Im glad your mom is no longer suffering. People with schizophrenia are often suffering more than anyone ever imagines. The pain physical and emotional the loneliness and confusion. Very heartbreaking.
I, too, had a mother with schizophrenia. A single mother, but violent, and terrifying. She is still alive but heavily medicated and has dementia. As young children, my two older sisters and I somehow survived her many attempts to un-alive us. I am now 56 and on disability due to this. Someday, I want to tell our story. Thanks for sharing yours.
I want to thank you for honoring your mother, and commend you for your bravery in telling her story. It's YOUR story, too. Anxiety and Panic Disorder runs in my family, and my 39 year old son is crippled by it, and always has been. He is a big, handsome, extremely intelligent and honorable young man, and all that goes to waste because the anxiety holds him prisoner. Luckily, he does go for counseling and he has an amazing wife, but he can't seem to get past the illness. I worry for him every day and wish he could go out and live a happy life. So many are suffering in silence, so people like you who tell their stories, are a blessing to those who feel alone.
I have no medical training, but I think that your son has a vagual nerve disorder. His vagual nerve is over- responding to stimulus. I have a genetic disorder called Ehiler-Danlos and vasovagal syncope as a result. I sort of faint under stress. I take a small dose of Lexapro 5ml., and I stop crying. It calms my vagual nerve. I'm going to learn the Silva mind control style next. Hope something here helps.
This sounds like my husband. He thinks counseling is stupid and won’t try any medications as he thinks those of course will cause side effects that make his anxiety worse like dry mouth or nausea.. idk very sad to see life so wasted and crippled by fear which is always from the devil 😢
I totally understand your story and thank you for sharing about your having a Mum and how this affected your life. I have a 45 year old son who has schizophrenia and is medicated
I also suffer from anxiety and it is crippling people. Luckily I had the right meds, it took awhile but I can control it better. I didn't like counseling. Luckily I had to work because I wouldn't have left the house. I had a very physical and mentally challenging situation. I worked on the Alzheimer's unit. I finally had a stroke and had to retire. Even though I'm not as stressed, I still get bouts of it. Family inheritance.......🙄😕
My mom has schizophrenia too. She was extremely violent and cruel. My extended family believed mental illness was a moral failing. As a result, they wanted to keep it a secret. I was 8 when she was diagnosed, and the language I was given to explain what was going on with her only minimized it, and it really gaslighted me. My grandmother would say that my mother had a “little chemical imbalance, but she takes a pill everyday and she is totally normal.” None of that was true. My mother did not take the advice of her doctor, and wasn’t consistent with her meds, and when she was it only sort of worked. My grandmother convinced me that this was all normal, and I spent most of my life not understanding why she hated me, and trying to manage her rage and violence. She would constantly bounce between boiling blinding rage, and blubbering sobbing on the floor. She had so many delusions about people all over town, and would drag me and my brother on her quests to practically stalk them. I always knew she was sick, and I knew the things she believed were wrong, but I did not understand so much of her behavior was the result of her illness. The only thing I ever felt from her is pure disdain, hatred, and a bizarre sense of entitlement to me and clinginess. I walked away when I was in my 30s, after my second child was born. I couldn’t keep dealing with her while my family kept insisting that everything is fine, and I just needed to do more to manage her outbursts.
Don’t blame you at all. There is a limit to dealing with the issues of others. If they’re able to wipe their own butt then they’re also able to at least control hatred and malice especially directed at children.
@@brandy4530 I hear you, and am so sorry that you had to deal with all of the effects of your mother’s behaviour without protection, while growing up. The adults didn’t understand the impact on you presumably, and perhaps hoped that by minimising her illness and behaviour, somehow it wouldn’t be as bad as it was. It is only in more recent years that society at large is more aware of how severe mental illness affects parenting. Families were unsupported in dealing with it largely, and certainly spouses and children had no help. Everyone around your mother, and you, it seems were blind to how damaging she was for a child and I’m so sorry for your suffering.
@@Issy2226-c6p My mother was like lorie's. My family were not at all blind to it, but it was easier for THEM to make me live with her meanness than for them to interfere.
I am sorry that your mom went through this, she needed treatment. I had an aunt that was diagnosed with schizophrenia before I was even born. She had a very traumatic childhood. However, she was one of the nicest caregivers I ever had. When I was around 4 I realized she would be talking to herself, and laughing. She was a beautiful soul. I miss her so much! She taught many good things. Even though she was sick, the relatives didn't provide her with the love respect, and care she deserved. She was used as their unpaid babysitter, she ran all of the errands for the family every single day. She would walk to every store, there were no cars in our home. I think she only rested on Sundays because all the stores where closed. Otherwise they would have her working 7 days a week. While the supposedly" healthy ones" sat around and enjoyed life. She enjoyed reading, that was her escape. She was the most peaceful too. She never married, she was single, and she was happy.
Lots of family doesn’t help even when you beg for help / people in general do not want to carry other’s burden. I learned I have no one. Bc I’m “pretty” I have no real problems and need to get over myself. Per my family.
My mother was ALL of the things you mentioned, which freaks me out…but she was very abusive, neglectful, and violent with me too. I got taken away from her twice and put into foster care…or she’d drop me off on somebody’s porch. I was basically raised by a string of relatives. My father was never involved, and she said she hated me because I looked just like him. She also was diagnosed both Schizophrenic and Bipolar/Manic Depressive on top of it. And this was all in the 80’s/90’s. I was very scared of her, and never got the chance to understand her because she committed suicide. In hindsight, schizophrenia is hell. They actually hear/see things. I’m sorry you went through what you did❤️
Yes, my mother passed away on Christmas day, two years ago. I felt strange, relieved and couldn't cry...it was over. Now I can heal and grieve. But my initial reaction was relief...she can't hurt me anymore. Rest in peace mama 🌹
I know about false guilt. That's a huge problem for kind hearted people. I suffer from tremendous guilt feelings but then I have to tell myself that I didn't know better on how to react and be the perfect therapist for my mother.
@@susanparker4550 what treatment are you referring to? There is no treatment as they have no clue what even causes it. They try to manage symptoms with medications that cause many more health issues and often do not even fix the symptoms.
I am one year older than your mum. I have suffered from mental health issues for most of my life, not schizophrenia. I too have also been called crazy, attention seeking and worse. I have always accepted help for my disorders, although for the last few years there is none. I have been on the medication roundabout and had several hospital admissions. I raised 3 children as a single parent and am now estranged from all of them as well as my biological family. I had 3 bad relationships with men and have lived on my own for the last 10 years since my youngest son left home. I haven't had a man in my life for 36 years. I now live only with my 2 dogs. I have always had a good relationship with animals and have always had my fair share of many different types. I got all my emotional support from my dear dad who passed away 4 years ago. My life has gone downhill ever since. Thankyou for sharing your story it reminds me a lot of my own and has me in tears.
This had me in tears too remembering my mom's suffering. I pray you know you are worth anything that is available to be tried to get stable. There are always new perspectives on mental illness. FINALLY, the medical field knows the mind is important. Hang in there and don't give up. ~Linda
Know that you are worthy of love. Give yourself all the love you need to feel good 🤗 enjoy your life and every special moment, being, thing in it. I hope you will be okay. All the best.
I grew up with a mother who has schizophrenia as well. In fact there are many people with in my extended family have mental illnesses. It was and still is very difficult to interact with my mom at times. She informed me of some of the environmental factors from her childhood and I think this contributed to her developing schizophrenia. Ultimately, I love my mom because she’s my mom and she did the best she could but there’s a lot of pain there. One day I hope to go to therapy to discuss these things. Sending love your way ❤
@@JohnSmith-lk8cyBecause it wasn't intentional. She didn't ask to be born with schizophrenia and maybe going to therapy was still seen as messed up during the period of time of her childhood or if she was part of some type of religious groups. So hush. I am sorry you went through that and I respect that you can see that your mom tried the best she could. No one asks to have mental illness and when either their entire family is distant or has it themselves, it is beyond far from being miraculously cured. You love her, but hate things that she did. You don't gotta completely hate her as a human being. I understand being unable to forgive a mom who takes zero responsibility for any wrongdoing, but some abusers just can't see that they're mentally ill and what they're doing is wrong. And that's why there is the guilty by legal insanity defense.
Oh man, my mom has schizophrenia. I see you! I hear you! I am so sorry she was never properly diagnosed. When my mom takes her meds, she is herself. But she often chooses not to take them... Thank you for sharing your story
We need to change the law in regards to how much "free will" we give people with a history of mental illness especially if anosognosia is present... Anosognosia is damage to the part of your 🧠 that allows you to self-reflect on your behavior so you don't realize something is wrong no matter how obvious/bad it gets.
My brother was diagnosed with schizophrenia at the age of 19. He had what was termed a break down. He always struggled at school, could not learn and when he left my father got him a job on the railways as a fireman. We had steak trains at that time. This is when he had his break down. We took him to a psychiatrist who diagnosed him and put him on medication. He lost his job and did not get another. He was married but that ended in divorce. He suffered many delusions and was impossible to live with. He was also very concerned about cleanliness. He also was addicted to gambling and stole money on things which he would sell. Finally after living in many shelters but did not like their rules, refused to confirm and ended up in the streets. I offered him a room but he preferred to live free. Our whole family tried to help him but it was to no avail. We cried many tears over him and finally he died and we don't know how or where he was. It is the saddest thing to have to deal with. My sympathies is with anyone who has a family member with schizophreni.😊😊
My Mom is 83 and I now see the signs. She was better when she was busy. Got worse in her 70's, but Thank God my Dad never left her. 64 yrs married today.. Thank goodness I could forgive her for a wild childhood🙏
Your Dad is a saint. What a blessing that your father stayed & I am sure your mama loved you dearly. Blessings for your bravery & being a person who can take some of the stigma by at least TALKING a about MENTAL ILLNESS.✌🏽😎
If you didn't see the signs before she was 60 then its not Schizophrenic. Your mother has Dementia / Alzheimer's which happens to many people with older age. Schizophrenic / Schizo disorders are first noticed at a younger age under 40, usually teens to 35.. /and mostly in their 20's. Usually starts with major life changes..School /jobs and they cant handle the pressure and there is usually some sort of break or break down that starts it.
I'm crying hearing your story, I have cried in the past about my mother and my relationship with her but it had been a while so I probably needed to. I'm glad I tuned in, it isn't a subject I've talked about very much because, as is the case with you, it triggers so many feelings of guilt around my inability to understand what was happening to my mother and my reactions to her psychotic symptoms and behaviors. Your story is similar in some ways to our experience but different in other ways. My mother married my father at 32, I was born 2 yr. later, and they remained married and shared our home throughout each of their relatively short lives. I don't recall anything out of the ordinary until I was around 10 or 11 when my mother began having paranoid ideas, believing others were saying terrible things about her, becoming delusional, hallucinating, and being hospitalized the first time. She was prescribed medication, returned home after a month's stay, and seemed to be stable, but a couple of years later the same thing occurred and she was hospitalized again. My paternal grandmother lived 2 blocks from us and did not treat my mother nor my younger sister well. My father worked long hours and was away from home much of the time. There was no one my mother socialized with except for family occasionally and I think she was lonely. I remember being afraid of my mother on some level, not physically, but emotionally cut by some of the things she said to me, and I recall being embarrassed by some of her bizarre behaviors in public. After her 2nd hspitalization, I began spending more time at my grandmother's house or at the home of friends, often overnight. My mother was a beautiful woman with an awesome singing voice. I didn't have either of my parents long, my father died of cancer when I was 15 and my mother died of a brain hemorrhage a year later. She had a history of physical complaints for which Drs. could find no reason, so when she suffered the hemorrhage, she diagnosed what was happening although no one believed her, including myself, thinking she was imagining things again. I became a registered nurse and worked in the area of psychiatry during my career, I believe to try and understand both myself and my mother. I often wonder what my relationship would have been with my mother, and father, had they lived longer and as I developed more maturity and understanding. I like to think it would have been better. Thank you for sharing your experience which has helped me feel so not quite alone.
How wonderful that you did become a registered nurse and cared for others, despite your losses and challenges. Schizophrenia is a devastating illness for many people and families. I wish you peace and good things ahead.
My mother has had paranoia schizophrenia my whole life. Before i was born with my siblings said she had issues then. So my mother has been suffering from schizophrenia her whole life, undiagnosed. My mother thinks its normal. The chaos, thinking everyone is out to get her. My mother and i barely have a relationship now. Shes 73 , she’s just a shell of her mental illnesses , schizophrenia, ptsd, bipolar, depression, yeah my mother has alot of issues. Because of her childhood abuse from my grandparents. narcissistic rages, My mother never found help , It was hard for me growing up. Dealing with it. I really discovered okay there’s something wrong when i was 32. Now im taking care of myself, when i see someone struggling with mental illness, it isnt funny. It breaks my hearrt.
I understand and I feel for you, I really do. My mother has paranoia schizophrenia too. It's extremely hard to live with a shell of a woman who could have been a really good mom, but because of her mental illness could not. Most do not understand, can't possibly understand unless they have lived it. To those of you in this situation I wish you strength, love, and to not give up on the your life, on who you are, and on you potential in this life. You have inner strength, you will persevere, and you will overcome no matter what hardball has been thrown your way. Here's to you my sisters and brothers on this earth. Positivity and love streaming through my mind to you!!!
@@elisechurch3637 many blessings to you also!! You seem to understand the situation with schizophrenia. I wish you the same hon. Praying for the peace 🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️
I was diagnosed schizoaffective in 1983, but only took responsibility for my own mental health wellness recently cuz I had 2 hospitalizations back to back n didn't want to repeat my past devastations...weird it took me so long to own it...but I know Noone will..the program for Assertive treatment or pact team has helped as well as my own desire to study about symptoms n do best I can
My husband is schizophrenic as well. He's just turned 72. Routine is key to the schizophrenic. They can thrive if they indeed get help. At this very moment he hasn't talked to me for who knows what. On days like this I am grateful that we don't live together. He got his Master's in English. He held a job for 33 years as a librarian. He studies the most amazing things. Right now he studies Ancient Greek. He then wishes he had someone to talk to. I've looked for anything that can put him in touch with someone who does. However, he's apprehensive about the thought of meeting new people. It can be happy and sad. Tomorrow we'll talk and not mention today and it will be great.
So it is to the point. My cape for life. Nobodys fault ...day by day. And then what? There is peace in Christ . And still you ask .did I do enough? Where is the illness starting und the person comes out we all don't know....but? Wash hair..wear nice dress....you do well ..etc....das Mach ich. Fur meine tochter...now safe grosskind ... Remember we are not alone ..prost🎉🎉🎉
My friend from high school also had a single mom with schizophrenia. It was terrible beyond words. Her mom told her she could only get dressed under the covers because men were watching through the ceiling lightbulbs. They could only shower in the absolute dark for the same reason. Her mom had so many rules about everything. Rules that were outrageous and didn't make sense designed to protect against spies, poisonings from spies, the devil, voices, etc. A tragic, difficult childhood. My friend got pregnant at 16 and her mom thought the devil made the baby! The baby was placed in an open adoption. My own experience with schizophrenia was when I saw the neighbors' son change from a bright, early high school graduate, graduated college in 3 years, entered medical school. 1 year into medical school he washed out. The medical school told his dad they suspected onset of schizophrenia. The disease devastated him. He stopped hygiene, refused haircuts, long scraggly beard, mumbling nonstop, wild eyes, etc. He suicided. A terrible tragedy back in the early 80's.
