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Bruh you speak the truth! Thank you! Ive been preaching this for at least a decade. Women outside North America ( Latin America, South Asia etc ) are so much different in relationships. You are living the dream there! I hope I can run into you this Nov when I visit Colombia. Keep up the great content.
i'm a latin woman and i agree with you. I'm also a God fearing woman, we were created with a purpose, it's what works, if you want a healthy marriage that works.
I agree, I’m a man. And I’m dating a Latina Christian woman :) I’m so amazed. I’m thankful for her, she hits the gym, and she’s constantly trying to do her best. She’s so peaceful. She also has all the great values I want in a woman :)
Hello Suwara, I also am Latina. I was taught to learn how to love the way you look by looking nice for yourself, not your partner. I learned basic cooking skills, and we have a maid so cleaning was never really a thing for us. I do agree, Latin mothers, want their daughters to be intelligent but also independent.
@@johannaguzman9521 I respect that you were taught to look good for yourself, however I don't remember writing anything in my comment directed to WES that I cared for any disguised feminist opinion. Keep your thoughts to yourself and most of all the passive aggressive judgment. Back off, live your own life. Talk if you are being talked too and mind your own business when people aren't talking to you. Knowing when to talk is as important as knowing when to be quiet
@Suwara hello and good morning Suwara. I do not understand how what I wrote was "passive-aggressive," so, sorry if I offended you? I was only trying to be relatable towards someone from my ethnic background through an open conversation. From what I just read I am a bit confused; you're the one who seems "passive-aggressive" because you are purposely trying to put me down on a public forum. Writing that you are happy that I'm independent, then towards the end writing that I should mind my business is an oxymoron (redundant). Having an open conversation, especially in a public forum is normal. Purposely putting me down, is a sign of dysfunctional conversation/communication, which is unhealthy. The first amendment allows American citizens the ability the freedom of speech. Anywho, I hope you have a wonderful rest of your day 😊
@@johannaguzman9521 Illiterate, I didn't write the word Happy anywhere. You made yourself look like a complete moron. I was direct and straight forward. Go back to school sweetheart. You probably didn't register it Einstein, but just in case. That's passive-aggressive ❤️
Well said. Take it from a much older guy and found the wisdom you just preached much later in life than you, what you are saying is the truth. Dating in US is much harder and women's expectations is now for the man to work and provide, comes home to cook and clean, and take care of the kids, and do all the handy work...if you can do all of that and then keep things romantic maybe you are a good man, but they will leave your ass as soon as some hotshot making millions look their way. 😂
FROM THE TITLE ALONE I'VE ALREADY AGREED! But Latin women are more family centered, and they definitely embrace their feminine side as well as submissive. But wow as I'm typing, you said you listened to Kevin Samuels. I was just about to recommend him until I heard you mentioned him already. You're already ahead of the curve. He's brutually honest but I cant knock him, he has presented results
Here here cheers bro! I am happy to listen to you speak on women. Me as a Asian American in the US dated only white women, they gave me bad experiences so I'm not doing that no more. I've never dated a Mexican or Latina woman before I've always thought they were beautiful looking so I might try it. I just went to food city the other day and saw a lot of beautiful Mexican and latinas there. They pretty. I'll give it a try on those types of women you're talking about. I'll follow you on IG brother.
I've had this conversation with many of my American friends and you explain it very well and said many things that I have discovered and have explained to them. Thank you for the video.
I respect your openness and opinion. I think it’s important for us to remember to listen to what older men have to say as well. We have only lived 20-30 years. Always listen to your elders, even if you think they have “old values”. They have interacted with more people for a longer period of time than any of us. Grandpa, for example has lived 25 years almost 4 times, so as a 25 year old I should listen before only relying on my own experience to shape my future, especially marriage. Peace!
Yeah spot on. That cliche phrase of "if you know you know" is very accurate for any man that has travelled abroad to latin america. Definitely hard to be content with the options here.
Ive dated non westernized women in the west and they are like unicorns compared to the certain demographics in my age range. I've had women tell me all the things I need to do and in return maybe get peace. A realization came over me that the more you give, the less they respect you and that kindness and respect isn't valued as much by these women. I tried dating a woman that made much more than me and that did not work out as she thought I could be treated like my opinion doesn't matter because she out earned me. Single moms who think I'm just going to carry them and their kids, etc all are 🚩🚩🚩 All of it comes down to the fact that modern women aren't shit and they don't know it because the culture keeps telling them their boss bitches meanwhile they're broke as everyone else. Their ego and narcissism is off the scale that there's a clear reaction from the men in our society and criticism is met with insults like incel or being called broke. I see so few "good relationships" as a result and it's no surprise that divorce statistics keep climbing EVERY year that are initiate by a majority of women.
American feminism has largely corrupted even foreign women now which is so sad. As for single moms I never got close to one on a permanent basis as I'm not their ATM machine for someone else's mistake.
Hey man, good stuff. I agree and I’m proud of you for doing your thing. Peace and love. I’m getting a TEFL certification and moving to Colombia this year. My plan is to move to Medellin. Thanks for what you do, I’m trying to learn from your life down there as much as possible.
For sure. Women have suffered and so have men. We just need to accept each other and ourselves for who we are and recognize that most people don't act with the pure intention of subjugation. :)
It appears that you made 10 future cat ladies sad with your completely reasonable and politely stated video. Instead of hearing you, they got triggered and went straight to the freezer for some rocky road. Double down ladies, we are already outta there.
Yup, the trend isn't going to stop though, Morgan Stanley did a study showing there will be a lot more single working women in their 30s and 40s that won't marry. This is due to the things you mentioned: the sky high expectations, lack of feminine features, high income while expecting the man to make even higher income despite wanting equality. Morgan Stanley doesn't care about being politically right, they care about being financially correct so they could make better investment decisions for their clients. A big win for America's economic engine, a big loss for men and women
I agree with your thoughts . I have stopped dating in America cause it's pointless. I'll be moving to medellin in June this year. The best thing us has created was the American passport.
