“ marriage is signing up for a headache”! Tony really hit the nail on the head. This is also why playing house while being a girlfriend is free labor and a scam! I would rather cook rice grain by grain than to go through it all as a play play wife or out of desperation.Being married is the only time where the sacrifice is accounted for.
Yep I’ve played housewife as a gf and it was HE double hockey sticks. On top of that, he was NOT a man of God and some more stuff! So imagine the HE double hockey sticks I went through in that place…
@@Nasrumii thank you for being real. So many “ girlfriends” won’t admit this cause they don’t want to hear the I told you so. Being a wife is the only time sacrificing for man comes with the territory.
As a divorced woman who was married for 10 years, I 1000% cosign with TG’s thoughts on the idiocy of pedestalizing and idolizing marriage. you will work your tail off and it’s not a game, most men are nasty and messy so you will have your kids plus another big kid. Marriage is beautiful and fun, but it’s also a battlefield. Enjoy being single!! Focus on you, God and those currently assigned to you.
💯 I've been married for over a decade. Women want it soooooo bad. That's why relationship channels are so popular and primarily filled with women. It is soooo overrated, and expectations of it are skewed. Marriage will grow you and challenge you, and it's not about you. It is 100% good and 100% hard.
I am going through a divorce after 16 years of marriage, and when I told another divorced woman I know (a highly educated professor to boot!) she replied earnestly, "Gosh, I hope you meet someone else!" 😮 I never said anything to her about having any such desire, particularly not after the issues I had with my ex controlling me and the alleged DV crisis we have in our country. Guess our programming is that deep afterall 😕
Tony, your teaching did not go in vain. You help me leave a toxic relationship and 2 years later after that got married and the man waited until marriage. 😊You are truth ! Don’t give up
I’m married, Tony is 💯 right. Marriage is WORK. I look back to being single and I regret being so desperate. Single women romanticize marriage too much. There’s a reason men remarry and widows/divorced women stay that way. Marriage is most beneficial to the man.
God, I pray that you remove my desperation for a husband. Help me to use the gifts you put in my heart to focus on carrying out your will. In Jesus name, Amen!
I cant believe ppl actually telling you to have your family not talk to you while on yt; I be here saying that you need to stop apologizing to us when you have to pause and respond to them, "ya'll gatta forgive me...". Lol like you telling us to forgive you for putting your family 1st is how I interpret that. I'm just happy we get vids so consistently from a fam first man.
I want to thank you Tony. I always felt like marriage wasn't something I naturally wanted to do. After listening to you I realize marriage is not for me. It's honestly better to know before anything else. I don't want to change my life I enjoy my very simple and peaceful life after growing up with a lot of different energies.
Tony your advice has without a doubt saved my life. I’m a woman who grew up with an abusive dad and never had a positive male role model. I understand how it can feel like your advice is falling on deaf ears but even if it’s a few people you are helping I believe god will reward you for that. Thank you for allowing him to use you and all praise to the most high.
This is an on time word! 🙌🏽 my focus shifted from just dating to experiencing and living life- traveling, going to the next level, & working on my health. I have accomplished so many goals on my vision board this year. It’s truly a blessing. I meet men, but my cut off game is strong when I recognize he’s not a good fit for me. Of course I have moments where I second guess myself but this confirms that I’m on the right path. Also praying for the safety of your family during this storm ! 🙏🏽
As a woman who was married for 23 years I can say, you don't really know your husband until stressful times test the security of your vows. Work on yourself. Put the fruits of the Spirit first to cultivate in yourself and trust God for the rest.
Regarding Sarah Jakes Roberts I would try to listen and receive her message but I just couldn’t even when my girlfriends would suggest I listen to her sermons. I could not put my finger on it-and she is extremely articulate. But my spirit could not receive her messages. Now I know why. I truly sensed something else was going on with her. God bless you, Tony.
Marriage is NOT A JOKE. TG is telling the absolute raw and real truth. I've been divorced since 2019. Single and sane over here!😂💆🏽♀️ I only want what the Lord wants/has for me. I'm not against it but both parties have to understand that it's a huge commitment that has to be worked on DAILY... minute by minute. 🗣️💯
Going through a divorce now because I idolized mine & the spirit of Lil Ugly took over. I don't even recognize this man...but I thank God for his grace & mercy & forgiveness. On to the next transition in my life & just grateful for it all❤️🖤Thank you TG
Lil ugly took over mines too! And how I know it, he started treating me mean after my daughter was murdered, now how uglier could you be. Divorced him and never looked back. Eight yrs ago and haven’t lacked a thing, nothing but peace. I climb in my bed rub my feet together and thank the lord I’m not dealing with no Man drama.
Marriage is rewarding and beautiful, but do not buy into the fairy tale of the wedding day. It is a lot of dedication and work to keep the union together.
“Marriage is a job you can’t retire from. It’s like walking on eggshells. You don’t know if your wife or husband will wake up on the wrong side of the bed.”-Tony Gaskins
@TG What I appreciate most about you, Mr. Gaskins, is your unwavering commitment to telling the unadulterated truth, in season or out of season. Your transparency and vulnerability truly set you apart; it’s a testament to your authenticity when you share your story openly, even if it reveals past mistakes. You are a blessing to women who have an ear to hear what God is saying. Your honesty comes without ulterior motives, and it’s refreshing to see someone so devoted to sharing God’s message. I pray that God continues to bless your territory and enlarge it in the days to come. Thank you for being a powerful voice in these last days!
Say it louder for the ones in the back...been married now for almost 16yrs...and every single thing you said is 100% truth. The Bible doesn't even approve divorce in cases of abuse...it will advise to seperate...that's how much that covenant means....divorce is only excused in cases of unfaithfulness and if the unbelieving spouse abandons the home...please, please, please ladies going into marriage is the closest covenant to God, that's why it's sacred and many have failed to fulfill that covenant fully. God bless you and your family Tony. May you all take refuge under His wings.
