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Being the non bipolar person in the relationship, my advice is, know your limits and boundaries. I know you tried hard to be compassionate, to love them even when thay push you away, to care for them even when they cheated and hurts you and made you cry. You are not responsible for their mental health, you are not their therapist. When it get to the point of sacrificing your own happiness and well being just to keep the relationship, always choose you and your happiness first. You are not a bad person for breaking up with them, you are just not the right person for them, maybe they will find someone with higher tolerance then you someday. Meanwhile you can give your love to someone who will actually treats you right. It's okay, wish them good, and walk away. You've been strong all these years, and I'm proud of you.
I’m done with it .,12 years of giving my all , the sacrifices I’ve made , the ride never stops ,I’m getting off this roller coaster , what a waste of 12 years ,,I’m done
I agree; I wish I had read this 11 years ago. I could have been in another relationship or loving myself. If possible, I would like to ask you some questions.
Sounds like you weren't right for that person in the first place, possibly you should have matched up with someone who matched your personality to begin with
So to be with a bipolar person, you have to: -manage all the money and bills; -not-ask if unreasonably angry reactions are due to the disorder; -pursue the person even when they are saying they’re going to leave you and cheat on you; -and basically manage their life while they destroy you?
Yes it's really really awful to discount the emotions of a bipolar person , as she is discounting what the non-bipolar person in the relationship goes through. you should place all of the financial psychological emotional strain on the non-bipolar person, The non-bipolar person must always have more patience ,tolerance , understanding as the bipolar person tears their own world apart along with yours.
That's exactly what it takes to be with them. I was told by my mother in law that to get along with her son I would need to hold my tongue and not stand up for myself during cheating and disrespect. He doesn't work and we have a family of four. I pay all the bills and perform most of the household chores and childcare. He is unstable but if I have a problem with him I need to stay hush or else I'm problematic. Asking for help is a no go. Being with a bipolar person is slow suicide. We can never be enough for them. They need to be medicated and seeing a therapist to even have a chance at a real relationship
Shifting the responsibility all to the spouce is so disfunctional. The behavior is so often so irresponsible. I'm not going to spend my life bowing and scraping to someone who treats others with disrespect.
It is absolutely insane what she thinks is normal and acceptable. I feel bad for people with the illness but it is not worth the hardships for the other side. Get out while you can and live a more fulfilling life.
When my guy is pulling away, I have tried to be extra supportive, then he says he overwhelmed, picks something to be upset with me for , and uses that as justification to break up and say he can't do a relationship. Then after a couple weeks he come back. We love each other deeply, but this year long Rollercoaster has taken a toll on my trust and security in him.
I agree; I wish I had read this 11 years ago. I could have been in another relationship or loving myself. If possible, I would like to ask you some questions.
So I have to say I have been with someone for 8 months now who is bipolar and has suffered a lot of abuse from parents ect her whole life. It’s been a struggle and I’m ashamed I waited so long to do the research and be prepared. However I honestly want to cry at watching your videos and learning because I’ve learned a lot and feel better equipped and assured! This woman is everything to me 💁🏻♂️
Just because she says she suffered abuse doesn't make it true. She'll probably accuse you of abuse if you do manage to escape. I wish you luck. You'll need it.
Just broke up with my gf of 2 years who was dealing with bipolar. It's extremely hard. Tragic. You want them to be loved and you love their good side but the abuse and anger that came along with episodes finally ended us. She kicked me out, then the next day was so sweet and loving. I had to tell her I'd found a place and moved on. We discovered the diagnosis as we were dating and things made sense finally, but the hurt couldn't be repaired. Don't take getting into a relationship with someone that has this illness lightly. In the end, I had to put my mental health first. Don't listen to the advice that you have to put your feelings aside. You are a person too. Maybe someone else will be capable of giving them the love they need, but know your limits.
Yeah, but do you know any 40 year old men that want a 40 year old single mom??? Nope, they all want someone younger. I only attract old dirty men 20 years my senior. Eventually I should kill my self.
this gives me so much hope. My boyfriend Has Bipolar 2 and i will fight for him everyday. And will choose to sit in the dark with him everyday until he sees the light again.
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I hear what you're saying, however I am mentally exhausted with the highs and lows of my BF..He decided to go off his meds for spring break. I did not hear from him for a week. However l found out that he was spending time with his female friend. Seven days later he texted me and said he wanted to see if he could handle being off his meds. He also asked me to move in with him. I am in the medical field and I am familiar with psy disorders. I no longer have the energy to deal with not knowing which person I am going to get. I am ignoring him because l will never be a priority to him.
@@Startupsandsushi l pulled back from him. I said we can be just friends. However he still doesn't take his meds as prescribed. He wants to sell his house, buy a camper and live in his friends backyard. I am a nurse. He claims that l spend to much time trying to make sure he takes his meds. I feel so sorry for him. But l am going to walk away from the friendship. I can't deal with it. It's so exhausting.
I am in a 16yr relationship with my BF. I so appreciated your input & thank you. It feels kinda lonely at times so this makes me feel connected & anchored.
I agree; I wish I had read this 11 years ago. I could have been in another relationship or loving myself. If possible, I would like to ask you some questions.
I dated 2 bipolar people and did everything in my power to be there for them, love them, support and encourage them, and giving them compliments. They stole from me, took advantage of me, blamed me for everything, and I'm supposed just sit back and take that shit from them? I don't think so.
I have bipolar 1 and maintaining healthy relationships has been EXTREMELY challenging. It’s so taxing on your significant other, friends, and family that ultimately you will end up alone. Everyone is different (example I never cheated due to an episode but have said extremely hurtful things, usually alcohol involved being the catalyst that starts it off. When I stay away from alcohol and take my medications properly, I am very lovable. It’s just about how long can I keep that going…
My grandma was bipolar and my grandparents were married for 68 years, until my grandpa passed away last year with her by his side. I didn't realize how big of a deal that was until now, I never really knew what it meant that she was bipolar. Really makes me wonder how hard that must've been for them living with her bipolar disorder when this kind of information wasn't easily available.
Married a bipolar woman and she drained me of everything. In our relationship, she mattered and I did not. Mercifully she divorced me 40 years ago. I could not leave because she was suicidal. I was trapped. But happily remarried 36 years to a normal woman.
I'm not bipolar but my friend and brother are, I want to learn everything I can to help and support both. your videos are helping especially about keeping in contact with them so they don't feel I'm rejecting them. Thank you for doing this.
This whole video screams to me personally that I need to give in to this potential stockholm syndrome just to keep the relationship alive....I don't think I want that
Right. It’s not healthy at all for the neurotypical person. Basically we’re taking care of them and accepting all their hot cold emotions and staying with them… and they can do whatever they want. That’s not healthy for us at all. We will end up losing our minds!
Right this video is extremely bias and honestly something about her tone and high energy reminds me of the mania and I wonder if she’s experiencing it in the video
So question... you said love them more in those times, when they don't want to be with you. How do you, a person with feelings, love someone who is verbal abusive, cheated and destroyed your reputation while having a manic episode with undiagnosed bipolar (possibly bipolar 2)?
Great thoughts Lizzie. I appreciate that when when you say that 'if you're in a relationship and Bipolar you're going to have to do these things' that you are sensitive and acknowledge how some will find that hard and take it like: "What? That's too much to ask, it isn't fair to ask me to go that far." But you're right that they need to face those challenges anyways, if they aren't ready to face those challenges for the sake of the person they are in the relationship with, then the alternative 'hard saying' they would need to accept is that marriage to that person simply isn't for them - if they think there is a 3rd alternative where they are owed a happy, easy marriage that doesn't demand self-sacrificial love, then they don't know what marriage is.
Just a reminder for the non-bipolar, it’s not fun or enjoyable for us with it. We want to be level based. I’m sorry for all you have to endure from dealing with it symptoms, but know it’s not easy for us. 😢❤. Please don’t love bomb us, to then turn and say this is to much, I can’t do it anymore 😢😢 it just makes us believe we were right, we’re not worthy and were lied too.
