I'm a victim of S.A. and attempted r@pe. This is so comforting. I just recently got used to having my friends touch me without me flinching. Thank you for this audio
I am sorry sorry but hey great progress your doing good. Not every day is going go to be a good day or a bad day but you are strong and independent and got this
This was really nice I think I needed this deep down. I’ve been graped without the G twice and I finally got comfortable with hugging my friends and then the pandemic hit and I feel like I’m back at square one. I literally have had people break up with me or lose interest cause of it
aw im so sorry, Charlie. you didn't deserve that at all, and its seriously not your fault either. please remember to also take things at your own pace, because its totally okay to not want hugs from your friends or anything like that. and i also wanna say that you will find someone who cares and supports you, i can promise that. stay strong and much love, Charlie
@@ItsJaysmr man this audio hit hard, I was graped without the g from the time I was 10 till I was abt 13. So this hits hard, thank you for all that you do
As a survior of s.a. I really needed to hear this. Wish somebody like this could have been there for me then. This audio was beautiful and I really appreciate it. ❤️
i’m so sorry u didn’t deserve that to happen to u at all. but at least u can look back on it and say fuck them im still here thriving even after what they did to me and i’m proud of myself for making it this far. i hope your doing okay now❤️
It's so nice to hear someone say "it wasn't your fault" for once. I've gotten used to people responding to me by accusing me and insinuating that I brought **that** to myself. Those people are mostly the women in my life that I depended on to protect me and comfort me. But they all instead defended the person that took advantage of me. I'm glad that not everyone I tell my story to will tell me that I should feel ashamed of myself. This video is very healing for someone like me. Thank you for making this video ❤️
im so sorry to hear that :( and of course, you should not be ashamed of yourself as it wasn't your fault. you did nothing wrong, hun. and im really glad to know the audio helps as well :) much love and stay safe, Dana 💞✨
heya, Brianna :) I seriously want you to know, that you are not alone with any of this. It may feel that way sometimes, and i completely understand it. It can be really hard to realize that there are others with you and there to support you. But Brianna, im here with you. Im here for you, and you are not alone, love. much love and stay safe, hun
This severely comforted me as a guy. Many people thought I was the liar and that I was a “r@p1st”. The true abuser was my partner. Hearing someone say “you are not the one who should be ashamed” I shit you not I started crying. Thank you sm for this audio Jay 💞
I am almost exactly in your shoes. It was a close friend and classmate for me. It's really a disgusting double-standard we live in, where we're told to "Believe All Women" but men in the same boat are just cast off as liars. I believe you. I dont think you're lying. You're brave for this. And I'm proud of you.
I hope you both are healing. As a girl myself, I am ashamed of the double standards. Boys can be victims as well. I hope we all heal together, away from the people that have hurt us.
@@Demi_Sukimata Yes, boys can be victims too, and I, as a guy, have my story too. Two months before the whole pandemic started, I was SAed by a guy. He texted me on Instagram asking me if I minded nudity and that he wasn't afraid to show off, I said "No, thanks", but he sent me a video showing me his privates anyway, I was so disgusted, scared and anxious when it happened, I remember feeling my hands sweaty and my face and hands so tingly, it was horrible. And this, along with other experiences, caused me to develop a deep fear towards men (yeah, being a man myself, I'm afraid of other men), I can't socialize with them because I feel shy, nervous and embarrassed around them, and it makes me feel guilty because there are guys who are good and who I care about a lot, and I feel shitty because I might hurt them with this unfair fear.
My ex was a manipulative abuser. He would trick me into things and I felt so trapped.. it would commonly happen in scenarios depicted here. I felt stuck in place.. because if I didn’t do as he wanted he would get upset or angry and I would try so hard to make him happy… nothing I did would be enough and every line I set was crossed.. I could never be enough and was constantly manipulated into thinking the way he treated me was ok. He SA me, and it has taken me 2 years to learn to cope. I’ve had to relearn how to say no and not feel guilty.. the man I’m with now is so good to me and I’m so grateful for him.. I’m just afraid to tell him about my past.. I don’t know how he will react..
Your not alone I was in a very similar situation back in year 8, I'm in year 10 now and still haven't really learned to handle some of the emotions that come up sometimes, but it's getting better and I'm slowly coming back to my old self. Reading you post actually brought me a bit of comfort because I felt kind of alone. I'm so happy that you were able to find peace and find someone who cares about you, it reminds me that this can get better. I'm so sorry you ever had to experience that but I'm proud of you and inspired because you didn't let it become you. You overcame that experience and I hope that you're thriving now.❤❤❤
This also happened to me a year and a half ago.. it was my first boyfriend and my first time wasn't as i pictured. I was forced into it because he kept pestering and burning me out so i gave in. When i said it hurt and asked him to stop he didn't and kept going on more aggressively... my friends just told me the other day that she should have said something when i told her about my experience and that she thinks it was grape Im so glad tht you found someone who treats you as you deserve🥰 if he really loves you he'll support and understand you and your feelings
Literally the phrase “it’s not your fault” or “you shouldn’t be the one who is ashamed” are great things to say when I heard those things I just felt a weight lifted off of my chest, after five years of not saying anything about the SA cause I didn’t know what it meant, I was 8 when it happened I told my sisters and they told me about their similar experiences and I said “ i feel gross” and “ ashamed” and deep down I felt like it was my fault because I let him in my bed. But it’s not my fault because I didn’t know, it’s not my fault because he’s the one who asked for me to take off my clothes. It’s not my fault because HE DID IT, not me. I’m just happy I had my sisters to help me through it and to finally forgive him. I lived with him for the next 9 years
as a survivor of r4pe and s.a i was going through this from 6-11 I'm now 14 and this really means a lot to me :) I was always triggered and would cry over small things that triggered me so thank you for this
This is honestly the back of my mind anxiety in every romantic encounter. The worry that I'll be triggered unwittingly by my partner and react in a way that hurts or upsets them as I suffer a flashback or something. Massive thanks for walking me through one of my worst fears with compassion.
To everyone sharing their story here.. I really wanna hold you so tight now.. And tell you that "Don't worry sweetheart... You lived this life so bravely so far.. there's nothing that can defeat u.. Not even a person's action.. All these days u had the guts to live.. no matter what.. Be in that spirit.. Show them that ur more than just what they thought... Be bold.. Be brave.. And be peaceful with your thoughts" Love u... Love u... Love u..... Virtual hugs.... 😍✨✨✨
aw this is so sweet! to anyone that reads that, i wanna add on that and remind you how far you've come and that i know you can keep going. you're doing awesome, love :)
Hey question,I was sa'd a few years ago I'm still just a teen girl. Do I have to tell anyone about what happened? my offender is dead he can't do anything to anyone else he's already hurt me I don't want to tell it's hardly safe for me
The reason why I'm a big fan of ASMR roleplay is that I've always wondered, am i gonna find the one that will accept me as i am while i can't even accept myself? And the answer was always "no" , so I'mma just build the life i want in my imagination
I really needed this as a sexual abuse survivor.I got taken advantage off by my cousin when i was 9 to 10 years old and i had to keep quiet for years. Thank you so much
Im sorry this happened to you. as a fellow sa survivor, I was always told by my critical family that being "taken advantage of" wasn't a real thing. But hearing someone else say it is really validating and makes me feel seen.
