VLOG: Sadness is Sneaky, Thrifting around Austin, Exploring the City Alone
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- Опубліковано 21 тра 2024
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1:22 My fav Cereal
3:40 Cleaning Up!
4:15 CHAT - Sadness is Sneaky + Hype Up Song
6:34 Let's Thrift!
10:03 I Designed Something Exciting!
11:37 How I Motivate Myself to go to the Gym
12:48 Took Myself on a DATE
14:20 Happy Saturday!
15:10 Story Time: Why I Don't Have a Dining Table
17:40 Healthy Evening: Yoga, Sweetgreen + South Congress!
19:32 I Have Been Anxious Lately
20:49 Bubble Baths, Hot Chocolate + Final Thoughts
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My husband passed away and I cried over many things for a year. A loss of any kind is hard. You sharing is healthy. I adore your vlogs. BTW, my dog has chicken allergies too..lol
I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through that loss 🤍 and thank you for helping me feel less alone in my emotions!🤍
So sorry...may his memory be eternal 🙏
💔😔😢 My deepest condolences to you! I am so deeply sorry for your heartbreaking loss.
My daughter's doxie, Hush Puppy has a chicken allergy.
I hope you are so happy now
After my divorce, every Friday I'd take a hot bath with bubbles. I'd light a candle, turn off big light, put on calming music and have a glass of wine. I loved Friday nights. PS: Keep talking about what you are feeling. It'll help you and possibly others.
People sometimes talk about the grieving process like it's a straight line, but it really isn't. It comes in waves. You may wake up perfectly fine then something familiar will hit different...and you'll feel like you're back in the thick of it again. I think the best way to handle those times is to acknowledge them, allow yourself to feel what you need to feel in that moment, learn what you can from it, and let it go. There's no schedule on grief. Eventually, those little moments won't happen as often or sting as much. Believe that.
Yes! Quoting Kacey Musgraves "Healing doesn't happen in a straight line"
Yes! Fully support eating out alone! Bring a book or something like that to do
I agree!
I love the book idea! I feel like that would make it feel more comfortable!
Yes, I brought a book when I ate out alone and it was so much more comfortable. Otherwise you're not sure what to do with yourself till food arrives!
I’m loving that you are currently at the stage of even considering a “date night” shirt... even if it’s for some arbitrary date in the unknown future. Girl, that is progress.
You’re right, that is progress!🥲🥰🤍 one day (maybe in the way future), I’m gonna go on some GREAT dates HAHAHAHHA.
You are my new favorite comfort youtuber 😘. About the eating alone- I did that a couple times when I was single, and I started out with something not as intimidating like Panera. Then I worked up to a more casual sports grill type place, then I went to what people would consider a “fancier” restaurant. The waiter was so impressed with me when I told him I was there by myself, and he treated me like a queen the whole night. It was lovely! I hope you do that and vlog it!
We need more humans like that server, what a sweet gesture and conversation!🥺🤍
I remember going to lunch by myself in college it always felt less intimidating if I was in between errands and I’d bring a book or sketchbook and I’d talk to the servers
Pro tip as someone who was never intimidated going out to eat alone when I was single: bring a book! It makes the whole experience more enjoyable too.
Going out to eat, seeing a movie, visiting a museum or driving to a different town on my own is fabulous. I'm retired but my hubby isn't. Even before getting married I did a lot of things on my own. When I was in my early twenties I decided to visit all the capital cities here in Australia. I've been to all of them except Darwin. Far too hot for me up there! Having seen them on my own meant the time was mine. See what you like. Do what you like. History is facinating to me so being able to enjoy old gaols and convict sites was brilliant. Bored relatives or friends weren't an issue. And as you've found, when your alone other people are more comfortable talking with you because they aren't 'interrupting'. I've had facinating, funny and insightful conversations with people I've never met before. I think you are doing extremely well!
What a beautiful comment!!! Thanks for sharing that with us 💗
@@Ali_E26 Well thank you! What a lovely thing to say.
