Beauty is still a bad investment. ❤️
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This is a very important sociological concept for women to understand very early in life.
Wielding pretty privilege is conspiring with The Patriarchy.. the intention of the Patriarchy is never to empower women.. Tussle with oppressive systems if you want to… what you benefit from today.. will hurt you tomorrow.
Years ago I read an article. (Back when articles were on paper) and it was talking about trends in cosmetic surgery. What was interesting was they noticed that “career women” invested in facelifts. Whereas “housewives” got boob jobs. They said that they noticed that women in the workforce invested in looking youthful so they could compete with younger colleagues. The article said housewives invested in breast implants and liposuction because they would need to attract a man for marriage if the were to be divorced or widowed.
This video made me think about that. If a woman is able to attract a desirable mate or a woman is able to get a job she is qualified for, then I guess there are long term returns on “beauty”. However, like with any investments, one needs to diversify. For example, while healing from that surgery take some CEUs or work on conversation starters so you may increase your options for finding mates.
Yes
Beauty is a great investment, it just shouldn’t be a woman’s only investment.
I COULDN’T agree more!
Exactly this is more nuanced reasonable take
Agree!
Idk. I still think it’s bad secondary to the fact that beauty changes by country, by continent, and even by state. The concept of beauty is just too vast to actually try to achieve “it.” Wtf is “it” even? F that. You get what you see. And the most one should expect is that I’m clean and don’t offend with my body odor. Otherwise…
100% and kim, who has evolved greatly right in front of our eyes is quite aware of that. Beauty not only changes the way the world looks at you, but when you feel your most beautiful it changes the way you feel about yourself. Also, i think im generally tired of people labeling some things as important and some things as not important. We are all individuals with our own priorities. Do what makes you happy ladies
I think the comments holding onto "beauty is a good investment-just shouldnt be the only investment" miss the fact that beauty is inherently a Depreciating Asset. Thats why its a bad investment.
Its also SO fluid. Sure- clear skin healthy hair and straight clean teeth are seen as the bare marker for respectability. But beauty in the context of strong social currency is only valuable for thise who have Time and Money (which buys the time tbh).
Also worth noting that im busted and working class. But I still have make up that I bust out when I travel and clothes that I wear every once in a while when i go out. I participate in the politics of beauty (poorly!), but i recognize that major investment in my looks is also a major gamble since I have a lot more to lose if it doesnt work out.
Its a doubled edge sword and women are usually left holding the bloody edge - don't do it!
Stop
I think that unfortunately beauty is a great investment. I also agree with the other comments here that it shouldn’t be the only investment for a women. It’s a very shallow society.
Beauty is nice to have, and aggravatingly feels like the thing a woman is supposed to have before she's allowed to be considered for anything else, but if you're basing your life on being beautiful that's just not going to work out for you. It gets you attention, but it doesn't actually get you love, or wealth, or power.
Beauty DEFINITELY gets you love, wealth, and power. It opens doors that average or undesirable women will NEVER have access to.
I am 100% with you but we need everyone to opt out of this if it's going to be something we can reap the benefits from. As a woman in her early 30s who does not wear makeup, do hair or nails, or care about clothes (I was never really taught/socialized to do those things), I do feel like I've saved hours each day that I've been able to invest in my career and other aspects of my life. But I still feel held back being judged for not looking the same and not participating
There is absolutely a penalty for opting out
i feel the same way to an extent. i’m 20 and i don’t really care to do most of those things and i can tell it confuses my peers, but especially the male ones
@@breannajoseph2018 Really? Maybe it's just my profession but I feel like men do not even notice a lot of those things whereas women are like "that's weird"
Rigghhhhtttt???!!!!
Men notice it too. They don’t give you as much attention. They aren’t as nice.
For some of us, beauty is an interest, a hobby, an artistic expression. It’s not an investment.
and that’s what it should be. She is not saying desiring or striving for beauty in and of itself is a bad endeavor. But it’s not a worthwhile investment.