Good god I am so sorry. I'm a victim of it while I was young too. But by close friends which stung really hard. (!!NOT UNDERMINING YOUR SITUATION IN ANY WAY!!) so as a survivor. Maybe not of r---- but of SA in general. I salute you my friend, stay strong.
this triggered me for some reason, i’ve listened to a lot of these audios in the past and nothing has happened, i stopped listening once i realised that i wasn’t in the right headspace. but i want to thank you Jay, this means a lot to me and a lot of other people 💗
I was SAed by my older cousin from the age 5 to last year(I turn 13 in 11 days) and this is honestly so comforting to listen to after I have nightmares or flashbacks of those times. Thank you for making this
u r so tender and compassionate, I could feel this in ur voice here, so gentle and sweet, that's the only way a girl would feel safe talking about such a horrible incidence (God forbid) with someone specially the significant other.
This hit home so hard. I literally can’t have doctors near me anymore that’s how bad it’s affected me. Even my family it makes me feel sick being close to anyone.
I’ve been SAed and groomed (online SA, but doesn’t make it ANY WORSE may I remind you). And now the idea of s3x makes me feel gross. Thank you for this video
Thanks so much for this Jay. You're brilliant at doing these audios. Unfortunately I got jumped when I was 18, it was pretty brutal. I still have ptsd, but was lucky 4 months after to meet a wonderful guy. Its uncanny just how similar a conversation that went down with him was almost identical to this. He could tell I was terrified of physical intimacy once we got serious in our relationship, but was so sweet and unselfish about it. 💕 You Jay are also more proof that not all guys are jerks.
I have had a really bad past because of all the abuse I had to deal with as a little kid all the way to my early teenage years. I’m 20 now and it I do have times where curtain things trigger me. I thank you so much for making something like this to help us who have dealt with sexual abuse. U have no idea how much u r helping people recover from their abuse. Tysm Jay. 🖤
For someone that gone though it when I was 5 to 9 and got graped without the g less then 2 months ago. It helps me alot with the trigger here at school since the teacher was talking about it and I'm in the bathroom skipping since I got a panic attack and it helped me here
oh no, i'm really sorry to hear that. thats really hard to go through, but im happy to see you here doing better. im also really glad i could make a bit of a difference in that moment. much love and stay safe, Lily. I care about you so much
For someone that has been pressured and coerced numerous of times by two different men at different times in my life, this really means the world to me!! I’m so relieved that I’m out of both of those situations! Thx Jay 🥺
All people in the comments section, I love you and I'm so proud you survived what happened to you and that you're still here. You are so strong and I admire you for your strength. I would rip the head to whoever hurt you in the past. 😤😤❤❤❤
I can still feel his lips on my chest and neck everytime I try to lay down my bed and it's the worst feeling ever. I still feel like it was my fault bceuase I let him do it to me. I'm so weak.
I definitely needed this. I haven't been in a relationship since it happened. I'm afraid of letting someone know that it happened. Afraid of what they might say
Since I have a mental disability (hydrocephalus, which is the medical term for "water on the brain"), I'm part of the group that's at risk for being SA'ed. It happened to me when I was a young woman in my late teens and early 20s by the man who had been my stepfather (I'm 47 now, and since then, my mom and stepdad have divorced--which, as far as I know had nothing to do with what he'd done to me). I've been married for almost 21 years, and sometimes, when my husband wants to "do it", I'm typically not in the mood. Also, when the doctor does the pap smear every three years, it hurts, and makes me wish I could be knocked out for the procedure.
as a survivor of s.a. from my step dad who still lives with us, this helps a lot. This means so much to me and i thank you for doing this it makes me feel a bit more safe!
I was molested from the ages of 6-14 by 2 uncles and even tho I was over it at about 16, I’m starting to get triggered by things again… thank you for this
Even I was getting a little uncomfortable at the start which i was suprised on how on point that conversation can trigger someone. Thank you for making this, even the detail of "do you want be to touch you?" Made me happy. When I get flashbacks I fear everyone's touch, thank you
This helped a lot more than I thought it would. I was in a.. toxic.. relationship until last summer and I went through so much for that year and a half of my life. And with that and other experiences I've had I still haven't been able to get myself to open up about it, but seeing everyone else share thier experiences made me feel like I could say a bit.
hey, im really happy to hear that this made such a difference in how you feel about your situation. feel free to join the discord, its a safe space and we are very very welcoming
Me too, I was in denial for the longest. It was hard to acknowledge but it's the first step towards recovery. I hope you are doing better now. I hope you are in a safer place and I'm so sorry for what you went through
i was harassed all of this school year. i still blame myself. it sucks because this year was my first year of hs, and i couldn’t even enjoy it because i either wasn’t at school due to my anxiety, or throwing up every morning and would feel sick all day from my anxiety. i genuinely don’t know who to trust anymore. i don’t know who’s safe and who isn’t. it’s a really shitty feeling. :/
this means so much to me I cant tell you how many times I've been abused but haven't told anyone and I kinda want to keep it that way 😕 because I don't want my mother to have a heart attack so this helped me calm down on my own
I dread the day that I might have to tell my lover especially if I flinch or have a flashback of any of the stuff I've been through.... And I just wish and hope they react appropriately
As someone who got sexually assaulted as a kid at her own home by a close neighbor and then got sexually assaulted by my sister's bf in teenage years. (My sister is still with him even after knowing what he did to me). I needed this. And I think I need this irl
I was violated by a former best friend, and, as a guy, my story was NOT believed until a friend finally backed me up. Now I finally have the support I need to get over my pain, and you have my support, everyone who has been hurt by this horror.
it was great to hear this. tonight i struggled with flashbacks and paranoia - i heard strange noises in my room and i was afraid my brother was hiding under my bed. unfortunately, my brother is one of those who’s pervertedly interested in his sister. around a year ago, i caught him trying to videotape me taking a shower. i haven’t been the same since. i’m terrified of him. i’m always scared he’s going to try something while i’m sleeping - as extreme as murdering me in a rage because i caught him. this helped me calm down and go to sleep 💜
I was molested when i was 4 by a family member. For years I always thought I had dreamt it or didn't think about it purely because I was so young. The more I thought of it the more I realised it happened. Its been many years and I've never known how to feel especially since I have a passive relationship with the person who did this at the time. (Context this person was also under 18, which makes figuring out my emotions surrounding it so much more difficult)
OMG this is the very first one I've heard like this and I am so happy i found it!! As a victim of this, I felt really emotional listening to this but i absolutely loved it! Thank you so much for this!!!! 💓
This video is absolutely one of the best videos I have found in a long while , I've recently been spending a fair amount of time crying over past trauma that resurfaced through worldwide events and this was the only thing I've been able to find that actually helped , and I am so very greatfull that this video exists
I don't think I will ever be able to figure out whether I was SA'ed or not. My story and experience is so different from most I hear. Anyone I have told seems to think it isn't important or since I was quiet about it for so long that it is fine. We were friends for so long after, we probably will be again. I told people not to prioritize my abuser over me and I lost all my friends and the boyfriend I thought would understand and support me. No one believes me.