Currently at work. Mexican wife at home looking after kid and home. She also doesn't take shit from anyone but is still a submissive woman to her husband, and I don't abuse that. She loves being SAHM. We are always together. Made a good choice guy. My wife is my partner, not my competitor
@@WheresWes don't I know it. Rather than tell me to go out and make more.money, she says this time I'm going with you. Which is what she did. She drove the car and I picked up food for doordash
Youre just mad nobody wants to accept your infidelity without being confronted about it. I notice men from all over want to cheat in peace and be with a woman who works 24/7 has sex with you when you want and has hot plate when you went 1 hour without a snack. Us Latinas are not objects. Women are not objects. The only difference between men and women is the strength and the genitals. Nothing else
I've been watching a lot of Kevin Samuels, bro! 😂😂 His content is amazing, but yeah seems like what most American women are like. I definitely feel this as a 27 year old male. Thanks for putting me onto Kevin's content. Haha.
@5:45. Current male/female relationship dynamics in the US are not "natural" or normal in the context of both history and geography. Historically in the US, relationship dynamics were in line with global norms. That began to change with laws passed between the mid-60's and mid-70's.
@@WheresWes yeah it will lead to allot of cause and effect. Cause you have to think about it like this if more men from other countries date and marry women in a particular area what will happen to the culture in that area. Plus what will happen to those men in that area if they are losing out to men from a different country. Will they get phased out? Same applies to the women that caused the men to leave.
I do agree, bottom line people can form their family unit however they want since it's their relationship. If a woman wants to be a "stay at home mother, cook, clean, etc." that's her prerogative, and if she wants to work and make bank, then that's her thing too. I'm of Latin American descent, born in the US, and just to clarify, Latinas are like that because they were not allowed to go to school (same for Asian, Middle Eastern, etc.). There role was to be someone's wife, whether they liked it or not. It appeals to most men because they get to have someone under their alpha wing (which can lead to misogynistic and womanizing tendencies). The women doesn't have a say, she's expected to be under the wing if a man. So that's why many "White" Americans (and others) tend to go to Latin and Asian countries to get women that don't get to choose their own path - molded to be just a wife. I see that with my older latina family members that come to america to teach their daughters not to live the life they lived. But the American is all about "power", so of course traditional values seems fitting because men get to assert power in many ways - financially, dependency, obligations, etc. Just like that video if that older white guy loving foreign Asian women because they do whatever he wants and they'll submit because it's "their culture/traditions". This is my two cents of what I analysed about the Latinas in my family (here in US and in Mexico), and I live in California, so I hear it from other ethnicities too (Asian, Pacific Islander, Middle Eastern women, etc.).
I think this is a good point because Mexican families are more traditional in the sense you are talking about. I've noticed that Latin is such a wide word to use because all of your countries have different cultures.
I think there is bias in these mens' perspective as well when lets be real: these Latinas they meet with no papers (not all, I understand) are somehow also naturally their ideal submissive woman. Going into 3rd world countries knowing the value they bring (U.S papers/European citizenship) are going to be signaling to these women who are going to receptive to their advances and act accordingly. This is not every case of course, but I have met in families of friends and my own of aunties who married a U.S citizen who visited their countries for a clear purpose: there is a dynamic which is born of necessity rather than desire. Children and a tended home for the chance to bring their own families to the U.S for their American dream. As long as it is clear to both partners, i don't view it as negative. A bit sad when it is realized that it is solely a transaction.
But the Middle Eastern countries are far worse for women since women over there still don’t have the most basic rights(voting, driving, education, going to school, owning property, etc.).
Hi I'm a new subscriber I like your video! I'm from the states. I'm a single man I been single for 3 years now and something's is telling me to stay single it's a gut feeling. Where in the globe can I locate these beautiful Latin women?
Every relationship is an agreement. You can´t demand if there isnt anything to offer. People is free to agree or quit because terms and conditions. You are so fucking 100% right, feelings are important but we are animals after all (thinking animals but animales), good looking always is going to be the first filter for dating. Of course everyone have their own standards.
I'm handsome almost as geroge clooney and for me it doesn't work that way. I've even tired getting with the older mamis and still got turned down. For females it's different
Wow this is brave! Haha speaking as an Arab woman married to a Latino man....I totally think this is true. I knew I never wanted to be this super career oriented woman because I wanted to have a family and I saw the value that my parents put into our lives in traditional roles. I didn't look down on my mom as a home maker and my dad as a provider because I saw how much more ease we had over a lot of American households. And this whole culture of feminism, like you said, has brought so much good and also so much grief because it has yet to have been balanced out. We should talk through some of these things to help give balance to the discussion! I appreciate it man. I would add that we should be weary of generalizing American women into that ultra-feminist description. I think most women in America want to do their best for their families and sometimes it means earning an income and taking care of finances alongside their husbands. However, in most parts of America, I think women put their families first and put a lot of nurturing and care into their husbands, children and parents and so on. I lived in Texas for a while and loved the different perspective in American values. It was more balanced. But then, we came back to Cali and omg. It's an LA thing. LA culture is just so unreasonable! People wanna act like gender is useless out here. I think people like us who have been outside of LA know full well that these people are like...lost haha Also, my husband is from Medellin, so I hope we'll get to visit soon! Thank for showing me what it's like there!
THANK YOU. I appreciate your viewpoint coming as a woman, thank you for sharing. I'm glad we more so have the freedom to pick if you want to go by traditional roles or not, but I feel like men are struggling right now because the things we truly want are being condemned by this new feminist movement even though we have wanted the same things since the beginning of time. Obviously we need to change as men too, but we should be given a seat at the table as well. Cheers!
@@WheresWes Hmm for sure...this is interesting....yeah i think the feminist culture did go too far and has tried to suppress masculinity. My husband just had an entire epiphany with his friends in the past year about all of this. They read a book called "Iron John" and seemed to find benefit from it. I haven't read it, but maybe it'll give you some benefit. I feel just like an observer, bc I'm just kind of...out of this discussion haha but I'd like to learn more haha
Absolutely 110% agree! Excellent content Wes just subscribed. I watch KS as well and he's spot on! I'll be in Medellin for my birthday in Dec. hope to link up with you sir!
