This lady said several times that this has been “her” experience with black men and that she is still open to dating a black man but just wants better but is still getting bashed. When black men speak on the problematic black women they date, that somehow becomes indicative of all black women and black women as a whole must do better. No matter what, it seems that we as black women are always the problem, shouldn’t expect better and can’t win for trying. It’s tiring.
@@ThisIsWar_B1_FBA_ADOSpeople-of all races-date multiple people before they find the right one. Some people find their person after 1 date, others date and date and date and still don’t find that person. it’s not like going through each race means you’ll absolutely find your match… she said she had better experiences with other races (no cheating, providing) in her hometown BUT those non-black guys just weren’t the right fit. Somehow you decided that equates to “black women are the problem”? I hope you read what i’m saying with the tone of respect and hurt. I hope it helps you understand what OP was saying. It’s tiring.
As a black man I can understand. It’s tuff in a lot of areas. As a man that has a daughter, I don’t see many black boys that I’ll let her go to, just to be honest.
It is hard. Where I am most of the black men are what the women in the video describe. There are few (very very low percentage) of black men in my area who have their stuff together but they are normally the mixed race black men. Hispanic men on the other hand will take care of home they do have their issues like any other man but they work hard and take care of family. ❤️❤️❤️ White men are the same. They work hard and take care of family they also have their issues. Black men though I feel like are taught to get a woman pregnant, leave her then blame the women and tell her she should have chose better than them. More than any race I see if you get pregnant by a black man I don’t care what race the woman is you will more than likely end up a single mother. Black men don’t care about their offspring. I can’t take that risk.
I don’t agree with her but I do feel like we are expected to only be with a BM. Quite frankly, a BM is never questioned this much for choosing a WW. Nor do they ever have a good explanation besides a vague answer..
@@LattimeFamilyTree its not that we care. Explain why should a different race of people should chose you as a companion instead of complaining about blackmen.
She is 1000% right. Dating some black men is gonna come with a lot of sh*t. Our culture has made baby mamas, multiple sexual partners, lack of respect for women a norm.
Nobody is forcing these women to have kids. They have control of that. Birth control comes in many forms. Sex is a choice that they decided to do unprotected. They chose to put themselves into situations to become baby mamas. This woman spent 20 solid minutes specifically disrespecting men with zero mercy, yet somehow there is a lack of respect problem coming from men. Here’s a fact for you. There are more married black men than there are black women, despite the fact that black women outnumber black men. Seems like the black men are getting along just fine.
I 100% understand and feel what shes saying. I am currently with a white man (not because i gave up on black ones). But because he actually DATED me. The black men just wanted to have sex, "wyd" me to death, invite me to their house, etc. But my man took the time to actually court me, so I started going with who was consistent and showed real interest
Yes Kendra kept acting like she didn't understand her but I did. She said " in my experience" and " where I live" this is how they are so I date other races. So that makes it clear that she wants it but it's just not available to her in the area she is in. Kendra said it like she doesn't want them at all anymore when that's not the case. If I go 2 a restaurant and want Steak but they dnt have it, just bcuz I ordered chicken doesn't mean I'll never eat Steak again 😂😂😂😂
cause black men are the most sexually desired men on planet earth. Especially if we are tall dark n handsom. make no mistake, we know who we are and what we attract and are use too. and when it comes to black women, we want the baddest. unfortunately too many of yall are obese, fat, bad attitudes and yall want us to pay all the bills AND give u monogamy. lmfao...we not gonna do both. if im paying all the bills better believe you not gonna be the only one cause aint no woman worth all of that.. and yall can only blame yourselves cause yall put the bag over god and men with the bag gonna use it as leverage...so u settled for a small dick white man huh...lmfao
Girl you know the community is what it is. Kendra is a whole weirdo. I don’t know why she is always so disingenuous 😂😂😂 I gotta stop watching. Listening to Kendra makes me loose brain cells
No she did not explain herself well, she said black men cheat and abuse then said other races treat their woman better,then said white men cheat too but would you rather cry in a Toyota or Bentley so at this point it's not about finding a good man it's about money. He can do you wrong but it's better when he has money
Yeah like I’ve definitely seen first hand how BW be so disrespectful to BM it’s sad , my neighbor fights her dude and kicks him out every day and he’s super calm and nice but I bet if he leaves her for a WW she gonna call him a colorist
A man could NEVER be kicked out of a house he's paying the rent and / or the mortgage...... I believe it's a little bit more to the story than you're privy to.....
@@Squeeky-Da-DonI get your point, but it’s not failure proof as plenty women don’t have active fathers. Most fathers will only pick as well as their values are themselves. That can be detrimental if they aren’t self aware, accountable, etc. There are plenty of horror stories of women being abused by their fathers pickings in those countries because their fathers were also abusive but mama stayed and covered.
Europeans are notorious for not wearing bras, especially the French. I need not jump into the entire continent of Africa. Bras are more of a western construct then anywhere else in the world. The west always thinks the rest of the world operates by their standards or expectations. The reality is, that just isn’t true. Love to the States though.
As a black 55 year old brotha with an almost 18 year daughter, this woman put the fear of gosh in me! There was another recent video where a sista is sitting in a car saying the same stuff: that she tired of meeting brothas who don’t want to go to dinner, movies or hike or roller skate; NO, all they want to do is smoke weed and chill with video games or something like that….😢👎🏾👎🏾🙁
Just keep her in good circles she should be fine, they're plenty of solid young brothas that have their head on straight. Those ladies are only speaking from their experiences, plenty of black men are still treating women right those women are just being put through what we call "the ringer"
@@adrianrice6396 stop lying SIR, please teach your daughter her options are not limited to treasonous broke bum black men. She can find men of other races who make money, believe in marriage, and aren’t self hating.
Please look out for your daughter. I have been waiting for a good black man for 10 years. I have never had sex and my parents raised me well. At 30 finally I found one. It is not easy for sisters who want to date black men.
You would have to understand and hear what she said. The key is where she lives. It’s a small college town. Not heavily populated with black folks that aren’t students
Nah I get her tho. I’m Eritrean & I was dating black guys for a min but got tired of the games, disrespect, & lies esp since I know there are so many good men in my country. I gave up & married a man from my own country & im so happy, it’s absolutely no stress, no hard work just peaceful & full of love. I 💯 agree bc I been thru it
ghurl as if they have options like that . Nobody look at east african men and desire their inbred looking selves . Im confused why the women look good but the men look concerning
I'm a black man. I'm a multi-millionaire. I've been married to my beautiful black wife for 40+ years. I don't cheat on her because she is a faithful loving wife!
I think it’s disingenuous to look at the state of the Black community and say she’s wrong. This woman knows what she’s seen and dealt with, and a number of us have had comparable experiences. That said, I wish she hadn’t led with this because it will likely deter quality men of all races from wanting to connect with her. She should have spoken her preference and left it at that. I hope she finds who she’s looking for and that she doesn’t get swept up by a racist who engages with her for reasons besides partnership and love. I also hope she seeks help to sort out the part she plays in her dating misfortune.
@@jahc3842 she said what she said, and so did I. My dating pool works well for me when I choose to date. Your experience as a male who knows “countless successful black men who are proud fathers” doesn’t negate the experiences of women who encounter men in a totally different way than you. You don’t get to invalidate those experiences just because you know a few good men. Neither she nor I claimed all Black men are bad, but there are far too many validating the stereotype to ignore it.
19:26 Kendra asked the perfect question: if she’s finding the white guys she’s looking for why is she still single (and complaining). It’s giving a state of confusion and chaos 😵💫
@@InsertAliasHere1154 The same could be said about BW. There are countless BM who could validate dealing with BW who fit every stereotype there is. But I GUARANTEE that you and others defending this woman. Would NOT make the same comments if a BM came on here. And spoke about BW how she did BM.
I’m married to a black man but I can be honest and say this woman is definitely telling the truth. This was my experience as well trying to date some black men
Well said👏🏽Its ok to speak on your experiences. And is she lying? Im glad to see black men take accountability in the comments-we know damn well too many of our brothers are letting our women down, hence her commentary. She didnt make that stuff up! Most of my bros are on that struggle, low vibrational stuff! Facts! We need to raise the quality of the black male archetype, period.
As a black woman i agree with her daating experience. Ive just stop wasting my time at rhis point. Haven't dated in 2 yrs.. just focusing on living a good life❤
Her opinions are spot on, there are good black men out there but there are so many that are bad and unfortunately as a black woman I have experienced a lot of bad and so have my black girlfriends. Her truths are so valid. We have to do better as a people because I know black men that have similar bad experiences with black women. Let’s starting holding each other and ourselves accountable.
Then go forward with what we learned. Change what we must within ourselves as we go along the way. We can do it. It takes drive & determination to succeed at anything worth having.
To hold yourself accountable would mean starting with acknowledging the issues that you’ve had with black men are due to YOUR choice of men you decided to deal with.
Has all of these demands and expectations and cannot follow the one damn rule that was presented to her. That says a lot. She does what she wants despite the simple parameters that are expected of her and every single other person.
