What age gap is too much for relationships?
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I’m also in an age gap relationship 37 years difference been together eight years. It’s the best relationship I’ve been in. We also don’t care what others think.
That is great! Thanks for sharing.
My wife is a Colombian 20 years younger than me, we live in Australia and have been married 5 years. Initially the age gap did worry me, but now I feel much younger as I am far more active with her. When I look at my friends my age they all look and act so old.
Yes. I know what you mean. :-)
Dan you're smart man. I am 59 and most of the women my age are overweight, uptight, and broke. Compatibility is what matters most.
True. lol. But I would add ... most people.
@@VagabondAwake I agree
Looking at all those westerners lining the bars in Pattaya I think the women would think the same of those men.
My wife have been together for just over 6 years.
The age gap is 48 years.
We live in Thailand.
She is govt.worker.
The age gap is not a big hurdle.
We are very happy.
Goodluck to all.
Wow. I think that is the largest age gap in these comments!
Too much
Totally depends on happiness of the woman. In good old USA, you would be screwed, my man.
I agree with both of you. Also, that you cannot MOLD someone into someone they are not,is a big one.( It's not healthy)Sounds like you two have a healthy relationship. I enjoy your videos!! Thank you!
Thank you Pamela.
She looks extremely elegant in this, simply stunning.
She is more the reason, IMO.
I agree, She is a beautiful woman.
I agree as well 😊
what a wonderful way to talk about something that is really becoming more and more the norm. my wife and i can totally relate as im 56 and she is 28 we've been together 7 years. we love to travel and enjoy eating food from all over the world. as my wife tells me " food is life ". in the big scheme of things we are only here on earth a very short time and should live it to the fullest.
Well said.
The important thing is that you are both adults and make the decisions that are right for you. Adults don't need to worry about age difference as long as they get along well together. I'm 42 and dating a 29 year old Filipina.
Exactly.
You guys are a great couple! Unfortunately people think that they have the right to judge others or comment on their relationships. Relationships are a private matter between two people. If it works for you, that's all that's matters.
Exactly. :-)
If it’s so private as you say , why go on UA-cam and show the world your business , and not expect any comments ?
@@paultaylor2611 Because they're free!
@@paultaylor2611 why make a comment at all unless of course it is to show everyone how negative you are , maybe just maybe you should have kept your negativity "private"
@@BraveFartz Ying /Yang
I'm 49 and my colombian girl is 23 and I work out and feel great ! And we're both happy as can be ! 😎
Well done. Are you from Montenegro?
@@wanderingdoc5075 I get that alot no I am not
@@renemontenegro6143 Oh haha. Have you ever been there? I'm planning a 2 week trip there this summer to look at Plan B real estate
@@wanderingdoc5075 I heard its gorgeous never been might plan a trip there , in the Movie James Bond's Casino Royal some parts of the movie was shot in Montenegro see the movie and you will see, take care my man
Thanks for sharing you two. I haven't been to Montenegro either. It is on the list though. :-)
Another great video guys! I'm in a 39-year age gap relationship and, after 3 marriages, this is the best partnership I have ever had, After 4 years, there is as much love and respect as there was at the start. You see the problem with an age-gap is usually not between the couple but with other people. My GF often gets asked "Doesn't he get tired easily and have a job keeping up with you?" but if I was missing a leg or confined to a wheel chair they would never ask this kind of question. So I think, if other people have a problem with our age difference it's pretty likely coming from either jealousy or insecurity. The husband maybe sees how different his life could be and his wife is worrying that he might be tempted to try out a "vagabond" lifestyle.
Peter G that is amazing. And inspiring !! Thanks.
Peter G can you say where she is from ?
In the u.s you can't care what family or friends think they can take a hike if they don't like it I found they learn to accept her in time .im in a 34 yr age gap 33 -67 . I think what unfair if she has no children yet want one most of them do even if it means adoption
Great story Peter.
Funny how the same people who demand tolerance, inclusion and equal treatment for all… well… except… older man with younger wife.
28 years difference here been together 15 years and going strong!
24 years difference here, been together 10 years, married 5.
Congrats!