Thank you for saying all this brother. You're spot on about what men really want. Personally, since I live in America, I am refusing to date anyone at all. No girlfriend, don't want one. Rather not be manipulated, triangulated, and hurt. I'd rather just make money come home and cook my own food haha. I just made chorizo poblano quesadillas, I don't need no woman! But maybe after college though I might move countries and find a wife hahaha
I think there are a lot of women that can pay their bills, be very successful and also be very feminine... being able to take care of your self has nothing to do with femininity, It’s good to know that your woman is with you because she loves you, not because you pay everything for her, because a lot of women are with their husband because they don’t know how to earn money by themselves. I’m a Latin woman and I prefer helping my husband with the bills and build a dream together with the effort of both, maybe if we had children I would prefer just one of us working to have time for the kids, but knowing that your girl can take care of herself even if she is not working because of the kids it’s very valuable, she is there because she loves you not because of the money. Being with a woman just because she looks good on a bikini is really shallow, (just my opinion not trying to hate lol) even Sascha fitness is not fit all the time because there are life stages like pregnancy, depression, sickness etc and people criticize her for not being fit all the time, and Sascha is the most famous UA-camr in the fitness world in Latin America. So you should not put that bikini pressure on your girlfriend, if you want to have kids you have to accept that her body is going to change, she can go back to her original weight but she can have stretch marks that are not going to look that good on a bikini. I hope you understand my point and opinion, I pay for the bills and I consider myself a very feminine woman, and I’m not submissive in bed, even a girl that prefer her husband to pay por everything can be the same as me in bed lol nothing to do with the financial side... just don’t generalize women, we are really different in our own way so as men, I’m a Latin girl that owns her feminine side and likes to pay for her bills and I don’t want to have kids, and that doesn’t make me less feminine...Hope you have a nice day 🤟🏻✨ keep going with your Chanel! Is doing really good
I can see your point, and I am more arguing from the perspective of men rather than how women should be. I have no problem with my girl helping my pay the bills, but I don't think it's necessary. I think what you're doing is great and it's great that you carry yourself the way you do. As for the bikini thing, notice how I didn't say you have skinny but just be in shape. Especially because I value fitness and maintain a good body personally, I value this in a partner. I've been in a relationship with somebody who didn't take care of themselves and that didn't work for me, as I suspect most men don't like either. Pregnancies are an obvious exception. And I don't think this is shallow. Men value beauty where as women value competency in a man. I don't think it's shallow to expect your man to be able to pay the bills. You SHOULD demand that, it's our responsibility as men. You do what you want, more power to you! You can be what ever woman you want to be! My problem is more when women try to tell men how they should be, and vice versa. I'm not saying that women should be like this, but my opinion has obviously resonated with a lot of men so I feel like what I'm saying is accurate. Cheers, appreciate you.
@@WheresWes I know this because i have a.masters etc. If i am able to get married with a higher income its shared . I always thought its not how much you make its how much you are left with. If your significant other makes way more money and they cant save hardly anything its a red flag. I just find it more relevant if the person i am with is good with finances
Feminidad y feminismo son cosas tan distantes que vuelven a este video parte del estereotipo latino también. Realmente, no debería ser malo el explorar la masculidad siendo mujer y la feminidad en lo masculino. no es necesario encacillarnos en el género. La masculinidad frágil es algo real así como el mal concepto de feminidad en la vida laboral y romántica, A lo mejor un hombre prefiere que no ataquen su "masculinidad" pero entre mujeres sí nos ataca estar obligadas a ser femeninas solo por nacer mujer o por ser "Latina".
Well i'm going to be super honest here, i think we all subconsciously want something unique and quite outstanding so why shouldn't you want a girl who looks very hot in lingerie?
Great sharing. I think I would've liked to see your description/perception or definition of masculinity. What does it mean for you to be "manly", "a man" (in social cultural terms, although I understand it's probably a mix of biological/SC) Also, are you thinking about it as in a globalized definition, or is it for the US (from US), or for Latin America. I am from Panama, live in the US, and I can definitely relate and understand many of your feelings. So I guess my question/request is to clarify on the scope of your definitions as well. Thanks!
@@majorpaindiaz it depends, feminism did play a major role in conditioning women to be masculine.. and men being conditioned to be feminine... the problem with it, is that women don't like feminine men, it's not attractive to them.. and men don't mind dating a masculine woman as long as they are attractive... but this has consequences.... especially for the children.... a family with two masculine parents has consequences... the children don't need a yelling and harsh mother who is so demanding and masculine.... they need a mother who is feminine, tender, nurturing, motherly, a mother who is a safe place to go if the children are hurt or wounded, a place where they can feel safe to cry, where they are told everything will be ok.... not the source of their pain, if children don't have that kind of model in their lives, then it can have it's own risks and consequences... the world needs the feminine as much as they need the masculine... and it's just sad how women today neglect their femininity....
Ok i want to know why the submissive thing? Thats so weird . One thing I do know about Latin woman is that they are very family oriented and everything is about the wellbeing of the family but that have nothing to do with been submissive. And for sure they are femenin, and they like to take care of their love ones.
All very true. Ever since my divorce (February/March 2019), I’ve dated Latinas and all of your observations are spot on! When you get older (while single) you do acquire much wisdom and tend to see things clearly. What killed relationships is Uber feminism and Uber-capitalist materialism. An unhealthy combo for sure.
Most are struggling in the US, so if they see someone with security, they gravitate to them. Just like here in US, my Latina cousins see white people as having money and having generational wealth, it's best to gravitate to them. Not always for the best reasons of course.
South Americans Latino are civilization over thousands years, and these people they are stick with their ancestors culture and values . They love to have family and love their husband.