That’s good Tony, admitting that you are a work in progress too. We all have something the Holy Spirit is still teaching us and talking to us about. We all need grace 🙏🏾
Thank you tony for your obedience. Your message helped me leave a relationship that was actually a situationship. I knew that God was protecting me and guiding me & I listened and left that man.
My almost daily prayer. That I grow so much in the Lord I draw others to Christ, and not deflect souls away from Him. My deepest prayer is to grow daily, where others will see an obvious change. Your directness and transparency and naming those who are leading wrongly can’t be easy at all. May the Lord continue to bless you and your family and keep a hedge of protection around you all. 🙏🏽🔥🙏🏽
UNCLE TONY I LOVE YOU (I LOVE HIM LIKE MY BROTHER IN CHRIST FOR THE PPL WHO NEED THAT CLARIFICATION) AND I RESPECT YOU, SO MUCH. U ARE VERY VERY WISE. THANK YOU SO MUCH! ❤❤ WE NEED U OUT HERE. PLEASE DO NOT GIVE UP ON US. SOME OF US ARE REALLY LISTENING AND TAKING IN YOUR CONTENT. THANK YOU. THANK YOU. THANK YOU! I NEEDED TO HEAR ALL OF THIS. U HAVE NO IDEA. Im 36.... but i really look at u as my big uncle or brother that i wish i had. So thank you.
Thank you so much for sharing what scripture says about marriage. We are not meant to marry, divorce, and remarry if our first spouse is still living. If more people honored that commandment, I believe they’d be more patient and intentional about marriage. I truly feel I have one opportunity at marriage in the eyes of God, and I want my walk with Him to be pleasing. Finding a man of God takes time, and in that time, I’m working on myself as a woman. Every day, I’m discovering areas to improve. Thank you, Tony, for addressing this in your videos. Many are hesitant to preach or teach the truth of scripture out of fear of society, but I fear the Lord alone, and His scriptures are my inspiration. Thanks again, Tony.
Yes I can testify that marriage is good but I did sign up for my husband snoring. I have to get up and go to the other bedroom to get sleep..I be tired many days. He isn't as clean as I am..but one advantage I have is that I got married in middle aged so we have no children. I have more advantages than disadvantages. But single young women should find their purpose, work their gifts. Put God first and He will send you a saved MOG. Wait be patient..and love your single season.. sometimes I do wish I was single again..I've only been married 2 years this Oct 22
I’ve Always been a spectator and never a commentator but had to say Tony is speaking all facts no FLUFF! Married almost 12 years and 3 kids, marriage is the most beautiful, stressful, heart wrenching, tiresome, loving, draining, never ending daily self sacrificing, JOB YOU’LL ever have!! Don’t lose heart, even with all that marriage comes with IF GOD IS IN THE CENTER OF IT, HE WILL & DOES MAKE IT THE BIGGEST BLESSING THAT KEEPS ON GIVING IN ABUNDANCE BUT YOU HAVE TO WORK FOR IT!! I PROMISE YOU ITS MORE THAN WORTH IT!! If you’re single ask yourself this question: Can I see myself waking up EVERY.SINGLE.DAY ready to fight (THE GODLY WAY) on the battlefield of marriage EVERY.SINGLE.DAY?
Agreed. Marriage is definitely a blessing but, it is absolutely a testing. However, I have become my best self in marriage by passing the test of life in marriage. 🙏🏽
I was married for 25 years!! My husband was an abusive drug addict, womanizing liar. We were both 23 years old when we married. He immediately became controlling, no makeup, only conservative clothes, bring your behind home when you get off work...too controlling!! He would take his fist and go thru the wall scaring me up! Three children later I decided to divorce him after he took his 6' feet frame and hit me across my face almost shattering my jaw bone. I left, took out a TPO and finalized my divorce within 7 months. God is still blessing me as a single woman❤❤❤❤!!!
I am so glad that you explained what a COVERING means! I have been saying this for years, but people still refuse to believe that God is our TRUE and Only covering!
Tony, its not that women are so easily deceived, instead women are allowing themselves to be deceived because the fantasy feels better than reality. This is also very common with women who have unresolved trauma. Other symptoms include limerance and maladaptive daydreaming.
Yes he’s so right!! Marriage is a blessing and a testing!! I am married to a wonderful, kind and supportive husband for a few years now and if it weren’t for our Lord and being in relationship with God, I wouldn’t have gotten through some difficult moments with grace and strength! Hallelujah to Father God! 🙏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Bro Tony you so Real 💯 you love your Queen every time you talk about her it just brings tears to my eyes. Blessings to you always be Encouraged even though I can personally say that having been listening to you for about 5 years at the most I've failed yes for the spirit of little ugly in this Man am now involved with. Am praying that I get it right . Praying for God strength over my life. Because when I think about it this wasn't worth it.with this Man.
I am divorced you are 100% right! Hence I am slow to even date now. I am sooo enjoying myself, my Lord, my dog, my home, job, and son!!!! I’m at this time not ready to be responsible for someone else!
Tony, I feel like you are truly a Man of God and rest all of your faith on Him....while everyone else is worrying about Hurricane Milton, supposedly the worse Hurricane in decades to hit Florida, here you are spreading the gospel and teaching His word, not once mentioning the storm. I know that's all favor. Continue to be blessed, you and your family.
Just seeing and listening to this message (halfway through).. I am single.. blessed and happy. .I am not against marriage. .Married and Divorced at a young age. Its a LOT of work.. If it happens fine but not praying for a husband. .He will find me somehow.. someway.. lol GOD BLESS .. Thank you as always for a timely message.!
Marriage is a MINISTRY!! And just like any ministry… it’s heavy, so thirsting after it is a red flag because we should only be after God’s heart more than anything in the world.
