PLAYING IN THE SAND BOX: Starring DRAYA.📍

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КОМЕНТАРІ • 353

  • @ninawestlake14
    @ninawestlake14 2 місяці тому +97

    Wether grooming comes from man to much younger woman or woman to much younger man i find it despicable. About men marrying much younger women is totally fine with me. Some things are just the way they are. But...for a woman to give her son a stepdad his own age and make him the laughing stock among his peers? Does she even care about him and his feelings? His thoughts? What if this whole episode drives him into a dark depression or something? And all of this for some money. Wow. Ps..about that clip at the end...she aint no free spirit. I'm sick of folks using terms loosely whenever it suits them just cause they cannot get what they're looking for. There's dignity in admitting the truth. How about that.

    • @mvp4lyfateverything
      @mvp4lyfateverything 2 місяці тому +2

      No way you just condoned this degeneracy in a man but shamed a woman for this…as a WOMAN. You think women are not affected by stepmothers that are their own age??? The spirit of misogyny is killing our women.

    • @whitewall1518
      @whitewall1518 2 місяці тому +2

      A man marrying a younger woman is simply unacceptable. I am 19 and I would never accept a man old enough to be my father, being romantically/sexually interested in me. It’s disgusting and has a grooming undertone that no one wants to address.

    • @cupcakepatrice8418
      @cupcakepatrice8418 2 місяці тому +26

      If men can do it so can women! Stop having double standards!
      You sound like a pick me!
      I don’t believe women should have children outside of marriage! But if a man is a provider and they’re both happy who are you to say differently?
      I don’t think she groomed him but I think he lusted after her and she run with it!
      That’s why we should teach our sons so move with wisdom, women regardless of age will move by her emotions

    • @khadyadjisall5708
      @khadyadjisall5708 2 місяці тому +21

      So a man marrying a young woman who has the same age as his daughter is ok for you ?

    • @cupcakepatrice8418
      @cupcakepatrice8418 2 місяці тому +6

      @@khadyadjisall5708no it’s wrong all together

  • @LisaS483
    @LisaS483 2 місяці тому +478

    The optics of black women always having babies without husbands is just terrible. I wish our community would be honest about that. We have made ourselves a permanent underclass bc of it.

    • @akuasalaam490
      @akuasalaam490 2 місяці тому +32

      WHEW!!!!!!

    • @VerleanHurd
      @VerleanHurd 2 місяці тому +2

      Black eomen arent the only race if women having kids with no husbands. Statistics say there are more white women on welfare and food stamps than black women. I wi der why they only highlight white women? Intersting.🤔🤔🤔🤔

    • @xoxo20000
      @xoxo20000 2 місяці тому +67

      It's honestly a big weakness in the Black community unfortunately. The sad thing is it wasn't always like this. The nuclear family has been eroded to nothing. As a child of a single mother, I think it's best when BOTH parents are in the house in a healthy relationship to raise these kids.

    • @ChocoBeauty8
      @ChocoBeauty8 2 місяці тому +54

      You are absolutely right, Judge Lynn Toler describes it as a discombobulated/disjointed community when we continue to create single parent homes. It's awful and keeps the black community morally and financially in poverty.

    • @Trinitytruth7
      @Trinitytruth7 2 місяці тому +19

      If people don’t want to agree with truth, there’s really nothing others can do to make them accept that truth. The world will always be averse to truth and willing to cut the head off of anyone who dares to speak that we as a people really need to respect ourselves and stop doing selfish and stupid crap. Let’s just hope in another year or less we are not spectating her lamenting this young man leaving her and a whole child behind in the dust. The “BM ain’t ish bandwagon” is already a tired trope. Let’s make better choices.

  • @samanthasummer1201
    @samanthasummer1201 2 місяці тому +363

    I’ll never forget this women has child neglect and abuse charges no matter how pretty or how nice her body is

    • @lizmad8091
      @lizmad8091 2 місяці тому +86

      She literally left her child home alone while she went to a different city to strip. Her child called the cops because he was scared after days left alone when he was seven years old. It’s shocking and sad. She also got donkey of the day a few years back because she didn’t want to help her son with his homework. She’s not a good parent and it’s really sad that she uses children for financial gain.

    • @British_Cocoa
      @British_Cocoa 2 місяці тому +29

      @@lizmad8091she could of paid for a tutor 🤦🏽‍♀️

    • @tamarawilliams1197
      @tamarawilliams1197 2 місяці тому +46

      It's the "she has a son the same age as her lover"...for me

    • @Deniseessex222
      @Deniseessex222 2 місяці тому +4

      @@tamarawilliams1197I was thinking the same thing 🥴😣

    • @samanthasummer1201
      @samanthasummer1201 2 місяці тому

      @@lizmad8091 yass i remember her post about being annoyed at teachers for giving her son homework cos she didn’t wanna help him with it! People won’t see this kind of things all they see if her body

  • @VeronicaJade6
    @VeronicaJade6 2 місяці тому +190

    All I know is that i don't wanna hear her complain that he's not taking care or seeing the child once it's born, etc.