“To the woman He said: “I will greatly multiply your sorrow and your conception; In pain you shall bring forth children; Your desire shall be for your husband, And he shall rule over you.”” Genesis 3:16 NKJV
So you are paying for her bills and apartment? Like a husband? I need a gringo boyfriend too! We latinas don’t really expect our boyfriends to be financially responsible for us. That is expected from a husband. You do as you please but that is way over board
we exist but we are stuck up north hahaha but i plan to visit south america. yes some of us gringo's are still old school and want to pay all the bills for our girl, its hard to find rreal women in north america so you would probably kill it here : )
I think a lot of what you're saying stems from the entitlement of women in western society. Equality of outcome and equality of opportunity are very different things. You can see this in Finland for example when equality of outcome was forced, women and men actually spread even further across opposite ends of the income spectrum due to biological factors that impact occupational choices (women are interested in people, men are interested in things).
No one wants to have a partner they fight with. Everyone is entitled to what they want from a partner. You want your gf to look in a bikini and me as a Latina I want a masculine man who can handle my temper. Hell no I’m not submissive, I have a great career make great money and so does my husband. He is an Alpha dog. Don’t generalize Latinos or Latin culture please
@Rafael Acosta lol you right. Because if they can't, they might as well go overseas to get themselves a submissive woman who is only with them until they get their greencard and then... SAAAS they are peacing out too.
@@WheresWes What a woman who makes great money and has character? That's not masculine at all! That's human. A true partner (man or woman) shouldn't care about that.
My brother who is white has been married to a Hispanic woman for 34 years now. Though they've had their differences over the years they are still together. Some Latin women will be corrupted into believing in the American feminist ways so you have to watch out for that. As long as the family courts in the USA keep raking men over the coals and taking most of what they have, the prospects of dating and marriage are doomed. I love my retirement and no debts of any kind.
Some interesting points. I agree that equality is very important, yet....Due to the whole “abolishment of gender roles” thing, I think that women are victims of a culture that expects them to play a more masculine role. In the same way men are expected to be more feminine. This creates a toxic and confusing dating environment. I totally have felt the same way, about dating in the US. Good job finding a way out-enjoy life brother!
Yeah I think the the push for equality both genders have been pushed to do things out of our nature to prove something. Idk if it's for the better or worse.
Having similar double incomes is totally convenient and for that partners should work with each other in the house. There are no masculine nor femenine traits in that, nor in technical intelligence. Only discrimination out of fear, which still exists, more in Latino America (for the worse) and still in USA.
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l am europen, l lived in USA and CA and l wouldnt date a north american . l refuse to pay the bills for the rest of my life . The problem is you can be a victime at any time and lose everything cause women are always right in the eyes of the law
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Well said. Men need a partner not a competitor...
Cheers bro
Partner is not a maid's
@@thanatos908-x7jdefinitely not. I love to cook and clean but all the girls I date in America don’t cook or clean.
Love this video I’m a Jamaican woman living in Miami and I love watching my Latin friends move so Feminine
Latins something different for sure. got give love to the people from the Caribbean too, you guys move different ad well
Jamaicans also understand the difference between men and women.
@@WheresWes I’ve understood this they’re traditional from Catholicism.
it would be nice to meet a humble Jamaican women in my life, im in canada tho
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Bruh you speak the truth! Thank you! Ive been preaching this for at least a decade. Women outside North America ( Latin America, South Asia etc ) are so much different in relationships. You are living the dream there! I hope I can run into you this Nov when I visit Colombia. Keep up the great content.
Cheers bro
i'm a latin woman and i agree with you. I'm also a God fearing woman, we were created with a purpose, it's what works, if you want a healthy marriage that works.
Thanks for sharing your opinion!
I agree, I’m a man. And I’m dating a Latina Christian woman :) I’m so amazed. I’m thankful for her, she hits the gym, and she’s constantly trying to do her best. She’s so peaceful. She also has all the great values I want in a woman :)
Latina girl here ^_
amen girl u know what's up
Hello Suwara,
I also am Latina. I was taught to learn how to love the way you look by looking nice for yourself, not your partner. I learned basic cooking skills, and we have a maid so cleaning was never really a thing for us. I do agree, Latin mothers, want their daughters to be intelligent but also independent.
@@johannaguzman9521 I respect that you were taught to look good for yourself, however I don't remember writing anything in my comment directed to WES that I cared for any disguised feminist opinion. Keep your thoughts to yourself and most of all the passive aggressive judgment. Back off, live your own life. Talk if you are being talked too and mind your own business when people aren't talking to you. Knowing when to talk is as important as knowing when to be quiet
@Suwara hello and good morning Suwara. I do not understand how what I wrote was "passive-aggressive," so, sorry if I offended you? I was only trying to be relatable towards someone from my ethnic background through an open conversation. From what I just read I am a bit confused; you're the one who seems "passive-aggressive" because you are purposely trying to put me down on a public forum. Writing that you are happy that I'm independent, then towards the end writing that I should mind my business is an oxymoron (redundant). Having an open conversation, especially in a public forum is normal. Purposely putting me down, is a sign of dysfunctional conversation/communication, which is unhealthy. The first amendment allows American citizens the ability the freedom of speech.
Anywho, I hope you have a wonderful rest of your day 😊
@@johannaguzman9521 Illiterate, I didn't write the word Happy anywhere. You made yourself look like a complete moron. I was direct and straight forward. Go back to school sweetheart. You probably didn't register it Einstein, but just in case. That's passive-aggressive ❤️
Now in this modern era of dating, online dating is an interview
i agree with that
Great video. It's good to see men speaking up about masculinity. I follow Kevin as well and he tells the hard truth.
Truth. Cheers bro, thanks for the comment
Well said. Take it from a much older guy and found the wisdom you just preached much later in life than you, what you are saying is the truth. Dating in US is much harder and women's expectations is now for the man to work and provide, comes home to cook and clean, and take care of the kids, and do all the handy work...if you can do all of that and then keep things romantic maybe you are a good man, but they will leave your ass as soon as some hotshot making millions look their way. 😂
That will only happen if they're attractive enough hahahahhahahahahahahaha! Worthless, don't date them!
