Abby, I have never heard someone so openly and confidently say that all they want, their whole purpose, is to be a mom. Thank you for saying it. It's how I feel, and I've always been made to feel ashamed for it. My kids are each a year older than yours, and I've had such a hard tine saying it.
This is my purpose in life! I might only be 13 yo but all I want when I’m older is to be a mom. Kids are my favorite things in the world and I get so excited thinking that I will be a mom one day!
I’ve alwaysss felt this way. Untill one day I saw the world for what is is and how scary and negative it is and why would I want to bring a precious human in this dangerous world? Then I gatta deal with worrying about school shootings and other things or them to have depression and wish I never had them bc at the end of the day yes we have good moments too and it’s so important to make all situations in a positive light but life is just not forever and for me personally I have to live with being terried to die and I know I wish I was just never born so it’s just a lot honestly. It makes me sad but I stand on all this so much idk if I can get myself to selfishly bring a baby into the world. It’s so crazy though cause my whole life like I always wanted it I’ve cried bc being a young never happened for me (bc I didn’t wanna live with my mom and have a child or be tied to a shitty person for life) I still long to be pregnant and give birth and hold my baby and love them even more when they’re here and take care of them and be their voice and just be the best mom ever and give them so much love but it’s just a lot
Being a kid whose parents never showed any sort of affection or adoration for eachother definitely had an impact on how I viewed intimacy and healthy relationships and I can’t say it’s all positive. I think it’s a great thing that y’all show affection in front of them. You’re setting the example for healthy relationships & love, let them see it!
@@admar6934 oh I definitely have. I’m very much a quality time and physical touch type love language. I will kiss my man in public and we hold hands and idc who sees. And now that my parents are older and not worried about raising kids or making sure the bills are paid, they’ve been able to spend time together on little dates and things and it makes my heart so full to see them enjoying each other again ❤️
Can you please interview Elyse Myers and her husband Jonas? That would be SO incredible. Love you guys and love when you share about your kids and your parenting. Thank you for showing up every week!
My kiddos are 6 and 7 & I am pregnant with baby #3 at 30. Have to say, I am SO happy with our decision. My kids are happy and involved in the pregnancy and I feel great. I don’t think I would have been mentally or emotionally prepared to have another baby 5 years ago, so this timing was perfect for me and my family!
Sue them!! People need to not get away with posting other people’s things without their consent, especially when creating a fake story using them too. So sorry that happened to you guys!
Matt, thank you so much for always being open about mental health for men. My brother struggles and it isnt taken as seriously as my sisters. It’s difficult to see men go through this and we need more men like you speaking up about it!
Look into legal action. Matt, you catch a bad wrap anyways because people clip and try to paint you in a bad light anyways and for people who don’t know you guys people will believe that about you!
Abby- I love that you plan to homeschool your kids! There are SO MANY opportunities for homeschool kids now. Homeschool sports teams/clubs, homeschool co-ops, homeschool orchestras, homeschool robotics, choirs, all sorts of things! Get involved in your local homeschool community and find the opportunities.
As a teen in her last bit of being homeschooled her entire life, i can say 1) my respect and admiration for my mom for being willing to be with me 24/7 from the moment i was born is HUGE cause us kids were pretty tough when we were younger and 2) I absolutely have loved it and will never not be ashamed i “have no life” 😂 My mom sacrificing herself for us every day has meant the world for me and my older siblings :)))
@@Abi-MarieAweeee this is soooo amazing and so sweet! 🥹 ❤When C-vid happened my son who has Asperger’s did online school for the 1st time and man he loved it so much we just continued until he graduated. Also in addition to that he went into college in a better mental state so now is more than prepared to life and not just be “online schooled”. He absolutely does still enjoy the classes that’s he’s able to take online 😂😂
The episodes with just the two of you are my favorite!! Love all the hard work you guys are doing to get awesome guests and put out episodes every week. Thank you!!💙
My hearts gets warm seeing you being excited for the life you have and the love you share. And you talking about the future is soooo exciting. I can FEEL your happiness and I get to excited about life seeing you being happy! Love this podcast!
Yall are so wise beyond your years. You guys are such great examples of just complete genuine loving people, who love with all your being. Give yourself grace, I just turned 40 and I genuinely appreciate and love yall. Much love!
We have had 5 kids in 7 years. I like the close age gap, they all play together, we homeschool etc. we haven’t had a break from diapers in 7 years but it’s honestly kind of nice to just do it all in the beginning and then when we are done with diapers we are completely done, we don’t have to do it again in 5 years. There is honestly pros and cons to anything but we love having all our kids close together. You also have to remember that they aren’t all going to be toddlers, my 7 and 5 year old are very independent and helpful so in a way it gets easier. They aren’t as dependent on you for everything.
Omg! I have 2 and they are 2 years apart and I don’t know how I survived the first early months of having 2 little ones. Props to you and all the mommas that have many kids close in age. I don’t know how you do it💕
We have five kids, and it is so fun! I love watching them play together and make our back yard (and house) full of life! Playing on the trampoline, making up games together, doing “performances“ together, etc. I had them at 29, 31, 33, 36, and 40.
Abby, you are such an inspiration. It's nice to see such a hands-on mom that prioritizes self care as well. You inspire me to give atleast an hour to myself amidst the chaotic daily schedule of a mom with two young boys. You make me hopeful that one day, I can also look good and feel comfortable in my body again. Although realistically, I know I can never be as "buff" as you anytime soon haha! Love you guys
It’s so lovely hearing younger people talking like this and so excited about their future!! I was 22, 25 and 32 when I had my 3 girls and I can say that having a 10 year age gap is amazing!! The joy the whole family have with the youngest is wonderful!! You’ve got years to have your kids - enjoy these ones and don’t make it too stressful. It goes so so quick- mine are 17,14 and 7 now and it flies. Thats my advice. ❤
My dad unalived himself over his depression/mental health when i was a kid. It is something that needs taken more seriously. Im sry you got so much negative feedback about that song/video Matt. Don't let the haters view & opinions get to you, it's not worth it, they dont understand where you're coming from & they don't know you! Proud of you two❤
In case you read it: from someone who did a ridiculous amount of research on relationships for my job as a counsellor Matt you ARE a great husband and father. And Abby I LOVE your confidence with the mum shaming because 100% you are ABSOLUTELY RIGHT!!
Homeschool Mama here!! I love it. We are two years in and I am so thankful I get to have this time with our daughter. I love everything about it…picking the curriculum to what best fits her…doing all the fun science experiments and field trips. And she learned how to read this week! It’s such a blessing. We love it. Fine tuning her education to what best suits her is something that will benefit her for her entire life ❤
You should 100% sue them. They can't use your image without your permission or paying you for it. Or at least a lawyer would send a cease and desist letter.
Matt and Abby, I just want to say that you two are looking happiwr and are having a heqlthier relationship since you've started counseling. It really shows! I love the stronger, healthier, much more loving and encouraging vibes coming off you two! Y'all have a beautiful marriage and a beautiful family. Keep up the great work!
My kiddos are 6 years apart and I love it. I was able to enjoy all the things with our first and not have to focus on keeping another human alive. Now our oldest loves to help and be with his sister. Also my brother and I are 5 years apart and are the best of friends.
