HOW CAN WE FORGIVE THOSE WHO HURT US?

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  • @FatherSpyridonROCOR
    @FatherSpyridonROCOR  Рік тому +79

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    • @contmail9894
      @contmail9894 Рік тому +4

      Thank You Lord, thank You Father,Mother Mary be blessed with all children Saints and Angels

    • @Alphieisalive
      @Alphieisalive Рік тому +1

      Why forgive them for what theve done to us? You and me have every reason to hate God as he sat back and allowed us to inherit sin that wasn't even ares.we are not weak at all!!!

    • @Alphieisalive
      @Alphieisalive Рік тому

      Some things are unforgivable and you know it.

    • @richardgreiner9264
      @richardgreiner9264 Рік тому +6

      Pray for me that I struggle with forgiveness.

    • @razor4921
      @razor4921 Рік тому +7

      ​@@Alphieisaliveanger will not lead you anywhere good in the long run.

  • @s0j0rnh1ntrlnd5
    @s0j0rnh1ntrlnd5 Рік тому +1045

    I was raped and tortured at age six, was heavily bullied, and my oldest brother was murdered when I was 13. As a Christian of 25 years, I've learned to forgive those who hurt me and my family. Doesn't happen overnight, but God will help if you ask. May God's grace and mercy be upon you all.

    • @januszdworak4780
      @januszdworak4780 Рік тому +22

      Have your perpetrators appreciated your forgiveness or they are still looking for another victim?

    • @s0j0rnh1ntrlnd5
      @s0j0rnh1ntrlnd5 Рік тому +118

      They are not in my life. But even if they were I'd still forgive. That's the narrow way

    • @s0j0rnh1ntrlnd5
      @s0j0rnh1ntrlnd5 Рік тому +58

      @Ducky101 thank you. That means a lot. To God be the glory. And the compassion and mercy.

    • @MissFeline
      @MissFeline Рік тому +28

      @@s0j0rnh1ntrlnd5 you are a most wonderful example of forgiveness, thank you for sharing it with us💖 you are living proof that anything can be forgiven.💖

    • @s0j0rnh1ntrlnd5
      @s0j0rnh1ntrlnd5 Рік тому +22

      @@MissFeline you are welcome. It takes time and prayer and God's grace, but it can be done.

  • @generalnguyenngocloan1700
    @generalnguyenngocloan1700 Рік тому +32

    Many times if someone does not forgive, they seek vengeance. The Japanese of old had a saying, “revenge is like a thick forest, once you enter, it’s hard to find your way out”.

  • @sulajkovski
    @sulajkovski Рік тому +430

    I have been struggling with this question for decades. In the end, I have simply concluded that God told us to forgive, and it is good for us to do as God told us. That doesn't mean we agree with someone's crime or that we support someone's sin. It is up to them to repent their sins, and up to us to protect ourselves from their sins.

    • @Remembering1453
      @Remembering1453 Рік тому +34

      Yes. At least for me, afer reading about the atrocities and all the destruction and death brought by hatred and nihilism during the XX century, i have realized that hatred only brings death.
      This is why its better to forgive, sometimes war and killings can be avoided if only one of the parties stops attacking.
      Violence only brings more violence

    • @shawnhembree4145
      @shawnhembree4145 Рік тому +27

      Thank you for saying that we should not support someone's sin and that we need to protect ourselves ( and our children ) from an unrepentant sinner.

    • @LonginusModus
      @LonginusModus Рік тому +21

      Forgive. Don't forget. Teach, but do not sacrifice your being to save those who do not listen and desire not to be saved. The evil will continue to be evil. The righteous will be just. The justice of which is ultimately up to God and he alone will handle it. But don't forget the things bad people do in this life. Dont disregard. Forgive them. Don't forget them and have no hatred toward them.

    • @ConradSzymczak
      @ConradSzymczak Рік тому +5

      Well said.
      Let go the antagonizers, they shall receive morefold than doled.
      Don’t worry about those things that people have done to us.
      We cannot change the past.
      Life has a way of catching up to those who are unkind and reflecting more back to them.

    • @TruthPerspecive
      @TruthPerspecive Рік тому +7

      @@LonginusModus my old job stole a bunch of tools well over 1000$. I dint not realize it until a minute ago bit ago but it was a blessing from God that they stole them. It is a opportunity for me to forgive them in turn leading to a blessing from God upon me. I thank you Holy God that you have shown me this in the abundance of your Grace. Lord have mercy non me a sinner one who has a fallen.

  • @antonkirani2758
    @antonkirani2758 Рік тому +193

    Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me a sinner.
    Thank you for your words Father.

    • @surafel.t949
      @surafel.t949 Рік тому

      For me too

    • @ELLHNIKA
      @ELLHNIKA Рік тому

      ΧΡΙΣΤΟΣ ΑΝΕΣΤΗ ☦️

    • @jb-dt3hg
      @jb-dt3hg 11 місяців тому

      Lord Jesus Christ have mercy on me a sinner! Lord Jesus Christ have mercy on us all!

