I had a awful relationship with my birth giver for all my life she was mentally ill and toxic and spiteful. She shamed me for having children out of my race and many other things. I left home young and treated my relationship with my mom as something that would heal in time . I'd go back throughout my life to reconnect with her only to find her just as fucked up as before. Then I realized I don't even want HER. I wanted a mom. She can never give me that. Its not like she has it and wont give it to me she just don't have it to give bc she fucked up. So I debited my birth giver as if she was dead. TBH I would often say she is dead so I didn't have to explain our shit. Last year she was in the hospital on her death bed. And I went to see her to support my brother. I literally felt nothing. I honestly walked off from it feeling like something was wrong with me that I was so cold to the fact my "mother" is leaving for good. My childhood friend and my birth giver died one day after each other and I was more upset about my disconnected friend than my own mother. I realized I grieved her long ass time ago. She has been dead to me for years. This body of hers leaving means nothing to me my mom left me spiritually long long ago. Break your spirit ties to your mom. Clip the soul tie. bury her. refer to her in your mind and to others as if she doesn't exist anymore and your spirit will listen and begin to let go. This is for you and to complete your suffering. Good luck to you beautiful soul!
i love my mom but she doesn’t love me unconditionally. i accepted the fact we cannot build a relationship together and that we have to just live together
Ooh! the timing of this video. My mom is narcissist, and very immature, toxic...we have never been close, but I have had to learn OVER AND OVER to forgive.
Going on 3 years no contact with my mother and even that is long overdue. Tried multiple times to cut contact and always got sucked back in but not this time. My life has been SIGNIFICANTLY more peaceful 🤞🏿 I vow to continue to heal so my children don't have to.
Abusive people always have demonic destructive entities attached to them that need so called "loosh". Loosh is the energy of hate, fear, anger, death. Such entities go for drug addicts, alcoholics, narcissists, rapists, psychopaths, murderers. When people themselves are toxic its an invitation for negative entities and of course its not an excuse for their destructive behaviour. Realizing that you don't deserve such horrible treatment and trauma is beautiful because it leads you towards self care, and being good to yourself and self love. 💜
Babe please buy the book the adult children of emotionally immature parents. Sometimes the burden of forgiveness is too much for the person who was wronged. I have had a very tumultuous relationship with my mother and to move on, I had to radically accept her for the person she is and grieve the mother I never had. I promise you, life on the other side is so much better. I wish you all the best ❤
girl same here with the not cleaning after grown men! these son husbands get away with everything and dont even take out the trash, meanwhile, if you miss the dishes for a couple days is a problem!
as a first born ONLY daughter, my mom gave me hell. It’s been hard to accept that she’ll never change and we’ll never be close. I’ve come to the conclusion that I honor her for simply bringing me into this world, but I do NOT like that woman 😪. It validating to know many other black woman can relate ❤️ rooting for us this eclipse season.
Omg the deeper I go into the video the more I can relate to the similarities in our mom’s abusive behavior (obviously our stories have personal differences) but in a nutshell I can relate. Ty for sharing ♥️ speaking up for people that have been shutdown their whole life.
I have been doing shadow work recently because of my Narc Mother. We have never been close and I love that you are talking about this. Healing the Mother Wound is essential to repairing the Inner Child❤️
Thank you for sharing this, this is exactly where I’m at. Having to face the truth of my emotionally unavailable passive mother, exhausting myself to fill her void is just like yeah I gotta let go. It hurts but I have to. She can’t be what I need. ❤❤ wishing you the best in healing your mother wound journey
I’m so blessed and thankful that I’ve never had to deal with my wonderful mother being a narcissist but that mother figure who helped take care me is from the planet where the narcissist come from 😩
Perfect timing my mom been jealous of me since the day I was born dad got out of prison and she threw herself at him to get in the way of our relationship she can go to hell 😅
THE TIMING OF THIS VIDEO IS INSANE! YOU LITERALLY JUST POPPED UP ON MY FEED OUT OF NO WHERE BUT PERFECT TIMING. I WAS HAVING DREAMS TOO, I ALSO WANT TO PUT MYSELF OUT THERE AND "JUMP AT THE SUN" (START A UA-cam) ETC 💚 .... whew those mother wounds can be deep. This was way to relatable. - signed an Aries sun/moon/mercury .. my mom is an Leo .. I am so so so proud of your vulnerability you have no idea how you just inspired so many other people/ inspiring artist ...