The problem is we are willing to deal with bipolar people but then out of nowhere most of them (like my recent ex) impulsively broke up with me with no closure or clarity, just because she doesn't "feel" in love with me, and no matter how much i tried to fight for the relationship she pushed me away and acted so cold and cruel, as if she forgot everything we had and treated me like a stranger, 2 months in, no response at all, we never fought when we were in the relationship and i was the whole world to her
Love all your videos ! I’ve been really going thru it lately with mixed episodes and changing medications all while starting a new relationship.. your videos help me to help my partner better understand me ! Thank you for being able to be so vulnerable and HONEST to the public 💯💪🏼 you are amazing and so strong ! -Katt
You make me cry watching this!! thank you so much for inspiring us. I am wife to a bipolar !! the emotional detachment is real deal they pick fight when you don't agree with them. But i keep fighting and communicate with Him no matter what he said
This video just sounds like the bipolar person needs to seek help. If the healthy minded person has to do all that she mentioned in this video in order to make the relationship work then it’s not worth it. That healthy person will be working in overdrive in order to make the relationship with when the reality is that they’re dealing with someone who has mental issues and must seek help for themselves before anyone can work that hard to help them. Seek out help and recognize your issues is the best way to succeed in anything.
So if a girl that is bi-polar breaks up with you it's not actually over? The only thing I don't like about this is that I feel like I am playing mind games.
You’ll feel like the mind games are worse than a soap opera. Then they come back all affectionate and normal a few days later and dupe you into thinking it was just their depression talking Do NOT do this to yourself. Do NOT fight for them to get back together with you. Do NOT BELIEVE THEM that they still love you
@@Startupsandsushi I appreciate your advice, I really do, but I will not give up on her or her daughter. Every BOY she has been with has treated her like garbage. I know this will not be easy but she and her daughter are worth the pain I will go through.
Billy, no offense but you sound like you have a really unhealthy savior/white knight mentality. If this was 11 months ago I am guessing you are long over by now. You're "not giving up on her or her daughter" WTF? You sound like a silly asshole who watches way too much TV. She doesn't need you to not give up on her dimwit. Bipolar women always have other men lined up. You asking if her breaking up with you actually means she wants to get back with you shows how amazingly pathetic you are. I'm sure she has been with other men even when she was with you.
And guess what else dumbass? She tells every guy the same story about how every guy before him treated her terribly. Mine did the same manipulative shit.
Thank you for your video. My girlfriend has bipolar and when everything was going good put of nowhere over a foolish disagreement she decided to end things. Now that iv been trying to educate myself on how to support her better or things to recognize I believe when this happend she was in an episode. She has blocked me on almost everything because I didn't understand to just give her space for a while. I'm at the point to just give up as much as I know why she is doing what she is doing. I try getting g through to her and explaining that we can learn how to work through things. And I'll know how to support her better and not take things personal it's like nothing I say mattes or gets through to her.
I have an ex BP. She broke up with me the night of her bday. They took a drink that night. Then, she asked my phone and saw last year online chat with unknown person and felt jealous to my workmate though I didn't dated anyone or 3rd party. Her Insecurities popped out. I never saw it coming. The break up. Though I accepted, loved and supported her to her successes. She left me.
My ex husband is was diagnosed B1. For me he is worse than that. after 30 years he still is!!! violent …verbally abusive … narcissistic… grandiose he thinks he knows it all never gets depressed “” and it’s every one’s faults but his. Don’t belive in treatment or meds… I did the impossible to be there for him etc… at the end I left him!!! Peace of mind.
I'm sorry you had that experience. Don't base your opinion of every bipolar person on your ex husband. Not every bipolar person is a narcissist and abusive. Some of us are actually pretty kool.
@@guitarjay123 i know that… I have met many other people with bipolar disorder/ mental illnesses that are far from being like my ex…I totally agreed with you. I was just sharing my own personal experience/ night mare😬 also in the past I was an enabler and seldom made excuses for his behavior. But after all in over 30 years he hasn’t changed much… for what I know. Thanks 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼blessings to you.
And if my partner seems as though they want me to leave them alone? I feel as though I'm being rather annoying when I'm reassuring them of how much I care when they're being very distant..
Thanks you Lizzie your the first persons who open my mind at a upper level about knowing how my ex girlfriend bipolar feel. I do so bad not knowing about their illness appear 1 years and half ago. Been with her for 31 years, the care i give was normal behavior, but not realise to give lot of love when illness has appears she came back 5 times. I think i have hurt her so bad by telling her that she must be bipolar, and see a doctor. I even tell to the guy she cheat with she must be bipolar and he tell her what i Said. She's become so angry at me , thinking i want to damage her relation. In reality been cheat, i don't want to be a second option for her if their relation don't work. I have to respect my self, i don't how my feeling for her now. I think i would just want to care of her, if something bad happen to her. My loved for her is mixed, i take care of her all my life, make sure she not missing anything. At the end nothing has count for her doing everything i can to make her safe, love, care...i feel like i lost a part of my life. If i can add, she has a family member who counsel her, she Say everything to her. Sometime i feel like it not her word but her taunt word. I will not fight against somebody who talk to my ex badly about me. I can't compete with that, i just move on doing my own thing, passions, activities. And wishing the best for the future.
I am currently in a talking stage with someone and they just told me they have bipolar so I'm so glad I am able to learn this. Thank you for the information. So far I really like her so I'm hoping I can learn everything I can
My BP Beautiful Queen said yesterday we need to not see each other for a few days. Her 22 yr old daughter can't stand me. I think it's because she is single with a 6 & 11 yr old. They live with her. I believe she sees her Mom involved & Happy! I think she's jealous. She told her Mom tell me when he going to be here cuz I won't be. She holds the Grandchildren hostage with her. My Queen is in the middle. She is so immature. I've suggested her & I need to sit down & talk. My Queen says daughter isn't ready. I can deal with the BP, now I need to be concerned about her daughter pressuring her to get rid of me. I'm not giving up to keep her! Is it worth it??
I'm 36 years old and I was just newly diagnosed with bipolar 2.. im starting taking meds... and my longest relationship is 6 mons. And now i understand the reason why.. im feeling bad about myself.. worrying its too late for me to find the person who will accept and fight for me till the end.
I fought for my x girlfriend and she was bi poloar2 i tried like hell but little things triggered her off and she ran right out of the relationship 8 times but the last time shes been gone a month.
@@gabrielfajardo1428 he is lucky to have you... yes, thats true.. if something trigger us or make us feel that our love ones is not happy having us in their life we run or distance ourselves.. I know the feeling..💔
@@CarlGal0015 my x is bi polor 2 i still love her we were together 2 yrs. We lived together bolth of us have strong personality and she would run away to family 8 times in our relationship it wasnt easy it made me insecure and we had other problems that resulted to her finally leaving this last time and its going on 2 months now , im trying coach lees no contact method to see if it works .
@makenziemurphy1435 asking a person that makes videos about bipolar to make a video about the effects of bipolar on others is wild right.....It's like you think because I want to see a video on something that I must go out and make it myself or make assumptions about my umm victimization. Stay classy 😆
Interesting, he is the one saying things that hurt me, that i cry too much, am too sensitive, and that i am wrong. I am the one who holds my tongue and tries to keep patient (although i am not perfect). I also have autism too, and at this point, I feel unloved, betrayed, and hurt...
