Tim Ross on DIVORCE in Marriage | How to ASK your SPOUSE to CHANGE |

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  • @TheBasementPodcast
    @TheBasementPodcast  9 місяців тому +22

    Download B-Side & leave a review 🌟 Let’s bring OUR SAFE SPACE to the world!❤️🙏🏾
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    • @shannaandrews3717
      @shannaandrews3717 9 місяців тому +3

      On it! Some of us are wondering/worrying about Sammy. Is he ok?

    • @wdsanders04
      @wdsanders04 9 місяців тому +5

      I need Keith cash app

    • @denisemessamore823
      @denisemessamore823 9 місяців тому

      No apple here

    • @annclarke1204
      @annclarke1204 9 місяців тому

      😢android for me 😢

    • @Jrolling94
      @Jrolling94 9 місяців тому

      Is the app going to be on fire stick or Roku?

  • @kimberlyk601
    @kimberlyk601 9 місяців тому +41

    I wish I had this conversation in my life before I got divorced. I loved my husband but he wasn’t about change and I didn’t have the knowledge or words to express my concerns to have saved or marriage. I’m still growing and hitting therapy hard to be the best version of myself. And through Gods grace I’m going to be a success for myself and my children ❤Love you guys and I forever a Dweller and now I’m on the B-Side… much love!!!

    • @shelbymw6429
      @shelbymw6429 9 місяців тому +3

      We all are. It's The Basement right? Tim has a way of helping us articulate emotions & intention we felt or feel but didn't always have words for. #growing

    • @joannnelson3255
      @joannnelson3255 9 місяців тому +4

      I appreciate that you still would want to salvage your relationship. I connect with that so hard! The thing that I had to come to terms with is that no matter what I want, my husband doesn't want to change. I had to process Tim's comment through that lens. And I'll hold it for any future relationships that I may have.

  • @christinacoltrane4682
    @christinacoltrane4682 9 місяців тому +6

    “Good-byes will save your life.” I felt every bit of this statement. I know for a fact that it has been true for me.

  • @saramothersil8852
    @saramothersil8852 9 місяців тому +17

    funny enough, my church has a coffee shop called HeBrews 😂😂

  • @Djsammyloverify
    @Djsammyloverify 9 місяців тому +5

    I had a revelation recently and it was truly a conviction. The basement is not a place to just wallow in your sorrows and to just be placated. Yes heal, but also grow, and grow in the "dark room" so when you shine you shine a light that leads and guides others to the basement. ✨️ Be a light, be a guide. and stand in truth. ❤

  • @adelaibrown
    @adelaibrown 9 місяців тому +7

    34:20 I watched that happen. It was such a blessing. I had to leave but watching you hug everyone made my heart smile. Tim you are who you say you are.

  • @alejandralandry1820
    @alejandralandry1820 9 місяців тому +9

    I've had so much (unnecessary) anxiety this weekend, and this episode just eased so many of my fears. I love you all so much.

  • @mrs.twonledet1506
    @mrs.twonledet1506 9 місяців тому +2

    “Get comfortable with goodbyes” in the most healthy way

  • @Jrolling94
    @Jrolling94 9 місяців тому +74

    Are you going to make the app on fire stick or Roku? I watch all my UA-cam on my TV because it’s a bigger screen!

    • @FilmedByAaron
      @FilmedByAaron 9 місяців тому +11

      THIS COMMENT RIGHT HERE!!!

    • @iam.jswervo
      @iam.jswervo 9 місяців тому +3

      ‼️‼️‼️‼️

    • @JeanJessica
      @JeanJessica 9 місяців тому +3

      Yooooo….this is a INCREDIBLE idea! Thank you so much for speaking up!

    • @princessjoy007
      @princessjoy007 9 місяців тому +2

      Yaaaaas🤳🏽 🪄 📺

    • @anthonyjohn7042
      @anthonyjohn7042 9 місяців тому +1

      Also xbox and playstation

  • @dajonnajohnson468
    @dajonnajohnson468 9 місяців тому +2

    I watched you today on Relentless online and the word was amazing, I'm stepping into my new skin ☺️and this podcast just gave me even more confirmation on what it is I need to do! I'm turning 30 on the first of January and I have to go into my 30s with PURPOSE! Thank you for being YOU and spreading the word.