Tony Gaskins thank you so much for your ministrie. I appreciate this so much in this time following Jesus Christ a a single mother in my single season. There is to much deception. And sometimes I also get caught up in al these voices online. I really had to go to the Lord after this video and repent ask for forgiveness to God. I thank the Lord for leading me to your channel 🥹❤
"She MAY allow divorce to steal her confidence" well don't allow it by any means. My dad just told me that "in marriage it's important to bend not break". Sometimes you have to leave to save your life. In every sense of the word.
Just prayed to God and thanked Him for you. This is the TRUTH from beginning to end. Everything you said, about marriage, and people not using discernment, not wanting to hear the real truth, ALL TRUE. In these dark days we live in, so refreshing to hear the truth.
Thank you for dishing this video out, for your bravery cause I hear the teaching and brave enough to listen and apply. Thanks again to you and your family.
Your right Tony...I already knew something was off when in an interview Toure said he met Sarah at a conference among other spiritual leaders but that he didn't know who she was and that when he heard her speak he knew then she was his wife , ha! yeah right he knew exactly who she was and knew that she came from money. Same about Simone Biles...her husband said that he didn't know who Simone Biles was and I was thinking ummmm no know body knew who you were until you married Simone Biles. Men marry for status as well just as much as women try to.
I have been married for 30 years and you speaking nothing but the truth! Im grateful but it’s work thank you Jesus!!! Im blessed but God !!! Im so grateful my husband is following God!!!
Thank you Tony for all you do! The one’s that need the message, take it & apply it are still here with you. “A man will be delighted more w/his one lost sheep he found, than the 19 that stayed”. ❤️🙏🏽
Continue doing the work God has for you, and be encouraged. I can truly say you helped me get to where I am today. I made a lot of mistakes in my past, but my mind and discernment is so strong now, because of God’s grace and mercy and also the work you are doing. I was in a bad relationship, and I still have to communicate with him, because we have a 5 year old daughter, but you helped me realize my worth and that no man who’s worth it will make you compromise your soul. I broke that soul tie and have remained abstinent. Glory to God! Thank you for what you’re doing. And the women who are truly listening like I have will take this wisdom and apply it to our lives and to help other women.
I agree with the fruits of the spirit! That’s one of the main things I pay attention to in determining if someone is from God. If the fruits are missing, it’s questionable to me.
I absolutely agree. I’m divorced due to DV but outside the physical violence the stress of working raising kids dealing with his moodiness. I will say I do not in any way feel rushed to get married. I’m ok where I’m at. I enjoy these videos because it has really helped me tremendously. Thank you for your obedience from God…
Hey Tony I and my husband are subscribers of yours for the message you teach and your walk with God. It’s so hard in today’s world as a woman feeling like the duty of everything else in our home besides money, is my responsibility. Especially after my husband has given me many reasons (lies and infidelity) to walk away. Can you please explain to us married women, what the difference between “forgiveness” vs“Trust” is? I feel like our counselors have coached me into a lifestyle with my husband that is far too emotionally expensive. I was the stay at home wife since we met. And after multiple conflicts that left me feeling like I have no money to leave, I decided to go back to school. But while doing so, I’m cleaning the house multiple times a day, grocery shopping and taking care for the kids all day. When he gets off of work, I ask for 2 hours of help so I can study and I’m not getting that. He isn’t aggressive, he is just lazy at things that are not work or dopamine related. I have forgiven him , but it feels like the structure of the marriage is still too much. Please please please give me godly counsel and more insight. Or please make a video on this topic. I’m trying not to divorce but I don’t know how to keep up with his image of a wife without sacrificing my peace. Can’t talk to the in laws because they are the reason he is this way. I also have no support system out side of a few friends. I have 3 years of school left . And I’m 32. My kids are 11 and 2. I would like to stay married, but I want to be married Gods way. I don’t want to be miserable.
I have witnessed couples who lost their excitement after marrying, because they were looking at marriage only as a "Fairy Tale" and not a "Reality." Actually, marriage is the type of relationship that allows couples to be FREE. But, many couples forget about the LOVEBIRDS that they once were, and begin to feel that they are now in BONDAGE. However, marriage can be Drama-free and Peaceful, (with understanding) if mixed with the "Fairy Tale" and with the "Reality" of marriage. And this can happen by both, being creative and doing kind things that are UNEXPECTED, and not just waiting for traditional Holiday's, birthdays, anniversaries and Valentine's Day. They should also be "Respectful" and allow each other to maintain their individuality, so that they don't become uninterested with each other. Have fun, even if it's just pulling a prank on each other sometimes, because this keeps a spark in the marriage. And above all things, they should always keep God first in their marriage! 😊
All of this is so confusing. I totally romanticized marriage. I completely feel like I have made a huge mistake and now I have to figure out how to cope and make the best of decision. I have been in a marriage where I thought I was being a good wife but I feel completely neglected. This video is insightful but it also makes me believe that I don’t have much to look forward to in marriage. I kind of feel disappointed. I hear Tony state the things that he does for his wife and how understanding he is of all the things she does for the home and their children. Or how there are things she does for him. But husband is not that man. His only focus is work and the cleanliness of our home
I truly understand I was married for 10 years to a big emotional almost kid like when I had 5 children to raise ,but I wasn't as wise as I am now because I should have waited for marriage, but also it was a test and a lesson for me as well,it's a job, with a real job, parenting, cooking,cleaning ect...and to be married to a person who has difficulty communicating it's a headache. But I still believe in the union of marriage,but now I'm focusing on me and what I want to do not a relationship at all, I'm 60 and these so called Godly conferences are built on money mostly especially for these new age so called pastors, not all but most where these women as you said are deceived and spending money they don't have to attend conferences of these immoral people who really don't care about anything but the $ .Let God bring you a husband if he chooses to when he's ready. These conferences only promote a feel good thing, not correction or conviction, because that doesn't sell........