I'm autistic myself, and I thought that my bipolar so-called friend, would understand people with autism, as one of her daughter's has it, but no. No can do. My boyfriend keeps on trying tactics to get me to talk to her again, or to take gifts to her flat that he buys her, but I won't bother humiliating myself, by going to her flat, because that's where she knows she can be verbally abusive to me, and treat me however she likes, because as long as I'm behind the closed doors of her flat, she can literally treat me like crap. She's no friend of mine. It's interesting how she keeps on trying to invite my boyfriend to her flat, without inviting me along. A genuine friend wouldn't do that. I would never dream of inviting any friends boyfriend, without inviting their girlfriend along. That just makes it look like they're having an affair. She should know why I hardly communicate with her anymore. She will act all confused about it "Why isn't she talking to me?", but she knows why.
What fantasy world do people live in that you walk around with romantic feelings all the time? To the extent if they’re absent or underground then you should just …break up? That’s not reality for ANYONE. Unrealistic expectations
In all honesty some of this isn't healthy advice. Every relationship needs boundaries and just because someone have a condition doesn't excuse the person's personal boundaries on what they are willing to put up with. Do not guilt trick yourself into staying in something you're miserable in. Give every relationship a chance (of course) but know when to walk if you have to without feeling guilty. I give her sooo much credit on prioritizing taking medication especially to keep a balanced relationship. Thanks for the video! I've dated someone with multiple mood disorders and please just know your limits and do not get caged in a situation out of guilt, that's for ppl with and without a mood disorder. Its not your responsibility to "take care of them" it's best to support and encourage them instead.
My brother just came back home after 2years and I can't remember anything we did before he's like a stranger I know and I can't talk to him that much cuz he's like a visitor😢😢
I cried watching this nothing can put into words about how I felt until now, I love him but sometimes I'm so down I don't know how to lift myself back up, I've never initiated a break up but I have to catch myself in moments like these and articulate why I feel like this
I have been with my partner for over 6 yrs..had an affair 2x during episodes...the last one about 5 to 6 months ago broke me. Went to therapy and found out she was extremely manic, then severely depressed then on a mixed state. She's still on medications which she has been for about 10 years. She would be apologetic, wanted me and loved me to not wanting to be in a relationship with me. To cut the story short I still am fighting for her, for us. Educated myself a ton the past months and understood more and more. I am also choosing to forgive every single day. Rn, we have been messaging and talking everyday. We see each other briefly for lunches or dinner. I'd like to think we are on our way to healing. She knows I am waiting for her stability again. We both know we love each other and we just needed to forgive each other for what happened. Thank you for this. I am not going down without a fight. She tells me she appreciates everything I do especially still being here for her despite of. She's the love of my life and I am going to do everything and wait as long as it takes.
She by the way went back to the person she had an affair with. I couldn't stay and watch anymore. I want to keep fighting but there's nobody to fight for. Now I am fighting for my life. It is so painful and devastating. Already been working with a therapist to help me get out of this trauma and heartbreak. Wishing everyone love and kindness. It is painfully difficult but I have no other choice than to pick up the shattered pieces on my own.
My girlfriend is currently in a depression and isolating herself, and I know it’s her bipolar. As much as I want to fight for her, I’m worried that going to her house will upset her. We haven’t talked much lately but what we have said to each other seems really hopeful and reassuring, but I’m still worried.
I'm going through the same thing essentially. I'm new to dating someone wbo is bi-polar so I am just learning about it. My advice is don't show up at her house. Just message her from time to time letting her know you are still here for her. Don't pressure her. Don't take it personally of you message her and she doesn't respond.
@@djbeezy anything you found extremely informative these videos seem very informative but I feel like this is only one perspective I imagine all bipolar people are not the same
@@djbeezy how much time do you give it? My ex girlfriend never told me she has BP1. I found out 2 weeks before she asked me to leave after 2 years of dating. I seen her bottle of meds on the vanity when I got out of the shower, i Googled it and just about had a heart attack. That’s how I found out she has BP1. And now I believe she has HIV. She doesn’t return my calls or texts so I let it go. Thank God I’m STD free but I’m afraid she’s not
@@Biditupup I can't answer that bro. It totally depends. My girl started messaging me a while back and then dropped off the map again. Being with someone who is bipolar is not easy at all.
@@carloscabrera5311 that's utter bullshit because my stepsister is multipolar.! Can't even blame her pms anymore because she is like almost 73 and she's still at it. Maybe not multipolar but omnipolar. She married a rich jerk who doesn't believe in divorce so she buys her way out of or through her screw ups and her daughters is even worse.
My boyfriend of a year is bipolar. He is a Firefighter Paramamed and I'm an AEMT and I try to understand. But the highs and lows are taking its toll on MY mental health. In his highs he is very loving caring and trustworthy funny. The lows accuses me of cheating randomly accuses me of doing outrageous things. Ghosts me. Very emotional. Self medicates with alcohol (common with firefighters) then when it's all over acts like everything is fine. Like holy shit 😳 idk if I can hang.
Yeah, I tried to be that 10 percent. I really wanted to, but when he had a stranger who happened to be a felon stay with us for a week and this felon disrespected me. I feel so depresssed. This felon, knowing we were dating, tells my manic man, go find some new chick to give you head. I had recorded this and played it back to my manic man. I cried and begged him after this felon had left to not allow the felon back to spend the night again. Initially manic man agreed but had the felon back a night or two later. If anything, the manic man ended it. I tried. I tried to still remember how manic man before he was manic used to cry if he saw me in pain like when i dislocated my elbow. I remembered when he was first starting to be manic, he came in one night, hugged me (while i was pretending to sleep), and he started crying. That was heart breaking.
I need help my girlfriend is Bipoalr and she told me shes gonna be a flight attendant 👩✈️ and she told me she’s gonna go around the world and she’s gonna be flying 24/7 and she almost getting graduate and she told me she doesn’t know if we are gonna be 1 year together or be forever together
The bipolar person becomes narcissistic in an episode whereas the narcissistic personality disorder person is narcissistic at all times. I believe the bpd person is more chaotic because narcissistic people are easier to predict behavior.
“Hi guys!” And a smiley face with pretty much a lack of life experience. “Hi guys” I’m going to tell you how bipolar relationships fail…. It’s an immediate fail with your presentation
Girlfriend now EX was in meds and was amazing she got off the meds went manic and cheated on me the worst way I had to break up with her … I was a very supportive boyfriend
I get the feeling that being bipolar is coupled with a bit of narcissism coz the non-bipolar person will have to set aside their own issues and prioritize the bipolar person... although undiagnosed, I believe my mom suffers from bipolar & is very manipulative & throws tantrums trying to find reasons to argue. I snapped once and told my mom she was acting like a weak little girl coz I was frustrated that I needed a parent but she was acting emotionally younger than me. Be realistic coz developing & maintaining a relationship with a mentally ill person can be challenging
If you push others away because of your emotional detachtment, do bipolar sufferers even realize that they are doing it? Does this also include not having respect for others also?
My girlfriend broke up with me after 2 years living together , shes a runner when we have problems she leaves and this last time she left its been a month i love and miss her , our relationship got bad in the end it felt very unloving and less effection , we lived separarly in the last month i hurt her snd made a date profile but dint meet anyone but she found out and left me now she ignores my tex and calls and has blocked me ive apologized but it dont do good , her x husband she use to run and leave him as well she has a pattern of running shes bipolar 2 , i want her back but who knows whats going to happen now.
my niece was a bipolar 1 .and 3x she lapse her meds.and back again.but now 2 yrs she said no manic episodes.is it possible her to have a baby .and she experience to have a one night stand to a guy.she did it when shes 26 2 times then now shes 28 her cousin tell me that again she then again have this with with 3 guys.with in a month of her vacation.living alone.she did it.is it true that they were hypersexuality or just being a young ,this sexual desire is normal.the problem is these is not her bf.meet online only.they use condom .what if the condom was not good its defective and shes been pregnant.shes in meds.its not good for the baby.how is the bipolar person to have a baby.
My bipolar boyfriend (ex as of yesterday) has mood swings every moment, and he constantly keeps breaking up with me and trying to get back. It’s so tiresome and exhausting but I really love him and don’t want to lose him. Help :(
May i ask, how long were the breakup periods? Like how long do they feel motionally attatched until they go back to normal and realize they want you back again?