  • @NJP9036
    @NJP9036 Рік тому +125

    I easily forget this lesson. It is the sin of pride. Thank you Fathet Spyridon.

    • @BiblicalExcerpts
      @BiblicalExcerpts Рік тому +5

      We must offer what we wish to receive, and leave judgment to our creator, easier in thought than practice though isn’t it…
      I forget or disregard this lesson too often also, may God have mercy on all of us, as sinners who are willing to learn.

    • @biggerscreams123
      @biggerscreams123 10 місяців тому

      @@BiblicalExcerptsGod is GOOD

  • @TruthPerspecive
    @TruthPerspecive Рік тому +49

    Today is forgiveness Sunday. Lord have Mercy on me who have fallen.

  • @alexandrasymeon5893
    @alexandrasymeon5893 Рік тому +39

    God said, "Vengeance is mine."

    • @SilouanWright
      @SilouanWright Рік тому +9

      True.. BUT... we also shouldn't pray or hope for vengeance. All holy people in the Bible attempted to intercede as much as they could on behalf of mankind. If we truly were Christian, we would pray fervently for people so that they wouldn't be judged.

    • @bruno-bnvm
      @bruno-bnvm Рік тому +2

      God's not your's

    • @alexandrasymeon5893
      @alexandrasymeon5893 Рік тому

      @@bruno-bnvm Yes, of course.

  • @debralittle1341
    @debralittle1341 Рік тому +183

    Father, I'm Catholic, but Iove listening to you. You teach in a way that is simple and easy to understand, yet you bring the message right home to our hearts. Ty for teaching us and blessing us.

    • @daylight44ful
      @daylight44ful Рік тому +31

      I am a Catholic as well, but Father Teaches the Gospel Perfectly and I love his teachings as the Holy Spirit is working in Father Spyridon. Amen ♥

    • @tklrrbccar3906
      @tklrrbccar3906 Рік тому +8

      I found Father Spyridon some time back. What a blessing!!! He is biblical in his teachings. I truly look forward to his videos. I plan to purchase a few of his book soon. We can ALL learn from him. May the Lord bless you for your kind and loving spirit in which you share God's teachings with us.

    • @cachinnation448
      @cachinnation448 Рік тому +7

      I'm a UK Protestant and I LOVE listening to Fr Spyridon. Praise the Lord.

    • @daylight44ful
      @daylight44ful Рік тому +9

      @@cachinnation448 Thank God we are ALL Christians, God bless you Brother.🥰

    • @reaperanon979
      @reaperanon979 Рік тому +12

      I am Catholic as well but getting baptized as Orthodox before this Easter. I recommend all of you to do the same and to follow church tradition instead of heresies. If you're not sure why, just watch father Spyridon's video "Why Orthodoxy". It's not all the same, ecumenism is a horrible trap to fall into.

  • @hueylongeverymanaking3399
    @hueylongeverymanaking3399 Рік тому +108

    Wow this came right on time, blessed be the name of the Lord🙏

    • @Alex-hz2xg
      @Alex-hz2xg Рік тому +16

      Tomorrow is Sunday of Forgiveness in Orthodoxy.

  • @bw9872
    @bw9872 Рік тому +108

    I am not orthodox, there aren't many options available here. But I listen to you every night before I go to bed. I appreciate what you do very much.

    • @TimGoodman
      @TimGoodman Рік тому +14

      Reach out online to a priest and maybe begin study, and then...things happen. Get an Orthodox Prayer Book, wear a cross, learn basic prayer rule (traditional prayers morning/evening), read The Orthodox Study Bible, works by Fathers Seraphim Rose and Spyridon Bailey are all a good start. Worth it. I pray for you. ☦

    • @43pace
      @43pace Рік тому +13

      What Tim says above is completely correct. Start walking toward God and He will catch you everytime. Just give Him a chance.

    • @tommyrutherford400
      @tommyrutherford400 Рік тому

      ​@@TimGoodmanis it ok to wear an orthodox cross even though I have not been welcomed into the church but I am studying the faith?

    • @akoznampomamiose
      @akoznampomamiose 11 місяців тому

      ​@@tommyrutherford400yes brother

  • @nbinghi
    @nbinghi Рік тому +15

    The Orthodox Church is the hospital for the soul. I knew I wanted my heart to be healed so I could eventually forgive an abusive father. It's a process, and bit by bit the healing comes from attending and immersing yourself in the Divine Liturgy over time.

  • @Unxpekted
    @Unxpekted Рік тому +30

    Perfect timing, I have been unequally yoked with an athiest partner. I am Syriac Orthodox, she just left me after seven years because I didn't sign a lease where she lives where I was only given 3 days to do (ultimatum). I am heart broken but putting my faith in God and Christ for healing. I know his plan is better than mine.

