Such a great video! I'm engaged and there was a man who, in front of my fiance, was doing this "Ryan Gosling" stance (arms holding on to the top of the framework of a door, exposing his biceps and talking to me) ... We both thought it was a little funny and questioned whether or not he was being flirty but, I think I'm going to safely "assume attraction" there. Hahahaa He later offered to smoke with me and reminded both of us he was a massage therapist. 😂
True, if he keeps gazing at you and is flirting with you 'all the time', at least he's interested in you quite a lot! (Still doesn't mean he's in love, but he will most likely be soon with some 'persuasion' (mostly from my point: share of interests/PoV's ... from players it'll most likely to be more physical persuasion). ;) I general: He might simply not realize he might like you 'in that way' (most of the time we can't even tell what we're feeling .. we're not emotional beings...for a lot of men, we don't even realize we feel a certain way unless it goes beyond a certain threshold). Kinda like men often don't react/realize when a women is flirting, we will find her more attractive....but we're conditioned not to act upon it. Since our primal urges needs to be suppressed so much to conform with social standards, other feelings are often suppressed as well. We logically process the feeling of attraction and than logically decide if we should act upon those feelings or just ignore them, often conforming to how we were taught/what is socially accepted (probably for most men on a subconscious level). But yeah, especially with internet these days: just because a guy is flirting, doesn't mean he's in love. It does mean he's interested in you though (in some way), we don't flirt with people we don't like: we ignore them! (Sidenote: I'm not saying it's a bad thing for men to suppress/ignore certain feelings/urges and men should feel reluctant to act upon them for the good of society! More so, I'm saying women should get their act together and get some values too! (some do, most vocal/apparent ones though aren't mature enough to realize the consequences imo and don't).
Guys will say, and do anything they need too, to get in your pants. They will also be patient, and act like a friend, but once they see a weakness in your relationship, they will jump you faster than a cat on a bird. No male friend will refuse sex with their female friends. Also, all men think a lot about sex with their female friend. This is why women should not have male friends unless they want a friend with benefits. I know this because I am a guy, and have discussed this with my other male friends. Women who think their male friend is different are refusing to listen to facts from a man who has done this to sleep with 50-100 attractive women. I didn't want a relationship. I only wanted to use them for sex. Being married made no difference. Married women did things to me that they admitted, that they would never do for their husbands.
@@GoddessBlessYou flirting leads to thinking about the other person. This can lead to an affair, or casual sex. This is what Alpha males refer to as "pump, and dump". Guys get it up. Get it in. Get it off, and get out.
Sounds like a lot of ya'll are very young and just getting your work or career in order. No need to hurry into marriage and family. Have a little fun before settling down.
Watching this videos just keeps me doubting, there are some signs maybe some others not really, luckily I wasn't dying to know since before youtube suggested this kinds of videos thru ted talks i was watching
@@carrotjuice9647 Well, he was probably that 'is he flirting or just being friendly' type. Some people are bad about leading others on, it really sucks.
Well no. Wouldn't say that. Maybe they fear to do something wrong but you can see that they want to be around you even if they're not talking that much
1.wandering eyes 2.physical touch 3.wants to spend more time with you 4.thoughtful compliments 5.wants to know your status ( exp: if your single or in a relationship)
Players DO care about your relationship status. An employee at the gym I go to was flirting with me in a very obvious way for months, with most of his colleagues being very aware of his proactiveness towards me. He was also asking questions to find out who I was spending my time with (e.g who do you buy Christmas presents for, who is your friend you are meeting later town? Etc). Something didn’t feel right, so after a 5 minute search on Facebook I found his girlfriend who he had recently been on a trip with. All of his gym buddies obviously new he had a girlfriend, yet we’re condoning his behaviour towards me at the same time.
1. Wandering eyes. 2. Touch 3. Wants to isolate you away from others for more private intimacy escalation. 4. Thoughtful (specific/targeted) compliments. 5. Wants to know your relationship situation. Who you hang out with etc.
A man was looking at my lips and I thought he was interested, but when I went to the bathroom, I noticed I had spinach and ground peppercorn between my front teeth 🤔😂
He’s a business owner in the area and I’m one of his customers. When he sees me he engages me in long chats, compliments telling me I’m looking good, asking me where I’m going if he can come with me. I told him about my ex and he asks if I miss him. Before getting emotionally involved I looked him up on social media and found photos of him and a wife. So I now I totally avoid contact with him when he’s at the business premises. I’d look elsewhere. I have much better options than to be a married man’s side chick.
@@esthero1994 You deserve better anyway, she did you a favor. When he does the same thing to her, I'm sure she'll figure out why. Enjoy your peace while your ex has to live with the mistake he made.😉
who else watches these videos because the thought of being liked by crush is just a pleasure in itself. Just because he flirts with you, doesn't mean he's planning to be with you in a deeper level. Men would flirt with any girl that he finds beautiful or thinks that they're being liked by. Keep that in mind girls! Just go have enjoy flirting without expectations!
I want a man that is interested in me to be concerned about my safety and my inconvenience on the date. Last 2 date requests were first time meetings at their house, 1.5ish hrs away that I'd have to drive in snow and ice, when we've never met, don't know if we even like each other. I suggested meeting halfway for a burger, or coffee, and see how we feel. Nope. So they were both angry that I didn't trot out on command. Oh well. Not risking my safety and I think they should have some concern for it as well. We are 60, not 20.
Those were both men in their feminine energy So you dodged a bullet. You need to be the one receiving the effort, not being the do-er! Also your intuition is on point I’m so glad you have strong boundaries and know your needs, way to go!
Most of these indicators might ONLY indicate lust. ..You don't want a man who has lust for you, you want a man who has a pure heart that will love you and make you feel secure in that love.
How do you think romantic love begins?? It begins with attraction, lust, interest, etc and then can eventually lead to real and true love. A man who doesn’t know you from Adam doesn’t automatically just fall in love with you at first sight because you’re just so damn special lol. He starts out with attraction and interest and it grows into something deeper over time. This is real life not a Disney movie 😂😂😂
@@whitneyangelie3682 Wrong. First care must come, and to get to know each other, then when you both still interested then can flower to lust and deeper the love. We are not animals to lustfully go with anyone having lustful interest towards us. People want love, care and to know the person. I wouldnt let a stranger into my flat, meet in a neutral public place with lots of others maybe, but never let strangers into my bedroom. Lust can go to hell. Ive only seen lust visualize on desperate simps whom just wanted to fck anyone, i mean it, anyone.
I agree. I am not looking to get laid. I have more self-respect then that. It does seem the majority of his advice leads to sexuality, more then meaningful contact. I am about 1/4 okay with this guys advice.
Interesting, symbolic room props: Globe: wide experience. Not narrow-minded. Hourglass: time is passing. Make the most of it. Grass: Let relationships be natural. Two owls: wise partners Bonsai: life-long careful tending and shaping... stable, enduring, and beautiful. :)
Not a fan of that mushy-looking pink shirt. Such light skin needs a darker tone to contrast and bring it out. Pink shirt looks like same skin tone, is monotonous, dull. Don’t be dull. Be sharp.
Ha ha, i am married too, watching so if my daughter asks an advise i am actually prepared. But i keep finding that my husband always loved ans valued me.
Similar, there is pingpong pain issue with looking into their eyes. Shall i look into the left or the rigth, now switch... oh shit now ive realised my issue with this guy, he doesnt understands nor respects personal space. Bye.
I don't like #3 at all if he wants to be in a private place like his house on the first date or invite u over on the first day he met u. That just screams of him just wanting to get laid, there is nothing else to it. Men do this to me every single time. So sick of only meeting these types of losers.
Just to clarify, it sounds like you don't like men who escalate too soon or only want to have sex. #3 refers to isolation, which is a strategy used to escalate sexually. If you've been dating a high-quality partner for comfortable period of time and would like to escalate with them, then you may actually appreciate #3.
I definitely would, like u said, after a "comfortable period of time". Better yet, it would be absolutely awesome if men would wait for the woman to make the first moves, the first invite overs and the first taking his hand and lead him to her/his bedroom move.
Haha you know, this is true, just because it has happened to me some months ago (again). Stupidly I fell in love with this one guy. And it doesn't have to be wrong. If you get lay with a guy -really fast- it's not meant to be a failure, you can still have an amazing relationship. The wrong thing you're doing Like I just did is: if you know you can be in love with someone at first sight, then don't go too fast with sex. Get to know the person. If you have sex (and I also have quite experience in this) be opened to both options. Everything can happen because you don't know the person! I'm so sad right know believe me but it's not the end of the world ;) I've enjoyed so much the "one night stand" so instead of complaining, take it as a good memory. If this thing doesn't go with you, better not have sex with guys too soon. Finish
Világjáró well next time you met a guy ask him if he want to be in a relationship with you but you don't want babies and he will probably be respect to that
Thanks for letting me know, when I assume he’s interested...it’s a sign of confidence. A long time friend of always laughs at me when and if I smile after an interaction with a man. You’re right, better to be positive than to be negative. I needed to hear that.
@@spaceforthesoul6286 Yeah, the problem with these videos is that men generally don't give a crap about signals or subtlety. If you send them obvious signals, they're generally oblivious most of the time.
I'm so behind about knowing these things. I met a guy at a park and he tried to isolate me by inviting me to a more secluded area, um, no. But wow, i may have avoided a non- consentual experience.