I love that y'all quit letting negative comments affect y'all! Be confident in yourself and know your worth! That's growth! Y'all are so inspirational in what seems every aspect of life. My kids are grown, but I love watching y'all grow and learn thru the process. Y'all both seem very wise and love to find solutions to life's issues. Keep rising!!!
I love how grateful Abby is for literally everything. She always talks about being privileged to have the life she has. But, also, you guys worked for that, too, Abby!! I don't know if I'm making sence. You can just see that you guys are like actually good people! Love ya'll!!
Don’t usually comment but I love this episode so much! Abby thank you so much for voicing how okay it is for your greatest dream to be a mom! It’s like you just spoke what I was thinking. ❤
Honestly we had two close together (18 months apart) and then we had one 12 years later and I love it. You don't forget. It's just like having the first but with the wisdom of already having kids. My oldest two have the sweetest memories with my youngest. 💜
glad you both set the boundaries you need to protect your mental health - we won’t always be for everyone but that doesn’t give people the right to say such hurtful things!! Love these chats with the two of you! 🤍
I was homeschooled all the way through, now I’m homeschooling my 3. The amount of homeschooling resources - curriculum, co-ops, sports, etc, is crazy now! There are so many options. I live in the middle of nowhere and we are in two co-ops. We have probably ten different sports programs we can join as homeschoolers from age 18 months all the way through highschool. It’s amazing. And we have so much more opportunity to focus on what they love every day.
Homeschooler here! I love how you guys talk so positively about homeschool! A lot of people don’t understand and think that your kids will turn out socially awkward and won’t have any friends. I can tell you that I have lots of friends, and that it really depends on your child’s personality. I love being homeschooled, I love the flexibility and how you can customize it. I’m currently dual enrolled with the community college and will have one year of college finished by the time I graduate next year. Im so blessed to have been brought up the way I was and I wish everyone could have that opportunity. I do want to say that no matter what you do, your children will be different. No matter how many social activities they are involved in, being raised at home in a much different way than a lot of other kids will make a difference. That doesn’t mean it’s bad, on the contrary I think it’s great, but that is something that made me a little insecure when I was younger. I have such a hope for homeschooling with the new generation. There are so many parents deciding to homeschool their kids and I think that will bring such a great change to the stigma of homeschooling. I hope one day it will be as common as getting public education.
@blueskies7538 Literally summed up my thoughts perfectly. It’s always been crazy to me that people think we have no friends and no life or that we can’t communicate haha. In fact, when we were younger adults were always shocked with how well we could hold conversations with them.
I am always so impressed with Abby and how well she articulates her perspective and the confidence she has in it. No shade at being young, but I highly doubt I was able to do that at her age, even if I thought so at the time. 😂 The wisdom, sincerity, and grace she speaks with keeps me coming back each week. I appreciate Matt, but love seeing a strong young woman owning who she is despite the pressure I know they get from social media. I can definitely take a page out of her book when it comes to achieving validation internally and not placing so much value on the opinion of others. Gyming for your mental health seems to be going great! I know you don't read these usually, but whoever sees this, big fan and will continue supporting! Great job guys!
Love this podcast sm! Love how real you guys are, you show the highs and lows of your life which I think is really important cause a lot of influencers today make it seem like their life is perfect and y’all are just so honest and sweet
Married my husband when I was 20 and Saturday is our 11th wedding anniversary! I agree that it's not for everyone and, naturally, if you don't grow together and choose each other everyday, you WILL grow apart. But... we went to college together, we went out to the bars for the first time together, we went through family turmoil together. Our bond is so incredibly strong. I'm so grateful for him! I do think it helped us, though, that we waited for six years to have our first child. That gave us plenty of time to really know each other and understand what we wanted out of life, being parents, etc. Cheers to forever!
Have them closer in age, not farther. We have 3 boys: ages 6,5,4 and one girl: 2 years old. We didn’t have near the amount of help as you guys, pretty much did it alone, and all of our boys had the most horrible colic we had ever seen in babies and didn’t sleep and we survived it. And now, they are all 4 the best of buds and will share the same memories and grow up together as besties. It’s worth the horrible newborn stages and the struggle of those early months because once you get past that it gets so much easier. You’ll realize that you can actually survive and thrive on much less rest than you thought you needed.
The most important relationship in a childs life is the relationship between their parents. Even more so than the child/parent relationship. They find safety and security when they see a healthy loving relationship between their parents
I’ve watched you guys since podcast with Beestons. You guys are refreshingly honest and so mature for your years. I love your curiosity and creativity Matt and your vibrancy and get up and go attitude Abby. Any negativity is coming from place of negativity - it’s never worth paying attention to, I understand how easy it is to go down that rabbit hole tho. As for putting your emotions and song out there - feel proud and confident in your intentions - you are part of the cultural shift now and it’s so necessary. Keep up the great work guys! Xx
matt ur rlly wise, im 20 and have been taking alot of ur experience and advice these recent episodes. One that I particularly loved was when u were explaining that u cant work so many hours a week for too long and that its not feasible. You said how u need to work hard for a little bit and then u can have fun. I dont remember who yall were interviewing but it was comforting and made alot of sense. Ive only ever heard one or the other: u need to work rlly hard in life or YOLO and travel and have fun all day every day. Maybe its common knowledge but ive never heard it put the way u put it and i truly appraciated it and will use that in my life. thank ya'll for this amazing podcast.
As someone who can’t have kids cause of the disability I was born with, wanna say u both are more fortunate and privileged then u know, hella in this life, never get to have a family, find love, friendships, a good situation, etc in this life, many are struggling immensely in silence. Hope u both are able to realize that u are in a situation that millions would kill for. That is a life fact !
I had my 4 back to back and I wouldn't change it for the world. You have more energy and then they grow up so close and then when they are older you still have the energy to do things together. I have friends had there's later in life and they regret it and struggle. And the bonus is also when they have kids you are still young enough to run around and enjoy your grandchildren. You both are a inspirational couple. Don't let the haters get to you. Anyone can give opinions and hide behind a keyboard. I miss you and your family on UA-cam videos. ❤😊
As a Homeschool mama, we started in 2020. My son did preschool-1st grade and has homeschooled since. He loves it. We have several co-ops & sports we are involved in. There are Loads of curriculums out there to choose from as well. We do a mix but love the good & beautiful! ❤
You could also look into homeschool programs that do weekly “field trips”. It gives kids the opportunity to socialize with other kids at like a national park, aquarium, and a bunch of other stuff. It’s really cool they offer so many different options for homeschooling now!!
Have you guys done a reaction video to your old videos? That would be an idea from me to you. I've been watching you guys so long, it's been a big evolution. You could share things going on behind the scenes in those videos - thoughts, feelings, reflections from then to now, etc. Then maybe in a separate vid or part 2, you could reflect on the past, talk about the journey, & then talk about what you want in the future moving forward, even if that's intrinsic. Or if you don't go too in depth, keep it as a part of 1 video. Just an idea!