    • @januszdworak4780
      @januszdworak4780 Рік тому +2

      So you have lived with her out of wedlock? Hahahaha. So Lord used a landlord to save you. What about are you healing from?

    • @Unxpekted
      @Unxpekted Рік тому +4

      @@januszdworak4780 we were never married but we wanted to build a life together. I love her and will cherish her but it’s hard to be with a nonbeliever. I trust God.

    • @januszdworak4780
      @januszdworak4780 Рік тому +4

      @@Unxpekted OK. Good Luck. I am a widower.

    • @Unxpekted
      @Unxpekted Рік тому +7

      @@januszdworak4780 God bless you my friend. I am sorry to hear it. God rest your partners soul.

    • @accesstotheredcarpet
      @accesstotheredcarpet Рік тому +5

      God removed her for a good reason because her soul rejects Christ and you cannot be indwelling with someone who doesn’t believe. Consider this a blessing in disguise and thank God for the removing of unclean spirits out of your life. She sound like a jezebel spirit. Forgive and let her go. I lost a dear friend of 15 years who was like a sister to me. Turns out she’s a narcissist. They are very difficult people to deal with. I forgave her immediately and moved on. I pray for her. So should you. God bless 🙏🏻

  • @jarrettmiller8754
    @jarrettmiller8754 Рік тому +21

    I've been struggling to forgive a deep betrayal by my father that left our extended family broken and my immediate family bankrupt and nearly homeless.
    Our parish priest shared this thought with me.
    Pray for their forgiveness as a way to start forgiving them yourself.
    Pray similar to Christ on the cross "Forgive them for they know not what they do."
    So often the actions that others do that cause us harm are not done out of malice toward us, but our of selfish desires for themselves.
    So they may truly not know what those actions do to us.

    • @Gummy195
      @Gummy195 Рік тому +3

      Thank you for articulating is this way

  • @NMMD1531
    @NMMD1531 Рік тому +18

    This is the only way to Salvation

  • @ml2744
    @ml2744 Рік тому +67

    Thank you. As I was asking God how to forgive my husband of some things, your notification came up and stopped me dead in my tracks of God’s grace and kindness towards me. I will pray and ponder this direct message, understanding (through wisdom) that my harboring resentment and inability to forgive is eternal. The hurt I experienced is temporary. Profound!! Thank you again🙏

    • @sandrapicton6349
      @sandrapicton6349 7 місяців тому +1

      Thank you for this reminder that inability to forgive is eternal.

  • @andyxanthopoulos5282
    @andyxanthopoulos5282 День тому +1

    I read some unbelievable horrific assults on ppl and yet u say this, u forgive them , u r truly a Christian, im stunned how much indigenous u suffered,that is so pleaseing to hear,god bless you

  • @merrycute9494
    @merrycute9494 Рік тому +27

    God be with us those who has hearts hard to forgive.

  • @saint5203
    @saint5203 Рік тому +20

    Forgiveness is the core of our faith. It is the foundation of Christianity. Without forgiveness. It's all in vain.

  • @Otto45
    @Otto45 Рік тому +8

    Been struggling for so many years to forgive my father for beating my mother infront of me during my childhood.
    Broke her elbow, her shoulder blade, her left hand wrist...
    Childhood was torture growing up because i couldn't protect my mother from that monster.
    He is now sick and keeps on trying to reach out to me.
    I wish him nothing but the worst for robbing me of my childhood & abusing his wife & my mother to such cruel extents.
    But i do want to forgive him, so i can live without this burden.
    Not for his sake, but for my own peace of mind because all i think of when i see his face is a knife, his neck & my hands.

  • @RetreatfarmFarmvilleVirginia
    @RetreatfarmFarmvilleVirginia Рік тому +32

    I Think this is one of the most strongest of Human natures challenges. It is something that we definitely need the Holy Spirit's guidance to fight the Natural urges of hatred, revenge and ultimately violence. It's the Ultimate example of Forgiveness and the most rewarding when we succeed. I'm struggling with this myself and even though i've forgiven the person and moved on, Satan continues to bring up the issue in an attempt to tempt me to go back on my forgiveness promise. It is not easy. Prayer helps a great deal.

  • @regpharvey
    @regpharvey Рік тому +10

    Father, I want to thank you for your ministry. I am not Orthodox but your talks have helped me on so many occasions. May God continue to bless you in your work.

