my thoughts exactly!!! how convenient that she takes the abled child over her son. Their separation is tragic but the son is probably better off in his fathers care.
You have to understand in Japan, having a disabled child, is like a black mark on you back in the day they used to shame Japanese women for giving birth to disable children that stigma still exist in Japan
Many Europeans are suffering the same thing. And this is recently happened. Japan doesn't even respect the treaty they signed. Disgusting and cold hearted people. Why cut an innocent child from they father or mother.
I'm Japanese but I agree with you.because these trajedies happen in Japan domestic as well.lawyers whisper there is best way to divorce in advantageous term.
Not only that cheating is rampant there, when children becomes adults many don't even contact their parents anymore. Family isn't a priority in Japan, hence their state
These parents who alienate the other loving parent from their children’s lives r only doing their children a massive disservice. It’s selfish, sick and beyond disturbing!
Toxic dominance is horrendous by either gender. This is Japanese women negotiating with their kids as a weapon and as a victim all while crying that they're the ones being abused and refusing any criticism of the damage they do to their partners and kids
Kids are resilient. They grow up well with the only one person who cares and nurtures emphatically. That only person may not be related. I take care of 27 Thai neglected children in a Christian home. They are all very positive and remarkable children. We show them love of Christ.
This has happened to me. The mother has been slowly shutting me out from the kids for years. The mental strain has become to great and I have made the most difficult decision of my life to return to my family and friends in the states as I have no support structure here. My boys are clever, handsome and funny. I can only pray that one day they will want to be reunited with their father and realize we have been kept apart against my wishes. Prayers for all parents going through this. These policies are evil and heartless and are terrible for the children involved. This is the worst kind of hell.
If Japan wants to increase their birthrate, they need to fix this and automatically give shared custody in a divorce except in cases of verifiable child abuse. Ppl won't have kids if they know that if things don't work out that the other can abduct their own kids with impunity. It's detrimental to children as well.
Not before age 5. Please study attachment parenting. Attachment breaks with the mom cause trust issues. Kids who are seperated from their moms will grow up to become stalkers and kill their partners when the partner dumps them. Watch Dr. Faye Snyder videos on that issue. She says seperation from the mom at age 3 causes ADHD. She says babies age 1 and under can't be without their mom more than 1 hour per week. Age 2, 2 hours. Age 3, 3 hours.
I am asian living in Canada. A lot of westerner around me are intrigued by Japan and dream to work and live there especially women. I an shock. Most westerner doesn’t know how middle age Japan is for women roles, mental issues, individual choice, society expectation, etc. Trust me, people are much happier here.
Not all Japanese are two faced but watching this documentary. I realize how cold the individual they are and they seem to never be up front or opened up to anything.
I’m japanese. I would like to tell everyone in the world. Japan is definitely an abducting nation! And many Japanese people also suffer from this problem, and some parents even commit suicide.
does no one ask the one that leaves WHY they think they're better off running away? And WHY they think that it's so much better for the child to lose a parent? There has to be more to these stories than, "one day my kids were gone."
I can tell you what happens often.. the Japanese women come to the west as they dont like Japan.. often run away from that place.. so they come to start a family in th west.. bu there issue tis they bring their culture here and all they learn in Japan also.. so when they realise that the western dad they married is just too different from them and they have totally opposite believes and practices.. the woman starts to get highly stressed out and pissed of and unhappy, then there becomes huge hostility in the house and in my case the wife starts behaving really out of line and desperate,,, then one day she. decides she needs to be back in the country she ran away from.. but sadly she steals the kid from dad and runs back there on her own without telling dad... and so the story ends and dads life with his kid ends too .. thats one of the many reasons.. please dont be fooled thinking they are running away from a violent western dad..NO FUKIN WAY.. its far from not in these cases... in fact the Japanese women get so stressed out that they start showing who they really are and start being violent to the dad and abusixe mentally and physically,,
@@davidanthony4960 actually most Western dads are irresponsible and violent to their kids that they got from marrying Japanese woman. Most often the case of Western dad neglecting their kids are rampant. Usually, Japanese dads are the best to take care of japanese kids.
Japan fosters a culture of sexual deviance. They openly admit cheating in marriages. Western ethics do not align with most of Asia's ethics. Women want children but don't want to share parenting, lack of maturity and conflict resolution, many other reasons but yea watch your heart. Rules follow.
Many times these programs want to interview the abductor parent but they decline. Sometimes it may be true physical and mental abuse. Some are people that do not want to be with the other person and is selfish and want to raise the child the way they want without an potentially objecting ex. If they have nothing to hide then the abductors should be proud to share their side of the stories. Japan has a declining population, I wonder if they want to have more citizens even if they are abducted children. Also, very biased to think children should belong with mothers. Not all mothers are cable and good mothers.
I wonder what happens when a cop or a judge sees his child getting abducted ? Do they just let it go or realize there's a problem with the japanese laws ??? They can't be insensible to the situation once they're affected
I read one of the Japanese PM's(?) Had his children 'abducted' by his wife. One of the children was born after the wife left. The two older children only saw him again when they were of legal age to decide to see him.