"Small" Vent thing, I didn’t realize I wrote so much- I may be a little late but for like 3ish years from 6-9 I was kinda forced into sexual acts by my mother’s friend (I won’t really go into detail).And I will note I was already being constantly degraded and hurt by my mom from 2-9, so if he ever told me it was my fault I just accepted it.That was the mentality I was given, if something happened and I didn’t want do it he’d threaten me, "It’s your fault if someone gets hurt because you told someone".At the time I thought adults couldn’t ever lie to me so I just accepted it, I also constantly looked like I could pass out.I wasn’t being fed properly and if I made a attempt to fight back like a full grown adult I might’ve had a chance if I was more physically fit idk it might’ve not helped.I just kinda wanted to bring them up, he did call me by my name which felt nice since my mom never used my ACTUAL name.
No cause i really needed this i have been touched inappropriately twice in primary school by two different people and twice from one person in junior secondary. To this day whenever i talk to someone about it they don't believe me. I hate that i still see the people in school.
I was told by my step father (my SA abuser) when I was 8 that if I ever got a boyfriend and I didn’t please him enough he would leave me and I kind of believed him so I got scared so I promised myself to not fall to hard because I was never good at pleasuring anyone Ty for this video it really helps ❤
After surviving SA and exploitation for 6 months straight by my ex (bf at time) and keeping it to myself for 3 months after it ended, I really needed someone to tell me that I'm safe and that I don't have to be scared. Thank you for making this ❤️
Wow jay 💓 thanks so much for this it means a lot 💕 and I love how you spread awareness 🥺 and again this really means a lot to me so thank u ☺️ p.s I read the description box and it warmed my heart,🥺 Stay safe love you 😘
Ok so I have really bad anger issues and people tend to make me very angry very easily. Your audios reeeeally help me with a lot so I was wondering if maybe you could do a comfort audio where the listener gets really really mad about something/ has anger issues? you're audios are literally amazing and help me and so many other people so much so thank you for doing what you do :)
oh, i could totally make an audio like that for you! im not sure when i'll have it done, but i'll try to get it done asap for you, Kaiya! much love, and im happy im able to help out so much!
When i was a teenager, i struggled alot with self confidence issues, i was desperate for any sort of affection and approval. I met a man online who gave me that comfort and love and kindness i was so desperate for because i wasnt getting from my parents at the time, he gave it to me in exchange for sexual acts. All i wanted was to be loved, and he took advantage lf that. There were infact three of these men, all the same, giving me the love i wanted in exchange for their sick desires. I blame myself for all of it. Thank you for this audio
oh thank you so much!! also, you most likely have since I used a posted script for it! I credited the script writer in the description, so you could check it out if you're interested :D
My own father, if i can even call him that, sa me in the past. To this day i am not able to let my male friends touch me, even though its been 8 years. This video really helped me
I know I’m late, but, I just wanted to say that I was also someone who was sexually assaulted. I was assaulted by my own brother at age 8 to age 10, because I was scared of him I felt like I could not do anything, and then I was r*ped at age 12, and I don’t think SOME people realize how traumatizing it is and how it can truly effect someone’s life and well being for a long long time. I’m currently 16 and it still haunts me to think about. I still have not recovered fully and I’m now scared of basically everyone especially boys :( when I eventually told my parents they did not believe me and did not do anything to help me get through it. To anyone who has dealt with similar things to me and need someone to talk to please reach out to me! Hope you all have a great day/evening/night! Make sure you have drank water today and ate something :) love you all
I’m really really sorry to know that.. I want to hug you tightly rn Hope you are safe now and please don’t quite I know it’s really hurt ( especially it’s your own brother ) but please I want you to know that you’re not alone and a lot of people would hear your story and god can hear you all the time so please stay strong and don’t be afraid of anything I wish you a peaceful life with peaceful people
I think I might have but I have no memory bc I don't remember my childhood but I relate to other survivors experiences and one told me that they had the same thing and then some memories came back to them later on about so idk :(
I really needed those words... nobody comforted me after that. I still believe its my fault tho, like I give the signals for them to abuse me. Everytime I love someone, they take it as a yes to do whatever they want. Being in love is vulnerability to me, thats why I avoid romantic relationships... Thanks for being here for survivors ❤
im really sorry to hear that you had no one to comfort you. not only that, but that fact that you still feel guilt sometimes. Leila, you didn't give signals for that. theres no way that it could be your fault, and i can promise that. I may not know the situation, but i know you didnt deserve that abuse and you did nothing wrong. and please know that its okay to take your time with relationships. if you dont feel comfortable being a romantic relationship, then thats totally fine. i hope you're doing well and recovering. take care and stay safe, Leila 💕✨
TW sexual abuse and step family incest Holy fuck I’m crying…I was sexually abused for a long time from my former step sister…The comfort this is giving me is so intense…thank you so much…
I’m just venting there’s nothing too see here lol Idk why but i feel bad for listening to this cause my experience wasn’t as bad as other peoples, like barely anything physical happened to me but one time a drunk guy came onto me started to ask me if i wanted to, yk, and he tried to touch me and stuff and i was terrified, and like less than a week ago it happened again but this guy was sober so i was more scared since he wasn’t as easy to ignore/ walk off. I’m very sensitive emotionally when it comes to touch because of my past and stuff and now that these two things have happened it’s even worse and i’m scared of being alone, even during the day cause men are just assholes. like i was walking alone in a mall with my favorite shirt and a skirt and i felt really confident til these two men started to look at me and wouldn’t stop looking and that happens a lot cause (i don’t wanna sound rude or anything) ig i have the type of body people “like” atm, so i just blame myself for everything and even if nothing has “actually “ happened i still feel terrible about it and it just makes e feel bad for all these people that have actually been trough things, like i’m selfish and that it’s nothing and nothing happened im just overreacting.
Thank you so much! This really helped! I'm not sure if I'll be able to work up the courage to talk about what I've experienced with the next person I'd want to start a relationship with.... Cause last time I did that (mind you I also warned that person to be careful cause otherwise I might just end up panicking) they still managed to make it worse by doing smth similar But this audio helped a lot. Your voice sounds so gentle
no problem at at all!! but im really sorry that the previous person did that, Desi. I may not understand how you feel entirely, but I know that you deserve someone who will make you feel safe. And I know that there is someone out there who will do that for you. Much love and stay safe, Desi
@@ItsJaysmr Thank you! Again Jay I have to point out how much you care and how lovely that is! Just a reminder that you are a wonderful human being and thank you for being there and creating these audios
Ok so I figured out why this had such an impact on me. It's because you figured out that the listener was incomfortable by yourself. The listener didn't have to tell you that smth was wrong because you could tell! I've been a victim of what the police called severe child molestation (I was about 7 years old) and during that time I had a few things happen to me and later on when I was like 15 smth else that really shook me up. So actually just today I figured out that the reason I'm not able to tell someone to leave me be and stop touching me, is because I sorta learned early on to just let them proceed. Which is horrible I know that now but I hope that knowing this now I'll be able to train protecting myself and speak up if I feel uncomfortable. Because in the past me turning away, not being able to look the other person in the eye and my breath shivering wasn't enough. Again thank you so much Jay this asmr means the world to me you can't even imagine!
aw, im so sorry :( thats something that no one deserves to go through at all, especially at such a young age. but the best thing is that you're recovering. im so so happy to hear that you're working towards that recovery! although it may be hard, i know you can do it! you're strong, thats a fact :) and ofc im happy you enjoyed the audio, Desi
I to am a survivor of s.a., from my then boyfriend on multiple occasions during a long relationship, he manipulated me into beliving it was my fault. Trusting myself, attachments and trusting in a partner has been extremly tough since then(more than 5 years) this helps alot in me trusting and letting people in to my personal space. So thank you so much.