wheeeew chile !! i don’t like my mom neither she is a narcissist, she copies everything i do yet criticizes me for it, she is fear-based asf. I told myself maybe in the future we will be able to rekindle our relationship but as of now ? no lol. plus i live with my mother so that is 10x worse .. i feel like once i move out on my own & can truly heal alone, only deal with my mom when i want to that’s when shit will get easier.
I’ve watched you for a few years..My mom is also someone who caused me a lot of pain & i hope your healing journey goes smoothly. thank u for making this video❤
sigh unfortunately i can relate. my mother and i have had a rollercoaster relationship since i was young and i always knew how she treated me wasnt right but i didnt realize she was narcissistic and how bad it was until very recently. i accepted that she will never change and decided to permanently go no contact and i don’t feel guilty or bad about it at all. i dont hate her but i dont love her either. shes simply dead to me. ive been healing and im proud of my progress ❤ shes an aries sun btw
My heart is with you I hope we all can heal from these traumas cause this is heavy on my soul currently 💔 and I break down when I remember how I was done and abandoned, but much love to you all I'm sending hugs🤎
Same 😭 but I rather talk to him even tho I told him the problem I had with him and he still act the same way as I was a child. But my mom did so much shit to me like kicked me out for no reason and lied on me to the church and she always criticize me for everything, she always talked down on me. Also she admitted that she only wanted one child which is my sister and it's four of us. And I try to talk to her about it and she flipped on me and said that I chose to be homeless even though she told me my stuff better be packed when she get home from work and that means she's kicking me out.
Girl thank you!!! I'm dealing with trying to cut my mom off. I'm also a black girl witch and my ex best friend was a Jehovah's witness these two relationships were so toxic for me. I haven't talked to my "friend" for almost 3 years and my mom for about a week. I deleted my social media and claiming my power thank you for this
I’m now 29 and discovered a whole series of my childhood traumas from 2000-2012 without my permission 😊 my mom is a narc… and she’s ruined birthdays, weddings for me. I’ve had a thought of marriage being a scam for me.. never finding love or wanting to marry.. happy of dying alone. I then find my dark feminine Raquelle from Barbie. Girl it’s been 20 years of nothing but trauma and pain. I found my journal from the 2010’s everything I wrote then has now manifested in the 2020’s 😊 People started to notice and discover me in late 2020. I am now famous… hey gorge! ❤ Storytime: in 2013, I had just graduated HS and a older cousin from my dad’s side.. was about to get married.. my narc mom goes, “if I’m not going, they’re not going. Who does she want to be? A celebrity?” 😊 so that ruined the idea of weddings for me 😊
Man, this hit home fr. I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I've been through similar situations. Thank you for sharing, had me in tears thinking about my childhood.
thank you for sharing your experience, it’s beautiful that regardless of what you went through you are still so full of love & light & that’s something no one will ever take away from you. i also loved the astrology takes throughout the video, it just makes more sense lol. my mom is a pisces sun, so definitely delusional.
Wow, the timing is divine with this one! I hate mine too & am processing the trauma from her sociopathic ways. I've also been getting confirmation through dreams regarding the situation. I'm ready to reclaim my power. They don't deserve us but we deserve inner peace. Now is the perfect time. Eff them.