  • @raqueltoby855
    @raqueltoby855 9 місяців тому +5

    I subscribed to B-side today and watched my first video!❤️👏🏼 A suggestion I have is to please add an option for closed-captions 😊

  • @steve0cole735
    @steve0cole735 9 місяців тому +1

    Tim the first time I've ever seen you is when you preach at the Potter house years ago stop tripping its coming, that change my whole life. Thank you for all you do for the world and me I'm a better man because of you .

  • @lizjack7329
    @lizjack7329 9 місяців тому +3

    I love the Basement, I work from home & I've learned so much since you've been podcasting... God truly contine to bless you & your team.1luv

  • @te_maniarenwick
    @te_maniarenwick 9 місяців тому +2

    I am truly grateful and blessed basement fam!!
    I've been praying "Father, give me more wisdom and understanding for every area of my life" and here I am! 🥰
    He literally revealed that to me just now!!
    Keep doing what you doing fam!!
    B-SIDE download, subscribing tomorrow night, pay day!!
    Loves ❤❤❤

  • @samanthamcdonald8186
    @samanthamcdonald8186 9 місяців тому +7

    THE FAMILY YOU WANT TO CHOOSE!!! So true. Im not usually a crowd person and how calm and open my nervous system felt while we were there was honestly miraculous. B SIDE TILL THE DAY WE DIEEEEEE periodddddd 39:32

  • @monettevalliere
    @monettevalliere 9 місяців тому +1

    The App is clear. HIGH CLASS! So proud of the Basement crew! Glad to be on the B-Side

  • @Amazinfavor
    @Amazinfavor 9 місяців тому +2

    I'm just watching the remainder of this video and have to thank you, Tim and Hector, on the conversation about divorcing a version of friendships. Before your conversation on the subject began, I was thinking how much I hated the ways of a friend and also love them. I was thinking within myself, asking the Lord, at what point do I let go. In mid thought, I heard Tim say, you can't get out of someone what they don't have to give. And then on to not totally dismissing a person, but perhaps certain versions or expectations. Thank you for that part of the conversation. It may have been an on time answer from the Lord

    • @jackiede72
      @jackiede72 9 місяців тому

      Please could explain this to me? I was listening and jumping forward on this video...

  • @kwamaina
    @kwamaina 9 місяців тому

    I have had some life events that have caused me to fall behind on the pods and God has been so kind to me because I’m watching them at the exact time my heart needs the medicine in these pods. Oh I downloaded and subscribed to B side on launch night!!! Thank you for the safe place. Discord is working though I am a little confused about how it works.

  • @shelbymw6429
    @shelbymw6429 9 місяців тому +9

    It's unloving, unkind & sets both people up for failure to expect someone to give you something they have shown you they don't have the capacity to give.

    • @jackiede72
      @jackiede72 9 місяців тому

      ...do not have the capacity to give...how does one if their spouse (who is a minimal talker) doesn't have the capacity or just doesn't want to?

    • @jackiede72
      @jackiede72 9 місяців тому

      5 ❤ Languages - my top one is Physical and hubby can't, isn't used to it or won't hug, touch?

  • @nancymedina8789
    @nancymedina8789 9 місяців тому +3

    This conversation hit my heart hard, thank you! 🙏🏽

  • @monettevalliere
    @monettevalliere 9 місяців тому +2

    This App is IT. High class! Amazing content!

  • @BriMechell
    @BriMechell 9 місяців тому +2

    These graphics are amazing! Kudos to whoever is making them every week!

  • @TKMprof
    @TKMprof 9 місяців тому +3

    💡Conceptual bar question of the Episode HECTORrrrrrr Q: [Are Dwellers so tight] because we've spent hours & hours together? we've all made an agreement? Tio Tim's A: That's called Relational Equity...Common Unity= community

  • @alicia_nicole444
    @alicia_nicole444 9 місяців тому +2

    2020 was a gift!! It opened my eyes 👀

  • @doewalker7697
    @doewalker7697 9 місяців тому

    I wasn’t able to make the event… but so happy it went well!! Congratulations! The way that you talk about how everyone treated each other and you, all I kept thinking was wow these are my people ❤. You don’t always find people with the same heart as you in this world. Conformation for to keep that. Praying one day I can experience with you all.

