Thank you so much for your insights, it definitely means a lot. Literally I can feel the difference for better, each moment, by following your advised steps to stay focused. I Thank you in the behalf of millions of people, for making their life better by changing their perception.
Great explanation. This especially applies to people that are empaths. Empaths have a role in life to really help the people around us. When we are around people that draw out our energy and when we are in environments that are negative that throws our vibrations off we will get sick. Many of us come from families that throw us off. Just because they are our parents or siblings ect.... does not mean we have to tolerate them in our lives. My mother and brother are both energy vampires. My brother is so negative and mean that he thinks life is always out to get him. My mother is selfish and puts her friends first and ways puts me down in passive aggressive ways but thinks she is a true Christian. When we fight nothing is ever solved but always pushed under the rug. I finally had enough and realized this is my life and I'm going to live it on my terms. I take them in with small doses and now never divulge personal info to them because they feed on it. In turn I realzed I was so feeding myself in a negative way by thinking I could talk to them, especially my mother and I can't. Being on our own is not a bad thing. I appreciate so much more the amazing things in life when I don't have them around and keep them on a short leash. I am able to learn from my mistakes better and raise my family differently. I will say it is a challenge because after being raised this way it is very hard to break the cycle but it can be done. Everyday the sun comes up God gives us a new life to lead and learn from. When we stop learning we start to die a very slow death on a spiritual level.
Thank you. I just needed to finally hear someone say it. My mother and sisters are terrible vampires. Their hatred of men and the manipulation knows no bounds. I feel guilty about leaving but I have yet to have a normal life because of them. I want to move away to another state and start over. I might even change my name. I dunno. It makes wanting to meet other people a challenge. How to be authentic without alienating yourself. I refuse to let them steal any more of my life.
I can never feel free ,happy and energetic around my family members…..only feel good when I am alone.That makes me think they probably all are energy vampires.
My mum and brothers are energy vampires and they want to blame others for shortcomings,I accept the way are but don't get sucked in,ones boundaries are the utmost important
Finally, someone is talking about it. Dandapani is always honest and raw. Whatever you ask him, he will definitely give you a clear answer. He won't leave you there confused n perplexed with vast explanations like few spiritual gurus nowadays. If you ask questions about your parents to these gurus, they simply try to avoid the question. But Dandapani said it. He himself has been there. So he knows how is it to live with toxic family members. This is why I love and respect you so much Dandapani. Thank you for existing 🙏❤️
This video is so useful on my sittuation and not many talk about it. Environment is a huge factor in our persoanl growth and our growth can become stagnant and held back when we are around the wrong people, it’s so hard living with a family member that drains your energy. Esp when it’s your parent bc they are the ones that gave u life and we are required to honor them so boundaries there are quite hard esp when u have no yet gained your independence. Any tips on how to set boundaries?
Idk how but I actually was in such situation and that's so relative to your situation. My Q is same how to set boundaries and how to uplift or handle ourselves in such situations?
I practice thinking the follow phrase around my energy vampire parent: "I lovingly take back my power and eliminate all interference." It seems to help. I limit my time with them, including eating my meals separately or at different times, and I do my work in a separate room as much as possible. I bless them in my mind with love as often as I can. My sister plays music or podcasts in her earbuds at all times as a way to deal with it. Remember that living at home with your parent is temporary; stay focused on your goals and plans and hopefully the door of opportunity will open and you can move out soon!
Even I'm in this situation currently, and I also think that limiting interaction time helps. I cook my meals and bring it to my room. They keep complaining that I don't spend time with them. But when I do most of the times they're telling me how good other children are. And I have my limitations due to the inherited health problems I've got from them. Still they don't want to understand anything. They want me to study 24*7. If I take a nap for 20-30 min in the afternoon they scold me like anything. They don't let me meet my friends either. They always keep pointing telling me that my dreams are too small and Since I'm not preparing for UPSC exam according to their will, I will never be able to do anything good in my life. These things used to keep revolving in my head and my health deteriorated even more. But eventually I realised until I get independent, spending least time with them is the only key.
@@shivagni_ Great. Seems like you're Indian. I can understand you as I'm Indian. Living with parents is difficult sometimes but we have solution of Every problem. Thank you.
