It's not because of microbes, that fruits and berries should be washed before eating. It's because of the pesticides and fungicides used to keep the plants healthy.
I disagree with scenario #2. The real a hole in this story is the ex wife who only wants her child when things are easy but will gladly give him up when things are hard. She needs to work through this with her new husband. That would make me feel pretty rotten if I knew my mom was trying to pass me off when she was tired of me.
exactly. And the husband that hasn't been in the picture doesn't know the boy's issues. He could be dangerous to the daughters in the worst case and a bad influence on them in the best. A woman needs to protect her daughters. Good for her. His mom wanted her son gone and she expects a strange woman to take him? Dad gotta be insane if he allows this.
@@amberxv4777she married him knowing he already had older kids. She signed up to be the step-mom whether she actually wanted to or not. The reality is that if the kid isn’t allowed to come live with them whatever problems he has are probably gonna get even worse. His mom clearly doesn’t want him and now his dad won’t let him live with his family? Yeah that’ll help the situation. Speaking of his problems, we don’t actually know what they are. The mom sounds incredibly selfish anyway for trying to keep the dad and his son from forming any kind of relationship but now suddenly want to pass off the son? For all we know he’s just being a normal angsty teen boy and she doesn’t wanna deal with it
yea 100% as the OP said look we have 3 young kids and this woman wants to dump this boy on us because he has behavioral issues i don't want to risk the safety of my kids this boy has a mom and a step father he lives with they have raised him for years and should continue doing so and as said said these kids don't know this boy she barely knows him hell even the Husband barely even knows his own son yet they want to dump this dude in this situation look if the people who actually raised this boy to this point can't handle him wth chance does Op and her husband have what you think he's gonna just instantly reform and be different
@@amberxv4777exactly. The troubled teenager may be his father’s boy as Matt said, but these kids are his too. Their safety is his responsibility. And teenage boys who are already facing discipline issues are not who I would want around my young daughters, especially if I’m going to be expected to discipline him, and he might be bigger and stronger than me. That’s absolutely a no.
The issue is it's not for the boy's own good, it's because step dad and mom are tired of having their cushy life disrupted. Especially if what she said is true, the ex wife made it difficult before.
Story two is exactly why I refused to ever even consider dating much less marrying someone who already had kids. There will always be the baby mama/ex to deal with and you husband will always be torn between his past and what’s best for you/your kids together. Divorce is only words on a piece of paper (especially if you have kids) it does not erase your responsibilities or connections with that relationship.
I agree. You can't just expect your spouse to erase their connection to their other children. The wife in the story is justified in not wanting the teenager around her kids, but she also doesn't seem to be showing any sympathy towards her husband for simply wanting to have a relationship with his own son. This was something she should have thought about before marriage, not after.
@The Lemur of Madagascar also the fault of the father for forgetting about his own son in the first place and starting another family. I can only imagine how that kid may feel -- probably a source of a his behavior issues
The woman may also have had kids from a previous marriage. Which just makes it even worse, but regardless. A man must have two kids to offset every one kid that a woman had from a previous marriage to make being with a single mother acceptable. If not morally, at least, socially.
I think it depends on the behavior of the teenager. If its dangerous, violent, addiction then its inappropriate to bring him into a home with young children.
Also dirt and whatever rando stuff might have landed on it in the grocery store or transit or the factory after "washing" by machines. Edit: For instance, there can be bugs or bug eggs on unwashed things. (That is why people add pesticides) Being antimicrobial doesn't mean it's not contaminated with fecal matter or just anything if you dropped it on the floor and used the "5 second rule"
it's both to be fair, pesticides are huge I absolutely agree but there are still some salmonella or E coli deaths every year and usually not from eggs or chicken but from unwashed produce. Specially for kids they can be deadly.
It won't kill germs just running cold water over produce, but it will get rid of a little bit of filth and pesticide. If you don't do the shopping, you have no idea how often people drop those things on the floor.
Regarding the teen son being shipped off to his dad who has young daughters with a second wife. There was a time I would have agreed with you Matt that a father's obligation to raise his sons trumps the second wife's concerns for her daughters, but since then my brother's step son threatened his step-siblings (my brother's youngest two) with a knife and when his mother tried to break it up he chased her out of the house and the only thing that kept him from stabbing her was that she locked herself in the car and called the cops. The boy has a mother and a stepfather. If he's too much trouble for them to handle then how is moving him out of state to a father his mother has alienated him from - who works all day, so it'll be the stepmother dealing with him - how is that going to solve anything? Maybe the mother shouldn't have alienated her children from their own father to begin with. Maybe she made this mess and needs to clean up after herself. The father now has young girls to think of, you think this boy who apparently intimidated the dickens out of his own mother wouldn't hurt his stepmother's daughters? It sucks, but the boy's mother is the a-hole here, not his stepmother, and his mother needs to sleep in the bed she made.
Literally taking an extreme situation and projecting it into the majority and common scenario. They never said the teen boy with a psychopath, they said troubled teen that more than likely simply means he's a rebellious teen.... like every other teenager in the world.
The lack of his father, is more than likely what is making the kid trouble. Let's see the teenager is 14, more than likely father can most definitely correct his behavior as it is a father's job and the lack of a father is what creates a lot of trouble teens because they don't understand punishment or discipline.
Acting like the teen boy is Jeffrey Dahmer, you and most people in this comment section. It doesn't matter for kids troubled oh, that kid was born before and when she married a man with children from another marriage so she knew what she was signing up for, and now because it's not going to just be a piece of cake she doesn't want anything to do with it it's sickening.
She made it sound like she was talking about astray rabid dog, it's a teenager he's not going to bite you. Of course there are exceptions to every commonality but the chances are quite Slim. You see only .5% of the world's population are sociopaths and only .2% are psychopaths. There's a mental illness within teenagers that's quite common, that makes them display some actions that would be in the category of sociopath, however the majority of children such as myself who have the same as illness grow out of it
We dont even know if the kid is actually troubled. Lots of step parents are horrible and want to keep their spouses away from their kids from the previous marriage. It's insane to jump to conclusions like this
Dude seriously it's okay if she wants to re-home the dog as long as she talks to her husband about it however if she just rehomes it and then her husband comes home one day and asks where the dog is and she says oh I gave it to somebody else then that is fucked up.
@@RealWallyGator I would tell the wife stfu stop complaining and take care of the dog or I will stop taking care of her and she can go get lost. Dude should have made the wife sign a prenup
Exactly. What happened to submitting to your husband? Giving your husband's property away without his agreement is one of the most messed up things you could do, especially when that property happens to be a beloved pet.
@@RealWallyGator I guess that you have never rehomed a rescue dog, then. Sometimes a dog never gets over the loss of its “one and only.” The one I have now refused food for the first 2 1/2 weeks after he came here from the shelter.
Terrible take on the dog Matt. Having a pet is not “fun.” It’s responsibility. If somebody decided to “give away” my dog that would be a huge betrayal of trust. To quote The Little Prince: “Men have forgotten this truth,” said the fox. “But you must not forget it. You become responsible, forever, for what you have tamed.”
And if he is unable to take care of the dog, it's his responsibility to find someone who can. It's selfish to keep a dog because you want it, and yet put in none of the effort to give it the attention that animals need. To then throw that responsibility on to someone that clearly doesn't like dogs isn't fair to the dog or the person. He needs to find time in-between being at work, being a father and husband, to be a good dog owner. If he can't, someone else should.
@@terrykingpin1452 well this all needs to be a discussion between them instead of her asking “am I wrong to get rid of the dog?” That’s not her decision to make on her own.
Strong disagree on the teenage son issue. I don’t think it’s smart to have a troubled teenager around kids that aren’t his siblings. Abuse happens all the time in situations like that it’s far too risky and that outweighs any other consideration
@@Jstaman nope! That’s a false dilemma. Find a solution and way of connecting and helping the troubled son that doesn’t require the son living with the other kids.
Most teens are “troubled.” I don’t think it’s fair to assume a teenager going through behavioral issues should be relegated to the same classification as child-abusers.
@@Jstaman She’s kept him from him all these years, then when he’s a teen arsehole, she’s putting it all on the dad and his family? Sure, he should see his son and take him to go do things together. Living with them, no, absolutely not.
@@theresamockevich6813 What does "troubled" mean to you. When i was a teen, unfortunately i was getting into trouble smoking weed and drinking, that doesn't mean troubled like being a p***ofile. wtf?? Do you live in West Virginia? lmao
Don’t marry a man with an ex and kids if you don’t want the possibility of being a full time step mom. Same goes for men marrying women with kids from a previous marriage.
I wonder what would this woman say if the mother died... 👀 On the other hand, I understand her concerns for her little girls. The father should make adjustments to be present and involved in his son's life.
I have an ex and a kid. One thing is for sure, 98 percent of women my age that are single are automatically disqualified as being wife material. After my relationship I can wholeheartedly say that women in their 30’s are like men in their 20’s. I don’t even have to make any effort. It’s actually quite sad. So to add to this tip. Do not marry or date any women over the age of 35 when they have zero kids or say they don’t like them. Odds are they are looking to fill the oven because they spent the majority of their lives sleeping around in very short and meaningless relationships only to eventually discover that the only real value they have has passed them by or is fleeting quickly. My goal is for a non north American girlfriend in her mid 20’s that I can make my wife.
True! When you get married to them you are also marrying their kids. It's so sad and pathetic to see the step parent try to slowly drive a wedge between their partner and their past kids.
Wrong about moving a troubled misbehaving juvenile boy (son or not) in with younger female children when the husband is not available to constantly monitor the boy's behaviour.
The woman (what ever that is?) with the doggy issues needs to have a serious chat with her man. if she decides to just get rid of the dog then she clearly has no respect for her partner.
I could agree with you with one caveat--regarding the teenage son. Did the letter say what kind of trouble he was having? I agree in nearly all circumstances it would be good to have him live with his bio father. But if he is violent or has other tendencies to do harm, it must be handled differently when small children are in the home.
Can’t rely on the biased wife’s description. She wants to pretend his previous kids don’t exist. That’s what she signed up for when she married a divorced man with kids under 18. Kid needs full time attention from his dad.
My troubled half-brother moved in with us when me and my sister were very little. Similar situation like in the letter in this video. The mother could not manage the son due to his behavioural issues, so he moved in with us, although my mum was reluctant because of the psychological issues and having young children in the home. Many years of many kinds of abuse by the half-brother later, me and my sister are still not psychologically 100% recovered from it. It wrecked us. So before allowing the son to move in with the dad and his new family, I would carefully assess the types of issues he has, provide immediate psychological help for him, plus supervise him vigilantly if he does move in. Of course the problem in this whole situation is divorce, but it's too late to lament on that. Instead they need to move on and take practical steps to ensure the safety of ALL, the son, the parents, the younger children. Everyone has the right to safety and protection. Blood ties alone don't determine if something is the right thing to do.
No one was saying to give away the dog without the husband knowing about it, that only happened in your head, but if you're someone who wold rather keep his dog than make your wife's life better, you're the one with a problem and she shouldn't be with you anymore.
@@beautifulllstars That part in the marriage contract that says you and your spouse share a life and share property. The husband's house is the wife's house. The husband's money is the wife's money. The husband's dog is the wife's dog etc. Btw, I see you've been commenting similar things in every comment thread that mentioned the dog. Was your face mauled by a Pitbull or something? You're getting way too triggered over this. Even if you disagree, it's not this worth getting worked up over. Just relax.
@@jasono2139No, because it means that both the husband and wife have to have a discussion about the dog. You can't just re-home it all willy nilly. That's disrespectful. When it comes to the dog barking and waking up the kid, no dog is too old to be trained. As for the hair situation, if I was living there, she would hate me. My hair is more annoying than a dog's hair.
My opinion on the stepmom not wanting the teen to live with them is that her side is very understandable for a few reasons but I think there’s more conversation needed. Does the boy want to live with Dad? Can he visit during summer break as a trial? What professional help has the mother provided? What type of trouble is he getting into? Something that could be a danger to the young girls? Definitely needs to be looked at by all four parents
Finally, someone who's asking the right questions. Way too many people in the comment section have been automatically assuming that the son is dangerous, when in reality he could just be disobedient or something. Further questions need to be asked about the nature of the son's behavioural issues.
@@thelemurofmadagascar9183 Exactly. My first thought was that more information needs to be acquired before making a decision. What kind of behavioral problems is the kid having, for starters.
Also with him being gone all the time and the step mom has to take care of him and deal with the drama of a troubled teen is unfair for the husband to ask the step mom
When I was 5, my stepdad's 3 kids (1 girl, 2 boys) lived with us for a little while. The oldest boy was about 13, I don't have a lot of memories of him, but I know while he lived with us, he vandalized a school, robbed a gas station at gunpoint and then, when he was in juvenile hall, he SA another kid. He ended up diagnosed as a paranoid schizophrenic. Had a long history of psych facility admissions and multiple arrests.