My marriage was a cakewalk for the first two years until chronic illness came into play. And, that was just the beginning of MANY struggles. But, no one thinks of those things prior to marriage, nor when they get along so perfectly. We would literally have conversations about how good we had it and then BOOM! To say that God has humbled us, would be a vast understatement. Marriage will TEST you. Be ready for anything and everything.
I’m on a 6 day cruise with my kids and hubby still getting the knowledge!!! Thanks Uncle Tony for your time! But 💯 marriage is low key a headache work has to be put in!!!! Nothing good comes easy!! 🥴
I use to listen to you years ago and stumbled on your channel again recently. Ive really noticed and enjoyed seeing your growth in your faith. Thank you for what you do. I do think you should start that church on relationships. It is what’s missing. I have been that fit, fashionable, faithful, celibate girl in church in LA for years now. I’m always disappointed in the lack of celibacy in the church. God Bless your family.
Thank you Tony for this video..i just happened to stop and watch it today. You made a lot of sense and explained topics in the spirit that gives us Christian women more insight on the word of God and more to think and pray about when it comes to marriage, prophets, speakers, ministers, fruits of the spirit,. We need to pay more attention and to ask the Holy Spirit to open our eyes to see, ears to hear and wisdom to understand with clarity when reading His word.
I was also born on march 8! I totally resonate with your message 100% Being born in international woman’s day literally naturally gives u the ability to guide women in better ways!
I am DIVORCING lol and believe it or not I never felt like I wanted to be single when I was married. I loved being in my marriage but he had that spirit of lil ugly on him and was just mean when he was angry. He didn't show this side UNTIL about 4 years in when he lost his job. Everything went downhill in the matter of 10 months. From being a great husband to a grown boy that threw temper tantrums. I couldn't believe my eyes. Counseling with a pastor and life coach and months of therapy he still was throwing tantrums. I filed for divorce and stood on business...it'll be final in a month. I'm in a new relationship now and MAN day and night. He's so different and I'm definitely getting married again but sometimes you won't know. You can use all the discernment in the world and still end up DIVORCED...or stuck in a crazy marriage. Sometimes you don't know how evil a man can be until he feels like he's hit rock bottom. Which may never happen or might happen months in.
So basically your in blatant adultery and you think God will bless this new adulterous relationship? Your still married. Your doing the same thing Toure Roberts did.
@lakisha499 yep the same way Tony and his wife were? 🤣 this is the real world...and I'm LEGALLY separated and well within my rights to be in a NEW relationship. That's not adultery 😂 and we not in the Old Testament days sweetie
Lord protect Tony because he calling and unveiling the mess to wake the masses. Read your own bible!! Do not depend on these youtube pastors. Money is the root
You got to remember if u not loving God nor yourself u can’t be submissive cause u treating God wrong and u have no standards in your life marriage is a covenant submit to God first in God will show u the right Way on how to carry yourself and how to treat your husband or wife right in how to love correctly it start with God first period
Tony brotha, u ain't lying when you say the Devil will send a Decoy or Counterfeit spouse, before the real deal, cause remember the Devil KNOWS what WE LIKE👀 When we "Date" we need to collect proper counsel from on high (Jesus), or else it's Consequences and Repercussions. 'Member mi tell ya' (Jamaican Accent). 😌
listening and thinking same thing! But I like that he backs it up biblically and honestly. It makes so much sense and as a single person, I am glad i am learning along with prayer, and God's guidance :)
“ marriage is signing up for a headache”! Tony really hit the nail on the head. This is also why playing house while being a girlfriend is free labor and a scam! I would rather cook rice grain by grain than to go through it all as a play play wife or out of desperation.Being married is the only time where the sacrifice is accounted for.
Yep I’ve played housewife as a gf and it was HE double hockey sticks. On top of that, he was NOT a man of God and some more stuff! So imagine the HE double hockey sticks I went through in that place…
Cook rice grain by grain 😂
@@Nasrumii thank you for being real. So many “ girlfriends” won’t admit this cause they don’t want to hear the I told you so. Being a wife is the only time sacrificing for man comes with the territory.
People really take the marriage couples have arguments all the time thing to heart.
A word!!!
As a divorced woman who was married for 10 years, I 1000% cosign with TG’s thoughts on the idiocy of pedestalizing and idolizing marriage. you will work your tail off and it’s not a game, most men are nasty and messy so you will have your kids plus another big kid. Marriage is beautiful and fun, but it’s also a battlefield. Enjoy being single!! Focus on you, God and those currently assigned to you.
💯 I've been married for over a decade. Women want it soooooo bad. That's why relationship channels are so popular and primarily filled with women. It is soooo overrated, and expectations of it are skewed. Marriage will grow you and challenge you, and it's not about you. It is 100% good and 100% hard.
I am going through a divorce after 16 years of marriage, and when I told another divorced woman I know (a highly educated professor to boot!) she replied earnestly, "Gosh, I hope you meet someone else!" 😮
I never said anything to her about having any such desire, particularly not after the issues I had with my ex controlling me and the alleged DV crisis we have in our country. Guess our programming is that deep afterall 😕
Tony, your teaching did not go in vain. You help me leave a toxic relationship and 2 years later after that got married and the man waited until marriage. 😊You are truth ! Don’t give up
🎉🎉 congrats
I’m married, Tony is 💯 right. Marriage is WORK. I look back to being single and I regret being so desperate. Single women romanticize marriage too much. There’s a reason men remarry and widows/divorced women stay that way. Marriage is most beneficial to the man.
I’m married. And I agree ☝🏼
I’m married and I also agree
@@ladynottingham89 I'm single and agree
I am believing more and more that’s why the scripture says “he who finds a wife finds a good thing.” This is a great comment and take
God,
I pray that you remove my desperation for a husband. Help me to use the gifts you put in my heart to focus on carrying out your will. In Jesus name, Amen!
