Beauty: A Bad Investment | Kjerstin Gruys | TEDxUniversityofNevada
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- Опубліковано 22 бер 2020
- Highly attractive people enjoy a lot of unearned perks in life, and appearance discrimination is a serious social problem. However, beauty is not a strong predictor of happiness or life satisfaction. Dr. Kjerstin Gruys explains why investing in appearance is an exercise in diminishing returns, and why we should be investing more in our social relationships instead. Dr. Kjerstin Gruys is an Assistant Professor of Sociology at University of Nevada, Reno and author of Mirror, Mirror, OFF the Wall: How I Learned to Love My Body By Not Looking at It for a Year (Avery, 2013), which received a coveted "starred review" from Publisher's Weekly. Her sociological research broadly explores the relationship between physical appearance and social inequality, with a particular focus on gender as it intersects with race/ethnicity, class, sexuality, and age. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
Lovely talk & presenter! When she talked about happiness, it reminded me of something I read recently... 50 people at a seminar were asked to enter a room filled with balloons. They were told to write their name on a balloon. The balloons were then placed in another room and the participants were told to find their balloon within 5 minutes. Everyone was frantically searching, pushing, colliding with others & there was utter chaos. At the end of 5 minutes, not many had found their own balloon and many were frustrated.
The rules then changed- now each one was told to randomly pick up a balloon and find the person whose name was on it. Each participant was matched to their balloon in minutes.
The speaker pointed out this is what is happening in our lives...
Everyone is frantically looking around for their own happiness not knowing where it is but our happiness lies in the happiness of others. If you give away happiness, you will get your own.
Great metaphor!
Hmm interesting point thank you
A bit cheesy, but nice.
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@Tami Baldomero : That sounds like a perfect metaphor for politics, and why politics don't work most of the time.
I liked this well balanced talk. I find most talks on beauty are on the extreme ends of the spectrum- beauty is all that matters vs beauty doesn't matter at all. I do think investing in your beauty and appearance is important as it reflects how you think and carry yourself. It's also important that it is not treated as the be all end all.
Agree that vanity is superfluous. BUT!
You should ALWAYS take care of yourself (eat well, exercise, fast).
fast?
@@AnnoyingLordFoolofLands and furious.
I don't think fasting is necessary
@@xXRedErrorXx seems counter intuïtive to me.
@@AnnoyingLordFoolofLands ?
Why not work on both beauty and relationships?
“This isn’t a hard science” but neither is happiness. I only point this out to say that it seems to me the speaker says beauty isn’t a hard science as a means to take away from the understanding of beauty as an important predictor of success but then doesn’t seem to acknowledge the same lack of hard science as a problem to the happiness perspective.
Exercise is vital for our health and the quality of our muscles. Without exercise, you put unhealthy weight on, you get tired easier & earlier in life, you develop heart problems and you look unattractive and lazy.
Please. The perpetuation of the species, like all animals, starts with attraction to a quality mate. Attractiveness is part of that. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, yes - but no one’s relationship ever started with “well, I thought he/she was hideous, but...”
This talk in wider perspective is good, beauty matters but it isn't everything. We all do need to have a point of diminishing returns when investing in our appearance for sure.
Also some people here in comment section need to watch this entire talk before making a rhetoric statements like "why is she wearing makeup?then or how misleading the title is" If you can't, then don't comment and judge.
That's right: we're all just OK. And that's fine.
aww. tell that to beauty companies, modelling companies, artist agencies. "being attractive might increase the chance for someone two swipe you right" well the more people I socialize with the more likely I will find better quality in my relationship, no??? I believe that self-care should be the priority instead, but saying "beauty is bad investment" is kinda reaching. some careers also obligate you to do beauty to the extreme. can you blame these people? for using beauty as a 'painful tool' instead of a 'fun tool'?
Being beautiful is central. Your face determines how other treats you. This determines personality. If we get every knowledge empirically, then every opinion about the others and ourselves is based, at least at the start, on beauty. Then, it's feedback loops, where our feelings determine how we act, others reaction determine our feelings, and so on, and that's how personality forms. It's all beauty. Just beauty.
And we poor human beings are the victims of this reality for forever? Guess not.
Trick is not going overboard because you can only improve it up to a point .