Have 3 kids and all are 5 years apart. I love it! It meant that each kid got special time as the baby of the family and my 10 year old is the best helper. I was adamant that I wouldn't let siblings be caretakers but she has other opinions. She is so possessive over her sister and constantly tries to volunteer to help so that I can shower, eat, sleep, etc. And my 5 year old emotionally couldn't have handled a little sibling earlier on. But now, he loves her and likes booping her on the nose and loves to make sure she's okay. It's a special bond that I absolutely love and I definitely didn't forget anything about taking care if them between the newborn phase.
My mom had me and then my brother 5 years later. 2 years later we adopted my brother and 1 year later my mom became pregnant and had my twin sisters. So my sisters and I are 8 years apart and we’re best friends. We literally do everything together, but even if baby number three comes earlier for you guys, I’m happy. But so you can be assured, it worked out for us. I’m proud of y’all, you guys are like the best role models for me. Thank you for existing. ❤
Please keep being yourselves. You are both amazing and an inspiration to those around you. It is a shame when people are negative towards you. We need to build others up around us not tear them down. ❤
I just adore you both. I appreciate you as a couple and parents. I'm proud of you guys speaking about depression in men, marriage, and all topics. Just continue being the amazing souls that you are. Ignore the negative and hate. Those who do that must not be happy with themselves or their own lives. I'll pray for them. Have a wonderful week.
There were 5 kids in my family growing up, and I LOVED that number! Something I’ve noticed with families of 4 is that the first 3 form a dynamic and then the 4th is pretty far removed from the oldest, and only close with the 3rd, who is close to everyone. Having 5 was perfect, because the first two went through everything together, the last 2 do everything, and the third bridges the gap relationally between everyone
I got married at 29 same as my husband so I agree getting married older works, at least for us. It is different for everyone but I can not imagine getting married at 19/20 (at least for me and what my life was like then). But so happy for you guys and love your videos!! Thank you for always brightening my day!❤
I would love an episode about how Abby is so confident. She doesn't care about what other people think and I admire her so much for it. I'd love any advice she has to share 🫶❤️💕
Am I the only one who wakes up in the middle of the night just to watch their videos when they drop? Abby u have made it proof that hard work pays off. So as a mom of 2 boys (15 n 18) I wanna be in the best shape I can be for whenever the grandkids come around later in life. You guys rock n never stop being you!
I have a 2yr old and a 10 yr old. I freaking love the age gap. We wanted a 5 yr difference, but we lost a baby in our second trimester. About a year later, we welcomed our daughter who is now 2. They are best friends and if you think seeing the littles meet their sibling is precious you should see the reaction when they are older. He is the best big brother and Penelope adores Sebastian. The hest thing we did was wait so we could give Sebastian what he needed before bringing another child. I was 35 when I had him and 42 when I had Nell.
I absolutely love you guys and everything you stand for. It's been lovely to see you guys along this journey as individuals, a couple and parents. I'm definitely no one big but would love to connect or be on a podcast. I'm a RN who works for an organization for first time low income moms and am always trying to find ways to support our moms through the experience and help make things easier during some of the most vulnerable times in our lives ❤
I am a college student and I was homeschooled for the most part but did public high school for a year. Homeschooling was a better experience and I had a better relationship with my family. I went to an amazing co-op and met all my childhood and current best friends there. I have lots of “family” from being homeschooled as it was an amazing community. It set me up for college better than public school did.
Our four children are 14, 11, 7 (almost 8), and 2 1/2. We had them when I was 29, 33, 36, and 41. I would’ve never imagined having children in my late 30s and early 40s, but it was God‘s plan for our family. We loved having a larger gap before our last. It is not what I would have chosen when I was in my 20s, but God has a plan for each family. It’s funny hearing y’all talk about 35 like it’s old. You’ll get there and realize time flies so quickly! Each year is a gift. Blessings to your sweet family. 🙏
why are people so hard on matt and abby , stop praising one more than they other they are both human beings that happen to do content on the internet and talk about their own opinions. let them live !! you both are doing a great job and thank you for keeping it real on the internet nothing in life is perfect or easy and you guys are doing a great job!
1:15:48 Everybody is different but I'll be 29 this summer and we have 4 kiddos ages 5 & 1/2, 4, 2 & 1/2 & almost 3 months its a blast. It's crazy sometimes, but watching them grow up knowing they'll have friends forever is such a blessing, they fight but my sister and I were 5 years apart and didn't get close till adulthood. Also I will say having a baby at 28 versus 22 was a big difference, my body had a harder time and recovery was so different. But honestly God spaced our kids and we were surprised with our third but we are so grateful 😊
I love how you guys talk about body positivity regading your own body. There are so many people, myself included, that keep themselves at such a high standard when it comes to their body, but would never do the same for another person. It is so important to work on 'I am important no matter how I look'.
I had my first girl at 23 then my second girl at 25. I thought I was done and always said I would be done before 30. I was 31 and had my third child.. a boy! It has been amazing, it was like riding a bike like what Matt said. I also went into this expecting to have a 4th in about a year so he has a buddy. I am like Abby and would just keep having babies I LOVE babies and my kids. I as well did not mind if baby number 3 was another girl, I am over the moon no matter what gender. My oldest who is 8 is such a good big sister, she is a little mom and so in love with “her” baby. For how it turned out for us the age difference has been perfect and as been by far the best easiest transition. Praying for you and your family
I love how Abby explains that if you're pro Abby, you have to be pro Matt! Yes!!! You two are a team, always. Keep each other close. You guys are going to make it to the end. God bless you both
I have a 9yr daughter and a five month old daughter. The gap is amazing!!! Like truly amazing. My oldest was able to go to all my midwife appts and be fully present during our home birth. It’s been wonderful.
I loved being and after my first two, two years apart, the idea of them being out of the house within two years was too quick. Our last was 3 years behind the second was the BEST!!! It wasn’t my plan but in sooooo very thankful.
I was homeschooled from preschool through high school! I graduated with honors, a 4.0, and now am about to graduate nursing school with a 3.8! I was able to start college classes in high school, I did sports and co-ops, went to dances, and have so many friends that have started their own businesses while in high school.
she may not read this but abby the way you said yeah when matt mentioned griffin's tantrums was just beautiful. You were very aware and agreed but it also showed how wonderful mom you are.
My son (15 months) also LOVES his crib. If we say “are you ready to go to bed?!” He gets excited and runs to his crib. When he wakes up, we will see him in the monitor making his stuffed animals play(he makes his bunny “hop” and puppy “pant”). I thought sleep training was going to be way more stressful than it was! And I attribute it to what kept our marriage so strong through the rough new baby/emerging toddler months. I don’t think he ever cried for more than 2 minutes in the beginning. My husband says it was 30 seconds and just felt like 2 minutes! Haha and he’s been sleeping through the night since 8 months(before than he got up 1x a night to breastfeed) def made me a better mom during the day to get sleep at night!
Can you guys do an episode where you talk a bit more in depth about why you waited for marriage? Like, was it mostly for religious reasons and what specifically are your thoughts about it? Were there reasons other than religious that you decided to wait? My fiance and I are getting married next month 🥳 and are waiting for marriage. As a longtime listener I'm just curious to hear your personal thoughts about it!!
“If I were to like…work my magic.” 😂😂😂 Oh my gosh, I died! This episode really made my day, it was so overwhelmingly positive and started my morning off right. Thank you both!
my son did homeschool for a few years but he really really struggled in grade 1 until grade 3 so we made the decision to try real school and hes thriving way way more! hes such a social kid he needs a class so all kids are different!
