2 rules: 1. Core fears & motivations > habits & traits (Stop getting hung up on personality, it’s about the “why”) 2. Life examples > your own opinion (Look at how you’ve felt and behaved throughout your life - how you responded to humiliation, to loss, to stress, to accomplishment - use those examples in your answers to make sure you’re not just selecting something that seems nice)
I'm more 9ish when I'm at peace but more 6ish in times of stress. I can also relate to 5 quite a bit since I need a lot of time alone to recharge my batteries and need to plan everything out before acting, sometimes at the cost of it being too late to act at all by the time I've made my plan, so its time for a new plan at that point. I've heard that called "laziness" but I'm always working, its just mental work--trying to predict everything that could be wrong and be well-prepared before I jump into something. I would probably stay home and away from all the commotion of life if I didn't need to work for money and if I didn't have strong political convictions that I have to go out and fight for. That said, I do like my long hot baths and laying in bed for long periods of time, and enjoying good foods and good drinks in a chill, comfortable, slow-paced atmosphere, so I return to that when I'm able.
I really love that you talk about the Journey and realizing that we're on the right track. That's been true for me since I thought I was a 5w4 for 2 years, before releasing that I'm a 9w1.
Centres of intelligence really helped me. I was struggling because I really related to bits from almost two thirds of the types after reading about them (all bar except 3, 4 and 7). Given I related somewhat to all the gut triad enneagram, I focused in on them. Then it was easy. I didn’t relate enough to 9 to consider it being my enneagram (it is my wing though) and I related more to 8 then 1. And I’m almost 100% an unhealthy type 5 when I’m stressed and I relate to 2 when I feel like I’m doing my best.
thanks for sharing your journey with us! I'm glad that the centers of intelligence triad helped you... once you narrow it down, it makes the rest easier!
Perfectly-timed video, Abs! I was struggling between enneagram types for the longest while: Initially thought I was a type 4 based on the summary of the types; then thought I was a 1w9 after an online test; found an old 2 year old UA-cam comment where I stated I was a definite 3 due to my fierce competitive nature; then I tested as a 3w4; but I struggled with that as I'm not assertive at all, I either withdraw or are compliant; then I tested as a 4w5 but can totally relate to 4w3 video interviews. I do believe that I am a 4w5 - creative and analytical; I geek out over data and reports (I'm a remote digital analyst who prefers to work alone with enough job autonomy to foster creative problem-solving); I value my alone time to the point that too much stimulation makes me moody and cynical (I'm also an aspiring writer who can get lost in analysis paralysis and research); and I've always felt like I don't belong and that I'm different from my family (initially wanted to hide that uniqueness but now fully embracing it). I was ashamed that I struggled so hard with my enneagram type but as Abs said in the video, it is a journey and a process. Awesome video, as usual! UPDATE EDIT: I'm actually a SO 1w2. Thought I was a 4w5 because I was UNHEALTHY. The more you know :-)
My online test gave me an insight as to which I appeared high in saying I was a 1w9, high in 7 and also strong in 8&5. I initially thought the 1w9 was right but couldn’t fully relate to their high standards. It wasn’t until I read “Road back to You” that I could say I am a 7 ( also a daughter and granddaughter of 7’s) and that I have been trying really hard not to repeat their mistakes and my own. I therefore leant into and used 7’s natural link with 1, to try not give into 7’s FOMO. The other book I found really helpful was “the enneagram a journey of self discovery”, out of print but illuminated things in a different way.
ppl know enneagram based off fear and desires but enneagram is so much more than that ! you have to take in enneagrams fixations, traps, virtues, defense mechanisms and triads such as compliant triad ( 1, 2 6 ) or reactive triad ( 4, 6 , 8 ) and especially iv. and dont always rely on tests , guys
I feel too anxious and pessimistic to be a 9 and too lazy and asocial to be a 6. I thought about being a 5 but I'm not detached from my emotions at all. But at least I narrowed it down to 3 😄
I identify as an 8 in the tests consistently. But I have this intense need to perform and get results (3), and sometimes when I express my emotional side on UA-cam via my videos- I think I’m a 4. I don’t know wtf am I 😭😭 Forever vacillating between 8w7 and 3w4 rip
So Sad, Truity gave me one type and Enneagram Institute gave me a different type (Different Triads). But when I look at myself, I think I am more motivated by Fear than Rage. When I approach the unknown, I try to learn as much as I can about the situation. (sigh) I will continue the Journey. My top 3 from Truity had percentages of 98%, 94%, 93%. 😅
Definitely gonna check some of these books out :) Does anyone have a good advice/concrete steps to take to become sure of your triad?😅 I really struggle with figuring out whether I belong to the head or the gut triad? (I’m not a very emotional person so I don’t really think that I might belong to the Heart triad)
I am so an 8 it’s hard to think I have a wing! LOL! I do try to lean into my 9 wing. Don’t see a lot of 7. Definitely go to 5 under stress!! Just leave me ALONE!! I need silence! Naturally friendly and helpful so yeah two in health. Love your channel!