This sounds a lot like my childhood. When you defend someone & they attack you too. Uuuuuuuugghh soooo annoying!! So frustrating. I stopped defending my mother after that
My mom is mentally insane & an alcoholic & a bit of a narcissist. She is toxic too & so is my dad. My brother is a lot more empathetic in the sense he’ll take care of me ❤he doesn’t care if i fall on the ground & scrape myself or if i get scratched by the dog because he’s partially a selfish dick. But he would care if the dog tried to attack me. And he better care or else i will never comfort him again when he’s crying
That was a powerful share, I like how you were able to use your spirit practices to clock certain alignments and how they were manifesting. I wanted to say lovingly to you, that there's nothing wrong with loving her 💙 No matter how unfortunate, wasteful or heartbreaking this may feel. Allow yourself space to truly tap into harnessing this love and letting it pass through you, this is a powerful way to purge all of that trauma out of your system, ' feel it to heal it' as they say 💌 I've also had to delete certain family members, removing any expectation of them and replacing that conditional love of 'you're an X/mom/family-member you should...' to embracing true unconditional love of 'you're you and I see you...'. 👁 Indifference comes with full awareness, not just mental awareness. Yet a true embodied awareness that comes with feeling the full parameters of what 'is', in heart presently, even if what 'is' might drive us to the edge. [not to say you're not already aware of that] You're so lovely Notty, it takes a pure soul to fight for truth/your cousin despite knowing what can happen. Your love is healing - multidemsionally, for yourself and therefore so many others who witness you. Asé. 💙🫂
I heard you say that you forgot some of your past experiences because of the trauma that you went through and I am sorry about that. The trauma must have been really awful for you to forget some things. I just wanted to tell you that I am sorry about that. Also, there is something called dissociative amnesia. This is basically where you don't recall personal information due to a traumatic or stressful situation. This happens because that's how your brain tries to cope with it (research for a better understanding).
My mom is like this and so was my grandma. Sadly parents that are very toxic is quite common in the black community and people of color community. Generational trauma 😢
We have such a similar story. My mom is a covert narcissist and I didn't take her ish either, I am the oldest daughter and most of my childhood was spent on punishment, being emotional manipulated and protectong my younger sisters. She turned my dad, and two sisters against me so I've been in search of family for a very long time. I have a theory that you embody all the qualities of each sign in your natal chart. I am a Scorpio sun, cap moon and Leo rising, my mom is a Leo sun and Aries moon idk her rising and her chart is all over the place (I tried to use her chart to help our relationship). Also do you find yourself waking up with scratches after having dreams about them?
I didn’t have any expectations of her sign … but I didn’t expect Pisces 😂 Mine is also delusional 😂 imma have to see if this is a Pisces thing when I look at her chart
yup me and my mom are opposite signs i’m taurus she scorpio and i always called her out on her evil ways . @29:34 big taurus energy 😂😂 ‘get yo aosss in gear’ 😂😂😂
Your no nonsense and being allergic/stiff to a broke man .. o yes. Definitely a Taurus moon 😂 coming from a Taurus sun. I am sorry you had to go through a lot of things with your mother.. I had to go through a lot of the same things ( emotionally ) And have made peace with my mom being the way she is. Any other black girl watching this, I hope you heal for YOURSELF AND show up and show out for your daughters and sons ( if you have or decide to have children ) in the way you wish someone ( mother specifically) did for you . Or learn to cultivate beautiful relationships outside of romantic titles that help you heal✨🤍
I’m 6 mins in & agree with everything you’ve said 🤣 my mom hates I’m confused. She’s a mean Virgo with a Taurus moon & im Taurus sun Ruth Scorpio moon! My moon is in my 12th house which indicates major mother issues smh
Im libra sun, pisces moon, and Capricorn rising like ur mom 😅😂. My mom is Gemini sun, virgo moon, Gemini rising...and phew! I identify heavy with ur experience...i never gave it back tho. I just absorbed it all. Took trauma n beating, n just ghosted everyone
I wouldn’t say mess with them but they do use them as a stool to get onto my desk or to mess around underneath them. I don’t really do much but tell them no or get them out of my room.
My mom is a Taurus sun and I’m a Sagittarius sun. I don’t know our moon and rising signs. She tries her best and always has my back. Really strict and stubborn but caring as a parent
Can I give u a different perspective? Don't hate anyone bc that energy will affect you more than anyone else. It's better to not give it any energy at all so it becomes nothingness. Stay blessed and I pray your healing! ❤
This comment is gaslighting and enables abusers. Shame on you for trying to invalidate her traumatic experience. You're a prime example of societal, dysfunctional norms of mothers reigning supreme simply because they decided to lay down have intercourse & then conceived. It's not a privilege that they "birth" us. They made a conscious decision when they were sexually active, unprotected. Mothers don't need to be worshipped like you implied here.
