The Surprising Benefits of Traveling Alone as a Married Woman
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HELLO lovelies!! 🌸 Here's a video I've been meaning to create for awhile! I'm currently in Iceland and heading back home soon to my honey! 🍯What are the ways that you celebrate your authentic self in your partnership, if you are in one!
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My Mom and her gentleman friend weren't married, but were together for almost 50 years. (My Dad passed when I was a teen. She worked with this man for many years) They lived in separate houses, and got together when they felt like it. They traveled together thru the USA and parts of Europe. Watching them, it seemed to be the more perfect relationship. I admired them the older I got. I lost myself when I got married. His life and likes became mine. When he passed away (many years back) I realized I could be 'myself' again. I applaud you two for making this work. Blessings to you both.
so your glad your husband died?
Wow thanks for your sharing your story!! And I’m so sorry about your dad’s passing as a teen - losing a parent at a young age is the hardest thing 😭 so glad to hear this video was inspiring to you!
I love everything about this and couldn’t agree more. I lost myself in my marriage and in the end, 36yrs later, I found myself divorced and starting over at the age of 63. I rediscovered myself and I’m enjoying life for the first time. You and Alex are such a great example of how to live “happily ever after”. Much love to you both ❤️💙😘
Helena you have the kind of relationship with your husband that I desire if I am ever in a relationship again. I am 53 and have had several long term relationships. With two of them I felt I lost myself. I have been single for the past 6 years and I love my freedom and independence and do not ever want to sacrifice that again. I have started taking solo trips and they can be so much fun. I have one planned for next month at Thanksgiving. Being alone for the past several years I have learned what I want in life and what truly makes me happy. You have time to self reflect more when you are alone and I feel I am not lonely. I have my 2 dogs and a handful of friends that fill my cup. Thanks for sharing!
I love that you talk about not putting pressure on one another to be each other's source of happiness. It is so so easy to fall into that in a relationship! It is So Imperative for a healthy relationship to realize that you are responsible for your own happiness. The relationship gets to add to that of course ❤ but true peace and happiness in life must come from within. You both are such a beautiful example of a strong and healthy marriage! I especially Love that what you share inspires me to not put myself or my marriage inside the confines of societal "norms". My husband and I both often travel solo, usually to visit family/friends who live in different states, and we always love that time apart! We also absolutely love to travel together, it is one of our favorite things to do together. 💕 It is so cool that you and Alex respect each other's different lifestyle preferences while still maintaining such a beautiful relationship! 💗
Yesss. No need to not lose your own life. Even if can’t travel on your own (due to having little children), it’s amazing to take turns to go to a coffee shop on your own. Take walks, take a full alone self care day. Then just have a full family today together on Sundays. Feels great and you don’t lose yourself, even with children and a partner.
I'm so glad I came across your channel Helena. I've been married to my soulmate for 5 years, together for 10, known each other for 15. He's my dream guy, as you said about your lovely husband. I recently took 5 weeks to travel across Europe by myself and was so pleasently surprised, it was a magical experience and I feel so connected to myself right now. Your words resonate with me so much, it's so important to give each other space and grow as a person.
You get to fall in love with each other over and over because you aren't tripping over each other every day. Some of the happiest couples I know are in committed marriages but chose to have separate residences. Societal norms are bs. Follow your bliss.
Great Vlog and great catch up. 👍 Love you both ✨💖
I love how this turned out! You're such an inspiration honey!
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❤love this! It’s so crazy how society, religion, family members try and tell you how to live. You have to figure out what is best for you. I’m a long distance mom, have a boyfriend of 5 years and live on my own. Doesn’t make sense to others but that’s okay. Life can sometimes take turns and twists and we do our best!
YES! Isn't it crazy? Everyone should do what works for them and celebrate others for being true and authentic to themselves! 🎉
Nice to see Estonia in the video 😊 I agree that its good to be happy by yourself and not hold back your dreams. We also like to have solo trips. But I wouldn't like to be away for longer than a week from my family or have my husband away regularly. And couldn't see how it could work for family with children. I think people would srart to live too separate lives and grow apart. But short solo trips are a breath of fresh air 🙌
Beautiful! Have a magical trip Helena, and see you in two weeks, right Alex?😄🤗🙋♀️
Yea maybe! XD
Good for you, knowing what you want & need & finding someone who supports you, instead of trying to change you. Independence is a quality that we all need to cultivate, not suppress.