Omg! The last time I was with my friend, he asked me about my current affairs. I asked him why he would want to know...I feel dumb. Now I know, thank you.
So many people have issues with his/ her parents. We have to be careful about being so needy of the opposite and the same sex attention. People who are obsessed with getting attention from others will end up in some horrible relationships, but if we self love... the sky is the limit.
I'm more interested in ways to discourage flirting without coming off rude. I work in customer service and can't call people out, or come off cold or rude without getting into trouble. But there's a couple customers who have started borderline stalker behavior and I need ways to shut that down amicably
A single girl in my crowd is always playful with her friend's husband. They stare at it other. Sometimes I catch them quickly whispers in in others ears. Or touching each other playfully. When she was drinking I noticed how her eyes kept searching for him. She goes quiet when I mentions his name.
I got a flirty personality which can get me in trouble sometimes and I struggle with noticing if a guy is really into me or if he simply has a flirty personality too.... cause I know how it is to be taken as being into someone when I wasnt intending to ... so I always overthink and look for ALL the signs
@LoveofVelvet yes but it's often these " little things " that show how much someone likes you. Before we were married my husband always went to get me soda when I asked .
I got a kick out of the comments. I always think it is funny that we want a man or woman in our lives, but insult, assume and group them all. I can tell you a man who would put me into a category without talking to me first would piss me off fast. There are a great deal of women that I prefer to not be "they" with. Therefore, I don't blame them for resenting it when we do that, it is dismissive. Of course we are all guilty of it to a degree. I don't know, my best indication is always in conversation with an individual. In my experience, men who you don't already have friendship with won't waste much time talking with you if they aren't interested unless you are really cool and they can tell you aren't hunting. :)
You make some interesting points. Although I do have preconceptions (pretty sure everybody has those) when I even just look at people, for me it's more a 'might possible be like' than a sort of 'oh, it's one of those' ... usually it's more confirmed into body language...but only actually confirmed after a few questions/answers... no doubt your general experience is different, from the way you wrote! I rather wonder about your "[some men] won't waste much time talking with you if they aren't interested unless you are really cool and they can tell you aren't hunting. :)" -I'm guessing you mean interested in a relationship, (or I guess in current time:) a short sexual one? Most men are visual: If it talks like a duck, quacks like a duck ... if you don't want to be viewed as one, don't act like a duck! -Define 'really cool'? -Aren't hunting ... n/o but to me that seems a lot more interesting person, although I might be wondering why you're 'there' .. most people in social gatherings are looking to 'hunt' for some kind of relationship ... eg boardgame club: looking for other people playing/enjoying boardgames.... might be misunderstanding it though, english not being prime language.. kinda reads like guys are only interesting in girls that aren't hunting.... If so: girls that 'are hunting' nowadays are mostly girls that want one-night stands etc, reassurance to their unsecure believes. Most likely, trying to get some dopamine from 'thumbs-up' posting selfies all day long from hundreds if not thousands of men. Even the 'perfect guy' won't ever be good enough for those kind of girls, since there will ALWAYS be someone who will agree with them, even when just trolling and thus a lot of women think they're right in their thoughts because of it: It's called narcissism ... and no man will ever be able to satisfy those kind of girls, grass is always greener on the other side of the fence ... and most women don't realize it's most likely just plastic! tldr: Personally I rather enjoy talking to people 'I've no interest in', if they're interesting and/or can expand my knowledge/2nd hand experiences.... Better to copy/paste than to try to invent the wheel and all that!
Holy crap...he does ALL these things! How it took me a month and a half to realize he is attracted to me, I don’t know! The last thing he did was put his hands in my hair, on the top of my head...I had curled my hair...and I moved my hand up to his in reaction (because I didn’t realize he was there and he came up behind me) and he casually said “I know you don’t want me to mess up your hair but your hair is so soft and pretty.” Yeah, it actually took me a month and a half 😂
Trying to isolate you to have more intimate contact could simply mean they simply want to have their way with you and satisfy their physical urges, and no more.
I had someone isolate with me, & we had great conversation. He is a lot younger than me, but I felt electric, which surprised the heck out of me. I will never forget him.
1. His eyes are wandering at your body, face lips. 2. Touching randomly. 3. He wants to spend more time with you ..he's around 4. Thoughtful compliment, not just any compliment...targeted compliment. 5. He wants to know if you are single...
I had a guy do a TON of these recently and did not pick up on a single one until the exact moment he was leaning in for a kiss (up until that moment, I didn't even realize he liked me, or that what we were on was supposed to be a date) ..He paid me nice compliments..his eyes wandered but I dont have the wandering eye kinda body so I didnt think much of it, he put his hand on my leg (low enough to be respectful) while we were sitting close and talking, he questioned my relationship status quite a bit and when I said I was cleaning for company that was coming over, he said 'oh..like a date..?' (It was family coming over, no date).. He made a comment about how he bets 'a lot of guys like me', I said 'if they do they're hiding it well or Im not picking up the hints' (I think that was a hint)
Boys/Guys these days are 'learned' not to wander their eyes all over your body ... if a guy does more than a tap on your leg or shoulder (read: caresses you instead) he's into you (be aware of players though)! 'if they do they're hiding it well or I'm not picking up the hints' ... since he didn't make a move prior, you might have wanted to wait a few seconds for him to react and say(with a seductive look straight into his eyes): 'Do you?' Even someone with no experience in dealing 'with the ladies' would've picked up that one and would most likely be acting on instinct (might not be so pleasant ;) , big chance 'he'll be all over you')... When I recall how I felt in my childhood I'd probably wouldn't be able to answer either, but I'd certainly would at least hug you (in my case kiss you all over your exposed body, even for a man with no experience that sort of 'line of thought' should be rather obvious ... but still I'm pretty sure some wouldn't get it... if you really like him, just kiss him (slow motion, don''t suddenly kiss him, move towards him slowly etc.... like you'd wanted to be kissed)! Unless he turned away/distanced himself from you when you made your previous remarks: You'll blow his mind! (Most likely he cared for you and just wanted to be happy etc, and never even realized he had feelings for you, let alone all the feelings you just 'unleashed' by hugging/kissing him)
Great video. Thank you. I notice when a guy will mimic my body language, or my speech pattern. The stance, the arm positions, or the head tilt. I also stay aware to see if they're just saying or doing things by faking interest to gain access. These guys get weeded out. They get to a point when their actions aren't so subtle and they try to step over the line, or get past the velvet rope! This is best sensed when you are not inebriated!!
To Mimic body language is usually subconscious behaviour though, but I agree, if somebody mimics those pretty much immediatly it's most likely being done consciously. Fake interest to gain 'access': personally, I've no experience of a woman ever doing this to me ... but faking anything is often quite noticable by either sex. Thus works other way around too. It's quite easy to 'weed out' fake/low value girls too. 'To the point when their actions aren't so subtle' ... kinda wonder what you mean by this? Most guys ... even shy ones looking for a traditional/steady relationship are kinda forced to 'learn the game' in this day of age.... because women expect them to, most women would hardly give those guys the light of day until 'they step up their game' .... and ones they do and it isn't so subtle (because they probably just looked at some 'how to pick up girls' vids and have little to no idea how to relate those 'tactics' to their personality) you just brush them over? To me it looks you're feeling entitled much... I'd really like a more clear view of your point on this.... And good for you, for weeding out fake interest etc. Even I can often tell 'players'/'pickup artists' by their behaviour on pretty much first sight though! (I wouldn't get those guys even get close to any female friends I have, unless they're actually interested in casual sex ...) Same for me for weeding out girls that are 2-dimensional/just want casual sex too, those kind of people are quite easy to spot ... I think easier for men though, since women tend to be more emotionally driven and thus are bit easier to 'fall for the trap'... nowadays though, it seems most women actually want that....
I wasn't really looking for these kind of advice. I have a couple of really bad relations behind me, a psycopath and a narcissist, and I was looking for videos about that. But now, I have seen some of your videos, and I realize that I have never looked for high quality men! I have settled for less... Thanks for new insight. Instead of giving up, maybe I will look for something else?
I absolutely wish I had this info about 5 years ago!! Looking back, there was a man that I was amazingly attracted to, and there were a couple of little things that made me think maybe he was attracted to me... But, I fouled it up TERRIBLY... and looking at the signs, I now think he REALLY WAS interested in me!! Dang!!
A lot of dudes go out of their way to make conversation with me at work... I thought it was just because they were trying to be cool as coworkers and all, but now this video has me wondering 😏
If you're not interested in a guy, don't flirt with him. If he flirts with you, respond coolly and don't flirt back just because you like the attention. A lot of guys misinterpret being friendly with flirting, so I've learned to keep it polite but professional with men in general. I smile a lot, but I don't smile broadly at most men and I don't get personal with them. It just makes life easier.
Miss Priss Or I could just live my life and not worry that I may be accidentally flirting with a random guy ( as interpreted wrongly by said guy) because I don't owe them anything and it is not my problem if he thinks I'm flirting with him when I am just being myself.
One guy that I didn't like started hitting on me, texting me, complimenting me, randomly touching me when asking or telling me something, randomly showing up at my door (I can't start describing how this made me mad and disgusted)..because I ddnt like him, I responded to him with disinterest, bluntly telling him this is not going to happen, I told him we couldn't even be friends since I knew his intentions, I turned down every proposal..finally he went, and I pray he never comes back. Now if I had wanted to lead him on, I'd have done it so well but we are both grown ups who don't have that much time to waste.
