My therapist literally abandoned me with no referral because I expressed anger in a session after over a year of CBT with zero measurable progress. The only people drawn to angry males are other angry males who have already been completely socially isolated. A more accurate statement would be: men can be happy, or they can be gay men. Gay men are allowed to have anger or any other emotion.
This take that men are allowed to express anger is completely detached from observable reality. Men aren't allowed to express preferences or enjoy things, but the very last thing the system wants is men to express anger. It HATES anger above all else. The only time as a man you are allowed to express anger is on behalf of someone else. I would not trust these therapists.
Interesting regarding the conversation around anger, I don't actually think anywhere in my life I'm allowed to be angry short of alone and in my room. Maybe around my friends, but definitely not anywhere around the people I live with. I am allowed to be happy though, that's because me being happy really does not interfere with anything, or disturb anything.
Men do better commiserating with their bros. Because their bros are going through the same nonsense as they are. It's not about getting in touch with your feelings, its about what can I do to fix this situation?
I think we generally get in touch with our feelings while we fix the situation :) While girls will get together and talk stuff deliberately we accomplish the same goal but usually while making things. But there is an concerted effort to remove male only spaces. Thus to remove places where men would gather to do that.
Where is angry accepted? Not work, school, shops or with the family. I think what is meant here is that anger doesn't take away from manliness... not that its been accepted.
4:04 YES! I read those recommendations from the APA and holy god... Who wrote that garbage? No wonder men don't like therapy if that's how they frame men and men's problems.
Men need a complete hearing with plenty of safe space to say what is truly on their minds supper fine details need well packed answers that work. Such as There is no agency for me as a individual.
Women provoke anger and if man express it he is treated as abuser. I know this game. Repressing anger makes you weak and it's exactly the purpose behind it. I know it from home, school and finally from marriage. My ex-wife worked on making me angry to the point of being aggressive. It wasn't meet with understanding in theraphy. Being angry, even if obviously provoked is problem with ME. Seriously? 😂 Therapists allow for abuse in the name of "fighting with violence". You therapists are contributing to male abuse. You're disgusting to me.
Men are not permitted to be angry AT ALL today. Not at all. You guys…. seriously. You can’t hear your bias? 😢
My therapist literally abandoned me with no referral because I expressed anger in a session after over a year of CBT with zero measurable progress. The only people drawn to angry males are other angry males who have already been completely socially isolated.
A more accurate statement would be: men can be happy, or they can be gay men. Gay men are allowed to have anger or any other emotion.
when you as a man are told to express your feelings what you are really told is you are encouraged to express female-approved feelings.
This take that men are allowed to express anger is completely detached from observable reality. Men aren't allowed to express preferences or enjoy things, but the very last thing the system wants is men to express anger. It HATES anger above all else. The only time as a man you are allowed to express anger is on behalf of someone else.
I would not trust these therapists.
Interesting regarding the conversation around anger, I don't actually think anywhere in my life I'm allowed to be angry short of alone and in my room. Maybe around my friends, but definitely not anywhere around the people I live with. I am allowed to be happy though, that's because me being happy really does not interfere with anything, or disturb anything.
Men do better commiserating with their bros.
Because their bros are going through the same nonsense as they are.
It's not about getting in touch with your feelings, its about what can I do to fix this situation?
I think we generally get in touch with our feelings while we fix the situation :) While girls will get together and talk stuff deliberately we accomplish the same goal but usually while making things.
But there is an concerted effort to remove male only spaces. Thus to remove places where men would gather to do that.
Exactly! Therapy is for people who think they have problems not for men who actually have problems.
Where is angry accepted? Not work, school, shops or with the family. I think what is meant here is that anger doesn't take away from manliness... not that its been accepted.
"work husband"
4:04 YES! I read those recommendations from the APA and holy god... Who wrote that garbage? No wonder men don't like therapy if that's how they frame men and men's problems.
Stop laughing when you talk about men being sent to therapy by people that apparently care about them. Seriously. Stop. Laughing.
Men don’t stay in therapy for the same reason I imagine a lot of men got bored of this video 3 minutes in and left.
Men need a complete hearing with plenty of safe space to say what is truly on their minds supper fine details need well packed answers that work. Such as There is no agency for me as a individual.
Great episode, really brushes up against it, barley slips through your grasp
It treats them like defective women. Not hard to awnser.
Women are looking for things they want to hear. Men want answers
Lots of helpful tidbits to help us connect to our male clients.
Super insightful video, thanks
Feminism did this to men plus we men need solutions to get our purpose back not being feminised #andrewtate
Women provoke anger and if man express it he is treated as abuser.
I know this game.
Repressing anger makes you weak and it's exactly the purpose behind it.
I know it from home, school and finally from marriage.
My ex-wife worked on making me angry to the point of being aggressive. It wasn't meet with understanding in theraphy.
Being angry, even if obviously provoked is problem with ME. Seriously? 😂
Therapists allow for abuse in the name of "fighting with violence".
You therapists are contributing to male abuse.
You're disgusting to me.
The woman in this video doesn't seem to take anything the man has to say seriously, in this sad, sad video. I hope she loses her license.
Women typically have to reinterpret the world to one where everything suits them, mainly a world where men are utilities and girls can do no wrong.
It is a biological reality not social reality