Erika, thank you for sharing your story. If you don’t mind my asking so that I am not assuming, in this situation, you would advise the the family not to take in the older boy? Again, thank you for sharing your personal story
@@friedawells6860 Even if Erika wasn't physically harmed, having such a disturbed young man around vulnerable younger children was NOT a good idea. So many horrific things could have happened (and sadly do happen everyday).
Last story: If she rehomes the dog without discussing it with her husband first she's absolutely the A-hole. Which, in that situation, you will make life worse for everyone.
That was going to be my comment. I never want to be a pet owner, but doing it without notifying her husband first is a terrible move that will lead to a bigger issue that will likely harm the relationship.
Additionally this dog has been around for 7 years, presumably before wife was even girlfriend. If she had said when they were dating “I hate your dog I want you to rehome it” I imagine that would have been a deal breaker. Real asshole behavior to just sit on that and then spring it on him now that you’ve had his kid and he’s stuck with you.
@@danamontroy8178 agreed, and that’s not even to say the husband will divorce her, but a woman with that degree of entitlement is absolutely going to walk sooner or later. Simply impossible to please.
@@beautifulllstars No they aren't. They are domesticated, and have been bred with different traits for hundreds if not thousands of years. I guess to you all domesticated animals are mutants. what an absolute moron.
I think it just comes down to the right animal. Matt reminds me of my dad when it comes to animals. My dad hated animals, and couldn't stand my 2 jack Russells. Then we got a female Rottweiler, and that's when my dads whole personality changed with dogs. He loved that dog so much he took her everywhere, and they were always together. we kind of got her for protection but she was not even close to a guard dog. she was actually the opposite. She always hid away from everything and was the sweetest thing. My dad was heart broken when she passed away, but ever since then he was always open to the possibility of another dog. I think Matt just needs the right dog. it can change your perception on animals
matt, are you serious? the second one she is absolutely right to hold that boundary. she has little children and she doesn’t need the boy influencing the kids or making them uncomfortable. and he already has a house with 2 parents. and the mom kept him away from the dad, so now she doesn’t wanna deal with the son anymore, she tosses him off to her ex? nah
I understand what you are saying and it is shitty of his ex to do but i think it would also be shitty for his father to reject him . Kid is probably already hurt that his mom is trying to get rid of him.
The woman should not let that teenager close to her daughters at all. The chances of abuse skyrocket when there's someone unrelated living in the same house as a child (being half-siblings means nothing). That teenager should stay far away from the little girls, they don't deserve to suffer the consequences from their father's circumstances. She should not accept that kid in her house, period
Except it’s not some teenager. It’s the son of the father whom she chose to marry. If you don’t like the dynamic that takes place when you marry someone with children from a previous relationship, you shouldn’t bother getting to the point of marrying that someone to begin with. You say half siblings means nothing yet it is still shared blood and still a relation and basically that whole point you tried to make makes no fucking sense. You don’t know if there will be consequences or not and you’re just talking out of your ass.
I don't care who you are - you could literally be the girl I'm planning to marry but if I come home from work and find out you got rid of my dog/cat, you're gone.
@@TheMountainBeyondTheWoods Again with you from other threads, you simply can’t assume that she’d talk to him about it. She said what her intention was in the letter and that was “I will rehome it”. *”I”*. No mention of ever even bringing it up to her husband, as all of these comments you’re responding to are aware of. That’s why they’re saying it would be messed up since they understand what is being said, not assuming something will happen that was never said
She knew the old dog was there when she got with him. He's lived his whole life already just about and now she wants to get rid of him - from his master he's had his entire life since he was a puppy probably.
@@beautifulllstars Never said that. Human life is way more valuable. What she is doing if akin to getting with someone knowing about a personality trait you hate thinking you'll just change them. Something is wrong with you then. The main factor here is she knew before hand, this wasn't hosted on her in the middle of the night like Santa delivering an old ass dog outta no where. She know. She sounds manipulative.
I disagree with Matt on the fourth one, Pets are not expendable and they (Especially Dogs) will become emotionally attached to their owner, and it will have a negative effect on them if they were to be abandoned or given away.
If you reach the point where you resent the dog the best thing you can do for everyone is to re-home the dog. The dog needs love and you are unable to provide what it needs.
that's horrible. its not her dog. she has no right to re home a dog that's not hers. this is why I always say that dogs are better then humans bc people like u make me sick. Maybe the husband can toss his wife away. she seems useless anyway. complaining about a dog that's not hers. she needs to get over it and learn to live with the dog
It is a crazy and hurtful thing to do but we should not be playing divorce like a game. Divorce should always be a last resort and that is only in cases of abuse or infidelity.
@@alexm6715 I guarantee you his wife's threshold for divorce is about 10x lower. Women win in divorce. Men being able to threaten divorce over the things THEY care about is one small bit of leverage men have in this dynamic, although legally speaking they'll probably still eat shit if they actually do it. But anyway, if you want to make divorce taboo and rare, the answer is systemic, not an individual thing.
With the second one, I agree with Susie. His ex and her husband raised the son, and now that he’s got behavioral issues she wants to get rid of him? Susie is right, it wouldn’t be fair to their three children to bring him to their home.
@@cuppycakey5013 So what go pop in on him every once in a while like you might an older parent just to make sure they are doing okay? Last time I checked that is not really how parenting works. It is simple, you marry somebody with a kid, you should understand that you make have to take care of that child. This is why I highly suggest you not marry somebody with minor children. Also why a parent should not be getting married if they have minor children. Because now your first duty is to those children and not your spouse.
Seeing your child isn’t raising your child. Not even letting your child visit in the home isn’t okay. That boy should minimally have a room in his dads house that he can come stay at. Maybe, just maybe, his upbringing and now the fact that his mom is trying to get rid of him, his stepmom won’t let him come around-- maybe it’s contributing to his “behavioral issues”… And I know what it’s like to have a “parent” who puts their relationship status before their kids. This woman he’s married to and had kids with, came after his son. This father owes some loyalty to his son. “Starting over” isn’t a reality unless you choose to leave your kids that you already have in the dust. From what I’m understanding, this man is supposed to raise his youngest three with his now wife, while basically forgetting his other child/children(I thought she said there were two older kids)…. That is not okay. And That’s my take.
Yeah, I disagree a little with the troubled teen one given that they have three young daughters. As a girl who was molested by a brother nine years her senior, I can speak to this concern.
I think the wife is right about not wanting a teenage boy that is basically a stranger to the young children suddenly moving into the house with them. Perhaps they could arrange to have the son have long visits with them during holidays at first and her husband can find other ways of spending more time with him in general even if it’s phone calls. Then he might move in later when everyone has gotten to know him a bit.
Exactly. The ex-wife sounds like she can’t handle the poor kid and she is the one who kept the kid from the dad, and now she can’t handle it and doesn’t want her new life disrupted, so she is dumping him to be rid of him. The new wife has the absolute right to protect her children.
Sad that that boy needs to be auditioned by his father's new family before they would agree to be around him. You know I understand the caution, but this kid does not deserve to be treated like a registered sex offender by the people that should be his family.
You're wrong about dogs 'moving on' and forgetting about us. Example: I was away for almost 5yrs. My dog lived with others during that time. When I returned, the dog affectionately recognized me and had retained training that nobody else knew, i.e., hand signals that only the dog and I used.
Yeah rehoming pets is very tricky. It's hard when it's someone else's pet you aren't bonded to. When I moved in with my husband 7 years ago I came with a cat and thankfully he loves the cat as much as I do.
The point is that none of the participants are irrelevant. But if that's what you take from the reply, Johnny, you are the asshole. Thanks for playing along...
I like dogs, but I can’t believe how many people would pick a dog over people. That said, the wife should make due with the dog until he passes away, then ask her husband not to get a new dog (or pick out a dog that doesn’t shed).
I have a dog. Its my first dog and let me tell you, its amazing how smart, loving, funny and loyal he is. I absolutely would punch somebody in the face for that dog.
With the dog situation, that person would be the asshole if they rehome the dog without consulting their husband first. I know if somebody rehomed my beloved pet without telling me I would be upset. Me and my boyfriend just recently re-homed one of our pets because it would be in the better interest of the pet, but we both discussed it and decided on a home together to make sure it went to a proper loving home and not just anywhere so I hope they discuss it together rather than her just rehome the dog.
Thank you for this comment. It's important that a situation like this is discussed and that a mutual agreement is made. Most importantly, that it's in the best interest of the dog and that their next home is a loving home.
@@TheMountainBeyondTheWoods I don't think she said. I was referencing my own thoughts if it happened to me. Still it is not like the dog just came along he's had the dog since before they met you figure that should have been hashed out before they got married.
The xwife needs to own it, she hasn't truly shared the responsibilities until there is an issue/problem with the teen son. Lesson for all parent/children in this situation; share the responsibility from the beginning so the support system is in place.
Dog owners that think dogs are equal to people to me is the same as when trans women say they are the same as humans born with xx chromosomes...same levels of crazy.
I had a dog before I joined the military, and it stopped eating when I left. My mother took it to the vet and the vet said it was depression. Once they got him to eat again he got deportation anxiety and it totally changed him into a different dog. When I came back to visit he was doing better, but when I left he stopped eating again. It was sad 😢. He is no longer with us. So no I'm not sure the dog will be perfectly fine and I'm also not sure if the owner wants to keep him if he will be perfectly fine and not hold it over her head and put strain on the marriage.
I think the woman is the a hole if she rehomes the dog without discussing it first. Throughout her complaint, she never specified if she brought this up with her husband at all, or tried to compromise in any way. Not to mention she knew the dog was there, it was there before she was. And then she was complaining about things that dogs normally do. They bark, and they shed. You honestly need to discuss pets when you can start a relationship because stuff like this will happen. now I do think the husband is being careless by making the wife take care of his dog, but The dog is already middle aged, and rehoming will cause it distress. What we did with our dogs, is we made them a kennel outside and gave them a big inside crate for night time. On the days where we aren’t home or need space, the dogs go outside to the kennel. The kennel itself has a potty area, a water bowl and a shelter for rain and wind. If you do something like that, then all you’d have to do, is put the dog in the kennel, put in food n water and clean out the poops from the potty area and your pet can stay there all day.
i broke up with my g/f when she said "it was me or the dog" we was dating for 4 months she moved in to my house an started trying to order me around while not working an refusing to cook or do anything to contribute
@@beautifulllstars if you want her be my guess. my dog is not stupid he was my fathers police k9 who died. so yeah its family. you should know your worth better than that find someone who wants to be with you not a free meal
@@beautifulllstars Anyone whose boyfriend/girlfriend dumps him/her over an animal dodged a bullet. Pet nutters shouldn't breed. Their kids will always be 2nd to Muttski.
I didnt wash the produce I got in a Thailand mountain village. I spent the next two days & nights in the hospital with an amoeba. The interesting part of the story was the hospital bill was $673. I now wash all produce unless the package reads, “washed and ready to eat” AND when i have to go to the hospital, i fly to Thailand.
buddy thats not the fault of produce that's the fault of a dirty mountain village in Thailand you know how they tell you not to drink the tap water in Mexico cause of whatever parasites that will mess you up yea exactly but in America that shit ain't a problem in civilized society
i've never disagreed more with matt walsh on any subject. this lady says she hates the dog but she KNEW she'd have to deal with it before she married her husband. and then matt says the wife can just rehome the dog without even suggesting that she discusses it with her husband. i've never heard worse advice in my life smh
Yeah if that happens fast forward 2 years husband to Matt "AITA for divorcing my wife for giving away my dog behind my back and causing a breach of trust and resentment" haha
She's more worried about the dog than she is her relationship with her husband. He could play same game. What if his MIL lives w them and he hates her mother, should he put her in a nursing home behind her back ? Geez consider partners reaction, feelings etc. Compromise.
Has the wife even talked to the husband about how she feels about the dog? My guess is probably not. She's probably one of those that when asked what's wrong, will say "nothing" and then seethe because "he should know." Also, she wants to do this behind his back. That's clearly evil hatred.
What she fails to mention is how the dog behaves around their child. There are countless examples of where the family dog & baby get along well & are best friends. No parent should sever that relationship for their own comfort.
Washing produce is done to remove pesticides and chemicals. There is absolutely no harm in eating fruit that grows wild (as long as it isn't too low to the ground) whereas store bought produce is harmful long term owing to the carcinogens on them from the chemicals used by farmers. People don't typically wash mushrooms because it ruins them and when cooking them the aim is to remove moisture, so people eat them comfortably even considering the remnants of peat found on them; this is fine because mushrooms are not sprayed with pesticides.