Miss Priss Flirt away even if u dont really want em for sure. people flirt for fun its normal function . it doesnt mean as much as u think. if a guy takes it all wrong.and u didnt go all out. too effin bad boo hoo
Oooh yes!!! He did the eye contact, the physical touch on the shoulder, the arm, the knee... BUT the lower back as we stepped out together from the lift, leading/ letting me step out first... my my my THAT was the biggest sign for me.. And I am on the journey of assuming the man IS attracted, I am an attractive woman and loved your video. 😊👌💕
Haha!!! he was going to be away from work, but kept his meeting with me even though he was already supposed to be gone. 😂 He saw me walking up to the building, and putting my sweatshirt on over my tank top and saw someone drive away behind me and assumed that I was dropped off. He casually mentioned, “oh, I saw your ride drop you off…” I assured him my car was in the parking lot
He notices details barely anyone else does. Like when I changes my hair. He complimented my handwriting the other day, in a very detailed way. 🤔 He tried to figure out if I want kids 😂
The universe always provides what is needed at the present moment. To those who reside in a consciousness of pure love, romantic relationships are not a priority.
I'm still in school so I am just going to say that I like this boy and he knows. I thought he hated me but I always see him hanging out with my friends and sister. I thought it was just a coincidence but he was only there when I was and constantly looking to see if I was smiling or laughing. If I'm not he always asks if I'm ok and if something happened and how he can help. He does this only to me and girls are all around him popular girls to. But he walked away from them to see if I was ok. (Edit: I asked my sister what they talk about and she said he asked about me and the kind of people I trust and consider important. I still really like him. He makes me laugh every time I'm sad and I'm good at hiding it when I am. He is one of the three people that can sense when somethings wrong. No one else ever can.)
What is "hidden" about these signs? Only someone with zero experience or social awareness would miss them, and they absolutely don't indicate that the men are "high quality" whatsoever. That "isolating" thing is downright creepy and I'm kinda worried for any woman who doesn't see it for what it is.
Yeah I found that weird too, but it doesn't always have to mean somewhere alone alone, like his house or car. Maybe just a quieter spot at a party (or whatever place) with less people (but still some people)?
Some of the comments here about the isolation show a lack of understanding. Some plain common sense needs to be used here. If you are in a populated place with a man and he's nervous around you and wants a chance to get to know you a little better he might suggest a quieter part of a place like moving to a quieter table in a restaurant or stepping into a quiet hallway or placing himself between you and the other people, or something of that nature. A high quality man is going to be aware of how you will feel if he comes off like a stalker. He will find a way to make both of you more comfortable by having some privacy for himself and by having you feel safe at the same time.
Absolutely true... One should assume that he's attracted! There was this man, he was my favorite professor. I was an older student so, we were very close in age, and the school had no rules against dating a professor. He and I ended up on the same El train and we were talking, and I was so nervous, and not wanting to "make him" keep talking to me because he's very polite. I immediately felt like an idiot for cutting off the communication. It was probably a week later he started dating someone else...
@Elizabeth Butler lol Hello, fellow shorty! I'm 4'9 and I dream of marrying a handsome big burly GIANT! 😆 Tallest guy I dated was 6'6. Oh God, I love giants...❤
I don't think there are any sure signs of flirting as people are complex. Touching can lead to sexual harassment complaints. Very touchy these days. Men who have been attracted to me have never been touchy. If they talk to you for a long time, they could be just friendly. The proof is when they pursue you.
I've had the same thing happen with three different guys recently - I guess it's sort of a variation of #1. We'll be carrying on a conversation, and literally in the middle of me speaking a sentence, the guy will suddenly interject to pay me some sort of compliment on my appearance. The first time it happened I was a little taken aback by the sudden shift in the conversation and reacted a bit awkwardly, but now that I've spotted the pattern I've learned to handle it more gracefully. I smile, take a moment to thank them and show appreciation for the compliment (because I do appreciate it!), and continue with the conversation.
Confused if this guy is truly attracted to me. Signs / signals given? : 1. He asked me to do business with him after knowing each other for almost 2 yrs. I am a business owner myself. 2. He told me "he believes he can trust me". 3. I have caught him staring at me while listening intently to my conversations with others. 4. When I locked eyes with him one day he clumsily dropped his gaze and looked around the room and the floor like he was embarrassed or uncomfortable. 5. He has mentioned some of his personal beliefs or values to me. 6. He has asked me about some of my personal beliefs or values. 7. He has told me a lot about (all) of his past relationships - the types of women he's dated, the women's personalities, how they broke up and how distraught he was over his last breakup because of being cheated on by her. He's been single after his last relationship for a year & a half (according to him). 8. He has asked personal questions about my past relationships - how many men I've dated, how long they lasted, weather I was engaged or married to them, how we broke up and how I managed to get over those breakups. 9. He points out anything & everything we seem to have in common by saying "I like that too, I do the same, I have / use the same things, I believe that too & I am the same way," etc. 10. After him seeing me talking with another guy, (just a casual conversation with an old acquaintance from many years ago, basically catching up after not seeing the guy for yrs) - the guy with the possible crush made a point to ask me how I knew the guy I was talking with, where I knew him from & how long I knew him. His interest was unusual and seemed casual but focused, as if he was trying to read my facial expressions / or body language as I answered his questions. 10. He currently always faces me with his whole body & face and looks directly at my face / eyes while talking to me regularly now 11. I have caught him standing taller and straighter & tucking in his shirt as I am approaching him from time to time.. 12. He has asked what my plans are for the weekend many times, even though he knows i'm still legally married - He's aware that my life is in transition and that I have been seeking separation & divorce for many months. 13. He has opened doors for me when he sees me coming, especially if i'm carrying something & has offered to help me get something that was somewhat heavy out of my car and / offered to let me use his supplies so that I don't have to strain my back by retrieving my own supplies out of my car. 14. He has apologized for cursing in front of me one time and has never used curse words in front of me again. - basically changing his behavior around me because he knows I don't use that kind of language. 15. After 6 months of displaying all of the behaviors above he made prolonged physical contact with me one day by gently pressing the front his body against my side, for about 10 - 15 minutes, while I was laying face down on his chiropractic table, while he was treating me... This was a couple of weeks ago. He had NEVER done that before so I was confused by this behavior and nervous about reading into his actions. He has also touched my back, giving it a little squeeze prior to treatment as he's lowering the table - I assumed his purpose in touching & squeezing my back was to make sure I didn't fall off the table as it was moving and /or to feel if there was any muscle tension in my back. The prolonged physical contact was definitely different than his usual touches! I know it seems a bit pervy to touch a woman in such a manner, but i can assure you that I didn't feel his "manhood" at any point, and he is a very tall man at 6' 4", so I believe that it was only his thighs / legs touching my side. My point is he finally broke the boundary between us after 6 months of slow, small, and seemingly methodical steps / changes in his behavior & actions towards me. Anyway... after that happened I didn't go back for treatment for about a week because my back was feeling fine. Whats confusing is after I went back he seemed to be distant / less talkative with me and seemed to be making a point to be more professional. I have to wonder if he lost interest, or I made him think I wasn't interested in him anymore by not going back for awhile after the incident had occurred? I don't know if he is just shy or nervous about perusing me because I am technically still married or if he was just testing me to see if I was the right type of woman for him or what? Or maybe i'm crazy and he's " just being friendly" - which I seriously doubt after the body contact incident! Please advise Jason as I am very attracted to this man & would like to see where this could end up, (hopefully a long term relationship if he's worthy), but I do not want to pursue him if he's just not that into me, - hence his distant behavior as of late? I am almost ready to move on and forget about him because he seems to be moving at a snails pace getting to know me & /or telling me that he actually likes me, (6 months, with the last 3, him being more & more obvious with his signals), which makes it incredibly difficult to be sure of his intentions, as his behaviors & interest seems to ebb & flow - like he gets up the courage to show interest, only to retreat back into his shell for awhile... perhaps to see how I will react? I get the feeling that he is testing me or putting me through the paces to prove my character / worth. I suppose I cannot fault him for testing me, (if that's what he's actually doing), because up until the body contact incident, I have been playing it cool, almost aloof, because I wasn't sure if I was reading his intentions correctly and didn't want to place our business relationship in jeopardy or embarrass him or myself if I was misreading his intentions! I almost forgot to mention that I am 49 yr old Cancer and he is a 58 yr old Taurus. We have established with each other long ago that we are both old fashioned, conservative personality types... which may have something to do with our somewhat reserved nature and inability to come forward about our true feelings / interest? Seems like we are at a stand off with neither of us feeling secure enough to make the next move? Your thoughts would be greatly appreciated! Thank You for your reply, Angie ps. sorry this was so long! .. there was a lot to unpack here!
The 4th being a thoughtful compliment is where intelligent guys who are assessing a women come to the fore. This is proper wavelength connectivity, basically a proper meaningful relationship. To most women the thoughtful compliment should be the gold standard for a true connection.
These applies to woman who is attracted to a man also. I once complimented a guy that I was attracted to, because I noticed how good he was with his attention to detail while he was working with me.