It’s literally about identity. Some of the parents feel that if they take their kid the kids are taken away to another country. The kids will be considered foreigners and not Japanese so I think they take the kids so that the kids will be considered or have Japanese identity because identity or nationalism is very strong over there, so strong to the point where even if their kids are half Japanese in some Japanese people’s eyes they’re still considered foreigners, even if they have Japanese blood running through the veins
please dont think that its directed towards western men specifically, it happens to japanese men, and men of all races. the amount of racism and blatant ignorance in this comment section is disgusting.
Ready to call this ridiculous but then remembered my mom was making serious moves to take us to Japan in the *1970s* I think I'm the one who talked her out of it.
This is ridiculous. How can anyone think that removing a child from a loving parent is best for them. And of course the lawyer lady is OK with it because she did it with her own kids she's not going to call herself a criminal.
Alot about Japanese social experience is fakery. A real one will accept the charge and correct the behavior to the best of their ability. I only want a real one.
it is just insane how long this has been going on, i just found out abou tthis issue now due to vincent fichots hunger strike to protest his kids being kidnapped in 2018. After hearing abou it i started going deeper and this has been going on since the early 90s, absolutely devastating,
@@moderngeaisha5113 it’s so unimaginable to me. Even is he was a bad husband or they had a falling out of love situation, doesn’t mean he was a bad parent. Disgusting situation. What a selfish woman
Why in the world would you marry one Ms. Hamite(sp) - why would ANY OF YOU marry one! I simply do not understand it! Non-custodial parents, educate the public wherever you live - spread the word about The Hague Convention. Japan is non-signatory to many of its properties - clearly indicates the Japanese mentality.
I knew what Japanese women were about the moment I came here. I’m female but I’ve been here long enough to know I wouldn’t trust them as far as I could throw them. Advice: before getting involved with a Japanese women, make sure you know her and know her well. Women see this, but often men do not.
The people are raised to withhold and have a general aire of fakery. Because of this they lack conflict resolution skills and therefore are immature in a sense. They are also fostered to be more promiscuous than western culture so be aware. You will not see the same person at home as you do in the streets.
@@MandatedReporter You sound bitter. And extremely misgonistic. If this rant is directed at all Japanese women, then I guess Xenophobic too. Dude, some human beings might be serial killers, rapists, murderers ect but that does not mean ALL human beings are serial killers, murderers, rapists ect. People do shitty things sometime. I assure you people in other parts of the world do the same shitty things. These kinds of videos are made to spread awareness of a certain issue not so bigots like you can join up with other bigots are spread hate speech. Seriously, get a life.
Thankfully a lot is changing (sadly in a way too). My daughter is half Japanese and we have lived happily in NZ for 16 years. His mother initially was a bit hesitant but she came around. So much so that on one visit back to Japan, my father in-law commented that our relationship seemed so happy, he was so in control of his family and his wife especially and started to understand how things could be better. The last thing he said to my husband was “I’m so proud of you for being with a kiwi and having a happy family” we left back to Nz and 2 weeks later we found out he killed himself. Very sad. His mother though seems a lot happier and free. She has always been welcoming and inviting. I can’t wait to go back again soon :) my favourite country!
@@niknikng1668 Didnt see your response notification till now. They were in the US. He caught her cheating and and had custody of the children after their divorce. If there was visitation he would be aware and did not trust her. So he would ask questions and in extreme instances I heard he would follow them around smh
The father is amazing. However, having said that. If I was born as spencer is, I would rather die than live that way, brain damage on that level essentially is being a vegetable, that is no life at all. To just sit there for year after year not being able to speak or move or do anything at all. It seems more like torture, I’ve taken adderall and muscle relaxers at the same time and it was a sort of torture. Having ur mind aware but your body unable to do anything to keep up with your mind. It’s maddening. At one point you have ask yourself, is there life? Or mere existence? I think we all deserve a good chance at living our lives no matter what, but if it was me in that state? Let me go and hopefully be reborn into a shell or body that works better.
Came here from a WaPo article about the man doing a hunger strike over child custody in Japan at the Olympics. Still can't believe how WRONG this custom is.
8:35 Jesus Christ, imagine what venom the mother must put on the children for them to hurt their father so deeply. That was heartbreaking watching such small children trained to just sprint away from and ignore their father. Who knows the wife probably says “oh he’s an evil man he will take you away!!” Awful. So awful.
I mean in the states women take children and force fathers to pay for the destruction of their relationship with their child. Yes we have rights in the states ie the right to pay a lawyer money you do not have to lose in court. At least in Japan you are not forced into financial slavery for a child you cannot see. In the states it is a serious, not discussed problem. Men effectively no parental rights in the United States, generally the western world from what I hear.
@@WatchHeadsRoll Nothig wrong with taking care of your kid, however US courts don't stop there. Do research. Fathers are getting fucked over in the US.
My problems seem pretty darn petty in comparison to these folks screwing all these kids up. To help put that in perspective, I am a double amputee heroin addict.