I am impressed by how well you two seem to get along despite spending so much time together travelling, which can be very stressful at times.
We have our days, but we spare you any unnecessary drama.
I asked my amour when his birthday was when we first started dating and his response “ There is no age in love “ I am 23 years his senior chronologically speaking but he’s years older than I am in many ways. Life is too short to be concerned with age unless of course you want to have children. You are obviously well suited if you can travel together for this long. Evolved souls live and let live..
So true. Travel is the greatest indicator of compatibility.
You look so happy together. Who can say that is wrong?
Exactly.
I have watched numerous UA-cam videos and read heaps of articles on this subject and I have to be honest and say that if only I had watched your video first then I would not have wasted time watching the other videos or reading the articles. Well done to both of you and just to see how both of you look at each other is awesome .
Great video guys. Qiang seems to have her head screwed on straight and is very intelligent. She is definitely not in this relationship for the money. You both have a wonderful relationship and respect each other. I’m not sure why you decided to do a video like this because it is your business, it’s not anyone else’s choice. Cheers!!!
Thank you F&T. Just trying to help others think this through for themselves.
I believe in true love and this video encourages me to continue, congratulations to you both.
Our pleasure!
I really like you two! You really thoroughly explore topics w/ such openness! Thank you
Wow, thank you!
Good for you guys. Live it up.
We will do our best!
I met my GF when she was 29, now she is 33, we've been together over 4 years, and I am 58. We get along together so well!!
Very cool.
Is probably oriental, or from a developing country
My wife and I met when she was 25 and I was 63. We have been married for 17 years and have two children who are now 18 and 16. I am now 82 years old she is 43. We have never had any arguments or cross words. I do my best to never utter the word NO to her. I want more for her that I want for myself. She reciprocates. We believe that we are together because God brought us together thru the internet and that we are truly Soul-Mates.. I have said many times that if a World Class beautiful woman came to me with several million dollars in her hands and said "If you come with me I, and this money is yours" I would tell her to go away because I could never replace my wife at any price or possible benefit. My advice is for anyone considering an age difference relationship to give it every possible chance for success as the age difference is only mathematical. It's what is in the hearts of the two people.
I am glad for you
Awesome!
Great story Allan. Thanks for sharing. Dan
Some heros don't wear a cape...
you are an inspiration to millions. ok to me.
Very good! It's all about interests, goals, and maturity aligning...
So true!
My partner and I have been together almost 8 years. I am 78 and she is 31. It did bother me at first .
We get on very well.
As others here have said. It is other people who have the problem.
We live in Thailand and I wish everyone all the very best.
Agree.. same interests same goals = age is just a number.. your both an inspiration
Shawn Salisbury, thank you for taking the time to watch and comment! :-) Dan
Great discussion. Gives me hope! It’s never too late…
Thank you!
Age difference is okay when you are still active and healthy, I'm in a relationship with someone who is 12 years younger than me, but I do think how is it going to be when I'm 10 years older that will make me 77 he will be 65, that when the cracks will show, he will probably still be active and I'll be pushing 80 and who knows what health issues will be there.
As much as we like to think that someone will be there for us, we can become a burden that definitely effects their lives dramatically.
Enjoy it while you can, as long as it doesn't take away from the younger partners life.
If you love each other and want to be together, its nobody's business.
My husband is 15 years younger than me and we have been together for over 10 years. Each day is a gift, one can never know the future, live each day fully. Take care of today and don't worry about the future.
both will be old at that point. so no cracks.
@@leemelvin6514 i agree. The older one gets, the less noticeable the age difference is. Infirmity can happen at any age.
Even if your partner is the same age as you, doesn't gurantee you will make old age together. Death and divorce happens at all ages. I say ride a great relationships as long as you can.
Glad you both are happy and sooooooo smart Sounds like a great team.