I may be a bit strange but openly checking me out is a total turn-off, on the other hand is that I find it absolutely awesome if a man can drag his mind through the gutter without me realizing it....all the while he is entertaining company. You do not actually have to body-sweep with your eyes focused on your "target"!
Can I make the suggestion... actually look at the camera rather than at the teleprompter. By treating the camera as a person, you engage them on a much deeper level. And makes you seem more authentic.
When you say high quality men, are you in reference to their income? Money doesn't make the man, the man makes the man. The man I'm with now, he is a blessing. On our 7th year.
I’m always looking for subtle hints like these. Trouble is #1 - wandering eyes. He’s a mailman so most of the time he has sunglasses on. I can’t tell where he’s looking. #2. Physical touch - goes along with #1. We’re both at work so now a days, he may be afraid of sexual harassment if you touch someone. #3 spending more time with you - again, difficult since he’s a mailman and we’re both at work. Though sometimes he does stay and talk for 2-3 minutes. If I ask him a question while he’s leaving, he’ll turn around, come back, and answer it. #4. Thoughtful compliments - not sure it means anything, but he’ll often say, “Good for you,” when I tell him things. #5. He’s never had to ask my relationship status because we’ve openly talked about our ex spouses and neither of us has ever mentioned anyone else.
Seems he's quite distant and mostly just being polite ... you could try touching him and see if he returns the favor. Seems he might find you interesting to talk to you/your opinion ... but since he's a mailman, he'd probably at least dropped a 'love letter without sender' by now if he was 'interested in that way'?
When ur crush doesn’t know u and look at ur eyes accidentally, u think he flirted with u… But he just saw u like a stalker always following him everywhere (;´༎ຶٹ༎ຶ`)
This isn’t about attraction by people you already have in your social circle and are in the proximity of, regularly. This has NO bearing on people at a party, in a supermarket or bookstore or coffee shop.
I don't know how to flirt, when they flirt or better yet I DON'T KNOW WHAT FLIRT IS ....I like to genuinely compliment people (women or men)...that is just how I am. Someone has to tell me they like me or else I would be so clueless...I have had people, when I was young, say that a guy likes me and they can tell by the way he acts or looks at me BUT I AM SO CLUELESS ABOUT THIS.
I invited a guy over to hang out and he didn't show up, he told me later he knew if he came he couldn't control himself, and he also said me inviting him to hang out was me inviting him over to have sex, what?! I thanked him for his honesty, I'll never invite a guy over to hang out again!
Hi. I totally agree with everything you said about these signs that shows a man likes you however these sign do not determine if the man is “high quality”.
It’s sad, but you might have a point. Not that I’d know. I’m a guy, after all. I guess the best you can do is learn to read people better. Men are (usually) more obvious than women about intentions, at least...?
I have one particular doctor I am extremely attracted to. One day at an appointment he noticed me checking him out. After he caught me, his lips noticeably parted for a solid minute or two. He looked down trying to conceal his reaction. Would a man not attracted to a woman have this reaction because he caught me or is this a definite sign of attraction? He had a very sexual look on his face he was trying to hide. I found it very hot but I’m sure it was awkward for him. On my very last appt with him a few weeks ago I caught him checking me out and smiling. After I noticed I shyly smiled back. I’m pretty sure he saw my reaction. So, I think he knows I’m crushing too lol Thank you for helping women with your vast knowledge of the dating world. It’s very appreciated. If you’re looking for video ideas, can you consider doing one about reading attraction of lip gestures? Thanks again!!
@@mary-vb7fm whoever that doctor dates will face have a string of female competitors , all sharing that shrinking pool of high status men, while average status men are all ignored ,leaving only a few sociopaths immune to frequent rejection gaining access..
Women, IF he is not doing any or some of these things then YOU do them to him and with ALL of the confidence in the world!! I do agree with him and just assume he is attracted to YOU!! And keep flirting with him while exuding confidence. I've been attracted to some men that were not the most handsome but their confidence made them handsome to me. I'm 56 years old and in my 50's, I've dated guys in their 20's. Yes, I take care of myself but it has more to do with the confidence I have in myself. AND IF you're not a confident person then PRETEND! Fake it till you make it as I say. Honestly, that's what I did. Good Luck!
Nonverbal communication speaks volumes. Look at someone's shoes if you are uncomfortable....most people have an opinion about good shoes vs. bad shoes.
Do you know any other indicators of attraction? Let me know in the comments!
They ask you out duh
They may ask you for a long trip and to spend more than a day 😇
Attract Great Guys 1
When you walk by and they like "daaaaaaaaaaaaamnnnn"
Such a great video! I'm engaged and there was a man who, in front of my fiance, was doing this "Ryan Gosling" stance (arms holding on to the top of the framework of a door, exposing his biceps and talking to me) ... We both thought it was a little funny and questioned whether or not he was being flirty but, I think I'm going to safely "assume attraction" there. Hahahaa
He later offered to smoke with me and reminded both of us he was a massage therapist. 😂
Flirts, doesn't mean they are in love. Be careful girls. Don't fall in their games.
True, if he keeps gazing at you and is flirting with you 'all the time', at least he's interested in you quite a lot! (Still doesn't mean he's in love, but he will most likely be soon with some 'persuasion' (mostly from my point: share of interests/PoV's ... from players it'll most likely to be more physical persuasion). ;)
I general: He might simply not realize he might like you 'in that way' (most of the time we can't even tell what we're feeling .. we're not emotional beings...for a lot of men, we don't even realize we feel a certain way unless it goes beyond a certain threshold).
Kinda like men often don't react/realize when a women is flirting, we will find her more attractive....but we're conditioned not to act upon it. Since our primal urges needs to be suppressed so much to conform with social standards, other feelings are often suppressed as well. We logically process the feeling of attraction and than logically decide if we should act upon those feelings or just ignore them, often conforming to how we were taught/what is socially accepted (probably for most men on a subconscious level).
But yeah, especially with internet these days: just because a guy is flirting, doesn't mean he's in love. It does mean he's interested in you though (in some way), we don't flirt with people we don't like: we ignore them!
(Sidenote: I'm not saying it's a bad thing for men to suppress/ignore certain feelings/urges and men should feel reluctant to act upon them for the good of society! More so, I'm saying women should get their act together and get some values too! (some do, most vocal/apparent ones though aren't mature enough to realize the consequences imo and don't).
What's wrong with enjoying light flirtations? Why does everything have to end in life-long love and commitment?
Yes
Guys will say, and do anything they need too, to get in your pants. They will also be patient, and act like a friend, but once they see a weakness in your relationship, they will jump you faster than a cat on a bird. No male friend will refuse sex with their female friends. Also, all men think a lot about sex with their female friend. This is why women should not have male friends unless they want a friend with benefits. I know this because I am a guy, and have discussed this with my other male friends. Women who think their male friend is different are refusing to listen to facts from a man who has done this to sleep with 50-100 attractive women. I didn't want a relationship. I only wanted to use them for sex. Being married made no difference. Married women did things to me that they admitted, that they would never do for their husbands.
@@GoddessBlessYou flirting leads to thinking about the other person. This can lead to an affair, or casual sex. This is what Alpha males refer to as "pump, and dump". Guys get it up. Get it in. Get it off, and get out.
Don't fall in love just because he gives you a little attention 😭💔
but how me l love attention and mistakenly it with love
Sounds like a lot of ya'll are very young and just getting your work or career in order. No need to hurry into marriage and family. Have a little fun before settling down.
@@montamiddleton9318 no self respecting successful man wants to marry some high mileage "have a little fun" +30 yr old ass .
That is so true
@@montamiddleton9318 AMEN sister!!!
Watching all these "sign" videos makes me realize he doesnt really like me 😂😂😂
Watching this videos just keeps me doubting, there are some signs maybe some others not really, luckily I wasn't dying to know since before youtube suggested this kinds of videos thru ted talks i was watching
Right? It's pretty depressing.
BTS Army that’s sad. What’s sadder is that I passed pretty much all of these tests on the internet and he still tells me he doesn’t like me. 🤷♀️
@@carrotjuice9647 Well, he was probably that 'is he flirting or just being friendly' type. Some people are bad about leading others on, it really sucks.
hahahahahahahahahahahah ohhh snap!!!!
How to tell if a man is flirting with you? He talks to you. LOL. Men just ignore you if they're not interested.
TRUE AF.
Little Mom Pasadena well i must be super hot then. I have some guy friends lmao.
Well no. Wouldn't say that. Maybe they fear to do something wrong but you can see that they want to be around you even if they're not talking that much
Agreed
They think you'd marry them if you choose to be polite and interact back... 😂
If he wants to isolate you he could also be a psychopath...
Liane Li That's the same thing I was thinking.
So true.
😅
Positive thinking. Love it.
Liane Li
Yup!
1.wandering eyes
2.physical touch
3.wants to spend more time with you
4.thoughtful compliments
5.wants to know your status ( exp: if your single or in a relationship)
And then you discover he is a narc. lol Watch out for the coverts.
Then you discover he's engaged.
Then you catch him cheating
Players DO care about your relationship status. An employee at the gym I go to was flirting with me in a very obvious way for months, with most of his colleagues being very aware of his proactiveness towards me. He was also asking questions to find out who I was spending my time with (e.g who do you buy Christmas presents for, who is your friend you are meeting later town? Etc). Something didn’t feel right, so after a 5 minute search on Facebook I found his girlfriend who he had recently been on a trip with. All of his gym buddies obviously new he had a girlfriend, yet we’re condoning his behaviour towards me at the same time.
