrolled down again and the first thing my eyes saw was "Love never dies."
Shame on you for repeating his name, without specific need. We should not be showing his face, blurring it out whenever possible. It was always his plan to make himself known to you and you just make him richer with this post. BLEEP HIS NAME.
This was such a powerful speech. The way the dad describes everything they've been through in detail makes you understand just how much the lose of the daughter has effected them all. I hope his son can one day realize that his dad did the right thing. It would have been so much worse if they had lost both their children.
Being a defense attorney must be extremely difficult when your client is clearly an inhuman monster.
A mature adult can hold two feelings for a person at the same time. They can feel anger for the actions of a person while also feeling compassion for the humanity of that person. If you can’t value the humanity of even the worst person on earth (and he’s not that), then you might not be able to understand the value of the justice system. There’s a reason the scales of justice are held by a blindfolded lady. It ensures that all humans are afforded equal protection by the law, to be treated with dignity, respect, and fairness - no matter what they have done, and no matter who they are.
@@davidswanson5669 how very patronising.
@@davidswanson5669 ok
@@Acediscoface No
@@davidswanson5669 I'm concerned over his attorney crying for the victims. That could actually get him a new trial. These people need to be professional and not muddy the waters like this.
I hope the dad knows he did the right thing by telling his son to run and he should be proud he raised such a protective and brave young man.
In all likelihood the son couldn’t save his sister and would have died as well. It’s all so sad but he did the right thing.
I feel so, so bad for that young man. What a terrible situation to be in, having to flee for your life and leave your sister behind, because there was nothing you could have done. Man.
I dont know the whole story... were they all at the scene at the time of shooting?
@@Nassi415 Yes
@@Nassi415 yes not sure if your from USA but it was an awful shooting
"I am a father, who simply cannot stop acting like a father to two kids" wow 😭 this broke me
When he said that it did something to me. I'm sorry to the family. I pray God gives them the strength.
Did it?
@@debbie1060 that’s why he said it
That did me in for sure, that line. I can't imagine the pain and when I try to think about it I cry for hours. I wish I could send them love in a box. God bless these people.
Is to much and he is there like nothing the crimer
This man is so articulate. I can see him helping many families get through these life choking traumas. He’s very strong.
This man is so adorable. I can see him helping many families get through these life choking traumas. He's very strong
@@ruannebettnodiva9378 Why copy and paste the same thing as the person with the original comment?
@@thawingkarma233 he swapped articulate with “adorable” LOL not sure if that was autocorrect I’m pretty sure it was
@@thawingkarma233 Why copy and paste the same thing as the person with the original comment?
When you lose a spouse, you’re a widow. When you lose your parents, your an orphan. When you lose a child, you’re nothing because there is no word to describe the loss of a child. It is such an unnatural event that there are no words to describe this tragedy.
Omg… 😭😔😢
I can never imagine 😢
Ouch
Speaking as an orphan, the pain is crippling
You are so right. I lost my son to suicide 15 years ago in July 2007. No parent should ever have to bury their child. And there truly are no words
You know you messed up when your own lawyer starts crying during the victim impact statement. My heart goes out to all of the victims and their families. May this disgraceful excuse of a human get what it deserves.
I hope the guy gets life in prison and they mix him with the regular population. He’s dressed up like some creepy uncle and he’s gonna get his ass kicked regularity.
Facts. I was thinking the same.
If you actually think that this guy just went and started shooting at a school you are Beyond asleep and have been for over 50 years it's our government programming Young guys so they can ultimately take away guns pay attention
I think he knew he messed up before he did the shooting and if not then, certainly when he pled guilty lol
What does his lawyer do? Try to keep him out out of jail? Even though he killed many people
It’s because this woman isn’t “just a lawyer.” She’s a compassionate human being who most likely has children of her own. I can only surmise that this case has been and always will be the most difficult on every different level in her career.
I agree. Even defense attorneys have families. They are still human. I'm sure she knows that Cruz should get exactly the punishment that he deserves.
@@vickieclark5931 she shouldn't be a lawyer if she can't control her feelings. especially when she is not on the prosecution. I would of sacked her right there.
@@matt-tasticaus9565 shut up lmao
@@matt-tasticaus9565 they do this as a formality to set precedent for future clients in case someone is falsely accused of a crime. This is because in America you are innocent until proven guilty. No matter how heinous the crime. But also, I hope the kid spends the rest of his life in prison and gets raped a lot and then dies a long slow death.
Can't she refuse to defend such a monster? I'm sure there are people out there actually worth defending
I pray his son find it in himself to realize that his dad did the right and and, that he did the right thing too. This broke me so bad.
True it could’ve been the 2 of them but his dad saves his life as hard as it is to understand.
I do too and I believe he will ❤
Wish I was a God, I would of never allowed this to happen..
Sadly, I'm just a human.
Literally have goosebumps and chills all throughout my body and choked up.
His son needs therapy. He is directing his anger at the wrong person
It is a privilege to hear a man talk so wonderfully about his daughter. His words of love brought me to tears. I can only hope that his family can take comfort in the time that they did share with their child.
Absolutely. I wish my father loved me. I’m kinda jealous but I admire him as a father.
@@mariacalvert6910 God bless you! I’m sorry your father wasn’t loving. You deserved every bit of love and still do. You are valued :)
Homie, if your own lawyer is crying against you, you know lost the case.
I'm not even a father (yet) and he made me feel like one.
It was BRAVE/STRONG when he still keep driving the car with his now son and wife that wanted to turn around and just go home, his mind was telling him don't let that POS kid win or over power a broken family. " Don't let him win." To this father and other victims stay strong it feels like this WORLD is falling apart but don't give up. When you give up trust me it's hard to get back on that path again.
If your American, you should help by doing your part and getting rid of guns
Honestly this is probably the most profound statement I’ve ever heard in my life. When he started talking about his sons thoughts and how their relationship is irreparably damaged, seldom words have been more moving to me personally. This is a broken man who is still stronger than probably anyone I know. God bless him.
I remember watching “the ripples of Columbine” where family and friends and teachers spoke about how it impacted them years later. It’s truly ripples in the community, grief and pain going through every layer. I don’t think anybody can understand their pain unless one has been through it themselves. Truly heartbreaking.
You’re so right …. This is utterly heartbreaking
Amen 🙏
The way the brother loved his sister to the point to not forgive his father for this, they were such a loving family I feel so bad that they have to go through this
Have you watched the victim impact statement from Alaina Petty's mom and sister? I think that was the one that hit me the hardest so far. That got me sobbing 😭 Absolutely heartbreaking 💔
It’s sickening how Nick just sits there with no emotion while everyone else is crying. This just goes to show how unsympathetic and a sick person he is. Prayers to the all the victims and families impacted.
You expect him to grieve over an action he premeditated and followed through with?