I was so scared to eat alone until I just started doing it!! I know it's intimidating but honestly I wore my airpods and just people watched, took my time eating, tipped well and had a great time!
I love this!!! People watching is truly the best activity 😆
Oh my goodness I feel you with the prescriptions. We still use the same small town pharmacy and when the lady asked if I’d like to grab his prescription with mine and I choked up and shyly said “no”. I cried the whole way home. We can do hard things girl. God has us in his wonderful hands.
Oh friend, my heart feels for you. The questions by unsuspecting strangers are always hardest. 🥺 love you. 🤍
@@MichelJanse I love you too sweet lady. 🥰
I can completely relate to your comment about your prescription and Pasadena. I lost my mom in November and random things like that make me sad. Things like I’ll never go to our favorite Greek restaurant again with my mom or the last time I came
to BLANK was with my mom. I could go on and on. I am also separated from my husband. Divorce will be coming soon. Very hard couple of years. 😢. You are doing amazing. It will get better ❤️🩹 🙏🏼
It will get better for Michel, As it will for you
Hi Michel! I had multiple miscarriages last year, and while our losses are different, I love seeing you do things for yourself and focus on you. It’s so inspiring and has helped me relate to you as I’m also walking through a life situation I wasn’t expecting and am having to seek out joy right now! Thanks for all you do 🤍
Bring a book when you get a table for one!! It gives you something to read if you're feeling awkward or bored, and when other people see it, they usually assume no one else is joining you :)
Don't worry about over sharing, we are all human and experiences the same emotions at some time in our lives! It is not only therapeutic for you to share but it is also therapeutic for us to help us process our own emotions and not feel alone!!! You have no idea how much your honesty during this time is helping so many of us get thru difficult times in our own lives. You are beautiful, you are smart, you are independent and most importantly you are kind and loving. This door closing has opened up so many other doors for you.... explore them, enjoy them. Use this opportunity to discover more about yourself, be happy and do all the things you have always wanted to do but could not as your ex was holding you back from so many amazing opportunities in life. Sorry that was so long winded, but I was in your EXACT situation and I have now found the love of my life, started a family and am extremely happy. You can do it too! Relax, don't be so hard on yourself, let go of all the worries about your video content and just be open and honest. Anyone who has a problem with that can X out if the video and leave their opinions to themselves!!!!
This comment made my heart swell🥰 thank you sweet friend. I hope I’m on a similar trajectory as your story!
@@MichelJanse ❤
My dog is also allergic to chicken and always throws up. I feel badly because he loves it so much. In Chinese Medicine they believe feeding you dog neutral or cooling meats is best. If your dog has allergies, itchy skin, rashes, hot ears, pants a lot or sits in the shade, it could be a sign they are a more hot/warm dog and they may do better on cooling or neutral meats like Beef, Turkey or Pork so that’s what I do and it works with my little pupper :)
I use to feel awkward when I did things by myself. I have to say, I love it now. I go to movies alone, shopping, out to eat, I have even gone to dance classes alone, hoping to find a partner, which I did. Being along I think is a good thing, it means you enjoy being with you. I am also at an age where I really do not care what people think of me. So there is that. This time in my life has seriously been the best time of my life. I am almost 50, my daughter is grown, married and I have a grandson who is 6. I am single and have been for 9 years. I love that you push yourself to be uncomfortable, it is a true sign of growth. Good job Michel!! Keep stepping out of your comfort zone, you will be amazed how great life really is.
I regularly do meals out myself, cinema trips alone and even a few days away myself - love it. I'm married 31yrs this year, with 21 and 28 yr old girls but love the freedom of choosing to do things I love. So do your meals out and celebrate going to wherever you want xxx
I love this!
You're never alone when you have a dog. I have been a widow for 15 years and I sometimes get hit by all sorts of emotions but, since I've got my Labradoodle, I always feel like I have a friend. My kids are 24 and 17 and doing their own thing but Coco always wants to be with me. She's allergic to all meats except fish (if you call that a meat.)