Amen. Sis.
I cant believe ppl actually telling you to have your family not talk to you while on yt; I be here saying that you need to stop apologizing to us when you have to pause and respond to them, "ya'll gatta forgive me...". Lol like you telling us to forgive you for putting your family 1st is how I interpret that. I'm just happy we get vids so consistently from a fam first man.
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I want to thank you Tony. I always felt like marriage wasn't something I naturally wanted to do. After listening to you I realize marriage is not for me. It's honestly better to know before anything else. I don't want to change my life I enjoy my very simple and peaceful life after growing up with a lot of different energies.
Tony your advice has without a doubt saved my life. I’m a woman who grew up with an abusive dad and never had a positive male role model. I understand how it can feel like your advice is falling on deaf ears but even if it’s a few people you are helping I believe god will reward you for that. Thank you for allowing him to use you and all praise to the most high.
Married 2 years, together for 4. If you’re single be good where you’re at. The grass isn’t greener ladies. There’s beauty in both situations ❤❤
Married 8 years. Absolutely a LABOR of love 💕
This is an on time word! 🙌🏽 my focus shifted from just dating to experiencing and living life- traveling, going to the next level, & working on my health. I have accomplished so many goals on my vision board this year. It’s truly a blessing. I meet men, but my cut off game is strong when I recognize he’s not a good fit for me.
Of course I have moments where I second guess myself but this confirms that I’m on the right path.
Also praying for the safety of your family during this storm ! 🙏🏽
As a woman who was married for 23 years I can say, you don't really know your husband until stressful times test the security of your vows. Work on yourself. Put the fruits of the Spirit first to cultivate in yourself and trust God for the rest.
Regarding Sarah Jakes Roberts I would try to listen and receive her message but I just couldn’t even when my girlfriends would suggest I listen to her sermons. I could not put my finger on it-and she is extremely articulate. But my spirit could not receive her messages. Now I know why. I truly sensed something else was going on with her. God bless you, Tony.
Same here. I tried several times to listen to her different sermons, but my spirit was like, “no , nope, and absolutely not!” So I stopped trying.
Ditto 🙏🏾🧡🍂
I tried too, but i just could not gain knowledge & understanding. It's like she uses big words and statements to explain something so simple..
Same
I couldn't receive from her either... in my spirit... either..
“ If You Knew Me Yesterday, Then You Don’t Know Me, Because I Grow Everyday” ! ! “TG”
@@ow82734 that was so good and so deep. I’m stealing that one but of course giving Tony the credit. No plagiarizing here.
Marriage is NOT A JOKE. TG is telling the absolute raw and real truth. I've been divorced since 2019. Single and sane over here!😂💆🏽♀️ I only want what the Lord wants/has for me. I'm not against it but both parties have to understand that it's a huge commitment that has to be worked on DAILY... minute by minute. 🗣️💯
Going through a divorce now because I idolized mine & the spirit of Lil Ugly took over. I don't even recognize this man...but I thank God for his grace & mercy & forgiveness. On to the next transition in my life & just grateful for it all❤️🖤Thank you TG
Lil ugly took over mines too! And how I know it, he started treating me mean after my daughter was murdered, now how uglier could you be. Divorced him and never looked back. Eight yrs ago and haven’t lacked a thing, nothing but peace. I climb in my bed rub my feet together and thank the lord I’m not dealing with no Man drama.
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Marriage is rewarding and beautiful, but do not buy into the fairy tale of the wedding day. It is a lot of dedication and work to keep the union together.
“Marriage is a job you can’t retire from. It’s like walking on eggshells. You don’t know if your wife or husband will wake up on the wrong side of the bed.”-Tony Gaskins
I was married for 14 years and it takes everything you have! You have to show up everyday for your husband & children, there’s no days off
Your Transparency is Everything! Thank you my Brother for exposing the harsh truth of Marriage 💯💯💯❗️
@TG What I appreciate most about you, Mr. Gaskins, is your unwavering commitment to telling the unadulterated truth, in season or out of season. Your transparency and vulnerability truly set you apart; it’s a testament to your authenticity when you share your story openly, even if it reveals past mistakes. You are a blessing to women who have an ear to hear what God is saying. Your honesty comes without ulterior motives, and it’s refreshing to see someone so devoted to sharing God’s message. I pray that God continues to bless your territory and enlarge it in the days to come. Thank you for being a powerful voice in these last days!
Say it louder for the ones in the back...been married now for almost 16yrs...and every single thing you said is 100% truth. The Bible doesn't even approve divorce in cases of abuse...it will advise to seperate...that's how much that covenant means....divorce is only excused in cases of unfaithfulness and if the unbelieving spouse abandons the home...please, please, please ladies going into marriage is the closest covenant to God, that's why it's sacred and many have failed to fulfill that covenant fully. God bless you and your family Tony. May you all take refuge under His wings.
praying for a husband is channeling the spirit of desperation and control will be answered with a decoy that will destroy your life.
Prayers for you and all Florida residents safety 🙏🏽
That’s good Tony, admitting that you are a work in progress too. We all have something the Holy Spirit is still teaching us and talking to us about. We all need grace 🙏🏾
1. Do you read your Bible every day?
2. Do you live by the 10 Commandments?
3. Do you keep or operating from the fruits of the Spirit?
20:00 - 20:55 was a hard pill of TRUTH to swallow. Thank you for that image from someone who has struggled for years with idolatry of marriage.
Thank you tony for your obedience. Your message helped me leave a relationship that was actually a situationship. I knew that God was protecting me and guiding me & I listened and left that man.