We can learn to communicate with our cells in our bodies. The body has the ability to heal..... anything. Learn to communicate with your cells and heal whatever you want...we are that powerful! 😇
That's the reason why I want to move countries. I don't want to move from the few family and friends I love but I have to. (When I say few family, I mean my dad, my older brother, my sisters but somehow they got emotionally far from me and said I'm delusional)
One of my family member,she got depression,she is my little sis,when she is unhappy,she wants to ruin our lives.in that particular situation,I thought she is not my family,her mind was controlled by low energy.She hates light and she hates happiness.Lucky now I lived far away from her.Its just really a nightmare.😭
Yes,my little sis keeping taking money from me when I lived with them,and my parents loved my sis thinking she is younger so I need to tolerate mistakes from her.that is really hurt.BUT u can't explain because u live together.Now I separate,and feel more relax but sometimes they still watching me,but some day I will give my money to society insteading of tolerate those energy vampires.
in Economic Science promoting free market capitalism, Milton Friedman said that if you allow people to work for their best self interest everyone will be benefitted in the society, but we all see how horribly people interpreted Friedman's advice by mindlessly pursuing hedonism at the cost of poor and vulnerable. In this video Dandapani concludes that if you take care of yourself it will do good service to everyone because best version of you can serve everyone else in best way. I think its important that we shouldn't misunderstand him. Both the advices are similar and must not be interpreted in egoistic, narcissist, "My way or highway" or hedonistic manner. By "self interest" and "self care" both Friedman and Dandapani are referring to benign and constructive self interest/care which while benefiting an individual is not harming the society/community/family. This polarity between an Individual & community/family needs a very careful balancing to ensure justice & benefits to both. So please ensure that you are not mindlessly labelling people "Energy Vampires" and start shunning them out of your life and become an island unto yourself. While you follow his advice, learn to forgive and constantly push/persuade the lost travellers towards the "right path" instead of outrightly avoiding suffering by abandoning them. "Suffering is inherently a part of life"-Buddha His advice must be thought out deeply. Thanks Dandapani.
Your mind is a place where thought comes and goes. The Chinese call your mind the monkey cause it is always going here and there and everywhere. This i believe is where your problem probably lies. And he does show you how to fix this. It's concentration. It's telling the little monkey to sit and stay and stop running all around. You could also try meditation. But as dondiponi (idk if I spelled that right I hope so) says meditation is just concentrating on one thing for an extended period of time with a goal in mind. Look up the video if you are interested but anyway. To rid yourself of your every sucking mind is to focus on it and give it tasks to accomplish besides drag your awearness threw all of the muck in your life and give it a goal to work towards instead.
To BE whatever is split into 2 different words in spanish. To be a human being is what you are existentially. Que ser. To be. But if you are in spain, that's not something existential. Its contextual. Que estar. You estar in spain. This is important to have built in to your perception when dealing with depression. ARE you despressed. Or are YOU a depression. Having it or being it. To be honest i dont think anyone are wired to be depressive at all. I think it's software and context all the way. Except of course if you have some tumor growing yhat supresses some function or whatever. But again that is not being depressed. Thats just having a tumor. Telling people they ARE depression, is a good way to keep people in the dark even when exposing the sun. They will think that they are, and so they will act appropriately. Same with violent, angry, in pain, a doctor, rich or whatever people think they are. English is... contemporary english anyway... is just so... daft. Poder is also a really interesting spanish word. Taught me what the word power really means.
Better start some form of yoga, better to start with kriya yoga, which will help in creating protective layer for you. And one fine day you will know the real reason behind the action of your parents and help them/yourself to overcome with the problem.
Many blessings to all of you that have had to face real energy vampires... my family are generational vampires that carry the curse proudly and willingly... I am the one who will shed light upon them until they wake up!!!
This type of teaching is not for common people, this is ment for healers, bramacharies, saints and gurues. Need to be conscious of audience, when speaking on such critical topics. This will harm more than doing good for common people.
You are the one who is stupid! This man changed my life! You have no right whatsoever to abuse this man's teachings! Next time use a dictionary when you are trying to type public comments! Illiterate!
@@toniakhanye577 Dandapani, is an upcoming guru with brilliant ideas and had helped many. Now that he is being looked has an guru by many, he needs to be more conscious when speaking with common people, who may take his words literally and harm themselves or people around them. By any means if you get a chance to meet him, please let him know to be more conscious when speaking with common people. I foresee the ill effects that may arose because of his choice of words used with common people on this topic.