I just recently started telling people about my assault and the consequences after 7 years and I think I really needed this. Thanks, I actually genuinely feel a bit better
When I was 4 at preschool some dude cane up to me and took me to one of the play places during playtime she forced me to show my privet part and touched me I always thought it was normal but now I realize what happened then when I was 8 my uncle SA'd me it was a day after some sort of gathering idk where everyone was but he came in my room locked the door then it just happened I was never allowed to say anything and I still don't know if I should but this audio helps a lot so thank you
When I was 10 my mom's boyfriend s.a'd me and I ran to my mom and told her. He said it was because I, a 10 year old, looked like my mom, a 37 year old woman who looks NOTHING like me, and when he said that she yelled at me and said not to tell anyone because it was an accident. Coincidentally my uncle came over not even 5 minutes later and my mom locked me in my room, my uncle asked where I was and said he insisted on saying hello. He could tell something was wrong as soon as he walked in an closed the door and said don't hold back, what happened I won't tell your mom anything you tell me. I was too scared to say anything and told him I was just worried about my tests at school, he didn't look like he believed me but he didn't pry. To this day I've never told anyone and whenever I try to talk to my mom about it she always says it's my fault and, maybe it was, It was dumb of me to stay in the bathroom with the Door unlocked. But to all of you who have had much worse than me, I am so sorry and I hope we can all try and understand and talk to each other because it hurts a lot to keep it inside. I love you all so much, and stay strong okay?
Just under 3 weeks ago I told everyone about the sexual abuse I went through. Years worth of it with my dad and I finally told everyone and the flashbacks and hallucinations and panic attacks are getting worse again
Ah, yes the knight in shining armor. I know he's out there somewhere yet I try not to think about him too much, bc I know he has to come get me. But, this video helped me a lot. Thanks so much sir, I needed this.
It's so sad that we all need this, I'm sorry you guys had to go through what you did You never deserved all that hurt, all that pain But you're here, standing, fighting through life, giving life a new meaning and you're so, so strong for that I love you all and I'm so proud of you ♥️ Thankyou, Jay, for making this audio ♥️
I was SA’d multiple times by a boy I thought was my friend from the age of about 6-7. I forgot for a while but my step brother tried to do something to me, which brought back the repressed memories. I feel sick and sad and the flashbacks seem to just get worse but this video really helped me. I needed to see this. Thank you.
This really helped me because in middle school when I was like thirteen or fourteen I got harassed and stuff by my friends specifically and uhm I didn’t tell anyone because I didn’t think anyone would care so. 😁
in high school there was a guy who tried many times to s.a. me. i didn't say anything because i felt ashamed and that it was my fault. i didn't tell anyone until after i left that school. i was r4ped by my ex multiple times while we were together, but he convinced me that he didn't because we were dating. he's a narcissist. after finally getting away from him i was r4ped by my BIL. i didn't tell anyone for years, but now my whole family knows. this audio was so wonderful! i wish i'd had someone like you to be there for me when i needed it. every time i feel like i'm thinking too much about what happened i listen to this and find the comfort i need. thanks so much, Jay! ♥️
4 different occasions that were physical. My aunt was indirectly involved with all of them. First was when I was super duper young. I wanna say I was maybe 6. The other 3 started maybe 6 years after that. I was for 12 for the first and 13 for the last 2. He was supposed to be someone I trusted and could let my guard down. I’ll also say that he was beyond disgusting. Especially the 2nd time (3rd in total). I’m sorry for anyone in the 97%. I stand with you!
I know this came out a year ago and I'm really grateful that this is here and I find it very comforting, if anyone sees this do you have any advice on how to tell someone about sa?
As a SA this was so comforting. I even got emotional cause this are some words i always wanted to hear no one ever told me. I was 14 when it happened to me and i am 21 now and I am still not over it. Start shaking whenever someone gets too close to me due to which i am always scared of getting into a relationship.
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I'm a victim of S.A. and attempted r@pe. This is so comforting. I just recently got used to having my friends touch me without me flinching. Thank you for this audio
I’m so sorry you went through that
I’m so sorry I hate that you had to go through that
I am sorry sorry but hey great progress your doing good. Not every day is going go to be a good day or a bad day but you are strong and independent and got this
Best wishes for you!I hope you can live happily ❤️
This was really nice I think I needed this deep down. I’ve been graped without the G twice and I finally got comfortable with hugging my friends and then the pandemic hit and I feel like I’m back at square one. I literally have had people break up with me or lose interest cause of it
Omg I'm so sorry :( hopefully it all gets better for you 💜 stay strong lovely x
aw im so sorry, Charlie. you didn't deserve that at all, and its seriously not your fault either. please remember to also take things at your own pace, because its totally okay to not want hugs from your friends or anything like that. and i also wanna say that you will find someone who cares and supports you, i can promise that. stay strong and much love, Charlie
@@ItsJaysmr man this audio hit hard, I was graped without the g from the time I was 10 till I was abt 13. So this hits hard, thank you for all that you do
I’m so sorry :(
@@TWDobsessed69 aww I'm so sorry obviously there's nothing we can do to make you forget this incident but hopefully things get better 🤗
12:09 is when he actually finds out. Your welcome👍
As a survior of s.a. I really needed to hear this. Wish somebody like this could have been there for me then. This audio was beautiful and I really appreciate it. ❤️
i’m so sorry u didn’t deserve that to happen to u at all. but at least u can look back on it and say fuck them im still here thriving even after what they did to me and i’m proud of myself for making it this far. i hope your doing okay now❤️
@@nicolep4594 yes I am a survior. Only made me more stronger. Thank you for your comment.
i’m so sorry ml. you don’t deserve that. i hope you’re doing better
It's so nice to hear someone say "it wasn't your fault" for once. I've gotten used to people responding to me by accusing me and insinuating that I brought **that** to myself. Those people are mostly the women in my life that I depended on to protect me and comfort me. But they all instead defended the person that took advantage of me. I'm glad that not everyone I tell my story to will tell me that I should feel ashamed of myself.
This video is very healing for someone like me. Thank you for making this video ❤️
im so sorry to hear that :( and of course, you should not be ashamed of yourself as it wasn't your fault. you did nothing wrong, hun. and im really glad to know the audio helps as well :) much love and stay safe, Dana 💞✨
something about listening to someone on the internet talk about serious topics like this make me feel less alone.
heya, Brianna :) I seriously want you to know, that you are not alone with any of this. It may feel that way sometimes, and i completely understand it. It can be really hard to realize that there are others with you and there to support you. But Brianna, im here with you. Im here for you, and you are not alone, love. much love and stay safe, hun
@@ItsJaysmr ur an angel, love❤️
@@2468whodoweeappreciate aww ty, you are too!!
This severely comforted me as a guy. Many people thought I was the liar and that I was a “r@p1st”. The true abuser was my partner. Hearing someone say “you are not the one who should be ashamed” I shit you not I started crying.
