I'm obsessed with the fact that you were so worried that no one would watch a 3 minute video, and now here we all are, watching you talk for a half hour straight.
Isn’t that so wild!!! Every video I post that’s a little longer, I feel the same way I did about that first 3 minute video. That stretching into new territory will always feel scary but it’s so fun to try new things!! And the worst thing that can happen is it doesn’t work out. But that’s why making content I REALLY enjoy making has to be the starting point. Because it can be soul crushing when it doesn’t land the way you hope it will - and liking it yourself and thinking it’s funny keeps you moving forward 😂❤️
@@elyse_myers the 25 minutes went by so quickly I didn't think it possibly could be the end of the video already. I got caught up in everything you said and was sad it was over.
Right?! Those 25 min just went by WAY too fast actually! When she said "this will be a good question to end on" I literally had to look at the play bar to verify that it was almost over. 😩
When you said “I didn’t know postpartum depression was a TYPE of depression. Not timing” it seriously just knocked the wind out of me. All of this time I had no idea there was a difference and my son just turned a year old. Elyse I had tears streaming down my face because Every. Single. Word. You said about your postpartum experience was EVERYTHING I’ve been through and no one talks about it and it feels like no one understands it. And without you giving full disclosure of how deep those feelings really went and how hard it really was. I know. I just know. You don’t even need to say it. I wish in those darkest moments of new motherhood, we could’ve just held each other. I was desperate for someone to validate my own feelings. I know this is an extremely difficult and vulnerable topic to discuss but I cannot tell you how many woman you could be helping and even saving by talking about it. I wish I saw this small part of your video when I was going through the thick of it because it just tremendously impacted me. I am so thankful you chose to keep it in. Thank you.
I wasn’t successfully able to have a child- both my babies passed away before they were fully ‘cooked’ but after the first one I had such a hard time with depression! OMG And I later learned that when you have a pregnancy loss your body goes through the same hormone shifts as though you delivered a live baby. No one told me that at the time- that was 2002. Add to that I was 42 and this was my first pregnancy so I had fears I’d never be able to get pregnant again. Yeah, so I appreciated it a lot too. Also, do antidepressants help this type of depression? I think they helped me quite a bit. I didn’t hear Elyse say anything about taking them. Can you all please give me feedback?
I had PPD and it was awful. I already have PTSD, anxiety and depression and it was worst than any of that. I hate that I don't remember the little moments from her first few months it makes me sad.
Elyse✨ I feel like your my little bright spot on the internet. I’m new to your community and very much in love. Appreciate all the awareness you bring to ADHD and mental health 💕
I concur! I had it pretty bad. I ended up going on & having another child - who I love w/ my whole being - & I felt kind of pressured to do so. It was so unhealthy for me. You're lucky to have Jonas to support you & your mental health (plus being able to stand up for yourself). ❤️ Loved this Q&A!!
hey elyse! cameras overheating is a VERY common problem with content creators and i always try to give them advice that your memory card is probably too quick for your camera. often times creators buy a card with the most storage because they don’t want to clear out the card, but i guarantee it would be much more useful for you to film, dump your footage on a hard drive and format after every video. get a 64gb. that’s more than enough space. that could also be why your batteries are dying so fast because your camera is working twice as hard to try and keep up with the speed of the card. i can go more into detail about what the symbols and stuff means on the card, or i would also just recommend doing your own research. there’s a ton of easily accessible information that can help with your workflow. anyway, hope this was helpful😁
@@mickelfritz No. Not at all. In fact, the last time I had to buy SD cards was in like 2015, so my advice was kind of dated. In my experience, it was difficult finding a memory card with slower speeds and higher storage, but having bought a few recently, I found that wasn't the case at all. There are plenty of options nowadays.
I wonder if this is what the issue was with my Canon Powershot. It took AA batteries and often the battery light was on almost right away (I mostly photograph)
You are by far my favorite human to have discovered online. You seem so genuine and kind and lovable plus you're wildly talented and super funny. This 26 min video went by too fast lol. I'm so grateful you exist and decided to share your life and stories. Hope this didn't come off weird 🤣
Elyse! You're such a force of nature in the most gentle and kind way. I adore you to bits. So thankful to the internet for allowing me to find you and have you gracing my feed and ears among the millions of other humans that feel the same way. I'm always so pumped to watch not only your 3 minute videos but your 30 minute ones too!
I had ppd after my first baby and did not recover until I gave birth to my second baby 20 months later. Don't rush yourself. I gave birth to 8 children in 13 years and have strggled to live with or through 64 years of treatment resistent major depressive disorder. I am benefiting from your internet content. Your TikToks were my bits of light. I am thrilled to discover these longer videos. So delighted you are sharing yourself with this world. Thank you😊
Elyse, I think everyone shares the same feeling. We all feel like we know you. We all feel genuine love for you. In this intense (often times negative) world we are living in, that is a beautiful thing. Just by simply existing and sharing your life, you make millions of people happy. Thank you, Elyse. 🥰
As a person who has been there…let me just say that the transition between “not a mom” to “mom” is way way harder than the transition between “mom of 1” and “mom of 2” All the stuff I wanted to experience with my first baby I actually got to enjoy with the 2nd one. There is no reason to expect that the postpartum depression you had with the first will happen with the 2nd. It didn’t for me. The 2nd came with all the joy and appreciation I felt guilty not feeling with the 1st. If you want another baby…do it. You know the possibility of the postpartum depression now and can have tools in place should it happen again. But….also know that for SO many people, the 2nd baby is a restorative experience. Oh, and we waited 4 years between kids because of that fear. The wait and the age gap was good for us.
Also there is always adoption. I didn’t hear Elyse mention that and I wish she had. I’m in a family where we have more people who were adopted than biologically related. My sister & brother are adopted. My other brother & his wife couldn’t have kids and their 2 kids are adopted. My cousins child - adopted. My BIL & SIL their daughter is adopted. See what I mean?
For anyone just watching this now: if you are in the thick of PPA or PPD, or your child is within his/her first 5 years of life, do not write off having another child. My daughter is 5 and I just now feel like I could have another baby and want one so much. Do not give up hope for healing and complete transformation! Even if it takes several years. Up until last year I never planned to go through another pregnancy/postpartum time, and this year I feel totally different about it.
Ma'am. My husband put my wild 4 year old to bed in the time that I watched this video, and I legitimately thought I'd been watching for about 5 minutes. I could watch your videos all day long and not feel like my day was wasted. Thank you for being you. 💕
I love that!!! I never regretted my decision even once - I felt like it set me up really well for learning how to support those around me in and out of music!
Post partum depression nearly cost me my life. People who haven't been to the edge don't understand. ❤ were still here 🎉 5 years, but im still here!! 🎉
I love what you said about you coming into your family in a very chaotic time for your family. I've never thought about it that way, and it resonates with how Gwena, a gentle parenting UA-camr, talks about her oldest child (did not start gentle parented) having a very different mom than her littles. In fact every child one has gets a different parent bc they come into their parents' lives at a different time, with different levels of stress, experience, different family dynamics, etc. And sometimes we *think* we're at a good place to have another kid, but something happens during that 9 months that completely changes our capabilities,and we have to just try to adapt on the fly. Good on you for taking the pressure off and letting a healthier future you decide when & if she's ready 👍
You can see how much you enjoyed making this video! The "I Got Joy!" hat was perfect! Thank you for sharing the joy of being a perfectly imperfect human being!