Can't agree about the teenage son, just because of the young children in the father's home now. That's a situation that too easily and often leads to abuse, even with 100% siblings who weren't raised together.
A teenager with behavioral problems wow thats so unheard of and crazy. Cmon now lmfao that kid need to be with his father. His new wife selfish and his ex is a bum for wanting to kick her son out because hes a TEENAGER.
@@InsightProject Plenty of teenagers don't have behavioral problems, weirdo. The vast majority, in fact. And it very much depends on the severity of his problems. The new wife is prioritizing her own kids over a strange one who isn't her responsibility - that's smart, not selfish. I agree the ex is a bum and the kid is her problem.
Dogs carry 26 fatal to humans diseases. Get the science from NIH. The mites they shake off their fur can enter airways of people also. The feces is licked off them by their mouth. The fur is licked by that mouth. Get the science papers. They carry polio too. No dog in pool with kids.! Call NIH ask for cited list. Money spent on dog can be high as it ages. Use money u save for family vacation. The info in hand will alleviate his guilt.
That divorce one is so sad to me. While I feel for the father I would side with the wife. You divorced, the ex had the kids living for years with her and her new husband, and now that they're having trouble so they want to pass him off? I would bet the reason is the new husband doesn't want to deal with a kid that isn't his, but here's the thing you married her and the kids are in the package so it's your family and responsibility now too. Of course it's a terrible situation, but with out more details about this kid I would say absolutely not. Now If he is getting treated poorly by this new husband, if he's a stable and mostly good kid, and/or the new kids are closer in age to him that would change things because like I said you get the whole package when you're married. Those details aren't there though. There's just details to justify your position here. The real solution is obviously don't treat marriage like a temp contract because it permanent whether people and law want to acknowledge it or not that bond can't be broken. You can never fully rip apart and you scar multiple lives in the process.
No, the second wife is NOT wrong. The first wife remarried and needs to handle her son with his stepfather in the home they have created. The second wife's husband needs to understand that divorce has many costs, and now he needs to pay one of them for the preservation of his new family. Introducing a troubled teenager into his second family may easily end in his second divorce.
You marry a person with kids you take on all the baggage. The father has a responsibility to his son and if the wife was going to have a problem with that then she simply should not have married him.
@@jonathanparks207 You and I can easily agree that we shouldn't get married. We have profoundly different views of personal responsibility. Best wishes in your new life without the most wonderful woman you could ever have had.
Rehome the dog? Absolutely not! Bringing in a troubled son, that nobody knows? Sorry, but I lived that with a step-brother. He was/is a nightmare. Disrespect, theft, drugs, violence & chaos daily. When I was 13yo he tried coming on to me(he was 17). He has spent the majority of his life in jail. Matt, you're the a-hole today.
I don't think that the lady was specific enough to make that call. I have noticed on many occasion the "new wife" wants nothing to do with the husbands children and paints them in a negative light. When I was growing up I lived with my dad and his new wife hated me from day one and would frequently create conflict when there was none in order to tell my dad how bad I was. With out knowing this couple personally my default position would be the new wife just doesn't want to deal with "his kids".
@@beautifulllstars , what you don't know is my dog alerted me & prevented my step-brother from entering my room in the middle of the night. And the Almighty forbid this husband ever requires a service dog in his lifetime.
Yeah nah I often agree with you but the dog thing you are wrong the entire way through. The dog will not forget the previous owner the dog was there before sh3 got married so she knew what she was getting into. And as a dog trainer myself after 7 years with the owner that is a lot. The dog can die from the separation. At my job we got a case where the owner left the dog with us to go on vacation (I work in a dog pension in french cause from a French country idk what's the equivalent in america) this lady's dog was scheduled to stay with us 3 months so like usual when its a dog first time and for a long period we ask the owner to bring a toy and a shirt with their sent and if possible their dog own bed. So she did. 3 weeks in we noticed the dog was not eating correctly and loosing weight we carried it to the vet. And the vet said the same thing we assumed the dog is depressed so we called the owner explained the situation and she said okay she is coming back earlier will be back in 3 days instead of 3 months. What I do in cases where the dog is scared or nervous or depressed like that I stay with them longer then with the other dogs and play with them more before leaving at night. Sadly the next morning the dog was dead... so no sorry dogs have feelings and do remember their old owners specifically if they spent so much years with them. So you and that woman are the a-holes. Instead of telling her to get rid of it why don't you say. Talk to her husband about it. See what solution they can find maybe get a dog trainer we do help with dog behaviors and lot of times when people ask for behavior training it's for dog barking to much . I thought you were suppose to be the smart man here and not just say you "feel like" which is what you did for the dog situation
@Breyerluvr4eva they had the dog before the kids so that is something they had to consider before having the kid. The dog was there before they got together so she should have known what she was getting into so don't give me that. If they had the kid before the dog there it's different but that's not the case so please
@Jonathan Wolfboy which was the whole point of me saying that when you have a child, it changes things. You will get rid of anything that stands in the way of caring for your child. That includes a dog. As the woman asking the question has clearly learned.
@@Breyerluvr4evaThere are plenty of ways to prevent a dog from interfering with childcare that don't involve abandonment. You just sound like a shitty human being who doesn't give a shit about any life form that isn't a miniaturized version of yourself
Matt is the parent that got rid of your dog when it isn't "fun" anymore: confirmed. Making excuses for the openly indifferent father who can't be bothered to wash some berries? This episode was a bit of a clown show tbh.
Matt is wrong on the father/son situation. Grew up in not one but two different mixed homes and the son coming is going to end in disaster. There will be non stop fighting and it will probably end in divorce for those two. The mom and step dad who need to take care of the situation and not just pawn the mess off onto another family.
People who give so much hate to people who re-home pets are a problem. Circumstances change and re-homing is sometimes necessary. Dogs/cats are pets, not humans. I’ve known of families who live in their car because they refuse to give up their pet when they can’t find housing that allows animals. Their children are sleeping in a car because the family pet takes priority…let that sink in. When families become resentful to pets and unable to rehome them due to hate & backlash, that’s when you get animals being abused, abandoned, and euthanized. It’s much better to find that pets a new home where they’ll be loved and wanted than in a home that resents them. Stop shaming people for rehoming pets, they at least realize their pet deserves better than what they can offer.
The last one with the dog, Matt is wrong. Yes the wife and the baby take priority over the dog if let's say their lives are at risk but because she is inconvenienced? Are you nuts? If the husband loves that dog and you rehome it, depending on how he is (don't know) it could range from a massive fight to a divorce. You are telling me she is a stay at home mom but can't handle a kid and a dog? Like seriously? The dog would be "fine"? How about the husband. I know how I would feel if I would lose my dog. Matt seriously does not consider the feels one puts into a dog. Its NOT just about the dog's feelings. I can't even imagine not leaving a woman who could harm me so bad as to give away my dog. I mean, if you LOVE your husband, you put up with some extra house work for the sake of the love he has for the dog.
Ridiculous how americans in the comments section view the step mom as having 0 responsibility towards the children of the man she married. Much less the father himself who does not magically stop being a parent just because he remarried. She wants the divorced man but not the baggage that comes with him.
Ridiculous how people cannot figure anything could go wrong if the biological mother who wanted custody of the son, remarried and raised him to be unmanageable and now wants to pawn him off on the remarried biological father and his wife and young daughters.
@@wms72 oh no children of divorce are all criminals. We should lock them up. Teens can never be angsty and step moms can never be witches who want to distance their husband from their kids from a previous marriage. Half siblings are ALL abusers and rapists
Disagree with the teenage son one yes its his son but the mom is protecting 3 girls who knows whay behavioral issues the son has. So is it worth destroying/messing up 3 young lives to try to fix 1. No way i agree with the mom.
That boy is her family! That is her husband's son! I think the lack of empathy for this boy is really upsetting. He is just a teenage kid who needs to have a relationship with his dad, not a frickin registered sex offender! She already stays home, so she has the ability to supervise her daughters the whole time.
The woman signed up for this when she married a divorced man with kids under 18. She wants to pretend his other kids don’t exist. If the mother passed, should the son become orphaned? Ridiculous. She’s exaggerating the child’s issues. The kid needs his dad’s full time love and attention. He should divorce this one too and see how she feels when their father has no relationship with her kids.
@@bloomingale7868 The man signed up for this too when he divorced his ex and had 3 more children with his current wife. His primary responsibility should be to his current family. He had years to try and arrange something with his ex and failed, now he expects 4 members of his family to just accept the situation? No.
They don't start off being "problem" children until they have enough sense to know the adults around them are full of shit. Don't marry someone with kids if you don't want the added responsibility of raising someone up.
Matt is wrong on the second situation. What kind of trouble is the boy having? Porn is a rampant problem these days, and with that behavior often comes molestation. Know that teenage we should not live with three young little girls, that he has no connection with, especially when he does not even know his own father. His mother is so fed up with him that she wants him to move out. Uh, bad sign. Like the father, who has never live with the kiddos, suddenly, gonna be able to discipline him and get him to live morally. Sorry nope.
@@phantomblacklove She didn’t assume he’s a rapist, but children are molested too often to not try to protect them. Troubled means many things, but likely he won’t listen, talks back, doesn’t do his schoolwork, could be using drugs or drinking, most likely does look at porn. No matter what, he should not go to live with them. It doesn’t mean the dad can’t be a part of his life AT ALL, does it?
Where did she get that information from if she didn’t assume? No where in the video was that stated, as a father he has a responsibility to ALL children and they ALL deserve fair treatment, not unfounded made up accusations, that’s wrong. So what if he talks back that’s still his child that he has a responsibility for, discipline accordingly, my God.
The child is troubled and needs professional help. The wife is right. What if something happened to her children. They don’t know what’s wrong with him.🤨
No she is selfish. The woman signed up for this when she married a divorced man with kids under 18. She wants to pretend his other kids don’t exist. If the mother passed, should the son become orphaned? Ridiculous. The child needs his dad’s full time love and attention.
My friend recently divorced her husband after his troubled drug addict son moved into the house, she originally agreed and understood until one day when the heavily armed Police raided her house ....15 minutes after her relatives from overseas had just arrived for a visit (and were likely left thinking WTF!)
The lack of empathy for the teenage boy in these comments is distrubing! Maybe he's acting out because he knows his mom and stepdad dont really give a shit about him, and maybe he would get better if he could be around his dad for a while. But seriously, everyone is talking about him like he's some kind of ex-convict when he's just a struggling kid, and he's probably struggling exactly because he knows neither of his parents are willing to be there for him. They're both focused only on their new lives with their new partners, and I feel really sad for this kid because of that.
Dad has a responsibility to the dog. Yes wife and kid > dog but pets are a responsibility. I agree with matt on nearly everything but this anti dog hard on of his sucks
what even is the logic here? let's just pretend for a second that it's completely not insane to say an animal is a companion. humans too are companions, we're social beings. by your own logic, he could look out for the wife and not the dog.
The Blue Berries being antimicrobial is true; you wash because of the pesticides, and yes, you should wash all of your fruits and vegetables...not because of germs but because of chemicals.
and little bugs. I have all kinds of leafy greens in my garden, I don't use pesticides at all. When I soak them for 10 minutes in a bowl about 200 different insects and spiders float to the top. But hey, maybe it's added protein.
@@cuppycakey5013 Divorce is not the only solution to that. Having connections to family and friends who can help you avoid becoming that miserable, instead of becoming atomized and disconnected from everyone around you, is a great place to start.
Narcissists who are in happy marriages can't conceive of why anyone else would get a divorce. I had a friend in high school who was like that. God says you're married forever so stick it out. When she got married she divorced her husband within 2 years because her live in mother in law was a total abusive harpy and the husband wouldn't kick her out. It's different when it's you.
@@gregslone4874 A healthy community can deal with that kind of situation. There's someone to turn to, who can help. An atomized community can't. Divorce makes everything worse. It is absolutely not the only option. And I am speaking from experience when I say this.
@@jimluebke3869 it's not the only option but you are delusional if you think it's never an option because sometimes it is sometimes 1 person in the Marriage gets to a stage where they have no interest in meeting their responsibilities and expectations as a spouse and also has zero interest in changing
Wrong on the second story, the wife is right to protect her children first from a step son none of them know. His mom and stepdad need to correct their parenting.
She should protect her children, but she also made the choice to marry a man with a son from a failed marriage. It was inevitable that a time would come where he would want to reconnect with his son. Why didn't either one of them consider this before marriage?
@@MagnsATK98they married each other! And since he has made a covenant with his new wife, he needs to honor it and focus on his current family. Children, even those from a previous marriage, do not come before spouses!