Thank you DavidLMT. Rocks! Thanks for watching and commenting. :-) Dan
My boyfriend and I met online, not through a dating app. It's amazing how people are brought together. I wasn't looking and could've/would've continued alone. Then he showed up. We've been friends for nearly 3 years, in love for nearly 2 and I couldn't imagine life without him at this point. We have a 27 year age gap and our relationship is long distance. I suppose in the eyes of society, specifically western society, we are the triple threat. Gay, age gap, LDR. It bothered me at first but not anymore. We share ample amounts of love and respect for each other. The distance between us is downright painful sometimes but knowing we will soon be together makes it tolerable. Thanks for sharing, Dan and Qiang! 👋🌞
My partner and I have an 18 year age gap. Thought it was big early on but now it's fine. Just be happy.
Hopefully travel will get back to normal before too long. :-)
My partner and I have a 23 year age gap, the key is constant communication and doing things together.
Thanks....I really needed to hear your comments! I'm dating a lady 42 years younger than me....I hear the said and unsaid comments from my friends.....but we are happy together and that's what matters....she is well educated and her family is wealthy in any countries standards....if we continue it will be great! if we don''t it was great!
Age is not the primary issue
It's education
And lifestyle .
It shows Qiang is well educated and refined in manners and she proudly represent the avg. Malaysian ladies.
Yess we are classy, pretty and have the brains to boot.
Dan sure hit the jackpot!!
Thank you Zayetoune J Cotterell! Your interactions help our channel grow! Have a great day. :-) Dan
I love your story and also believe that age is just a number. The only important factor in a relationship is personal compatibility (ie: goals, needs, etc.). I was in a 20 year age gap marriage here in the US. Unfortunately, it didn't last. The social influence and lack of acceptance here is huge and was the major contributing factor to the demise of our relationship. It is truly ashame. Much love to you both.
Yes. Peer influence is strong when you are in your home country. When you leave one of things I have appreciated most is the silence from other people's opinions due to the language barrier.
Beautiful couple. You two seem happy and well adjusted to each other. I love Qiang's hair style!
Thanks Beverly. :-)
Very inspiring for us older guys! Looking very happy!
Thank you Edwin.
@@VagabondAwake If you had to choose between Panama City, Quito or Mexico city which place would you say is more advantageous to meet people for dating? Sorry for long sentence;) Maybe a video idea?
You guys look organic together. And in harmony. If someone questions your union for any reason, that's them, not you. Some folks are hard to please, so why even try :)
Good point. We are really sharing this video just to help other people think it through. :-)
Oh my she is funny, a delightful, easy-going woman. Good catch Sir!
Thank you David.
You guys are a great couple - wishing you continued happiness.
Nazly and I also met online (introduced by a mutual friend for language study). She is 13 years younger than me, we've been married for 11 years now, and are very happy together. The first 3 years were a long distance relationship. An age gap like this is pretty normal in Colombia and no one has said anything negative here in Canada - not that we would care about their opinions anyway! 😉
13 is completely fine as you are not old enough to be her father
You guys make a great couple Dave. :-)
Did 30 year gap. It was ok. Thanks so much for this. Very generous as usual. Good luck folks !!
You are welcome Sway P. Thanks for commenting. You are helping our channel grow. Dan
Qiang and you look beautiful as a couple! I am so very, very happy to watch your videos and you are living my dream!...keep it up.
Thank you Richard.
Respect is obvious between you and that’s all that matters!
I couldn't agree more Claude Hache. Thanks for commenting. UA-cam grows our channel faster when people comment! So we really appreciate it! Best, Dan
Watched this again. Loved it just as much second time around. Thanks!
Awesome! Thank you!
25 years is certainly a gap. That said…they certainly seem happy and fulfilled, which is hard to find at any age.
I had a gf for 5 years who was 25 years younger. The reasons be broke up had nothing to do with the age difference.
Well said.
I really admire both of your relationship and insights
Thank you Dan
I agree with you about personal changes from your 20’s - your 50’s. My first wife (in the US) and I grew apart to the point of being more roommates than a married couple with share goals. I
Me too.
Wonderful candid video! Thank you for sharing.
Thank you!
Depends on the intent. People are usually wary of "mature" people grooming young & impressionable or scheming gold diggers preying on elderly. If no fraud or illegal activities are involved then its no one else's business
That makes sense.