Thank you for being honest! We need to be accountable to the improvement needed in ANY community! She is describing a lot of the baby daddies that “didn’t work out” with all the other mothers you have interviewed. We can not continue to act like our fellow black people have no room for doing better. We are not blaming just sharing our experiences 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Women need to stop giving babies to men who aren't their husbands. She is another single black mother. The good black man she desires ain't looking her way. Too many other better options.
I despise the narrative that black men do not want to work. I know ALOT of black men that are hard working, financially well off, and have morals/ values.🤷🏽♀️
And I despise the, “I know A LOT of bm” who work narrative. How’s many could you possibly know directly, 100? If that, out of millions of them. Come on. She doesn’t have to date all bm to determine that there’s A LOT who don’t work or provide.
My husband owns 2 businesses so that means all men own 2 businesses. The unemployment rate for black men is higher than any other race. Just cause you know a few dont mean all of them are good. How many gonna di3 in Chicago this weekend?
They need healing. She's just like the Same Bm in her hometown that she criticizes. Got subconscious issues with their own race of ppl...so they prefer others. Mannn
BW are used for s*x by others ethnicities, some of them date and have s*x with non black who don't like black people, they're making mixed childs with Latinos, Whites, Indians, Asians, Arabs and those men leave them or they are ashamed to presents them to their communities BUT I've never heard BW said to avoid them... Why ?
you know what that means lol she secretly still loves us bm....she would not be on this platform going on and on about bm if she didn't...deep down she wants a good BM..a solid BM...she wants BM to hear her out and she hopes a good solid one will hear her and want to dispel her preconceived notions about BM.... tell me I'm lying
We need to come together as a community ,and break down our CULTURE. Everything that is being endorsed in our community promotes the downfall of our people. There is truth to what she is saying unfortunately, and the black men who decide to date outside of their race have valid grievances with black women as well, which are all due to our UPBRINGING and VALUES in the community. We still have work to do in the black community!
The perpetrators responsible for participating in the destruction of our community are your sisters brothers uncles fathers aunts and grandparents would you be willing to do what must be done so we can restart our community because most of the ones in our community don’t want to do it.
I’ve been in her shoes before (except I don’t have kids) but it was before I took time to heal from past dating experiences and started surrounding myself with better circles of people that I realized it’s not necessarily about black men, it’s the black men you’re choosing to be around 😭 she just needs to find better people to be around then a good partner will come
I’m glad you said this because it gets tiring as a black man to hear good black men get thrown into the garbage with bad black men. Experience can drive our perspectives but her explanation clearly shows that she’s let the ones usually around her dictate her experience.
Thank You!!!!!!!! I’m around quality marriage minded black men and women. I married a quality black woman that’s why I don’t feel bad for these folks. It’s you!
So she lives in Missouri and don't date blk men but still had to get on a predominantly black dating show to find a non blk man. She primarily try to avoid blk men but still dont have a man of any race. she have wyte friends, and blk girlfriends who date wyte men but none of them can find her a man of any race. she says blk men put wyte women on a pedestal when she's literally on this interview putting wyte men on a pedestal and they still dont want her. Imagine opening up your options to millions more men or all races but you're still single and complaining about blk men 😂😂 cant make this ish up.
@@ud558She can BUT her options won't change much at all. There's women on here from all over, even out of country, same sentiments. Only difference is, those BW are still holding out hope only to be told they've now hit the wall 😅 My best advice is for young women to hold their cards to their chest, move in silence, ESTABLISH and MAINTAIN boundaries and standards and not waiver.
@@ud558Wherever she goes there she will be. She's been the common denominator in all her disastrous relationships, but as usual it's black men's fault. Good riddance, let zaddy deal with that dysfunction.
She said men of all races were shooting up the club and disappearing when she thought a relationship was blooming but black men are the only ones she isolated.
BW are used for s*x by others ethnicities, some of them date and have s*x with non black who don't like black people, they're making mixed childs with Latinos, Whites, Indians, Asians, Arabs and those men leave them or they are ashamed to presents them to their communities BUT I've never heard BW said to avoid them... Why ?
We need racial healing in our community for BM and BW. Somehow we forget the intentional division created for us to hate ourselves and each other. Blaming each other is not the solution.
Nope. Take that “they did it to us” BS somewhere else. Everything in your life is your fault, absolutely everything. Until you hold yourself and others to account at that level, little will change.
Nah black men need to leave this abusive relationship. Yall publicly make white supremacist comments about your men when the stats say the contrantrary You can't say black men don't earn enough to provide when 54% of BM are single, middle class and childless and on average we outearn black women. You can't say we are deadbeats when studies show black men are the most involved fathers. Yall engage in easily debunked lies about black men
The division caused all of this and yet we not doing anything about it. We have problems that should of been solved decades ago but we ain't gonna do shet. Saying someone hates themselves is a huge cope. You dont know their experiences with other black people are. At this point let people do and date what they want.
No. You missed her point. She was giving her experience about dating black men but she still wants to date a black man but is also open to other races.
@@stinkreezy2791So only Kendra G can be single by choice? I know yall be so desperate to be in a relationship and accept anything and wonder why our community is so low when it comes to standards. People and go and dates and search. Theres more to life than just looking good on paper
Just got finished posting this almost verbatim. If she has all this experience with all these other races and she’s still searching, that means she is the problem because surely one of them was suitable.
@@kiciacoldspring1621When she said that there are no good black men in her surrounding area, she unfairly labeled a whole group. It is possible the good ones in her area are simply not attracted to her or they may not be in her circle.
@@drmonica9times outta 10they not attracted to her. I know dudes in her area that got everything she's looking for but wouldn't touch her with a 10 ft pole, she's a walking red flag 😂😂😂
@@loisbullock3151 Understood. When she says all the ones in her area are not good she’s categorizing a whole demographic. It could be that the “good” ones just aren’t interested in her. It can be fair for her to say that “all the men that I’ve encountered thus far have not treated me well” and not make all black men (in her area) look unworthy of being datable.
This is the issue we have. Black women hating their counterparts and bashing us instead of self reflecting. The problem is YOU and your choices in men you prefer. YOUR SUPERFICIAL PREFERENCES and attitude. Too many of y’all are chasing the pretty boys. A very small percentage. SELF REFLECT…
She spent so much time talking negatively about a black man just to say I'll still date one. Sounds like she doesn't know how to pick a good man no matter their skin tone.
She stated basically she wanted a man that had their shit together. And through trial and error she the black men she dated did not. Note this is a show with predominantly a black audience of which if she stated she prefered a non-black man she would be judged for it. And funny enough more so by other black women than men....especially the older ones. Hence why she stated the reasons. Note she didnt say it was their look, attitude, the femicide rate....she stated it was the fact the great majority were not looking for anything serious (just sex) and/or didn't have their finances and goals in order. Which is true. Black men financially thriving in our community ages 24-34 are less likely to settle down. And the opposite for the circle she is in maybe true as well, a lot do not want to work.
As a 6'4 black man, i ran into her type when it comes to height. They ranted on sooo much about how short men are this or that and cant do this or that. Wasted sooo much time complaining that we never went pass the 1st date. She is a waste of most men's time. Even contradicted herself by saying white men have done the same but do better after a break up lmao. She just a lost caught.
Black men treat her horribly, white and Asians treat her better than black men but none seems to take her seriously, a man she was dating fell for her quickly and she thought that was a red flag, she don't like her mom, she don't like her dad, she divorced her husband. Who is the common denominator and why is it hard for her to maintain a healthy relationship with anyone, even her parents????
This woman is a DRAMA QUEEN. She is talking about black men because she hangs out in the gutters of east st Louis and wonders why she only finds trash men. She has a much higher value of herself than what the market place yields.
Let’s not pretend like toxicity isn’t common among many black households. I know plenty of BP who cut contact with their parents because they aren’t healthy, refuse to respect their child’s boundaries, trying to take advantage of their kids, forced them to have relationships with abusers, didn’t protect them when they were violated etc the list goes on.
If she dated so many people and they don't treat her well. At what point is she gonna be accountable for her own self? And possibly realizing she's the problem.
I literally have black women say I'm corny or lame (just got told this on Saturday) because I work hard, don't have kids, study and don't do hood ish, I'm less than. I was on here about a month ago, mostly just black women saying nice stuff. I am the reverse of her, imagine if I came on and said the same. Would the women in these comments support me if I said the same? Be honest, ladies. If she mad, I feel it. I don't condone her saying that all black men are terrible. I have no kids, haven't been with anybody since January and just work. Don't speak on everybody is the point, you don't know everybody.
@HotwingsNranch it's nuts, bruh. The woman literally was at my aunt's Bday. It was mostly black people. She ran down my list of accomplishments and standings. No kids, no cheating, college grad, no criminal record, and great career. The first thing was to shit on me. I was just looking crazy. Like no white woman has ever said this about me. No Asian woman ever said that to me. This woman was the epitome of why I have to consider dating out. The hate I will get is expected. I've literally had other races of women feel sorry for me for dating only black women. The black community is on fire at this point.