I have never felt so understood by anyone regarding postpartum depression and anxiety. Thanking for putting into words what I’ve struggled with for over a year, almost 2.
I really want to see more of you playing the viola, then or now. Definitely would love you sharing pics and videos of different parts of your life. You are so full of life !
The part where you talked about the tumultuous situation of wanting another kid and not being quite ready to take it on again- really spoke to me. I really love your honesty about literally everything. ❤️
I had the worst postpartum depression with my daughter, my first baby, good to note it was ‘97 and there was very little info about it, that when I had my son, 10 years later, I was acutely aware of the signs, symptoms and how to get better help. Luckily I didn’t have many postpartum symptoms with my son but like you said it was hugely because of timing. Our timing was right and it took that stress off of me to give me that time to heal myself physically and emotionally after he was born. Heal you. You’ll know when. You’ll know where. Take your time. Sending all of you hugs!
Your taco story and school dance pictures is what got me hooked on watching you!! It's helped me embrace my awkwardness for real!! I love you and your genuineness!! It really keeps me thinking positive!!
Honestly, thank God for you Elyse! You are the ray of light I need when the clouds seem to follow me. I could watch you all day. Awesome Video. Can't wait for your next one! ❤️
LOVED this, Elyse! I've had 2 babies and not 1 single person ever, EVER mentioned postpartum anxiety. When we took my son home from the hospital I was so afraid of anyone walking up or down the stairs with him. I kept envisioning him falling and being 'broken.' The vision just played over and over in my head. I think that's the first memory that I have of PPA but it got so much worse. My anxiety over something happening to my kids or me became crippling. It was only when my second baby was a year old and covid was all around us that I finally went to speak to someone and realized that I wasn't going crazy, I actually had postpartum anxiety. I'm so grateful when I hear other women talk about it, addressing it like it's a real thing. I think the internet is full of amazing moms who make it look easy, but the truth is we're all doing the best we can and treading hard under the surface. Thanks for being vulnerable and sharing your story with us. P.S - 'Is it a premonition or is it just anxiety?' Has become my personal mantra and something I ask myself daily because lord knows my brain likes to latch onto the idea of premonitions! 😂
Same! My anxiety went through the roof when my daughter was born and, frankly, has hung around for the past seven years. 🫤 I have PTSD and have been getting therapy for that but it never really occurred to me that maybe this is post partum anxiety. 🤦♀️
"i tend to really over elaborate when someone asks a question" ... tell me you have ADHD without telling me you have ADHD hahaha.. love it. I was recently diagnosed with ADHD at 31, being 1 year post partum. also relate to the PPA/PPD knocking you out :( glad you're doing better. you're my favorite content creator and I feel so validated and heard whenever I watch your content .. i feel like we're the same person haha. sending love
I’ve been emotionally and mentally unwell and I started crying when you talked about wanting another kid. Here we are a year later and you have another kid!!
My God , FINALLY someone who understands the suffer from PostPartum … Gave Birth to my now 2.5 years old Daughter … People keep telling me to have another one , But NOBODY understands how i Really feel 😭 Elyse Finally someone to actually find the words to explain … I’m Not as lucky as Elyse is , I had / Have absolutely NO SUPPORT OR UNDERSTAND from my husband . He keeps telling me if i refuse to have another baby he’ll take our daughter away from me & create a family with someone else … The story is deep but the surface is that NO BODY UNDERSTANDS THE FEAR I HAVE JUST THINKING FOR ANOTHER BABY 😓😓
I am so SO happy to learn that you're a viola player! It fits perfectly! Orch dork here & violinist (second violinist mostly) and viola players were always delightfully unique and my people. Ha!
You’re one of the few beautiful persons I have followed on TikTok since Covid. I love your content. You’re so genuine. Thank you for getting me through Covid. You have fabulous sense of humor❤
As if the bravery needed to put herself out there, as Elise does, isn't impressive enough, her motivation for doing so goes way beyond her battle with demons or the monetary rewards. The inspiration she provides others with the same struggles is priceless.
I had bad postpartum depression after my first, worse because of a traumatic birth of a BIG baby boy and the recovery of that. I struggled to bond with him for a long time. It's so so hard to talk about because you're SUPPOSED to be happy at that time. We did end up with a surprise baby sister 3 years later that he adores. They are best friends and my pregnancy, birth, and experience with her as a newborn was healing for me. Everything works out. There's nothing wrong with choosing to have ONE child. For any reason. Don't let anyone make your feel guilty.
I’ve always suffered from depression & anxiety. After my first son, I thought I would die of post pardom. Thankfully he was an angel and that helped. With son number 2 I felt wonderful, no depression but I had people in place to help just in case. With son number 3 I was great until he was one & I fell hard. The worst depression & anxiety EVER !!! It took awhile and I’m still on meds but I’m great & son number 3 is now 23 years old & I have 7 granddaughters ❤ I’d say have another for August but take some time off & have people in place to help you when you need them. Lastly, walk through your next pregnancy closely with your Doctor 😊
Oh, that's spot on. Massive attention that points to sudden success and our first reaction is to apologize. Not that you're Sorry, just the new role for a woman is scary and we innately try to mitigate the transition. I really think sorry has a total different definition for women anyway. Congratulations, sis❤ You shine in this medium!
Aw man, talking about wanting to be healthy when thinking about having another kid! I resonate with that so hard. It was and is such a hard thing, not to mention throwing PPD in the mix and how hard that is. And now (spoiler) you have your second baby! So happy for you ❤❤❤ Thanks for sharing your lovely self with us ❤
I absolutely love how REAL and genuine you are!! Broadcasting all of your little blunders, like camera overheating and broccoli in your teeth, just make me love you more! 😂
I loved everything about this! I just had to tell you that when you said "This is going to be a 5 hour long video" I immediately thought " Um, we would love that!" I say this on all of your socials, but it's true...you are such a light in the world, and you came along at a dark time, when we could all really appreciate you! Thank you for all that you create and share! I'm so excited for the longer form content, and all of the awesome opportunities that are coming your way. Sending much love to you and your family!
I somehow found you early on and I've been laughing ever since. I find myself actually thinking while listening to you, , how much time is left, should I ⏸️ it just to make it last longer? Oh no what did she just say, whew I get to rewind it... you just make my ear balls happy!!! 🤣😍🤣
Oh my gosh Leatha this honestly is so encouraging you have no clue. I struggle so much with the feeling of being “too much” and fearing that I’m bombarding the internet with my face and eventually people will get tired of me. And time and time again you guys are just showing me so much love and healing those parts of my heart that have always felt like too much. I can’t express how grateful I am for you and for comments like this!
I will preorder your book the minute you tell us when it's available online. You are a shining star, one that we have needed during these past 2 1/2 years.
Lesley thank you so much!!!!! I just sent the first short story (LONG story! Did you know short stories aren’t actually short when books are involved? Because I didn’t! 😂) to my team to pass onto the potential publishing house and we will see how they like it! It’s really scary relying solely on written word to communicate an entire subconscious thought process. I can’t rely on my face and verbal tone to get a point across which is what I rely on MOST 😂 So trying to figure out how to write in a way that conveys the same emotion Is really challenging but SO rewarding when I can get it to read the way I want it to!
It’s my pleasure! It’s hard because I don’t want to ever scare someone or make it seem like it’s too much. But it is really difficult and it’s also not talked about enough which is what plays into the “I didn’t expect this at all” feeling!