One of the bests Tedtalks I've ever watched
This may not be a beautiful thing to say but, let the paradigm shift in perception commence
Beauty is not a bad investment. We all want to improve our appearance, it makes us feel like we are making an effort and care about ourselves. Also beautiful clothes make us look fantastically beautiful.
8:15 I totally agree with and believe this sentence
Explain the colour of your hair.
it’s not about beauty as much as it is self expression
@@angelicayeleshwarapu I find a lot of women say one think but do another. Self-expression does not cover what she advocates.
Som Thing you’re generalizing what you’ve seen “a lot of woman say” vs do and applying it to this woman. Of course she can express herself through her hair without doing so to be beautiful or more attractive. I’ve dyed my hair green because I felt like dying it green, not because of how it looked (I wouldn’t have dyed it green if I wanted to look good). So please don’t generalize or assume.
Great job, Kjerstin!
It's an interesting point of view that certainly takes some weight off many people's shoulders. However, one shouldn't underestimate the power to change your body and thus your appearance in order to feel better. For some people, achieving a dream body brings you a great sense of satisfaction. Of course, you have to have fun during the process and enjoy the journey, but you will also be extremely happy to see yourself in the mirror after some time of hard work.
In order to really change, though, you have to do things by the book. This requires a level of commitment that very few have and, especially a degree of knowledge that even fewer people have. So, love yourself, whatever your appearance, but don't be ashamed or afraid to embark on a responsible end beautiful journey of change if that's how you feel. My opinion
I’m cool with being a 6. On a scale from 1-10, 5 is average. So I’m above average. I don’t need to be a supermodel. I can’t imagine how annoying that must be to get hit on by men and hated by women all the time for the super attractive women.
On a scale from 1-10, 5.5 is average. Of course only true if people were using a linear scale, which it is never really gonna be.
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One of the best and most inspirational Ted talks!
Thank you for this insightful talk
Tip: Stop reading women's magazines ;)
thanks problem solved ;)
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She makes a good point physical appearance is one thing that makes someone likable but there are other things that are important which is why judging someone on their looks is one
Life is beautiful. Some people just remind you of that more than others - Erica Bauermeister
I believe the science degree she acquired falls into the same category meaning it was a bad investment as most people I know all this by nature without having spent a minute thinking about this.
The conclusion of this matter is that current education is a waste of time and money and energy and this exactly is its purpose.
Taking time away from important things and forcing people to spend the precious time on useless research
Lovely talk. I wish it were true for the bad investment part... I do instead 100perc agree that beauty is not a predictor of happiness.
Good info
In a way I never thought of
If you would like to open the Turkish subtitles, it would be a great convenience for us to understand.
I think that with this current shift in the world many people will wake up and find that things like makeup, fashion, and other material possessions (unless they are part of one's livelihood) are not as important as the value society has forced us to place on these things for the sake of economics.
Damn it, TEDx, could you NOT pump the 12kHz band? SSSSucSSSeSSSSful, conSSStant. Argh.
Hey this was a great ted talk
The title itself is very attractive
Intelligence never stop being beautiful
Am I the only one who noticed she would compare a 1 to a 4 but she didn't compare a 2 to a 5. You should look up those data. spoiler alert... The moral of the story is, be gorgeous or be satisfied.
My "Narrow definition of beauty" would be to be NARROW /Not W - I - D - E !
Beauty is everything
I love this!
Very true
You are all beautiful. *It’s simply what you see that makes all the difference.*
Very good!
Social "science". Check. Purple hair. Check. Thick glasses. Check.
123 456 the scientific method can be applied to any field
@@Amandanumnum That is some deep scienceyyyyyyy shieeeeeeet right there. Me no understand beep boop. 😂
@@Amandanumnum the science method applied to social studies is not the same applied to those as physics, chemistry, maths, etc. (Sorry for my English)
@@cristianjorquera8952 which parts? The philosophy is the same, generating testable hypotheses, and applying these hypotheses to situations in practice
@@cristianjorquera8952 i would even go as far to argue that in ways the scientific method in social studies is even more present, due to a greater amount of skepticism and falsifiable hypotheses in general. A lot of math-based science is taken at face value, and many proposals are not exactly testable.