Do you even recognize yourself?, you are getting out there and finding out who you want to be !! Congratulations girl
AWE! Thank you friend!🥰
I used to travel for work 50% of my time. I ate alone at restaurants all the time. You will get used to it!! Eating alone doesn’t have to mean you are alone. Sadness waves always come with loss and change. This too will pass is a great thing to tell yourself.
I don't like the way some people act about going out on your own. I mean, it used to make me nervous but now..I absolutely love it. I tell anyone who will listen that single or not, you should do it. Sometimes it's nice to just be by yourself! 🥰
I am two years past divorce and the first time I went into Lowe's without my husband I almost burst out crying. So yeah, the smallest things can set it off.
Do you think the husband side of things ever feels these sadness bursts that we feel?
@@blueseptember2174 I absolutely think they do. Likely less outwardly emotional, but they still have feelings-even if they don’t share them. A common way for some men who are depressed is to act out with anger.
@@CiTalMe I don't know why but that makes me feel better.
I’m so sorry you’ve felt similar things. It’s truly so difficult and unsuspecting sometimes. 🤍
I think you should do a week of doing things alone challenges, eating out, theaters, etc. Full week.
I've eaten alone at nice restaurants more times than I can count (including Valentine's Day). Personally I LOVE it! It's great people watching, I tend to get better service, and I enjoy the food more because I'm focusing on it rather than conversation. I'm sorry you overheard an (unintentially) upsetting comment but trust me, 99% of people at the restaurant won't care or notice that you're alone. It's a really empowering feeling experience IMO so I hope you go through with it!
thank you for posting so regularly and talking about your feelings so candidly :) i'm in a very similiar situation to yours (same age, christian, 6 year relationship ended) and your videos are a highlight of my day 100%.
Thank you for choosing the spend time w me here 🥰🤍 I’m glad to get to do life together
Heck yeah, go out to eat by yourself! I would always bring a book, just in case things got slow. Or eat at the bar!! Even though you don't drink, I had the most amazing conversations with strangers eating at the bar. Don't worry about what other people think, live your life!
I looooove that! So empowering!
Girl I’m married and I still do lunch dates with table reservation by myself there’s something refreshing just sitting there enjoying yourself and silence and I like to people watch so I enjoy it lol
I am married but love taking myself out to eat. You are the most important to yourself.
It's totally okay to think during shavasana!! I've cried during shavasana before and I'm not the only one. It's a reflective moment!
I didnt have a divorce or breakup, but I moved out of the town I lived in for 22 years. I go to visit my parents and see businesses that have been painted differently, or one of my favorite restaurants that closed makes me SO sad, especially since I didn't know RIGHT away. This year I went to the street fair that I always went to until I was like 16 (always worked weekends) and it was so exciting but also a little sad. I ran into some good friends from high school and one kept saying "you're welcome to come over any time" and it broke my heart that I wasn't 5 minutes away and I didn't have the heart to tell her I probably couldn't.
Love Love your videos!
Most restaurants (even really nice ones) have a bar, we actually like sitting at the bar and chatting with the bartender. If I’m going out alone that’s where I’ll be 😊
I love hearing your authentic feelings!
Sending you lots of love!!!
Another awesome video!! Thank you!!
Would you ever set a meet a greet with your fans?
So proud of you, Michel!
Loved those song recommendations!
I love your style, love all the thrifting and fashion videos you do
Max is adorable!
I've always been single and I've always enjoyed it. It can be a lot of fun going alone to places. You don't have to compromise, do things for other people, you get to be completely selfish and do whatever you want!
I hope you don't take this in the wrong way, because I only wish you happiness in life. But it has been amazing to see you find yourself over this season you are going through. I feel like you had lost your identity a bit, but you have come back as the strong and original woman that I engaged with a few year ago! I just left a long term relationship, and seeing you find yourself again has driven me to find myself again and I've never been happier.
Thank you for sharing your journey, because it can't be easy. But you really see helping people.
*are helping people.... not see
I love reading your video chapters, they're so funny and wholesome!