Abbey, I'm stuck between type 4, 6 and 9. What to do here as its the three different centres of intelligence? Also is there such a thing as a decent type 6 description?
@@AbbeyHowe thanks Abbey :) I think maybe dutiful? Also tricky is that in my family my mum is a 9 and brother is a 5 so definitely a lot of withdrawn influence there :)
Ooh, Abbey!!! I don't know if you have done a video about this, but how does a person differ if we put enneagram + extroversion/introversion together?? Like, how would a enneagram 7 who also is extroverted differ from same enneagram, but introverted? Very curious! I have a sister who is a enneagram 2, so you'd think she would be a "family person" - but she's more like a "friend-lover" and alone-time-lover. Maybe because she also is introverted? Other than that she is wholeheartedly a 2... Thank you for all your amazing videos!
No matter how much I research about it I find I'm a type 8, but what I'm even more sure about is that I'm an ENTJ. The problem is a lot of people say that the combination is incompatible so I'm really lost 🙃
I think that every MBTI x enneagram combination is possible because they're about different things. MBTI is how you perceive the world and make decisions and enneagram is about your fears and motivations. Some combinations are going to be rarer and some more common but rare things exist!
I have tested as a 7, 6, and 4 depending on the test. I have read 2 books. I have an idea of what a 4 or a 7 is like and have traits of both but the 6 is confusing to me. I don't get a clear picture.
@@Catlily5 The 7 becomes a 5 when he is doing good. Also, he becomes a 1 when stressing. Could it be that the 1 mirrors the 4 in that you become quiet/reclusive/impatient when it comes to your feeling when you feel people aren’t on your side? Or that the 5 mirrors the 4 in that he is a little more reserved too.
@@AE0N777 Maybe that could be it. I test as a 4 on your test but I tested as a 7 on Russo's book. That was a more thorough test. My sister thinks I am 6 and a different internet test agreed. I don't think I am a shallow person like a 7 though.
Can enneagram types change over time? I have had a monumental shift in my worldview/mindset in my late 40’s and feel very differently about most things since then. I struggle to answer test questions because I automatically go to answer how I always have and then realize that those are no longer valid for me. I feel like I was definitely an 8, but don’t connect with those descriptions now.
enneagrams develop to how you were raised or just how your childhood was , so no it cant change. you can be mistyped though, or integrating / disintegrating. i wouldnt trust free enneagram tests that much
2 rules:
1. Core fears & motivations > habits & traits
(Stop getting hung up on personality, it’s about the “why”)
2. Life examples > your own opinion
(Look at how you’ve felt and behaved throughout your life - how you responded to humiliation, to loss, to stress, to accomplishment - use those examples in your answers to make sure you’re not just selecting something that seems nice)
I'm more 9ish when I'm at peace but more 6ish in times of stress. I can also relate to 5 quite a bit since I need a lot of time alone to recharge my batteries and need to plan everything out before acting, sometimes at the cost of it being too late to act at all by the time I've made my plan, so its time for a new plan at that point. I've heard that called "laziness" but I'm always working, its just mental work--trying to predict everything that could be wrong and be well-prepared before I jump into something. I would probably stay home and away from all the commotion of life if I didn't need to work for money and if I didn't have strong political convictions that I have to go out and fight for. That said, I do like my long hot baths and laying in bed for long periods of time, and enjoying good foods and good drinks in a chill, comfortable, slow-paced atmosphere, so I return to that when I'm able.
look into tritypes
I really love that you talk about the Journey and realizing that we're on the right track.
That's been true for me since I thought I was a 5w4 for 2 years, before releasing that I'm a 9w1.
Yes! It’s such a journey. ♥️
Wow i thought dad was a 5w4 but 9w1 makes sense too! Thank you!
I also recommend
Narrative Enneagram
I love 9 types of leadership. It's really fascinating.
truly!!
Centres of intelligence really helped me. I was struggling because I really related to bits from almost two thirds of the types after reading about them (all bar except 3, 4 and 7). Given I related somewhat to all the gut triad enneagram, I focused in on them.