Don’t get me wrong, I love dogs, but I treat them like dogs. They’re not on my bed or couch, because once you do that they think they own the place. They’re not sitting at the table while I eat, and they’re not sleeping with me.
You definitely shouldn’t let dogs in the bed for lots of reasons including what you said but if you don’t let them in the sofa do you not have to bend down every single time you pet the dog?
I had to retrain an older dog not to sit and stare while I ate. Also got owner out of the habit of getting ice cream every night. He lost 20 pounds, and is healthy again. They were "loving" him to death.
How old was the child? If the child is old enough to eat a blueberry perhaps the child is old enough to wash the berries. Teaching your children to do things for themselves is extremely important.
Normally I absolutely agree with you but not today, Matt. First, concerning the handicap parking spot, I disagree. I would drive around the parking spot then go there because most people that won’t require handicap parking won’t say anything about it yet many disabled people don’t have the balance or physical ability to maneuver the snow and ice nearly as well as someone who is physically healthy. Second, I disagree about the dog because he had the dog first and dogs only live a relatively short life. It would be one thing if the wife discusses her concerns and they both choose to re-home the dog or the couple can do something like have the dog take further obedience training, put the dog in a kennel or outside during the baby’s nap time, get a bark collar for the dog that it wears during times the baby sleeps. She knew about the dog long before they got married and she was at least somewhat ok with the dog. Further, you don’t go seeking answers to something like this from someone you know feels the way you do. You need to ask either a neutral party or someone you know will be honest with you even if you won’t like it.
I wouldn’t marry a man who didn’t have a relationship with his son in the first place. That being said I for sure wouldn’t subject my daughters to a stranger living with them. You can never be too careful with your babies.
A just think it's so sad that this teenage boy is being put on trial by his family like this. I am sure all the "behavioral issues" are stemming directly from his parents' divorce and lack of concern for him. Everybody is talking about him like he's some kind of registered sex offender, and I can't imagine what's it's like to be a teenage kid and be treated as guilty until proven innocent by your own relatives.
@@friedawells6860 There is no way to be sure that his behavioural issues are due to the divorce; the kid could have serious genetic mental issues. For the sake of argument, let's say the issues were caused by the divorce. How do you think he will treat his stepmum and half siblings who he sees as the cause of his misery?
@@Charlotte_Martel That's an even worse reason to disown him! If he has a genetic mental health condition that is not his fault, then that just makes it even more cruel and unusal to not allow him to live around his own family!
@@friedawells6860 It may not be his fault, but that doesn't mean that his sisters and stepmother must forfeit any assurance of safety to accommodate him. I never said that the kid should be disowned, simply that he should remain in his mother's house. No one is talking about tossing him into the streets.
that's downright false and easily disprovable. you can put 10 dogs in front of someone and they'll act in 10 various ways. hell, you can even put just 1 dog in front of the same person during different times throughout the day and get 10 different reactions. basing your life decisions off an animal is superstitious and silly.
@@TheCynicalheart Character judgements are partly interpretive. If you have a poor understanding of people and morality it doesn't matter how long you study something because what you project would be ultimately be limited by your own faulty understanding thus leading to a worldview of confirmation biases. Considering how you're too arrogant to address the logic presented, how can you personally say you have a say on anything?
@@gunnerulrich9209 "Character judgements are partly interpretive" yes and what makes you think animals are not better at judging than we are? talk about arrogant.
And if you can't give it a good quality of life, you find someone that can. It's called being a responsible steward. Should an animal suffer for its short life from a caretaker that has no time for it? Being responsible also means making hard choices for the betterment of others.
I hope all the stepmothers in this comment section who have kept a father's original kids away from him know that the children remember that for the rest of their lives, that they've been left to feel like discarded trash. Try to have a little empathy.
Lots of weirdos in the comments. But their husbands allow them to believe this tbh. I don't think a proper father would allow his new wife to think his kids are not his priority and are some sort of a burden
@@hg9675 Lots of women just doing what women do (speaking as one). It's both the noble desire to look out for their children but also their egos as the second wife that together makes them see the stepchildren as threats. Everyone throwing around the "troubled teenage boys are abusers" while ignoring that stepparents do their fair share of abuse from this very lack of empathy; just want people here to remember that
Seems it was the biological mother whose divorce settlement stipulated SHE would raise the kids the father apparently never visited before the step mom married him.
@@lurkingaround7410 I'm a woman too and a child of divorce and have a great step mom. If my step mother didn't like me, my father would never marry her. I blame the fathers in this situations for marrying women like this. Her never elaborating what "troubled" means makes me think she's just one of those step parents who wish to imagine the other children don't exist. It's horrible how everyone takes the woman's side without knowing the whole situation
@@hg9675 I'm glad your dad made a good choice. Mine didn't when I was little but thankfully they divorced again pretty quickly before my sister and I had to grow up with her. But yeah, that's very true, many weak fathers just go along with it and then wonder why their older kids end up with issues as adults
The parent of the other child always wants to keep the kids as long as their is a child support advantage, then when they are spoiled and almost 18 they want them out.
Matt - you are so completely wrong about the dog situation. Just telling her to go rehome his pet is disgusting - and if you believe that then the husband can go "rehome" himself away from his wife with no qualms. That would be the standard your setting. And on the handicap spot - for you to talk about some "weird principle" when all you do is argue from a point of principle, is beyond hypocritical of you. You can disagree with the principle he's standing on, but to judge him for standing on principle, just shows your true nature. You have no consistency or intellectual integrity.
The woman who wrote about her husbands troubled son who he wants to live with you and your daughters is absolute RIGHT! I wouldn't let a rotten kid come into my house with my daughters. He has a mother and stepfather. He's their problem.
The last one is a fool. She should have gotten rid of the dog like yesterday. Why did you wait to get a kid? Why did you even marry this man and move into his house when he has a dog? That could be a dealbreaker for most people if one of them wants dogs and the other doesn't. Only doormats agree to have a dog they hate.
Just like the father has a duty to his son, the mother has a duty to protect her small children. Since the small children aren't as important to the father, maybe he should move out and live nearby with his son? That way he could be more involved in his life, since it seems he'd just dump all the responsibility of raising him on his new wife because he's out of the house most of the time.
He will probably end up dumping the girls eventually also. If his other 2 kids weren't important enough to be in their lives as much as possible, he probably won't be as involved with others
Or maybe the mother shouldn't have married a man who had a child from a previous marriage. She did however and now it is coming time for her to have to deal with it.
@@jonathanparks207 It isn’t her fault that he wasn’t in his son’s life, and she had no way of knowing that years later, the mom would try to put their son’s issues on them. She needs to handle it herself.
@@cuppycakey5013 Never said it was her fault. All I said is that this is what you sign up for when you marry somebody with kids. If you can't handle that, don't marry them.
It's not because of microbes, that fruits and berries should be washed before eating. It's because of the pesticides and fungicides used to keep the plants healthy.
Well if the poison keeps the plants healthy, maybe it'll keep us healthy.
Wrong
And the dirt or other contaminants.
@@theguyfromthefleamarket7308 You're right. I should've said "used to keep the plants free of parasites"
Poison doesn't keep anything healthy, it keeps bugs and rodents from eating it as they will die from doing so. What a nut
I disagree with scenario #2. The real a hole in this story is the ex wife who only wants her child when things are easy but will gladly give him up when things are hard. She needs to work through this with her new husband. That would make me feel pretty rotten if I knew my mom was trying to pass me off when she was tired of me.
exactly. And the husband that hasn't been in the picture doesn't know the boy's issues. He could be dangerous to the daughters in the worst case and a bad influence on them in the best. A woman needs to protect her daughters. Good for her. His mom wanted her son gone and she expects a strange woman to take him? Dad gotta be insane if he allows this.
@@amberxv4777she married him knowing he already had older kids. She signed up to be the step-mom whether she actually wanted to or not. The reality is that if the kid isn’t allowed to come live with them whatever problems he has are probably gonna get even worse. His mom clearly doesn’t want him and now his dad won’t let him live with his family? Yeah that’ll help the situation. Speaking of his problems, we don’t actually know what they are. The mom sounds incredibly selfish anyway for trying to keep the dad and his son from forming any kind of relationship but now suddenly want to pass off the son? For all we know he’s just being a normal angsty teen boy and she doesn’t wanna deal with it
yea 100% as the OP said
look we have 3 young kids and this woman wants to dump this boy on us because he has behavioral issues i don't want to risk the safety of my kids
this boy has a mom and a step father he lives with they have raised him for years and should continue doing so
and as said said these kids don't know this boy she barely knows him hell even the Husband barely even knows his own son
yet they want to dump this dude in this situation
look if the people who actually raised this boy to this point can't handle him wth chance does Op and her husband have
what you think he's gonna just instantly reform and be different
@@amberxv4777exactly. The troubled teenager may be his father’s boy as Matt said, but these kids are his too. Their safety is his responsibility. And teenage boys who are already facing discipline issues are not who I would want around my young daughters, especially if I’m going to be expected to discipline him, and he might be bigger and stronger than me. That’s absolutely a no.
The father who was kept away from the son now is magically going to solve teenage that might have behavioural issues. What can possibly go wrong?
Sounds sus :D
He is with the wrong person clearly.
The issue is it's not for the boy's own good, it's because step dad and mom are tired of having their cushy life disrupted. Especially if what she said is true, the ex wife made it difficult before.
@ConontheBinarian could be the child doesn't even have sny issues just is around and they don't like that.
@Hishen Mathurin smart like Fredo they are.
Story two is exactly why I refused to ever even consider dating much less marrying someone who already had kids. There will always be the baby mama/ex to deal with and you husband will always be torn between his past and what’s best for you/your kids together. Divorce is only words on a piece of paper (especially if you have kids) it does not erase your responsibilities or connections with that relationship.
Good advice.
I agree. You can't just expect your spouse to erase their connection to their other children. The wife in the story is justified in not wanting the teenager around her kids, but she also doesn't seem to be showing any sympathy towards her husband for simply wanting to have a relationship with his own son.
This was something she should have thought about before marriage, not after.
@The Lemur of Madagascar also the fault of the father for forgetting about his own son in the first place and starting another family. I can only imagine how that kid may feel -- probably a source of a his behavior issues
The woman may also have had kids from a previous marriage. Which just makes it even worse, but regardless. A man must have two kids to offset every one kid that a woman had from a previous marriage to make being with a single mother acceptable. If not morally, at least, socially.
@@Greywolf-91 That doesn't make any sense at all.
I think it depends on the behavior of the teenager. If its dangerous, violent, addiction then its inappropriate to bring him into a home with young children.
Its not microbs, its pesticides. You people need to watch Alex Jones.
Also dirt and whatever rando stuff might have landed on it in the grocery store or transit or the factory after "washing" by machines.
Edit:
For instance, there can be bugs or bug eggs on unwashed things. (That is why people add pesticides)
Being antimicrobial doesn't mean it's not contaminated with fecal matter or just anything if you dropped it on the floor and used the "5 second rule"
Yeah, I guess my whole thing is if it’s really truly dirty water is not going to wash it off.
Good to know
ve seen people snot in their hand, wipe it on their pants, then fondle the produce - Wash your produce people
it's both to be fair, pesticides are huge I absolutely agree but there are still some salmonella or E coli deaths every year and usually not from eggs or chicken but from unwashed produce. Specially for kids they can be deadly.
It won't kill germs just running cold water over produce, but it will get rid of a little bit of filth and pesticide. If you don't do the shopping, you have no idea how often people drop those things on the floor.
Regarding the teen son being shipped off to his dad who has young daughters with a second wife. There was a time I would have agreed with you Matt that a father's obligation to raise his sons trumps the second wife's concerns for her daughters, but since then my brother's step son threatened his step-siblings (my brother's youngest two) with a knife and when his mother tried to break it up he chased her out of the house and the only thing that kept him from stabbing her was that she locked herself in the car and called the cops. The boy has a mother and a stepfather. If he's too much trouble for them to handle then how is moving him out of state to a father his mother has alienated him from - who works all day, so it'll be the stepmother dealing with him - how is that going to solve anything? Maybe the mother shouldn't have alienated her children from their own father to begin with. Maybe she made this mess and needs to clean up after herself. The father now has young girls to think of, you think this boy who apparently intimidated the dickens out of his own mother wouldn't hurt his stepmother's daughters? It sucks, but the boy's mother is the a-hole here, not his stepmother, and his mother needs to sleep in the bed she made.
Literally taking an extreme situation and projecting it into the majority and common scenario. They never said the teen boy with a psychopath, they said troubled teen that more than likely simply means he's a rebellious teen.... like every other teenager in the world.