My mother and me doesn’t even have a relationship, we don’t even communicate and I’m doing a lot of shadow work because of her I’m a Aries Sun Aquarius Moon and Leo Rising My mom is a Leo im not sure of her moon and rising but I am curious
If my thoughts had their own UA-cam channel 😅✨ Metaphysically, I innerstand completely that not only did I agree to this sick twisted vessel to be my parent portal but she is also (like everyone else) just a reflection of me AND a projection of my own thoughts. Humanly though, I’ve been in my bag my entire life and crave for a mother who gives a fk and doesn’t take joy in my misfortune. Le sigh ✨
hi notty! been following you for years but i watched this video just now after having a rough day with my mom and i'm surprised that our moms share literally the same big 3 placements haha, no wonder why i related so much despite our experiences being very different ((i'm so sorry you had to go through that though, hugs 🫂)). it's incredible just how much manipulation and narcissism can be disguised in "good deeds", that thing you said about your mother always wanting to do things for others but she really only does them for herself, same!!! and then they expect things in return, hell no! if you really were kind you wouldn't do favours to expect things in return! nobody asked you for anything!! btw, i'm a virgo sun, cancer moon and capricorn rising so the inner battles go crazy but day by day i'm trying my best to not pay attention to her because i deserve to be treated with the kindness, openness and love that she isn't offering me. thank you so much for being vulnerable with us and letting us get a glimpse of your life so we can all heal together
I had a awful relationship with my birth giver for all my life she was mentally ill and toxic and spiteful. She shamed me for having children out of my race and many other things. I left home young and treated my relationship with my mom as something that would heal in time . I'd go back throughout my life to reconnect with her only to find her just as fucked up as before. Then I realized I don't even want HER. I wanted a mom. She can never give me that. Its not like she has it and wont give it to me she just don't have it to give bc she fucked up. So I debited my birth giver as if she was dead. TBH I would often say she is dead so I didn't have to explain our shit. Last year she was in the hospital on her death bed. And I went to see her to support my brother. I literally felt nothing. I honestly walked off from it feeling like something was wrong with me that I was so cold to the fact my "mother" is leaving for good. My childhood friend and my birth giver died one day after each other and I was more upset about my disconnected friend than my own mother. I realized I grieved her long ass time ago. She has been dead to me for years. This body of hers leaving means nothing to me my mom left me spiritually long long ago. Break your spirit ties to your mom. Clip the soul tie. bury her. refer to her in your mind and to others as if she doesn't exist anymore and your spirit will listen and begin to let go. This is for you and to complete your suffering. Good luck to you beautiful soul!
i love my mom but she doesn’t love me unconditionally. i accepted the fact we cannot build a relationship together and that we have to just live together
Your not alone
Literally my situation but it’s with my dad
Ooh! the timing of this video. My mom is narcissist, and very immature, toxic...we have never been close, but I have had to learn OVER AND OVER to forgive.
I had the same reaction😂
I hate my mama too and she doesn’t like me either. The things she used to say to me smh .. she was my first oop.
Going on 3 years no contact with my mother and even that is long overdue. Tried multiple times to cut contact and always got sucked back in but not this time. My life has been SIGNIFICANTLY more peaceful 🤞🏿 I vow to continue to heal so my children don't have to.
I don’t like my mom at all. I don’t hate her but I do not like her and have so much anger towards her. Trying to go through healing myself ❤
Abusive people always have demonic destructive entities attached to them that need so called "loosh". Loosh is the energy of hate, fear, anger, death. Such entities go for drug addicts, alcoholics, narcissists, rapists, psychopaths, murderers. When people themselves are toxic its an invitation for negative entities and of course its not an excuse for their destructive behaviour. Realizing that you don't deserve such horrible treatment and trauma is beautiful because it leads you towards self care, and being good to yourself and self love. 💜
I am coming to the realization that my mom and I don’t get along. The video timing is crazy and the comments, help me realize this is not uncommon
first of all: you look divine sis, second of all: journaling has helped me tremendously in turning hate into indifference, also moving out
Good on you for healing from this instead of letting it break you
thank you love!