You must have so many unmet needs from your childhood. Children desperately want to be seen and understood by their mothers. I can hear those old wounds in your voice even in your mother's last days. Much love to you, I hope you get your healing.
This is hard to read. Just remember her mum struggled too and it wasn’t her mums fault that she was unwell. Stuff like this is why mums who are sick are so scared to say anything or reach out for help.
@@barbsmart7373 exactly, and regardless of whether the mom suffered, the children suffer immensely. Most children of schizophrenic parents end up with trauma, depression, anxiety, attachment disorders, and worse. They end up with a lifetime of serious issues that get in the way of relationships, jobs, you name it. The adult children's first priority should be healing themselves, and if that includes separation from the parent/s then so be it. No guilt. No judgement.
My teenage son is schizophrenic and one thing I always bragged about my son, for years now, before the diagnosis, is that he is the person with the most passive, self-control I’ve even encountered in my life. He’s still the same despite his diagnosis. The negative stigma is real… Thanks for this video ❤
Hi I have a 34 year old son with symptoms of schizophrenia. He is not cooperating with me and wife to seek professional help. What can you please advise us with your own experience. Thank you very much.
@@johnnygrageda3055 Look up the genetic mutation of mthfr and how methylated B vitamins and other supplements can help. You can search up methylated B vitamins and buy them online. Sometimes called ‘activated’.
My mom is schizophrenic which resulted in rampant drug and alcohol abuse. It was the drugs that made her abusive and go into many episodes of psychosis. I remember counting down the days that I would get diagnosed with it but it never happened, thank God.
Poor dear, I too used to worry as a young kid about inheriting my mom's paranoid schizophrenia....It was quite a relief when I realized the chances of me being fine & dandy were a healthy 90%🤗.I'm so sorry for your difficult childhood...In my case my mom went to the 🏥 & got treated successfully with a antipsychotic right before my 10th birthday and she's essentially lived a healthy normal life with her medicine ever since.I wish every person struggling with mental illness could have this kind of outcome...My hope is that Neuralink will be the next big frontier for treating mental health conditions such as Schizophrenia, Depression, Bipolar Disorder, etc.
Yes yes yes....I grew up with my mom who was schizophrenic. But she was institutionalized when I was 10. I grew up with fear,, isolation, and secrets because of the stigmas. I didn't speak about it until I was in my 20's. Alot of trauma for me. She wasn't treated until she was in her 50's. Sad. She was even given electro shock therapy. All of us suffered so much. I still have those feelings of being afraid to speak about it. Thank you for sharing your story! I'm not the only one! ❤
This hits really close to home, I’m 15 and my mom is 44. And all my life I ve yk known my mom was different. She is a diagnosed schizophrenic so I saw eat medicines everyday I used to go with her to hospital every mnth when I was younger but my family is very not feel touch-y so we have actually never really talked about this just twice , once I was younger my mom was having delusionals and I got so mad at her and my dad said it’s not her fault all we can do is help her and like one in covid when I asked my dad what mental disease does mom really have. So all I know about her story is what I ve heard. So from what I ve gathered my mom was married before my dad for about 6-12 mnths around the age of 23 and the guy used physically and mentally abuse her like really really bad and give her drugs and shit, so she divorced him then was diagnosed with depression then schizophrenia then she got okay or so they thought and went off her medicine then married my dad then during or after being pregnant with me her schizophrenia came back . And I don’t remember much about my childhood but I remember a couple of time I remember her being in the hospital for a long time dont if sh3 was sick or it schizophrenia, which made me have a really good connection with my dad and all my childhood I was kinda scared of my mom and think she hated me. When I was younger yk she used to slap me a lot then be like oh my god I did not mean to do that are you okay. So I definitely don’t have the bong that I have with my dad. But as the years went on I think she got better coz she no longer hits me I don’t even remember the last time she slapped ( so guys don’t worry I’m fine). But like yk re delusions are still there like so many times she is like that person said that and I’m just like nothing like that happened and like she sees ppl in bathroom and shit. Once I was about 10-11 I remember her crying because apparently she thought somebody raped me. And at times she just goes into this mood where she is totally silent and angry. And I hate myself for screaming at her when she says something delusional because ik she can’t help it but at times it’s too much. There are many times when I felt like I was the parent. But at the end of day she is the best mom I could ask for Ik she loves me a lot and would do anything for me literally anything. She srsly is so sweet and I love her so goddamn much.
I hope you get some therapy for yourself so you know what’s normal and what’s not. Therapy helps with making all the adult decisions you are starting to make now, so you can be a mentally healthy adult for yourself. I bet you are very strong and fragile at the same time. Therapy helps balance that out. (My brother is schizophrenic and bipolar.)
i joined a nation wide group called NAMI...NATIONAL ALLIANCE FOR THE MENTALLY ILL. Their groups are held for family members...i was shocked at how many people were there talking about their situations with their family members who were very sick with a mental illness. It is a great group to join ! Look it up. You will hear stories the same as yours and even worse. These things are kept secret and hidden many times...you will be shocked at how many people are living with problems like yours. Good luck!!! I have several mentally ill family members, some more severe than others, some schizophrenia.
Thank you for sharing your Mother’s story! My brother was diagnosed with Schizophrenia when he was 19 and was in and out of mental hospitals the rest of his life. He was perfectly normal as long as he was on his meds and Dad would bring him home then he wouldn’t take his meds and have to be re-admitted. Jerry was super smart in school I’m told he had an IQ that was genius level. He had a horrible breakdown when he was 19 and was hearing voices and delusional very early on. He used to gather up all the guns ( Dad was a hunter) and then March around saying they are coming to get us etc… he immobilized Dads truck so he couldn’t go get help and back then ( the 1960s) we didn’t even have a house phone! I remember hiding in the closet from him… I was 11 years younger than him.. later in his life my uncle took him in till he was unable to care for him( my uncle was a sheriff’s deputy and a big man so he could handle him better and Jerry listened to him and did really well) Jerry was in a halfway house after that with a caregiver… he died from Emphysema in 1996. I cry a lot thinking of him. There’s an episode of House called The Socratic Method… if you haven’t watched please do if you get a chance… turns out the lady who was diagnosed with Schizophrenia actually had Wilson’s Disease and House caught it and she got her son back! I cried and cried cause I always wonder if Jerry was misdiagnosed! Thanks again for sharing your Mother’s and your journey with this ❤❤
That is sad, my mum was an undiagnosed paranoid Schizophrenic until I was 15 years. She is of a similar age to your mum and it defiantly was not know about much back then. She was only diagnosed because I couldn't cope anymore and started playing up at school and skipping school. I ended up with a social worker who visited my mum once and she got my mum sectioned. Happily today my mum is outgoing, has lots of friends, still together with my dad and is a lot less symptomatic.
That's lovely😊.My mom essentially lives as a normal healthy person thanks to her medication.I wish everyone with mental illnesses could have such a good outcome with treatment.I hope Neuralink will be the next big frontier in mental illness treatment for a lot of folks.
Have you seen “Living well with Schizophrenia”? A young woman who describes her life, with her disorder lives a full life. So sad your mother didn’t get treatment, and a better, less scary life. 🌹
I am sorry for your loss of your mom she sounds like she was a proud woman and she took care of you. Your mother had her problems, but having your mother’s family ignoring her is beyond cruel. They should’ve pulled together money every month to give her an apartment a small apartment for her to call home and be safe. I enjoyed your video, thank you.
It's not that simple. My brother is schizophrenic. My parents did everything to make sure he had a home, but one day, he stood on my doorstep saying, he didn't want to live there anymore and wanted to be homeless, and not to tell my parents about this decision. He asked me to be happy for him, that were his last words to me. It's very difficult, because helping someone who thinks you are out to get them, even when you're the sweetest person alive, is just so heartbreaking and impossible to help.
@barpoe People who don't know anyone with schizophrenia assume they can somehow "fix" them by being kind and providing support. I know a man who has paranoid schizophrenia. He calls me regularly with his paranoid delusions. He calls me because I listen, and he tells me he has no one who cares about him. I know that's not true, but he has burned every bridge countless times. It's a really sad situation.
My mother has schizophrenia paranoia and she is the sweetest and kindest person I know, I can only count on one hand the amount of times she has gotten mad at me. It was difficult growing up when she would have episodes but I would just have to remind myself that it’s not her fault. ❤
My mother had schizophrenia paranoia which only became visible to me and my dad when she was 55. From that moment on life became a horrible hollywood movie. My mum was the sweetest kindest person on this planet and everybody she came in contact with knew she was special. I am a single child and my mum and I had a very very close relationship. With the illness becoming very bad very quick at the age of 62 she ended up living in a psychiatric ward for 20 years. In total those 25 years since the outbreak were stolen from her and were stolen from me. It is absolutely devastating. I never again managed to be serene or carefree with that situation going on during the last 25 years of my own life. She was still alive but so absent from the drugs and from the illness keeping her in pain. I was suffering and sad every day during these years. My mum died 6 days ago from the side effects of the drugs at 81. I am 54 and I feel deeply traumatised from all this ......though I know that I was still so lucky because we had very good times with no signs of illness untill I was 28.....so my childhood was not hurt by this......but the last 25 years of losing her while she still was alive were horribly painful. With her death all the pain for the lost years came back all at once. I feel devastated and it helps a lot to see videos like these. Thank you so much!!!!
My daughter is paranoid schitzophrenic. I appreciate you taking time to do this video on it. My daughter growing up was a cheerleader all thru school. She had to try out and always made it. They had varcity basketball, and football and she made both. So when around age 17... I started noticing things more. God Bless you on your journey.
Yes, my handsome, intelligent son began having symptoms at that age then a full blown psychotic episode, where he broke with reality completely. He's in his thirties now...
I don't know which sounds worse, having schizophrenia or being raised by a parent with it. My mom has untreated mental illness but she is at least relatively sound of mind compared to schizophrenia. Possibly autism. My heart goes out to you. You are very compassionate and understanding of the illness. That is a beautiful thing. Blessings to you and your family.❤
@@sarajesusismyking autism is most definitely a condition that affects a person's mind so if you don't understand that, you are the ignorant one, especially to make your rude comment here. It's unnecessary and petty. No one actually said autism is a mental illness, but it is definitely a qualifying mental disability for those who have it. If you don't understand what people are discussing, don't try to speak on it, because THAT is how you spread ignorance. Also, what kind of person who claims Jesus as their King in their social media handle says something unnecessary and rude like this under a comment where a childhood abuse survivor is encouraging another. That is NOT something Jesus would do.
I've never been really been able to express my feelings regarding my schizophrenic mother. I've always felt it was a touchy subject and it's just not something you can easily talk about to others. So, for me, it's very refreshing to hear you talking about schizophrenia in an honest and open manner. My mother's symptoms didn't appear until she gave birth to me. .So, I always felt guilty. When I was in the third grade, my father put me and my sister in a foster home. This was way back in the fifties. I'm now 75. My mother was admitted to the Salem mental hospital in Oregon. It was the same hospital where the movie Who flew over the Cuckoo's Nest with Jack Nickolson was filmed. She was there for two years. When thorazine was found to help, she was discharged. She did have Grandiose delusions and hallucinations. She had been a journalist and read veraciously. So, the way I saw it she was very clever in her breakdowns, she would call the White House for universal health care. She thought she was a director and would want to stage a play, asking various neighbors for a casting call. I was embarrassed but they thought it was funny. But, the worse was when she became angry, very angry calling everyone and personally cutting them down in the most vicious & cutting way. As a child, I thought the devil possessed her and prayed for an exorcism. So, she was either very active, staying up days and nights in a hyper manic state or on thorazine, very dull and quiet. I suppose I sound a bit cold, but this was years ago. After my dad died, she kept a calendar and go off her thorazine on purpose when she knew the insurance would cover her. Then she would go into a heighten state of grandiose. I felt she enjoyed her manic states because it was like being drunk. That's just my personal opinion. So, my sister and I spent our forties running back and forth to the clinic. She'd be there for two weeks at time. She smoked a lot and at 75 had lung cancer. She was lucid during her hospice and tried to make it up to me in her last days. That meant a lot to me. It is nice how sensitive you are about your mother. I ended up with minor insecurities that I just cover up the best I know how. You appear very strong. I admire your courage in being open & honest about a topic that some of us never knew how to express.
A healthcare worker told me once when my friend was very manic and refusing meds that some people are sorta addicted to being bi-polar, because it’s like a free cocaine trip where you can do anything and not be held accountable.
This reminds me of my mother. After years of living through her episodes, she decided almost 10 years ago to go completely off meds. I do believe that she enjoys being without responsibilities and also being able to do and say whatever she pleases no matter how horrible.
My close friend has a sister diagnosed with this disease. She is fine when she's taking her medication, but through the years she's kept herself on and off the meds so it's been up and down for decades now. This video is so obviously a labor of love, and I think it's given a lot of people encouragement and some peace of mind. Thank you so much for posting this. Your mother has a lovely daughter.
Except for the homelessness, sounds like you are describing my mom. She talked weird and depressing talk ALL day long. As a teenager I would escape from the house as early in the day as possible. But once I got married and my father died I realized she needed help. her psychiatrist was able to help her and within 3 weeks she was released to come home. From there she gradually improved. I never has sense enough to ask him what her diagnosis. Thank you for sharing this. I am 76 yrs ol and have had a little bit of therapy. From California.
I thought abt writing a long comment to tell you that this sounded so much like my own life. My mom tho rebutted help, she was diagnosed as bi-polar and she didn’t think she was nor did she think she needed help. She didn’t have psychosis, as in hearing ppl talking to her, she was also like the “black sheep” and shunned from the family. As a result of her being “difficult” I was also put into that category and shunned. She also passed from cancer at age 56. Here’s what I wanted to say that not only do we need to normalize acceptance for a mental illness, we need to learn and educate ourselves abt that illness. We need stop treating ppl WITH a Mental illness like they are just difficult, if they are truly making an effort ie: medications and therapy then they are trying to be better. My mom was however not trying to get help, she was “right” and everyone disrespected her. We need to make how treating ppl with mental illness can affect them. Bi-polar runs in my family, my brother has it, it was called manic depression back then, his daughter has it…neither of them admit it nor get treatment. That is the hard part. I have chronic depression and anxiety but I have seen three doctors and asked them to test me for bi-polar and I was told by all threee that I do not have it. I wanted to be sure I was on the correct meds. Accepting my mental illness, talking abt it, and also taking meds n going to counseling def helps but does not cure. I’ve had a close family member tell me that I use my mental illness as an excuse and same person thinks I am lazy. Besides mental illness I do have several ailments that I take meds for and go to PT for. Anywho I did end up writing a novel here, lol but I wanted to let you know how much I appreciate you sharing your story. And to also let ppl know we need to bring awareness to educate ourselves on said mental illness of a family member and then learn how to treat them because of said illness. You wouldn’t expect your family member or friend to walk on a broken leg, you would help them and do what is necessary to aid in them healing……just because you cannot “see” mental illness on the outside doesn’t mean you should treat them like they are a burden or a difficult person. We need to treat them with love n kindness and help them cope.
