I’m also an artist, and the introversion is real, and almost necessary. This video reminded me of when I lived in Paris for a short time. Before breaking up with my long-term boyfriend, I was pretty sad. I would go to the cafés in the 10e and read Margaret Atwood books until the sun started to go down, trying to make my noisette last. I can’t wait to go back to the city I love a much happier person.
I love your ramblings! It’s not boring at all, it feels like sitting across from a friend and just hanging out. As an artist myself, I completely agree with everything.
Your story about the painter guy reminded me about a older man when I was at uni, who sat around at the library doing “research” in archeology.. he ended up recruiting dozens of kids to do research for a book project for months, before they discovered he was just delusional and there was no project! 😳
Wow. I go for coffee, lunch or a drink by myself all of the time. My friends and I are in a stage of life where meeting spontaneously isn't really going to happen, so we plan meetings two, three weeks ahead. It never crossed my mind that someone might think I'm lonely just because I drink my coffee or eat or have a drink by myself. Oh and if I might add, I wouldn't care even if someone did. I literally don't care what's going on in strangers heads.
I can totally relate with you. I feel like what people think of me is non of my business. So it never even crosses my mind what they think of me. I also vacation alone all the time and dont even think of how I would be perceived.
@@PawDiva I agree, I travel and vacation alone too sometimes and it's not lonely- it's just a different type of vacation (that I happen to enjoy a lot actually)
I love meeting random people when I’m out, I love when people want to share a part of their life with me, it brings me joy. I just did my first solo trip to Palermo and it was so rewarding to be on my own, spending time with yourself is such a blessing. Thank you as always for taking us along. Also wine and fries…. The perfect way to end the night.
"Shit I don't Know" (as requested) I would rather be alone in a cafe..so interesting, i can hardly paint or write! I love to "read" the people walking by....... Thanks for this video it was the kind i like!!! You go girl!
#freeboobs I stopped feeling guilty, feeling tired, feeling restricted when I finally admitted to myself that I enjoyed my own company and I didn't care what other people thought about my choice of solitude
I completely relate to that feeling of wanting to see people but knowing that you have things you want to accomplish. The one drink thing is so real. I have a bar near me that I go to a lot, and sometimes I’ll text people that I’m going for one drink, and then I’ll bring a book and have my one drink. If people come, great, if not then I just go on to the next thing.
you do NOT sound like a loser. Your self expression is beautiful & I innerstand the artist balance struggle truly. You have to find company in your art and your expression... so fucking hard but the journey is true.
Shayna, please don't make your vids shorter. They're not boring at all 💚This one was really comforting to me as someone who also wants to achieve a lot but has to sacrifice some stuff to reach my goals. Love you 😘 Also, shit i don't even know 😜
It’s not being alone or with the wrong people that makes you feel lonely. It’s your self judgements and what you say to yourself when you’re alone or how you are expecting from others when you’re with them that make you feel alone.
I related so much to this video as a uni student and a writer. Your time management, self awareness, style, braveness and honesty are the blueprints for my twenties 💜💜
'my days in the cafes' but instead of 'days' its 'daze' n it could be an ironic play on feeling a sense of clarity when experiencing the world without keeping up social performance. or it could be a daze as in how it feels like ur in a special bubble, a sense of separation from the real world like moving into ritual or sacred space or smth. idk i really enjoy ur philosophy lol
I really enjoyed your coffee shop guy story, ahaha 😅 Also, speaking of writing a book about coffee shops, there’s a book called ‘Before the Coffee Gets Cold’ which is about a coffee shop in Tokyo with really bizarre stories, Japanese literature is surreal! 💕🥸
It's funny how artists have a way of being in sync with each other from the ways we operate with aversions to structures, social expectations, and prolonged seclusion. I recently re-watched some Sex and The City cause I missed the nostalgic comfort. You talking about the joys of living in a big city at night and the mystery and secretiveness of a rendezvous with yourself is one of the reasons I fell in love with nyc also, yet still struggle to feel free and comfortable in it without friends or others to do my little oddball activities with. It made me think of the ep in Sex and The City, where Carrie is scared of being seen alone in public and basically congratulates herself in the end for not needing a book while alone at a cafe. Whereas this view is still putting a judgemental expectation on single women in public, yours is refreshingly grounded in self-honesty about your needs and you don't change an inch for the world just because it demands otherwise.