Thank you for these words of yours: i've been blessed with youth, energy and personal drive but I turn 70 this March 2023. Not wanting to be cruel, but typically women my age are in grandmother mode and I cannot relate to their values.
I know what you mean. I would add that I know fuddy-duddies of both sexes as well as high energy people of both. But we love what we love and go with however you are wired. :-)
thanks for your candid interview. Having been a widow three times and 78 years old, i participate on dating sites and seem to attract women in their late 30s, sometimes mid 30s. I'm pretty well established financially not rich by any stretch of the imagination, but find that i am less attracted to women in their 50s and up. I have 6 children who live their own lives. Your story is encouraging but leves me nervous still, because of the age difference. None of the ladies I communicate with seem to have a issue with my age, but we have yet to have face to face meetings. I'm hoping to find a relationship similar to yours, obviously not a mirror image of yours. As a final point, my financial picture will change to a more positive picture so humanitarian work will be possible for me to engage in. Thanks for letting me ramble on, nice video, makes me more nervous but i will learn whats best for me. Ciao
Robert S I'd watch out for their motives I think. Most ladies ARE low quality is the hard truth.
Ps. Sorry you became a widow so many times.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts Robert.
Please find someone in their 50s who is also established. Plus, she will still be way younger and able to take care of you in your older age while not looking to cash in. I say this with all due respect for your financial situation, your age, and the fact you probably want to leave your estate to your adult children and young grandchildren.
I would be suspicious of the motives of women in their 30's being "attracted" to a man in his late 70's. They are attracted to financial help and security not physically attracted. Just as you aren't attracted to women your own age. You even say you aren't attracted to women 20-25 years younger than yourself!
The part about the other person pushing you towards something you don't agree with is huge. I think that was the most important thing in this video. Once I had a younger woman who wanted me to buy her a new car, new house... etc. I said, no, no, no, and finally she left. I was too blind to see what a blessing her leaving me was at the time.
Yes. Just watch people's actions. Their true intent comes through eventually.
"The knife fights are brutal..."ROFL..Being able to make one another laugh is very important and you have that. Congrats and carry on.
I agree. lol.
The one thing that stands out in your relationship,is that you are best mates/friends.....and that is the cement in your relationship....and the rest is a bonus....
So true!
The depth standards you’ve set for your knife fights helps to keep your relationship healthy. Bravo! :::snicker:::
I know. Silly talk.
Qiang is a gem. Sharp as a tack. Intelligence is indeed more important. Her beauty is icing on the cake.
Great video. Your relationship is indicative of how an age difference in itself can make little or no difference in the pursuit of happiness.
I live in California and worked with a Filipina woman who pursued me in a corporate setting and we ended up being together for 4 years on and off. As a musician, my agenda was not aggressive enough for her and she chose another. As fate would have it, I ended up co-writing/producing what I believe to be the best song on her new man’s album. Our age difference was 27 years and we constantly got remarks, glares and stares from other couples, however she was astoundingly beautiful.
Beauty will draw a bunch of attention in those circumstances no doubt.
I e been with my wife for 5 years and I’m 65 and she is 27 - got weird looks in USA but moved to Philippines and all is good
Hi Ray, Would you like to be a guest start on one of my videos? Here is an example guest star video:
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The detail of your comment makes this real for other people. If you have a business or service or UA-cam channel you could promote it on the video if you like. Best, Dan
Do you want to tell your story yet Ray? vagabondbuddha.com/contact/
She is very smart, she learned her lesson from previous experience with listening to her friends opinions about her relationships! That is one major event in every girl’s life when a so called”friend” coheres her most of the time Jealous opinion for someone else’s relationship. A disastrous act and I’m glad she learned her lesson from it, because some of them never do!
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A better question is why so many women in the world think they deserve a "rich man". The wealth gap is more dangerous than the age gap!
I also find it interesting how many posts I see on social media about men claiming they are ugly and want to find a beautiful woman. We don't see these posts from ugly women looking for handsome men, why is that we don't see that? From what I have observed most people gravitate to their own level whether it be education, income or level of attractiveness. I have turned down wealthy men in the past, ultimately it would be an unequal relationship but that would manifest negatively. My husband and I are on the same level. Much more honest to live that way. BTW, I am older than my husband, so no issues on age differences.