The weird thing is that some people might regard a person as an energy vampire while others would consider them engaging or entertaining. The beauty of life is that we can find people that fulfill a gap that we have in ourselves and whom are, in turn, fulfilled by us. We are each other's puzzle piece. And we make a beautiful, albeit incomplete, jigsaw puzzle together.
Learn to Master your Mind and create the life you want with my Unwavering Focus course: dandapani.org/unwavering-focus-2/
It would be great if you'd upload all session once. Love it @DandapaniLLC
Thank you so much for your insights, it definitely means a lot. Literally I can feel the difference for better, each moment, by following your advised steps to stay focused. I Thank you in the behalf of millions of people, for making their life better by changing their perception.
Isn't this a BAD KARMA?
the people we are surrounded by affect our energy more than we realize. take care of yourself first and foremost. Stay blessed everyone!
🙏🙏
It feels as if my family were put in my life to keep me down spiritually. It's only words but if you look at it from a different angle wtf is going on
Great explanation. This especially applies to people that are empaths. Empaths have a role in life to really help the people around us. When we are around people that draw out our energy and when we are in environments that are negative that throws our vibrations off we will get sick. Many of us come from families that throw us off. Just because they are our parents or siblings ect.... does not mean we have to tolerate them in our lives. My mother and brother are both energy vampires. My brother is so negative and mean that he thinks life is always out to get him. My mother is selfish and puts her friends first and ways puts me down in passive aggressive ways but thinks she is a true Christian. When we fight nothing is ever solved but always pushed under the rug. I finally had enough and realized this is my life and I'm going to live it on my terms. I take them in with small doses and now never divulge personal info to them because they feed on it. In turn I realzed I was so feeding myself in a negative way by thinking I could talk to them, especially my mother and I can't. Being on our own is not a bad thing. I appreciate so much more the amazing things in life when I don't have them around and keep them on a short leash. I am able to learn from my mistakes better and raise my family differently. I will say it is a challenge because after being raised this way it is very hard to break the cycle but it can be done. Everyday the sun comes up God gives us a new life to lead and learn from. When we stop learning we start to die a very slow death on a spiritual level.
True words💯
Same story hope we get over it, soon.❤️
Thank you. I just needed to finally hear someone say it. My mother and sisters are terrible vampires. Their hatred of men and the manipulation knows no bounds. I feel guilty about leaving but I have yet to have a normal life because of them. I want to move away to another state and start over. I might even change my name. I dunno. It makes wanting to meet other people a challenge. How to be authentic without alienating yourself. I refuse to let them steal any more of my life.
Completely Same with me
@@abhilashrajapaga6322😢😢😢
ghar shor di fir😭😭😭😭
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Bro meri help karo please 😭😭😭😞😞😞😓😓😓😓😓
Whoever is watching this now, i wish you a beautiful and blessed day with your loved ones 💕🙏
Finally I got my dream girl and want to say thank you for those who hurt me alot and now days I am happy with my love
I can never feel free ,happy and energetic around my family members…..only feel good when I am alone.That makes me think they probably all are energy vampires.
My mum and brothers are energy vampires and they want to blame others for shortcomings,I accept the way are but don't get sucked in,ones boundaries are the utmost important
Same to me
mother father and two brothers destroyed my whole life
😢😢😢@@rahulkumar-mh6fv
@@rahulkumar-mh6fvkaise peecha shore sir????
Finally, someone is talking about it. Dandapani is always honest and raw. Whatever you ask him, he will definitely give you a clear answer. He won't leave you there confused n perplexed with vast explanations like few spiritual gurus nowadays. If you ask questions about your parents to these gurus, they simply try to avoid the question. But Dandapani said it. He himself has been there. So he knows how is it to live with toxic family members. This is why I love and respect you so much Dandapani. Thank you for existing 🙏❤️
Always leaves me speechless... Great clarity. Thank You Dandapani.
My mother !
Yep.. She was always sick, always depressed and nothing was ever enough.
My mother…
he is so right .His explanation is concise and easily understood.Others can confuse you trying to explain this or maybe they dont really understand it
This video is so useful on my sittuation and not many talk about it. Environment is a huge factor in our persoanl growth and our growth can become stagnant and held back when we are around the wrong people, it’s so hard living with a family member that drains your energy. Esp when it’s your parent bc they are the ones that gave u life and we are required to honor them so boundaries there are quite hard esp when u have no yet gained your independence. Any tips on how to set boundaries?