Well done. You did so well telling this story of growing up with a mum that suffered from schizophrenia. It's not easy road to travel. Thank you for opening up and breaking stigma ❤
My daughter was diagnosed recently and I’m devastated. I’m in shock and I’m so depressed and stressed about this. Her life will be very very hard. My older sister has it.
we have similar story...my granddaughter was diagnosed in the past year and i am dealing with this day to day, one day at a time, I am so depressed that now, a grandchild has a mental disorder that my family is so familiar with. I have only two grandchildren and one has been diagnosed. We have had a hellish time with all sorts of disorders and illnesses, i posted above. BE KIND TO YOURSELF and do not let anyone run you down--be careful and protect yourself and your daughter--there are people who will not accept our "type" of family and will criticize and judge. Be looking out for yourself and your daughter and try to be around compassionate people and people who understand....not the ignorant ones. The world needs much more enlightenment concerning mental illness. The family suffers along with the diagnosed family member. I suggest a group called NAMI. National Alliance for the Mentally Ill. Godspeed !
Yes, it is a very hard diagnosis but we have more medication options now, plus group homes, etc. Get her a case manager through your state office. Let them help her. It takes a team and government resources. It also takes time and being on wait lists so start now. Make it clear when she graduates high school she must move out or she will be living in your basement as you age and become her victim. You must protect yourself. You deserve to have a happy life. (((Hugs)))
@@happycook6737 Even when she finally gets a group home or apartment - which is SO hard to do as you know - my daughter leaves within the FIRST DAY. What then? I have not found any answers. I have tried everything. She is convinced every time that she can go out on her own without meds and will not comply with ANY house rules or supervision. Unless she is in the hospital no one can get her to take her meds and no one can keep her safe.
My schizophrenic mother also got different with me at around puberty. She lived with my dad. We lived at as a family of 4, my dad, mom, brother and just me. She had support from the father, but told my brother that my dad was in the navy for 9 years and abandoned us. My brother told me this was a problem, but I didn't see it as such. He had 4 years before me with my mom. (I have to go for now. I will come back to this.) There are things that we have in common, but clearly things we don't. Thank you fir sharing your story. Cleatly some of the reasons your common sense tells you to blame are not at all what really burdened her, my mom either. My God. Im so sorry. I will try to be back here.
I too have a mother with paranoid schizophrenia. Your experiences are similar to mine.Though she fails to understand that we family love her so much,I still love her a lot.I love my mother very much.
I'm watching this on her birthday!! (7/24/24) Happy Birthday!!! My mom suffered from manic depression, Bi-polar; she passed away 06/01/22. But Happy Birthday Kathy!!
I am going through this exact thing with my brothers girlfriend. And sadly reacted by pushing her away. Thank you for putting this disorder so eloquently into words. Love the end you are doing your mother proud.
I feel so bad for you. Your talk was so moving and profound. I have worked as a fire department paramedic for most of my life. When I first became involved in emergency services work I figured I would be dealing with heart attacks and car crashes. Little did I realize that many of the people I would deal with have some form of mental and emotional problems. Schizophrenia, bipolar, anxiety/depression, dementia and Alzheimers. God Bless you.
Bless you for having such a keen understanding of your mother. You obviously loved your mother. I struggle with a severe mood disorder that has plagued me my entire life. I'm not "quite" schizophrenic, but I'm "on the cusp" as it were. My childhood was a nightmare, especially after my parents' divorce. I have so much empathy for you and your mother. I understand mood cycling and paranoia as I've experienced them all my life. Your video is very helpful to me and I thank you for sharing your painful experiences. You're so very kind. My heart hurts for your dear mother. It wasn’t her fault. ❤
Please........go on a diet experiment for 1 month: NO GRAINS.......absolutely no type of grain, no rice no corn. And NO DAIRY....absolutely nothing. Eat tons of fruits everyday. And eat tons of cooked vegetables and potatoes every day. PLEASE do this......maybe even only for 1 WEEK!!!! Watch how your health will be improving......you will fell like a medical miracle!!!! I do not eat meat but if you do then you can on this experiment. THE most important thing is to abstain from ANY type of grain and from ANY type of Dairy and from ANY type of SOY products.
Your story has many similarities to mine. But our mom was diagnosed with Schizoaffective Disorder and she doesn't believe she is mentally ill. She has had lots of treatment and we have helped her alot but she won't accept any more treatment...it's beyond frustrating and we understand her illness pretty well. Thank you for sharing your story!
Your situation sounds just like mine was. My mother has passed away now, but absolutely totally bullheaded on not accepting her diagnosis. The psychiatrist told me that she was in the top 10% of the most difficult to treat. Refuses to accept she is ill and refuses to take the medication. An absolute revolving door in and out of the state mental hospital her whole adult life. Very sad.
My situation is the same as yours too surrounding treatment, acceptance of diagnosis, and choosing to continue treatment voluntarily. I can't wrap my head around how my mom can't seem to remember the literal night and day difference when she was put on medication. She's 69 now. It's horrible watching her deteriorate more with this disease, yet she's bullheaded as hell and refuses to see a doctor for ANYTHING at all because she doesn't want to be put on medication again. It's almost as if in some subconscious way she recognizes that a doctor would see her needs, yet simultaneously, she doesn't believe she has schizophrenia. It's heartbreaking every day, thinking she may never pass away in peace when her time comes, but instead inundated in voices and delusions. I wish there was more we could all do for our family that so very clearly need help.
My Dad died 4 years ago. He was turbulent in his youth and self-deprecating as he got older. I found out that he was considered schizophrenic by mental health practitioners, but I wonder now if they got it wrong. I think he had Aspergers. His Dad lived in asylum in Epsom. A gentle soul that was labelled indolent but loved to draw and make people laugh. I feel angry about the lack of opportunity that my Dad had, and that in his youth and last 9 years I was the only person who truly loved him. My Mum never told me due to stigma, but he spent his entire life worrying about everything and passed on this worry to us.
I have a cousin who is diagnosed as paranoid schizophrenic, and I never quite understood what that meant. A lot of people confuse it with multiple personality disorder. Thank you for this insight!
That’s because MPD used to be called schizophrenia in the early part of the 20th century. They’ve renamed it and separated the diagnoses, but the early conflation of the two conditions has really stuck in people’s minds.
Paranoia usually is part of the illness. I think it is the thing that makes it the most difficult part to deal with. You’re a very kind and caring person and a strong person too. Thanks for sharing your story ❤
Thanx for sharing ur story. It helps me understand my own schizophrenia and it's so awful. Thankfully I'm married to a wonderful man who understands me. He does keep me and protect me from all kinds of trouble. I've tried living with other ppl when I was homeless and it didn't work out so well. My family hates me cuz they don't understand me.
That is a very sad story and had me in tears many times. Youve explained this really well and in a way that I can understand. I'm sorry you had a hard childhood and your dear Mum was like she was. She is at peace now and nothing can trouble her. That was very brave of you to tell us your story and I hope and pray life treats you well from now on. God Bless You xxx
Thank you for this video! You’re a wonderful speaker and portray a compassionate heart. My sister just passed last week. She had schizophrenia for 40 yrs! I wish I’d seen your video sooner!!! God bless you!
When my son was diagnosed with schizophrenia when he was 27 my only sibling who is 7 years older and her entire family just faded out of our lives. It’s a lonely existence for someone who suffers from schizophrenia and the parent or parents who refuses to abandon them.
This video caught my attention because by two best friends who lived across the street had a mother who suffered with schizophrenia. When we were younger, she was the fun Mom on the block and we always like to play at her house. She did have an agoraphobia problem, so we went to the store for her and did a lot of things that we considered fun at the time. As years went by, she started saying a few odd things like "there are little green men in the backyard" and we would howl with laughter thinking she was kidding. I remember her looking at us as we looked outside to see if there were green men and realize now she really did see them, thought she might be losing it, and would feel better if we saw them, too. Of course, we didn't. Like the mother in this video, she thought all of her relatives had problems or didn't like her or weren't nice, etc. When her oldest daughter and I went off to college, she got really bad. She had a drinking problem, too, which doctors later said was her trying to self-medicate herself. One night, she took a knife to all of the paintings in the house- most of which she had painted herself. She began locking her younger daughter in the house and not allowing her to go to high school in the morning due to fear something would happen to her. The daughter had to call the high school and tell them that her mother would not let her out of the house. She also called her grandfather who lived nearby and he would come right over. Finally, with her mother refusing to go to a doctor to seek help, she and her grandfather went themselves to explain what was happening. It was decided that her mother had become a danger and she was removed to the hospital by hospital personnel and the police. It was very sad. The rest of her life was more back and forth through better days and bad days until she also died of cancer like the woman in this video. I like to remember her as the fun Mom who was always happy to welcome us kids into her home.
What a wonderful, yet sad, video .... ❤ I wish people would understand each other better... Today, I was at a lake, sunbathing and swimming with my kids, and it really made me sad to watch how many parents are treating their children with little empathy - some kids were stressed, were tired, were having a tantrum, one hurt himself, but the parents instead of being caring, understanding and loving, got very stressed as well and tried to stop their children crying or complaining. To me, this observation relates to your story - it is a very human condition that we tend to get rather self-centered as soon as we are stressed, in the process losing sight of others around us, even loved ones, especially when they cause the stress. Then the blaming starts and the "don't behave that way, don't be that difficult". Instead of consoling, we shame the other person, making them feel like they are wrong or faulty. This is very sad and if I had just one wish, this is the one thing that I would choose to change. I would want people to really see each other better.
My brother is 27 & was diagnosed with Schizophrenia due to heavy drug use & past trauma of my our dad's passing back in 2011. This vid touched home for me.
So sorry for ur dad n bro but its true drugs causes mental illness it sad i myself was a normal person i was very outgoing i was very social i loved being around people i will always be at family gathering and after smoking weed 3 times a week i had bad highs every time and i got anxiety depression psychosis derealization permanently and thats the symptoms i got when i was high and now i am a introvert i cant go to family gatherings i cant go anywhere because of my mental illness i am very weird my family all says im crazy and now i am alone 24/7 its very sad but i cant stress this enough but drugs are very bad even mary j
So sorry you had to go through that. My mother was/is unable to show love, something I needed as a child. Thank you for opening your soul and sharing your story. I wish you nothing but the best.
@@GenevieveClough That's so true! I never let anyone in my life feel that they are not loved. We are on a journey and we navigate that journey the best way we can. I just try to improve a little each day.
My daughter is 65. After she had her first child,she had the first signs of schizophrenia. Her husband divorced her and got custody of their 3 children she gets support from siu and lives in a studio apt. She is very neat but when she does not take her medication she believes in thing that are not true. You have helped me to understand her illness more.
My dad was schizophrenic. I struggled with some mental illness for most of my life. You may think it's farfetched but there was alot of addiction, incest and occultism in my family. Alot of dealing in the paranormal and witchcraft. I believe all these things contributed to family mental illness. My cousins and siblings have it too. In my case, I gave my life to Jesus Christ. A relationship with Christ. The Lord healed me. No mlre mental health issues and now I'm an author on a book tour! Thank you for your story.
many dysfunctional and either scizophrenic or autism related illnesses in my family, also bi-polar OCD and brain disorders and even brain tumor. After about the 12th or 13th case of something, I questioned whether occultism could be a key to figuring out a catalyst for all of it. Well, that and don't forget a predisposition involving genetics. Maybe a recipe for mental illness disasters. Approximately SEVENTY FIVE years ago, my grandmother said the same thing, thanks to my mother passing the story down. So, there you go....a matriarch questioning a possible occultism catalyst. Seventy five years later, more than 10 or 11 more cases since then. It has happened in all four generations now, with only one or two people left from the first generation, along with the illnesses, we have super longevity. :/
@@danilaroche1156 thank you. these are very hard things for people to deal with. Personally, i am "fed up" especially since my grandchild's diagnosis. It's all across the board, now actually on both sides of my family--so no particular family...it's both. However, my paternal grandmother did believe something evil was at the bottom of it over 75-80 years ago, my mother now 95 was able to relay the story. I think the climate of today's society is creating more of it. There has been a general movement away from GOD for many decades now. Most people in my family have abandoned the catholic faith.
My 19 year old was dx with schizophrenia a couple of months ago. She's choosing to have her tubes tied because she's worried about being a parent while having schizophrenia. Her father has various mental health issues and autism. My son has autism which surprised no one. I was not prepared for schizophrenia. Now she's told me that we need to find a provider who will do it. I appreciate you sharing your story.
Your family is miles ahead of the game because your daughter has been diagnosed. That's the most important thing. She is also thinking logically about the prospect of having children and what that might entail and taking steps to do the right thing. You should be so proud of her! This is what happens when schizophrenia is understood and treated. She can live a wonderful, productive life with the proper treatment.
@@sallyire1 we are so fortunate to have landed in a city where we have really great community based healthcare! Our family practice provider takes care of my teenagers and myself and my eighty-year-old mother. Our mental health facility takes care of my daughter and I and possibly soon my son because this is a big family experience. I am so grateful that we have amazing support with experienced providers and my friends and family have so far been incredibly warm and supportive as well. It's almost like mental illness is not nearly as difficult when you're surrounded by people who don't expect you to be normal when you're not. ❤️
@@therewillbecatswithgwenhwyfar "It's almost like mental illness is not nearly as difficult when you're surrounded by people who don't expect you to be normal when you're not". Ha, I love that! Time to celebrate those who aren't perfectly "normal", because most of us aren't normal. I know I'm not!!
beautiful honest and heart felt video on your mums mental health condition, you have made her very proud in heaven and ive no doubt she is at peace and watching over you always, your video was so moving and made me cry, god bless from aine in ireland x
Thank you for opening up and being vulnerable Through us opening up and healing ourselves we heal our mother's and daughters and sons, we are healing our ancestry lineage. We all need to heal that sadness that guilt within of yesterday and the first step towards healing is talking about it. Powerfully done Love Dannu South Africa
@@GenevieveClough this issue resonates with me deeply, they say it has to do with an unhealthy gut too or gut issues (lack of gut bacteria) when off the meds it’s bad hearing seeing things etc not bathing or sleeping etc but on them she is semi “normal” this is sad that she never got a diagnosis ..she gets injections and attends the psychiatric hospital as she refuses to take the tablets which causes a relapse, she cried for 3 yrs straight about different family issues but I agree with you she had trauma as a child she grew up with a raging alcoholic uncle and a semi present mother my grandmother
My mother suffered with schizophrenia. She was prescribed drugs that were too strong and gave her terrible side effects. Doctors could not really help her. We never really fully understood her illness. I grew up humiliated and gossiped about. Her moods, talking to herself while walking in the neighborhood, her weird thoughts. Ups and downs all the time. I resented her for years. It took years for me to accept her for the good things. There was a lot of good. The one gift she left me is that I can spot a good, kind person in an instance. It is how I survived. Thank you for sharing. Your story was excellent. Her illness left you with special gifts too.
I grew up with alcoholics. I don't think I have to tell anyone how terrible I can be and how harmful. I have the Lord in my life now and I can forgive and I can live a peaceful life because of his grace😊
This runs in families, and is a combo of environmental and genetic factors. Often this is a generational thing,. I have seen in my family on both sides that there were a lot of mental illness and addiction that ran through the families. Of course, no one talks about it, and it was described as emotional problems. Children in these families are absolutely affected, maybe not with schizophrenia but other mental disorders like depression, anxiety, and trauma. Most don't get out of these families without issues.