    • @abeck7929
      @abeck7929 2 місяці тому +10

      Just like Brittany and PJ 😮😮

    • @Lisette121
      @Lisette121 2 місяці тому +4

      👀😬

    • @antasiashaw8815
      @antasiashaw8815 2 місяці тому +4

      You already know it’s coming he’ll be out partying like a 20 something year old man while she’s at home with the baby I hope her son is doing okay with this

  • @dionnelatham4401
    @dionnelatham4401 2 місяці тому +437

    Draya hasn’t done the inner work necessary to be able to have a quality man in her age range. This move looks desperate to me and I want better for her. Hopefully she will have a healthy baby.

    • @valariegeneice8697
      @valariegeneice8697 2 місяці тому +49

      No she haven’t. She’s stunning but femininity is more than a lipstick look. 🎯

    • @dionnelatham4401
      @dionnelatham4401 2 місяці тому +35

      @@valariegeneice8697Bingo. She is a beautiful woman. Body snatched, nice smile, she seems cool at times. But there is something under the surface that she needs to lean into. Probably a lot of hurt and trauma.

    • @choosewisely6705
      @choosewisely6705 2 місяці тому

      She is WELL KNOWN to have done some REAL HOEISH things with a number of males within the industry. She has a name, hence whyyyyy she plotted on this vwry young impressionable boy. Disgusting

    • @natalieconstantine4996
      @natalieconstantine4996 2 місяці тому +2

      Well said totally agree

    • @evanewton1974
      @evanewton1974 2 місяці тому +1

      THIS!!

  • @KeishaDiamonds713
    @KeishaDiamonds713 2 місяці тому +103

    “Dry-ah” 💀

  • @zowdeezowdee
    @zowdeezowdee 2 місяці тому +296

    She should have moved in silence, no announcements.

    • @prettypetals5201
      @prettypetals5201 2 місяці тому +15

      True

    • @mwright0428
      @mwright0428 2 місяці тому +50

      Or not at all. This should have been nothing more than a WCW post from him. Draya is deficient internally because there’s no way that boy should have even gotten her phone number let alone got access to her womb.

    • @_Maikoo
      @_Maikoo 2 місяці тому +15

      Thank you. Not agreeing with her actions but she could've just kept it to herself.

    • @brittneynorman3840
      @brittneynorman3840 2 місяці тому +1

      She may have if rumors were not floating around

    • @zowdeezowdee
      @zowdeezowdee 2 місяці тому +2

      @@mwright0428 may God help us anyway. I think it's easier to say when we don't have them shoes on.

  • @geegeesofly2000
    @geegeesofly2000 2 місяці тому +114

    They have been dating for 8 months and she is 7 months pregnant. She did not waste any time securing her retirement! Every one is making an uproar when this young man probably doesnt really care since he has "money". He isnt worried about having to pay Draya child support for the next 18 years. What she did was foul but that seed would not have bloomed if he didnt water her garden. He might be young but he know how to put on a condom. Hopefully the baby comes out healthy with all this drama going on.

  • @petitelune5284
    @petitelune5284 2 місяці тому +34

    All these pregnancies. Let’s normalize checking your blood type and your partner’s blood type as well. Not doing that could create a sick child.

    • @briana14333
      @briana14333 2 місяці тому +3

      Underrated comment ‼️

    • @EmpressLunaa
      @EmpressLunaa 2 місяці тому +1

      I didn’t know this ! 😯

    • @chikodiibe4211
      @chikodiibe4211 2 місяці тому +3

      Yes I have the sickle cell trait they do this in Nigeria

  • @cgray5025
    @cgray5025 2 місяці тому +134

    I believe a lot of these celebrity women are still in adolescent mindsets themselves. When they open their mouths you can tell that they lack maturity. Draya, Nicki Minaj, Amber Rose are just a few that come to mind for me. Draya situation may have been less about grooming and more about her being childish herself. Draya is beautiful and could have easily got a rich older man the same.

    • @mineabc
      @mineabc 2 місяці тому +16

      I agree Draya may have been less grooming. She portrays herself to be mentally the same age as Jalen. Jalen, on the other hand, may reap the benefits of Draya informing the world that she is having his baby. He has been trying to separate himself from the gay rumors that arose a few months ago. Now, an older, attractive woman is carrying his seed. This sounds transactional.

    • @antasiashaw8815
      @antasiashaw8815 2 місяці тому +2

      Idk just because she’s beautiful doesn’t mean she can snag a man who age especially if rich. She has a reputation already as an Ig model her case with her son. I see most of these beautiful women can’t get men their age because most men who are successful always want younger women so it’s slim pickings for women like her

    • @cgray5025
      @cgray5025 2 місяці тому +5

      @@antasiashaw8815 It’s more than just beauty. It’s the way you present and carry yourself. Older rich men love certain types of women. She definitely fits that image. She has a reputation as an IG model to young men. Older provider men don’t care anything about that and nor would they care about a case that happened 15 years ago. For one, Men are not hard to get at all. She just chose a child because she can relate in my opinion.

  • @Proserpine27
    @Proserpine27 2 місяці тому +86

    After his gay rumors ( and videos ) I think the kid was more to save face for him and a come up for her

    • @stilljocelyn_
      @stilljocelyn_ 2 місяці тому +12

      Agreed

    • @missfavoured
      @missfavoured 2 місяці тому +7

      What happened?

    • @Marie_Laveau
      @Marie_Laveau 2 місяці тому +5

      That crossed my mind as well. The girlfriend he had before Draya was more his age and speed, but they seem to have broken up after that video.