You'll make it. There's life after death so be sure to live the heck out of this life and regret nothing. The hunger is there it will always be there. Accept it as a part of you and a witness to your journey. I tell my OCD my triumphs and my failures because it's a part of me and it will always be there so I may as well accept it.
Go to Japan and take your vhild to The American embassy. It does work but you have to make it with your child to American soil/The American Embassy. I saw a movie based on True events of this very same topic. The movie is Taken from Me: The Tiffany Rubin Story. The only difference is her child was taken to South Korea.
Rusty Alcorta i have a Japanese girlfriend we are together 4 years now but since the first month i told her i will never marry or get kids from Japanese
@@helmiyoussef2835 It's really ironic to see someone who comes from a community that is often the target of racism by other communities, acting racist towards other communities. No wonder why many people around the world are starting to lose sympathy for those who are the targets of discrimination.
Majority people in the comments section: "Japan is racist, Japan is disgusting." also, they: "(make biased and derogatory comments about Japanese people)." LOL.
Signing the Hague convention hardly changed anything. And as long as the House thinking (think House of Duras kind of thingie) is happily alive, Japan will never allow a complete stranger (-the divorced spouse without guardianship) meddle with the matters of another house. Even children's wills don't matter.
Hi from Japan Education and cultural norms or whatever that’s creating my bias makes me feel “Didn’t the estranged husband/wife do SOMETHING that would make their significant other leave?” What you call “abduction” is a “heroic story of a desperate person running for life to save their souls ” for me
How is it heroic when these people are literally kidnapping their children and some of them are using them as leverage to exploit from the estranged spouse did you hear or did you understand the story about the lady in Utah how the mother-in-law was literally asking her to sign her name on her house in Utah to give her $50,000 how is that heroic? That’s what cowards do what about the other Incident where the mother left the child that was disabled and didn’t tell her husband she was pregnant and had a another baby and when he went to go see her because he found out he had another child. She called the police on him that’s not heroic that’s cowardice it’s kidnapping point blank. And In America they all be in jail. and that’s the point why go to another country and marry somebody that doesn’t look like you that doesn’t sound like you that’s foreign from you and then you have the sense of home all of a sudden and want to bring them to Japan and you kidnap them that does not make any sense to me it’s like they’re trying to force their children to only be Japanese and be nothing else so they’ll be excepted by Japanese culture. It’s the sick and disgusting. I’m not trying to bass Japanese people but the idea that you can go and kidnap your children and then a strange them from their other parent and act as if that’s OK and it’s heroic is disgusting.
Femail genital mutilation is a custom in some places that doesnt mean it's right. I understand that they have this wierd purity thing going on but not allowing the child to see the other parent at all is not ok. Plan and simple the parent doing the snatching is horribly wrong and minipulituve but like they say it's normal to them so it's probably ingrained in there heads from a young age by there parents. They need to break the chain or things are just going to get worse when the child grows up and realises what there parent has done and how there is a whole nother side to who they are and where they come from and it will breed hatred in the child.
the real question is why is japan able to still have a nice conducive society even without these laws. does japan have a major fatherless child problem? NO! what's different about the u.s. that makes these laws a necessity? you could say black people are largely the reason why we have child custody laws, but you would also have to blame women as well.
Japan is very notorious for Child abduction. For the time being, we have reached the point where we can legislate it. However, it is not known whether the abducted children will be returned immediately. I will propose a boycott of Japanese companies by organizations in Europe, the United States, and Australia whose children have been abducted to Japan. The number of 500 people issued by a member of the U.S. House of Representatives had an impact. Some of the abductees were members of the Marine Corps and navies. I believe that this is also a political issue related to the Japan-U.S. security agreement. Even if the Family Law is revised, it is unlikely that children will be returned to the abducted parents, and the problem is not reported by the media in Japan today. However, if it is treated as an economic issue, I think the media will handle it. Japan is also vulnerable to pressure from foreign countries, especially the U.S. District.
It is usually assumed that something horrible happened to the Japanese wife to run away with her child, maybe the husband beat her up or treated her bad. You never know. If that wasn't the case, I feel sorry for those husbands.
Deadbeat dad things huh? It's called LOVE. Which happens over time or immediately. It's dna shared to a child and as that child grows and develops your features you gain an invested attachment that is closer to self love than anything else. A parent wants more for their child, seeks to build more, work more, play more. They fight to stay alive for their children.
I have a feeling either you're trolling or going thru your "teen phase," but I'm gonna tell you this... When you get older, you're gonna appreciated your father alot...
The American father who's wife abducted his kids should consider himself lucky he doesn't have to both lose his children and pay child support at the same time. In American that is the way it would be for him most of the time. Because women often want kids and not a permanent husband, I had a vasectomy at age 20. No man should be having children anymore at all. It's just not worth the risk.
I'm pro-choice for women and men. When abortion is widely and safely available, there will be no valid reason for a man to be forced to support a child the woman chose not to abort. And any woman who keeps a child because a man promises to help raise it in any way should be able to get herself a legally binding contract obligating him to do so (with an opt-out only available if a paternity test is negative). A one-night-stand shouldn't have to ruin lives. I hate the stigma of shame around sex and birth control.