i'm an artist turned writer/academic... this is something that i've been grappling with for years, and i'm so happy to hear you talk about it. sometimes i feel as though i'm doing something wrong, or not managing my time well enough, because i can't uphold the same kind of social life as my 9-5 pals (absolutely no shade to them, whatsoever). it's an easy temptation for me to think thoughts which spiral into stress and fomo, and then i start thinking that i should just push myself to go go go all the time, or that i need to make myself always available... it can be a lot of pressure, and it's one of those things that i really need to be and stay mindful of. even just hearing you talk about similar feelings is so refreshing. i love this life-but it requires negotiations and compromises. it's important to remember that the pitfalls aren't necessarily my fault though; they're part and parcel. arohanui
I love ur cafe story. Some of my best memories are random interactions with strangers ! I’m also in awe at u being able to walk around at night, it’s so relaxing but I don’t really live in an area where it’s safe to do that
Sometimes it’s really hard for us to balance social life and our goals, dreams and things we want to achieve all at the same time. I think growing up means prioritizing the things that matter the most in our lives in order for us to continue going the right path. Sometimes we want everything that will bring us joy, but we can’t have everything all at the same time. I’ve realized that it is true that often we feel alone in the wrong group of people, or friends. Going out alone is one of my favorite things to do, sometimes people ask me how I’m able to go to the movies alone, a cafe, a museum… I always tell them that there’s no pressure when I’m alone. I can go anywhere I want, at my own pace. I love my friends and being around people but I also learned being in my own company and spending time with myself is one of the best things I can do to improve the relationship I have with myself and be a better friend for myself.
for us extremely sensitive souls, going to specific places on the earth is difficult due to the energetic signature they contain; the catacombs contain the energetic signature of lack (not enough room above earth to bury bodies), as well as the energetic signature of haste (not enough time to have proper ceremony for the dead), and the energetic signature of secrecy (not enough naturally occurring light for true transparency) - these things affect our energetic bodies, rip holes into our auras, and drain our energy because the dark cannot produce its own light, therefore sucks it out of natural light sources (e.g., us lightbeings). i appreciate your bravery to know your limits and protect your energy, utilizing it towards your goals and the expansion of human consciousness through your art (and entertaining the minds of those less fortunate neurodivergent people who are drawn to your light). it's beautiful. 💖
I am an artist. I used to ride the train to Munich and sit, eat, draw in the cafe of the Pinakothek art museum. It was such a special thing I did for myself, with myself. I will head to my local one this week, inspired by you. Thank you. 💙
You walked the path I walk every morning and at some point were almost at my door 😄 The 5th is awesome. Even though by now I feel I know every little crack in the pavement seeing it on camera still feels magical. As if living here means living in a film set. Great to see you spent such a happy night!
As an artist, the hardest part for me is letting go of a piece. Artists love people and need others around. We can't make art without living, BUT we go through periods of seclusion. After the inspiration comes the hibernation and creating. It's a sacred thing.
i could not sleep thinking about all those exact things im going through. questioning about how i can manage my time to work on my art, and who i give my energy to in my relationships, stop being afraid about loneliness but also stop goin out with people or to places i dont really vibe with: allowing myself to take care, open up to spontanous and simple suprises of life. i am axious about all of this tonight and i just had this intuition i could find awnsers and conforting words with you. there you are and i thank you and i love you 🍀
I’m always confused if I want to consume art or make art, but I for me I feel like it is impossible to do both 💔 but for this moment I’m just going to enjoy this piece 😊💙
Same here! But I do not think it is impossible to do both, in fact I think it is great because many amazing artists in the past did that. Some were even dealers (Rembrandt, for instance). And as an artist you are in a special place for that, you can buy because you know it is good or just because you like it or even because it is a friend of yours who needs your support... It does not matter for me, it is all good!!
@@salomemolas I'm a writer but when I'm in the midst of writing a book, I actually don't like reading - esp. when the writer has amazing prose, because it makes me insecure about my writing style. I think this is equivalent to watch Antibookclub is talking about.
I completely understand! I'm the same with writing - I always need to take a break from reading books in order to get my own imagination and voice flowing. However, when it comes to painting, consuming art always gets me in a painting mood. No idea why that's different, but it is.
This isn’t boring at all! I don’t have a ton of art adult friends, so it’s nice “talking” with you and hearing about your life in Paris. It also makes me feel better when you said you talk to yourself- I’m married and me, myself and I have more conversations some days than my husband and I do 😂 but you’re a very chill, inspiring person. It’s been a rough year thus far and your videos have continuously reminded me to keep going, to keep pushing forward and acknowledging my emotions and feelings. You’re truly a gift to this world, so thank you for sharing with us ❤️
Wow. I'm an introverted actor / film director who also MUST have that uninterrupted time to just BE / create. also I LOVE PARIS AT NIGHT. More please x
It’s not rude or selfish at all to feel like you’d rather be alone when you’re out with others. That happens so often for me and it’s just further proof you’re an introvert. Nothing wrong with it. I love going to a cafe or restaurant by myself and writing in my journal or reading a book. Something about being in public alone just opens you up to so many more interesting opportunities that you wouldn’t have with other people around you.
Knowing yourself is key. So glad you are honoring that. I hope you no longer feel embarrassed or ashamed for doing what you need to do. Who cares what it looks like to others. You are a boss artist making her dreams come true. You are focused on your goals. You are disciplined and successful. You're a grown ass woman and you can do whatever the F you want. Shit, I don't know. LOL
I enjoy doing things on my own. When I lived in Hamburg in Germany (my home), I went all the time to coffee shops alone. And I know some people might find it weird, but it just really inspired and relaxed me to be with my, my thoughts and my projects. I also used the time to study Spanish. And there were a loooooot of people on their own. It's the second-biggest city in Germany, of course, people enjoy time alone to relax. But some people might feel like it's lonely? Now in Spain, it is totally normal to get breakfast alone, to go to a bar alone, to get a coffee alone. No one cares :) And I love that! :D I regularly go on photo-taking walks on my own and afterward when I come home to my partner, I'm full of energy, new ideas, and happy.