Amazing how I have been drawn to your channel. Now I know why. Just starting this video but I would like to say I am an only child, I grew up around my Aunty & my Uncle being Schizophrenic. I loved them both and they died tragically. My Mum was bi-polar and omg I loved her I finally really got close with her mainly in the last 3 & 1/2 months of her life. I looked after her from when she found out she had cancer in 2015. I lost my Dad in 2013. I am still grieving for them both. ❤❤
I'm so sorry about your mom. My mom is 85 and her doctor feels like she has dementia and schizophrenia. Growing up I never noticed anything other than her and my dad argued alot. Her neuro doctor tested her and called me about her test results. She diagnosed her with schizophrenia and dementia. My mom would call that dr a liar refused all treatment including medications. She's in denial that anything is wrong. I helped her as best I could. She ended up in the hospital and she told them her floors in her apartment were electricacuting her legs and they felt soft like marshmallows. So she's now in a nursing home. I'm an only child and it's too much to have her here. When i go see her it's never good enough always making me feel guilty that she's in a nursing home. I just want to run from her it's hard to hear and bare. My mom looks young and can walk better than i can. It breaks my heart that she can't be in her own apartment. Everything is my fault so i don't go see her very often at all. Then i feel guilty about that. I just wish she would take her medications but she doesn't think anything is wrong with her. God Bless
Nursing homes often medicate those in care for psychological issue that they don't actually have to keep them passive Notorious for this- over medicating.
What criteria was used to diagnose her? It’s my understanding that the only physical symptom is enlarged ventricles in the brain, the rest is subjective opinion. I don’t know how a person with dementia could possibly be diagnosed with schizophrenia as the symptoms are similar.
Abandon the guilt. You can be thankful she is taken care of by others . you have done nothing wrong she has done nothing wrong. The mental illness has been the culprit your family has been afflicted by.
Your story with your mom’s schizophrenic touched my heart on how my mom was and how much she suffered and so did I and some other family members. Thank you for sharing💐
My mother also had this awful disorder and suffered deeply. This was in the 80's when treatment had terrible side effects, tremors, etc she was the single mum to 4 girls. It was debilitating to us all. Grueling and terrible. Yet, she was such a beautiful person above and beyond. Thanks for the post ❤
Thanks for sharing...I know your story. My mom was plagued by this disease. I remember her as not being like other people, early in my childhood. She was sensitive and intelligent. No one knew how to help her...My friends were afraid of her bizarre behavior. My mother was a trained R.N. and worked as one part of her life. She loved babies and caring for them. Your many observations of your mom's delusions and psychosis were present in my mom's life.. However, I always knew she loved me, no matter how impossible she was to live with at times. I was with her when she died of cancer...
Thank you so much. Sincerely. I’m just now having a realization that my little sister could be showing signs of schizophrenia and everything is really lining up and the dots are connecting. This is a real wake up call for me. My siblings and I have spoken about what we need to do to help her function and feel loved, confident, safe and comfortable because at this point in time, she does isolate herself and lacks an urge to socialize or be in a public space, and I don’t wanna share all her business, but there were a lot of big points on here all under schizophrenia that I’ve seen in her behavior and I feel like a fool for not doing more research and connecting the dots. part of it is like you said, this fear of what it could mean, having someone in your life who is schizophrenic and not knowing how to deal with it but listening to you is giving me confidence and making me realize that society does demonize it 100 percent and it’s something we absolutely have to approach with empathy and strength a willingness to work with someone who needs help desperately needs help and they’re not going to be able to get that from any old stranger it’s gonna have to be the people closest to them because we love them. I think it’s so loving and sweet of you to make this a video about your mother and I’m so sorry that you finally understood her after her death, but I’d like to think her souls looking down on you and shes grateful for the acknowledgment and yeah, it’s like who knows what else she went through in childhood so much trauma that gets brushed under the rug. I’ve been watching a lot of Supernanny lately and that alone also makes me realize just how lucky we are to grow up into the world with an inkling of mental stability. We have to change the way we go about raising children.
I think this is the first time that I've ever heard such an amazing tolerance for being a victim of having to live with another's schizophrenia and not ending up with a mental illness themselves as a result. Your father sounds amazing btw.
My Bro was mentally I’ll it is hard in a family, my sister also later in her life❤️❤️heart breaking. Times have changed more help now. Don’t beat yourself up to long. Thanks for what you do.❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Back when i was a kid, if a person said they were depressed, they got told to snap out of it, just get with it…etc. Depression was not ‘real’ or serious….it was just a person being lazy, selfish, and self-absorbed. Idk where this embarrassment abt a mental issue came from, why it existed, or what triggered the medical community to finally open up abt mental health and begin medicating ppl for it, just glad it happened. Thx for sharing a snippet of your mom’s life. ( your too).
You can heavily thank the pandemic & the tsunami of Depression, anxiety, etc that surfaced for many folks due to the stress...It forced many people to acknowledge the importance of mental health because they could no longer be ignorant when many of them &/or their loved ones were struggling with it.I believe many people probably suffered from situational Depression so they got a unpleasant "taste" of what it was like to not have good mental health even if in many cases it eased up or went away after the pandemic settled down.
Thank you for sharing your story. I worked in an inpatient mental health care hospital for three years. There has been movement toward greater understanding of mental health in our society but we still have a long way to go. You and others finding the strength to share is what will continue the development of a culture of care, decrease fear and encourage greater health. Thank you!
My story is similar but my mother would try to drag us into her psychosis and illusions and delusions., And when I tryed to get her help she resented me so much. My mother could shut it off at will around people she didn't trust ,and then go back to delusions as soon as they left. I would spend nights staying up 3 o'clock 4 in the morning her trying to convince me what she was hearing and seeing where real. How I hated those nights,I wanted to scream and tell her do you see how ridiculous this is. Stigma gets in the way of getting help for them and the help that they have is very limited not the help that they need ,she was going to one doctor that was really good then shuffled around to doctors that didn't care or had too many clients , so she was shuffled through the system. There has to be an awarenesses so they can get good help and get well, because it is a disease like any other disease. I've learned to understand that it's never their fault for being sick, behind that sickness is a good, loving,smart, talented person.... My mom❤️🙏😉
I'm glad for you that you now have that understanding. You will live longe and with more peace. My therapist calls it non-resistance. You just have to come to a place of radical acceptance. God bless you.
My mom can do that too, where she can "turn it off" in front of people she finds threatening. I've been told by umpteen social workers that that's a very common occurrence for people who are mentally ill. It's as if their fear of being committed "protects them" from getting help. It's awful when all we're trying to do is bring them back to a point where life can actually be LIVED and ENJOYED! So frustrating and devastating.
Thank you for sharing your story Genevieve, it was a very brave step from you to make! I'm so sorry for the loss of your Mum but I'm sure she is very proud of you 😇 telling her & your story about this mental disorder! Sending you love and positive energy! 💜
Your story is riveting. Tears are flowing for you and your Mother. I am amazed that you seem "as normal as apple pie" after suffering so much due to your Mother's suffering. We have so far to go in becoming empathetic toward people with mental illnesses. Thank you, sweetheart, for working on behalf of people with your Mother's illness. (I will add one more thing. The only person I ever knew with Schizophrenia was my sister-in-law's son. His Dad had Schizophrenia. My sister-in-law was not the "motherly type", and I have always wondered about how much of his illness was genetic and how much environmental.)
Dear Genevieve, I am watching you because of Randonautica. And now such a video. 2018 I had psychosis and the doctor diagnosed schizophrenia ( i don't know if that was correct) But I took medicine since then and I am alright. Yes, there is a stigma. People don't understand that's a brain disease. We get too much dopamine. But that is a disease like other diseases and should be so treated. It is sad that your mum didn't get the medicine earlier. Thank you for that video and especially the words at the end. I cried...Love:)
My grandmother had schizophrenia and raised 6 children by herself. She did not get treatment until she was 60! I remember her knocking food out of my hands because she thought it had been poisoned. In each of her children’s families she had a favorite child that she insisted was being abused or mistreated. After starting medication she was completely different. It was my mom that got her help after she came to live with us. She lived to 86. I’m so thankful for those years with her as her true self, without the delusions and paranoia.
I have been watching on UA-cam a channel called Schizophrenia Three Moms in the Trenches. It is so informative and has really helped me to understand this illness.
We DESPERATELY need long term, in some cases life-long, residential mental health hospitals for the incurable diagnoses. We have “memory care” long term care for dementia/Alzheimers diagnoses. We accept they need daily supervised care with safety measures and medication management and but we don’t offer that level of care to severely mentally ill. It’s a medical, not behavioral condition. It’s a disgrace that a country with our resources continues to ignore this catastrophe at the expense of the individual, their children, families and communities. Shame on us. 😢
And the thing is people with anosognosia...damage to the part of your 🧠 that makes it so you can't self-reflect on your behaviors & realize you're ill no matter how bad it gets....These people could simply be easily monitored on an outpatient basis by testing their blood or possibly urine regularly for example to ensure they really are sticking with their medication(s).The 🗝️ is ensuring they take their medicine every day👍🏻.
My birth mom passed last September from a new psych med giving her a heart attack. She had schizophrenia. I was separated from her at around age 4 and me and my two brothers were adopted together. I reunited with her when I was 19. A couple of the reasons we were taken from her (besides abuse from my birth father) was her inability to take care of us properly and post partum psychosis after my youngest brother was born (she tried to drown us). She was very sweet and kind and with help she thrived pretty well. I definitely experienced the effects of some of her delusions. Sometimes it was very tough. Trying to explain to her I wasn't thinking or saying what she was assuming I was thinking or saying. We had a very close relationship and could be very open with each other. But her strange attachment to my birth father was what really got in the way. He never really loved her. She stayed married to him out of a trauma bond. He stayed marries to her out of idk perhaps a feeling of obligation and power trip. He had bipolar and I'm not sure what else. He was very abusive. Even her mother in law tried to encourage her to leave him. She deluded herself that they needed to stay married. She had a priest encourage her to leave him (she was Catholic). Her own father passed quite young (before I was born) and he even tried to encourage her to not marry him in the first place. I ended up going no contact from her three years prior to her passing because despite all the support and knowing she needed to divorce him (they were no contact at that time due to her legal guardianship and living in a care home and they knew the history), she just wouldnt divorce him. She just wouldn't fully trust complete independence of him. I don't want to say more cuz I'll ramble, but it was quite rough. I miss her, but I'm also relieved that she's free of her burdens.
Thank you so much for sharing your life story!! My family can relate not exactly the same situation as ours but very similar...one of the worst things growing up in that environment is you feel like your the only one who's Mother is like she is and no one else understands including you!!! I learned so much watching your video...❤️
I'm so sorry you had to go through that and sorry for your mom, as well. Schizophrenia usually presents in the late teens/early twenties (college age) so I'm glad your mother had a few extra years in there of relative normalcy. They don't know what causes it, so don't even bother trying to speculate. One day they will know, but not yet. The hallmark of schizophrenia (Paranoid Schizophrenia in your mom's case, most lkely) is auditiory hallucinations. What distringuishes it from Delusional Disorder is that they have bizarre delusions. Someone with Delusional Disorder might think the FBI is following them--unlikely, but possible. Schizophrenics have delusions like aliens want to steal their kidneys. She might have had Schizoaffective Disorder which is a combination of psychosis and depression. But trust me, nothing you did or anyone else did "drove" her deeper into her disease. It was there and had nothing to do with you or anyone else. So please don't feel guilty about anything. Thank you for telling your story. I know it was painful but you've helped a lot of people.
As someone dealing with a family member with schizophrenia, I’d like to point out that excessive marijuana consumption as a teenager and young adult can trigger it. It is so hard to get treatment for an adult who refuses it. Our family has tried everything. Thanks for sharing your story.
Hugs hugs hugs. I merry a schizophrenic woman in therapy. She has voices. At times the voices were so bad she couldn’t sit through a session. She talked freely and answered all of my questions. I’ll love her forever. Thank you for sharing your story. ❤
Im glad your mom is no longer suffering. People with schizophrenia are often suffering more than anyone ever imagines. The pain physical and emotional the loneliness and confusion. Very heartbreaking.
Does not mean they should be allowed to swallow you, their children, or any that tried to help.
It affects close family too you know...
I, too, had a mother with schizophrenia. A single mother, but violent, and terrifying. She is still alive but heavily medicated and has dementia. As young children, my two older sisters and I somehow survived her many attempts to un-alive us. I am now 56 and on disability due to this. Someday, I want to tell our story. Thanks for sharing yours.
So sorry ❤
God bless you and I would love to hear your story.❤️🙏🏽
I'm so sorry
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Why wait to tell the story . It sounds very interesting and may help some people. It will maybe help you heal.
I want to thank you for honoring your mother, and commend you for your bravery in telling her story. It's YOUR story, too. Anxiety and Panic Disorder runs in my family, and my 39 year old son is crippled by it, and always has been. He is a big, handsome, extremely intelligent and honorable young man, and all that goes to waste because the anxiety holds him prisoner. Luckily, he does go for counseling and he has an amazing wife, but he can't seem to get past the illness. I worry for him every day and wish he could go out and live a happy life. So many are suffering in silence, so people like you who tell their stories, are a blessing to those who feel alone.
I have no medical training, but I think that your son has a vagual nerve disorder. His vagual nerve is over- responding to stimulus.
I have a genetic disorder called Ehiler-Danlos and vasovagal syncope as a result. I sort of faint under stress. I take a small dose of Lexapro 5ml., and I stop crying. It calms my vagual nerve. I'm going to learn the Silva mind control style next. Hope something here helps.
This sounds like my husband. He thinks counseling is stupid and won’t try any medications as he thinks those of course will cause side effects that make his anxiety worse like dry mouth or nausea.. idk very sad to see life so wasted and crippled by fear which is always from the devil 😢
I totally understand your story and thank you for sharing about your having a Mum and how this affected your life. I have a 45 year old son who has schizophrenia and is medicated
I also suffer from anxiety and it is crippling people. Luckily I had the right meds, it took awhile but I can control it better. I didn't like counseling. Luckily I had to work because I wouldn't have left the house. I had a very physical and mentally challenging situation. I worked on the Alzheimer's unit. I finally had a stroke and had to retire. Even though I'm not as stressed, I still get bouts of it. Family inheritance.......🙄😕
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My mom has schizophrenia too. She was extremely violent and cruel. My extended family believed mental illness was a moral failing. As a result, they wanted to keep it a secret. I was 8 when she was diagnosed, and the language I was given to explain what was going on with her only minimized it, and it really gaslighted me. My grandmother would say that my mother had a “little chemical imbalance, but she takes a pill everyday and she is totally normal.” None of that was true. My mother did not take the advice of her doctor, and wasn’t consistent with her meds, and when she was it only sort of worked. My grandmother convinced me that this was all normal, and I spent most of my life not understanding why she hated me, and trying to manage her rage and violence. She would constantly bounce between boiling blinding rage, and blubbering sobbing on the floor. She had so many delusions about people all over town, and would drag me and my brother on her quests to practically stalk them. I always knew she was sick, and I knew the things she believed were wrong, but I did not understand so much of her behavior was the result of her illness. The only thing I ever felt from her is pure disdain, hatred, and a bizarre sense of entitlement to me and clinginess. I walked away when I was in my 30s, after my second child was born. I couldn’t keep dealing with her while my family kept insisting that everything is fine, and I just needed to do more to manage her outbursts.