I 100% agree with your thoughts on sleep training! I was also very hesitant for many months about it, then we all reached a breaking point with our then 6 month old daughter and I caved at 4am and bought Taking Cara Babies. BEST DECISION we ever made for our baby! She is now almost 1.5 years old, and her ability to sleep well has helped her in so many ways. Her temperament changed completely, she teethed all 16 of her teeth so far without any sleep disruption, she handles sickness better because she’s actually getting good rest at night… not to mention my husband and I are sleeping so well too. It’s been the best thing for our family across the board, couldn’t recommend it enough! I’m due with baby #2 in 10 days, and if needed, we will sleep train her as well because of all the benefits we’ve seen with our first!
Privacy, decorum and respect regarding talking about sex, for sure! In a grown-up, mature way. There is also something to be said about maturity coming with age and hopefully wisdom through life experiences. 😊❤
Matt, I just want to say I think you’re so brave for that song and I’m so sorry how people have pounced on it. Keep up what you’re doing. It IS making a difference. Trolls suck. You two are precious. You’re hard on yourself for reading comments but I can’t imagine it’s easy to just stop after building this platform off of connecting with the outside world. You’re such a good man and it’s obvious in what you put out. People out there are hurting and hurtful but that’s not a reflection of you. You deserve to be proud of yourself
Our 3rd was born when our 2nd child was 5 (& I was 37). Honestly, I loved the age difference. My older two were SO excited and helpful. It was nice that the older two were both in school together and I had time at home with the baby to do some one on one bonding. ❤️ my youngest is now almost 7 and even though there’s an age difference, he has fun with both of his older brothers.
@@ashleyp4513 that’s exactly us. My oldest was 8 when my 3rd was born as well. ❤️ Next school year I’ll have one in High school, one in middle school, and one in Elementary. 🤪🤷🏻♀️❤️
I love y’all most best content ever I have been with y’all for more then 2 years and are the best and also Matt I feel so bad I love y’all for you y’all are great and fantastic ❤🎉 also little question Abby what brand of conditioner do you use your hair looks amazing ❤😂🎉😊
i look up too y’all so much! i love how in love y’all are and i just hope that one day i have a marriage like y’all’s. matt matt matt i hope you feel better w ur mental health js know that so MANY people love and look up too you as an artist, influences, father, husband and just a funny guy! abbyyy your so beautiful and the way you carry your self is so inspirational! y’all seem like the most fun and loving parents i look up to both of you sm that’s for this podcast i love it very much ! thanks guys
100% get choosing not to read the comments, but in case you do, I wanted to make sure I try to counterbalance the uninformed keyboard warriors out there… I genuinely love your song “still not enough”! Not only is it easy on the ears, but it describes a feeling I’ve never been able to fully articulate - the odd crossbreed of a resoundingly empty, low-level depression and an insatiable ADHD drive for purpose 😅 Lastly, F those haters. Watching your videos make my days better. So thank you both ❤
I’ve been a subscriber of your UA-cam channel since you guys were married college students living in low income housing 🥹 I can’t believe all the crazy/hurtful things people say about y’all, I’ve always been able to tell that you both are so genuine and kind, and nothing has changed! It’s been amazing to watch your journey, thanks for bringing us along 💕💕
Thank you for all of your transparency. I love all of your podcasts. I'm not much for commenting, but as a mother of two girls with a 6 year 13 days age gap, I can honestly say it was not like riding a bike. The time between them we forgot a lot of things that are needed for a newborn. It was like restarting completely because by then, all Iwe was thinking about was teaching my oldest how to read and write. If we had planned on 2, we would have definitely had them closer together. We were lucky that our 2nd was a much happier calmer baby, but still, it wasn't like riding a bike at all.
As a homeschooled kid, I LOVED Sonlight! It's a literature focused homeschool program where you learn history through reading fiction and developing critical thinking skills through questions and discussions. They also have a great math and writing program.
Ive had both large age gaps and small age gaps and I would definitely not wait until your 30s since you already have kids. The earlier you get out of the baby stage the better. You will definitely find it harder since they wont be in the same age group. Like taking them to themeparks waterparks etc. one parent has to focus more in the baby while the other enjoys the kids
I’ve never heard ANYONE with an age gap regret it!! Five years between mine and would not change a thing!! I got to know and spend quality time with each child when they were little and they are sooo close and protective of one another.
I will say as a child of an age Gap, I regret it. My siblings are 10/8 and 5 years older than me, and I got constantly left out of things. Same thing with my husband, he has siblings that are 10 and 8 years older than him, and he also got left out of a lot of things . Now as adults it's not so bad, but growing up there were some really rough years. And currently now as a mom of two, I want to have my babies as close together as possible to try to mitigate issues regarding age
What you need to know is that you know the truth and your family knows the truth. Who cares what other people say. The negative comments are only made because they have nothing else to do and have low self esteem. I look forward to your podcasts every Wednesday morning.
I almost never comment on UA-cam but I wanted to say Matt you are an amazing artist. I’ve been thoroughly impressed with your songs and I cannot wait for you to drop an entire album I’d honestly some day love to attend a live event. Your song still not enough reminds me of my husband
Abby, I have never heard someone so openly and confidently say that all they want, their whole purpose, is to be a mom. Thank you for saying it. It's how I feel, and I've always been made to feel ashamed for it. My kids are each a year older than yours, and I've had such a hard tine saying it.
You should never be ashamed of what you want out of life🩷🩷 we all want different things and that’s why we all have our own lives!!
I feel the same way! I thought my whole life I should be pursing a career I love with high pay but what I’ve really always wanted is to be a Mom ❤
This is my purpose in life! I might only be 13 yo but all I want when I’m older is to be a mom. Kids are my favorite things in the world and I get so excited thinking that I will be a mom one day!
Yes!
I’ve alwaysss felt this way. Untill one day I saw the world for what is is and how scary and negative it is and why would I want to bring a precious human in this dangerous world? Then I gatta deal with worrying about school shootings and other things or them to have depression and wish I never had them bc at the end of the day yes we have good moments too and it’s so important to make all situations in a positive light but life is just not forever and for me personally I have to live with being terried to die and I know I wish I was just never born so it’s just a lot honestly. It makes me sad but I stand on all this so much idk if I can get myself to selfishly bring a baby into the world. It’s so crazy though cause my whole life like I always wanted it I’ve cried bc being a young never happened for me (bc I didn’t wanna live with my mom and have a child or be tied to a shitty person for life) I still long to be pregnant and give birth and hold my baby and love them even more when they’re here and take care of them and be their voice and just be the best mom ever and give them so much love but it’s just a lot
Being a kid whose parents never showed any sort of affection or adoration for eachother definitely had an impact on how I viewed intimacy and healthy relationships and I can’t say it’s all positive. I think it’s a great thing that y’all show affection in front of them. You’re setting the example for healthy relationships & love, let them see it!