Babe please buy the book the adult children of emotionally immature parents. Sometimes the burden of forgiveness is too much for the person who was wronged. I have had a very tumultuous relationship with my mother and to move on, I had to radically accept her for the person she is and grieve the mother I never had. I promise you, life on the other side is so much better. I wish you all the best ❤
Fortunately enough, I learned about forgiveness and the importance of it but thank you so much for the recommendation!
Good girl. Forgiveness is for you, not the other person
absotutely!
girl same here with the not cleaning after grown men! these son husbands get away with everything and dont even take out the trash, meanwhile, if you miss the dishes for a couple days is a problem!
Absolutely disgusting and true!
I fucking love the title, it’s too real. thank you for sharing this part of your journey
Im glad you do! And of course tysm for seeing me 😭🫶🏾
as a first born ONLY daughter, my mom gave me hell. It’s been hard to accept that she’ll never change and we’ll never be close. I’ve come to the conclusion that I honor her for simply bringing me into this world, but I do NOT like that woman 😪. It validating to know many other black woman can relate ❤️ rooting for us this eclipse season.
Omg the deeper I go into the video the more I can relate to the similarities in our mom’s abusive behavior (obviously our stories have personal differences) but in a nutshell I can relate. Ty for sharing ♥️ speaking up for people that have been shutdown their whole life.
I have been doing shadow work recently because of my Narc Mother. We have never been close and I love that you are talking about this. Healing the Mother Wound is essential to repairing the Inner Child❤️
Thank you for sharing this, this is exactly where I’m at. Having to face the truth of my emotionally unavailable passive mother, exhausting myself to fill her void is just like yeah I gotta let go. It hurts but I have to. She can’t be what I need. ❤❤ wishing you the best in healing your mother wound journey
I’m so blessed and thankful that I’ve never had to deal with my wonderful mother being a narcissist but that mother figure who helped take care me is from the planet where the narcissist come from 😩
I've come up with theories that she possibly abducted me because no ways.
I feel you soul sista
LMFAOO so fucking real 😭🫶🏾
It’s hard to grow when you cannot leave your parents home because money is hard to come by because no one is hiring
Perfect timing my mom been jealous of me since the day I was born dad got out of prison and she threw herself at him to get in the way of our relationship she can go to hell 😅
Toxic people in my life too have been trying to shape me into their image too it’s cruel and mean asf. They don’t like us for who we are
THE TIMING OF THIS VIDEO IS INSANE! YOU LITERALLY JUST POPPED UP ON MY FEED OUT OF NO WHERE BUT PERFECT TIMING. I WAS HAVING DREAMS TOO, I ALSO WANT TO PUT MYSELF OUT THERE AND "JUMP AT THE SUN" (START A UA-cam) ETC 💚 .... whew those mother wounds can be deep. This was way to relatable. - signed an Aries sun/moon/mercury .. my mom is an Leo .. I am so so so proud of your vulnerability you have no idea how you just inspired so many other people/ inspiring artist ...
Thank you so much for your kind words and sharing your story with us a tad love! 🫶🏾
Lmfaooo omg soooo true same! The dreams has been intense. And then boom 💥 this video I am grateful
wheeeew chile !! i don’t like my mom neither she is a narcissist, she copies everything i do yet criticizes me for it, she is fear-based asf. I told myself maybe in the future we will be able to rekindle our relationship but as of now ? no lol. plus i live with my mother so that is 10x worse .. i feel like once i move out on my own & can truly heal alone, only deal with my mom when i want to that’s when shit will get easier.