Same for my youngest daughter - and she hid it so well that we had no idea how severe it was - and in her anxiety, she lashes out at the ones who love her the most (her husband and me). I applaud you for sharing one of the most sensitive part of your life!
YES ELYSE!! PND felt incomparable with 'normal' depression for me. An entirely different type! So on the money. Also- I wasn't aware it can hit ANY TIME in the first 12 months post partum. I thought I was in the clear because I was fine, and then when he was four months old- wham! Hit me like a train. But I didn't get it at all on my following baby. Great video, love the long form 👍❤️
Elyse, this whole thing was just fantastic. Thank you so much for sharing this with us! I had PPA REAL bad with my first child and I completely relate to your sentiment. I went from "I want five kids!" to "...We're gonna take it one at a time," after my first child. After we had our second? Elyse, I cannot tell you how redeeming it was. Maybe it was because I didn't have a c-section the second time around so my insides weren't BATHED in antibiotics, killing all the bad AND good bacteria in me, thus making me crazy, but I remember a week after having our daughter looking at my husband and saying, "This is so bizarre. I feel normal. I DO NOT feel crazy. I feel calm. WHAT IS HAPPENING?!" Like someone else commented below, it was a very restorative experience. Now that may not be the case for everyone, but maybe it could be helpful to know. Also, I agree 100%. 0-1 kid was exponentially harder than 1-2. My son had just turned 3 and was the most amazing helper. I expected there to be so much jealousy but girl, this kid COULD. NOT. get enough of his sister. Enamored. ENAMORED. Now am I still of the mindset that we're going to take it one at a time? Yes. 😂 Because second children somehow all manage to be a completely different breed than firstborns, but after 2.5 years, I'm finally ready to start thinking about more. You're so right - take your time and have more when it feels right. Cheering you on! P. S. The viola story somehow made me want to tear up even more than the PPA/PPD story. Fellow musician here and being able to choose the instrument you want and to be unique in that way is a precious feeling! Love that your mom helped you in the way you needed and listened to you. What a woman.
I been there , when my daughter was born. My postpartum was so bad I was so glad my mom was there. But I found my son’s birth was easier on my mental health. Even though he was born early and loads of problems . But everything turn out great. Thank Goodness.
I just wanna say that when you apologized for explaining too much, you don’t have to do that! I personally always have so many questions about everything and that usually bothers people. Listening to you is always so fun and freeing because you answer all the questions I have by explaining things so thoroughly! I love the way you talk :)
WOW! like to be so human in all the feels and also so ambitious with UA-cam, book, podcast, tv show?! my goodness I am astonished. I am so happy for you to be living so fully.
I at first was drawn to your content bc I’m hard of hearing and most of your things have captions on tiktok but I ended up staying because you really helped me get to a place in life where I could accept that not being polished and perfect all the time was okay. And I’ve gotten even my gram to watch your context about mental health, and we’re able to communicate and relate to each other easier now.
183k subscribers yesterday, April 11th, 2023. April 12th, 2023 187k, 4k subscribers within 24 hours. I predict by December of this year this channel will hit 1.2 million.❤
I had to pause at 16:49 to say two things. 1) I love your “editor” mentioning the broccoli and that you are so real that you didn’t refilm it. I struggle with this myself and it’s kept me from creating content so thank you. 2) I think you and Jona (I can’t remember if there is a h 😳😬) would make amazing adoptive parents. I’m only an outsider who was adopted but you look like you have so much love to give. I’ve struggled with D&A my whole life and thankfully didn’t have PP. I can’t imagine it being worse or different than what I’ve felt recently. If it’s in your heart definitely consider adoption. I’m so very thankful it’s a gift I was given! You are amazing! Off to finish the rest!
Thank you so much for your encouragement! Jonas and I both have felt strongly that adoption would most likely be in our future, but we just don’t know how or when. We’re open to it! I know we’ll meet people in every season of our life that will need us to be generous and open with our lives and home and we are committed to that all the time, every day. So the thought of someone coming along needing us to step up to adopt doesn’t scare us. Or even taking in a friend of August’s one day, whatever that looks like. We want to be a safe place for people that need it!
Another way your home could be of so much help/service to kids: please consider fostering siblings, so that they don’t have to lose each other. (Do some due diligence to make sure there isn’t any Intra-sibling abuse, of course.) I had hoped to do that, but have not had the opportunity yet. For other people who care about kids, but fostering/adopting is not an option: most areas have a CASA (Court Appointed Special Advocate) program where you can be trained to be the advocate for a child who has entered the foster system, is dealing with parents who can’t agree on custody issues, etc. You may be the only stable adult in this child’s life.
Actually cried hearing you talk about PPA. I have a 15 month old son and want to be the sort of person who can build a large family, but I’m just feeling like myself again and don’t know if I have what it takes.
14:56 - I am going through this right now too! Using content creation to remind myself of who I am again after going through hell the last 4.5 years. I'll take this as divinely timed confirmation that this is the right path. Sending love to you!
I’m so glad you talked about being ok with only having one kid. I had a really traumatic delivery and now have medical conditions that would complicate a healthy delivery. And honestly, after I had my son, I felt complete. I do have anxiety about my son being an only child, and the stigmas around that in society, but my son is now 9 and he tells me all the time he loves being an only and his friends are so jealous. Lol.
This is more common than people realise, medical complications and an only child. I am an only child because of this and I turned out ok! Honestly though it needs more talk sound this, awareness is so important.
Just sent my sister an “absolutely not” hat for her birthday. I couldn’t stop talking about you when I went to visit her last month. Love seeing you here on UA-cam!
It's so amazing that everything Elyse has done has been since mid COVID. Tiktok informed me I had ADHD right around the time Elyse started so I must have been fed her content immediately because I quit TT cold turkey in April of 22.
Wow i love Elyses personality. I wish she was my friend IRL. She'd just be great, y'know. I like how honest she is, and genuine. Im always inspired to accept myself more after listening to her. Thanks Elyse ❤
My husband and I have three little ones at home and often after getting the kids to sleep, we both go do some type of chore task before we come together and hang out, and I didn't know he was subscribed to you as well as myself. We had a nice chat last night about how wonderful you are and the awesome things about your videos. He's been watching for months and I just found you. Also our daughters middle name is elyse
I love love love these longer videos! You are so warm and caring and funny and REAL...and smart! You make me feel like my best friend does...safe, secure and highly amused 💜 Thank you for your content, Elyse.
I used to work at a gas station and once we had to throw out a smart water retail rack,and also a lifewtr retail rack. The vendors that were supposed to get them just told us to throw them away. So instead my coworker and I took them home! My coworker took home the smart water rack and used itto store dvds and I still have the lifewtr rack! People always ask me if I really like them and the answer is no! Absolutely not! Lol i prefer spring water, or more simply, tap water from my home, which is filtered by my britta pitcher. But now every time I look at my little lifewtr shelf I will be thinking of you Elyse, that is great bc you are such a comfort.
Omg! Thank you for your decision to keep going content creating!!! You’re one of the best people I’ve ever discovered on the internet, and I recently found out we live in the same neighborhood which is crazy!!! Thanks for all your work!
I literally wish you were my friend in real life. I'm 32 and I need someone with the attitude you have. And I know like most people you probably don't understand, but you're and inspiration. Not to mention absolutely hilarious!!