"I still occasionally love playing around with makeup and fashion" when you say it's not worth it. "if it's not fun it's not worth it". "context matters". "fun matters". This turned so subjective from those stats at the beginning, frankly denying everything you said. At least that's what went through my mind at the end of the video.
I wonder why it wasn't a top-model who made this talk.
Aírmana til Aujm there’s one that a top model gave too about beauty and it’s temporary nature .. on ted talk
WE ARE ALL BEAUTIFUL IN DIFFERENT LOOKS IN DIFFERENT COLORS IN DIFFERENT SIZES IN DIFFERENT HEIGHTS AND ETC. HAVE AMAZING DAY ALL GOD BLESS
3:36 I see your point.
Presentation is Awesome! rely like it.👍👍👍👍
I don’t want to be beautiful so I can be happy. I want it for the aesthetics. Give me tragically beautiful and sad girl aesthetic plz. Lol jk
Hey,girl,sis
Never should you say that all the girls must to be happy,the girl in life is a beautiful i am Arabic girl Algerian and i see all girls beautiful .the beauty you can find it in hards,if your hard clean don't worry just be happy
Mee too i 've been sad but i make my hard clear love people,help them,no problem.naw all my country love me ,not all cause i have enemy to but i am happy cause i believe my self .i am talking so much but i am just try to make any girl happy
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As if people bought beauty products as an investment for work success or something.
People improve their physique and buy beauty products mainly for one thing and we all know what it is.
But why are popular people rude
When was this recorded? Social distancing in full effect ppl.
How do you improve the quality of our relationships?
How many people are sat within 2m of each other at these TED talks.
Love ❤😘
She achieved a flawless victory over her eating disorder. Michael must be thrilled.
What if you're attracted to the unattractive?
I think it's a good thing to try and become more beautifull by hitting the gym or eating more healty foods. She should try that instead of making a Ted Talk excuse video for accepting less of yourself and not working towards something that bennifits you in many ways.
I like this talk...
4:04 When I heard those numbers a thought, wow, those are low, while I thought that guy is not that bad looking....
4:58 Okay, that explains it, we rate 1 to 10, not 1 to 5, never heard that before. Lol.
Great Important Talks
This Lovely Lady is Delivering
Investing in relationships includes remaining attractive to your partner.
Please türkish translate
Its recorded during epidemic ....
Kjerstin
Earth is weird
Hm...nah.
She plagiarized parts of this from For Harriet founder Kim Foster. Cite your sources, Kjerstin!
stay safe everyone. because
Eat Sleep And Corona repeat 😲
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*After reading the title* This seems to be something she doesn't have so she's telling others to dismiss it so she can benefit. Sorry lady, beauty IS a factor in a woman's life experience and you should just be happy you are succeeding career-wise, let it go.
That is not true
Stop printing super skinny super models on fashion magazines. Instead choose real everyday women. All this has an impact on the generation to come. Beauty is only skin deep, they need to understand that.
@SpankBuda the whole point of this TED talk is beauty : a bad investment... Read the comment properly before replying. Young teenager look at fashion magazines all the time and looking at those models make them think they have to look like them which leads to eating disorder and anorexia. Don't reply for the sake of replying look at the bigger picture here.
@SpankBudaBTW it's already been done.. Femina depicts all kinds of women not just super models.
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In her case it's a bad investment. Polish a turd, it's still a turd.
In a word: You should enjoy the things you do, don't get overloaded. This is not that inspiring
This is some pseudoscience bs haha she just talked herself in circles and they all bought it.
Awww... Showing her husband to the crowd and telling them he's scientifically very atractive.
Who says nerd girls aren't sweet?
She's full of make up, talking about how u should not wear a lot of make up
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This whole ted talk was just an excuse to show she has a handsome husband. Silly.
Beauty products.. yes, most times less is more... But doing cardio and gym? that should be normal...
Also she says she had issues, and now she is recovered..
yeah recovered some extra pounds...
i am not saying its be all end all, but let us be here honest..
but if you look like a slob hippo.. then you're chances to land a partner are low...
this system works in the grand scheme of things since we formed first society's.
Beauty ? Just do not eat 10 trucks full of food more, as you need, just because you can ! It is bad investment and it destroys your health.
Seek Jesus. Repent. Jesus loves you unconditionally. Jesus saves.
That poor husband got stuck with a purple haired land-whale...