We love a good night vlog🌔 I love how no matter what’s going on you try to keep your head up and appreciate the small things, like enjoying your own company. Always a pleasure watching your videos💞
thank you for this video. it was so nice hearing from you i just love it. and all of these comments are so lovely. all of you sound like such sweet people. idk if this will make sense but thank you for changing my perspective on life. i really don’t know how to explain it or if anyone gets it.. but after watching or seeing certain people.. the way i see life is different. i was having a bit of an anxious day lol and now i’m just thinking about nice cafes and cool people. and not caring what people think.
I love your videos! I love being alone. I like my own company and enjoy cooking, sewing, quilting and watching badly done old creature movies lol! I look forward to your adventures!
I've been on my own for 11 years and I rarely have people approach me when I go out. I'll dine by myself, go to movies, and even concerts by myself. I think in the States people are more closed off especially in bigger cities. I'm totally OK with that for the most part but I wouldn't mind meeting someone more organically like that but it seems rare. I enjoy spending time with myself because every moment seems like a new possibility.
One thing I really miss and took for granted was having an art class where everyone is gathered working on their art but in their own zones and just collectively creating together in silence . Now I find it hard to focus on art by myself… at least when I’m in a relationship- when I’m completely alone I can focus. Working on that….
yeah sometimes having other artist around you can really promote growth, some friendly competition, and most importantly someone to bounce idea off with when needing some thoughts on process.
I absolutely loved this video and I think its because it felt like a preview to a movie, usually the sit down talk(s) lasts about 5 min and then the meat of the video is the rest of the vlog but listening to you talk out loud about how you were deciding to end your day that day and reminiscing over past café experiences was shining a light on quotidian life.
I just went for a walk to my local gelato shop and then a walk around the neighborhood on a Friday night and I had such a good time all by myself ❤️ Thank u for the inspo Shayna!
The scene where you paint in the café in the Latin Quarter reminds me so much of my high school years, the noise, the color of the lampposts at night on the chairs. this is where I was studying and it reminds me of a very beautiful period. thank you for these memories relived the time of a moment.
Thank you for sharing your perspective on spending time alone. I live in the SF Bay area and used to love going to cafes on work nights to paint. I was able to get in at least two good hours of painting before they closed with little to no distractions. As soon as I get home, I've got housework, phone calls, my cat meowing for attention... :D but in the cafe, it was easy to focus on just the task in front of me. The added caffeine helps too, of course. Regarding painting with white - you may want to try gouache. It takes some getting used to, but once you get the hang of it, you will find that it gives you a lot of room to make mistakes and then fix them and add layers too. The possibilities are limitless and you can take it to cafes.
for any one interested the song at 18 mins is called bees by alex g. I've been looking for it for like 6 months and I'm so happy I've finally found it :')
I love the scenes of Paris at night!! It’s somehow very calming to me. I also feel inspired to go out by myself now. I’ll bring my sketchbook along and see what happens! Also...Shit! I don’t know!😜
this was reassuring to hear about your experience. I live alone and am an artist trying to make a career on my own, and it's hard to find others in the same situation, so it is a relief to hear you talking about it.
I really enjoy hearing about your routine as an artist. I just quit my job to work/travel as an artist full-time for a personal project and it is pretty challenging. But, I admire the balance you've come to and the flexibility you embrace.
i’m only halfway through but ohhhh my goodness i can relate, i think it’s such a weird societal assumption that you have to align your desires with someone else to be valid, like no fuck that, one of my birthday presents to myself was to buy a concert ticket for next february and it’ll be my first concert by myself, idk man the world is weird and balance is important and so are friends and community but this only child and introvert definitely feels the most pure and wild joy in solitude
I completely relate on the fact that sometimes I feel lonelier surrounded by people than when I am actually ALONE ! Your not an alien, your just human... being alone , feeling alone it’s more a feeling, not a status, not a fact... love watching your videos like always, love your energy, love your art
i love you, i listen to you talking as im finishing my summer scrap/sketchbook and it feels like im just chilling with a friend but it's not distracting bc you're not expecting a response. it's great. you art and practice inspires me so much so thank you !!!
I totally feel you! I recently bought an iPad and started digital art (I want to make a Webtoon) and god I have so much work I need/want to do and I really feel like I just want to isolate myself and do the creative things I want. But then I want to go out… But then I want to stay in lol. And yes I talk to myself all the time it helps a lot🤣 And walks alone help me so much to get some fresh air.
Beautiful night in Paris! Actually, 10 pm ... things are just getting started! God bless you, Sweetie, and stay safe. Good luck with all those projects. Kiss, kiss.