@@cutthechicken194if he was overweight and????? Yall want us men to accept overweight women and call it body shame if we do say we want a women in shape
I'm sorry that you have been treated like this by BW. Please know that all BW are not like this and I truly hope that the woman of your dreams finds you!! It really is rough out here in these dating streets right now.😪
Agreed. She admitted she is promiscuous; gives up the b00ty too fast; is bisexual; has daddy issues; disrespects authority (parents); works a lot (56/wk); has a child; divorced; and goes to therapy. She is overweight and has crazy eyes. What a catch fellas. Sign me up!
@@reneerenee5073 that word is SO overused .....and I tell men that same thing....he isn't anymore responsible for the behaviors of specific black men that are bad than you are the behaviors of specific black woman that are bad the only thing...literally ONLY thing...the good productive ones of us can do is call out bad behavior when we see it and perhaps offer advice to those committing it... but we are NOT responsible for those that choose to stay wayward..therefore we are not accountable for their behavior..that is on THEM
Upset? Hardly. We’re trying to figure out why white guys can knock her up and leave her a single mom and yet she only has a problem with black men. That’s all.
I think she did orange but kendra will keep asking the same question or ask for them to explain so that kinda made her talk more and explain more that be kendra ass
I think she's attracted to black men physically but she's frustrated that she haven't found one who fits all her requirements and love her how she wants to be loved. This is why her relationships with white men aren't working because physically she's not attracted to them. So she'll continue to complain about black men .
The world has always portrayed black men as less then. We used to be able to find validation from our women. Now our women are leading the charge in diminishing our character, our worth. There is a discussion on here where a white man took a crap on all black men, and the black women gave him thumbs ups. WTH is going on in our race? How can you expect good experiences when interacting with people who you view as having minimal worth?
She never said they dogged her out they probably just didn't want anything serious with her but yet still RESPECTED her before leaving the situation vs leaving her with TRAUMA. All men are poison but some poison is more lethal than others
I think she did a great job of explaining herself with her experiences dating different races of men. I wish Kendra didn't act like she didn't understand where she's coming from during half of this interview.
This young lady represented herself very well spoke in great detail for many who understand even if you are not in her situation. She is in a small town where the dating pool is very limited. Even if she dates outside of her race does not guarantee that she will be compatible with the suitors that she is meeting. I don’t understand why that is so difficult to understand. I can appreciate both people trying to get their point, but her experience is her experience does not make it unusual.
Therapy is needed badly… lot of hurt behind that rant… she used her whole moment to talk about bm. Instead of promoting herself to the dating market all over the country. Prayers to her
Kendra the one that needs therapy. Yall say everyone needs therapy, even if they spitting facts. Therapist are cra,y their damn selves. People need Jesus, not man.
U self hating black women need to take a accountability. However, if y’all don’t want to date black men, then don’t. No need to disrespect black men as a whole.
@@shawnstrickland7313 accountability???.. baby I was blessed to find me a great man however as a black woman I’m not blind to what I have seen as well in my 42 43 years in nov years of life
The crazy part is that she clearly explained HER issues and what SHE deems a possible solution. SHE even states where she is open and where she is limited and yet she is being bashed. It's wild being able to articulate properly and still be misunderstood. I live in Louisiana and I understand her completely. There's a mentality that men have down here but I'm not going to another race, just praying that my husband is from another state. Just because you date someone, doesn't mean there's a future there. Chemistry, connection, views, etc. may be different and do not align. Doesn’t mean you ignore those things but you have to get to know the person in order to find out what works and what doesn't. It's wierd that people are expecting people to find what they are looking for in the first few people they date and if you don't, you're the problem.
She whined and moaned for 40 minutes repeating the same nonsense over and over instead of actually appealing to a man. Why would a man watch this and want to deal with her at all, especially a relationship? She's a headache.
She is Just like the other bm in her hometown. Got issues with the opposite sex of their race...so they blame them for stuff, and look up to the other...ww/wm. She is what she criticizes with the bm. She needs help. FR
I’m glad we watched the same thing 😂 i just think she shouldn’t have made that her main point . If you do date black men i would have just listed those as deal breakers not grouping all black men.
We need a white man on the panel...do they find it attractive of a black person downs the men in their race as a reason to date them..i wld think they wld just want them to date them for who they are not just cz they white..we go need the whytes to let us know
I can tell she likes hanging around divested and/or toxic Black spaces. She comes on a majority Black show to comparatively put down Black men, say she avoids us, etc. But a lot of those women do this. If you are going to date out, date out and leave Black men alone. But no, she has to share her experiences on Black men because that will be attractive to other men. Again, non-Black men, you got it.
She is very well articulated. My dad is amazing as well. But there is duality. The general population of black men is extremely messed up. It’s sad honestly. And only a small percentage take accountability and acknowledge the degeneracy of black men withholding relationships instead of abandoning families.
Its pathetic that average women like you with NOTHING to offer will open your stinky mouths and talk nonsense. Parasites and leaches, walking around looking for suckers to leach off. You're here defending this idiot. Instead leading with what she wants in a man, she's spending all her time talking down on black men. If the non-black men are Soo good for her, why isn't she with them but on here looking for a man, with a child in tow.
The same can be said about blk women that a MAJORITY of them ARE MESSED UP AS WELL and only a SMALL MINORITY accept accountability and hold other women accountable which is sad
@tyroniussupapookiemcleroy1403 54% childless? Than who is making all these babies in poor conditions? The majority of Blk women aren't sleeping with Mexican or white men.
The crazy thing is this woman is telling the truth. Sadly the “culture” needs some working on. Lot of them are mamas boys. The mom and sisters condone their mess. So many broken homes in the “black” community. But no one is talking about that, it’s not ONLY the black women that should work hard to keep the homes together. Ponder that.
Yeah let them deal with her. She's a bisexual baby mama that's already tried to hop the fence and it obviously didn't work out. Notice how she takes accountability for it not working out with them but is on here talking about bm not measuring up for the reason it doesn't work out with bm. I truly wish wm found them as marriageable as they find other non white women like they do Asians and Latinas. We'd all be better off.
@@ammarie9167 no disrespect taken. I mean by her personal definition of “all his stuff together”, she used that phrase a bunch of times and loosely defined it in such a way where I satisfied her definition. When you say “same thing that women want” I can’t really speak for women in a general sense, as women are not a monolith. I can find 5 women who want me, spin the block and find 5 who don’t. I might meet the height, income, hygiene, intelligence, residence, requirements for a woman, but then fail to accept Jesus as my lord and savior, so 🍍. I guess the best way to answer that concisely is to say it would not take me long to find a wife if I were in the market for one, just from my personal anecdotal experience.
@@jasonwolfe3252 Yea, the more she spoke the more gratuitous I became to, Chad, Carlos, Chaim, Chin, and Charat She’s really just misguided, and through her mid guidance, she’s made critically bad decisions that permanently lowered her value in a way obvious to every man but not obvious to her.
Instead of vetting properly...she tries to blame it on bm. SMDH! 🤦♂️ Idk, she seem like she got some issues to be honest. She needs healing. I think she got some deep seeded issues with bm. Cause guys gonna do stupid guy shit regardless of race, most ppl know that. Cmon now. You hear how she talks about them and overly criticize bm just because. You need healing girl. FR
Funny how the same BM in the comments don't want to be judged as a whole, yet they are silent or even support it when BM (who by far do it more) do it to BW. The hypocrisy, gaslighting, and lack of accountability is becoming the biggest downfall of BM.
All the black men I know work their asses off and they are amazing providers for their parents and siblings and they are single and childless. I don’t know where she’s finding these men
If I didn’t have respectful tact, I would toot my own financial horn. But I won’t. If I took this woman on a date, I wouldn’t be interested because she talks entirely too much! Matter fact, after the first phone call, I wouldn’t dare. And she would pretend that I as a black man was the problem. Black men with means are not interested in this woman in general.
And she's bisexual so maybe she does prefer women and is in denial. A few black men I've noticed who bash black women for others later come our as bisexual which changes a lot
She engages in causual sex, is bisexual, divorcee, single mom, with no relationship with mom or dad. I can see how she would have hard time acquiring commitment higher value men of any race.
Reality is smacking her in the face and she still doesn't get it. ....Usually, no man of any race, who spent his life getting his shit together, is going to take another man's baby mama serious...
She had way too many issues about black men, she should go on a dating show or dating app that has the majority of white men or non black men...I got tired of listening to her complain about black men, and then to find out she has layers of trauma from her father and also she likes women to, she is way to exhausting...
The bisexual part threw me for a loop. What if she told this to Blk men she dated, and it turned them way off. The man might have felt insulted. Just saying
This lady said several times that this has been “her” experience with black men and that she is still open to dating a black man but just wants better but is still getting bashed. When black men speak on the problematic black women they date, that somehow becomes indicative of all black women and black women as a whole must do better. No matter what, it seems that we as black women are always the problem, shouldn’t expect better and can’t win for trying. It’s tiring.