I literally just go to the beach and sit with Yemaya, the mother of the motherless children. 💙
I’ve watched you for a few years..My mom is also someone who caused me a lot of pain & i hope your healing journey goes smoothly. thank u for making this video❤
I really appreciate you for making this video. No one ever talks about abusive mothers. I finally feel heard. 🤍
Of course love! 🫶🏾
sigh unfortunately i can relate. my mother and i have had a rollercoaster relationship since i was young and i always knew how she treated me wasnt right but i didnt realize she was narcissistic and how bad it was until very recently. i accepted that she will never change and decided to permanently go no contact and i don’t feel guilty or bad about it at all. i dont hate her but i dont love her either. shes simply dead to me. ive been healing and im proud of my progress ❤ shes an aries sun btw
My heart is with you I hope we all can heal from these traumas cause this is heavy on my soul currently 💔 and I break down when I remember how I was done and abandoned, but much love to you all I'm sending hugs🤎
Girl me too, except it's my dad 😭
I ain’t even got time for him so he ain’t getting a video 😭
@@NottyDesigns as he shouldn't 💖
@@naurnaur08 I'm sorry that happened to you, having a neglectful parent is the hardest to handle, I hope that energy leaves you
Same
Same 😭 but I rather talk to him even tho I told him the problem I had with him and he still act the same way as I was a child. But my mom did so much shit to me like kicked me out for no reason and lied on me to the church and she always criticize me for everything, she always talked down on me. Also she admitted that she only wanted one child which is my sister and it's four of us. And I try to talk to her about it and she flipped on me and said that I chose to be homeless even though she told me my stuff better be packed when she get home from work and that means she's kicking me out.
Girl thank you!!! I'm dealing with trying to cut my mom off. I'm also a black girl witch and my ex best friend was a Jehovah's witness these two relationships were so toxic for me. I haven't talked to my "friend" for almost 3 years and my mom for about a week. I deleted my social media and claiming my power thank you for this
Of course! You’re so welcome. 🫶🏾
I’m now 29 and discovered a whole series of my childhood traumas from 2000-2012 without my permission 😊 my mom is a narc… and she’s ruined birthdays, weddings for me. I’ve had a thought of marriage being a scam for me.. never finding love or wanting to marry.. happy of dying alone. I then find my dark feminine Raquelle from Barbie. Girl it’s been 20 years of nothing but trauma and pain. I found my journal from the 2010’s everything I wrote then has now manifested in the 2020’s 😊 People started to notice and discover me in late 2020. I am now famous… hey gorge! ❤
Storytime: in 2013, I had just graduated HS and a older cousin from my dad’s side.. was about to get married.. my narc mom goes, “if I’m not going, they’re not going. Who does she want to be? A celebrity?” 😊 so that ruined the idea of weddings for me 😊
Man, this hit home fr. I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I've been through similar situations. Thank you for sharing, had me in tears thinking about my childhood.
My mom is narc. I did a video on narc parents and the spiritual awakening. Let's heal together ❤
The timing of this video is amazing as ive been coming to terms with the abuse ive been going through and feeling like theres no hope. Thanks notty ❤
I have narc parents. I’m an Aqua sun, Taurus moon and Leo Rising. My mother is a Libra sun, Scorpio moon and idk the rising.
Resonates heavy. Praying for all of our healing
thank you for sharing your experience, it’s beautiful that regardless of what you went through you are still so full of love & light & that’s something no one will ever take away from you. i also loved the astrology takes throughout the video, it just makes more sense lol. my mom is a pisces sun, so definitely delusional.
Ur story sounds so much like mine plus it sounds like im listening to myself
Wow, the timing is divine with this one! I hate mine too & am processing the trauma from her sociopathic ways. I've also been getting confirmation through dreams regarding the situation. I'm ready to reclaim my power. They don't deserve us but we deserve inner peace. Now is the perfect time. Eff them.
I felt so seen by you sharing this. It’s really inspiring seeing someone from a similar background come so far!! ❤️
This sounds a lot like my childhood. When you defend someone & they attack you too. Uuuuuuuugghh soooo annoying!! So frustrating. I stopped defending my mother after that
Happy healing.