I so appreciate your candor about your life and your struggles!! I struggled sooooo hard with PPD and PPA after my second kid. After years of IVF, I had virtually no depression or anxiety after my first. So I was gobsmacked when I was spiraling out of control and had no idea why after my second was born. I never wanted to unalive myself or my kids or anything so I didn’t think I had PPD. I just could not function on almost any level. I had a 16 month old and a one month old to care for so I shoved it all down and trudged on. Then a week later my husband and myself got covid (august of 2020!!) and my will to push through evaporated. I asked my doctor for help and started medication for about 6 months. One of the darkest times of my life and I sob every time I think about how I treated myself and my family during that time. I had my tubes tied because I am too terrified to be in that place again. Thank you for sharing with us.
You are amazing Elyse! Beautiful inside and out ❤ Please don’t stop being who you are! We need more people like you on UA-cam who are true and authentic. I also love your music 🎶
Post partum surprised me too but I promise you it gets better with number 2 and number 3. However I totally agree with you, the anxiety is unmatched. No one told me that I wouldn’t want anyone holding my baby. I literally felt my skin crawl with the thought of other people holding my baby. It was crazy anxiety I couldn’t explain, unlike the other times I felt anxiety.
I have never, ever, ever been one to listen to people just talk. I get joy just listening to you because you’re so you and just human. Thanks for your content!
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for advocating for living with anxiety, mental health struggles, working life combined with mum life and so many other things. I’ve never watched someone that I related to in that way at all and it honestly means so much to me to see. I’ve been obsessed with your videos since I stumbled across the one about ordering coffee and being misheard on Facebook. You remind me that having a brain that works this way doesn’t mean we have to be limited. And that’s amazing. Xxx
I kinda love that I got in on your UA-cam before the 100k mark so I can imagine you reading my comment while sitting, scrolling and hugging your pillow as a possibly very real thing. Your how to save a life video got me good today. It’s… haunting. Definitely cried really hard because of things that are emotional in my life but if it was bad I wouldn’t have- Ty for the beautiful musical soul hug 🖤 I TRULY needed it.
I wish I could reply with a picture because I am quite literally sitting here, reading your comment, and holding a pillow 😂❤️ I’m so grateful you are here! Those kind of soul hug moments are exactly why I keep showing up and making these videos so your encouragement means the WORLD to me! Usually when I’m feeling overwhelmed with life & emotion I have to just sing my way out because nothing else will really get me out of that place. I feel like I really find my people when I make those videos!
I love that I’ve been following you since before the taco debut. Haha You are so pure, genuine and kind. I love SO much what you are bringing to social media outlets. Keep shinning bright and spreading your light. ❤️ The world needs more people like you! ✨
I know this is a really dated comment, but from one Mama to another sending prayers, love, and light. You’ve Got This, even when you may not feel you do. Much love, Sister! ❤
Thank you for sharing all that you have shared. You are such a bright light. You are generous with sharing all that you have shared with us, you don't hesitate to smile, and you sound so encouraging. I'm glad I found you on the internet. I think you have really embraced your life, and you enjoy it to it's fullest!
Elyse. You are a warrior and a boss . You have a way with words, that gets to the heart of the matter and resonates with all different walks of life. You deserve all the amazing things that have happened and continue to happen because you have worked beyond hard to get to where you are. Congrats on all your accomplishment. ❤🤗 from Atlanta, GA!
Thank you for always showing up in this space so genuinely and vulnerably. No one ever has to wonder if you mean what you say because your authenticity just shines through in everything you do. You inspire all of us "undercover creatives" who wonder if our stories and voices matter. Your voice matters so much and brings much-needed light to the interwebs!
I was really getting into this while having a snack of pickled okra and kosher baby dill pickles when I realized it was already over love you and love your content! you are making such a wonderfully positive difference in this world.
That makes me so happy to hear! Making long form content is something I’m still really trying to figure out and this video was by far my biggest stretch. It means so much to me that you enjoyed it! (Also that snack sounds amazing!)
I love how you are just a natural comedian, storyteller, and just very likeable person and all you had to do was start making videos and boom 2 years later you’re a full time content creator
The more you show us of yourself, the more we are able to see ourselves in you. That's been so incredibly important and helpful because when we're going through something we can think to ourselves "I'm not alone" and "If someone else can get through this and be happy / healthy / successful, then so can I!" Thank you for showing us the real you so that we may learn to become the real us.
I'm obsessed with the fact that you were so worried that no one would watch a 3 minute video, and now here we all are, watching you talk for a half hour straight.
Isn’t that so wild!!! Every video I post that’s a little longer, I feel the same way I did about that first 3 minute video. That stretching into new territory will always feel scary but it’s so fun to try new things!! And the worst thing that can happen is it doesn’t work out. But that’s why making content I REALLY enjoy making has to be the starting point. Because it can be soul crushing when it doesn’t land the way you hope it will - and liking it yourself and thinking it’s funny keeps you moving forward 😂❤️
@@elyse_myers the 25 minutes went by so quickly I didn't think it possibly could be the end of the video already. I got caught up in everything you said and was sad it was over.
I would watch an hour long podcast! 😄🥳
I could easily watch an hour 😂
Right?! Those 25 min just went by WAY too fast actually! When she said "this will be a good question to end on" I literally had to look at the play bar to verify that it was almost over. 😩
When you said “I didn’t know postpartum depression was a TYPE of depression. Not timing” it seriously just knocked the wind out of me. All of this time I had no idea there was a difference and my son just turned a year old. Elyse I had tears streaming down my face because Every. Single. Word. You said about your postpartum experience was EVERYTHING I’ve been through and no one talks about it and it feels like no one understands it. And without you giving full disclosure of how deep those feelings really went and how hard it really was. I know. I just know. You don’t even need to say it. I wish in those darkest moments of new motherhood, we could’ve just held each other. I was desperate for someone to validate my own feelings. I know this is an extremely difficult and vulnerable topic to discuss but I cannot tell you how many woman you could be helping and even saving by talking about it. I wish I saw this small part of your video when I was going through the thick of it because it just tremendously impacted me. I am so thankful you chose to keep it in. Thank you.
This. Everything I echo.
Same same same!! I have a 1 year old and just starting to feel like myself again. It was really dark for a long time.
I wasn’t successfully able to have a child- both my babies passed away before they were fully ‘cooked’ but after the first one I had such a hard time with depression! OMG
And I later learned that when you have a pregnancy loss your body goes through the same hormone shifts as though you delivered a live baby. No one told me that at the time- that was 2002. Add to that I was 42 and this was my first pregnancy so I had fears I’d never be able to get pregnant again. Yeah, so I appreciated it a lot too.
Also, do antidepressants help this type of depression? I think they helped me quite a bit. I didn’t hear Elyse say anything about taking them. Can you all please give me feedback?
Same!
I had PPD and it was awful. I already have PTSD, anxiety and depression and it was worst than any of that. I hate that I don't remember the little moments from her first few months it makes me sad.
Elyse✨ I feel like your my little bright spot on the internet. I’m new to your community and very much in love. Appreciate all the awareness you bring to ADHD and mental health 💕
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I'm only 13 minutes into this video and I've already said, "love you Elyse", out loud at least 3 times. You're an absolute gem. Love you. ❤️
I love that so much! 🥹 Thank you for your support!
I have NEVER heard anyone talk about the difference between time and type in post partum. Please advocate more on this in your content.
I concur! I had it pretty bad. I ended up going on & having another child - who I love w/ my whole being - & I felt kind of pressured to do so. It was so unhealthy for me. You're lucky to have Jonas to support you & your mental health (plus being able to stand up for yourself). ❤️ Loved this Q&A!!