Because y’all are. No matter how you slice it she has dated every race and gender. At what point does she accept she’s the common denominator?
EXACTLY!!!!
Damn i didnt have to say shit 😂😂😂@@ThisIsWar_B1_FBA_ADOS
@@ThisIsWar_B1_FBA_ADOSpeople-of all races-date multiple people before they find the right one. Some people find their person after 1 date, others date and date and date and still don’t find that person. it’s not like going through each race means you’ll absolutely find your match… she said she had better experiences with other races (no cheating, providing) in her hometown BUT those non-black guys just weren’t the right fit. Somehow you decided that equates to “black women are the problem”? I hope you read what i’m saying with the tone of respect and hurt. I hope it helps you understand what OP was saying. It’s tiring.
So a white man made her a baby mama?
As a black man I can understand. It’s tuff in a lot of areas. As a man that has a daughter, I don’t see many black boys that I’ll let her go to, just to be honest.
I think that’s good you want better for your daughter. I wonder if these men with daughters feel the same way.
Please protect her. It’s dangerous
This is so true. My husband says the same thing about our daughters.
It is hard. Where I am most of the black men are what the women in the video describe. There are few (very very low percentage) of black men in my area who have their stuff together but they are normally the mixed race black men. Hispanic men on the other hand will take care of home they do have their issues like any other man but they work hard and take care of family. ❤️❤️❤️ White men are the same. They work hard and take care of family they also have their issues. Black men though I feel like are taught to get a woman pregnant, leave her then blame the women and tell her she should have chose better than them. More than any race I see if you get pregnant by a black man I don’t care what race the woman is you will more than likely end up a single mother. Black men don’t care about their offspring. I can’t take that risk.
You don't want her to date someone like you
She doesn't need to explain why she won't date a Black man. Just go wherever you please. I wouldn't argue with her for a second. Let her be.
Too much baggage shes carrying 😂
😂😂😂., Right- 53 seconds into the video I paused it and started reading the comments. Just complaining.
@@DonaldMccullum-m4rshe's got two beautiful baggage she's carrying 👀
I don’t agree with her but I do feel like we are expected to only be with a BM. Quite frankly, a BM is never questioned this much for choosing a WW. Nor do they ever have a good explanation besides a vague answer..
@@LattimeFamilyTree its not that we care. Explain why should a different race of people should chose you as a companion instead of complaining about blackmen.
She is 1000% right. Dating some black men is gonna come with a lot of sh*t. Our culture has made baby mamas, multiple sexual partners, lack of respect for women a norm.
Nobody is forcing these women to have kids. They have control of that. Birth control comes in many forms. Sex is a choice that they decided to do unprotected. They chose to put themselves into situations to become baby mamas. This woman spent 20 solid minutes specifically disrespecting men with zero mercy, yet somehow there is a lack of respect problem coming from men.
Here’s a fact for you. There are more married black men than there are black women, despite the fact that black women outnumber black men.
Seems like the black men are getting along just fine.
*And here comes the simp enforers*
So only black men cheat🤔
Yes that shirt makes both of her points.
@@pauloskidane2819your comment is the black culture he’s pointing out, great job
LMAO @ Kendra pretending like this woman didn’t just describe 99% of the men coming on her show! 🤣😂😅😅
I was thinking same thing
Yep 😂😂
Those are Pook Nugs who yall like lol yall put the boring ones in ya friend zone🤣🤣🤣🤣
Right
Exactly!
I 100% understand and feel what shes saying. I am currently with a white man (not because i gave up on black ones). But because he actually DATED me. The black men just wanted to have sex, "wyd" me to death, invite me to their house, etc. But my man took the time to actually court me, so I started going with who was consistent and showed real interest
Yes Kendra kept acting like she didn't understand her but I did. She said " in my experience" and " where I live" this is how they are so I date other races. So that makes it clear that she wants it but it's just not available to her in the area she is in. Kendra said it like she doesn't want them at all anymore when that's not the case. If I go 2 a restaurant and want Steak but they dnt have it, just bcuz I ordered chicken doesn't mean I'll never eat Steak again 😂😂😂😂
Exactly the art of courting is rare and far in-between ❤😊
cause black men are the most sexually desired men on planet earth. Especially if we are tall dark n handsom. make no mistake, we know who we are and what we attract and are use too. and when it comes to black women, we want the baddest. unfortunately too many of yall are obese, fat, bad attitudes and yall want us to pay all the bills AND give u monogamy. lmfao...we not gonna do both. if im paying all the bills better believe you not gonna be the only one cause aint no woman worth all of that.. and yall can only blame yourselves cause yall put the bag over god and men with the bag gonna use it as leverage...so u settled for a small dick white man huh...lmfao
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Have you ever had a hookup
The relatability of this conversation damn near brought tears to my eyes. I’m sure I’m not the only one who shares Her experience. Sad but true!
Girl you know the community is what it is. Kendra is a whole weirdo. I don’t know why she is always so disingenuous 😂😂😂 I gotta stop watching. Listening to Kendra makes me loose brain cells
I’m sure you being overweight has nothing to do with it 🙄🙄
Its not true. Its "the type of black men" she's and many other BW are choosing!
@@IsntSheLovely33All BW are NOT serial victims!! But many claim to be!!
@@IsntSheLovely33 other women in other races have been dogged by their own men as well so it is what it is
Kendra purposely not understanding her. She explained herself so well and I think many black women understands where she is coming from.
Kendra seems to do this ALOT, she makes things confusing unnecessarily
Nah she's just a sad case
But she sleeps with all men. Which none of them have made her a wife or gave her a commitment
No she did not explain herself well, she said black men cheat and abuse then said other races treat their woman better,then said white men cheat too but would you rather cry in a Toyota or Bentley so at this point it's not about finding a good man it's about money. He can do you wrong but it's better when he has money
Kendra is slow 🐌 Entertaining but dumb as a box of rocks! 😆
As a black man, I’m not mad at you. Do what makes you happy 👏🏾
Yeah like I’ve definitely seen first hand how BW be so disrespectful to BM it’s sad , my neighbor fights her dude and kicks him out every day and he’s super calm and nice but I bet if he leaves her for a WW she gonna call him a colorist
@@SylisDaGoldenPeach 😂 probably right.
Thank you
She's not lieing about black men
A man could NEVER be kicked out of a house he's paying the rent and / or the mortgage...... I believe it's a little bit more to the story than you're privy to.....
She explained the plight of dating while being a black woman perfectly!
This is why your father's should choose you mate. They do it in the middle east.
She a goofy
you're right. can't even put on a bra to get on a dating show to find a "good man" but expect a good blk man to take them serious
Yet if a BM came on speaking in the same way about BW. I guarantee that you would change your tune .....
@@Squeeky-Da-DonI get your point, but it’s not failure proof as plenty women don’t have active fathers. Most fathers will only pick as well as their values are themselves. That can be detrimental if they aren’t self aware, accountable, etc. There are plenty of horror stories of women being abused by their fathers pickings in those countries because their fathers were also abusive but mama stayed and covered.
I think she meant to call Cynthia G, instead of Kendra G
😂❤
She should have called Cynthia G she would have came to her senses and not argued with a black male worshiper
Ikr??? Lol
Lmfao 🤣 this is hilarious.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Everything she said was the TRUTH👏👏👏
Y’ll keep coming to a global platform without a Bra. 🙄
She knows what the “others” want😂
That’s to attract men , I know that tactic
Europeans are notorious for not wearing bras, especially the French. I need not jump into the entire continent of Africa. Bras are more of a western construct then anywhere else in the world. The west always thinks the rest of the world operates by their standards or expectations. The reality is, that just isn’t true. Love to the States though.
Who cares
@@oceanbelowshe lives in America. Looking for men in America. Therefore we are going by American standards and culture.
As a black 55 year old brotha with an almost 18 year daughter, this woman put the fear of gosh in me! There was another recent video where a sista is sitting in a car saying the same stuff: that she tired of meeting brothas who don’t want to go to dinner, movies or hike or roller skate; NO, all they want to do is smoke weed and chill with video games or something like that….😢👎🏾👎🏾🙁
Just keep her in good circles she should be fine, they're plenty of solid young brothas that have their head on straight. Those ladies are only speaking from their experiences, plenty of black men are still treating women right those women are just being put through what we call "the ringer"
@@adrianrice6396 stop lying SIR, please teach your daughter her options are not limited to treasonous broke bum black men. She can find men of other races who make money, believe in marriage, and aren’t self hating.
Please look out for your daughter. I have been waiting for a good black man for 10 years. I have never had sex and my parents raised me well. At 30 finally I found one. It is not easy for sisters who want to date black men.
Times are different my man....this is because of women. Women have mad sex too easy so now we don't have to put any effort.
She's leaving out a lot of info about herself. She spoke about others but not herself
To be honest, she explained herself very well. Idk how folks can still be offended after all that she said.
It’s because she is over generalizing.