@@SorrySorrySorry For me, if the kid was a mistake and the woman does not want to abort, that's her choice. She can choose to keep the child or not. You should also get to make a similar choice. It was a mistake and you want nothing to do with the kid, that's fine. But at least pay child support. Get a paternity test done and an agreement drawn out in court. Think of it as an 18 year long restitution for a mistake you made.
Dead beat dad sections here... you're not a great listener. Ask him if he feels lucky. A real one would rather have that small connection with the receipts to prove their connection and support despite the disconnect. A real parent knows no bounds when it comes to love for a child.
Getting back at someone for WW2? if anything it should be other east asians getting back at Japan for the war. 2 Nuclear bombs ≠ Crimes of Japanese Empire
The woman who left her disabled kid should never be able to hold custody of a child.
my thoughts exactly!!! how convenient that she takes the abled child over her son. Their separation is tragic but the son is probably better off in his fathers care.
You have to understand in Japan, having a disabled child, is like a black mark on you back in the day they used to shame Japanese women for giving birth to disable children that stigma still exist in Japan
Craig is an incredible dad. Spencer is tough kid. Hang in there boys.
Many Europeans are suffering the same thing. And this is recently happened. Japan doesn't even respect the treaty they signed. Disgusting and cold hearted people. Why cut an innocent child from they father or mother.
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Everything just seems so unfair. Hiding behind culture is not an excuse. No wonder nobody wants to get married in Japan anymore.
Exactly 😬
I'm Japanese but I agree with you.because these trajedies happen in Japan domestic as well.lawyers whisper there is best way to divorce in advantageous term.
Not only that cheating is rampant there, when children becomes adults many don't even contact their parents anymore. Family isn't a priority in Japan, hence their state
westerners like you think every human in this world should be accountable to international law, but how do resolve identity if this is the case.
big mouth shut up you do not tell japanese what to do in their own country!!
These parents who alienate the other loving parent from their children’s lives r only doing their children a massive disservice. It’s selfish, sick and beyond disturbing!
yeah well its only 18 years at most big deal!!!
Toxic dominance is horrendous by either gender. This is Japanese women negotiating with their kids as a weapon and as a victim all while crying that they're the ones being abused and refusing any criticism of the damage they do to their partners and kids
ATTENTION: 📣PLEASE GIVE YOUR LIFE TO THE LORD JESUS CHRIST OR HELL IS YOUR FINAL RESTING PLACE.
Believe it or not but I have repeatedly told my children never to marry Japanese . Too many cases…
Idk how the Japanese government doesn't see the damage they are doing to these children in the long run. so sad
ATTENTION: 📣PLEASE GIVE YOUR LIFE TO THE LORD JESUS CHRIST OR HELL IS YOUR FINAL RESTING PLACE.📢
Kids are resilient. They grow up well with the only one person who cares and nurtures emphatically. That only person may not be related. I take care of 27 Thai neglected children in a Christian home. They are all very positive and remarkable children. We show them love of Christ.
@@freddiestranger9783 oh they know alright.
@@Truthseeker371 showing them the love of an imaginary person can do more damage in the long run
the Japanese government can do no wrong. That's how they have always seen themselves.
Every foreign man who wants a Japanese wife, needs to watch this video!
When that guys daughters ran from him and ignored him, it hurt my soul. Men definitely need equal rights when it comes to children
i know, i can only fathom his pain
Yes. These days there are many single fathers.
Lol equal rights in this world, keep dreaming
I agree but this particular issue isn't a man or woman issue but a parent one
They've been brainwashed by the mother.
Police in Japan wont help a foreigners. This is common sense in Japan.
Complete opposite in my country , police is hostile to locals but super friendly with foreigners
ATTENTION:📣✝️PLEASE GIVE YOUR LIFE TO THE LORD JESUS CHRIST OR HELL IS YOUR FINAL RESTING PLACE ♨️🔥
@@erenmademewritethis9833 same here. They give free money to my ex while I have been abused by him. He deserve to be deported.
Lesson learned: Married only with your fellow countrymen/same nationality
But what if your partner from the same country as you somehow gets granted citizenship in Japan? What happens then
This has happened to me. The mother has been slowly shutting me out from the kids for years. The mental strain has become to great and I have made the most difficult decision of my life to return to my family and friends in the states as I have no support structure here. My boys are clever, handsome and funny. I can only pray that one day they will want to be reunited with their father and realize we have been kept apart against my wishes. Prayers for all parents going through this. These policies are evil and heartless and are terrible for the children involved. This is the worst kind of hell.
If Japan wants to increase their birthrate, they need to fix this and automatically give shared custody in a divorce except in cases of verifiable child abuse. Ppl won't have kids if they know that if things don't work out that the other can abduct their own kids with impunity. It's detrimental to children as well.
agreed
Not before age 5. Please study attachment parenting. Attachment breaks with the mom cause trust issues. Kids who are seperated from their moms will grow up to become stalkers and kill their partners when the partner dumps them. Watch Dr. Faye Snyder videos on that issue. She says seperation from the mom at age 3 causes ADHD. She says babies age 1 and under can't be without their mom more than 1 hour per week. Age 2, 2 hours. Age 3, 3 hours.
