Havilah Cunnington: Exposing The Lies Surrounding Submission (FULL EPISODE) | Better Together TV
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- Опубліковано 27 чер 2024
- This week on Better Together, Christine Caine, Holly Wagner, Jennie Lusko, Zai Chandler, and Havilah Cunnington explain the safety, power, and blessing that can be found when spouses love, honor, and submit to one another.
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0:00 Intro
0:40 Getting comfortable with submission
6:40 Exposing the misunderstandings of submission
14:46 Submission to God comes first
20:15 Power in partnership
34:26 Speaking the language of your spouse - Розваги
To that one soul reading this Nothing is impossible with GOD. GOD is going to turn your pain into joy!No eyes has seen,no ear has heard,and no mind has imagined what GOD has prepared for you and your family. Tell GOD, "Thank You."
Amen.
Amen
Amen!🩵🙌
Thank you
Amen
“Submission taps in on an insecurity.” YES. My husband and I talked openly about this today. Married 9 days now ❤
Congratulations!!
Congratulations!!!!
Congrats ❤
Whoa! Was just talking about this with my co-workers today. I’m as single as single gets but I see the Lord speaking to me about SUBMISSION already.
Praying for my discernment partner as the Lord is probably working on him too right about now.
Yep! He's probably working on Him already 🙂
I'm a slave to My MASTER ❤❤❤
Wow out the gate this convicted me . And hits home as I’m a nurse . Wow . I been in a mental war over this for a while . God really led me to this and I know he’s been hearing my prayers and this really streamlined everything for me . I felt like no one understood how I was feeling and to hear someone in my career make that decision is just something I really really needed at this time.
I feel it is FAAAR better to be alone than in a terrible marriage. I know from experience from my previous marriage. My peace is worth far more than someone to sleep next to or have sex with. Now that I'm in a beautiful, loving marriage it's amazing and I'm grateful for that. But I'd never sacrifice my joy and peace just to have a man. I hope the woman in this interview who said it's worse to be alone than in a terrible marriage mistakenly said that backwards
I think she said 'some people believe it's worse to be alone than in a terrible marriage' so she doesn't agree with it
@@Toni.adebisi Gotcha. Thanks for the clarity.
I would love to hear more of Chris Caines life story. Like when she came to the Lord and left her boyfriend that she was satisfied with. And her story of meeting Nick
This is the best of all the topics in the “Better Together show I have watched “
As a young female thats a bit shooketh from Trauma.. I appreciate this ♥️🥰 God bless you guys
Thank you ladies! Such beautiful gems! I loved the idea that Submission is beautiful when it's coming from me knowing I'm powerful, not powerless. I'm powerful to love him. Powerful to serve him, powerful to be the best I can be in our relationship.
Discernment partners ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 so beautiful explained!
I absolutely love this discussion about submission is and what it isn’t! Thanks so much for sharing the whole video so we have a full perspective on the topic 😊❤
Wow, finally 50 mins episode!
This conversation is indeed needed and blessed on so many levels. Thank you ladies for submitting to God to help others. Listening has totally altered my thought process about an impulsive decision I was about to make. I’m so grateful that I’m in tears.
Hello beautiful women of faith. This conversation is so good and a good learning experience because I am married and submissions was not something that I wanted to do. But I looked at the submission in the wrong way not as it is written in the Word. God bless you beautiful ladies. ❤️
what a eye opening discussion, im still single waiting on God if marriage is part of His plan for me. Its true the idea of submission in marriage can be scary especially if you have been single for a long time and you get used to rely on yourself and what you discussed today helps me a lot whether I will be married or not I know now that God wants me to submit to Him first. Thank you for sharing this :)
Colossians 3:23:24..."And whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord and not to men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the reward of the inheritance; for you serve the Lord Christ."
If you have an issue with submission because it resulted in abuses before, remember what Paul wrote above. Then take it to the Lord in prayer, asking Him to show you what He means by submission. God does not expect a person who suffered abuse under submission previously, to embody submission without crippling fear.
The Lord knows your heart needs to be healed from a relationship with Him, before you can apply any scripture without it causing more damage, caused by others. If you fear submission, and you know God's word says it's a good thing - then bring it to the Lord to heal. Don't expect your willpower to hold scriptural ground, when you've been hurt before. You don't need to, when Jesus promised to become the healing balm to your heart. Invite Him in. Ask The Lord to show you, how. He is not slow to answer.
Wow, I’m blown away at her testimony of submission
Thank you ladies for this video. It is the best explanation regarding submission🥰. You're right about the wrong picture being painted about submission from both guys and girls.
Thank you ladies, love this topic ❤. Being a divorced women and now a Christian
This was so good! You ladies nailed it! ❤️
Helped me to expand my knowledge and challenge my association with the word, “submit.”
What an AWESOME WORD!
Speaking the language that he hears is a brilliant*concept Saying things in the language your husband your speaks instead of your language is a loving way to communicate that can build a life that both partners love🔹
This is a Word I so needed to hear.. Thank you Jesus! Thank you ladies. God is good! 🙌🏽🙏🏽❤️
I love this conversation!! Discernment partner and submission is so awesome!!!
Such a blessing! The prayer was so powerful!
Thank for this topic, I have learnt so so much.
That was beautiful. Thank you.