    • @msteach3082
      @msteach3082 2 місяці тому +3

      If this is the case, who’s to say this wasn’t an agreement between them to benefit one another mutually? Just speculating.

  • @Gigi_Said_That
    @Gigi_Said_That 2 місяці тому +102

    “Pitbull in a skirt” I honestly could not have chosen a better description for the behavior of those bashing a mother with child. Forget the judgement while she is with child and send positivity to mom and baby. They all are going to need it.

    • @TheCruzan26
      @TheCruzan26 2 місяці тому +8

      Lol

    • @lisabrightly
      @lisabrightly 2 місяці тому +17

      Whatever - groomers get pregnant with their victims babies all the time. She's lucky he's reached twenty two years, just a few years less and she would be growing that baby in prison!

    • @thaxtonwaters8561
      @thaxtonwaters8561 2 місяці тому +14

      The original "pit bull in a skirt" rapper Eve, is moving totally different.

  • @Age_Of_Aquarius84
    @Age_Of_Aquarius84 2 місяці тому +158

    Grooming young men to secure a bag is not worth the level of karma that will eventually come for you. Draya, unfortunately, has given up on herself to the extent that a healthy/happy marriage (with age appropriate men) seems so far out of reach that she's ruled it out of her life plans entirely. Her unhealed inner child is running the show, and as someone the same age with a son myself, this entire mess is stomach churning. I don’t know how she laid down with a man her son's age 🤢

    • @prettypetals5201
      @prettypetals5201 2 місяці тому +4

      Sad...she's such a beautiful woman...wishing her nothing but the best, peace and happiness 🙏

    • @Age_Of_Aquarius84
      @Age_Of_Aquarius84 2 місяці тому +16

      @@prettypetals5201 beautiful or not, her behaviour is deviant. I hope she finds peace and heals from her traumas because she will pass them on to her children if she doesn't.

    • @ninawestlake14
      @ninawestlake14 2 місяці тому +14

      To make matters worse the kid has a baby face. Way too baby.

    • @Age_Of_Aquarius84
      @Age_Of_Aquarius84 2 місяці тому +13

      @ninawestlake14 exactly! He still looks like a teenager.

    • @shinefia5987
      @shinefia5987 2 місяці тому +12

      Yap just imagine in 20 yrs Jalen will look back and hate her for grooming and baiting him at such a young age

  • @ButterflyBree
    @ButterflyBree 2 місяці тому +98

    I'm not a fam of the cash cow baby culture or being romantically involved with a man who is significantly younger (or older) than me. However, I wholeheartedly hope that Draya has a healthy, safe, joyful pregnancy and delivery. It's not okay to harass a pregnant woman. That's unnecessarily malicious.

  • @yazmiynjones4930
    @yazmiynjones4930 2 місяці тому +39

    If Draya thinks money will compensate for the lack of emotional intelligence in a 22 year old man that's her choice. But me I couldn't do it , bless her daughter though I know she's excited ❤

    • @desdior1207
      @desdior1207 2 місяці тому +4

      I’m 26 and I can’t even do it🤦🏽‍♀️

  • @mthewardrobegem
    @mthewardrobegem 2 місяці тому +25

    As a 23yr old woman, I appreciate your feminine interpretation of this situation. I never knew what grooming was, so your break down made it super duper clear lol. Praying for nothing but the best for Draya, Jalen, and their new baby!

  • @try8042
    @try8042 2 місяці тому +82

    I'm sorry but your prefrontal cortex, the area of your brain responsible for reasoning and problem-solving, doesn't fully develop until 25. So any person trying to date significantly younger men or women is suspect to me. It's inappropriate and usually says a lot about the person seeking these young partners.

    • @CCCC-fp5gw
      @CCCC-fp5gw 2 місяці тому +1

      Is that American-backed science to make up for the poor education system and lack of intergenerational strength. I'll never understand people telling me their frontal lobe isn't fully formed while they're buying liquor, having sex, driving vehicles, signing up for the armed forces.
      Black people should be side eyeing this lack of accountability for our adult youth.

    • @CCCC-fp5gw
      @CCCC-fp5gw 2 місяці тому +1

      Your prefrontal lobe isn't fully formed,.well let's move up the legal drinking age and party age.
      Don't tell me about insurance companies using this science proves it's real; it's yet another way we are bamboozled by capitalism.
      Pick up a book, talk to your grandparents, get mentors, travel, learn...the prefrontal cortex will likely exceed expectations by 20 or less

    • @tyilliasmw4796
      @tyilliasmw4796 2 місяці тому +4

      All I've been studying lately is the brain specifically pre frontal cortex!! And I wholeheartedly agree❤

    • @briana14333
      @briana14333 2 місяці тому +3

      I agree as well. I’m in my late 30s and anyone under 30 is a child to me!

  • @evanewton1974
    @evanewton1974 2 місяці тому +20

    This video deserves a standing ovation!! Very well put together and very well said. Everyone saying that MEN DO IT TOO needs to be directed right to this video for the full commentary!