@@imParisthoee It is a worthwhile investment in this world because people are shallow, and if you are not reasonably attractive, unless you are a super genius with 2 PHD often people will not hire you or buy your products. At least level up to a 6.
lol sure
@@cathylake9072 I think that you’re missing the point being made
@@1991-present No i see her point that people should not only focus on beauty. And i agree you need a good education. She has a click bait title. But if you primarly focus on your education and not on beauty you will be highly disapointed in the outcome. Because often it is not what you know it is who you know. And most of the time people dont try to get to know you in this world if you are not attractive. Also can i say my 90 year old grandma still gets pretty privledge when we walk down the street. Even young men are like your grandma is so cute and they still want to give her free things
Lollollol She was a housewife and never had to work always had maids. My grandma's widowed 80 year old friend got married quickly to a wealthy man because she was the pretty girl that got away when they were in High School. I know many miserable unattractive broke women who are highly educated and overworked. While my grandma and her pretty friends always rested in their feminity. Get an education and a career as a fallback, but consistently level up your beauty as high as you can. However if you can only level up to a 5 you better stay in school and become a surgeon or something..... Men feel that if they are working hard to provide they should wake up to a pretty face next to them in the morning. You need to inspire a man to work hard for you and provide. People don't hire or buy products and services from the very unattractive. Just being honest.
This entire comment section missed the point. They read the title and commented.
🎯🎯🎯 And also Patriarchy in general is a bad investment
Its not a bad investment, it just should not be your ONLY investment. It opens doors and gives you access people without would have to work 5X harder and longer to attain. Its a useful tool that can be used and leveraged to set you up where whatever else you bring to the table can be maximized. Also, people underestimate beautiful people which makes it easier for them to fly under the radar in plain sight and make moves no one would ever see coming.
Its like Rihanna, we all know she got that record contract for her beauty and marketability first and foremost... segued it into a top tier music career now she is basically a billionaire, set for life.
I think that is what Kim said. She said, "use it while you can, but don't build your life around it" It is a bad investment because it depreciates, it's fleeting.
@@mina2509 yeah that is literally what kim said she acknowledges that it can make life easier in the original video
Just my opinion, but if you invest in health instead of beauty (you kind of still get the perks of beauty… i.e. clear skin so no makeup, natural physique so more confidence), but even better, you get the perks of being healthy.
Lol, no beloved. That's not beauty, that's health. You can be healthy, fit, in shape and still NOT be considered beautiful. Likewise you can be beautiful and not be healthy.
Investing in beauty has more to do with ATTRACTIVENESS & DESIREABILITY....intentionally meeting the standards of the culture you want to assimilate into or benefit from. This is more about makeup, clothes, surgery, hair, facial features, in some cases skin complexion, (yes in some ways physique), demeanor, and overall presentation. An in shape woman who is a 10 will fare better than the in shape woman who is a 5. A plus sized woman who is a 10 aesthetically will fare much better than the plus sized woman who is a 5.
Simply eating healthy and exercising will NOT help most women, sis. 🙃
@@TomikaKelly I see the distinction you are making, but we can agree to disagree on this one. We are somewhat on the same page, but beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I think being healthy contributes to beauty, regardless of the makeup and clothes you lather on top.
Beauty is a great investment. Eat a nutritious diet, exercise regularly, get a proper amount of sleep and your beauty will reap you a lot of rewards. Not to mention a better quality of life when you're taking care of yourself physically. Beauty, which is closely tied to health, is actually the best investment you can make in yourself.
Perfectly said ❤ My grandmother was in her 70s and still invested in her beauty after being divorced for over 40 years. She tweezed her eyebrows, painted her nails & toes and made sure her clothes were iron and creased to the gods🤣🤣 She just naturally took care of her looks as a woman.
That's not beauty, that's health. You can be healthy, fit, in shape and still NOT be beautiful. Likewise you can be beautiful and not be in shape.
Investing in beauty has more to do with intentionally meeting the standards of the culture you want to assimilate into or benefit from. This is more about makeup, clothes, surgery, hair, facial features, in some cases skin complexion, (yes in some ways physique), demeanor, and overall presentation.
Simply eating healthy and exercising will NOT help most women, sis. 🙃
@@TomikaKelly Agree to disagree. I think a significant amount of what is considered "beautiful", especially throughout a lifetime, is tied to health. Of course there are other societal standards that shift and change over time like having a big butt or boobs. But it's scientifically proven that engaging in healthy habits, like exercising, eating healthy, keeping your stress levels low, getting a good amount of sleep, and not using a significant amount of drugs all make people objectively more attractive to others.
Of course there are people that engage in only healthy habits like diet and exercise that aren't considered beautiful by society. But for the most part, the actions that will be the most likely to make you more attractive into old age are also the ones that keep you healthy.
I think it comes down to your definition of beauty. Mine is long term on the scale of decades and therefore is closely tied to health. If yours isn't, then that's okay. But I disagree that eating healthy and exercising won't help most women. It would absolutely would make most women more beautiful. By societal standards and by objective standards.