Then it was easy. I didn’t relate enough to 9 to consider it being my enneagram (it is my wing though) and I related more to 8 then 1. And I’m almost 100% an unhealthy type 5 when I’m stressed and I relate to 2 when I feel like I’m doing my best.
thanks for sharing your journey with us! I'm glad that the centers of intelligence triad helped you... once you narrow it down, it makes the rest easier!
Perfectly-timed video, Abs! I was struggling between enneagram types for the longest while: Initially thought I was a type 4 based on the summary of the types; then thought I was a 1w9 after an online test; found an old 2 year old UA-cam comment where I stated I was a definite 3 due to my fierce competitive nature; then I tested as a 3w4; but I struggled with that as I'm not assertive at all, I either withdraw or are compliant; then I tested as a 4w5 but can totally relate to 4w3 video interviews.
I do believe that I am a 4w5 - creative and analytical; I geek out over data and reports (I'm a remote digital analyst who prefers to work alone with enough job autonomy to foster creative problem-solving); I value my alone time to the point that too much stimulation makes me moody and cynical (I'm also an aspiring writer who can get lost in analysis paralysis and research); and I've always felt like I don't belong and that I'm different from my family (initially wanted to hide that uniqueness but now fully embracing it).
I was ashamed that I struggled so hard with my enneagram type but as Abs said in the video, it is a journey and a process. Awesome video, as usual!
UPDATE EDIT: I'm actually a SO 1w2. Thought I was a 4w5 because I was UNHEALTHY. The more you know :-)
Sending you love!!!! Thanks for sharing your journey!
Beatrice Chestnut and Uranio Paes just came up with a new test and they have a free mini test, too.
Ooh can you link it here?
My online test gave me an insight as to which I appeared high in saying I was a 1w9, high in 7 and also strong in 8&5. I initially thought the 1w9 was right but couldn’t fully relate to their high standards. It wasn’t until I read “Road back to You” that I could say I am a 7 ( also a daughter and granddaughter of 7’s) and that I have been trying really hard not to repeat their mistakes and my own. I therefore leant into and used 7’s natural link with 1, to try not give into 7’s FOMO.
The other book I found really helpful was “the enneagram a journey of self discovery”, out of print but illuminated things in a different way.
going by centers of intelligence helped me a lot! I'm almost equal parts 4 and 9 but I'm definitely in the heart triad.
subtypes r so important! i used to think i was a 6 but in reality i was a self preservation one! sp 1s tend to mistype as 6s due to our anxiousness
My enneagram number is the chapter in the book that I can't read all the way through without hyperventilating
ppl know enneagram based off fear and desires but enneagram is so much more than that ! you have to take in enneagrams fixations, traps, virtues, defense mechanisms and triads such as compliant triad ( 1, 2 6 ) or reactive triad ( 4, 6 , 8 ) and especially iv.
and dont always rely on tests , guys
guys, learn about childhood wounds. it will make your enneagram journey much easier. my suggestion is read naranjo
Holy self awareness 😂
that was my fave part haha
Really really really really helpful. Thank you. ❤
I feel too anxious and pessimistic to be a 9 and too lazy and asocial to be a 6. I thought about being a 5 but I'm not detached from my emotions at all. But at least I narrowed it down to 3 😄
I'm like this as well.
I identify as an 8 in the tests consistently. But I have this intense need to perform and get results (3), and sometimes when I express my emotional side on UA-cam via my videos- I think I’m a 4. I don’t know wtf am I 😭😭
Forever vacillating between 8w7 and 3w4 rip
So Sad, Truity gave me one type and Enneagram Institute gave me a different type (Different Triads). But when I look at myself, I think I am more motivated by Fear than Rage. When I approach the unknown, I try to learn as much as I can about the situation. (sigh) I will continue the Journey. My top 3 from Truity had percentages of 98%, 94%, 93%. 😅
It's all a part of the journey! The cool part is you are discovering yourself!
the enneagram institute test told me I am tied between the type 2 and type 9. I didn't think that was a thing?!??
Definitely gonna check some of these books out :)
Does anyone have a good advice/concrete steps to take to become sure of your triad?😅
I really struggle with figuring out whether I belong to the head or the gut triad? (I’m not a very emotional person so I don’t really think that I might belong to the Heart triad)
Would love to hear anyone else's opinions on this??
I am so an 8 it’s hard to think I have a wing! LOL! I do try to lean into my 9 wing. Don’t see a lot of 7. Definitely go to 5 under stress!! Just leave me ALONE!! I need silence! Naturally friendly and helpful so yeah two in health. Love your channel!
glad this was helpful for you!
