Should you EVER snitch on a friend? | Patty Walters | Speakerbox
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Is it ever ok to tell on someone? Patty Walters wants your advice on his situation!
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I think it is definitely ok to tell on someone if the thing that they are doing is threatening to their life or well-being, aswell as relationships with friends or family you know that they do not want to get rid of. What is not ok is just doing it out of spite or revenge on something small that you will totally forget about in the next few days. Great video Patty! Keep up the work jimmy :-)
Hey Laura, that's a great way of looking at it, thanks for sharing!
No Problem :)
Laura Horne That distinction between your friend being in danger and something perhaps less serious seems like a good way to assess the situation :)
Thanks! I really believe that it is the best way, and something that may not be life-threatening but may seem like the whole world is collapsing in that one moment, will be forgotten in the next couple of weeks so i really think some things aren't worth ruining relationships with people for! :)
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I would probably just tell my friend.. by doing so, he will know that I don't like his behaviour, instead of letting it carry on for a longer time. If he decides to continue doing the drugs and alcohol; fine, but I will distance myself from him.
Hey Jesper, thanks for your comment! Letting your friend know your concerns is probably the best place to start and see if the situation improves. It's important to look out for your own wellbeing at the same time, but letting your friend know you're there for them might really help them.
I'd probably confront them about it first but if nothing changed in a couple of weeks I'd speak to a friend or someone else I could trust
My best friend was having a problem that was really hurting his life. He was an extreme liar. He was super insecure about everything true about himself so he just started making stuff up. It got to the point almost everything he said was some sort of a lie. When he told me, after some stuff happened I talked to a teacher who I could trust and she was able to talk to him. Now he's talking to a therapist and getting help. If I'd kept it to myself he'd still be in a really bad place. When it comes to drugs and stuff, I really think it depends on if it puts them in a bad place or not. For my friends I know do stuff like that, it doesn't really effect their lives much. But if you can tell they aren't as happy as they were before they started, and all it's doing is hurting them, then I'd talk to them about it. You can't know what's going on if you don't listen.
I would tell someone if they were hurting them or there body in any way but if they where messing around I wouldn't. I would also confront them before going to an adult
I honestly had a personal situation with alcohol and a friend. I work in a popular pub chain and due to the law we are not allowed to have anyone under the legal age (18 in the UK) consume alcohol on the premises. She had her boyfriend who was 18 buy the drinks to avoid getting ID'd the first time I thought this Was happening to her afterward and confronted her.
I then saw her definitely drinking alcohol again after she promised to me she would not. I told my manager which has gotten her banned and on pub watch till her 19th Birthday. I felt like she was risking too many people's livelihoods when she could f just waited and I think it was very selfish of her and in many situations when you feel the need to snitch in a friend it's the right thing to do.
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I'm also straight edge and I've dealt with this. I didn't want to distance myself from my friend but I needed to for a bit. He was really sad about me being gone and so was I. I finally confronted him about it and he realized that his drug abuse had an affect on others as well as Himself. We're back to sPeaking
I think I would definitely confront my friend about the issue and talk it out with them and tell them how their actions were making me feel. If it didn't stop after that then I would know they aren't a true friend and that they don't care enough about me to leave these substances alone.
Hey Kendal, you're right, talking to your friend is a good idea, and it's important to make sure you look out for yourself at the same time, but if you're worried about a friend's actions and their wellbeing and don't feel you can deal with it alone it can be a good idea to get other people involved, like a teacher or a parent who can try and help them too.
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Also, I believe that you SHOULD tell if your friend is doing something that is going to be bad for them. I'd probably go to them first and give them advice but if they didn't listen then I'd probably get advice from other people :)
We agree Kyra! :) You're right that talking to your friend first of all is a good idea as long as you feel comfortable doing so.
I would confront my friend about how I was concerned about their health and well being. If it was something like drugs or alcohol I would show them how it can damage them, if they didn't listen I would talk to an adult about it :) ps omg hey Patty :D love you and as it is
I feel it's always best to tell someone like another friend and ask for their advice on how to approach the situation and what to tell that person and if after all that they don't listen to you I guess it may have to lead to the hard decision of letting them go out of your life
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I just make my friends aware that they know that i'm completely not ok with it, and if they keep doing it around me then they know theyre risking their friendship with me, seems to work
If I were in the situation I personally would have gone to my friend and talked with them and if that didn't work. Then I would have gone to there parents, my parents, a teacher, or somebody else that I trusted to see what I could or should do.
Great advice, thanks for sharing :) Starting off by approaching your friend and seeing if you can improve the situation that way seems like a good idea before approaching anyone else. If nothing changes, or the situation gets worse then it might be time to get some advice or ask someone else to help and intervene.
I'd try to get them some help. No matter what I have to do if it is affecting them, and their health in a negative way I would tell someone.
If it wasn't much serious, I would just leave him and stop being friends with him because it would be his decision but if it would be more serious, like if he was in real danger and if he loses control over it, I would try to help him, I'd probably discus it with him first and then I'd ask for help somewhere else
Hey Eli, we'd agree that talking to your friend directly is a good place to start and then involving other people if the situation doesn't improve, or you feel like your friend is really putting themselves at risk.
This kinda happened to my girlfriend once, she was being perpressed to smoke by her friends but luckily she tried it once and she said it tasted dicusting and hasn't smoked since really, I don't smoke or do drugs or any of that bullsh*t kinda because of her, if you get me...? I just usually drink tea and it is enough for me (and her)
It depends on what it is, if your snitching on them because they did something little like they prank called someone or stole a chip, then its just not necessary, but if not 'snitching' is going to take a great negative affect on there or another life then telling someone becomes very important.
Hey Daniel, we would agree - assessing the risk to your friend's wellbeing while making sure you look after your own seems a good way of deciding what action to take :)
I definitely think you should have some sort of discussion with them if it effects them or your relationship with them this this way you can tell who your real friends are and show you wheather you should be around them or not a true friend would respect your opinion and hopefully consider what you say
I wouldn’t bring up how their behaviour was affecting me cause I think that’s fairly irrelevant, I would want to speak to them and try to help them figure out any underlying issues that may be causing them to abuse drugs and just generally try to show them that I care about them and it’s okay. I don’t normally agree with snitching but I think if they were out of control and I knew they were engaging in something really dangerous then I feel like you have to tell someone, cause if you don’t and something happened you’d regret it forever. Even if that friend would be angry it’s just a risk you’d have to take when someone’s life is at risk
One of my best friends started smoking shisha and drinking a lot almost every weekend when she started dating her boyfriend.. and we both always used to say smoking is shit, it ruins your lungs, it makes you stink and whatever.. when she started I just kept telling her in the face what we had always both agreed on: that it's stupid and chavy and that there's no reason or sense in doing it .. I said it half jokingly like "there's cancer in there"or whatever but she knew I was serious... at first she didn't care (because just as I didn't have any problem telling her in the face , she didn't have problem with being told by me)... but then it started affecting her health and now she want's to live healthier again :)
...but as pretty much all of my friends she still drinks quite a lot... :p
To conclude: if someone is a good enough friend to tell them everything, you can tell them that you think what they're doing is shit
SNITCHES GET STITCHES MY NIGERIAN
If he means his friend and roommate, Jason the rapist, then YES. Yes you snitch on your friend.