Yes! Exactly!!
Agreed. I identify with this, now six months pp with my second, even though I didn’t experience it the first time.
It is awful. I’ve never had the kind of thoughts I had then, since.
hey elyse! cameras overheating is a VERY common problem with content creators and i always try to give them advice that your memory card is probably too quick for your camera. often times creators buy a card with the most storage because they don’t want to clear out the card, but i guarantee it would be much more useful for you to film, dump your footage on a hard drive and format after every video. get a 64gb. that’s more than enough space. that could also be why your batteries are dying so fast because your camera is working twice as hard to try and keep up with the speed of the card. i can go more into detail about what the symbols and stuff means on the card, or i would also just recommend doing your own research. there’s a ton of easily accessible information that can help with your workflow. anyway, hope this was helpful😁
This is SUPER helpful!!!!! Thank you so much!!!!
As a make pretend photographer, I 2nd this comment.
You talk about speed and storage as if they are intrinsically tied together -- or am I misunderstanding?
@@mickelfritz No. Not at all. In fact, the last time I had to buy SD cards was in like 2015, so my advice was kind of dated. In my experience, it was difficult finding a memory card with slower speeds and higher storage, but having bought a few recently, I found that wasn't the case at all. There are plenty of options nowadays.
I wonder if this is what the issue was with my Canon Powershot. It took AA batteries and often the battery light was on almost right away (I mostly photograph)
This is so amazing, Elyse. I love that you're doing these longer videos here. ♥
Omg Scott you are here!
@Lisa Avenir
yes! He is! And he made this!
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Hi Scott! Isn’t she great??? You two are so deeply kind and loving people and both make really high caliber videos
OMG SCOTT!!! HEYYYYY!
You are by far my favorite human to have discovered online. You seem so genuine and kind and lovable plus you're wildly talented and super funny. This 26 min video went by too fast lol. I'm so grateful you exist and decided to share your life and stories. Hope this didn't come off weird 🤣
I second this... weird or not! So true!
Co-sign 📝
Ditto !!!!
My feelings exactly
I one hundred thirty- fourth that love and appreciation!
Elyse! You're such a force of nature in the most gentle and kind way. I adore you to bits. So thankful to the internet for allowing me to find you and have you gracing my feed and ears among the millions of other humans that feel the same way.
I'm always so pumped to watch not only your 3 minute videos but your 30 minute ones too!
Thank you so much Megan!!! 🥹🥹🥹
Watching this in 2023 knowing elyse is 20wks pregnant makes me so happy for her!
I had ppd after my first baby and did not recover until I gave birth to my second baby 20 months later. Don't rush yourself. I gave birth to 8 children in 13 years and have strggled to live with or through 64 years of treatment resistent major depressive disorder. I am benefiting from your internet content. Your TikToks were my bits of light. I am thrilled to discover these longer videos. So delighted you are sharing yourself with this world. Thank you😊
Elyse, I think everyone shares the same feeling. We all feel like we know you. We all feel genuine love for you. In this intense (often times negative) world we are living in, that is a beautiful thing. Just by simply existing and sharing your life, you make millions of people happy. Thank you, Elyse. 🥰
I can’t tell you how encouraging your comment is to me tonight. From the bottom of my heart, thank you so much!
@@elyse_myers Quinn you Said that at an expert way. Elyse you give me hope and I relate to u insane amount!!!
I'm brand new here and feel the exact same way.
As a person who has been there…let me just say that the transition between “not a mom” to “mom” is way way harder than the transition between “mom of 1” and “mom of 2”
All the stuff I wanted to experience with my first baby I actually got to enjoy with the 2nd one. There is no reason to expect that the postpartum depression you had with the first will happen with the 2nd. It didn’t for me. The 2nd came with all the joy and appreciation I felt guilty not feeling with the 1st.
If you want another baby…do it. You know the possibility of the postpartum depression now and can have tools in place should it happen again. But….also know that for SO many people, the 2nd baby is a restorative experience.
Oh, and we waited 4 years between kids because of that fear. The wait and the age gap was good for us.
Yes!!!! Amber you are totally right. It was the same for me too!
Yep my kids are 4 years apart and love it.
I was so scared I waited 10 years and this is so true
@@katystefflre7980 omg I’m currently wanting my second and it’s been ten years too
I’ve also been so worried
Also there is always adoption. I didn’t hear Elyse mention that and I wish she had. I’m in a family where we have more people who were adopted than biologically related.
My sister & brother are adopted. My other brother & his wife couldn’t have kids and their 2 kids are adopted. My cousins child - adopted.
My BIL & SIL their daughter is adopted. See what I mean?
For anyone just watching this now: if you are in the thick of PPA or PPD, or your child is within his/her first 5 years of life, do not write off having another child. My daughter is 5 and I just now feel like I could have another baby and want one so much. Do not give up hope for healing and complete transformation! Even if it takes several years. Up until last year I never planned to go through another pregnancy/postpartum time, and this year I feel totally different about it.
Ma'am. My husband put my wild 4 year old to bed in the time that I watched this video, and I legitimately thought I'd been watching for about 5 minutes. I could watch your videos all day long and not feel like my day was wasted. Thank you for being you. 💕
I chose the viola because all the other girls wanted the violin and the music teacher basically begged me to try it. Best decision I ever made!
I love that!!! I never regretted my decision even once - I felt like it set me up really well for learning how to support those around me in and out of music!
I just wanna say: your intro totally gives “The Office” vibes, and I’m totally here for it! 😍
I love that so much!!!
Post partum depression nearly cost me my life. People who haven't been to the edge don't understand. ❤ were still here 🎉 5 years, but im still here!! 🎉
I love what you said about you coming into your family in a very chaotic time for your family. I've never thought about it that way, and it resonates with how Gwena, a gentle parenting UA-camr, talks about her oldest child (did not start gentle parented) having a very different mom than her littles. In fact every child one has gets a different parent bc they come into their parents' lives at a different time, with different levels of stress, experience, different family dynamics, etc. And sometimes we *think* we're at a good place to have another kid, but something happens during that 9 months that completely changes our capabilities,and we have to just try to adapt on the fly. Good on you for taking the pressure off and letting a healthier future you decide when & if she's ready 👍
You can see how much you enjoyed making this video! The "I Got Joy!" hat was perfect! Thank you for sharing the joy of being a perfectly imperfect human being!
Thank you so so much for your support! ❤️
I have never felt so understood by anyone regarding postpartum depression and anxiety. Thanking for putting into words what I’ve struggled with for over a year, almost 2.
I’m so glad this video helped you feel seen!
I really want to see more of you playing the viola, then or now. Definitely would love you sharing pics and videos of different parts of your life. You are so full of life !
The part where you talked about the tumultuous situation of wanting another kid and not being quite ready to take it on again- really spoke to me. I really love your honesty about literally everything. ❤️
I had the worst postpartum depression with my daughter, my first baby, good to note it was ‘97 and there was very little info about it, that when I had my son, 10 years later, I was acutely aware of the signs, symptoms and how to get better help.
Luckily I didn’t have many postpartum symptoms with my son but like you said it was hugely because of timing. Our timing was right and it took that stress off of me to give me that time to heal myself physically and emotionally after he was born.
Heal you. You’ll know when. You’ll know where. Take your time.
Sending all of you hugs!