Geez sounds so much like the mother I grew up with😢
Don’t blame you at all. There is a limit to dealing with the issues of others. If they’re able to wipe their own butt then they’re also able to at least control hatred and malice especially directed at children.
@@brandy4530 I hear you, and am so sorry that you had to deal with all of the effects of your mother’s behaviour without protection, while growing up. The adults didn’t understand the impact on you presumably, and perhaps hoped that by minimising her illness and behaviour, somehow it wouldn’t be as bad as it was. It is only in more recent years that society at large is more aware of how severe mental illness affects parenting. Families were unsupported in dealing with it largely, and certainly spouses and children had no help. Everyone around your mother, and you, it seems were blind to how damaging she was for a child and I’m so sorry for your suffering.
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My mother was like lorie's. My family were not at all blind to it, but it was easier for THEM to make me live with her meanness than for them to interfere.
I am sorry that your mom went through this, she needed treatment. I had an aunt that was diagnosed with schizophrenia before I was even born. She had a very traumatic childhood. However, she was one of the nicest caregivers I ever had. When I was around 4 I realized she would be talking to herself, and laughing. She was a beautiful soul. I miss her so much! She taught many good things. Even though she was sick, the relatives didn't provide her with the love respect, and care she deserved. She was used as their unpaid babysitter, she ran all of the errands for the family every single day. She would walk to every store, there were no cars in our home. I think she only rested on Sundays because all the stores where closed. Otherwise they would have her working 7 days a week. While the supposedly" healthy ones" sat around and enjoyed life. She enjoyed reading, that was her escape. She was the most peaceful too. She never married, she was single, and she was happy.
That’s so cruel !!! Using her as a maid and a babysitter and whatever else they needed. That’s inhuman. 😔
ما أجمل تعليقك عن عمّتك و اعترافك بحبًك لها و احترامها ..من المؤسف جدًا أن يستغلّ الإنسان إنسانا آخرا لمجرًد أنًه مريض
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Aw, your aunt sounds like an angel & you are a wonderful niece 🪽 🩷
@@norama3998 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
Family cannot get loved one help unless loved one agrees to it. The loved one affected does not believe that they have a mental illness
Lots of family doesn’t help even when you beg for help / people in general do not want to carry other’s burden. I learned I have no one. Bc I’m “pretty” I have no real problems and need to get over myself. Per my family.
@@bellamichelle6248 talk to your Doc or teacher privately and ask for resources to help you💕
That's because they do NOT have a mental "illness". Please, look-up Jerry Marzinsky! 🙏
@@fox39foreverthat’s exactly what an evil entity would tell me to do. I need my chemical lobotomy and diabetes. It makes me feel better
@@Denise-yj3se no...they can be mandatorily hospitalized.
My mother was ALL of the things you mentioned, which freaks me out…but she was very abusive, neglectful, and violent with me too. I got taken away from her twice and put into foster care…or she’d drop me off on somebody’s porch. I was basically raised by a string of relatives. My father was never involved, and she said she hated me because I looked just like him. She also was diagnosed both Schizophrenic and Bipolar/Manic Depressive on top of it. And this was all in the 80’s/90’s. I was very scared of her, and never got the chance to understand her because she committed suicide. In hindsight, schizophrenia is hell. They actually hear/see things.
I’m sorry you went through what you did❤️
Sorry ❤
So sorry Meagan
Thank you for sharing ❤
I'm so sorry she hurt you.
Yes, my mother passed away on Christmas day, two years ago. I felt strange, relieved and couldn't cry...it was over. Now I can heal and grieve. But my initial reaction was relief...she can't hurt me anymore. Rest in peace mama 🌹
The fact that you have found forgiveness for your mom is commendable but at the same time, I pray you don't accept false guilt.
I know about false guilt. That's a huge problem for kind hearted people. I suffer from tremendous guilt feelings but then I have to tell myself that I didn't know better on how to react and be the perfect therapist for my mother.
But her mum was ill, she didn't need forgiveness for being ill, she needed treatment
@@susanparker4550 what treatment are you referring to? There is no treatment as they have no clue what even causes it. They try to manage symptoms with medications that cause many more health issues and often do not even fix the symptoms.
@@susanparker4550the daughter needed to forgive her mother for herself.
What has she to forgive her for she was mentally ill not forgive understand is the word.
Over 90 thousand people have heard your mother’s story. It is an important story. Thank you for sharing ❤
I am one year older than your mum. I have suffered from mental health issues for most of my life, not schizophrenia. I too have also been called crazy, attention seeking and worse. I have always accepted help for my disorders, although for the last few years there is none. I have been on the medication roundabout and had several hospital admissions. I raised 3 children as a single parent and am now estranged from all of them as well as my biological family. I had 3 bad relationships with men and have lived on my own for the last 10 years since my youngest son left home. I haven't had a man in my life for 36 years. I now live only with my 2 dogs. I have always had a good relationship with animals and have always had my fair share of many different types. I got all my emotional support from my dear dad who passed away 4 years ago. My life has gone downhill ever since.
Thankyou for sharing your story it reminds me a lot of my own and has me in tears.
This had me in tears too remembering my mom's suffering. I pray you know you are worth anything that is available to be tried to get stable. There are always new perspectives on mental illness. FINALLY, the medical field knows the mind is important. Hang in there and don't give up. ~Linda
So sorry for your situation! Your animals need you, live for them! I’m not sick but have had a lot of loss in my life and I live for my animals!❤❤❤
Bless you. I pray your kids will forgive you, themselves, and eachother and return to repair your family.
Know that you are worthy of love. Give yourself all the love you need to feel good 🤗 enjoy your life and every special moment, being, thing in it. I hope you will be okay. All the best.
Me too ❤
Your blessed your dad was with you. Mine is abusive.
I have been learning about angels and spirit guides. You are not alone ever❤
This one was very tough for me to watch, hits extremely close to home.
I grew up with a mother who has schizophrenia as well. In fact there are many people with in my extended family have mental illnesses. It was and still is very difficult to interact with my mom at times. She informed me of some of the environmental factors from her childhood and I think this contributed to her developing schizophrenia. Ultimately, I love my mom because she’s my mom and she did the best she could but there’s a lot of pain there. One day I hope to go to therapy to discuss these things. Sending love your way ❤
She is demon possessed. How awful it is.
You don't have to love your abuser. In fact I can't understand why anyone would stand by an abuser.
@@JohnSmith-lk8cyBecause it wasn't intentional. She didn't ask to be born with schizophrenia and maybe going to therapy was still seen as messed up during the period of time of her childhood or if she was part of some type of religious groups. So hush.
I am sorry you went through that and I respect that you can see that your mom tried the best she could. No one asks to have mental illness and when either their entire family is distant or has it themselves, it is beyond far from being miraculously cured.
You love her, but hate things that she did. You don't gotta completely hate her as a human being.
I understand being unable to forgive a mom who takes zero responsibility for any wrongdoing, but some abusers just can't see that they're mentally ill and what they're doing is wrong. And that's why there is the guilty by legal insanity defense.
@@androgynylunacy I just love you. And I admire your compassion for your mom.
@@JohnSmith-lk8cy anger and bitterness rots a person from the inside out like a parasite. It does nothing to fix the pain, lets it fester.
Oh man, my mom has schizophrenia. I see you! I hear you! I am so sorry she was never properly diagnosed. When my mom takes her meds, she is herself. But she often chooses not to take them...
Thank you for sharing your story
We need to change the law in regards to how much "free will" we give people with a history of mental illness especially if anosognosia is present... Anosognosia is damage to the part of your 🧠 that allows you to self-reflect on your behavior so you don't realize something is wrong no matter how obvious/bad it gets.
My brother was diagnosed with schizophrenia at the age of 19. He had what was termed a break down.
He always struggled at school, could not learn and when he left my father got him a job on the railways as a fireman. We had steak trains at that time. This is when he had his break down.
We took him to a psychiatrist who diagnosed him and put him on medication.
He lost his job and did not get another.
He was married but that ended in divorce.
He suffered many delusions and was impossible to live with.
He was also very concerned about cleanliness.
He also was addicted to gambling and stole money on things which he would sell.
Finally after living in many shelters but did not like their rules, refused to confirm and ended up in the streets.
I offered him a room but he preferred to live free. Our whole family tried to help him but it was to no avail. We cried many tears over him and finally he died and we don't know how or where he was.
It is the saddest thing to have to deal with.
My sympathies is with anyone who has a family member with schizophreni.😊😊
My Mom is 83 and I now see the signs. She was better when she was busy. Got worse in her 70's, but Thank God my Dad never left her. 64 yrs married today..
Thank goodness I could forgive her for a wild childhood🙏
Your Dad is a saint. What a blessing that your father stayed & I am sure your mama loved you dearly. Blessings for your bravery & being a person who can take some of the stigma by at least TALKING a about MENTAL ILLNESS.✌🏽😎
Btw - you look👀like your maternal grandmother.
If you didn't see the signs before she was 60 then its not Schizophrenic.
Your mother has Dementia / Alzheimer's which happens to many people with older age.
Schizophrenic / Schizo disorders are first noticed at a younger age under 40, usually teens to 35.. /and mostly in their 20's.
Usually starts with major life changes..School /jobs and they cant handle the pressure and there is usually some sort of break or break down that starts it.
Better get a clear diagnosis for her first. And then some help for your farher and her.
I'm crying hearing your story, I have cried in the past about my mother and my relationship with her but it had been a while so I probably needed to. I'm glad I tuned in, it isn't a subject I've talked about very much because, as is the case with you, it triggers so many feelings of guilt around my inability to understand what was happening to my mother and my reactions to her psychotic symptoms and behaviors. Your story is similar in some ways to our experience but different in other ways. My mother married my father at 32, I was born 2 yr. later, and they remained married and shared our home throughout each of their relatively short lives. I don't recall anything out of the ordinary until I was around 10 or 11 when my mother began having paranoid ideas, believing others were saying terrible things about her, becoming delusional, hallucinating, and being hospitalized the first time. She was prescribed medication, returned home after a month's stay, and seemed to be stable, but a couple of years later the same thing occurred and she was hospitalized again. My paternal grandmother lived 2 blocks from us and did not treat my mother nor my younger sister well. My father worked long hours and was away from home much of the time. There was no one my mother socialized with except for family occasionally and I think she was lonely. I remember being afraid of my mother on some level, not physically, but emotionally cut by some of the things she said to me, and I recall being embarrassed by some of her bizarre behaviors in public. After her 2nd hspitalization, I began spending more time at my grandmother's house or at the home of friends, often overnight. My mother was a beautiful woman with an awesome singing voice. I didn't have either of my parents long, my father died of cancer when I was 15 and my mother died of a brain hemorrhage a year later. She had a history of physical complaints for which Drs. could find no reason, so when she suffered the hemorrhage, she diagnosed what was happening although no one believed her, including myself, thinking she was imagining things again. I became a registered nurse and worked in the area of psychiatry during my career, I believe to try and understand both myself and my mother. I often wonder what my relationship would have been with my mother, and father, had they lived longer and as I developed more maturity and understanding. I like to think it would have been better. Thank you for sharing your experience which has helped me feel so not quite alone.
How wonderful that you did become a registered nurse and cared for others, despite your losses and challenges. Schizophrenia is a devastating illness for many people and families. I wish you peace and good things ahead.
@@Issy2226-c6p, thank you so much. ❤
My mother has had paranoia schizophrenia my whole life. Before i was born with my siblings said she had issues then. So my mother has been suffering from schizophrenia her whole life, undiagnosed.
My mother thinks its normal.
The chaos, thinking everyone is out to get her.
My mother and i barely have a relationship now. Shes 73 , she’s just a shell of her mental illnesses , schizophrenia, ptsd, bipolar, depression, yeah my mother has alot of issues. Because of her childhood abuse from my grandparents. narcissistic rages,
My mother never found help ,
It was hard for me growing up. Dealing with it.
I really discovered okay there’s something wrong when i was 32.
Now im taking care of myself, when i see someone struggling with mental illness, it isnt funny. It breaks my hearrt.
I understand and I feel for you, I really do. My mother has paranoia schizophrenia too. It's extremely hard to live with a shell of a woman who could have been a really good mom, but because of her mental illness could not. Most do not understand, can't possibly understand unless they have lived it. To those of you in this situation I wish you strength, love, and to not give up on the your life, on who you are, and on you potential in this life. You have inner strength, you will persevere, and you will overcome no matter what hardball has been thrown your way. Here's to you my sisters and brothers on this earth. Positivity and love streaming through my mind to you!!!
I understand you & it’s never funny. Breaks my heart ❤️
While I understand it's hard for you I hope you can find it in your heart to help her when no one else will. ❤❤❤
@@elisechurch3637 many blessings to you also!! You seem to understand the situation with schizophrenia.
I wish you the same hon. Praying for the peace 🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️
I was diagnosed schizoaffective in 1983, but only took responsibility for my own mental health wellness recently cuz I had 2 hospitalizations back to back n didn't want to repeat my past devastations...weird it took me so long to own it...but I know Noone will..the program for Assertive treatment or pact team has helped as well as my own desire to study about symptoms n do best I can
Your story has me in tears, this is so similar to my own story with my mothers schizophrenia. Thank you for sharing your story.
Ditto!
I can totally relate.
I would like to comfort you by saying that you're mother brought a beautiful person into this world. ❤️💐
My husband is schizophrenic as well. He's just turned 72. Routine is key to the schizophrenic. They can thrive if they indeed get help. At this very moment he hasn't talked to me for who knows what. On days like this I am grateful that we don't live together.
He got his Master's in English. He held a job for 33 years as a librarian. He studies the most amazing things. Right now he studies Ancient Greek. He then wishes he had someone to talk to. I've looked for anything that can put him in touch with someone who does. However, he's apprehensive about the thought of meeting new people. It can be happy and sad. Tomorrow we'll talk and not mention today and it will be great.
God bless you! ❤
Is he autistic?» Masters in English and he noe studies Ancient Greek. «
So it is to the point. My cape for life. Nobodys fault ...day by day. And then what? There is peace in Christ . And still you ask .did I do enough? Where is the illness starting und the person comes out we all don't know....but? Wash hair..wear nice dress....you do well ..etc....das Mach ich. Fur meine tochter...now safe grosskind ... Remember we are not alone ..prost🎉🎉🎉
My friend from high school also had a single mom with schizophrenia. It was terrible beyond words. Her mom told her she could only get dressed under the covers because men were watching through the ceiling lightbulbs. They could only shower in the absolute dark for the same reason. Her mom had so many rules about everything. Rules that were outrageous and didn't make sense designed to protect against spies, poisonings from spies, the devil, voices, etc. A tragic, difficult childhood. My friend got pregnant at 16 and her mom thought the devil made the baby! The baby was placed in an open adoption. My own experience with schizophrenia was when I saw the neighbors' son change from a bright, early high school graduate, graduated college in 3 years, entered medical school. 1 year into medical school he washed out. The medical school told his dad they suspected onset of schizophrenia. The disease devastated him. He stopped hygiene, refused haircuts, long scraggly beard, mumbling nonstop, wild eyes, etc. He suicided. A terrible tragedy back in the early 80's.
Minimal help was available and I sure believe that he earned some peace.
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Sounds a lot like my brother.
