Infertility and God | Does Infertility Come from God? Part 1
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- Опубліковано 6 вер 2024
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As a believer, I was uncertain of how infertility treatments could play a role in my infertility. I understand this is not a popular topic. This is a topic that many may not care much about and that is totally okay. These are for women who might be on the fence of infertility treatments because they're unsure of what their faith says about it. This is simply what I've found in my experience. I hope it can give you some hope.
Salina
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You can also find the other videos where I’ve talked about infertility issues here:
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About Me:
My husband, Mondo and I have been dealing with infertility for close to 10 years. I have never been pregnant and have been given the diagnosis of Unexplained Infertility. In the midst of our IVF process, polyps were found in which we had to get rid of them. We are in the middle of the IVF process to help grow our family. We are approaching our first frozen embryo transfer in mid May. Walk with us while we plunge into the crazy world of IVF.
May be may be not. But 1samuel 1:5_6 clearly tells us that the Lord had closed her womb(hannah) . Sometimes God allows us go through the storm,fires, difficult situations for the glory of His name. He even allowed Job go through hardtimes but the goid news us that if God is involved, He has a way if breakthrough
This is a question I struggle with. All. The. Time. The one thing I keep thinking is "if children are a gift from God... why don't I get this gift".. I was at mass once before we got help and my Priest was saying that 'miracles happen all the time, but you have to put the work in as well. If you do the possible he will do the impossible.' he proceeded to talk about illness and he said he didn't want us to get the wrong idea such as 'i have cancer I'm not going to do anything and I'm going to wait for a miracle'.. He then talked about doctors and how they were blessed with the intelligence and the compassion to help people..... and that's when it hit me. I CAN get help and I won't be 'going against God'. He has given us the resources to do the possible, so He can do the impossible........... but I would be lying if I didn't still question "why".
HeyJulia Yes, you got it! The light bulb kind of went off for me like that too! I don’t know why it happens, but I am in a place now where I’m starting to see things differently than I have at the beginning of my infertility. Instead of having an attitude full of anger and jealousy because it seemed that everyone else was getting pregnant except for me, I decided to think differently. It took years to get to this point, but I now believe that it’s only a matter of time that God will fulfill his promises for my life. This has caused me to no longer look at what I don’t have, but to wait in expectation while praying and seeking God through it. I am now more at peace than I have in a long time. I honestly believe God wants to see if we will seek the healer vs. the healing. Best wishes to you in your journey. Trust God that he will make a way. He will begin to do amazing things in your life. He wants to see how much we trust him with our dreams and lives. ❤️
@@letsmakelemonade5764 So much YES to this!!!! I also try to look at the positive, like how lucky are we to have gone through this, how lucky are we that this has brought us SO much closer together, how lucky are we that this baby is so wanted that we worked so incredibly hard and prayed even harder for it to get here. there has been so many blessing that came out of this hardship!
Great video. im a new sub! i too struggles w these feelings and i did a video too if anyone is interested ♥️ baby dust to you! ua-cam.com/video/xil6PGAeJw8/v-deo.html
This has literally changed my life I have been crying for the last hour I feel like I can finally feel GOD again
😭😭😭 God sees you, He loves you, You are not forgotten, my friend. 🫶🏻
For someone who has dealt with infertility for a long time and believe in God, is this a question that you've thought of before?
Let's Make Lemonade yes it’s something I struggle with daily. We are newly married and struggling. It’s hard because we get the when are you having kids ? Constantly and it’s hard.
Nothing happens in this world without God allowing it
I needed this. I lost my baby when I was 5 weeks pregnant. I’ve been trying to get pregnant after but I struggle with thyroid issues and I’m really discouraged because I haven’t been able to get pregnant. I sometimes wonder if I did something to upset God and that’s why I haven’t gotten pregnant. I know it’s the enemy speaking to me because God isn’t like that.
I am so sorry for your loss. Please be at peace knowing that God didn’t take your baby away from you. I developed thyroid issues also and had to be put on thyroid medication for my second pregnancy. I hope that you get the answers that you need to build to your family. Best wishes to you.