Exactly she broke it down with examples etc. A hit dog will holler so if they have an issue it’s because she is describing them🥴
@@MoPerspective please believe it
@@Mektek19I see blk nen messed you up. 😂😂
You would have to understand and hear what she said. The key is where she lives. It’s a small college town. Not heavily populated with black folks that aren’t students
Nah I get her tho. I’m Eritrean & I was dating black guys for a min but got tired of the games, disrespect, & lies esp since I know there are so many good men in my country. I gave up & married a man from my own country & im so happy, it’s absolutely no stress, no hard work just peaceful & full of love. I 💯 agree bc I been thru it
ghurl as if they have options like that . Nobody look at east african men and desire their inbred looking selves . Im confused why the women look good but the men look concerning
It’s always, “she picked wrong!”its never, “why are there so many bad apples to choose from”…..
There are good dudes to pick from why can’t she get one of those.
Because there ain't as many bad apples as you say. Based on this show ya'll all want the same guy so ya'll deal with the same apples.
It's never the fact that the lady herself can be a bad apple. Good people don't want bad women either. The good men are probably good pickers too
@@04ccarrollshe doesn’t like those guys
This is the product of single mothers raising weak sons no respect don't forget that
I'm a black man. I'm a multi-millionaire. I've been married to my beautiful black wife for 40+ years. I don't cheat on her because she is a faithful loving wife!
Good for you bro
Put the younger generations on! Help teach them how a man should treat women well. Pay it forward!
@@LadyK007the younger generations don’t want to learn.it’s wasted breath.
Congratulations. I’m 25yrs in and counting. 😂
@@LadyK007 No. Stop looking for a savior. Your job is to repeat what he did, not look for someone to come save you or anyone else.
I think it’s disingenuous to look at the state of the Black community and say she’s wrong. This woman knows what she’s seen and dealt with, and a number of us have had comparable experiences. That said, I wish she hadn’t led with this because it will likely deter quality men of all races from wanting to connect with her. She should have spoken her preference and left it at that. I hope she finds who she’s looking for and that she doesn’t get swept up by a racist who engages with her for reasons besides partnership and love. I also hope she seeks help to sort out the part she plays in her dating misfortune.
She's wrong. Maybe it's her pool or maybe your pool. I know countless successful black men who are proud fathers. It's a tired stereotype.
@@jahc3842 she said what she said, and so did I. My dating pool works well for me when I choose to date. Your experience as a male who knows “countless successful black men who are proud fathers” doesn’t negate the experiences of women who encounter men in a totally different way than you. You don’t get to invalidate those experiences just because you know a few good men. Neither she nor I claimed all Black men are bad, but there are far too many validating the stereotype to ignore it.
19:26 Kendra asked the perfect question: if she’s finding the white guys she’s looking for why is she still single (and complaining). It’s giving a state of confusion and chaos 😵💫
@@usmanvcx as I mentioned, she definitely plays a part in her lack of success in dating.
@@InsertAliasHere1154 The same could be said about BW. There are countless BM who could validate dealing with BW who fit every stereotype there is. But I GUARANTEE that you and others defending this woman. Would NOT make the same comments if a BM came on here. And spoke about BW how she did BM.
I’m married to a black man but I can be honest and say this woman is definitely telling the truth. This was my experience as well trying to date some black men
Well said👏🏽Its ok to speak on your experiences. And is she lying? Im glad to see black men take accountability in the comments-we know damn well too many of our brothers are letting our women down, hence her commentary. She didnt make that stuff up! Most of my bros are on that struggle, low vibrational stuff! Facts! We need to raise the quality of the black male archetype, period.
❤
As a black woman i agree with her daating experience. Ive just stop wasting my time at rhis point. Haven't dated in 2 yrs.. just focusing on living a good life❤
That's when the right man will come along! You just can't be too busy to notice him.
I’ve done the same . Single for 9 years. Just not worth the energy
I must say this young lady is 100% talking the truth. I can relate 💯.
You also date a lot of men and cannot sustain a long term relationship? Weird flex, but you do you boo boo.
She red flags on top of red flags
Nobody want you that’s why.
Her opinions are spot on, there are good black men out there but there are so many that are bad and unfortunately as a black woman I have experienced a lot of bad and so have my black girlfriends. Her truths are so valid. We have to do better as a people because I know black men that have similar bad experiences with black women. Let’s starting holding each other and ourselves accountable.
Then go forward with what we learned. Change what we must within ourselves as we go along the way. We can do it. It takes drive & determination to succeed at anything worth having.
It’s not the men. 60% of black men are in the middle class, she’s just crazy
It's the same with black women.
To hold yourself accountable would mean starting with acknowledging the issues that you’ve had with black men are due to YOUR choice of men you decided to deal with.
@@rondotrucking9866 Woah, someone sounds like they need therapy! Lol I just said that Einstein smh reading is fundamental.
That 8 seconds be kicking y’all butt😂
For REAL!😂😂😂
Has all of these demands and expectations and cannot follow the one damn rule that was presented to her. That says a lot. She does what she wants despite the simple parameters that are expected of her and every single other person.
@@Godsbackhand7Exactly
How do you come on a dating show without a bra, a regular t shirt, and not put together and demand a certain kind of man?
She’s a loose woman , I’ve seen ladies like her at the store with no bra on smiling and bending over in front of dudes , no self respect
These type of women feel like they don’t even have to try. They can just show up and get their needs fulfilled 🤷🏽♀️
She fits the aesthetic
Yep, as a woman I thought that was 🧐
she would tell you that the wyte men's wives dress like that and the men dont complain
Thank you for being honest! We need to be accountable to the improvement needed in ANY community! She is describing a lot of the baby daddies that “didn’t work out” with all the other mothers you have interviewed. We can not continue to act like our fellow black people have no room for doing better. We are not blaming just sharing our experiences 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
For starters, she’s a promiscuous thot, hot summer girl.
Women need to stop giving babies to men who aren't their husbands. She is another single black mother. The good black man she desires ain't looking her way. Too many other better options.
She talks too much. Further education, avoid sex. Then see if anything left
Complains about men just wanting the buns HOWEVER she came on the show with the high beams TURNED ON…. You attract what you are
Some women’s nipples stay hard or become hard unknowingly and without sexual arousal. Mine do 🤦🏽♀️
I saw that too.. high beams😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂
I despise the narrative that black men do not want to work. I know ALOT of black men that are hard working, financially well off, and have morals/ values.🤷🏽♀️
There’s millions of blk men and how many do you know?
And I despise the, “I know A LOT of bm” who work narrative. How’s many could you possibly know directly, 100? If that, out of millions of them. Come on. She doesn’t have to date all bm to determine that there’s A LOT who don’t work or provide.
@@missmable2470 how many do you know? A million?
My husband owns 2 businesses so that means all men own 2 businesses.
The unemployment rate for black men is higher than any other race. Just cause you know a few dont mean all of them are good. How many gonna di3 in Chicago this weekend?
@@yasmeen7875a lot
A lot of women can relate to her.
🎉
Right
They need healing. She's just like the Same Bm in her hometown that she criticizes. Got subconscious issues with their own race of ppl...so they prefer others. Mannn
yep, because a lot choose the same men
BW are used for s*x by others ethnicities, some of them date and have s*x with non black who don't like black people, they're making mixed childs with Latinos, Whites, Indians, Asians, Arabs and those men leave them or they are ashamed to presents them to their communities BUT I've never heard BW said to avoid them... Why ?
the STD's thing is really happening!
People act as if it’s gone away. U are 💯% Spot on. Their is still so much promiscuousness going on.
🤔She obviously hasn’t experienced a real man; period! Her picker is off &😒Bashing Black Men isn’t cool!
Girl just date out or say what race you want without putting down the BM. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for why you choose to date out!
Why do people have to come on a platform and say they date outside there race just do it
100%
This comment!!! Period!
🎯
True
She bashing black men but on a predominantly black audience and came on here twice. Make it make sense.
TWICE????
you know what that means lol
she secretly still loves us bm....she would not be on this platform going on and on about bm if she didn't...deep down she wants a good BM..a solid BM...she wants BM to hear her out and she hopes a good solid one will hear her and want to dispel her preconceived notions about BM....
tell me I'm lying
@@ghariiscoolNo good black man should waste his time with a white man's whore.
@@ghariiscool no Black man with integrity will take A single mother with half white kid white baby daddy. That's cuckold
Exactly, when she said she been on here twice I’m like, make it make sense.
We need to come together as a community ,and break down our CULTURE. Everything that is being endorsed in our community promotes the downfall of our people. There is truth to what she is saying unfortunately, and the black men who decide to date outside of their race have valid grievances with black women as well, which are all due to our UPBRINGING and VALUES in the community. We still have work to do in the black community!
The perpetrators responsible for participating in the destruction of our community are your sisters brothers uncles fathers aunts and grandparents would you be willing to do what must be done so we can restart our community because most of the ones in our community don’t want to do it.
I agree
Agreed! It has been a break down in the Blk community with values for a while and instead of solving it everyone is running for the hills!!