This was incredible. Thank you for the variety of perspectives and the beautiful prayer at the end.
What a great episode! Thank you for your transparency
Wow powerful. Im blessed to watch this video
❤❤❤amazing amazing amazing !!
So beautiful... this conversation touched on so many areas! So beautiful, thank you all for opening up and letting God speak through you.
Love this 💕
Beautiful.
This was really helpful to me. I'm going to share this with other women, especially my daughters 🙏🏾
Wow that is really something to give up a nursing career, especially after paying and going to school for 4 years. I would feel like I wasted all that money and time. But if it is better for the relationship, and what God wants, in the end it is the best decision. I don't think I could work with my husband, we clash too much. We worked together for 4 months years ago doing housecleaning and I was like nope this isn't gonna work, not for us. So he went and got a job and I remained housecleaning. We have been married 40 years this year and I have learned that we just don't agree on everything and it's ok, he can have his ideas and I can have my own, it's ok to disagree on things or not always see eye to eye.
Enjoy your plan and purpose while you are young. Your 40-50’s are young women!
I think love and respect is easily understandable than the word submit that causes women to run!! Teach em to respect and be agreeable or yielding and in return he wud love u and go above and beyond for u his wife and even give u more than wat u lost in submission. I remember a nurse that makes her husbands lunch everyday . And I asked why do u always do that ? Y can’t he make his lunch or buy lunch himself? She told me when u allow him make his lunch n do all the things u supposed to do for ur husband, ur giving ur power away. There’s power in submission. If he learns to cope without u then u lose ur place or value as ur no longer his helper. if anything happens he wud miss u dearly and won’t be able to do away with u as fast.
Very good 🤣🙏
Amennnn🎉I belive
Amen 🙏🏿
I cannot get over this topic 🥹 sooooo good❤
It's deep beautiful also interested in each one of u are saving souls lifting spiriis opening up expressing able to express not evenbody who are expeessive each one ofu has beautiful gift from god
Amen
"Think the year 2023"
Thank you for your messages. Am actually married to the wrong man is not a believer and I did backslide when I married him. He is good when when we have enough money but when we do not have any he is always an angry man and I am thinking of leaving him as I do not want my son to witness his anger. My son says give him one more chance when am thinking of leaving himm. Am only working casual bec I am taking care of my son but I need to find full time job as the cost of living is too high now and his earning is not enough
Have you asked God what you should do?
I'm sorry you're in this situation. I think your move to get into full time employment is a positive one and will be empowering for you to know that if it comes to a decision, you can take care of yourself and your son. Probably very confusing and super hard to hear clearly from God so I would pray and ask for guidance BUT still act. I'd also suggest not discussing your thoughts on your marriage with your son especially if you are very much back and forth in your mind. He will be finding this more stressful than you realise so take it to an adult friend. If you have access to women's aid type helpline, give them a call. They don't mind how many times you call. They won't rush you to a decision. Start to build towards a place of emotional safety. You'll be ok.
Pray, pray, pray. Watch the movie war room
Ruth does he get violent or is it more he’s just irritable and angry? If he gets violent then please separate and tell him you both need counseling. If he’s willing to go to counseling and stay in counseling then that’s one thing but if he’s not willing then stay separated. Yours and your sons safety is utmost. God does not call us to live in abuse. If he’s just irritable and angry then fast and pray and when the time is right discuss it with your husband. Do what you can to help your finances when they are tight? Cook from scratch? Do low cost activities like the library reading program for kids? How old is your son?
What if your husband doesn't look at you when you're trying to talk to him. Any advice?
He says he listens and even can repeat what I've said.
But I don't feel validated, respected and my confidence has taken a hit.
Ezer kenegdo 13:49
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12:55 Adam and Eve ate the fruit.
A Fig 🌳 perhaps.
They grabbed the closest thing to cover their shame… which were *fig* leaves.
I also think that men need respect and women need love. If women submit and respect their husband's and men love their wives so much as christ loved the church, each individual gets what they need. Then submitting yourself to each other is just respect and love for one another
It's important to separate cultural preferences from biblical principles. In the middle east, cultural preferences put most women in the hijab but principles in the Qur'an don't necessarily enforce this. Similarly, Bible belt hospitality and matriarchal preferences aren't necessarily enforceable by true readings of biblical text. Christians should refrain from prescribing godly behaviour on the basis of gender. I've known several DV cases in churches I've attended over the years, not helped by submission messaging. Until you can guarantee every listener's safety, Church , leave this topic alone. Mature people will behave accordingly to manage their marriages.
??? Did you listen to this whole message?
And leaving this topic alone won’t make it not exist in marriages! Which is why they are saying both men and women need to know and understand exactly what God asks of them in a marriage or relationships!
@@Va-WaBwanaYesu unfortunately Women are more susceptible to "wives submit to your husband's" than men are to "love your wife like Christ loves the church. Often men aren't in church to hear their part. So it just ends up as "women submit". Women live to tell other women to be subservient and I always question the motives behind that. It can get a bit Handmaid's Tale in the messaging. Women are key in church growth demographics and family church dynamics so I understand why churches want to reinforce women submitting to whatever keeps them in church but I wish they could find another way.
🎉 I found it very disrespectful when the lady from Australia said that her man has to get on the cross for her and she laughed that was very offensive❤