Hank Azaria’s Journey to Radical Accountability | The Man Enough Podcast

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  • Опубліковано 3 вер 2023
  • Renowned voice actor Hank Azaria joins Liz and Jamey for a candid talk on accountability during controversy. Formerly known for voicing Apu on The Simpsons, Hank found himself in the hot seat when his role as a white man voicing an Indian character was brought into question, forcing him to embark on a journey of deep introspection, personal growth, and human connection. In this episode, Hank opens up about his journey to accountability from his initial defensiveness amidst the controversy to his current life’s mission to help others shed their own unconscious biases that may be holding them back from true human connection. Later, Hank’s Human Solidarity Project co-founder, Dustin Washington joins the conversation to dive deeper into their commitment to fostering unity, introspection, and combating racial and gendered societal norms. Tune in for an illuminating conversation that encourages thought and great accountability.
    Timecodes:
    05:32 - Hank wonders if he’s ‘enough’ as a father for his teenage son
    10:45 - How Hank’s understanding of gender equity has grown
    15:00 - Societal messages of misogyny
    17:40 - Letting go of Apu
    28:22 - Hank’s journey to accountability
    39:35 - How do we get children of the next generation excited about social change?
    45:34 - A healthy amount of shame can be a good thing
    47:00 - Do we use our “blindspots” as an excuse?
    53:58 - Hank is working to create human solidarity
    59:45 - Dustin Washington and the Soul Focused Group
    01:02:45 - How has racism impacted male friendships?
    Quotes:
    “There are good decent people out there that will not look under the hood, because of defensiveness because of ego.” - Jamey Heath
    “It’s one thing if there's a hole in the ground and you trip because you don’t see it, okay I can forgive that. But if you tell me you see the hole now but you’re just not making any effort to walk around it, okay now you’ve lost me.” - Jamey Heath
    “Part of what motivated me to approach the Apu [situation] thoughtfully is what am I going to say to [my son], some day he will be old enough to discuss this? What will I look him in the eye and say?” - Hank Azaria
    “I think a lot of young boys are growing up feeling like they're the problem. And feeling like they are responsible for something that they didn’t really do because they didn’t create the world we live in…you're not responsible for building the world we live in but you are responsible to change it.” - Liz Plank
    “We don’t have to have all the answers, we’re searching for the answers.” - Jamey Heath
    “Racism has created an artificial barrier that now lives in our subconscious, that keeps us from having the level of human connection that we should have, which allows us to come together and solve problems.” - Dustin Washington
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 48

  • @cat21o6
    @cat21o6 9 місяців тому +3

    This episode was refreshing! Dustin's appearance was a great surprise - I met him in 2016 through the work of Felicia Savage Friedman of Yoga Roots on Location - an embodied anti-racist organizing school. (Felicia, by the way, would be an amazing guest on this show...) I'm glad to see Dustin and the work of Soul Focused Group represented on Man Enough. They are an example of those who are and have been doing this work, genuinely, on the ground, for years... in communities, groups, one on one, with family, within self. And they are forthcoming in their honesty by sharing shortcomings and imperfections. I would love to hear more from guests like Dustin who don't necessarily have mega public followings, yet have the years of lived experience and humility that genuinely touch people. It's fortunate that Hank connected to this work and its framework, so that he could dive into the journey and share his influence and resources to bring more people in.

    • @WeAreManEnough
      @WeAreManEnough  5 місяців тому

      Thank you for your feedback and suggestions. Glad you're here with us.

  • @mayamichelle6741
    @mayamichelle6741 10 місяців тому +8

    Hank was great guest. I really enjoyed his insights. I got the sense that we could benefit from a full interview with Dustin as well. 🙏

  • @jamiegeorge4643
    @jamiegeorge4643 8 місяців тому +1

    Never thought Hank would make me cry cry🥹🥲

  • @krestal0
    @krestal0 9 місяців тому +7

    This episode is awesome in every sense of the word. Thank you guys. I have never heard a man as accountable and it’s great that Hank did the work necessary to make change.

    • @WeAreManEnough
      @WeAreManEnough  9 місяців тому +2

      Thank you so. much for listening!

    • @krestal0
      @krestal0 9 місяців тому

      Accountability is so difficult for so many people and they can benefit from hearing this. He literally gave a step by step guide without the shame and stigma attached. You all are doing amazing work. @@WeAreManEnough

    • @wisdom9091
      @wisdom9091 7 місяців тому

      @@WeAreManEnough name 1 feminist movie that taught accountability to women and girls. And what about actual laws actually exist that benefit women like alimony child support title9 taxes payer funded programs and presumption of guilt. Stuff by women and feminist voters decades ago . Should daughter's take accountability for those

  • @kachunk7454
    @kachunk7454 9 місяців тому +6

    Thank you all for showing us what accountability culture looks like :)

    • @wisdom9091
      @wisdom9091 7 місяців тому

      When it's on women it's misogyny looking at facts is mysonygy reality culture is mysonygy culture. Holding the left to own standards.womeb never any accountability

    • @WeAreManEnough
      @WeAreManEnough  5 місяців тому

      Thank you. Glad you're here with us.