This definitely hits me hard. My wife & I will be celebrating our 5th year wedding anniversary in two weeks and we've been struggling to conceive a child naturally. Turns out that I was born with a disorder that traps the sperm in my body, almost like being born with a "natural vasectomy" for lack of a better word. I tried surgery back in 2016 to remove the block but it was unsuccessful. I was warned by my doctor that the recovery was going to be painful, but I didn't care about the pain because it was only temporary. I was willing to suffer for a short period of time so long as the end result was a healthy happy baby.
We tried IUI a few times with donors but no luck. Now she wants to try IVF. I lost count on how many times we've been called "sinners" and that we're destined for hell after we die. This was coming from other Catholics and Christian denominations. We've never felt so ostracized in our lives. What ever happened to Jesus's commandment to love one another? I thought God was ever merciful and ever forgiving.
So, yes. We're going to try IVF with donors. My wife wants to experience motherhood and carrying a child and the miracle of natural birth. All we want to do is raise a family, teach him/her about our Lord & Savior Jesus Christ, and God willing, live long enough to enjoy grandchildren. So tell me, what's so evil about that? So you mean to tell me if we decide to go the IVF route, God will punish me to eternal fire and if I go to confession, no priest will absolve me?
I didn't ask to be born this way. I was always taught that God loves us unconditionally and will forgive us. Well, I'm asking Him now to please forgive me for our past decisions and the decisions to come. I yearn to be a father and a grandfather. God, please forgive me if You don't agree with my choice. And for any of you who are reading this, please don't respond back with hate comments. I've already endured enough hate comments over the past 2 years.
Please know that God is for you and that he loves you. I am so sorry to learn of your challenges. Growing close to God and understanding his nature, I now understand that this world brings us illness and sickness but that is not the heart of God. It is not the heart of God for you to struggle so much in wanting to build your family. And, you are not doing wrong because you want to build your family. We are not acting like God when we go towards infertility treatments to build our family. We are simply getting help to allow our bodies to do what they are supposed to do. God provided me and my husband a baby girl through IVF. He even told us through a prophetic message that we would be pregnant with a girl in six months and that was exactly the timing through IVF. So just know, there are a lot of people who don’t understand, but there are a lot of people who do, and know that God doesn’t condemn you, he loves you and wants your heart to be fulfilled. I wish you all the very best in your future and for your family.
@@letsmakelemonade5764 Hi!! :) I really appreciate you taking the time to message me! This infertility journey has definitely been a cross for us to bear. I can't tell you how many hate messages & comments I've received over the past two years from other "Christians" and "Catholics" who swore up & down that my wife & I are destined for Hell if we choose IVF, especially IVF with donors. To be honest, I haven't felt the love & welcome-ness from the Church since we started to have infertility issues. Yes, we can look into adoption as well, it's roughly the same price as IVF. But my wife really wants to experience motherhood. And since I can't provide her with a biological child, who am I to deny her the experience of carrying a child? And if this IVF works, yes, the child biologically won't be mine. But who says I can't love him/her unconditionally? I would love him/her as my own and I would work my tail off to give them the best life possible. So, what's so immoral about that?
Believe me. I've prayed so much for a miracle birth. Good Lord, that would solve all of our problems!!! But it looks like that's not going to happen. So yes, we're going the IVF route. I just hope & pray that God understands our decision and forgives us, even if He doesn't agree with it. I truly hope & pray He doesn't punish us to eternal torture for wanting to have a family and become grandparents.
Sorry for the rant. This has been a difficult two years and I'm physically, mentally, spiritually & emotionally exhausted. Thanks again for replying back to me. God bless you!
@@Sanguine_Addiction I am grateful that I have been able to share my story with many people who love God. I have welcomed me with love and understanding. I don’t know who the people you are up against but I would definitely create some serious boundaries. I don’t speak to many Catholics but if they seem to be the one that are not understanding, I wouldn’t say anything to them about your efforts. At some point, it’s best to protect your heart and your mind. People who have strong opinions like that have no idea what it’s like to deal with infertility. God adopted us, those who are Gentiles. He has shown us what it’s like to be selfless and to love us just the same as his people. Whether we adopt a child or whether we take on another child that is not biologically ours, we are showing God’s love by being selfless and pouring in to that human. I would encourage you to get around people who understand and who are loving towards your efforts. There are many people who are Christians and are for building a family through infertility treatments. It’s very unfortunate that there are a very strong opinions within the Christian community that come off so hateful. That is not the heart of God. IVF is not some thing God is against. I can say that strongly because he has shown me that he has been with me every step of the way during my journey. I hope that people don’t cause you to turn away from God but to embrace him, and to see for yourself that he is good. People will disappoint us but I hope that their representation will not be the one that you believe about who God is. You are not damned, and you aren’t going to be tortured because you have chosen to go to a doctor to help build your family. I thank God for my doctor because without his help, my baby wouldn’t be here right now. God bless you and your family and may he show you his grace.