Something like that happened to me recently.
1. Wandering eyes.
2. Touch
3. Wants to isolate you away from others for more private intimacy escalation.
4. Thoughtful (specific/targeted) compliments.
5. Wants to know your relationship situation. Who you hang out with etc.
Would #5 count if he asks you who you like over and over?
#6. Or where is your man over and over.
Just the comment I was looking for
E.
Mystery Student
he wants you to say you like him. If you don't then don't answer.
A man was looking at my lips and I thought he was interested, but when I went to the bathroom, I noticed I had spinach and ground peppercorn between my front teeth 🤔😂
Omg😂😂😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣 I needed that laugh today. Thank you!
Chanthana I’m sure he will always remember me as ‘Miss Green Teeth’ 🤪😂
I wasn't expecting that ending 😂😂😂😂
Omg lol lol 🤣🤣🤣
Players are really good at this too...
Leliu 5thElement,hope you are with a good man!😍😍😊
True
@@oscarwilliamson1264she’s a 4 bro
He’s a business owner in the area and I’m one of his customers. When he sees me he engages me in long chats, compliments telling me I’m looking good, asking me where I’m going if he can come with me. I told him about my ex and he asks if I miss him. Before getting emotionally involved I looked him up on social media and found photos of him and a wife. So I now I totally avoid contact with him when he’s at the business premises. I’d look elsewhere. I have much better options than to be a married man’s side chick.
Much respect to you 💗 my x husbands side dish became main bish after i found out.
I'd say you dodged a bullet, there!
@@esthero1994
You deserve better anyway, she did you a favor. When he does the same thing to her, I'm sure she'll figure out why. Enjoy your peace while your ex has to live with the mistake he made.😉
Good for you.😊
It's nice to know a guy likes you and then you find out that he has a whole other life with some other women! Yeah, story of my life!
Yep ... I'm going to die alone ...
Me too
Ronniestl74 not true
I'm 46 for sure I will be alone. I'm already searching for feral cats that seems to be my destiny.
Alex O lmao at least you have humor. Thats attractive to us. Keep trying guy.
Same!
who else watches these videos because the thought of being liked by crush is just a pleasure in itself. Just because he flirts with you, doesn't mean he's planning to be with you in a deeper level. Men would flirt with any girl that he finds beautiful or thinks that they're being liked by. Keep that in mind girls! Just go have enjoy flirting without expectations!
I want a man that is interested in me to be concerned about my safety and my inconvenience on the date. Last 2 date requests were first time meetings at their house, 1.5ish hrs away that I'd have to drive in snow and ice, when we've never met, don't know if we even like each other. I suggested meeting halfway for a burger, or coffee, and see how we feel. Nope. So they were both angry that I didn't trot out on command. Oh well. Not risking my safety and I think they should have some concern for it as well. We are 60, not 20.
Those were both men in their feminine energy
So you dodged a bullet. You need to be the one receiving the effort, not being the do-er! Also your intuition is on point I’m so glad you have strong boundaries and know your needs, way to go!
Absolutely Not would I ever go to a guy's house for a 1st date--- Very revealing how Lazy most men can be -- no sense of chivalry whatsoever
Most of these indicators might ONLY indicate lust.
..You don't want a man who has lust for you, you want a man who has a pure heart that will love you and make you feel secure in that love.
How do you think romantic love begins?? It begins with attraction, lust, interest, etc and then can eventually lead to real and true love. A man who doesn’t know you from Adam doesn’t automatically just fall in love with you at first sight because you’re just so damn special lol. He starts out with attraction and interest and it grows into something deeper over time. This is real life not a Disney movie 😂😂😂
@@whitneyangelie3682 Wrong. First care must come, and to get to know each other, then when you both still interested then can flower to lust and deeper the love. We are not animals to lustfully go with anyone having lustful interest towards us. People want love, care and to know the person. I wouldnt let a stranger into my flat, meet in a neutral public place with lots of others maybe, but never let strangers into my bedroom. Lust can go to hell. Ive only seen lust visualize on desperate simps whom just wanted to fck anyone, i mean it, anyone.
I agree. I am not looking to get laid. I have more self-respect then that. It does seem the majority of his advice leads to sexuality, more then meaningful contact. I am about 1/4 okay with this guys advice.
If a man does the once over my body while talking I instantly think he is after one thing. Not a turn on.
It's repellent.
Yeah, I tried the look at his lips tip... but I just stared at his face mask
Same!!! Lol half these tips don't work during covid
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😂😂😂
Oh that’s what that meant, lol! I thought it meant a psychopath’s false mask, hahaha! 😂
😂😂😀😀
I’m literally stupid when it comes to men! Unless he says something I have no idea 🤣😂
Interesting, symbolic room props:
Globe: wide experience. Not narrow-minded.
Hourglass: time is passing. Make the most of it.
Grass: Let relationships be natural.
Two owls: wise partners
Bonsai: life-long careful tending and shaping... stable, enduring, and beautiful.
:)
polly jetix good eye :)
Brick wall...solid standing information
Angel Curtis
yes keep it in shape to not erode
polly jetix
Very well said
Not a fan of that mushy-looking pink shirt. Such light skin needs a darker tone to contrast and bring it out. Pink shirt looks like same skin tone, is monotonous, dull. Don’t be dull. Be sharp.
I’m a happily married woman watching your videos because my husband is a great guy and I love learning more to attract him! 💕
I send you blessings, may your love last eternally. Please pray for me to find my soulmate too. 😊
Lol, me too! 💙👍
Ha ha, i am married too, watching so if my daughter asks an advise i am actually prepared. But i keep finding that my husband always loved ans valued me.
Same here, also to avoid a guy nicely if I understand this better
I always look at people’s lips, not bc im attracted to them but it helps me understand what they’re saying better
Same lmao
😂
Same! 50% deaf lol
Similar, there is pingpong pain issue with looking into their eyes. Shall i look into the left or the rigth, now switch... oh shit now ive realised my issue with this guy, he doesnt understands nor respects personal space. Bye.
That pause before the compliment was a great hidden gem.
;)
Yes it was. It answered a question I had in my mind. Thanks :)
I don't like #3 at all if he wants to be in a private place like his house on the first date or invite u over on the first day he met u. That just screams of him just wanting to get laid, there is nothing else to it. Men do this to me every single time. So sick of only meeting these types of losers.
Just to clarify, it sounds like you don't like men who escalate too soon or only want to have sex. #3 refers to isolation, which is a strategy used to escalate sexually. If you've been dating a high-quality partner for comfortable period of time and would like to escalate with them, then you may actually appreciate #3.
I definitely would, like u said, after a "comfortable period of time". Better yet, it would be absolutely awesome if men would wait for the woman to make the first moves, the first invite overs and the first taking his hand and lead him to her/his bedroom move.
well don't go into his house. we women need to protect ourselves
Haha you know, this is true, just because it has happened to me some months ago (again). Stupidly I fell in love with this one guy. And it doesn't have to be wrong. If you get lay with a guy -really fast- it's not meant to be a failure, you can still have an amazing relationship. The wrong thing you're doing Like I just did is: if you know you can be in love with someone at first sight, then don't go too fast with sex. Get to know the person. If you have sex (and I also have quite experience in this) be opened to both options. Everything can happen because you don't know the person! I'm so sad right know believe me but it's not the end of the world ;) I've enjoyed so much the "one night stand" so instead of complaining, take it as a good memory. If this thing doesn't go with you, better not have sex with guys too soon. Finish
Világjáró well next time you met a guy ask him if he want to be in a relationship with you but you don't want babies and he will probably be respect to that
The only reason I did not see any flirting from men in my life is cuz I'm low vision and can't see shit even with glasses😒
Time for a new pair of glasses. 😉
Same
God heals you in Jesus name😉
Hahaha me too
Haha haha
Thanks for letting me know, when I assume he’s interested...it’s a sign of confidence. A long time friend of always laughs at me when and if I smile after an interaction with a man. You’re right, better to be positive than to be negative. I needed to hear that.
Honestly most guys are subtle as a brick.
That's why you love us!
Sarah Kay q we eq
Note to self: So stop searching for signals.
@@spaceforthesoul6286 Yeah, the problem with these videos is that men generally don't give a crap about signals or subtlety. If you send them obvious signals, they're generally oblivious most of the time.
@@RaroHi yes it hits me a few days later though haha
You are so correct. My husband did all of those things when we first met.
Cool
I'm so behind about knowing these things. I met a guy at a park and he tried to isolate me by inviting me to a more secluded area, um, no. But wow, i may have avoided a non- consentual experience.
Omg! The last time I was with my friend, he asked me about my current affairs. I asked him why he would want to know...I feel dumb. Now I know, thank you.
So many people have issues with his/ her parents. We have to be careful about being so needy of the opposite and the same sex attention. People who are obsessed with getting attention from others will end up in some horrible relationships, but if we self love... the sky is the limit.
I'm more interested in ways to discourage flirting without coming off rude. I work in customer service and can't call people out, or come off cold or rude without getting into trouble. But there's a couple customers who have started borderline stalker behavior and I need ways to shut that down amicably
You always catch him looking at you.
A single girl in my crowd is always playful with her friend's husband. They stare at it other. Sometimes I catch them quickly whispers in in others ears. Or touching each other playfully. When she was drinking I noticed how her eyes kept searching for him. She goes quiet when I mentions his name.