@@smstorm9659 You’re right, but a human being should have at least some remorse after doing something like that and clearly this sick mf doesn’t care at all about what he did.
DEMONS DON'T CRY.
He's obviously wired differently...probably no empathy. Maybe society should have screened him earlier... sometimes genetics creates the monster. You can't blame a great white for killing a seal...and a rare few humans are like this. Scary... definitely.
He already knows and deals with his choices. A smart demon controls his emotions in public to not appear weak while being obviously powerless. We all should realize this dude is never going to see freedom again, if he finds comfort in this reality that’s when the death penalty should come into play.
I was a criminal defense attorney for 25 years. I cried once during sentencing when the family of a deceased child spoke. It was awful. I tried to be strong but I couldn't.
Being strong means being willing to empathize with that level of pain. The weak aren’t willing to go there.
@@wills4185 That is not necessarily the case in most situations for men. Remaining calm and not displaying grief in the face of tragedy shows a great amount of strength which is often needed more for those around you rather than you. As a clinical psychologist, don't get caught up too much into "showing your emotions is a sign of great strength" especially for men because you'd be wrong.
@@MarkelBeverley bottling up emotions is the worst thing you can do to yourself and people around you. It WILL explode.
@@MarkelBeverley I think it’s a sign of intelligence to cry when necessary and allow logic as well. I’ve read that greater intelligence is linked to high empathy in the evolution of the recent brain
If you choose to be a "criminal defense attorney", you choose to he a s c u m b a g. Period.
This guy, Fred Guttenberg deserves so much respect. Even though his family sometimes get upset by his decisions, it's all to take care of them. He is being the Father and making those tough calls, like going on that road trip even when the others wanted to go home. He is the man they need. I wish he wasn't so apologetic because he has nothing to apologise for. He is a great guy. His daughter would be proud for sure.
Agree 💯!
Yes😔
This is next level pontificating.
saved me the typing. agree
What time in the v>deo are you talking about??? Haven't kept with it. I would like to know what your talking about! Thanks man
Before being an Attorney she’s an empathetic and sympathetic human. She can hear and see his pain.
Amen
She is still one now.
It’s her job, just like a doctor cannot refuse to give treatment to the life of a murderer.
Defense attorneys may defend some of the worst people but it's usually because they have the most empathy
@@kriterer in a scenario like this, to what end?
@@Frozenfireist Good point
This crushed me. His son is mad because his dad told him to run. I hope at some point he realizes that’s because he wanted his son to live. Beyond the pain, you know this man has two conflicting emotions. One, heartbreak from the child he lost. Two, thankfulness for having his son live. I hope at some point they can both see, understand, and heal their relationship. 💔
i can’t imagine how that poor boy must feel. i hope he’s able to heal.
@@cb.1212 I agree the son will forever need therapy for survivors guilt 😔
Hopefully one day he understands that he’s not bulletproof. He sounds regretful because, like all forms of grief, it’s called the “what if” phase. The biggest issue with the phase is, you start assuming things that don’t make sense actually could’ve happened. For example, he imagines he could’ve charged in there and tackled the shooter, saving the day. He doesn’t consider that he killed most of his victims within the first minute, or that running along a hallway isn’t exactly quiet; even though he was 100% unable to save his sister, he’s mad that he didn’t try. This is the nature of humanity; we are stupid. He will one day comprehend that he was just angry at the chance of not dying, and by fleeing a lost cause he actually saved his parents the incomprehensible grief they would have felt by losing BOTH of their children that day, let alone if the father had told him to go back in. It’s cruel & selfish for him to pin the blame on the father, but not unreasonable. And he’s not a cruel and selfish person for doing so. Like I said, humans make strange decisions, let alone grieving children.
It sounds like he needs a therapist (obviously) that can challenge his perspective. When we are emotional or mentally ill, dumb things make sense. Called cognitive distortions.
Your icon is the wrong color ❤️
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I hope Jesse realizes he couldn’t have saved her. He did what she would’ve wanted. I hope he can forgive his father and understand he told him what was best for survival. She is living through you still!
But what exactly happened there? He ran out off the building during the shooting? And dad was outside telling him to run?
Easier said than felt.
@@BobbyAce probably on the phone
@@BobbyAce he wanted to go back inside the building, his dad told him over the phone not to go back inside, and go to safety instead. I heavily doubt the son could have done anything to prevent his sisters killing, if anything he'd have been shot too
They both would have been shot if he went in
As a Father, as a human being this Father's statement truly broke my heart.
Wondering why know one has mentioned the shooter is a Antifa member 👈 🥺
What a punk Nicholas Cruz is. Yeah, he's sorry but only because he's on his way to the penitentiary or the execution chamber. What a tragic sociatel joke this kid is!
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@Tom it's ok teacher keep up with you grooming of little children to become ANTIFA MEMBER. And fairys 🧚♀️
I cried so hard during his speech. As a mom to now 5 adult kids, I remembered all the mornings that we were running late or had bad mornings ( none of us but 1 were ever morning people). How many mornings did I not say I love you and said hurrry up you are going to be late? This is a reminder to all to hug your kids daily and to always tell them you love them.
Prayers to all these families
Yes, it’s so relatable- and so utterly heartbreaking.
💯 & AMEN 🙏
@@Followmybliss777 💯 💔 😪
No matter how many times, how often you tell a person how much you love them, it never seems like enough once they’re gone. I hold all those who are affected by this act and acts like this in my heart and mind. Grief shows up in many ways and none of them are easy. I hope your love for each other preservers. 💕
Absolutely
This one of the most powerful statements I have ever heard. This man is incredibly strong, I cried while watching. I hope that his family finds peace and every family that lost a love one as well
I really don’t see what is powerful about this. His daughter died and he explained how his family feels. Like who the hell cares? People die all the time. It literally means nothing…
@@yeetimusprime415 you need help man. Seriously. Get it before you do something horrible.
@@yeetimusprime415 are you a fan of the defendant?
@@yeetimusprime415 Seek help
@@yeetimusprime415 you’re so heartless,maybe if it had happened to you,you might think differently
The way he said “we lost our baby girl *at her school*” hit hard, he sounded shocked and angry which I am too. School is supposed to be a safe place, the last place you’d expect your child to be in danger at. Rest in peace Jaime, she truly seemed wonderful❤️
His son is struggling with survivor guilt. I hope he's in therapy. It's common to feel like you don't deserve to live or wish it was you when a loved one is murdered and you survive. It's common to be angry too and lash out. That young man is going to have a rough road until he realizes that he deserves to live and her murder was not his fault. Nick Cruz is the only one to blame here. And he gets to sit there all smug while other people suffer. It's incredibly horrid. I understand why the family members are enraged.
@Just Be of course it can happen in the case of a murder. Anytime one lives while another (who could have easily been the survivor) dies, there is potential for survivors guilt. This is borne out by thousands upon thousands who have experienced such. You have no basis to make your thoughtless claim.
