not autistic, but i have a few autistic friends and i love it when they start talking about the different way their minds work, it really fascinates me but im always so scared to be like, "ayo, can you tell me more about how your different from me?" cos it just seems a little bit wrong to ask you know?
For me, as an Aspie, it actually makes me feel really happy when somebody asks how my brain works or anything like that. You just need to be VERY aware of your tone - just try to make it happy not not “sarcastic”! 😊
Part of our quirkiness is not thinking about what's strange to ask or be asked. Be respectful, or at least ask with good intentions and they'll probably answer with no offense and complete honesty. And be glad you asked! 😊For me, I prefer my friends ask me anything they're curious about! I really don't like finding out someone had questions about me they didn't ask me. Im a brutally honest type and really do appreciate when people respect me enough to be honest with me. I am very patient and rarely offended however.
After finding out I have autism(at the ripe old age of 26) my friends have started to help me when I'm talking instead of judging me. Like, sometimes I'll be in the middle of a 2 minute rant on the lore of the D&D campaign setting we're playing in, and before they used to mock me or make fun of how nobody cared about it. Now they just ask questions, which means I rant less and has turned me from an annoying nerd to a spaced out worldbook. Which I'm MUCH more comfortable being. lol It's a weird feeling, being accepted for what you are. I can't make you feel better when your cat dies, but I can coldly vomit useless facts for hours on request if I'm not too stressed.
@@lessandra602 We were both seeing a counselor that helps disabled adults integrate to the workforce and live independently. It just started out as my counselor introducing me to another Autistic person that works with her, hoping that we would become friends. Little did my counselor know, that I fell madly in love with the woman she introduced me too and she fell madly in love with me.
Yaaaaaasssss. Relate 100%. Don't talk to us like toddlers, don't think we're incapable at everything because we're not and don't go spreading the fact that we're autistic to anyone and everyone you know because chances are we don't want them to know
I have an autistic friend. She’s 18 and I’m 13 but she acts a lot younger than she is. I don’t do any of the things you said but I tried to avoid sarcasm. Do you think it would go over her head? She used to be made fun of and I think it just went over her head. Sarcasm yes or no?
@@cleverclovercreates3249 you are asking the wrong person: ask your friend, and perhaps consider doing a non-insulting test, after asking her permission, using something not about her at all as a topic, in a private environment. I’m autistic and I absolutely can be sarcastic, and I understand sarcasm… at least, I think most of the time. The non-verbal aspects are very important, and that may be a breaking point as to whether or not she recognizes and understands it. That’s the most correct answer that can be given, other than not using sarcasm at all is a welcome change, because sarcasm is deceptive in its nature, when you think about it.
Hello from England! Yes, the English language is confusing, like when people say "How are you?" and are surprised/shocked/annoyed/not interested if you say anything other than "I'm fine" (and people call ME weird!) Well done on another great video!
I have a history of sensory issues related to sound (and sometimes sight) bc of misophonia, so I relate a bit on that. It can be really overwhelming and has made me cry, resist the instinct to run away, and has caused anger bc it triggers a flight/fight/freeze response. Sometimes all I can do is sit there covering my ears. But I'm happy when I get to use my experiences with this and other mental challenges to relate to and further understand others
@@aquariakarin5301different people have different preferences (my sensory overload comes from an ADHD side but it’s probably still similar), but when I’m sensory overloaded, I do not want to listen to anyone talk. Trying to process words is just incredibly painful. If I was with a friend, I would just prefer quiet, maybe a text from them to make sure I’m okay, but nothing where I have to process or respond verbally
Thank you for this Chloe, my good friend has Autism and I’m trying to understand her feelings a little more each day. I’ve known her for 17 years, and her diagnosis is relatively new, being that we’re both nearly 30 I’m learning new things about her on an ASD wavelength has made it a lot easier to understand her, it’s especially helpful knowing what works and what doesn’t.
Hey I know this comment was from a long time ago, but I just want to say that I was recently diagnosed with autism and if my friends did what you are doing, I would appreciate it so much! You are an amazing friend and I'm so glad you are taking the time to "research" and everything!