There are always going to be women who specifically want a rich man - but I think in some countries they aren't looking for rich, they are just desperate to get out of poverty. There's a difference.
@@SabraKay Yes rich is relative. Also some/many want to escape their countries for the west.
The wealth gap applies to wealthy women and men.
Qiang and Dan thank you for this awesome talk🙏🏻🕉❤❤👍 As a Colombian-American I moved to Colombia in 1995 and started seeing that some women did prefer dating a man who was anywhere from 10 to 25 years older because they were looking for someone as you said ''Already knows who they are and no other big changes on the way''. I have dated women in Colombia who are 10 to 20 years younger than me. I am 49 now and really do not like dating women my age but that is a whole different vlog to be made. I am very attuned to spiritual vibes and traveling to places far and wide. Currently I am single. I am going back to Envigad, Colombia which is right next door to Medellin in December and am very open to dating again but in addition to that strong connection I always go for a gal that is at least 10 years younger. Not interested in molding her nor being molded by her. Thanks a lot Qiang and Dan.
That is great Eddie. Knowing what you want in life is half the battle.
Your love story is beautiful and it sets a good example for those who are affraid to to open their minds. Thank you
As long as the two people involved are happy with their relationship, it's absurd for anyone else to declare that an age difference is "too much." We all have different preferences and needs, some of which vary over time. Anybody who's even asking whether another couple's age gap is too much is sticking his or her nose into someone else's business. It's an idiotic question to be concerned about.
Yes, I just focus on my life.
You guys have amazing chemistry, it shows....like perfectly fitting puzzle pieces...indeed, it is meant to be
No problem on our age gap, been married 14 years and doing great! My wife is just turning 34 and I just turned 73. My wife got her citizenship after 3 years in America and we also sponsored her parents and younger brother who are also citizens now (can’t say I would necessarily recommend doing that)!
Wow. Great story. Thanks for sharing.
the relationship is between the two people. respect for each other is vital. it is nobody elses business. be stubborn. age-gap is cultural!
Well said.
At the end of the day people are going to do what they’re going to do but I do believe with significant age differences both parties owe each other a serious heart-to-heart conversation. I also believe it is wise to check in with each other every so often regarding this same conversation.
The conversation I believe is around the potentially devastating outcome of huge age gaps in a relationship.
Two of the main concepts I think are the fact that for the woman she could spend her relative youth with an older guy only to realize she has made a mistake but at this point it would be significantly more difficult for her to find a new relationship let alone have children etc.
For the man he could find himself old and lonely and alone if the woman decides she no longer wants to be with him because life did not pan out the way she had imagined whether it be in the bedroom or in general.
I have met women in their mid-20s who are adamant about the fact that they do not want children only to discover a mere two years later they want children very much.
In the case where the man is 20 or more years older I think he should look out for a young woman and make sure that she realizes what she’s getting into and how she might be literally nursing him in his old age and that will be the extent of the relationship she has with her partner.
In her youth could she possibly be prepared for life as a 40 or 50-year-old woman taking care of an 80-ish man and all that comes with that? Is this fair to either person?
Again,I think checking in periodically to make sure everyone is on the same page is a very wise thing to do before too much time slips by and things become awkward and painful.
With all that said there is no judgment on anyone here. I do believe adults are perfectly capable of making powerful decisions.
Dan and Qiang look great together! Not always like that however.
I have seen some old men with young girls in my travels and I often get an unpleasant feeling in my gut. That’s just me and I’m just sharing. I’m also aware that sometimes we tend to feel sorry for the young girl when in fact she is the one most aware of what she’s doing! Lol
my last husband was 35 years older than me, and I did not know it until we got married because he was vain and lied about his age. He was also a sociopath. Horribly jealous, controlling and in the end almost killed me. I thought it was just the way older men loved younger women.. I was very young and stupid. Glad I lived through it, glad he died in prison. I learned my lesson and have been alone the 20 plus years since...
@@anniesshenanigans3815 My goodness what a devastating experience. Glad you made it through!