  • @chelskrop
    @chelskrop 9 місяців тому

    Thank you all!! Such a blessing 🫶🏼

  • @DefYoshi1
    @DefYoshi1 9 місяців тому +2

    I needed this conversation 2 weeks ago. ( 46:00-49:00 minutes) appreciate it.

  • @audenegunter571
    @audenegunter571 9 місяців тому +2

    When will Tim's mom and/or dad gonna be on the pod? Would loooooooooove that.❤❤❤

  • @tylerwilliams72
    @tylerwilliams72 9 місяців тому

    Tim just drops Gems constantly. “Say Goodbye the right way”

  • @jamiehigh924
    @jamiehigh924 9 місяців тому

    I'm so grateful for this Community

  • @adelaibrown
    @adelaibrown 9 місяців тому

    32:28 I felt that sense of urgency to be in the building and it was more than I expected. The sacrifices were worth it!! #BSide #Dwellernation

  • @thelifeof_T_Y
    @thelifeof_T_Y 9 місяців тому +2

    Been listening for over a month now from the UK been a blessing watching. Was going through the seasons now they’re all gone! Not sure if yous are aware. 🙏🏾 it can be rectified

    • @layomionafusi
      @layomionafusi 9 місяців тому

      They moved all their videos to their new app, B-Side

    • @sunshinegold9093
      @sunshinegold9093 9 місяців тому

      Amen ❤ this pod is amazing 😊

  • @jkkaki7430
    @jkkaki7430 6 місяців тому

    The story with the birthday girl is literally breaking my heart🥺I’m in tears.
    And I’m just thinking if that was me, and a man gave me money, I honestly wouldn’t accept it. I would feel so incredibly guilty and I would know that there’s no way that’s real so it must be a terrible idea to accept it.
    Ohhh wow😢😢🥺low moment here with my emotional intelligence😔low moment. That all I see is negativity.

  • @adriennedyke
    @adriennedyke 9 місяців тому +1

    Im loving all the intro songs while waiting AAAAHHHHH they were all my fav and I memorized them all lol

  • @emmzzz5380
    @emmzzz5380 9 місяців тому +1

    This is soooo What I needed!

  • @sheilataylor2733
    @sheilataylor2733 9 місяців тому +1

    Julianna has the most convicting "mmm hmm" ❤😂🙌

  • @joseayala746
    @joseayala746 6 місяців тому

    I love everything you do. Nuff said ❤️🔥

  • @commonsense2530
    @commonsense2530 8 місяців тому

    2 Timothy 4:3 KJV
    For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears;

  • @carla-carliswright-johnson4112
    @carla-carliswright-johnson4112 9 місяців тому

    Good evening! God I really needed this conversation, I currently have Clarity in this Marriage. Now I will govern myself accordingly. I must #LoveHealLive.

  • @faithmassok1983
    @faithmassok1983 7 місяців тому

    You all are so blessed...you all rock big time...

  • @reginadavis1028
    @reginadavis1028 9 місяців тому +4

    What's Keith's cashapp? As a wife, that's INCREDIBLE of him to be a husband of integrity, love, and protection to his wife and clearly willing to change his thought process to value his wife! I need to bless him!

  • @mrsferg35
    @mrsferg35 8 місяців тому

    Come on goodbye breakdown !!! I love it HELP US OUT UNKKKK

  • @breakthrough5876
    @breakthrough5876 9 місяців тому +1

    Amazing bro Tim!

  • @amarimartine
    @amarimartine 9 місяців тому +1

    My husband is divorcing me because he doesn’t want to divorce his dating apps… we had our 3rd baby 3 months ago

  • @Cahuna.
    @Cahuna. 9 місяців тому

    Thank you for that tip about how to go about praying, that blessed me

  • @alicia_nicole444
    @alicia_nicole444 9 місяців тому +5

    Where is Sam

  • @jenniferoropezamagee4789
    @jenniferoropezamagee4789 9 місяців тому

    The Basement is a blessing!