@@moondog7694 Dont assume shit, dumbass.
I am asian living in Canada. A lot of westerner around me are intrigued by Japan and dream to work and live there especially women. I an shock. Most westerner doesn’t know how middle age Japan is for women roles, mental issues, individual choice, society expectation, etc. Trust me, people are much happier here.
Not all Japanese are two faced but watching this documentary. I realize how cold the individual they are and they seem to never be up front or opened up to anything.
@@Anthony9580 Ouch! The real question is how will Japan ever going to fix the birth rate? I know that other countries have this issue.
I’m japanese.
I would like to tell everyone in the world. Japan is definitely an abducting nation!
And many Japanese people also suffer from this problem, and some parents even commit suicide.
does no one ask the one that leaves WHY they think they're better off running away? And WHY they think that it's so much better for the child to lose a parent?
There has to be more to these stories than, "one day my kids were gone."
I can tell you what happens often.. the Japanese women come to the west as they dont like Japan.. often run away from that place.. so they come to start a family in th west.. bu there issue tis they bring their culture here and all they learn in Japan also.. so when they realise that the western dad they married is just too different from them and they have totally opposite believes and practices.. the woman starts to get highly stressed out and pissed of and unhappy, then there becomes huge hostility in the house and in my case the wife starts behaving really out of line and desperate,,, then one day she. decides she needs to be back in the country she ran away from.. but sadly she steals the kid from dad and runs back there on her own without telling dad... and so the story ends and dads life with his kid ends too .. thats one of the many reasons.. please dont be fooled thinking they are running away from a violent western dad..NO FUKIN WAY.. its far from not in these cases... in fact the Japanese women get so stressed out that they start showing who they really are and start being violent to the dad and abusixe mentally and physically,,
@@davidanthony4960 actually most Western dads are irresponsible and violent to their kids that they got from marrying Japanese woman. Most often the case of Western dad neglecting their kids are rampant. Usually, Japanese dads are the best to take care of japanese kids.
Well yes but the law in itself is stral. It counts on couples not divorcing and women being housewives
Japan fosters a culture of sexual deviance. They openly admit cheating in marriages. Western ethics do not align with most of Asia's ethics. Women want children but don't want to share parenting, lack of maturity and conflict resolution, many other reasons but yea watch your heart. Rules follow.
Many times these programs want to interview the abductor parent but they decline. Sometimes it may be true physical and mental abuse. Some are people that do not want to be with the other person and is selfish and want to raise the child the way they want without an potentially objecting ex. If they have nothing to hide then the abductors should be proud to share their side of the stories. Japan has a declining population, I wonder if they want to have more citizens even if they are abducted children. Also, very biased to think children should belong with mothers. Not all mothers are cable and good mothers.
I wonder what happens when a cop or a judge sees his child getting abducted ? Do they just let it go or realize there's a problem with the japanese laws ??? They can't be insensible to the situation once they're affected
They don't consider it abduction.
Western laws as a whole not japanese alone
I read one of the Japanese PM's(?) Had his children 'abducted' by his wife. One of the children was born after the wife left. The two older children only saw him again when they were of legal age to decide to see him.
It’s literally about identity. Some of the parents feel that if they take their kid the kids are taken away to another country. The kids will be considered foreigners and not Japanese so I think they take the kids so that the kids will be considered or have Japanese identity because identity or nationalism is very strong over there, so strong to the point where even if their kids are half Japanese in some Japanese people’s eyes they’re still considered foreigners, even if they have Japanese blood running through the veins
please dont think that its directed towards western men specifically, it happens to japanese men, and men of all races. the amount of racism and blatant ignorance in this comment section is disgusting.
This is crazy....I feel horrible for these parents
I went through this is soo painful not able to see my kids.
you do not tell japanese what to do in their own country.
@@elmalanmalan2175 I understand your pain. I'm sorry.
@@bugrist thank you 🙏🏼
Ready to call this ridiculous but then remembered my mom was making serious moves to take us to Japan in the *1970s* I think I'm the one who talked her out of it.
The title should be: Japan's Fucked Up Family Law
yep
I agree
So sad to see dads not able to see their kids
This is ridiculous. How can anyone think that removing a child from a loving parent is best for them. And of course the lawyer lady is OK with it because she did it with her own kids she's not going to call herself a criminal.
Alot about Japanese social experience is fakery. A real one will accept the charge and correct the behavior to the best of their ability. I only want a real one.
Moral of the story… do not marry Japanese. Also, don’t be that stupid to trust your spouse w your money.
For all of their sophistication... truly barbaric.
I agree
Still ongoing problem.What a cruel country.
it is just insane how long this has been going on, i just found out abou tthis issue now due to vincent fichots hunger strike to protest his kids being kidnapped in 2018. After hearing abou it i started going deeper and this has been going on since the early 90s, absolutely devastating,
Same here! After hearing about it on BBC, I can stop doing research. Absolutely tragic that this is happening.