  • @OpulentAristocrat
    @OpulentAristocrat 2 місяці тому +83

    Sending warm wishes for Draya's pregnancy to be filled with happiness, safety, and good health! 🌸

  • @janellmd
    @janellmd 2 місяці тому +78

    To him, Draya was the ultimate prize. Being a young NBA player, having an IG baddie on his arm was good for his image. Im sure his family is disappointed.
    Ultimately she will never be considered wife material, and she is officially damaged goods.

    • @filmadcamp1512
      @filmadcamp1512 2 місяці тому

      Most BW are considered to not be wife material and are considered by men to be damaged goods. This is for various reasons that are not necessarily true.

  • @1kericho
    @1kericho 2 місяці тому +44

    As I mature, I recognize how young people are targeted and groomed to fit the needs of the person with leverage. Not a fan of people getting taken advantage of. In many communities, it is overlooked if the groomer is a woman. Especially overlooked if the victim is in the limelight, male, and wealthy. Yes, we need to speak about this topic to protect our loved ones.
    Wishing for a healthy pregnancy and delivery for the baby. May both parents celebrate this blessing.

  • @asiatyreeshow6643
    @asiatyreeshow6643 2 місяці тому +10

    She just wanted a child she said she didn't want marriage or a husband just to be free

  • @maddielu5286
    @maddielu5286 2 місяці тому +58

    I honestly don't think she cares. And the interview at the end says it all. She is not a traditional woman, not even in the sense of having a solid partner. He should have been more careful dealing with a woman like that

  • @yudythemodel2025
    @yudythemodel2025 2 місяці тому +121

    It's deeper than money. She could have "trapped" an older rich man just the same. In my opinion, this is a woman struggling to accept her own age as she's nearing 40. She gives me maiden archetype energy. In this Tick Tock, Instagram world that tells women that they should go away once they turn 40 (Nicki Minaj, Kim K). Draya might have been feeling the pressure to remain forever 21. Maybe being seen with a younger man fulfills this for her, even on a subconscious level.

    • @annadenise8902
      @annadenise8902 2 місяці тому +32

      She could also have arrested development. She grown but her mindset is still on the level of a 20 year old 🤦🏾‍♀️

    • @jamaicancewtie5
      @jamaicancewtie5 2 місяці тому +19

      This is an interesting perspective!! 👏🏾

    • @yudythemodel2025
      @yudythemodel2025 2 місяці тому +19

      @@annadenise8902 Yesss, I can see this as well. There is a disconnect. Her wounded inner teenager is attracted to this young man. Not the 39yr old woman we all see. My theory is that she can benefit from "inner child healing".

    • @annadenise8902
      @annadenise8902 2 місяці тому

      @@yudythemodel2025 Yup. She can’t sit with GROWN men because she has nothing to offer them intellectually & of substance..and all she has is her body to give. So what does she do, find A little young sheep that don’t know much and down to F. And boom, another baby and another Bag 💰😂
      One thing about grown men, you gotta be able to keep up and she’s not ready for that level yet due to not mentally being up to speed to handle that

    • @Lisette121
      @Lisette121 2 місяці тому +12

      Honestly I get your point, but guys older are wiser. Notice she dated many around her age, but didn't get pregnant. She took advantage of a young person who is not as wise.

  • @Hintedbymarina
    @Hintedbymarina 2 місяці тому +98

    Not, "congrats to DRYER" lolllll

    • @lionesslamb7049
      @lionesslamb7049 2 місяці тому +13

      😂😂😂 I heard that!😅

    • @msmewiththat7532
      @msmewiththat7532 2 місяці тому +8

      I had to smirk smile at how polite and over the head if not heard that was.

    • @kickinitwithkey
      @kickinitwithkey 2 місяці тому +8

      took me out

    • @reds.a2076
      @reds.a2076 2 місяці тому +5

      I knew my mind wasn't playing tricks on me. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @stacierose1692
      @stacierose1692 2 місяці тому +6

      😂I'm crying I was like wahhh who's dryerrr😂😂

  • @micka580
    @micka580 2 місяці тому +25

    What you said about Marques Houston made my skin crawl🤢...R.Kelly marry Aaliyah, too...

    • @karzymimi42
      @karzymimi42 2 місяці тому +2

      She isn’t defending Marques Houston, she made an observation. At the end of the day he’s not parading his young wife around like a toy and she isn’t out on social media acting a fool. They’re Jehova’s Witnesses so things look different over there. Of course from an outside or general perspective their relationship is problematic, but what exactly are we supposed to do? Marques is very much cancelled from what I’ve seen. No one is checking for him like that, unless they’re also Jehova’s Witnesses or fans from back in the day that separate art from the artist. People went in on him already regarding this young lady and continue to. R. Kelly is a different situation and way more dangerous.

    • @micka580
      @micka580 2 місяці тому +2

      @@karzymimi42 Smdh🤦🏾‍♀️

  • @truBob91
    @truBob91 2 місяці тому +48

    This is very on brand for Draya lol Get to the bag by any means. She’ll endanger the welfare of her child & even sleep with someone the same age as her eldest child for financial security. She’s practicing hypergamy, but it’s low vibrational. Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should.

    • @kari5709
      @kari5709 2 місяці тому +6

      well said! i agree

    • @briana14333
      @briana14333 2 місяці тому +1

      🎯🎯🎯

  • @British_Cocoa
    @British_Cocoa 2 місяці тому +32

    All that beauty to be a single mother to multiple men 🤦🏽‍♀️

    • @briana14333
      @briana14333 2 місяці тому +7

      I always thought she could have been a supermodel! She wouldn’t have had to prey on the young and dumb had she created an empire with her looks.