Thanks, Helena! Your videos make me feel that I am so much understood. ❤it is nice to see how you explore the world with courage and curiosity...❤
I love this! Similar life but not as “extreme” for lack of a better word. Wonder what the plan is if babies come along. That’s challenging!
We aren’t having children.
This is very inspiring and motivating! 😊 I traveled solo twice and then the pandemic happened and I found my love and got married. It's something that's been on my mind lately! I love my husband and want to be with him all the time.. we've been to many cities and countries together but I also miss just being by myself and exploring a new city on my own terms 😊
I love this! Helena, your videos are so inspiring & beautiful. I love the effort & creativity you put into them. You have unique talent!😇🥰
🥺 This means so much, thank you. I put so much time and energy into them ❤️ Thank you for sharing your kind words with me 😻
@@helenawoods Aww, I'm glad. I can tell you put so much work into them!!💖 It's important to appreciate the creation of art💜📷
Love from Pakistan ❤❤❤
When I watch your Vlogs, I think of my sister. She is very creative like you. So happy for you
What a lovely couple you are together and obviously very like minded with a great understanding of each other. I love the way you evolve your life. I live alone and always reinvent my life with new adventures and challenges to prevent myself from stagnation. I always give you the thumbs up Helena😂
aw thank you 🥰 This is so nice to read! These types of videos (anytime it involves my husband and our marriage) always gets a mixed bag of comments. It's refreshing to see kindness and support so thank you for sharing your light and kindness with me ❤️
You are both so lovely! ♥️
OMG !!! I feel exactly the same than you! I'm leaving for two months to New York alone without my partner. He is agree with it and i know I'm lucky. But if one day he asks me to stop i don't think i couldn't stop being alone.
It's all personal preferences and boundaries. To me :
1.Traveling alone with friends is ok and healthy for the balance between romantic relationships and friendships
2. Traveling alone with family. Absolutely
3. Traveling alone meaning solo...hell no. I mean why? Do you need a break, is there a problem that bothers you? This screams avoidant personality.
4. Traveling for work , yes that's normal but it depends how often and for how long. This is tricky as it may ruin your relationship if you are not on the same page for this. I personally don't want to travel more than 10% and want to be around my SO.
5. Traveling with male best friends, male friends or exes.....absolutely NO. This is where my boundaries stop. I don't care about BS like we are just friends and being called insecure or controlling. I respect my SO and won't put her in this situation. This is not about trust issues, but rather respect.
It IS about personal preferences. Which is interesting you note that because you also assume that solo travelers have an avoident attachment style. 👀Both my husband and I are secure attachment. And FYI. Before I met him, I was anxious attachment. Not everyone needs a break or is having problems when they want to travel alone. Maybe other people in the world are just...not like you 🙃
I think, a lot of people feel bad for Alex, that he happens to love a person who’s not ready to settle yet…
Your sympathy is inappropriate here, perhaps it's a projection of how you'd feel if you were me? I love that Helena's going out and pursuing her dreams, like I say in the video as long as she's away no more than 2 weeks at a time I'm perfectly content with having the place to myself at home.
Your whisper talking and really hard to hear. Not trying to offend you ✌🏾
Thanks for letting me know! I definitely was not whisper talking when I recorded this yesterday and it’s very loud on my end while replaying on my phone but I’ll play with the volume when editing the next one to see if it can be a bit louder - thanks!
@@helenawoods thank you for understanding you help give me motivation. I’m just not always sitting still with my ADHD when I’m listening!
Yes! Yes! Yes!!! It is sooo refreshing to hear someone speak in this way about such a seemingly uncommon style of relationship. My partner and I are going on 5 years together and have never lived together and don't have any plans to do so. I frequently get inspired to go for short road trips or adventures into nature and never feel obligated to include him - I really love doing these things on my own and having that sacred self time. We get together when we are both inspired to, and there is never any expectation or pressure from either of us. It's so free, open, loving, passionate, and importantly - FUN! We've created a dynamic not as traditional as most but it is supportive, nourishing, so respectful and allows for full self-expression and exploration! 🩷
ahhh!! reading this has me smiling so hard!! 🥰💕 So refreshing for me to connect with a likeminded soul 😻 This is why I post this type of content. I wish I knew more people who enjoyed similar things and there's not a lot of people talking about it and this lifestyle online! So great connect with you Catharine! 🤗💕 Keep shining true and being you!