  • @vladimirjokicic7609
    @vladimirjokicic7609 Рік тому +14

    The life of Holy Martyr Nicephorus clearly shows how God rejects arrogance and crowns humility and brotherly love with glory. Two close friends lived in Antioch, the learned priest Sapricius and the ordinary, simple citizen Nicephorus. Their friendship somehow turns into a terrible mutual hatred. The God-fearing Nicephorus tried several times to reconcile with the priest, but the latter did not want to do so. When the persecution of Christians began, the priest Sapricius would be sentenced to death and taken to the execution. The grieving Nicephorus had followed Sapricius, begging him on the way to at least forgive him before death, and to part in peace: "I beg you, martyr of Christ," said Nicephorus, "forgive me if I have sinned against you!" Sapricius did not even want to look at his rival, but calmly and proudly walked towards death. But seeing the hardness of the priest's heart, God did not want to accept his martyr's sacrifice and crown him with a wreath, but secretly took away his grace. And at the last moment Sapricius renounced Christ in front of the executioners and declared that he was going to worship idols. He was so blinded by hatred! Nicephorus begged Sapricius not to deny Christ. "O beloved brother, don't do that, don't deny our Lord Jesus Christ, don't lose the heavenly crown!" But all in vain. Sapricius stood his ground. Then Nicephorus shouted to the executioners: "I am a Christian too, cut me down instead of Sapricius!" The executioners reported this to the judge, and the judge ordered them to release Sapricius and cut down Nicephorus. Joyfully Nicephorus placed his head on the stump, and would be cut down. And so he became worthy of the kingdom and would be crowned with an immortal crown of glory. This happened in the year 260 during the reign of Emperor Gallienus.

  • @growingwealth101
    @growingwealth101 Рік тому +43

    I'm Catholic and this is the most vital sermon on UA-cam. Period. The refusal to forgive is the ONLY thing that locks you in Hell for eternity. Many NDEs of Christ helping ppl escape Hell but His hands are tied in this situation. NDEs prove it!

    • @mcrdl76
      @mcrdl76 5 місяців тому

      Thanks

  • @bonnie5826
    @bonnie5826 Рік тому +36

    Father you are a blessing from God! How many countless times your videos destroy my pride and tell me what I need to hear. Glory to God ❤️🙏☦️

  • @KEscano88
    @KEscano88 Рік тому +14

    Father, this was the most timely video. I forgave and asked forgiveness from a very abusive man. It took listening to your chat to realize that until I forgave him for what he did to me, I could never be truly free.
    Lord, have mercy on me a sinner. ☦️

  • @jamestregler1584
    @jamestregler1584 Рік тому +9

    Wandered longer than the Israelites Father, but thanks be to GOD I am free in Christ 😇

  • @andreasvasiliou8823
    @andreasvasiliou8823 Рік тому +34

    Thank you Father, I feel as if I really needed these words. May God be with you.

  • @manolis.799
    @manolis.799 Рік тому +13

    Thank you Father, I have a hard time escaping the memory of past grudges, especially with people that I am forced to interact with regularly.

    • @SilouanWright
      @SilouanWright Рік тому +4

      "Lord Jesus Christ, have mercy on [insert their name]". Repeat it over and over. Recognize your own sinfulness, and you will see yourself in others that do wrong against you, and your heart will be more open to forgiving them.

  • @alexnegash4011
    @alexnegash4011 Рік тому +10

    I watch most of your videos and i like them even though i am in Ethiopia and we have a big challenge by our government to over through the Orthodox tewahdo church.pray for us

    • @ЦЯП
      @ЦЯП 10 місяців тому +1

      I am also from ethiopia and we are praying for u brother

  • @cpzehr
    @cpzehr Рік тому +14

    I am a Muslim but Christ was still messiah and I value your teachings of him. Thank you and God bless you.

  • @andrehaave
    @andrehaave 2 місяці тому +1

    Thank you Father Spyrion! Forgive me for not attending church yesterday Father! Our enemy is confucing me again leading me away from Faith in our Lord Jesus! Please forgive me Father in Heaven! I am grateful for all that you have done for me in my life! For the life that you gave me! I forgive them! Please help me let go of what they did to me in my childhood and upbringing! I need you Lord Jesus! I don't want to live in trauma, bitterness and sadness anymore. ❤️

  • @MrPearlsareforever
    @MrPearlsareforever Рік тому +2

    Forgiving is the hardest challenge for me.

  • @mcrdl76
    @mcrdl76 5 місяців тому +3

    This is ME, ME , ME! Thank you for this incredibly important homily- Fr. Spyridon!

  • @kitwarjri7086
    @kitwarjri7086 Рік тому +11

    I'm prebyterian but I love listening to Fr,Spyridon.Thank you vry much for yr teaching.Greeting all the way frm India.🇮🇳

  • @ephremkidnae7094
    @ephremkidnae7094 Рік тому +1

    I am orthodox from Eritrea but when ever I listen to this father I learn a lot but one thing I didnot feel any holespirt in his teachings.knowing scripture and church fathers words not enough in Christianity unless holysprit spoke to you our heart will not feel at rest. Thanks father anyways.