@Monroe Grady you don’t know that.
Angela Marie, so VERY well said!
@Just Be oh OK. Sorry there was a miscommunication.
Ok Doc. 🙄.
Simple: I wish strength to the families and eternal hell to the killer.
To the father in this vid. If you ever see this, just know that what you said when your kids were leaving to school does and did not portray who you are to.your kids. If you loved them truly, they know this. No matter what. It's what we do, not what we say.
I totally agree. He wanted them to get to school on time BECAUSE HE CARED ABOUT THEM.
@@sagatuppercut2960 yes but my point is he was sad that the last thing he said to his kids were hurry up and get to school. Meaning he wishes he said something different like " I love you. See you later".
With death comes guilt, anger, confusion etc. survivors guilt makes you think you could’ve and or should’ve done more to save the person you lost or you ruminate of all the different variables that could’ve saved them.
It’s totally irrational but grief doesn’t have steps to get through, it’s different for everyone. I know personally as I lost my best friend and many more and there’s no way I can even compare the grief you must feel when you lose a child. This speech is such raw emotion and I think that’s what everyone sees and relates to.
My heart goes out to them
Yo wat up bro???
@@sagatuppercut2960 he said he was rushing them to school because it was Valentine's day and wanted some alone time with the wife..
This man is so strong! I met him at the airport and he was amazed I had recognized him. I asked him for a hug and I told him how strong he is and a hero to his daughter. Jesse was with him, I gave him a hug too. I told them to stay strong. Sending all the best to those parents. We are all Parkland Strong! 💪🏼
Bless you. His speech is heartbreaking. You are an Angel for being so kind and letting them know people care. They needed your kindness , love and support especially when so very unexpected.
@Tony Soprano I know that took away everything
@Tony Soprano ur cringe*
@@greengoody9560 you must be some type of awful human to focus on that instead
@@elithluxe7568 he’s a stoner tbf they aren’t exactly levelheaded
Rest In Peace Jaimie. This statement broke my heart. Especially Jesse wanting to protect his sister so badly. He’s an amazing young man already. I wish nothing but peace and love to this family
thats the bare minimum right.. im the laziest mfer ever and when i had to pick my sister up late at night i did lol
@@leafkefn3774 what are you talking about??
@@Denlonsgirl_ wha
@@2TONKA the person I was replying to deleted their comment and I can’t Remeber exactly what they said but it was along the lines of calling me lazy or something
I never really have anything against lawyers. It’s a rotten job defending someone you know is guilty, but it’s their constitutional right and SOMEONE has to do it. Unless the person is a down and out scoundrel, I’m usually pretty ambivalent toward defense lawyers.
But every now and again, I’m really reminded that they are still human. Thank you ma’am.
That’s what people don’t understand. The US justice system is based on the idea of innocence until due process proves guilt (or demonstrates guilt for lesser offenses). Every American has this Constitutional right. When you choose to enter the Bar, you choose the value and ideal of Justice and support of our Constitution. You might have an absolute monster of a person to defend, but you defend that monster’s rights. You’re not defending the monster’s beliefs, thoughts, or actions; you’re upholding your social charge to uphold and defend the Constitutional rights of an American citizen. No matter how heinous the beliefs, thoughts, and/or actions were.
I’m an RN; I care for people who’ve done antisocial things, people who’ve harmed others, and even people who’ve attacked me directly. When you’re fulfilling a role in society requiring a charge from society and public oversight via a licence to practice, you give up several rights yourself. We don’t get to put people in harm’s way (legally or medically) simply because we don’t like what they’ve done or who they are.
@@merkinidgit Exactly. Just because they’re defending the person doesn’t mean they necessarily agree or condone with whatever they did. They’re fulfilling a business deal and upholding the constitution. My brother in law is a family lawyer and he’s had to take some truly reprehensible cases, but he does it because it’s his job and he has to.
This is not about you
If everyone turned down the defense position, who would uphold their constitutional right to an attorney? Like I said, SOMEONE has to do it, and money is money.
@@westcoastbred7745 Who?
I pray his son gets the help he needs.
@Gnarly Uncle Sounds like something you should talk to a therapist about. Other people hoping for someone to get the help they need shouldn't draw a reaction like this. You don't need to live with pain like this. You need to talk it out with a professional.
@Gnarly Uncle Sorry but I hate when people say what you just said. Not everyone can be a therapist or psychiatrist. Sometimes it's just better to wish someone well than to project your own diagnosis of what's wrong with them and what they need.
Just his son? I think he could use some help too. I'm sensing a lot of anger issues from the father. His last words to his daughter weren't, "I love you. Have a good time at school." They were, "You're gonna be late!! Get out of the car NOW!"
Strange.....I wonder how many people prayed that Nik Cruz got the help HE needed before the tragedy occurred? How many of those school employees that saw him bullied when he was there prayed he got help? This WAS preventable. That's the TRULY sad thing!
@@RobbieStacks90 did you not watch the video
Wow, the "she will forever be 14" hit me like a ton of bricks. The Dad told the son the right thing, they could have lost both of their children. 😪
Would’ve been even more devastating. His son did the right thing and I hope that one day he will stop blaming himself for running away.
Yes, some day his son will understand but the sadness is too great right now.
How old they were is the age they stopped getting older and were taken from us. Never again to be held, heard or seen again by us. I relate completely.
@@alissagonzales735 Sad but everyone will face death someday and no one knows exactly when or how they could die. Suicidal people want to choose how they die but most change their minds as they're dying once it's irreversible and too late
@@tracymarquez6875 a permanent solution to a temporary problem
Breaks my heart as a father listening to this. Could never imagine losing a child or how I would ever go on living day to day. Stronger man than I could ever hope to be. So sorry for your loss
Well you are lucky not to have to be as strong as he is, and I obviously hope you’ll never have to be that strong and that your kids live amazing lives.
Nobody knows their strength to handle something such as this until faced with it. In this case, noone should ever have to. Be sure to always be prepared. I carry almost everywhere I go in case I need to defend not only my life, but others around me. They are a little heavy for children but an armor plate backpack could make the difference between life and death
Thank goodness for the Dogs, they got them through
He wrote his statement with such eloquence. Bravo. He really nailed down his complex ideas and conveyed them to us. I am appreciating his writing skill because he captivated me and brought me into his experience. So much respect and heartbreak for him and his wife, and of course, their son. I could feel their son's agony through his father's words. It's beautiful to see a father deliver such an intense statement for his loved ones with a steady voice because of it's importance. I wish all these victims get to rest after this, and I hope that rest is restorative in some way.
was thinking the same exact thing. I don't know if I could be so articulate in a moment like that. I would have been a mess.....