I love how frank you've been lately! you've struck a great balance of positivity and being real. it isn't boring at all, btw. It was nice to eat and listen. also, about nighttime! when I lived alone I had a requirement for myself to leave the house once a day, and sometimes I had to leave at night so I wouldn't "fail"...and it was always so worth it! it's good advice on ur part :-p
Tihis was really enjoyable, Shayna!; Quirky , real, and imbued with fun and Parisian sang froid….. It is a treat to hang out with you while you muse about your world and what you’re doing-! Thanks for sharing !!
I have a stressful morning ahead and this video was just what I needed to start my day on the best possible note 😊 I've lived alone for years now, and have always really loved going to cafes on my own for a change of scenery. I can relate to your story of bumping into the painting man - I find that every trip I make to somewhere alone inadvertently comes with a new story of someone I've met, either there or on the way, whether I intended it to be a quiet art and writing day or not 😛 Most of the time I kind of appreciate that though... even though I've only seen or spoken with the majority of those people just once, I still remember a lot of them years later! ✨
talking to yourself isnt being a loser if so im a major loser lmao. i enjoy talking to myself it helps me air out my feelings with no judgement of another person in any way. its nice.
This was such a lovely video to watch! I like your thoughts, your honesty and your spotaneity. The way you reflect on the choices you have to make to achieve your goals is actually very mature. As a mental health professional, I wanted to say that talking to oneself can be a very healthy habit and a coping strategy in many circumstances, especially if we are living alone, and it absolutely doesn't make one a loser! It helps to ward of the feeling of loneliness, to keep our brain faculties engaged, to clear our thoughts and to uplift, encourage and motivate us. (As the old saying goes, it is only when your furniture starts answering that you need to seek help 😉) As an artist, I find your art beautiful and your entire style really cool, and that bra over the tshirt not only looks amazing, it is also just such a statement of independence!
This resonated with me so much! I'm struggling to 'do it all' but learning that I have limits and have to make sacrifices for my art. It can be worth it though! ❤️
When I was single living in the city center , I loved going to cafes with a poetry book or my laptop writing poems about the people I see or the people i met the night before ☺️ I need to remind myself that even if I’m in a long term relationship, I should be ok to hang out with just myself sometimes
I like watching your videos and I also like a lot to read the comments. It’s a beautiful community, these comments are so wholesome and it’s like we can relate to each other 🥰
"Shit I don't even know"! There haha. also, I know the feeling. I"m a classical singer and the physical (health) dimension of singing makes it very stark how you are obligated to take care of yourself even though you don't necessarily feel like it.
I made it to the end. I too live alone. I once lived in London and its a great place to be alone sometimes! I now live near Byron Bay in Australia and have two beautful cats for company. Love you xx
As an artist lonliness is the price you pay to be able to be single minded. Let me say that it takes fortitude.. while the world is out there playing and staying busy, the artist is working at home, alone. I cannot stress enough that this is the way of you want to be on a higher place. Never sacrifice your art for people, parties, socializing. This takes a self discipline that no one knows. Stay at it, never make excuses for yourself. Just know it's true. Never apologize, ever.
Loved the whole night tour and restaurant clip. And I totally agree I’m also such an ‘alone’ person and I’ve always thought of it as being abnormal but I realise more and more that it’s totally okay and it just show how anchored I am, not needing to care about others’ opinions.
I’m also an artist, and the introversion is real, and almost necessary. This video reminded me of when I lived in Paris for a short time. Before breaking up with my long-term boyfriend, I was pretty sad. I would go to the cafés in the 10e and read Margaret Atwood books until the sun started to go down, trying to make my noisette last. I can’t wait to go back to the city I love a much happier person.
The introversion is soooo vital! I’m a visual artist and writer and find I need so much alone time to sink into my practice :)
I’m excited for you for the day you go to Paris again in a new frame of mind!
Yesss Margaret Atwood ❤️ I feel like I’ve got this imaginary fairy godmother who takes her form
Same actually
I love your ramblings! It’s not boring at all, it feels like sitting across from a friend and just hanging out. As an artist myself, I completely agree with everything.
Your story about the painter guy reminded me about a older man when I was at uni, who sat around at the library doing “research” in archeology.. he ended up recruiting dozens of kids to do research for a book project for months, before they discovered he was just delusional and there was no project! 😳
he sounds awesome haha would've loved to talk to him
Wow. I go for coffee, lunch or a drink by myself all of the time. My friends and I are in a stage of life where meeting spontaneously isn't really going to happen, so we plan meetings two, three weeks ahead. It never crossed my mind that someone might think I'm lonely just because I drink my coffee or eat or have a drink by myself. Oh and if I might add, I wouldn't care even if someone did. I literally don't care what's going on in strangers heads.
I can totally relate with you. I feel like what people think of me is non of my business. So it never even crosses my mind what they think of me. I also vacation alone all the time and dont even think of how I would be perceived.
Give me the recepy!!!
@@PawDiva I love that, I want that! hahaha
@@PawDiva I agree, I travel and vacation alone too sometimes and it's not lonely- it's just a different type of vacation (that I happen to enjoy a lot actually)
@@belu2438 I wish I could package and sell the recipe 🤓
I love meeting random people when I’m out, I love when people want to share a part of their life with me, it brings me joy. I just did my first solo trip to Palermo and it was so rewarding to be on my own, spending time with yourself is such a blessing. Thank you as always for taking us along. Also wine and fries…. The perfect way to end the night.