  • @ELLHNIKA
    @ELLHNIKA Рік тому +3

    Fr. Spyridon your channel is the only channel that’s gives me peace, ease of mind, wisdom of my creator and redeemer, and knowledge on how to conduct myself to stay steadfast with the lord in this life.
    Ευχαριστούμε παρά πόλη
    Χριστός Ανέστη ☦️

  • @Kratos70
    @Kratos70 Рік тому +7

    I Had A Dream Many Many Years Ago, That I Was In A White Room With Someone That Did Me Wrong, I Was Told That I Need To Forgive Before I Can Move On.
    All I Know In This Realm I Stay Away From Those Who Are Having Negative Energies Towards Me And My Loved Ones.
    Be In Peace My Brothers And Sisters

  • @sm3756
    @sm3756 Рік тому +17

    Thank you Father

  • @tammyatkins18
    @tammyatkins18 Рік тому +13

    The hardest thing is forgiveness when they continue to do it

    • @SilouanWright
      @SilouanWright Рік тому +1

      It’s easier once we “fully” believe that we commit sins every single day (multiple), continually, even though we know better. And yet, we are granted forgiveness by a loving God, but yet we refuse to extend this mercy to others. Because deep down, we think what we do is not so bad compared to others…. but this is not true Christianity is it? St. Paul called himself the “chief of sinners”. It’s hard to forgive others of course… if we don’t truly understand the amount of forgiveness we both need, and receive from God. And we are just as bad as the people that inflict our wounds. This is the witness of the Orthodox Church. Through this understanding, we start to heal our relationships with other people.
      I will say, many people don’t know the difference between reconciliation and forgiveness. If someone shoots you with a gun, forgiveness is not walking over to them and letting them shoot you again, necessarily. We forgive, but we can surround ourselves with whoever we choose, which is what the Bible tells us to do.

    • @SilouanWright
      @SilouanWright Рік тому

      ​@warrior of God Orthodoxy does not agree with the venial / mortal sin distinction in the same way catholicism does.

  • @xmc7189
    @xmc7189 Рік тому +7

    I am oriental orthodox but I like Fr Spyridons talks and sermons. So soothing.

  • @danielreed7408
    @danielreed7408 Рік тому +4

    I love you Fr Spyridon. Forgive me. May God forgive us both.

  • @NavelOrangeGazer
    @NavelOrangeGazer Рік тому +15

    Exceptional homily Father. As a convert forgiveness vespers has become one of my favorite services the Church blesses us with throughout the year.

  • @djz9584
    @djz9584 Рік тому +13

    ☦️☦️☦️ Father Bless! And Thank you.

  • @Askhatkun
    @Askhatkun 10 місяців тому +1

    I am a Muslim. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us. It helps a lot

  • @carolflower9672
    @carolflower9672 4 місяці тому +1

    FORGIVENESS - Thank you Father Spyridon May the Lord have mercy on us all

  • @olgapedinski6115
    @olgapedinski6115 Рік тому +10

    Thank you for not making faith seem easy

  • @brecruz4832
    @brecruz4832 Рік тому +35

    Sometimes we have to forgive someone over and over because we pick up the unforgiveness again when we are hurt again.
    That’s why we say the Lord’s Prayer everyday

  • @TByronK
    @TByronK Рік тому +6

    Thiis may be one of the most important talks you have given so far Fr. Spyridon and thank you again. ☦

  • @johnwest8077
    @johnwest8077 Рік тому +10

    Thank You Father Spyridon Very powerful words God Bless

  • @Joshualbatross
    @Joshualbatross Рік тому +2

    You don't have to like people, but you DO have to love them!

  • @genetgslassie2282
    @genetgslassie2282 Рік тому +3

    I read in the book of Pop Shenouda III "life of repentance and purity" ... God is equally as just as He is Merciful. Too often we want to remember God's mercy but we don't want to remember His Justice.

  • @slavi7191
    @slavi7191 Рік тому +10

    Thank you for this message, father. I needed to hear this.
    God bless.

  • @lazywastelander5250
    @lazywastelander5250 Рік тому +9

    This was exactly the message I needed today. Thank you Father.

  • @thetwogardens6048
    @thetwogardens6048 Рік тому +3

    Thats a Tough one Father Spyridon.

  • @mditt7
    @mditt7 2 місяці тому

    Thank you for a much needed, timely, insightful and inspiring teaching Father. I am a Roman Catholic appreciating the gifts of my wise and wonderful Orthodox Brothers and Sisters

  • @luischavez5846
    @luischavez5846 Рік тому +4

    Thank you, father. God bless you in Jesucristo, Amen.

  • @KelliCoalburner
    @KelliCoalburner 6 місяців тому +1

    Thank you Lord, for teaching me humility.