“Beauty is a bad investment “ *nails done hair done wearing cute jacket makeup slayed teeth white* gurl please! 😂 it is a great investment! But sure yeah not for your entire life, but stop playin
You missed the point. Lol
I agree with you. A little hypocritical
@@breannajones9044 She made a video on people missing the point and re-explaining her point in under two minutes and people still missed the point I can't with people
Also , she makes this very point from 0:42-1:00. Confused as to how you missed that in such a little clip.
@@Worthless1010 maybe because her point sounds RIDUCLOUS. have you ever thought of that?? lol
Beauty gets misconceived with sexiness, attractiveness, physicality and desirability. Those things are easily dispensable especially when based on superficial standards.
As masculine lesbian thank God I never had to rely to much on beauty and youth 😂
I’m going to disagree with that. I’m noticing a trend of hyper-beautiful “masculine” looking lesbians. Now I’m an old person so I don’t know if this is a version of the unrealistic IG models or if everyone is just filtered beyond recognition now. I don’t know what anyone looks like anymore. 🤦🏾♀️
@@Oonagh72 They don't have to rely on it in my opinion.Maybe some instagram fame
@@Oonagh72 (this is about butch/gender nonconforming people) of people in all groups want to maintain beauty and youth even in a diffrent frame work. a masc lesbian still benefits from having conventionally attractive features, and youth (and yeah i have a think about youth) that said the diffrence patriarchy. Unless your a lesbain in the entertainment biz then the benefits from youth and beauty don’t give you as much material benefits because you are not desired by straight men. there may be benefits for acceptability and within your own community but so much of beauty as an investment is centred around men and their desires
Not all investments are meant to be long term, that doesn’t make them bad investments. Martha Stewart began modeling early in life and put herself through college modeling. She's built an amazing empire and is still modeling. 😉
I agree! I recognized this early in life and decided to focus on being witty and fun instead of resting on my looks. Attractiveness is also very subjective so while one may call you gorgeous, someone else may call you mid (even if to only “humble” you).
To all the comments that are replying saying "well why are you wearing makeup and nails then", there's a difference in the internal vs external investment of beauty. The external is investing in beauty to gain that fleeting social power, whereas the internal is investing in beauty to express one's own style and taste. As someone who struggles with insecurities regarding how I perceive myself and how others perceive me, it can be hard to separate whether a personal beauty investment is internally based or external based, but there is a difference between the two.
Exactly, was waiting for someone to point this out. I don't think Kim is doing it for internal reasons but her new look is recent on her channel.
Incorrect, beauty as the ONLY investment is a bad/risky investment. Pornstars/OF girls can make long term money with beauty but that negates any chance of obtaining respect from most people. However someone like a Malika Andrews, Taylor Rooks, Cari Champion, Molly Qerim, etc. (ESPN journalists) can commodify their beauty while still maintaining respect, why? Because they are also investing in the journalism, advertising skills, public persona and business acumen.
All women should invest in their beauty. It’s work to maintain oneself so of course it’s an investment. Workout 5 days a week, drink a lot of water, take supplements, limit sugar, eat well, prioritize your mental health. Smile a lot and work on being happy within yourself. Happiness always makes women more attractive.
There is great power in a woman’s beauty, youth, femininity, and fertility. Women will always be judged firstly by their appearance and her societies beauty standards.
Beauty doesn’t determine intelligence, work ethic, or moral compass. We all should appreciate the gifts God has given us and if you take care of yourself you will be beautiful in to your later years in life. 🥰
I take alot of supplements daily for skin and anti aging. I also take 2 different brands of collagen. I do not want to look younger but have nice glowing clear skin.
Beauty is a good investment, but it’s not just the cosmetic side. Understanding seduction can get you anything you want. For real
That was absolutely my favorite video by you. Glad to see the update.
When comments don't quite get the point of the video 😂 like getting a car is a bad investment but it's still valuable to get you to your job and back. It ultimately wint directly increase your overall net worth in the long term.
right, that's what I am thinking. The people in the comments just didn't get it lol
You said a car was a bad investment then proceeded to explain how it is a great investment. For Harriet is using the term investment outside of its dictionary definition and that is where the confusion is coming from.
@Lauren Fonseca in accounting, a car is a liability, not an asset, because its value over time decreases. Kim is saying investing in beauty depreciates over time in the same way.
@@ellletea In accounting a depreciable asset can be written off against your taxes. Businesses do this all the time. Electronic equipment, machinery, vehicles, furniture, etc. can be depreciated against your taxes owed.
@@ellletea If you look up the definition of the word investment in multiple dictionaries like Merriam-Webster, Oxford English and Encyclopedia Britannica there is no requirement of length of time, only outcome.
Cambridge Dictionary defined a bad investment as any investment that doesn't make a profit or makes less profit than you had hoped. By this definition going to college can be just as bad of an investment as beauty.