FROM THE TITLE ALONE I'VE ALREADY AGREED! But Latin women are more family centered, and they definitely embrace their feminine side as well as submissive. But wow as I'm typing, you said you listened to Kevin Samuels. I was just about to recommend him until I heard you mentioned him already. You're already ahead of the curve. He's brutually honest but I cant knock him, he has presented results
in Mexico there is a saying that says:A woman who goes out super makeup to "work" 'but has her house in a mess is not a woman.
to be fair, I think this applies to both genders. As Jordan Peterson says, clean your room.
@@WheresWes
Yeah....I was raised in an environment where I always had to be clean Everything
Same. Colombians are like that too.
Here here cheers bro! I am happy to listen to you speak on women.
Me as a Asian American in the US dated only white women, they gave me bad experiences so I'm not doing that no more.
I've never dated a Mexican or Latina woman before I've always thought they were beautiful looking so I might try it.
I just went to food city the other day and saw a lot of beautiful Mexican and latinas there. They pretty.
I'll give it a try on those types of women you're talking about. I'll follow you on IG brother.
You must be in AZ lol where's the hot latinas at?
Dude your honesty is what made me subscribe. It's so hard to find authenticity on UA-cam
Appreciate that my dude, cheers.
well said ... i agree with u regardless what other people say ... I would like to go to Colombia too
I've had this conversation with many of my American friends and you explain it very well and said many things that I have discovered and have explained to them. Thank you for the video.
You said exactly what men think. Thx for saying it. Tired of masculine women who try and correct what I say, or the words I use.
I respect your openness and opinion. I think it’s important for us to remember to listen to what older men have to say as well. We have only lived 20-30 years. Always listen to your elders, even if you think they have “old values”. They have interacted with more people for a longer period of time than any of us. Grandpa, for example has lived 25 years almost 4 times, so as a 25 year old I should listen before only relying on my own experience to shape my future, especially marriage. Peace!
cheers bro
Yeah spot on. That cliche phrase of "if you know you know" is very accurate for any man that has travelled abroad to latin america. Definitely hard to be content with the options here.
truth bro
My 7 year girlfriend is from Acapulco Mexico. Best relationship I have ever experienced. Not perfect but so worth it.
congrats bro
Realest video ive ever seen! Straight facts wes is speaking.
all love bro, thanks for watching
Ive dated non westernized women in the west and they are like unicorns compared to the certain demographics in my age range. I've had women tell me all the things I need to do and in return maybe get peace. A realization came over me that the more you give, the less they respect you and that kindness and respect isn't valued as much by these women. I tried dating a woman that made much more than me and that did not work out as she thought I could be treated like my opinion doesn't matter because she out earned me. Single moms who think I'm just going to carry them and their kids, etc all are 🚩🚩🚩
All of it comes down to the fact that modern women aren't shit and they don't know it because the culture keeps telling them their boss bitches meanwhile they're broke as everyone else. Their ego and narcissism is off the scale that there's a clear reaction from the men in our society and criticism is met with insults like incel or being called broke. I see so few "good relationships" as a result and it's no surprise that divorce statistics keep climbing EVERY year that are initiate by a majority of women.
wtf is this bruh
Point made 👆 … the bruh
American feminism has largely corrupted even foreign women now which is so sad. As for single moms I never got close to one on a permanent basis as I'm not their ATM machine for someone else's mistake.
Mexicana here, %1000 agree with it all. Thank you
Hey man, good stuff. I agree and I’m proud of you for doing your thing. Peace and love. I’m getting a TEFL certification and moving to Colombia this year. My plan is to move to Medellin. Thanks for what you do, I’m trying to learn from your life down there as much as possible.
For sure. Women have suffered and so have men. We just need to accept each other and ourselves for who we are and recognize that most people don't act with the pure intention of subjugation. :)
It appears that you made 10 future cat ladies sad with your completely reasonable and politely stated video. Instead of hearing you, they got triggered and went straight to the freezer for some rocky road. Double down ladies, we are already outta there.
They went straight to the dislike button!
This “modern” feminist movement is garbage I’m so over it lol
amen
Yup, the trend isn't going to stop though, Morgan Stanley did a study showing there will be a lot more single working women in their 30s and 40s that won't marry. This is due to the things you mentioned: the sky high expectations, lack of feminine features, high income while expecting the man to make even higher income despite wanting equality. Morgan Stanley doesn't care about being politically right, they care about being financially correct so they could make better investment decisions for their clients. A big win for America's economic engine, a big loss for men and women
Great video & got str8 to the point, very direct👍🏾
You have great knowledge young man! Keep up the great work your doing!
appreciate u Paul thank u!
I agree with your thoughts . I have stopped dating in America cause it's pointless. I'll be moving to medellin in June this year. The best thing us has created was the American passport.
Currently at work. Mexican wife at home looking after kid and home.
She also doesn't take shit from anyone but is still a submissive woman to her husband, and I don't abuse that.
She loves being SAHM.
We are always together.
Made a good choice guy. My wife is my partner, not my competitor
yeah they defend the family like crazy but are sweet to the family. gotta love it
@@WheresWes don't I know it. Rather than tell me to go out and make more.money, she says this time I'm going with you. Which is what she did. She drove the car and I picked up food for doordash
Kevin Samuels is a savage 👌But I agree, it feels almost impossible to date in America, i'm so fucking done man 😂
Youre just mad nobody wants to accept your infidelity without being confronted about it. I notice men from all over want to cheat in peace and be with a woman who works 24/7 has sex with you when you want and has hot plate when you went 1 hour without a snack. Us Latinas are not objects. Women are not objects. The only difference between men and women is the strength and the genitals. Nothing else
Excellent. You got my like and share brother. Take care.
PREACH! I’m an American woman and I agree with you!
appreciate u Tiffany, thank u
I’m 41 year old Philippine born Socal raised man that has dated quite globally a bit and yeah the Lenny Kravitz song
you might as well say pick me
😂🤡
Tiffany_Marie An American woman agreeing that American woman are inferior, lol. Feminism has completely destroyed your society.