@@SunshineKK99 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@adustygreasyandsweatybonnet be accountable for your actions stop blaming other people 🙄
I’ve been in her shoes before (except I don’t have kids) but it was before I took time to heal from past dating experiences and started surrounding myself with better circles of people that I realized it’s not necessarily about black men, it’s the black men you’re choosing to be around 😭 she just needs to find better people to be around then a good partner will come
I’m glad you said this because it gets tiring as a black man to hear good black men get thrown into the garbage with bad black men. Experience can drive our perspectives but her explanation clearly shows that she’s let the ones usually around her dictate her experience.
Thank You!!!!!!!! I’m around quality marriage minded black men and women. I married a quality black woman that’s why I don’t feel bad for these folks. It’s you!
So she lives in Missouri and don't date blk men but still had to get on a predominantly black dating show to find a non blk man. She primarily try to avoid blk men but still dont have a man of any race. she have wyte friends, and blk girlfriends who date wyte men but none of them can find her a man of any race. she says blk men put wyte women on a pedestal when she's literally on this interview putting wyte men on a pedestal and they still dont want her. Imagine opening up your options to millions more men or all races but you're still single and complaining about blk men 😂😂 cant make this ish up.
😂 all of that!
She better move her ass where I’m at in North Dakota if she wants a honorable white man.
Lol!
😂 exactly and she in Columbia Missouri black people not supposed to be out there
She'll find someone. She just need to relocate to a more diverse area.
“The white guys treat me better than black men”
But the ones that like her, she doesn’t like. Lawd you can’t make this stuff up.
She just wants to let y’all know she’s upset with y’all 😂
@@hotindecember1951 sounds more like she’s upset with her choices in men. None of them are working out no matter the race 😂
@@DeaconGossMy thoughts exactly.
@@DeaconGossmake up what sir?..
@@hotindecember1951well her saggy titty ass can be upset all she wants..we don't care.
I'm glad she stood her ground on what she experienced in her area.
In her area. She should move
@@ud558She can BUT her options won't change much at all. There's women on here from all over, even out of country, same sentiments. Only difference is, those BW are still holding out hope only to be told they've now hit the wall 😅
My best advice is for young women to hold their cards to their chest, move in silence, ESTABLISH and MAINTAIN boundaries and standards and not waiver.
@@ud558 she can't because of her ex husband share custody with her.
@@ud558Wherever she goes there she will be. She's been the common denominator in all her disastrous relationships, but as usual it's black men's fault. Good riddance, let zaddy deal with that dysfunction.
@@Wanderer25They refuse to understand that! Even Rebecca Lynn pope came out n told em!
She said men of all races were shooting up the club and disappearing when she thought a relationship was blooming but black men are the only ones she isolated.
Bingooooooo
And the black women on here somehow missed all of that 😂😂😂
She wouldnt have this issue from ANY race if she stopped sleeping with men before marriage or at the very least, a serious commitment
Ma’am this is a demographically black show
And? She never said she would not date one. She just said she hasn’t had great experiences with them.
@@LadyK007 I’m aware of what she said. She repeated herself 11 times.
As a black man, I hope she finds a non black man that will make her happy. 🙏🏾💯
Salute 🫡
She did. He knocked her up then dumped her ass.
@@awarepenguin3376😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂 this time keep her!!! Now we on here listening to her crazy azz AGAIN. Fence her in. Feed her. She got out.
🙏🏾
Other ethnic groups preferences aren't fat women, blk men is the only race that have to accept fat women.
BM are irrelevant to this.
We gotta be on great shape but accept the beer belly and flat asses
She is LONGGGG WINDED I’m 8 minutes in and it feels like a whole day.
I totally understand what she’s saying. A lot of what she says is true. She just needs to move or be around a more diverse group of black men.
She needs to get in shape, why well put together blk man wants to date her when he can have better
If she didn't have a kid they wouldn't see her as fun
Nope. I say she should just go elsewhere, to any other race but us Black men. That is truly what she wants.
Right, she needs to move in circles of positive black men.
BW are used for s*x by others ethnicities, some of them date and have s*x with non black who don't like black people, they're making mixed childs with Latinos, Whites, Indians, Asians, Arabs and those men leave them or they are ashamed to presents them to their communities BUT I've never heard BW said to avoid them... Why ?
We need racial healing in our community for BM and BW. Somehow we forget the intentional division created for us to hate ourselves and each other. Blaming each other is not the solution.
Nope. Take that “they did it to us” BS somewhere else. Everything in your life is your fault, absolutely everything. Until you hold yourself and others to account at that level, little will change.
Well said! Self hate I believe is the bigger issue and the trauma that came in life while trying to get answers messed up alot of our ppl
Nah black men need to leave this abusive relationship. Yall publicly make white supremacist comments about your men when the stats say the contrantrary
You can't say black men don't earn enough to provide when 54% of BM are single, middle class and childless and on average we outearn black women.
You can't say we are deadbeats when studies show black men are the most involved fathers. Yall engage in easily debunked lies about black men
The division caused all of this and yet we not doing anything about it. We have problems that should of been solved decades ago but we ain't gonna do shet. Saying someone hates themselves is a huge cope. You dont know their experiences with other black people are. At this point let people do and date what they want.
@@Roccofanyupp.
The men she consistently picks refuse to work or provide. She is the common denominator.
You can't tell every woman who they pick is the problem and still say there is nothing wrong with a lot of men.
Bingo. Like we're supposed to overlook the fact she's a single mom who has been run through.
The unemployment rates for bm here in America is astronomical. Look it up. So if bm make 40 k yearly...that's not good.
Of course, not the men who don’t work and who ain’t got nothing on 😒
Most black women who still believe in love and relationships are dealing with these same black men. 👎
She's looking for non black men to date on a Kendra G show? Right!
No. You missed her point. She was giving her experience about dating black men but she still wants to date a black man but is also open to other races.
I can't take any woman serious who isn't wearing a bra and talking about she won't accept from somebody...
@@MarvAuthor I don't have to see it.. the way she presents herself on this platform alone, speaks volumes!!
I saw that. Like, "ummmm who else is uncomfortable watching this?"
@@Phoenixishot exactly!!
Yep she needs a leash for them yard Dawgs 😂😂😂
Facts no bra and those things are huge and sagging wow‼️🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
So she has dated non-black men yet she is still single….the problem is her NOT black men.
Correct
fax. she just a bitter babymama
@@stinkreezy2791So only Kendra G can be single by choice? I know yall be so desperate to be in a relationship and accept anything and wonder why our community is so low when it comes to standards. People and go and dates and search. Theres more to life than just looking good on paper
Just got finished posting this almost verbatim. If she has all this experience with all these other races and she’s still searching, that means she is the problem because surely one of them was suitable.
@@fordaculture5014kendra has a boo.
I can’t say I disagree with her experiences, but I would like for her to not group all black men in the same category of the ones she attracts.
She didn't though. She said numerous times, "not all" black men, just the ones I've been with and what I see around me where I live.
@@kiciacoldspring1621When she said that there are no good black men in her surrounding area, she unfairly labeled a whole group. It is possible the good ones in her area are simply not attracted to her or they may not be in her circle.
@@drmonica9times outta 10they not attracted to her. I know dudes in her area that got everything she's looking for but wouldn't touch her with a 10 ft pole, she's a walking red flag 😂😂😂
She did say she wasn’t grouping all Blk men together.
@@loisbullock3151 Understood. When she says all the ones in her area are not good she’s categorizing a whole demographic. It could be that the “good” ones just aren’t interested in her. It can be fair for her to say that “all the men that I’ve encountered thus far have not treated me well” and not make all black men (in her area) look unworthy of being datable.
This is the issue we have. Black women hating their counterparts and bashing us instead of self reflecting.
The problem is YOU and your choices in men you prefer. YOUR SUPERFICIAL PREFERENCES and attitude. Too many of y’all are chasing the pretty boys. A very small percentage. SELF REFLECT…
True
I can see from your pic that no-one is checking for you 😂. Hence the complaint about "pretty boys".
She spent so much time talking negatively about a black man just to say I'll still date one. Sounds like she doesn't know how to pick a good man no matter their skin tone.
And she's still single after dating out.
She stated basically she wanted a man that had their shit together. And through trial and error she the black men she dated did not. Note this is a show with predominantly a black audience of which if she stated she prefered a non-black man she would be judged for it. And funny enough more so by other black women than men....especially the older ones. Hence why she stated the reasons. Note she didnt say it was their look, attitude, the femicide rate....she stated it was the fact the great majority were not looking for anything serious (just sex) and/or didn't have their finances and goals in order.
Which is true. Black men financially thriving in our community ages 24-34 are less likely to settle down. And the opposite for the circle she is in maybe true as well, a lot do not want to work.
No she’s correct. She’s not bashing them she’s making BM take accountability
@@tdagboYou can't make strangers take accountability for something they've never done, you women need therapy, ASAP 😂😂😂
As a 6'4 black man, i ran into her type when it comes to height. They ranted on sooo much about how short men are this or that and cant do this or that. Wasted sooo much time complaining that we never went pass the 1st date. She is a waste of most men's time. Even contradicted herself by saying white men have done the same but do better after a break up lmao. She just a lost caught.