Thank you sm for this audio Jay 💞
I am almost exactly in your shoes. It was a close friend and classmate for me. It's really a disgusting double-standard we live in, where we're told to "Believe All Women" but men in the same boat are just cast off as liars.
I believe you. I dont think you're lying. You're brave for this. And I'm proud of you.
@@dwaterson21 thanks, hearing that means so much to me. I hope you’re healing as well
I hope you both are healing. As a girl myself, I am ashamed of the double standards. Boys can be victims as well. I hope we all heal together, away from the people that have hurt us.
@@puppi_teef you deserve love and so much more ❤❤
@@Demi_Sukimata Yes, boys can be victims too, and I, as a guy, have my story too. Two months before the whole pandemic started, I was SAed by a guy. He texted me on Instagram asking me if I minded nudity and that he wasn't afraid to show off, I said "No, thanks", but he sent me a video showing me his privates anyway, I was so disgusted, scared and anxious when it happened, I remember feeling my hands sweaty and my face and hands so tingly, it was horrible. And this, along with other experiences, caused me to develop a deep fear towards men (yeah, being a man myself, I'm afraid of other men), I can't socialize with them because I feel shy, nervous and embarrassed around them, and it makes me feel guilty because there are guys who are good and who I care about a lot, and I feel shitty because I might hurt them with this unfair fear.
My ex was a manipulative abuser. He would trick me into things and I felt so trapped.. it would commonly happen in scenarios depicted here. I felt stuck in place.. because if I didn’t do as he wanted he would get upset or angry and I would try so hard to make him happy… nothing I did would be enough and every line I set was crossed.. I could never be enough and was constantly manipulated into thinking the way he treated me was ok. He SA me, and it has taken me 2 years to learn to cope. I’ve had to relearn how to say no and not feel guilty.. the man I’m with now is so good to me and I’m so grateful for him.. I’m just afraid to tell him about my past.. I don’t know how he will react..
Your not alone I was in a very similar situation back in year 8, I'm in year 10 now and still haven't really learned to handle some of the emotions that come up sometimes, but it's getting better and I'm slowly coming back to my old self. Reading you post actually brought me a bit of comfort because I felt kind of alone. I'm so happy that you were able to find peace and find someone who cares about you, it reminds me that this can get better. I'm so sorry you ever had to experience that but I'm proud of you and inspired because you didn't let it become you. You overcame that experience and I hope that you're thriving now.❤❤❤
This also happened to me a year and a half ago.. it was my first boyfriend and my first time wasn't as i pictured. I was forced into it because he kept pestering and burning me out so i gave in. When i said it hurt and asked him to stop he didn't and kept going on more aggressively... my friends just told me the other day that she should have said something when i told her about my experience and that she thinks it was grape
Im so glad tht you found someone who treats you as you deserve🥰 if he really loves you he'll support and understand you and your feelings
Literally the phrase “it’s not your fault” or “you shouldn’t be the one who is ashamed” are great things to say when I heard those things I just felt a weight lifted off of my chest, after five years of not saying anything about the SA cause I didn’t know what it meant, I was 8 when it happened I told my sisters and they told me about their similar experiences and I said “ i feel gross” and “ ashamed” and deep down I felt like it was my fault because I let him in my bed. But it’s not my fault because I didn’t know, it’s not my fault because he’s the one who asked for me to take off my clothes. It’s not my fault because HE DID IT, not me. I’m just happy I had my sisters to help me through it and to finally forgive him. I lived with him for the next 9 years
as a survivor of r4pe and s.a i was going through this from 6-11 I'm now 14 and this really means a lot to me :) I was always triggered and would cry over small things that triggered me so thank you for this
im so proud of you ml. your doing so great, your so strong. keep on going.
I am so sorry that happened to you love, you DID NOT deserve that! I understand, and I really hope you’re feeling better.
This is honestly the back of my mind anxiety in every romantic encounter. The worry that I'll be triggered unwittingly by my partner and react in a way that hurts or upsets them as I suffer a flashback or something. Massive thanks for walking me through one of my worst fears with compassion.
To everyone sharing their story here.. I really wanna hold you so tight now.. And tell you that "Don't worry sweetheart... You lived this life so bravely so far.. there's nothing that can defeat u.. Not even a person's action.. All these days u had the guts to live.. no matter what.. Be in that spirit.. Show them that ur more than just what they thought... Be bold.. Be brave.. And be peaceful with your thoughts"
Love u... Love u... Love u.....
Virtual hugs.... 😍✨✨✨
aw this is so sweet! to anyone that reads that, i wanna add on that and remind you how far you've come and that i know you can keep going. you're doing awesome, love :)
@@ItsJaysmr that is so true shout out to people struggling keep going and don't stop till your finished
Hey question,I was sa'd a few years ago I'm still just a teen girl. Do I have to tell anyone about what happened? my offender is dead he can't do anything to anyone else he's already hurt me I don't want to tell it's hardly safe for me
@@veni.natavi.vici.If it’s not safe, don’t tell.
The reason why I'm a big fan of ASMR roleplay is that I've always wondered, am i gonna find the one that will accept me as i am while i can't even accept myself? And the answer was always "no" , so I'mma just build the life i want in my imagination
We all accept you 🤗
You seem nice ❤️❤️
You will find someone. Don't worry 💖
We all got you and we all got eachother ❤ you are enough. 🫂🫂
I really needed this as a sexual abuse survivor.I got taken advantage off by my cousin when i was 9 to 10 years old and i had to keep quiet for years.
Thank you so much
I'm so sorry that this has happend to you, I hope you're better now and found someone to Talk to
Im sorry this happened to you. as a fellow sa survivor, I was always told by my critical family that being "taken advantage of" wasn't a real thing. But hearing someone else say it is really validating and makes me feel seen.
I was 7 and my brother was 14, so yeah- let's just say things didn't go correctly when he locked me in a room with him
me too, he did it while i slept, but i woke up twice.
Good god I am so sorry. I'm a victim of it while I was young too. But by close friends which stung really hard. (!!NOT UNDERMINING YOUR SITUATION IN ANY WAY!!) so as a survivor. Maybe not of r---- but of SA in general. I salute you my friend, stay strong.
this triggered me for some reason, i’ve listened to a lot of these audios in the past and nothing has happened, i stopped listening once i realised that i wasn’t in the right headspace. but i want to thank you Jay, this means a lot to me and a lot of other people 💗
no problem at all, Pete. im seriously so glad i could make such a difference. much love and stay safe
This is such a healthy relationship omg😭
yup, this is the relationship that you deserve to have! much love!!
I was SAed by my older cousin from the age 5 to last year(I turn 13 in 11 days) and this is honestly so comforting to listen to after I have nightmares or flashbacks of those times. Thank you for making this
u r so tender and compassionate, I could feel this in ur voice here, so gentle and sweet, that's the only way a girl would feel safe talking about such a horrible incidence (God forbid) with someone specially the significant other.
thank you so much, I try my best to do that in my videos
This hit home so hard. I literally can’t have doctors near me anymore that’s how bad it’s affected me. Even my family it makes me feel sick being close to anyone.
I’ve been SAed and groomed (online SA, but doesn’t make it ANY WORSE may I remind you). And now the idea of s3x makes me feel gross. Thank you for this video
it is absolutely CRIMINAL that i didn’t find your channel until now. you’re one of the most underrated asmrists out there, holy shit
Thanks so much for this Jay. You're brilliant at doing these audios.