@@bigfun7372 you are so right, as an English 🏴 Farther to an American 🇺🇸 Farther , my heart ❤️ goes out to you and I don’t have words to describe how I feel listening too your words , I used too think we had lost everything due too an unfortunate incident in our life , I now know this not to be true , may your family heal in time , I cannot comprehend your loss , God bless you Sir 🙏
There is only one way to guarantee Cruz won’t kill again? For those who think victims should be given no say in the penalty.
Amen
I lost my daughter to SIDS when she was 100 days old, she was the happiness and Joy of our home; bringing back the happiness I had lost since the recent unexpected death of my mother at the young age of 63 from an unexpected massive heart attack and 2 months later loosing my father from a broken heart 💔, my life changed forever, anxious depressed and sadden at every moment of the day. Loosing a Child is so hurtful it’s almost inconceivable, at the Funeral home one person handled her body from beginning to end, as we walked in all employees and head director stated that they haven’t been back their during the process and wouldn’t, that the couldn’t handle it. During the viewing I held my wife’s hand tight as we went to view her body for the first time; My wife as laying first eyes on her in her small casket with her teddy bear in which she was hugging, fainted, and couldn’t be awakened paramedics was called, and she was admitted for stress and mourning. A year later the Lord Blessed us with another baby girl. The Lord Works; we are a lot happier now and days, and I Love and spoil my kids with Grace Thankfulness. Sir and Madam Lawyer I feel your Heart’s.
All he said was the “kids were running late” and I broke 🥺🥺God give them the peace they need to get through the rest of their lives.
@Joe Ski true, but not being able to say it to her one last time is a gut wrenching realization. I can’t even imagine this father’s pain.
@@WZ-tp3jm I lost my 11 month old daughter to "breathing complications." I cant imagine losing a daughter that's been here even longer. I'm not big on religion, but I'm praying for them.
@@jeffreymullin5584 I’m so deeply sorry for your loss. No parent should ever know the pain of losing a child, at any age!
@Joe Ski No doubt, she knew and he knows she did and what you said can sound reasonable...to us, BUT...the mere fact that her father knows "I love you" is not the last thing he told her...is what will always haunt him. This is why we ALWAYS NEED to make sure that we take the extra second or two to utter these words, no matter how much of a hurry we are in...never allow our pride to prevent us from saying "I love you" in the event that we might be mad or upset with a loved one BECAUSE...you just NEVER know if that will be your last opportunity.
That part stood out to meh the most tbh
I hope the son forgives his father for telling him to run and save his own life.
💔 Don’t paint the picture of your father being responsible for the reason you couldn’t save your sister. It pains him to hear that. It is not him you need to be angry at.
If not now, hopefully one day, maybe he will realize this and their relationship mends and is a happier one. This father is truly so strong in trying to keep his family together after the losing a loved one.
If anything he probably saved his son’s life, an unarmed person vs someone with a gun will not end well 99% of the time, he could have lost both his kids that day.
If he hadn’t told him to run he could be sitting there giving a speech for 2 children instead of 1. This whole thing is heartbreaking 💔
❤this comment right here❤
Yes, I hope their situation gets better 😔
i know geese lets not forget who is responsible.
4 and a half years later and you can tell the pain is still fresh for these parents. Heartbreaking
He is just pretending to be emotional to impress the judge.
@@NguyenQuocHieu-fv9hyyes because he wouldn't be emotional over his deceased daughter
There was one father today who said his son wouldn’t forgive him for telling him to run away during the shooting. The son wanted to go save his sister. The son said he wished he could have taken his sister’s place. That absolutely crushed me. These families are going through unspeakable pain as a result of this tragedy. Words cannot adequately describe what they must be feeling. (I just realized it’s the father in this video. This is so bad. I can’t.)
Was the father on the phone with his son when the shooting happened or was he there too?
@@barbiekat6352 based on the father’s comments, it sounded like he was on the phone with his son
In time I'm sure his son will see where his father was coming from. He didn't want him shot: telling him to run rather than go look for his sister wasn't to mean the father chose one child over another.
I started balling my eyes out at that part too
@@anovemberstar exactly, it’s to spare risking BOTH their fates 😩😢
I'm not a man prone to tears but this father's speech got to me...
Same
@@MayorMcheese12 not the right time mate
@@MayorMcheese12 dude
... because u r human...God bless u!🙏
The worst part is the devil kid didn’t even care. I think he liked hearing what pain he caused.
not only did he take away their innocent daughter’s life but a relationship between a father and son. wow
This is legitly the first time I’ve cried hearing a victim impact statement. I’m not sure if it has anything to do with me losing my parents at a young age but just picturing “what if” , “what could have been”, when the dad said that, i felt it in my soul
Legitimately
This breaks my heart for these poor parents!!! Hugging my own teens a little tighter today. May these families somehow find peace.
@SKIPPER CANNON BREATH GERMAN
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@Sup bro why would you ever comment thinking people care what you have to say?
@Sup bro same reason you weren’t swallowed. You were a good swimmer and made it to the tubes.
@Sup bro You wouldn't get it Bro go back to Seth Meyer's Night show channel. You will fit right in. One day you will grow up and understand. Good luck.
@Sup bro been reading your comments. I hope you get over your trolling it’s cringe and sad to see. Coming out of the woodworks like a roach 🪳
I lost my older brother, and I cried uncontrollably while listening to this father. It brings back so many of the emotions I’ve felt over the years as I try to heal, but more importantly as I’ve watched my parents worlds be completely shattered.
My heart goes out to all of the families. This father put together words that I don’t know I could have formed only 4 years after our tragedy. Time will help build up scar tissue for them, but it never goes away.
🙏❣️
I’m so sorry to hear that I lost my mom a year and a half ago from cancer not violence but I can totally relate dealing with any loss is so hard especially when it’s someone you are close with as I’m sure you were with your sister. I pray you find ☮️ ❤️😊
Sending hugs and prayers..i could never imagine your pain but know you and your family are in my prayers.
Sending love ❤️
😔🙏
My wife passed away at 24 years old, and since last year when she left this Earth, I haven't felt happy a single day. She was also murdered, and someone else stole my happiness. I'm so sorry to this family, and I just hope there's something better after all this... it's hard to have faith, but Jesus i hope there's something better.
So sorry to hear that Lucas. I cant give advice as i have never been in this situation but she will want you to live your life to the fullest. Do things and go places she wanted to go, she will be with you. Stay strong 👊🏻
So Sorry ❤️
You always feel the pain but you learn to live around it.
❤️
How did that happen?
So sorry man
I hope his son can forgive him and they become a close family again. They won’t be the same without Jaime but I think she wouldn’t want her family torn apart like this. I pray for all the families healing. My heart is with them. No family deserves this kind of pain.
"I think she wouldn’t want her family torn apart like this"
exactly. I hope the son can let go of his anger and guilt, the father doesn't deserve this.