I started unmasking in front of a long term friend and I can tell she hates it but now I feel like if I want to have friends I can’t be myself and that exhausting but I’ll be alone if I don’t
I would also like to add something that the video doesn't mention. It isn't really 'how to support a friend with autism' but more something to remember when your with that person that they might wish you to know. For many autistic people communication can sometimes be a confusing, stressful thing can cause that person a lot of anxiety and I for one know it can be like that for me sometimes. If a friend with autism is hanging out with you and they're not really getting involved much in the conversation, not laughing at jokes (probably because they don't understand them) coming across as not wanting to be there then that could be true but it also could just be because they don't have the ability to do friendship the same way everyone else does. That doesn't mean they're not having the time of their lives though. Just by being around the people they love can often be enough for that person. They may want to just sit/stand next to that person, they may just want to hug them (I know not all autistic people like hugs) play with their hair etc. What I'm trying to get across is that just because they're not interacting with you the way everyone else is that doesn't mean they aren't enjoying your company.
You are the 22 version of me! You're wonderful and I wish I knew what you do at this at this age. Many many blessings and love to you. Big future for you. Best of luck with everything, Ms Chloe.
Chloe I bloody love your work. You bring so much light into the world and are probably one of the best advocates for ASD I know. Keep doing you. Also "we do not need pity friendship" can I get an AAAAMEN 🙌
I'm not autistic but I am Dyslexic for reading out loud and numbers. I have coworkers that are autistic. I treat them normally but I also aware of what they told me that triggers them like a coworker is sensitive to food textures. I eating something want her try it. I gave her a small bit and told her I understand if the texture triggers her. It was triggering and had to spit it out. I still happy at least tried it. we talked about it she liked the taste it was just the texture she couldn't handle.
It 65% to 70% non verbal communication. The 93% is not what you say is including those the words spoken in sentences. But 20% of that is verbal communication. It is sound of your voice tone, loudness and inflection in the voice. The other half is biggest the problem with autism. Have to learn facial expression, eye movement body language. I feel all the body language and NVC add up to problem with dating. It would be so much easier if people would say I'm attracted to you. Rather than having to read into why the person playing with their hair. NT are amazed that aspie have to think about this stuff.
Omg girl I was a kinda laughing 😂 at almost all of it because I could relate to it and omg there is another person like me yea like it when people to tell me flat out 🤣
Thank you so much for all you do helping the autism community, I have autism myself and many of my friends have autism and the content you put out is so so helpful and you're really pretty
I have adhd and my friend is autistic and he really loves a tree at the school playground and he gets sand and angry when someone pulls a leaf off and I just laugh cuz I dont know what else to do with loads to us breaking up alot so yeah this is really helpfull
My friend that I have been friends with for 4 years is autistic and I just found out after all this time. The sad thing is, her parents aren’t letting her or her twin sister go to school, which wouldn’t be a problem if they tutored them or homeschooled them, but the thing is, they don’t learn ANYTHING other than how to cook a few eggs and how to pick up a chicken. So, thats a factor that make it undeniable harder to relate with my friend because she can’t learn the same stuff as me. It makes me sad because I feel like if her and her twin had more friends, than they could be better people. I’m not saying the autism is bad, I’m saying the way they’re being raised is bad. I hope whoever reads this heck of a comment can understand.
Were definitely more attuned to what's literal rather than the sarcastic or metaphorical. We're best at understanding our own metaphors and also tend to leave the actual literal meaning WITH our metaphors rather than just leaving them up for interpretation.
I freaking love you cloe cuz your sayin just how I feel and how I am!! I get so sad sometimes like I just wanna relate to people and have them see what I think too!!
I bet this lady saves a lot of innocent potential compatriots from awkwardness with some people that need friends the most. I speak from personal experiences when I say that waking up alone can be the biggest battle of the day therefore we autistic ppl need all the help we can get. Thanks 🙏🏻
I’m on the spectrum with adhd and the problem is i’m the one that leaves hints instead of saying what i mean. Like i always struggled to express myself and never knew how to handle conflicts without emotional outbursts and therefore i’m the one more “passive” and indirect when talking
What a amazing video. As someone who was diagnosed with autism at 30 years old. Only thing I'm struggling with is when to stop talking when someone is upset or annoyed at me. Repeating myself and end up being stuck on a loop.
Great advice Chloe. I have friends who are Autistic and who I hang out with on a regular basis. They are all very different, so I deal with each of them as individuals. We do different things together depending on what we feel like doing.
