a car accident, crashing a wedding & ending a friendship
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- Опубліковано 5 вер 2023
- hi guys! welcome back to another weekly vlog. I open up about possibly ending a very long term friendship, a small accident on the highway and a lots of moments in montana. lets chat below in the comments, I love you for watching, see you this weekend with a new episode of "can we talk?!" xoxo Daniel
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friendships are often complicated. especially childhood ones. some last forever, and some you outgrow and need to let go of. have you ever had to release a friendship? and why?
It's tough. I had a best friend from 6th grade all the way to college. She was a pastors daughter, and I just didn't believe what they did, so eventually I stopped going to church with them. Knowing her parents, they stopped letting her hang out with me for being a "bad influence", and then eventually we had a conversation about it, and it did not go over well. I moved out of state about a year after that, and looking back, I am glad it ended, but it still makes me sad. Our views are so different now, I don't even know how we were friends at all.
Yes, she had been my best friend since the year after high school. I was there for all of her milestones and I was the only friend her mother liked. She was there for the terrible physical, mental, and emotional abuse I went through with my ex husband. A few years ago she decided that it was important to her to let my ex husband back into her life and tell him every detail about me and my life, including my address and phone number. Then she started to act shady around me. It hurt but I had to drop her out of my life. I lost her and her kids but my health and safety is much more important.
I recently lost a friend and boyfriend last year around this time because they decided to sneak around behind my back. This was a friend who I confided in when I sensed my boyfriend of 2 years was drifting away from me. She listened and consoled me, but it turned out that she was the reason he decided to leave me. When I confronted them, she tried to flip the script to make it seem like I was attacking her character and she called me crazy, but I told her I wasn't the only one who noticed and figured it out. I ended up moving because of stress at home being emotionally tormented by my stepmom on a regular basis and losing this relationship and friendship at the same time was the straw that broke the camel's back. I don't mourn the loss of the friendship because she really betrayed and hurt me, but I do still miss him because he was good to me in the time we had together. 2 years may not seem like much to most people, but that was my longest relationship, so it was a lot to me.
I’m pretty sure yes❤
I'm 33 and I've never had a best friend my entire life it seemed to keep friends like 2 years at a time Max but that's also cuz for the most part we've moved you know what I mean. Like my college friends are still my friends but we don't live anywhere near each other so we can't hang out. Most of the friends that I've had that have lasted longer than 5 years have been internet friends because I'm an introvert and a gamer but yeah no it's rough. but then again I don't think I've saved friends with anybody from elementary school I went to a specialty high school so it was just a bunch of really smart kids from around the state that went to that high school and then after that I went to a specialty art school and only two people from my high school went there and they weren't people I liked So😂. I do not understand the childhood friendships I would kill to have a best friend finally so that I could see that that's like but so far no Bueno
The thing daniel is that as you get older, dynamics w friends change and how things used to be are no longer. Many people hold onto the way things were and that is ok to come to that realization. Its nobody fault its just life. Thanks for sharing your experience w us!
“You’ll end up really disappointed if you think people will do for you as you do for them. Not everyone has the same heart as you”
Who said that!
@@MisterPredaNo clue !!!! but they knew what they were saying. I love your videos and how transparent you have been lately. Thank you for that.
Learned this the hard way. Now I have walls due to this 😢
I love how you are so open and honest with us, I am sad that you are losing a friend, in time, I am sure that they will miss the friend in you and y'all can come back together, if not, she just wasn't meant to be in your life, when one door closes another one opens... Happy you are out friend 💞
Thanks for the chats, the views and just being you, Daniel! ❤ Happy Birthday, Wolfie!
I understand losing friends well 😢. One thing a mentor said to me that stayed with me was, not every relationship is a level 5. Level 5 being the people you trust the most and carry the closest in your heart.
Lol, love how authentic and real your vlogs are lately, can't help but think about a few friendships and even relationships in my family when you say you sometimes need to give people space 🙃 so true
I love how wolfie lays down and doesnt move but he wags his tail lol
Sometime it’s good to clear out friendships that weren't really good matches-relationships we fell into by proximity only but didn't really serve us well emotionally. But friendship breakups can be as devastating-with sadness, confusion, anxiety-as a romantic one, whether that friendship died by conflict or naturally fading.