Your taco story and school dance pictures is what got me hooked on watching you!! It's helped me embrace my awkwardness for real!! I love you and your genuineness!! It really keeps me thinking positive!!
It is not very often on the Internet content creator has such a genuine vibe, loved this vid, love your energy! 💜
Oh man thank you so much!! This is so kind! 🥹❤️
Honestly, thank God for you Elyse! You are the ray of light I need when the clouds seem to follow me.
I could watch you all day.
Awesome Video.
Can't wait for your next one! ❤️
Thank you Tarra! Means the world!
LOVED this, Elyse!
I've had 2 babies and not 1 single person ever, EVER mentioned postpartum anxiety. When we took my son home from the hospital I was so afraid of anyone walking up or down the stairs with him. I kept envisioning him falling and being 'broken.' The vision just played over and over in my head. I think that's the first memory that I have of PPA but it got so much worse. My anxiety over something happening to my kids or me became crippling. It was only when my second baby was a year old and covid was all around us that I finally went to speak to someone and realized that I wasn't going crazy, I actually had postpartum anxiety. I'm so grateful when I hear other women talk about it, addressing it like it's a real thing. I think the internet is full of amazing moms who make it look easy, but the truth is we're all doing the best we can and treading hard under the surface. Thanks for being vulnerable and sharing your story with us.
P.S - 'Is it a premonition or is it just anxiety?' Has become my personal mantra and something I ask myself daily because lord knows my brain likes to latch onto the idea of premonitions! 😂
Same! My anxiety went through the roof when my daughter was born and, frankly, has hung around for the past seven years. 🫤 I have PTSD and have been getting therapy for that but it never really occurred to me that maybe this is post partum anxiety. 🤦♀️
"i tend to really over elaborate when someone asks a question" ... tell me you have ADHD without telling me you have ADHD hahaha.. love it. I was recently diagnosed with ADHD at 31, being 1 year post partum. also relate to the PPA/PPD knocking you out :( glad you're doing better. you're my favorite content creator and I feel so validated and heard whenever I watch your content .. i feel like we're the same person haha. sending love
as a person with a disability, i didn't even KNOW that a "shorter tripod" could exist, and now i think that's what i need in my life.
I love when her baby started saying, "mama" she just paused and was like, "....what?" Lol I love it 😂❤️
It sounded like he was trying to say ottoman after she said it and in the process, mama just came out!
I’ve been emotionally and mentally unwell and I started crying when you talked about wanting another kid. Here we are a year later and you have another kid!!
My God , FINALLY someone who understands the suffer from PostPartum … Gave Birth to my now 2.5 years old Daughter … People keep telling me to have another one , But NOBODY understands how i Really feel 😭
Elyse Finally someone to actually find the words to explain …
I’m Not as lucky as Elyse is , I had / Have absolutely NO SUPPORT OR UNDERSTAND from my husband . He keeps telling me if i refuse to have another baby he’ll take our daughter away from me & create a family with someone else … The story is deep but the surface is that NO BODY UNDERSTANDS THE FEAR I HAVE JUST THINKING FOR ANOTHER BABY 😓😓
Oh wow that’s crazy ! ( mom to a 5 year old and 32 weeks pregnant now ) im so sorry he is so unsupportive of you and your very real feelings .
That sounds so difficult! I hope you can figure things out!
I encourage you to go to counseling to work through all the trauma you experienced. That sounds pat, but counseling has been such a help to me.
May I suggest counseling, for your husband? That ultimatum is incredibly controlling and manipulative.
Praying for you momma 💜
I am so SO happy to learn that you're a viola player! It fits perfectly! Orch dork here & violinist (second violinist mostly) and viola players were always delightfully unique and my people. Ha!
You’re one of the few beautiful persons I have followed on TikTok since Covid. I love your content. You’re so genuine. Thank you for getting me through Covid. You have fabulous sense of humor❤
Elyse although i only found you recently via your shorts. I am so glad i did you make my day brighter.
WOW! I’ve never heard anyone say that PPA is a different *type* of anxiety. That is such a helpful reframing for me. Thank you!
As if the bravery needed to put herself out there, as Elise does, isn't impressive enough, her motivation for doing so goes way beyond her battle with demons or the monetary rewards. The inspiration she provides others with the same struggles is priceless.
I had bad postpartum depression after my first, worse because of a traumatic birth of a BIG baby boy and the recovery of that. I struggled to bond with him for a long time. It's so so hard to talk about because you're SUPPOSED to be happy at that time. We did end up with a surprise baby sister 3 years later that he adores. They are best friends and my pregnancy, birth, and experience with her as a newborn was healing for me. Everything works out. There's nothing wrong with choosing to have ONE child. For any reason. Don't let anyone make your feel guilty.
I’ve always suffered from depression & anxiety. After my first son, I thought I would die of post pardom. Thankfully he was an angel and that helped. With son number 2 I felt wonderful, no depression but I had people in place to help just in case. With son number 3 I was great until he was one & I fell hard. The worst depression & anxiety EVER !!! It took awhile and I’m still on meds but I’m great & son number 3 is now 23 years old & I have 7 granddaughters ❤ I’d say have another for August but take some time off & have people in place to help you when you need them. Lastly, walk through your next pregnancy closely with your Doctor 😊
Oh, that's spot on. Massive attention that points to sudden success and our first reaction is to apologize. Not that you're Sorry, just the new role for a woman is scary and we innately try to mitigate the transition. I really think sorry has a total different definition for women anyway. Congratulations, sis❤ You shine in this medium!
Aw man, talking about wanting to be healthy when thinking about having another kid! I resonate with that so hard. It was and is such a hard thing, not to mention throwing PPD in the mix and how hard that is. And now (spoiler) you have your second baby! So happy for you ❤❤❤ Thanks for sharing your lovely self with us ❤
Hey Elyse, thanks for being so honest. My husband and I had a very similar experience. Raising little humans is a lot harder than the brochure. Xx
I applaud and celebrate your willingness to be vulnerable to the world.
You are a treasure. ❣
Every video that you put out is a gift. Thank you for your time and efforts. You make a massive difference in Folks' lives. ❤
I love that you overexplain things. You don't talk in circles, and the details give us little windows into your unique perspectives.
This is one of the most pleasant people I've seen on the internet I feel lucky to have found this channel ❤
I absolutely love how REAL and genuine you are!! Broadcasting all of your little blunders, like camera overheating and broccoli in your teeth, just make me love you more!
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I loved everything about this! I just had to tell you that when you said "This is going to be a 5 hour long video" I immediately thought " Um, we would love that!" I say this on all of your socials, but it's true...you are such a light in the world, and you came along at a dark time, when we could all really appreciate you! Thank you for all that you create and share! I'm so excited for the longer form content, and all of the awesome opportunities that are coming your way. Sending much love to you and your family!
Oh my gosh thank you so much, friend! This is such an encouragement to me. Truly!!!
Postpartum was such a bitch.
Thank you for sharing your story..definitely makes other moms feel like it’s not just us with those heavy feelings ♥️
I somehow found you early on and I've been laughing ever since. I find myself actually thinking while listening to you, , how much time is left, should I ⏸️ it just to make it last longer? Oh no what did she just say, whew I get to rewind it... you just make my ear balls happy!!!
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Oh my gosh Leatha this honestly is so encouraging you have no clue. I struggle so much with the feeling of being “too much” and fearing that I’m bombarding the internet with my face and eventually people will get tired of me. And time and time again you guys are just showing me so much love and healing those parts of my heart that have always felt like too much. I can’t express how grateful I am for you and for comments like this!