Okay, personally I’m watching this video to get more educated on this topic, due to one of my friends being Autistic. I’m personally really good with respecting boundaries and whether someone is okay with being touched or not, whether their neurodivergent or neurotypical, yet sometimes I feel like I could communicate with my friend better if I had some incite. Yet luckily, my friend is really good about telling me when she’s not comfortable with hugging or anything, and I only make sure to touch when she incites the action, which she prefers. + I watched Heartbreak High and you were and the rest of the cast were amazing. (This video was great,
I'm not Autistic but I'm not NueroTypical at all.. you make me feel like I'm a new Normal... but not Normal.. 😙😙 I struggle making friends and reaching out... I have medical disorders and they hold me back a bit... so it's hard to connect. I can't reach out and connect.. but that's okay!
School was horrible for me.12 years at the same single sex school. The first 4 years were okay, then in Year 5 there were a lot more kids, and I started to get bullied. I probably should have gotten myself expelled, since my parents would not even consider allowing me to change schools (it was a very prestigious private school). I was very quiet then, and still am. The lesson is that just because a school has an impeccable reputation, it doesn't mean it is right for you. I have have Asperger's screening, and was told no. I think I have many traits though, mainly social difficulties which get passed off as being shy or introverted. Faced with a roomful of strangers I literally do not know what to do. I know I'm supposed to be like everyone else, talking to other people, but I just can't do that. Even with people I've worked with for years - workplace parties were a bit strange, I was in a different role which I was not comfortable in, and I'm not good at pretending.
One of my friends has autism and I really wanna help them get out of their shell because they are so shy and I want them to like me because I rarely have friends and I’d love to have a good friend
My friend she rarely replies it kinda hurts I have asked if she could text more straight up you know if she could reply to hi I do care for her of course when I do get to see her I love seeing her
I was making a comment that was autistism-related on a IG post about autism and I was trying to use mote literal language bc of the context. It was kind of hard to find a truly literal way of saying what I wanted to say ngl I guess it depends on the person how much non-literal speech will be easily understood, but are very common idioms and turns of phrase easier to understand?
Interesting info, thanks. It seems that many autistic-type people are very introspective, and can readily talk at great length themselves? Are they also self-absorbed?
Hi chloe I am an Aspie and I really love your videos and I was wondering if you wanted to be friends with me? I find it difficult for me to make friends because of the way I am and watching your videos has helped me a lot thank you for all you do!!
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not autistic, but i have a few autistic friends and i love it when they start talking about the different way their minds work, it really fascinates me but im always so scared to be like, "ayo, can you tell me more about how your different from me?" cos it just seems a little bit wrong to ask you know?
For me if my friend were to ask me about my experience as someone who is autistic would mean a lot to me and I’d be so happy to talk about it
For me, as an Aspie, it actually makes me feel really happy when somebody asks how my brain works or anything like that. You just need to be VERY aware of your tone - just try to make it happy not not “sarcastic”! 😊
Part of our quirkiness is not thinking about what's strange to ask or be asked. Be respectful, or at least ask with good intentions and they'll probably answer with no offense and complete honesty. And be glad you asked! 😊For me, I prefer my friends ask me anything they're curious about! I really don't like finding out someone had questions about me they didn't ask me. Im a brutally honest type and really do appreciate when people respect me enough to be honest with me. I am very patient and rarely offended however.
After finding out I have autism(at the ripe old age of 26) my friends have started to help me when I'm talking instead of judging me. Like, sometimes I'll be in the middle of a 2 minute rant on the lore of the D&D campaign setting we're playing in, and before they used to mock me or make fun of how nobody cared about it.
Now they just ask questions, which means I rant less and has turned me from an annoying nerd to a spaced out worldbook. Which I'm MUCH more comfortable being. lol
It's a weird feeling, being accepted for what you are. I can't make you feel better when your cat dies, but I can coldly vomit useless facts for hours on request if I'm not too stressed.
Me and my girlfriend are both Autistic and we were introduced by the counselor that we both saw.
Genin99 really? I never knew counsellors could do that
@@lessandra602 We were both seeing a counselor that helps disabled adults integrate to the workforce and live independently.