Just ordered the 6 pack one - love supporting you ❤️
I'm 38 and I eat by myself at cafe's and restaurants all the time. I've never had a partner though (I'm neurodiverse and just haven't found dating a priority/or the right person) so it could be different for me. And I just love eating out, if I want to ain't noone gonna stop me. I do get looked at, but I'm learning more and more over time to be unapologetic for other people's judgement, because sometimes my autistic ticks can be noticeable, and I can't change that, just like right here and now you can't change being single. Live your life and push that inner strength to the outside. You can do anything you set your mind to, especially in this time when you're free to make more choices on your own. *big heart hands*
Yes! table for 1 is perfect!
Girl your amazing
Cool song! 🤗
I like the song thanks for sharing !
Lovely Michel ~ Your dad is so cute and helpful with the song recommendations. You may do this already but as a single woman and just in general regardless, I put together different playlists for different things like, "Getting ready/makeup/looking cute", Dancing in my Apt for fun", "Cleaning my Apt", and "Confidence/I'm Beautiful" playlists. Music heals, is always there for your heart. LOVE when you go thrifting, the sweater set is perfection. Sadness is a necessary part of healing so thank you for talking about it. The best nights being single is ordering in, organizing and doing my laundry because it centers me for the rest of my week and I'm a dork too. :-) I like eating in restaurants being my own company, you don't have to keep up a conversation and you can order what you want. Since you're new to it, I suggest lunch sitting at the end of the bar or at a 2 top i the lounge area. In Seattle where I live, it's common to see single dining but the key for you is to find restaurants you are comfortable with re a great menu, staff and layout. I have fav places I love to go to! Cannot wait to see your dining table. Keep up the healing and transformation Michel, you are making progress!
You share what you care to share! We are here to support you!❤️
Thank you again for all of your vlogs!!! I look forward to them. I love you!
Love your videos as always girly you make my day make me feel better it's been rough thank you so much
Been loving all of your honesty and sharing in your videos lately! Thanks for showing up!
Love the song!!!
Love your honesty!!! Thank you! You are doing amazing! 🍯 😌🙏🏻
I just got home from going to 3 Goodwills. So Fun!
Hi, Michel and happy Saturday!😊😊😊😊😊😎☀.
I’m loving your channel Michel. I’m a new sub and have spent the last few weeks just binging your old vlogs. Also, you are doing such a good job in a difficult time of your life - you should be proud of yourself x
I lost my sister to Covid in June. I find so many things bring me to tears.
Awesome
You are still going through the grieving process. The 7 stages of grief
Shock and denial. This is a state of disbelief and numbed feelings.
Pain and guilt. ...
Anger and bargaining. ...
Depression. ...
The upward turn. ...
Reconstruction and working through. ...
Acceptance and hope.
Until you go through each of these, they will creep up! You cant skip any because they need to happen. OXOX
Hi Michel 😊. It's so nice to see you out & about instead of staying inside all by yourself. Keep exploring the areas around & I hope with each outing you find tons of joy filled moments 😁. Love the new sign that you've designed. Can't wait to see it in your home! Prayers & Wishes Lisa Hampton 😃
One of the alternatives to getting for a table for one (especially if I'm doing errands or am on a lunch break for work) will be just to sit at the bar. I know that you avoid alcohol, but, to me, bar seating is much more flexible, and people are less judgy about if you're there alone. Just a tip! :)
I have always felt self conscious sitting in a restaurant by myself and I’m 70!!!!!! I really love your channel so much I do respect you stepping out of your comfort zone.❤️
Sadness is normal as long as it doesn't stick around for long. The older you get you experience sadness more because you've lived through more of life. I'm 66. Now I realize that I have much to be grateful for. Things could of been alot worse, compared to what others go through. Now I can help others that are going through perhaps what I have gone through. I've fallen in pretty deep holes. But my faith has helped me climb back out, many times.
God’s so got you! This year is going to be amazing❤️ blessings and hugs🥰
Downloaded the song!