I've been watching a lot of Kevin Samuels, bro! 😂😂 His content is amazing, but yeah seems like what most American women are like. I definitely feel this as a 27 year old male. Thanks for putting me onto Kevin's content. Haha.
Got u my brotha
@5:45. Current male/female relationship dynamics in the US are not "natural" or normal in the context of both history and geography.
Historically in the US, relationship dynamics were in line with global norms. That began to change with laws passed between the mid-60's and mid-70's.
Also with the wars really messing up family dynamics too. Women had to be more independent for lack of men in the household
super facts my brother excellent video!! you are awesome, i agree with all of your points!!!
Appreciate that bro, ty
Facts facts facts. 💯
you should do more videos in Spanish too, like to see more content of you exploring Medellin .
u got it bro, more Spanish vids coming
Kevin Samuel’s message is definitely universal to all race of men.
Keep y’all Daddy out of this
I agree with you on everything you said.
Cheers brotha
YOU DA MAN....
Cheers bro
Any man who stoops so low as to date American woman has already given up on life.
There is starting to be a increase of men dating/ marrying outside the country. How this will shake out in the future will be interesting.
yeah I'm very interested to see it too
@@WheresWes yeah it will lead to allot of cause and effect. Cause you have to think about it like this if more men from other countries date and marry women in a particular area what will happen to the culture in that area. Plus what will happen to those men in that area if they are losing out to men from a different country. Will they get phased out? Same applies to the women that caused the men to leave.
Found your channel recently , over the last couple weeks and this is the best video I’ve seen of yours. Very well said
cheers bro
Great video! 🎉
That's a bold title
2:15 he makes a great point
prolly one the best vid you put out there --feel your pain
Cheers bro, thanks for watching.
Well said. I noticed the same.
They are not submissive but as a colombiano they are only submissive whit foreign guys just because u are from American
it depends where they are from, how much of a man they feel you are
WOW! THANKS WES! I LOVE THIS VIDEO!
Cheers bro
Love this video and it’s content!
cheers bro
I think We that what you say applies for Western Europe and Australia/New Zealand.
Because it's the same people. White Europeans who travelled to Australia/New Zealand or North American are still white Europeans.
They're less shitty than american ones. But yeah, there's a lot of crap to them, too
I do agree, bottom line people can form their family unit however they want since it's their relationship. If a woman wants to be a "stay at home mother, cook, clean, etc." that's her prerogative, and if she wants to work and make bank, then that's her thing too.
I'm of Latin American descent, born in the US, and just to clarify, Latinas are like that because they were not allowed to go to school (same for Asian, Middle Eastern, etc.). There role was to be someone's wife, whether they liked it or not. It appeals to most men because they get to have someone under their alpha wing (which can lead to misogynistic and womanizing tendencies). The women doesn't have a say, she's expected to be under the wing if a man. So that's why many "White" Americans (and others) tend to go to Latin and Asian countries to get women that don't get to choose their own path - molded to be just a wife. I see that with my older latina family members that come to america to teach their daughters not to live the life they lived.
But the American is all about "power", so of course traditional values seems fitting because men get to assert power in many ways - financially, dependency, obligations, etc. Just like that video if that older white guy loving foreign Asian women because they do whatever he wants and they'll submit because it's "their culture/traditions".
This is my two cents of what I analysed about the Latinas in my family (here in US and in Mexico), and I live in California, so I hear it from other ethnicities too (Asian, Pacific Islander, Middle Eastern women, etc.).
I think this is a good point because Mexican families are more traditional in the sense you are talking about. I've noticed that Latin is such a wide word to use because all of your countries have different cultures.
I think it's more about culture than anything
I think there is bias in these mens' perspective as well when lets be real: these Latinas they meet with no papers (not all, I understand) are somehow also naturally their ideal submissive woman. Going into 3rd world countries knowing the value they bring (U.S papers/European citizenship) are going to be signaling to these women who are going to receptive to their advances and act accordingly. This is not every case of course, but I have met in families of friends and my own of aunties who married a U.S citizen who visited their countries for a clear purpose: there is a dynamic which is born of necessity rather than desire. Children and a tended home for the chance to bring their own families to the U.S for their American dream. As long as it is clear to both partners, i don't view it as negative. A bit sad when it is realized that it is solely a transaction.
But the Middle Eastern countries are far worse for women since women over there still don’t have the most basic rights(voting, driving, education, going to school, owning property, etc.).
100% agree good vid
everything you said was facts, the only people offended by this are probably american women aka the most masculine women in the world
thanks for the comment bro
Hi I'm a new subscriber I like your video! I'm from the states. I'm a single man I been single for 3 years now and something's is telling me to stay single it's a gut feeling. Where in the globe can I locate these beautiful Latin women?
Traveling
Good video bro, glad seeing non black brothers watch Kevin samuels, and embrace the red pill
It's good advice for the most part.
Every relationship is an agreement. You can´t demand if there isnt anything to offer. People is free to agree or quit because terms and conditions. You are so fucking 100% right, feelings are important but we are animals after all (thinking animals but animales), good looking always is going to be the first filter for dating. Of course everyone have their own standards.
I'm handsome almost as geroge clooney and for me it doesn't work that way. I've even tired getting with the older mamis and still got turned down. For females it's different
Wow this is brave! Haha speaking as an Arab woman married to a Latino man....I totally think this is true. I knew I never wanted to be this super career oriented woman because I wanted to have a family and I saw the value that my parents put into our lives in traditional roles. I didn't look down on my mom as a home maker and my dad as a provider because I saw how much more ease we had over a lot of American households. And this whole culture of feminism, like you said, has brought so much good and also so much grief because it has yet to have been balanced out. We should talk through some of these things to help give balance to the discussion! I appreciate it man.