Excited to hear you’re travelling to Europe soon. Enjoy and hopefully you’ll take us along.
Just let friend know you will always be there especially if they are going through things❤ you are a loving soul ❤❤❤
I really appreciate your videos, I love how raw you can be with people and it really feels like I am just hanging out with a good friend and listening to their day. I recently moved to California and am still trying to meet people so it’s nice to hear your story and be able to relate
Thank you for being so open and honest. I think you shared what happened respecfuly and with decorum. Friendships can be harder than we hoped at times. I wish the trip had turned out differently for you both ❤
Love all your videos Daniel this one included.It’s gorgeous seeing the dogs having freedom and such a great time.Hope all went well with your friend 🙏❤️
The Wedding crashing by the puppers was priceless 😂! I love when you show that beautiful Montana scenery! Much love ❤ to you Daniel!
I do believe that things happen for a reason and life does have a unique way of working things out! So its really important to keep going with the flow while striving to be a better us than yesterday :] Love and appreciate you !! you got this !
I’m so glad you were okay after the car accident! Sorry about your friend too! We’ve all been there! Lots of love!
Love you Daniel ! You’re such a beautiful soul and the best friend , I’d be so proud to call you a friend . Love your vlogs ! Xxx
Love you 🤍
Thank you for sharing these videos! I love the relaxed format and the down to earth conversation. It’s nice to know I’m not alone (especially with the friend thing). ❤
Thank you for sharing your rough times with us. I'm navigating through the loss of a 10+ year friendship and we thought we could move past it but we both knew deep down it wasn't going to happen. Who knows, things could work out later but I'm glad you're staying level-headed about it. Life is complicated so things can't always last forever. That's why it's so important to figure yourself out, what you need, and to love yourself so you can understand that you'll be okay in the end.
Happy Birthday, Wolf 🎉❤
Was about to go to sleep for work in the morning, but I guess I’ll have to stay up and watch now…
I love how real and genuine you are. Thank you
Daniel, I would love to see your hiking essentials! I need to know all the deets!!
Also, I’m so sorry about your friend!! ❤
This video made my heart so warm. Had a rough week and been going through a lot of change recently but your candidness and experiences (plus some good footage!) and kept me looking up. Thanks mate.
Every single time I see you've posted a video it makes my day. Love you and your content.
I really love that Wolfie and Storm are living their best lives on vacation with you
Love that you share everything with us Daniel! I have gone thru ending a friendship and it’s so hard. I went over everything that was said between us 1000 times and it was really hard to end it but now that it’s a year later I’m glad it happened! Sending you hugs sweetie!! ❤
Sending you lots of love, it’s never easy but that’s life. We are going to be ok 🫶🏼🥰
I love that you include us in all of your things and I'm so very sorry about you and your friend. I've experienced the same and it does hurt but I felt, after a while, I was better off for it. Finding out my "friend" could flip like a switch on me for no reason was a blessing in disguise. We are still very cordial when we are in the same place at the same time but I won't ever give them the opportunity to flip on me again. Life is too short to have unpredictable friends.
I had a friend and we were like brothers. We outgrew each other and we sat down and talked it out and basically said it’s time to move on but we agreed if either one of us ever needed the other we would be there. ❤
I couldn't relate to this situation with your friend more! I am going through a similar situation with one of my friends that I've known for over 30 years. Thank you for being so transparent and honest with us. I absolutely love all of your content and as I've said to you before, I love that you motivate me to do outdoor things. (I hate the heat AND all bugs.) Sending all the love to you. Always.
I love that you always upload when I'm cooking dinner!
Such an amazing hike. Beautiful! 🌲🌲
I love how well you take care of the doggos. Being active with them
Loved this Vlog. It was a little bit of everything but very real and relatable ♥️
Happy Birthday Wolfie
I’m currently fighting with my best friend of 13 years. I’ve tried to keep my therapeutic mindset of how I need to handle the situation best for myself and be as communicative as possible, but it’s hard! When you want to talk something through and the other person isn’t willing it’s not you who needs to grow most of the time. I hope you have peace with the joy the friendship had like I do, and if it’s meant to continue it will!