  • @AndreaPortley
    @AndreaPortley 2 місяці тому +69

    17 years from now, Draya will be 56, her daughter will be 17, and NFL player maybe retired at 39! So many lessons will be learned by everyone involved! Draya will also be a grandmother too!!!

    • @beeznhoney4323
      @beeznhoney4323 2 місяці тому +21

      Sorry sis, you can't assume that Draya will be a GMother at 56. This is stating that her older child _wants_ a Child/REN - maybe or maybe NOT. Let's not turn into Kevin SCAMuels and age shame older women. Hopefully, we all get there and stay healthy, fit, feminine, struggle free & fine as good wine💅🏼

    • @AndreaPortley
      @AndreaPortley 2 місяці тому +6

      @@beeznhoney4323 first and foremost, I’m not age shaming her! Because a tree is known by its fruit, her sons will be married and/or have children! She has black female DNA, she’ll become set in her ways no doubt about it! NFL player probably won’t see her the same 20 plus years from now! And social media could become boring or obsolete to the generation of that day!

    • @orubek355
      @orubek355 2 місяці тому

      Be realistic.@@beeznhoney4323

    • @aderam648
      @aderam648 2 місяці тому +1

      @@AndreaPortley first of all her first son is gay he may or may not choose to have children. Her second son may, or may not choose to have children just like millennials, and Gen Z are choosing more and more to have less children, or none at all who knows what her children will be doing …you’re way too invested

    • @AndreaPortley
      @AndreaPortley 2 місяці тому

      @@aderam648gay brothers can’t have kids? Why are you ladies so triggered?

  • @AFFTFOMSICHTS
    @AFFTFOMSICHTS 2 місяці тому +21

    I would never send any hate to her or any expecting mother, or any person period TBH I’m just having a hard time wrapping my head around the fact that her baby daddy was in the womb/being born while she was giving birth to her son at 17. such a wild concept. LOL

  • @spreadgoodenergy6051
    @spreadgoodenergy6051 2 місяці тому +24

    “Thotimusprime” 😂

  • @quess2k
    @quess2k 2 місяці тому +18

    What a perfect feminine interpretation as usual Chloe.. keep edifying our feminine perspectives🔥💯!

  • @Ashley-vu2nj
    @Ashley-vu2nj 2 місяці тому +18

    Your full perspective is so much healthier then my initial thoughts.

  • @tamaranicholas6504
    @tamaranicholas6504 2 місяці тому +22

    Draya R. Shelley!! Took me a second to get it, but I see what you did there 😏😂

  • @MysteryUnfold
    @MysteryUnfold 2 місяці тому +34

    She’s his beard.

    • @missfavoured
      @missfavoured 2 місяці тому

      What does this mean?

    • @thatbeau1807
      @thatbeau1807 2 місяці тому +1

      ​@@missfavoured cover up for his true sexual identity

    • @In_TheHouse
      @In_TheHouse 2 місяці тому +7

      He’s supposedly 🌈

    • @curlyisconfident
      @curlyisconfident 2 місяці тому +3

      1000% percent cause I’ve seen the videos 😓

    • @aderam648
      @aderam648 2 місяці тому +2

      Exactly my own brother who watches NBA told me that and I seen the videos of him hopping on the boys she is his beard that’s why neither one of them mind as long as it gets to talk off of what other people think

  • @kari5709
    @kari5709 2 місяці тому +31

    I think she needed to take these points that you mentioned into consideration before she decided to have the baby. Yes, she got the bag, but at what cost?
    I actually had no idea that there’s a trend of the younger baby daddy moving on to someone his age and that speaks volumes about her situation. She seems to have managed single motherhood well, so if that’s what she wants to continue to do, then that’s her prerogative.
    I applaud you Chloe for rising above the fire online and choosing to use this as an opportunity to teach women, especially younger women, how to handle situations like these. I hope to follow your example in that regard. 👏🏼

  • @lizmad8091
    @lizmad8091 2 місяці тому +15

    I wonder if this is an arrangement. Many accused her BD of being gay. She could be his beard and she gets child support in return.

  • @Lovingmylife24
    @Lovingmylife24 2 місяці тому +32

    She said it in the interview. She would have a baby regardless of a relationship. Her oldest is 22 and she was probably single after having him so she is used to being a single mom at this point so it is probably not bothering her. That’s her mindset. I wish her a happy pregnancy and healthy baby ❤ she is experienced at getting what she wants out of men.

    • @Carma2010
      @Carma2010 2 місяці тому +4

      Draya was in a long-term relationship with Orlando Scandrick (retired NFL player) which she was engaged to and had a son. We are forgetting that she has relational history and a younger son too.

  • @ClaireHaire
    @ClaireHaire 2 місяці тому +29

    *Honestly, I can see him turning 30,getting married & Draya trying to compete with her. However, I am happy for mom & child and that she finally got her girl.*

    • @mwright0428
      @mwright0428 2 місяці тому +5

      I said the same thing. I don’t see her competing but she wanted a baby bad and got it. The why is where the healing happens for her. And it’s not just her wanting a bunch of kids IMO

  • @quietstorm6553
    @quietstorm6553 2 місяці тому +6

    This lady is quite satisfied with the decision she made. She's not a relationship person.