The lack of his father, is more than likely what is making the kid trouble. Let's see the teenager is 14, more than likely father can most definitely correct his behavior as it is a father's job and the lack of a father is what creates a lot of trouble teens because they don't understand punishment or discipline.
Acting like the teen boy is Jeffrey Dahmer, you and most people in this comment section. It doesn't matter for kids troubled oh, that kid was born before and when she married a man with children from another marriage so she knew what she was signing up for, and now because it's not going to just be a piece of cake she doesn't want anything to do with it it's sickening.
She made it sound like she was talking about astray rabid dog, it's a teenager he's not going to bite you. Of course there are exceptions to every commonality but the chances are quite Slim. You see only .5% of the world's population are sociopaths and only .2% are psychopaths. There's a mental illness within teenagers that's quite common, that makes them display some actions that would be in the category of sociopath, however the majority of children such as myself who have the same as illness grow out of it
We dont even know if the kid is actually troubled. Lots of step parents are horrible and want to keep their spouses away from their kids from the previous marriage. It's insane to jump to conclusions like this
Dude seriously it's okay if she wants to re-home the dog as long as she talks to her husband about it however if she just rehomes it and then her husband comes home one day and asks where the dog is and she says oh I gave it to somebody else then that is fucked up.
Exactly. Like Matt said, the dog will forget about her husband and be fine. But it’s not that simple for him. He has a long bond with his dog.
@@beautifulllstars A bond with your pet is a mental illness? Disagree.
@@RealWallyGator I would tell the wife stfu stop complaining and take care of the dog or I will stop taking care of her and she can go get lost. Dude should have made the wife sign a prenup
Exactly. What happened to submitting to your husband? Giving your husband's property away without his agreement is one of the most messed up things you could do, especially when that property happens to be a beloved pet.
@@RealWallyGator I guess that you have never rehomed a rescue dog, then. Sometimes a dog never gets over the loss of its “one and only.” The one I have now refused food for the first 2 1/2 weeks after he came here from the shelter.
Terrible take on the dog Matt. Having a pet is not “fun.” It’s responsibility. If somebody decided to “give away” my dog that would be a huge betrayal of trust. To quote The Little Prince: “Men have forgotten this truth,” said the fox. “But you must not forget it. You become responsible, forever, for what you have tamed.”
And if he is unable to take care of the dog, it's his responsibility to find someone who can. It's selfish to keep a dog because you want it, and yet put in none of the effort to give it the attention that animals need. To then throw that responsibility on to someone that clearly doesn't like dogs isn't fair to the dog or the person. He needs to find time in-between being at work, being a father and husband, to be a good dog owner. If he can't, someone else should.
@@terrykingpin1452 well this all needs to be a discussion between them instead of her asking “am I wrong to get rid of the dog?” That’s not her decision to make on her own.
Matt has responsibilities issues
Dude dogs are worthless noise making machines I like peace and fucking quiet
Strong disagree on the teenage son issue. I don’t think it’s smart to have a troubled teenager around kids that aren’t his siblings. Abuse happens all the time in situations like that it’s far too risky and that outweighs any other consideration
So the father should just pick his favorite kids and damn the rest? Interesting take
@@Jstamanright it’s deeply troubling that someone would just assume the teenager would inflict harm upon small children without any reason to do so
@@Jstaman nope! That’s a false dilemma. Find a solution and way of connecting and helping the troubled son that doesn’t require the son living with the other kids.
Most teens are “troubled.” I don’t think it’s fair to assume a teenager going through behavioral issues should be relegated to the same classification as child-abusers.
@@Jstaman She’s kept him from him all these years, then when he’s a teen arsehole, she’s putting it all on the dad and his family? Sure, he should see his son and take him to go do things together. Living with them, no, absolutely not.
I've heard many abuse stories around step siblings. No I would not want a teenage boy with issues around my little girls.
Then don't marry a man with kids from before, if you do then you can't tell him not to have his son in his house.
They're not step siblings they're half siblings... they share the same dad. Learn the difference...
@@MagnsATK98 are you talking about me? Or someone else?
@@kylem1112 it happens with half siblings too and with uncles and cousins. The issue is that he is troubled.
@@theresamockevich6813 What does "troubled" mean to you. When i was a teen, unfortunately i was getting into trouble smoking weed and drinking, that doesn't mean troubled like being a p***ofile. wtf?? Do you live in West Virginia? lmao
Don’t marry a man with an ex and kids if you don’t want the possibility of being a full time step mom. Same goes for men marrying women with kids from a previous marriage.
I wonder what would this woman say if the mother died... 👀
On the other hand, I understand her concerns for her little girls. The father should make adjustments to be present and involved in his son's life.
I have an ex and a kid. One thing is for sure, 98 percent of women my age that are single are automatically disqualified as being wife material.
After my relationship I can wholeheartedly say that women in their 30’s are like men in their 20’s. I don’t even have to make any effort. It’s actually quite sad.
So to add to this tip. Do not marry or date any women over the age of 35 when they have zero kids or say they don’t like them. Odds are they are looking to fill the oven because they spent the majority of their lives sleeping around in very short and meaningless relationships only to eventually discover that the only real value they have has passed them by or is fleeting quickly.
My goal is for a non north American girlfriend in her mid 20’s that I can make my wife.
True! When you get married to them you are also marrying their kids. It's so sad and pathetic to see the step parent try to slowly drive a wedge between their partner and their past kids.
@@veraboltonagreed! Dad needs to scale back on work and be there for his son.
@@MrSladej I find your comment highly offensive and insulting.
Shame on you
Wrong about moving a troubled misbehaving juvenile boy (son or not) in with younger female children when the husband is not available to constantly monitor the boy's behaviour.
The woman (what ever that is?) with the doggy issues needs to have a serious chat with her man. if she decides to just get rid of the dog then she clearly has no respect for her partner.
This ^
Clearly, he has no respect for her or the children or the safety of the baby, he can suck it up , its a worthless mutt, get over it
I could agree with you with one caveat--regarding the teenage son. Did the letter say what kind of trouble he was having? I agree in nearly all circumstances it would be good to have him live with his bio father. But if he is violent or has other tendencies to do harm, it must be handled differently when small children are in the home.
Can’t rely on the biased wife’s description. She wants to pretend his previous kids don’t exist. That’s what she signed up for when she married a divorced man with kids under 18. Kid needs full time attention from his dad.
My troubled half-brother moved in with us when me and my sister were very little. Similar situation like in the letter in this video. The mother could not manage the son due to his behavioural issues, so he moved in with us, although my mum was reluctant because of the psychological issues and having young children in the home. Many years of many kinds of abuse by the half-brother later, me and my sister are still not psychologically 100% recovered from it. It wrecked us. So before allowing the son to move in with the dad and his new family, I would carefully assess the types of issues he has, provide immediate psychological help for him, plus supervise him vigilantly if he does move in. Of course the problem in this whole situation is divorce, but it's too late to lament on that. Instead they need to move on and take practical steps to ensure the safety of ALL, the son, the parents, the younger children. Everyone has the right to safety and protection. Blood ties alone don't determine if something is the right thing to do.
She doesn't elaborate. They could just be moody teens
@@hg9675The problem could be the boy's stepfather. Whatever the problem, it might be solved by fair treatment by his dad.
If somebody gave my pet away without my knowledge behind my back, that would be it.
Same the person would be gone and I would change the locks!😂
No one said that. Now...... including your wife when you have children? That's f'ed up to choose the dog you see for a few hours a day.
@@letfreedomreignhonk324 So you'd kick your wife and children out over a dog? Your brain is royally f'ed.
No one was saying to give away the dog without the husband knowing about it, that only happened in your head, but if you're someone who wold rather keep his dog than make your wife's life better, you're the one with a problem and she shouldn't be with you anymore.
@@bigguy7353 the dog was there before the wife.
Your husband had the dog when you met him if the dog is seven years old. The dog is part of the package you agreed to when you married your husband.
@@beautifulllstars Go to hell gold digger! Than the credit card gets taken away. You can't have it both ways
@@beautifulllstars That part in the marriage contract that says you and your spouse share a life and share property. The husband's house is the wife's house. The husband's money is the wife's money. The husband's dog is the wife's dog etc.
Btw, I see you've been commenting similar things in every comment thread that mentioned the dog. Was your face mauled by a Pitbull or something? You're getting way too triggered over this. Even if you disagree, it's not this worth getting worked up over. Just relax.
@@thelemurofmadagascar9183 "the husband's dog is the wife's dog"
Agreed... She can re-home the dog then! 🤷
Not when there's a baby involved. Sorry, kid trumps mutt on every day that ends in Y.
@@jasono2139No, because it means that both the husband and wife have to have a discussion about the dog. You can't just re-home it all willy nilly. That's disrespectful. When it comes to the dog barking and waking up the kid, no dog is too old to be trained. As for the hair situation, if I was living there, she would hate me. My hair is more annoying than a dog's hair.
My opinion on the stepmom not wanting the teen to live with them is that her side is very understandable for a few reasons but I think there’s more conversation needed. Does the boy want to live with Dad? Can he visit during summer break as a trial? What professional help has the mother provided? What type of trouble is he getting into? Something that could be a danger to the young girls? Definitely needs to be looked at by all four parents
I bet the father is dating a coworker and using his son to break his second marriage and be free again, divorcees always want to be "free" 😆
Finally, someone who's asking the right questions. Way too many people in the comment section have been automatically assuming that the son is dangerous, when in reality he could just be disobedient or something. Further questions need to be asked about the nature of the son's behavioural issues.
Don't marry people with kids
@@thelemurofmadagascar9183 Exactly. My first thought was that more information needs to be acquired before making a decision. What kind of behavioral problems is the kid having, for starters.
Also with him being gone all the time and the step mom has to take care of him and deal with the drama of a troubled teen is unfair for the husband to ask the step mom
When I was 5, my stepdad's 3 kids (1 girl, 2 boys) lived with us for a little while.
The oldest boy was about 13, I don't have a lot of memories of him, but I know while he lived with us, he vandalized a school, robbed a gas station at gunpoint and then, when he was in juvenile hall, he SA another kid. He ended up diagnosed as a paranoid schizophrenic. Had a long history of psych facility admissions and multiple arrests.
Wow, it sounds like you were lucky he didn’t harm you. That’s terrible.
And even in that terrible and extreme scenario, you were still not directly harmed. So I think you're proving Matt right.
Erika, thank you for sharing your story. If you don’t mind my asking so that I am not assuming, in this situation, you would advise the the family not to take in the older boy?
Again, thank you for sharing your personal story
@@friedawells6860 Even if Erika wasn't physically harmed, having such a disturbed young man around vulnerable younger children was NOT a good idea. So many horrific things could have happened (and sadly do happen everyday).
Then your mother shouldn't have married into that situation.
Last story: If she rehomes the dog without discussing it with her husband first she's absolutely the A-hole. Which, in that situation, you will make life worse for everyone.
That was going to be my comment.
I never want to be a pet owner, but doing it without notifying her husband first is a terrible move that will lead to a bigger issue that will likely harm the relationship.
Additionally this dog has been around for 7 years, presumably before wife was even girlfriend. If she had said when they were dating “I hate your dog I want you to rehome it” I imagine that would have been a deal breaker. Real asshole behavior to just sit on that and then spring it on him now that you’ve had his kid and he’s stuck with you.
@@rodriark Matt was dead wrong on this one.
If she does this without his consent, she’ll be divorced within 5 years.
@@danamontroy8178 agreed, and that’s not even to say the husband will divorce her, but a woman with that degree of entitlement is absolutely going to walk sooner or later. Simply impossible to please.
Matt, you have never owned a pet. Let me tell you, if someone rehomed a pet owner's pet, they might as well start a war.
He lives with a dog and cat. He also had bees which he loved very much and he wants fish 😍
Matt... Literally has a dog you dum dum. 🤦
I expected as much from Matt he just kinda hates all animals in general
@@beautifulllstars No they aren't. They are domesticated, and have been bred with different traits for hundreds if not thousands of years. I guess to you all domesticated animals are mutants. what an absolute moron.
I think it just comes down to the right animal. Matt reminds me of my dad when it comes to animals. My dad hated animals, and couldn't stand my 2 jack Russells. Then we got a female Rottweiler, and that's when my dads whole personality changed with dogs. He loved that dog so much he took her everywhere, and they were always together. we kind of got her for protection but she was not even close to a guard dog. she was actually the opposite. She always hid away from everything and was the sweetest thing. My dad was heart broken when she passed away, but ever since then he was always open to the possibility of another dog. I think Matt just needs the right dog. it can change your perception on animals
matt, are you serious? the second one she is absolutely right to hold that boundary. she has little children and she doesn’t need the boy influencing the kids or making them uncomfortable. and he already has a house with 2 parents. and the mom kept him away from the dad, so now she doesn’t wanna deal with the son anymore, she tosses him off to her ex? nah
Don't marry people with kids! The new wife is a heartless bitch!