🙏🏾
Anyone who has lost a sibling in a sudden way when you're young will know that your parents will forever end every conversation with you with "I love you" because they don't ever want to have to think again that their last words to you were something else. It's always bittersweet because it reminds you of your loss, but you're glad that you can still hear it.
I don't understand this last word thing. Like do you think she was thinking about the last words that were said to here? She was probably terrified and only thinking about survival.
Is this last word thing more for the parents themselves because they feel bad when they think about it?
@@bakirev It’s not about guilt or selfishness, it’s about grief. A true expression of love brings joy and connection to life, and he’s making the point that that joyful connection to his daughter has been brutally and senselessly destroyed, forever. Do you feel emotions bro?
If you’ve lost a sibling young I’m rly sorry
This speech hurt me so bad
I hope you’re doing okay you deserve happiness
My father was in a nearly fatal car accident, it was pure luck he pulled through. In the time after I've had explosive arguments with him, mundane reminders about groceries and typical 20s tantrums. I never end our conversations without an "I love you." I don't care if I just got through screaming my lungs out or asking him to pick up cheese. @@bakirev it's not about wanting to be the last thing running through their mind or wanting them to be thinking about you. It's about not loosing the chance to express love. Once that person is gone you can never tell them you love them again. It's about realising you might not have as long as you thought and using your time to connect rather than push away. (edit: typos)
I almost lost my dad at 16
He had a cardiac arrest and thank God they were able to revive him and he is now 71 and living life.
But my last words to him that day would of been f you
And its deff changed our relationship
We always say I love you once a twice a phone call
Every interaction we have we make sure we say I love you
You’re a good dad. So sorry for you and your family’s loss. Sending you all love. She knows she was loved and cherished. She knows.
Yes, a good dad, but shitty other members of it. They got angry with him because he sent them to school that day? How shallow...
@@arturd1595 The affects of grief aren’t always logical to those who aren’t grieving, or to those who grieve in a different way. They’ve gone through the most horrific tragedy, the least you could do is be kind.
@@LucyLucy- well, ok, kind - but with being JUST kind you are not likely to get to the bottom of the problem at hand, are u? Now, do u want to really help ppl, or offer "thoughts and prayers" (That is "being kind"?).
Having said that, I do hope that boy will soon grow out of his anger with his own dad, who is the most sensible man under the sun.
He is a very good dad. This grown man from Cape Breton, Nova Scotia is in tears. I’m so sorry for everybody’s pain on that horrible day.
@@arturd1595 Oh please. The internet is full of know-it-all ppl like you who have zero knowledge on most topics they're presented with, in this case grief (inc a young person who's brain hasn't even fully developed yet).. Instead it's just their own ignorant ideas of how people should behave.
I'm sure his father would rather you respect his family than call his son 'shitty' tbh.
It's highly likely they are in counseling.. Do they need to justify themselves and their next steps to satisfy you?
Personally I think you need to either go away, or keep opinions like that to yourself, it's very disrespectful and makes you look like an idiot.
The amount of compartmentalization that Mr. Guttenberg is doing here is astounding. He is clearly hurting, but also understands the importance of getting the truth out there. I hope that when he eventually breaks down, he's surrounded by people who care about him and understand how difficult this has been.
Why dyou think he hasn't broken down already
@@shloopy5 people like him believes others only feel sorry when you see them record themselves crying tears and breaking down , but soon as they do that they say it’s fake cause Anybody that’s crying for real wouldnt be filming themselves.
@@JoJo-wj8ls You're exactly right, that's why people struggle to get help with depression. Not sure why we as a society put so much shame on attention seeking but I wish people would stop associating attention seeking with something bad when it's really about the context. Positive attention can be healing and empowering, it's no wonder some people walk around feeling so insecure and anxious.
I have 2 young daughters. Im a big man, and this brought me to tears. Cherish and love on your loved ones my friends🙏🏾
That just means ur human. If u dont feel some kind of way, ur a sociopath.
This father is inspirational, I could not imagine holding myself together and eloquently giving a statement like this. And holding his family together at the same time. I hope all the victims, families , and friends are able to find peace.
He is a very inspirational person. He wrote a book which is excellent. It’s called Find the Helpers, if you’re interested
I pray everyday for these families! It truly was heartbreaking not just with the loos of these kids but knowing a child like Cruz can be so cold and empty.. His parents really messed this kid up..
I'm bawling my eyes out.
These innocent lives don't deserve this.
Victim impact statements should be banned from courtrooms. They serve no purpose other than to whip up emotions in an attempt to influence the judge/jury into giving a harsher sentence.
@@squatch545 I think it is a good thing!
Lives shattered! Some people end their lives after witnessing something like this. Relatives and friends ending their lives after something like this...!
I've seen it all.
This is right! Period!
@@HeavenAndHope Some people end their lives with or without victim impact statements. So what?
@@squatch545 I don't understand what the issue is. It is not mandatory you write an impact statement. This is a right that anyone has but not one yall have to participate in. Some people choose not to participate. There are several reasons why Victim Impact Statements are beneficial in the long run.
The judge gets to hear your side of the story. This is usually the first time this occurs. Throughout the criminal justice process, the focus is on the offender. Hearing from those that are affected by the crime puts a face with an often forgotten victim.
You have a chance to tell the judge how you want sentencing to occur. More often than not, cases conclude by a plea offer. Many times the prosecutor and defense have agreed to a recommended amount of time. The judge is not bound by that agreement. You can make a difference in the amount of time an offender receives by speaking up. This is true in cases that go to trial as well.
You have the opportunity to address the court, and the offender by way of the court, about how the crime has affected you. Many find this helpful in the journey of victimization. Letting those know how they harmed you can be beneficial for emotional well-being.
The impact statement becomes part of the offender’s permanent file. It is a reminder of the harm they caused you.
So honestly, I don't see why this is something you believe should be ruled out or not factored in.
@@lllg30 Because the courtroom is a place where facts about the case are discussed and cross examined. How upset the victim is should be irrelevant. The courtroom isn't the place for wailing and gnashing of teeth, it's a place to try the case. Any victim impact statement should be directed at the criminal in a separate private meeting.
What an eloquent man with such a beautiful tribute to his daughter. My heart breaks for all the families.
Immediately while hearing this father's words, I called out to my children & told them that I love them. I feel selfish for that in a way after hearing his story. However, this man has touched my heart & my mind just now. I'm thankful for him sharing his story & I pray for his family. Nobody should ever feel this pain or go through that.
He wouldn't want you to feel sorry for that. ❤️
His lawyer crying shows the defense team aren’t monsters defending a monster. They are humans forced to do a really hard job and his actions have caused them pain as well.
They are not forced. Lol
who thinks his lawyers are monsters? there doing there job they work for the state not cruz.