  • @spunlines4557
    @spunlines4557 7 місяців тому +1

    this is not judgement. but i find it fascinating in a conversation around biases and growth, that Jamie’s first reaction to new information on the term ‘blindspot’ was defensiveness. really demonstrates the point at hand and how challenging it can be to adjust out thinking.

  • @RainbowOwl24
    @RainbowOwl24 2 місяці тому

    Girl, you got me. I clicked immediately. I normally avoid clicking videos with titles like this, cuz I hate being clickbaited, but the fact that you were immediately remorseful made it ok for me and kinda made me giggle a bit too. (Btw, those pins are so cuuuute!!)
    I've been a viewer for so many years that despite missing the days when more was shared because it painted a more well rounded picture of who you are, I totally respect and understand your choice to create boundaries and privacy in your life. That said, I still reflexively clicked so fast when i saw that title. You got me! 😂🤣

  • @vanhoudtshoorn
    @vanhoudtshoorn 9 місяців тому +4

    Oh man, great meaningful conversation❤. Thank you. As a coloured South African ( as stated on my birth certificate) this conversation resonated alot. We need more of these meaningful conversations. Love you guys❤

    • @WeAreManEnough
      @WeAreManEnough  9 місяців тому +1

      So happy to hear, thanks for listening!

    • @wisdom9091
      @wisdom9091 7 місяців тому

      @@WeAreManEnough if one side has shup up and listen it's not a conversation

  • @mayamichelle6741
    @mayamichelle6741 10 місяців тому +7

    Great show on accountability - and the fundamental connection between being man enough and how to be truly accountable.

    • @wisdom9091
      @wisdom9091 7 місяців тому

      Yeah hold accountability to women is mysonygy. Even more actually lows favor benefits women. And boys didn't create world actually oppressed by

  • @annescholten9313
    @annescholten9313 10 місяців тому +3

    AMAZING conversation!❤

  • @johnrudd6311
    @johnrudd6311 9 місяців тому +3

    The blind spot is a spot inside the eye where you don’t have receptors (where the optic nerve meets the eye). It’s not about those who are visual able vs “being blind”. Even those with perfect vision have this ocular feature. I am sensitive to those who are blind who might not like the term, but I also think the “blind” in blind spot isn’t a form of ableism, because it’s not about person vs person visual impairments.

    • @johnrudd6311
      @johnrudd6311 9 місяців тому +1

      When I say I am sensitive to it “but…”, I’m not saying I will keep saying the term. To make an analogy, there is a synonym for “miserly” that sounds a LOT like the n word… even though I know the words aren’t related, I also know they sound similar enough that it is not worth the harm, even if it’s mistaken for a word I didn’t actually say. I’m just saying: like that synonym for miserly, “blind spot” doesn’t mean what was suggested here. But if the blind community says “it really makes us feel marginalized for how it comes across, even though it’s not a reference to us at all”, I do give credence to that and picking a different way to relate the concept.

    • @matthewlee4834
      @matthewlee4834 9 місяців тому +1

      Very, very good point

    • @WeAreManEnough
      @WeAreManEnough  5 місяців тому

      Thanks for the thoughtful response. Glad you're here with us.

  • @kylerollins6483
    @kylerollins6483 9 місяців тому

    I'm about to plug other content I found that was reminded of when they talk about what was happening with the tennis coach. There is a channel called Cinema Therapy where they discussed Fight Club with San Francisco Giants manager, Gabe Kapler. There was a part in the second episode where they discuss taking accountability for your actions. In Fight Club's climactic ending sequence, the Narrator owns the actions as his and recognizing that everything leading up to that moment was his responsibility and be able to stop himself from highly destructive acts towards society at large. Yet, the narrator is still able to take what he learned from Tyler and be assertive, not be scared of who he is or his sexuality. And in the end, Narrator is rewarded for his accountability, not by Marla, but also in the world the film takes place in. Narrator is able to take what's useful from Tyler Durden and reject what is otherwise malicious to himself and to society. It's quite an interesting analysis of film.