OMG…I can’t even! Wolf lapping up the water reminds me of our Aussie Ruby, I tell her when she’s slurping it all up to “learn some manners” he just carries on without regard to your videography…hahaha. I think Ruby and Wolf need to meet. So adorable.
Oh the scenery is beautiful 😍😍 I’d love to travel there someday
Montana looks stunninggg omg
Ive had childhood friendships that i've had to let go of & i will always love those people, but some seasons you drift apart for various reasons. Never "cut off", but had to be okay with drifting apart. I will say though that you never know what life brings and i still hope that one day i can reconnect with those friends because i will always have love for them ❤
Your dogs are so adorable & so are you of course! 💙
Happy birthday wolfie! Thanks for always being open with us, Daniel. I hope you’re doing alright after the friend break up ❤
I really enjoyed your vid & so happy you take the dogs with you. Till next video
Stay humble Daniel: that's what we love about you ❤
ur content inspires me
I love watching your channel, Daniel. You're so real. But I appreciate your lifestyle. I can't do this stuff anymore, but I can definitely live vicariously through you 😂.
Sorry about your friend. I think it was very rude of her to leave. You did spend an hour at the airport waiting for her. True friends always have disagreements and still stay close. Doesn’t make sense to me. Stay happy.
Yeah I think that was a bit dramatic for a 2 minute disagreement. I've had full out yell fights with my aunt where I ended up sobbing on my room and we still managed to get along at the end of the day. I guess you could argue it's different with family, but I personally don't think so
I love u so much. We’re besties in my head. ❤😂
My Darling, friendships are a lot of work and come with all sorts of feelings and disagreements. But one gives their best to those worth fighting and growing for. ❤️
Really enjoying your content and the way how you are keeping it real.
i hope you and your friend can work things out. hope you’re both okay ❤
I wish you would take the spotlight and run with it. You’re so talented, well spoken, smart and dare I say handsome. You definitely do not give yourself enough credit! Much Love 💕
Those views are stunnin’! What a howl, wedding crashers…. Personally I would find it funny! Great content Daniel. I always love the Montana trips. Glacier Park is definitely on our bucket list from PA.
Glad you and the pups are ok! The car held up well though.
Montana!!! My second home💜. Literally…I own property south of Kalispell. Don’t fret the people who come and go. They are in our lives for a season to help us become who we are meant to be. Still stings when we feel like we lose them though. Saw a wedding in Lake McDonald two years ago…yep, IN Lake McDonald. Hanging out there on a big o’ rock just saying, “I do”.🤔
My mom has a travel case just like yours, except hers is blue. She's had it since the 1970's at least & still uses it, usually for bathroom stuff.
Another beautiful trip, catching all the goodness of late Summer and in beautiful Montana. What on earth could you have said in two minutes that sent her over the ledge, was it about her maybe texting if she's going to be that late? Through the decades I've felt the need to move on from friendships, I still love them and want them to have a great life, we just changed or I changed. Hopefully you're friend was just embarrassed by her inattention to something that is important to you,( I've had that happen to me and the other way around, and it can sting for a bit), but we put back on our big girl pants and realize how important the friendship is. I didn't know you speak at conferences, you'd be great, and especially about skin care or design. I hope you enjoyed your trip, I know I enjoyed what you shared. Thanks for taking us along Daniel, have a safe trip home.
You are not just Daniel- You are super special ❤Don’t forget - And yes- friendships change & have growing pains - it’s challenging. Happy bday to Wolfie❤
As always your vlogs make my day ❤
Too sad with your friend; however, maybe she just needs her space and work on her issues. Good you can respect that and understand. At the same time, I have worked at a friendship with an old college roommate for many, many years. We got together last year when I was visiting CA after not seeing each other for 10+ years. Tell you the truth, I finally realized that some friends are for other, some for a season or seasons, and some for a short time. He was really a short timer, but I tried to make it a long lasting friendship. Getting together made me see it was never meant to be and I am ok with that. Finally, after all these years!!!
I completely understand that 🤍 Glad you got the closure you needed
It is fabulous!!
5:40
I’m sorry about your car crash but your eyes look so pretty!!
Also. I’ve just recently started watching your videos and they’re so real and raw and you always leave with me something to think about.