"Shit I don't Know" (as requested)
I would rather be alone in a cafe..so interesting, i can hardly paint or write! I love to "read" the people walking by.......
Thanks for this video it was the kind i like!!!
You go girl!
#freeboobs
I stopped feeling guilty, feeling tired, feeling restricted when I finally admitted to myself that I enjoyed my own company and I didn't care what other people thought about my choice of solitude
I completely relate to that feeling of wanting to see people but knowing that you have things you want to accomplish. The one drink thing is so real. I have a bar near me that I go to a lot, and sometimes I’ll text people that I’m going for one drink, and then I’ll bring a book and have my one drink. If people come, great, if not then I just go on to the next thing.
you do NOT sound like a loser. Your self expression is beautiful & I innerstand the artist balance struggle truly. You have to find company in your art and your expression... so fucking hard but the journey is true.
You actually did inspire me to go out by myself in a cafe, get a cappuccino and read a book. It felt really nice like I went on a date with myself! :)
I totally relate to you, I so often prefer being by myself, because I became my own best friend
I love seeing you wander the streets of Paris at night, it reminds me of Midnight in Paris!
Shayna, please don't make your vids shorter. They're not boring at all 💚This one was really comforting to me as someone who also wants to achieve a lot but has to sacrifice some stuff to reach my goals. Love you 😘
Also, shit i don't even know 😜
It’s not being alone or with the wrong people that makes you feel lonely. It’s your self judgements and what you say to yourself when you’re alone or how you are expecting from others when you’re with them that make you feel alone.
I related so much to this video as a uni student and a writer. Your time management, self awareness, style, braveness and honesty are the blueprints for my twenties 💜💜
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I don't even know... but I too love going out alone. All my spidey senses are activated and I feel ALIVE! Never alone.
'my days in the cafes' but instead of 'days' its 'daze' n it could be an ironic play on feeling a sense of clarity when experiencing the world without keeping up social performance. or it could be a daze as in how it feels like ur in a special bubble, a sense of separation from the real world like moving into ritual or sacred space or smth. idk i really enjoy ur philosophy lol
Guys, never sacrifice friends and loves ones for work, it is always the first regret that human have at the end of their lives
I think the server at the cafe likes you. Keep us posted on your interactions with him
I really enjoyed your coffee shop guy story, ahaha 😅 Also, speaking of writing a book about coffee shops, there’s a book called ‘Before the Coffee Gets Cold’ which is about a coffee shop in Tokyo with really bizarre stories, Japanese literature is surreal! 💕🥸
It's funny how artists have a way of being in sync with each other from the ways we operate with aversions to structures, social expectations, and prolonged seclusion. I recently re-watched some Sex and The City cause I missed the nostalgic comfort. You talking about the joys of living in a big city at night and the mystery and secretiveness of a rendezvous with yourself is one of the reasons I fell in love with nyc also, yet still struggle to feel free and comfortable in it without friends or others to do my little oddball activities with. It made me think of the ep in Sex and The City, where Carrie is scared of being seen alone in public and basically congratulates herself in the end for not needing a book while alone at a cafe. Whereas this view is still putting a judgemental expectation on single women in public, yours is refreshingly grounded in self-honesty about your needs and you don't change an inch for the world just because it demands otherwise.
Exact! I feel less alone as a single person. I was lonely when I use to be married.
Love your lonely girl vibe at the café! So romantic and inspiring ♥️
i'm an artist turned writer/academic... this is something that i've been grappling with for years, and i'm so happy to hear you talk about it. sometimes i feel as though i'm doing something wrong, or not managing my time well enough, because i can't uphold the same kind of social life as my 9-5 pals (absolutely no shade to them, whatsoever). it's an easy temptation for me to think thoughts which spiral into stress and fomo, and then i start thinking that i should just push myself to go go go all the time, or that i need to make myself always available... it can be a lot of pressure, and it's one of those things that i really need to be and stay mindful of. even just hearing you talk about similar feelings is so refreshing. i love this life-but it requires negotiations and compromises. it's important to remember that the pitfalls aren't necessarily my fault though; they're part and parcel. arohanui
I love ur cafe story. Some of my best memories are random interactions with strangers ! I’m also in awe at u being able to walk around at night, it’s so relaxing but I don’t really live in an area where it’s safe to do that
Neo liberalism creates poverty.
(That should be a teeshirt!)