  • @annalynn9325
    @annalynn9325 Рік тому +6

    Thank you for this homily, forgiveness is such a struggle for me
    “I pray thee, Lord, especially for those who have offended me in any way, or have sorrowed me, or done me some other evil: do not punish them on account of me, a sinner, but instead pour out thy grace upon them.”
    St Tikhon’s Monastery prayer book

  • @shawnhembree4145
    @shawnhembree4145 Рік тому +8

    Maybe the real ruination is for the perpetrator who refuses to repent and make amends, and the true restoration is for the victim who forgives, because we are never more like our God than when we forgive. They may appear to gain the world but they forfeit their eternal soul- " Whom the Son sets free is free indeed "

  • @iliesculiliana5846
    @iliesculiliana5846 Рік тому +2

    NEVER HEARD SUCH EXPLANATIONS.YES INDEED TO FORGIVE IS A CROSS TO TAKE UP IT S CRUCIFIXION IT S EXTRMELY PAINFUL A HEROIC DEMAND. MAY GOD GIVE US HIS GRACE STRENGTH TO FORGIVE

  • @LuzE-cd
    @LuzE-cd 3 місяці тому +1

    Thank You Father,your speach full My heart.Thank You,thank You.

  • @PhamVans
    @PhamVans Рік тому +1

    Always forgive, but never forget has always been my motto.
    Resentment is a terrible burden to carry, I remember when I would struggle with negative thoughts about certain people.

  • @xavierlaflamme8773
    @xavierlaflamme8773 Рік тому +3

    I have two old friends. I no longer speak to for over 10 years. I have seen then here and there in town and we ignore each other. This call for forgiveness has been in my mind and heart for months. This was a strong message that next time I see them, I can no longer ignore them

  • @missartistsky759
    @missartistsky759 Рік тому +6

    Let all the hearts find peace in forgiveness , free yourself from the habitual reactions and forgive.
    And you see the other side of things.
    Peace .

  • @percussionist48
    @percussionist48 Рік тому +6

    Thank you Father Spyrydon for your patience in teaching us the truths of our heavenly Father. It gives me the moment to reflect upon myself. forgiveness in these days are becoming as war on our spirits.
    God bless you Father Spyrydon ✝️

  • @patodwyer721
    @patodwyer721 Рік тому +3

    Thank you Fr.Spyridon for your Wisdom and Guidance.
    Lord Jesus Christ be merciful to me a sinner

  • @miketacos9034
    @miketacos9034 Рік тому +1

    Your soul is innocent and loving when you are born. In this life you will endure great suffering and unfairness. But if you can protect your soul from soaking up the evil and the injustice, you will keep this pure nature of love intact… and it will be as if the evil never happened to you. There may still be pain and that should be attended to with respect and honesty. And obviously in this world boundaries or punishments may be necessary, but for you, your soul, you can be liberated from the cycle of trauma by striving to Christlike love. That is the message I got from this video. Very powerful. Obviously it is not easy, especially for people who have endured incredibly horrific things. But it is possible with God’s love.

  • @tomsen2503
    @tomsen2503 Рік тому +4

    Father I struggle with forgiveness. Please pray for me.

  • @autumnsmith3585
    @autumnsmith3585 Рік тому +2

    This is, perhaps, the Best sermon on UA-cam.

  • @daniomdt3660
    @daniomdt3660 Рік тому +5

    Bless you father Spyridon , just in time!

  • @psjasker
    @psjasker Рік тому

    Somewhere above a man or woman flies a small airplane knowing nothing of the eternal mystery pondered below. Thank God for Father Bailey

  • @joannevos6321
    @joannevos6321 Рік тому +1

    I am catholic as well, I also love what he says! Thank you, Father.
    🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

  • @chris_palmer_sr
    @chris_palmer_sr Рік тому +6

    I love you brother. Thank you.

  • @mitlivhader3349
    @mitlivhader3349 11 місяців тому +1

    i love this man

  • @Friday-i1m
    @Friday-i1m Рік тому +1

    Thank you for this video very informative that’s what the priest told me when I went for confession he told me the same thing I was so hurt💯🙏💯

  • @Etihwkcirtap
    @Etihwkcirtap Рік тому

    I'm officially orthodox. Your pod cast help me convert from trad latin. My heart has been orthodox 20 years ago. I just needed rigorous early church theology. Thank you father .

  • @selfsearchingmind
    @selfsearchingmind Рік тому +5

    Thank you so much for your message , I have been rebuilding my connection with the lord and your videos are what I need. God bless

  • @TruckerMike089
    @TruckerMike089 Рік тому +2

    I wish I had heard this years ago. Lord have mercy

  • @VincentTamer
    @VincentTamer Рік тому +4

    The struggle I am having is what one should do if someone won’t acknowledge or apologize for the wrongs they have done. It makes forgiveness so much more difficult.