Friendships are weird. Life is weird. And you sharing your experiences makes me feel that it’s all normal somehow and I’m normal and you’re normal.
So, again. Thank you.
First, I HAVE to say 🎉 HAPPY BIRTHDAY WOLFIE!!! 🎂 Ok now on to more serious matters, I had two VERY best friend's from like 2nd grade and we always thought we would be attached to each other's hips forever but that didn't happen. Although I will always love them and would be there in a heartbeat for them no matter how much time goes by as we grow older our lives become different and what was once a perfect fit in your life (as far as friends go) it just isn't anymore. I feel like you two will eventually speak in some capacity but it may never be like it was. You Daniel are an amazing person and have a lot to offer in a friendship ( I wish I knew you on a personal level because we seem to appreciate a lot of the same things in life and would probably have a ball!) and many friends will come and go through the years, it's just life 😊❤️
Wait a minute, did you seriously just say “Butch Cassidy …don’t know who that woman is.” I can’t stop laughing. I have been a really hard time of it the past weeks but I needed this video. Xoxo
Hahahha I’m playing dumb ofcccc 😅
@@MisterPreda as a lesbian I feel like I am allowed to have a good laugh at that one 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
You know, as someone who's extremely tired of seeing inluencers living luxury lives, excessive shopping, designer bags, Dubai trips and women all looking the exact same, I'm so happy that I get to follow you and your outdoorsy trips. You're so genuine and real. You're truly like a breath of fresh air in this humid, oxygen-free world that is social media.
If you ever travel to Scandinavia, know that you have a friend in Stockholm. :)
Thank you for the love 🤍 I never felt like I belonged and would always compare myself and lately I’ve realized that’s what sets me apart 🥰
@@MisterPreda I never belonged either, I know exactly what you mean! I wouldn't wanna change because I've found that the people I love and admire the most are "weirdos" who don't belong either. And I mean Lady Gaga is one of us so we're a pretty cool bunch imo. :)
Loved it , too bad about the friend. Hope you two work it out!❤❤❤❤😊
Sorry you and your friend got in a fight. 15 yrs is a long time I hope you guys can work it out especially if it wasn't anything too deep. I'm glad your accident wasn't more serious and you're okay. 💕
I always enjoy your videos. Much love to you Daniel 🧡
Thank you for watching 🤍 sending you love right back too!
That wedding should be honored to have Wolfie and Storm attend!!
But seriously love seeing road trips and travel, living vicariously through you bc I had to cancel all my trips due to being diagnosed with epilepsy and have to go 6 months seizure free before I can drive.
Love those dogs! I know you do. Thanks for another real video.
Friend relationships can be so tricky! Way to do what you could. Thanks for the content!
Happy that you are alright and the dogs. I have fun watching your videos.
Your travel views of the scenery are stunning. I am glad you did not do anymore damage to your car. It's always good to see Wolfie , Storm and Monty too.
It's been my experience that if you have an argument with someone (friends or family) you should give each other space to calm down but if you don't reconnect and clear the air the next day it makes it hard to get past. In terms or friends it can end your friendship and with family it can lead to several years of not speaking. It does take two though - if one person refuses to reconnect to talk it out then it's over.
Absolutely. I did my best, and that’s all I can do!
The older you get and the more you heal, the more your friendships will continue to morph and transform. I’m sure you were very hurt by her leaving. Hope you’re both doing okay.
Another awesome video Mr. Bright eyes !
20:12 Pretty sure those clips on the wall are for holding skis/ski gear. They had something similar in a ski town I stayed at in Switzerland once.
i think theres a lot of pressure surrounding long lasting friendships, especially childhood ones, to keep it going no matter what. while its somewhat true, shit happens! friendships drift apart slowly or sometimes immediately. with me at least i truly believe that if i cut someone off or distance myself, theyll come back into my life if theyre supposed to!
thanks for sharing! its absolutely not necessary but its super refreshing to see how open you are
I love your road trips to Montana. The scenery is so pretty. I live in Ogden utah just 30 minutes outside of salt lake. I love how open and honest you are about your life. I used to have a husky but lost her three years ago. She was 11 years old. Great dog. I really enjoy your videos.