Just to be fair, when he is well, he is amazing. We were together 10 years and he had his 1st manic episode a year after dating. We did almost break up, i had moved out, but eventually moved back in and we were together. For 8 years though, he was wonderful. I used to think he loved me. I even remember a few months before he became manic, ge told me, you know i would never leave you. I believed him. I have autism, so i am sensitive and intense and creative too, but i don't tell him to shut the f up all the time like he does now, or call him a b wh... granted i am not the best gf and i used to think he was too good for me until he became manic again. He has been off his meds for years and gets psychotic episodes like to the point of accusing me of breaking his rib when in reality he was physically blocking me with his body as i was screaming let me go let me go. I eventually get past him from out of the stairs of a hallway. It's crazy just how he would think that i broke his rib when people tell me that they couldn't imagine seeing me angry. I flight from conflict, not fight. If i had broken his rib, he would have been in pain rather than lecturing about religion for half an hour. It boggles my mind and it's scary that he accuses me of being physically abusive when if anything, I had been the victim (although i wouldn't say he was physically abusive for physically blocking me with his body so i couldn't escape). I might also add he has accused his sister of physically scratching his hand or being physically abusive and accused other family members of murdering their baby...so, whether you trust the guy with 8 guns or take my word is up to you... but these are some of the challenges i have tried to endure in this relationship. I tried but i just am not strong enough.
I will not go into everything, but my ex put me through hell, month after month, and yes she went cold a lot then loved me! I put up with way more than anyone ever would, she did everything like this but I loved her anyway, but she went too far on the last time! So if she wants me back she's messed up and now I can't take her back! I'll never get with another bipoler woman again! When I gibe her love I was told I was love bombing her so this doesn't work, and I did pursue her and she called rhe police to keep me away, not the first time btw! So stay away from these women!
@mansters86 Honestlystill is around, she is still around. She decided that once I left her alone 8 months ago, she wanted to take me to court for harrasment back last year for sending 5 messages, lol so now I have to fight her all over again, I've moved on and started a new life even moved away from her! But she's still trying to ruin my life. The justice system is broken! Now I have to pay solicitor fees to fight it! Absolute joke!
I have bipolar disorder and just graduated with my degree in clinical mental health counseling. I would consider this an unhealthy relationship, if these suggestions were followed on a permanent basis (though in short term could be necessary). If it works for her, …ok... I did not relate to much of what she described (not attracted to my partner?!?!) I do have bipolar II and she is clearly describing bipolar I, so… 🤷♀️ still. I thought these were extreme measures (except for the pursuit of a medication program that works for you/staying on meds, that I support 100%) Also, it is clinically incorrect to say “the person who is bipolar.” I have bipolar disorder, not I am bipolar disorder.
You don't have to have a relationship with a bipolar person. You can choose a non-bipolar if you want. Maybe just have bipolar friends, as it lessens the drama of being in an intimate relationship with a bipolar.
No. You actually do need to give up. It will never work despite how much you want it to or how much work you think you should do to change it. It's hopeless. That's the real truth you don't want to hear.
When people here mentioned their spouse is bipolar and that they have been married for however many years. I can guarantee you that these were not happy years but miserable times.
I know you dont want to give up but its not your choice. She will most likely lose love towards you and end it. If you don't accept that and keep "fighting" she will see you as clingy and repulsions. Its a lose/lose situation.
I started liking this video into first few mins until it goes into giving up your back accts. Etc. Etc. Why would anyone not “trust themselves?!” despite their situations?! Then what’s the point of even living and let alone being in a relationship! It’s very discouraging but I’m sure your intention is to help people with insights. I’ve Bi-Polar and every person with Bi-Polar has different experiences, even though there’re some patterns of behaviors and there’re many many levels of symptoms depending on many variables. So, generalize like this is a risky area! Btw: there’re other ways than giving up your basic human freedom for the sake of maintaining a relationship.
Yeah I’m good I have to be mental myself to allow someone to treat me that way I just blocked a woman I was interested in when she was happy the first half of the day and then her mood switched and said she doesn’t feel like being otp after she called and hung up lol and she didn’t have anything to say it was weird and a sign of what I didn’t want
OK I'm confused, are you saying DON'T merge bank accounts, or do? Is the overall message being to limit the BP individuals access to money by not merging accounts?
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Being the non bipolar person in the relationship, my advice is, know your limits and boundaries. I know you tried hard to be compassionate, to love them even when thay push you away, to care for them even when they cheated and hurts you and made you cry. You are not responsible for their mental health, you are not their therapist. When it get to the point of sacrificing your own happiness and well being just to keep the relationship, always choose you and your happiness first. You are not a bad person for breaking up with them, you are just not the right person for them, maybe they will find someone with higher tolerance then you someday. Meanwhile you can give your love to someone who will actually treats you right. It's okay, wish them good, and walk away. You've been strong all these years, and I'm proud of you.
Extremely helpful comment!!! Thank you.
Well said!
I’m done with it .,12 years of giving my all , the sacrifices I’ve made , the ride never stops ,I’m getting off this roller coaster , what a waste of 12 years ,,I’m done
I agree; I wish I had read this 11 years ago. I could have been in another relationship or loving myself. If possible, I would like to ask you some questions.
Sounds like you weren't right for that person in the first place, possibly you should have matched up with someone who matched your personality to begin with
So to be with a bipolar person, you have to:
-manage all the money and bills;
-not-ask if unreasonably angry reactions are due to the disorder;
-pursue the person even when they are saying they’re going to leave you and cheat on you;
-and basically manage their life while they destroy you?
Yes it's really really awful to discount the emotions of a bipolar person , as she is discounting what the non-bipolar person in the relationship goes through. you should place all of the financial psychological emotional strain on the non-bipolar person, The non-bipolar person must always have more patience ,tolerance , understanding as the bipolar person tears their own world apart along with yours.
Horrible
That's exactly what it takes to be with them. I was told by my mother in law that to get along with her son I would need to hold my tongue and not stand up for myself during cheating and disrespect.
He doesn't work and we have a family of four. I pay all the bills and perform most of the household chores and childcare.
He is unstable but if I have a problem with him I need to stay hush or else I'm problematic. Asking for help is a no go.
Being with a bipolar person is slow suicide.
We can never be enough for them. They need to be medicated and seeing a therapist to even have a chance at a real relationship
@@lorrettaf160 what if they refuse to go to therapy but are medicated ? That would be a problem correct ?
It’s not true!!! It depends on the person!!!
It’s like saying, all people from the Southern States are racist!!! This is absurd!
Shifting the responsibility all to the spouce is so disfunctional. The behavior is so often so irresponsible. I'm not going to spend my life bowing and scraping to someone who treats others with disrespect.
It is absolutely insane what she thinks is normal and acceptable.
I feel bad for people with the illness but it is not worth the hardships for the other side.
Get out while you can and live a more fulfilling life.
When my guy is pulling away, I have tried to be extra supportive, then he says he overwhelmed, picks something to be upset with me for , and uses that as justification to break up and say he can't do a relationship. Then after a couple weeks he come back. We love each other deeply, but this year long Rollercoaster has taken a toll on my trust and security in him.
This is also my story. Super depressing.
Get out while you still can.
He needs to learn to keep his mouth shut. Not every feeling needs a decision . ESPECIALLY if this is over and over
@@macbookbackup7041 Not with him anymore. Had to reply bc I Love the statement you made. "Not every feeling needs a decision " Very true and profound.
I agree; I wish I had read this 11 years ago. I could have been in another relationship or loving myself. If possible, I would like to ask you some questions.
So I have to say I have been with someone for 8 months now who is bipolar and has suffered a lot of abuse from parents ect her whole life.
It’s been a struggle and I’m ashamed I waited so long to do the research and be prepared.
