This is is true - All Of It !!! - I am #2 counselor!!! My mom picked me to UNLOAD on and I loved it !!! I was young and it made me feel grownup to hear adult problems.
Thank You . Great job of explaining all of this with really easy to understand role playing examples. You have a huge amount to offer to help people, in a balanced way of course. 😻. So keep up the good work and enjoy your life. X ln
I'm the 3rd. and I recognize my sisters as the rest except we never really had a #2. I get told all the time I'm so quiet and reserved. how did I end up like this.
I wish he would quit calling addiction a disease. This was adopted by Betty Ford to escape the stigma of people thinking addiction was a moral deficiency which is also wrong, and his demonstration and most of what he says explains exactly why it is not a disease but a symptom of a trauma. He also explains in practically his first sentence why calling it a disease is harmful because it renders the addict powerless and believing that can keep a person stuck. Traditional, or 12 step based treatment has failed over 90% of addicts for decades. That detail seems to be left out of almost every conversation. Reminding an addict that they are an addict and telling them they are powerless is almost the worst thing you can tell a person battling an addiction, especially a young person because as he says at the beginning of the talk we develop our coping mechanisms because we need to feel we have some control over our environment. This is healthy. The problem isn't the drugs, gambling, food, sex, shopping etc. it is whatever came first. The behavior or substance is a solution initially. Of course, when an addiction develops It becomes a problem all of its own, but we all know you can take the drugs away but you won't stay clean unless you address the reason you were using in the first place.
12-step by itself does fail miserably when it is the ONLY pathway....8% effective (for OUD) However if introduced later (after medical stabilization, therapy, CBT etc) When the addicts stable There is nothing better (as long as the addict finds a non prejudicial 12-step group where some blubbering nicotine use disorder, overly caffeinated, glucose abuser starts tearing up over the fact some folks need medication) Then 12-step is great!
Substance use disorder is in the DSM-5, meaning it is a diagnosis and an illness. In fact, it is a chronic, progressive, terminal illness. I am not here to crap all over your recovery or how you understand your addiction, but STOP crapping on how other people see theirs. Whatever works and gets you healthy. However, don't be an asshole to other people in the process. Have some empathy and shut the fuck up.
This is is true - All Of It !!! - I am #2 counselor!!! My mom picked me to UNLOAD on and I loved it !!! I was young and it made me feel grownup to hear adult problems.
Literally got goosebumps several times throughout the video. You really have no idea how much I appreciate your work. Thank you for this!
Travis Kim me too !!! Uncanny how accurate this is !!!
@@kardoyle im sorry that you had such difficult childhood (like me) but we have hope ♥♥♥♥ im hopeful that things will be better. God bless you Karen!
Eye opening, thought provoking and you made something so complex relatable and understandable. Many thanks.
Thank You .
Great job of explaining all of this with really easy to understand role playing examples.
You have a huge amount to offer to help people, in a balanced way of course. 😻.
So keep up the good work and enjoy your life.
X
ln
This touched my soul 💜
should look on the positive side of life where children survive and move on with life
The role families play in addiction is killing the addict with their "love."
I'm the 3rd. and I recognize my sisters as the rest except we never really had a #2. I get told all the time I'm so quiet and reserved. how did I end up like this.
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Amazing
I’m the 2nd child the one that looks after everybody.
I am for sure the invisible child.
Me too.
I wish he would quit calling addiction a disease. This was adopted by Betty Ford to escape the stigma of people thinking addiction was a moral deficiency which is also wrong, and his demonstration and most of what he says explains exactly why it is not a disease but a symptom of a trauma. He also explains in practically his first sentence why calling it a disease is harmful because it renders the addict powerless and believing that can keep a person stuck. Traditional, or 12 step based treatment has failed over 90% of addicts for decades. That detail seems to be left out of almost every conversation. Reminding an addict that they are an addict and telling them they are powerless is almost the worst thing you can tell a person battling an addiction, especially a young person because as he says at the beginning of the talk we develop our coping mechanisms because we need to feel we have some control over our environment. This is healthy. The problem isn't the drugs, gambling, food, sex, shopping etc. it is whatever came first. The behavior or substance is a solution initially. Of course, when an addiction develops It becomes a problem all of its own, but we all know you can take the drugs away but you won't stay clean unless you address the reason you were using in the first place.
I don't think that my dependency issues have anything to do with my childhood trauma.
You have no idea woman
12-step by itself does fail miserably when it is the ONLY pathway....8% effective (for OUD)
However if introduced later (after medical stabilization, therapy, CBT etc)
When the addicts stable
There is nothing better (as long as the addict finds a non prejudicial 12-step group where some blubbering nicotine use disorder, overly caffeinated, glucose abuser starts tearing up over the fact some folks need medication)
Then 12-step is great!
Substance use disorder is in the DSM-5, meaning it is a diagnosis and an illness. In fact, it is a chronic, progressive, terminal illness. I am not here to crap all over your recovery or how you understand your addiction, but STOP crapping on how other people see theirs. Whatever works and gets you healthy. However, don't be an asshole to other people in the process. Have some empathy and shut the fuck up.
@@cadavison substance *use* disorder is in the DSM-V
There is no substance *abuse* disorder
Thanks for the insights
My addicted fiancé and all his addicted siblings!
not all drug addict parent resulted in drug addicted grown up children
And not all drug addicted grown up children had drug addicted parents
Funny how this disease works
This is a good video- but either he is talking to an empty room or he has the WORST audience ever. The lack of audience response made me sad.
Chance tyle