I love being by myself but never felt comfortable going out in the evenings by myself. Thank you for showing us how not to be scared🖤
Sometimes it’s really hard for us to balance social life and our goals, dreams and things we want to achieve all at the same time. I think growing up means prioritizing the things that matter the most in our lives in order for us to continue going the right path. Sometimes we want everything that will bring us joy, but we can’t have everything all at the same time. I’ve realized that it is true that often we feel alone in the wrong group of people, or friends. Going out alone is one of my favorite things to do, sometimes people ask me how I’m able to go to the movies alone, a cafe, a museum… I always tell them that there’s no pressure when I’m alone. I can go anywhere I want, at my own pace. I love my friends and being around people but I also learned being in my own company and spending time with myself is one of the best things I can do to improve the relationship I have with myself and be a better friend for myself.
for us extremely sensitive souls, going to specific places on the earth is difficult due to the energetic signature they contain; the catacombs contain the energetic signature of lack (not enough room above earth to bury bodies), as well as the energetic signature of haste (not enough time to have proper ceremony for the dead), and the energetic signature of secrecy (not enough naturally occurring light for true transparency) - these things affect our energetic bodies, rip holes into our auras, and drain our energy because the dark cannot produce its own light, therefore sucks it out of natural light sources (e.g., us lightbeings).
i appreciate your bravery to know your limits and protect your energy, utilizing it towards your goals and the expansion of human consciousness through your art (and entertaining the minds of those less fortunate neurodivergent people who are drawn to your light). it's beautiful. 💖
I have recently started to wake up more early for school, and your videos really help me get up for the day, thank you! Sending lots of love❤️
I am an artist. I used to ride the train to Munich and sit, eat, draw in the cafe of the Pinakothek art museum. It was such a special thing I did for myself, with myself. I will head to my local one this week, inspired by you. Thank you. 💙
You walked the path I walk every morning and at some point were almost at my door 😄 The 5th is awesome. Even though by now I feel I know every little crack in the pavement seeing it on camera still feels magical. As if living here means living in a film set. Great to see you spent such a happy night!
As an artist, the hardest part for me is letting go of a piece. Artists love people and need others around. We can't make art without living, BUT we go through periods of seclusion. After the inspiration comes the hibernation and creating. It's a sacred thing.
i could not sleep thinking about all those exact things im going through. questioning about how i can manage my time to work on my art, and who i give my energy to in my relationships, stop being afraid about loneliness but also stop goin out with people or to places i dont really vibe with: allowing myself to take care, open up to spontanous and simple suprises of life. i am axious about all of this tonight and i just had this intuition i could find awnsers and conforting words with you. there you are and i thank you and i love you 🍀
I’m always confused if I want to consume art or make art, but I for me I feel like it is impossible to do both 💔 but for this moment I’m just going to enjoy this piece 😊💙
why would it be impossible to do both? artists too take inspiration from other artists
Same here! But I do not think it is impossible to do both, in fact I think it is great because many amazing artists in the past did that. Some were even dealers (Rembrandt, for instance). And as an artist you are in a special place for that, you can buy because you know it is good or just because you like it or even because it is a friend of yours who needs your support... It does not matter for me, it is all good!!
@@salomemolas I'm a writer but when I'm in the midst of writing a book, I actually don't like reading - esp. when the writer has amazing prose, because it makes me insecure about my writing style. I think this is equivalent to watch Antibookclub is talking about.
I completely understand! I'm the same with writing - I always need to take a break from reading books in order to get my own imagination and voice flowing. However, when it comes to painting, consuming art always gets me in a painting mood. No idea why that's different, but it is.
hey, another artist here! its absolutely possible to do both, we need to know what is happening in the art world, its part of our job:)
This isn’t boring at all! I don’t have a ton of art adult friends, so it’s nice “talking” with you and hearing about your life in Paris. It also makes me feel better when you said you talk to yourself- I’m married and me, myself and I have more conversations some days than my husband and I do 😂 but you’re a very chill, inspiring person. It’s been a rough year thus far and your videos have continuously reminded me to keep going, to keep pushing forward and acknowledging my emotions and feelings. You’re truly a gift to this world, so thank you for sharing with us ❤️
I don't think anyone would wonder about someone sitting alone in a café. I do it all the time and never get stares.
Lovely video as always!
Wow. I'm an introverted actor / film director who also MUST have that uninterrupted time to just BE / create. also I LOVE PARIS AT NIGHT. More please x
I went to the catacombs in 2019 when I went to Paris! It was awesome
That painting is incredible! 🤩
i personally love it when older people tell me their stories :D i also think that it makes them happy that someone listens to them :D
It’s not rude or selfish at all to feel like you’d rather be alone when you’re out with others. That happens so often for me and it’s just further proof you’re an introvert. Nothing wrong with it.
I love going to a cafe or restaurant by myself and writing in my journal or reading a book. Something about being in public alone just opens you up to so many more interesting opportunities that you wouldn’t have with other people around you.
Knowing yourself is key. So glad you are honoring that. I hope you no longer feel embarrassed or ashamed for doing what you need to do. Who cares what it looks like to others. You are a boss artist making her dreams come true. You are focused on your goals. You are disciplined and successful. You're a grown ass woman and you can do whatever the F you want. Shit, I don't know. LOL
I enjoy doing things on my own. When I lived in Hamburg in Germany (my home), I went all the time to coffee shops alone. And I know some people might find it weird, but it just really inspired and relaxed me to be with my, my thoughts and my projects. I also used the time to study Spanish. And there were a loooooot of people on their own. It's the second-biggest city in Germany, of course, people enjoy time alone to relax. But some people might feel like it's lonely?