My mom is mentally insane & an alcoholic & a bit of a narcissist. She is toxic too & so is my dad. My brother is a lot more empathetic in the sense he’ll take care of me ❤he doesn’t care if i fall on the ground & scrape myself or if i get scratched by the dog because he’s partially a selfish dick. But he would care if the dog tried to attack me. And he better care or else i will never comfort him again when he’s crying
Hello chosen family. Glad to see I am not alone because I am tired of crying and fighting
I always like your eye makeup! ❤
Oh thank you so much! 😭🫶🏾
That was a powerful share, I like how you were able to use your spirit practices to clock certain alignments and how they were manifesting. I wanted to say lovingly to you, that there's nothing wrong with loving her 💙 No matter how unfortunate, wasteful or heartbreaking this may feel. Allow yourself space to truly tap into harnessing this love and letting it pass through you, this is a powerful way to purge all of that trauma out of your system, ' feel it to heal it' as they say 💌 I've also had to delete certain family members, removing any expectation of them and replacing that conditional love of 'you're an X/mom/family-member you should...' to embracing true unconditional love of 'you're you and I see you...'. 👁 Indifference comes with full awareness, not just mental awareness. Yet a true embodied awareness that comes with feeling the full parameters of what 'is', in heart presently, even if what 'is' might drive us to the edge. [not to say you're not already aware of that] You're so lovely Notty, it takes a pure soul to fight for truth/your cousin despite knowing what can happen. Your love is healing - multidemsionally, for yourself and therefore so many others who witness you. Asé. 💙🫂
Wow this came right on time . Thank you goddess for sharing your truth ❤️🌹
Talk about what you need will come find you chilee. Def needed this.
Hey Notty, I am sorry that this happened to you. I can relate alot to what you said with my Mother and it sucks.
I heard you say that you forgot some of your past experiences because of the trauma that you went through and I am sorry about that. The trauma must have been really awful for you to forget some things. I just wanted to tell you that I am sorry about that. Also, there is something called dissociative amnesia. This is basically where you don't recall personal information due to a traumatic or stressful situation. This happens because that's how your brain tries to cope with it (research for a better understanding).
I’m a libra sun Taurus moon Scorpio rising my mom is Scorpio sun cancer moon Leo rising. HEAVY ON THE HOLDING HER ACCOUNTABLE 😂
My mom is like this and so was my grandma. Sadly parents that are very toxic is quite common in the black community and people of color community. Generational trauma 😢
seeing this as the like count is my angel number 304 so ik this video is for ME
We have such a similar story. My mom is a covert narcissist and I didn't take her ish either, I am the oldest daughter and most of my childhood was spent on punishment, being emotional manipulated and protectong my younger sisters. She turned my dad, and two sisters against me so I've been in search of family for a very long time. I have a theory that you embody all the qualities of each sign in your natal chart. I am a Scorpio sun, cap moon and Leo rising, my mom is a Leo sun and Aries moon idk her rising and her chart is all over the place (I tried to use her chart to help our relationship). Also do you find yourself waking up with scratches after having dreams about them?
I’m sorry to hear that and no I don’t! And I will say I do have a well rounded chart tbh lol
Girll I freaking love you and I haven’t seen the whole video yet 💗
Ahh im so honored tysm! 😭🫶🏾
You are so brave, I wish you well on your journey
Omg this sounds like my relationship with my older sisters 😩
I didn’t have any expectations of her sign … but I didn’t expect Pisces 😂
Mine is also delusional 😂 imma have to see if this is a Pisces thing when I look at her chart
Forgot to add my sign, Scorpio ☀️
yup me and my mom are opposite signs i’m taurus she scorpio and i always called her out on her evil ways . @29:34 big taurus energy 😂😂 ‘get yo aosss in gear’ 😂😂😂
I'm a scorpio sun, cap moon, gemini rising. My mom is gemini sun, virgo moon, and cap rising. Pretty sure I was the saturn return baby.
Your no nonsense and being allergic/stiff to a broke man .. o yes. Definitely a Taurus moon 😂 coming from a Taurus sun.
I am sorry you had to go through a lot of things with your mother.. I had to go through a lot of the same things ( emotionally ) And have made peace with my mom being the way she is. Any other black girl watching this, I hope you heal for YOURSELF AND show up and show out for your daughters and sons ( if you have or decide to have children ) in the way you wish someone ( mother specifically) did for you . Or learn to cultivate beautiful relationships outside of romantic titles that help you heal✨🤍
Ur so pretty ❤
This random but the way your palm colour fades into your skintone is so beautiful to me
Me too, no bush-it!