Her: I don’t want to date BM
Also her: Comes on primarily black dating show…twice
You know damn well white people who want to date black people be on here.
Us white boys be lurking too
@@indo3052hit her up bro
@indo3052 this one is for you then my guy. Go get her 😂
@@indo3052 I know
Why when BW date out they alway obsessed with speaking on black men???
It’s weird
Because they don’t really love nonblack men they just hate bm and are certified weirdos
Because they are still sleeping with us while dating out lol
Why do BM do the same thing?🤷♀️
Because they still want us on the low
I’m exhausted listening to her.
Black men treat her horribly, white and Asians treat her better than black men but none seems to take her seriously, a man she was dating fell for her quickly and she thought that was a red flag, she don't like her mom, she don't like her dad, she divorced her husband. Who is the common denominator and why is it hard for her to maintain a healthy relationship with anyone, even her parents????
Exactly but it's ALWAYS the bm's fault for ALL their failures lol
This woman is a DRAMA QUEEN. She is talking about black men because she hangs out in the gutters of east st Louis and wonders why she only finds trash men.
She has a much higher value of herself than what the market place yields.
Let’s not pretend like toxicity isn’t common among many black households.
I know plenty of BP who cut contact with their parents because they aren’t healthy, refuse to respect their child’s boundaries, trying to take advantage of their kids, forced them to have relationships with abusers, didn’t protect them when they were violated etc the list goes on.
You speak as though everyone has a loving family. Unfortunately that's not true.....
@mama2flythesidehustlequeen164 Only 2 of the people I mentioned was her family. Everyone else are people that she chose to involve herself with.
For her to be Bisexual, Biracial but still Bi-herself is crazy.. 😂😂..... Ladies and gentlemen we have a winner
I agree with a lot of wht she said.... but this is was funny😂😂😂😂
Lol 😵
You Win! 👏👏👏
Who in their right mind wanna date trash like this woman.
😂😂😂😂
She's just saying the truth 👏🏼👏🏼 I wish her the best
Really 😅😅😅😅😅😅
I don't see any of the other races trying to marry her👀
If she dated so many people and they don't treat her well. At what point is she gonna be accountable for her own self? And possibly realizing she's the problem.
Shes a xes worker. She didnt date anyone, just xes'd them
Cmon Miss Tania. You know she ain't lying 😂😂😂
Girl bye you know they are losers! You want a good man, or a black man? 😂
@H20Sniperher ex-husband is biracial. He’s Black and German
@@SweetEssieAnd blk men ain't lying when they say most of you are masculine lol
She just burned any chances she has left of getting a good black man.
I don't think she cares
It's not much of y'all left
@@mmmitchell2010of those that exist, she has no phkn chance
@@serious7179 if you go on a 20 min rant about black men. You definitely care...
@@mmmitchell2010 Plenty of great black men out there, maybe not the specific type that you want.
I literally have black women say I'm corny or lame (just got told this on Saturday) because I work hard, don't have kids, study and don't do hood ish, I'm less than. I was on here about a month ago, mostly just black women saying nice stuff. I am the reverse of her, imagine if I came on and said the same. Would the women in these comments support me if I said the same? Be honest, ladies.
If she mad, I feel it. I don't condone her saying that all black men are terrible. I have no kids, haven't been with anybody since January and just work. Don't speak on everybody is the point, you don't know everybody.
The sad truth is if you get wit a WW those are the same women who will be angry at you , the same ones who called you corny
@HotwingsNranch it's nuts, bruh. The woman literally was at my aunt's Bday. It was mostly black people. She ran down my list of accomplishments and standings. No kids, no cheating, college grad, no criminal record, and great career. The first thing was to shit on me. I was just looking crazy. Like no white woman has ever said this about me. No Asian woman ever said that to me. This woman was the epitome of why I have to consider dating out. The hate I will get is expected. I've literally had other races of women feel sorry for me for dating only black women. The black community is on fire at this point.
Are you overweight?
@@cutthechicken194if he was overweight and????? Yall want us men to accept overweight women and call it body shame if we do say we want a women in shape
I'm sorry that you have been treated like this by BW. Please know that all BW are not like this and I truly hope that the woman of your dreams finds you!! It really is rough out here in these dating streets right now.😪
On behalf of ALL! Black men in the U.S we politely hand you over to the White community, white guys we thank you. 🙏
As a black man all I can say is THANK GOD
No accountability
@@reneerenee5073like yall have
😂😂😂😂😂
Agreed. She admitted she is promiscuous; gives up the b00ty too fast; is bisexual; has daddy issues; disrespects authority (parents); works a lot (56/wk); has a child; divorced; and goes to therapy. She is overweight and has crazy eyes. What a catch fellas. Sign me up!
@@reneerenee5073 that word is SO overused .....and I tell men that same thing....he isn't anymore responsible for the behaviors of specific black men that are bad than you are the behaviors of specific black woman that are bad
the only thing...literally ONLY thing...the good productive ones of us can do is call out bad behavior when we see it and perhaps offer advice to those committing it...
but we are NOT responsible for those that choose to stay wayward..therefore we are not accountable for their behavior..that is on THEM
BM generalize BW all the time on social media and in real life, but when BW are critical of BM, y'all have your panties in a bunch🤣😂
We appreciate that perfect example!
Upset? Hardly. We’re trying to figure out why white guys can knock her up and leave her a single mom and yet she only has a problem with black men. That’s all.
They are in SHAMBLES lol
@@krystaperry288we’re mildly incensed lol.
@@awarepenguin3376 😂
She's not lying at all but I would have just said I prefer dating non black men and left it at that.
Facts
I think she did orange but kendra will keep asking the same question or ask for them to explain so that kinda made her talk more and explain more that be kendra ass
I think she's attracted to black men physically but she's frustrated that she haven't found one who fits all her requirements and love her how she wants to be loved. This is why her relationships with white men aren't working because physically she's not attracted to them. So she'll continue to complain about black men .
She has a baby with a yt man, why didn't she stay on that side ?
Word it was “Niggaz ain’t sh1t” on steroids.
What u all are missing... She is dating out of her race and hasn't had no luck. Except a divorce and child. The problem is her. He needs therapy
We are the only race that Publicly bashes our own people
This!
Somebody has to say it...but its not like other races dont see the same thing. Every white woman i know who had a baby with a bm is a single mom.
The world has always portrayed black men as less then. We used to be able to find validation from our women. Now our women are leading the charge in diminishing our character, our worth.
There is a discussion on here where a white man took a crap on all black men, and the black women gave him thumbs ups. WTH is going on in our race?
How can you expect good experiences when interacting with people who you view as having minimal worth?
🎯
Absolutely
She said BLACK MEN about 100x🙄
lol
So?
@@cutlyfe yo mama 🤭
so what?
Black men make more money than black women on average and most of us are in the middle class
Soooo...first, you are on a black show looking for non black men. Second, seems like she dates brothers who are non committal.
She gave blk men all the smoke, but her preference has been dogging her out.
She never said they dogged her out they probably just didn't want anything serious with her but yet still RESPECTED her before leaving the situation vs leaving her with TRAUMA. All men are poison but some poison is more lethal than others
I think she did a great job of explaining herself with her experiences dating different races of men. I wish Kendra didn't act like she didn't understand where she's coming from during half of this interview.
Exactly omg ....she need to keep her opinions to herself . The lady is talking about her experience.
She’s a black male worshipper
Fr .. she acts tortoise brain slow, nothing she said was hard to understand
Kendra felt hit cause she only dates black men lol
Small town dudes usually have small town mindset. Search someplace else.
She can't she's bound to her state due to custody issues...maybe someone is willing to relocate to her
This young lady represented herself very well spoke in great detail for many who understand even if you are not in her situation. She is in a small town where the dating pool is very limited. Even if she dates outside of her race does not guarantee that she will be compatible with the suitors that she is meeting. I don’t understand why that is so difficult to understand. I can appreciate both people trying to get their point, but her experience is her experience does not make it unusual.
Nothing is wrong with her, she is just perfect, and everyone else is the issue.
Out of ALL she said , that’s what you got ? 🤔
@reneerenee5073 how you doing?
Yeah, in her mind everyone is the issue. So many are out telling their on Lifetime channel story hoping we just believe them.
She spoke her experience which MOST black women share. Its time us men be real. Generally speaking nigas dont want to commit.
@@tpoppy9303another real ☝🏽💯
My friends and I we’re having a conversation about the positive black male role models we had in childhood and none of us had any.
😂🤣😂🤣
Pathetic LOL, I had an entire family tree of honorable and successful black men.
😅😅😅😅😂😂
😂😂😂
@ajt8967 it's not.. the original comment is from a family of losers. Their own words.
Therapy is needed badly… lot of hurt behind that rant… she used her whole moment to talk about bm. Instead of promoting herself to the dating market all over the country. Prayers to her
Naw, someone needs to say it
Kendra the one that needs therapy. Yall say everyone needs therapy, even if they spitting facts. Therapist are cra,y their damn selves. People need Jesus, not man.