Unfortunately I got jumped when I was 18, it was pretty brutal. I still have ptsd, but was lucky 4 months after to meet a wonderful guy. Its uncanny just how similar a conversation that went down with him was almost identical to this.
He could tell I was terrified of physical intimacy once we got serious in our relationship, but was so sweet and unselfish about it. 💕
You Jay are also more proof that not all guys are jerks.
no problem at all. im so so sorry to hear that though, but im glad that you are in a much better place now. much love and stay safe, Rose
I have had a really bad past because of all the abuse I had to deal with as a little kid all the way to my early teenage years. I’m 20 now and it I do have times where curtain things trigger me. I thank you so much for making something like this to help us who have dealt with sexual abuse. U have no idea how much u r helping people recover from their abuse. Tysm Jay. 🖤
For someone that gone though it when I was 5 to 9 and got graped without the g less then 2 months ago. It helps me alot with the trigger here at school since the teacher was talking about it and I'm in the bathroom skipping since I got a panic attack and it helped me here
oh no, i'm really sorry to hear that. thats really hard to go through, but im happy to see you here doing better. im also really glad i could make a bit of a difference in that moment. much love and stay safe, Lily. I care about you so much
Very late but we love you lily!
For someone that has been pressured and coerced numerous of times by two different men at different times in my life, this really means the world to me!! I’m so relieved that I’m out of both of those situations! Thx Jay 🥺
This audio is very much appreciated Jay
aw thank youuu!! and i completely agree, its a really important topic :))
All people in the comments section, I love you and I'm so proud you survived what happened to you and that you're still here. You are so strong and I admire you for your strength. I would rip the head to whoever hurt you in the past. 😤😤❤❤❤
I can still feel his lips on my chest
and neck everytime I try to lay down my bed and it's the worst feeling ever.
I still feel like it was my fault bceuase I let him do it to me. I'm so weak.
No you aren’t, it’s not your fault what he did to you wasn’t ok and it’s not your fault
It's NEVER your fault. Never.
I definitely needed this. I haven't been in a relationship since it happened. I'm afraid of letting someone know that it happened. Afraid of what they might say
I havnt heard the whole thing yet but you already got me with the “cold ass feet” 😂😂 that’s so accurate
I am a victim of SA so I’m really glad you make vids like this.
It was all so many years ago but the memories are still horrible.
This is amazing Jay!!! I'm so happy you actually took my request into consideration!!! Thank you so much
no problem at all! I actually accidentally put m4f lol, i just changed it though. tysm for letting me know. but im happy you enjoyed it, Jack
@@ItsJaysmr I'm glad I could point it out lol! I was wondering why it said M4F lol.
im not even gonna lie i absolutely bursted crying
aw, love im sorry :(
@@ItsJaysmr your vids are really comforting this one particularly feels like home it made me feel insanely valid
Since I have a mental disability (hydrocephalus, which is the medical term for "water on the brain"), I'm part of the group that's at risk for being SA'ed. It happened to me when I was a young woman in my late teens and early 20s by the man who had been my stepfather (I'm 47 now, and since then, my mom and stepdad have divorced--which, as far as I know had nothing to do with what he'd done to me). I've been married for almost 21 years, and sometimes, when my husband wants to "do it", I'm typically not in the mood. Also, when the doctor does the pap smear every three years, it hurts, and makes me wish I could be knocked out for the procedure.
as a survivor of s.a. from my step dad who still lives with us, this helps a lot. This means so much to me and i thank you for doing this it makes me feel a bit more safe!
I was molested from the ages of 6-14 by 2 uncles and even tho I was over it at about 16, I’m starting to get triggered by things again… thank you for this
Sorry that happened to you Gordon Ramsay
it scares me because we can't find a lot of people like you in the world now a days
Even I was getting a little uncomfortable at the start which i was suprised on how on point that conversation can trigger someone. Thank you for making this, even the detail of "do you want be to touch you?" Made me happy. When I get flashbacks I fear everyone's touch, thank you
This helped a lot more than I thought it would. I was in a.. toxic.. relationship until last summer and I went through so much for that year and a half of my life. And with that and other experiences I've had I still haven't been able to get myself to open up about it, but seeing everyone else share thier experiences made me feel like I could say a bit.
hey, im really happy to hear that this made such a difference in how you feel about your situation. feel free to join the discord, its a safe space and we are very very welcoming
Honestly thank you so much for this I can never find ones like this that help. But thank you 🛐
no problem at all!! i try my best to comfort, and i love doing it :)
Your backing track stresses me out, it sounds like my alarm
oh nooo, im sorryyy :(
Took me months after we broke it off to realise what he did to me.
This is really nice, keep it up .
Thankyou
Me too, I was in denial for the longest. It was hard to acknowledge but it's the first step towards recovery. I hope you are doing better now. I hope you are in a safer place and I'm so sorry for what you went through
i was harassed all of this school year. i still blame myself. it sucks because this year was my first year of hs, and i couldn’t even enjoy it because i either wasn’t at school due to my anxiety, or throwing up every morning and would feel sick all day from my anxiety. i genuinely don’t know who to trust anymore. i don’t know who’s safe and who isn’t. it’s a really shitty feeling. :/
this means so much to me I cant tell you how many times I've been abused but haven't told anyone and I kinda want to keep it that way 😕 because I don't want my mother to have a heart attack so this helped me calm down on my own
Same 🙂
I dread the day that I might have to tell my lover especially if I flinch or have a flashback of any of the stuff I've been through.... And I just wish and hope they react appropriately
aw, im sure they will react in a good way, hun. but if they do not, I'm sure you could talk it out with them. i wish you the best, love!
As someone who got sexually assaulted as a kid at her own home by a close neighbor and then got sexually assaulted by my sister's bf in teenage years. (My sister is still with him even after knowing what he did to me). I needed this. And I think I need this irl
I was violated by a former best friend, and, as a guy, my story was NOT believed until a friend finally backed me up. Now I finally have the support I need to get over my pain, and you have my support, everyone who has been hurt by this horror.
it was great to hear this. tonight i struggled with flashbacks and paranoia - i heard strange noises in my room and i was afraid my brother was hiding under my bed. unfortunately, my brother is one of those who’s pervertedly interested in his sister. around a year ago, i caught him trying to videotape me taking a shower. i haven’t been the same since. i’m terrified of him. i’m always scared he’s going to try something while i’m sleeping - as extreme as murdering me in a rage because i caught him. this helped me calm down and go to sleep 💜
I was molested when i was 4 by a family member. For years I always thought I had dreamt it or didn't think about it purely because I was so young. The more I thought of it the more I realised it happened. Its been many years and I've never known how to feel especially since I have a passive relationship with the person who did this at the time. (Context this person was also under 18, which makes figuring out my emotions surrounding it so much more difficult)
OMG this is the very first one I've heard like this and I am so happy i found it!! As a victim of this, I felt really emotional listening to this but i absolutely loved it! Thank you so much for this!!!! 💓
This video is absolutely one of the best videos I have found in a long while , I've recently been spending a fair amount of time crying over past trauma that resurfaced through worldwide events and this was the only thing I've been able to find that actually helped , and I am so very greatfull that this video exists
I don't think I will ever be able to figure out whether I was SA'ed or not. My story and experience is so different from most I hear. Anyone I have told seems to think it isn't important or since I was quiet about it for so long that it is fine. We were friends for so long after, we probably will be again. I told people not to prioritize my abuser over me and I lost all my friends and the boyfriend I thought would understand and support me. No one believes me.