@@Va.2Az They were assigned as public defenders. If they refused, they can be fined and/or have their licenses taken away. You have to have a legitimate reason to refuse, and not just because you hate your client.
The Devil’s Advocate… tears or not.
@@angelamarie4137 thats a lie
Listening to him and hearing his pain through words has me in tears. I don’t know how I could get through a trial like this without wanting to scream at this kid. Sitting across the room from his daughter’s murderer- what a brave father and mother. I hope his son is getting counseling for survivor guilt and allows himself to reconnect with his parents the way it was before this tragedy. ❤️
I’m really feeling hate for this Cruz guy. I’m wouldnt mind being the one to throw the switch when he gets the death penalty.
I would, without questioning, jump over that table and do as much damage as possible to that monster without caring about being charged with assault if I was a father in his situation. There is absolutely NO WAY I could look at him and be able to restrain myself..
If you look closely at the beginning the dad kept death staring at Nikolas Cruz…
Absolutely heartbreaking. I just cannot begin to fathom the pain from their loss.
@@tinkletink1403 Horrible comment!
I can, and I currently live this pain
This man described the pain so eloquently. Especially beginning at about minute 7, I felt like he was speaking for me. Losing a child is like nothing else.
I’m 20 and don’t have kids this really hit my soul I couldn’t imagine the amount of pain he’s going thru god bless there family
i’m 21 and its one of the reasons i may never bring my own into this world
@@celinereyes1185 If I was in my 20's , I would feel the same way. They world is going through many scary changes. There's no rush to make your mind up. My Momma had me when she was 37. She wasn't expecting to get pregnant. ( lol) You have plenty of time. Find a career you will be happy in. I wish you the best.
@@celinereyes1185 facts
To this most wonderful man, husband, father. Your words today were like a pebble of love thrown into a pond - the ripples will never end. You have changed lives with your impassioned plea to us to tell our loved ones we love them. Your daughter is proud and knows she is loved. 🙏
Amen 😪💔💖
What a beautiful message you have written to this family.
Not a single tear or glimpse of emotion on Cruz’s face. It is so enraging
His emotion is him being bored by his consequences. I hope he is bored, that is the worst thing to be besides dead.
My guess would be that that is because he is clinically insane, so the justice system, his parents, bullies, etc. failed, and it made him snap. This is not to say that this excuses the atrocities he committed or that he doesn’t deserve to spend the rest of his life in prison, but it is simply explaining it.
To hear him say he never got to say i love you that day because he was rushing them out because he had plans for his wife really got to me. Its hard enough to lose a child, but to lose a child without letting them know how much you love them and giving them a big hug and a kiss is something you could never forgive yourself for. My thoughts and prayers are with those families who lost loved ones. God bless.
The last words my late son and I said tho each other were "I love you". I'm so fortunate for that and am so grateful.
I send these families so much love.
@@christinehunter8122 I hope he’s in hell :)
Thx for your thoughts and prayers its gonna change a lot, if you have some time to spare leave a like, that will safe a child somewhere in africa
@@jimpanse4216 What? lol 🤣
@@christinehunter8122 im happy you where able to let each other know that you both loved each other, but im also saddened to hear of your late sons death. Im so sorry for your loss 🙏
he’s so strong…yet so damaged. i wish i could bring her back home for him
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So do I Reba, my heart bleeds for this family...
He'll most likely wish that you could take her place.
I seriously can't even! This father's statement broke my heart 😭😭😭. The defense lawyer is a human being just like me and showed great empathy. The defendant showed no remorse of any kind.
My son died in May 2018, he was 23. Although his death was tragic, he was not murdered like Jamie. I understand how these patents feel. It is something you don’t get over and it changes you forever. So many should have beens. 😢
I‘m so sorry for your loss :(
I'm sorry, man. Stay strong!
Meeeeemeeeeh neeeeeer! Get off meh ya hurtin meh!
When you have to defend what is indefensible... This lawyer is obviously compassionate but her role in this situation is very difficult and is necessary in this society. I whish these parents all the strength in the world.
She should be fired.
How is her role necessary lol? Just give him the death sentence. Funny how someone can murder as many people as they want, but then surrender to police and be given a trial. Absolutely insane. Anything less than death is an embarrassment.
@@therealink Because if he serves life there's a good chance he's going to get tortured in prison as soon as someone finds out what his crime is.
@@JohnDoe-dq3hi that's actually what should happen but that won't happen because he won't be placed in to general population he will be protected. Movies aren't real.
@@JohnDoe-dq3hi Good, let's let that happen.
I don’t really have words. Saying “I feel bad” for this man is just such an understatement. I couldn’t imagine having to give testimony, or look the person in the face who did it.
The details about the son struggling with anger are heartbreaking. This trauma will echo for the rest of their lives.
Hearing the pain in this fathers voice brought tears to my eyes. You did the right thing telling your son to run.
My brother was brutally murdered at a young age years ago. The pain, the memories never go away, you just find a way to deal with it each day. Your family is changed forever . My heart is with the families. The selfish act of these murders changed and destroyed so many families.
Sorry for your brother
Cynthia Creamer I am sending you and your family hugs and light today.
😥🕊💕
I am so sorry for your loss.
I wish you and your family only good things.
Isabelle in Victoria British Columbia
Cynthia Creamer I am so very sorry about what happened to your beloved brother
This man really helped gauge the amount of devastation school shooters inflict upon family members. It’s hard to understand or get perspective of the amount of tragedy that could be cause by one event. She was only one of the 17 fatal victims
I sat here crying as I listened to this father read his statement. There is no pain greater than losing a child. I know because I lost one, not by murder but by suicide in 2007 at the age of 23. No matter the way you lose them, the pain is a pain beyond explanation, and it is a forever pain. Those families who lost there children will all live lives that will never be the same. I was sickened yesterday as I watched the videos Cruz made before he set out to kill those children. He planned it and in the last video, he laughed smugly and said everyone will now know who he is. Well we know. The horrendous act he committed had a domino effect. Children died and families are left grieving with their lives changed forever. They will never be the same. I remember someone saying to me after my son's death that at least I had my daughter left. I couldn't believe that was said to me. You can't replace a dead child. I feel so bad for this couples son because he will always carry this with him and I hope one day he can accept the fact that it wasn't his fault. And as a parent who has lost a child, you will always ask yourself the question this father asks. What if! May God bless the survivors of terrible tragedy!
I am sorry for your loss.
Hey Yvonne, don't burden yourself thinking you were not there for your son. You were always there and he is not gone, his memories and his spirit is always with you. I cannot imagine the pain that you are going through but it was not in your control. I am attached to my mother the most. I have had suicidal thoughts and I couldn't do it because I know my mother would not be able to bear it. Suicide is not when a person doesn't want to live but it is to get rid of the pain.