Absolutely. I knew two in the 90’s, ^both of them talked about Demons constantly….
@@SarahBearah2023 - No dear. It's brain chemistry. That is why medication and even ECT can be helpful.
Wow what a beautiful daughter you are for embracing all of this. I’m so sorry for all of the suffering you both endured. Thank you for this video.
You must have so many unmet needs from your childhood. Children desperately want to be seen and understood by their mothers. I can hear those old wounds in your voice even in your mother's last days. Much love to you, I hope you get your healing.
This is hard to read. Just remember her mum struggled too and it wasn’t her mums fault that she was unwell. Stuff like this is why mums who are sick are so scared to say anything or reach out for help.
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Why is it hard to read?
This person is writing truthfully and compassionately to someone. There is no judgement.
@@barbsmart7373it’s just truthful to a situation that’s sad to begin with
@@barbsmart7373It is hard to read.....At least for me it's 💔 for everyone involved as I read it.
@@barbsmart7373 exactly, and regardless of whether the mom suffered, the children suffer immensely. Most children of schizophrenic parents end up with trauma, depression, anxiety, attachment disorders, and worse. They end up with a lifetime of serious issues that get in the way of relationships, jobs, you name it. The adult children's first priority should be healing themselves, and if that includes separation from the parent/s then so be it. No guilt. No judgement.
My teenage son is schizophrenic and one thing I always bragged about my son, for years now, before the diagnosis, is that he is the person with the most passive, self-control I’ve even encountered in my life. He’s still the same despite his diagnosis. The negative stigma is real… Thanks for this video ❤
Hi I have a 34 year old son with symptoms of schizophrenia. He is not cooperating with me and wife to seek professional help. What can you please advise us with your own experience. Thank you very much.
@@johnnygrageda3055 Look up the genetic mutation of mthfr and how methylated B vitamins and other supplements can help. You can search up methylated B vitamins and buy them online. Sometimes called ‘activated’.
My mom is schizophrenic which resulted in rampant drug and alcohol abuse. It was the drugs that made her abusive and go into many episodes of psychosis.
I remember counting down the days that I would get diagnosed with it but it never happened, thank God.
YAY!!
Poor dear, I too used to worry as a young kid about inheriting my mom's paranoid schizophrenia....It was quite a relief when I realized the chances of me being fine & dandy were a healthy 90%🤗.I'm so sorry for your difficult childhood...In my case my mom went to the 🏥 & got treated successfully with a antipsychotic right before my 10th birthday and she's essentially lived a healthy normal life with her medicine ever since.I wish every person struggling with mental illness could have this kind of outcome...My hope is that Neuralink will be the next big frontier for treating mental health conditions such as Schizophrenia, Depression, Bipolar Disorder, etc.
Yes yes yes....I grew up with my mom who was schizophrenic. But she was institutionalized when I was 10. I grew up with fear,, isolation, and secrets because of the stigmas. I didn't speak about it until I was in my 20's. Alot of trauma for me. She wasn't treated until she was in her 50's. Sad. She was even given electro shock therapy. All of us suffered so much. I still have those feelings of being afraid to speak about it. Thank you for sharing your story! I'm not the only one! ❤
May you be blessed going forward.
This hits really close to home, I’m 15 and my mom is 44. And all my life I ve yk known my mom was different. She is a diagnosed schizophrenic so I saw eat medicines everyday I used to go with her to hospital every mnth when I was younger but my family is very not feel touch-y so we have actually never really talked about this just twice , once I was younger my mom was having delusionals and I got so mad at her and my dad said it’s not her fault all we can do is help her and like one in covid when I asked my dad what mental disease does mom really have. So all I know about her story is what I ve heard. So from what I ve gathered my mom was married before my dad for about 6-12 mnths around the age of 23 and the guy used physically and mentally abuse her like really really bad and give her drugs and shit, so she divorced him then was diagnosed with depression then schizophrenia then she got okay or so they thought and went off her medicine then married my dad then during or after being pregnant with me her schizophrenia came back . And I don’t remember much about my childhood but I remember a couple of time I remember her being in the hospital for a long time dont if sh3 was sick or it schizophrenia, which made me have a really good connection with my dad and all my childhood I was kinda scared of my mom and think she hated me. When I was younger yk she used to slap me a lot then be like oh my god I did not mean to do that are you okay. So I definitely don’t have the bong that I have with my dad. But as the years went on I think she got better coz she no longer hits me I don’t even remember the last time she slapped ( so guys don’t worry I’m fine). But like yk re delusions are still there like so many times she is like that person said that and I’m just like nothing like that happened and like she sees ppl in bathroom and shit. Once I was about 10-11 I remember her crying because apparently she thought somebody raped me. And at times she just goes into this mood where she is totally silent and angry. And I hate myself for screaming at her when she says something delusional because ik she can’t help it but at times it’s too much. There are many times when I felt like I was the parent. But at the end of day she is the best mom I could ask for Ik she loves me a lot and would do anything for me literally anything. She srsly is so sweet and I love her so goddamn much.
I hope you get some therapy for yourself so you know what’s normal and what’s not. Therapy helps with making all the adult decisions you are starting to make now, so you can be a mentally healthy adult for yourself. I bet you are very strong and fragile at the same time. Therapy helps balance that out. (My brother is schizophrenic and bipolar.)
@@megb9700 Great advice.
What a wonderful daughter you are. God bless you always and your family as well. ❤
i joined a nation wide group called NAMI...NATIONAL ALLIANCE FOR THE MENTALLY ILL. Their groups are held for family members...i was shocked at how many people were there talking about their situations with their family members who were very sick with a mental illness. It is a great group to join ! Look it up. You will hear stories the same as yours and even worse. These things are kept secret and hidden many times...you will be shocked at how many people are living with problems like yours. Good luck!!! I have several mentally ill family members, some more severe than others, some schizophrenia.
Your mom is absolutely blessed to have you for a daughter, God bless you all , take care 🙏❤💯
Thank you for sharing your Mother’s story! My brother was diagnosed with Schizophrenia when he was 19 and was in and out of mental hospitals the rest of his life. He was perfectly normal as long as he was on his meds and Dad would bring him home then he wouldn’t take his meds and have to be re-admitted. Jerry was super smart in school I’m told he had an IQ that was genius level. He had a horrible breakdown when he was 19 and was hearing voices and delusional very early on. He used to gather up all the guns ( Dad was a hunter) and then March around saying they are coming to get us etc… he immobilized Dads truck so he couldn’t go get help and back then ( the 1960s) we didn’t even have a house phone! I remember hiding in the closet from him… I was 11 years younger than him.. later in his life my uncle took him in till he was unable to care for him( my uncle was a sheriff’s deputy and a big man so he could handle him better and Jerry listened to him and did really well)
Jerry was in a halfway house after that with a caregiver… he died from Emphysema in 1996. I cry a lot thinking of him. There’s an episode of House called The Socratic Method… if you haven’t watched please do if you get a chance… turns out the lady who was diagnosed with Schizophrenia actually had Wilson’s Disease and House caught it and she got her son back! I cried and cried cause I always wonder if Jerry was misdiagnosed! Thanks again for sharing your Mother’s and your journey with this ❤❤
That is sad, my mum was an undiagnosed paranoid Schizophrenic until I was 15 years. She is of a similar age to your mum and it defiantly was not know about much back then. She was only diagnosed because I couldn't cope anymore and started playing up at school and skipping school. I ended up with a social worker who visited my mum once and she got my mum sectioned. Happily today my mum is outgoing, has lots of friends, still together with my dad and is a lot less symptomatic.
That's lovely😊.My mom essentially lives as a normal healthy person thanks to her medication.I wish everyone with mental illnesses could have such a good outcome with treatment.I hope Neuralink will be the next big frontier in mental illness treatment for a lot of folks.
You don''t really get rid of it, but I am glad her symptoms are better managed.
Have you seen “Living well with Schizophrenia”? A young woman
who describes her life, with her disorder lives a full life. So sad your mother didn’t get treatment, and a better, less scary life. 🌹
I am sorry for your loss of your mom she sounds like she was a proud woman and she took care of you.
Your mother had her problems, but having your mother’s family ignoring her is beyond cruel.
They should’ve pulled together money every month to give her an apartment a small apartment for her to call home and be safe.
I enjoyed your video, thank you.
It's not that simple. My brother is schizophrenic. My parents did everything to make sure he had a home, but one day, he stood on my doorstep saying, he didn't want to live there anymore and wanted to be homeless, and not to tell my parents about this decision. He asked me to be happy for him, that were his last words to me. It's very difficult, because helping someone who thinks you are out to get them, even when you're the sweetest person alive, is just so heartbreaking and impossible to help.
@barpoe People who don't know anyone with schizophrenia assume they can somehow "fix" them by being kind and providing support. I know a man who has paranoid schizophrenia. He calls me regularly with his paranoid delusions. He calls me because I listen, and he tells me he has no one who cares about him. I know that's not true, but he has burned every bridge countless times. It's a really sad situation.
My mother has schizophrenia paranoia and she is the sweetest and kindest person I know, I can only count on one hand the amount of times she has gotten mad at me. It was difficult growing up when she would have episodes but I would just have to remind myself that it’s not her fault. ❤
My mother had schizophrenia paranoia which only became visible to me and my dad when she was 55.
From that moment on life became a horrible hollywood movie.
My mum was the sweetest kindest person on this planet and everybody she came in contact with knew she was special.
I am a single child and my mum and I had a very very close relationship.
With the illness becoming very bad very quick at the age of 62 she ended up living in a psychiatric ward for 20 years.
In total those 25 years since the outbreak were stolen from her and were stolen from me.
It is absolutely devastating.
I never again managed to be serene or carefree with that situation going on during the last 25 years of my own life.
She was still alive but so absent from the drugs and from the illness keeping her in pain. I was suffering and sad every day during these years.
My mum died 6 days ago from the side effects of the drugs at 81.
I am 54 and I feel deeply traumatised from all this ......though I know that I was still so lucky because we had very good times with no signs of illness untill I was 28.....so my childhood was not hurt by this......but the last 25 years of losing her while she still was alive were horribly painful. With her death all the pain for the lost years came back all at once. I feel devastated and it helps a lot to see videos like these. Thank you so much!!!!
My daughter is paranoid schitzophrenic. I appreciate you taking time to do this video on it. My daughter growing up was a cheerleader all thru school. She had to try out and always made it. They had varcity basketball, and football and she made both. So when around age 17... I started noticing things more. God Bless you on your journey.
That is the age my grandson was diagnosed and we could see things changing.
Yes, my handsome, intelligent son began having symptoms at that age then a full blown psychotic episode, where he broke with reality completely. He's in his thirties now...
I don't know which sounds worse, having schizophrenia or being raised by a parent with it. My mom has untreated mental illness but she is at least relatively sound of mind compared to schizophrenia. Possibly autism. My heart goes out to you. You are very compassionate and understanding of the illness. That is a beautiful thing. Blessings to you and your family.❤
Autism is not mental illness... How ignorant to say at least
Autism Spectrum Disorders are NOT mental illnesses. Please educate yourself.
@@sarajesusismykingits a developmental disorder and often comes hand in hand with mental ilnesses like anxiety and depression
@@sarajesusismyking autism is most definitely a condition that affects a person's mind so if you don't understand that, you are the ignorant one, especially to make your rude comment here. It's unnecessary and petty. No one actually said autism is a mental illness, but it is definitely a qualifying mental disability for those who have it. If you don't understand what people are discussing, don't try to speak on it, because THAT is how you spread ignorance. Also, what kind of person who claims Jesus as their King in their social media handle says something unnecessary and rude like this under a comment where a childhood abuse survivor is encouraging another. That is NOT something Jesus would do.
Having it.
I've never been really been able to express my feelings regarding my schizophrenic mother. I've always felt it was a touchy subject and it's just not something you can easily talk about to others. So, for me, it's very refreshing to hear you talking about schizophrenia in an honest and open manner. My mother's symptoms didn't appear until she gave birth to me. .So, I always felt guilty. When I was in the third grade, my father put me and my sister in a foster home. This was way back in the fifties. I'm now 75. My mother was admitted to the Salem mental hospital in Oregon. It was the same hospital where the movie Who flew over the Cuckoo's Nest with Jack Nickolson was filmed. She was there for two years. When thorazine was found to help, she was discharged.
She did have Grandiose delusions and hallucinations. She had been a journalist and read veraciously. So, the way I saw it she was very clever in her breakdowns, she would call the White House for universal health care. She thought she was a director and would want to stage a play, asking various neighbors for a casting call. I was embarrassed but they thought it was funny. But, the worse was when she became angry, very angry calling everyone and personally cutting them down in the most vicious & cutting way. As a child, I thought the devil possessed her and prayed for an exorcism. So, she was either very active, staying up days and nights in a hyper manic state or on thorazine, very dull and quiet. I suppose I sound a bit cold, but this was years ago. After my dad died, she kept a calendar and go off her thorazine on purpose when she knew the insurance would cover her. Then she would go into a heighten state of grandiose. I felt she enjoyed her manic states because it was like being drunk. That's just my personal opinion. So, my sister and I spent our forties running back and forth to the clinic. She'd be there for two weeks at time. She smoked a lot and at 75 had lung cancer. She was lucid during her hospice and tried to make it up to me in her last days. That meant a lot to me. It is nice how sensitive you are about your mother. I ended up with minor insecurities that I just cover up the best I know how. You appear very strong. I admire your courage in being open & honest about a topic that some of us never knew how to express.
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A healthcare worker told me once when my friend was very manic and refusing meds that some people are sorta addicted to being bi-polar, because it’s like a free cocaine trip where you can do anything and not be held accountable.
This reminds me of my mother. After years of living through her episodes, she decided almost 10 years ago to go completely off meds. I do believe that she enjoys being without responsibilities and also being able to do and say whatever she pleases no matter how horrible.
Very similar story.. I can't even talk about it or think about it
My close friend has a sister diagnosed with this disease. She is fine when she's taking her medication, but through the years she's kept herself on and off the meds so it's been up and down for decades now. This video is so obviously a labor of love, and I think it's given a lot of people encouragement and some peace of mind. Thank you so much for posting this. Your mother has a lovely daughter.
Except for the homelessness, sounds like you are describing my mom. She talked weird and depressing talk ALL day long. As a teenager I would escape from the house as early in the day as possible. But once I got married and my father died I realized she needed help. her psychiatrist was able to help her and within 3 weeks she was released to come home. From there she gradually improved. I never has sense enough to ask him what her diagnosis. Thank you for sharing this. I am 76 yrs ol and have had a little bit of therapy. From California.
Thank you for honoring your mom and telling her story 💜💜
I thought abt writing a long comment to tell you that this sounded so much like my own life. My mom tho rebutted help, she was diagnosed as bi-polar and she didn’t think she was nor did she think she needed help. She didn’t have psychosis, as in hearing ppl talking to her, she was also like the “black sheep” and shunned from the family. As a result of her being “difficult” I was also put into that category and shunned. She also passed from cancer at age 56.