I will preorder your book the minute you tell us when it's available online. You are a shining star, one that we have needed during these past 2 1/2 years.
Lesley thank you so much!!!!! I just sent the first short story (LONG story! Did you know short stories aren’t actually short when books are involved? Because I didn’t! 😂) to my team to pass onto the potential publishing house and we will see how they like it! It’s really scary relying solely on written word to communicate an entire subconscious thought process. I can’t rely on my face and verbal tone to get a point across which is what I rely on MOST 😂 So trying to figure out how to write in a way that conveys the same emotion Is really challenging but SO rewarding when I can get it to read the way I want it to!
Thank you for your openness about postpartum mental health issues. Awareness is so necessary.
It’s my pleasure! It’s hard because I don’t want to ever scare someone or make it seem like it’s too much. But it is really difficult and it’s also not talked about enough which is what plays into the “I didn’t expect this at all” feeling!
Same for my youngest daughter - and she hid it so well that we had no idea how severe it was - and in her anxiety, she lashes out at the ones who love her the most (her husband and me). I applaud you for sharing one of the most sensitive part of your life!
YES ELYSE!! PND felt incomparable with 'normal' depression for me. An entirely different type! So on the money. Also- I wasn't aware it can hit ANY TIME in the first 12 months post partum. I thought I was in the clear because I was fine, and then when he was four months old- wham! Hit me like a train. But I didn't get it at all on my following baby. Great video, love the long form 👍❤️
This is so good to know about PND being able to hit later in the postpartum timeline. I had no clue!!! This is really helpful!
Hey we have the same birthday! That's cool! I also crochet. I liked your new crochet tutorial on the daisy granny square. Thanks!🌻
Elyse, this whole thing was just fantastic. Thank you so much for sharing this with us!
I had PPA REAL bad with my first child and I completely relate to your sentiment. I went from "I want five kids!" to "...We're gonna take it one at a time," after my first child. After we had our second? Elyse, I cannot tell you how redeeming it was. Maybe it was because I didn't have a c-section the second time around so my insides weren't BATHED in antibiotics, killing all the bad AND good bacteria in me, thus making me crazy, but I remember a week after having our daughter looking at my husband and saying, "This is so bizarre. I feel normal. I DO NOT feel crazy. I feel calm. WHAT IS HAPPENING?!" Like someone else commented below, it was a very restorative experience. Now that may not be the case for everyone, but maybe it could be helpful to know.
Also, I agree 100%. 0-1 kid was exponentially harder than 1-2. My son had just turned 3 and was the most amazing helper. I expected there to be so much jealousy but girl, this kid COULD. NOT. get enough of his sister. Enamored. ENAMORED.
Now am I still of the mindset that we're going to take it one at a time? Yes. 😂 Because second children somehow all manage to be a completely different breed than firstborns, but after 2.5 years, I'm finally ready to start thinking about more.
You're so right - take your time and have more when it feels right. Cheering you on!
P. S. The viola story somehow made me want to tear up even more than the PPA/PPD story. Fellow musician here and being able to choose the instrument you want and to be unique in that way is a precious feeling! Love that your mom helped you in the way you needed and listened to you. What a woman.
I been there , when my daughter was born. My postpartum was so bad I was so glad my mom was there. But I found my son’s birth was easier on my mental health. Even though he was born early and loads of problems . But everything turn out great. Thank Goodness.
I just wanna say that when you apologized for explaining too much, you don’t have to do that!
I personally always have so many questions about everything and that usually bothers people. Listening to you is always so fun and freeing because you answer all the questions I have by explaining things so thoroughly! I love the way you talk :)
WOW! like to be so human in all the feels and also so ambitious with UA-cam, book, podcast, tv show?! my goodness I am astonished. I am so happy for you to be living so fully.
This was the fastest 28 minutes ever!! I could watch more 🙌 Love this and thank you for being so open!!!
I at first was drawn to your content bc I’m hard of hearing and most of your things have captions on tiktok but I ended up staying because you really helped me get to a place in life where I could accept that not being polished and perfect all the time was okay. And I’ve gotten even my gram to watch your context about mental health, and we’re able to communicate and relate to each other easier now.
I’m hard of hearing too. Not real severe, but I know I need ti go to the Dr and get checked because I read it can contribute to dementia.
183k subscribers yesterday, April 11th, 2023. April 12th, 2023 187k, 4k subscribers within 24 hours. I predict by December of this year this channel will hit 1.2 million.❤
I had to pause at 16:49 to say two things. 1) I love your “editor” mentioning the broccoli and that you are so real that you didn’t refilm it. I struggle with this myself and it’s kept me from creating content so thank you. 2) I think you and Jona (I can’t remember if there is a h 😳😬) would make amazing adoptive parents. I’m only an outsider who was adopted but you look like you have so much love to give. I’ve struggled with D&A my whole life and thankfully didn’t have PP. I can’t imagine it being worse or different than what I’ve felt recently. If it’s in your heart definitely consider adoption. I’m so very thankful it’s a gift I was given! You are amazing! Off to finish the rest!
Thank you so much for your encouragement! Jonas and I both have felt strongly that adoption would most likely be in our future, but we just don’t know how or when. We’re open to it! I know we’ll meet people in every season of our life that will need us to be generous and open with our lives and home and we are committed to that all the time, every day. So the thought of someone coming along needing us to step up to adopt doesn’t scare us. Or even taking in a friend of August’s one day, whatever that looks like. We want to be a safe place for people that need it!
I never even saw the broccoli. I’m on a phone with small screen. Lol
Another way your home could be of so much help/service to kids: please consider fostering siblings, so that they don’t have to lose each other. (Do some due diligence to make sure there isn’t any Intra-sibling abuse, of course.) I had hoped to do that, but have not had the opportunity yet.
For other people who care about kids, but fostering/adopting is not an option: most areas have a CASA (Court Appointed Special Advocate) program where you can be trained to be the advocate for a child who has entered the foster system, is dealing with parents who can’t agree on custody issues, etc. You may be the only stable adult in this child’s life.
"Yeah I'm really happy...I think I'm going to cry now" classic, love you!
Actually cried hearing you talk about PPA. I have a 15 month old son and want to be the sort of person who can build a large family, but I’m just feeling like myself again and don’t know if I have what it takes.
14:56 - I am going through this right now too! Using content creation to remind myself of who I am again after going through hell the last 4.5 years. I'll take this as divinely timed confirmation that this is the right path. Sending love to you!
I’m so glad you talked about being ok with only having one kid. I had a really traumatic delivery and now have medical conditions that would complicate a healthy delivery. And honestly, after I had my son, I felt complete. I do have anxiety about my son being an only child, and the stigmas around that in society, but my son is now 9 and he tells me all the time he loves being an only and his friends are so jealous. Lol.
This is more common than people realise, medical complications and an only child. I am an only child because of this and I turned out ok! Honestly though it needs more talk sound this, awareness is so important.
I love how it feels like we’re just having a chat. You are so relaxed with the format.
Just sent my sister an “absolutely not” hat for her birthday. I couldn’t stop talking about you when I went to visit her last month. Love seeing you here on UA-cam!
It's so amazing that everything Elyse has done has been since mid COVID. Tiktok informed me I had ADHD right around the time Elyse started so I must have been fed her content immediately because I quit TT cold turkey in April of 22.