However I honestly want to cry at watching your videos and learning because I’ve learned a lot and feel better equipped and assured!
This woman is everything to me 💁🏻♂️
Just because she says she suffered abuse doesn't make it true. She'll probably accuse you of abuse if you do manage to escape.
I wish you luck. You'll need it.
@@fintonmainz7845 these women lie a lot.
@@fintonmainz7845your are crazy sorry, if someone tell you something so hard like this is probably true … 💔
Just broke up with my gf of 2 years who was dealing with bipolar. It's extremely hard. Tragic. You want them to be loved and you love their good side but the abuse and anger that came along with episodes finally ended us. She kicked me out, then the next day was so sweet and loving. I had to tell her I'd found a place and moved on. We discovered the diagnosis as we were dating and things made sense finally, but the hurt couldn't be repaired. Don't take getting into a relationship with someone that has this illness lightly. In the end, I had to put my mental health first. Don't listen to the advice that you have to put your feelings aside. You are a person too. Maybe someone else will be capable of giving them the love they need, but know your limits.
Wheeew. 😮💨 this comment made me tear up. But you’re right. You can’t allow yourself to be broken down just to uplift another. Gotta know when to go
The wife and I have been married 36 years. I am Bipolar 2.
@@mannycali334 yes, we bipolar, we overthink too much
Yeah, but do you know any 40 year old men that want a 40 year old single mom??? Nope, they all want someone younger. I only attract old dirty men 20 years my senior. Eventually I should kill my self.
Thanks for your comment!! 😊
this gives me so much hope. My boyfriend Has Bipolar 2 and i will fight for him everyday. And will choose to sit in the dark with him everyday until he sees the light again.
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I hear what you're saying, however I am mentally exhausted with the highs and lows of my BF..He decided to go off his meds for spring break. I did not hear from him for a week. However l found out that he was spending time with his female friend. Seven days later he texted me and said he wanted to see if he could handle being off his meds. He also asked me to move in with him. I am in the medical field and I am familiar with psy disorders. I no longer have the energy to deal with not knowing which person I am going to get. I am ignoring him because l will never be a priority to him.
Run! It’s not worth it
@@Startupsandsushi l pulled back from him. I said we can be just friends. However he still doesn't take his meds as prescribed. He wants to sell his house, buy a camper and live in his friends backyard. I am a nurse. He claims that l spend to much time trying to make sure he takes his meds. I feel so sorry for him. But l am going to walk away from the friendship. I can't deal with it. It's so exhausting.
@@melscorner4598 you can still love them from afar. You did the smart thing. Save urself first
I am in a 16yr relationship with my BF. I so appreciated your input & thank you.
It feels kinda lonely at times so this makes me feel connected & anchored.
Yeah my ex never wanted to take meds...I got tired of the emotional roller coaster and verbal abuse. I walked away for my sanity 😌
Smart move! I did the same thing with my ex girlfriend. I believe she has HIV now
My advice to anyone considering a relationship with someone with BP is to Stay Away .
Same
I agree; I wish I had read this 11 years ago. I could have been in another relationship or loving myself. If possible, I would like to ask you some questions.
@@fintonmainz7845 Thats really hurtful, man. So you're basically saying that Bipolar people are unworthy of relationships, real mature
I dated 2 bipolar people and did everything in my power to be there for them, love them, support and encourage them, and giving them compliments. They stole from me, took advantage of me, blamed me for everything, and I'm supposed just sit back and take that shit from them? I don't think so.
Movie historian stealing is a character flaw not a bipolar condition
I'm not pursing someone who tells me they don't love me. No means no and fighting for their love might end with jail time and a restraining order.
Smart man
I have bipolar 1 and maintaining healthy relationships has been EXTREMELY challenging. It’s so taxing on your significant other, friends, and family that ultimately you will end up alone. Everyone is different (example I never cheated due to an episode but have said extremely hurtful things, usually alcohol involved being the catalyst that starts it off. When I stay away from alcohol and take my medications properly, I am very lovable. It’s just about how long can I keep that going…
My grandma was bipolar and my grandparents were married for 68 years, until my grandpa passed away last year with her by his side. I didn't realize how big of a deal that was until now, I never really knew what it meant that she was bipolar. Really makes me wonder how hard that must've been for them living with her bipolar disorder when this kind of information wasn't easily available.
So, is cheating just a given thing that’s gonna happen when dating someone with bipolar? I can’t handle that … 💔😞
I'm bipolar and I've never cheated on any of my girlfriends , I believe you are generalizing
I have bipolar and I’ve been with him for 5 years
Married a bipolar woman and she drained me of everything. In our relationship, she mattered and I did not. Mercifully she divorced me 40 years ago. I could not leave because she was suicidal. I was trapped. But happily remarried 36 years to a normal woman.
I'm not bipolar but my friend and brother are, I want to learn everything I can to help and support both. your videos are helping especially about keeping in contact with them so they don't feel I'm rejecting them. Thank you for doing this.
This whole video screams to me personally that I need to give in to this potential stockholm syndrome just to keep the relationship alive....I don't think I want that
Right. It’s not healthy at all for the neurotypical person. Basically we’re taking care of them and accepting all their hot cold emotions and staying with them… and they can do whatever they want. That’s not healthy for us at all. We will end up losing our minds!
@@am1berry Everton who is together with someone who is bipolar is not neurotypical.
Right this video is extremely bias and honestly something about her tone and high energy reminds me of the mania and I wonder if she’s experiencing it in the video
So question... you said love them more in those times, when they don't want to be with you. How do you, a person with feelings, love someone who is verbal abusive, cheated and destroyed your reputation while having a manic episode with undiagnosed bipolar (possibly bipolar 2)?
Great thoughts Lizzie. I appreciate that when when you say that 'if you're in a relationship and Bipolar you're going to have to do these things' that you are sensitive and acknowledge how some will find that hard and take it like: "What? That's too much to ask, it isn't fair to ask me to go that far."
But you're right that they need to face those challenges anyways, if they aren't ready to face those challenges for the sake of the person they are in the relationship with, then the alternative 'hard saying' they would need to accept is that marriage to that person simply isn't for them - if they think there is a 3rd alternative where they are owed a happy, easy marriage that doesn't demand self-sacrificial love, then they don't know what marriage is.
Just a reminder for the non-bipolar, it’s not fun or enjoyable for us with it. We want to be level based. I’m sorry for all you have to endure from dealing with it symptoms, but know it’s not easy for us. 😢❤. Please don’t love bomb us, to then turn and say this is to much, I can’t do it anymore 😢😢 it just makes us believe we were right, we’re not worthy and were lied too.
The problem is we are willing to deal with bipolar people but then out of nowhere most of them (like my recent ex) impulsively broke up with me with no closure or clarity, just because she doesn't "feel" in love with me, and no matter how much i tried to fight for the relationship she pushed me away and acted so cold and cruel, as if she forgot everything we had and treated me like a stranger, 2 months in, no response at all, we never fought when we were in the relationship and i was the whole world to her
Look you guys does the one momemt i love you next you are my worst enemy rutine over and over again. Its not fair to the non bipolar partner
Love all your videos ! I’ve been really going thru it lately with mixed episodes and changing medications all while starting a new relationship.. your videos help me to help my partner better understand me ! Thank you for being able to be so vulnerable and HONEST to the public 💯💪🏼 you are amazing and so strong ! -Katt
I’m looking forward to hearing your insight! A 90% divorce rate is truly astounding, wow
You make me cry watching this!! thank you so much for inspiring us. I am wife to a bipolar !! the emotional detachment is real deal they pick fight when you don't agree with them. But i keep fighting and communicate with Him no matter what he said
This video just sounds like the bipolar person needs to seek help. If the healthy minded person has to do all that she mentioned in this video in order to make the relationship work then it’s not worth it. That healthy person will be working in overdrive in order to make the relationship with when the reality is that they’re dealing with someone who has mental issues and must seek help for themselves before anyone can work that hard to help them.