Thanks for sharing your ideas and thoughts you two.
Lol! Lol! Ha! Ha! Ha! I can hardly stop laughing. @OneDirection writes a comment full of judgement and at the end says “no judgment on any one” as if that will make it alright the judging he just gave us, completely oblivious to the fact that his comment says more about him and the kind of person he is (“when I see it I get a feeling in my gut”) than it ever could about wide age gap couples. Even his handle is revealing.
@@TheSugmad HAHA thanks for judging me Fred! Lol! It’s not easy to opine yet remain without any judgment whatsoever. You just experienced it yourself! Lol
Glad you got a kick out of my comments. 👍
My partner and are similar to your age differences and it's amazing sometimes in regard to acceptance. I'm in small town Iowa and so many know about us and could care less about our relationship! 🙂. Many of my friends say....love is love. Age is just a number. However...it definitely helps when they know that our relationship is not about money or work opportunities, etc. It's about LIVING! 🙂. Great video!
That makes sense!
Thanks for being so honest👍
Hello
I enjoy your show very much, thank you for sharing your traveling adventures.
I am 75 years old and my girlfriend is 32 years old with not any baggage.
This has been the best relationship in my life, Age really does not matter, what matters is respect , communication, honesty and unconditional love for each other.
Best regards to both of you
Gani
Ganin there is no such thing as unconditional love.
That is awesome!
@@swayp5715 don’t you mean there’s no such thing as conditional love?
@@TheSugmad ...whaaaaat....? It's ALL conditional sir. All human interactions are transactional.
@@swayp5715 wow! I feel compassion for you, and sorrow that you’ve gone through life believing that, and living that. Love is spiritual, beyond time and space, not bound by reason or common sense. It’s what makes a man or woman face imminent death to protect their children. Nothing transactional at all
Very gutsy video topic and well presented. I'm in a 12 year age gap relationship where I am the younger man. We are going on 32 years of marriage and I just turned 60. The age difference hasn't really been a factor. Also it helps that my wife (like Qiang) is a former model and looks 10 years younger than her chronological age. The two areas where it impacts us 1) Musical Taste - she is a 60's & 70's music lover, I am more 80s-2000. 2) Travel. She said she cannot wait for me to reach standard retirement age. So I quit my job and we have started to slow travel. My wife has mobility issues, so we are talking really slow travel. But this is great as we are looking for a future home and leaning towards it being outside the US (or at least the Bay Area where I have lived my whole life in the US).
Great story William Garnsey. Thank you for sharing it with us. Your interaction with our channel helps us get subscribers and views, so we really appreciate it. Best, Dan
if she injured get rid of her..Young and health is the game
Intelligence, holding one’s own in conversation, shared goals, respect, caring, makes for a timeless pairing.
That makes sense Mike.
If you're both happy, you're perfect.
Truth.
In the US people are of the mindset that relationships with large age gaps is not for love but for money, and they label the woman a gold digger. They couldn't be more wrong Asian women are way more mature that their American counter parts. I too met a filipino woman 24 years younger than myself, she's the most wonderful woman I have met in my entire life she's extremely intelligent speaks perfect English, hard working, very loving, caring not to mention beautiful. We have everything in common I feel I'm the luckiest man in the world to be retired in the Philippines I've never been happier in my life. Guys don't let age be a factor in finding true love.
Great vid and you both are mature and responsible people, clearly not with each other for superficial reasons. This is a beautiful lady that most any man would cherish, but it's clear that is certainly not the reason you are together. You have important things in common and are enjoying a full life together. It's not an "arrangement" like sometimes is the case. For some people, age is indeed a problem because it can be hard to relate if in different stages of life. But no one should judge others and if it feels right, age shouldn't matter.
Thank you!
You are absolutely correct about that respect issue. I realized I may like some tiny women, but something in my head from childhood, or whatever, makes respect a hard thing to feel for a person who is just 4'8" tall. Many women cannot be respected despite being 40 years old & having a good job, yet some as young as 20 surprise you and rapidly earn your respect as a real peer. Lots of young "men" are shocked to realize they were ignored for a man nearly double their age.