"Small" Vent thing, I didn’t realize I wrote so much-
I may be a little late but for like 3ish years from 6-9 I was kinda forced into sexual acts by my mother’s friend (I won’t really go into detail).And I will note I was already being constantly degraded and hurt by my mom from 2-9, so if he ever told me it was my fault I just accepted it.That was the mentality I was given, if something happened and I didn’t want do it he’d threaten me, "It’s your fault if someone gets hurt because you told someone".At the time I thought adults couldn’t ever lie to me so I just accepted it, I also constantly looked like I could pass out.I wasn’t being fed properly and if I made a attempt to fight back like a full grown adult I might’ve had a chance if I was more physically fit idk it might’ve not helped.I just kinda wanted to bring them up, he did call me by my name which felt nice since my mom never used my ACTUAL name.
No cause i really needed this i have been touched inappropriately twice in primary school by two different people and twice from one person in junior secondary. To this day whenever i talk to someone about it they don't believe me. I hate that i still see the people in school.
I was told by my step father (my SA abuser) when I was 8 that if I ever got a boyfriend and I didn’t please him enough he would leave me and I kind of believed him so I got scared so I promised myself to not fall to hard because I was never good at pleasuring anyone Ty for this video it really helps ❤
I literally had the exact same situation with my boyfriend yesterday- he is not around to comfort me rn...so thank you a lot for this..
After surviving SA and exploitation for 6 months straight by my ex (bf at time) and keeping it to myself for 3 months after it ended, I really needed someone to tell me that I'm safe and that I don't have to be scared. Thank you for making this ❤️
Wow jay 💓 thanks so much for this it means a lot 💕 and I love how you spread awareness 🥺 and again this really means a lot to me so thank u ☺️ p.s I read the description box and it warmed my heart,🥺
Stay safe love you 😘
ofcc, no problem at all! i love to spread awareness for as much as I can while comforting you :) i hope you're doing well and luv ya too, Alayna!
@@ItsJaysmr your so sweet jay 💓 I love how you like to interact with your fans 🤗💜 so precious 🥺
ofc!! i love all of you so much
@@ItsJaysmr 💜 we all love you too 💜
Ok so I have really bad anger issues and people tend to make me very angry very easily. Your audios reeeeally help me with a lot so I was wondering if maybe you could do a comfort audio where the listener gets really really mad about something/ has anger issues? you're audios are literally amazing and help me and so many other people so much so thank you for doing what you do :)
oh, i could totally make an audio like that for you! im not sure when i'll have it done, but i'll try to get it done asap for you, Kaiya! much love, and im happy im able to help out so much!
thank you so much that means a lot :)
As a survivor of s.a this video was very comforting for me thank you
Just your voice make me feel safe ,you just gave me all the love that I need and I want I’m glad that I’m one of your subscribers
When i was a teenager, i struggled alot with self confidence issues, i was desperate for any sort of affection and approval. I met a man online who gave me that comfort and love and kindness i was so desperate for because i wasnt getting from my parents at the time, he gave it to me in exchange for sexual acts. All i wanted was to be loved, and he took advantage lf that.
There were infact three of these men, all the same, giving me the love i wanted in exchange for their sick desires. I blame myself for all of it. Thank you for this audio
I've 100% heard this before. But great job!
oh thank you so much!! also, you most likely have since I used a posted script for it! I credited the script writer in the description, so you could check it out if you're interested :D
This really helped me I really needed this.
My own father, if i can even call him that, sa me in the past. To this day i am not able to let my male friends touch me, even though its been 8 years. This video really helped me
I know I’m late, but, I just wanted to say that I was also someone who was sexually assaulted. I was assaulted by my own brother at age 8 to age 10, because I was scared of him I felt like I could not do anything, and then I was r*ped at age 12, and I don’t think SOME people realize how traumatizing it is and how it can truly effect someone’s life and well being for a long long time. I’m currently 16 and it still haunts me to think about. I still have not recovered fully and I’m now scared of basically everyone especially boys :( when I eventually told my parents they did not believe me and did not do anything to help me get through it. To anyone who has dealt with similar things to me and need someone to talk to please reach out to me! Hope you all have a great day/evening/night! Make sure you have drank water today and ate something :) love you all
I’m really really sorry to know that..
I want to hug you tightly rn
Hope you are safe now and please don’t quite I know it’s really hurt ( especially it’s your own brother ) but please I want you to know that you’re not alone and a lot of people would hear your story and god can hear you all the time so please stay strong and don’t be afraid of anything
I wish you a peaceful life with peaceful people
i am so sorry that this happened to you, i believe you and you are so strong and it isn’t your fault, i am so sorry ❤
I think I might have but I have no memory bc I don't remember my childhood but I relate to other survivors experiences and one told me that they had the same thing and then some memories came back to them later on about so idk :(
This helps me a lot
thats great to hear!! thank you so so much, hun!
To my fellow survivors of any form of SA, please remember it is NEVER your fault; you are STRONG; you are VALUED; you are LOVED; you are a SURVIVOR❤️
I really needed those words... nobody comforted me after that. I still believe its my fault tho, like I give the signals for them to abuse me.
Everytime I love someone, they take it as a yes to do whatever they want.
Being in love is vulnerability to me, thats why I avoid romantic relationships...
Thanks for being here for survivors ❤
im really sorry to hear that you had no one to comfort you. not only that, but that fact that you still feel guilt sometimes. Leila, you didn't give signals for that. theres no way that it could be your fault, and i can promise that. I may not know the situation, but i know you didnt deserve that abuse and you did nothing wrong. and please know that its okay to take your time with relationships. if you dont feel comfortable being a romantic relationship, then thats totally fine. i hope you're doing well and recovering. take care and stay safe, Leila 💕✨
TW sexual abuse and step family incest
Holy fuck I’m crying…I was sexually abused for a long time from my former step sister…The comfort this is giving me is so intense…thank you so much…
this is very comforting knowing that im a victim of SA and 🍇 multiple times no one knows either because i was 7 and didnt know what it meant
YOULL NEVER SEE THIS BUT YOUR 3:17 KISSES ARE SO SWEET BRO I SWEAR ☹️
i see it :)))
thank youu, love !
@@ItsJaysmr you’re welcome!!😭😭
I’m just venting there’s nothing too see here lol
Idk why but i feel bad for listening to this cause my experience wasn’t as bad as other peoples, like barely anything physical happened to me but one time a drunk guy came onto me started to ask me if i wanted to, yk, and he tried to touch me and stuff and i was terrified, and like less than a week ago it happened again but this guy was sober so i was more scared since he wasn’t as easy to ignore/ walk off. I’m very sensitive emotionally when it comes to touch because of my past and stuff and now that these two things have happened it’s even worse and i’m scared of being alone, even during the day cause men are just assholes. like i was walking alone in a mall with my favorite shirt and a skirt and i felt really confident til these two men started to look at me and wouldn’t stop looking and that happens a lot cause (i don’t wanna sound rude or anything) ig i have the type of body people “like” atm, so i just blame myself for everything and even if nothing has “actually “ happened i still feel terrible about it and it just makes e feel bad for all these people that have actually been trough things, like i’m selfish and that it’s nothing and nothing happened im just overreacting.