    • @SilouanWright
      @SilouanWright Рік тому +3

      If our pre-requisite for forgiveness is that someone acknowledges or apologizes, we will live and die without forgiving many people. So what do we do?
      1. We must believe that forgiveness is beneficial for us. We don't need someone to pay us, before we take medicine. Likewise, we don't need to wait for someone to acknowledge they've done something wrong, to apply the ointment of forgiveness.
      2. We must first and foremost, acknowledge the wrongs that we have done. "“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' when all the time there is a plank in your own eye?" - Matthew 7:3-5. We are under the impression that people do wrong by us, and that we do little wrong. This is incorrect.
      3. The MORE we seek fervently to understand our own sinfulness, and how we fall short of abiding by the law of God, the more we will come to see ourselves in those who hurt us, and we will find it easier in our hearts to forgive them.
      4. We must read the lives of the Orthodox saints, and read the Bible. People were incredibly mean to Jesus, and did not forgive. What did he do? Before the end of his life, he said “Father, forgive them; for they do not know what they are doing" (Luke 23:34). The witness of most pure and Holy men and women in this world, is one of having pain, insults, abuse, ostracizing, and pain inflicted on them. And this is the cause for their "glorification"!
      We truly have it wrong. To suffer, to be done wrong against, is apart of the experience as someone who is Christian. And if we are truly Christian, we embrace these things. If we don't embrace these things, then we are picking and choosing what we like about Christianity, and what we think it's actually about. We create an idol for ourselves that doesn't resemble what Christianity is.

    • @VincentTamer
      @VincentTamer Рік тому +3

      @@SilouanWright Hello and thanks for sharing all of this. I'm aware of this. I know I can come to a place of forgiveness, for this person especially, but not all offenses are the same and this one will take time and effort. Pray for me!

    • @SilouanWright
      @SilouanWright Рік тому +1

      @@VincentTamer I understand. I myself am a hypocrite.
      The first step is acknowledgment. At least acknowledge that you should, and that weakness is what prevents you from doing so.
      And just remember... whatever offense might befall you, can it compare to "our" offense to Jesus. We offend God so much more many times over, than people commit offense against us. God said, if we do not forgive people, we shall not be forgiven. We have to ask ourselves, do we want to hold our grudges more, or do we want to lay hold of our salvation?
      And also, whatever suffering befalls us, is it greater than how Jesus suffered for us? Our suffering is not close to His suffering. He was slapped, beaten, spit on, scourged, and crucified... by His own creation. In many lives of the saints, their body parts were amputated. Their skin was flayed. Breasts were cut off. They were tossed into a furnace. They were decapitated. Again, I am a hypocrite... but this is the importance of reading the Bible, and reading the lives of the Saints. So yes, I agree, not all offenses all the same. If we see that holy people suffered the greatest offenses, and still truly loved their enemies, their adversaries, and those who persecuted them, it can embolden us, it can soften our hearts.
      I suggest looking up an Orthodox prayer from St. Nikolai Velimirovich called "Bless my Enemies". Don't try to logically convince yourself of any of this, we must simply "pray" truly about it. Also, ....if you have the strength.... it is proper to pray for this person who has wronged you. "Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on [name]". And even do prostrations for them, saying the prayer on each prostration. We can do it and it "will" soften our hearts towards this person.
      Lastly... part of the experience of being Christian is focusing on our own fallen nature. Do we not hurt others? Do we not sin? When we communicate the hurt we experience from others, there can sometimes be pride hidden within it, because what we are saying, is someone else hurt us. But what about us? We deep down, feel that we don't hurt anyone. When you start to lay hold the offense that we cause to others (especially to God), when people do wrong against you, you start to see them as yourself! If I recognize the greatness of my sin, how can I not forgive someone who, in their weakness, sins as I do?

    • @lindsaypeek63
      @lindsaypeek63 Рік тому +1

      I know this struggle praying for the person did help and finally knowing that “because Jesus said so” we can do it for Jesus. It also keeps the devil from having a foothold on us. Don’t want those pesky demons having rights to torture us

  • @Bluettes-cm7wo
    @Bluettes-cm7wo 7 місяців тому

    I love your Spirit Fr Spyridon, you reflect Jesus and touch my heart 💖🕊️

  • @dimitrioskladouchos4876
    @dimitrioskladouchos4876 Рік тому +2

    Thank you father Spyridon for these soul shaking words. Have a blessed Great Lent.
    The unworthy from Las Vegas

  • @phillyfitter4079
    @phillyfitter4079 Рік тому

    Father you are a very saintly man. I truely love to listen to you. I'm sorry that you orthodox just seem to dislike the RC's but I a RC do love you. Keep up the good talks. Thank you Father.

  • @PaurRoo777
    @PaurRoo777 Рік тому +2

    Wow this came at such an important time fore, thank you..

  • @jade2003YT
    @jade2003YT 6 місяців тому

    This is the most important youtube channel i have ever watched

  • @brianlash154
    @brianlash154 Рік тому +2

    I recently forgive my fiancés brothers wife for saying hideous and cruel things about me during a Christmas dinner I wasn't at because of work. These lies were designed to get my fiance and her family to disown me, these lies were insidious and foul
    And for a while I was angry, I would not forgive her, I told myself,
    yesterday a subtle voice appeared into my head "you should forgive her" and it only took a minute to realize who this anonymous voice was and who they were referring to, I decided shortly after to forgive her for her evil lies and found no desire to be angry with her anymore
    The more often we are quiet and listen
    The louder God's voice is

  • @jasonstewart_ky
    @jasonstewart_ky Рік тому +3

    thank you, and bless you father

  • @chadofmercia2448
    @chadofmercia2448 Рік тому

    A couple months ago I was falsely accused of two terrible crimes that I didn't commit. Each day I lay awake at night filled with fear and hatred for the person who's accused me of such things but I am trying my best to forgive this person. Its very hard to but I try my best. Thank you for this video.