All I do everyday is intuition and intuition.. I think even if I wud do a crime, the answer wud b my intuition!!
Holy “self awareness” 😆
Abbey, I'm stuck between type 4, 6 and 9. What to do here as its the three different centres of intelligence?
Also is there such a thing as a decent type 6 description?
Pursue figuring out your core number, but also look into Tritype.
@@leogrrrl5876 thank you :)
@@laynagilbert4450 You're welcome!
Look at the interpersonal coping triad! 4 and 9 are both withdrawn, and 6 is dutiful! You may find distinction there.
@@AbbeyHowe thanks Abbey :) I think maybe dutiful? Also tricky is that in my family my mum is a 9 and brother is a 5 so definitely a lot of withdrawn influence there :)
Ooh, Abbey!!! I don't know if you have done a video about this, but how does a person differ if we put enneagram + extroversion/introversion together?? Like, how would a enneagram 7 who also is extroverted differ from same enneagram, but introverted? Very curious!
I have a sister who is a enneagram 2, so you'd think she would be a "family person" - but she's more like a "friend-lover" and alone-time-lover. Maybe because she also is introverted? Other than that she is wholeheartedly a 2...
Thank you for all your amazing videos!
HOLY SELF AWARENESS 😂😂😂😂😂
Funny enough I act like a 5 but in a very 7 way, I have a strong 8 part but the fear and desire I relate most to is the 1’s. So yeah, being ENTP :).
I am an ENTP. I test as a 7, 4, or 6. Depending on the test. I score somewhat high on 1 and 5 also.
I already know mine but this was interesting
glad you enjoyed!
No matter how much I research about it I find I'm a type 8, but what I'm even more sure about is that I'm an ENTJ. The problem is a lot of people say that the combination is incompatible so I'm really lost 🙃
I think that every MBTI x enneagram combination is possible because they're about different things. MBTI is how you perceive the world and make decisions and enneagram is about your fears and motivations. Some combinations are going to be rarer and some more common but rare things exist!
you need to learn about subtypes. you can be a sx 1, so 2, sp 3... 8 lookalikes
this combination is not incompatible at all though
@@StrongestLibrafluidAlive There are a lot of people on the internet that explain why it isn't compatible even though I didn't get all of it
@@clearskies2434 Okay I'll research about that bc for now I only know that I'm an sx/so/sp
I am confused between 1, 5 and 9. I score high on 7 but I'm an introvert...sometimes I wonder if I am a 2...I am so lost 😪
Seems like 1, 6, and 9 keep coming up for me
I have tested as a 7, 6, and 4 depending on the test. I have read 2 books. I have an idea of what a 4 or a 7 is like and have traits of both but the 6 is confusing to me. I don't get a clear picture.
you could be a 7w6.
@@AE0N777 Maybe, I can't figure out what a 6 is. It differs from book to book. And where does the 4 come in? It seems like 4 and 7 are very different.
@@Catlily5 The 7 becomes a 5 when he is doing good. Also, he becomes a 1 when stressing. Could it be that the 1 mirrors the 4 in that you become quiet/reclusive/impatient when it comes to your feeling when you feel people aren’t on your side? Or that the 5 mirrors the 4 in that he is a little more reserved too.
@@AE0N777 Maybe that could be it. I test as a 4 on your test but I tested as a 7 on Russo's book. That was a more thorough test. My sister thinks I am 6 and a different internet test agreed. I don't think I am a shallow person like a 7 though.
Which books?
$12 Enneagram Institute test 🤯
Me when stressed out?
Me when at peace?
Instinct
Analysis
Emotion
I took 2 tests both were highest in 5 then a couple points less 3 then a couple points less was 8.... what does this mean?
Enneagram 1 a gut type a!ways a gut!!
thanks Abbey! Any tips for finding out coworkers' and friends' enneagram types?
Can enneagram types change over time? I have had a monumental shift in my worldview/mindset in my late 40’s and feel very differently about most things since then. I struggle to answer test questions because I automatically go to answer how I always have and then realize that those are no longer valid for me. I feel like I was definitely an 8, but don’t connect with those descriptions now.
no it can't change
@Zenolegor doesn't necessarily. healthy 8 goest to 2, older 8 doesn't mean a healthy 8. some people spend their entire life without integration
enneagrams develop to how you were raised or just how your childhood was , so no it cant change. you can be mistyped though, or integrating / disintegrating. i wouldnt trust free enneagram tests that much
Has anyone read the books?
may you talk about the tritype abbey?
someday I will do a video about tritypes!
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