Here’s what I wanted to say that not only do we need to normalize acceptance for a mental illness, we need to learn and educate ourselves abt that illness. We need stop treating ppl WITH a Mental illness like they are just difficult, if they are truly making an effort ie: medications and therapy then they are trying to be better. My mom was however not trying to get help, she was “right” and everyone disrespected her. We need to make how treating ppl with mental illness can affect them. Bi-polar runs in my family, my brother has it, it was called manic depression back then, his daughter has it…neither of them admit it nor get treatment. That is the hard part. I have chronic depression and anxiety but I have seen three doctors and asked them to test me for bi-polar and I was told by all threee that I do not have it. I wanted to be sure I was on the correct meds. Accepting my mental illness, talking abt it, and also taking meds n going to counseling def helps but does not cure. I’ve had a close family member tell me that I use my mental illness as an excuse and same person thinks I am lazy. Besides mental illness I do have several ailments that I take meds for and go to PT for. Anywho I did end up writing a novel here, lol but I wanted to let you know how much I appreciate you sharing your story. And to also let ppl know we need to bring awareness to educate ourselves on said mental illness of a family member and then learn how to treat them because of said illness. You wouldn’t expect your family member or friend to walk on a broken leg, you would help them and do what is necessary to aid in them healing……just because you cannot “see” mental illness on the outside doesn’t mean you should treat them like they are a burden or a difficult person. We need to treat them with love n kindness and help them cope.
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Well done. You did so well telling this story of growing up with a mum that suffered from schizophrenia. It's not easy road to travel.
Thank you for opening up and breaking stigma ❤
My daughter was diagnosed recently and I’m devastated. I’m in shock and I’m so depressed and stressed about this. Her life will be very very hard. My older sister has it.
we have similar story...my granddaughter was diagnosed in the past year and i am dealing with this day to day, one day at a time, I am so depressed that now, a grandchild has a mental disorder that my family is so familiar with. I have only two grandchildren and one has been diagnosed. We have had a hellish time with all sorts of disorders and illnesses, i posted above. BE KIND TO YOURSELF and do not let anyone run you down--be careful and protect yourself and your daughter--there are people who will not accept our "type" of family and will criticize and judge. Be looking out for yourself and your daughter and try to be around compassionate people and people who understand....not the ignorant ones. The world needs much more enlightenment concerning mental illness. The family suffers along with the diagnosed family member. I suggest a group called NAMI. National Alliance for the Mentally Ill. Godspeed !
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Yes, it is a very hard diagnosis but we have more medication options now, plus group homes, etc. Get her a case manager through your state office. Let them help her. It takes a team and government resources. It also takes time and being on wait lists so start now. Make it clear when she graduates high school she must move out or she will be living in your basement as you age and become her victim. You must protect yourself. You deserve to have a happy life. (((Hugs)))
@@Jendromeda I totally understand everything you said and it is all true. I am there too. God bless you.
@@happycook6737 Even when she finally gets a group home or apartment - which is SO hard to do as you know - my daughter leaves within the FIRST DAY. What then? I have not found any answers. I have tried everything. She is convinced every time that she can go out on her own without meds and will not comply with ANY house rules or supervision. Unless she is in the hospital no one can get her to take her meds and no one can keep her safe.
My schizophrenic mother also got different with me at around puberty. She lived with my dad. We lived at as a family of 4, my dad, mom, brother and just me.
She had support from the father, but told my brother that my dad was in the navy for 9 years and abandoned us. My brother told me this was a problem, but I didn't see it as such. He had 4 years before me with my mom.
(I have to go for now. I will come back to this.)
There are things that we have in common, but clearly things we don't. Thank you fir sharing your story. Cleatly some of the reasons your common sense tells you to blame are not at all what really burdened her, my mom either. My God. Im so sorry. I will try to be back here.
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I too have a mother with paranoid schizophrenia. Your experiences are similar to mine.Though she fails to understand that we family love her so much,I still love her a lot.I love my mother very much.
I’m only at 0:01 and that long hard sigh said everything I need to know. I felt and saw it all at once! I’m so sorry you went though that. 😔
I'm watching this on her birthday!! (7/24/24) Happy Birthday!!! My mom suffered from manic depression, Bi-polar; she passed away 06/01/22. But Happy Birthday Kathy!!
I am going through this exact thing with my brothers girlfriend. And sadly reacted by pushing her away. Thank you for putting this disorder so eloquently into words. Love the end you are doing your mother proud.
I feel so bad for you. Your talk was so moving and profound. I have worked as a fire department paramedic for most of my life. When I first became involved in emergency services work I figured I would be dealing with heart attacks and car crashes. Little did I realize that many of the people I would deal with have some form of mental and emotional problems. Schizophrenia, bipolar, anxiety/depression, dementia and Alzheimers. God Bless you.
Bless you for having such a keen understanding of your mother. You obviously loved your mother. I struggle with a severe mood disorder that has plagued me my entire life. I'm not "quite" schizophrenic, but I'm "on the cusp" as it were. My childhood was a nightmare, especially after my parents' divorce. I have so much empathy for you and your mother. I understand mood cycling and paranoia as I've experienced them all my life. Your video is very helpful to me and I thank you for sharing your painful experiences. You're so very kind. My heart hurts for your dear mother. It wasn’t her fault. ❤
Please........go on a diet experiment for 1 month: NO GRAINS.......absolutely no type of grain, no rice no corn. And NO DAIRY....absolutely nothing. Eat tons of fruits everyday. And eat tons of cooked vegetables and potatoes every day. PLEASE do this......maybe even only for 1 WEEK!!!! Watch how your health will be improving......you will fell like a medical miracle!!!! I do not eat meat but if you do then you can on this experiment. THE most important thing is to abstain from ANY type of grain and from ANY type of Dairy and from ANY type of SOY products.
Your story has many similarities to mine. But our mom was diagnosed with Schizoaffective Disorder and she doesn't believe she is mentally ill. She has had lots of treatment and we have helped her alot but she won't accept any more treatment...it's beyond frustrating and we understand her illness pretty well. Thank you for sharing your story!
Your situation sounds just like mine was. My mother has passed away now, but absolutely totally bullheaded on not accepting her diagnosis. The psychiatrist told me that she was in the top 10% of the most difficult to treat. Refuses to accept she is ill and refuses to take the medication. An absolute revolving door in and out of the state mental hospital her whole adult life. Very sad.
My situation is the same as yours too surrounding treatment, acceptance of diagnosis, and choosing to continue treatment voluntarily. I can't wrap my head around how my mom can't seem to remember the literal night and day difference when she was put on medication. She's 69 now. It's horrible watching her deteriorate more with this disease, yet she's bullheaded as hell and refuses to see a doctor for ANYTHING at all because she doesn't want to be put on medication again. It's almost as if in some subconscious way she recognizes that a doctor would see her needs, yet simultaneously, she doesn't believe she has schizophrenia. It's heartbreaking every day, thinking she may never pass away in peace when her time comes, but instead inundated in voices and delusions. I wish there was more we could all do for our family that so very clearly need help.
My Dad died 4 years ago. He was turbulent in his youth and self-deprecating as he got older. I found out that he was considered schizophrenic by mental health practitioners, but I wonder now if they got it wrong. I think he had Aspergers.
His Dad lived in asylum in Epsom. A gentle soul that was labelled indolent but loved to draw and make people laugh.
I feel angry about the lack of opportunity that my Dad had, and that in his youth and last 9 years I was the only person who truly loved him. My Mum never told me due to stigma, but he spent his entire life worrying about everything and passed on this worry to us.
I have a cousin who is diagnosed as paranoid schizophrenic, and I never quite understood what that meant. A lot of people confuse it with multiple personality disorder. Thank you for this insight!
That’s because MPD used to be called schizophrenia in the early part of the 20th century. They’ve renamed it and separated the diagnoses, but the early conflation of the two conditions has really stuck in people’s minds.
Paranoia usually is part of the illness. I think it is the thing that makes it the most difficult part to deal with. You’re a very kind and caring person and a strong person too. Thanks for sharing your story ❤
Your mum would be very very proud. You are very brave 💕
Thanx for sharing ur story. It helps me understand my own schizophrenia and it's so awful. Thankfully I'm married to a wonderful man who understands me. He does keep me and protect me from all kinds of trouble. I've tried living with other ppl when I was homeless and it didn't work out so well. My family hates me cuz they don't understand me.
That is a very sad story and had me in tears many times. Youve explained this really well and in a way that I can understand. I'm sorry you had a hard childhood and your dear Mum was like she was. She is at peace now and nothing can trouble her. That was very brave of you to tell us your story and I hope and pray life treats you well from now on. God Bless You xxx
Thank you for this video! You’re a wonderful speaker and portray a compassionate heart. My sister just passed last week. She had schizophrenia for 40 yrs! I wish I’d seen your video sooner!!! God bless you!
When my son was diagnosed with schizophrenia when he was 27 my only sibling who is 7 years older and her entire family just faded out of our lives. It’s a lonely existence for someone who suffers from schizophrenia and the parent or parents who refuses to abandon them.
I’m so sorry.
This video caught my attention because by two best friends who lived across the street had a mother who suffered with schizophrenia. When we were younger, she was the fun Mom on the block and we always like to play at her house. She did have an agoraphobia problem, so we went to the store for her and did a lot of things that we considered fun at the time. As years went by, she started saying a few odd things like "there are little green men in the backyard" and we would howl with laughter thinking she was kidding. I remember her looking at us as we looked outside to see if there were green men and realize now she really did see them, thought she might be losing it, and would feel better if we saw them, too. Of course, we didn't. Like the mother in this video, she thought all of her relatives had problems or didn't like her or weren't nice, etc. When her oldest daughter and I went off to college, she got really bad. She had a drinking problem, too, which doctors later said was her trying to self-medicate herself. One night, she took a knife to all of the paintings in the house- most of which she had painted herself. She began locking her younger daughter in the house and not allowing her to go to high school in the morning due to fear something would happen to her. The daughter had to call the high school and tell them that her mother would not let her out of the house. She also called her grandfather who lived nearby and he would come right over. Finally, with her mother refusing to go to a doctor to seek help, she and her grandfather went themselves to explain what was happening. It was decided that her mother had become a danger and she was removed to the hospital by hospital personnel and the police. It was very sad. The rest of her life was more back and forth through better days and bad days until she also died of cancer like the woman in this video. I like to remember her as the fun Mom who was always happy to welcome us kids into her home.
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I wish people would understand each other better... Today, I was at a lake, sunbathing and swimming with my kids, and it really made me sad to watch how many parents are treating their children with little empathy - some kids were stressed, were tired, were having a tantrum, one hurt himself, but the parents instead of being caring, understanding and loving, got very stressed as well and tried to stop their children crying or complaining. To me, this observation relates to your story - it is a very human condition that we tend to get rather self-centered as soon as we are stressed, in the process losing sight of others around us, even loved ones, especially when they cause the stress. Then the blaming starts and the "don't behave that way, don't be that difficult". Instead of consoling, we shame the other person, making them feel like they are wrong or faulty. This is very sad and if I had just one wish, this is the one thing that I would choose to change. I would want people to really see each other better.
My brother is 27 & was diagnosed with Schizophrenia due to heavy drug use & past trauma of my our dad's passing back in 2011. This vid touched home for me.
Wow! So glad to help you know you’re not alone 🙏🤍
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So sorry for ur dad n bro but its true drugs causes mental illness it sad i myself was a normal person i was very outgoing i was very social i loved being around people i will always be at family gathering and after smoking weed 3 times a week i had bad highs every time and i got anxiety depression psychosis derealization permanently and thats the symptoms i got when i was high and now i am a introvert i cant go to family gatherings i cant go anywhere because of my mental illness i am very weird my family all says im crazy and now i am alone 24/7 its very sad but i cant stress this enough but drugs are very bad even mary j
So sorry you had to go through that. My mother was/is unable to show love, something I needed as a child. Thank you for opening your soul and sharing your story. I wish you nothing but the best.
I’m sorry you had to go through that, too, Michael. It’s not easy for a child to have an emotionally distant mother! But we heal and find our way 🙏
@@GenevieveClough That's so true! I never let anyone in my life feel that they are not loved. We are on a journey and we navigate that journey the best way we can. I just try to improve a little each day.
My daughter is 65. After she had her first child,she had the first signs of schizophrenia. Her husband divorced her and got custody of their 3 children she gets support from siu and lives in a studio apt. She is very neat but when she does not take her medication she believes in thing that are not true. You have helped me to understand her illness more.
I am a nurse, and your video was extreamly important. Thank you!
My dad was schizophrenic. I struggled with some mental illness for most of my life. You may think it's farfetched but there was alot of addiction, incest and occultism in my family. Alot of dealing in the paranormal and witchcraft. I believe all these things contributed to family mental illness. My cousins and siblings have it too. In my case, I gave my life to Jesus Christ. A relationship with Christ. The Lord healed me. No mlre mental health issues and now I'm an author on a book tour! Thank you for your story.
many dysfunctional and either scizophrenic or autism related illnesses in my family, also bi-polar OCD and brain disorders and even brain tumor. After about the 12th or 13th case of something, I questioned whether occultism could be a key to figuring out a catalyst for all of it. Well, that and don't forget a predisposition involving genetics. Maybe a recipe for mental illness disasters. Approximately SEVENTY FIVE years ago, my grandmother said the same thing, thanks to my mother passing the story down. So, there you go....a matriarch questioning a possible occultism catalyst. Seventy five years later, more than 10 or 11 more cases since then. It has happened in all four generations now, with only one or two people left from the first generation, along with the illnesses, we have super longevity. :/
@@Jendromeda Your very bright. Glad to hear from you.
Congratulations, you made the way out of your situation. And for the book you wrote 🎉🎉🎉🎉
@@theresaohman7187 I really appreciate that. The Lord be with your spirit. Grace be with you.
@@danilaroche1156 thank you. these are very hard things for people to deal with. Personally, i am "fed up" especially since my grandchild's diagnosis. It's all across the board, now actually on both sides of my family--so no particular family...it's both. However, my paternal grandmother did believe something evil was at the bottom of it over 75-80 years ago, my mother now 95 was able to relay the story. I think the climate of today's society is creating more of it. There has been a general movement away from GOD for many decades now. Most people in my family have abandoned the catholic faith.
My 19 year old was dx with schizophrenia a couple of months ago.
She's choosing to have her tubes tied because she's worried about being a parent while having schizophrenia.
Her father has various mental health issues and autism. My son has autism which surprised no one. I was not prepared for schizophrenia.
Now she's told me that we need to find a provider who will do it.
I appreciate you sharing your story.
Your family is miles ahead of the game because your daughter has been diagnosed. That's the most important thing. She is also thinking logically about the prospect of having children and what that might entail and taking steps to do the right thing. You should be so proud of her! This is what happens when schizophrenia is understood and treated. She can live a wonderful, productive life with the proper treatment.
@@sallyire1 we are so fortunate to have landed in a city where we have really great community based healthcare! Our family practice provider takes care of my teenagers and myself and my eighty-year-old mother. Our mental health facility takes care of my daughter and I and possibly soon my son because this is a big family experience. I am so grateful that we have amazing support with experienced providers and my friends and family have so far been incredibly warm and supportive as well. It's almost like mental illness is not nearly as difficult when you're surrounded by people who don't expect you to be normal when you're not. ❤️
@@therewillbecatswithgwenhwyfar "It's almost like mental illness is not nearly as difficult when you're surrounded by people who don't expect you to be normal when you're not". Ha, I love that! Time to celebrate those who aren't perfectly "normal", because most of us aren't normal. I know I'm not!!
beautiful honest and heart felt video on your mums mental health condition, you have made her very proud in heaven and ive no doubt she is at peace and watching over you always, your video was so moving and made me cry, god bless from aine in ireland x
Thank you so much for posting this. My mother struggles with this illness.