  • @BrutusMayhem567
    @BrutusMayhem567 Рік тому

    Once again the wisdom of your words is very deep. It's now been about 3 weeks since I quit cannabis after seeing your video about it. I haven't touched it since. But I'm starting to realize what I've been covering up my whole life. Things I thought I let go of, Thought I already dealt with and moved on from are now coming back to haunt me. I constantly have feelings of violent revenge going through my mind. Things I would never actually do anyway keep cycling through my mind. I thought I already forgave that. Why is it back? I have prayed for my heart to be softened but it feels like there's something in me that's not letting it happen. It might be part of withdrawal symptoms. I don't know, but it's very concerning. I don't want to be caught in a state of non forgiveness. The anger in my brain sometimes is just unbearable. I feel like I need to be exiled for awhile until this passes.

  • @NerdBaconReviews
    @NerdBaconReviews Рік тому +1

    Thanks for this message Father.
    I've been struggling with this issue for a while now; but it's undeniable, our calling as Christians is to forgive.
    Thank you!

  • @ChaplainDeanna
    @ChaplainDeanna Рік тому +1

    Thank you, Father.

  • @laurindacleveland5176
    @laurindacleveland5176 Рік тому +4

    Your speech gives me so much peace.

  • @sustainablelife1st
    @sustainablelife1st Рік тому

    For me, forgiving the ones who hurt me is like asking me to fly to the moon. I want to, but it just doesn't come. I move on, and don't think about it. But when stray thoughts of those who have hurt me (very badly, not minor things) come, I just feel frozen inside. Sometimes I think all my other work it totally wasted due to this flaw in my spirit. Vengeance isn't necissarily wrong, but it belongs to God, who will repay the way HE sees fit.
    This is a wonderful talk Father. Thank you. I will meditate on this.

  • @yored8853
    @yored8853 Рік тому +2

    Thank you! I am going through something and I need to forgive people who caused me pain and distress. I needed to hear this. Thank you.

  • @kimthetruthofit6965
    @kimthetruthofit6965 Рік тому +1

    Our Lord has taught us there is only one way to live , say from your heart these words, I forgive 🙏

  • @Friday-i1m
    @Friday-i1m Рік тому

    You are 💯‼️right Fater Sperydon I’m married my husband at14 had 8 children with him which we lost our first two Angels he discarded me like a piece of trash I caught him cheating with our sons mother n law which she’s also married my stress level was tremendous I was on a roller coaster for three years in 2022 5:39 5:39 was in Greece and went too St David’s monetary for confession I really had a hard time forgiving him which he also turned our 6grown children against me the priest told u have too forgive him I had such a terrible time forgiving him but when I got back home USA I called him up and told him I forgive u and our grown children I must say I feel much better I thank my lord Jesus Christ for that Amen☦️🙏💯‼️

  • @tlilley6237
    @tlilley6237 Рік тому

    Thank you for this homily. I needed to hear it as I struggle with how terribly my father treated me and discarded me and even as a grown adult and took care of him in his final stage of colon cancer, he never apologized for his horrible actions against me. Then when his will was read to the other family members- I wasn’t included, found out that he excluded me from anything he owned- in the first hateful and hurtful paragraph. So he even hurt me from his grave. I didn’t do anything to him ever except suffered his abuses. So it’s hard to forgive BUT I don’t have to associate with my family , which I don’t. They are just as mean and cruel as he was. So I forgive his hatred and ignorance but the whole sorry bunch can live their filthy godless lives. I only can pray for them.

  • @hopingtobewheatnotatare172
    @hopingtobewheatnotatare172 Рік тому +1

    I'm sure glad this guy takes the time to make these videos, I don't know what country he preaches at but I live in Central Kentucky and likely couldn't afford to travel to hear him any other way so I am sure grateful to God that God imposes it on his heart to do these videos. And its really impressive that he has SO MANY views on his channel, many of the videos get 15 and 20,000 views...he like doesn't even think about it but its nearly identical to 20,000 SOULS being setting in his church building, listening to him preaching and THAT IS REALLY PRETTY AWESOME!
    Praise God that so many take the time to listen and I'm sure it would be many times that if people knew about his channel.

  • @michaeloshea1830
    @michaeloshea1830 Рік тому

    The truth of how much my sins have offended a holy God is powerful to meditate on.

  • @garyhazelgreen1759
    @garyhazelgreen1759 Рік тому +3

    Thank You Father I needed to hear that message