I got a flirty personality which can get me in trouble sometimes and I struggle with noticing if a guy is really into me or if he simply has a flirty personality too.... cause I know how it is to be taken as being into someone when I wasnt intending to ... so I always overthink and look for ALL the signs
Another one is when he wants to go to Walmart with you during your errands run haha
lol
That's love.
for sure!!
I had a 17 year-old boy ask me that, I was like dude, get away from me I'm old enough to be your mom. In fact I think I went to school with your mom😁
@LoveofVelvet yes but it's often these " little things " that show how much someone likes you. Before we were married my husband always went to get me soda when I asked .
I'm a guy, these are all really solid.
Omg....my cat likes me....I knew it!!!!1
My dog doesn't 😭😭
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Oh dear 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
:))
You made me laugh just now...🤣
I got a kick out of the comments. I always think it is funny that we want a man or woman in our lives, but insult, assume and group them all. I can tell you a man who would put me into a category without talking to me first would piss me off fast. There are a great deal of women that I prefer to not be "they" with. Therefore, I don't blame them for resenting it when we do that, it is dismissive. Of course we are all guilty of it to a degree. I don't know, my best indication is always in conversation with an individual. In my experience, men who you don't already have friendship with won't waste much time talking with you if they aren't interested unless you are really cool and they can tell you aren't hunting. :)
You make some interesting points. Although I do have preconceptions (pretty sure everybody has those) when I even just look at people, for me it's more a 'might possible be like' than a sort of 'oh, it's one of those' ... usually it's more confirmed into body language...but only actually confirmed after a few questions/answers... no doubt your general experience is different, from the way you wrote!
I rather wonder about your "[some men] won't waste much time talking with you if they aren't interested unless you are really cool and they can tell you aren't hunting. :)"
-I'm guessing you mean interested in a relationship, (or I guess in current time:) a short sexual one? Most men are visual: If it talks like a duck, quacks like a duck ... if you don't want to be viewed as one, don't act like a duck!
-Define 'really cool'?
-Aren't hunting ... n/o but to me that seems a lot more interesting person, although I might be wondering why you're 'there' .. most people in social gatherings are looking to 'hunt' for some kind of relationship ... eg boardgame club: looking for other people playing/enjoying boardgames.... might be misunderstanding it though, english not being prime language.. kinda reads like guys are only interesting in girls that aren't hunting....
If so: girls that 'are hunting' nowadays are mostly girls that want one-night stands etc, reassurance to their unsecure believes. Most likely, trying to get some dopamine from 'thumbs-up' posting selfies all day long from hundreds if not thousands of men. Even the 'perfect guy' won't ever be good enough for those kind of girls, since there will ALWAYS be someone who will agree with them, even when just trolling and thus a lot of women think they're right in their thoughts because of it: It's called narcissism ... and no man will ever be able to satisfy those kind of girls, grass is always greener on the other side of the fence ... and most women don't realize it's most likely just plastic!
tldr: Personally I rather enjoy talking to people 'I've no interest in', if they're interesting and/or can expand my knowledge/2nd hand experiences.... Better to copy/paste than to try to invent the wheel and all that!
This was good advice ten years ago. Today, any of this behavior can send you to jail. I wish I was kidding.
Holy crap...he does ALL these things! How it took me a month and a half to realize he is attracted to me, I don’t know! The last thing he did was put his hands in my hair, on the top of my head...I had curled my hair...and I moved my hand up to his in reaction (because I didn’t realize he was there and he came up behind me) and he casually said “I know you don’t want me to mess up your hair but your hair is so soft and pretty.” Yeah, it actually took me a month and a half 😂
alymac209 are you guys together now ?
alymac209 at least you know now.
Hope you're having a great relationship now 😍👍
Please update us!! 😂
Bahahahahaha a month n half!! Gurlll!!!
Trying to isolate you to have more intimate contact could simply mean they simply want to have their way with you and satisfy their physical urges, and no more.
Elizabeth Gallardo maybe, but there is nothing wrong with that IMO.
I had someone isolate with me, & we had great conversation. He is a lot younger than me, but I felt electric, which surprised the heck out of me. I will never forget him.
Sorry, they should say “I like you” or I’m movin on
Finished with children
Ready to date an adult
1. His eyes are wandering at your body, face lips.
2. Touching randomly.
3. He wants to spend more time with you ..he's around
4. Thoughtful compliment, not just any compliment...targeted compliment.
5. He wants to know if you are single...
I had a guy do a TON of these recently and did not pick up on a single one until the exact moment he was leaning in for a kiss (up until that moment, I didn't even realize he liked me, or that what we were on was supposed to be a date) ..He paid me nice compliments..his eyes wandered but I dont have the wandering eye kinda body so I didnt think much of it, he put his hand on my leg (low enough to be respectful) while we were sitting close and talking, he questioned my relationship status quite a bit and when I said I was cleaning for company that was coming over, he said 'oh..like a date..?' (It was family coming over, no date).. He made a comment about how he bets 'a lot of guys like me', I said 'if they do they're hiding it well or Im not picking up the hints' (I think that was a hint)
Boys/Guys these days are 'learned' not to wander their eyes all over your body ... if a guy does more than a tap on your leg or shoulder (read: caresses you instead) he's into you (be aware of players though)!
'if they do they're hiding it well or I'm not picking up the hints' ... since he didn't make a move prior, you might have wanted to wait a few seconds for him to react and say(with a seductive look straight into his eyes): 'Do you?'
Even someone with no experience in dealing 'with the ladies' would've picked up that one and would most likely be acting on instinct (might not be so pleasant ;) , big chance 'he'll be all over you')... When I recall how I felt in my childhood I'd probably wouldn't be able to answer either, but I'd certainly would at least hug you (in my case kiss you all over your exposed body, even for a man with no experience that sort of 'line of thought' should be rather obvious ... but still I'm pretty sure some wouldn't get it... if you really like him, just kiss him (slow motion, don''t suddenly kiss him, move towards him slowly etc.... like you'd wanted to be kissed)! Unless he turned away/distanced himself from you when you made your previous remarks: You'll blow his mind!
(Most likely he cared for you and just wanted to be happy etc, and never even realized he had feelings for you, let alone all the feelings you just 'unleashed' by hugging/kissing him)
Great video. Thank you.
I notice when a guy will mimic my body language, or my speech pattern. The stance, the arm positions, or the head tilt. I also stay aware to see if they're just saying or doing things by
faking interest to gain access. These guys get weeded out. They get to a point when their actions aren't so subtle and they try to step over the line, or get past the velvet rope! This is best sensed when you are not inebriated!!
To Mimic body language is usually subconscious behaviour though, but I agree, if somebody mimics those pretty much immediatly it's most likely being done consciously.
Fake interest to gain 'access': personally, I've no experience of a woman ever doing this to me ... but faking anything is often quite noticable by either sex. Thus works other way around too. It's quite easy to 'weed out' fake/low value girls too.
'To the point when their actions aren't so subtle' ... kinda wonder what you mean by this?
Most guys ... even shy ones looking for a traditional/steady relationship are kinda forced to 'learn the game' in this day of age.... because women expect them to, most women would hardly give those guys the light of day until 'they step up their game' .... and ones they do and it isn't so subtle (because they probably just looked at some 'how to pick up girls' vids and have little to no idea how to relate those 'tactics' to their personality) you just brush them over? To me it looks you're feeling entitled much... I'd really like a more clear view of your point on this....
And good for you, for weeding out fake interest etc. Even I can often tell 'players'/'pickup artists' by their behaviour on pretty much first sight though! (I wouldn't get those guys even get close to any female friends I have, unless they're actually interested in casual sex ...)
Same for me for weeding out girls that are 2-dimensional/just want casual sex too, those kind of people are quite easy to spot ... I think easier for men though, since women tend to be more emotionally driven and thus are bit easier to 'fall for the trap'... nowadays though, it seems most women actually want that....
Debbie I G, you are so beautiful ❤️❤️ ❤️
I wasn't really looking for these kind of advice. I have a couple of really bad relations behind me, a psycopath and a narcissist, and I was looking for videos about that.
But now, I have seen some of your videos, and I realize that I have never looked for high quality men! I have settled for less...
Thanks for new insight. Instead of giving up, maybe I will look for something else?
Maria Friberg I dated a sociopath for a bit too. The good news is that I will never fall for it again and I bet you won’t either.
I absolutely wish I had this info about 5 years ago!! Looking back, there was a man that I was amazingly attracted to, and there were a couple of little things that made me think maybe he was attracted to me... But, I fouled it up TERRIBLY... and looking at the signs, I now think he REALLY WAS interested in me!! Dang!!
A lot of dudes go out of their way to make conversation with me at work... I thought it was just because they were trying to be cool as coworkers and all, but now this video has me wondering 😏
Don't lead him on? 🤔How, by not breathing?
If you're not interested in a guy, don't flirt with him. If he flirts with you, respond coolly and don't flirt back just because you like the attention. A lot of guys misinterpret being friendly with flirting, so I've learned to keep it polite but professional with men in general. I smile a lot, but I don't smile broadly at most men and I don't get personal with them. It just makes life easier.