Thank you for opening up and being vulnerable
Through us opening up and healing ourselves we heal our mother's and daughters and sons, we are healing our ancestry lineage.
We all need to heal that sadness that guilt within of yesterday and the first step towards healing is talking about it. Powerfully done
Love Dannu
South Africa
YES! 🙌 Love your insights... so very true. When we heal ourselves, we heal our whole ancestry lineage.
@@GenevieveClough this issue resonates with me deeply, they say it has to do with an unhealthy gut too or gut issues (lack of gut bacteria) when off the meds it’s bad hearing seeing things etc not bathing or sleeping etc but on them she is semi “normal” this is sad that she never got a diagnosis ..she gets injections and attends the psychiatric hospital as she refuses to take the tablets which causes a relapse, she cried for 3 yrs straight about different family issues but I agree with you she had trauma as a child she grew up with a raging alcoholic uncle and a semi present mother my grandmother
My mother suffered with schizophrenia. She was prescribed drugs that were too strong and gave her terrible side effects. Doctors could not really help her. We never really fully understood her illness. I grew up humiliated and gossiped about. Her moods, talking to herself while walking in the neighborhood, her weird thoughts. Ups and downs all the time. I resented her for years. It took years for me to accept her for the good things. There was a lot of good. The one gift she left me is that I can spot a good, kind person in an instance. It is how I survived. Thank you for sharing. Your story was excellent. Her illness left you with special gifts too.
I grew up with alcoholics. I don't think I have to tell anyone how terrible I can be and how harmful. I have the Lord in my life now and I can forgive and I can live a peaceful life because of his grace😊
Thank you for sharing. I also grew up with a mother with an undiagnosed mental illness. Be well and do great things.
This runs in families, and is a combo of environmental and genetic factors. Often this is a generational thing,. I have seen in my family on both sides that there were a lot of mental illness and addiction that ran through the families. Of course, no one talks about it, and it was described as emotional problems. Children in these families are absolutely affected, maybe not with schizophrenia but other mental disorders like depression, anxiety, and trauma. Most don't get out of these families without issues.
Amazing how I have been drawn to your channel. Now I know why. Just starting this video but I would like to say I am an only child, I grew up around my Aunty & my Uncle being Schizophrenic. I loved them both and they died tragically. My Mum was bi-polar and omg I loved her I finally really got close with her mainly in the last 3 & 1/2 months of her life. I looked after her from when she found out she had cancer in 2015. I lost my Dad in 2013. I am still grieving for them both. ❤❤
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I'm so sorry about your mom. My mom is 85 and her doctor feels like she has dementia and schizophrenia. Growing up I never noticed anything other than her and my dad argued alot. Her neuro doctor tested her and called me about her test results. She diagnosed her with schizophrenia and dementia. My mom would call that dr a liar refused all treatment including medications. She's in denial that anything is wrong. I helped her as best I could. She ended up in the hospital and she told them her floors in her apartment were electricacuting her legs and they felt soft like marshmallows. So she's now in a nursing home. I'm an only child and it's too much to have her here. When i go see her it's never good enough always making me feel guilty that she's in a nursing home. I just want to run from her it's hard to hear and bare. My mom looks young and can walk better than i can. It breaks my heart that she can't be in her own apartment. Everything is my fault so i don't go see her very often at all. Then i feel guilty about that. I just wish she would take her medications but she doesn't think anything is wrong with her. God Bless
Nursing homes often medicate those in care for psychological issue that they don't actually have to keep them passive
Notorious for this- over medicating.
What criteria was used to diagnose her? It’s my understanding that the only physical symptom is enlarged ventricles in the brain, the rest is subjective opinion. I don’t know how a person with dementia could possibly be diagnosed with schizophrenia as the symptoms are similar.
Abandon the guilt. You can be thankful she is taken care of by others . you have done nothing wrong she has done nothing wrong. The mental illness has been the culprit your family has been afflicted by.
Benadryl is used to increase sleepiness. On the sly.@@anneangel3297
@@tagladyifyI questioned that also. Especially at older age.
You should send this to any nursing school near you and speak to them! It is such a deep insight! Thank you
My mother had BPD. I agree, mental health is starting to step into the light. Thank you for sharing your story!
Your story with your mom’s schizophrenic touched my heart on how my mom was and how much she suffered and so did I and some other family members. Thank you for sharing💐
My mother also had this awful disorder and suffered deeply. This was in the 80's when treatment had terrible side effects, tremors, etc she was the single mum to 4 girls. It was debilitating to us all. Grueling and terrible. Yet, she was such a beautiful person above and beyond. Thanks for the post ❤
Thanks for sharing...I know your story. My mom was plagued by this disease. I remember her as not being like other people, early in my childhood. She was sensitive and intelligent. No one knew how to help her...My friends were afraid of her bizarre behavior. My mother was a trained R.N. and worked as one part of her life. She loved babies and caring for them. Your many observations of your mom's delusions and psychosis were present in my mom's life.. However, I always knew she loved me, no matter how impossible she was to live with at times. I was with her when she died of cancer...
Thank you so much. Sincerely. I’m just now having a realization that my little sister could be showing signs of schizophrenia and everything is really lining up and the dots are connecting. This is a real wake up call for me. My siblings and I have spoken about what we need to do to help her function and feel loved, confident, safe and comfortable because at this point in time, she does isolate herself and lacks an urge to socialize or be in a public space, and I don’t wanna share all her business, but there were a lot of big points on here all under schizophrenia that I’ve seen in her behavior and I feel like a fool for not doing more research and connecting the dots. part of it is like you said, this fear of what it could mean, having someone in your life who is schizophrenic and not knowing how to deal with it but listening to you is giving me confidence and making me realize that society does demonize it 100 percent and it’s something we absolutely have to approach with empathy and strength a willingness to work with someone who needs help desperately needs help and they’re not going to be able to get that from any old stranger it’s gonna have to be the people closest to them because we love them. I think it’s so loving and sweet of you to make this a video about your mother and I’m so sorry that you finally understood her after her death, but I’d like to think her souls looking down on you and shes grateful for the acknowledgment and yeah, it’s like who knows what else she went through in childhood so much trauma that gets brushed under the rug. I’ve been watching a lot of Supernanny lately and that alone also makes me realize just how lucky we are to grow up into the world with an inkling of mental stability. We have to change the way we go about raising children.
Sorry for the loss of your mum I lost mine 7 years ago and it's like yesterday every day be proud of your mum and her story of life 💕💞💕
Thank you! 🤍
I think this is the first time that I've ever heard such an amazing tolerance for being a victim of having to live with another's schizophrenia and not ending up with a mental illness themselves as a result. Your father sounds amazing btw.
Genevieve, I can see there is a lot of thought, energy, and beauty put into this video. You did it so well!!!!
Thank you
Ruth
My Bro was mentally I’ll it is hard in a family, my sister also later in her life❤️❤️heart breaking. Times have changed more help now. Don’t beat yourself up to long. Thanks for what you do.❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for sharing your mother’s story, and your story too. What a beautiful daughter you are, and what a blessing you are!!
I grew up with one two, happened when I turned 10 and I’ll never forget it, very traumatic!!
Back when i was a kid, if a person said they were depressed, they got told to snap out of it, just get with it…etc.
Depression was not ‘real’ or serious….it was just a person being lazy, selfish, and self-absorbed.
Idk where this embarrassment abt a mental issue came from, why it existed, or what triggered the medical community to finally open up abt mental health and begin medicating ppl for it, just glad it happened.
Thx for sharing a snippet of your mom’s life. ( your too).
You can heavily thank the pandemic & the tsunami of Depression, anxiety, etc that surfaced for many folks due to the stress...It forced many people to acknowledge the importance of mental health because they could no longer be ignorant when many of them &/or their loved ones were struggling with it.I believe many people probably suffered from situational Depression so they got a unpleasant "taste" of what it was like to not have good mental health even if in many cases it eased up or went away after the pandemic settled down.
Thank you for sharing your story. I worked in an inpatient mental health care hospital for three years. There has been movement toward greater understanding of mental health in our society but we still have a long way to go. You and others finding the strength to share is what will continue the development of a culture of care, decrease fear and encourage greater health. Thank you!
Thanks for sharing your story. I’ve had close friends who were schizophrenic. Very sad.
My story is similar but my mother would try to drag us into her psychosis and illusions and delusions., And when I tryed to get her help she resented me so much. My mother could shut it off at will around people she didn't trust ,and then go back to delusions as soon as they left. I would spend nights staying up 3 o'clock 4 in the morning her trying to convince me what she was hearing and seeing where real. How I hated those nights,I wanted to scream and tell her do you see how ridiculous this is. Stigma gets in the way of getting help for them and the help that they have is very limited not the help that they need ,she was going to one doctor that was really good then shuffled around to doctors that didn't care or had too many clients , so she was shuffled through the system. There has to be an awarenesses so they can get good help and get well, because it is a disease like any other disease. I've learned to understand that it's never their fault for being sick, behind that sickness is a good, loving,smart, talented person.... My mom❤️🙏😉
I'm glad for you that you now have that understanding. You will live longe and with more peace. My therapist calls it non-resistance. You just have to come to a place of radical acceptance. God bless you.
My mom can do that too, where she can "turn it off" in front of people she finds threatening. I've been told by umpteen social workers that that's a very common occurrence for people who are mentally ill. It's as if their fear of being committed "protects them" from getting help. It's awful when all we're trying to do is bring them back to a point where life can actually be LIVED and ENJOYED! So frustrating and devastating.
Thank you for sharing your story Genevieve, it was a very brave step from you to make! I'm so sorry for the loss of your Mum but I'm sure she is very proud of you 😇 telling her & your story about this mental disorder! Sending you love and positive energy! 💜
Your story is riveting. Tears are flowing for you and your Mother. I am amazed that you seem "as normal as apple pie" after suffering so much due to your Mother's suffering. We have so far to go in becoming empathetic toward people with mental illnesses. Thank you, sweetheart, for working on behalf of people with your Mother's illness. (I will add one more thing. The only person I ever knew with Schizophrenia was my sister-in-law's son. His Dad had Schizophrenia. My sister-in-law was not the "motherly type", and I have always wondered about how much of his illness was genetic and how much environmental.)
Dear Genevieve, I am watching you because of Randonautica. And now such a video. 2018 I had psychosis and the doctor diagnosed schizophrenia ( i don't know if that was correct) But I took medicine since then and I am alright. Yes, there is a stigma. People don't understand that's a brain disease. We get too much dopamine. But that is a disease like other diseases and should be so treated. It is sad that your mum didn't get the medicine earlier. Thank you for that video and especially the words at the end. I cried...Love:)
Please remember to always take your medicine dear, it's the 🗝️ to maintaining stability...I hope your life is good & healthy❤️🩹.
My grandmother had schizophrenia and raised 6 children by herself. She did not get treatment until she was 60! I remember her knocking food out of my hands because she thought it had been poisoned. In each of her children’s families she had a favorite child that she insisted was being abused or mistreated. After starting medication she was completely different. It was my mom that got her help after she came to live with us. She lived to 86. I’m so thankful for those years with her as her true self, without the delusions and paranoia.
Yeah it helped me granny to the meds but she was out her face because of the meds
Your mom brought such a good person into the world, this is an awesome video thanks for the support!
I have been watching on UA-cam a channel called Schizophrenia Three Moms in the Trenches. It is so informative and has really helped me to understand this illness.
We DESPERATELY need long term, in some cases life-long, residential mental health hospitals for the incurable diagnoses. We have “memory care” long term care for dementia/Alzheimers diagnoses. We accept they need daily supervised care with safety measures and medication management and but we don’t offer that level of care to severely mentally ill. It’s a medical, not behavioral condition. It’s a disgrace that a country with our resources continues to ignore this catastrophe at the expense of the individual, their children, families and communities. Shame on us. 😢
And the thing is people with anosognosia...damage to the part of your 🧠 that makes it so you can't self-reflect on your behaviors & realize you're ill no matter how bad it gets....These people could simply be easily monitored on an outpatient basis by testing their blood or possibly urine regularly for example to ensure they really are sticking with their medication(s).The 🗝️ is ensuring they take their medicine every day👍🏻.
My birth mom passed last September from a new psych med giving her a heart attack. She had schizophrenia. I was separated from her at around age 4 and me and my two brothers were adopted together. I reunited with her when I was 19. A couple of the reasons we were taken from her (besides abuse from my birth father) was her inability to take care of us properly and post partum psychosis after my youngest brother was born (she tried to drown us). She was very sweet and kind and with help she thrived pretty well. I definitely experienced the effects of some of her delusions. Sometimes it was very tough. Trying to explain to her I wasn't thinking or saying what she was assuming I was thinking or saying. We had a very close relationship and could be very open with each other. But her strange attachment to my birth father was what really got in the way. He never really loved her. She stayed married to him out of a trauma bond. He stayed marries to her out of idk perhaps a feeling of obligation and power trip. He had bipolar and I'm not sure what else. He was very abusive. Even her mother in law tried to encourage her to leave him. She deluded herself that they needed to stay married. She had a priest encourage her to leave him (she was Catholic). Her own father passed quite young (before I was born) and he even tried to encourage her to not marry him in the first place. I ended up going no contact from her three years prior to her passing because despite all the support and knowing she needed to divorce him (they were no contact at that time due to her legal guardianship and living in a care home and they knew the history), she just wouldnt divorce him. She just wouldn't fully trust complete independence of him. I don't want to say more cuz I'll ramble, but it was quite rough. I miss her, but I'm also relieved that she's free of her burdens.
Thank you so much for sharing your life story!! My family can relate not exactly the same situation as ours but very similar...one of the worst things growing up in that environment is you feel like your the only one who's Mother is like she is and no one else understands including you!!! I learned so much watching your video...❤️
Yeah yeah I let the same way. I didn't have a clue why my mom talked so strange.
I'm so sorry you had to go through that and sorry for your mom, as well. Schizophrenia usually presents in the late teens/early twenties (college age) so I'm glad your mother had a few extra years in there of relative normalcy. They don't know what causes it, so don't even bother trying to speculate. One day they will know, but not yet. The hallmark of schizophrenia (Paranoid Schizophrenia in your mom's case, most lkely) is auditiory hallucinations. What distringuishes it from Delusional Disorder is that they have bizarre delusions. Someone with Delusional Disorder might think the FBI is following them--unlikely, but possible. Schizophrenics have delusions like aliens want to steal their kidneys. She might have had Schizoaffective Disorder which is a combination of psychosis and depression. But trust me, nothing you did or anyone else did "drove" her deeper into her disease. It was there and had nothing to do with you or anyone else. So please don't feel guilty about anything. Thank you for telling your story. I know it was painful but you've helped a lot of people.
As someone dealing with a family member with schizophrenia, I’d like to point out that excessive marijuana consumption as a teenager and young adult can trigger it. It is so hard to get treatment for an adult who refuses it. Our family has tried everything. Thanks for sharing your story.
Exactly.
Hugs hugs hugs. I merry a schizophrenic woman in therapy. She has voices. At times the voices were so bad she couldn’t sit through a session. She talked freely and answered all of my questions. I’ll love her forever. Thank you for sharing your story. ❤
What’s her name….??????