English man trying to talk to his daughters whoa that has a sad scene
Wow truly sad and horrible how any woman would think that is a good idea to do this to their children :((
@@moderngeaisha5113 it’s so unimaginable to me. Even is he was a bad husband or they had a falling out of love situation, doesn’t mean he was a bad parent. Disgusting situation. What a selfish woman
Craig and all these dads you deserve all their happiness🥺😩
The reason I came to Japan because my wife took my son without my permission.
Visit the yakuza. If you have money, maybe they can help you. The courts and the government will not.
Whats the Yakuzas going to do?
It seems this is unstoppable!
That women in the pink jacket is a jerk.
I wouldnt want to keep my husband away from my kids if we divorced. Too harmful for my kids.
Why in the world would you marry one Ms. Hamite(sp) - why would ANY OF YOU marry one! I simply do not understand it! Non-custodial parents, educate the public wherever you live - spread the word about The Hague Convention. Japan is non-signatory to many of its properties - clearly indicates the Japanese mentality.
I knew what Japanese women were about the moment I came here. I’m female but I’ve been here long enough to know I wouldn’t trust them as far as I could throw them.
Advice: before getting involved with a Japanese women, make sure you know her and know her well. Women see this, but often men do not.
Racist
Why you said this? Are they truly mean people? What the heck happen with this crazy ladies?
Dude, don't generalize. I'm sure not all Japanese women are like that.
The people are raised to withhold and have a general aire of fakery. Because of this they lack conflict resolution skills and therefore are immature in a sense. They are also fostered to be more promiscuous than western culture so be aware. You will not see the same person at home as you do in the streets.
@@MandatedReporter You sound bitter. And extremely misgonistic. If this rant is directed at all Japanese women, then I guess Xenophobic too.
Dude, some human beings might be serial killers, rapists, murderers ect but that does not mean ALL human beings are serial killers, murderers, rapists ect.
People do shitty things sometime.
I assure you people in other parts of the world do the same shitty things.
These kinds of videos are made to spread awareness of a certain issue not so bigots like you can join up with other bigots are spread hate speech.
Seriously, get a life.
Thankfully a lot is changing (sadly in a way too). My daughter is half Japanese and we have lived happily in NZ for 16 years. His mother initially was a bit hesitant but she came around. So much so that on one visit back to Japan, my father in-law commented that our relationship seemed so happy, he was so in control of his family and his wife especially and started to understand how things could be better. The last thing he said to my husband was “I’m so proud of you for being with a kiwi and having a happy family” we left back to Nz and 2 weeks later we found out he killed himself. Very sad. His mother though seems a lot happier and free. She has always been welcoming and inviting. I can’t wait to go back again soon :) my favourite country!
thats so messed up ? ? wtf...
They definitely have spiritual issues deeply embedded in their culture
My uncle had a Japanese wife and she tried that shit. Luckily he got to her quick before she took the kids.
butterfly dragon were they lived in the US or Japan? How did your uncle stop his wife from taking the kids?
@@niknikng1668 Didnt see your response notification till now. They were in the US. He caught her cheating and and had custody of the children after their divorce. If there was visitation he would be aware and did not trust her. So he would ask questions and in extreme instances I heard he would follow them around smh
Wow found it pretty disgusting and selfish.
Parental Alienation is a sad thing to happen to any child
19:00 a “custom”?
That's a stupid remark.
God bless Craig!
Craig u a great dad!!!! Keep it up 👍🏼
How can I contact Craig?
The father is amazing. However, having said that. If I was born as spencer is, I would rather die than live that way, brain damage on that level essentially is being a vegetable, that is no life at all. To just sit there for year after year not being able to speak or move or do anything at all. It seems more like torture, I’ve taken adderall and muscle relaxers at the same time and it was a sort of torture. Having ur mind aware but your body unable to do anything to keep up with your mind. It’s maddening. At one point you have ask yourself, is there life? Or mere existence? I think we all deserve a good chance at living our lives no matter what, but if it was me in that state? Let me go and hopefully be reborn into a shell or body that works better.
Came here from a WaPo article about the man doing a hunger strike over child custody in Japan at the Olympics. Still can't believe how WRONG this custom is.
8:35 Jesus Christ, imagine what venom the mother must put on the children for them to hurt their father so deeply.
That was heartbreaking watching such small children trained to just sprint away from and ignore their father.
Who knows the wife probably says “oh he’s an evil man he will take you away!!” Awful. So awful.
Maybe research into the culture and social norms you are marrying into rather than just jumping the gun , like it is common sense.
Japanese women are not dolls they are human.
The motive iss to never married japanese man/woman
The moral?
I mean in the states women take children and force fathers to pay for the destruction of their relationship with their child. Yes we have rights in the states ie the right to pay a lawyer money you do not have to lose in court. At least in Japan you are not forced into financial slavery for a child you cannot see. In the states it is a serious, not discussed problem. Men effectively no parental rights in the United States, generally the western world from what I hear.
"Financial slavery"? You sound ridiculous. Supporting your child is not "financial slavery," idiot!