Miss Priss
Or I could just live my life and not worry that I may be accidentally flirting with a random guy ( as interpreted wrongly by said guy) because I don't owe them anything and it is not my problem if he thinks I'm flirting with him when I am just being myself.
perpetually exhausted pigeon RIGHT?
One guy that I didn't like started hitting on me, texting me, complimenting me, randomly touching me when asking or telling me something, randomly showing up at my door (I can't start describing how this made me mad and disgusted)..because I ddnt like him, I responded to him with disinterest, bluntly telling him this is not going to happen, I told him we couldn't even be friends since I knew his intentions, I turned down every proposal..finally he went, and I pray he never comes back. Now if I had wanted to lead him on, I'd have done it so well but we are both grown ups who don't have that much time to waste.
Miss Priss Flirt away even if u dont really want em for sure. people flirt for fun its normal function . it doesnt mean as much as u think. if a guy takes it all wrong.and u didnt go all out. too effin bad boo hoo
Is looking at you a hidden sign? A guy looks at me when I’m not looking at him but I can see it in the corner of my eye.
Oooh yes!!! He did the eye contact, the physical touch on the shoulder, the arm, the knee... BUT the lower back as we stepped out together from the lift, leading/ letting me step out first... my my my THAT was the biggest sign for me.. And I am on the journey of assuming the man IS attracted, I am an attractive woman and loved your video. 😊👌💕
And men have to be at least as good as a woman's father or brother is or else she won't respect him after awhile.
True, my ex was bad with money and my Dad is good with money. I lost respect for my ex after a while.
Sorry to us who don't know our dads and have messed up brothers so the only man figure we have is in our imaginations
Butwe may become strong, becauselife taught us, not dependent.
This actually is true, alot of fathers spoil their daughters so that they set higher standards for the type of guy they will attract.
My father was trash so be the opposite
Well, I ignore it all the time for a long time til they haveta escalate HARD. Then the fun begins
Haha!!! he was going to be away from work, but kept his meeting with me even though he was already supposed to be gone. 😂 He saw me walking up to the building, and putting my sweatshirt on over my tank top and saw someone drive away behind me and assumed that I was dropped off. He casually mentioned, “oh, I saw your ride drop you off…” I assured him my car was in the parking lot
I was on a date last weekend and this guy did all 5 things you discussed.
He notices details barely anyone else does. Like when I changes my hair. He complimented my handwriting the other day, in a very detailed way. 🤔 He tried to figure out if I want kids 😂
So what happened?
Did you two end up together?
@@rdred8693 no
@@jaysee2748
Oh I'm sorry.
There is a lid for every pot, so don't give up!
The universe always provides what is needed at the present moment. To those who reside in a consciousness of pure love, romantic relationships are not a priority.
I'm still in school so I am just going to say that I like this boy and he knows. I thought he hated me but I always see him hanging out with my friends and sister. I thought it was just a coincidence but he was only there when I was and constantly looking to see if I was smiling or laughing. If I'm not he always asks if I'm ok and if something happened and how he can help. He does this only to me and girls are all around him popular girls to. But he walked away from them to see if I was ok.
(Edit: I asked my sister what they talk about and she said he asked about me and the kind of people I trust and consider important. I still really like him. He makes me laugh every time I'm sad and I'm good at hiding it when I am. He is one of the three people that can sense when somethings wrong. No one else ever can.)
He sounds like a really nice boy :)
Sounds like a good guy. At the very least, you could be good friends. The best relationships start out that way, imo.
What is "hidden" about these signs? Only someone with zero experience or social awareness would miss them, and they absolutely don't indicate that the men are "high quality" whatsoever. That "isolating" thing is downright creepy and I'm kinda worried for any woman who doesn't see it for what it is.
Yeah I found that weird too, but it doesn't always have to mean somewhere alone alone, like his house or car. Maybe just a quieter spot at a party (or whatever place) with less people (but still some people)?
Wow if you didn't tell us that men would invite me at their apartment 'to escalate sexually' I would have probably never guessed LOL
Me niether 🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩
Had NO clue at all!! 😂😂😂🤣🤣💀
Looooool!!!! Xd
Some of the comments here about the isolation show a lack of understanding. Some plain common sense needs to be used here. If you are in a populated place with a man and he's nervous around you and wants a chance to get to know you a little better he might suggest a quieter part of a place like moving to a quieter table in a restaurant or stepping into a quiet hallway or placing himself between you and the other people, or something of that nature. A high quality man is going to be aware of how you will feel if he comes off like a stalker. He will find a way to make both of you more comfortable by having some privacy for himself and by having you feel safe at the same time.
Finally I'm not the only one. You took the words right out of my thoughts.
Amen
yeah. no high status expectations there... modern high mileage women making old traditional demands from men
Absolutely true... One should assume that he's attracted! There was this man, he was my favorite professor. I was an older student so, we were very close in age, and the school had no rules against dating a professor. He and I ended up on the same El train and we were talking, and I was so nervous, and not wanting to "make him" keep talking to me because he's very polite. I immediately felt like an idiot for cutting off the communication. It was probably a week later he started dating someone else...
You're cute, but for me it would be a glance UP to look at his lips, not a glance DOWN! I'm only 4ft 11ins tall!
lol
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Elizabeth Butler that's so relatable. I'm only 5 feet tall. :-D
@Elizabeth Butler lol Hello, fellow shorty! I'm 4'9 and I dream of marrying a handsome big burly GIANT! 😆 Tallest guy I dated was 6'6. Oh God, I love giants...❤
Elizabeth Butler I'm 4ft ll ins tall too. My husband is 6 ft tall.
I don't think there are any sure signs of flirting as people are complex. Touching can lead to sexual harassment complaints. Very touchy these days. Men who have been attracted to me have never been touchy. If they talk to you for a long time, they could be just friendly. The proof is when they pursue you.
I've had the same thing happen with three different guys recently - I guess it's sort of a variation of #1. We'll be carrying on a conversation, and literally in the middle of me speaking a sentence, the guy will suddenly interject to pay me some sort of compliment on my appearance. The first time it happened I was a little taken aback by the sudden shift in the conversation and reacted a bit awkwardly, but now that I've spotted the pattern I've learned to handle it more gracefully. I smile, take a moment to thank them and show appreciation for the compliment (because I do appreciate it!), and continue with the conversation.
If he is leaving and gently briefly rubs my wrist and says next time when I come don’t buy anything . Is this a sign of attraction to me ?
Lmaooo! "..how to be your authentic self BUT attract a higher quality man." 🤨🤦🏼♀️
Good one
wishful thinking Only be a little bit authentic. 😆
I noticed that too😂😂
Confused if this guy is truly attracted to me.
Signs / signals given? :
1. He asked me to do business with him after knowing each other for almost 2 yrs. I am a business owner myself.
2. He told me "he believes he can trust me".
3. I have caught him staring at me while listening intently to my conversations with others.
4. When I locked eyes with him one day he clumsily dropped his gaze and looked around the room and the floor like he was embarrassed or uncomfortable.
5. He has mentioned some of his personal beliefs or values to me.
6. He has asked me about some of my personal beliefs or values.
7. He has told me a lot about (all) of his past relationships - the types of women he's dated, the women's personalities, how they broke up and how distraught he was over his last breakup because of being cheated on by her. He's been single after his last relationship for a year & a half (according to him).
8. He has asked personal questions about my past relationships - how many men I've dated, how long they lasted, weather I was engaged or married to them, how we broke up and how I managed to get over those breakups.
9. He points out anything & everything we seem to have in common by saying "I like that too, I do the same, I have / use the same things, I believe that too & I am the same way," etc.
10. After him seeing me talking with another guy, (just a casual conversation with an old acquaintance from many years ago, basically catching up after not seeing the guy for yrs) - the guy with the possible crush made a point to ask me how I knew the guy I was talking with, where I knew him from & how long I knew him. His interest was unusual and seemed casual but focused, as if he was trying to read my facial expressions / or body language as I answered his questions.
10. He currently always faces me with his whole body & face and looks directly at my face / eyes while talking to me regularly now
11. I have caught him standing taller and straighter & tucking in his shirt as I am approaching him from time to time..
12. He has asked what my plans are for the weekend many times, even though he knows i'm still legally married - He's aware that my life is in transition and that I have been seeking separation & divorce for many months.
13. He has opened doors for me when he sees me coming, especially if i'm carrying something & has offered to help me get something that was somewhat heavy out of my car and / offered to let me use his supplies so that I don't have to strain my back by retrieving my own supplies out of my car.
14. He has apologized for cursing in front of me one time and has never used curse words in front of me again. - basically changing his behavior around me because he knows I don't use that kind of language.
15. After 6 months of displaying all of the behaviors above he made prolonged physical contact with me one day by gently pressing the front his body against my side, for about 10 - 15 minutes, while I was laying face down on his chiropractic table, while he was treating me... This was a couple of weeks ago. He had NEVER done that before so I was confused by this behavior and nervous about reading into his actions. He has also touched my back, giving it a little squeeze prior to treatment as he's lowering the table - I assumed his purpose in touching & squeezing my back was to make sure I didn't fall off the table as it was moving and /or to feel if there was any muscle tension in my back. The prolonged physical contact was definitely different than his usual touches!
I know it seems a bit pervy to touch a woman in such a manner, but i can assure you that I didn't feel his "manhood" at any point, and he is a very tall man at 6' 4", so I believe that it was only his thighs / legs touching my side. My point is he finally broke the boundary between us after 6 months of slow, small, and seemingly methodical steps / changes in his behavior & actions towards me.