I would add that we should be weary of generalizing American women into that ultra-feminist description. I think most women in America want to do their best for their families and sometimes it means earning an income and taking care of finances alongside their husbands. However, in most parts of America, I think women put their families first and put a lot of nurturing and care into their husbands, children and parents and so on. I lived in Texas for a while and loved the different perspective in American values. It was more balanced. But then, we came back to Cali and omg. It's an LA thing. LA culture is just so unreasonable! People wanna act like gender is useless out here. I think people like us who have been outside of LA know full well that these people are like...lost haha
Also, my husband is from Medellin, so I hope we'll get to visit soon! Thank for showing me what it's like there!
THANK YOU. I appreciate your viewpoint coming as a woman, thank you for sharing.
I'm glad we more so have the freedom to pick if you want to go by traditional roles or not, but I feel like men are struggling right now because the things we truly want are being condemned by this new feminist movement even though we have wanted the same things since the beginning of time.
Obviously we need to change as men too, but we should be given a seat at the table as well.
Cheers!
@@WheresWes Hmm for sure...this is interesting....yeah i think the feminist culture did go too far and has tried to suppress masculinity. My husband just had an entire epiphany with his friends in the past year about all of this. They read a book called "Iron John" and seemed to find benefit from it. I haven't read it, but maybe it'll give you some benefit. I feel just like an observer, bc I'm just kind of...out of this discussion haha but I'd like to learn more haha
It's not just LA. It's more like a left leaning city thing imo
Speak for yourself and your masculinity bro, I always embrace my masculinity
So true
Man you look happy as hell 😂😂😂
You got some good views on things bro
all love G
I love this! thank you for publicly admitting this (I know the backlash is not easy)
u should see some of the comments lol
I love my Mexicana novia!
Absolutely 110% agree! Excellent content Wes just subscribed. I watch KS as well and he's spot on! I'll be in Medellin for my birthday in Dec. hope to link up with you sir!
Kevin is helping all kinds of women!
Thank you for saying all this brother. You're spot on about what men really want. Personally, since I live in America, I am refusing to date anyone at all. No girlfriend, don't want one. Rather not be manipulated, triangulated, and hurt. I'd rather just make money come home and cook my own food haha. I just made chorizo poblano quesadillas, I don't need no woman! But maybe after college though I might move countries and find a wife hahaha
What are you thoughts on having an Asian Kevin Samuels talking about issues within the AA community?
it's necessary for sure
Thank you for sharing your life experience.
I'm glad I'm. It the only one that notices this ...
I think there are a lot of women that can pay their bills, be very successful and also be very feminine... being able to take care of your self has nothing to do with femininity, It’s good to know that your woman is with you because she loves you, not because you pay everything for her, because a lot of women are with their husband because they don’t know how to earn money by themselves. I’m a Latin woman and I prefer helping my husband with the bills and build a dream together with the effort of both, maybe if we had children I would prefer just one of us working to have time for the kids, but knowing that your girl can take care of herself even if she is not working because of the kids it’s very valuable, she is there because she loves you not because of the money. Being with a woman just because she looks good on a bikini is really shallow, (just my opinion not trying to hate lol) even Sascha fitness is not fit all the time because there are life stages like pregnancy, depression, sickness etc and people criticize her for not being fit all the time, and Sascha is the most famous UA-camr in the fitness world in Latin America. So you should not put that bikini pressure on your girlfriend, if you want to have kids you have to accept that her body is going to change, she can go back to her original weight but she can have stretch marks that are not going to look that good on a bikini. I hope you understand my point and opinion, I pay for the bills and I consider myself a very feminine woman, and I’m not submissive in bed, even a girl that prefer her husband to pay por everything can be the same as me in bed lol nothing to do with the financial side... just don’t generalize women, we are really different in our own way so as men, I’m a Latin girl that owns her feminine side and likes to pay for her bills and I don’t want to have kids, and that doesn’t make me less feminine...Hope you have a nice day 🤟🏻✨ keep going with your Chanel! Is doing really good
I can see your point, and I am more arguing from the perspective of men rather than how women should be. I have no problem with my girl helping my pay the bills, but I don't think it's necessary. I think what you're doing is great and it's great that you carry yourself the way you do.
As for the bikini thing, notice how I didn't say you have skinny but just be in shape. Especially because I value fitness and maintain a good body personally, I value this in a partner. I've been in a relationship with somebody who didn't take care of themselves and that didn't work for me, as I suspect most men don't like either. Pregnancies are an obvious exception.
And I don't think this is shallow. Men value beauty where as women value competency in a man. I don't think it's shallow to expect your man to be able to pay the bills. You SHOULD demand that, it's our responsibility as men.
You do what you want, more power to you! You can be what ever woman you want to be! My problem is more when women try to tell men how they should be, and vice versa. I'm not saying that women should be like this, but my opinion has obviously resonated with a lot of men so I feel like what I'm saying is accurate.
Cheers, appreciate you.
Amé tu comentario xd fkfk
I dont think its the degrees that bother men its the entitlement it brings
fair point
@@WheresWes I know this because i have a.masters etc. If i am able to get married with a higher income its shared . I always thought its not how much you make its how much you are left with. If your significant other makes way more money and they cant save hardly anything its a red flag. I just find it more relevant if the person i am with is good with finances
@@WheresWes btw i am.latina hope this helps
Feminidad y feminismo son cosas tan distantes que vuelven a este video parte del estereotipo latino también.
Realmente, no debería ser malo el explorar la masculidad siendo mujer y la feminidad en lo masculino. no es necesario encacillarnos en el género.
La masculinidad frágil es algo real así como el mal concepto de feminidad en la vida laboral y romántica, A lo mejor un hombre prefiere que no ataquen su "masculinidad" pero entre mujeres sí nos ataca estar obligadas a ser femeninas solo por nacer mujer o por ser "Latina".
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Muy Real
Una mujer feminina es mucho mas atractiva que una mujer intentando swr Mari macha
If you need her to look good in a bikini as a perpetual condition, then you ain’t looking for a life partner. We all sag with age brother
don't have to look like a model but at least take car of yourself
Well i'm going to be super honest here, i think we all subconsciously want something unique and quite outstanding so why shouldn't you want a girl who looks very hot in lingerie?