Buddy u can at least see your damn kids only way u can’t see the kids is if u are a danger dumbass
I see you don't know about the Japan's "Salaryman" and the term,"Karoshi" (aka working to death)...
@@WatchHeadsRoll Nothig wrong with taking care of your kid, however US courts don't stop there. Do research. Fathers are getting fucked over in the US.
Yea no... But deadbeat antics in this comment.
This strange system still continues. Parents and children in Japan are being divided, and the future of their children is being lost.
My problems seem pretty darn petty in comparison to these folks screwing all these kids up.
To help put that in perspective, I am a double amputee heroin addict.
You'll make it. There's life after death so be sure to live the heck out of this life and regret nothing. The hunger is there it will always be there. Accept it as a part of you and a witness to your journey. I tell my OCD my triumphs and my failures because it's a part of me and it will always be there so I may as well accept it.
This system is affecting children in a horrible way
Literally I’m here watching for the third time out of desperation
The only way they would change is if one of THEIR kids got abducted
Oh my God...such a rich country...no rule for such ridiculous crime. I cant believe it ! so embarrassing.....
Interesting to see Craig speaking to his son in Japanese while letting him take a bath
This is messed up :(
Parental alienation us real and disgusting from any parent to do
So they can tell the difference between their children and everyone's else's.
Go to Japan and take your vhild to The American embassy. It does work but you have to make it with your child to American soil/The American Embassy. I saw a movie based on True events of this very same topic. The movie is Taken from Me: The Tiffany Rubin Story. The only difference is her child was taken to South Korea.
This will teach others not to marry Japanese women...I hope the whole world sees this...
Rusty Alcorta i have a Japanese girlfriend we are together 4 years now but since the first month i told her i will never marry or get kids from Japanese
@@helmiyoussef2835 Good for you. I applaud you. Take care.
@@helmiyoussef2835 It's really ironic to see someone who comes from a community that is often the target of racism by other communities, acting racist towards other communities.
No wonder why many people around the world are starting to lose sympathy for those who are the targets of discrimination.
Tragic tale of a father's love and bigoted indifference.
Majority people in the comments section: "Japan is racist, Japan is disgusting."
also, they: "(make biased and derogatory comments about Japanese people)."
LOL.
fuck this is worst than hell lmao
Signing the Hague convention hardly changed anything. And as long as the House thinking (think House of Duras kind of thingie) is happily alive, Japan will never allow a complete stranger (-the divorced spouse without guardianship) meddle with the matters of another house. Even children's wills don't matter.
1st story very hard , very difficult situation. So sad, mother was scared.
Marukobichi Kastle Yet she is not allowing her ex husband to see their other child, how is that good for her daughter.
That woman is a huge piece of sh*t, the word mother is too big for her!
Thank you god for sparing me this fate. Don't get married kids, especially to crazy people!
And don't have kids; they never consented to be born in the first place. I know I didn't.
The gene of Cruelty.
18:26 Problematic statements made by a Japanese Member of Parliament
Hi from Japan
Education and cultural norms or whatever that’s creating my bias makes me feel
“Didn’t the estranged husband/wife do SOMETHING that would make their significant other leave?”
What you call “abduction” is a “heroic story of a desperate person running for life to save their souls ” for me
How is it heroic when these people are literally kidnapping their children and some of them are using them as leverage to exploit from the estranged spouse did you hear or did you understand the story about the lady in Utah how the mother-in-law was literally asking her to sign her name on her house in Utah to give her $50,000 how is that heroic? That’s what cowards do what about the other Incident where the mother left the child that was disabled and didn’t tell her husband she was pregnant and had a another baby and when he went to go see her because he found out he had another child. She called the police on him that’s not heroic that’s cowardice it’s kidnapping point blank. And In America they all be in jail. and that’s the point why go to another country and marry somebody that doesn’t look like you that doesn’t sound like you that’s foreign from you and then you have the sense of home all of a sudden and want to bring them to Japan and you kidnap them that does not make any sense to me it’s like they’re trying to force their children to only be Japanese and be nothing else so they’ll be excepted by Japanese culture. It’s the sick and disgusting. I’m not trying to bass Japanese people but the idea that you can go and kidnap your children and then a strange them from their other parent and act as if that’s OK and it’s heroic is disgusting.
Can you "Take/abduct" them back?
No the second “kidnapping” is considered illegal. Ironically.
Femail genital mutilation is a custom in some places that doesnt mean it's right. I understand that they have this wierd purity thing going on but not allowing the child to see the other parent at all is not ok. Plan and simple the parent doing the snatching is horribly wrong and minipulituve but like they say it's normal to them so it's probably ingrained in there heads from a young age by there parents. They need to break the chain or things are just going to get worse when the child grows up and realises what there parent has done and how there is a whole nother side to who they are and where they come from and it will breed hatred in the child.
You are comparing FMG with not being able to see a parent??!??! Nothing to do with purity, just patriarchy. Check a FMG video first, weirdo.
Welcome to japan
Two sides to every story. Of course these people will paint themselves in the best light.
Doesn’t matter if they were assholes, they still deserve contact with their kids
It is not custom.
ugh instead of listening to these crazy ladies cry.. hear the facts
This is terrifying.