She has to resolve the issues she has with her black father. Therapy might be helpful.
Y’all are mad because she spoke facts?!😂😂
Literally… and Kendra acting like she just knows a gang of great ones which is why she isn’t married smh
U self hating black women need to take a accountability. However, if y’all don’t want to date black men, then don’t. No need to disrespect black men as a whole.
She's picking wrong. She's just unwilling to accept responsibility.
@@shawnstrickland7313 accountability???.. baby I was blessed to find me a great man however as a black woman I’m not blind to what I have seen as well in my 42 43 years in nov years of life
Keep on picking Pookie & Ray Ray and then hold every BM accountable.
The crazy part is that she clearly explained HER issues and what SHE deems a possible solution. SHE even states where she is open and where she is limited and yet she is being bashed. It's wild being able to articulate properly and still be misunderstood.
I live in Louisiana and I understand her completely. There's a mentality that men have down here but I'm not going to another race, just praying that my husband is from another state.
Just because you date someone, doesn't mean there's a future there. Chemistry, connection, views, etc. may be different and do not align. Doesn’t mean you ignore those things but you have to get to know the person in order to find out what works and what doesn't. It's wierd that people are expecting people to find what they are looking for in the first few people they date and if you don't, you're the problem.
She whined and moaned for 40 minutes repeating the same nonsense over and over instead of actually appealing to a man. Why would a man watch this and want to deal with her at all, especially a relationship? She's a headache.
She is Just like the other bm in her hometown. Got issues with the opposite sex of their race...so they blame them for stuff, and look up to the other...ww/wm. She is what she criticizes with the bm. She needs help. FR
I’m glad we watched the same thing 😂 i just think she shouldn’t have made that her main point . If you do date black men i would have just listed those as deal breakers not grouping all black men.
@@KandidKonversationswithKam That part!!!
We need a white man on the panel...do they find it attractive of a black person downs the men in their race as a reason to date them..i wld think they wld just want them to date them for who they are not just cz they white..we go need the whytes to let us know
I can tell she likes hanging around divested and/or toxic Black spaces. She comes on a majority Black show to comparatively put down Black men, say she avoids us, etc. But a lot of those women do this. If you are going to date out, date out and leave Black men alone. But no, she has to share her experiences on Black men because that will be attractive to other men. Again, non-Black men, you got it.
She does love hanging, that's for sure 😂 #nobra
No she just doesn’t want a dusty? Is that toxic? Should she not be tired of leaching 50/50 Tyrone!?
@Frugal637 she is dusty too that's what she attracts
Black men do the same thing so I'm not completely mad at her
Exactly, she spoke all the reformed rachet talking points.
She is very well articulated. My dad is amazing as well. But there is duality. The general population of black men is extremely messed up. It’s sad honestly. And only a small percentage take accountability and acknowledge the degeneracy of black men withholding relationships instead of abandoning families.
The women are worse and it's more women than men
Its pathetic that average women like you with NOTHING to offer will open your stinky mouths and talk nonsense. Parasites and leaches, walking around looking for suckers to leach off.
You're here defending this idiot. Instead leading with what she wants in a man, she's spending all her time talking down on black men. If the non-black men are Soo good for her, why isn't she with them but on here looking for a man, with a child in tow.
The same can be said about blk women that a MAJORITY of them ARE MESSED UP AS WELL and only a SMALL MINORITY accept accountability and hold other women accountable which is sad
54% childless and middle class and statistically the most involved fathers
@tyroniussupapookiemcleroy1403 54% childless? Than who is making all these babies in poor conditions? The majority of Blk women aren't sleeping with Mexican or white men.
If "black man" was the drinking game phrase we'd all be on the floor. Girl can TALK!!!
😅😅😅😅
She is difficult to deal with
We would lol 😂
😂 that's funny
RIGHT! 🥴😵💫
She said “all black men are trash” then wants you to believe she cares about black men
What’s the time stamp on that?
@@Privilge05There isn't one! There is, however, 8:33 and 11:33-11:40 she clearly say SHE WILL date a BM who qualifies for her expectations.
She NEVER said that, did you even listen?
@@foxyboop4164 she did…. Then tried to walk it back
@@foxyboop4164 well duhhh wouldn’t you!?
Well done Kendra!! Your response to the young lady was phenomenal. 👍
The crazy thing is this woman is telling the truth. Sadly the “culture” needs some working on. Lot of them are mamas boys. The mom and sisters condone their mess. So many broken homes in the “black” community. But no one is talking about that, it’s not ONLY the black women that should work hard to keep the homes together. Ponder that.
Good luck on the other side.
@@JD2.0N54 I need no luck I am “MARRIED” I am black and I KNOW what I see, how many of our BLACK FATHERS are deceased or incarcerated? Oh ok
@@sheambitious29lachelle17 Why is a married woman watching a dating show? Smdh
@@freudianslip2192for real, go chill with your husband
@@freudianslip2192 Because life is FREE WILL LMAOOO
As a black man, with “all his stuff together”, I strongly support her position and ultimate decision.
Can you explain what you mean by all your stuff together? No disrespect just seeing if it the same thing what women want.
I feel you bro! I’m in the same boat! Trying my hardest to stick to my race but it’s tough. So I understand what she means too.
Yeah let them deal with her. She's a bisexual baby mama that's already tried to hop the fence and it obviously didn't work out. Notice how she takes accountability for it not working out with them but is on here talking about bm not measuring up for the reason it doesn't work out with bm. I truly wish wm found them as marriageable as they find other non white women like they do Asians and Latinas. We'd all be better off.
@@ammarie9167 no disrespect taken. I mean by her personal definition of “all his stuff together”, she used that phrase a bunch of times and loosely defined it in such a way where I satisfied her definition.
When you say “same thing that women want” I can’t really speak for women in a general sense, as women are not a monolith.
I can find 5 women who want me, spin the block and find 5 who don’t. I might meet the height, income, hygiene, intelligence, residence, requirements for a woman, but then fail to accept Jesus as my lord and savior, so 🍍.
I guess the best way to answer that concisely is to say it would not take me long to find a wife if I were in the market for one, just from my personal anecdotal experience.
@@jasonwolfe3252
Yea, the more she spoke the more gratuitous I became to, Chad, Carlos, Chaim, Chin, and Charat
She’s really just misguided, and through her mid guidance, she’s made critically bad decisions that permanently lowered her value in a way obvious to every man but not obvious to her.
"Wait 8 seconds" had her in a choke hold 😂🤦🏽♀️
I AGREED WITH Her heart the whole video but I also was like...Baby you're disobedient &careless too.
This was exhausting to listen to
Im having this very same issue that she's having. We can't make this issh up. Smdh 🙄
Cynthia G would be proud!!
😂😂😂😂
Facts
I KNEW she was an Aquarius lol. She was detailed, realistic & fair to her experience
I watch your show all the time I can honestly say that she is the first person on your show that I agree with.
That all black men aren't shit huh 🙄
Instead of vetting properly...she tries to blame it on bm. SMDH! 🤦♂️
Idk, she seem like she got some issues to be honest. She needs healing. I think she got some deep seeded issues with bm.
Cause guys gonna do stupid guy shit regardless of race, most ppl know that. Cmon now. You hear how she talks about them and overly criticize bm just because.
You need healing girl. FR
I love when those women get green cards and 1/2
Funny how the same BM in the comments don't want to be judged as a whole, yet they are silent or even support it when BM (who by far do it more) do it to BW. The hypocrisy, gaslighting, and lack of accountability is becoming the biggest downfall of BM.
exactly
All the black men I know work their asses off and they are amazing providers for their parents and siblings and they are single and childless. I don’t know where she’s finding these men
Facts 💯. I also know a lot of good black men. I'm one of them.
If I didn’t have respectful tact, I would toot my own financial horn. But I won’t. If I took this woman on a date, I wouldn’t be interested because she talks entirely too much! Matter fact, after the first phone call, I wouldn’t dare. And she would pretend that I as a black man was the problem. Black men with means are not interested in this woman in general.
Long winded asf 😂
@@njpmeAfter 8 minutes playing on Bluetooth, I checked the video length…. 36 minutes 😮🤦🏽♂️ Pulled a spongebob on this foolish woman.
Facts I keep saying the men you want don’t want you
And she's bisexual so maybe she does prefer women and is in denial. A few black men I've noticed who bash black women for others later come our as bisexual which changes a lot
She engages in causual sex, is bisexual, divorcee, single mom, with no relationship with mom or dad. I can see how she would have hard time acquiring commitment higher value men of any race.
Reality is smacking her in the face and she still doesn't get it.
....Usually, no man of any race, who spent his life getting his shit together, is going to take another man's baby mama serious...
She had way too many issues about black men, she should go on a dating show or dating app that has the majority of white men or non black men...I got tired of listening to her complain about black men, and then to find out she has layers of trauma from her father and also she likes women to, she is way to exhausting...
The bisexual part threw me for a loop. What if she told this to Blk men she dated, and it turned them way off. The man might have felt insulted. Just saying