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sometimes the difference is in the goal, where it's leading. The task of getting at the truth can look like having an agenda, for instance. It still helps to pick things apart with honesty though.

Therapy has a public trust issue. The modern culture/politics of industry associations and training sites essentially alienate a significant portion of the population. This emphasis becomes a dilution of the individual, an imposition of external ideologies, and a distraction from deeper issues. Therapy becomes a mere tool for social engineering.

Interesting a show about men and men's issues and the woman instantly wants to make it about women's issues in marginalized men's concerns once again. This is why men want nothing to do with therapy and therapists. It is basically a female domain run by women for the benefit of women to screw men over.

Love Mr Kelly but the word salad of the interviewer is distracting and diluting the message

What is the FB page she mention? I’m trying to find her book. This was such a great talk.

Men tend to be rational. Your field is increasingly not. It's not a good match.

Amazing video good job 🖒

It is a biological reality not social reality

Pictures can prove a positive relationship with the child.

Gross 🤢

yes it is- im burnt out and looking to walk away

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Shoulda called this one "when is it acceptable to discriminate against men", and the answer seems to be, "when you are a woman"

I have always found cbt to seem very condescending and ultimately naive. I do not want to imagine a new set of beliefs that might he more convenient, and then try to convince myself that I believe them instead of what I actually believe. And I spent years doing the "behavioural approach", making myself do things even though i didnt want to, and spoiler, it never made me feel better. I do not have such a poor understanding of myself that I cannot predict how certain behaviours will make me feel. It didn't help decades ago (parent saying "you'll enjoy yourself once you're there!") and it doesn't help now.

I got certified to become a I got certified to become a peer support specialist through RI international in San Diego california. I love the way they did it! They started first with a class to learn how to help ourselves they gave us tools for us to work with in our own recovery and then we did another class on how to help others. And I love the way that they did that. I now move to New York and I'm taking the peer support classes to become certified in new york. But I don't mind because what I didn't learn like there to become certified in new york. But I don't mind because what I didn't learn like there to become certified in new york. But I don't mind because I can carry what I did learn in California and learn new things here in New York because I'm sure there's going to be things that I didn't learn in california. So actually I would like to be certified in all states so that I can keep learning from people different ways to do it because the most important thing to me is being an effective peer advocate for others.

Therapists have to be careful not to locate the problem solely in the individual. Friendships are no longer prioritised in our culture, and it's hard to make friends.

It treats them like defective women. Not hard to awnser.

Men need a complete hearing with plenty of safe space to say what is truly on their minds supper fine details need well packed answers that work. Such as There is no agency for me as a individual.

I hate CBT.

I've been in therapy many years. In some ways it has been helpful but in other ways it's useless. I get annoyed that they say thoughts cause feelings and freewill exists. I cannot change how i feel no matter what i think. Basically all that works is going to sleep. Once I'm agitated and my thoughts are racing, breathing, mindfulness, journaling, etc is worthless. Getting away from the situation helps but is useless if I'm at my job. I'm getting annoyed thinking that I can control my thoughts. Some thoughts make things worse, but no amount of positive thinking changes my negative thought process. It's a feeling that is causing the negativity, not the other way around.

An expert witness huh? Not sure if you know this about our court system but expert Witnesses are purchased by both sides and essentially an expert comes up with whatever the hell you need them to say on the stand. He's going to have to do a lot better if he wants any credibility in my eyes. Especially since those expert Witnesses don't necessarily work for free, or for cheap those bastards cost thousands of dollars.

Also just saying this from a male perspective, if I found out that a therapist I was talking to believe there were more than two genders. I would instantly walk out and never speak to them again. Not sure if you know this but it is the multiple genders who continuously demean the very existence of men. Particularly straight white men who are now deemed as the evil of all patriarchy and must be taken down many pegs. And I'm not even white I'm just freaking afraid.

Interesting regarding the conversation around anger, I don't actually think anywhere in my life I'm allowed to be angry short of alone and in my room. Maybe around my friends, but definitely not anywhere around the people I live with. I am allowed to be happy though, that's because me being happy really does not interfere with anything, or disturb anything.

Great episode! I liked your practical examples. However, I think the discussion could have been enhanced by including the principle of veracity or dealing truthfully with individuals found in the ACA code of ethics. When faced with dilemmas of autonomy, beneficence, and nonmaleficence, veracity can serve as a valuable counterbalance. While we should avoid imposing our morality directly on clients, we can still strive to provide accurate information about the potential outcomes of various choices(Psychologically, behaviorally, or otherwise). This respects the client's autonomy but also allows counselors to still deal with reality. I also like to conceptualize these ethics within the golden mean idea. It's possible to bring any of the foundational ethics to their excess and deficiencies. Thanks for your work!

Where is angry accepted? Not work, school, shops or with the family. I think what is meant here is that anger doesn't take away from manliness... not that its been accepted.

Therapy is RUBBISH.... PLUS.. I have had long term relationships with ( Three ) LCSW's.... Never again...they we're NUTS ,..BONKERS , SICK.. all three of them and very weird too. ...go have " Counseling" with ' traditional ' Elders...not some women from a totally different world than yours,...i don't care what the ' dsm ' says garbage....i am sixty three...and a. Former Hairdresser...