Great sharing. I think I would've liked to see your description/perception or definition of masculinity. What does it mean for you to be "manly", "a man" (in social cultural terms, although I understand it's probably a mix of biological/SC) Also, are you thinking about it as in a globalized definition, or is it for the US (from US), or for Latin America. I am from Panama, live in the US, and I can definitely relate and understand many of your feelings. So I guess my question/request is to clarify on the scope of your definitions as well. Thanks!
I think masculinity is about responsibility, competency, and assertiveness. it's about having strong values and living by them
Im Hispanic American I'm dating a canadian white woman, she isn't masculine, she doesn't have that much standards, she is very calm..
@@majorpaindiaz it depends, feminism did play a major role in conditioning women to be masculine.. and men being conditioned to be feminine... the problem with it, is that women don't like feminine men, it's not attractive to them.. and men don't mind dating a masculine woman as long as they are attractive... but this has consequences.... especially for the children.... a family with two masculine parents has consequences... the children don't need a yelling and harsh mother who is so demanding and masculine.... they need a mother who is feminine, tender, nurturing, motherly, a mother who is a safe place to go if the children are hurt or wounded, a place where they can feel safe to cry, where they are told everything will be ok.... not the source of their pain, if children don't have that kind of model in their lives, then it can have it's own risks and consequences... the world needs the feminine as much as they need the masculine... and it's just sad how women today neglect their femininity....
@@JohnSmith-pl4sf you are lucky, im in canada and its impossible to find a good women here. most are very into hook up culture
Ok i want to know why the submissive thing? Thats so weird .
One thing I do know about Latin woman is that they are very family oriented and everything is about the wellbeing of the family but that have nothing to do with been submissive.
And for sure they are femenin, and they like to take care of their love ones.
All very true. Ever since my divorce (February/March 2019), I’ve dated Latinas and all of your observations are spot on! When you get older (while single) you do acquire much wisdom and tend to see things clearly.
What killed relationships is Uber feminism and Uber-capitalist materialism. An unhealthy combo for sure.
agreed
Ayyy lit. 😂 Tell em how it is. I hope this isn't too sensitive of a topic for youtube. 😐
I love old fashioned relationship styles..
Sou brasileira, e bem você tem razão. I'm Brazilian, and well... you're right.
another venezuelan beauty ? ...where do you keep meeting them wes ?
Most are struggling in the US, so if they see someone with security, they gravitate to them. Just like here in US, my Latina cousins see white people as having money and having generational wealth, it's best to gravitate to them. Not always for the best reasons of course.
You're defining hypergamy brother! Roll!
South Americans Latino are civilization over thousands years, and these people they are stick with their ancestors culture and values . They love to have family and love their husband.
You’re gonna get people mad with this video
Truth hurts
Good!
He makes total sense!
“To the woman He said: “I will greatly multiply your sorrow and your conception; In pain you shall bring forth children; Your desire shall be for your husband, And he shall rule over you.””
Genesis 3:16 NKJV
So you are paying for her bills and apartment? Like a husband? I need a gringo boyfriend too! We latinas don’t really expect our boyfriends to be financially responsible for us. That is expected from a husband. You do as you please but that is way over board
we exist but we are stuck up north hahaha but i plan to visit south america. yes some of us gringo's are still old school and want to pay all the bills for our girl, its hard to find rreal women in north america so you would probably kill it here : )
I think a lot of what you're saying stems from the entitlement of women in western society. Equality of outcome and equality of opportunity are very different things. You can see this in Finland for example when equality of outcome was forced, women and men actually spread even further across opposite ends of the income spectrum due to biological factors that impact occupational choices (women are interested in people, men are interested in things).
No one wants to have a partner they fight with. Everyone is entitled to what they want from a partner. You want your gf to look in a bikini and me as a Latina I want a masculine man who can handle my temper. Hell no I’m not submissive, I have a great career make great money and so does my husband. He is an Alpha dog. Don’t generalize Latinos or Latin culture please
@Rafael Acosta lol you right. Because if they can't, they might as well go overseas to get themselves a submissive woman who is only with them until they get their greencard and then... SAAAS they are peacing out too.
a man with options who is truly alpha won't accept this behavior in a woman.
@@WheresWes What a woman who makes great money and has character? That's not masculine at all! That's human. A true partner (man or woman) shouldn't care about that.
My brother who is white has been married to a Hispanic woman for 34 years now. Though they've had their differences over the years they are still together. Some Latin women will be corrupted into believing in the American feminist ways so you have to watch out for that.
As long as the family courts in the USA keep raking men over the coals and taking most of what they have, the prospects of dating and marriage are doomed. I love my retirement and no debts of any kind.
true that
Some interesting points. I agree that equality is very important, yet....Due to the whole “abolishment of gender roles” thing, I think that women are victims of a culture that expects them to play a more masculine role. In the same way men are expected to be more feminine. This creates a toxic and confusing dating environment. I totally have felt the same way, about dating in the US. Good job finding a way out-enjoy life brother!
Yeah I think the the push for equality both genders have been pushed to do things out of our nature to prove something. Idk if it's for the better or worse.
Having similar double incomes is totally convenient and for that partners should work with each other in the house. There are no masculine nor femenine traits in that, nor in technical intelligence. Only discrimination out of fear, which still exists, more in Latino America (for the worse) and still in USA.
Totally with ya on this.. Done with the American woman attitude.
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canada is bad for dating, montreal is more fun.
Really hope east Asian femme don't get sucked into this western bs!
Yep primo san, Latina has better bodies than Asians
Subscribed because i agree with everything u just said
Cheers bro
You are in love of a beautiful body and that's ephemeral mi amigo
l am europen, l lived in USA and CA and l wouldnt date a north american . l refuse to pay the bills for the rest of my life .
The problem is you can be a victime at any time and lose everything cause women are always right in the eyes of the law