  • @MultiChiedza
    @MultiChiedza 2 місяці тому +39

    ‘And we all know that babies are not delivered by the stork’ 😂😂😂Chloe 💜

  • @EvitaN
    @EvitaN 2 місяці тому +22

    Secured the bag , but at what cost

  • @VerleanHurd
    @VerleanHurd 2 місяці тому +22

    unpopular2 Its grooming. Thats it. Thats all.

  • @blessingsluckystars
    @blessingsluckystars 2 місяці тому +37

    I'm 22 and when men do this they say the girl is grown especially in the urban community so why the outrage drakes seeing a 21 years and he 40 to

    • @jennny22233
      @jennny22233 2 місяці тому +2

      Right either way women are gonna be blamed for “trapping” a man.

    • @Trinitytruth7
      @Trinitytruth7 2 місяці тому

      Drake will get the same amount of vitriol from me as he may not want to believe it but he is a child molester basically. We need more men to call out this behavior because when women address it, we are labeled, “jealous or bitter.”

    • @briana14333
      @briana14333 2 місяці тому +1

      Just because it’s normalized doesn’t make it ok.

  • @briggettmumphrey3226
    @briggettmumphrey3226 2 місяці тому +8

    All money definitely is not good money 💰

  • @lpgilber
    @lpgilber 2 місяці тому +11

    I hope that she doesn't end up bitter and hurt like Shakira. Be careful whom you choose to procreate with.

    • @aderam648
      @aderam648 2 місяці тому

      Or maybe he’s gay and she’s his beard you might wanna look him up…..

  • @msmewiththat7532
    @msmewiththat7532 2 місяці тому +15

    😮 her son and child's father is the same age?!

    • @aderam648
      @aderam648 2 місяці тому

      Yes, because she was a teenage mother, who cares

    • @msmewiththat7532
      @msmewiththat7532 2 місяці тому

      @@aderam648 ...someone

  • @Cheree_Wright
    @Cheree_Wright 2 місяці тому +51

    So a 22 year old woman can get with a 39 year old man & have his children in exchange for the wealth & security he provides, but Draya can’t get with a 22 year old man to do the same? It’s a double standard y’all. Men do this all the time

    • @Kollii111
      @Kollii111 2 місяці тому +12

      I think people wouldn’t care as much if she didn’t have a son his age 🥴

    • @msteach3082
      @msteach3082 2 місяці тому +24

      @@Kollii111Possibly, but men also date women the same age as their daughters too.

    • @misguidedpearls7456
      @misguidedpearls7456 2 місяці тому

      amen

    • @aderam648
      @aderam648 2 місяці тому +1

      @@Kollii111 she has a son his age because she had a child under age. Why don’t people say that

    • @Kollii111
      @Kollii111 2 місяці тому

      @@aderam648 maybe it isn’t mentioned because in the grand scheme of things it doesn’t matter. her son and that man are still the same age.

  • @malikawilson7071
    @malikawilson7071 2 місяці тому +29

    I don’t think baby mama culture is the way to go. I think this was a very desperate move by Draya. She hasn’t done the INNER work to attract a healthy man that’s her age. All I will say is best wishes and a speedy delivery. Long as she can live with her choices

  • @mwright0428
    @mwright0428 2 місяці тому +14

    Yes best wishes to her and her daughter truly. But I been thinking about this and I have come to the conclusion that women like Draya not only groom but they are grooming to get a do over. Her, Erica Mena and women like them were video girls very young and when they got pregnant their families took care of them. Now that they still “have it” and can still get a millionaire they get pregnant to secure the bag and get a do over at being a mom. Now that we have IG and social media to prove it they can be or pretend to be the mom they always wanted to be with the means to give their new baby everything they couldn’t give to their now grown children. I bet their relationship with their older kids is strained if anything at all.
    Bottom line- you can’t get a do over. Heal and nurture the relationship with ALL of your children so you’re not using men, money and new babies to get back the time you lost.

  • @tiffany23484
    @tiffany23484 2 місяці тому +8

    I’m glad that this video exist ❤. The dangers of grooming is such an important topic.

  • @GoddessY1968
    @GoddessY1968 2 місяці тому +30

    Age gap relationship are predatory regardless of rather they marry the prey or not.

  • @TaylorJohnson1
    @TaylorJohnson1 2 місяці тому +5

    The pronunciation of “Draya” is taking me out 😂

  • @jamillawebb3567
    @jamillawebb3567 2 місяці тому +4

    Her commentary was excellent and I agree 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯 I spoke to my friends about this in private and would never she a woman in public. What I feel bad about is the child. She didn’t ask to be in this circumstance.

  • @Cjax504
    @Cjax504 2 місяці тому +16

    How ironic they hooked up after his gay rumors. I have a feeling that may not be his baby but because she was paid to be a beard she is keeping it up.

    • @missfavoured
      @missfavoured 2 місяці тому +4

      That would be safe for him than the other way around.

    • @aderam648
      @aderam648 2 місяці тому

      Just because he’s gay doesn’t mean his sperm doesn’t work ……

  • @missfavoured
    @missfavoured 2 місяці тому +4

    No respect for her behavior, nor this situation.