Idk how but I actually was in such situation and that's so relative to your situation. My Q is same how to set boundaries and how to uplift or handle ourselves in such situations?
I practice thinking the follow phrase around my energy vampire parent: "I lovingly take back my power and eliminate all interference." It seems to help. I limit my time with them, including eating my meals separately or at different times, and I do my work in a separate room as much as possible. I bless them in my mind with love as often as I can. My sister plays music or podcasts in her earbuds at all times as a way to deal with it. Remember that living at home with your parent is temporary; stay focused on your goals and plans and hopefully the door of opportunity will open and you can move out soon!
Even I'm in this situation currently, and I also think that limiting interaction time helps. I cook my meals and bring it to my room. They keep complaining that I don't spend time with them. But when I do most of the times they're telling me how good other children are. And I have my limitations due to the inherited health problems I've got from them. Still they don't want to understand anything. They want me to study 24*7. If I take a nap for 20-30 min in the afternoon they scold me like anything. They don't let me meet my friends either. They always keep pointing telling me that my dreams are too small and Since I'm not preparing for UPSC exam according to their will, I will never be able to do anything good in my life.
These things used to keep revolving in my head and my health deteriorated even more. But eventually I realised until I get independent, spending least time with them is the only key.
@@phoebescarborough5929 Great. Thanks a lot. It will surely help people dealing with parents. I wish you happiness and success.
@@shivagni_ Great. Seems like you're Indian. I can understand you as I'm Indian. Living with parents is difficult sometimes but we have solution of Every problem. Thank you.
The way you explain, leaves me speechless. 🙏
Thank you that was a perfect timing for me and so comforting
Absolute blessing. Simple and clear, energy is everything. 💯👏🏽👏🏽
There is a beautiful peace when you have broken the link with a vampire.
it would have been even more perfect by adding the subtitle down
Thank you for this message
Excellently explained
What if you live with a toxic sister?
Thank you you have just given the tool I needed
Much appreciation
We can learn to communicate with our cells in our bodies. The body has the ability to heal..... anything. Learn to communicate with your cells and heal whatever you want...we are that powerful! 😇
You actually gave my answer. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Thanks for sharing!! 😊
Thankyou for this video ❤️❤️
thankyou for this video...i need this...🙏🏻
That's the reason why I want to move countries. I don't want to move from the few family and friends I love but I have to. (When I say few family, I mean my dad, my older brother, my sisters but somehow they got emotionally far from me and said I'm delusional)
Best thing i listened today🙏
Dandapani sir, please can you translate your video's to Tamil. Some of things not able to understand...
Please do the needful
Amazing brother 👊🏾💯💯💯
One of my family member,she got depression,she is my little sis,when she is unhappy,she wants to ruin our lives.in that particular situation,I thought she is not my family,her mind was controlled by low energy.She hates light and she hates happiness.Lucky now I lived far away from her.Its just really a nightmare.😭
Yes,my little sis keeping taking money from me when I lived with them,and my parents loved my sis thinking she is younger so I need to tolerate mistakes from her.that is really hurt.BUT u can't explain because u live together.Now I separate,and feel more relax but sometimes they still watching me,but some day I will give my money to society insteading of tolerate those energy vampires.
Grattitude to you sir 🙏🏻🌺😇
in Economic Science promoting free market capitalism, Milton Friedman said that if you allow people to work for their best self interest everyone will be benefitted in the society, but we all see how horribly people interpreted Friedman's advice by mindlessly pursuing hedonism at the cost of poor and vulnerable.
In this video Dandapani concludes that if you take care of yourself it will do good service to everyone because best version of you can serve everyone else in best way. I think its important that we shouldn't misunderstand him.
Both the advices are similar and must not be interpreted in egoistic, narcissist, "My way or highway" or hedonistic manner.
By "self interest" and "self care" both Friedman and Dandapani are referring to benign and constructive self interest/care which while benefiting an individual is not harming the society/community/family.
This polarity between an Individual & community/family needs a very careful balancing to ensure justice & benefits to both.
So please ensure that you are not mindlessly labelling people "Energy Vampires" and start shunning them out of your life and become an island unto yourself.
While you follow his advice, learn to forgive and constantly push/persuade the lost travellers towards the "right path" instead of outrightly avoiding suffering by abandoning them.
"Suffering is inherently a part of life"-Buddha
His advice must be thought out deeply.