The only therapist who would ask, why are you asking for a coach, is an incompetent therapist.

One thing I have noticed is that poly people look down on siwngers, swingers dont' look down on poly. When telling poly people I also swing I always get " I am not a swinger" I need to have a connection with someone. When in reality that is most swingers I have met too.

calling rules boundaries are people that have something against possessive terms and don't follow rules well. They are the same thing. it's just a mental gymnastic one does to trick themselves or their partners.

prove me wrong. Poly people are or were broken by a bad breakup and in the process of healing they now distribute their needs across multiple people and also refuse to be someone else's everything. Some are happy but most are actually depressed and lying to them selves that they are happy. The whole point of finding the right person is that person is your everything. But people suck and it's hard. You have to work at it and grow with each other. I also have not seen one poly couple that didn't marry young and then later stayed together but went poly.

Best thing we can all do for men's mental health is to stop women from invading male-only spaces. It's nice to have a place to go and be yourself free of judgement or expectation to be a "value provider".

Here's a no-brainer children go to counseling and then they have to go back home alone with the alienating parent

Love this conversation! I’m in grad school for marriage and family Therapy and hearing about ways to decolonize mental health care is so exciting! Thank you for sharing this ❤

It’s impossible to do this work without being cynical. Complete waste of time!

Wow, if this is how much a therapist hates their job, do you realize how you are messing up your clients???? Please rather quit

Such an important topic. What incredible advice. *Every* ‘therapist’ needs to listen to this and it should be compulsory listening for students. I’m an RN, now studying a Masters to be s psychotherapist. The most important book I read at uni when studying in Australia to be an RN was ‘ Nursing and the Law’ by Patricia Staunton. It’s about the Australian environment and may be out of print now but I learned how vital it was to think legally st all times in my work and especially when making clinical decisions and when documenting. I always wrote detailed notes even as colleagues wrote ‘no change’.for similar shift scenarios. The thought “how will this look in a legal case in 2 years?” kept me focused for years. I hope to include the same practice principles in my clinical role as a therapist in the future. So I particularly appreciated listening to your guest talking about the same principles. Although we have a different regulatory and legal environment in Australia, the principles discussed in this podcast still resonate. Thanks so much to your guest. What an incredibly important job he does (and has) and what a great service he provides. I believe it would be very challenging work but I hope it’s also rewarding to him. Thanks again for an excellent podcast. I’ll listen to some more!

Great episode, really brushes up against it, barley slips through your grasp

I agree. All CBT therapists I encountered seemed to be extremely arrogant and did not want to talk about errors etc. In the end, with my last therapist, I even tried to read Aaron T. Becks works in hope to convince him that he might make mistakes and what he did to me does not work. He did not even listened to me but dismissed ecerything I said immediately

One thing in the beginning. (I just started the video.) I feel some people do have a strong hatred against CBT becausd there is a very irrational consensus in Institutions about how awesome CBT is. And many Institutions systematically ignore counter evidence.(For example, I had cbt for 6 years with Multiple therapists. Did not help at all. Certain people then told me, the fact that I had CBT for 6 years without any positive results proofs that I need CBT.) If for whatever reason, you do not want CBT but something else, it feels like that you have to struggle with a lot of people to get taken serious. And because of this struggle of no matter what you say, they do not take your points serious, criticism of "CBT does not work for me due to these reasons" devolve to "CBT is the biggest BS on the planet and Aaron T. Beck was a huge quack"😢😅 If you have has bad experiences with cbt, it is a huge struggle to get taken serious

Loved your chat on this matter. I was recently asked by my supervisor if I was working harder than my client. Days later, I made a decision that I would rather not take in any clients who are not ready to work hard for self-understanding. I see counselling as an art. As an artist, I know that I am allowed to have my own style and specialty. If I have been trained to work hard at work, then I need to embrace that as well. So, to be fair, I shall remind all my prospective clients, during the free consultation, that I prefer to work with them when they have decided to grow out of their situation through a journey with my counselling as their support.

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This was one of the more messed up discussion i have ever listened too. I think you should have taken the job at Apple.

The woman in this video doesn't seem to take anything the man has to say seriously, in this sad, sad video. I hope she loses her license.

Women ruined mental health care for men. Women send men to therapy to get them to act more like women then they reject the men for doing just that.

"work husband"

I enjoyed this discussion. I also think the two perspectives were live examples of varying people. Convert bullying is often disguised as "jokes" as we age.

I am very interested in learning about potential effects on family dynamics. Even to observe the emotional effects of something as seemingly harmless as communication patterns. Ex, Labeling negative communication patterns as love, and the distortion that can cause to family and children.

These two have so much to learn. Truly a hopeless discussion on bullying. The last people I would want my child to see if they were being bullied. They barely take the subject seriously and spend most of the time laughing at their own crap jokes. Shameful.

Thank you for bringing pop psychology out of the murky waters and adding some dimensions and definitions. And you know I appreciated you both mentioning Kubler-Ross' stages of grief and the lack of evidence to support it.

Add Terrence Real to the list of pop psychologists