Now in Spain, it is totally normal to get breakfast alone, to go to a bar alone, to get a coffee alone. No one cares :) And I love that! :D I regularly go on photo-taking walks on my own and afterward when I come home to my partner, I'm full of energy, new ideas, and happy.
You are never boring and I loved the evening walk in Paris. Also the large painting is great 👍
Your plants are so big! I remember when they were little babies! They look sooooo happy.
We love a good night vlog🌔 I love how no matter what’s going on you try to keep your head up and appreciate the small things, like enjoying your own company. Always a pleasure watching your videos💞
thank you for this video. it was so nice hearing from you i just love it. and all of these comments are so lovely. all of you sound like such sweet people. idk if this will make sense but thank you for changing my perspective on life. i really don’t know how to explain it or if anyone gets it.. but after watching or seeing certain people.. the way i see life is different. i was having a bit of an anxious day lol and now i’m just thinking about nice cafes and cool people. and not caring what people think.
I love your videos! I love being alone. I like my own company and enjoy cooking, sewing, quilting and watching badly done old creature movies lol! I look forward to your adventures!
I've been on my own for 11 years and I rarely have people approach me when I go out. I'll dine by myself, go to movies, and even concerts by myself. I think in the States people are more closed off especially in bigger cities. I'm totally OK with that for the most part but I wouldn't mind meeting someone more organically like that but it seems rare. I enjoy spending time with myself because every moment seems like a new possibility.
omg i’m early.. i just wanna say that you inspire me so muchhhh, i just graduated law school and you helped me so much when i was doing my thesis!!
One thing I really miss and took for granted was having an art class where everyone is gathered working on their art but in their own zones and just collectively creating together in silence . Now I find it hard to focus on art by myself… at least when I’m in a relationship- when I’m completely alone I can focus. Working on that….
yeah sometimes having other artist around you can really promote growth, some friendly competition, and most importantly someone to bounce idea off with when needing some thoughts on process.
"I don't have white on my color palette" is my new motto.
I absolutely loved this video and I think its because it felt like a preview to a movie, usually the sit down talk(s) lasts about 5 min and then the meat of the video is the rest of the vlog but listening to you talk out loud about how you were deciding to end your day that day and reminiscing over past café experiences was shining a light on quotidian life.
HO MA GAWD Shayna at night aesthetic is something I didn't know I needed
i relate❤️
I just went for a walk to my local gelato shop and then a walk around the neighborhood on a Friday night and I had such a good time all by myself ❤️ Thank u for the inspo Shayna!
Beautiful video as always, thank you for inspiration 🤍
Seeing you being comfortable spending time alone outside, makes me more comfortable outside alone as well!
this notification has made my day
I was starting to get bored on here and I just saw ur last vid on my homepage, an instant happiness rises, u make my tuesdays better hehe
The scene where you paint in the café in the Latin Quarter reminds me so much of my high school years, the noise, the color of the lampposts at night on the chairs. this is where I was studying and it reminds me of a very beautiful period. thank you for these memories relived the time of a moment.
You can’t talk for just 10 mins. and I’m glad! 😊❤️
I am an artist and I work a full time job still. Having that time to work on stuff is so important
I love how you are both vulnerable and strong, positive and honest. It is really helping me reconcile those opposites within myself. :)
I love your videos Shayla. They always give me a different perspective about life. I always feel happier. Thank you for sharing so much of yourself.
I definitely agree with you on feeling less lonely when alone but still enjoying hanging out with people!
I loved hanging out in Paris with you
Thank you for sharing your perspective on spending time alone. I live in the SF Bay area and used to love going to cafes on work nights to paint. I was able to get in at least two good hours of painting before they closed with little to no distractions. As soon as I get home, I've got housework, phone calls, my cat meowing for attention... :D but in the cafe, it was easy to focus on just the task in front of me. The added caffeine helps too, of course.
Regarding painting with white - you may want to try gouache. It takes some getting used to, but once you get the hang of it, you will find that it gives you a lot of room to make mistakes and then fix them and add layers too. The possibilities are limitless and you can take it to cafes.
Found you, thankfully, because of Carrie Dayton! Only about two minutes in and I’m already hooked.
for any one interested the song at 18 mins is called bees by alex g. I've been looking for it for like 6 months and I'm so happy I've finally found it :')
I love the scenes of Paris at night!! It’s somehow very calming to me. I also feel inspired to go out by myself now. I’ll bring my sketchbook along and see what happens!
Also...Shit! I don’t know!😜
„shit I don’t know“ as requested in the end of the video 😂♥️
Love your videos. Agree about being comfortable with yourself. It feels good but can become isolating. Love the nights in Paris footage. XO
this was reassuring to hear about your experience. I live alone and am an artist trying to make a career on my own, and it's hard to find others in the same situation, so it is a relief to hear you talking about it.