Thanks Dandapani.
He should have explained this topic just the way you did. It can be harmful if you don't really understand the real meaning of what he wants to say.
100% agreed
Pls make video on how to handle husband who doesn't allow their wives who cannot express themselves n getting suffocated...
My kid too
Amezing 🙏🙏🙏
Hi pooja i loved the content of yr video but this is not related to narcissistic husband, ....
Yes.
How can I send you my questions please give some way
Can you please tell me if our mind is energy vampire then how to deal with it as we cannot run away from our mind
Your mind is a place where thought comes and goes. The Chinese call your mind the monkey cause it is always going here and there and everywhere. This i believe is where your problem probably lies. And he does show you how to fix this. It's concentration. It's telling the little monkey to sit and stay and stop running all around. You could also try meditation. But as dondiponi (idk if I spelled that right I hope so) says meditation is just concentrating on one thing for an extended period of time with a goal in mind. Look up the video if you are interested but anyway. To rid yourself of your every sucking mind is to focus on it and give it tasks to accomplish besides drag your awearness threw all of the muck in your life and give it a goal to work towards instead.
Energy not every*
To BE whatever is split into 2 different words in spanish. To be a human being is what you are existentially. Que ser. To be. But if you are in spain, that's not something existential. Its contextual. Que estar. You estar in spain.
This is important to have built in to your perception when dealing with depression. ARE you despressed. Or are YOU a depression. Having it or being it.
To be honest i dont think anyone are wired to be depressive at all. I think it's software and context all the way.
Except of course if you have some tumor growing yhat supresses some function or whatever. But again that is not being depressed. Thats just having a tumor.
Telling people they ARE depression, is a good way to keep people in the dark even when exposing the sun. They will think that they are, and so they will act appropriately. Same with violent, angry, in pain, a doctor, rich or whatever people think they are.
English is... contemporary english anyway... is just so... daft.
Poder is also a really interesting spanish word. Taught me what the word power really means.
But I don’t understand the part where if we have energy vampire parents? What do we do, do we just abandon them?
No, I think you don't need to live with them together. It's not abandoning.
chandrika shanmugam I wish it was that way for me 😔
Better start some form of yoga, better to start with kriya yoga, which will help in creating protective layer for you. And one fine day you will know the real reason behind the action of your parents and help them/yourself to overcome with the problem.
manjunathgangadhar gangadhar thank you for sharing this, I will definitely give it a try, I am hoping it will align me mentally. 🙏🏽
Is it safe for beginners
Will be back in a few minutes have something that I would like to talk to you about
Check out Scott Kiloby. He figured out how to help people through this stuff
Yesssss
yep
Many blessings to all of you that have had to face real energy vampires... my family are generational vampires that carry the curse proudly and willingly... I am the one who will shed light upon them until they wake up!!!
😢😢😢😢😭😭😭😭
Oh yeah
Meri mom hai 🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬😭😭😭😭😭😓😓😓😓😓😞😞😞
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I will not Abandon any of my family member because they are energy vampires!! That’s so inhuman !!
Sometimes thats all we can do
Just learn how to deal with them
Isn't this be a BAD KARMA?
Smells like updog
This type of teaching is not for common people, this is ment for healers, bramacharies, saints and gurues. Need to be conscious of audience, when speaking on such critical topics. This will harm more than doing good for common people.
You are the one who is stupid! This man changed my life! You have no right whatsoever to abuse this man's teachings! Next time use a dictionary when you are trying to type public comments! Illiterate!
@@toniakhanye577 Dandapani, is an upcoming guru with brilliant ideas and had helped many. Now that he is being looked has an guru by many, he needs to be more conscious when speaking with common people, who may take his words literally and harm themselves or people around them. By any means if you get a chance to meet him, please let him know to be more conscious when speaking with common people. I foresee the ill effects that may arose because of his choice of words used with common people on this topic.
@@toniakhanye577 yes i may be illiterate, I don't know everything, but i am concious of life. Any ways, i will edit my comment, be happy.
hi @manjunath check out my reply, i guess you will agree with me.
The weird thing is that some people might regard a person as an energy vampire while others would consider them engaging or entertaining. The beauty of life is that we can find people that fulfill a gap that we have in ourselves and whom are, in turn, fulfilled by us. We are each other's puzzle piece. And we make a beautiful, albeit incomplete, jigsaw puzzle together.