I understand what you are saying and it is shitty of his ex to do but i think it would also be shitty for his father to reject him . Kid is probably already hurt that his mom is trying to get rid of him.
I mean it’s still his son, and as Matt said, divorce causes lose-lose situations … I’d know I’m a child of one
One kid can easily poison an entire household, and I don't mean literally.
I know, I've seen two kids poison a whole school.
Honestly all points are valid here, just a sh*tty situation :(
The woman should not let that teenager close to her daughters at all. The chances of abuse skyrocket when there's someone unrelated living in the same house as a child (being half-siblings means nothing). That teenager should stay far away from the little girls, they don't deserve to suffer the consequences from their father's circumstances. She should not accept that kid in her house, period
Except it’s not some teenager. It’s the son of the father whom she chose to marry. If you don’t like the dynamic that takes place when you marry someone with children from a previous relationship, you shouldn’t bother getting to the point of marrying that someone to begin with. You say half siblings means nothing yet it is still shared blood and still a relation and basically that whole point you tried to make makes no fucking sense. You don’t know if there will be consequences or not and you’re just talking out of your ass.
I kinda agree. I think the father should move into a small apartment and parent his first child. Bc he has an obligation to ALL his children.
Then she should leave. Period. That is his son. A son she knew existed before she married him.
“Unrelated?” It’s the husband’s SON.
Wrong. A boy needs his father and may be why he's acting up.
I don't care who you are - you could literally be the girl I'm planning to marry but if I come home from work and find out you got rid of my dog/cat, you're gone.
I don't think she said she would do it behind his back, obviously it would be a discussion that they would have.
I would loose my shit on her. Divorce would be filed the next day
Sounds like the girl would have dodged a bullet.
@@beautifulllstars No they are not, I would let you starve, I wouldn't let a dog starve. Go to hell
@@TheMountainBeyondTheWoods Again with you from other threads, you simply can’t assume that she’d talk to him about it. She said what her intention was in the letter and that was “I will rehome it”. *”I”*. No mention of ever even bringing it up to her husband, as all of these comments you’re responding to are aware of. That’s why they’re saying it would be messed up since they understand what is being said, not assuming something will happen that was never said
She knew the old dog was there when she got with him. He's lived his whole life already just about and now she wants to get rid of him - from his master he's had his entire life since he was a puppy probably.
@@beautifulllstars Never said that. Human life is way more valuable. What she is doing if akin to getting with someone knowing about a personality trait you hate thinking you'll just change them. Something is wrong with you then. The main factor here is she knew before hand, this wasn't hosted on her in the middle of the night like Santa delivering an old ass dog outta no where. She know. She sounds manipulative.
So, he had the dog when they got married? She knew what she was getting into.
@@beautifulllstars why would you force someone you love to make that choice anyway?
Sorry Matt, you're wrong about the dog.
I disagree with Matt on the fourth one, Pets are not expendable and they (Especially Dogs) will become emotionally attached to their owner, and it will have a negative effect on them if they were to be abandoned or given away.
I wash my fruit because of pesticides, not microbes. But getting rid of microbes is an added bonus. Mmmm yummy- listeria in the morning. Lol😂
If you reach the point where you resent the dog the best thing you can do for everyone is to re-home the dog. The dog needs love and you are unable to provide what it needs.
Yes. There is nothing wrong with rehoming an animal and it's irrsponsible/neglectful/cruel to keep them in an incompatible household.
that's horrible. its not her dog. she has no right to re home a dog that's not hers. this is why I always say that dogs are better then humans bc people like u make me sick. Maybe the husband can toss his wife away. she seems useless anyway. complaining about a dog that's not hers. she needs to get over it and learn to live with the dog
If my wife ever gets rid of my dog without my consent it's a divorce. Period.
Also shoudn't have married a dog person if you aren't in the first place
It is a crazy and hurtful thing to do but we should not be playing divorce like a game. Divorce should always be a last resort and that is only in cases of abuse or infidelity.
@@alexm6715exactly
@@alexm6715 I guarantee you his wife's threshold for divorce is about 10x lower.
Women win in divorce.
Men being able to threaten divorce over the things THEY care about is one small bit of leverage men have in this dynamic, although legally speaking they'll probably still eat shit if they actually do it.
But anyway, if you want to make divorce taboo and rare, the answer is systemic, not an individual thing.
Her willingness to get rid of someone he's cared for 7 years with no regard for him shows her complete lack of respect for him
She's here because she knows it's shite and believed matt would help her justify her disrespect
With the second one, I agree with Susie. His ex and her husband raised the son, and now that he’s got behavioral issues she wants to get rid of him? Susie is right, it wouldn’t be fair to their three children to bring him to their home.
It is also not fair for the son to not have his father around.
@@jonathanparks207 Who said the father can’t be in his life at all? He could go see him a few times a week, just not living in his home.
@@cuppycakey5013 So what go pop in on him every once in a while like you might an older parent just to make sure they are doing okay? Last time I checked that is not really how parenting works. It is simple, you marry somebody with a kid, you should understand that you make have to take care of that child. This is why I highly suggest you not marry somebody with minor children. Also why a parent should not be getting married if they have minor children. Because now your first duty is to those children and not your spouse.
still his son
Seeing your child isn’t raising your child. Not even letting your child visit in the home isn’t okay. That boy should minimally have a room in his dads house that he can come stay at. Maybe, just maybe, his upbringing and now the fact that his mom is trying to get rid of him, his stepmom won’t let him come around-- maybe it’s contributing to his “behavioral issues”… And I know what it’s like to have a “parent” who puts their relationship status before their kids. This woman he’s married to and had kids with, came after his son. This father owes some loyalty to his son. “Starting over” isn’t a reality unless you choose to leave your kids that you already have in the dust. From what I’m understanding, this man is supposed to raise his youngest three with his now wife, while basically forgetting his other child/children(I thought she said there were two older kids)…. That is not okay. And That’s my take.
My wife also had a hard time dealing with my dog. The wife eventually got used to sleeping on the floor, though
Yeah, I disagree a little with the troubled teen one given that they have three young daughters. As a girl who was molested by a brother nine years her senior, I can speak to this concern.
I think the wife is right about not wanting a teenage boy that is basically a stranger to the young children suddenly moving into the house with them. Perhaps they could arrange to have the son have long visits with them during holidays at first and her husband can find other ways of spending more time with him in general even if it’s phone calls. Then he might move in later when everyone has gotten to know him a bit.
Exactly. The ex-wife sounds like she can’t handle the poor kid and she is the one who kept the kid from the dad, and now she can’t handle it and doesn’t want her new life disrupted, so she is dumping him to be rid of him. The new wife has the absolute right to protect her children.
I also agree I think Matt is emphasizing to the guy as a fellow male but I don’t think it’s right personally
Sad that that boy needs to be auditioned by his father's new family before they would agree to be around him. You know I understand the caution, but this kid does not deserve to be treated like a registered sex offender by the people that should be his family.
@friedawells6860 A registered sex offender would never be allowed near their children I'm sure. So that's a giant leap you took there.
Would you feel that way if it was your son and your spouse was telling you that your son couldn't live with you?
You're wrong about dogs 'moving on' and forgetting about us. Example: I was away for almost 5yrs. My dog lived with others during that time. When I returned, the dog affectionately recognized me and had retained training that nobody else knew, i.e., hand signals that only the dog and I used.
Yeah rehoming pets is very tricky. It's hard when it's someone else's pet you aren't bonded to. When I moved in with my husband 7 years ago I came with a cat and thankfully he loves the cat as much as I do.
....and the baby's welfare is irrelevant?
The point is that none of the participants are irrelevant. But if that's what you take from the reply, Johnny, you are the asshole. Thanks for playing along...
Come no need to be a crazy dog nut. The dog will be fine if it's rehomed and if not oh well its just a dog.
Matt hates dogs because he is extremely religious and just as emotionally dumb as the woketards when it comes to his religious views.
I like dogs, but I can’t believe how many people would pick a dog over people. That said, the wife should make due with the dog until he passes away, then ask her husband not to get a new dog (or pick out a dog that doesn’t shed).
How did she marry him and not know about the dog prior to her marriage
@@Jstaman she dumb
I have a dog. Its my first dog and let me tell you, its amazing how smart, loving, funny and loyal he is. I absolutely would punch somebody in the face for that dog.
@@miselmraovic7217please don't incarcerate yourself over Sparky.
Depends on the person... there's plenty of people I can't stand, would i rather be around them than my dog? No... especially a crazy leftist.
If the dog was there before you got married, sorry, you need to keep it.
@@beautifulllstars Yes.
With the dog situation, that person would be the asshole if they rehome the dog without consulting their husband first. I know if somebody rehomed my beloved pet without telling me I would be upset. Me and my boyfriend just recently re-homed one of our pets because it would be in the better interest of the pet, but we both discussed it and decided on a home together to make sure it went to a proper loving home and not just anywhere so I hope they discuss it together rather than her just rehome the dog.
Banned.
Thank you for this comment.
It's important that a situation like this is discussed and that a mutual agreement is made. Most importantly, that it's in the best interest of the dog and that their next home is a loving home.
I would go as far as leaving the woman if she gave my dog away without my knowing. It shows she has 0 respect for me.
I might have missed it but did she say she wanted to do it without telling her husband?
@@TheMountainBeyondTheWoods I don't think she said. I was referencing my own thoughts if it happened to me. Still it is not like the dog just came along he's had the dog since before they met you figure that should have been hashed out before they got married.
The xwife needs to own it, she hasn't truly shared the responsibilities until there is an issue/problem with the teen son.
Lesson for all parent/children in this situation; share the responsibility from the beginning so the support system is in place.
Yeah, she’s the one effing up if the kids an issue, she needs to own it.
Dog owners that think dogs are equal to people to me is the same as when trans women say they are the same as humans born with xx chromosomes...same levels of crazy.
That comparison doesn't make any bloody sense.
I had a dog before I joined the military, and it stopped eating when I left. My mother took it to the vet and the vet said it was depression. Once they got him to eat again he got deportation anxiety and it totally changed him into a different dog. When I came back to visit he was doing better, but when I left he stopped eating again. It was sad 😢. He is no longer with us. So no I'm not sure the dog will be perfectly fine and I'm also not sure if the owner wants to keep him if he will be perfectly fine and not hold it over her head and put strain on the marriage.
I love the end statement @9:17 "you're under no obligation to be miserable for the sake of a dog"
Sounds like the dog itself would be a heck of lot happier not being taken care of by a person who hates it.
I think the woman is the a hole if she rehomes the dog without discussing it first. Throughout her complaint, she never specified if she brought this up with her husband at all, or tried to compromise in any way. Not to mention she knew the dog was there, it was there before she was. And then she was complaining about things that dogs normally do. They bark, and they shed. You honestly need to discuss pets when you can start a relationship because stuff like this will happen. now I do think the husband is being careless by making the wife take care of his dog, but The dog is already middle aged, and rehoming will cause it distress. What we did with our dogs, is we made them a kennel outside and gave them a big inside crate for night time. On the days where we aren’t home or need space, the dogs go outside to the kennel. The kennel itself has a potty area, a water bowl and a shelter for rain and wind. If you do something like that, then all you’d have to do, is put the dog in the kennel, put in food n water and clean out the poops from the potty area and your pet can stay there all day.
i broke up with my g/f when she said "it was me or the dog" we was dating for 4 months she moved in to my house an started trying to order me around while not working an refusing to cook or do anything to contribute
@@beautifulllstars if you want her be my guess. my dog is not stupid he was my fathers police k9 who died. so yeah its family. you should know your worth better than that find someone who wants to be with you not a free meal
Well there is a big difference in your story ? And the other story lol
@@beautifulllstars Anyone whose boyfriend/girlfriend dumps him/her over an animal dodged a bullet. Pet nutters shouldn't breed. Their kids will always be 2nd to Muttski.
@@beautifulllstarsSelective reading much?
@@Charlotte_MartelDid you even read his full comment?
I didnt wash the produce I got in a Thailand mountain village. I spent the next two days & nights in the hospital with an amoeba. The interesting part of the story was the hospital bill was $673. I now wash all produce unless the package reads, “washed and ready to eat” AND when i have to go to the hospital, i fly to Thailand.
buddy thats not the fault of produce that's the fault of a dirty mountain village in Thailand
you know how they tell you not to drink the tap water in Mexico cause of whatever parasites that will mess you up
yea exactly but in America that shit ain't a problem in civilized society
i've never disagreed more with matt walsh on any subject. this lady says she hates the dog but she KNEW she'd have to deal with it before she married her husband. and then matt says the wife can just rehome the dog without even suggesting that she discusses it with her husband. i've never heard worse advice in my life smh
Yeah if that happens fast forward 2 years husband to Matt "AITA for divorcing my wife for giving away my dog behind my back and causing a breach of trust and resentment" haha
She's more worried about the dog than she is her relationship with her husband. He could play same game. What if his MIL lives w them and he hates her mother, should he put her in a nursing home behind her back ? Geez consider partners reaction, feelings etc. Compromise.