    • @wisdom9091
      @wisdom9091 7 місяців тому

      Cinima therapy is a major cases in point why therapist and Story is bad for mental health. And name 1 feminist movie that taught accountability to women and girls. Bad mom's . The Barbie movie actually rewrote history claiming the the career woman and the leader ship position witch according to that speech women just can't handle was created by patriarchy not . He himself seems feel guilty for divorcing a Narcissist he hurt this Narricist X wife and he needs to take accountability for hurting the Narcissist.
      He actually says if value relationships with you'll invalidating all your feelings and shut and listen to their winning.
      Thinking 🤔 about that making feel validated means making everyone else invalid.
      So why should we value relationships with because . They divorce you put on the street and then cry about their unfairly blamed

  • @soniabuenodelatorre
    @soniabuenodelatorre 9 місяців тому

    Thank you for all you do... Question... Is Justin going to come back to the podcast? It's just not the same without him ;)

  • @FatLadyKiller
    @FatLadyKiller 9 місяців тому +3

    Doing an impression or accent is not racist. Apu was a smartly written character that was usually the voice of reason. They did episodes that paid homage to middle eastern people and their beliefs. The mentality that you can no longer act or talk like another race or do accents of people that actually exist is so ridiculous and unnecessarily negative. People just want to complain to hear themselves complain. The fact that y’all keep calling every single thing racist actually makes you racist. Check your privileges

    • @WeAreManEnough
      @WeAreManEnough  9 місяців тому

      Thank you for sharing your perspective!

  • @GUITARTIME2024
    @GUITARTIME2024 9 місяців тому +1

    Apu was a hilarious character.

  • @wisdom9091
    @wisdom9091 7 місяців тому +3

    The actually bands book like catcher and the Rye. The right Bands false narrative books feom schools supposed to be objective

  • @mayamichelle6741
    @mayamichelle6741 10 місяців тому +3

    Yep, it's hard to look under the hood in a society that values pride so much. Vicious cycles of pride, perfection and shame at work there. Sucks.

    • @WeAreManEnough
      @WeAreManEnough  9 місяців тому

      Thank you for sharing your perspective

  • @OrtegaOY
    @OrtegaOY 9 місяців тому +1

    WoW! 😮 I'd long ago written Hank Azaria off as a racist asshole. I'm so grateful to learn that he's on the road to redemption, and learning to become a Solutionary 😌 I also appreciated what I perceived as an improvement upon the balance ⚖️ and structure of the host and guest contributions 🤓 Many Jewels Dropped in this episode 💎 There was a moment however, the conversation began to be derailed and deflected around the impact of the term "blindspot" 🙄 As a Man (Male) of Afro-Indigenous Ancestry, I have noticed a peculiar trend in a European Descended (White) Person's comprehension and interpretation of what it means to be "Conscious" or (a term coined by Peoples of the Pan-African Diaspora) "Woke". It's often thee aesthetic and superficial facade of oppression that they're trying to fix or change, and not the Systemic Infrastructure that perpetuates Injustice. So let's change the name of meanings of things, all the while stepping over thee ever growing population of homeless and impoverished people on our way to yoga 🧘🏻‍♂️ and matcha lattes 🍵. Intention vs Impact. If we don't see you, we don't know you, and can't trust you. I'm being intentionally hyper-critical, as I really love and believe in the Power of this podcast/show as a vehicle of Healing in the World 🌍. "But with Great Power, comes Great Responsibility" - Stan Lee

    • @chrisscott8604
      @chrisscott8604 9 місяців тому +2

      Dude, these guys are doing great things. Funny how a podcast dedicated to showing people that they are "enough" is getting hate for not doing "enough". Take the good, my guy.

    • @OrtegaOY
      @OrtegaOY 9 місяців тому +1

      @@chrisscott8604 "Being Enough" and "Doing Enough" are 2 very different discussions. I don't recall disparaging the hosts of the show, their self-worth, or their contributions and work that they do in the world. But somebody's got to keep everyone honest here, and I've accepted that call. I take all the Good that is offered herein, and ever look forward to seeing it even more refined in it's focus. Sure, we're inherently enough in an existential sense, but being isn't doing. And I haven't spoken to anything not within their capacity to do. But are they listening, and are they willing? Or, willing to consider at least. The Litmus Test

    • @chrisscott8604
      @chrisscott8604 9 місяців тому

      Nah bro, you're simply looking for an outlet to scavange for inadequacies in others rather than doing the real work on yourself. Look inside, my guy. That is where you need to start. @@OrtegaOY

    • @WeAreManEnough
      @WeAreManEnough  5 місяців тому +1

      Thanks for your perspective.

  • @tmalloy9
    @tmalloy9 9 місяців тому +1

    Blank spots might work.

  • @brycenew
    @brycenew 10 місяців тому

    🔥

    • @wisdom9091
      @wisdom9091 7 місяців тому

      Do feminist ever take accountability or acknowledge reality or call observable reality conspiracy theory mysonygy . Name 1 feminist movie that taught accountability to women and girls at wasn't anti accountability
      The Barbie movie speech actually said the career woman and female leadership witch hard on women was a product of patriarchy

  • @wisdom9091
    @wisdom9091 7 місяців тому +3

    What when fact show sociaty and actual laws actually benefit women. Abd was past by women. Is women's job remove policies benefit them

  • @wisdom9091
    @wisdom9091 7 місяців тому +1

    There not guilty for being from the winners

  • @GretchenHewitt
    @GretchenHewitt 10 місяців тому

    POW.ER.FUL!!!