Thank you so much! This really helped! I'm not sure if I'll be able to work up the courage to talk about what I've experienced with the next person I'd want to start a relationship with.... Cause last time I did that (mind you I also warned that person to be careful cause otherwise I might just end up panicking) they still managed to make it worse by doing smth similar
But this audio helped a lot. Your voice sounds so gentle
no problem at at all!! but im really sorry that the previous person did that, Desi. I may not understand how you feel entirely, but I know that you deserve someone who will make you feel safe. And I know that there is someone out there who will do that for you. Much love and stay safe, Desi
@@ItsJaysmr Thank you! Again Jay I have to point out how much you care and how lovely that is!
Just a reminder that you are a wonderful human being and thank you for being there and creating these audios
Ok so I figured out why this had such an impact on me.
It's because you figured out that the listener was incomfortable by yourself. The listener didn't have to tell you that smth was wrong because you could tell!
I've been a victim of what the police called severe child molestation (I was about 7 years old) and during that time I had a few things happen to me and later on when I was like 15 smth else that really shook me up. So actually just today I figured out that the reason I'm not able to tell someone to leave me be and stop touching me, is because I sorta learned early on to just let them proceed. Which is horrible I know that now but I hope that knowing this now I'll be able to train protecting myself and speak up if I feel uncomfortable.
Because in the past me turning away, not being able to look the other person in the eye and my breath shivering wasn't enough.
Again thank you so much Jay this asmr means the world to me you can't even imagine!
aw, im so sorry :( thats something that no one deserves to go through at all, especially at such a young age. but the best thing is that you're recovering. im so so happy to hear that you're working towards that recovery! although it may be hard, i know you can do it! you're strong, thats a fact :) and ofc im happy you enjoyed the audio, Desi
I to am a survivor of s.a., from my then boyfriend on multiple occasions during a long relationship, he manipulated me into beliving it was my fault. Trusting myself, attachments and trusting in a partner has been extremly tough since then(more than 5 years) this helps alot in me trusting and letting people in to my personal space. So thank you so much.
I just recently started telling people about my assault and the consequences after 7 years and I think I really needed this. Thanks, I actually genuinely feel a bit better
When I was 4 at preschool some dude cane up to me and took me to one of the play places during playtime she forced me to show my privet part and touched me I always thought it was normal but now I realize what happened then when I was 8 my uncle SA'd me it was a day after some sort of gathering idk where everyone was but he came in my room locked the door then it just happened I was never allowed to say anything and I still don't know if I should but this audio helps a lot so thank you
When I was 10 my mom's boyfriend s.a'd me and I ran to my mom and told her. He said it was because I, a 10 year old, looked like my mom, a 37 year old woman who looks NOTHING like me, and when he said that she yelled at me and said not to tell anyone because it was an accident. Coincidentally my uncle came over not even 5 minutes later and my mom locked me in my room, my uncle asked where I was and said he insisted on saying hello. He could tell something was wrong as soon as he walked in an closed the door and said don't hold back, what happened I won't tell your mom anything you tell me. I was too scared to say anything and told him I was just worried about my tests at school, he didn't look like he believed me but he didn't pry. To this day I've never told anyone and whenever I try to talk to my mom about it she always says it's my fault and, maybe it was, It was dumb of me to stay in the bathroom with the Door unlocked. But to all of you who have had much worse than me, I am so sorry and I hope we can all try and understand and talk to each other because it hurts a lot to keep it inside. I love you all so much, and stay strong okay?
Just under 3 weeks ago I told everyone about the sexual abuse I went through. Years worth of it with my dad and I finally told everyone and the flashbacks and hallucinations and panic attacks are getting worse again
as a survivor of SA, this really helped me feel more comfortable with myself than i have since before :) thank u for this
fuck this got me crying on the ground man
Him : do you like it ?
Me : NO
Him : me too-
(Sorry I had answer em wrong)🤣
of coursee! xD
Ah, yes the knight in shining armor. I know he's out there somewhere yet I try not to think about him too much, bc I know he has to come get me. But, this video helped me a lot. Thanks so much sir, I needed this.
It's so sad that we all need this, I'm sorry you guys had to go through what you did
You never deserved all that hurt, all that pain
But you're here, standing, fighting through life, giving life a new meaning and you're so, so strong for that
I love you all and I'm so proud of you ♥️
Thankyou, Jay, for making this audio ♥️
I needed this so much you do not understand I’m still recovering from being r@p€d and it’s been hella hard thank you thank you thank you thank you
I needed this 😭😭😭
aw, im so so glad i could help you
Me whos never been in a healthy relationship before: *"Wut is this then?"*
I really needed one like this:/ thank you sm-
heyy, no problem at all! im happy i could help you feel a bit better, Rylie
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Since a week I've been searching for this kind of channel and you are the best I've never seen, also thank you for this and your others videos :)
HAHA! Sobbing. S.A sucks and I should know. This is really sweet and comforting.
this was so nice. it comforted me. i’ve been graped just once. when i was 8.. at a swimming pool. this really..gave me a boost of confidence and hope
I was SA’d multiple times by a boy I thought was my friend from the age of about 6-7. I forgot for a while but my step brother tried to do something to me, which brought back the repressed memories. I feel sick and sad and the flashbacks seem to just get worse but this video really helped me. I needed to see this. Thank you.
This really helped me because in middle school when I was like thirteen or fourteen I got harassed and stuff by my friends specifically and uhm I didn’t tell anyone because I didn’t think anyone would care so. 😁
in high school there was a guy who tried many times to s.a. me. i didn't say anything because i felt ashamed and that it was my fault. i didn't tell anyone until after i left that school.
i was r4ped by my ex multiple times while we were together, but he convinced me that he didn't because we were dating. he's a narcissist. after finally getting away from him i was r4ped by my BIL. i didn't tell anyone for years, but now my whole family knows.
this audio was so wonderful! i wish i'd had someone like you to be there for me when i needed it. every time i feel like i'm thinking too much about what happened i listen to this and find the comfort i need. thanks so much, Jay! ♥️
4 different occasions that were physical. My aunt was indirectly involved with all of them. First was when I was super duper young. I wanna say I was maybe 6. The other 3 started maybe 6 years after that. I was for 12 for the first and 13 for the last 2. He was supposed to be someone I trusted and could let my guard down. I’ll also say that he was beyond disgusting. Especially the 2nd time (3rd in total). I’m sorry for anyone in the 97%. I stand with you!
I know this came out a year ago and I'm really grateful that this is here and I find it very comforting, if anyone sees this do you have any advice on how to tell someone about sa?
Oh wow... thank you so much❤
no problem at all, Toni!
As a survivor of sa this is really comforting
i'm happy i could comfort you, love 😊
As a SA this was so comforting. I even got emotional cause this are some words i always wanted to hear no one ever told me. I was 14 when it happened to me and i am 21 now and I am still not over it. Start shaking whenever someone gets too close to me due to which i am always scared of getting into a relationship.