It's easier to fool people than to convince them that they have been fooled - Mark Twain
A true word.. GOD BLESS YOU SIS
This man did not tell one lie. Take your time ladies it’s no need to rush away your individuality it will come when it’s time🩷
My almost daily prayer. That I grow so much in the Lord I draw others to Christ, and not deflect souls away from Him. My deepest prayer is to grow daily, where others will see an obvious change. Your directness and transparency and naming those who are leading wrongly can’t be easy at all. May the Lord continue to bless you and your family and keep a hedge of protection around you all. 🙏🏽🔥🙏🏽
UNCLE TONY I LOVE YOU (I LOVE HIM LIKE MY BROTHER IN CHRIST FOR THE PPL WHO NEED THAT CLARIFICATION) AND I RESPECT YOU, SO MUCH. U ARE VERY VERY WISE. THANK YOU SO MUCH! ❤❤ WE NEED U OUT HERE. PLEASE DO NOT GIVE UP ON US. SOME OF US ARE REALLY LISTENING AND TAKING IN YOUR CONTENT. THANK YOU. THANK YOU. THANK YOU! I NEEDED TO HEAR ALL OF THIS. U HAVE NO IDEA.
Im 36.... but i really look at u as my big uncle or brother that i wish i had. So thank you.
Thank you so much for sharing what scripture says about marriage. We are not meant to marry, divorce, and remarry if our first spouse is still living. If more people honored that commandment, I believe they’d be more patient and intentional about marriage. I truly feel I have one opportunity at marriage in the eyes of God, and I want my walk with Him to be pleasing.
Finding a man of God takes time, and in that time, I’m working on myself as a woman. Every day, I’m discovering areas to improve. Thank you, Tony, for addressing this in your videos. Many are hesitant to preach or teach the truth of scripture out of fear of society, but I fear the Lord alone, and His scriptures are my inspiration.
Thanks again, Tony.
Thanks!
Yes I can testify that marriage is good but I did sign up for my husband snoring. I have to get up and go to the other bedroom to get sleep..I be tired many days. He isn't as clean as I am..but one advantage I have is that I got married in middle aged so we have no children. I have more advantages than disadvantages. But single young women should find their purpose, work their gifts. Put God first and He will send you a saved MOG. Wait be patient..and love your single season.. sometimes I do wish I was single again..I've only been married 2 years this Oct 22
I’ve Always been a spectator and never a commentator but had to say Tony is speaking all facts no FLUFF!
Married almost 12 years and 3 kids, marriage is the most beautiful, stressful, heart wrenching, tiresome, loving, draining, never ending daily self sacrificing, JOB YOU’LL ever have!! Don’t lose heart, even with all that marriage comes with IF GOD IS IN THE CENTER OF IT, HE WILL & DOES MAKE IT THE BIGGEST BLESSING THAT KEEPS ON GIVING IN ABUNDANCE BUT YOU HAVE TO WORK FOR IT!!
I PROMISE YOU ITS MORE THAN WORTH IT!!
If you’re single ask yourself this question: Can I see myself waking up EVERY.SINGLE.DAY ready to fight (THE GODLY WAY) on the battlefield of marriage EVERY.SINGLE.DAY?
Most women romanticize marriage! They are more in love with the idea of the wedding day than what MARRIAGE really means and consists of!
Agreed. Marriage is definitely a blessing but, it is absolutely a testing. However, I have become my best self in marriage by passing the test of life in marriage. 🙏🏽
Just got married 3 weeks ago… how do you make marriage work for you and not against you?
I was married for 25 years!! My husband was an abusive drug addict, womanizing liar. We were both 23 years old when we married. He immediately became controlling, no makeup, only conservative clothes, bring your behind home when you get off work...too controlling!! He would take his fist and go thru the wall scaring me up! Three children later I decided to divorce him after he took his 6' feet frame and hit me across my face almost shattering my jaw bone. I left, took out a TPO and finalized my divorce within 7 months. God is still blessing me as a single woman❤❤❤❤!!!
I am so glad that you explained what a COVERING means! I have been saying this for years, but people still refuse to believe that God is our TRUE and Only covering!
Tony, its not that women are so easily deceived, instead women are allowing themselves to be deceived because the fantasy feels better than reality. This is also very common with women who have unresolved trauma. Other symptoms include limerance and maladaptive daydreaming.
@@Eve90 Bingo!
Yes he’s so right!! Marriage is a blessing and a testing!! I am married to a wonderful, kind and supportive husband for a few years now and if it weren’t for our Lord and being in relationship with God, I wouldn’t have gotten through some difficult moments with grace and strength! Hallelujah to Father God! 🙏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Tony!!! You are telling the truth. I was married for 14 years and I don't miss it.😂🤦🏾♀️
Yes. Your prayers multiply when married!
Omg!! 😂❤ This is the realest description of marriage. Thank you.
Not The “Dad, It’s On Top Of A Pretzel 🥨 Bag”😆😆😆Teenagers Got Jokes🤣AnD Don’t Even Realize Them😬🤣🤦🏾♀️
Y’all stay safe out there Tony!!! 🙏🏽
Bro Tony you so Real 💯 you love your Queen every time you talk about her it just brings tears to my eyes. Blessings to you always be Encouraged even though I can personally say that having been listening to you for about 5 years at the most I've failed yes for the spirit of little ugly in this Man am now involved with. Am praying that I get it right . Praying for God strength over my life. Because when I think about it this wasn't worth it.with this Man.
Thank you for this Tony! Please keep this prepartion series going for us 🙏🏾
“I already have this painful calling I’m trying to run from” 🤣🤣😭
I am divorced you are 100% right! Hence I am slow to even date now. I am sooo enjoying myself, my Lord, my dog, my home, job, and son!!!! I’m at this time not ready to be responsible for someone else!