She prolly thought that the dog would have died before him and her got serious.
Has the wife even talked to the husband about how she feels about the dog? My guess is probably not. She's probably one of those that when asked what's wrong, will say "nothing" and then seethe because "he should know."
Also, she wants to do this behind his back. That's clearly evil hatred.
Shows she has little respect for her husband
What she fails to mention is how the dog behaves around their child. There are countless examples of where the family dog & baby get along well & are best friends. No parent should sever that relationship for their own comfort.
Except she said that the dog keeps the baby awake by barking. Just going to ignore that little tidbit?
@@johnnythewalrusDogs bark? I’m shocked! 😱 That doesn’t negate my point.
Y’all are making so many assumptions
Walsh says get rid of the dog. Shocker.
dog was there first. if i was ever told by a woman to choose between her or my animals she will go before the animals do
If you touch my pet you are history.
Berries need to be washed more than any other fruit due to pesticides.
Washing produce is done to remove pesticides and chemicals.
There is absolutely no harm in eating fruit that grows wild (as long as it isn't too low to the ground) whereas store bought produce is harmful long term owing to the carcinogens on them from the chemicals used by farmers.
People don't typically wash mushrooms because it ruins them and when cooking them the aim is to remove moisture, so people eat them comfortably even considering the remnants of peat found on them; this is fine because mushrooms are not sprayed with pesticides.
If you're cooking mushrooms, there's zero reason you can't wash them... You're cooking the water out of them afterall.
You wash produce mainly for insecticides and pesticides, plus parasites... Matt, you missed the mark on this one.
Ditch the dog hater and keep the dog.
Matt Walsh is the A-hole for telling a woman to get rid of a man's dog!
Can't agree about the teenage son, just because of the young children in the father's home now. That's a situation that too easily and often leads to abuse, even with 100% siblings who weren't raised together.
A teenager with behavioral problems wow thats so unheard of and crazy. Cmon now lmfao that kid need to be with his father. His new wife selfish and his ex is a bum for wanting to kick her son out because hes a TEENAGER.
@@InsightProject Plenty of teenagers don't have behavioral problems, weirdo. The vast majority, in fact. And it very much depends on the severity of his problems. The new wife is prioritizing her own kids over a strange one who isn't her responsibility - that's smart, not selfish.
I agree the ex is a bum and the kid is her problem.
Dogs carry 26 fatal to humans diseases. Get the
science from NIH. The mites they shake off their fur can enter airways of people also. The feces is licked off them by their mouth. The fur is licked by that mouth. Get the science papers. They carry polio too. No dog in pool with kids.! Call NIH ask for cited list. Money spent on dog can be high as it ages. Use money u save for family vacation. The info in hand will alleviate his guilt.
That divorce one is so sad to me. While I feel for the father I would side with the wife. You divorced, the ex had the kids living for years with her and her new husband, and now that they're having trouble so they want to pass him off? I would bet the reason is the new husband doesn't want to deal with a kid that isn't his, but here's the thing you married her and the kids are in the package so it's your family and responsibility now too. Of course it's a terrible situation, but with out more details about this kid I would say absolutely not. Now If he is getting treated poorly by this new husband, if he's a stable and mostly good kid, and/or the new kids are closer in age to him that would change things because like I said you get the whole package when you're married. Those details aren't there though. There's just details to justify your position here. The real solution is obviously don't treat marriage like a temp contract because it permanent whether people and law want to acknowledge it or not that bond can't be broken. You can never fully rip apart and you scar multiple lives in the process.
Just! Don't marry people with kids! Dummy!
Don't fck with my dog.
No, the second wife is NOT wrong. The first wife remarried and needs to handle her son with his stepfather in the home they have created. The second wife's husband needs to understand that divorce has many costs, and now he needs to pay one of them for the preservation of his new family. Introducing a troubled teenager into his second family may easily end in his second divorce.
You marry a person with kids you take on all the baggage. The father has a responsibility to his son and if the wife was going to have a problem with that then she simply should not have married him.
@@jonathanparks207 You and I can easily agree that we shouldn't get married. We have profoundly different views of personal responsibility. Best wishes in your new life without the most wonderful woman you could ever have had.
@@itsgettingold I am curious as to why you inserted me into this equation since I have nothing to do with it.
Hey, what makes you wonderful? Are you Christian?
@@jonathanparks207 I was just joking. I'm sorry - different senses of humor. So will you agree with now?
Alright, I'll stop. Stopping now.
Rehome the dog? Absolutely not! Bringing in a troubled son, that nobody knows? Sorry, but I lived that with a step-brother. He was/is a nightmare. Disrespect, theft, drugs, violence & chaos daily. When I was 13yo he tried coming on to me(he was 17). He has spent the majority of his life in jail. Matt, you're the a-hole today.
I don't think that the lady was specific enough to make that call. I have noticed on many occasion the "new wife" wants nothing to do with the husbands children and paints them in a negative light. When I was growing up I lived with my dad and his new wife hated me from day one and would frequently create conflict when there was none in order to tell my dad how bad I was. With out knowing this couple personally my default position would be the new wife just doesn't want to deal with "his kids".
@@beautifulllstars , what you don't know is my dog alerted me & prevented my step-brother from entering my room in the middle of the night. And the Almighty forbid this husband ever requires a service dog in his lifetime.
@@jackbits6397The son's own MOTHER didn't want him anymore. That's how bad his behavior was. If I were the step mom, I wouldn't let him move in.
Yeah nah I often agree with you but the dog thing you are wrong the entire way through. The dog will not forget the previous owner the dog was there before sh3 got married so she knew what she was getting into. And as a dog trainer myself after 7 years with the owner that is a lot. The dog can die from the separation. At my job we got a case where the owner left the dog with us to go on vacation (I work in a dog pension in french cause from a French country idk what's the equivalent in america) this lady's dog was scheduled to stay with us 3 months so like usual when its a dog first time and for a long period we ask the owner to bring a toy and a shirt with their sent and if possible their dog own bed. So she did. 3 weeks in we noticed the dog was not eating correctly and loosing weight we carried it to the vet. And the vet said the same thing we assumed the dog is depressed so we called the owner explained the situation and she said okay she is coming back earlier will be back in 3 days instead of 3 months. What I do in cases where the dog is scared or nervous or depressed like that I stay with them longer then with the other dogs and play with them more before leaving at night. Sadly the next morning the dog was dead... so no sorry dogs have feelings and do remember their old owners specifically if they spent so much years with them. So you and that woman are the a-holes. Instead of telling her to get rid of it why don't you say. Talk to her husband about it. See what solution they can find maybe get a dog trainer we do help with dog behaviors and lot of times when people ask for behavior training it's for dog barking to much . I thought you were suppose to be the smart man here and not just say you "feel like" which is what you did for the dog situation
You'll understand this situation when you have kids
@Breyerluvr4eva they had the dog before the kids so that is something they had to consider before having the kid. The dog was there before they got together so she should have known what she was getting into so don't give me that. If they had the kid before the dog there it's different but that's not the case so please
@Jonathan Wolfboy which was the whole point of me saying that when you have a child, it changes things. You will get rid of anything that stands in the way of caring for your child. That includes a dog. As the woman asking the question has clearly learned.
@Breyerluvr4eva FYI I have 2 kids. And I did di what I said in my comments got a professional to "fix" the dog behavior
@@Breyerluvr4evaThere are plenty of ways to prevent a dog from interfering with childcare that don't involve abandonment. You just sound like a shitty human being who doesn't give a shit about any life form that isn't a miniaturized version of yourself
Matt is the parent that got rid of your dog when it isn't "fun" anymore: confirmed.
Making excuses for the openly indifferent father who can't be bothered to wash some berries?
This episode was a bit of a clown show tbh.
Lighten up, Francis.
@@zeropointenergy1574 😂
This is the first show Matt's wrong on everything.
Matt is wrong on the father/son situation. Grew up in not one but two different mixed homes and the son coming is going to end in disaster. There will be non stop fighting and it will probably end in divorce for those two.
The mom and step dad who need to take care of the situation and not just pawn the mess off onto another family.
Don't project your experience on others. We barely know anything about the situation. It's not elaborated
He is male, with behavioural problems. She has 3 young DAUGHTERS. I can see why she wouldn't want him living with them
People who give so much hate to people who re-home pets are a problem. Circumstances change and re-homing is sometimes necessary. Dogs/cats are pets, not humans. I’ve known of families who live in their car because they refuse to give up their pet when they can’t find housing that allows animals. Their children are sleeping in a car because the family pet takes priority…let that sink in. When families become resentful to pets and unable to rehome them due to hate & backlash, that’s when you get animals being abused, abandoned, and euthanized. It’s much better to find that pets a new home where they’ll be loved and wanted than in a home that resents them. Stop shaming people for rehoming pets, they at least realize their pet deserves better than what they can offer.
Nope, this is a shit reason to rehome a pet🤷🏻♀️
The last one with the dog, Matt is wrong. Yes the wife and the baby take priority over the dog if let's say their lives are at risk but because she is inconvenienced? Are you nuts? If the husband loves that dog and you rehome it, depending on how he is (don't know) it could range from a massive fight to a divorce.
You are telling me she is a stay at home mom but can't handle a kid and a dog? Like seriously?
The dog would be "fine"? How about the husband. I know how I would feel if I would lose my dog. Matt seriously does not consider the feels one puts into a dog. Its NOT just about the dog's feelings. I can't even imagine not leaving a woman who could harm me so bad as to give away my dog. I mean, if you LOVE your husband, you put up with some extra house work for the sake of the love he has for the dog.
If the husband cares about his baby, he will get rid of the mutt.
Having a new baby is A LOT. Wife doesn’t need additional work or stress to deal with. Goodbye dog 👋
Ridiculous how americans in the comments section view the step mom as having 0 responsibility towards the children of the man she married. Much less the father himself who does not magically stop being a parent just because he remarried. She wants the divorced man but not the baggage that comes with him.
It's truly mind bogling.... these are the same people that claim to be conservative and believe in father figures.
Ridiculous how people cannot figure anything could go wrong if the biological mother who wanted custody of the son, remarried and raised him to be unmanageable and now wants to pawn him off on the remarried biological father and his wife and young daughters.
@@wms72 oh no children of divorce are all criminals. We should lock them up. Teens can never be angsty and step moms can never be witches who want to distance their husband from their kids from a previous marriage. Half siblings are ALL abusers and rapists
Disagree with the teenage son one yes its his son but the mom is protecting 3 girls who knows whay behavioral issues the son has. So is it worth destroying/messing up 3 young lives to try to fix 1. No way i agree with the mom.
That boy is her family! That is her husband's son! I think the lack of empathy for this boy is really upsetting. He is just a teenage kid who needs to have a relationship with his dad, not a frickin registered sex offender! She already stays home, so she has the ability to supervise her daughters the whole time.
No, I disagree, don’t bring a problem child around your young children, please protect your children. This is why I fought through my marriage.
The woman signed up for this when she married a divorced man with kids under 18. She wants to pretend his other kids don’t exist. If the mother passed, should the son become orphaned? Ridiculous. She’s exaggerating the child’s issues. The kid needs his dad’s full time love and attention. He should divorce this one too and see how she feels when their father has no relationship with her kids.
Yeah I would not be okay with a teenage boy brought in around young girls. Better safe than sorry
@@bloomingale7868 The man signed up for this too when he divorced his ex and had 3 more children with his current wife. His primary responsibility should be to his current family. He had years to try and arrange something with his ex and failed, now he expects 4 members of his family to just accept the situation? No.
They don't start off being "problem" children until they have enough sense to know the adults around them are full of shit. Don't marry someone with kids if you don't want the added responsibility of raising someone up.
Matt is right.
Just don't get divorced, and if you do while having kids, don't be so selfish to start a second family.
Having been divorced and remarried I can say there’s only one or two winners in a divorce-the attorneys. I’m with you on the dog issue.
Matt is wrong on the second situation. What kind of trouble is the boy having? Porn is a rampant problem these days, and with that behavior often comes molestation. Know that teenage we should not live with three young little girls, that he has no connection with, especially when he does not even know his own father. His mother is so fed up with him that she wants him to move out. Uh, bad sign. Like the father, who has never live with the kiddos, suddenly, gonna be able to discipline him and get him to live morally. Sorry nope.