Yes you are right about that being problematic in the future but you got to break the cycle
@@admar6934 oh I definitely have. I’m very much a quality time and physical touch type love language. I will kiss my man in public and we hold hands and idc who sees. And now that my parents are older and not worried about raising kids or making sure the bills are paid, they’ve been able to spend time together on little dates and things and it makes my heart so full to see them enjoying each other again ❤️
Can you please interview Elyse Myers and her husband Jonas? That would be SO incredible. Love you guys and love when you share about your kids and your parenting. Thank you for showing up every week!
I second this! It would be an amazing interview.
YES!!!!!❤ FYI They were on Shawn Johnson East and Andrew East and it was soooo amazing!😊❤
Oh such a great suggestion!
Yessss
Petition to bring back the “peace out dudes!” at the end!🙋🏻♀️
I swear Matt was so uncomfortable saying “byeeee” to conclude the episode😅
YES, i miss that so much !
Why did they stop?
Bring it back! Like if you want it back
They've changed a lot
This!! 🙌
My kiddos are 6 and 7 & I am pregnant with baby #3 at 30. Have to say, I am SO happy with our decision. My kids are happy and involved in the pregnancy and I feel great. I don’t think I would have been mentally or emotionally prepared to have another baby 5 years ago, so this timing was perfect for me and my family!
Sue them!! People need to not get away with posting other people’s things without their consent, especially when creating a fake story using them too. So sorry that happened to you guys!
Matt, thank you so much for always being open about mental health for men. My brother struggles and it isnt taken as seriously as my sisters. It’s difficult to see men go through this and we need more men like you speaking up about it!
You should definitely sue! They are in the wrong.
Agreed! They need ro take legal action. That is so wrong of that company to do that!
Look into legal action. Matt, you catch a bad wrap anyways because people clip and try to paint you in a bad light anyways and for people who don’t know you guys people will believe that about you!
THIS. What they did is definitely not okay.
Matt loves referencing Kim Kardashian when he can lolll. Kim K would sue those jerks Matt. #WWKD
I can’t believe someone would do this. Legal action is needed !
Abby- I love that you plan to homeschool your kids! There are SO MANY opportunities for homeschool kids now. Homeschool sports teams/clubs, homeschool co-ops, homeschool orchestras, homeschool robotics, choirs, all sorts of things! Get involved in your local homeschool community and find the opportunities.
As a teen in her last bit of being homeschooled her entire life, i can say 1) my respect and admiration for my mom for being willing to be with me 24/7 from the moment i was born is HUGE cause us kids were pretty tough when we were younger and 2) I absolutely have loved it and will never not be ashamed i “have no life” 😂
My mom sacrificing herself for us every day has meant the world for me and my older siblings :)))
@@Abi-MarieAweeee this is soooo amazing and so sweet! 🥹 ❤When C-vid happened my son who has Asperger’s did online school for the 1st time and man he loved it so much we just continued until he graduated. Also in addition to that he went into college in a better mental state so now is more than prepared to life and not just be “online schooled”. He absolutely does still enjoy the classes that’s he’s able to take online 😂😂
The episodes with just the two of you are my favorite!! Love all the hard work you guys are doing to get awesome guests and put out episodes every week. Thank you!!💙
My hearts gets warm seeing you being excited for the life you have and the love you share. And you talking about the future is soooo exciting. I can FEEL your happiness and I get to excited about life seeing you being happy! Love this podcast!
Yall are so wise beyond your years. You guys are such great examples of just complete genuine loving people, who love with all your being. Give yourself grace, I just turned 40 and I genuinely appreciate and love yall. Much love!
We have had 5 kids in 7 years. I like the close age gap, they all play together, we homeschool etc. we haven’t had a break from diapers in 7 years but it’s honestly kind of nice to just do it all in the beginning and then when we are done with diapers we are completely done, we don’t have to do it again in 5 years. There is honestly pros and cons to anything but we love having all our kids close together. You also have to remember that they aren’t all going to be toddlers, my 7 and 5 year old are very independent and helpful so in a way it gets easier. They aren’t as dependent on you for everything.
I had 5 in 7 years, too! I love that they're so close for the same reasons. 3 was the hardest transition for me, though, since they were all so small.
Omg! I have 2 and they are 2 years apart and I don’t know how I survived the first early months of having 2 little ones. Props to you and all the mommas that have many kids close in age. I don’t know how you do it💕
@Claudiasitta Every stage is hard! 1 kid, 2 kids, 5 kids. You just gotta roll with it, and some days pull out your hair lol.
@@kiyahforeverme too. 6 kids in 9 years. The third one was really hard.
@@kiyahforever three was definitely the hardest for us as well. I think some of it just had to do with the kids personalities as well though!
We have five kids, and it is so fun! I love watching them play together and make our back yard (and house) full of life! Playing on the trampoline, making up games together, doing “performances“ together, etc. I had them at 29, 31, 33, 36, and 40.
Aw I'm one of 4 (I'm 13) and my life was definitely similar to what you described. My mum had us at 30, 31 (almost 32), 34 and 39
This is such a good conversation! The way you both are comfortable talking about so many things so openly is amazing and so inspirational.
Abby, you are such an inspiration. It's nice to see such a hands-on mom that prioritizes self care as well. You inspire me to give atleast an hour to myself amidst the chaotic daily schedule of a mom with two young boys. You make me hopeful that one day, I can also look good and feel comfortable in my body again. Although realistically, I know I can never be as "buff" as you anytime soon haha! Love you guys
It’s so lovely hearing younger people talking like this and so excited about their future!! I was 22, 25 and 32 when I had my 3 girls and I can say that having a 10 year age gap is amazing!! The joy the whole family have with the youngest is wonderful!! You’ve got years to have your kids - enjoy these ones and don’t make it too stressful. It goes so so quick- mine are 17,14 and 7 now and it flies. Thats my advice. ❤
My dad unalived himself over his depression/mental health when i was a kid. It is something that needs taken more seriously. Im sry you got so much negative feedback about that song/video Matt. Don't let the haters view & opinions get to you, it's not worth it, they dont understand where you're coming from & they don't know you! Proud of you two❤
In case you read it: from someone who did a ridiculous amount of research on relationships for my job as a counsellor Matt you ARE a great husband and father. And Abby I LOVE your confidence with the mum shaming because 100% you are ABSOLUTELY RIGHT!!
Homeschool Mama here!! I love it. We are two years in and I am so thankful I get to have this time with our daughter. I love everything about it…picking the curriculum to what best fits her…doing all the fun science experiments and field trips. And she learned how to read this week! It’s such a blessing. We love it. Fine tuning her education to what best suits her is something that will benefit her for her entire life ❤
Take a shot every time Matt & Abby say a percentage 🤣🤣
“One hundred percent”
“One THOUSAND percent”
“One million hundred thousand percent”
Like on love is blind 😂
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You should 100% sue them. They can't use your image without your permission or paying you for it. Or at least a lawyer would send a cease and desist letter.
Matt and Abby, I just want to say that you two are looking happiwr and are having a heqlthier relationship since you've started counseling. It really shows! I love the stronger, healthier, much more loving and encouraging vibes coming off you two!
Y'all have a beautiful marriage and a beautiful family. Keep up the great work!
i love these natural discussions! thank you for being so open!
My kiddos are 6 years apart and I love it. I was able to enjoy all the things with our first and not have to focus on keeping another human alive. Now our oldest loves to help and be with his sister. Also my brother and I are 5 years apart and are the best of friends.