  • @stephaniecortez1964
    @stephaniecortez1964 9 місяців тому

    This was extremely timely! Ty! 😭🔥☝🏼❤️

  • @happy33yw
    @happy33yw 9 місяців тому

    So many key points to take notes on.

  • @maryvalera9336
    @maryvalera9336 9 місяців тому +1

    Not the Elmer's glue 😂😂

  • @tmtwilson
    @tmtwilson 8 місяців тому

    Not the LaQuinta.... I'm with you Unc!

  • @kokomcdade2886
    @kokomcdade2886 9 місяців тому

    I’m digging hearing all of the intros before we start 😎

  • @jamiehigh924
    @jamiehigh924 9 місяців тому

    That example of the long begging prayer hopefully set folks free, cause I am allergic to them long meaningless prayers.

  • @dennisbynum1552
    @dennisbynum1552 9 місяців тому

    Love you guys,
    May The Good Lord continue to bless you all💪🏾💪🏾

    • @daddysgirlrob
      @daddysgirlrob 9 місяців тому

      This has been such a blessing! You are wise beyond your years sir! I Always receive a word from your podcast. How do you become a dweller? I believe in sowing into good ground. May the blessings of the Lord continue to be upon you, that makerh rich and addeth no sorrow.

  • @samanthamcdonald8186
    @samanthamcdonald8186 9 місяців тому +2

    18:32 timotheus just sent me 😂

  • @whoshabani
    @whoshabani 9 місяців тому +1

    What happened to the rest of the videos on UA-cam? I was catching up 😢

  • @myweeklyrantsD
    @myweeklyrantsD 8 місяців тому

    I definitely have to find a way to say goodbye in a non-passive aggressive manner.

  • @elleemme3495
    @elleemme3495 9 місяців тому +3

    Howdy y'all! I missed the event because I was serving at Brandon Lake in Houston. I saw the play back this weekend, but totally didn't grasp any info on how B Side works. Am I missing something? I got an email saying I'm no longer a dweller, but not sure how to move forward. Please help!

  • @pinkkim2008
    @pinkkim2008 8 місяців тому

    This is so good 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

  • @princessjoy007
    @princessjoy007 9 місяців тому +4

    Tim, can you get Kat Von D in the basement? ♟️🕷️🖤🖤🖤

  • @jontaesmith7141
    @jontaesmith7141 9 місяців тому

    Wow! 2020 gave me the same gift. Just now realizing that's what it was. Some folks can't go with you

  • @kevinecasey26
    @kevinecasey26 9 місяців тому +1

    Lost it with the bday girl story 😢😢🙏🏾🙏🏾

  • @janejanelady
    @janejanelady 9 місяців тому +2

    Something that lacks in English compared to other languages is having various words for different kinds of love .

  • @Aconsejandodesdeloaprendido
    @Aconsejandodesdeloaprendido 9 місяців тому

    God 🎉Bless you guys continue firth and thank you all for these awesome conversations

  • @Googie22
    @Googie22 9 місяців тому

    I looooove Juliana's presence and she doesn't have to say a word

  • @adriennedyke
    @adriennedyke 9 місяців тому +1

    Awwwh yaaaay my girl Juli is on the cover !!!!!!!

  • @idalysmaldonado3130
    @idalysmaldonado3130 9 місяців тому +1

    I wish I understood all about boundaries and emotional affairs and the hurt it created. Things would be soo different.

  • @happy33yw
    @happy33yw 9 місяців тому

    This is so good!

  • @mrs.twonledet1506
    @mrs.twonledet1506 9 місяців тому

    😂😂 not the square Patties

  • @laishawebber633
    @laishawebber633 9 місяців тому

    So grateful for this message.🙏🏾

  • @rafaelcotto8344
    @rafaelcotto8344 8 місяців тому

    How can I have a conversation about the “divorce” I see me and my wife need, from both our traumas, she’s 34 I’m 29, but when she has told me “you are the source of my damage”?