Yes, how we think and feel about things is sometimes built in from childhood. :-)
I am now double nickel + a penny now( age 56) just had a birthday in July! My Fiancee2wife Charlie is a cexy young age 40! Before my strokes and heart attacks situation suffered in South Florida in 2017-2018! , I was viewed as much younger than my attained age! Being both prior Navy and then Army, I always prided myself in staying in shape and swam 70 pool laps everyday there in Florida, rain or shine, except the hurricanes and lightning storms! I traveled by myself in a wheelchair to the Philippines, by myself and we got engaged then in 2018! We love each other and I even added her on our 1st published book as a co-author! Age is nothing but a number to me! Dan & Qiang love your topics and videos, sir and maam! Keep it moving forward! You guys are great! God or Source bless all! Nuff said! Yes, Si, Oui, Oo(Tagalog and philipino for Yes)!
Thanks & good job! I think we should stop labelling people and their choices. Healthy relationships allow people space to live as they choose. No regrets!
I am 60 and prefer acquaintances over a full time relationship. I am comfortable with my solitude and prefer to live by myself. I have female friends that I do different things with. Some are good for traveling other for dating while others are for intimacy. I do not believe any relationship lasts and I am always meeting new women so my relationships are always changing. I think one full time girlfriend complicates my life and since we all have faults I never have to accept any. As for a proper age gap, if it is kept limited, there is none too large.
Solitude for the win! I'm in a relationship but we both love being alone just as much. If we part ways I'm happy to be solo for the duration!
That is definitely a viable option. There are many ways to skin a cat.
@@GUITARTIME2024 Is a relationship a plan for "declining health?" I didn’t think about like that but I guess most of these women are signing up to be caregivers. Yikes.
@@GUITARTIME2024 True. A partner isn't guaranteed to stick around either... for myself I admit I wish I'd started earlier planning for that decline!
I agree that you have to have all the shared interests that you talked about. On the question of - is she with me for my money? Of course that is part of it. I am retired and I don’t want her to work which makes me to sole income provider. The myth of romantic love has blinded westerners into thinking money has no place in a relationship. I am just as comfortable with saying that I want companionship and to be taken care of in my old age. Relationships are not just one thing. Love is just part of it.
Thanks for sharing, Martin! In many areas of the world, arranged marriages are still common if not the norm. Marrying someone who is solvent is necessary to help with others in their family who need assistance. My own Grandmother had an arranged marriage to escape a life of certain poverty. Over the years, she supplemented her family's income. So, when one marries into another culture, they need to be clear they may need to be a source of support for additional family but they also have an extended network to rely on in times of sickness and grief as well.
Great points Martin and Jean. :-)
@@VagabondAwake Also, none of us has a blue print on how to create a relationship! Being open to new experiences and being honest seem to me to be the best qualities to have. After being with my mate for 10 years, realized that we already had a longer relationship than many same age couples, so it was already a success. No one at any age can be guaranteed of the duration of any relationship.
Some, are in important aspects getting "younger", better, stronger and more attractive with age. so for them usual "age" thinking with good reasons might be said to be just inadequate and stupid. I am myself a strong example of this after a formidable transformation process since i was 63 till today 75!
That makes sense. :-)
Lovely, informative and honest video. Thank you.
Acr 931, thank you for taking the time to watch and comment! :-) Dan
It is no one's business but the people involved in the relationship. Whatever the reason people choose to be together, good luck to them. "Family" comes in different forms.
So true.
I dont see any gap ! Good luck to both of you !
Thank you Tuan.
She likes you, you like her. You are both adults who can make that decision, happy for you guys.
Generic Developer, thank you for being part of our community :-) Dan
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I'm 53 and my little lady is 34. While working in the US, I called the computer help desk 15 yrs ago for a password reset which directed the call to India. We started "small type" about US culture versus India and got to be friends through typing for a few weeks. Then she suddenly left her company and communication stopped.
12 yrs later during an occasional visit to Facebook I was presented with a bunch of profiles which read "you might know these people". With no profile pic, I recognized her name and contacted her. We got close over the next several years through video calls and I finally traveled to India a month ago where we met for the first time.