Tony, I feel like you are truly a Man of God and rest all of your faith on Him....while everyone else is worrying about Hurricane Milton, supposedly the worse Hurricane in decades to hit Florida, here you are spreading the gospel and teaching His word, not once mentioning the storm. I know that's all favor. Continue to be blessed, you and your family.
Just seeing and listening to this message (halfway through).. I am single.. blessed and happy. .I am not against marriage. .Married and Divorced at a young age. Its a LOT of work.. If it happens fine but not praying for a husband. .He will find me somehow.. someway.. lol GOD BLESS .. Thank you as always for a timely message.!
I’m very thankful for this message brother Tony. You’re appreciated 🙏🏽
This message truly blessed me. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
God bless you and your family in the mist of this storm coming your way. I’m praying for Florida, please stay safe🙏🏾
Marriage is a MINISTRY!!
And just like any ministry… it’s heavy, so thirsting after it is a red flag because we should only be after God’s heart more than anything in the world.
Tony Gaskins thank you so much for your ministrie. I appreciate this so much in this time following Jesus Christ a a single mother in my single season. There is to much deception. And sometimes I also get caught up in al these voices online. I really had to go to the Lord after this video and repent ask for forgiveness to God.
I thank the Lord for leading me to your channel 🥹❤
"She MAY allow divorce to steal her confidence" well don't allow it by any means. My dad just told me that "in marriage it's important to bend not break". Sometimes you have to leave to save your life. In every sense of the word.
Just prayed to God and thanked Him for you. This is the TRUTH from beginning to end. Everything you said, about marriage, and people not using discernment, not wanting to hear the real truth, ALL TRUE. In these dark days we live in, so refreshing to hear the truth.
Thank you for this message as a young woman I needed this so much!
Thank you for dishing this video out, for your bravery cause I hear the teaching and brave enough to listen and apply. Thanks again to you and your family.
Your right Tony...I already knew something was off when in an interview Toure said he met Sarah at a conference among other spiritual leaders but that he didn't know who she was and that when he heard her speak he knew then she was his wife , ha! yeah right he knew exactly who she was and knew that she came from money. Same about Simone Biles...her husband said that he didn't know who Simone Biles was and I was thinking ummmm no know body knew who you were until you married Simone Biles. Men marry for status as well just as much as women try to.
Tony I be waiting for you to upload your videos and you do not disappoint! They are right on time and always with the word, keep going my Brother!
I have been married for 30 years and you speaking nothing but the truth! Im grateful but it’s work thank you Jesus!!! Im blessed but God !!! Im so grateful my husband is following God!!!
Thank you Tony for all you do! The one’s that need the message, take it & apply it are still here with you. “A man will be delighted more w/his one lost sheep he found, than the 19 that stayed”. ❤️🙏🏽
That last bit about seasons and the ripe fruit just blessed my life. Thank you!!
Continue doing the work God has for you, and be encouraged. I can truly say you helped me get to where I am today. I made a lot of mistakes in my past, but my mind and discernment is so strong now, because of God’s grace and mercy and also the work you are doing. I was in a bad relationship, and I still have to communicate with him, because we have a 5 year old daughter, but you helped me realize my worth and that no man who’s worth it will make you compromise your soul. I broke that soul tie and have remained abstinent. Glory to God! Thank you for what you’re doing. And the women who are truly listening like I have will take this wisdom and apply it to our lives and to help other women.
I agree with the fruits of the spirit! That’s one of the main things I pay attention to in determining if someone is from God. If the fruits are missing, it’s questionable to me.
Oh boy you have sobered me up. My heart is pricked
I absolutely agree. I’m divorced due to DV but outside the physical violence the stress of working raising kids dealing with his moodiness. I will say I do not in any way feel rushed to get married. I’m ok where I’m at. I enjoy these videos because it has really helped me tremendously. Thank you for your obedience from God…
Hey Tony I and my husband are subscribers of yours for the message you teach and your walk with God.
It’s so hard in today’s world as a woman feeling like the duty of everything else in our home besides money, is my responsibility.
Especially after my husband has given me many reasons (lies and infidelity) to walk away.
Can you please explain to us married women, what the difference between “forgiveness” vs“Trust” is?
I feel like our counselors have coached me into a lifestyle with my husband that is far too emotionally expensive.
I was the stay at home wife since we met. And after multiple conflicts that left me feeling like I have no money to leave, I decided to go back to school.
But while doing so, I’m cleaning the house multiple times a day, grocery shopping and taking care for the kids all day. When he gets off of work, I ask for 2 hours of help so I can study and I’m not getting that. He isn’t aggressive, he is just lazy at things that are not work or dopamine related.
I have forgiven him , but it feels like the structure of the marriage is still too much.
Please please please give me godly counsel and more insight.
Or please make a video on this topic. I’m trying not to divorce but I don’t know how to keep up with his image of a wife without sacrificing my peace.
Can’t talk to the in laws because they are the reason he is this way. I also have no support system out side of a few friends. I have 3 years of school left . And I’m 32. My kids are 11 and 2.
I would like to stay married, but I want to be married Gods way. I don’t want to be miserable.
I'm anticipating belly hurting laughs. I'm laughing already🤣
I’m sure you and your family are good but stay safe out there! Not sure how close Milton will be to you all, so blessings
Great word Mr. Gaskins 🙏🏽
You are signing up for snoring 😂😂😂😂 Oh Lord I’m the one who snores, cuz we both can’t be snoring nie😂😂😂😂
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I have witnessed couples who lost their excitement after marrying, because they were looking at marriage only as a "Fairy Tale" and not a "Reality." Actually, marriage is the type of relationship that allows couples to be FREE. But, many couples forget about the LOVEBIRDS that they once were, and begin to feel that they are now in BONDAGE. However, marriage can be Drama-free and Peaceful, (with understanding) if mixed with the "Fairy Tale" and with the "Reality" of marriage. And this can happen by both, being creative and doing kind things that are UNEXPECTED, and not just waiting for traditional Holiday's, birthdays, anniversaries and Valentine's Day. They should also be "Respectful" and allow each other to maintain their individuality, so that they don't become uninterested with each other. Have fun, even if it's just pulling a prank on each other sometimes, because this keeps a spark in the marriage. And above all things, they should always keep God first in their marriage! 😊
Beautiful message. Thank you for opening our eyes.