It just started out as my counselor introducing me to another Autistic person that works with her, hoping that we would become friends.
Little did my counselor know, that I fell madly in love with the woman she introduced me too and she fell madly in love with me.
@@lessandra602they technically can’t
I'm sorry you had "friends" who treated you like that. Thank you for this video, it's really helpful to me!
Yaaaaaasssss. Relate 100%. Don't talk to us like toddlers, don't think we're incapable at everything because we're not and don't go spreading the fact that we're autistic to anyone and everyone you know because chances are we don't want them to know
I have an autistic friend. She’s 18 and I’m 13 but she acts a lot younger than she is. I don’t do any of the things you said but I tried to avoid sarcasm. Do you think it would go over her head? She used to be made fun of and I think it just went over her head. Sarcasm yes or no?
@@cleverclovercreates3249 you are asking the wrong person: ask your friend, and perhaps consider doing a non-insulting test, after asking her permission, using something not about her at all as a topic, in a private environment.
I’m autistic and I absolutely can be sarcastic, and I understand sarcasm… at least, I think most of the time. The non-verbal aspects are very important, and that may be a breaking point as to whether or not she recognizes and understands it. That’s the most correct answer that can be given, other than not using sarcasm at all is a welcome change, because sarcasm is deceptive in its nature, when you think about it.
Hello from England! Yes, the English language is confusing, like when people say "How are you?" and are surprised/shocked/annoyed/not interested if you say anything other than "I'm fine" (and people call ME weird!) Well done on another great video!
omg thank you! thank you for posting this! I was just complaining about this to my partner. I really hate it and I find it so confusing.
Watching this at a wedding because I'm super overloaded. Thank you so much for making such relatable content!
I have a history of sensory issues related to sound (and sometimes sight) bc of misophonia, so I relate a bit on that. It can be really overwhelming and has made me cry, resist the instinct to run away, and has caused anger bc it triggers a flight/fight/freeze response. Sometimes all I can do is sit there covering my ears. But I'm happy when I get to use my experiences with this and other mental challenges to relate to and further understand others
What can I do to help when that happens ? Sometimes i just make jokes so that they can be districted, but I don’t know if it is the right thing
@@aquariakarin5301different people have different preferences (my sensory overload comes from an ADHD side but it’s probably still similar), but when I’m sensory overloaded, I do not want to listen to anyone talk. Trying to process words is just incredibly painful. If I was with a friend, I would just prefer quiet, maybe a text from them to make sure I’m okay, but nothing where I have to process or respond verbally
Thank you for this Chloe, my good friend has Autism and I’m trying to understand her feelings a little more each day. I’ve known her for 17 years, and her diagnosis is relatively new, being that we’re both nearly 30 I’m learning new things about her on an ASD wavelength has made it a lot easier to understand her, it’s especially helpful knowing what works and what doesn’t.
Hey I know this comment was from a long time ago, but I just want to say that I was recently diagnosed with autism and if my friends did what you are doing, I would appreciate it so much! You are an amazing friend and I'm so glad you are taking the time to "research" and everything!
You visited my school today and I just wanted to say good on you for what you’re doing, I think it’s amazing 👌
I started unmasking in front of a long term friend and I can tell she hates it but now I feel like if I want to have friends I can’t be myself and that exhausting but I’ll be alone if I don’t
I would also like to add something that the video doesn't mention. It isn't really 'how to support a friend with autism' but more something to remember when your with that person that they might wish you to know. For many autistic people communication can sometimes be a confusing, stressful thing can cause that person a lot of anxiety and I for one know it can be like that for me sometimes. If a friend with autism is hanging out with you and they're not really getting involved much in the conversation, not laughing at jokes (probably because they don't understand them) coming across as not wanting to be there then that could be true but it also could just be because they don't have the ability to do friendship the same way everyone else does. That doesn't mean they're not having the time of their lives though. Just by being around the people they love can often be enough for that person. They may want to just sit/stand next to that person, they may just want to hug them (I know not all autistic people like hugs) play with their hair etc. What I'm trying to get across is that just because they're not interacting with you the way everyone else is that doesn't mean they aren't enjoying your company.
I agree
Thank you ❤
Chloe, I forgot to say I really LOVE your yellow floral crown and jewelry:)!!