I love that y'all quit letting negative comments affect y'all! Be confident in yourself and know your worth! That's growth! Y'all are so inspirational in what seems every aspect of life. My kids are grown, but I love watching y'all grow and learn thru the process. Y'all both seem very wise and love to find solutions to life's issues. Keep rising!!!
I love how grateful Abby is for literally everything. She always talks about being privileged to have the life she has. But, also, you guys worked for that, too, Abby!! I don't know if I'm making sence. You can just see that you guys are like actually good people! Love ya'll!!
Don’t usually comment but I love this episode so much! Abby thank you so much for voicing how okay it is for your greatest dream to be a mom! It’s like you just spoke what I was thinking. ❤
I appreciate you talking about how important it is to wait until BOTH partners are ready for another baby!
Honestly we had two close together (18 months apart) and then we had one 12 years later and I love it. You don't forget. It's just like having the first but with the wisdom of already having kids. My oldest two have the sweetest memories with my youngest. 💜
glad you both set the boundaries you need to protect your mental health - we won’t always be for everyone but that doesn’t give people the right to say such hurtful things!! Love these chats with the two of you! 🤍
I was homeschooled all the way through, now I’m homeschooling my 3. The amount of homeschooling resources - curriculum, co-ops, sports, etc, is crazy now! There are so many options. I live in the middle of nowhere and we are in two co-ops. We have probably ten different sports programs we can join as homeschoolers from age 18 months all the way through highschool. It’s amazing. And we have so much more opportunity to focus on what they love every day.
Homeschooler here! I love how you guys talk so positively about homeschool! A lot of people don’t understand and think that your kids will turn out socially awkward and won’t have any friends. I can tell you that I have lots of friends, and that it really depends on your child’s personality.
I love being homeschooled, I love the flexibility and how you can customize it. I’m currently dual enrolled with the community college and will have one year of college finished by the time I graduate next year.
Im so blessed to have been brought up the way I was and I wish everyone could have that opportunity.
I do want to say that no matter what you do, your children will be different. No matter how many social activities they are involved in, being raised at home in a much different way than a lot of other kids will make a difference. That doesn’t mean it’s bad, on the contrary I think it’s great, but that is something that made me a little insecure when I was younger.
I have such a hope for homeschooling with the new generation. There are so many parents deciding to homeschool their kids and I think that will bring such a great change to the stigma of homeschooling. I hope one day it will be as common as getting public education.
Homeschool mom of a kindergartener.. thank you for sharing.. this made me feel so much better 🥲💜
@blueskies7538 Literally summed up my thoughts perfectly. It’s always been crazy to me that people think we have no friends and no life or that we can’t communicate haha. In fact, when we were younger adults were always shocked with how well we could hold conversations with them.
I am always so impressed with Abby and how well she articulates her perspective and the confidence she has in it. No shade at being young, but I highly doubt I was able to do that at her age, even if I thought so at the time. 😂 The wisdom, sincerity, and grace she speaks with keeps me coming back each week. I appreciate Matt, but love seeing a strong young woman owning who she is despite the pressure I know they get from social media. I can definitely take a page out of her book when it comes to achieving validation internally and not placing so much value on the opinion of others. Gyming for your mental health seems to be going great! I know you don't read these usually, but whoever sees this, big fan and will continue supporting! Great job guys!
Love this podcast sm! Love how real you guys are, you show the highs and lows of your life which I think is really important cause a lot of influencers today make it seem like their life is perfect and y’all are just so honest and sweet
Omg, you talking about another member of the family, that made me cry 😢 So sweet ❤
Married my husband when I was 20 and Saturday is our 11th wedding anniversary! I agree that it's not for everyone and, naturally, if you don't grow together and choose each other everyday, you WILL grow apart. But... we went to college together, we went out to the bars for the first time together, we went through family turmoil together. Our bond is so incredibly strong. I'm so grateful for him!
I do think it helped us, though, that we waited for six years to have our first child. That gave us plenty of time to really know each other and understand what we wanted out of life, being parents, etc. Cheers to forever!
I married my husband when I was 19. Still happily married 32 years later ❤
Have them closer in age, not farther. We have 3 boys: ages 6,5,4 and one girl: 2 years old. We didn’t have near the amount of help as you guys, pretty much did it alone, and all of our boys had the most horrible colic we had ever seen in babies and didn’t sleep and we survived it. And now, they are all 4 the best of buds and will share the same memories and grow up together as besties. It’s worth the horrible newborn stages and the struggle of those early months because once you get past that it gets so much easier. You’ll realize that you can actually survive and thrive on much less rest than you thought you needed.
The most important relationship in a childs life is the relationship between their parents. Even more so than the child/parent relationship. They find safety and security when they see a healthy loving relationship between their parents
I’ve watched you guys since podcast with Beestons. You guys are refreshingly honest and so mature for your years. I love your curiosity and creativity Matt and your vibrancy and get up and go attitude Abby. Any negativity is coming from place of negativity - it’s never worth paying attention to, I understand how easy it is to go down that rabbit hole tho. As for putting your emotions and song out there - feel proud and confident in your intentions - you are part of the cultural shift now and it’s so necessary. Keep up the great work guys! Xx
matt ur rlly wise, im 20 and have been taking alot of ur experience and advice these recent episodes. One that I particularly loved was when u were explaining that u cant work so many hours a week for too long and that its not feasible. You said how u need to work hard for a little bit and then u can have fun. I dont remember who yall were interviewing but it was comforting and made alot of sense. Ive only ever heard one or the other: u need to work rlly hard in life or YOLO and travel and have fun all day every day. Maybe its common knowledge but ive never heard it put the way u put it and i truly appraciated it and will use that in my life. thank ya'll for this amazing podcast.
As someone who can’t have kids cause of the disability I was born with, wanna say u both are more fortunate and privileged then u know, hella in this life, never get to have a family, find love, friendships, a good situation, etc in this life, many are struggling immensely in silence. Hope u both are able to realize that u are in a situation that millions would kill for. That is a life fact !
Ya'll always are so wholesome and fun to listen too!
Around the 23:00 minute mark when talking about getting through the tough stages and it will be worth it is so amazing. I agree.
I had my 4 back to back and I wouldn't change it for the world. You have more energy and then they grow up so close and then when they are older you still have the energy to do things together. I have friends had there's later in life and they regret it and struggle. And the bonus is also when they have kids you are still young enough to run around and enjoy your grandchildren. You both are a inspirational couple. Don't let the haters get to you. Anyone can give opinions and hide behind a keyboard. I miss you and your family on UA-cam videos. ❤😊
As a Homeschool mama, we started in 2020. My son did preschool-1st grade and has homeschooled since. He loves it. We have several co-ops & sports we are involved in. There are Loads of curriculums out there to choose from as well. We do a mix but love the good & beautiful! ❤
You could also look into homeschool programs that do weekly “field trips”. It gives kids the opportunity to socialize with other kids at like a national park, aquarium, and a bunch of other stuff. It’s really cool they offer so many different options for homeschooling now!!