All of this is so confusing. I totally romanticized marriage. I completely feel like I have made a huge mistake and now I have to figure out how to cope and make the best of decision. I have been in a marriage where I thought I was being a good wife but I feel completely neglected. This video is insightful but it also makes me believe that I don’t have much to look forward to in marriage. I kind of feel disappointed. I hear Tony state the things that he does for his wife and how understanding he is of all the things she does for the home and their children. Or how there are things she does for him. But husband is not that man. His only focus is work and the cleanliness of our home
Lord ,God I pray for Tony to be strengthened to continue to do what he does to bring you glory and honor,Amen.
I truly understand I was married for 10 years to a big emotional almost kid like when I had 5 children to raise ,but I wasn't as wise as I am now because I should have waited for marriage, but also it was a test and a lesson for me as well,it's a job, with a real job, parenting, cooking,cleaning ect...and to be married to a person who has difficulty communicating it's a headache. But I still believe in the union of marriage,but now I'm focusing on me and what I want to do not a relationship at all, I'm 60 and these so called Godly conferences are built on money mostly especially for these new age so called pastors, not all but most where these women as you said are deceived and spending money they don't have to attend conferences of these immoral people who really don't care about anything but the $ .Let God bring you a husband if he chooses to when he's ready. These conferences only promote a feel good thing, not correction or conviction, because that doesn't sell........
To God be the glory…Continue to teach the Word of God, Brother Tony.
My marriage was a cakewalk for the first two years until chronic illness came into play. And, that was just the beginning of MANY struggles. But, no one thinks of those things prior to marriage, nor when they get along so perfectly. We would literally have conversations about how good we had it and then BOOM! To say that God has humbled us, would be a vast understatement. Marriage will TEST you. Be ready for anything and everything.
I’m on a 6 day cruise with my kids and hubby still getting the knowledge!!! Thanks Uncle Tony for your time! But 💯 marriage is low key a headache work has to be put in!!!! Nothing good comes easy!! 🥴
I use to listen to you years ago and stumbled on your channel again recently. Ive really noticed and enjoyed seeing your growth in your faith. Thank you for what you do. I do think you should start that church on relationships. It is what’s missing. I have been that fit, fashionable, faithful, celibate girl in church in LA for years now. I’m always disappointed in the lack of celibacy in the church. God Bless your family.
Thank you Tony for this video..i just happened to stop and watch it today. You made a lot of sense and explained topics in the spirit that gives us Christian women more insight on the word of God and more to think and pray about when it comes to marriage, prophets, speakers, ministers, fruits of the spirit,. We need to pay more attention and to ask the Holy Spirit to open our eyes to see, ears to hear and wisdom to understand with clarity when reading His word.
I was also born on march 8! I totally resonate with your message 100% Being born in international woman’s day literally naturally gives u the ability to guide women in better ways!
The bible covers us. Thank you for this line
My family is in FL praying for you & yours not sure if you all are evacuating but stay safe! 🙏🏽
Great message 🙏
19:25 lol you signing up for snoring. I dread. Give me my own bedroom please
I am DIVORCING lol and believe it or not I never felt like I wanted to be single when I was married. I loved being in my marriage but he had that spirit of lil ugly on him and was just mean when he was angry. He didn't show this side UNTIL about 4 years in when he lost his job. Everything went downhill in the matter of 10 months. From being a great husband to a grown boy that threw temper tantrums. I couldn't believe my eyes. Counseling with a pastor and life coach and months of therapy he still was throwing tantrums. I filed for divorce and stood on business...it'll be final in a month. I'm in a new relationship now and MAN day and night. He's so different and I'm definitely getting married again but sometimes you won't know. You can use all the discernment in the world and still end up DIVORCED...or stuck in a crazy marriage. Sometimes you don't know how evil a man can be until he feels like he's hit rock bottom. Which may never happen or might happen months in.
So basically your in blatant adultery and you think God will bless this new adulterous relationship? Your still married. Your doing the same thing Toure Roberts did.
@lakisha499 yep the same way Tony and his wife were? 🤣 this is the real world...and I'm LEGALLY separated and well within my rights to be in a NEW relationship. That's not adultery 😂 and we not in the Old Testament days sweetie
🗣Speak on the LOUDNESS Tony! Loud Ladies!😂😂😂
I sincerely appreciate all that you do Tony. Many Blessings to you & your Family always!!❤💙❤
Lord protect Tony because he calling and unveiling the mess to wake the masses. Read your own bible!! Do not depend on these youtube pastors. Money is the root
Amen
Wisdom cries aloud in the streets….stay encouraged Mr Gaskins keep crying out !!
This is an amazing video! I stop idolizing marriage years ago.
You got to remember if u not loving God nor yourself u can’t be submissive cause u treating God wrong and u have no standards in your life marriage is a covenant submit to God first in God will show u the right Way on how to carry yourself and how to treat your husband or wife right in how to love correctly it start with God first period
Tony brotha, u ain't lying when you say the Devil will send a Decoy or Counterfeit spouse, before the real deal, cause remember the Devil KNOWS what WE LIKE👀 When we "Date" we need to collect proper counsel from on high (Jesus), or else it's Consequences and Repercussions. 'Member mi tell ya' (Jamaican Accent). 😌
Tony is really about that life cause the smoke !
listening and thinking same thing! But I like that he backs it up biblically and honestly. It makes so much sense and as a single person, I am glad i am learning along with prayer, and God's guidance :)