Such a great video, it’s so refreshing how open and vulnerable you are. More of this!
Wow i love Elyses personality. I wish she was my friend IRL. She'd just be great, y'know. I like how honest she is, and genuine. Im always inspired to accept myself more after listening to her. Thanks Elyse ❤
you are one of the most likable people I've ever seen online Thank you for letting us into your life. You are amazing!!
My husband and I have three little ones at home and often after getting the kids to sleep, we both go do some type of chore task before we come together and hang out, and I didn't know he was subscribed to you as well as myself. We had a nice chat last night about how wonderful you are and the awesome things about your videos. He's been watching for months and I just found you. Also our daughters middle name is elyse
I love love love these longer videos! You are so warm and caring and funny and REAL...and smart! You make me feel like my best friend does...safe, secure and highly amused 💜 Thank you for your content, Elyse.
I used to work at a gas station and once we had to throw out a smart water retail rack,and also a lifewtr retail rack. The vendors that were supposed to get them just told us to throw them away. So instead my coworker and I took them home! My coworker took home the smart water rack and used itto store dvds and I still have the lifewtr rack! People always ask me if I really like them and the answer is no! Absolutely not! Lol i prefer spring water, or more simply, tap water from my home, which is filtered by my britta pitcher. But now every time I look at my little lifewtr shelf I will be thinking of you Elyse, that is great bc you are such a comfort.
Omg! Thank you for your decision to keep going content creating!!! You’re one of the best people I’ve ever discovered on the internet, and I recently found out we live in the same neighborhood which is crazy!!! Thanks for all your work!
Oh my gosh that is so cool!!! Hi neighbor! 😂❤️
I literally wish you were my friend in real life. I'm 32 and I need someone with the attitude you have. And I know like most people you probably don't understand, but you're and inspiration. Not to mention absolutely hilarious!!
I so appreciate your candor about your life and your struggles!! I struggled sooooo hard with PPD and PPA after my second kid. After years of IVF, I had virtually no depression or anxiety after my first. So I was gobsmacked when I was spiraling out of control and had no idea why after my second was born. I never wanted to unalive myself or my kids or anything so I didn’t think I had PPD. I just could not function on almost any level. I had a 16 month old and a one month old to care for so I shoved it all down and trudged on. Then a week later my husband and myself got covid (august of 2020!!) and my will to push through evaporated. I asked my doctor for help and started medication for about 6 months. One of the darkest times of my life and I sob every time I think about how I treated myself and my family during that time. I had my tubes tied because I am too terrified to be in that place again. Thank you for sharing with us.
You are amazing Elyse! Beautiful inside and out ❤ Please don’t stop being who you are! We need more people like you on UA-cam who are true and authentic. I also love your music 🎶
Post partum surprised me too but I promise you it gets better with number 2 and number 3. However I totally agree with you, the anxiety is unmatched. No one told me that I wouldn’t want anyone holding my baby. I literally felt my skin crawl with the thought of other people holding my baby. It was crazy anxiety I couldn’t explain, unlike the other times I felt anxiety.
I have never, ever, ever been one to listen to people just talk. I get joy just listening to you because you’re so you and just human. Thanks for your content!
Awww Vilma this means the world to me!!! Thank you so much for being here and watching this video! It means a lot!!!
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for advocating for living with anxiety, mental health struggles, working life combined with mum life and so many other things. I’ve never watched someone that I related to in that way at all and it honestly means so much to me to see. I’ve been obsessed with your videos since I stumbled across the one about ordering coffee and being misheard on Facebook. You remind me that having a brain that works this way doesn’t mean we have to be limited. And that’s amazing. Xxx
I kinda love that I got in on your UA-cam before the 100k mark so I can imagine you reading my comment while sitting, scrolling and hugging your pillow as a possibly very real thing.
Your how to save a life video got me good today. It’s… haunting. Definitely cried really hard because of things that are emotional in my life but if it was bad I wouldn’t have-
Ty for the beautiful musical soul hug 🖤 I TRULY needed it.
I wish I could reply with a picture because I am quite literally sitting here, reading your comment, and holding a pillow 😂❤️ I’m so grateful you are here! Those kind of soul hug moments are exactly why I keep showing up and making these videos so your encouragement means the WORLD to me! Usually when I’m feeling overwhelmed with life & emotion I have to just sing my way out because nothing else will really get me out of that place. I feel like I really find my people when I make those videos!
@@elyse_myers awww I knew it! 🤗 and I’m the exact same way! That’s why we (the singers and our like kind) love you! 🖤
I love that I’ve been following you since before the taco debut. Haha
You are so pure, genuine and kind. I love SO much what you are bringing to social media outlets. Keep shinning bright and spreading your light. ❤️
The world needs more people like you! ✨
Thank you so so much, Cassie!
I know this is a really dated comment, but from one Mama to another sending prayers, love, and light.
You’ve Got This, even when you may not feel you do. Much love, Sister! ❤
"he one year mark of August being alive." ...also known as a birthday. Oh Elyse, I ❤️ you. #TheInternetsBestFriend
he was alive 9 months longer than his birthday
@@stephienotcurry excellent point. But if that isn't the way ahe meant it, it's hilarious.
Thank you for sharing all that you have shared. You are such a bright light. You are generous with sharing all that you have shared with us, you don't hesitate to smile, and you sound so encouraging. I'm glad I found you on the internet. I think you have really embraced your life, and you enjoy it to it's fullest!
I never watch a video this long. It was nice to learn about you. Glad you are having success with content creating.
Thanks so much for your support! It means the world!
Elyse.
You are a warrior and a boss . You have a way with words, that gets to the heart of the matter and resonates with all different walks of life. You deserve all the amazing things that have happened and continue to happen because you have worked beyond hard to get to where you are.
Congrats on all your accomplishment.
❤🤗 from Atlanta, GA!
I’m so happy that you can genuinely say you’re happy. Sounds like you’ve got the right people around you ❤️
Your content is so comforting and joyful to watch. So happy you decided to take a leap and become a content creator.
Thank you for always showing up in this space so genuinely and vulnerably. No one ever has to wonder if you mean what you say because your authenticity just shines through in everything you do. You inspire all of us "undercover creatives" who wonder if our stories and voices matter. Your voice matters so much and brings much-needed light to the interwebs!
You have such a beautiful and powerful conversational style. I could listen to you talk alll day long!!!
I so relate to the postpartum depression. I am so happy to hear you talking about this. You will help so many people. Thank you, beautiful elyse. ❤️
I’m so glad to know I’m not alone! ❤️
I’m sitting here watching this and you’ve just had your second baby and I just hope that you’re doing ok postpartum this time around ❤
I was really getting into this while having a snack of pickled okra and kosher baby dill pickles when I realized it was already over love you and love your content! you are making such a wonderfully positive difference in this world.
That makes me so happy to hear! Making long form content is something I’m still really trying to figure out and this video was by far my biggest stretch. It means so much to me that you enjoyed it! (Also that snack sounds amazing!)
I love how you are just a natural comedian, storyteller, and just very likeable person and all you had to do was start making videos and boom 2 years later you’re a full time content creator
The more you show us of yourself, the more we are able to see ourselves in you. That's been so incredibly important and helpful because when we're going through something we can think to ourselves "I'm not alone" and "If someone else can get through this and be happy / healthy / successful, then so can I!" Thank you for showing us the real you so that we may learn to become the real us.