Sometimes friendships need to recalibrate; I broke up with a friend but reconnected after ten years and now we're stronger than ever!
Dear Daniel...Sometimes friendships since our very early years end suddenly without any serious reason...In my opinion,there are friendships that last all our life and other ones that need to end,just like that,or because maybe they were never strong enough...Thank you for your lovely videos!!! Happy birthday to adorable Wolfie !!!Many hugs and kisses from Greece!!!
Thank you for the words, I really appreciate it 🤍
Love you always Daniel! :)
A lot was said Daniel. I am sorry about the free as this happens in life. It hurts at the time when it happens. Give it time. I am sorry about your car as well. You have to keep moving forward and keep your optimism.
It must be so liberating traveling on your own, if I had the funds I would go this weekend, you can do what you want, go where you want, eat what you want and enjoy nature, love these videos ❤❤
Daniel sorry about your car but I'm glad it was just cosmetic and you &the dogs weren't hurt ❤
Happy birthday Wolfe 😘♥️
The music playing like you’re in a movie got me 😆 Hilarious. Thanks for being so vulnerable and transparent about what’s going on in your life. Appreciate you ❤
I had to end a 22 year friendship because she became so toxic to me. It was rough and I’m still having trouble accepting we aren’t friends❤
There is truly nothing like a clean well maintained affordable hotel room. It doesn't have to be superfancy to be good. I had really good experiences with Best Western as well. Good to see you kept your humillity about it😊
Always! Love the simplicity of a good, clean and COLD hotel room!
😢 thank you for the scenery. What a way to reset. ❤ This made me emotional for many reasons....the hiking. I lost my sweet Gigi July 12 but for 12 months intensely for 8 months I was caring for her. As I tried to pull money together for her to get neck surgery the doctor told me to keep her out of the heat and it was clear she was becoming immobile. This was crushing to me because she has so much energy and she wanted to be herself and she's just physically couldn't do it. I miss her energy endless energy of going on hikes and walks and letting her run and she was like a little cougar or race horse. Turned out the possible bulging disc in her upper back was actually a tumor that was eating her up inside they didn't find any cancer but it was just this tumor that was crushing her spine moving towards her brain. I still have my chihuahua, Leonidas, he's older than she was. He has a normal aged & breed issues & is otherwise healthy, eager, energetic. I have a stroller for him (when he can't go anymore) so our walks are different. Of course he loves being outside. I'm very much looking forward to temps cooling down so we can have longer walks than we've been having lately. Because the heat does get to him as. I definitely have a care package in the bottom of the stroller for him - water everything he needs and I'm thinking of getting a cooling jacket. I like that you incorporated what I told you my Dad used to say and LIVE by at the end of your videos.💕👍🥰
💕💕💕Great scenery
I love a simple hotel with a pool too. I'm glad your ok.
Loved your comment about staying in a hotel with your mom on road trips as child. My husband and traveled a lot for business and when our son was in Kindergarten, he thought his dad was lucky to stay in hotels. So…while dad was on a business trip, my son and I took a little road trip. We lived just north of Denver and we drove to Cheyenne, Wyoming. We stayed in a hotel, got KFC and watched a movie in the room. Also, it was the Miss Wyoming pageant. He still ,sighs at being impressed with seeing all the ladies in sparkling dresses. Thanks for the memory! Much love from Gensac, France.
How beautiful!! 🤍🤍🤍
❤❤❤happy birthday wolfie
Omg I had so many of those cosmetic containers when I was a youngin!!! Memories ❤❤❤
Daniel, I'm so sad I missed seeing you. I was in MO over Labor day weekend. We hiked around Glacier national Park.
No way! I hope you had the best time!!! Gorgeous weather
Man Montana is SO gorgeous! I went there once as a teen with some family friends to camp. I would go back in a heart beat!
I'm sorry your friend was that way.. You seem like such a good friend and good guy. You and I are so similar in the love we give people.. I have had best friends of over 20 years, and ended them.. The friends were very self serving, and judgmental despite their own lives being messy. So, i was sad but decided the friendship no longer made me happy..
You’re so silly Daniel!!!
Unfortunately not all people can handle upfront honesty.. I’m sorry things went sideways w-ur friend. I can relate