  • @belle_belle3225
    @belle_belle3225 2 місяці тому +3

    I just love how you bring across your points 🎯

  • @sookiesookie9184
    @sookiesookie9184 2 місяці тому +3

    Bad behavior is behavior no matter who does it.

  • @desdior1207
    @desdior1207 2 місяці тому +5

    This woman must really have all the patience in the world to bother with someone that young and create a baby with him at her big age. I can’t, but then again, I’m not looking for a meal ticket more so a healthy marriage from a financially stable and mentally stable minded man. She just around here checking these dudes bucket list off smh

  • @anmorgan3129
    @anmorgan3129 2 місяці тому +4

    Chloeeeee!!! This intro... the 😭 and 🤢 up reference sent me... and I'm only 33 seconds into the video 🤣😂🤣😂

  • @MLJones
    @MLJones 2 місяці тому +7

    Chloe what the H E double hockey sticks was that at the end of your video????? 😂 What were those words coming out of that woman’s mouth???😮

  • @ShaunasWorld950
    @ShaunasWorld950 2 місяці тому +6

    Great commentary! You brought it to the point!

  • @briggettmumphrey3226
    @briggettmumphrey3226 2 місяці тому +5

    I love the ❤fact that you didn’t just straight up drag you kept it real and yes they are both adults and it is equally wrong but people are going to do what they want in the end dragging pregnant women whether you agree or not is not feminin😢I agree reap what you sow is real

  • @yourentrepreneurjourney9136
    @yourentrepreneurjourney9136 2 місяці тому +4

    Very good points made Chloe_! It is never worth being a groomer to secure a so-called healthy life. I trust that down the line, Draya will get therapy.

  • @indymg4456
    @indymg4456 2 місяці тому +1

    Tell’em Chloe exactly 🤣 I would never wish down on a stranger I don’t know 🤷🏼‍♀️ me either

  • @sherrita8582
    @sherrita8582 2 місяці тому +1

    When Chloe said he folded 😂😂 I'm biased...I have sons who at young sges got involved with older women .I didn't like it but nor did they call me for my opinion either

  • @littlelamb7890
    @littlelamb7890 2 місяці тому +2

    Not: “… people are crying and throwing up” 😳
    😂🤣😂😂

  • @KayLombo
    @KayLombo 2 місяці тому +39

    I havent watched the video yet but 17 years of age difference is wild because the boy is so young. Im definitely looking at her like 😒🤨 this is wild.However I hate that men dont get as much flack for perpetrating equally or worse predatory behaviour .

    • @VerleanHurd
      @VerleanHurd 2 місяці тому +6

      Because it starts and stoos with us. Lets talk about it.

    • @mwright0428
      @mwright0428 2 місяці тому +1

      @@VerleanHurdI agree

  • @b3autiphulmokha
    @b3autiphulmokha 2 місяці тому +3

    love your take.

  • @Tygerrrrrr
    @Tygerrrrrr 2 місяці тому +2

    this is honestly scary and disturbing!

  • @OneVeronique
    @OneVeronique 2 місяці тому +4

    Not “drya” haha!
    She better think about a possible “Plot Twist”. If she hasn’t or wasn’t good to her other children, he and or his familia might ask for full or joint custody. Soooo “drya” may very well have fumbled this bag!!!
    Poor “DRYAAAAAA”
    #plottwist

  • @annnee82
    @annnee82 2 місяці тому

    You were the only YTer to make me understand this. All along i was just saying who cares as long as they are both happy. But you made clear
    Points!!!

  • @indymg4456
    @indymg4456 2 місяці тому +2

    Would it have been better if she was his age 23 or 22 ? Being pregnant?

  • @lavieestbelle6068
    @lavieestbelle6068 2 місяці тому +5

    He is still developing. That was wrong.

  • @mrttamara
    @mrttamara 2 місяці тому +22

    I noticed that other women are so mean to Draya. I don’t know why so many women hate her so much. Even when she was on Basketball Wives they wanted to beat her up.

    • @theMadame.M
      @theMadame.M 2 місяці тому +7

      Because she is an ambiguous black woman who is naturally beautiful!

    • @heavenxyan
      @heavenxyan 2 місяці тому +13

      @@theMadame.Mi don’t think that’s why girl 😂

    • @onevenus6040
      @onevenus6040 2 місяці тому

      What's ambiguous?​@@theMadame.M

    • @CaramelCali
      @CaramelCali 2 місяці тому +2

      Yeah I’m reading nothing but hate in the comments. I t care if this woman gets her bag

    • @mwright0428
      @mwright0428 2 місяці тому +2

      @@CaramelCali it’s not the fact that he’s rich- it’s the fact that he’s significantly younger than her. Anybody who dates someone with that big of an age gap is internally deficient because the older party can and will run circles around you mentally. And if all you see is dollar signs, or thinking with your organs, you’re going to miss the signs of grooming. Draya has the face, body and access to wealthy men her age and older and it says alot that she couldn’t bag a husband this time around and she purposely went behind a younger man and got a life long connection with him through a child. This wasn’t smart and that $$ isn’t going to change that. She basically signed up for single motherhood because that boy is not going to help her with that child and all she will get is a check- obvs a lot of women do it and there’s never a shortage of men to make a baby with so I guess 🙃

  • @msteach3082
    @msteach3082 2 місяці тому

    This title is everything.