Seek out help and recognize your issues is the best way to succeed in anything.
100%
So if a girl that is bi-polar breaks up with you it's not actually over? The only thing I don't like about this is that I feel like I am playing mind games.
You’ll feel like the mind games are worse than a soap opera. Then they come back all affectionate and normal a few days later and dupe you into thinking it was just their depression talking
Do NOT do this to yourself. Do NOT fight for them to get back together with you. Do NOT BELIEVE THEM that they still love you
@@Startupsandsushi I appreciate your advice, I really do, but I will not give up on her or her daughter. Every BOY she has been with has treated her like garbage. I know this will not be easy but she and her daughter are worth the pain I will go through.
Billy, no offense but you sound like you have a really unhealthy savior/white knight mentality. If this was 11 months ago I am guessing you are long over by now. You're "not giving up on her or her daughter" WTF? You sound like a silly asshole who watches way too much TV. She doesn't need you to not give up on her dimwit. Bipolar women always have other men lined up. You asking if her breaking up with you actually means she wants to get back with you shows how amazingly pathetic you are. I'm sure she has been with other men even when she was with you.
And guess what else dumbass? She tells every guy the same story about how every guy before him treated her terribly. Mine did the same manipulative shit.
@@djbeezy some people need to learn the hard way. Just be ready.
Never apologize if you have done nothing wrong, I would only take advice from a licensed, clinical psychologist not some random individual on UA-cam
Then why are you here
I am Bipolar, we hit our 6 year anniversary in December ❤
I'm guessing they haven't been all together happy years. They couldn't have been for your partner.
@@m.j.c.6969 why do you say that?
@@m.j.c.6969 You could say that for 90% of normal marriages
Thank you for your video. My girlfriend has bipolar and when everything was going good put of nowhere over a foolish disagreement she decided to end things. Now that iv been trying to educate myself on how to support her better or things to recognize I believe when this happend she was in an episode.
She has blocked me on almost everything because I didn't understand to just give her space for a while.
I'm at the point to just give up as much as I know why she is doing what she is doing.
I try getting g through to her and explaining that we can learn how to work through things. And I'll know how to support her better and not take things personal it's like nothing I say mattes or gets through to her.
I'm Bipolar and have been with my husband for 9 years...
I have an ex BP. She broke up with me the night of her bday. They took a drink that night. Then, she asked my phone and saw last year online chat with unknown person and felt jealous to my workmate though I didn't dated anyone or 3rd party. Her Insecurities popped out. I never saw it coming. The break up. Though I accepted, loved and supported her to her successes. She left me.
Bipolar type 2 here. Very single. This is helpful and gave me some hope.
My ex husband is was diagnosed B1. For me he is worse than that. after 30 years he still is!!! violent …verbally abusive … narcissistic… grandiose he thinks he knows it all never gets depressed “” and it’s every one’s faults but his. Don’t belive in treatment or meds… I did the impossible to be there for him etc… at the end I left him!!! Peace of mind.
I'm sorry you had that experience. Don't base your opinion of every bipolar person on your ex husband. Not every bipolar person is a narcissist and abusive. Some of us are actually pretty kool.
@@guitarjay123 i know that… I have met many other people with bipolar disorder/ mental illnesses that are far from being like my ex…I totally agreed with you. I was just sharing my own personal experience/ night mare😬 also in the past I was an enabler and seldom made excuses for his behavior. But after all in over 30 years he hasn’t changed much… for what I know. Thanks 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼blessings to you.
@@guitarjay123 blessings to you for trying” and managing your disorder… and being cool!!👍🏻
I don’t know if my ex and I will get back together, but this helped put a lot into perspective. Thank you!
And if my partner seems as though they want me to leave them alone? I feel as though I'm being rather annoying when I'm reassuring them of how much I care when they're being very distant..
I'm in the same boat
Thanks you Lizzie your the first persons who open my mind at a upper level about knowing how my ex girlfriend bipolar feel. I do so bad not knowing about their illness appear 1 years and half ago. Been with her for 31 years, the care i give was normal behavior, but not realise to give lot of love when illness has appears she came back 5 times. I think i have hurt her so bad by telling her that she must be bipolar, and see a doctor. I even tell to the guy she cheat with she must be bipolar and he tell her what i Said. She's become so angry at me , thinking i want to damage her relation. In reality been cheat, i don't want to be a second option for her if their relation don't work. I have to respect my self, i don't how my feeling for her now. I think i would just want to care of her, if something bad happen to her. My loved for her is mixed, i take care of her all my life, make sure she not missing anything. At the end nothing has count for her doing everything i can to make her safe, love, care...i feel like i lost a part of my life.
If i can add, she has a family member who counsel her, she Say everything to her. Sometime i feel like it not her word but her taunt word.
I will not fight against somebody who talk to my ex badly about me. I can't compete with that, i just move on doing my own thing, passions, activities. And wishing the best for the future.
I am currently in a talking stage with someone and they just told me they have bipolar so I'm so glad I am able to learn this. Thank you for the information. So far I really like her so I'm hoping I can learn everything I can
Run! Before you love this person so much it kills you
A person with bipolar should still be an adult.
It is not a wild idea to consider people should mature and be able to control themselves manic or not.
I'm bipolar 1. I've been in one relationship in 26 years. It was basically my decision.
And it didn't work out at all.
I'm not giving up though
Thanks for making this video. That’s alot to take in forreal
My bipolar boyfriend broke up with me 2 days ago but now I am even more encouraged to fight for him
My BP Beautiful Queen said yesterday we need to not see each other for a few days. Her 22 yr old daughter can't stand me. I think it's because she is single with a 6 & 11 yr old.
They live with her.
I believe she sees her Mom involved & Happy! I think she's jealous.
She told her Mom tell me when he going to be here cuz I won't be.
She holds the Grandchildren hostage with her.
My Queen is in the middle. She is so immature. I've suggested her & I need to sit down & talk. My Queen says daughter isn't ready.
I can deal with the BP, now I need to be concerned about her daughter pressuring her to get rid of me.
I'm not giving up to keep her!
Is it worth it??
Run 🏃♂️
No, we run from haters like you
I'm 36 years old and I was just newly diagnosed with bipolar 2.. im starting taking meds... and my longest relationship is 6 mons. And now i understand the reason why.. im feeling bad about myself.. worrying its too late for me to find the person who will accept and fight for me till the end.
I fought for my x girlfriend and she was bi poloar2 i tried like hell but little things triggered her off and she ran right out of the relationship 8 times but the last time shes been gone a month.
@@gabrielfajardo1428 he is lucky to have you... yes, thats true.. if something trigger us or make us feel that our love ones is not happy having us in their life we run or distance ourselves.. I know the feeling..💔
@@CarlGal0015 my x is bi polor 2 i still love her we were together 2 yrs. We lived together bolth of us have strong personality and she would run away to family 8 times in our relationship it wasnt easy it made me insecure and we had other problems that resulted to her finally leaving this last time and its going on 2 months now , im trying coach lees no contact method to see if it works .
Do you have a hard time staying in relationship Arlene and why ?
Why not make a video about the non bipolar victims of the bipolar? You know spouses and children
@makenziemurphy1435 asking a person that makes videos about bipolar to make a video about the effects of bipolar on others is wild right.....It's like you think because I want to see a video on something that I must go out and make it myself or make assumptions about my umm victimization. Stay classy 😆
Interesting, he is the one saying things that hurt me, that i cry too much, am too sensitive, and that i am wrong. I am the one who holds my tongue and tries to keep patient (although i am not perfect). I also have autism too, and at this point, I feel unloved, betrayed, and hurt...