Have you guys done a reaction video to your old videos? That would be an idea from me to you. I've been watching you guys so long, it's been a big evolution. You could share things going on behind the scenes in those videos - thoughts, feelings, reflections from then to now, etc. Then maybe in a separate vid or part 2, you could reflect on the past, talk about the journey, & then talk about what you want in the future moving forward, even if that's intrinsic. Or if you don't go too in depth, keep it as a part of 1 video. Just an idea!
Have 3 kids and all are 5 years apart.
I love it! It meant that each kid got special time as the baby of the family and my 10 year old is the best helper. I was adamant that I wouldn't let siblings be caretakers but she has other opinions. She is so possessive over her sister and constantly tries to volunteer to help so that I can shower, eat, sleep, etc.
And my 5 year old emotionally couldn't have handled a little sibling earlier on. But now, he loves her and likes booping her on the nose and loves to make sure she's okay.
It's a special bond that I absolutely love and I definitely didn't forget anything about taking care if them between the newborn phase.
My mom had me and then my brother 5 years later. 2 years later we adopted my brother and 1 year later my mom became pregnant and had my twin sisters. So my sisters and I are 8 years apart and we’re best friends. We literally do everything together, but even if baby number three comes earlier for you guys, I’m happy. But so you can be assured, it worked out for us. I’m proud of y’all, you guys are like the best role models for me. Thank you for existing. ❤
Please keep being yourselves. You are both amazing and an inspiration to those around you. It is a shame when people are negative towards you. We need to build others up around us not tear them down. ❤
We agreed on four, and then were surprised by a fifth! The BEST surprise!Five is the way to go. I love it. Every supper-time is a party! 🎉
We were going to be done at 5, but then went for 1 more 😂 I love it!
I just adore you both. I appreciate you as a couple and parents. I'm proud of you guys speaking about depression in men, marriage, and all topics. Just continue being the amazing souls that you are. Ignore the negative and hate. Those who do that must not be happy with themselves or their own lives. I'll pray for them. Have a wonderful week.
There were 5 kids in my family growing up, and I LOVED that number! Something I’ve noticed with families of 4 is that the first 3 form a dynamic and then the 4th is pretty far removed from the oldest, and only close with the 3rd, who is close to everyone. Having 5 was perfect, because the first two went through everything together, the last 2 do everything, and the third bridges the gap relationally between everyone
Matt’s joy and excitement for brisket was hilarious 😂 28:20
I got married at 29 same as my husband so I agree getting married older works, at least for us. It is different for everyone but I can not imagine getting married at 19/20 (at least for me and what my life was like then). But so happy for you guys and love your videos!! Thank you for always brightening my day!❤
I would love an episode about how Abby is so confident. She doesn't care about what other people think and I admire her so much for it. I'd love any advice she has to share 🫶❤️💕
Am I the only one who wakes up in the middle of the night just to watch their videos when they drop? Abby u have made it proof that hard work pays off. So as a mom of 2 boys (15 n 18) I wanna be in the best shape I can be for whenever the grandkids come around later in life. You guys rock n never stop being you!
She’s so over the haters and I’m here for it. I love when she sticks up for him lol.
I have a 2yr old and a 10 yr old. I freaking love the age gap. We wanted a 5 yr difference, but we lost a baby in our second trimester. About a year later, we welcomed our daughter who is now 2. They are best friends and if you think seeing the littles meet their sibling is precious you should see the reaction when they are older. He is the best big brother and Penelope adores Sebastian. The hest thing we did was wait so we could give Sebastian what he needed before bringing another child. I was 35 when I had him and 42 when I had Nell.
I have to admit, I love your guys videos. Its just so real and seeing yalls personality shine even more than just little clips I've seen. Love yall!!
I absolutely love you guys and everything you stand for. It's been lovely to see you guys along this journey as individuals, a couple and parents.
I'm definitely no one big but would love to connect or be on a podcast. I'm a RN who works for an organization for first time low income moms and am always trying to find ways to support our moms through the experience and help make things easier during some of the most vulnerable times in our lives ❤
I am a college student and I was homeschooled for the most part but did public high school for a year. Homeschooling was a better experience and I had a better relationship with my family. I went to an amazing co-op and met all my childhood and current best friends there. I have lots of “family” from being homeschooled as it was an amazing community. It set me up for college better than public school did.
Our four children are 14, 11, 7 (almost 8), and 2 1/2. We had them when I was 29, 33, 36, and 41. I would’ve never imagined having children in my late 30s and early 40s, but it was God‘s plan for our family. We loved having a larger gap before our last. It is not what I would have chosen when I was in my 20s, but God has a plan for each family. It’s funny hearing y’all talk about 35 like it’s old. You’ll get there and realize time flies so quickly! Each year is a gift. Blessings to your sweet family. 🙏
why are people so hard on matt and abby , stop praising one more than they other they are both human beings that happen to do content on the internet and talk about their own opinions. let them live !! you both are doing a great job and thank you for keeping it real on the internet nothing in life is perfect or easy and you guys are doing a great job!
1:15:48 Everybody is different but I'll be 29 this summer and we have 4 kiddos ages 5 & 1/2, 4, 2 & 1/2 & almost 3 months its a blast. It's crazy sometimes, but watching them grow up knowing they'll have friends forever is such a blessing, they fight but my sister and I were 5 years apart and didn't get close till adulthood. Also I will say having a baby at 28 versus 22 was a big difference, my body had a harder time and recovery was so different. But honestly God spaced our kids and we were surprised with our third but we are so grateful 😊
I love how you guys talk about body positivity regading your own body. There are so many people, myself included, that keep themselves at such a high standard when it comes to their body, but would never do the same for another person. It is so important to work on 'I am important no matter how I look'.
I love Abby so much. She so inspiring and love her love of being a mom. I watch for Abby.
I loved that this episode was very transparent raw and relatable !
I had my first girl at 23 then my second girl at 25. I thought I was done and always said I would be done before 30. I was 31 and had my third child.. a boy! It has been amazing, it was like riding a bike like what Matt said. I also went into this expecting to have a 4th in about a year so he has a buddy. I am like Abby and would just keep having babies I LOVE babies and my kids. I as well did not mind if baby number 3 was another girl, I am over the moon no matter what gender. My oldest who is 8 is such a good big sister, she is a little mom and so in love with “her” baby. For how it turned out for us the age difference has been perfect and as been by far the best easiest transition. Praying for you and your family
Podcast Membership PLEASEE!! This is what I look forward to every week!!
I love how Abby explains that if you're pro Abby, you have to be pro Matt! Yes!!! You two are a team, always. Keep each other close. You guys are going to make it to the end. God bless you both
I have a 9yr daughter and a five month old daughter. The gap is amazing!!! Like truly amazing. My oldest was able to go to all my midwife appts and be fully present during our home birth. It’s been wonderful.
I loved being and after my first two, two years apart, the idea of them being out of the house within two years was too quick. Our last was 3 years behind the second was the BEST!!! It wasn’t my plan but in sooooo very thankful.
I was homeschooled from preschool through high school! I graduated with honors, a 4.0, and now am about to graduate nursing school with a 3.8! I was able to start college classes in high school, I did sports and co-ops, went to dances, and have so many friends that have started their own businesses while in high school.