This almost cured my Asian fever. Almost.
Incel.
@@Cyberprank-tz5fx Asian girls are cute tho, don't you agree?
@@Cyberprank-tz5fx only dumbasses who think all life is about is sex say incel buddy
It cured mine. After more then 15 years of having the fever it was cured in 26min and 35sec.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 you're stupid fam, you're stupid 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 almost cured mine too... Almost
Unfortunately, Japan's law and legal system is very backwards in many cases like this.
people should watch this if u are planning in marrying a japanise female i never would there not truthfully people
I wouldn’t marry any Japanese person regardless of gender. Courts always rule in favor of Japanese citizen not the foreigner
the real question is why is japan able to still have a nice conducive society even without these laws.
does japan have a major fatherless child problem? NO! what's different about the u.s. that makes these laws a necessity?
you could say black people are largely the reason why we have child custody laws, but you would also have to blame women as well.
pretty harsh
Is that really a picture of you?
GOD BLESS YOU Steve Johnson!!! ❤❤❤
Very sad situation.
What about why the Japanese government does this? Just tradition, or is there other reasons?
Low birth rates
The 2 girls were just running from their ather.
Japan is very notorious for Child abduction.
For the time being, we have reached the point where we can legislate it. However, it is not known whether the abducted children will be returned immediately.
I will propose a boycott of Japanese companies by organizations in Europe, the United States, and Australia whose children have been abducted to Japan.
The number of 500 people issued by a member of the U.S. House of Representatives had an impact. Some of the abductees were members of the Marine Corps and navies. I believe that this is also a political issue related to the Japan-U.S. security agreement.
Even if the Family Law is revised, it is unlikely that children will be returned to the abducted parents, and the problem is not reported by the media in Japan today. However, if it is treated as an economic issue, I think the media will handle it. Japan is also vulnerable to pressure from foreign countries, especially the U.S. District.
Learn from it. Don't be love and love is blind
It is usually assumed that something horrible happened to the Japanese wife to run away with her child, maybe the husband beat her up or treated her bad. You never know. If that wasn't the case, I feel sorry for those husbands.
Also japan signed The Hague convention in 2014 but only recently started acting upon it
This is crazy this "child abduction" thing.
Que duro... Graig que corazón
Those Japanese women and men are so weird. Kidnapping your own. Children.
There is no such law. Abducting is not a bad thing .. really ???
That’s because the idea of identity in Japan it happens in other countries to Korea. It is notorious, but it’s in the reverse and
Marry only you race for the love of God
ALL men must understand that the law looks at you as just a sperm donor.NO SUCH THING AS FATHERS RIGHTS!
I would say most of these guys have other motives. What man is this desperate to care for a child?
Deadbeat dad things huh? It's called LOVE. Which happens over time or immediately. It's dna shared to a child and as that child grows and develops your features you gain an invested attachment that is closer to self love than anything else. A parent wants more for their child, seeks to build more, work more, play more. They fight to stay alive for their children.
8:24, 17:40, 18:14,
My mom would always threaten my dad that shes gonna take me and my sister and go back to japan. That kept my punk ass dad in check
mby ur pops just wanted to fucken see you once in a while, whoever he may be he has feelings too TwT
I have a feeling either you're trolling or going thru your "teen phase," but I'm gonna tell you this... When you get older, you're gonna appreciated your father alot...
LoL, you soulless sack of shit. 1 day you'll appreciate the abuse your father endured to be in your life..Which seems like a waste anyway.
Bitch shut up
Your kinda rude
The American father who's wife abducted his kids should consider himself lucky he doesn't have to both lose his children and pay child support at the same time. In American that is the way it would be for him most of the time. Because women often want kids and not a permanent husband, I had a vasectomy at age 20. No man should be having children anymore at all. It's just not worth the risk.
I'm pro-choice for women and men. When abortion is widely and safely available, there will be no valid reason for a man to be forced to support a child the woman chose not to abort. And any woman who keeps a child because a man promises to help raise it in any way should be able to get herself a legally binding contract obligating him to do so (with an opt-out only available if a paternity test is negative). A one-night-stand shouldn't have to ruin lives. I hate the stigma of shame around sex and birth control.
No men? Then humans would cease to exist
@@SorrySorrySorry For me, if the kid was a mistake and the woman does not want to abort, that's her choice. She can choose to keep the child or not. You should also get to make a similar choice.
It was a mistake and you want nothing to do with the kid, that's fine. But at least pay child support. Get a paternity test done and an agreement drawn out in court. Think of it as an 18 year long restitution for a mistake you made.
Dead beat dad sections here... you're not a great listener. Ask him if he feels lucky. A real one would rather have that small connection with the receipts to prove their connection and support despite the disconnect. A real parent knows no bounds when it comes to love for a child.
Are these women getting back at American men because of WW11?
Getting back at someone for WW2? if anything it should be other east asians getting back at Japan for the war.
2 Nuclear bombs ≠ Crimes of Japanese Empire
Waifus breaking bad..
Look its Skylar White Yo 2:26