My husband loves Magic Spoon! It is so good!
Not over sharing in the slightest! I am rooting for you big time and love how much self care you've implemented into your life. Xoxo!
Lovin your new attitude and you are correct life is more enjoyable when you are letting life take its course!
All your vlogs have been so helpful! It’s just fun to be around you, virtually. That sweater is so adorable on you!
U can do it. Keep up great work. Love you.
Absolutely love your vlogs and have been watching you for years; just want you you to know that you sharing your heart and feelings is so refreshing and not over-sharing at all! If anything, it makes it feel a more personal connection and makes me want to cheer for your success and happiness even more! All the love! ❤️
Our dog ) a pure breed border collie) was allergic to chicken. He presented with ear infections as a puppy. We changed him to a salmon and potato based dry dog food and he lived to be 14 years old we lost him 1 year ago. Our bet told us it's pretty common. Totally switching topics...I love your vlogs and just hanging out with you. I love how you always end your videos and I wanted to wish you the best rest of your day and I will be trying very hard to wait for your next vlog! I see an incredible change in you already, even with the hard days. You have been so strong and brave and so glad that you are surrounded with love and supoort. 🥰
I'm married, but my husband is gone for work travel often. I take myself out to dinner, table for 1 at least once a week while he's gone. I would not be embarrassed to do it at all! It's so nice to have a break from not doing dishes and to just treat yourself 😁 also you don't have to compromise on where to go for dinner bc it's just you!
Gosh, I am just so proud of you! Live your life girl! Love you sweet friend! 🥰
You have handled this time of change with such grace.
I can’t wait until it warms up here in KS and I can get to gardening.
Love your videos! You do whatever makes you feel comfortable. I think you are doing awesome on how you handle things. Divorce is not easy! Tyfs your life with us! 💕😊
Love your necklace
Sadness is like that it creeps up on u out of no where and then I will be in tears. But that normal and it's ok to have a good cry every so often.
I’m new and found you through Michelle Reed! You’re videos are so calming and peaceful. You bring a sweet and friendly energy!
Just want to say that you are doing great with this hard time and I appreciate that you are feeling your feelings. I have a hard time with allowing myself to do that and it's encouraging to watch you. Your looking absolutely beautiful btw.
I've never gone to a restaurant alone, but I have seen others do it and I never think it's strange!
9:48 I love that outfit!
I loved that song never heard off that singer good dad for sending that to his precious daughter .👍😘💖
Sitting at the bar to have a meal with myself is always nice :)
It's so wonderful to watch you grow and blossom, stepping out of your comfort and into this situation that you were thrown into, don't ever worry about over sharing, we all know you are human and have nothing but sympathy/empathy for you and your situation.
You are loved ❤️
My husband was in Japan for work for a couple months and I would eat at restaurants alone. I would always bring a book with me so it looked a lot more intentional than just sitting there scrolling through my phone.
Lovley seeing you out and about ,getting to know your area making new friends walking max🥰
You been back on your Bike ?
Michel,
I ❤️ the Uptown Cheapskates in Tucson, AZ- Austin’s store looks great and that sweater set score is fabulous. Thanks for these wonderfully helpful +honest vloggs (not over sharing at all), and sending lots of warm!
Just found your vlogs recently! I saw you said you majored in nutrition! I’m an RD!!☺️ also I love your safety pin earrings!
When I get anxious I sing hymns out loud. 😉
Thank you for sharing. Your vlogs are really giving me hope to feel less lonely:)
I made your Opa’s soup and omg. It’s so good. Got the wrong beans but that’s okay! Haha
Yesss yess, go out by yourself, it was really hard for me at first also. I took a magazine with me on house colors and decorating and Diy's . And now that time has passed that ive been by myself. I find that i enjoy doing things myself. Its so new to you, but your so inspirational and strong. You go girl!! Xo
LOVE Thrifting VIDEOS .. Thanks for sharing
My favorite self care activity is bringing my book and getting brunch by myself. You should try it!
I liked the song.