@@letsmakelemonade5764 much appreciated :) My wife already made an appointment with her fertility doctor. I'll let you know how it goes.
@@Sanguine_Addiction Please do!
Thank you. I really needed this today.
I’m so tired I’m struggling making embryos through IVF so I just finished 3 egg retrieval’s and have 2 normal genetically tested embryos and am very grateful for that however I’m struggling with the ones that are not genetically normal and the discarding of them I fee that is so very wrong like I’m killing little babies as a Christian it’s really bothering me ..I wanted to keep on doing more egg retrieval’s however I feel very bad so goig t try and transfer the ones I have already..I really hope god can understand🙏
I’m not sure how much you’ve heard this already but it was communicated to me through my doctor that the abnormal embryos are not viable so they would not become babies even if they were transferred to you. It’s the same as having a monthly cycle. We as women release an egg monthly but when they are not fertilized, they are discarded naturally every month. When you have an egg retrieval, you’ve accumulated many months of cycles into one and have more of those embryos that aren’t viable that your body would naturally discard anyway. I hope this helps bring some peace to you.
We are dealing with infertility too and it's been a lonely experience , receiving little family support (something I vow to never do if I have a daughter or daughter in law struggling with something really difficult and could use that support). We've been trying for 17 months, had 3 early miscarriages. I'm going in for a hysterscopy and d&c for scar tissue removal on January 16. All we can do now is hope.. though joining scar tissue/asherman's Facebook group also gives me hope because so many women became successfully pregnant after 3 months natural or with Ivf after the procedure ☺️
Yes, there’s much to hope for! After 10 years of trying to conceive, we are now 24 weeks pregnant with a baby girl. I hope things change for you soon!
Let's Make Lemonade thanks, you're so sweet! God bless you!
Thank you for this video
I ask myself all the time. I asked God for a child and i don’t have one
Looking back I realized that it wasn’t a matter of if, but when. I wanted kids when I was 25 but the Lord said not until 36. I had to do my part in fighting for it with my attempts but it’s all in his timing. I wish you all the best and may God bless you in building your family.
Thank you!
HalaluYah Amen love you bring this to four front this is Testemony to help other
the Y chromosome AZF micro-deletion
God gave me that “gift” and it seems that he refuses to heal it
LITERALLY lost a marriage over this BS because she didn’t want to be with me anymore because I couldn’t get her pregnant……
So sorry to see this. Praying that God turns things around for you and your family in the future.
@@letsmakelemonade5764 thank you.
Christ is King!!
Yes it does come from God. That be fruitful and multiply must have been only directed at SOME PEOPLE
He is a respecter of persons too. He decided I was too inferior to be a parent
Such a sad perspective. This doesn’t sound like the character of God. This doesn’t align with the word of God.
@@letsmakelemonade5764 you’re right. I have been humbled and shown the errors of my ways and ways of thinking these last few months. I’ve been praying a lot and did a recent fasting and I have been able to recover so much faith.
I hereby retract and condemn the previous statement I made four months ago
@@SunglassesatKnight88 Wow, how great of you to look to the Father for the answers. This is so good. The worst thing you could’ve done was stay angry and turn away from God. I commend you for drawing near to God and you saw that he drew near to you. So beautiful. I was angry too…and now I have two beautiful babies. The Lord is good and his timing is perfect even when he doesn’t work as fast as we’d like him to. Blessings to you!
@@letsmakelemonade5764 thanks! I very much appreciate your kind words! I hope that others can learn from my experience. The person that I deteriorated into drive my wife away. Those of you reading this, and feel the same way about life and God, please reconsider! I’m telling you right now that losing faith in God is not the way to go. I am now without my wife and would do anything to have her back in my life.
Remember this and do not end up like me…..