You are the 22 version of me! You're wonderful and I wish I knew what you do at this at this age. Many many blessings and love to you. Big future for you.
Best of luck with everything, Ms Chloe.
Chloe I bloody love your work. You bring so much light into the world and are probably one of the best advocates for ASD I know. Keep doing you. Also "we do not need pity friendship" can I get an AAAAMEN 🙌
You're awesome chloe you're always beautiful and interesting i would love to be friends wirh you love you chloe
I am autistic and my best friend is autistic too, thank you so much for advocating for autistic people, I love you Chloe 🥰
I'm not autistic but I am Dyslexic for reading out loud and numbers. I have coworkers that are autistic. I treat them normally but I also aware of what they told me that triggers them like a coworker is sensitive to food textures. I eating something want her try it. I gave her a small bit and told her I understand if the texture triggers her. It was triggering and had to spit it out. I still happy at least tried it. we talked about it she liked the taste it was just the texture she couldn't handle.
It 65% to 70% non verbal communication.
The 93% is not what you say is including those the words spoken in sentences.
But 20% of that is verbal communication.
It is sound of your voice tone, loudness and inflection in the voice.
The other half is biggest the problem with autism.
Have to learn facial expression, eye movement body language.
I feel all the body language and NVC add up to problem with dating.
It would be so much easier if people would say I'm attracted to you.
Rather than having to read into why the person playing with their hair.
NT are amazed that aspie have to think about this stuff.
Omg girl I was a kinda laughing 😂 at almost all of it because I could relate to it and omg there is another person like me yea like it when people to tell me flat out 🤣
You're awesome. My daughter is 9 with ASD. I'm proud to be her mom and want to help her the best I can.
Thank you so much for all you do helping the autism community, I have autism myself and many of my friends have autism and the content you put out is so so helpful and you're really pretty
I have adhd and my friend is autistic and he really loves a tree at the school playground and he gets sand and angry when someone pulls a leaf off and I just laugh cuz I dont know what else to do with loads to us breaking up alot so yeah this is really helpfull
My friend that I have been friends with for 4 years is autistic and I just found out after all this time. The sad thing is, her parents aren’t letting her or her twin sister go to school, which wouldn’t be a problem if they tutored them or homeschooled them, but the thing is, they don’t learn ANYTHING other than how to cook a few eggs and how to pick up a chicken. So, thats a factor that make it undeniable harder to relate with my friend because she can’t learn the same stuff as me. It makes me sad because I feel like if her and her twin had more friends, than they could be better people. I’m not saying the autism is bad, I’m saying the way they’re being raised is bad. I hope whoever reads this heck of a comment can understand.
Were definitely more attuned to what's literal rather than the sarcastic or metaphorical. We're best at understanding our own metaphors and also tend to leave the actual literal meaning WITH our metaphors rather than just leaving them up for interpretation.
This is a beautiful video 🌟🌟✨✨
I freaking love you cloe cuz your sayin just how I feel and how I am!! I get so sad sometimes like I just wanna relate to people and have them see what I think too!!
My boyfriend has aspergers and because of that, the way he communicates is so adorable and i love him so much
I bet this lady saves a lot of innocent potential compatriots from awkwardness with some people that need friends the most. I speak from personal experiences when I say that waking up alone can be the biggest battle of the day therefore we autistic ppl need all the help we can get. Thanks 🙏🏻
This video is perfect. I want to be able to understand my friend more.
I have been treated like a project my ENTIRE life
I wasn't even diagnosed autistic, but they knew. I had selective mutism tbf
I’m on the spectrum with adhd and the problem is i’m the one that leaves hints instead of saying what i mean. Like i always struggled to express myself and never knew how to handle conflicts without emotional outbursts and therefore i’m the one more “passive” and indirect when talking
What a amazing video. As someone who was diagnosed with autism at 30 years old. Only thing I'm struggling with is when to stop talking when someone is upset or annoyed at me. Repeating myself and end up being stuck on a loop.
Hugs. You are so right. Cute. ❤
Great advice Chloe. I have friends who are Autistic and who I hang out with on a regular basis. They are all very different, so I deal with each of them as individuals. We do different things together depending on what we feel like doing.