I would venture to say you guys having these podcasts help your relationship alot so a great reason to keep making them.Love and Blessings 😊❤❤
she may not read this but abby the way you said yeah when matt mentioned griffin's tantrums was just beautiful. You were very aware and agreed but it also showed how wonderful mom you are.
My son (15 months) also LOVES his crib. If we say “are you ready to go to bed?!” He gets excited and runs to his crib. When he wakes up, we will see him in the monitor making his stuffed animals play(he makes his bunny “hop” and puppy “pant”). I thought sleep training was going to be way more stressful than it was! And I attribute it to what kept our marriage so strong through the rough new baby/emerging toddler months. I don’t think he ever cried for more than 2 minutes in the beginning. My husband says it was 30 seconds and just felt like 2 minutes! Haha and he’s been sleeping through the night since 8 months(before than he got up 1x a night to breastfeed) def made me a better mom during the day to get sleep at night!
Can you guys do an episode where you talk a bit more in depth about why you waited for marriage? Like, was it mostly for religious reasons and what specifically are your thoughts about it? Were there reasons other than religious that you decided to wait?
My fiance and I are getting married next month 🥳 and are waiting for marriage. As a longtime listener I'm just curious to hear your personal thoughts about it!!
“If I were to like…work my magic.” 😂😂😂 Oh my gosh, I died! This episode really made my day, it was so overwhelmingly positive and started my morning off right. Thank you both!
my son did homeschool for a few years but he really really struggled in grade 1 until grade 3 so we made the decision to try real school and hes thriving way way more! hes such a social kid he needs a class so all kids are different!
I 100% agree with your thoughts on sleep training! I was also very hesitant for many months about it, then we all reached a breaking point with our then 6 month old daughter and I caved at 4am and bought Taking Cara Babies. BEST DECISION we ever made for our baby! She is now almost 1.5 years old, and her ability to sleep well has helped her in so many ways. Her temperament changed completely, she teethed all 16 of her teeth so far without any sleep disruption, she handles sickness better because she’s actually getting good rest at night… not to mention my husband and I are sleeping so well too. It’s been the best thing for our family across the board, couldn’t recommend it enough! I’m due with baby #2 in 10 days, and if needed, we will sleep train her as well because of all the benefits we’ve seen with our first!
Privacy, decorum and respect regarding talking about sex, for sure! In a grown-up, mature way. There is also something to be said about maturity coming with age and hopefully wisdom through life experiences. 😊❤
Honestly you guys have the best podcast ever
Matt, I just want to say I think you’re so brave for that song and I’m so sorry how people have pounced on it. Keep up what you’re doing. It IS making a difference. Trolls suck. You two are precious. You’re hard on yourself for reading comments but I can’t imagine it’s easy to just stop after building this platform off of connecting with the outside world. You’re such a good man and it’s obvious in what you put out. People out there are hurting and hurtful but that’s not a reflection of you. You deserve to be proud of yourself
what a wonderful episode to listen to while I organized items from my baby shower. Expecting my first child soon and so excited.
Our 3rd was born when our 2nd child was 5 (& I was 37). Honestly, I loved the age difference. My older two were SO excited and helpful. It was nice that the older two were both in school together and I had time at home with the baby to do some one on one bonding. ❤️ my youngest is now almost 7 and even though there’s an age difference, he has fun with both of his older brothers.
@@ashleyp4513 that’s exactly us. My oldest was 8 when my 3rd was born as well. ❤️ Next school year I’ll have one in High school, one in middle school, and one in Elementary. 🤪🤷🏻♀️❤️
I love y’all most best content ever I have been with y’all for more then 2 years and are the best and also Matt I feel so bad I love y’all for you y’all are great and fantastic ❤🎉 also little question Abby what brand of conditioner do you use your hair looks amazing ❤😂🎉😊
i look up too y’all so much! i love how in love y’all are and i just hope that one day i have a marriage like y’all’s. matt matt matt i hope you feel better w ur mental health js know that so MANY people love and look up too you as an artist, influences, father, husband and just a funny guy! abbyyy your so beautiful and the way you carry your self is so inspirational! y’all seem like the most fun and loving parents i look up to both of you sm that’s for this podcast i love it very much ! thanks guys
100% get choosing not to read the comments, but in case you do, I wanted to make sure I try to counterbalance the uninformed keyboard warriors out there…
I genuinely love your song “still not enough”!
Not only is it easy on the ears, but it describes a feeling I’ve never been able to fully articulate - the odd crossbreed of a resoundingly empty, low-level depression and an insatiable ADHD drive for purpose 😅
Lastly, F those haters. Watching your videos make my days better. So thank you both ❤
Abby and Matt you both are absolutely incredible parents❤
I’ve been a subscriber of your UA-cam channel since you guys were married college students living in low income housing 🥹 I can’t believe all the crazy/hurtful things people say about y’all, I’ve always been able to tell that you both are so genuine and kind, and nothing has changed! It’s been amazing to watch your journey, thanks for bringing us along 💕💕
Homeschool graduate here!! Homeschooling is the best decision my parents made. Sounds like it would work well with y'alls work situation!
Thank you for all of your transparency. I love all of your podcasts. I'm not much for commenting, but as a mother of two girls with a 6 year 13 days age gap, I can honestly say it was not like riding a bike. The time between them we forgot a lot of things that are needed for a newborn. It was like restarting completely because by then, all Iwe was thinking about was teaching my oldest how to read and write. If we had planned on 2, we would have definitely had them closer together. We were lucky that our 2nd was a much happier calmer baby, but still, it wasn't like riding a bike at all.
I have children 22 to 36, 3 girls & 2 boys. I didn't forget a thing, 14 years between youngest and oldest. They all are so close, my heart is full ❤
As a homeschooled kid, I LOVED Sonlight! It's a literature focused homeschool program where you learn history through reading fiction and developing critical thinking skills through questions and discussions. They also have a great math and writing program.
Ive had both large age gaps and small age gaps and I would definitely not wait until your 30s since you already have kids. The earlier you get out of the baby stage the better. You will definitely find it harder since they wont be in the same age group. Like taking them to themeparks waterparks etc. one parent has to focus more in the baby while the other enjoys the kids
I’ve never heard ANYONE with an age gap regret it!! Five years between mine and would not change a thing!! I got to know and spend quality time with each child when they were little and they are sooo close and protective of one another.
Agreed!
Yes ❤
I am the younger sister with a five year age gap older brother, and I love it. He helped influence me in so many ways.
I will say as a child of an age Gap, I regret it. My siblings are 10/8 and 5 years older than me, and I got constantly left out of things. Same thing with my husband, he has siblings that are 10 and 8 years older than him, and he also got left out of a lot of things . Now as adults it's not so bad, but growing up there were some really rough years. And currently now as a mom of two, I want to have my babies as close together as possible to try to mitigate issues regarding age
What you need to know is that you know the truth and your family knows the truth. Who cares what other people say. The negative comments are only made because they have nothing else to do and have low self esteem. I look forward to your podcasts every Wednesday morning.
I almost never comment on UA-cam but I wanted to say Matt you are an amazing artist. I’ve been thoroughly impressed with your songs and I cannot wait for you to drop an entire album I’d honestly some day love to attend a live event. Your song still not enough reminds me of my husband