I'm autistic myself, and I thought that my bipolar so-called friend, would understand people with autism, as one of her daughter's has it, but no. No can do. My boyfriend keeps on trying tactics to get me to talk to her again, or to take gifts to her flat that he buys her, but I won't bother humiliating myself, by going to her flat, because that's where she knows she can be verbally abusive to me, and treat me however she likes, because as long as I'm behind the closed doors of her flat, she can literally treat me like crap. She's no friend of mine. It's interesting how she keeps on trying to invite my boyfriend to her flat, without inviting me along. A genuine friend wouldn't do that. I would never dream of inviting any friends boyfriend, without inviting their girlfriend along. That just makes it look like they're having an affair. She should know why I hardly communicate with her anymore. She will act all confused about it "Why isn't she talking to me?", but she knows why.
Stay away when he’s like that, you don’t need to hear any of that
What fantasy world do people live in that you walk around with romantic feelings all the time? To the extent if they’re absent or underground then you should just …break up? That’s not reality for ANYONE. Unrealistic expectations
In all honesty some of this isn't healthy advice. Every relationship needs boundaries and just because someone have a condition doesn't excuse the person's personal boundaries on what they are willing to put up with. Do not guilt trick yourself into staying in something you're miserable in. Give every relationship a chance (of course) but know when to walk if you have to without feeling guilty. I give her sooo much credit on prioritizing taking medication especially to keep a balanced relationship. Thanks for the video! I've dated someone with multiple mood disorders and please just know your limits and do not get caged in a situation out of guilt, that's for ppl with and without a mood disorder. Its not your responsibility to "take care of them" it's best to support and encourage them instead.
Exactly you can’t keep chasing someone who says no, eventually THEY need self awareness that this is their pattern
I have a bad habit of attracting abusive narcissistic men, so I struggle breaking up anyways and stay even while I’m abused.
It doesn't matter how much reassurance you give them they'll still end up cheating on the relationship.
My brother just came back home after 2years and I can't remember anything we did before he's like a stranger I know and I can't talk to him that much cuz he's like a visitor😢😢
I cried watching this nothing can put into words about how I felt until now, I love him but sometimes I'm so down I don't know how to lift myself back up, I've never initiated a break up but I have to catch myself in moments like these and articulate why I feel like this
Get out before it's too late. They are very good at making things seem like it's your fault. Love yourself and do what's right for you.
I have been with my partner for over 6 yrs..had an affair 2x during episodes...the last one about 5 to 6 months ago broke me. Went to therapy and found out she was extremely manic, then severely depressed then on a mixed state. She's still on medications which she has been for about 10 years. She would be apologetic, wanted me and loved me to not wanting to be in a relationship with me. To cut the story short I still am fighting for her, for us. Educated myself a ton the past months and understood more and more. I am also choosing to forgive every single day.
Rn, we have been messaging and talking everyday. We see each other briefly for lunches or dinner. I'd like to think we are on our way to healing. She knows I am waiting for her stability again. We both know we love each other and we just needed to forgive each other for what happened.
Thank you for this. I am not going down without a fight. She tells me she appreciates everything I do especially still being here for her despite of.
She's the love of my life and I am going to do everything and wait as long as it takes.
She by the way went back to the person she had an affair with. I couldn't stay and watch anymore. I want to keep fighting but there's nobody to fight for. Now I am fighting for my life. It is so painful and devastating. Already been working with a therapist to help me get out of this trauma and heartbreak. Wishing everyone love and kindness. It is painfully difficult but I have no other choice than to pick up the shattered pieces on my own.
@@irajessicalagua2460
Good call. Sorry for the pain you had to go through though.
Your tips are helpful, invaluable, and appreciated. It hurts to deal with this, but at least you give us the tools.
My girlfriend is currently in a depression and isolating herself, and I know it’s her bipolar. As much as I want to fight for her, I’m worried that going to her house will upset her. We haven’t talked much lately but what we have said to each other seems really hopeful and reassuring, but I’m still worried.
I'm going through the same thing essentially. I'm new to dating someone wbo is bi-polar so I am just learning about it. My advice is don't show up at her house. Just message her from time to time letting her know you are still here for her. Don't pressure her. Don't take it personally of you message her and she doesn't respond.
@@djbeezy anything you found extremely informative these videos seem very informative but I feel like this is only one perspective I imagine all bipolar people are not the same
@@codyw492 You are correct. I'm just speaking from my experience.
@@djbeezy how much time do you give it? My ex girlfriend never told me she has BP1. I found out 2 weeks before she asked me to leave after 2 years of dating. I seen her bottle of meds on the vanity when I got out of the shower, i Googled it and just about had a heart attack. That’s how I found out she has BP1. And now I believe she has HIV. She doesn’t return my calls or texts so I let it go. Thank God I’m STD free but I’m afraid she’s not
@@Biditupup I can't answer that bro. It totally depends. My girl started messaging me a while back and then dropped off the map again. Being with someone who is bipolar is not easy at all.
Great vid. I'm not bipolar but this wisdom I believe applies to others with mental health struggles! Blessings!
Every woman is bipolar 🤣
@@carloscabrera5311 that's utter bullshit because my stepsister is multipolar.! Can't even blame her pms anymore because she is like almost 73 and she's still at it. Maybe not multipolar but omnipolar. She married a rich jerk who doesn't believe in divorce so she buys her way out of or through her screw ups and her daughters is even worse.
No it's not a great video. Putting up with the behavior of those with BP destroys people. It's dangerous advice
My ex could not get me to go to bed. Part of the problem was I was a night owl which made it 10 times harder.
BP2, Married 5yr in December❤️
I’m committed to NOT being on meds. Married for 10 years with an 8 year old daughter.
My boyfriend of a year is bipolar. He is a Firefighter Paramamed and I'm an AEMT and I try to understand. But the highs and lows are taking its toll on MY mental health. In his highs he is very loving caring and trustworthy funny. The lows accuses me of cheating randomly accuses me of doing outrageous things. Ghosts me. Very emotional. Self medicates with alcohol (common with firefighters) then when it's all over acts like everything is fine. Like holy shit 😳 idk if I can hang.
I hear you. Your needs matter too. The video is great but sounds like co-dependency too
Bipolar here.
Leave him.
Break up simple
Yeah, I tried to be that 10 percent. I really wanted to, but when he had a stranger who happened to be a felon stay with us for a week and this felon disrespected me. I feel so depresssed. This felon, knowing we were dating, tells my manic man, go find some new chick to give you head. I had recorded this and played it back to my manic man. I cried and begged him after this felon had left to not allow the felon back to spend the night again. Initially manic man agreed but had the felon back a night or two later. If anything, the manic man ended it. I tried. I tried to still remember how manic man before he was manic used to cry if he saw me in pain like when i dislocated my elbow. I remembered when he was first starting to be manic, he came in one night, hugged me (while i was pretending to sleep), and he started crying. That was heart breaking.
I need help my girlfriend is Bipoalr and she told me shes gonna be a flight attendant 👩✈️ and she told me she’s gonna go around the world and she’s gonna be flying 24/7 and she almost getting graduate and she told me she doesn’t know if we are gonna be 1 year together or be forever together
Narcissists and bipolar are so similar 🤔 so confusing
The bipolar person becomes narcissistic in an episode whereas the narcissistic personality disorder person is narcissistic at all times. I believe the bpd person is more chaotic because narcissistic people are easier to predict behavior.
Bipolar people will come to you and apologize for their behaviour after they hurt your feelings. Narcissists will never realise they were wrong
NO THEY ARE NOTHING ALIKE!
bruh
I believe you need some serious lessons in psychology.