Gratitude and thank you for sharing ! Very courageous and I can relate 😅 hehe
I’m 6 mins in & agree with everything you’ve said 🤣 my mom hates I’m confused. She’s a mean Virgo with a Taurus moon & im Taurus sun Ruth Scorpio moon! My moon is in my 12th house which indicates major mother issues smh
Im libra sun, pisces moon, and Capricorn rising like ur mom 😅😂. My mom is Gemini sun, virgo moon, Gemini rising...and phew! I identify heavy with ur experience...i never gave it back tho. I just absorbed it all. Took trauma n beating, n just ghosted everyone
My mom looks so fragile that I cant hurt her but I am dying rigth now. I hate her cause she does not care about me...
i need makeup tut
I actually have it on my tik tok right now here www.tiktok.com/t/ZPRT6K6Nj/
I have a relationship like this with my dad and it messing up my journey
Im sorry you never got to experience a healthy mother figure.
Me too me too
How do you do a cord-cutting ritual?
Here is a beginner friendly spell with do’s and don’ts! www.patreon.com/posts/83192999?
Does your cat mess with your alters? If so, what do you do about it?
I wouldn’t say mess with them but they do use them as a stool to get onto my desk or to mess around underneath them. I don’t really do much but tell them no or get them out of my room.
Thissss!
my mom is a libra sun cap rising and pisces moon and i’m an aquarius sun sag rising and cancer moon.. must i say more? 😭
Same girl, same.
19:18 I hate when ppl do that
Are you Nigerian? I have the same issue with my mom and it cause a lot of cultural trauma for me 😭
I am not at all! 😭
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Same sis.
Omg same.
My mom is a Taurus sun and I’m a Sagittarius sun. I don’t know our moon and rising signs. She tries her best and always has my back. Really strict and stubborn but caring as a parent
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Can I give u a different perspective? Don't hate anyone bc that energy will affect you more than anyone else. It's better to not give it any energy at all so it becomes nothingness. Stay blessed and I pray your healing! ❤
Thank you but I would appreciate if you do not tell me how to live or experience my reality! 🫶🏾
@NottyDesigns I wasn't telling you how to live just giving a different way to look at things do what works for you! My apologies if I I offended you
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she gave you life though. be thankful for that.
No!
“Life” is not all of that. It’s actually a never ending nightmare for many.
This comment is gaslighting and enables abusers. Shame on you for trying to invalidate her traumatic experience. You're a prime example of societal, dysfunctional norms of mothers reigning supreme simply because they decided to lay down have intercourse & then conceived. It's not a privilege that they "birth" us. They made a conscious decision when they were sexually active, unprotected. Mothers don't need to be worshipped like you implied here.
Damn
My mother and me doesn’t even have a relationship, we don’t even communicate and I’m doing a lot of shadow work because of her
I’m a Aries Sun Aquarius Moon and Leo Rising
My mom is a Leo im not sure of her moon and rising but I am curious
If my thoughts had their own UA-cam channel 😅✨ Metaphysically, I innerstand completely that not only did I agree to this sick twisted vessel to be my parent portal but she is also (like everyone else) just a reflection of me AND a projection of my own thoughts. Humanly though, I’ve been in my bag my entire life and crave for a mother who gives a fk and doesn’t take joy in my misfortune. Le sigh ✨
hi notty! been following you for years but i watched this video just now after having a rough day with my mom and i'm surprised that our moms share literally the same big 3 placements haha, no wonder why i related so much despite our experiences being very different ((i'm so sorry you had to go through that though, hugs 🫂)). it's incredible just how much manipulation and narcissism can be disguised in "good deeds", that thing you said about your mother always wanting to do things for others but she really only does them for herself, same!!! and then they expect things in return, hell no! if you really were kind you wouldn't do favours to expect things in return! nobody asked you for anything!!
btw, i'm a virgo sun, cancer moon and capricorn rising so the inner battles go crazy but day by day i'm trying my best to not pay attention to her because i deserve to be treated with the kindness, openness and love that she isn't offering me.
thank you so much for being vulnerable with us and letting us get a glimpse of your life so we can all heal together