I am lonely because I am gay (now in usa for studies) and I cannot get married. I am from India, they would want me to marry a girl, I cannot destroy a girl's life for their happiness. I am sensitive from childhood and sometimes it is unbearable but I won't do it. But, if he wanted to leave because it was too much for him, you shouldn't blame yourself. It's the mind, It won't stop and continuous state of being depressed and just breathing and feeling like doing nothing, do you think that is the best life. The situations may have changed but please never burden yourself. He would never want his mother to feel guilty, he is always there for you. He would rather thank you for all what you did for him. God bless you and sorry for your loss. May you have the strength to bear this loss.
I feel your pain, so sorry for your loss 💐
you failed your child if they died by suicide, bad parent, major failure no way around it sorry
xoxo Yvonne
One can’t watch this without crying. God bless this family. What a terrible and senseless tragedy. This man is so brave to speak up. His message was moving and I pray that less and less parents have to be in similar situations . So heart breaking
I didnt cry
To the crying defense lawyer, I'm so sorry you're forced to be there sitting next to a monster.
Yes, I cannot even fathom what it was like for her to have to sit there crying for the victims, beside the monster who was responsible for such a horrific act, while also having it be your job to fight for and protect him and his rights. Thank goodness he decided to plead guilty, so his public defenders didn’t have to full on defend him and his actions at a regular full trial. Even still, I can’t imagine the difficulty and anguish involved in representing someone like him and having to devote so much of your own time preparing his case, memorizing all of the horrific details of his crimes, having to work and speak with him on a regular basis (let alone sit beside him while actively crying over what he did, knowing he is likely finding her show of emotion as weakness and getting off on the impact of his crime and how much power he feels), and then to be the one tasked with protecting his rights and trying to prevent the death penalty even though she likely feels he deserves it. I do not envy her or any of his lawyers. So heartbreaking to watch her cry with him right next to her, though the most heartbreaking thing is that father’s testimony. God bless them all.
She's going to end up getting him a new trial crying like that. It's her job to defend him. Muddying the waters like that just isn't good.
@@justthatgirl-ct4jo Oh please, he already plead guilty.
@@justthatgirl-ct4jo can you explain how it's possible to get a mistrial at a sentencing phase based on this attorney's conduct? A mistrial happens during the trial for verdict. He's plead guilty and has skipped the trial phase on that. The jury is now hearing evidence to determine HOW he should be punished (death, life in prison with/without possibility of parole, or institutionalized if defense puts evidence of dimished capacity).
Do you mean he can appeal the type of penalty imposed by the jury?
@@2late4date you can appeal that yes
You know you’re screwed when your lawyer is crying during victim impact statements
@JayRTeev...Yup, my thoughts exactly
Why? Look at his case. He only has an lawyer because he needs representation in America. Lawyers are human too.
Definitely. Thats a very clear message that you're f***ed and that life without parole is more than unlikely to be happening.
@@dreac6241 Because they are supposed to be the professionals for HIM. When they cry for the victims.... It's OVER officially for him.
@@dreac6241 Ill take jokes that fly over my head for 500 Alex
Loss changes your spirit. I hope everyone that is experiencing a loss can keep positive and stay strong. I struggle daily after losing my mother, but the fact I know there are others out there feeling the same way keeps me going. You never know what someone may be going through so stay kind even if you’re hurting ✌🏼
could have said it better! I'm sorry for your loss I too lost my mother from cancer it's hard losing someone we love coping is something that takes a lot of strength to do each day
Its true
I am sorry. 😰
Sorry for your loss, but one can look at it that way, that is life, everyone will eventually lose someone at some point in life. Most people out live their parents, so most people will eventually be in the same situation as you have been.
It's so true. Thank you for this. I lost my grandmother on Saturday and trying to figure out what's going on. My spirit has changed a bit. These poor families.
I am a male single parent and listening to the parents testify had me in tears. And I know that a murderer has to have representation, but I couldn't do it. The evil in this world is totally out of control
I feel awful about the loss of your Daughter.🥺 This level of pain, no one should ever have to experience. My Deepest Condolences to you and all the Families of the other Victims.
Fred is a great story teller. He beautifully spoke of his family’s tragedy and love.
When your own lawyer cries during a victim statement you know you're finished
I’m definitely crying. Wow. The parkland victim families have been through so much
The part of the story about the brother/son hit me so hard. I am so so sorry for every family's loss! This monster deserves to NEVER see the light of day AGAIN!!
He needs to be 6 feet under !!! Eliminate these monsters for good . Don't just lock them up and let them live there life in prison. Also the officers in prison shouldn't have to deal with people like this . Anyone who has never worked in a prison think you just lock these people up and that's it.. execute him and set a example for the others
Same here 😢
I couldn’t even have read that on his behalf without breaking down. The strength this man found is absolutely amazing.
God given
@@mattbatzel207 without a doubt.
Allah 🙏
@@sandmanlopez9920 no.
Being a father of four daughters I can’t even believe to imagine the pain and suffering that you go through dad don’t beat yourself up that day was already written and there wasn’t nothing that you could’ve done save the memories that you did have your daughter always be watching down looking after you and her brother and her mother I pray for you and your family God bless
This was beautifully written
I love thi and sentiment. Amen. May this man and his family heal over time 🙏🕊
I have a adolescent daughter. I could not sit in that court room across from my daughters killer without attempting to get my hands on him.
@@brushwolf I only have a daughter and I'm terrified to put her back in school. This has become another epidemic and something needs to change!
Him rushing her was SWEET because he had to get ready for the DAY, THEIR DAY...It was a SILLY Dad/Daughter MOMENT...That's how comfortable they were with each other...Please understand Do Not feel guilty for being Alive.
I’m from Ireland and I’ve kept up with this trial. This story sends chills down my spine . I just can’t wrap my head around how such could happen. This should never have to be anyones reality . I pray that the families of the lost souls find peace and strength . May all the innocent souls rest in peace ❤
And here I sit as an American, becoming confused when discussions of these shootings happen because I can't keep them all straight. We have some sort of mass shooting everyday in this country.
@@melfarm9109without downplaying anything, ppl who have this fantasy it was daily or weekly or monthly (over exaggerated it) dos t help anything tbh
I cried like a baby listening to the dad reading his statement am parent I cannot imagine the pain in his heart! When Sending our kids to school “ I love you” isn’t the first word that we say to our kids because we just want them to be on time and move on our day. You are a great dad!
Same here 😢😢
As a mother of a “high schooler”, this absolutely terrifies me for my child, and I pray that these families will find peace one day. This sickens me. What a nightmare!