No I don’t think u should pursue them I tried my ass almost ended up in jail get another one and move on
“Hi guys!” And a smiley face with pretty much a lack of life experience. “Hi guys” I’m going to tell you how bipolar relationships fail…. It’s an immediate fail with your presentation
Girlfriend now EX was in meds and was amazing she got off the meds went manic and cheated on me the worst way I had to break up with her … I was a very supportive boyfriend
I get the feeling that being bipolar is coupled with a bit of narcissism coz the non-bipolar person will have to set aside their own issues and prioritize the bipolar person... although undiagnosed, I believe my mom suffers from bipolar & is very manipulative & throws tantrums trying to find reasons to argue. I snapped once and told my mom she was acting like a weak little girl coz I was frustrated that I needed a parent but she was acting emotionally younger than me. Be realistic coz developing & maintaining a relationship with a mentally ill person can be challenging
25 years into marrige and got my diagnosis. I got on meds and saw my wife for the first time.
If you push others away because of your emotional detachtment, do bipolar sufferers even realize that they are doing it? Does this also include not having respect for others also?
My girlfriend broke up with me after 2 years living together , shes a runner when we have problems she leaves and this last time she left its been a month i love and miss her , our relationship got bad in the end it felt very unloving and less effection , we lived separarly in the last month i hurt her snd made a date profile but dint meet anyone but she found out and left me now she ignores my tex and calls and has blocked me ive apologized but it dont do good , her x husband she use to run and leave him as well she has a pattern of running shes bipolar 2 , i want her back but who knows whats going to happen now.
13:00 - Trusting Your partner
15:00 - Taking them back
my niece was a bipolar 1 .and 3x she lapse her meds.and back again.but now 2 yrs she said no manic episodes.is it possible her to have a baby .and she experience to have a one night stand to a guy.she did it when shes 26 2 times then now shes 28 her cousin tell me that again she then again have this with with 3 guys.with in a month of her vacation.living alone.she did it.is it true that they were hypersexuality or just being a young ,this sexual desire is normal.the problem is these is not her bf.meet online only.they use condom .what if the condom was not good its defective and shes been pregnant.shes in meds.its not good for the baby.how is the bipolar person to have a baby.
i need your comment leslie about this.. please..
@Diane VanHandel how about if she has a husband.? forever no baby?
My bipolar boyfriend (ex as of yesterday) has mood swings every moment, and he constantly keeps breaking up with me and trying to get back. It’s so tiresome and exhausting but I really love him and don’t want to lose him. Help :(
May i ask, how long were the breakup periods? Like how long do they feel motionally attatched until they go back to normal and realize they want you back again?
Very great advice.😀 Never forsake the treatment plan.
I needed this a few months ago, now i'm single again the 2nd time.
I really appreciate this video 😭😭
"It's worth it"? How? Why?
Just to be fair, when he is well, he is amazing. We were together 10 years and he had his 1st manic episode a year after dating. We did almost break up, i had moved out, but eventually moved back in and we were together. For 8 years though, he was wonderful. I used to think he loved me. I even remember a few months before he became manic, ge told me, you know i would never leave you. I believed him. I have autism, so i am sensitive and intense and creative too, but i don't tell him to shut the f up all the time like he does now, or call him a b wh... granted i am not the best gf and i used to think he was too good for me until he became manic again. He has been off his meds for years and gets psychotic episodes like to the point of accusing me of breaking his rib when in reality he was physically blocking me with his body as i was screaming let me go let me go. I eventually get past him from out of the stairs of a hallway. It's crazy just how he would think that i broke his rib when people tell me that they couldn't imagine seeing me angry. I flight from conflict, not fight. If i had broken his rib, he would have been in pain rather than lecturing about religion for half an hour. It boggles my mind and it's scary that he accuses me of being physically abusive when if anything, I had been the victim (although i wouldn't say he was physically abusive for physically blocking me with his body so i couldn't escape). I might also add he has accused his sister of physically scratching his hand or being physically abusive and accused other family members of murdering their baby...so, whether you trust the guy with 8 guns or take my word is up to you... but these are some of the challenges i have tried to endure in this relationship. I tried but i just am not strong enough.
We're 4 months no contact. Do I have to reach out to my BP ex?
Do you feel detachment occurs a lot during next episodes?
I will not go into everything, but my ex put me through hell, month after month, and yes she went cold a lot then loved me! I put up with way more than anyone ever would, she did everything like this but I loved her anyway, but she went too far on the last time! So if she wants me back she's messed up and now I can't take her back! I'll never get with another bipoler woman again! When I gibe her love I was told I was love bombing her so this doesn't work, and I did pursue her and she called rhe police to keep me away, not the first time btw! So stay away from these women!
Hi, now that time has passed. how are things for you after not having them around?
@mansters86 Honestlystill is around, she is still around. She decided that once I left her alone 8 months ago, she wanted to take me to court for harrasment back last year for sending 5 messages, lol so now I have to fight her all over again, I've moved on and started a new life even moved away from her! But she's still trying to ruin my life. The justice system is broken! Now I have to pay solicitor fees to fight it! Absolute joke!
So should I message her even though she broke up with me?
No
I have bipolar disorder and just graduated with my degree in clinical mental health counseling. I would consider this an unhealthy relationship, if these suggestions were followed on a permanent basis (though in short term could be necessary). If it works for her, …ok... I did not relate to much of what she described (not attracted to my partner?!?!) I do have bipolar II and she is clearly describing bipolar I, so… 🤷♀️ still. I thought these were extreme measures (except for the pursuit of a medication program that works for you/staying on meds, that I support 100%) Also, it is clinically incorrect to say “the person who is bipolar.” I have bipolar disorder, not I am bipolar disorder.
90% divorce rate... that’s encouraging. I’m worthless and my life is not worth living
Your life worth the value you give it. Give it value.
You don't have to have a relationship with a bipolar person. You can choose a non-bipolar if you want. Maybe just have bipolar friends, as it lessens the drama of being in an intimate relationship with a bipolar.
Thank you so much. Love the honesty
I could REALLY use some advice on how to deal with and approach my girlfriend who has bipolar, because I DONT want to give up..
Same
No. You actually do need to give up. It will never work despite how much you want it to or how much work you think you should do to change it. It's hopeless. That's the real truth you don't want to hear.
When people here mentioned their spouse is bipolar and that they have been married for however many years. I can guarantee you that these were not happy years but miserable times.
I know you dont want to give up but its not your choice. She will most likely lose love towards you and end it. If you don't accept that and keep "fighting" she will see you as clingy and repulsions. Its a lose/lose situation.
You are soo amazing!❤ I love my boyfriend too much cant give up from him and this video give me a hope thank you!
I started liking this video into first few mins until it goes into giving up your back accts. Etc. Etc.
Why would anyone not “trust themselves?!” despite their situations?! Then what’s the point of even living and let alone being in a relationship! It’s very discouraging but I’m sure your intention is to help people with insights.
I’ve Bi-Polar and every person with Bi-Polar has different experiences, even though there’re some patterns of behaviors and there’re many many levels of symptoms depending on many variables. So, generalize like this is a risky area!
Btw: there’re other ways than giving up your basic human freedom for the sake of maintaining a relationship.
Great video.
Can you do a video on how to budget, and save money, especially on food.
Michelle Sunshinestar Yesss!!! I made this video on food budgeting: ua-cam.com/video/E46mMwEExfg/v-deo.html
What if ur person is anti-therapy n meds?
Yeah I’m good I have to be mental myself to allow someone to treat me that way I just blocked a woman I was interested in when she was happy the first half of the day and then her mood switched and said she doesn’t feel like being otp after she called and hung up lol and she didn’t have anything to say it was weird and a sign of what I didn’t want
This video wasn't to invite haters of Bipolar people it was meant to improve relationships, I believe a lot of you are missing the point.
Yeah if you want to be with one. Of course there is another option. Run for the hills!
My marriage has lasted 24 years i have bi polar 2
OK I'm confused, are you saying DON'T merge bank accounts, or do? Is the overall message being to limit the BP individuals access to money by not merging accounts?
Don't and have the non-bipolar person to handle it. That's what I understood
Thank you for the info.
Not all people with bipolar cheat😢. Bipolar 1 or 2 affects everyone differently
You are the best!