Lysa Terkeurst Shares Her BEST Advice for Recovering from Betrayal
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- Опубліковано 15 жов 2024
- Can you trust someone? Here are the red flags.
Lysa TerKeurst, #1 New York Times Bestselling author, returns to the podcast and discusses the red flags that show you can't trust someone and how to recover from betrayal. Lysa shares what to do when you're tempted to quit ministry, why control is a substitute for trust, and why she didn't quit ministry and move to Montana to become a waitress.
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“ what you don’t trust, you will try to control “ another great episodes
Or how about just walk away? Some things/situations/people are only for God...
@@rennell714 agreed
God is so good at healing our wounds. Lisa is very brave in speaking out and sharing the heartbreak of deception. She didn't let a root of bitterness take over her thinking and turn her story into Art's. She chose to forgive and move on. May her marriage to Captain Chaz bring joy along with praise to God!❤ He is a faithful Father of His bride!
I've had a double whammy - betrayed multiple times over 25 years by church leadership as a pastor's wife, and then my pastor husband divorced me 10 years ago. I don't trust churches now as I've even been hurt and betrayed during my 10 years when I was trying to rebuild my life so I dont want to commit to a new church. I appreciate your wisdom and will listen to this multiple times to try to allow God to work this out in my heart and spirit. I'm sorry for all you've been through. I've listened to your story many times and it broke my heart. Praise God for how He has healed you.
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I'm praying for you and for me and asking God to relocate us someplace where we can put our whole ❤ into it for our destiny in The Kingdom of God
Such a good description of all the levels/areas of betrayal. Infidelity completely blew up so many areas of our life and did so much damage to the family.
I'm so sorry to hear that
😢 I am so sorry for the additional betrayal from those that really should know better. Unbelievable. Very painful! Good for you, you are still ministering to our hearts. I needed that today. Been there, still healing. Thank you 🙏
I've never witnessed someone articulate this elephant in the room so brilliantly. Thank you both.
Hope it was helpful
I can't believe someone would use another's misery as a marketing tag line! Dear God! Lots of good wisdom here. Thanks!
It's sad, but it happens :(
Just been through two years of this. I so appreciate the articulation of the different levels of betrayal. What gets us through? The path of Christ, the cross of authentic discipleship, and trust that we are growing more closely into the image of Christ by the suffering.
Thanks for sharing Noel
This is such a relevant topic. The discussion here is so rich. I am currently trying to develop coping mechanisms with the increase of lying and inconsistent Christians. There are many transformative ideas and concepts shared with authenticity. So grateful the algorithm offered this discovery on my feed. Thank you! To God Be The Glory! ✨🙏🏽✨🙏🏽✨
So glad you came across our conversation
Thank you this was such a great conversation ❤❤❤ Lysa you are Amazing and so inspiring to my journey towards healing from betrayal and I have new Hope 🙏
Thanks for watching
All relationships carry risk with it. True that.
Needed this
… good timing today
Hope it's helpful
I believe it most certainly will be (helpful)
… it’s generating soooo much prayer and deep conversations !
Such an original interview topic with her. So well done. Thank you all. ❤
Glad you enjoyed it!
This has been insightful ,you were able to explain perfectly some things i had been through as well . Great interview !
Glad it was helpful!
Love that Hyper spiritualising and leap fogged the progress of healing. We must be healed not out a band aid to cover our bloody wounds. Be healed from the inside out. Amen ❤
Great insight!
Yes. I first heard this from Tim Fletcher. His series on trauma work on UA-cam is phenomenal. He calls it spiritual bypassing. We have to do the work to heal from trauma.
This oversimplifies disclosure: In my case, after a 30 year marriage, I asked a question, and he answered in the affirmative (while still cloaking the details and blame shifting), with very little or no desire for reconciliation - basically a "it is what it is." Disclosure is not always "cut and dried." I appreciate the statement that we will all be betrayed, so Lysa is helping to give us the tools to better navigate. Jesus was betrayed. We best learn from Him, who entrusted Himself to the one who judges righteously."
Praying , good insight to use . I did The same thing after my divorce looked for healing first .
This lady reached right into my brain & spoke what I feel & think fairly often in this season. I too am a recovering betrayal survivor, I’d like to call myself right now. Deff healing from a couple situations that happened over the time span of about a year’s time. The situations are over & done with. Now, I’m just noticing the way I react to it. I’ve been through quite a bit of betrayal in the last 4 years. I do think all of us collectively can relate to this. Bc a lot has changed.
Great conversation. Thanks Lysa and Carey.
Thanks for listening
43:37 Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing a therapy practice of drawing to describe memories. That narrative that we say to ourselves - Dr Gabor Mate describes it the same, that trauma is not what happened but how it changed you (paraphrasing); he also talkes about the working theory - two people may be communicating but there may be four persons...
Carrie, it was so really helpful.
Would you also kindly discuss bully pastors /church bullying/spiritual abuse by pastor,coz definitely there are some good church folk and aspiring and some current church leaders who may be going through such tragic experiences from their Church Pastors which is real heart-breaking thing. It would really be helpful for people like me. Thank you in advance.Your podcasts are truly a blessing.Thank you Carrie. I am from India
Thank you so much! I feel validated by much of what you shared.
I was curious, what do you mean at the end by “giving the devil too much credit”?
disclosure is still a betrayal, still a shock.
When we're lonely after family deaths 💔 and divorce it's so hard to trust new friend's and new dating relationships. Sometimes it's about what can you do for me type of thing in friendships. Otherwise the friendships don't go forward. 😢
Betrayed is very harming to our bodies this woman is so brave God bless her troubled emotions and heal her.
Diminishing the closeness reduces the risk of closeness. … yes.
Lysa, what is the name of the scan you had?
I do not know you or your full story, but just hearing the intro I can say that we can expect more betrayal. God is separating the wheat from the tares. I’ve been in this desert awhile and I can tell you that He will set a table before you in the presence of your enemies. Just keep going, say to church, where you are snubbed, made to feel less than. Etc. God is going to strengthen you to stay where He puts you. If it’s time to go, He will make it plain. Their acceptance of you is nothing compared to pleasing Jesus. After all the Pharisees never received who Jesus was. It’s going to be made plain who are tares. But I dare not judge. I keep praying for them and don’t return evil for evil or insult for insult lest you become like them.
Keep your eyes on Jesus.
Some of the red flags sound like a description of ADHD challenges. Makes me wonder
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