Why would you just assume his son is some kind of rapist? What a sicko
@@phantomblacklove She didn’t assume he’s a rapist, but children are molested too often to not try to protect them. Troubled means many things, but likely he won’t listen, talks back, doesn’t do his schoolwork, could be using drugs or drinking, most likely does look at porn. No matter what, he should not go to live with them. It doesn’t mean the dad can’t be a part of his life AT ALL, does it?
Where did she get that information from if she didn’t assume? No where in the video was that stated, as a father he has a responsibility to ALL children and they ALL deserve fair treatment, not unfounded made up accusations, that’s wrong. So what if he talks back that’s still his child that he has a responsibility for, discipline accordingly, my God.
@@phantomblacklove true someone else juat said 'troubled = drugs' as if it's a documented fact
@@MarsPriest seek help
The child is troubled and needs professional help. The wife is right. What if something happened to her children. They don’t know what’s wrong with him.🤨
No she is selfish. The woman signed up for this when she married a divorced man with kids under 18. She wants to pretend his other kids don’t exist. If the mother passed, should the son become orphaned? Ridiculous. The child needs his dad’s full time love and attention.
@@bloomingale7868 she or her children never signed up to have a disturbed person in there house. She must protect her kid's 😠
@@tattiepeelneil7658 She did sign up to marry a person with kids from before, she has no right to tell her hudband he can't have his son with him.
@@tattiepeelneil7658 she did by marrying a divorced man with children
@@MagnsATK98 yyyyep. You (and Matt) are correct, in my opinion.
My friend recently divorced her husband after his troubled drug addict son moved into the house, she originally agreed and understood until one day when the heavily armed Police raided her house ....15 minutes after her relatives from overseas had just arrived for a visit (and were likely left thinking WTF!)
These things take Patience she should have tried to get her stepson help rather than divorcing I believe in marriage for life
In a snowstorm, EVERYONE is handicapped.
The lack of empathy for the teenage boy in these comments is distrubing! Maybe he's acting out because he knows his mom and stepdad dont really give a shit about him, and maybe he would get better if he could be around his dad for a while.
But seriously, everyone is talking about him like he's some kind of ex-convict when he's just a struggling kid, and he's probably struggling exactly because he knows neither of his parents are willing to be there for him. They're both focused only on their new lives with their new partners, and I feel really sad for this kid because of that.
Thank you, most people here seem to think that Troubled = Rapist.
Teenager could even mean 13. That’s pretty young.
Dad has a responsibility to the dog. Yes wife and kid > dog but pets are a responsibility. I agree with matt on nearly everything but this anti dog hard on of his sucks
Dogs aren't just for fun, they're a companion - which is why he needs to be looking out and caring for the dog, not her.
what even is the logic here? let's just pretend for a second that it's completely not insane to say an animal is a companion. humans too are companions, we're social beings. by your own logic, he could look out for the wife and not the dog.
The Blue Berries being antimicrobial is true; you wash because of the pesticides, and yes, you should wash all of your fruits and vegetables...not because of germs but because of chemicals.
Also, sometimes there is bird poop or even bugs hidden in there 😲
and little bugs. I have all kinds of leafy greens in my garden, I don't use pesticides at all. When I soak them for 10 minutes in a bowl about 200 different insects and spiders float to the top. But hey, maybe it's added protein.
Yeah i mean this is grade - school common sense. I can't believe some adults are this unintelligent.
Never get rid of the dog . Ever .
"Divorce creates lose-lose situations, and therefore should be banned"
Yes.
Yeah, just force people to stay married when they’re abused and miserable, great idea. They can both cheat until one eventually snaps.
@@cuppycakey5013 Divorce is not the only solution to that.
Having connections to family and friends who can help you avoid becoming that miserable, instead of becoming atomized and disconnected from everyone around you, is a great place to start.
Narcissists who are in happy marriages can't conceive of why anyone else would get a divorce. I had a friend in high school who was like that. God says you're married forever so stick it out. When she got married she divorced her husband within 2 years because her live in mother in law was a total abusive harpy and the husband wouldn't kick her out. It's different when it's you.
@@gregslone4874 A healthy community can deal with that kind of situation. There's someone to turn to, who can help.
An atomized community can't.
Divorce makes everything worse. It is absolutely not the only option. And I am speaking from experience when I say this.
@@jimluebke3869 it's not the only option but you are delusional if you think it's never an option because sometimes it is
sometimes 1 person in the Marriage gets to a stage where they have no interest in meeting their responsibilities and expectations as a spouse and also has zero interest in changing
Wrong on the second story, the wife is right to protect her children first from a step son none of them know. His mom and stepdad need to correct their parenting.
Then why did she marry a man with a son from before? She can't tell him not to have his son there.
She should protect her children, but she also made the choice to marry a man with a son from a failed marriage. It was inevitable that a time would come where he would want to reconnect with his son. Why didn't either one of them consider this before marriage?
@@MagnsATK98they married each other! And since he has made a covenant with his new wife, he needs to honor it and focus on his current family. Children, even those from a previous marriage, do not come before spouses!
@The peaceful is willing to He doesn't get to decide his son he wasn't very involved with is more important than his new family
@@hierosgamos8896 A lot of nonsense here. Children don't come before spouses ? are you serious ?
Don’t get me wrong, I love dogs, but I treat them like dogs. They’re not on my bed or couch, because once you do that they think they own the place. They’re not sitting at the table while I eat, and they’re not sleeping with me.
*They're x3
You definitely shouldn’t let dogs in the bed for lots of reasons including what you said but if you don’t let them in the sofa do you not have to bend down every single time you pet the dog?
They're*
I had to retrain an older dog not to sit and stare while I ate. Also got owner out of the habit of getting ice cream every night. He lost 20 pounds, and is healthy again. They were "loving" him to death.
@@shirin8609 Thanks👍
I agree with the dog one 100%. YES mom and baby take priority over the dog!!
Seems like nobody knows how to train dogs anymore.
@@beautifulllstarsthis is the most ridiculous comment but go off I guess😂
How old was the child? If the child is old enough to eat a blueberry perhaps the child is old enough to wash the berries. Teaching your children to do things for themselves is extremely important.
Normally I absolutely agree with you but not today, Matt. First, concerning the handicap parking spot, I disagree. I would drive around the parking spot then go there because most people that won’t require handicap parking won’t say anything about it yet many disabled people don’t have the balance or physical ability to maneuver the snow and ice nearly as well as someone who is physically healthy.
Second, I disagree about the dog because he had the dog first and dogs only live a relatively short life. It would be one thing if the wife discusses her concerns and they both choose to re-home the dog or the couple can do something like have the dog take further obedience training, put the dog in a kennel or outside during the baby’s nap time, get a bark collar for the dog that it wears during times the baby sleeps. She knew about the dog long before they got married and she was at least somewhat ok with the dog. Further, you don’t go seeking answers to something like this from someone you know feels the way you do. You need to ask either a neutral party or someone you know will be honest with you even if you won’t like it.
Second one I would not let the kid live with me.
I wouldn’t marry a man who didn’t have a relationship with his son in the first place. That being said I for sure wouldn’t subject my daughters to a stranger living with them. You can never be too careful with your babies.
A just think it's so sad that this teenage boy is being put on trial by his family like this. I am sure all the "behavioral issues" are stemming directly from his parents' divorce and lack of concern for him. Everybody is talking about him like he's some kind of registered sex offender, and I can't imagine what's it's like to be a teenage kid and be treated as guilty until proven innocent by your own relatives.
@@friedawells6860 There is no way to be sure that his behavioural issues are due to the divorce; the kid could have serious genetic mental issues. For the sake of argument, let's say the issues were caused by the divorce. How do you think he will treat his stepmum and half siblings who he sees as the cause of his misery?
@@Charlotte_Martel That's an even worse reason to disown him! If he has a genetic mental health condition that is not his fault, then that just makes it even more cruel and unusal to not allow him to live around his own family!
@@friedawells6860 It may not be his fault, but that doesn't mean that his sisters and stepmother must forfeit any assurance of safety to accommodate him. I never said that the kid should be disowned, simply that he should remain in his mother's house. No one is talking about tossing him into the streets.
if a dog doesnt like someone, the dog is right
that's downright false and easily disprovable. you can put 10 dogs in front of someone and they'll act in 10 various ways. hell, you can even put just 1 dog in front of the same person during different times throughout the day and get 10 different reactions. basing your life decisions off an animal is superstitious and silly.
@@gunnerulrich9209 animals have exquisite judgement of character. I have studied animals for over 30 years and I know this.
Your claim is amusing.
@@TheCynicalheart Character judgements are partly interpretive. If you have a poor understanding of people and morality it doesn't matter how long you study something because what you project would be ultimately be limited by your own faulty understanding thus leading to a worldview of confirmation biases. Considering how you're too arrogant to address the logic presented, how can you personally say you have a say on anything?
the trolls are angry again
@@gunnerulrich9209 "Character judgements are partly interpretive" yes and what makes you think animals are not better at judging than we are? talk about arrogant.
It’s not about the microbes. You need to wash off the pesticides.
9:11 the dog is the husbands responsibility you don't just give it away. You owe it to the dog to honor it and give it a good quality of life
Why
And if you can't give it a good quality of life, you find someone that can. It's called being a responsible steward. Should an animal suffer for its short life from a caretaker that has no time for it? Being responsible also means making hard choices for the betterment of others.
I hope all the stepmothers in this comment section who have kept a father's original kids away from him know that the children remember that for the rest of their lives, that they've been left to feel like discarded trash. Try to have a little empathy.
Lots of weirdos in the comments. But their husbands allow them to believe this tbh. I don't think a proper father would allow his new wife to think his kids are not his priority and are some sort of a burden
@@hg9675 Lots of women just doing what women do (speaking as one). It's both the noble desire to look out for their children but also their egos as the second wife that together makes them see the stepchildren as threats. Everyone throwing around the "troubled teenage boys are abusers" while ignoring that stepparents do their fair share of abuse from this very lack of empathy; just want people here to remember that
Seems it was the biological mother whose divorce settlement stipulated SHE would raise the kids the father apparently never visited before the step mom married him.
@@lurkingaround7410 I'm a woman too and a child of divorce and have a great step mom. If my step mother didn't like me, my father would never marry her. I blame the fathers in this situations for marrying women like this. Her never elaborating what "troubled" means makes me think she's just one of those step parents who wish to imagine the other children don't exist. It's horrible how everyone takes the woman's side without knowing the whole situation
@@hg9675 I'm glad your dad made a good choice. Mine didn't when I was little but thankfully they divorced again pretty quickly before my sister and I had to grow up with her. But yeah, that's very true, many weak fathers just go along with it and then wonder why their older kids end up with issues as adults
The parent of the other child always wants to keep the kids as long as their is a child support advantage, then when they are spoiled and almost 18 they want them out.
Matt - you are so completely wrong about the dog situation. Just telling her to go rehome his pet is disgusting - and if you believe that then the husband can go "rehome" himself away from his wife with no qualms. That would be the standard your setting. And on the handicap spot - for you to talk about some "weird principle" when all you do is argue from a point of principle, is beyond hypocritical of you. You can disagree with the principle he's standing on, but to judge him for standing on principle, just shows your true nature. You have no consistency or intellectual integrity.
@@beautifulllstars Im using the same standards being set.
The woman who wrote about her husbands troubled son who he wants to live with you and your daughters is absolute RIGHT! I wouldn't let a rotten kid come into my house with my daughters. He has a mother and stepfather. He's their problem.
The last one is a fool. She should have gotten rid of the dog like yesterday. Why did you wait to get a kid? Why did you even marry this man and move into his house when he has a dog? That could be a dealbreaker for most people if one of them wants dogs and the other doesn't. Only doormats agree to have a dog they hate.
Just like the father has a duty to his son, the mother has a duty to protect her small children.
Since the small children aren't as important to the father, maybe he should move out and live nearby with his son? That way he could be more involved in his life, since it seems he'd just dump all the responsibility of raising him on his new wife because he's out of the house most of the time.
He's probably not considered his son as being a potential safety problem for his daughters - Parental blind spot
He will probably end up dumping the girls eventually also. If his other 2 kids weren't important enough to be in their lives as much as possible, he probably won't be as involved with others
Or maybe the mother shouldn't have married a man who had a child from a previous marriage. She did however and now it is coming time for her to have to deal with it.
@@jonathanparks207 It isn’t her fault that he wasn’t in his son’s life, and she had no way of knowing that years later, the mom would try to put their son’s issues on them. She needs to handle it herself.
@@cuppycakey5013 Never said it was her fault. All I said is that this is what you sign up for when you marry somebody with kids. If you can't handle that, don't marry them.