  • @sharonposton8784
    @sharonposton8784 9 місяців тому +1

    Oh okay... whew! I thought Tim divorced his wife! Appreciate the clarity but further to how to modifying the friendship relationships.

  • @doraedge1182
    @doraedge1182 9 місяців тому

    Julie walking extra heavy today!!!! Yes!!

  • @mjk5254
    @mjk5254 9 місяців тому

    Tim stone cold face saying "Corrosive Acid is there for a season." LOL

  • @adriennedyke
    @adriennedyke 9 місяців тому

    this family... one I get to choose ... WEEEPPING!!!! thank u Lord

  • @Khronos06
    @Khronos06 9 місяців тому

    The B-side is fire fam

  • @kericraig9354
    @kericraig9354 9 місяців тому

    Any chance you're working a deal with Megan Ashley or B Simone for a spot on the BSIDE? So happy to see accountability, and focus on total healing and whole body health. Love them both, would love to see a new chapter in their lives whether together or separate.

  • @ajjones8453
    @ajjones8453 9 місяців тому

    Not the bul AJ having the Same question I’ve had on my heart for weeks 😮‍💨😮‍💨

  • @sunshinegold9093
    @sunshinegold9093 9 місяців тому +2

    Where is Sammy

  • @mrs.twonledet1506
    @mrs.twonledet1506 9 місяців тому

    I love hearing this 🥰

  • @MONICAPGRAY-lo3vu
    @MONICAPGRAY-lo3vu 9 місяців тому

    🤚🏽 🙌🏽 basement dweller
    Blessings ‼️

  • @951marker
    @951marker 9 місяців тому

    There is an Apostle-brew here in Redlands, CA. 😁👍🏼

  • @suganeeds
    @suganeeds 9 місяців тому +1

    48:43 i need to get back to this

  • @ubongamana7266
    @ubongamana7266 9 місяців тому

    The Vbucks prayer😂😂😂😂😭😭😭😭

  • @princessleai
    @princessleai 9 місяців тому

    Copped the book^^

  • @melanisewilliams518
    @melanisewilliams518 9 місяців тому

    I Love the B 😂😂😂😂

  • @christthelord91
    @christthelord91 9 місяців тому

    Thanks for still leaving something on UA-cam.

  • @qcnumber1fan294
    @qcnumber1fan294 9 місяців тому

    49:36 cutting cords, saying goodbye!

  • @user-qw4fq7yw7h
    @user-qw4fq7yw7h 9 місяців тому +2

    I love you all and have joined one year ago! I was trying to download the app and I have an older iPhone and it will not download. Will there be any other options? 🙏🏽😊

  • @Its_Me_Brandy
    @Its_Me_Brandy 9 місяців тому +3

    Ya’ll where is Keith cashapp

  • @adriennedyke
    @adriennedyke 9 місяців тому

    52:00 .. this is literally the stuff my counselor and I talk about.. wow

  • @TheInsider157
    @TheInsider157 9 місяців тому +5

    Where's Sam?

  • @qcnumber1fan294
    @qcnumber1fan294 9 місяців тому

    Book pre order done audiobook!!!!!!!!!

  • @Ashley-rb7ov
    @Ashley-rb7ov 9 місяців тому +2

    I’m a basement dweller and just moved into the B-Side! Any tips for using the app?

  • @fatimahalea8472
    @fatimahalea8472 9 місяців тому

    1:06:16 we love you Daniel

  • @alclassicmusic
    @alclassicmusic 9 місяців тому

    I pray that you all are going to open the app to smart TV's, because I'd rather not watch episodes on my phone.

  • @roseallen5514
    @roseallen5514 6 місяців тому

    Free will is a choice to do as you will. Lining your will with God’s will is when you choose to make sure your choice lines up with the Bible and the purpose He has for your life. How you are S.H.A.P.E.D will tell you how you will disciple others.

  • @kaywannathomas5013
    @kaywannathomas5013 9 місяців тому

    Nehemiah Co. Christian coffee shop in Arlington. Ditch the lil mermaid.

  • @tenitalks
    @tenitalks 9 місяців тому +1

    But where is Sammy?😩

  • @angiecann1
    @angiecann1 9 місяців тому

    This episode is not available on the b side