Homeschool. If able to. Jus an idea that works in these crazy times we live in
@@yodaddy2619 I don't think you should let the fear prevent you from taking steps in life, it's these type of people (cruz) affecting everyone even more by putting the fear in peoples minds. Noone wants to be a victim, but even with the possibility I think you should just continue life and do what you're gonna do. It's not worth it living in complete fear
@@yodaddy2619 I agree
@R Cortez you're acting like all schools are the same, there's always exceptions to everything
It's heartbreaking. I'm so glad my son is 18 now and wont be killed by being in highschool. Or middle school or elementary school!!! The USA is totally out of control. The likelihood of your child being killed in school is REAL!!!!!! This country uses guns and NRA to fund politicians! It's deplorable.
When the lawyer hired by a killer cries during testimony of victim’s parents, explains how incredibly horrible this tragedy is. 😭Respect and love and prayers to all who survive such trauma.
I don't think she was "hired" by Cruz. She is a public defender, meaning she was assigned to the case by the state. It's my understanding that she tried to remove herself but the judge wouldn't allow it. It is a part of our justice system that everybody, no matter how bad the crime they committed, has a right to an attorney even if the state has to assign one.
@Master E shes a human. If you can hear this and not feel something, there is something very wrong with you.
@@bradcofobut just like a jury member, I would have to wonder if her beliefs would demonstrate bias therefore she would be more unlikely to fairly defend her client, and a jury member would be dismissed for prior belief in regards to the death penalty. I would also believe the same for a judge that has a prior bias as well. What he did was absolutely one of the worst things someone could do and he shows absolutely no remorse. I also should mention that the massive amount of evidence they’re having to sift through has got to be disturbing, and somewhat like the Josh Duggar case, things like this can give the not only the lawyers ptsd, but also members of the jury and the judge. There’s no way to unsee the gruesome injuries and pictures of murdered kids.
If the person defending him tried to bail, it could show bias and could possibly be grounds for mistrial.
@Master E Okay "Master E" where's your law degree at then?
This lawyer I'm sure didn't have a choice in defending if she was a public defender
Jamie knew exactly how much you loved her. Your love for her will always be known. I'm so sorry your son feels guilty. It's not anyone's fault but the person who pulled the trigger.
This was the best victim impact statement I’ve ever seen
The best impact statement I've ever heard.
It’s not a competition
Jesussss. His explanation of living in imagination. All of those “what ifs” killed me. The way he still has his dad speech all planned out for when she got her first bf. The way he can’t stop being a father to two kids. All of those things he said felt like they broke me, and to think that he has to live with all those raw feelings. This man is a great father and he should never doubt that. His daughter has a life, and death filled with love from her family. Those left living feel the loss, but I hope they know that because of them, she truly won in life.
He did a great job putting into words how this changed everything. I’m devastated for their family, but his words needed to be heard
I’m so scared for my kids to go to school this is pure heart break. I couldn’t even imagine life going on after this
This is one of the most moving things I’ve ever listened to. Our children deserve so much better.
I somehow managed to get through the whole trial without tears running down my face until seeing this brave father speak about his daughter's life this way. The endless thought of a person you could once hold and speak to just gone like that. NEVER leave your loved ones without telling them you love them. EVEN if you are in disagreement. You truly don't know when it will be the last time.
I still find this to be very strange
If you believe in the afterlife though, those that died will know they are and were loved And they wouldn't want those left behind feeling guilt over anything much least that.
I'm not a parent so I physically can't comprehend their pain but this hits so hard... nobody should have to go through this. I hope these parents find some sort of comfort at some point ❤️❤️
I don’t see how anyone listening to this WOULDN’T cry! How could you not!? I’m bawling like a baby over here. I don’t see how all the other attorneys in there aren’t crying. I understand they have become desensitized to some extent.. but these are human beings at the end of the day who are parents themselves or have someone they love. Imagine you being in their shoes and your last words to your child wasn’t “I love you” and you never got another chance to say that ever again. 😭
These are some of the most heartbreaking things I’ve ever listened to. Makes me sick in my heart. I’m so sorry for what you’re going through. I hope your son is getting the help he needs.
Heart wrenching victim impact statement. I cannot even imagine this father's & family's pain & I don't know how he made it through reading this planned statement without breaking down & sobbing. Huge props for this brave dad & prayers for him & his broken family who must deal with this unimaginable loss every single day for the rest of their lives. I pray they find a way to move forward, together & stronger...
As a mom sitting next to my daughter she’s only 5 but this statement touched my heart. Reminded me how grateful I am for these moments because the evil in this world can take any of us away in a split second of a selfish decision. Praying for all these families 🙏🏽
Evil exists and for many honest people it’s out of sight our of mind when they leave their house. Gotta remember to exercise that awareness muscle.
@@luispiros Evil exists inside everyone
Cleva, enjoy each moment. Time flies.
This father breaks my heart into pieces. I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss. My God what has happened to our country? To this world?! It's not right.
My heart hurts so much at this father's words. I understand deeply those "what ifs." and the sense of regret for the absence of that final "I love you and I'm so proud of you. And I'm sorry I sometimes caused you pain or disappointment or shame throughout the course of your life." If I could only say those words now, in person, to my beautiful son. I grieve for these children, their families, the wider community and for myself, my own broken family and the sudden loss of my gorgeous son. 💕
ik it's not much but, rip to your son
I am so sorry for your heartbreaking loss. You sound like a caring and generous parent. Sending prayers to you and your family.
I'm sorry about your son. I'm sure in his heart he knew everything you wanted to say to him.
@@crappyaccount Thank you 🙏 x
@@kl1ajmm Thank you 🙏 x
Fred impact statement regarding the loss of his daughter was so powerful defense counsel was crying. My daughter was a Senior in HS when this tragedy happened. I can not imagine the daily pain every day he must endure as a result of this senseless act. This American nightmare has to stop.
Government instigates most of these shootings in order to justify a gun grab. The American government nightmare must stop.
Loves never dies. That father will never stop loving his two children. My heart goes out to all the families for the pain and loss Nikolas Cruz has caused. What he did was indefensible, however even he deserves a defence. He chose to hate and cause immeasurable suffering. I only hope that in time the victims find some peace and hold onto the good memories because, “those we love never truly leave us”.
Cruz was abused and discarded by society. He is not only to blame for his actions.
you make no sense... please don't be a walking contradiction
He pled guilty already there just trying to figure out if there gonna kill him or not if death penalty wasn’t on the table he’d already got sentenced.
I scrolled down and the first thing I saw was another video titled "Nicholas Cruz confesses his love to someone before mass shooting", then I scrolled down again and the first thing my eyes saw was "Love never dies."
Shame on you for repeating his name, without specific need. We should not be showing his face, blurring it out whenever possible. It was always his plan to make himself known to you and you just make him richer with this post.
BLEEP HIS NAME.
This was such a powerful speech. The way the dad describes everything they've been through in detail makes you understand just how much the lose of the daughter has effected them all. I hope his son can one day realize that his dad did the right thing. It would have been so much worse if they had lost both their children.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your daughter with us.