It was an incredible way to experience our first "real time" together in her amazing and diverse country with her taking control of the trains, busses, flights, tuk-tuks, homestays, food, etc. It was as if we had been physically together from the beginning.
I hated to come home.
When will you meet again? I lived in India for 3 years. Loved it.
I am 15 years older than my Indonesian wife. Many times been called cradle snatcher. What a lot of people don’t realise a lot of Asian women prefer is a more mature man those having more older man is fine
Yes, it feels more accepted in Asia for sure.
My wife is 8 years older than me, we met in the night club, she is Asian, I am European, we have been married for 31 years.
Congrats!
Age differences are not as great a barrier as language and culture but having great age differences can be a problem in the cultivation of personal culture, of oneself and conflicts can arise as time goes on. For example a 20 year old girl and a 50 year old man are not going to have a lot in common over the next 10 years.
I personally would not want to date a woman in her 20’s but women well into their 30’s are more mature and that still can lead to age gap relationships.
I am thinking like Martin on this one. I think the average 30 year ols has lived enough to be interesting as a partner, though I am sure there are many exceptions.
I forgot to say how much I enjoy your channel. You are so lucky to have found Chiang Hui. She's not just beautiful but seems to be the perfect match for you. My envy runneth over.
Thank you so much!
I had two professors in college who married gradduating seniors who were 40 and 41 years younger than the two professors. (These marriages happened 15 years apart. At least One couple is still together 2023 and began having children right away 2005ish!)
Who cares! It’s all about being happy together. It’s the people that are unhappy complaining.
Yes. If you are happy you don't have time to get in everyone else's business.
Really simple answer. As soon as anyone asks how much is too much, the answer is very simple. It’s YES. Any other conversation is people trying to rationalize any other scenario.
Would that logic make 1 year age difference too much?
Great topic and video :)
Glad you think so!
You two are happy and that is more than a majority of the couples are today! Relish your lives together, age is a matter of the mind, if you don’t mind it doesn’t matter!!!
I have a 20 year age gap with my wife. I'm 41. I think I stretched the limit. I would say man 35 to 40: 15 years. 40 to 50: 18 years. 50-65: 25 years. Over 65: 35 years! I like your style dude. Very calm and mature conversation, easy to listen to.
Farily common age gap for US/Pinay from what I have seen. From what I have seen if you bring the to the USA with a 25 plus age gap you will probably end up divorced, under that # probably stay married.
Thank you Tim!
I did all 3: liked, commented and subscribed 😊
No. He isn't a dirty old man. I've seen that he is quite gentlemanly with his lady, she's a lucky one indeed
Thank you John. :-)
Just for the record, Mexico is completely off my list of places I would think of going. I understand not stamping people in for 180 days but not offering anything more reasonable, for example 30 days on arrival and extendable for $50 each stamp, or something similar. And having to have the passport on person at all times. No thanks.
In my previous relationships I was old school no one more than 5 years younger than me.
My present relationship has been my best ever and at 66 I'm 15 years older than my partner. I've come to accept that age is just a number and people (both women and men) should be allowed to date who they want so far they are both consenting adults.
The only thing I said is that if my partner really loves me I expect to pass on before her and when I do she should find someone else to continue the love journey. You only live once.
My spouse is 20 yrs younger. 71and 51. We met 6 yrs ago online. American and she's is Jamaican. Married 2 yrs. So far so good. America is a lttle judgrmental. Everywhere else no problem.
Congrats!
31 years difference, Cambodian lady, but we've been apart for 10 months. I will see her January of 2024; I sincerely hope the relationship is successful for our long term. I feel that she is the special one that I was seeking; I will know next year. I would like to be more resolute, but previous disappointments keep me grounded, yet hopeful.
Sounds like a Happy New Year is on the way to you. :-)
As long as you are both together for the right reasons it shouldn't matter , as for others it's totally nothing to do with them and what they think doesn't matter anyway.
Numbers are not important only the attitude and commitment to each other! I see great chemistry here , wishing you the best!
Thank you Anna M.! Your interactions help our channel grow! Have a great day. :-) Dan