I really enjoy hearing about your routine as an artist. I just quit my job to work/travel as an artist full-time for a personal project and it is pretty challenging. But, I admire the balance you've come to and the flexibility you embrace.
i’m only halfway through but ohhhh my goodness i can relate, i think it’s such a weird societal assumption that you have to align your desires with someone else to be valid, like no fuck that, one of my birthday presents to myself was to buy a concert ticket for next february and it’ll be my first concert by myself, idk man the world is weird and balance is important and so are friends and community but this only child and introvert definitely feels the most pure and wild joy in solitude
I completely relate on the fact that sometimes I feel lonelier surrounded by people than when I am actually ALONE ! Your not an alien, your just human... being alone , feeling alone it’s more a feeling, not a status, not a fact... love watching your videos like always, love your energy, love your art
i love you, i listen to you talking as im finishing my summer scrap/sketchbook and it feels like im just chilling with a friend but it's not distracting bc you're not expecting a response. it's great. you art and practice inspires me so much so thank you !!!
I totally feel you! I recently bought an iPad and started digital art (I want to make a Webtoon) and god I have so much work I need/want to do and I really feel like I just want to isolate myself and do the creative things I want. But then I want to go out… But then I want to stay in lol. And yes I talk to myself all the time it helps a lot🤣 And walks alone help me so much to get some fresh air.
Beautiful night in Paris! Actually, 10 pm ... things are just getting started! God bless you, Sweetie, and stay safe. Good luck with all those projects. Kiss, kiss.
YOU ARE SUCH A BADASS!! ugh i get so freaking happy when you post
I love how frank you've been lately! you've struck a great balance of positivity and being real. it isn't boring at all, btw. It was nice to eat and listen. also, about nighttime! when I lived alone I had a requirement for myself to leave the house once a day, and sometimes I had to leave at night so I wouldn't "fail"...and it was always so worth it! it's good advice on ur part :-p
Tihis was really enjoyable, Shayna!; Quirky , real, and imbued with fun and Parisian sang froid….. It is a treat to hang out with you while you muse about your world and what you’re doing-! Thanks for sharing !!
Thank you for taking me out for a walk in Paris 💕
Loving the evening Paris walk, more please!
I have a stressful morning ahead and this video was just what I needed to start my day on the best possible note 😊 I've lived alone for years now, and have always really loved going to cafes on my own for a change of scenery. I can relate to your story of bumping into the painting man - I find that every trip I make to somewhere alone inadvertently comes with a new story of someone I've met, either there or on the way, whether I intended it to be a quiet art and writing day or not 😛 Most of the time I kind of appreciate that though... even though I've only seen or spoken with the majority of those people just once, I still remember a lot of them years later! ✨
talking to yourself isnt being a loser if so im a major loser lmao. i enjoy talking to myself it helps me air out my feelings with no judgement of another person in any way. its nice.
This was such a lovely video to watch! I like your thoughts, your honesty and your spotaneity. The way you reflect on the choices you have to make to achieve your goals is actually very mature. As a mental health professional, I wanted to say that talking to oneself can be a very healthy habit and a coping strategy in many circumstances, especially if we are living alone, and it absolutely doesn't make one a loser!
It helps to ward of the feeling of loneliness, to keep our brain faculties engaged, to clear our thoughts and to uplift, encourage and motivate us. (As the old saying goes, it is only when your furniture starts answering that you need to seek help 😉) As an artist, I find your art beautiful and your entire style really cool, and that bra over the tshirt not only looks amazing, it is also just such a statement of independence!
This resonated with me so much! I'm struggling to 'do it all' but learning that I have limits and have to make sacrifices for my art. It can be worth it though! ❤️
White and Black nankin inks go super well to create deffinition on watercolors
"shit, I don't even know." lol
When I was single living in the city center , I loved going to cafes with a poetry book or my laptop writing poems about the people I see or the people i met the night before ☺️ I need to remind myself that even if I’m in a long term relationship, I should be ok to hang out with just myself sometimes
I like watching your videos and I also like a lot to read the comments. It’s a beautiful community, these comments are so wholesome and it’s like we can relate to each other 🥰
Thank you Shay...this video was really nice...I felt like I was walking through the 5th with you.😊
It's so good to do things alone, whether you live alone or not but I have to admit I still find it uncomfortable sometimes. Thanks for the video!
"Shit I don't even know"! There haha. also, I know the feeling. I"m a classical singer and the physical (health) dimension of singing makes it very stark how you are obligated to take care of yourself even though you don't necessarily feel like it.
I made it to the end.
I too live alone. I once lived in London and its a great place to be alone sometimes! I now live near Byron Bay in Australia and have two beautful cats for company. Love you xx
As an artist lonliness is the price you pay to be able to be single minded.
Let me say that it takes fortitude.. while the world is out there playing and staying busy, the artist is working at home, alone. I cannot stress enough that this is the way of you want to be on a higher place. Never sacrifice your art for people, parties, socializing.
This takes a self discipline that no one knows. Stay at it, never make excuses for yourself.
Just know it's true. Never apologize, ever.
Loved the whole night tour and restaurant clip. And I totally agree I’m also such an ‘alone’ person and I’ve always thought of it as being abnormal but I realise more and more that it’s totally okay and it just show how anchored I am, not needing to care about others’ opinions.
Always gaining inspiration and encouragement from your video :)))
Loved walking through Paris with you! Wonderful video.