Beauty is a great investment. I still wanna be pretty in my 50s and 60s.
Same
Also, depending on the other “investments” that person is making… shit, she could be converting smiles to US green backs, and then she could be doing any number of things to provide for herself. Maybe she educating herself. Maybe she’s investing in land and prep supplies for the apocalypse?😂idk, I may be biased🤣
PERIOD!!
This has aged well (see TrayceeEdmonds break up with Deion Sanders at age 56 after 12 yrs girlfriend status).
Yes boo
lol that power is just a real as all the other kinds of power… there are illusions of power for sure…. But idk about “fake power”. Are there forms of influence I think are unethical? Yes. But that doesn’t negate the reality of that influence
For example to make this less theoretical. There was this woman who had spent her life invested in thinness to the point she was taking speed to lose weight and maintain weight loss. She married a man while she was thin and several years into her relationship she was struggling with continuing to take speed or weight loss pills because of their effect on her health. She realized the man she was with would be absolutely disgusted with her if she stopped the speed and returned to a larger body. She ended up leaving him because she felt he never really loved her. When you base your relationships , career, etc off of the power beauty, you’re kind of building on sand. You need to make sure that you and others are invested in more than your beauty
hmm you might be on to something ☺️
I think people should stick to talking about things they know about
So glad that you clipped this moment from the live!
I love your passion!! Great content.
Not you doubling back on this concept! 😭. SN: your nails look good in this clip!
She says this while she has been investing heavily in her looks the past few years...
But she can still be aware that it is a bad investment. People still come after her look even with all that money spent in beauty
Level 1 understanding of beauty is physical attraction/youth/healthy procreation. Level 2 is self-care and health. Level 3 of beauty is harmony.
Aging and maturity gives us an opportunity to grow in our understanding of beauty. It serves a basic purpose and deepens in it’s meaning when you reflect on it. Nature is effortlessly beautiful and embraces all of its cycles. Hopefully we all can too.
Thank you!
BBL’s and certain face procedures like buccal fat removal are good examples of beauty being a bad investment. However, I believe in being the best version of myself at all times for myself. So I invest in my beauty through my skin care. I’ve always had a skin care routine since I was 13 because of my acne. However, it wasn’t until the height of the pandemic, that I realized how therapeutic my skincare routine really was. I felt this instance sense of calm in the middle of chaos. Once I started adding in weekly diy manuka honey and aloe Vera masks to reduce my acne scars, it began feeling like I a mini spa day. My skin care routine became my favorite part of my routine and still remains my favorite part of my morning and evening routine. For some women, a reasonable investment in beauty is an investment in their mental health and well-being.
Why do you have your hair and nails done then
Because you can make bad investments and still enjoy it. Cars are not an investment most of the time but people buying them every day
God blessed me with intelligence and I am thankful for that.
If one can use the power that is bestowed on them then it is not a fake power but a real power. Presidents are often in power for 4 or 8 years. You can gain a lot from pretty privilege when you have it and many women have. Like most all things it is not permanent, but the returns can be long term.
So weird when people say this. Sports works the same way…you invest while it works for you and use whatever you have as leverage. You can use sports, modeling, etc while your young and also invest in education, travel….
Also beauty is a great investment because when you don’t start investing in yourself young when you get older it may become more difficult. Take care of your hair early, skin, learn what clothing works for your body. Travel to other countries. I was just in Paris & London. These women 50+ look simple and stunning because they take are of themselves
If you don’t want to, don’t! But it’s a good investment
I think your point is clear *but* you have to admit that wording it as beauty is a "bad" investment instead of saying what you said in this video --that it has limiting social currency and shouldn't be what anyone bases their whole life on is far better wording. But the problem I still see is that (I think) that video came out when you were feuding with the feminity ladies and so it can come off as a dishonest rebutle to an argument they never made (and one I don't think really anyone makes). Most people who talk about investing in beauty also talk about charm, charisma, improving social skills, becoming more cultured, etc. in order to elevate one's self.
Also, of all the investments one can make beauty remains of the most important. Is there a better investment in terms of social currency? Not really. Several studies show beauty/attractiveness being one of the main reasons people get ahead in life.
My motto: Beauty gets you in the door, brains and character keep you there.
It’s like buying a house. Some people will buy the house and live in it forever, take care of it, renovate it, pass it on to their children, etc
The smarter ones will use it as a stepping stone to eventually buy other properties. Turning it into more than just a place to rest and reproduce.
The most tragic people are the beautiful ones who DON’T use it AT ALL‼️
I don’t see this video in the Patreon