  • @S_gw2011
    @S_gw2011 2 місяці тому +4

    Very sad situation! Also no one is going to take her seriously! Sad’

  • @Feminine_ki
    @Feminine_ki 2 місяці тому +1

    I just can’t fathom a 39 year old woman making a baby with a 22 year old. Her maturity level is on the floor. Shes going to have so much mental anguish dealing with him. My goodness.

  • @m.j.333
    @m.j.333 2 місяці тому +2

    Did you call her Dry-a😂

  • @tiffanybest2827
    @tiffanybest2827 2 місяці тому +2

    Do men get tired of being baby daddy and co-parenting? How many nightmare cases do these men have to see before they invest in Plan B?

  • @crystalcastillo7575
    @crystalcastillo7575 2 місяці тому +1

    I don’t get why dead beat parents have more children when they already neglect their previous children …

  • @melaniejones9902
    @melaniejones9902 2 місяці тому +2

    Men of her own age don't want her they knows she's messy they are too clued up so she has to go for a child

    • @briana14333
      @briana14333 2 місяці тому

      I agree. A man her age with that type of money and visibility/popularity might hit, but he is not going to want her to taint his public image.

  • @cookiielashea4987
    @cookiielashea4987 2 місяці тому

    Not drya 😂😂😂😂😂

  • @BredotDon
    @BredotDon 2 місяці тому +2

    This is embarrassing.

  • @antasiashaw8815
    @antasiashaw8815 2 місяці тому

    I’m glad you give grace to those who live a different lifestyle than what you believe in it’s definitely tacky to put people down

    • @TheNewFeminine
      @TheNewFeminine  2 місяці тому

      I don’t give grace. Not my place. I just believe in Karma. Wevall fall short, and while I don’t endorse Draya’s decision ultimately she will have to deal with the consequences of her actions. Said with love.💄

  • @enechukwuvalencia6257
    @enechukwuvalencia6257 2 місяці тому

    Hi Chloe I’m trying to find the link to join your membership here on UA-cam and can’t seem to find it.Any help on that .

    • @TheNewFeminine
      @TheNewFeminine  2 місяці тому

      You have to Subscribe through Members Only, which can only done by tablet or desktop I believe. See you on the other side!💄

  • @passivepanda3656
    @passivepanda3656 2 місяці тому +4

    I don’t. And I’ll die on that hill.
    We all saw what happened to Brittany and the Baby mama of NLE Choppa.
    These young men are infatuated until they’re not. He is way too young and he was groomed. I don’t care what yall say. After that he will find another lady he will fall in love with and you’ll be putting your child into a bad situation.
    I just hope for her that I am wrong.

  • @JN-gk3ly
    @JN-gk3ly Місяць тому

    I’m watching this video again and I notice the last except of “ I’m very non traditional…” nonsense! If you are non traditional do not have a kid and perpetuate generational curses. And she did that interview long time ago and look it’s playing out now meaning choose words carefully!! As a single mom not by choice it’s not okay. The stakes are high on women to make high standards choices when it comes to their body temple and bringing children to this world. Even the Bible is gentle on a widow than when this type of child breeding takes place. Women please listen you are not doing yourself any favor by lowering your standards and the already placed standards. As Always Chloe thank you for this channel. May God keep blessing you abundantly!!

  • @user-ys7mo8sz4v
    @user-ys7mo8sz4v 2 місяці тому

    A few years ago Draya was engaged to a football player his first name was Orlando and they had a baby..I guess it didn't work out with him..I lost track of Draya after she left Basketball Wives

  • @theijeomalyons
    @theijeomalyons 2 місяці тому +1

    Don't women like their peace ?!?! DRAYAAAAA🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️

  • @MrsFefe32
    @MrsFefe32 2 місяці тому +3

    Hi Chloe ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @cynara7568
    @cynara7568 2 місяці тому +1

    All money ain’t good money but she will soon see. If feel sorry for all that’s involved. Starting with the emotional trauma

  • @felicerobinson
    @felicerobinson 2 місяці тому +11

    Beautiful woman who can live and reap the 'quenches of her choice, but for me, the thought of mating with a peer of my daughter's age is sickening....literally! I believe karma is real. Love and light to all on the path.

  • @amarisvonnae
    @amarisvonnae 2 місяці тому +1

    Not Drya 😂 chloe

  • @reginayfavors
    @reginayfavors 2 місяці тому

    These women are also trying to follow the Larsa Pippen strategy: go after their pension.

  • @crystalcastillo7575
    @crystalcastillo7575 2 місяці тому +1

    Emphasis on the groomed will one day want someone their own age !!!

  • @_missashleybanks_
    @_missashleybanks_ 2 місяці тому +1

    Majority of women in the women comments that are Draya’s age couldn’t bag a 22yo or a basketball player. Hit the gym

  • @nhlamulodonatella6622
    @nhlamulodonatella6622 2 місяці тому

    I deeply feel that we[men & women] should leave children out of our battle to the bottom

  • @i7427
    @i7427 2 місяці тому

    I agree ❤

  • @user-xl9ok2ye1u
    @user-xl9ok2ye1u 2 місяці тому

    This is My Opinion What people do for Money 💰💰💰💰💰💰💰💰.& Frame .😂