Anyway... after that happened I didn't go back for treatment for about a week because my back was feeling fine. Whats confusing is after I went back he seemed to be distant / less talkative with me and seemed to be making a point to be more professional. I have to wonder if he lost interest, or I made him think I wasn't interested in him anymore by not going back for awhile after the incident had occurred? I don't know if he is just shy or nervous about perusing me because I am technically still married or if he was just testing me to see if I was the right type of woman for him or what? Or maybe i'm crazy and he's " just being friendly" - which I seriously doubt after the body contact incident!
Please advise Jason as I am very attracted to this man & would like to see where this could end up, (hopefully a long term relationship if he's worthy), but I do not want to pursue him if he's just not that into me, - hence his distant behavior as of late? I am almost ready to move on and forget about him because he seems to be moving at a snails pace getting to know me & /or telling me that he actually likes me, (6 months, with the last 3, him being more & more obvious with his signals), which makes it incredibly difficult to be sure of his intentions, as his behaviors & interest seems to ebb & flow - like he gets up the courage to show interest, only to retreat back into his shell for awhile... perhaps to see how I will react? I get the feeling that he is testing me or putting me through the paces to prove my character / worth. I suppose I cannot fault him for testing me, (if that's what he's actually doing), because up until the body contact incident, I have been playing it cool, almost aloof, because I wasn't sure if I was reading his intentions correctly and didn't want to place our business relationship in jeopardy or embarrass him or myself if I was misreading his intentions!
I almost forgot to mention that I am 49 yr old Cancer and he is a 58 yr old Taurus. We have established with each other long ago that we are both old fashioned, conservative personality types... which may have something to do with our somewhat reserved nature and inability to come forward about our true feelings / interest? Seems like we are at a stand off with neither of us feeling secure enough to make the next move?
Your thoughts would be greatly appreciated!
Thank You for your reply,
Angie
ps. sorry this was so long! .. there was a lot to unpack here!
I was asked "are you single?" I replied "I am now." Lol.
😂
I love what you said at the end about thinking positive about yourself🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 that’s so important 💛💛💛
The 4th being a thoughtful compliment is where intelligent guys who are assessing a women come to the fore. This is proper wavelength connectivity, basically a proper meaningful relationship. To most women the thoughtful compliment should be the gold standard for a true connection.
It should be indeed....
I love you for making such an insightful comment! It almost read like a poem!
Might be a 'unicorn' out there for me yet!
Came here to figure if he is flirting or just a confident player
These applies to woman who is attracted to a man also.
I once complimented a guy that I was attracted to, because I noticed how good he was with his attention to detail while he was working with me.
how did that turn out? I complimented a guy and he didn't do anything about it 😒
Maybe the truth actually does make a person free? Thanks for these truths...
I may be a bit strange but openly checking me out is a total turn-off, on the other hand is that I find it absolutely awesome if a man can drag his mind through the gutter without me realizing it....all the while he is entertaining company. You do not actually have to body-sweep with your eyes focused on your "target"!
Leanne Olsen,You are absolutely gorgeous 🌹🌹🥀,hope you are with a good man!
Can I make the suggestion... actually look at the camera rather than at the teleprompter. By treating the camera as a person, you engage them on a much deeper level. And makes you seem more authentic.
It should have been called "5 signs a PLAYER is Flirting with you".
Us high quality men.... Only the practiced compliment apples
I started looking at my crush lips and he notices and tucked his lips in hahahaha
When you say high quality men, are you in reference to their income? Money doesn't make the man, the man makes the man. The man I'm with now, he is a blessing. On our 7th year.
I’m always looking for subtle hints like these. Trouble is #1 - wandering eyes. He’s a mailman so most of the time he has sunglasses on. I can’t tell where he’s looking.
#2. Physical touch - goes along with #1. We’re both at work so now a days, he may be afraid of sexual harassment if you touch someone.
#3 spending more time with you - again, difficult since he’s a mailman and we’re both at work. Though sometimes he does stay and talk for 2-3 minutes. If I ask him a question while he’s leaving, he’ll turn around, come back, and answer it.
#4. Thoughtful compliments - not sure it means anything, but he’ll often say, “Good for you,” when I tell him things.
#5. He’s never had to ask my relationship status because we’ve openly talked about our ex spouses and neither of us has ever mentioned anyone else.
Celeste Cummins ㅑ
Amy Shin what does that symbol mean?
Celeste Cummins it's just a korean letter.. but it doesn't mean anything.. Maybe Amy Shin typed accidentally... (ㅑ)
Celeste Cummins That person wrote "ya" .
Though not really correct because it would be 야 then..So either a typo or just missing knowledge 🤷♀️
Seems he's quite distant and mostly just being polite ... you could try touching him and see if he returns the favor. Seems he might find you interesting to talk to you/your opinion ... but since he's a mailman, he'd probably at least dropped a 'love letter without sender' by now if he was 'interested in that way'?
When ur crush doesn’t know u and look at ur eyes accidentally, u think he flirted with u…
But he just saw u like a stalker always following him everywhere (;´༎ຶٹ༎ຶ`)
This is the best video on this topic for situations where the flirting signs are very subtle and you can't decide if it was flirting or not.
This isn’t about attraction by people you already have in your social circle and are in the proximity of, regularly. This has NO bearing on people at a party, in a supermarket or bookstore or coffee shop.
I really apprectiate how you explain this. It is very professional and it holds my attention. Thank you for all that you do Jason! 👍🏻👏🏻
They ALL flirt....so what?
4:47, he moves it. You guys are funny. This guy is so interesting. Refreshing to hear guys talk about guys.
I don't know how to flirt, when they flirt or better yet I DON'T KNOW WHAT FLIRT IS ....I like to genuinely compliment people (women or men)...that is just how I am. Someone has to tell me they like me or else I would be so clueless...I have had people, when I was young, say that a guy likes me and they can tell by the way he acts or looks at me BUT I AM SO CLUELESS ABOUT THIS.
I'm to shy to ask any guy out because I am kinda scared of being turned down
I invited a guy over to hang out and he didn't show up, he told me later he knew if he came he couldn't control himself, and he also said me inviting him to hang out was me inviting him over to have sex, what?! I thanked him for his honesty, I'll never invite a guy over to hang out again!
He's so spot on with these tips!
Rachel Foster,You are absolutely gorgeous 🌹🌹🥀,hope you are with a good man in your life!
Hi. I totally agree with everything you said about these signs that shows a man likes you however these sign do not determine if the man is “high quality”.
Does any other woman feel like all these are things that we watch for to avoid being raped?
I feel like these videos are made for people who are living their lives in bars or places where they can get picked up.
True
Yup
Jenny Salvoni to avoid being raped it’s called pepper spray and a big ass bazooka. But sure this video gives good pointers
It’s sad, but you might have a point.
Not that I’d know. I’m a guy, after all. I guess the best you can do is learn to read people better. Men are (usually) more obvious than women about intentions, at least...?
Thank you, im so behind on social skills and cues...
Laura Wise,You are absolutely gorgeous 🌷🌹🌺,hope you are with a good man!
@@christianpulisic7784...lol not yet...
I have one particular doctor I am extremely attracted to. One day at an appointment he noticed me checking him out. After he caught me, his lips noticeably parted for a solid minute or two. He looked down trying to conceal his reaction. Would a man not attracted to a woman have this reaction because he caught me or is this a definite sign of attraction? He had a very sexual look on his face he was trying to hide. I found it very hot but I’m sure it was awkward for him. On my very last appt with him a few weeks ago I caught him checking me out and smiling. After I noticed I shyly smiled back. I’m pretty sure he saw my reaction. So, I think he knows I’m crushing too lol Thank you for helping women with your vast knowledge of the dating world. It’s very appreciated. If you’re looking for video ideas, can you consider doing one about reading attraction of lip gestures? Thanks again!!
Update 3 years later : did you end up dating ??
Doctor's can not date patients. They will lose their medical license. He may be tempted but will not make the move
@@mary-vb7fm whoever that doctor dates will face have a string of female competitors , all sharing that shrinking pool of high status men, while average status men are all ignored ,leaving only a few sociopaths immune to frequent rejection gaining access..
Women, IF he is not doing any or some of these things then YOU do them to him and with ALL of the confidence in the world!! I do agree with him and just assume he is attracted to YOU!! And keep flirting with him while exuding confidence. I've been attracted to some men that were not the most handsome but their confidence made them handsome to me. I'm 56 years old and in my 50's, I've dated guys in their 20's. Yes, I take care of myself but it has more to do with the confidence I have in myself. AND IF you're not a confident person then PRETEND! Fake it till you make it as I say. Honestly, that's what I did. Good Luck!
a flushing skin, if he red cheeks and touching his hair alot it is another sign! 😅
His face is a tomato when I talk to him :)
Not me watching this as a gay man 🤣
A guy told me once, in a thoughtful, meaningful way, that I was/am “symmetrical”. I decided right then and there that he was a total wacko.
I trust you Jason. I am happy that in the end I found a coach like you. Hoping to find my prince charming...
Lol I don't get compliments nor spend time with anybody. Loner.😂
Nonverbal communication speaks volumes. Look at someone's shoes if you are uncomfortable....most people have an opinion about good shoes vs. bad shoes.