Okay, personally I’m watching this video to get more educated on this topic, due to one of my friends being Autistic. I’m personally really good with respecting boundaries and whether someone is okay with being touched or not, whether their neurodivergent or neurotypical, yet sometimes I feel like I could communicate with my friend better if I had some incite. Yet luckily, my friend is really good about telling me when she’s not comfortable with hugging or anything, and I only make sure to touch when she incites the action, which she prefers.
+ I watched Heartbreak High and you were and the rest of the cast were amazing.
(This video was great,
Just be nice and respectful.
I'm not Autistic but I'm not NueroTypical at all.. you make me feel like I'm a new Normal... but not Normal.. 😙😙 I struggle making friends and reaching out... I have medical disorders and they hold me back a bit... so it's hard to connect. I can't reach out and connect.. but that's okay!
I have an autistic friend. Me and him were 1st friends in 2nd grade
School was horrible for me.12 years at the same single sex school. The first 4 years were okay, then in Year 5 there were a lot more kids, and I started to get bullied. I probably should have gotten myself expelled, since my parents would not even consider allowing me to change schools (it was a very prestigious private school). I was very quiet then, and still am. The lesson is that just because a school has an impeccable reputation, it doesn't mean it is right for you. I have have Asperger's screening, and was told no. I think I have many traits though, mainly social difficulties which get passed off as being shy or introverted. Faced with a roomful of strangers I literally do not know what to do. I know I'm supposed to be like everyone else, talking to other people, but I just can't do that. Even with people I've worked with for years - workplace parties were a bit strange, I was in a different role which I was not comfortable in, and I'm not good at pretending.
Hi elliot here I have a quick question do you fell the odd one out in social situations I feel the same
Tell me and I’ll forget
Show me and I might remember
Include me and I’ll understand
Xun Kuang
did u already listen to LP1?? Is a masterpiece!!💙
One of my friends has autism and I really wanna help them get out of their shell because they are so shy and I want them to like me because I rarely have friends and I’d love to have a good friend
I'm really bad at math too :). I'm not autistic, though. I have ADHD (the inattentive type).
I wish I could share this but no one knows that I suspect I'm autistic 😔
I just found your channel! Love you already 🥰
My friend she rarely replies it kinda hurts I have asked if she could text more straight up you know if she could reply to hi I do care for her of course when I do get to see her I love seeing her
Buenísimo!! Muy buenos consejos, muchas gracias Chloe!!
I was making a comment that was autistism-related on a IG post about autism and I was trying to use mote literal language bc of the context. It was kind of hard to find a truly literal way of saying what I wanted to say ngl
I guess it depends on the person how much non-literal speech will be easily understood, but are very common idioms and turns of phrase easier to understand?
Hi Chloe from Israel! I hope you have a great weekend.
I am autistic as well
Do you ship to Germany? I tried to order a jumper but it didn't work and I couldn't find any contact details. 😥
I do!!
I am nerodivgent but don’t have Austim I have learning disability dysgraphia!
Thanks you. This video is quite helpful.
Awesome Chloe way to go
Hey I was at grovedale college. Loved your presentation
love ya!!! make a reaction of "walls" by lou. Lots of love xx
Cristina Pérez 737 I’ll be doing a reaction video to his whole album next week!! ❤️
Hi Chloe you came to the college today 31st it was really inspiring
I am a mathematics ginus student sorry for my spelling cause I can't spell
I does not work cause they do no asnwer there phones!!!!!
Interesting info, thanks.
It seems that many autistic-type people are very introspective,
and can readily talk at great length themselves?
Are they also self-absorbed?
I’m autistic and I personally don’t think I’m self-absorbed! :)
Hi chloe I am an Aspie and I really love your videos and I was wondering if you wanted to be friends with me? I find it difficult for me to make friends because of the way I am and watching your videos has helped me a lot thank you for all you do!!
Aren’t you Quinni ? !?!?
The start 2:22 yw
Awesome video Chloe. Hope you don’t me sharing this with my Twitter followers. 😊
Great great great video👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
I have autism
Me an autistic, trying to find a good video to send to my friends xD
a.k.a. we are not mind readers or psychics it takes way too much energy that we could use for other activities
May I ask you to be my friend? A whole sincere friendship request!
I love you
Hi Chloe
How old was you when you was diagnosed?
Gary Francis she was 13 :)